Jodi Carlton is a leading world expert in mixed neurotype relationship dynamics and communication. Her personal, but direct, style of educating and coaching is a favorite of both neurodivergent and neurotypical partners around the globe.
Her unique blend of personal experience in her own neurodiverse relationships, as well as her professional expertise, positions her to understand both autistic and non-autistic individuals. She bridges the communication gap for couples with a blame-free mind-set, and a goal of clarity.
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Neurodiversity-Friendly New Year’s Resolutions: Start 2025 with Success!
Episode 43
Sunday, January 5, 2025 • Duration 18:34
Are you tired of traditional New Year’s resolutions that feel overwhelming or unrealistic? In this video, I’ll guide you through creating neurodiversity-friendly resolutions tailored to your unique strengths, challenges, and goals. Whether you’re neurodivergent yourself or supporting someone who is, these strategies will help you design resolutions that are achievable, empowering, and sustainable.
We’ll cover:
✔️ Breaking big goals into manageable steps
✔️ Using visual aids and reminders to stay on track
✔️ Prioritizing self-compassion over perfection
✔️ Embracing your strengths and working with your brain, not against it 💬 What are your goals for 2025? Share them in the comments below!
📺 Don’t forget to LIKE, SUBSCRIBE, and hit the 🔔 for more tips on thriving in neurodiverse relationships and daily life. Let’s make 2025 your most authentic and fulfilling year yet! 🌟
👩💼 Hi, I'm #JodiCarlton !! I am a seasoned professional with 20+ years of experience as a therapist and relationship coach specializing in neurodiverse relationships.
I AM NEURODIVERGENT: I discovered as an adult that I am #ADHD, and I was married to an autistic man for 19 years. I also had other neurodiverse romantic relationships and have an autistic daughter and an ADHD son. Through the years, I have realized that my entire extended family is neurodivergent. My relationships with neurodiverse family and friends have been my personal training ground for understanding and helping partners and couples in their own relationships.
Below are some of the neurodivergent resources I offer:
TRY THE NEW NEUROTRANSLATOR APP! A client once told me "I need JodiGPT." Well, this is as close as you're gonna get. This app provides a detailed explanation of each neurotype's expectations and perspectives on any situation you're in. Use it in your relationships to minimize conflict and understand each other better! Developed by Michael Daniel who is autistic and wanted help in his own neurodiverse marriage.
💻 QUIZZES: https://jodicarlton.com/take-a-quiz/ Take free quizzes about neurodivergence, autism, toxic relationship dynamics, and learn which resources will benefit you the most. 🤩
CONSULTATIONS/COACHING: https://jodicarlton.com/private-coaching/ I coach individuals, couples, and families worldwide using a solution-focused approach that results in life-altering answers and real change.
💁♀️ COURSES: https://jodicarlton.com/courses Work at your own pace in my self-study courses. Gain access to the world's first communication model that facilitates life-altering clarity and change. Discover if your partner or relationship is toxic and unsafe.
📖 BLOG: https://jodicarlton.com/blog Browse through articles about executive functioning, masking, narcissism, communication, and so much more. Don’t forget to like, share, and subscribe for more insights on neurodiversity! Don’t forget to like, share, and subscribe for more insights on #neurodiversity!
The holidays can be challenging, especially in neurodiverse relationships. ☃️🎄🎅 In this sneak peek from my upcoming podcast season, Your Neurodiverse Relationship, I sit down with Ashley and Randall, a #neurodiversecouple, to talk about how they navigate #holidaystress
✨ From managing routines and avoiding surprises to creating backup plans and recovery days, Ashley and Randall share life-changing tips that have transformed their holidays and strengthened their relationship. Whether it’s using a code word like “mistletoe” to signal overwhelm or planning ahead for the unexpected, their insights are sure to inspire you.
🌟 Key Takeaways:
0:00 – Introduction: Sneak Peek of Podcast Season 5
1:01 – Meet Ashley and Randall: Tackling Holiday Challenges
1:22 – Why Surprises Are Stressful for Autistic Partners
2:33 – Gifts and Uncertainty: Finding Solutions 🎁
3:30 – The Importance of Routine During the Holidays
4:30 – Life Hack: Plan A, Plan B, Plan C for Social Events
5:30 – Using Code Words to Manage Overwhelm (e.g., "Mistletoe") 6:10 – Recovery Days: Essential for Managing Post-Holiday Stress 🛋️
7:12 – Jodi’s Holiday Course and Resources
👉 Don’t forget to subscribe to my channel and follow my podcast to catch the full episode when it airs next year! Need help navigating the holidays now? Check out my ‘Pay What You Can Afford’ Holiday Stress Buster Toolkit at https://jodicarlton.com/courses/
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👩💼 Hi, I'm #JodiCarlton !! I am a seasoned professional with 20+ years of experience as a therapist and relationship coach specializing in neurodiverse relationships.
I AM NEURODIVERGENT: I discovered as an adult that I am #ADHD, and I was married to an #autistic man for 19 years. I also had other neurodiverse romantic relationships and have an autistic daughter and an ADHD son. Through the years, I have realized that my entire extended family is neurodivergent. My relationships with neurodiverse family and friends have been my personal training ground for understanding and helping partners and couples in their own relationships.
How Does ADHD & Executive Functioning Impact Partners
Episode 34
Tuesday, July 23, 2024 • Duration 33:41
Let's understand the 8 types of #executivefunctioning in #neurodiverse relationships. Jodi Carlton, a neurodiverse relationship expert, explains what executive functioning is and how it impacts #neurodiversecouples when one or both partners experience executive function challenges 🧠👫👬👭
0:00 What is Executive Functioning?
01:11 1. Planning and Organizing
03:30 2. Time Management
07:32 3. Working Memory
12:44 4. Self-Monitoring
16:28 5. Emotional Regulation
19:40 6. Cognitive Flexibility
24:41 7. Task Initiation
26:55 8. Inhibition Control (Impulsivity)
30:58 Dealing with Executive Dysfunction
To learn more about executive functioning in neurodiverse relationships, check out our latest blogs:
For more resources like articles, podcasts, and online courses, visit me at https://jodicarlton.com Don’t forget to like, share, and subscribe for more insights on #neurodiversity!
👩💼 Hi, I'm #JodiCarlton !! I am a seasoned professional with 20+ years of experience as a therapist and relationship coach specializing in neurodiverse relationships.
I AM #NEURODIVERGENT: I discovered as an adult that I am ADHD, and I was married to an autistic man for 19 years. I also had other neurodiverse romantic relationships and have an autistic daughter and an ADHD son. Through the years, I have realized that my entire extended family is neurodivergent. My relationships with neurodiverse family and friends have been my personal training ground for understanding and helping partners and couples in their own relationships.
My Autistic Partner is Not Supportive
Episode 32
Wednesday, July 10, 2024 • Duration 04:06
In this bonus episode, Jodi Carlton, an expert in neurodiverse relationships, discusses a personal story shared by a listener about weight loss surgery and the emotional impact of her husband's comments. Jodi provides insight into the literal thinking often found in neurodiverse relationships and emphasizes the importance of self-confidence and not placing the responsibility of our insecurities on others.
00:00 Welcome to Neurodiversity Nuggets with Jodi Carlton
00:39 Q & A: Neurodiverse Relationships
01:17 Understanding and Managing Insecurities in Relationships
02:16 The Importance of Self-Confidence and Ownership in Personal Security
03:43 Embracing Individual Responsibility for Emotional Well-being
For more resources like articles, podcasts, and online courses, visit me at https://jodicarlton.com
Don’t forget to like, share, and subscribe for more insights on #neurodiversity!
Visit me online to access my course, Crack the Communication Code, which was designed specifically for neurodiverse partners and couples.
👩💼 Hi, I'm Jodi Carlton! I am a seasoned professional with 20+ years of experience as a therapist and relationship coach specializing in neurodiverse relationships.
I AM NEURODIVERGENT: I discovered as an adult that I am ADHD and I was married to an autistic man for 19 years. I have also had other neurodiverse romantic relationships, and have an autistic daughter and ADHD son. Through the years I have realized that my entire extended family is neurodivergent. My relationships with neurodiverse family and friends have been my personal training ground for understanding and helping partners and couples in their own relationships.
How Do I Tell My Wife She’s Autistic?
Episode 31
Wednesday, June 26, 2024 • Duration 05:23
Are you asking yourself, "How do I tell my wife she's autistic?" People regularly book consultation with me asking this question - I get it in the comments too.
In this bonus clip, share what I tell my clients.
Neurodiversity in relationships can be confusing, and if you think your wife or your partner is autistic (some still use the term Aspergers), then you need an informed strategy for how to bring this up to her!
00:00 In troduction to Neurodiverse Relationship Advice
00:04 Suspecting Autism in a Partner
00:51 Why Directly Suggesting Autism Can Be Problematic
03:47 Approaching Differences with Sensitivity and Understanding
05:00 Conclusion: Embracing Neurodiversity in Relationships
This Relationship Trait Leads to Divorce
Episode 30
Wednesday, June 12, 2024 • Duration 02:59
Does your marriage have the common traits of couples that end up in divorce?
In this bonus clip, Jodi Carlton, neurodiverse relationship expert, emphasizes how an antagonistic dynamic within a relationship, where one partner must win and the other lose, is a red flag. She stresses the importance of addressing underlying issues and misunderstandings, particularly in autism spectrum relationships. Jodi also discusses the problem of trying to control your partner or the relationship.
00:00 A Harsh Reality
00:21 Understanding Antagonism in Relationships
01:03 The Cycle of Conflict and Control
01:58 Navigating Autism Spectrum Relationships
02:20 Tools for Communication and Rebuilding
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👩💼 Hi, I'm Jodi Carlton, a leading world expert on adult #neurodiverserelationship dynamics and interpersonal #communication. I am a seasoned professional with 20+ years of experience as a #therapist and #relationshipcoach specializing in #autism, #ADHD, #anxiety, #depression, and #abuse. I am #trauma certified and trained in Accelerated Resolution Therapy and hypnosis.
MY PERSONAL STORY: Although I have professional counselor education and training, my life experiences in my own neurodiverse marriage, as a parent to my #autisticdaughter and #adhd son, and my relationships with other neurodiverse family and friends have been my personal training ground. I am also a survivor of narcissistic abuse and have experienced the narc abuse cycle in multiple relationships. I have battled and healed from the codependency that results from having an abusive childhood.
QUIZZES: I have developed customized quizzes for you to identify traits of neurodiversity as well as toxic personality traits in partners. Take a free quiz at: http://jodicarlton.com
Masking Isn’t Just an "Autistic" Thing
Episode 27
Wednesday, May 29, 2024 • Duration 11:35
Everyone, whether neurodiverse or neurotypical, uses some form of masking or filter as a part of their social interactions. In this bonus episode, Jodi Carlton shares a personal story about her autistic daughter's masking strategy, called 'inside face and outside face', which her daughter uses to manage her social interactions.
00:00 Introduction to Masking in Neurodiverse Relationships
00:45 Understanding Masking: A Personal Story
02:30 Masking as a Filter: A Deeper Dive
03:48 Masking in Different Contexts: Professional vs Personal
04:37 Unmasking at Home: The Safe Zone
08:15 The Impact of Masking on Relationships
08:33 The Role of Scripts in Masking
11:10 The Importance of Authenticity in Relationships
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👩💼 Hi, I'm Jodi Carlton, a leading world expert on adult #neurodiverserelationship dynamics and interpersonal #communication. I am a seasoned professional with 20+ years of experience as a #therapist and #relationshipcoach specializing in #autism, #ADHD, #anxiety, #depression, and #abuse. I am #trauma certified and trained in Accelerated Resolution Therapy and hypnosis.
MY PERSONAL STORY: Although I have professional counselor education and training, my life experiences in my own neurodiverse marriage, as a parent to my #autisticdaughter and #adhd son, and my relationships with other neurodiverse family and friends have been my personal training ground. I am also a survivor of narcissistic abuse and have experienced the narc abuse cycle in multiple relationships. I have battled and healed from the codependency that results from having an abusive childhood.
QUIZZES: I have developed customized quizzes for you to identify traits of neurodiversity as well as toxic personality traits in partners. Take a free quiz at: http://jodicarlton.com
Sex and Intimacy in Autism Relationships
Episode 29
Thursday, May 16, 2024 • Duration 14:11
In this episode from her YouTube channel, Jodi Carlton addresses common challenges that both partners in neurodiverse relationships often face.
00:00 Introduction to Intimacy Conversations
00:34 Understanding Personal Perspectives on Sexuality
01:33 Cultural and Social Influences on Sexuality
02:29 Challenges of Modern Sexuality and Media Influence
04:02 Navigating Expectations and Roles in Intimacy
06:07 The Importance of Communication and Understanding in Relationships
09:34 Addressing Personal Trauma and Misunderstandings
11:24 Taking Responsibility and Making Positive Changes
12:44 Clarifying Definitions and Expectations in Sexual Relationships
13:45 Conclusion: Hope for Improvement and Change
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👩💼 Hi, I'm Jodi Carlton, a leading world expert on adult #neurodiverserelationship dynamics and interpersonal #communication. I am a seasoned professional with 20+ years of experience as a #therapist and #relationshipcoach specializing in #autism, #ADHD, #anxiety, #depression, and #abuse. I am #trauma certified and trained in Accelerated Resolution Therapy and hypnosis.
MY PERSONAL STORY: Although I have professional counselor education and training, my life experiences in my own neurodiverse marriage, as a parent to my #autisticdaughter and #adhd son, and my relationships with other neurodiverse family and friends have been my personal training ground. I am also a survivor of narcissistic abuse and have experienced the narc abuse cycle in multiple relationships. I have battled and healed from the codependency that results from having an abusive childhood.
My Autistic Partner Changes But It Doesn’t Last
Episode 28
Wednesday, May 1, 2024 • Duration 05:19
This bonus clip highlights a personal story of someone struggling in their relationship with a boyfriend who has Asperger's. Despite receiving counseling, the relationship faces recurring issues such as explosive behavior and silent treatments from the autistic partner.
00:00 Introduction: Meet Jodi Carlton, Neuro Diverse Relationship Expert
00:08 A Viewer's Struggle: Reconnecting with an Asperger's Ex-Partner
00:31 The Cycle of Hope and Disappointment
01:09 Understanding Codependency in Relationships
02:15 The Challenge of Change and Communication
03:33 Educational Advice: Learning About Autism and Improving Communication
04:19 The Importance of Self-Reflection in Neurodiverse Relationships
#5: Now What? Deciding on a Path Forward in Your Neurodiverse Relationship
Season 4 · Episode 5
Wednesday, April 17, 2024 • Duration 28:31
This is the final episode in a five-part series, Navigating Neurodiverse Relationships, where my co-host, Mona Kay, talks with me about steps for addressing relationship challenges to find a path forward. We share personal stories and insights into the challenges we faced in our own marriages.
In this episode, we specifically discuss how inappropriate hope is such a common problem for partners and couples, and how other obstacles like low self-worth and chasing dead-ends lead to increasing distress and antagonism in neurodiverse relationships.
The final step navigating your neurodiverse relationship involves evaluating all of your choices and options and implementing changes for yourself. No more staying stuck.
Let us help you get out of the quicksand to determine a real path forward!
00:00 Season 4:: Navigating Neurodiverse Relationships
00:28 The Five Key Step
01:37 The Final Episode: Step Five - Figuring Out a Path Forward
04:03 Inappropriate Hope
12:17 Healing and Moving Forward
20:52 Finding Happiness and Peace
26:12 Concluding Thoughts and Resources for Neurodiverse Couples
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👩💼 Hi, I'm Jodi Carlton, a leading world expert on adult #neurodiverserelationship dynamics and interpersonal #communication. I am a seasoned professional with 20+ years of experience as a #therapist and #relationshipcoach specializing in #autism, #ADHD, #anxiety, #depression, and #abuse. I am #trauma certified and trained in Accelerated Resolution Therapy and hypnosis.
MY PERSONAL STORY: Although I have professional counselor education and training, my life experiences in my own neurodiverse marriage, as a parent to my #autisticdaughter and #adhd son, and my relationships with other neurodiverse family and friends have been my personal training ground. I am also a survivor of narcissistic abuse and have experienced the narc abuse cycle in multiple relationships. I have battled and healed from the codependency that results from having an abusive childhood.
Below are some of the neurodivergent resources I offer:
💬 TRY THE NEW AUTISTIC TRANSLATOR TOOL! https://autistictranslator.com/?via=jodi Provides a detailed explanation of each neurotype's expectations and perspectives on any situation you enter at the prompt. Developed by Michael Daniel, who is autistic and wanted help in his own neurodiverse relationships.
💻 QUIZZES: https://jodicarlton.com/take-a-quiz/ Take free quizzes about neurodivergence, autism, and toxic relationship dynamics, and learn which resources will benefit you the most.
🤩 CONSULTATIONS/COACHING: https://jodicarlton.com/private-coaching/ I coach individuals, couples, and families worldwide using a solution-focused approach that results in life-altering answers and real change.
🎙️ PODCAST: https://jodicarlton.com/podcast Listen to the "YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship" podcast. It's been downloaded in over 70 countries on your favorite podcast platform. You can also watch it here on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@JodiCarlton/podcasts
💁♀️ COURSES: https://jodicarlton.com/courses Work at your own pace in my self-study courses. Gain access to the world's first communication model that facilitates life-altering clarity and change. Discover if your partner or relationship is toxic and unsafe.
📖 BLOG: https://jodicarlton.com/blog Browse through articles about executive functioning, masking, narcissism, communication, and so much more. Don’t forget to like, share, and subscribe for more insights on #neurodiversity!
💻 QUIZZES: Take free quizzes at: https://jodicarlton.com/courses/ 🤩
COACHING: I coach individuals, couples, and families worldwide using a solution-focused approach that results in life-altering answers and real change. https://jodicarlton.com/private-coach...
🎙 PODCAST: Listen to the "YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship" podcast. It's been downloaded in over 70 countries on your favorite podcast platform https://jodicarlton.com/podcast/. You can also watch it on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@JodiCarlton/podcasts
NARCISSISTIC ABUSE: I am also a survivor of narcissistic abuse and have experienced the narc abuse cycle. I have battled and healed from the codependency that results from having an abusive childhood. Narcissism and autism are completely different, but can often have similar confusion characteristics. A relationship with an autistic partner often has potential for fulfillment with coaching and guidance whereas a relationship with a narcissist is a dead end of toxic abuse. My subspecialty is helping men and women who need help figuring out their own partners.
COACHING: I coach individuals, couples, and families worldwide using a solution-focused approach that results in life-altering answers and real change.
🎙 PODCAST: Listen to the "YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship" podcast, which has been downloaded in over 70 countries on your favorite podcast platform or watch it here on YouTube.
💁♀️ COMMUNICATION COURSE: The world's first program that facilitates life-altering clarity and change for neurodiverse partners and couples who are stuck in a cycle of rehashing confusing and painful conflict and shutdown.
🌐 Visit me online at JodiCarlton.com to learn more and for more resources.
📱 FOLLOW ME and SUBSCRIBE:
YouTube: @jodicarlton
Facebook, Instagram, and TikTok: @thejodicarlton
LinkedIn: Jodi Carlton
COMPREHENSIVE RELATIONSHIP EVALUATION: Assesses both partners to highlight unique traits and characteristics in areas such as personality, sensory processing, logic & reasoning, empathy, memory, problem-solving, and more. This data reveals how a couple's differences are affecting their relationship. The purpose is not to identify one partner as "abnormal," but to understand how partners are different from one another.
COACHING: My mission is to help you get clarity about yourself and your relationships to make informed choices, heal from your own pain, and improve your overall quality of life. I coach individuals, couples, and families worldwide using a solution-focused approach that results in life-altering answers and real change.
🎙 PODCAST: Listen to the "YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship" podcast, which has been downloaded in over 70 countries on your favorite podcast platform or watch it here on YouTube.
💁♀️ COMMUNICATION COURSE: The world's first program that facilitates life-altering clarity and change for neurodiverse partners and couples who are stuck in a cycle of rehashing confusing and painful conflict and shutdown.
http://CracktheCommunicationCode.com
🌐 Visit me online at JodiCarlton.com to learn more and for more resources.
📱 FOLLOW ME and SUBSCRIBE:
YouTube: @jodicarlton
Facebook, Instagram, and TikTok: @thejodicarlton
LinkedIn: Jodi Carlton
COMPREHENSIVE RELATIONSHIP EVALUATION: Assesses both partners to highlight unique traits and characteristics in areas such as personality, sensory processing, logic & reasoning, empathy, memory, problem-solving, and more. This data reveals how a couple's differences are affecting their relationship. The purpose is not to identify one partner as "abnormal," but to understand how partners are different from one another.
COACHING: My mission is to help you get clarity about yourself and your relationships to make informed choices, heal from your own pain, and improve your overall quality of life. I coach individuals, couples, and families worldwide using a solution-focused approach that results in life-altering answers and real change.
🎙 PODCAST: Listen to the "YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship" podcast, which has been downloaded in over 70 countries on your favorite podcast platform or watch it here on YouTube.
💁♀️ COMMUNICATION COURSE: The world's first program that facilitates life-altering clarity and change for neurodiverse partners and couples who are stuck in a cycle of rehashing confusing and painful conflict and shutdown.
http://CracktheCommunicationCode.com
🌐 Visit me online at JodiCarlton.com to learn more and for more resources.
📱 FOLLOW ME and SUBSCRIBE:
YouTube: @jodicarlton
Facebook, Instagram, and TikTok: @thejodicarlton
LinkedIn: Jodi Carlton
QUIZZES: I have developed customized quizzes for you to identify traits of neurodiversity as well as toxic personality traits in partners. Take a free quiz at: http://jodicarlton.com
COMPREHENSIVE RELATIONSHIP EVALUATION: Assesses both partners to highlight unique traits and characteristics in areas such as personality, sensory processing, logic & reasoning, empathy, memory, problem-solving, and more. This data reveals how a couple's differences are affecting their relationship. The purpose is not to identify one partner as "abnormal," but to understand how partners are different from one another.
COACHING: My mission is to help you get clarity about yourself and your relationships to make informed choices, heal from your own pain, and improve your overall quality of life. I coach individuals, couples, and families worldwide using a solution-focused approach that results in life-altering answers and real change.
🎙 PODCAST: Listen to the "YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship" podcast, which has been downloaded in over 70 countries on your favorite podcast platform or watch it here on YouTube.
💁♀️ COMMUNICATION COURSE: The world's first program that facilitates life-altering clarity and change for neurodiverse partners and couples who are stuck in a cycle of rehashing confusing and painful conflict and shutdown.
http://CracktheCommunicationCode.com
🌐 Visit me online at JodiCarlton.com to learn more and for more resources.
📱 FOLLOW ME and SUBSCRIBE:
YouTube: @jodicarlton
Facebook, Instagram, and TikTok: @thejodicarlton
LinkedIn: Jodi Carlton
QUIZZES: I have developed customized quizzes for you to identify traits of neurodiversity as well as toxic personality traits in partners. Take a free quiz at: http://jodicarlton.com
COACHING: My mission is to help you get clarity about yourself and your relationships to make informed choices, heal from your own pain, and improve your overall quality of life. I coach individuals, couples, and families worldwide using a solution-focused approach that results in life-altering answers and real change.
🎙 PODCAST: Listen to the "YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship" podcast, which has been downloaded in over 70 countries on your favorite podcast platform or watch it here on YouTube.
💁♀️ COMMUNICATION COURSE: The world's first program that facilitates life-altering clarity and change for neurodiverse partners and couples who are stuck in a cycle of rehashing confusing and painful conflict and shutdown.
http://CracktheCommunicationCode.com
🌐 Visit me online at JodiCarlton.com to learn more and for more resources.
📱 FOLLOW ME and SUBSCRIBE:
YouTube: @jodicarlton
Facebook, Instagram, and TikTok: @thejodicarlton
LinkedIn: Jodi Carlton
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