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| #137 - There’s More to Life Than Striving and Achievement w/ Meghan Gifford | 04 août 2026 | 00:35:54 | |
This week, I'm joined by Meghan Gifford - a private guide to founders, visionaries, and leaders who spent a decade in boardrooms working on billion-dollar deals before walking away at the peak of her career. Meghan opens up about her "gold star girl" (the achievement-driven identity she built from childhood) and the moment she realized that all the striving, perfectionism, and control wasn't actually leading to the feeling she was chasing. We talk about what it looks like to loosen the grip without everything falling apart, how to tell whether your choices are coming from fear or from your wise inner self, and the tiny moments of trust that slowly build a different way of living. This conversation is for anyone who's ever tied their worth to their achievements and is curious about what exists on the other side ❣️ Mentioned in This Episode: Additional resources: | |||
| #136 - Expanding Your Capacity for Joy with Taylor Welch | 21 juil. 2026 | 00:41:44 | |
This week, I'm joined by Taylor Welch: a yoga teacher, breathwork facilitator, and coach who blends sacred wisdom with modern science to guide women back to their wholeness. Taylor opens up about the 30-day joy experiment she gave herself after realizing that joy felt genuinely unsafe in her body, and what happened when she decided to let joy lead her decisions instead. We talk about why so many of us are wired to orient toward pain, what gets in the way of actually receiving joy, and the small everyday practices that can start to bring it back💓 Mentioned in This Episode: Additional resources: | |||
| #135 - How to Shift Out of an Emotional Funk | 07 juil. 2026 | 00:25:36 | |
In this week’s episode, I'm getting real about the emotional funk I've been in lately and the framework that helped me start to shift out of it. I'm walking you through the Emotional Triad, a tool that looks at three things that impact our emotional state: our physiology, what we're focused on, and what we're making things mean. I share what this has looked like in my own life recently and the small shifts that have already started to make a difference. This isn't about fixing your emotions, it's about learning to work with them❣️ Additional resources: | |||
| #134 - Getting What You Want Requires Audacity w/ Kira Mathews | 23 juin 2026 | 00:46:41 | |
This week, I'm joined by Kira Matthews - coach, speaker, and the creator of Pitch School. She helps people unlock their most confident selves so they can go after the dreams they once thought were impossible. We dig into the inner critic and how it shows up to keep us small, why asking for what we want is so often harder than it should be, and how reframing rejection can completely shift the way we move through life. This conversation is a reminder that audacity doesn't have to be loud or extreme, sometimes it can be found in doing the little things that we've been putting off❣️ Mentioned in the episode: Additional resources: | |||
| #133 - Healing Anxiety Beyond Talk Therapy with Tori Lutz | 09 juin 2026 | 00:49:14 | |
This week, I'm joined by Tori Lutz, a spinal energetics practitioner and a transformational mindset & somatic coach who spent two decades in talk therapy before discovering that healing her anxiety required getting out of her head and into her body. We talk about why so many of us get stuck intellectualizing our experiences, what it actually means to "feel it to heal it," and the difference between identifying as an anxious person versus simply having moments of anxiety (a shift that has been completely transformative for both of us). This conversation is for anyone who has ever felt like they *know* all the things but nothing is actually changing - and is ready to explore a different way in 🤍 Mentioned in the episode: Additional resources: | |||
| #132 - Do I Still Have Relationship Anxiety? (My Honest Answer) | 19 mai 2026 | 00:17:49 | |
Welcome back!!! 💓 It feels really meaningful to be here again after taking some time away. In this episode, I’m sharing a bit of a life and identity update: what’s been shifting for me over the past year, why I stepped away from the podcast for a period of time, and the honest answer to a question I’ve been getting a lot lately: Do I still experience relationship anxiety? The answer surprised me… and it might surprise you too. In this conversation, I open up about what it actually looks like for me to still have moments of anxiety, while no longer identifying as someone who has relationship anxiety. I talk about the difference between experiencing anxious thoughts and being defined by them, and how my relationship to those moments has completely changed over time. Additional resources: | |||
| #131 - Building Real Wealth Through Our Relationships w/ Sahil Bloom | 30 sept. 2025 | 00:42:30 | |
This week, I’m joined by New York Times bestselling author, entrepreneur, and investor, Sahil Bloom, as he shares the life-changing insights behind his book Five Types of Wealth. We talk about what it really means to design a life that feels rich (far beyond money). Sahil opens up about the wake-up call that shifted his own priorities and the simple daily practices that helped him rebuild around what truly matters. This conversation is a reminder that you don’t have to live by someone else’s definition of success. Small, intentional actions can create profound change. Mentioned in the episode: Additional resources:
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| #130 - I didn't realize how often I stuffed down my real feelings until now... | 23 sept. 2025 | 00:23:24 | |
In this video, I share the 3 patterns I realized were holding me back, and how I’ve been working to reset them during Week 4 of The Artist’s Way (which, let’s be honest, took me way more than a week to get through… 😅).If you’ve been feeling stuck, disconnected from yourself, or just in need of a reset, I hope these reflections give you ideas for ways to reconnect and move forward (even when you don’t have it all figured out). Mentioned in the episode: Additional Resources: | |||
| #129 - Navigating shame and criticism in healthier ways | 16 sept. 2025 | 00:29:33 | |
I’m back for a (slightly delayed) recap of the Artist’s Way Chapter 3 - Recovering a Sense of Power. And to get your power back, Julia Cameron talks about bouncing back from feeling shame (unworthy, I am doing something bad or wrong, I am embarrassed of myself) and bouncing back from criticism (especially when the criticism is not helpful and leads to feeling more shame or ickiness!)—both topics I found SO helpful, especially this week.Later in the video, I get honest about my own feelings of shame this week, my aha moment about some criticism I received this week, and share how daily morning pages + my artist date went this week!Things mentioned in this video:
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| #128 - To Feel More Fulfilled, We Must Release Skepticism and Self-Doubt | 09 sept. 2025 | 00:20:07 | |
Week two explores self-doubt and skepticism as big blocks to living a more creative + fulfilling life, the dangers of surrounding ourselves with people who don’t support our vision, the importance of paying attention to your life to make space for more delight, and gives advice for how to feel proud of ourselves as artists (or people who are healing + growing).I also share my serendipitous story from my Artist Date this week!Thank you for being here!Things mentioned in this video: The Artist’s Way book Additional Resources: | |||
| #127 - Why We Stay Blocked (Even When We Say We Want Change) | 02 sept. 2025 | 00:38:04 | |
I’m back with a recap of Week 1 of The Artist’s Way sharing my key takeaways that go far beyond creativity. This isn’t a book summary, it’s sharing what was most helpful for me because I imagine it will also be helpful for you, too!Week one dips into creating a sense of inner safety (for our inner artists, but also for general life), why we stay blocked even when we say we want to change), the importance of letting ourselves be a beginner (and suck at things), and how to be on our own team instead of self-sabotaging.Stick around to the end where I share my honest review of doing daily morning pages, and what I did for my first ‘Artist Date’ this week!I hope this video encourages you wherever you are in your own creative or personal growth journey + I am rooting for youuuu.Things mentioned in the episode:
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| #126 - When It’s Time to Expand… Even If It’s Scary | 26 août 2025 | 00:34:34 | |
After 5 years of building You Love and You Learn and focusing primarily on relationship anxiety... I’m feeling a pull I can’t ignore any longer! A pull to expand and share other parts of my life outside of feeling anxious in my relationship. More about joy, creativity, self-trust, and how to live a full life.This is the start of a new series where I'll take you behind the scenes as I explore what it means to evolve in my business and on social media (without burning everything to the ground!!)I'm starting The Artist’s Way in the hopes it will help me get out of the creative block I've been feeling (aka - resistance to try something new!). Excited to take you along with me for the journey!Things mentioned in this video:
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| #125 - Becoming the Most Honest Version of Yourself with Survivor 48’s Shauhin Davari | 15 juil. 2025 | 00:49:08 | |
This episode is an honest look at what it means to find your voice and show up authentically in life, relationships, and even on national television. Shauhin Davari, public speaking coach and cast member of Survivor Season 48, joins me to talk about how journaling, breathwork, and mindset shifts can help you stop performing and start being the fullest version of yourself.
Use code: “YLYL” for 20% off Shauhin’s offerings Connect with Shauhin on Instagram
Additional Resources: Get the Relationship Anxiety Toolkit here! (instant + lifetime access) | |||
| #124 - The Love You Give Becomes the Love You Get | 01 juil. 2025 | 00:21:20 | |
This episode is an open-hearted reflection on what the quote “The love I give becomes the love I get” brought up for me, and how it inspired the creation of a new July 7-Day Challenge inside the You Love and You Learn Patreon community. It’s a gentle reminder that even in overwhelming times, connection can be built through small acts of kindness and intention. Whether you join the challenge or not, I hope this conversation helps you feel more connected to yourself, to those around you, and to the version of you that wants to show up with more love.
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Additional Resources: Get the Relationship Anxiety Toolkit here! (instant + lifetime access) | |||
| #123 - Letting Go of Who You Think You “Should” Be with Mollie Birney | 17 juin 2025 | 00:40:07 | |
In this episode, I’m joined by Clinical Life Coach & Consultant and former therapist Mollie Birney to discuss the role identity plays in all aspects of our lives. We talk about why letting go of the labels we put on ourselves is often the scariest (and most freeing) thing we can do. Molly shares her personal journey from licensed therapist to coach, the concept of “freedom work,” and how we can stop trying to fix ourselves and instead be in relationship with the parts of us we’ve tried to avoid.
Mentioned in the episode: Connect with Mollie on Instagram
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| #122 - Navigating Motherhood with Anxious & OCD Tendencies with Kiyomi LaFleur | 03 juin 2025 | 00:37:21 | |
In this heartfelt episode, I sit down with returning guest Kiyomi, with Awaken Into Love, to talk about her journey into motherhood and the powerful inner transformations it brought with it. She opens up about the spiritual and emotional journey of becoming a mom, and how she navigated postpartum challenges while maintaining a sense of self. We explore the parallels between motherhood and relationship anxiety, and how both call us into deeper compassion and trust. Whether you're a parent, on the path to becoming one, or simply going through a big life transition, this conversation is for you. Mentioned in the episode:
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| #121 - Throwback Episode: “Am I ‘In Love’, or Do I Just Love Them?” | 20 mai 2025 | 00:54:57 | |
Bringing back an oldie but goodie episode this week! Whether you’re hearing it for the first time, or if you heard it when it first aired back in May 2023, I hope you will find some nuggets of wisdom to take away.
In this episode, I address questions like: “Did I fall out love with my partner?” “What if I feel love toward my partner, but don’t feel IN LOVE with my partner?” “What if we fall out of love in the future…then what?” “If you fall out of love…can you fall back “in love”? I explore what the differences are between being “in love” and “love” and give you new ways of thinking about love that can expand your perspective. Excited to hear what you think of this one! DM me @youloveandyoulearn on Instagram with your thoughts :) And if you are enjoying the podcast, it would mean the world to me if you can leave a review + rate the podcast. I appreciate you! — Additional resources:
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| #120 - It’s Wedding Week! My Reflections and Intentions Before the Big Day | 06 mai 2025 | 00:22:56 | |
It's officially wedding week! 🎉💍 In this episode, I’m taking you behind the scenes of my wedding season — from setting intentions before my bridal shower and bachelorette, to navigating unexpected bumps, practicing presence, and learning how to receive love and support from those closest to me. I also share some honest reflections about the final month of wedding planning — the pressure that builds, how I’m handling human moments (yes, even with years of personal growth work!), and why setting boundaries has been a key theme during this busy, exciting season. Whether you’re planning your own big event, navigating milestones, or just curious about the real emotional side of wedding prep, I hope this episode feels like a warm, honest conversation with a friend.
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| #119 - Throwback Episode: Relationships Force Us to Answer Life’s Big Questions | 29 avr. 2025 | 00:29:37 | |
Bringing back an oldie but goodie episode this week! Whether you’re hearing it for the first time, or if you heard it when it first aired back in February 2023, I hope you will find some nuggets of wisdom to take away.
When you’re in a relationship, life’s big questions present themself: Who I am I? What do I believe? What do I value? How do I want life to look? What is normal?
In this episode, I walk through these big life questions and help normalize asking them within the context of a relationship.
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| #118 - Releasing Intensity in Relationships and Career | 22 avr. 2025 | 00:28:40 | |
In this solo episode, I’m sharing what it’s looked like to reduce the pressure and urgency I used to bring into two major areas of my life: my relationship and my work. From letting go of perfectionism in partnership, to allowing myself to embrace a season of maintenance in business, this episode is a reflection on how releasing intensity can actually create more ease, connection, and clarity. Whether you’re navigating a big life change (like a wedding!) or simply noticing that things feel a little too much lately, this is your invitation to pause and reflect on where you can invite in some compassion and be more gentle with yourself. Additional resources: | |||
| #117 - Getting Your Spark Back with Anna Seirian | 15 avr. 2025 | 00:44:30 | |
This week on the podcast I have on Anna Seirian, a writer and coach for ADHD women who want to trade exhaustion and survival for ease and pleasure. She’s the writer of the best-selling Substack Ambitious Softie and the cofounder of Internet People, a digital media company and community for creatives, artists, and entrepreneurs.
In this episode we dive into the heart of Anna’s Brilliance Experiment and how small, intentional actions can reclaim our joy, vitality, and sense of connection to ourselves, which in turn can help us connect to other relationships in our life more intentionally. Anna opens up about how she’s been cultivating joy in her life through these simple experiments each week that encourage mindfulness, self-care, and personal growth.
Mentioned in the episode: Join the Brilliance Experience on Anna’s Substack Anna’s Podcast: Internet People Podcast Connect with Anna on Instagram Anna’s Audio Course - 17 Principles of Soft Ambition The Artist’s Way by Julia Cameron Additional resources: | |||
| #116 - Letting Go of the Need for Certainty in Relationships w/ My Client | 08 avr. 2025 | 00:44:57 | |
I am so grateful to bring on another former client of mine to discuss her transformative journey with relationship anxiety. In this episode we explore:
If you've ever felt stuck in patterns of doubt, fear, or overthinking in your relationship, this conversation will remind you that you're not alone—and that growth is possible. Mentioned in the episode: The Wisdom of Anxiety by Sheryl Paul “Is it Anxiety or Intuition?” Webinar Additional resources:
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| #115 - Transform Your Relationship with Your Body, Not Your Mind with Becky Aste | 01 avr. 2025 | 00:47:57 | |
Have you ever felt stuck in the same relationship patterns, no matter how hard you try to change? This week, I sat down with trauma-informed marriage coach, Becky Aste, to explore how healing yourself can transform your relationship. Becky shares the patterns that nearly led to divorce and how discovering somatic work (aka, soothing your body) changed everything. We discuss how regulating your nervous system, breaking toxic cycles, and shifting from control to connection can create a healthier, more fulfilling partnership Connect with Becky: Free Training: “4 Somatic Secrets to Secure Love” Podcast: Your Breakthrough Blueprint Additional resources: | |||
| #114 - The Impact of Alcohol in Relationships | 25 mars 2025 | 00:17:04 | |
In this episode, I’m exploring a topic that can sometimes feel a little uncomfy—but is super important to talk about: the role alcohol plays in romantic relationships. This discussion was inspired by a question from a Patreon member, but I know many other people navigate similar dynamics in their relationships. I share my personal experiences with this topic, including how alcohol has impacted my relationship with Nate, my past anxieties around it, the boundaries we’ve set, and open conversations we’ve had in order to create a mutual understanding around our alcohol consumption. Additional resources: | |||
| #113 - The Messy Middle: Navigating Life’s Uncertain Seasons | 18 mars 2025 | 00:25:09 | |
The Messy Middle — a space we all find ourselves in at some point. It’s that uncomfortable, uncertain period where things feel unclear, and we’re searching for answers that don’t seem to come. In this solo episode, I open up about my own experience with navigating uncertainty, feeling stuck, and provide practical ways to support yourself when you don’t have a clear path forward. Mentioned in the episode: Anxiety Rx by Dr. Russell Kennedy, M.D. The Wisdom of Anxiety by Sheryl Paul Additional resources: | |||
| #112 - How to Stop Overthinking and Create Safety From Within With Samantha Chung | 11 mars 2025 | 01:01:32 | |
In this episode, I sit down with life and manifestation coach, Samantha Chung, to explore how to overcome anxiety, relinquish control, and create inner peace. Sam shares her personal story—from her early struggles with perfectionism and control as a professional ballerina to discovering the power of mindfulness, self-acceptance, and manifestation. This episode is for anyone who struggles with overthinking, self-doubt, or the need to control every aspect of life. Join us as we dive into how to embrace all emotions and learn to live in the present moment (instead of an unknown future). Mentioned in the episode: Listen to Samantha’s Podcast, Spiraling Higher Connect with Samantha on Instagram and TikTok Additional resources: | |||
| #111 - The Journey to Better Sex with Sex Expert Susan Bratton | 04 mars 2025 | 00:50:40 | |
Ready for a real conversation about sex? This week, I'm joined by sex expert Susan Bratton to explore the path to a more fulfilling sex life. We unpack the importance of open communication and how to overcome the misconceptions that are holding you back from passionate and connected sex. Discover how to take ownership of your own pleasure and build a stronger bond with your partner to unlock the best sex of your life (even if that’s something that currently feels intimidating).
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| #110 - Why Your Brain Wants to Run in Relationships w/ Robert James | 25 févr. 2025 | 00:48:18 | |
I know many listeners have felt the urge to escape a perfectly good relationship. This can show up as questioning if you're making a mistake, if you're truly in love, or if you're missing out on something better. I went through it too, so just know you are not alone. I am bringing back OCD and Anxiety coach Robert James to share his journey with Relationship OCD and to unpack why our brains can send us into panic mode in relationships. We discuss:
Here is the first episode I did with Robert (#52) if you missed that one (it’s a goodie!): Spotify link: https://open.spotify.com/episode/3pbH7OXf0MFcV4pqoXfbUM?si=0b9fd7ef499c4ed8
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| #109 - Throwback Episode: 5 Ways to Respond When Anxiety Shows Up | 18 févr. 2025 | 00:28:45 | |
Bringing back an oldie but goodie episode this week! Whether you’re hearing it for the first time, or if you heard it when it first aired back in February 2023, I hope you will find some nuggets of wisdom to take away. When anxiety shows up, it can feel tempting to want to make it go away as fast as possible. I’ve found this can actually make the anxiety stronger, and offer up 5 alternate ways to respond next time anxiety shows up. “Is it anxiety or incompatibility? webinar mentioned in the episode: https://youloveandyoulearn.com/ra-or-incompatibility-webinar — Additional resources:
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| #108 - Throwback Episode: “Am I in the ‘Right Relationship?” | 11 févr. 2025 | 00:18:48 | |
Bringing back an oldie but goodie episode this week! Whether you’re hearing it for the first time, or if you heard it when it first aired back in January 2023, I hope you will find some nuggets of wisdom to take away. Is there such thing as the “right relationship?” Why is this such a common question we ask ourselves? How do we expand into a new way of thinking? I dive into my thoughts on this subject and how to think about our relationship in a way that is less anxiety-inducing. In the podcast, I mention relationship incompatibilities, and if you’re looking to answer the question “is it anxiety or incompatibility?” in your healthy relationship with more confidence, check out my 2-hour webinar on this for $27. CLICK HERE TO CHECK IT OUT — Additional resources: | |||
| #107 - Stop Outsourcing Your Happiness | 04 févr. 2025 | 00:17:44 | |
We are heading into Valentine's Day month and there will be a ton of messages about having your romantic partner meeting your needs and showering you with love and gifts. While it’s lovely to celebrate our love for people in our life–it’s also important to celebrate the love we give ourselves.
Part of how we can give and receive love for ourselves and become our own best friend, our own inner loving parents, or the main character of our life is to intentionally practice filling up our cup. Intentionally taking time to nourish your mind, body, heart, and soul–vs. waiting for someone else to do it for you. It doesn’t mean we stop relying on others, but it means we take responsibility for our own fulfillment and wellbeing.
Next week I am hosting a 7-Day Challenge, Filling Your Own Cup, inside the You Love and You Learn Patreon community! We’ll go through how to define your needs (what fills your cup), how to meet your needs without crazy pressure and strict rules, how to prioritize yourself, and how to become flexible in meeting your needs as you evolve as a person.
Today’s episode gives you a sneak-peek into Day 1 of the Filling Your Own Cup challenge. Join here for just $7/month! (cancel anytime) Join the Patreon here: https://www.patreon.com/YouLoveandYouLearn
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| #106 - Comparison to Fictional Relationships and RomComs | 28 janv. 2025 | 00:47:39 | |
Reading fiction can be relaxing–unless we’re stuck comparing our lives and relationship to the ones in the books! Then it can become stressful. Just know you are not alone if you feel this way–this episode topic was highly requested from other members of the You Love and You Learn community after I posted about fiction recently! In today’s episode, I explore three reasons why comparison to fiction books is unhelpful (because of all or nothing thinking, because romanticism in and of itself isn’t a sustainable goal, and because taking on other’s stories as our own puts us in reactive mode) and I give you mindset shifts and tips to help you feel more comfortable reading fiction again. Additional resources: | |||
| #105 - Regulating Your Nervous System by Slowing and Softening w/ Alena Winter | 21 janv. 2025 | 00:52:02 | |
In today’s episode, I sat down with Alena Winter, a clinical Naturopath and Nutritionist in New Zealand who is passionate about helping people understand true foundations of health and the things we need in place to be well. The good news? Many of these pillars of health are simple, accessible, and low cost–yet they can make a world of a difference in how we feel on a day to day basis.
We discuss:
For more of Alena’s work, check out: Her free nervous system regulation guide: https://alenawinter.co.nz/free-regulation-guide Her Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/alenawinternaturalhealth Additional resources: | |||
| #104 - Taking the Pressure Off Gratitude w/ Karden Rabin | 14 janv. 2025 | 00:39:31 | |
Have you ever felt pressure to “just be grateful”? Maybe you have sat down to write a gratitude list before, but it took you a while to think of things about your life, your relationship, your partner–and you felt guilty about it; “shouldn’t I be more grateful?!”
In this week’s episode, I sit down with Karden Rabin, nervous system expert to explore a new perspective on gratitude that will (hopefully) help you feel way less pressure and approach it from a more compassionate lens. This was a big shift for me when I first heard Karden explain it, and I am grateful for him sharing with the You Love and You Learn community!
For more of Karden’s work:
His website: www.somiainternational.com His Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kardenrabin/?hl=en Somia International Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/somiainternational/?hl=en
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| #103 - Strengthening Your Relationship Mindset in 2025 | 07 janv. 2025 | 00:29:52 | |
Having a strong mindset in relationships can be a big game-changer. Our mindset affects the way we think, feel, and behave–so it makes a big difference if we come from a mindset of “why bother?” (victim mindset) or “I can’t change anyway” (fixed mindset) as compared to a mindset of “I can influence my life and relationship (creator mindset) or “I am not there yet–but I am getting there” (growth mindset).
And this January, I am going to be focused on helping you strengthen your relationship mindset! Strengthening my mindset has helped me go from feeling stuck and helpless to empowered and confident in my relationship. (No, not 100% of the time, not perfectly–but enough to make a difference!)
Today’s episode gives you an exciting sneak-peek into Day 1 of my upcoming 7-Day Challenge: Strengthening Your Relationship Mindset in 2025. The challenge is taking place inside the You Love and You Learn Patreon membership, and you can join here for just $7/month!
Join the Patreon here: https://www.patreon.com/YouLoveandYouLearn
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| #102 - 8 Lessons From My 8-Year Relationship | 17 déc. 2024 | 00:32:44 | |
Nate and I celebrated 8 years together yesterday, and I wanted to take some time to reflect on what I’ve learned in our time together. The 8 lessons I explore in more detail are:
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| #101 - Overcoming Relationship Anxiety w/ Courtney Paré | 10 déc. 2024 | 00:54:34 | |
I am so excited to bring you this conversation with Dr. Courtney Paré, a licensed naturopathic doctor, holistic anxiety coach, speaker, and author. Courtney empowers those facing anxiety and OCD to experience greater peace and confidence in their lives and relationships, and just published her first book Overcoming Relationship Anxiety! I had a chance to read the book and it’s fantastic. I know this resource and the wisdom Courtney shares in this episode will be useful for anyone who experiences relationship anxiety. For more of Courtney’s work: Additional resources: | |||
| #100 - The Love We’ve Learned from 100(!!) Episodes | 03 déc. 2024 | 00:40:01 | |
I can’t believe we’re already at episode 100 of this podcast! After sitting down with 50 guests, there were many lessons learned about love that I wanted to recap and share–so I went back and listened to the final question I ask all guests; “what is one thing you have learned about love that you want to leave listeners with?”
I found that there were 7 key categories of these lessons, so I went more into depth about each one and am sharing the key ideas from my wise guests over the last couple years.
The 7 key categories were:
To those who have listened to the podcast–THANK YOU!! Cheers to the next 100 episodes.
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| #99 - Lessons from Being in Limbo w/ Ela Topcuoglu | 26 nov. 2024 | 00:41:42 | |
In this episode I am back with past guest, Ela Topcuoglu, who is a Life Transition Coach that helps us intentionally move through life’s big milestone moments (that can often be challenging for someone with anxiety). Things like moving in together, getting engaged, a breakup, changing jobs, or looking ahead to marriage. One stage of transitions in particular, the limbo stage (in between the old life and the new) can be particularly uncomfortable and confusing, so Ela is back to explore:
If you’ve ever felt stuck between where you were and where you’re going, this episode is for you! For more of Ela’s work: Additional resources: | |||
| #98 - Uncovering Inner Peace w/ Lily Sais of @peacefromwithin | 19 nov. 2024 | 00:50:02 | |
In this episode, I sit down with Lily Sais, a former school psychologist turned registered Three Principles practitioner, whose journey has taken her from anxiety to a place of peace. Lily is passionate about helping others uncover the peace that already lies within them, beneath anxious thoughts (the peace that already lies within…LOVE!)
We cover:
…and more!
For more of Lily’s work: https://www.peace-from-within.com/pfwcommunity https://www.instagram.com/_peacefromwithin/
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| #97 - My Recurring Relationship Anxiety ‘Theme’ | 12 nov. 2024 | 00:24:59 | |
Over the years, there is a recurring ‘theme’ that brings up discomfort for me within my relationship, and that is when things feel boring or mundane. It used to really freak me out, and I would jump to thinking I had to go find a more exciting partner or relationship.
I still have these moments of judging the boredom, but when I pause to reflect further, I see things a little differently now: as a chance to pour into my life more intentionally, vs. placing the relationship or Nate on a pedestal.
In this episode, I explore how I am setting intentions this winter to intentionally show up for myself and nurture 3 key areas:
These are 3 key areas that Robert Johnson shares in his book (We: Understanding the Psychology of Romantic Love) to take the projection off our partner to complete us and make us whole. Excited to share this with you so you can take the time to reflect on these key areas, too!
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| #96 - Signs of an Abusive Relationship w/ Dr. Molly Burrets | 05 nov. 2024 | 00:47:10 | |
This is a long overdue episode to explore signs of what an abusive relationship is and isn’t. I often give the disclaimer “my work does not apply to abusive relationships” and wanted to have a licensed therapist explain the types of abuse so people are aware.
And who better than Dr. Molly Burrets, a licensed clinical psychologist based in Los Angeles with 15 years of experience practicing psychotherapy, conducting research, and teaching at the undergraduate and graduate levels.
In the episode, we mentioned resources for people experiencing abuse in an intimate relationship:
Rape, Abuse, Incest National Network (RAINN) – 800.656.HOPE (4673)
National Domestic Violence Hotline – 800.799.SAFE (7233), 800.787.3224 TDD
Books:
The Verbally Abusive Relationship: How to Recognize It and How to Respond by Patricia Evans
The Dance of Anger: A Woman’s Guide to Changing the Patterns of Intimate Relationships by Harriet Lerner
The Emotionally Abused Woman: Overcoming Destructive Patterns and Reclaiming Yourself by Beverly Engel
The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma by Bessel van der Kolk
For more of Molly’s work, check out: www.instagram.com/drmollyburrets
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| #95 - "When You Know, You Know" | 29 oct. 2024 | 00:47:55 | |
In this episode, I unpack the phrase “when you know you know” and how I used to take this phrase very literally, which caused a lot of anxiety and pressure on me. I deconstruct what it actually means to ‘know’ something or have ‘knowledge’, as well as the characteristics of someone who is more likely to ‘know’ something within their relationship or life. If you’ve ever heard someone say they “just knew” their partner was the one and felt crappy about it (“what do they know, and how do they know it?!”) – this episode is for you! Additional resources: | |||
| #94 - Why You’re Unhappy, and What Can Make You Happier w/ Stephanie Harrison | 22 oct. 2024 | 00:48:50 | |
Does it feel like you’re doing all the ‘right’ things but you’re still not happy? Does it feel like everyone around you seems to be happier than you, and you feel so guilty about it?
What if this wasn’t a flaw or something you’re doing wrong – and we have been getting happiness wrong all along? In this episode, I sat down with Stephanie Harrison of @newhappyco to explore what happiness is and isn’t, and how we can take small steps to become more happy and fulfilled in our lives.
For more of Stephanie and New Happy, check out: www.thenewhappy.com
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| #93 - Why Lowering the Bar May Actually Be a (Really) Good Thing w/ MJ Mayes | 15 oct. 2024 | 00:43:53 | |
In this episode, MJ and I discuss why lowering the bar in your life and relationship might actually be a good thing. No, this isn’t about settling or letting go of standards. It’s about moving forward without beating yourself up for every imperfection along the way, and taking small intentional actions instead of waiting for everything to perfectly line up before you can move forward.
This is the permission slip I’ve needed for so many years, and I know it will feel like a breath of fresh air!
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| #92 - A New Mindset Towards Anxiety | 08 oct. 2024 | 00:16:54 | |
In this episode, I explore the common struggle of wanting anxiety to disappear and how this often makes the anxiety feel even stronger. Many people ask, “Why is my anxiety still here even after I’ve tried all the tools?” – let's discuss a helpful shift in mindset that can transform your relationship with it. I cover:
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| #91 - When You Want to Stay in Your Relationship, But Wish Things Were Better | 01 oct. 2024 | 00:25:33 | |
I’ve never done this before, but today I am bringing you a training from my Patreon membership to the podcast to show you a peek into the types of trainings we have every month!
This month’s topic: wanting to stay in your relationship, but knowing you want things to be better or different, too.
If you want to dive into a library of trainings like this, and connect with 300+ others on a journey to become more secure… Join the You Love and You Learn Patreon community – Additional resources: | |||
| #90 - Embracing a Partner Who’s Different From You w/ Chelsea Horton | 24 sept. 2024 | 00:36:51 | |
In this episode, Chelsea and I dive into the idea that true relationship strength often comes from embracing differences rather than being exactly the same.
We cover:
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For more of Chelsea’s work
Website: www.healingembodied.com IG & TikTok: @healing.embodied
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| #89 - 5 Tips When You Feel Disconnected From Your Partner | 17 sept. 2024 | 00:34:14 | |
It can feel so painful to be disconnected from your partner. I get it, because I’ve had a few of these moments myself recently! Let’s talk about it.
In this episode, I share:
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| #88 - Healing From the Inside Out w/ Alison Seponara | 10 sept. 2024 | 00:49:34 | |
This episode focuses on healing anxiety from the inside out. And who better to speak to than Alison Seponara – therapist, anxiety educator, holistic healer, and author who specializes in helping others create their own holistic anxiety healing toolkit!
Anxiety can come from many different pillars of our life; our friendships, our physical health and wellbeing, our relational attachment dynamics, our mental patterns, and so much more. Alison and I cover each of these topics and offer bite-sized tips to healing anxiety.
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