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	Title	Pub. Date	Duration
	"Why Won't My Autistic Partner Compliment Me?" with Jodi Carlton & Mona Kay	01 nov. 2026	00:14:31
Is it common for autistic partners to not compliment their partner's appearance? In this episode, Mona and I unpack one of the most common complaints in neurodiverse relationships — the lack of affirmations — and reveal why it's often a sign of a fundamentally different way of experiencing love, not a lack of caring. Plus, for those wondering if this behavior suggests narcissism, we've included a "secret clue" that helps distinguish neurotype differences from narcissism. ⏱️ Timestamps 0:00 - Teaser: The tank and the switch 0:42 - Intro 1:29 - Welcome & checking in 2:21 - Listener question: Do autistic partners not compliment appearance? 2:57 - The common complaint: "My partner said absolutely nothing" 4:31 - When negative comments come out without hesitation 5:21 - Why compliments feel uncomfortable for autistic folks 5:37 - Informational honesty vs. emotional connection 7:23 - Autistic distrust of compliments 7:50 - Mona's story: screamed at for saying thank you 9:24 - The tank and the switch analogy 10:04 - "I love you, I still love you unless I tell you I don't" 10:30 - Why the non-autistic partner's tank drains 11:02 - Secret clue: autism vs. narcissism 11:51 - An example from the Neurodiverse Love docuseries 13:02 - Meeting in the middle: choosing to be in the relationship 13:38 - What's coming next episode 14:01 - Where to find us & outro Navigating Neurodiverse Life and Love is a casual show about neurodiverse romantic relationships, families, and life as a neurodivergent person or parent, hosted by Mona Kay and Jodi Carlton, two leading voices in the area of neurodiverse life and love. Find us at: www.jodicarlton.com & www.neurodiverselove.com 👩‍💼 About Jodi Carlton, MEd Book a Consultation: https://jodicarlton.com/booking I'm Jodi Carlton, MEd, a neurodiversity educator, relationship expert, author, and coach with more than 20 years of experience helping individuals, couples, families, and professionals better understand autism, ADHD, and the realities of neurodiverse relationships. As a late-diagnosed ADHDer, I combine professional expertise with lived experience. My own family includes multiple neurotypes, and after spending nearly two decades in a neurodiverse marriage, I understand both the challenges and the opportunities that can emerge when different minds meetMy work also explores the important distinction between neurodivergent differences and harmful relationship dynamics, including narcissistic abuse and personality pathology. My goal is not to tell people what to think, but to help them better understand what they are experiencing so they can make informed decisions about their relationships. On this channel, you'll find episodes of the YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship podcast, interviews with leading experts, educational videos, and practical conversations designed to help you better understand yourself, the people you love, and the misunderstood mind. Learn more about my new book: The Misunderstood Mind - What We Got WRONG About Autism, ADHD, and Neurodivergence Visit: https://themisunderstoodmind.com Courses: https://jodicarlton.com/courses Quizzes: https://jodicarlton.com/take-a-quiz Subscribe to my articles & newsletter at https://inside.themisunderstoodmind.com
	Sexual Consent & Abuse in Neurodiverse Relationship - Podcast	13 oct. 2026	00:22:18
When a partner claims that autism means they "don't understand consent," where does neurodivergence end and abuse begin? Jodi Carlton and Mona Kay unpack the difference between autistic behavior and abusive behavior, why "no means no" applies regardless of neurotype, and how media scripts and porn can distort expectations around consent for black-and-white thinkers. They also discuss the yes/no/maybe checklist, masking in neurodiverse marriages, the fawning response, and when ignoring a partner's "no" crosses the line into narcissistic and exploitive behavior. This episode discusses interpersonal violence (IPV), sexual abuse, and related topics. If you may be triggered by this conversation, please take care of yourself. Resources are listed below. ⏱️ Chapters 0:00 Teaser: No Means No, Regardless of Neurotype 1:33 Episode Intro 2:10 Content Warning & Listener Question 3:37 Abuse vs. Autistic Behavior 5:01 Abuse Is Not Autism 6:30 Any Neurotype Can Be Abusive 7:36 "Your Safety Is What Matters" 8:09 Any Adult Can Understand Consent 10:38 Porn, Scripts & Black-and-White Thinking 11:32 The Yes/No/Maybe Checklist 12:23 Media Messaging: "No Means Yes" & the Pursuit Myth 15:14 Masking & Saying Yes When You Could Say No 15:56 When "No" Is Ignored: That Is Abuse 16:17 Fawning, Codependency & Personal Accountability 18:21 Narcissistic & Sociopathic Behavior 19:58 Resources & "It's Never Just Leave" 21:00 Wrap Up & What's Next Resources — Interpersonal Violence & Domestic Abuse If you or someone you know is experiencing abuse, help is available. You are not alone, and it is not your fault. United States National Domestic Violence Hotline 📞 1-800-799-SAFE (1-800-799-7233) 💬 Text "START" to 88788 🌐 https://www.thehotline.org Available 24/7 \| Free & confidential \| Live chat also available on the website National Sexual Assault Hotline (RAINN) 📞 1-800-656-HOPE (1-800-656-4673) 🌐 https://www.rainn.org Online chat available 24/7 StrongHearts Native Helpline 📞 1-844-762-8483 A culturally-appropriate domestic violence and dating violence helpline for Native communities Love is Respect (National Teen Dating Abuse Helpline) 📞 1-866-331-9474 💬 Text "LOVEIS" to 22522 🌐 https://www.loveisrespect.org Deaf Hotline (via video phone) 📞 1-855-812-1001 International NO MORE Global Directory 🌐 https://www.nomoredirectory.org A comprehensive international directory of domestic and sexual violence helplines and support services, covering more than 200 countries. Created by the NO MORE Foundation in partnership with the United Nations. HotPeachPages 🌐 https://www.hotpeachpages.net Abuse information in over 115 languages and domestic violence help agencies listed for every country worldwide.
	Neurodivergence & Medical Gaslighting: It's Not All in Your Head \| S6E10	29 sept. 2026	00:17:40
Medical gaslighting is when your experience of your body is denied or dismissed by a medical professional. Neurodivergent people frequently experience this even though providers don't always realize the harm they're doing. When we talk about neurodivergence, we usually focus on the mind — but what about the body? In this episode of our "Navigating Neurodiverse Love & Life" series, my co-host Mona Kay and I dive into the physical side of neurodivergence that too often gets dismissed, misunderstood, or flat-out ignored by the medical system. From dysautonomia and migraines to depression as a physiological experience, Mona and I share our own lived experiences with bodies that don't regulate the way they're "supposed to." We discuss the gut-brain connection, pain sensitivity differences across the autism/ADHD spectrum, Ehlers-Danlos syndrome, seasonal affective disorder, hormones, and why so many of us have spent years feeling like we were "making it all up" — only to discover our symptoms were real all along. I also share the story of a doctor who recently reached out wanting to learn more about his neurodivergent patients, and why that kind of curiosity gives me hope. We talk about medical gaslighting, why even well-meaning physicians miss the signs, and what needs to change in medical training so neurodivergent patients stop falling through the cracks. Whether you're neurodivergent yourself, love someone who is, or you're a professional working with neurodivergent clients, this conversation is a reminder that validation changes everything. 📧 Send me your questions and stories: podcast@jodicarlton.com 🔗 Find me at jodicarlton.com (it's Jodi with an I — but even if you misspell it, you'll find me!) 🔗 Find Mona at neurodiverselove.com If you're a physician or helping professional who wants to learn more about working with neurodivergent patients, reach out to me about joining the Neurodiverse Peer Professional Network. Don't forget to like and subscribe! Additional Resources: 🔗 All Brains Belong: https://allbrainsbelong.org/ 🔗 Clinicians Guide: Everything is Connected to Everything: Improving Healthcare for Autistic & ADHD Adults: https://allbrainsbelong.org/clinician-resources/ Chapters: 0:00 Teaser 0:26 Intro 1:21 Checking In 1:49 Neurodivergence & the Physical Body 2:20 Migraines & Dysautonomia 3:00 Depression as a Physical Experience 5:00 Depression Is Physical, Not Just Mental 5:54 What Is Dysautonomia? 6:40 Hormones, Menopause & Feeling Alone 7:32 Finding Knowledgeable Physicians 8:04 A Doctor Who Wants to Learn About Neurodivergence 9:31 Medical Gaslighting & Imposter Syndrome 10:00 Ehlers-Danlos & Connective Tissue 10:34 The Gut-Brain Connection 11:28 "You Are 100% Wrong" 13:23 Pain Sensitivity: Autistic vs. ADHD 14:06 Interoception & My Autistic Uncle 15:25 There's an Explanation for Your Partner's Sensitivities 16:28 Validation Changes Everything 17:11 Outro
	Not a Deal Breaker: Hope for Neurodiverse Couples	15 sept. 2026	00:22:08
What happens when two people in a neurodiverse relationship remember the same conversation completely differently? This week, Mona and I explore the memory and communication disconnects that can put neurodiverse couples in what I call “the boxing ring”—where partners become opponents, each trying to prove who’s right and who’s wrong. From the partner who remembers every word but misses the meaning to the one who remembers the feeling but not the details, we break down why this happens—and why it doesn’t have to be a deal breaker. We also talk about executive functioning in daily life, the cereal box story, and important questions every couple should ask before moving in together. 🔔 Subscribe so you don't miss our next episode where we continue the conversation. 📩 Send us your questions: podcast@jodicarlton.com Chapters: 0:00 — When memory differences feel like gaslighting 0:57 — Meet the hosts: Mona Kay & Jodi Carlton 1:50 — Memory, meaning, and where neurodiverse couples miss each other 3:00 — Accuracy vs. emotional connection: the core disconnect 4:20 — Sarah's story: getting stuck on every wrong detail 6:02 — The boxing ring: when couples become opponents 6:18 — It's not a deal breaker: hope for neurodiverse couples 6:57 — Intent vs. impact: why curiosity beats taking it personally 8:29 — Trust erosion: why couples wait decades to get help 11:09 — Executive functioning in real life: the garbage night problem 12:41 — Codependency and bailing out: why it backfires 15:39 — Neurodivergent people are accountable too 17:19 — Neurodiverse Love Conversation Cards 18:17 — The 50% divorce rate and undiagnosed neurotypes 19:09 — Questions every couple should ask before moving in together 19:35 — The cereal box story: not wanting to be "perceived" 21:29 — Wrap-up Find us at jodicarlton.com and neurodiverselove.com Navigating Neurodiverse Life and Love is a casual show about neurodiverse romantic relationships, families, and life as a neurodivergent person or parent, hosted by Mona Kay and Jodi Carlton, two leading voices in the area of neurodiverse life and love. 👩‍💼 About Jodi Carlton, MEd I'm Jodi Carlton, MEd, a neurodiversity educator, relationship expert, author, and coach with more than 20 years of experience helping individuals, couples, families, and professionals better understand autism, ADHD, and the realities of neurodiverse relationships. As a late-diagnosed ADHDer, I combine professional expertise with lived experience. My own family includes multiple neurotypes, and after spending nearly two decades in a neurodiverse marriage, I understand both the challenges and the opportunities that can emerge when different minds meet. My work also explores the important distinction between neurodivergent differences and harmful relationship dynamics, including narcissistic abuse and personality pathology. My goal is not to tell people what to think, but to help them better understand what they are experiencing so they can make informed decisions about their relationships. On this channel, you'll find episodes of the YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship podcast, interviews with leading experts, educational videos, and practical conversations designed to help you better understand yourself, the people you love, and the misunderstood mind. Learn more about my new book: The Misunderstood Mind - What We Got WRONG About Autism, ADHD, and Neurodivergence Visit: https://themisunderstoodmind.com Courses: https://jodicarlton.com/courses Quizzes: https://jodicarlton.com/take-a-quiz Subscribe to my articles & newsletter at https://inside.themisunderstoodmind.com
	Why Your ADHD Brain Forgets Everything (Except What It Loves): S6E8	02 sept. 2026	00:24:32
This week we're getting really personal. We're opening up about our own ADHD brains — the things we've struggled with, the stuff that drove our partners crazy, and the moments that only made sense once we finally understood neurodivergence. If you've ever felt like your brain works differently from everyone else's, or like your partner's special interests leave you feeling invisible, you're not alone. We've been there too. 🔔 Subscribe so you don't miss our next episode where we continue the conversation. 📩 Send us your questions: podcast@jodicarlton.com YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship Podcast with Jodi Carlton Season 6 (Navigating Life & Love in Neurodiverse Relationships with co-host Mona Kay) Episode 8 Chapters: 0:00 — When a partner's special interest makes you invisible 1:45 — Today's topic: executive functioning challenges 2:19 — Jodi's ADHD spotted while editing the podcast 8:39 — Feeling invisible when a partner locks in 10:41 — ADHD vs autistic hyperfixation: how long is too long? 15:01 — Memory struggles: locked in but can't remember a thing 20:00 — Binging shows and forgetting you ever watched them Find us at www.jodicarlton.com and www.neurodiverselove.com Navigating Neurodiverse Life and Love is a casual show about neurodiverse romantic relationships, families, and life as a neurodivergent person or parent, hosted by Mona Kay and Jodi Carlton, two leading voices in the area of neurodiverse life and love. 👩‍💼 About Jodi Carlton, MEd I'm Jodi Carlton, MEd, a neurodiversity educator, relationship expert, author, and coach with more than 20 years of experience helping individuals, couples, families, and professionals better understand autism, ADHD, and the realities of neurodiverse relationships. As a late-diagnosed ADHDer, I combine professional expertise with lived experience. My own family includes multiple neurotypes, and after spending nearly two decades in a neurodiverse marriage, I understand both the challenges and the opportunities that can emerge when different minds meet. My work also explores the important distinction between neurodivergent differences and harmful relationship dynamics, including narcissistic abuse and personality pathology. My goal is not to tell people what to think, but to help them better understand what they are experiencing so they can make informed decisions about their relationships. On this channel, you'll find episodes of the YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship podcast, interviews with leading experts, educational videos, and practical conversations designed to help you better understand yourself, the people you love, and the misunderstood mind. Courses: https://jodicarlton.com/courses Quizzes: https://jodicarlton.com/take-a-quiz Subscribe to my newsletter "Inside The Misunderstood Mind": https://inside.themisunderstoodmind.com
	"There Might Be Zero Sex" — The Truth About Intimacy in Neurodiverse Relationships S6E7	18 août 2026	00:16:25
If you're in a neurodiverse relationship — whether you're ADHD, autistic, or both — intimacy can be one of the most complicated things to navigate. In this episode, Mona Kay & I get real about love vs. sex, masking in the bedroom, asexuality, ethical non-monogamy, separate bedrooms, and the hidden pattern that quietly undermines intimacy for neurodiverse couples: fawning. In this episode, we talk about why so many neurodiverse marriages end up with "zero sex," but also creative solutions that actually work for both partners — this conversation goes places most podcasts won't. 🔔 Subscribe so you don't miss our next episode where we continue the conversation. 📩 Send us your questions: podcast@jodicarlton.com YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship Podcast with Jodi Carlton Season 6 (Navigating Life & Love in Neurodiverse Relationships with co-host Mona Kay) Episode 7 Chapters: 0:00 Teaser 0:35 Intro 1:21 Love vs. Sex Myths 1:56 Masking & Mismatched Scripts 3:15 Asexuality & Misalignment 5:50 Get Help Early 6:57 Find Neurodivergent-Fluent Support 8:10 Creative Relationship Solutions 11:54 Define Your Own Relationship Rules 12:33 Dating Non-Negotiables & Self-Work 14:59 Support Options & Trusted Guides 15:48 Outro Find us at jodicarlton.com and www.neurodiverselove.com Navigating Neurodiverse Life and Love is a casual show about neurodiverse romantic relationships, families, and life as a neurodivergent person or parent, hosted by Mona Kay and Jodi Carlton, two leading voices in the area of neurodiverse life and love. 👩‍💼 About Jodi Carlton, MEd I'm Jodi Carlton, MEd, a neurodiversity educator, relationship expert, author, and coach with more than 20 years of experience helping individuals, couples, families, and professionals better understand autism, ADHD, and the realities of neurodiverse relationships. As a late-diagnosed ADHDer, I combine professional expertise with lived experience. My own family includes multiple neurotypes, and after spending nearly two decades in a neurodiverse marriage, I understand both the challenges and the opportunities that can emerge when different minds meet. My work also explores the important distinction between neurodivergent differences and harmful relationship dynamics, including narcissistic abuse and personality pathology. My goal is not to tell people what to think, but to help them better understand what they are experiencing so they can make informed decisions about their relationships. On this channel, you'll find episodes of the YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship podcast, interviews with leading experts, educational videos, and practical conversations designed to help you better understand yourself, the people you love, and the misunderstood mind. 🎧 Listen to the podcast: https://podlink.com/1612135248 📖 Subscribe to The Misunderstood Mind on Substack: https://inside.themisunderstoodmind.com 📅 Book a consultation: https://jodicarlton.com/private-consultation/ 🧠 Explore articles, courses, quizzes & resources: https://jodicarlton.com 👋🏼 Join our Neurodiverse Relationships community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/neurodiverserelationships ⸻ New here? Subscribe for thoughtful conversations about: * Autism and ADHD * Neurodiverse relationships * Communication and conflict * Alexithymia and executive functioning * Narcissistic abuse and personality pathology * Boundaries, healing, and healthier relationships Whether you are neurodivergent, love someone who is, or work with neurodiverse individuals and couples, you're welcome here.
	Is this Sabotaging Intimacy in Your Neurodiverse Relationship? S6E6 with Jodi Carlton & Mona Kay	04 août 2026	00:19:03
If you're in a neurodiverse relationship — whether you're ADHD, autistic, or both — intimacy can be one of the most complicated things to navigate. In this episode, Mona Kay & I get real about routines, spontaneity, physical intimacy, and the hidden pattern that quietly undermines intimacy for neurodiverse couples: fawning. From date night strategies that actually work, to what happens when one partner has learned to tolerate instead of communicate — this conversation goes places most podcasts won't. 🔔 Subscribe so you don't miss our next episode where we continue the conversation. 📩 Send us your questions: podcast@jodicarlton.com Chapters: 0:00 Teaser 0:42 Intro 1:28 Routines, Structure & the ADHD/Autistic Couples 3:27 Date Night Strategies That Work for Both Partners 7:17 Communicating About Sex — When, How & Why Not During 8:42 Physical Intimacy & Predictable Patterns 10:43 Codependency, Fawning & People-Pleasing in the Bedroom 11:28 Sex & Vulnerability 18:16 The Resentment Cycle & When Sex Comes to a Halt 18:19 To Be Continued... 18:26 Outro Find us at www.jodicarlton.com and www.neurodiverselove.com 👩‍💼 About Jodi Carlton, MEd I’m Jodi Carlton, MEd, a neurodiversity educator, relationship expert, author, and coach with more than 20 years of experience helping individuals, couples, families, and professionals better understand autism, ADHD, and the realities of neurodiverse relationships. As a late-diagnosed ADHDer, I combine professional expertise with lived experience. My own family includes multiple neurotypes, and after spending nearly two decades in a neurodiverse marriage, I understand both the challenges and the opportunities that can emerge when different minds meet. My work also explores the important distinction between neurodivergent differences and harmful relationship dynamics, including narcissistic abuse and personality pathology. My goal is not to tell people what to think, but to help them better understand what they are experiencing so they can make informed decisions about their relationships. On this channel, you’ll find episodes of the YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship podcast, interviews with leading experts, educational videos, and practical conversations designed to help you better understand yourself, the people you love, and the misunderstood mind. 📖 Subscribe to The Misunderstood Mind on Substack: https://inside.themisunderstoodmind.com 📅 Book a consultation: https://jodicarlton.com/private-consultation/ 🧠 Explore articles, courses, quizzes & resources: https://jodicarlton.com 👋🏼 Join our Neurodiverse Relationships community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/neurodiverserelationships ⸻ New here? Subscribe for thoughtful conversations about: * Autism and ADHD * Neurodiverse relationships * Communication and conflict * Alexithymia and executive functioning * Narcissistic abuse and personality pathology * Boundaries, healing, and healthier relationships Whether you are neurodivergent, love someone who is, or work with neurodiverse individuals and couples, you’re welcome here.
	Neurodivergent Dating After Divorce: Sensory Differences, Sex & Red Flags S6\|E5	21 juil. 2026	00:32:42
Are you neurodivergent and trying to navigate dating? Especially after a divorce? We can relate! In this episode, my co-host, Mona Kay, and I get real about our personal dating experiences after divorce, the patterns we've learned to recognize in neurodiverse partners, and how to spot toxic, narcissistic behavior. From info dumping on first dates to sensory quirks in the bedroom, we share candid, sometimes funny, always insightful stories that will help you navigate neurodiverse dating with more clarity, compassion — and better boundaries. Be sure to tune in for Episode 7 to catch the second half of our conversation. Topics covered: - Spotting neurodivergence (and narcissism) on dating apps - Info dumping on dates — and what to do about it - When autism and narcissism overlap - Alcohol, self-medication & neurodivergence - Sensory sensitivities in romantic and physical intimacy - How to adapt without losing yourself Timestamps: 0:00 – Teaser: When autism masks toxic behavior 1:24 – Welcome & intro: Meet Jodi & Mona 1:46 – Today's topic: dating, sex & neurodiverse relationships 2:16 – Dating in your 50s and 60s as a neurodivergent person 9:01 – Mona becomes a dating coach for her friends 9:18 – The guy with a strict 2-hour bandwidth for dates 10:35 – Real talk: there was one man who info dumped for 3 hours 11:42 – Tips for autistic daters: giving your partner space to talk 13:57 – Jodi's story: dating someone autistic AND narcissistic 17:24 – Love bombing, triangulation & the "harem" 19:13 – Don't assume it's just autism — key warning signs 20:16 – When you're constantly dysregulated in a relationship 20:49 – Mona's experience: dating an autistic man for almost a year 21:18 – Alcohol & neurodivergence: self-medicating to socialize 21:55 – Needing 6 beers just to go to a restaurant 24:10 – Sensory & intimacy differences: holding hands, kissing 28:10 – Eye contact during intimacy — an honest conversation 29:38 – The cold water toothbrush moment 30:52 – When sensory reactions feel like rejection 32:07 – Where to find Jodi & Mona Find Jodi: jodicarlton.com Find Mona: neurodiverselove.com Don't forget to like, subscribe, and send us your questions! 👩‍💼 About Jodi Carlton, MEd I’m Jodi Carlton, MEd, a neurodiversity educator, relationship expert, author, and coach with more than 20 years of experience helping individuals, couples, families, and professionals better understand autism, ADHD, and the realities of neurodiverse relationships. As a late-diagnosed ADHDer, I combine professional expertise with lived experience. My own family includes multiple neurotypes, and after spending nearly two decades in a neurodiverse marriage, I understand both the challenges and the opportunities that can emerge when different minds meet. My work also explores the important distinction between neurodivergent differences and harmful relationship dynamics, including narcissistic abuse and personality pathology. My goal is not to tell people what to think, but to help them better understand what they are experiencing so they can make informed decisions about their relationships. On this channel you’ll find episodes of the YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship podcast, interviews with leading experts, educational videos, and practical conversations designed to help you better understand yourself, the people you love, and the misunderstood mind. Watch on Youtube: https://youtu.be/0olYTzv_BQ0 📖 Subscribe to The Misunderstood Mind on Substack: https://inside.themisunderstoodmind.com 📅 Book a consultation: https://jodicarlton.com/private-consultation/ 🧠 Explore articles, courses, quizzes & resources: https://jodicarlton.com 👋🏼 Join our Neurodiverse Relationships community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/neurodiverserelationships New here? Subscribe for thoughtful conversations about: * Autism and ADHD * Neurodiverse relationships * Communication and conflict * Alexithymia and executive functioning * Narcissistic abuse and personality pathology * Boundaries, healing, and healthier relationships
	Is It Autism or Incompatibility? What Neurodiverse Couples Need to Know	07 juil. 2026	00:17:52
Is your relationship struggling because of neurodivergence — or because you're just not compatible? In this episode of Navigating Neurodiverse Love and Life, Jodi Carlton and Mona Kay get honest about one of the hardest questions neurodiverse couples face. In this episode: The two extremes of autistic commitment: the revolving door and staying forever in a toxic marriage Why blaming the diagnosis is unfair to your partner AND the neurodivergent community How compatibility changes when you move in together, get married, or have children Why traditional marriage therapy often makes things worse for neurodiverse couples Nesting — the alternative living arrangement helping neurodiverse families find peace Jodi's personal story of neurodivergent burnout after her kids left for college How ADHD and autism create opposite conflict styles in the same household How to ask genuinely curious questions — and why most questions are actually setups Whether you're in a neurodiverse relationship, raising a neurodiverse family, or just trying to understand yourself better — this episode will help you stop blaming the diagnosis and start building real understanding. 🔔 Subscribe for new episodes 💬 Send us your questions: podcast@jodicarlton.com ⏱ Chapters 0:00 Intro — Meet Jodi & Mona 1:33 Episode Begins — Commitment Extremes in Autistic Relationships 2:23 Mona's Story: He Would Have Stayed Forever 2:51 Loyalty, Aversion to Change & Letting Go 4:46 Mona's Coaching Philosophy: Compatibility Over Neurotype 5:49 You Can't Blame It on the Diagnosis 7:05 Compatibility Changes — Moving In, Marriage & Kids 7:53 Nesting: A New Container for the Relationship 9:10 Jodi's Story: Dating After Divorce 9:35 Neurodivergent Family Burnout 14:04 Key Lesson: Understand Yourself & Your Partner 15:00 Jodi's Tip: How to Ask Curious Questions 16:13 Mona's Experience: Check Yourself 17:52 Wrap-Up & Closing
	The Sound of My Voice Was Hurting Him: Compatibility in Neurodiverse Relationships	23 juin 2026	00:22:07
Have you ever felt like your emotions were wrong — or like your partner simply couldn't understand why you were upset? You might be experiencing the impact of alexithymia in your neurodiverse relationship. In this episode of Navigating Neurodiverse Love and Life, Mona Kay and Jodi Carlton open up about their own long marriages to neurodivergent partners — and the years of unintentional hurt that came from not understanding why they felt so misunderstood. In this episode: -What alexithymia is and why it's so common in neurodiverse relationships - interoception challenges affect emotional communication. -Why your autistic partner may logicalize your emotions — and what they actually mean by it. -The difference between not caring and not knowing -A beautiful listener story about loving an autistic partner with awareness -Whether you're in a neurodiverse relationship, recently discovered your partner is autistic or ADHD, or are neurodivergent yourself — this conversation will help you feel less alone. ⏱ Chapters 0:00 Intro — Meet Mona & Jodi / About the Show 1:28 Episode 2 Begins — Our Neurodiverse Marriages 2:36 Mona's Story: 30 Years of Unintentional Hurt 3:03 Communication Breakdown: Logicalizing Emotions 4:21 What Is Alexithymia? 5:11 Interoception & the Body-Brain Disconnect 6:18 The Bewildering Reality of Feeling Wrong 7:34 Jodi's Story: Alexithymia Wasn't Our Issue — But... 15:20 Emotional Flooding & Communication Differences 16:45 Writing Novels He Wouldn't Read 18:13 Listener Comment: "He Was the Best Partner I've Ever Had" 19:46 Unintentional Hurt & Looking Through Different Lenses 21:30 Outro — Find Us & Closing 🔔 Subscribe for new episodes every week 💬 Submit your questions and topics in the comments or via our show notes links Find Mona: neurodiverselove.com Find Jodi: jodicarlton.com
	Alexithymia in Neurodiverse Relationships: My Emotions Didn't Make Sense to Him	10 juin 2026	00:22:06
Have you ever felt like your emotions were wrong — or that your partner just couldn't connect with what you were feeling? In this episode, Mona Kay and Jodi Carlton share candidly about their decades-long marriages to neurodivergent partners and the years of confusion, shame, and unintentional hurt that came from not having a name for what was happening. They break down alexithymia — one of the most overlooked challenges in neurodiverse relationships — along with interoception, emotional flooding, and the communication differences that left both partners feeling unseen. They also share a touching listener comment about what it looks like when understanding finally arrives. If you've ever wondered why your partner seems to logicalize your emotions, dismiss your feelings, or simply not register your pain — this episode is for you.
	Late Discoveries, Lifelong Lessons \| Mona Kay & Jodi Carlton	26 mai 2026	00:31:44
Mona Kay and Jodi Carlton introduce their new podcast, “Navigating Neurodiverse Love and Life,” sharing their backgrounds and why they partnered to create a more personal, casual show about neurodiverse romantic relationships, families, and life as a neurodivergent person or parent. Mona, host of the Neurodiverse Love podcast since 2020, describes discovering her marriage was neurodiverse late in a 30-year relationship, her divorce in 2018, and her related projects, including conferences, a docuseries, conversation cards, coaching, and support groups. Jodi shares how understanding neurodivergence began with her 23-year-old daughter’s autism diagnosis, discovering that her own marriage was neurodiverse after 19 years and a divorce, her work coaching neurodiverse couples worldwide, and her upcoming book, The Misunderstood Mind. They invite viewers to send questions to shape future episodes and note the show will be published on both of their podcast platforms and YouTube channels. 00:00 Meet Mona and Jodi 00:35 New Podcast Launch 01:10 Send Questions In 01:28 Why We Teamed Up 02:30 Mona’s Story and Mission 04:55 Jodi’s Journey and New Book 08:37 Show Topics and Healing 11:53 Community and Networks 13:37 Family Patterns and Narcissism 18:47 Bodies Hormones and Health 22:39 Coaching vs Therapy 30:57 Wrap Up and Where to Find Us _________________ Navigating Neurodiverse Life and Love is a casual show about neurodiverse romantic relationships, families, and life as a neurodivergent person or parent, hosted by Mona Kay and Jodi Carlton, two leading voices in the area of neurodiverse life and love. Visit us: neurodiverselove.com jodicarlton.com
	Is Autism a Childhood Disease? What the Science Actually Shows	15 avr. 2026	00:11:31
Autism is not a childhood disease. It's not something we catch, acquire in childhood, or grow out of — and the science on this has been clear for decades. In this episode I'm responding directly to the current conversation about what autism is and isn't, and setting the record straight with research, personal experience, and 20+ years of working in this field. I cover what autism actually looks like across the lifespan, what the DSM-5 levels mean in real terms, and why the push to find a "cure" fundamentally misunderstands what autism is. I also speak honestly to families who are struggling at the more profound end of the spectrum — because their experience is real and deserves to be part of this conversation too. Autism is a lifelong, hereditary, natural variation of the human brain. And our world wouldn't be where it is without it. Follow the show so you never miss an episode. ➔ Watch on YouTube ➔ Read the blog: Autism Isn’t a Childhood Disease—It’s Time We Embrace Neurodiversity at Every Age ➔ Free quizzes, assessments & resources at jodicarlton.com
	Neurodivergence Isn't a Problem to Fix: From Disorder to Difference	01 avr. 2026	00:07:46
Neurodivergence has been framed as something to fix for far too long—and that framing is doing real harm. In this bonus episode, I'm talking about the neurodiversity paradigm shift: moving away from a deficit-based model and toward understanding neurological differences as natural variations in the human brain, not personal failures. I share the research, the language that's holding us back, and the personal moment that started my own journey: sitting in a workshop and realizing—with chills—that the speaker was describing my daughter. When we stop trying to fix neurodiversity and start understanding it, everything changes: our relationships, our communities, and how we see ourselves. 👉 Watch this episode on YouTube 👉 Read the blog: A New Perspective on Neurodiversity: Understanding Differences Without Judgment 👉 Free assessments and resources
	Neurodivergent Parenting: The Exhaustion No One Talks About	18 mars 2026	00:20:35
Neurodivergent parenting comes with a kind of exhaustion that's hard to explain—and even harder to admit. As an ADHD mom with an autistic daughter and an ADHD son, I've lived every stage of it: the sensory overwhelm and specialist appointments in the early years, IEP battles and school advocacy in the middle years, and the delicate push toward independence as your kids grow into adulthood. If you've ever felt like you're running on empty, or wondered if any of this gets easier, this one is for you. Part personal story, part permission slip. Follow the show so you never miss an episode! 👀 Watch this episode on YouTube 👉 Read the blog: Hey Mama, I See You — Navigating The Exhaustion of Parenting a Neurodivergent Child
	Autism Microaggressions: The Real Cost of "You Don't Look Autistic"	04 mars 2026	00:22:36
Autism microaggressions are everywhere. And most people delivering them have no idea they're causing harm. "You don't look autistic." "We're all a little autistic." "You're too articulate to be autistic." These comments feel like compliments. For autistic individuals, their partners, and their families, they land like paper cuts—small, accumulating, and quietly damaging over time. In this bonus episode, I unpack why these well-meaning comments are so harmful, how confirmation bias and outdated stereotypes lead even professionals to dismiss autistic people, and what masking is really costing the people we love. I also share something my daughter—diagnosed autistic at five, and told repeatedly that she doesn't look it—asked me to read on her behalf. Autism doesn't have a look, but it does deserve to be seen. 💙 ➔ Watch this episode on YouTube ➔ Read the blog: Autism Microaggressions: Why "You Don't Look Autistic" Does More Harm Than You Think ➔ Free assessments and resources
	ADHD in Marriage: Accommodations & Sleeping Apart – Part 2	18 févr. 2026	00:30:36
ADHD relationships don't come with a manual—but Part 2 of my conversation with Jana and Matt gets as close as anything I've recorded. We zoom in on what actually helps neurodiverse couples move from "you're doing it wrong" to clear, workable requests, and why old scripts keep running even after real growth. Jana shares two practical accommodations that changed everything for them: adjusting seasoning so everyone can eat comfortably, and normalizing separate sleep spaces to protect deep rest. Matt explains why requests land so differently than criticism—and how problem-solving as a team builds connection, trust, and day-to-day ease. Missed Part 1? Start there first 🎧 Watch this episode on YouTube Join the Neurodiverse Relationship Facebook Community
	ADHD in Marriage: Nervous System Regulation & Conflict – Part 1	04 févr. 2026	00:35:17
ADHD / neurotypical relationships come with a specific kind of friction—and nervous system dysregulation is often at the center of it. In Part 1 of my conversation with Jana, an ADHD resilience coach, and her husband Matt, a neurotypical engineer, we unpack the "thinker/feeler" dynamic, the pursuer–retreater cycle, and what it looks like when dysregulation hijacks a hard conversation. We get into the practical tools that helped them shift the pattern: active listening, pausing for your "best self," and one surprisingly effective strategy—recording tough conversations to spot misunderstandings and reset the narrative. Ready for Part 2? Listen here. Watch this episode on YouTube Join the Neurodiverse Relationship Facebook Community
	“I’m Okay”: Emotional Regulation in Neurodiverse Relationships	21 janv. 2026	00:37:18
When emotions run high, meltdowns happen, and communication breaks down, what helps neurodiverse couples stay connected? In Part 2 of this conversation, Randall and Ashley share how they’ve learned to manage overload, communicate through shutdowns, and rebuild calm after conflict. Ashley explains how Jodi’s “I’m okay” mantra helps her separate Randall’s emotions from her own, while Randall describes the tools that help him prevent meltdowns—like weighted blankets, routines, and clear recovery time. Together, they reveal how empathy, preparation, and boundaries create safer connection and a stronger marriage. Watch this episode on YouTube: https://youtu.be/LR3i_mUUiPQ Join the Neurodiverse Relationship Facebook Community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/neurodiverserelationships
	Everyday Strategies That Strengthen Neurodiverse Relationships	07 janv. 2026	00:30:05
Holidays, routines, and even dishwashers can test any couple—but for neurodiverse partners, those differences can feel magnified. In this episode, Jodi talks with Randall and Ashley about what they’ve learned since discovering Randall’s autism and how it’s changed their relationship for the better. They share simple but powerful tools—like Jodi’s “2-or-10” scale for deciding what’s worth energy, and the “I’m okay” mantra that helps calm emotional overload. Together, they show how curiosity, communication, and empathy can make all the difference in a neurodiverse relationship. Watch this episode on YouTube: https://youtu.be/aGgmicw8wu4 Join the Neurodiverse Relationship Facebook Community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/neurodiverserelationships
	BONUS: Surviving the Holidays as a Neurodiverse Couple	10 déc. 2025	00:08:43
The holidays can be stressful for any couple—but for neurodiverse partners, surprises, travel, and changes in routine can make the season especially tough. In this short bonus episode, Jodi shares a sneak peek from her upcoming interview with Randall and Ashley Rowland, who open up about what makes holidays challenging for them and the “plan B” strategies that keep things calm and connected. It’s just 9 minutes long, and it might make your holidays a little easier too. Watch this bonus episode on YouTube: https://youtu.be/8AztxuKAFjQ Join the Neurodiverse Relationship Facebook Community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/neurodiverserelationships Get access to Jodi's Holiday Stress Buster Toolkit for Neurodiverse Couples and learn practical tools to help your holidays run smoothly.
	Busting the Doomsday Myth: Yes, Neurodiverse Relationships CAN Work	26 nov. 2025	00:25:26
When you first realize that autism or ADHD is part of your relationship, it’s so common to encounter “doomsday” narratives online—stories that make neurodiverse couples feel destined for disconnection. In this episode, Mike and Amy are back for Part 2 to share what actually happens after the discovery and how they’ve stayed connected through burnout, resentment, emotional differences, and communication challenges. Mike was identified as autistic in adulthood, long after their relationship began. Together, they talk honestly about the shifts they had to make, the misunderstandings that once felt overwhelming, and the unexpected strengths autism brings into their home and partnership. If you missed Part 1, I encourage you to listen to that episode first. It covers how they discovered Mike is autistic and the early strategies that helped them build a more workable, sustainable rhythm together. In this episode, we talk about: Why so much advice about autistic–neurotypical couples feels negative The strengths, focus, and “superpowers” autism brings into daily life How Mike recognizes autistic burnout earlier and what helps prevent shutdowns The difference between being angry at your partner vs. angry about the situation How gender roles and emotional labor shape hetero neurodiverse relationships Communication tools that have made a difference—soft startups, scripting, and meta-messages What both autistic and allistic partners need when they’re at different stages of awareness or acceptance We also speak directly to therapists and coaches about the importance of understanding neurodiversity as its own specialty and how easily it’s misidentified without the right training. About Today's Guests Mike and Amy have been together for 18 years. Mike discovered he is autistic four years ago, which opened up a completely new understanding of their relationship dynamic. Today, he advocates for autistic adults and is currently writing a forthcoming memoir on late-diagnosed autism. Amy is a licensed therapist in Illinois and a coach for clients in other states. She specializes in supporting autistic adults, partners in neurodiverse relationships, and parents raising neurodivergent children. She also trains other clinicians in recognizing adult autism and working effectively with neurodiverse couples. Connect with Amy: amatthews@prairiewellness.org Learn more: prairiewellness.org About Your Host I’m Jodi Carlton, a neurodiverse relationship coach with more than 20 years of experience as a therapist, coach, educator, and author. As a neurodivergent woman who spent 19 years in a marriage with an autistic partner and raised neurodivergent children, I bring both professional expertise and lived experience to this work. I help individuals, couples, and families around the world find clarity, confidence, and connection in their neurodiverse relationships. Explore resources, quizzes, and courses: jodicarlton.com Questions? Contact me: gethelp@jodicarlton.com
	When Autism Enters the Relationship: How They Built Strategies Instead of Resentment	12 nov. 2025	00:28:46
When autism or ADHD first shows up in a relationship—especially through a late diagnosis—it can feel confusing, overwhelming, or even destabilizing. Many couples begin searching for answers only to find negative, discouraging narratives about neurodiverse partnerships. In this episode, I talk with Mike and Amy, a couple who discovered as adults that Mike is autistic. Their story is deeply relatable for anyone navigating a new understanding of neurodiversity in themselves or their partner. They share openly about the early misunderstandings, mismatched expectations, and emotional tensions that shaped their marriage—and the strategies they put in place to protect their connection instead of slipping into resentment. This conversation offers a grounded, human look at what really happens when a diagnosis reframes your entire relationship dynamic. In this episode, we talk about: How Mike’s late autism discovery reshaped their understanding of past conflicts The early signs and communication patterns they didn’t recognize at the time Why so many couples feel “blindsided” before diagnosis How masking, missed cues, and emotional differences created tension What helped them shift from frustration to clarity The early strategies that made life more workable and reduced resentment How they built trust and safety while adjusting to a major identity shift Mike and Amy’s honesty brings so much relief to listeners who feel alone, confused, or stuck in patterns they can’t explain. Their story also sets the foundation for Part 2, where we explore burnout, emotional labor, and more advanced communication tools. About Mike & Amy Mike and Amy have been together for 18 years. Mike discovered he is autistic four years ago, which provided language and clarity for years of misunderstandings neither of them knew how to name. Today, Mike advocates for autistic adults through writing and organizational leadership. Amy is a licensed therapist and coach who specializes in supporting autistic adults, their partners, and parents raising neurodivergent children. 📧 Connect with Amy: amatthews@prairiewellness.org 🌐 Learn more: prairiewellness.org — About Your Host I’m Jodi Carlton, a neurodiverse relationship coach with more than 20 years of experience as a therapist, coach, educator, and author. I’m also neurodivergent myself, diagnosed with ADHD as an adult. My work is rooted in both clinical expertise and lived experience—19 years in a marriage with an autistic partner and raising neurodivergent children. I help neurodiverse couples and families gain clarity, communication skills, and emotional confidence so their relationships can genuinely thrive. Explore resources, quizzes, and courses: jodicarlton.com Questions? Contact my team: gethelp@jodicarlton.com
	How to Replace “Shoulds” With Strategies That Fit Neurotypes	29 oct. 2025	00:36:08
Can a neurodiverse relationship thrive long-term—even when the work feels messy, nonlinear, and hard? In Part 3, the final episode of this roundtable series, Jodi and the panel of neurodiversity experts explore the skills that make progress possible: forgiveness, repair after conflict, and practical tools that help partners bridge intent and impact. This conversation digs into what progress actually looks like (hint: it’s not linear), why discomfort is part of the process, and how couples build something that works for them—not just what’s “supposed to” work. 💬 What You’ll Learn in This Episode: How forgiveness can support healing without minimizing real pain What effective repair looks like when most problems are ongoing, not “fixed” Why tools and strategies matter more than “it should be natural” thinking How to tolerate uncertainty and stay connected through discomfort Key markers that show a couple is moving forward together Whether you’re navigating a neurodiverse relationship yourself, supporting someone you love, or working with couples in this space, this conversation is packed with real insight and practical strategies you can start using right away. 👉 Missed Part 1? Watch here: https://youtu.be/rXeUypJeQX4?si=yz0jiOYVdGy007-J 👉 Missed Part 2? Watch here: https://youtu.be/rqW5GRhu5Fs 📍 Episode Timestamps: 00:00 – Season 5 Intro: Can Neurodiverse Relationships Really Work? 01:56 – Progress Looks Messy: Awareness, Micro-steps, and Tolerance 07:26 – Forgiveness, Healing, and Real Repair (Gottman Lens) 11:35 – Lived Experience + A Daily “Autism Moment” Journal Tool 18:03 – Stop “It Should Be Natural”: Tools That Fit Neurotypes 22:46 – Intent vs. Impact, Acceptance, and Calling Out Toxic Dynamics 27:20 – Forgiveness for You, Acceptance ≠ Approval, “Space Between Stories” 31:14 – Markers of Progress: Impact Over Intent, Build Your Own Tools 👋🏼 Meet the Experts: This episode features insights from: Laura Schreiner – Licensed counselor (IL) specializing in neurodivergent individuals & couples. https://www.laurasnc.com Mona Kay, MSW, Ph.D. – Host of Neurodiverse Love Podcast, creator of Neurodiverse Love Conversation Cards & Workbook, and organizer of the Neurodiverse Love Conference. https://www.neurodiverselove.com Heidi Hackney – ICF-certified coach, mentor, & co-founder of Autistic Voiceover Artists (AVA), supporting autistic adults in the voiceover industry. https://thecan-docoach.com Natalie Roberts – Award-winning neurodiverse relationship coach, co-founder of Loving Difference, and co-host of Myth Busting Neurodiverse Relationships. https://natalieroberts.com Dr. Stephanie C. Holmes – Autism researcher, ordained minister, author of Uniquely Us, and host of Neurodiverse Christian Couples Podcast. https://www.holmesasr.com Debbie King – Counselor specializing in neurodiverse relationships, trauma, & toxic family dynamics, offering global support via Zoom. Robin Tate, M.A., M.S., BCC, ACC, CAS – Neurodiverse couples coach, certified autism specialist, and founder of Robin Tate LLC. https://www.robintatellc.com Jana Smith – Resilience and nervous system coach; expert in chronic illness and Cassandra Syndrome recovery. https://www.janamsmith.com #neurodiverserelationship #autisminmarriage #adhd #forgiveness #repairafterconflict #cognitiveempathy #communicationtools #neurodiversity _________________________________________________ 👩‍💼 About Your Host: Jodi Carlton, MEd Jodi Carlton is a neurodiverse relationship coach with over 20 years of experience as a therapist, coach, author, and educator. She’s also neurodivergent herself—diagnosed with ADHD as an adult—and brings both professional expertise and lived experience to her work. After 19 years in a marriage with an autistic partner and raising neurodivergent children, Jodi developed a deeply personal understanding of what it takes for relationships like yours to work—and the pitfalls that can derail them. She now coaches individuals, couples, and families around the world using a solution-focused approach that delivers real clarity and lasting change. 👉 Find resources, quizzes, and courses: https://jodicarlton.com 🔔 Subscribe & Follow for more real conversations and strategies to support #neurodiversecouples.
	Neurodiversity Without Burnout: Protecting Both Partners	15 oct. 2025	00:38:52
Accommodating neurodiversity doesn’t have to mean resentment or burnout. In this episode, we explore how a neurodiverse relationship can thrive when both partners learn to balance self-accommodation and mutual respect. Coaches Jeremy & Charity Rochford show how neurodivergent partners can self-accommodate (not outsource to neurotypical spouses) and how neurotypical partners can set boundaries that protect their own bandwidth. You’ll learn concrete tools—transition buffers, noise strategies, visual timers—and how a shared relationship system replaces score-keeping with reciprocity. If you’ve been told to “just run” from a neurodiverse relationship, this episode offers a smarter path. Jeremy (autistic) & Charity (neurotypical) (hosts of the NeuroFam podcast) join Jodi to show how reframing autism/ADHD from problem to predictable pattern unlocks real solutions. We dig into practical rituals that improve connection without enmeshment, plus we explore why “effort is invisible” and how accommodations can increase connection instead of being sacrifices for either partner. Jeremy explains his “software upgrade” mindset (strengthening theory of mind/executive function like training a muscle), while Charity shares how compassion + structure reduce resentment. You’ll leave with scripts, rituals, and a way to accommodate needs without erasing yourself. 00:00 – Welcome to Season Five 01:00 – Meet Jeremy & Charity 04:45 – Autism isn’t the problem: Updating the ‘80s narrative 09:40 – How kid diagnoses led to adult discoveries (and relief) 14:20 – Compassion shifts: Seeing sensory overload vs. “too much” 18:30 – “Software upgrades”: Building empathy & executive function 22:10 – Accommodations that work: Earbuds, car rules, visual timers 29:10 – Resentment vs reciprocity: Why effort is invisible 33:00 – Build a marriage system: Make expectations explicit 35:20 – Accommodate without erasing yourself (Disney example) 👥 Meet Jeremy & Charity Rochford Jeremy and Charity Rochford—known as Team Rochford—are certified life coaches and co-founders of NeuroFam, where they specialize in coaching for neurodiverse couples, parents, and families. Married for 25 years and raising two autistic children, they blend professional expertise (Jeremy has a BA in Communication Studies; Charity a BA in Psychology) with lived experience to deliver a truly balanced perspective. NeuroFam’s coaching is forward-focused and results-based—helping families create practical systems, reduce resentment, and build relationships that thrive. Jeremy works primarily with autistic/ADHD men, fathers, and young adults, while Charity supports neurotypical partners, mothers, and women navigating ND/NT family dynamics. 🔗 Resources Mentioned in This Episode NeuroFam website https://www.neurofam.com NeuroFM Podcast https://www.ourneurofam.com/neuro-fm-podcast Book: Thanks for the Feedback by Douglas Stone & Sheila Heen https://www.stoneandheen.com/thanks-feedback Course: How to Communicate in Your Neurodiverse Relationship https://jodicarlton.com/courses/relationship-2-0-crack-the-communication-code/ Tony Attwood https://www.attwoodandgarnettevents.com/ — 👩‍💼 About Your Host: Jodi Carlton, MEd Jodi Carlton is a neurodiverse relationship coach with over 20 years of experience as a therapist, coach, author, and educator. She’s also neurodivergent herself—diagnosed with ADHD as an adult—and brings both professional expertise and lived experience to her work. After 19 years in a marriage with an autistic partner and raising neurodivergent children, Jodi developed a deeply personal understanding of what it takes for relationships like yours to work—and the pitfalls that can derail them. She now coaches individuals, couples, and families around the world using a solution-focused approach that delivers real clarity and lasting change. 🔔 Help the algorithm help other couples — Like, Subscribe & Share! Your support helps us reach more people navigating life in neurodiverse relationships. #NeurodiverseRelationship #AutismInMarriage #ADHD
	Autistic Therapist Shares Marriage Tools That Actually Work	01 oct. 2025	00:38:10
Autistic + ADHD partners often collide around regulation. Here’s how to stop the clashes and build connection with real-world scripts, rituals, and repeatable practices. If you need clear, practical tools to make a neurodiverse relationship feel calmer and more connected, this episode delivers! Jodi and licensed counselor Greg Fuqua (late-identified autistic) break down exactly how autistic self-regulators and ADHD co-regulators can stop clashing and start syncing up—so both partners feel seen, safe, and respected. Greg shares the exact rituals he and his wife use after 30+ years together—like a 20–30 minute transition buffer before reconnecting after time apart, a simple “commute-call” habit that creates connection without pressure, and a prepare → attune → debrief framework for handling events like parties or family gatherings. You’ll hear why effort often feels invisible, why “fair” doesn’t always mean equal, and how shifting from content fights to process check-ins changes everything. We also dig into scripts for setting capacity limits, what shutdowns and alexithymia look like, and a quick connect → ground rhythm you can try today. If you missed Part 1, circle back for the mindset shifts that make these tools stick. 💡 This episode is especially helpful for: Autistic–ADHD couples who keep clashing over how they calm down or connect Partners who want closeness without losing themselves (empathy + boundaries) Late-identified adults looking for simple scripts and daily rituals to cut conflict and feel safer together 00:00 – Welcome to Season Five 01:48 – When couples therapy backfires (“the wrongness trap”) 03:02 – Self-regulation vs. co-regulation in ASD and ADHD 06:43 – The 20–30 minute transition ritual that prevents conflict 09:10 – Why effort is invisible and scorekeeping fails 17:14 – The commute-call ritual for daily attunement 20:26 – Two rules for safety in communication 26:53 – The couple’s event game plan: Prepare → Attune → Debrief 31:24 – Reflection over rehashing: how growth really happens About Greg Fuqua: Greg Fuqua, MA, LMHC, is a late-identified autistic therapist specializing in neurodiverse counseling and couples therapy. With over 30 years of personal experience in a neurodiverse marriage, Greg brings rare insight to his clinical work, blending lived experience with professional expertise. Formerly a professional artist and art professor for 23 years, Greg integrates creativity and empathy into his strength-based, person-centered approach. He is an Autism Spectrum Disorder Clinical Specialist (ASDCS) and Level 2 AANE-trained neurodiverse couples therapist, as well as co-host of the Neurodiverse Love podcast with Mona Kay. Greg leads Divergent Counseling in West Des Moines, IA, where he supports individuals, couples, families, and organizations in building healthier, more authentic relationships. Resources: Greg’s website: https://www.gregfuqua.com/ Neurodiverse Connections Podcast: https://www.youtube.com/@NeurodivergentConnections/featured More from Jodi: Visit jodicarlton.com (free resources, assessments, and courses) • Watch Part 2 of my conversation with Greg: Coming Soon: October 1! Questions? Email: gethelp@jodicarlton.com — 👩‍💼 About Your Host: Jodi Carlton, MEd Jodi Carlton is a neurodiverse relationship coach with over 20 years of experience as a therapist, coach, author, and educator. She’s also neurodivergent herself—diagnosed with ADHD as an adult—and brings both professional expertise and lived experience to her work. After 19 years in a marriage with an autistic partner and raising neurodivergent children, Jodi developed a deeply personal understanding of what it takes for relationships like yours to work—and the pitfalls that can derail them. She now coaches individuals, couples, and families around the world using a solution-focused approach that delivers real clarity and lasting change. 🔔 Help the algorithm help other couples—Like, Subscribe & Share! Your support helps us reach more people navigating life in neurodiverse relationships.
	Why Fights Keep Looping (and How to Break The Cycle)	17 sept. 2025	00:36:24
Why do neurodiverse couples clash so often? Licensed counselor Greg Fuqua shares the hidden patterns—and how to finally break them. If your neurodiverse relationship feels like a boxing ring—or you keep looping the same arguments—this episode gives you a new playbook. Jodi sits down with licensed counselor Greg Fuqua (late-identified autistic) to talk about what really changes things: shifting from blame to inner work, breaking the cycle of “negative assumptions of wrongness,” and why individual therapy often helps autistic/ADHD couples more than traditional couples counseling. Greg also shares the turning point in his own 30-year marriage: a career collapse, intrusive suicidal thoughts, and the affect-based therapy that cracked open his emotions and rebuilt his capacity for connection. You’ll come away with practical language you can use today, a clearer map of autistic–neurotypical differences as strengths (not flaws), and a preview of Part 2, where we dive into specific co-regulation and attunement tools you can practice at home. 💡 This episode is especially helpful for: Autistic/ADHD–NT couples who keep circling the same argument Late-identified adults reframing a lifetime of “why am I like this?” Partners tired of score-keeping who want practical, non-pathologizing tools 00:00 – Season 5 Intro: Can Neurodiverse Relationships Really Work? 01:06 – Meet Greg Fuqua: Late-Identified Autistic Therapist 01:51 – Why Neurodivergent Therapists See Things Differently 02:30 – Inside AANE’s Level 2 Couples Training 07:21 – Relational Trauma & the “Assumption of Wrongness” 12:33 – Greg’s 30-Year Marriage: Struggles, Turn-Taking & Survival 17:46 – From Suicidal Thoughts to Healing & Authenticity 29:21 – The Secret to Making Neurodiverse Relationships Work About Greg Fuqua: Greg Fuqua, MA, LMHC, is a late-identified autistic therapist specializing in neurodiverse counseling and couples therapy. With over 30 years of personal experience in a neurodiverse marriage, Greg brings rare insight to his clinical work, blending lived experience with professional expertise. Formerly a professional artist and art professor for 23 years, Greg integrates creativity and empathy into his strength-based, person-centered approach. He is an Autism Spectrum Disorder Clinical Specialist (ASDCS) and Level 2 AANE-trained neurodiverse couples therapist, as well as co-host of the Neurodiverse Love podcast with Mona Kay. Greg leads Divergent Counseling in West Des Moines, IA, where he supports individuals, couples, families, and organizations in building healthier, more authentic relationships. Resources Greg’s website: https://www.gregfuqua.com/ More from Jodi: Visit jodicarlton.com (free resources, assessments, and courses) Questions? Email: gethelp@jodicarlton.com — 👩‍💼 About Your Host: Jodi Carlton, MEd Jodi Carlton is a neurodiverse relationship coach with over 20 years of experience as a therapist, coach, author, and educator. She’s also neurodivergent herself—diagnosed with ADHD as an adult—and brings both professional expertise and lived experience to her work. After 19 years in a marriage with an autistic partner and raising neurodivergent children, Jodi developed a deeply personal understanding of what it takes for relationships like yours to work—and the pitfalls that can derail them. She now coaches individuals, couples, and families around the world using a solution-focused approach that delivers real clarity and lasting change.
	I Thought a Stranger Was My Husband”: Living with Face Blindness	03 sept. 2025	00:31:38
What It’s Like to Be Face Blind in a Neurodiverse Relationship Ever mistaken a stranger for your spouse? Journalist and author Sadie Dingfelder has—because she’s face blind. In this episode of Your Neurodiverse Relationship, Sadie and her husband Steve share what it’s like to navigate marriage when both partners are neurodivergent in different ways. From ADHD to prosopagnosia (face blindness), this conversation is filled with relatable moments, honest insights, and laugh-out-loud stories. Sadie discusses how discovering her own neurodivergence led to writing her debut book, “Do I Know You?”, while Steve reflects on living with ADHD since childhood and what finally helped him understand how his brain works. Together, they talk with host Jodi Carlton about cognitive empathy, relationship conflict, and what it really takes to make a neurodiverse marriage thrive. If you're in a neurodiverse relationship—or love someone who is—this episode offers validation, wisdom, and the reminder that being “on the same team” is everything. 00:00 – Welcome to Season Five 01:00 – “I Thought I Was Neurotypical”: Meet Sadie & Steve 04:40 – Mistaking a Stranger for Your Spouse?! Discovering Face Blindness 09:15 – How COVID Changed Everything in Their Marriage 13:50 – “We’re Living in Different Realities”: Cognitive Empathy Explained 19:10 – ADHD Meds, Creativity & Finding What Actually Works 25:00 – The Secret to Making Neurodiverse Relationships Work ✨ About Sadie Dingfelder & Steve Hay: Sadie Dingfelder is a science journalist with a sharp wit and a deep curiosity about hidden neurodiversity. In her debut book, “Do I Know You? A Faceblind Reporter’s Journey into the Science of Sight, Memory, and Imagination”, she unpacks what it’s like to live with prosopagnosia (face blindness) while taking readers on a fascinating tour of the brain’s inner workings. A former reporter for the Washington Post Express, Sadie is known for blending humor and insight—whether she’s reviewing every bathroom on the National Mall or playing a priceless Stradivarius at the Smithsonian. Her writing has appeared in The New Yorker, National Geographic, Washingtonian, and other major publications. Steve Hay is an engineer and aspiring scientist who is currently developing an augmented reality art project that simulates prosopagnosia by using AI to subtly distort faces in real time. Before turning his focus to brain and perception research, Steve worked as a Navy nuclear engineer and later in the green energy sector, applying AI and machine learning to grid-scale energy storage. His work blends scientific insight, creative experimentation, and a knack for making the invisible visible. 📚 Check out Sadie’s book “Do I Know you? A Faceblind Reporter’s Journey into the Science of Sight, Memory and Imagination.” https://www.amazon.com/Know-You-Faceblind-Reporters-Imagination/dp/0316545147 — 👩‍💼 About Your Host: Jodi Carlton, MEd Jodi Carlton is a neurodiverse relationship coach with over 20 years of experience as a therapist, coach, author, and educator. She’s also neurodivergent herself—diagnosed with ADHD as an adult—and brings both professional expertise and lived experience to her work. After 19 years in a marriage with an autistic partner and raising neurodivergent children, Jodi developed a deeply personal understanding of what it takes for relationships like yours to work—and the pitfalls that can derail them. She now coaches individuals, couples, and families around the world using a solution-focused approach that delivers real clarity and lasting change. 👉 Explore more episodes, free resources, quizzes, and courses: https://jodicarlton.com 🔔 Don’t Forget to Like, Subscribe & Share! Your support helps us reach more people navigating life in neurodiverse relationships.
	Viral Neurodiverse Couple on Navigating Sex, Overwhelm & Parenting	20 août 2025	00:39:11
In a Neurodiverse Relationship, what happens after you fall in love—but still have to figure out how to live, love, and parent? In Part 2 of this Season 5 episode with Jodi, Adam and Becca James go even deeper into the realities of a neurodiverse marriage. Becca is autistic and ADHD (AuDHD). Adam is neurotypical. Together, they’ve reached millions on TikTok with raw, relatable content about neurodivergent relationships. Together, they open up about the day-to-day realities of a neurodiverse relationship—from miscommunication and parenting stress to intimacy challenges, sensory overload, and the emotional friction that comes with constantly decoding each other’s world. With their signature mix of honesty and humor, they explore what it really means to stay connected when love languages clash and nothing feels simple. 💬 You’ll hear about: Why physical intimacy can feel impossible—and how they rebuilt it from scratch What happens when emotional cues are misread (and how they recover) The invisible mental load of affection, communication, and “showing up” The challenges of parenting as a neurodivergent mom How some people misunderstand their viral videos—and why they keep posting anyway Why understanding each other isn’t a goal—it’s a practice What keeps them committed, even on the hardest days Whether you're married to someone with autism, parenting through sensory stress, or just trying to better understand your neurodivergent partner, this episode is a heartfelt continuation of a conversation that’s making thousands feel seen. 📍 Episode Timestamps: 00:00 – Season 5 Intro: Can Neurodiverse Relationships Really Work? 00:57 – Meet Adam & Becca: Viral TikTok Couple 01:36 – Misunderstandings, Meltdowns & Missed Signals 03:12 – Using Humor to Survive Neurodivergent Life 10:29 – Family Expectations vs. Neurodivergent Needs 14:42 – When Physical Affection Feels Overwhelming 17:22 – Autism, Intimacy & Rebuilding a Sexual Connection 20:20 – The Gap Between Neurotypical & Neurodivergent Brains 21:46 – Rethinking How Relationships “Should” Work 23:44 – Why Intentional Understanding Keeps Us Together 26:05 – Miscommunication in Marriage: It's Not What You Think 33:29 – Parenting With Limited Bandwidth 37:14 – The Poisoner’s Almanac: Becca’s Special Interest 38:55 – Final Thoughts + Resources for Neurodiverse Couples ✨ About Adam & Becca: Adam and Becca James are a neurodiverse couple living in Georgia who’ve built a community of over 205K followers on TikTok (@studiesshow) by sharing the everyday realities of their relationship—equal parts insightful, awkward, and hilarious. Their content went viral after one clip, now with over 32 million views, showing the wildly different ways they wind down at night. Since then, they’ve continued to open up about the challenges and gifts of navigating life, love, and parenthood with ADHD and autism in the mix. Adam is a home health physical therapist, musician, and lifelong Braves fan. Becca, a nurse with experience in both hospital and home healthcare, brings her dry wit and deeply self-aware reflections to their videos, offering a perspective that resonates with both neurodivergent and neurotypical viewers alike. Together, they use their TikTok platform to normalize neurodivergence, dismantle stigma, and remind their audience that even opposites can thrive—with the right mix of humor, honesty, and headphones. Adam and Becca also co-host The Poisoner’s Almanac, a podcast exploring poisons (one of Becca's special interests) through history, culture, and modern science. Mentioned in this episode: 🎧 Adam & Becca’s podcast: The Poisoner’s Almanac – a true crime-meets-science deep dive into historical and modern poisons, created around Becca’s special interest. 👩‍💼 About Your Host: Jodi Carlton, MEd Jodi Carlton is a neurodiverse relationship coach with over 20 years of experience as a therapist, coach, author, and educator. She’s also neurodivergent herself—diagnosed with ADHD as an adult—and brings both professional expertise and lived experience to her work. After 19 years in a marriage with an autistic partner and raising neurodivergent children, Jodi developed a deeply personal understanding of what it takes for relationships like yours to work—and the pitfalls that can derail them. She now coaches individuals, couples, and families around the world using a solution-focused approach that delivers real clarity and lasting change. 👉 Explore more episodes, free resources, quizzes, and courses: https://jodicarlton.com 🔔 Don’t Forget to Like, Subscribe & Share! Your support helps us reach more people navigating life in neurodiverse relationships.
	Social Media’s Viral Neurodiverse Couple on Love & Marriage	06 août 2025	00:36:48
❓ What happens when two people fall in love and one is neurodivergent? They go viral on social media! 📈 In this episode, Jodi chats with Adam and Becca, a neurodiverse couple whose viral TikToks have racked up millions of views. Their videos offer an unfiltered look into the realities of a neurodiverse relationship—and their honest, often hilarious conversations have helped hundreds of thousands of viewers feel less alone. Together, they share what it’s really like navigating marriage with autism and ADHD in the mix: from sensory overload and autistic burnout to faith deconstruction, parenting struggles, emotional disconnects, and wildly mismatched love languages. Becca opens up about her late autism diagnosis, how masking nearly broke her, and why even small moments of affection can feel overwhelming. Adam reflects on how being a neurotypical husband has challenged him to rethink communication, connection, and what support truly looks like. 💬 You’ll hear about: -How they met and fell in love despite major differences -Becca’s late autism diagnosis and what finally made everything click -How masking, meltdowns, and burnout shaped their early years of marriage -The tension between physical touch and sensory boundaries -Why Adam’s humor is more than just comic relief—it’s a lifeline -The role faith and religious deconstruction played in reshaping their connection -What it means to truly be seen—and chosen—by someone wired differently If you've ever wondered what "opposites attract" looks like in a neurodiverse relationship, this episode is a must-listen! 📍 Episode Timestamps: 0:00 – Season 5 Intro: Can Neurodiverse Relationships Really Work? 01:00 – Meet Adam & Becca: A Quirky First Encounter 03:00 – Burnout, Meltdowns & the Cost of Masking 06:00 – Autism, Sensory Overload & the Need for Space 10:40 – Parenthood, Shutdowns & Surviving the Early Years 18:55 – Late Diagnosis, Big Realizations 20:45 – From Toxic Church Culture to Mental Clarity 25:00 – How Opposites Communicate (and Miscommunicate) 28:50 – Choosing Each Other, Every Day 34:25 – Why Laughter Helps More Than You Think ✨ About Adam & Becca: Adam and Becca James are a neurodiverse couple living in Georgia who’ve built a community of over 205K followers on TikTok (@studiesshow) by sharing the everyday realities of their relationship—equal parts insightful, awkward, and hilarious. Their content went viral after one clip, now with over 32 million views, showing the wildly different ways they wind down at night. Since then, they’ve continued to open up about the challenges and gifts of navigating life, love, and parenthood with ADHD and autism in the mix. Adam is a home health physical therapist, musician, and lifelong Braves fan. Becca, a nurse with experience in both hospital and home healthcare, brings her dry wit and deeply self-aware reflections to their videos, offering a perspective that resonates with both neurodivergent and neurotypical viewers alike. Together, they use their TikTok platform to normalize neurodivergence, dismantle stigma, and remind their audience that even opposites can thrive—with the right mix of humor, honesty, and headphones. Adam and Becca also co-host The Poisoner’s Almanac, a podcast exploring poisons (one of Becca's special interests) through history, culture, and modern science. 💬 NEW! Try the NeuroTranslator App Want help understanding each other’s neurotypes in everyday situations? The NeuroTranslator app offers on-demand explanations to help reduce conflict and increase connection. Built by an autistic husband to bridge communication gaps between neurotypes. Save 30% with promo code JODI. 🔗 https://www.neurotranslator.ai 👩‍💼 About Your Host: Jodi Carlton, MEd Jodi Carlton is a neurodiverse relationship coach with over 20 years of experience as a therapist, coach, author, and educator. She’s also neurodivergent herself—diagnosed with ADHD as an adult—and brings both professional expertise and lived experience to her work. After 19 years in a marriage with an autistic partner and raising neurodivergent children, Jodi developed a deeply personal understanding of what it takes for relationships like yours to work—and the pitfalls that can derail them. She now coaches individuals, couples, and families around the world using a solution-focused approach that delivers real clarity and lasting change. 👉 Explore more episodes, free resources, quizzes, and courses: https://jodicarlton.com 🔔 Don’t Forget to Like, Subscribe & Share! Your support helps us reach more people navigating life in neurodiverse relationships.
	How to Get Unstuck in Neurodiverse Partnerships \| Expert Panel (Pt 2)	23 juil. 2025	00:29:11
Can a neurodiverse relationship still see change when only one partner works on it? What if you’ve tried everything, but nothing seems to stick? In Part 2 of this roundtable discussion, Jodi and the panel of leading neurodiversity professionals return to explore how coaching (versus therapy), nervous system regulation, and identifying options can help couples shift out of stuck patterns—even when one partner isn’t engaged in the work. If you’re trying to decide whether to stay, leave, or redefine what being together looks like, this conversation offers real-life strategies, hope, and clarity. 💬 What You’ll Learn in This Episode: The difference between coaching and traditional therapy—and when each is most effective Why regulating your nervous system is key to better communication Practical tools for rewiring the brain and shifting harmful patterns How to navigate decision-making, boundaries, and even separation with clarity and self-trust What to look for in a therapist or coach to determine who actually understands neurodiversity - versus someone who “knows someone that was neurodivergent” How healing is possible even if only one partner is doing the work Whether you're in a neurodiverse relationship, supporting a loved one, or working as a professional in this space, this episode offers real tools, compassionate insight, and hopeful next steps. 👉 Missed Part 1? Watch here: https://youtu.be/rXeUypJeQX4?si=1GiWaeRK5PhrWS59 00:00 Welcome Back: Season 5 & this Expert Panel Episode 00:57 Real-Life Experience from Neurodiverse Professionals 03:15 Why Traditional Couples Therapy Often Falls Short 04:49 Coaching vs. Counseling: What Works for Neurodiverse Couples 06:05 Nervous System Regulation & Expanding Capacity 08:52 When Only One Partner Is Willing to Do the Work 13:02 Discernment: Stay, Go, or Redefine the Relationship 21:42 How to Know If a Therapist Really Gets Neurodiversity 27:45 Red Flags, Abuse, and Boundaries in Neurodiverse Marriages 28:25 Closing Thoughts & Resources 👋🏼 Meet the Experts: This episode features insights from: Barbara Grant, MMFT, CAS, NDCC – Neurodiverse couples coach, co-host of Neurodiverse Couples Coaches Corner, and co-author of Uniquely Us. https://bg-hc.com Jana Smith – Resilience and nervous system coach; expert in chronic illness and Cassandra Syndrome recovery. https://www.janamsmith.com Natalie Roberts – Award-winning neurodiverse relationship coach, co-founder of Loving Difference, and co-host of Myth Busting Neurodiverse Relationships. https://natalieroberts.com Heather Parks – Somatic coach specializing in neurodiverse families; co-host of Loving Difference and Myth Busting Neurodiverse Relationships. https://heatherparks.co.uk Robin Tate, M.A., M.S., BCC, ACC, CAS – Neurodiverse couples coach, certified autism specialist, and founder of Robin Tate LLC. https://www.robintatellc.com 👩‍💼 About Your Host: Jodi Carlton, MEd Jodi Carlton is a neurodiverse relationship coach with over 20 years of experience as a therapist, coach, author, and educator. She’s also neurodivergent herself—diagnosed with ADHD as an adult—and brings both professional expertise and lived experience to her work. After 19 years in a marriage with an autistic partner and raising neurodivergent children, Jodi developed a deeply personal understanding of what it takes for relationships like yours to work—and the pitfalls that can derail them. She now coaches individuals, couples, and families around the world using a solution-focused approach that delivers real clarity and lasting change. 👉 Find resources, quizzes, and courses: https://jodicarlton.com 🔔 Subscribe & Follow for more real conversations and strategies to support neurodiverse couples.
	20 Years in a Neurodiverse Marriage \| Part 2 with Laura Schreiner	09 juil. 2025	00:36:11
How do you stay in a neurodiverse marriage for the long haul? In Part 2 of this honest and hope-filled conversation, counselor Laura Schreiner returns to share what she and her autistic husband have learned in over 20 years together—especially after discovering neurodivergence mid-marriage. With warmth and wisdom, Laura and host Jodi Carlton explore what real growth looks like in neurodiverse marriages—from learning to set emotional boundaries to releasing the pressure to “fix” each other. 💬 You’ll hear Laura unpack: Why setting boundaries with your kids is just as important as with your partner How her husband’s communication “black belt” surprised her What changed when she detached from emotional outcomes Why understanding your own expectations is essential—especially if you're the one doing all the work Her husband’s take: “We’re not opposites. We’re complementary puzzle pieces.” This conversation is packed with real insight for #neurotypical and #neurodivergent partners alike—plus a lot of humor and humanity! 📍 Episode Timestamps: 00:00 Intro & Why You Shouldn’t Miss Part 1 01:24 Setting Boundaries as a Neurodivergent Parent 03:50 “Fixing Autism” vs. Doing the Personal Work 06:02 Her Communication “Black Belt” Analogy 07:07 How Feelings are Impacted by What We Choose to Believe 09:19 Somatic Tools for Regulating Relationship Tension 11:39 Doing the Inner Work—Even If the Relationship Doesn’t Last 14:37 How One Breakthrough Shifted Their Marriage 17:06 Codependency, Expectations & the Myth of the “Perfect Partner” 19:16 What If Leaving Isn’t So Simple? 24:24 How We Define Progress in Neurodiverse Relationships 29:01 Letting Go of Expectations & Receiving What’s Given 34:00 We Both Still Like Chicken 35:00 “We’re Complementary Puzzle Pieces” (Her Husband’s Final Insight) ✨ About Laura Schreiner: Laura Schreiner is a licensed professional counselor in Illinois who specializes in working with neurodivergent adults and couples. Her expertise is deeply personal—Laura discovered in 2017 that her husband is autistic, a revelation that reshaped both her personal and professional life. Certified in Neurodiverse Couples Therapy through the Asperger/Autism Network (AANE), Laura combines over 15 years of clinical experience with firsthand insight into the unique dynamics of neurodiverse relationships. She is currently developing new ways to educate and support the neurodiverse community on how brain wiring differences shape communication, connection, and partnership. To follow Laura’s work or get in touch, visit www.laurasnc.com 👉 Real stories. Tangible strategies. Watch more honest conversations from Season 5: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLSyXJdjUav7qLvkJFwE-KcG73-Fzuzu29 💬 NEW! Try the NeuroTranslator App Want help understanding each other’s neurotypes in everyday situations? The NeuroTranslator app offers on-demand explanations to help reduce conflict and increase connection. Built by an autistic husband to bridge communication gaps between neurotypes. Save 30% with promo code JODI. 🔗 https://www.neurotranslator.ai #neurodiversemarriage #communicationchallenges #codependencyrecovery #neurodivergentlove #emotionalboundaries #relationshipadvice 👩‍💼 About Your Host: Jodi Carlton, MEd Jodi Carlton is a neurodiverse relationship coach with over 20 years of experience as a therapist, coach, author, and educator. She’s also neurodivergent herself—diagnosed with ADHD as an adult—and brings both professional expertise and lived experience to her work. After 19 years in a marriage with an autistic partner and raising neurodivergent children, Jodi developed a deeply personal understanding of what it takes for relationships like yours to work—and the pitfalls that can derail them. She now coaches individuals, couples, and families around the world using a solution-focused approach that delivers real clarity and lasting change. 👉 Explore more episodes, free resources, quizzes, and courses: https://jodicarlton.com 🔔 Don’t Forget to Like, Subscribe & Share! Your support helps us reach more people navigating life in neurodiverse relationships.
	Neurodiverse Marriage: How Counselor Laura Schreiner Navigates Her Own	25 juin 2025	00:33:56
Counselor Laura Schreiner opens up about her own 20-year neurodiverse marriage—sharing expert insights, hard truths, and what makes love last. In this episode, neurodiverse relationship expert, Jodi Carlton, sits down with returning guest Laura Schreiner, a seasoned counselor who specializes in working with #neurodivergent adults and couples. Laura shares insights from her own 20-year #neurodiversemarriage, offering a rare and compassionate look at how communication struggles, #masking, #emotionalburnout, and unmet expectations play out in real life—and what it looks like when couples decide to stay in it and do the work. 💬 You’ll hear Laura break down: Why communication isn’t linear in neurodiverse partnerships How she and her #autistichusband navigate misunderstandings with humor and empathy The surprising shift that helped her let go of “fixing” and focus on her own growth What really makes or breaks these relationships in the long run Whether you’re the #autisticpartner, the #neurotypical one, or somewhere in between—this episode is packed with wisdom, warmth, and hard-earned truth. 00:00 Can Neurodiverse Relationships Work Long-Term? 01:23 Meet Laura Schreiner: Counselor & Neurodiverse Partner 02:45 Why Laura Speaks for Both Partners in This Episode (Respecting Privacy in Neurodiverse Relationships) 05:52 What Makes Neurodiverse Relationships So Challenging? And What Are Some Solutions 06:12 Communication Is Not Linear 08:02 Her Husband’s Powerful Quote on Communication Challenges 09:35 Jodi and Laura Talk About the Shame, Embarrassment, and Self-Criticism Neurodivergent Partners Often Experience 13:13 Pulling the Thread: A Real-Life Example of a Communication Breakthrough 20:58 Responding to “Why Should I Be the One Doing All the Work?” 24:14 Believing in Yourself & Doing the Inner Work: What Makes a Neurodiverse Relationship Work 26:58 Her Husband’s Self-Awareness Breakthrough 28:53 Letting Go of Codependency in Neurodiverse Relationships 33:04 Coming Up Next: More Wisdom from Laura in Part 2 ✨ About Laura Schreiner: Laura Schreiner is a licensed professional counselor in Illinois who specializes in working with neurodivergent adults and couples. Her expertise is deeply personal—Laura discovered in 2017 that her husband is autistic, a revelation that reshaped both her personal and professional life. Certified in Neurodiverse Couples Therapy through the Asperger/Autism Network (AANE), Laura combines over 15 years of clinical experience with firsthand insight into the unique dynamics of neurodiverse relationships. She is currently developing new ways to educate and support the neurodiverse community on how brain wiring differences shape communication, connection, and partnership. To follow Laura’s work or get in touch, visit laurasnc.com. 👉 Real stories. Tangible strategies. Watch more honest conversations from Season 5: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLSyXJdjUav7qLvkJFwE-KcG73-Fzuzu29 💬 NEW! Try the NeuroTranslator App Want help understanding each other’s neurotypes in everyday situations? The NeuroTranslator app offers on-demand explanations to help reduce conflict and increase connection. Built by an autistic husband to bridge communication gaps between neurotypes. Save 30% with promo code JODI. 🔗 https://www.neurotranslator.ai #communicationchallenges #codependencyrecovery #emotionalboundaries #marriageadvice #selfawareness — 👩‍💼 About Your Host: Jodi Carlton, MEd Jodi Carlton is a neurodiverse relationship coach with over 20 years of experience as a therapist, coach, author, and educator. She’s also neurodivergent herself—diagnosed with ADHD as an adult—and brings both professional expertise and lived experience to her work. After 19 years in a marriage with an autistic partner and raising neurodivergent children, Jodi developed a deeply personal understanding of what it takes for relationships like yours to work—and the pitfalls that can derail them. She now coaches individuals, couples, and families around the world using a solution-focused approach that delivers real clarity and lasting change. 👉 Explore more episodes, free resources, quizzes, and courses: https://jodicarlton.com 🔔 Don’t Forget to Like, Subscribe & Share! Your support helps us reach more people navigating life in neurodiverse relationships.
	How Autism Shaped A Bestselling Author’s Career & Marriage	11 juin 2025	00:41:54
From masking to neurodiverse marriage, bestselling author J.D. Barker gets real about life as an autistic adult. In this podcast episode, neurodiverse relationship coach Jodi Carlton talks with New York Times bestselling author JDBarker, who shares what was like for him to navigate life, love, and fatherhood - and autism. From high-stakes careers in finance and IT to ghostwriting blockbusters and becoming a full-time novelist, J.D. reflects on how autism has shaped his relationships, routines, and creative process. He also gets candid about building a neurodiverse marriage with his neurotypical wife, parenting a neurodivergent daughter, and the personal growth that came with learning to embrace—not mask—his autistic traits. 💬 What you’ll hear in this episode: The surprising way J.D. was diagnosed with autism at 22 Why masking often feels like “playing a part” in social settings How he and his wife created emotional safety and mutual respect in their marriage What it looks like to be a team—not adversaries—as neurodiverse partners The “loop-closing” need in autistic brains—and how it affects everyday routines Why creativity is often misunderstood in autism (and how it became his superpower) What he tells parents of autistic children about what’s possible for their future. Whether you’re autistic, in a neurodiverse relationship, or parenting a neurodivergent child, this conversation is full of practical insights, encouragement, and inspiration for anyone navigating the complexities of autism in adulthood and family life. 00:00 Welcome to Season 5 00:57 Meet J.D. Barker 01:37 J.D.’s Diagnosis Story 03:12 Life as an Autistic Adult 06:02 Autism & Parenting a Neurodivergent Child 08:23 Understanding ND Traits in Relationships 10:25 From Corporate Burnout to Bestselling Author: How J.D.’s Wife Helped Him Reclaim His Life 19:52 Creativity, Career & the Autistic Brain 22:24 J.D.’s Superpower: Mimicking Author Voices 23:04 Becoming a Bestselling Author 24:25 Breaking the Creativity Myth in Autism 26:14 The Writing Process & Pattern Recognition 28:29 Researching Characters & Emotional Nuance 30:32 Emotional Differences in a Neurodiverse Marriage 32:24 Communication, Trust & Mutual Respect 36:06 Advice for Autistic Creatives 37:21 Final Reflections 🎥 Keep watching to explore more episodes in Season 5 and discover how other neurodiverse couples are navigating life, love, and everything in between. https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLSyXJdjUav7qLvkJFwE-KcG73-Fzuzu29 📚 About J.D. Barker: J.D. Barker is a New York Times and international bestselling author known for gripping, genre-blending thrillers that weave suspense, horror, mystery, and science fiction into unforgettable stories. His acclaimed novels include Dracul (co-authored with Dacre Stoker), the 4MK series, and multiple collaborations with James Patterson, such as The Coast-to-Coast Murders and The Noise. Explore his books and learn more: www.jdbarker.com ________ 👩‍💼 About Your Host: Jodi Carlton, MEd Jodi Carlton is a neurodiverse relationship coach with over 20 years of experience as a therapist, coach, author, and educator. She’s also neurodivergent herself—diagnosed with ADHD as an adult—and brings both professional expertise and lived experience to her work. After 19 years in a marriage with an autistic partner and raising neurodivergent children, Jodi developed a deeply personal understanding of what it takes for relationships like yours to work—and the pitfalls that can derail them. She now coaches individuals, couples, and families around the world using a solution-focused approach that delivers real clarity and lasting change. 👉 Explore more episodes, free resources, quizzes, and courses: https://jodicarlton.com 🔔 Don’t Forget to Like, Subscribe & Share! Your support helps us reach more people navigating life in neurodiverse relationships.
	Neurodiverse Marriage Challenges: Faith, Conflict & Growth Mindset \| Part 2 with Stephanie & Dan	28 mai 2025	00:38:12
What keeps neurodiverse marriages from falling apart—and what helps them grow stronger over time? In Part 2 of this honest and hope-filled conversation, Stephanie & Dan Holmes return to share deeper insights on what makes neurodiverse relationships work—and what often makes them break down. From emotional triggers to unspoken resentments, rigid belief systems to religious conditioning, they dive into the patterns that can quietly erode a relationship—and how curiosity, boundaries, and a growth mindset can bring real repair. 💬 You’ll hear real-life insights about: Navigating conflict when there’s no “right” answer Reframing triggers and rewriting your relationship narrative The impact of faith and religious systems on neurodiverse couples Identifying deal-breakers: when unintentional harm becomes a pattern Why being teachable is non-negotiable Embracing differences instead of fighting them How long-term growth happens in stages—and why you’re never “done” This is a must-watch/must-listen for anyone wondering how to stay connected when perspectives clash, progress feels slow, or your relationship feels stuck in a loop. 00:00 – Welcome to Season Five 00:57 – Introducing Dan and Stephanie Holmes 01:24 – Navigating Triggers & Setting Boundaries That Work 03:50 – How Conflict Shows Up in Neurodiverse Relationships 08:32 – Faith & Friction: When Religion Complicates Your Marriage 18:10 – Reconstructing Faith & Rethinking Marriage Roles 20:26 – Deal Breakers That Derail Neurodiverse Relationships 24:00 – Why Being Teachable Matters More Than Being Right 27:41 – About the Book: Research, Real Stories & Practical Help 29:07 – What the Research Reveals About ND Couples 29:57 – Unintentional Abuse: Where the Line Gets Crossed 33:48 – Embracing Differences Instead of Fighting Them 35:05 – Why Growth Mindset Is Non-Negotiable in ND Marriage 36:56 – Final Thoughts: Learning, Changing & Staying Curious 37:37 – Wrap-Up + Where to Learn More ✨ About Stephanie & Dan Holmes: Rev. Dr. Stephanie C. Holmes, Ed.D, MA, BCCC is a Certified Autism Specialist, neurodiverse marriage therapist, ordained minister, and former licensed professional counselor. When her daughter was diagnosed with Asperger’s Syndrome, Stephanie’s professional focus shifted to serving neurodiverse families and couples. She is the founder of Autism Spectrum Resources for Marriage & Family and co-founder (with Dan) of The International Association of NeuroDiverse Christian Marriage. She co-hosts the NeuroDiverse Christian Couples podcast and coaches couples worldwide. Rev. Dan Holmes, MCS is a seasoned systems architect, ordained minister, and Master Life Coach who specializes in coaching neurodivergent men. He blends technical expertise with coaching and ministry. Dan received his autism diagnosis later in life in 2019, which deeply informs his perspective and work. 📚 Explore Stephanie’s and Dan’s books: “Uniquely Us: Gracefully Navigating the Maze of Neurodiverse Marriage, Autism and Faith” https://www.barnesandnoble.com/w/uniquely-us-stephanie-c-holmes/1146104450?ean=9781636985435 “Embracing the Autism Spectrum: Finding Hope & Joy Navigating the NeuroDiverse Family Journey” https://www.holmesasr.com/embracing-the-autism-spectrum 🎧 Listen to the NeuroDiverse Christian Couples podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/neurodiverse-christian-couples--4992356 📩 Connect with Stephanie: dr.stephanie@holmesASR.com 📩 Connect with Dan: dan@holmesASR.com 👉 Want to hear more real stories and strategies? Watch the rest of Season 5: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLSyXJdjUav7qLvkJFwE-KcG73-Fzuzu29 👩‍💼 About Your Host: Jodi Carlton, MEd Jodi Carlton is a neurodiverse relationship coach with over 20 years of experience as a therapist, coach, author, and educator. She’s also neurodivergent herself—diagnosed with ADHD as an adult—and brings both professional expertise and lived experience to her work. After 19 years in a marriage with an autistic partner and raising neurodivergent children, Jodi developed a deeply personal understanding of what it takes for relationships like yours to work—and the pitfalls that can derail them. She now coaches individuals, couples, and families around the world using a solution-focused approach that delivers real clarity and lasting change. 👉 Explore more episodes, free resources, quizzes, and courses: https://jodicarlton.com 🔔 Don’t Forget to Like, Subscribe & Share! Your support helps us reach more people navigating life in neurodiverse relationships.
	Can an Autistic + Neurotypical Marriage Thrive? Stephanie & Dan Share How (Part 1)	14 mai 2025	00:38:40
Can a neurodiverse marriage actually work when communication constantly breaks down? If you’ve ever felt like you and your partner are speaking two different languages—especially in an autism or ADHD relationship—this episode is for you. Stephanie & Dan Holmes share how they redefined their roles at home, and used coaching to rebuild connection, reduce resentment, and finally feel like a team again. 💬 You’ll hear real-life insights about: Why they left using a therapy model and started coaching instead The power of building individual skills before focusing on teamwork as a couple How Dan taking over cooking reduced Stephanie’s mental load Bridging different emotional processing styles Learning to “sit with each other’s emotions” instead of fixing them Why sometimes you need to “put it in the unsolved mystery file” This episode is part of Season 5 of the YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship Podcast, exploring the question: “Can neurodiverse relationships work?” The answer? Yes—with the right tools, support, and a willingness to learn what actually works for YOU as a couple. Stephanie and Dan open up about what it really takes to navigate marriage as a neurodiverse couple—and how their faith, coaching, and intentional communication helped them overcome communication breakdowns and challenges related to autism and ADHD. 00:00 – Can Neurodiverse Relationships Really Work? 01:44 – Meet Stephanie & Dan Holmes 03:39 – Why Coaching Helped When Therapy Didn’t 08:03 – What We Mean by Neurodiverse: ADHD, Autism & More 11:05 – Rethinking Gender Roles: A System That Worked for Them 13:20 – The Mental Load & How Cooking Changed Everything 17:57 – “I Don’t Need You to Fix It—I Need You to Be Irrational With Me” 20:00 – Emotions as Data: Why Logic Isn’t Always the Answer 22:08 – The “Delta” Fight: How Literal vs. Emotional Thinking Clashes 25:14 – The Hospital Story: Why Being Present Mattered Most 32:27 – Revisiting Old Conflicts Without Re-Traumatizing 37:52 – What They’ve Learned & What’s Coming in Part 2 ✨ About Stephanie & Dan Holmes: Rev. Dr. Stephanie C. Holmes, Ed.D, MA, BCCC is a Certified Autism Specialist, neurodiverse marriage therapist, ordained minister, and former licensed professional counselor. When their daughter was diagnosed with Asperger’s Syndrome, Stephanie’s professional focus shifted to serving neurodiverse families and couples. Stephanie is the founder of Autism Spectrum Resources for Marriage & Family and co-founder (with Dan) of The International Association of NeuroDiverse Christian Marriage. She co-hosts the NeuroDiverse Christian Couples podcast and coaches couples around the world navigating the complexities of faith and neurodiversity in marriage. Rev. Dan Holmes, MCS is a seasoned systems architect, ordained minister, and Master Life Coach who specializes in working with neurodivergent men. Dan blends technical expertise with coaching and ministry experience. He received his autism diagnosis later in life in 2019, which deeply informs his work and perspective. 📚 Explore Stephanie’s and Dan’s books: “Uniquely Us: Gracefully Navigating the Maze of Neurodiverse Marriage, Autism and Faith” https://www.barnesandnoble.com/w/uniquely-us-stephanie-c-holmes/1146104450?ean=9781636985435 “Embracing the Autism Spectrum: Finding Hope & Joy Navigating the NeuroDiverse Family Journey” https://www.holmesasr.com/embracing-the-autism-spectrum 🎧 Listen to the NeuroDiverse Christian Couples podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/neurodiverse-christian-couples--4992356 📩 Connect with Stephanie: dr.stephanie@holmesASR.com 📩 Connect with Dan: dan@holmesASR.com 💬 NEW! Try the NeuroTranslator App - Save 30% with promo code JODI. 🔗 https://www.neurotranslator.ai #neurodiverserelationships #challengesofautism #ADHD #communicationbreakdowns #genderroles #neurodiversemarriage #relationshipcoaching — 👩‍💼 About Your Host: Jodi Carlton, MEd Jodi Carlton is a neurodiverse relationship coach with over 20 years of experience as a therapist, coach, author, and educator. She’s also neurodivergent herself—diagnosed with ADHD as an adult—and brings both professional expertise and personal experience to her work. After 19 years in a marriage with an autistic partner, raising neurodivergent children, and discovering that nearly her entire extended family is neurodiverse, Jodi developed a deeply personal understanding of what it takes for relationships like yours to work - and she understands the devastating pitfalls that threaten neurodiverse couples. She now coaches individuals, couples, and families around the world using a solution-focused approach that delivers real clarity and lasting change. 🎧 Explore more episodes, free resources, quizzes, and courses at: 👉 https://jodicarlton.com 🔔 Don’t Forget to Like, Subscribe & Share! Your support helps us reach more people navigating life in neurodiverse relationships.
	Neurodiverse Marriage, Burnout & Healing with Lauren & Luke \| ADHD, RSD & Attachment (Part 2)	30 avr. 2025	00:46:28
In this powerful Part 2 episode of Your Neurodiverse Relationship Podcast (Season 5), neurodiverse relationship expert Jodi Carlton continues her candid conversation with married couple Luke and Lauren Smallcomb. Together, they open up about: - Navigating ADHD and demand avoidance in marriage - Overcoming anxious and avoidant attachment styles - What happens when one partner is an overfunctioner - Burnout, masking, and learning to communicate better - The difference between acceptance and accommodation - Red flags vs. recoverable challenges in neurodiverse relationships. 👉 Here's Part 1 in case you missed it: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LVdE9-xbzKI 🔹 Timestamps: 00:00 – Introduction to Season Five 00:57 – Welcome to Part 2 with Luke & Lauren 01:11 – Challenges and Realizations in Marriage 01:42 – Understanding ADHD and Attachment Styles 03:54 – The Role of Communication 06:55 – Personality Differences and the Enneagram 11:41 – Shifting Roles and Responsibilities 14:47 – Facing Trauma Together 18:36 – Balancing Support and Independence 22:50 – Navigating Demand Avoidance in Relationships 24:07 – Understanding Overfunctioning and Burnout 26:27 – Addressing Imbalance in Effort and Insight 28:09 – Recognizing Abusive Patterns and Seeking Help 32:02 – The Importance of Acceptance and Safety 37:39 – Final Thoughts and Relationship Advice 44:42 – Conclusion and Neurodiversity Resources ___________________ 👩‍💼 Hi, I'm #JodiCarlton !! I am a seasoned professional with 20+ years of experience as a therapist and relationship coach specializing in neurodiverse relationships. I AM NEURODIVERGENT: I discovered as an adult that I am #ADHD, and I was married to an autistic man for 19 years. I also had other neurodiverse romantic relationships and have an autistic daughter and an ADHD son. Through the years, I have realized that my entire extended family is neurodivergent. My relationships with neurodiverse family and friends have been my personal training ground for understanding and helping partners and couples in their own relationships. Below are some of the neurodivergent resources I offer: 💬 TRY THE NEW NEUROTRANSLATOR APP! A client once told me "I need JodiGPT." Well, this is as close as you're gonna get. This app provides a detailed explanation of each neurotype's expectations and perspectives on any situation you're in. Use it in your relationships to minimize conflict and understand each other better! Developed by Michael Daniel who is autistic and wanted help in his own neurodiverse marriage. 💻 QUIZZES: https://jodicarlton.com/take-a-quiz/ Take free quizzes about neurodivergence, autism, toxic relationship dynamics, and learn which resources will benefit you the most. 🤩 CONSULTATIONS/COACHING: https://jodicarlton.com/private-coaching/ I coach individuals, couples, and families worldwide using a solution-focused approach that results in life-altering answers and real change. 🎙 PODCAST: https://jodicarlton.com/podcast Listen to the "YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship" podcast. It's been downloaded in over 70 countries on your favorite podcast platform . You can also watch it here on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@JodiCarlton/podcasts 💁‍♀️ COURSES: https://jodicarlton.com/courses Work at your own pace in my self-study courses. Gain access to the world's first communication model that facilitates life-altering clarity and change. Discover if your partner or relationship is toxic and unsafe. 📖 BLOG: https://jodicarlton.com/blog Browse through articles about executive functioning, masking, narcissism, communication, and so much more. Don’t forget to like, share, and subscribe for more insights on neurodiversity! Don’t forget to like, share, and subscribe for more insights on #neurodiversity! 📱 Connect with me: LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jodicarlton
	Healing Together: Trauma, Growth, and Neurodiversity with Lauren and Luke Smallcomb	16 avr. 2025	00:28:08
In this powerful episode of Your Neurodiverse Relationship Podcast Season 5, host Jodi Carlton sits down with trauma healing experts and married neurodiverse couple Luke and Lauren Smallcomb, who live in Thailand and run a worldwide trauma-healing practice called Flourish Therapy. Together, they open up about their own marriage, healing past trauma, working through attachment styles, and what it really takes to make a neurodiverser elationship not only work—but thrive. They also share their professional insights into neuroplasticity, rejection sensitivity dysphoria (RSD), attachment wounds, and how their personal growth journey empowered them to help other couples navigate similar challenges. 👉 This is Part 1 of a 2-part conversation, so be sure to subscribe and stay tuned for Part 2! 🔹 Timestamps: 00:00 – Welcome to Season 5: Can Neurodiverse Relationships Work? 00:57 – Meet Luke & Lauren Smallcomb: Trauma coaches living in Thailand 02:58 – Lauren’s journey from nursing to trauma & brain healing through neuroplasticity 04:08 – What is neuroplasticity & how does trauma impact the brain? 05:50 – Luke’s path to counseling & the impact of neuroscience on his practice 09:54 – Starting their own practice, Flourish Therapy 13:29 – How lived experience changes how you show up professionally 14:04 – Having a better understanding of neurodiversity. Moving away from a disease model 15:37 – Lauren and Luke open up about their own marriage 16:42 – Understanding capacity in a neurodiverse relationship 17:40 – Luke shares early misunderstandings from masking and social fatigue 18:18 – How rejection sensitivity dysphoria (RSD) affected their communication 22:05 – Attachment styles & the over-/under-functioning dynamic 27:12 – Stay tuned for Part 2 in the next episode! More About Luke & Lauren Luke is a Mental Health Practitioner, and Lauren is a Mind-Body Practitioner. The heart of their work is guiding folks who have experienced trauma out of dysregulation and chronic symptoms into joy, connection, and whole-body abundance. Their work is neuro-affirming and abuse-informed. Together, they cohost the Filled to Flourish podcast, where they explore the complex journey of healing and wholeness, especially for those whose lives haven’t been what they expected. Luke and Lauren live with their kids and dogs in Chiang Mai, Thailand. https://flourishtherapy.co/ ___________________ 👩‍💼 Hi, I'm #JodiCarlton !! I am a seasoned professional with 20+ years of experience as a therapist and relationship coach specializing in neurodiverse relationships. I AM NEURODIVERGENT: I discovered as an adult that I am #ADHD, and I was married to an autistic man for 19 years. I also had other neurodiverse romantic relationships and have an autistic daughter and an ADHD son. Through the years, I have realized that my entire extended family is neurodivergent. My relationships with neurodiverse family and friends have been my personal training ground for understanding and helping partners and couples in their own relationships. Below are some of the neurodivergent resources I offer: 💬 TRY THE NEW NEUROTRANSLATOR APP! Use Code "JODI" to Save 30% https://neurotranslator.ai A client once told me "I need JodiGPT." Well, this is as close as you're gonna get. This app provides a detailed explanation of each neurotype's expectations and perspectives on any situation you're in. Use it in your relationships to minimize conflict and understand each other better! Developed by Michael Daniel who is autistic and wanted help in his own neurodiverse marriage. 💻 QUIZZES: https://jodicarlton.com/take-a-quiz/ Take free quizzes about neurodivergence, autism, toxic relationship dynamics, and learn which resources will benefit you the most. 🤩 CONSULTATIONS/COACHING: https://jodicarlton.com/private-coaching/ I coach individuals, couples, and families worldwide using a solution-focused approach that results in life-altering answers and real change. 🎙 PODCAST: https://jodicarlton.com/podcast Listen to the "YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship" podcast. It's been downloaded in over 70 countries on your favorite podcast platform. You can also watch it here on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@JodiCarlton/podcasts 💁‍♀️ COURSES: https://jodicarlton.com/courses Work at your own pace in my self-study courses. Gain access to the world's first communication model that facilitates life-altering clarity and change. Discover if your partner or relationship is toxic and unsafe. 📖 BLOG: https://jodicarlton.com/blog Browse through articles about executive functioning, masking, narcissism, communication, and so much more. Don’t forget to like, share, and subscribe for more insights on neurodiversity! Don’t forget to like, share, and subscribe for more insights on #neurodiversity! 📱 Connect with me: LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jodicarlton
	How to Make a Neurodiverse Relationship Work \| Expert Panel Insights & Strategies	02 avr. 2025	00:38:08
Can Neurodiverse Relationships Work? 💙 In this episode, a panel of neurodiverse relationship experts—therapists, coaches, and authors—share real insights and proven strategies to help neurodiverse couples thrive. What You’ll Learn: 👉 Success stories from neurodiverse couples 👉 How nervous system regulation impacts relationships 👉 The role of language, expectations & teamwork 👉 Key strategies for overcoming challenges Meet the Experts in This Episode: 🔹 Laura Schreiner – Licensed counselor (IL) specializing in neurodivergent individuals & couples. https://www.laurasnc.com/ 🔹 Jana Smith – Resilience & nervous system coach, expert in chronic illness & Cassandra Syndrome recovery. https://www.janamsmith.com/ 🔹 Natalie Roberts – Award-winning neurodiverse relationship coach, co-founder of Loving Difference & co-host of Myth Busting Neurodiverse Relationships. https://natalieroberts.com/ 🔹 Heather Parks – Somatic coach specializing in neurodiverse families, co-host of Loving Difference & Myth Busting Neurodiverse Relationships. https://heatherparks.co.uk/ 🔹 Mona Kay, MSW, Ph.D. – Host of Neurodiverse Love Podcast, creator of Neurodiverse Love Conversation Cards & Workbook, and organizer of the Neurodiverse Love Conference. https://www.neurodiverselove.com/ 🔹 Heidi Hackney – ICF-certified coach, mentor, & co-founder of Autistic Voiceover Artists (AVA), supporting autistic adults in the voiceover industry. https://thecan-docoach.com/ 🔹 Dr. Stephanie C. Holmes – Autism researcher, ordained minister, author of Uniquely Us, and host of Neurodiverse Christian Couples Podcast. https://www.holmesasr.com/ 🔹 Robin Tate, M.A., M.S., BCC, ACC, CAS – Neurodiverse couples coach, certified autism specialist, and founder of Robin Tate LLC. https://www.robintatellc.com/ 🔹 Barbara Grant, MMFT, CAS, NDCC – Neurodiverse couples coach, co-host of Neurodiverse Couples Coaches Corner, and co-author of Uniquely Us. https://bg-hc.com/ 🔹 Debbie King – Counselor specializing in neurodiverse relationships, trauma, & toxic family dynamics, offering global support via Zoom. https://www.facebook.com/WellingboroughCounsellor/ 🔹 David Glick – Founder of Triad Psych in Marietta, GA, a clinic specializing in neurodiversity, learning disabilities, and ADHD. Former special education teacher with a Master's in Special Ed and Social Work, he has worked in the mental health field for over 20 years. https://triadpsych.org/ 🔔 Subscribe & Follow for expert insights, personal stories, and actionable relationship advice. ___________________ 👩‍💼 Hi, I'm #JodiCarlton !! I am a seasoned professional with 20+ years of experience as a therapist and relationship coach specializing in neurodiverse relationships. I AM NEURODIVERGENT: I discovered as an adult that I am #ADHD, and I was married to an autistic man for 19 years. I also had other neurodiverse romantic relationships and have an autistic daughter and an ADHD son. Through the years, I have realized that my entire extended family is neurodivergent. My relationships with neurodiverse family and friends have been my personal training ground for understanding and helping partners and couples in their own relationships. Below are some of the neurodivergent resources I offer: 💬 TRY THE NEW NEUROTRANSLATOR APP! https://neurotranslator.ai A client once told me "I need JodiGPT." Well, this is as close as you're gonna get. This app provides a detailed explanation of each neurotype's expectations and perspectives on any situation you're in. Use it in your relationships to minimize conflict and understand each other better! Developed by Michael Daniel who is autistic and wanted help in his own neurodiverse marriage. 💻 QUIZZES: https://jodicarlton.com/take-a-quiz/ Take free quizzes about neurodivergence, autism, toxic relationship dynamics, and learn which resources will benefit you the most. 🤩 CONSULTATIONS/COACHING: https://jodicarlton.com/private-coaching/ I coach individuals, couples, and families worldwide using a solution-focused approach that results in life-altering answers and real change. 🎙 PODCAST: https://jodicarlton.com/podcast Listen to the "YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship" podcast. It's been downloaded in over 70 countries on your favorite podcast platform . You can also watch it here on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@JodiCarlton/podcasts 💁‍♀️ COURSES: https://jodicarlton.com/courses Work at your own pace in my self-study courses. Gain access to the world's first communication model that facilitates life-altering clarity and change. Discover if your partner or relationship is toxic and unsafe. 📖 BLOG: https://jodicarlton.com/blog Browse through articles about executive functioning, masking, narcissism, communication, and so much more. Don’t forget to like, share, and subscribe for more insights on neurodiversity! 📱 Connect with me: LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jodicarlton
	Can AI Save Neurodiverse Relationships? The NeuroTranslator Tool	19 mars 2025	00:43:18
In part two of this inspiring episode, we continue our conversation with Michael & Elise Daniel and special guest Mona Kay, host of the Neurodiverse Love Podcast 🎙️, about an incredible AI-powered tool transforming neurodiverse relationships: NeuroTranslator 🧠💬 Michael, the creator of the NeuroTranslator Tool (formerly The Autistic Translator), shares how he developed this tool to help neurodiverse couples bridge communication gaps. We dive deep into how the NeuroTranslator Tool can translate misunderstandings, reduce conflict, and foster empathy in relationships where one or both partners are #autistic, #ADHD, or #neurotypical—turning frustration into connection. 📌 What You’ll Learn in This Episode: 👉 The inspiration behind the NeuroTranslator Tool 👉 How the tool helps neurodiverse couples overcome misunderstandings 👉 Real-life success stories of how it’s used in Michael and Elise’s marriage 👉 Insights from Mona Kay on how tools like this can support neurodiverse love Whether you’re in a neurodiverse relationship or simply interested in how technology can enhance emotional connection, this episode is packed with actionable takeaways and inspiration. 🌟 Try NeuroTranslator today and save 30% with promo code "JODI": https://neurotranslator.ai Did you miss Episode 1 of the Podcast? Watch it here: https://youtu.be/F9FgwHSSgcA?feature=shared Don’t forget to like, comment, and subscribe for more episodes! 🔔 #autismandlove #adhdrelationships #communicationtools #relationshipadvice #neurodiversitytools ___________________ 👩‍💼 Hi, I'm #JodiCarlton !! I am a seasoned professional with 20+ years of experience as a therapist and relationship coach specializing in neurodiverse relationships. I AM NEURODIVERGENT: I discovered as an adult that I am #ADHD, and I was married to an autistic man for 19 years. I also had other neurodiverse romantic relationships and have an autistic daughter and an ADHD son. Through the years, I have realized that my entire extended family is neurodivergent. My relationships with neurodiverse family and friends have been my personal training ground for understanding and helping partners and couples in their own relationships. Below are some of the neurodivergent resources I offer: 💬 TRY THE NEW NEUROTRANSLATOR APP! https://neurotranslator.ai A client once told me "I need JodiGPT." Well, this is as close as you're gonna get. This app provides a detailed explanation of each neurotype's expectations and perspectives on any situation you're in. Use it in your relationships to minimize conflict and understand each other better! Developed by Michael Daniel who is autistic and wanted help in his own neurodiverse marriage. 💻 QUIZZES: https://jodicarlton.com/take-a-quiz/ Take free quizzes about neurodivergence, autism, toxic relationship dynamics, and learn which resources will benefit you the most. 🤩 CONSULTATIONS/COACHING: https://jodicarlton.com/private-coaching/ I coach individuals, couples, and families worldwide using a solution-focused approach that results in life-altering answers and real change. 🎙 PODCAST: https://jodicarlton.com/podcast Listen to the "YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship" podcast. It's been downloaded in over 70 countries on your favorite podcast platform. You can also watch it here on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@JodiCarlton/podcasts 💁‍♀️ COURSES: https://jodicarlton.com/courses Work at your own pace in my self-study courses. Gain access to the world's first communication model that facilitates life-altering clarity and change. Discover if your partner or relationship is toxic and unsafe. 📖 BLOG: https://jodicarlton.com/blog Browse through articles about executive functioning, masking, narcissism, communication, and so much more. Don’t forget to like, share, and subscribe for more insights on neurodiversity! 📱 Connect with me: LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jodicarlton
	He Built an AI App to Save His Neurodiverse Marriage (And It Went Viral)	05 mars 2025	00:28:01
Welcome to Season 5! Michael Daniel didn't discover he was autistic until his mid-30s. What followed—unmasking, burnout, and a cascade of miscommunications with his neurotypical wife Elise—almost cost them their marriage. So he built something: the NeuroTranslator, an AI app that bridges the communication gap between autistic, ADHD, AuDHD, and neurotypical partners. In this episode, Jodi and Mona Kay sit down with Michael and Elise to talk about late autism diagnosis, the painful unmasking process, and what it really looks like to fight for a neurodiverse relationship. This is Part 1 of our conversation. Tune into Part 2 to hear how the tool works and how it's already changing relationships worldwide. 🔗 Links & Resources Mentioned in This Episode ▸ NeuroTranslator ▸ Divergent Mind by Jenara Nerenberg ▸ Mona Kay / Neurodiverse Love Podcast 👉 Explore FREE resources, quizzes, articles, and courses on my website 👩🏼‍💻 Work with me 📩 Contact my team: gethelp@jodicarlton.com
	Why CoDependency Happens in Neurodiverse Relationships Pt 2	24 févr. 2025	00:09:56
This is Part 2 of my two-part series on #codependency in #neurodiverserelationships. In this video, I dive into why codependency tends to develop in these relationships and how you can start breaking the cycle. If you haven't watched Part 1, where I discuss the 6 signs of codependency, be sure to check it out first: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BlcRXJG3Uck 💡 Topics Covered in This Video: 00:30 Executive dysfunction and imbalance in shared responsibilities 01:57 Hyperfocus on harmony and avoiding conflict 02:25 Childhood conditioning and the role of peacemaking behaviors 04:05 Societal pressure to "fix" or normalize a partner’s behaviors 05:09 The two-way dynamic of taking on too much vs. avoiding responsibility 05:45 How to set healthy boundaries and encourage shared responsibility 07:52 Prioritizing self-care, open communication, and relationship balance 🛠️ Want to improve communication and reduce codependent behaviors? Check out my communication course at https://jodicarlton.com/courses/ 🔔 Comment below with your thoughts and experiences—I’d love to hear from you! And if this video helps, like, subscribe, and hit the notification bell so you don’t miss future content. 💙 ____________________________ 👩‍💼 Hi, I'm #JodiCarlton !! I am a seasoned professional with 20+ years of experience as a therapist and relationship coach specializing in neurodiverse relationships. I AM NEURODIVERGENT: I discovered as an adult that I am #ADHD, and I was married to an autistic man for 19 years. I also had other neurodiverse romantic relationships and have an autistic daughter and an ADHD son. Through the years, I have realized that my entire extended family is neurodivergent. My relationships with neurodiverse family and friends have been my personal training ground for understanding and helping partners and couples in their own relationships. Below are some of the neurodivergent resources I offer: 💬 TRY THE NEW NEUROTRANSLATOR APP! A client once told me "I need JodiGPT." Well, this is as close as you're gonna get. This app provides a detailed explanation of each neurotype's expectations and perspectives on any situation you're in. Use it in your relationships to minimize conflict and understand each other better! Developed by Michael Daniel who is autistic and wanted help in his own neurodiverse marriage. 💻 QUIZZES: https://jodicarlton.com/take-a-quiz/ Take free quizzes about neurodivergence, autism, toxic relationship dynamics, and learn which resources will benefit you the most. 🤩 CONSULTATIONS/COACHING: https://jodicarlton.com/private-coaching/ I coach individuals, couples, and families worldwide using a solution-focused approach that results in life-altering answers and real change. 🎙️ PODCAST: https://jodicarlton.com/podcast Listen to the "YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship" podcast. It's been downloaded in over 70 countries on your favorite podcast platform . You can also watch it here on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@JodiCarlton/podcasts 💁‍♀️ COURSES: https://jodicarlton.com/courses Work at your own pace in my self-study courses. Gain access to the world's first communication model that facilitates life-altering clarity and change. Discover if your partner or relationship is toxic and unsafe. 📖 BLOG: https://jodicarlton.com/blog Browse through articles about executive functioning, masking, narcissism, communication, and so much more. Don’t forget to like, share, and subscribe for more insights on neurodiversity! Don’t forget to like, share, and subscribe for more insights on #neurodiversity! 📱 Connect with me: LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jodicarlton
	6 Signs of Codependency in Neurodiverse Relationships Pt 1 of 2	17 févr. 2025	00:07:07
Codependency is a common yet often misunderstood pattern in neurodiverse relationships. In this video, Jodi Carlton, a neurodiverse relationship expert, explores six key signs of codependency in neurodiverse couples, how these dynamics develop, and why recognizing them is the first step toward building a healthier, more balanced relationship. 💡 Key Topics Covered: 01:30 Overcompensating for Executive Dysfunction 02:18 Emotional Over-Responsibility 02:55 Avoiding Personal Needs 03:36 Caretaking Instead of Partnership 04:00 The Cycle of Resentment and Guilt 04:54 Overexplaining in Relationships 06:40 Check Out Part 2: Why Codependency Happens in Neurodiverse Relationships https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Tsx3y8Jhhpc Whether one or both partners are #autistic, #ADHD, or otherwise neurodivergent, understanding these dynamics can help partners establish better boundaries, healthier communication, and mutual respect. 🔔 Watch Part 2 to dive deeper into why codependency develops in neurodiverse relationships and how to break the cycle: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Tsx3y8Jhhpc Don't forget to like, subscribe, and turn on notifications so you don’t miss future insights! ____________________________ 👩‍💼 Hi, I'm #JodiCarlton !! I am a seasoned professional with 20+ years of experience as a therapist and relationship coach specializing in neurodiverse relationships. I AM NEURODIVERGENT: I discovered as an adult that I am #ADHD, and I was married to an autistic man for 19 years. I also had other neurodiverse romantic relationships and have an autistic daughter and an ADHD son. Through the years, I have realized that my entire extended family is neurodivergent. My relationships with neurodiverse family and friends have been my personal training ground for understanding and helping partners and couples in their own relationships. Below are some of the neurodivergent resources I offer: 💬 TRY THE NEW NEUROTRANSLATOR APP! A client once told me "I need JodiGPT." Well, this is as close as you're gonna get. This app provides a detailed explanation of each neurotype's expectations and perspectives on any situation you're in. Use it in your relationships to minimize conflict and understand each other better! Developed by Michael Daniel who is autistic and wanted help in his own neurodiverse marriage. 💻 QUIZZES: https://jodicarlton.com/take-a-quiz/ Take free quizzes about neurodivergence, autism, toxic relationship dynamics, and learn which resources will benefit you the most. 🤩 CONSULTATIONS/COACHING: https://jodicarlton.com/private-coaching/ I coach individuals, couples, and families worldwide using a solution-focused approach that results in life-altering answers and real change. 🎙️ PODCAST: https://jodicarlton.com/podcast Listen to the "YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship" podcast. It's been downloaded in over 70 countries on your favorite podcast platform . You can also watch it here on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@JodiCarlton/podcasts 💁‍♀️ COURSES: https://jodicarlton.com/courses Work at your own pace in my self-study courses. Gain access to the world's first communication model that facilitates life-altering clarity and change. Discover if your partner or relationship is toxic and unsafe. 📖 BLOG: https://jodicarlton.com/blog Browse through articles about executive functioning, masking, narcissism, communication, and so much more. Don’t forget to like, share, and subscribe for more insights on neurodiversity! Don’t forget to like, share, and subscribe for more insights on #neurodiversity! 📱 Connect with me: LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jodicarlton
	Navigating Valentine’s Day in a Neurodiverse Relationship – Expectations & Communication Tips	10 févr. 2025	00:35:54
Valentine’s Day can bring excitement, pressure, or even confusion—especially in a neurodiverse relationship! Whether you’re neurotypical, autistic, or have ADHD, understanding and communicating expectations for this day can make all the difference. In this episode, I’ll walk you through: ✅ How neurodivergent and neurotypical partners may approach Valentine’s Day differently ✅ Common misunderstandings and emotional triggers ✅ Practical strategies for clear, pressure-free communication ✅ How to create a celebration (or skip it!) in a way that works for both of you 🔔 Don’t forget to subscribe for more insights into neurodiverse relationships! #NeurodiverseRelationships #ValentinesDay #CommunicationTips #Autism #ADHD #Relationships #JodiCarlton ____________________________ 👩‍💼 Hi, I'm #JodiCarlton !! I am a seasoned professional with 20+ years of experience as a therapist and relationship coach specializing in neurodiverse relationships. I AM NEURODIVERGENT: I discovered as an adult that I am #ADHD, and I was married to an autistic man for 19 years. I also had other neurodiverse romantic relationships and have an autistic daughter and an ADHD son. Through the years, I have realized that my entire extended family is neurodivergent. My relationships with neurodiverse family and friends have been my personal training ground for understanding and helping partners and couples in their own relationships. Below are some of the neurodivergent resources I offer: 💬 TRY THE NEW NEUROTRANSLATOR APP! A client once told me "I need JodiGPT." Well, this is as close as you're gonna get. This app provides a detailed explanation of each neurotype's expectations and perspectives on any situation you're in. Use it in your relationships to minimize conflict and understand each other better! Developed by Michael Daniel who is autistic and wanted help in his own neurodiverse marriage. 💻 QUIZZES: https://jodicarlton.com/take-a-quiz/ Take free quizzes about neurodivergence, autism, toxic relationship dynamics, and learn which resources will benefit you the most. 🤩 CONSULTATIONS/COACHING: https://jodicarlton.com/private-coaching/ I coach individuals, couples, and families worldwide using a solution-focused approach that results in life-altering answers and real change. 🎙️ PODCAST: https://jodicarlton.com/podcast Listen to the "YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship" podcast. It's been downloaded in over 70 countries on your favorite podcast platform . You can also watch it here on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@JodiCarlton/podcasts 💁‍♀️ COURSES: https://jodicarlton.com/courses Work at your own pace in my self-study courses. Gain access to the world's first communication model that facilitates life-altering clarity and change. Discover if your partner or relationship is toxic and unsafe. 📖 BLOG: https://jodicarlton.com/blog Browse through articles about executive functioning, masking, narcissism, communication, and so much more. Don’t forget to like, share, and subscribe for more insights on neurodiversity! Don’t forget to like, share, and subscribe for more insights on #neurodiversity! 📱 Connect with me: LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jodicarlton
	Neurodiversity-Friendly New Year’s Resolutions: Start 2025 with Success!	05 janv. 2025	00:18:34
Are you tired of traditional New Year’s resolutions that feel overwhelming or unrealistic? In this video, I’ll guide you through creating neurodiversity-friendly resolutions tailored to your unique strengths, challenges, and goals. Whether you’re neurodivergent yourself or supporting someone who is, these strategies will help you design resolutions that are achievable, empowering, and sustainable. We’ll cover: ✔️ Breaking big goals into manageable steps ✔️ Using visual aids and reminders to stay on track ✔️ Prioritizing self-compassion over perfection ✔️ Embracing your strengths and working with your brain, not against it 💬 What are your goals for 2025? Share them in the comments below! 📺 Don’t forget to LIKE, SUBSCRIBE, and hit the 🔔 for more tips on thriving in neurodiverse relationships and daily life. Let’s make 2025 your most authentic and fulfilling year yet! 🌟 #Neurodiversity #NewYearsResolutions #Neurodivergent #ADHD #Autism #GoalSetting #selfgrowth ___________________ 👩‍💼 Hi, I'm #JodiCarlton !! I am a seasoned professional with 20+ years of experience as a therapist and relationship coach specializing in neurodiverse relationships. I AM NEURODIVERGENT: I discovered as an adult that I am #ADHD, and I was married to an autistic man for 19 years. I also had other neurodiverse romantic relationships and have an autistic daughter and an ADHD son. Through the years, I have realized that my entire extended family is neurodivergent. My relationships with neurodiverse family and friends have been my personal training ground for understanding and helping partners and couples in their own relationships. Below are some of the neurodivergent resources I offer: TRY THE NEW NEUROTRANSLATOR APP! A client once told me "I need JodiGPT." Well, this is as close as you're gonna get. This app provides a detailed explanation of each neurotype's expectations and perspectives on any situation you're in. Use it in your relationships to minimize conflict and understand each other better! Developed by Michael Daniel who is autistic and wanted help in his own neurodiverse marriage. 💻 QUIZZES: https://jodicarlton.com/take-a-quiz/ Take free quizzes about neurodivergence, autism, toxic relationship dynamics, and learn which resources will benefit you the most. 🤩 CONSULTATIONS/COACHING: https://jodicarlton.com/private-coaching/ I coach individuals, couples, and families worldwide using a solution-focused approach that results in life-altering answers and real change. 💁‍♀️ COURSES: https://jodicarlton.com/courses Work at your own pace in my self-study courses. Gain access to the world's first communication model that facilitates life-altering clarity and change. Discover if your partner or relationship is toxic and unsafe. 📖 BLOG: https://jodicarlton.com/blog Browse through articles about executive functioning, masking, narcissism, communication, and so much more. Don’t forget to like, share, and subscribe for more insights on neurodiversity! Don’t forget to like, share, and subscribe for more insights on #neurodiversity! 📱 FOLLOW ME and SUBSCRIBE: YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@JodiCarlton Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/groups/neurodiverserelationships LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jodicarlton
	Tackling the Holidays - with Ashley and Randall	04 déc. 2024	00:08:14
The holidays can be challenging, especially in neurodiverse relationships. ☃️🎄🎅 In this sneak peek from my upcoming podcast season, Your Neurodiverse Relationship, I sit down with Ashley and Randall, a #neurodiversecouple, to talk about how they navigate #holidaystress ✨ From managing routines and avoiding surprises to creating backup plans and recovery days, Ashley and Randall share life-changing tips that have transformed their holidays and strengthened their relationship. Whether it’s using a code word like “mistletoe” to signal overwhelm or planning ahead for the unexpected, their insights are sure to inspire you. 🌟 Key Takeaways: 0:00 – Introduction: Sneak Peek of Podcast Season 5 1:01 – Meet Ashley and Randall: Tackling Holiday Challenges 1:22 – Why Surprises Are Stressful for Autistic Partners 2:33 – Gifts and Uncertainty: Finding Solutions 🎁 3:30 – The Importance of Routine During the Holidays 4:30 – Life Hack: Plan A, Plan B, Plan C for Social Events 5:30 – Using Code Words to Manage Overwhelm (e.g., "Mistletoe") 6:10 – Recovery Days: Essential for Managing Post-Holiday Stress 🛋️ 7:12 – Jodi’s Holiday Course and Resources 👉 Don’t forget to subscribe to my channel and follow my podcast to catch the full episode when it airs next year! Need help navigating the holidays now? Check out my ‘Pay What You Can Afford’ Holiday Stress Buster Toolkit at https://jodicarlton.com/courses/ . . . 👩‍💼 Hi, I'm #JodiCarlton !! I am a seasoned professional with 20+ years of experience as a therapist and relationship coach specializing in neurodiverse relationships. I AM NEURODIVERGENT: I discovered as an adult that I am #ADHD, and I was married to an #autistic man for 19 years. I also had other neurodiverse romantic relationships and have an autistic daughter and an ADHD son. Through the years, I have realized that my entire extended family is neurodivergent. My relationships with neurodiverse family and friends have been my personal training ground for understanding and helping partners and couples in their own relationships. Below are some of the neurodivergent resources I offer: 💬 TRY THE NEW AUTISTIC TRANSLATOR TOOL! https://autistictranslator.com/?via=jodi Provides a detailed explanation of each neurotype's expectations and perspectives on any situation you enter at the prompt. Developed by Michael Daniel, who is autistic and wanted help in his own neurodiverse relationships. 💻 QUIZZES: https://jodicarlton.com/take-a-quiz/ Take free quizzes about neurodivergence, autism, and toxic relationship dynamics, and learn which resources will benefit you the most. 🤩 CONSULTATIONS/COACHING: https://jodicarlton.com/private-coaching/ I coach individuals, couples, and families worldwide using a solution-focused approach that results in life-altering answers and real change. 🎙️ PODCAST: https://jodicarlton.com/podcast Listen to the "YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship" podcast. It's been downloaded in over 70 countries on your favorite podcast platform. You can also watch it here on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@JodiCarlton/podcasts 💁‍♀️ COURSES: https://jodicarlton.com/courses Work at your own pace in my self-study courses. Gain access to the world's first communication model that facilitates life-altering clarity and change. Discover if your partner or relationship is toxic and unsafe. 📖 BLOG: https://jodicarlton.com/blog Browse through articles about executive functioning, masking, narcissism, communication, and so much more. Don’t forget to like, share, and subscribe for more insights on #neurodiversity! 📱 FOLLOW ME and SUBSCRIBE: YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@JodiCarlton Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/groups/neurodiverserelationships LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jodicarlton
	Can Autistic Individuals Have Cassandra Syndrome?	22 oct. 2024	00:11:59
Neurodiverse relationship expert Jodi Carlton discusses how #CassandraSyndrome affects autistic partners in #neurodiverserelationships. She emphasizes the importance of understanding both neurotypical and autistic experiences, highlighting that trauma can impact either partner. Learn about the double empathy problem, emotional isolation, and how these challenges can shape relationships. 00:00 Introduction: Cassandra Syndrome in Neurodiverse Relationships 01:03 Purpose of the Channel: Uniting, Not Dividing 02:28 Overview of Cassandra Syndrome 04:24 Addressing First Comment - "I'm a late diagnosed autistic woman married to a non-autistic man..." 04:44 Affirming the Autistic Experience of Trauma 05:36 Not All Partners (ND or NT) Experience Trauma 06:02 Addressing Second Comment - "Yeah. I definitely see this happening infinitely more for the autistic than the neurotypical..." 06:36 Us vs. Them 07:20 Let's Understand Each Other. Both Partners Can Experience Trauma 08:30 Addressing Last Comment - "In my experience, it not only depends on the cognitive empathy or the theory of mind and general emotional intelligence of the autistic partner but also the level..." 11:12 Final Thoughts: Cassandra Syndrome and Autistic Trauma 11:55 Share Your Experience in the Comments 👩‍💼 Hi, I'm #JodiCarlton !! I am a seasoned professional with 20+ years of experience as a therapist and relationship coach specializing in neurodiverse relationships. I AM NEURODIVERGENT: I discovered as an adult that I am #ADHD, and I was married to an autistic man for 19 years. I also had other neurodiverse romantic relationships and have an autistic daughter and an ADHD son. Through the years, I have realized that my entire extended family is neurodivergent. My relationships with neurodiverse family and friends have been my personal training ground for understanding and helping partners and couples in their own relationships. Below are some of the neurodivergent resources I offer: 💬 TRY THE NEW AUTISTIC TRANSLATOR TOOL! https://autistictranslator.com/?via=jodi Provides a detailed explanation of each neurotype's expectations and perspectives on any situation you enter at the prompt. Developed by Michael Daniel, who is autistic and wanted help in his own neurodiverse relationships. 💻 QUIZZES: https://jodicarlton.com/take-a-quiz/ Take free quizzes about neurodivergence, autism, and toxic relationship dynamics, and learn which resources will benefit you the most. 🤩 CONSULTATIONS/COACHING: https://jodicarlton.com/private-coaching/ I coach individuals, couples, and families worldwide using a solution-focused approach that results in life-altering answers and real change. 🎙️ PODCAST: https://jodicarlton.com/podcast Listen to the "YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship" podcast. It's been downloaded in over 70 countries on your favorite podcast platform. You can also watch it here on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@JodiCarlton/podcasts 💁‍♀️ COURSES: https://jodicarlton.com/courses Work at your own pace in my self-study courses. Gain access to the world's first communication model that facilitates life-altering clarity and change. Discover if your partner or relationship is toxic and unsafe. 📖 BLOG: https://jodicarlton.com/blog Browse through articles about executive functioning, masking, narcissism, communication, and so much more. Don’t forget to like, share, and subscribe for more insights on #neurodiversity! 📱 FOLLOW ME and SUBSCRIBE: YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@JodiCarlton Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/thejodicarlton Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thejodicarlton TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thejodicarlton LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jodicarlton
	Autism & Dating: 6 Signs It's Time to End a Dating Relationship	03 oct. 2024	00:28:39
In this solo podcast episode, #JodiCarlton delves into the intricacies of dating for both #autistic individuals and #neurotypicals dating someone on the spectrum. Drawing from my experiences with long-term couples, she emphasizes the importance of recognizing red flags early on in relationships. Key topics include the dangers of not being your authentic self, patterns of harmful behavior, boundary issues, and intimacy misalignments. She also addresses the concept of capacity and developmental stunting in autistic partners and how these can manifest in relationships. Additionally, she explores common justifications for staying in unhealthy relationships and the critical mistake of falling for someone's potential rather than their current reality. This episode is a must-listen for anyone navigating the dating world, particularly in neurodiverse contexts, and provides valuable insights for setting up future generations for success in their relationships. 00:00 Introduction to Dating and Relationships 00:58 Recognizing Red Flags in Relationships 01:40 You've Become a Different Person 02:25 Understanding Codependency 04:03 Behavioral Patterns and Apologies 05:54 Communicating Boundaries Effectively 07:45 Intimacy and Alignment in Relationships 10:52 Emotional Availability and Capacity 12:49 Adolescent Development and Responsibility 18:27 Justifying Staying in a Relationship 28:00 Concluding Thoughts and Advice . . . . 👩‍💼 Hi, I'm #JodiCarlton !! I am a seasoned professional with 20+ years of experience as a therapist and relationship coach specializing in neurodiverse relationships. I AM NEURODIVERGENT: I discovered as an adult that I am #ADHD, and I was married to an autistic man for 19 years. I also had other neurodiverse romantic relationships and have an autistic daughter and an ADHD son. Through the years, I have realized that my entire extended family is neurodivergent. My relationships with neurodiverse family and friends have been my personal training ground for understanding and helping partners and couples in their own relationships. Below are some of the neurodivergent resources I offer: 💬 TRY THE NEW AUTISTIC TRANSLATOR TOOL! https://autistictranslator.com/?via=jodi Provides a detailed explanation of each neurotype's expectations and perspectives on any situation you enter at the prompt. Developed by Michael Daniel, who is autistic and wanted help in his own neurodiverse relationships. 💻 QUIZZES: https://jodicarlton.com/take-a-quiz/ Take free quizzes about neurodivergence, autism, and toxic relationship dynamics, and learn which resources will benefit you the most. 🤩 CONSULTATIONS/COACHING: https://jodicarlton.com/private-coaching/ I coach individuals, couples, and families worldwide using a solution-focused approach that results in life-altering answers and real change. 🎙️ PODCAST: https://jodicarlton.com/podcast Listen to the "YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship" podcast. It's been downloaded in over 70 countries on your favorite podcast platform. You can also watch it here on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@JodiCarlton/podcasts 💁‍♀️ COURSES: https://jodicarlton.com/courses Work at your own pace in my self-study courses. Gain access to the world's first communication model that facilitates life-altering clarity and change. Discover if your partner or relationship is toxic and unsafe. 📖 BLOG: https://jodicarlton.com/blog Browse through articles about executive functioning, masking, narcissism, communication, and so much more. Don’t forget to like, share, and subscribe for more insights on #neurodiversity! 📱 FOLLOW ME and SUBSCRIBE: YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@JodiCarlton Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/thejodicarlton Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thejodicarlton TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thejodicarlton LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jodicarlton
	Cassandra Syndrome: Signs, Symptoms, and Strategies for Neurotypical Partners	26 sept. 2024	00:21:25
#CassandraSyndrome is not an official diagnosis but is a descriptive term that refers to emotional pain and isolation experienced by a partner in an autistic-neurotypical relationship when their concerns, wishes, and experiences are overlooked or dismissed. Whether you're seeking clarity or looking for ways to strengthen your #neurodiverse relationship, this video provides valuable insights and support. Check out our recent blog: https://jodicarlton.com/understanding-cassandra-syndrome-neurotypical-autistic-relationships/ 00:00 Introduction to Cassandra Syndrome 00:08 Understanding Cassandra Syndrome 00:37 Neurodivergent Relationships and Brain Differences 03:03 Communication Challenges in Neurodiverse Relationships 03:57 The Impact of Miscommunication 04:20 Cassandra Syndrome - Rooted in Greek Mythology 04:54 Emotional and Physical Effects on Neurotypical Partners 07:29 Why Autism Can Seem Like Narcissism 08:03 Impact Over Time 13:37 Healing from Cassandra Syndrome 13:44 Learn About Autism 14:43 Self-Care 16:13 Codependency in Your Relationship 18:06 Communication Skills Training 19:10 5 Ways to Heal from Cassandra Syndrome 20:52 Conclusion and Resources . . . 👩‍💼 Hi, I'm #JodiCarlton !! I am a seasoned professional with 20+ years of experience as a therapist and relationship coach specializing in neurodiverse relationships. I AM NEURODIVERGENT: I discovered as an adult that I am #ADHD, and I was married to an autistic man for 19 years. I also had other neurodiverse romantic relationships and have an autistic daughter and an ADHD son. Through the years, I have realized that my entire extended family is neurodivergent. My relationships with neurodiverse family and friends have been my personal training ground for understanding and helping partners and couples in their own relationships. Below are some of the neurodivergent resources I offer: 💬 TRY THE NEW AUTISTIC TRANSLATOR TOOL! https://autistictranslator.com/?via=jodi Provides a detailed explanation of each neurotype's expectations and perspectives on any situation you enter at the prompt. Developed by Michael Daniel, who is autistic and wanted help in his own neurodiverse relationships. 💻 QUIZZES: https://jodicarlton.com/take-a-quiz/ Take free quizzes about neurodivergence, autism, and toxic relationship dynamics, and learn which resources will benefit you the most. 🤩 CONSULTATIONS/COACHING: https://jodicarlton.com/private-coaching/ I coach individuals, couples, and families worldwide using a solution-focused approach that results in life-altering answers and real change. 🎙️ PODCAST: https://jodicarlton.com/podcast Listen to the "YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship" podcast. It's been downloaded in over 70 countries on your favorite podcast platform. You can also watch it here on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@JodiCarlton/podcasts 💁‍♀️ COURSES: https://jodicarlton.com/courses Work at your own pace in my self-study courses. Gain access to the world's first communication model that facilitates life-altering clarity and change. Discover if your partner or relationship is toxic and unsafe. 📖 BLOG: https://jodicarlton.com/blog Browse through articles about executive functioning, masking, narcissism, communication, and so much more. Don’t forget to like, share, and subscribe for more insights on #neurodiversity! 📱 FOLLOW ME and SUBSCRIBE: YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@JodiCarlton Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/thejodicarlton Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thejodicarlton TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thejodicarlton LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jodicarlton
	Can Neurodiverse Relationships Work?	11 sept. 2024	00:05:07
Join Jodi Carlton, a #neurodiverse relationship expert, as she delves into the complexities of relationships where one or both partners experience life differently due to neurodiversity. Discover whether these relationships can work, the importance of understanding neurodiversity, and the key characteristics that help #neurodiverserelationships thrive. Jodi shares insights on common misunderstandings and the crucial role of communication, offering guidance for couples to navigate their unique dynamics. 00:00 Introduction to Neurodiverse Relationships 01:12 Understanding Neurodiversity in Relationships 01:37 Common Challenges in Neurodiverse Relationships 02:05 Examples of Misunderstandings 03:29 Can Neurodiverse Relationships Work? 04:36 Seeking Professional Help Check out our recent blog on this topic: https://jodicarlton.com/can-neurodiverse-relationships-work/ Here are a few neurodiverse couples who share their lives to help others learn more about neurodiversity and how to make neurodiverse relationships work 😊 https://www.youtube.com/@UCpwzLXW_VSfmKX3SuYXVDLg https://www.youtube.com/@UCerYpTmasyCOuy9WH2qEeCg https://www.youtube.com/@UCEcsiiGYa-LWV6GN48fSynQ 👩‍💼 Hi, I'm #JodiCarlton !! I am a seasoned professional with 20+ years of experience as a therapist and relationship coach specializing in neurodiverse relationships. I AM NEURODIVERGENT: I discovered as an adult that I am #ADHD, and I was married to an autistic man for 19 years. I also had other neurodiverse romantic relationships and have an autistic daughter and an ADHD son. Through the years, I have realized that my entire extended family is neurodivergent. My relationships with neurodiverse family and friends have been my personal training ground for understanding and helping partners and couples in their own relationships. Below are some of the neurodivergent resources I offer: 💬 TRY THE NEW AUTISTIC TRANSLATOR TOOL! https://autistictranslator.com/?via=jodi Provides a detailed explanation of each neurotype's expectations and perspectives on any situation you enter at the prompt. Developed by Michael Daniel, who is autistic and wanted help in his own neurodiverse relationships. 💻 QUIZZES: https://jodicarlton.com/take-a-quiz/ Take free quizzes about neurodivergence, autism, and toxic relationship dynamics, and learn which resources will benefit you the most. 🤩 CONSULTATIONS/COACHING: https://jodicarlton.com/private-coaching/ I coach individuals, couples, and families worldwide using a solution-focused approach that results in life-altering answers and real change. 🎙️ PODCAST: https://jodicarlton.com/podcast Listen to the "YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship" podcast. It's been downloaded in over 70 countries on your favorite podcast platform. You can also watch it here on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@JodiCarlton/podcasts 💁‍♀️ COURSES: https://jodicarlton.com/courses Work at your own pace in my self-study courses. Gain access to the world's first communication model that facilitates life-altering clarity and change. Discover if your partner or relationship is toxic and unsafe. 📖 BLOG: https://jodicarlton.com/blog Browse through articles about executive functioning, masking, narcissism, communication, and so much more. Don’t forget to like, share, and subscribe for more insights on #neurodiversity! 📱 FOLLOW ME and SUBSCRIBE: YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@JodiCarlton Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/thejodicarlton Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thejodicarlton TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thejodicarlton LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jodicarlton

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