This was meant to be a just 3 min announcement, but based on your reaction to the news Dean Street Society is closing, I felt we needed another moment to just hang and process.

Pay The Value Closing Sale: DeanStreetSociety.com/closing

Also read information shared via email, by clicking “Hear More” at the bottom, and you can catch up on all emails sent since December 1st.

You asked for help choosing joy now and in the new year, after a hard year or season.

Can you relate to any of these?

• You’re wishing time would go faster to get to something good or past something heavy?

• Feeling a case of the winter blues?

• Walking through disappointment?

• Or feeling energized about making 2024 your best year yet?

Today’s 5 Q’s with my teaching on each from my own life currently are for you!

Review these after the teaching to come up with your own answers:

1. What do I have that others don’t have? // Gratitude

2. Who have I seen rebound that reminds me it’s true? // Evidence

3. What dark came before my dawns? // Receipts

4. What have I handled well, grown in, how have I healed? // Confidence

5. What is good right now? // Present

And enjoy my list of happy company this season:

• Knockemout book trilogy

• No Hard Feelings

• Zainab Johnson

• Mike Brubiglia

• Single All The Way

See you over on Instagram @HilaryRushford for more. 

Ciao from Rome! When we’re in a bad mood, we know so much we could do to make ourselves feel better.

Yet how often do we not do it in the moment when we’re rushing, flooded, frustrated? 

Recently I’ve found a new self-coaching prompt I’m actually remembering to use.

I’ve asked it to myself in those little moments in the day:

• When you’re trying on clothes that don’t fit

• When the commute was exhausting

• When no matter how hard you work you’re still behind

• When they’re upset even though you swore you tried your best
  
  

I’m asking myself this simple Q when I’m cranky… because it feels light.

It doesn’t require as much mental work as past options, and comes with a lot less shame.

Try it out for yourself today, and let me know if you agree?

I’ve been using it in Rome (more on my surprising thoughts about this city, travel, enough, fomo and more in the PS!) and it’s making my days sweeter.

Links in this episode:

• Healing Burnout at HilaryRushford.com/burnout ← coming back this fall, don’t miss it when you get on the waitlist!

• Ep 60 The Wand (how we feel better)

• Ep 175 Overcoming Mom Shame

• Ep 18 Identifying Your Travel Personality 

Would love to hear your thoughts after on Instagram @HilaryRushford. If you think this would help someone you know please share and tag me so I can see and chime in!

And thank you in advance (wink) for leaving a review, they mean so much in helping more people!

What if changing your body wasn’t one of your main goals in 2021?

Or if the change wasn’t at all about punishment, shoulds, need to, but gratitude and kindness?

In a season with so many overt and covert messages about our bodies, let’s have a girlfriend chat about our beauty.

Come share your thoughts below my latest IG post whatever it is @HilaryRushford or leave a topic suggestion at HilaryRushford.com/podvip.

Ever feel disappointed or nervous that you don’t or won’t do what you say you want to.

Lose weight, start a business, write a book, clean out your garage, stop drinking.

Whether big or seemingly small, I’ve got 3 Q’s to help us get clear on the repeating thoughts, goals, projects, fears that swirl in our head.

Here’s to heading into 2021 with more space to live...

PS Let’s hang out on Instagram (especially in Stories) @HilaryRushford

Submit a Q or topic for the show HilaryRushford.com/podvip

My 5 P’s to a life of more intention. This is for entrepreneurs and the everygirl, and not only about social media but our time and attention.

I took 1-2 weeks off Instagram in August and have been more intentional and aware since in my use of social media, my phone, my time off and more.

For entrepreneurs don’t miss your chance to apply for my Elegant Excellence 2021 Mastermind <<< click to learn more!

Q’s? Join the conversations on Instagram @HilaryRushford

From a musical theater performer in NYC to a CEO with zero business background, I myself can’t believe my own journey.

I had nothing that you don’t have. No money, connections, or knowledge. And therefore if I can do it, so can you.

Whether you’re an entrepreneur or aspiring, a career change or dream could be in your future, or you simply love hearing behind the scenes, there’s insight and encouragement in the 5 Phases I share in this episode.
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Don’t miss the application window for the Elegant Excellence Mastermind!

And the free masterclass I’m teaching to kick it off: 5 Steps to Less Overwhelm in Business.

Have any Q’s about the mastermind, business, or other podcast topics? Come join me on Instagram @HilaryRushford and in Stories and DMs.

Are you grateful... for yourself? What you’ve accomplished, who you’ve become?

In this heart-to-heart episode we touch on anxiety, wellness, marriage, business and more.

With a specific spin on how to catch ourselves when we are setting ourselves up for disappointed, self-blame and self-shame.

Order your Elegant Excellence Journal before the shop closes.

Join the conversation on Instagram @HilaryRushford and HilaryRushford.com/podvip.

6 Q’s to clarify who, what, when & why to give of our time, energy & finances.

Today’s episode came from a great listener Q. There’s so much good we can do in the world, how do we not feel guilty we aren’t doing more or don’t really enjoy giving/helping in the same way someone else does?

Get your Elegant Excellence Journal before they sell out!

And on the waitlist now for the Elegant Excellence Mastermind.

Come join the conversation on Instagram @HilaryRushford, especially in Stories, and submit a Q or topic for the episode at HilaryRushford.com/podvip!

Accepting a closed door, or rather being willing to close it yourself, can feel terrifying.

Sharing my personal insights on how and when we listen to our gut, what breadcrumbs really mean, and the paradox of the grass always being greener.

Whether starting a business, leaving a relationship, or any of your own life shifts, may this be a story of hope that supports you!

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ORDER TODAY: ElegantExcellenceJournal.com

Don’t miss out, get yours before they sell out!

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Come hang out in Stories on Instagram @HilaryRushford or leave a voice memo with a Q or topic you’d love a future episode on at HilaryRushford.com/podvip.

What if you had plans in 2020 that didn’t come to be? #AllHandsRaised

Today I’m speaking to a common Q in my DMs on how to think about having not made a business or goal happen in this wild year of 2020.

Using my own experiences of working out, meditation, and organization with my Elegant Excellence Goals Journal.

This is the conversation we should have every year before New Years to remember to both focus on, and have grace for, the one component that means more than any app or tool for our success: us.

Spoiler alert: we’re the most powerful thing we have, so this is great news!

PS Get your 2021 Elegant Excellence Goals Journal while they’re still in stock!

Then join the convo @HilaryRushford or voice memo a Q or topic for the pod at HilaryRushford.com/podvip.

How do you choose between goals? Avoid overwhelm, biting off more than you can chew? But also not have FOMO (fear of missing out) that you might chose the wrong goal, regret it, be sad you can’t have both?

Today I’m sharing my signature principle for goal setting in a way that brings all our dreams and projects together. Instead of competing against each other, leaving us unfulfilled and disappointed. They work together, to give us momentum towards the life we really want.

Do not miss out on your 2021 Elegant Excellence Goals Journals + Workshops to use these principles with me all year!

UPDATE: We were 25% sold out just in our first 24 hours of early access before the shop doors even opened so don’t delay! We have an even more limited stock this year so choose your cover collection today!

Send love notes, Q’s, future topics to @HilaryRushford on IG or HilaryRushford.com/podvip.

There is so much power in saying and writing our dreams. In today’s special episode I walk you through delightful and insightful prompts to uncover what lights up your head and heart; has in your past and will in the future. Pour a cup, grab a pen if you can, and enjoy!

Then be sure to save your seat for our Elegant Excellence Goals Journal Reveal Party or snag your journal as soon as the doors are open!

P.S. My favorite pens to use with the journal:

• Pilot V Razor Black
• Pilot V Razor Color
• TUL Retractable Gel Pens
• Paper Mate Flair

I’d love to hear what you’re dreaming about! Leave me a voice memo with follow-up Q’s at HilaryRushford.com/podvip or share over on Instagram @HilaryRushford

A girlfriend chat going back to the future, around the world, and ending with more ease. (Don’t miss the PS!)

In today’s episode we’re talking about how to live in the flow of love.

That sounds hard to pin down, but I’ll tell you exactly what to do and it’s so simple.

The people you love most will thank you the deepest for listening. 

Links in this episode:

• Friday, September 22 enrollment closes! What Makes Women Feel Beautiful → HilaryRushford.com/Beautiful

• Friday, September 22 replay expires! “How to Finally Feel Confident and at Peace in Your Body (+ save time, energy, and $2,000 per year)” ← HilaryRushford.com/BodyPeace 

Would love to hear your thoughts after on Instagram @HilaryRushford. If you think this would help someone you know please share and tag me so I can see and chime in!

And thank you in advance (wink) for leaving a review, they mean so much in helping more people!

I’ve identified five elements of our personality that trip us up in dreaming gracefully, spaciously, authentically.

Which of these descriptions sounds most like you? When you think about why you aren’t today, living out a dream, on top of the world in LOVE with your life, is it MORE because you’re:

THE STATS DREAMER. Uncomfortable saying WHAT we want, unless we understand HOW we can make that happen, how it’s realistic.

THE SIDEKICK DREAMER. Uncomfortable saying that we want more, want big things, so we play small, make our dreams only about making other people happy.

THE SUPERSIZE DREAMER. So many dreams we’re trying to pursue all at once. We don’t want to have to give up anything, so often end up getting even less because of it.

THE SPLIT DREAMER. Two dreams in conflict. In our mind they’re headed in totally different directions, and we’re paralyzed with indecision and fear of missing out.

THE SLOTHFUL DREAMER. We don’t even do the work to figure out what our dreams are, or if we do we don’t take the actions, risk, put in the work to move them forward.

https://elegantexcellencejournal.com/

Do you hate conflict, arguments, feel exhausted by all the tension in our cultural conversations lately?

Let’s consider how we can have healthier conversations whether around the election, holidays, or anytime in our lives.

This isn’t just about convincing someone (though that can be a lovely bonus!) or avoiding fights (ugh). The ultimate goal is that we feel more peaceful and positive ourselves, regardless of the other person’s tone or response.

Would love to hear your thoughts on Instagram @HilaryRushford or HilaryRushford.com/podvip!

Lightness, joy and happy topics feel in order after so many heavy world events this year.

I’m often asked if I have a blog post on my musical theatre story: how I booked a Broadway tour, the Radio City Rockettes, and all that jazz.

Sharing some fun (okay and emotional, I keep getting choked up!) stories along with inspiring takeaways about chasing our dreams and supporting those in our lives as they do the same.

Would love to hear your thoughts on Instagram @HilaryRushford or HilaryRushford.com/podvip!

What is in between laziness and productivity? This is the question I’ve been pondering myself during quarantine. And in some ways the core of a more sustainable lifestyle of rest I’ve been cultivating since a sabbatical in 2016. Reading the book How to Do Nothing by Jenny Odell this year has given me further language for this unique journey, as well as clarity as to why it is truly imperative for our society and humanity that we choose to embrace it.

• Register for my Simplest Way to Launch workshop
• Join Creative Business Accelerator

Would absolutely love to hear your thoughts in a voicememo at HilaryRushford.com/podvip or @HilaryRushford, including any topics or Q’s you’d like covered on the podcast!

PS - Cheat sheet inspiration for your Edifying/Present brainstorm list:

lowers anxiety, lowers envy, little financial benefit to you, little financial benefit to other people, increases thinking, increases listening, increases relationships, increases connection to nature and/or art, anchors you in the present

If you are busier than ever, let me pass along some insights from my slowness, to help you in the eventual-post-quaratine-season of your future.

A general community report back on how we’re doing at this 6 month mark for most of us since Covid ish got real.

Plus aha’s that have been rocking my world as I discover what happens when I have “plenty of time”... and still am not living the life I envisioned I would be.

Links in this episode:

• Creative Business Accelerator is opening soon, get on the list!

Would love to hear your thoughts @HilaryRushford or leave a voice memo at HilaryRushford.com/podvip.

After thousands of clients and years teaching women how to understand their own style recipe, I’ve discovered there are So. Many. Lies we tell ourselves and how we feel towards that woman in the mirror!

In this episode, learn the truth and how you can rewire them to discover your true heart and self.

You do not need to lose weight, or buy more, to feel more beautiful. Nor is it about fluffy words of positive affirmation. Learn the science and psychology of style, you whip smart woman you.

• Join Creative Business Accelerator today
• Get on the waitlist for my style class
• Leave a Q for a future episode at HilaryRushford.com/podvip

More freedom, joy, peace, and beauty is waiting for you. Let me help you more on my feed and Stories @HilaryRushford.”

What if you could get out of a horrible mood? Without having to deny or downplay what had you hurt or upset in the first place? The story of 24 hours in my life, and the rainbow tool I discovered that day that helped get me from fearful and depressed, to joyful and optimistic, without simply putting on a happy face.

Today we explore how these small choices can ultimately amount to big changes.

• Download a graphic of the Emotional Guidance Scale at HilaryRushford.com/podvip
• Get on the waitlist for Creative Business Accelerator
• Follow along for more teaching @HilaryRushford in my feed and Stories

PS Things I’m loving lately pillow and chest patch.

In this season of seemingly zero control over our pandemic-ed lives, what can we learn about living with change? What can we take into the next season? This encore presentation of episode 7 includes tools that have helped me in this whiplash of a crisis and encourage me for the future.

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Are you ready to be the CEO of your life? To accept change with more peace and courage? Many of us resist change because often we feel these choices are not our own. You get laid off work. Your relationship is failing. Your best friend is moving out of state.

It’s powerful to remember that even when you don’t make a choice, or get to fully make it, we have so much control over our head, heart and soul to CHOOSE for it to be a yes, a blessing, a gift.

1. Get a heads up if you can. If not, acknowledge swift change can feel jarring.
2. Focus on your PRIORITIES. Then celebrate choosing priority #1, not focusing on having given up priority #2.
3. ENVISION your choice and BE that person now, not waiting till you have something external then thinking that will change how you feel internally.
4. Prepare your MIND that freak outs will happen, which doesn’t mean it’s wrong, so you can react to them less and not second guess your choice.
5. Look for EVIDENCE this is good, right, meant to be. The brain doesn’t want you to change, it’s safer to stay the same, it will try to convince you of that, so talk to yourself about the evidence this is right.
6. RE-EVALUATE priorities again as things shift. Remember you’re the CEO of your life, and even when unexpected things arise, you can choose how you settle things around them.
7. Remember your MIND goes with you. Don’t expect a change externally to change your joy internally, unless you are working on happier healthier thoughts.

Which step feels most powerful to you? Come tell me on Instagram @HilaryRushford.

PS Have a topic or Q you’d like covered? Leave it at hilaryrushford.com/podvip.

Be honest. Will you still cancel on events after Covid? Listen in on this encore presentation of Episode 12 with an updated teaching at the top to think ahead to how we can avoid falling back into old habits.

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We want to be invited and do all the things.. aaand sit on the couch to binge Netflix in silence. Sound familiar? Samesies. We want to be able to choose the right things to avoid overfilling our calendars with things that don’t really bring us joy; to avoid FOMO because we’re confident we did indeed make the right choice for us. I’m sharing 4 hacks to make decisions quickly.

Discern what truly brings you joy in that moment - not just what will make your Instagram feed look cooler.

Know that a “hell yes” will haunt you and anything less can be let go.

Buy back your freedom!

Slow down and ask the right questions so you can confidently and peacefully create that space for yourself.

Come leave me a voice memo on hilaryrushford.com/podvip and tell me what you want to talk about next! And share on Instagram @hilaryrushford which decision this helped you make!

Why are we still anxious, competitive, or impatient? Even though we know we dislike that about ourselves and wish we were different? Enjoy this encore of Episode 3 with an updated teaching at the top!

I have - get ready for it - the answers to all your problems. Yes, I’m talking to you, m’dear.

That guy who won’t text you back? Friend who’s making you feel left out? Boss who gives you the worst anxiety? The answer to all their problems too.

I reveal my “3 stages of ish” to get you to clarity, security, and change.

PLUS an incredibly useful one-page worksheet at HilaryRushford.com/podvip. Tuck in your journal or pin to your fridge to track your growth over the months to come, see progress, and celebrate your wins. This step was truly game changing in my own path to more peace and less overwhelm.

What do you think? Does the “3 stages of ish” help? Would LOVE to hear your takeaways @HilaryRushford. Leave me a note below my latest post, whenever you listen, as I read them all.

A few months ago I got messages from 2 women in one week who were both hiding, on opposite ends of the same spectrum, each thinking they had the most to be ashamed of.

As I sat with their stories I realized: we all think we’re hiding the most, or more than others. When the truth is everyone is either hiding in some way, or has healed from hiding but used to be there so they can relate.

Today we’ll explore exactly how we heal, learn to trust, and why it matters so deeply to our health and happiness.

Links in this episode:

• “How to Finally Feel Confident and at Peace in Your Body (+ save time, energy, and $2,000 per year)” ← HilaryRushford.com/BodyPeace join me TODAY + TOMORROW for a LIVE keynote speech with your free VIP ticket 

• The doors to What Makes Women Feel Beautiful will be opening today! HilaryRushford.com/Beautiful

Would love to hear your thoughts after on Instagram @HilaryRushford. If you think this would help someone you know please share and tag me so I can see and chime in!

And thank you in advance (wink) for leaving a review, they mean so much in helping more people!

Sharing a brand new teaching that’s come out of writing my style book.

You have more power and opportunity that ever before to shift your story of what is beautiful, with a few simple, enjoyable actions.

Mentioned in today’s podcast:

• Ep 29: 22 Steps to Feel Better in 1 Day (Easier Than it Sounds)

Please come over to Instagram @HilaryRushford and tell me when you find someone new to follow there. And leave a voice memo at HilaryRushford.com/podvip with Q’s or topics to inspire future episodes.

Do you feel guilty you don’t accomplish more? Beat yourself up for not doing more? Feel failure and shame that your list is so long or you’re so far from where or who you desire?

I was shocked in a recent chat on Instagram Stories when 80% of you said yes.

Having explored this pain point in my own life for years, I’m sharing 3 core components I believe will give you more confidence, peace, freedom, and permission.

Episodes referenced:

• Ep 47: Mindful Instagram Challenge for the Everygirl
• Ep 60: The Wand: Change your day in 5 min (+ your inner teen girl)
• Ep 58: Productivity Guilt during Quarantine + the Idealization of Time

Resources referenced:

• Elegant Excellence Goals Journal
• Essentialism: The Disciplined Pursuit of Less by Greg McKeown

Come continue the conversation on Instagram at @HilaryRushford or leave a voice memo at HilaryRushford.com/podvip.

I had an aha while writing my style book. I wrote this on a post-it:

“Write for her, not for critics or activists.”

I shared on Instagram Stories and the response was overwhelming.

On today’s episode I teach on who you’re called to.

Whether friendships that feel hard, social media that feels overwhelming, or creativity that feels terrifying.

Imagine a weight being lifted when you realize someone isn’t your responsibility...

Picture fresh enthusiasm when you realize who you ARE called to...

Listen in to feel more freedom in your relationships, creation, and time…

PS We’re hiring! Visit https://deanstreetsociety.com/careers/ to read our current open position.

Share this episode and tag @HilaryRushford, and/or chime in with topics and ideas for future pods at https://deanstreetsociety.com/podvip/.

When you’re frustratingly stuck in a scenario, what do you? Whether a creaky home messing with your morning routine, or an impasse with your husband on where to live. Sharing my advice to a few DMs I’ve received….

Links in the episode:

• Instagram Stories on Shaming
• Elegant Excellence Goals Journal

What would YOU like to chat about next? Leave me a voice memo at HilaryRushford.com/podvip and join the conversation in my IG Stories @HilaryRushford!

“My girlfriends have been complaining about weight gain during quarantine. I think they look great! But it makes me so uncomfortable because I’m a larger size than any of them. I know they don’t mean it, but it makes me self-conscious when they judge their own smaller bodies in front of me. Do you have any advice for how to bring this up without making it awkward?”

Let’s talk about The Compliment Sandwich for handling delicate conversations with aplomb.

Links in this episode:

• Episode 49: An Open Letter on Opinion Culture
• My puzzle mat

PS Since recording this episode we had an incredible conversation about shaming on IG Stories which you can find pinned @HilaryRushford.

Please come leave a voice memo at HilaryRushford.com/podvip to submit suggestions, Q’s or topics for upcoming episodes!

How do you show yourself grace in decision making? How do you MAKE big decisions around where to live, career, family?

Answering your Q’s and sharing some of my personal story on these topics.

8 Q’s + Actions to Consider:

1. Zoom out to 10 years and beyond. What do you want to be true at 70?
2. Do the regret test. If you do or don’t do this, might you regret it?
3. Give yourself grace if you don’t have an answer right now. Trust that means it’s not the right time FOR you to have an answer.
4. Envision your day to day. What will this look like on a very practical level.
5. What clues are in your fantasies? Is there a more practical way you could incorporate these?
6. Think medium term. What if this was just for 3 years? What do you want to have saved financially in 18 months?
7. What gives you buzz in your life? Can you find that in different ways in your options?
8. Test it. Whether a trial run, or mentally through journaling, research and conversation. Put yourself in that reality to see how it truly feels.

Listen to Ep 61: Shelter-At-Home Style + Dressing Joyfully for more on #7 and what buzz is in our lives.

Have more Q’s to submit? Visit HilaryRushford.com/podvip. And come join the conversation @HilaryRushford.

PS - Books I’m loving lately That Month in Tuscany and The 7 1/2 Deaths of Evelyn Harcourt

I’ve noticed something in myself and my Elegant Excellence Mastermind students over the past year. Colleagues and coaches have confirmed it for me, and it’s a growing passion for me to help us break through it.

Today the doors open for my brand new course Creative Business Accelerator, with a limited time window to also join my Elegant Excellence Mastermind for the last 6 months of 2020.

Join me on a live call Wednesday/Thursday on The Simplest Way to Launch a New Business or Product for more teaching and details.

I can help you launch in 3-30 days with less overwhelm and procrastination, for more confidence and revenue. At an incredibly affordable price.

Links in this episode:

• Special Bonus Ep: I Owe You an Apology
• Ep 61: Shelter-At-Home Style + Dressing Joyfully
• Photo I mention on my IG feed
• Gal Meets Glam announcement

Have questions? I’m on Instagram @HilaryRushford. Idea for a future podcast? Leave a voice memo with a Q or topic at HilaryRushford.com/podvip.

I asked on IG Stories how you’re feeling amidst our global conversation on racism and racial equity.

The most common answers were:

• Ashamed, horrified, devastated at how much I didn’t know I didn’t know.
• Overwhelmed. I feel pressure to speak, but to not misspeak; shamed for being silent, judged for misspeaking, I’m frozen.
• Guilty that I want Instagram to be the place I escape from the anxiety of my day, not the source of it.

Everything I read, the heart was empathetic and compassionate. Wanting to help, support, and love.

And, struggling with not being full-time activists, yet also having woken up.

Unsure how to balance your life, for many entrepreneurs your business, along with not wanting to “move on”.

This is what I’ve been wrestling with myself.

Authenticity is very important to me.

Staying focused on a topic because it’s trendy or there’s pressure, is not the same as a true heart shift.

We show heart shifts, when weeks, months and years from now, we show true life shifts.

In this episode I share principles I’m using to be an ally authentically and sustainably.

• How my “one degree better” principle ties into why the conversation on race feels different this time around
• The 6x3 principle from the ElegantExcellenceJournal.com helps examine us avoid overwhelm or burnout, while committing to action
• My “passion stacking” vision the help us walk out racial equity authentically and impactfully

I am not an expert, I’m simply sharing my own earnest journey feeling compelled to do more.

Imperfectly, I’m sure. Stumbling over my words, I’m sure.

Yet with great empathy and holding space for how many different phases we’re in in this community.

Links mentioned:

• Ep 17: Am I Doing Self-Love Wrong?
• How to be an Anti-Racist book
• The Northern Belle of the South on Instagram

I would absolutely love to hear your thoughts below my latest Instagram post to continue the conversation @HilaryRushford where you can find additional resources I’ve shared in pinned BLM Stories.

Leave me a voice memo with a Q or topic to inspire a future episode at HilaryRushford.com/podvip.

*** Don’t miss my newest course for ENTREPRENEURS opening and closing this month in JUNE! ***

Who made the first move, what’s our best dating advice? You submitted Q’s for Jeremy, who’s making his podcast debut!

Interested in our proposal and wedding stories?

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My brand new course for entrepreneurs and aspiring opens this month in June! Get on the waitlist so you don’t miss the limited first window.

Have follow-up Q’s or another topic you’d love to hear on the pod? Would love to hear from you below my latest post on IG @HilaryRushford or leaving a voice memo at HilaryRushford.com/podvip.

Do you reach out to friends more than they reach out to you?

Do you think most people probably have more social plans (pre-coronavirus) than you do?

Who are we reaching out to more/less these days and why?

I gathered these Q’s into a series of surveys on IG Stories and put the insights into today's episode.

Our hearts crave more connection. We’re all yearning to hear from one another more. So why are we all letting one another down?

Episodes mentioned to re-listen on related topics:

• Ep 59: Permission to heal: social media, Covid + community
• Ep 56: Loneliness, Friendship + 3 Steps in Connection
• Ep 60: The Wand: Change your day in 5 min (+ your inner teen girl)

Be sure to hop on the waiting list for my brand new course or entrepreneurs and aspiring launching this month!

Would love to hear your thoughts on today’s episode under my latest IG post (whenever you hear this) @HilaryRushford, or Q’s for future episodes at HilaryRushford.com/podvip.

I went back to the site of past shame and was so grounded in myself, it was noteworthy.

How did I stay more present than self-analytical, despite being in a room of wealthy people I had once felt so much smaller than?

This is a different experience of confidence and freedom (of time, money, energy) than I’ve felt before.

And I’m sharing exactly what I did to get there!

Links in this episode:

• Sept 13 + 14 join me for a LIVE Keynote Speech with your free VIP ticket at HilaryRushford.com/bodypeace ← “How to Finally Feel Confident and at Peace in Your Body (+ save time, energy, and $2,000 per year)”

Would love to hear your thoughts after on Instagram @HilaryRushford. If you think this would help someone you know please share and tag me so I can see and chime in!

And thank you in advance (wink) for leaving a review, they mean so much in helping more people!

We had big beautiful visions for our 2020 on January 1.

A new decade, a new season. We’d just launched the Elegant Excellence Goals Journal.

Then before Q1 was even over they had completely changed with a global pandemic.

We don’t know when it will be over, what normal looks or feels like, which freedom and choice we do or don’t have.

Making plans feels exhausting.

Without them we’re aimless, disorganized, unfulfilled.

Yet trying to make them, comes with overwhelm about where to begin, what’s certain, what can we guarantee?

Do you reschedule your wedding, renew your lease in this city, start the business?

Today I’m sharing 7 Q’s that have helped me to navigate:

1. Consider what you’ve discovered is important to you in this time
2. Revisit your 10 + 3 year goals
3. Adjust your 1 year goals
4. Make plans B + C (+ D)
5. Sketch a new Path
6. Make + celebrate very short-term goals
7. Ask in 3 years what will I regret?

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Past episodes mentioned to go deeper on:

• Ep 39: Welcome to the Royal 20’s!
• Ep 58: Productivity Guilt during Quarantine + the Idealization of Time
• Ep 59: Permission to heal: social media, Covid + community
• Ep 60: The Wand: Change your day in 5 min (+ your inner teen girl)
• Ep 61: Shelter-At-Home Style + Dressing Joyfully
• Ep 62: You are doing great (a love note)

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Would LOVE to hear from you and your thoughts. Come leave a comment below my latest post @HilaryRushford or leave me a voice memo with a Q or topic for a future episode at HilaryRushford.com/podvip.

As I’ve been reading over your DMs, and we’ve been chatting through my IG Stories, there’s something I want to say.

If you’re feeling tired, overwhelmed, discouraged, in need of a break, or unsure, this is for you.

By the way, I’ve felt all of those things myself and on the rare times that a friend knows me well enough to speak this into my life, it’s such a blessing.

If you think this message would bless others please SCREENSHOT + SHARE. Tag me on Instagram Stories @HilaryRushford so I can thank you! Text it directly to a friend.

I would LOVE to hear from you with Q’s or topics for future episodes at HilaryRushford.com/podvip if you’ll come leave me a voice memo?

PS If you loved this episode, check out Ep 42 The 6 Words You Need to Hear + Ep 43: I Am So Proud of You.

Are you enjoying your closet more or less in this season? And why?

I asked this question on Instagram and your responses came into 11 areas. Whether positive feelings we want to KEEP after this season, or negative ones where we might have more choice to CHANGE than we realize, I’m breaking them down.

So many of my lessons came back to the heart behind my style class, Style & Styleability, that I decided to open it up for podcast listeners. I’ve shared a replay of my last free class taught in Brooklyn here:

HilaryRushford.com/class

Two other episodes mentioned in this one are:

• Ep 60 The Wand
• Ep 39 Royal Mindset

Come tell me your own thoughts on today’s conversation over on Instagram @HilaryRushford beneath my latest post? And look for examples of the styles I mention in my Stories or pinned Stories if they’ve expired.

The most powerful tool I’ve used to change my life, that's still helping me through coronavirus, in entrepreneurship, in my friendships...all the things!

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That’s all. Simple, yet shockingly powerful. Go deeper with these additional podcast episodes (I re-listen to my own episodes ALL the time! Just because we’ve heard it, doesn't mean we are living it!):

Ep 29: 22 Steps to Feel Better in 1 Day (Easier Than it Sounds)
Ep 39: Welcome to the Royal 20’s!
Ep 58: Productivity Guilt during Quarantine + the Idealization of Time

If you’re interested in either the Elegant Excellence Journal or Elegant Excellence Mastermind you can hop on our wait lists for more info!

Would LOVE to hear your thoughts over on Instagram @HilaryRushford and be so honored if you would screenshot this episode to share.

Want to share even more? Send me a voice memo at HilaryRushford.com/podvip to inspire a future episode.

PS: Something I’m loving lately, Rob Lowe Autobiography!

Today’s concept of Third Circle Grief has blessed my life for the last few years as I came up with it to process my own experiences.

Sharing it, only recently on Instagram, the response was overwhelming as 90% said you too are experiencing this, you just didn’t have language for it.

What it is, what it means, and how to process it.

A few other gems from this episode:

• Ep #26 How to Be A Good Friend in Grief
• Grain free chocolate chip cookie recipe
• Ep #1 of my IGTV cooking (ahem, comedy) show on what I make for breakfast
• And Ep #2: A Coronavirus Cookie Fairy Tale starring Harry + Megan

Would LOVE to hear your thoughts over on Instagram @HilaryRushford and be so honored if you would screenshot this episode to share.

Want to share even more? Send me a voice memo at HilaryRushford.com/podvip to inspire a future episode.

I feel I should be getting more done during this time. Sound familiar?

I feel I should be more productive, creative, rested. The “should’s” are piling up during this time and rather than simply swatting them away with a “show yourself more grace,” I think we have a powerful opportunity to ask why.

What would happen if we did not, in fact, do these things on the “should list”? And deepest of all, have we made time the enemy all these years… only to realize the enemy is actually within ourselves? If we don’t do ____ while we have more time (for those of us who do right now) what does that say about us in the long-run?

Would LOVE to hear your thoughts over on Instagram @HilaryRushford and be so honored if you would screenshot this episode to share.

Want to share even more? Send me a voice memo at HilaryRushford.com/podvip to inspire a future episode.

And don’t forget, if you’re curious about starting, scaling or pivoting any sort of side income, product, or business be first to hear about my brand new course right here. My first new class in 4 years is coming to help you through this season and beyond very soon...

Links in this episode:
IG: Jamie Beck
IG: Krystal Bick
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If you’re unsure what your special gift is, how to stand out in your industry, or succeed doing something you’re naturally brilliant at -- I’ve got a story for you!

I recorded this conversation with my dad over Christmas, and it has the hope and big-picture-dreaming I feel we all need in this challenging season of coronavirus and recession.

Right now, many of us are scared or stuck, in our work and our dreams. From our family to yours, may you create your own story worth telling, COVID setbacks and redirections and all.

Would love to hear your thoughts and experiences. Come share with me on Instagram @HilaryRushford.

Or send me a voice memo on this or other topics you’d love to discuss here on the podcast at HilaryRushford.com/podvip.

P.S. Be the 1st to hear about my brand new course for entrepreneurs and aspiring! #ComingSoon

Are you feeling more or less connected in the past few weeks? I’ll share how I’m feeling, as well as some timeless insights into these emotions that can feel all the more relevant in this current reality of sheltering at home for much of the world.

This is the final in a three-part series, exploring the NYT best seller Lost Connections: Why You’re Depressed and How to Find Hope by Johann Hari.

Part 1: Ep 51: Healing Our Depression + Anxiety, with Beauty + Joy

Part 2: Ep 55: What We Want Out of Work + How to Create It

What would you love to discuss on the podcast next? Come leave me a voice memo! HilaryRushford.com/podvip

And please come hang out with me on Instagram @HilaryRushford!

Why are 87% of us disengaged or enraged with our work? For those who are fellow entrepreneurs, what does this mean when it comes to our own team and employees?

This episode is the second in a three-part series, exploring the NYT best seller Lost Connections: Why You’re Depressed and How to Find Hope by Johann Hari, and the issues most relevant to us at Dean Street Society.

Part one is here: Ep 51: Healing Our Depression + Anxiety, with Beauty + Joy

Whether you or somebody you know has struggled with depression and anxiety, this is a topic that needs all of us to lean in, think deeply, and truly take action.

For more timely conversation on work during Coronavirus for those seeking additional income, stay tuned for a video coming to IGTV @HilaryRushford this week.

And till then get your daily dose of joy with one of my new most watched style videos un-sponsored by a little boutique I found here on the road called Walmart. (wink)

What would you love to discuss on the podcast next? Come leave me a voice memo! HilaryRushford.com/podvip

Choosing grace and releasing control. That’s the message I feel we all need in this challenging season. Both our in-person relationships, and our online ones (where we tend to feel even more loose in our boundaries).

Listen in to understand why you’re feeling how you are, and make sure you’re loving those around you as best you can.

With all the heaviness, we need gentleness more than ever! And joy, hence my shout-out for this IG profile.

Would love to hear your thoughts and experiences? Come share with me on Instagram @HilaryRushford. Or send me a voice memo on this or other topics you’d love to discuss here on the podcast in this season at HilaryRushford.com/podvip.

Links in this episode:
Ep: 49: An Open Letter on Opinion Culture
IG Account: goodnews_movement

How often do you double shame yourself? Part of the shame is warranted: we’re imperfect and insecure. 

Yet from that place how often do we also take on a double helping of guilt, instead of being able to see that the people or circumstances around us were also flawed and problematic?

Sharing a story about a chance meeting that left me with so many insights about myself 20 years ago, and myself today – both how I’ve grown and what the next level of healing is.

Links in this episode:

• What Makes Women Feel Beautiful is opening again soon, get on the list now!

• Order your Elegant Excellence Journal today to start healing more deeply

Would love to hear your thoughts after on Instagram @HilaryRushford. If you think this would help someone you know please share and tag me so I can see and chime in!

And thank you in advance (wink) for leaving a review, they mean so much in helping more people!

I’m feeling like the black duckling these days, the one who doesn’t fit in.

My experience of Rona (as Jeremy and I are calling this surreal moment) isn’t what I’m seeing from most people.

The general memes, advice, and game plans … they just aren’t ringing true for me.

Listen in to see if you relate - or if this is the advice you too need to hear.

I would LOVE to hear from you afterward in my IG comments, truly, to hear how you’re processing this so we can support one another more. Leave a comment on Instagram @HilaryRushford and follow along on IGTV.

Links in this episode:

- The 5 stages of grief
- My wedding florist @EastOlivia

Links:
@HilaryRushford
HilaryRushford.com/podvip

Consider this our happy hour via Zoom friend. (wink)

I’m pausing the episode I had scheduled for today for a personal chat about our travels and experience over the last few weeks as we found ourselves in Mexico just before everything happened at home in the US and New York.

Including the very surprising place we ended up, where I’m recording this on a strange bed, on my iPhone, without any of my fancy equipment. And enjoying this chance to share what’s been happening in our life.

Would truly love to hear what’s happening in yours? Leave a comment on Instagram @HilaryRushford. Or send me a voice memo on this or other topics you’d love to discuss here on the podcast in this season at HilaryRushford.com/podvip.

Links in this episode:
Ep 49: Open Letter on Opinion Culture
Jimmy Fallon + Justin Timberlake song

Links:
@HilaryRushford
HilaryRushford.com/podvip

Exploring the 7-9 causes and antidotes inside the groundbreaking New York Time’s Best Selling book, “Lost Connections: Why You’re Depressed and How to Find Hope” by Johann Hari.

This episode is the first in a three-part series, exploring the issues he teaches that I find most relevant to us at Dean Street Society.

Whether you or somebody you know has struggled with depression and anxiety, this is a topic that needs all of us to lean in, think deeply, and truly take action on.

Links in this Episode:

• Lost Connections: Why You’re Depressed and How to Find Hope by Johann Hari
• Ep 44: Life Changing Essentialism + Doing Less
• Part 1 of Closet Organizing on IGTV

Join the conversation:

• Would truly love to hear your thoughts and experiences below my latest post, whatever it is, on Instagram @HilaryRushford
• And/or send me a voice memo on this or other topics you’d love to discuss here on the podcast! HilaryRushford.com/podvip