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| 5 Hot Trends In Luxury Wellness - Should We Be Doing Them? | 03 Sep 2026 | 00:33:43 | |
We're recording this one from a wellness retreat in Kefalonia, Greece and it felt like the perfect place to dig into the 5 hottest wellness trends for 2026. From social fitness and luxury retreats to digital detoxes, biological age obsession and habit stacking gone too far, we share what the research says, what we've seen at home and what we've experienced first-hand this week. Key Takeaways The social fitness trend is backed by real data. Nuffield Health found that half of us are more likely to stick to exercise if we do it with other people, and Strava reports that UK run clubs on its platform tripled in the first half of this year compared to 2024. On digital detox, 72 hours offline and in nature is scientifically proven to reduce stress and curb phone dependency. Unplugged, a UK company with 50 cabin locations all within two hours of a major city, has built an entire business on that insight. Over half their guests book specifically because of burnout and screen fatigue. You do not have to go that far. Biological age is the new status symbol and the markers that matter are grip strength and bone density, not the number on the scales. The good news, according to longevity expert Dr Sophie Schotter, is that the best interventions cost nothing: strength training, a gut-friendly diet and decent sleep. You do not need a hyperbaric oxygen chamber. Habit stacking is a useful concept that is being stretched well past its limits. Stacking 16 habits on top of each other will not make any of them stick. If your wellness routine is relatively simple and it is working, that is enough. Timestamps 01:30 - What the resort offers: yoga, pilates, functional fitness, paddle boarding and spa 03:20 - Kev breaks his toe, Jo hurts her back: our first week in numbers 11:00 - Sauna raves, group ice baths, Pilates parties and Hyrox 17:30 - Globetrender CEO on vacations as skills development and sporting exploration 18:52 - Noah's Surf House in Portugal, and what else is on offer in Kefalonia this week 19:50 - Trend 3: Digital detox and the return of the analogue
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| Age Gap Dating - Is it a good idea and would you do it? | 28 Aug 2026 | 00:37:49 | |
Is age gap dating actually a good idea, or just a good idea in theory? This week we dig into the world of age gap relationships, prompted by the Netflix series Age of Attraction and a Sunday paper article by Julie Birchell. We look at the stats, the celebrities, the real people we know, and every couple from the show to work out whether the gap is worth it and whether either of us would actually do it. Key Takeaways The ONS threshold for an age gap relationship is ten years. That sounds like a lot until you look at the couples on Age of Attraction, where the shortest gap was thirteen years and the longest was thirty-three. And once you get past about twenty years, it stops looking like a relationship and starts looking like a logistics problem. The stats tell an interesting story. Age gap marriages are declining overall, from eleven percent of all marriages in 2000 to seven and a half percent today for older man, younger woman pairings. The reverse, older woman with a younger man, is rare and getting rarer, at just one point three percent. Meanwhile nearly a quarter of male same-sex marriages involve a ten-year-plus gap, which suggests the driver here is male, not age. The older woman dynamic is genuinely harder. Vanessa Feltz spent years hiding her menopause and competing physically with women decades younger. Julie Birchell has had to reckon with her younger husband becoming her carer. Joan Collins, at 93, has simply decided she would find someone else if needed. The emotional labour falls disproportionately on the older woman in a way it simply does not on the older man. Of the couples on the show, the ones that worked best were the ones where both people were actually grown up, not just old enough. A 22-year-old who has never heard of the Spice Girls and a 26-year-old who has never lived with another human being are not equipped to carry the weight of a relationship with a fifteen or twenty year gap. Age is not the same as maturity, and the show makes that painfully clear. As for whether we would do it: no, and not for entirely noble reasons. Timestamps 00:50 - Age of Attraction on Netflix and the Julie Birchell article | |||
| The seven psychological habits that will keep you young - after 50! | 21 Aug 2026 | 00:40:32 | |
What happens when one partner retires and the other doesn't? This week we get real about the unspoken expectations that collide when life rhythms fall out of sync, before diving into seven psychological habits that research shows can keep us biologically and mentally younger after 50. Spoiler: it has nothing to do with wrinkles. Key Takeaways Retirement without a prior conversation is a recipe for a collision of unspoken expectations, especially when one of you is still working. The biggest drivers of how old you appear to others have nothing to do with genetics or grey hair. They are psychological. Treating your age like a number on a driving licence rather than a medical diagnosis matters more than most of us realise. Nostalgia is fine in small doses, but overdosing on the past tells your brain the best days are behind you. Comfort is a slow, silent killer of youth. The brain thrives on novelty, so doing things that make you feel like an idiot is actually the point. Playfulness is not childish; it is a genuine marker of psychological youth. And complaining about ailments is fine in private, but turning it into a competitive sport only reinforces the idea that you are in decay. Perhaps most powerfully: carrying a grudge is drinking the poison yourself and hoping someone else drops dead. Packing light emotionally is not weakness. It is the strategy. We have all seven of these habits somewhere in us. The question is which ones we are actively choosing. Timestamps 00:50 - Two weeks of retirement: what we thought would happen vs. reality 04:57 - What we learned about unspoken expectations when partners retire at different speeds 06:44 - Introducing the seven psychological habits (credit: The Human Hack on TikTok) 09:06 - Habit 1: Stop letting your age be a medical diagnosis 15:53 - Habit 2: Stay curious and stop living in the past 18:08 - Habit 3: Free yourself from external validation and others' judgment 22:51 - Habit 4: Actively destroy your comfort zones 27:18 - Habit 5: Refuse to become a chronic complainer 31:55 - Habit 6: Maintain a relentless sense of playfulness 35:00 - Habit 7: Practice selective memory editing, pack light 39:09 - Wrap-up: ageing is a choice you make every day Human Hack https://www.tiktok.com/@thehumanhack1/video/7662053029448863006 | |||
| What we would tell our younger selves - How to prepare for retirement in your 40s | 13 Aug 2026 | 00:37:25 | |
Inspired by a question from one of our listeners, this episode is dedicated to the financial side of retirement planning and what we wish we had known and done sooner. From understanding what a retirement lifestyle actually costs in real money, to working out your savings ratio, to dry-running your retirement budget before you actually need it, we get into the practical detail that nobody tells you until it is too late. Key Takeaways
00:09 The listener question that shaped this episode 02:33 Why the rules changed: from defined benefit pensions to figuring it out yourself 04:52 The retirement living standards introduced 07:09 The 3 lifestyle levels: minimum, moderate and comfortable, with headline figures for singles and couples 09:36 Inside the minimum budget: what £22,500 a year actually buys a couple 11:34 Inside the moderate budget: £45,400 and what changes 13:52 Inside the comfortable budget: what £62,700 covers including holidays and activities 16:14 Why the state pension alone leaves you below the minimum standard and what the PLSA is doing about it 18:38 The 2 things you need to know: your target lifestyle and your savings ratio 21:02 Tools to help: the James Shack graph on financial independence and the Net Worthify retirement calculator 23:28 Why spending less beats chasing higher returns, every time 25:51 Lessons from Early Retirement Wanderlust: eliminate debt, avoid lifestyle inflation, and harness compounding 32:56 The dry-run: how to live on your retirement budget for a year before you need to, and why it is the most useful thing you can do https://www.retirementlivingstandards.org.uk/details
Retirement IFA – James Shack: https://www.youtube.com/@JamesShack
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| Healthspan v Lifespan - What if you run out of time before you run out of money? | 06 Aug 2026 | 00:34:14 | |
Most of us spend years planning for a financially secure retirement, but how often do we stop to ask whether we'll actually be well enough to enjoy it? In this episode, we dig into three interconnected timelines that shape how we age: lifespan, health span, and work span. The gaps between them are bigger than most people realise, and understanding them might just change when, and why, you decide to stop working. Key Takeaways
00:09 Introduction and framing: why we focus too much on money and not enough on health in retirement planning 02:31 Defining the three clocks: lifespan, health span, and work span 04:57 UK and US lifespan statistics, and the sobering health span data from the ONS 07:24 What good health span actually looks like in daily life, according to Harvard Medical School 09:50 Introducing work span, the 45-year trade of time and energy for economic security 12:16 Why the deal is getting worse: rising pension age, a hostile job market for over-50s, and no state support to fill the gap 16:54 The light bulb moment: flipping the trade and redefining what wealth means 21:35 Time travel is real: how lifestyle choices influence the hallmarks of aging 28:31 Practical steps to shorten your work span and fund the gap on your own terms | |||
| What Do You Want Your Retirement To Be & Are You Ready? | 30 Jul 2026 | 00:41:04 | |
Here are the show notes: When the Fk Did I Become Old? | Episode: What Do You Want Your Retirement To Be?** Are you actually ready for retirement, or just ready to stop working? In this episode we dig into those questions live on mic, using exercises from Early Retirement Wanderlust by Richard and Jackie Pickles. With one of us weeks away from leaving a 12-year estate agency role and the other mid-redundancy, the timing could not be more personal. Key Takeaways Retirement is not a day, it is a life phase that could run 20 to 30 years. Going in without a plan for what you are moving towards, not just away from, is a mistake. The life check-in scorecard from the book surfaces things you already know but have not said out loud. Curiosity and learning scored lowest for us, which was not a surprise but was a useful prompt. Four exit criteria signal when you are genuinely ready: kids raised and empty-nested, parents no longer needing support, mortgage paid off, and enough of work. We are close on all four. The three phases, go-go, slow-go and no-go, will compress or stretch depending on your health and finances. Everyone wants the go-go years to be the longest, so front-load the big adventures. Concrete plans for the go-go years: a motorcycle tour across Morocco in September and three months training as a snowboard instructor in the Alps this winter. Starting strength training now, not later. For the slow-go years, local community matters more than we have planned for. Most of our close friends are geographically scattered. Building a local peer network is a goal we are starting now. On end-of-life care, we are both firmly in the Dignitas camp. At least one of our kids knows. The others have been told several times. Timestamps 00:10 Introduction and where we both are right now in our working lives 02:36 Why the book frames retirement as a new life chapter, not an escape 04:33 Running through the life check-in scorecard: time, money, energy, connection 06:00 Curiosity and simplicity scores, and why the guitar is still untouched 08:05 The deeper reflection questions: richest areas, what feels out of balance 10:38 Our four personal exit criteria for knowing when the time is right 15:05 Where the go-go, slow-go and no-go framework came from (Michael Stein, 1998) 17:31 Go-go years: what they look like and why spending peaks here 19:59 Slow-go years: slower pace, grandchildren, package holidays and listening to your body 22:24 No-go years: connection, legacy, accepting care and end-of-life planning 24:23 Live exercise: what experiences feel most important while energy is high 29:44 What would you genuinely regret not doing in the go-go years 32:03 Slow-go years: where we want familiarity, routine and a sense of belonging 33:35 Adventures that could still work in the slow-go years (skiing in your 70s, absolutely) 36:00 No-go years: what a life well-lived looks like and who to protect 38:12 Stories we want to pass on, and how we want to be cared for at the end Sources: | |||
| A New Man in Number 10 - What Difference Does it Make...to me! | 23 Jul 2026 | 00:30:36 | |
Britain has a new Prime Minister. Andy Burnham walked into Number 10 on Monday 20 July, making him the seventh PM in a decade. We recorded this on his first day in office, so some of this may already be history by the time you're listening. We break down what his first 24 hours actually looks like behind the scenes, and then get into the financial policies being floated that could hit our wallets hard. Key Takeaways The first day as PM is far more dramatic than anyone tells you. Before lunch, Burnham had to handwrite four letters of last resort for Trident submarine commanders and draw up a nuclear bunker shortlist. The mansion tax threshold may drop from £2m to £1.5m, which would pull in 146,000 more London homes almost immediately. Inheritance tax could be scrapped and replaced with a health and social care levy. We still do not know whether that would leave us better or worse off. The 25% tax-free pension withdrawal remains in play as a target. It was nearly cut to £100k under Reeves and could be on the table again. The triple lock on the state pension looks safe for now, but the OECD is already pressuring the government to reform it given an ageing population. Mortgage holders on fixed rates expiring soon are facing a painful jump. We are personally looking at a fivefold increase when our 1.4% fix ends in six weeks. Annuity rates are the best they have been in a decade. Legal and General were quoting 7.37% last week for a 65-year-old, which makes them worth looking at again. The honest advice: do not panic, and do not make big financial moves until the autumn budget lands in November. Timestamps 00:00 Introduction and context: why we recorded on day one 02:30 The James Bond schedule: nuclear briefing, letters of last resort, bunker shortlist 07:18 Setting up Number 10 North and the Manchester security problem 09:38 Mansion tax: the £1.5m threshold and what it means for the housing market 12:00 Inheritance tax: scrapping it and the social care levy alternative 14:20 Income tax thresholds and a possible wealth tax 16:47 Stamp duty, council tax reform, and the north/south divide 19:04 State pension, the triple lock, and OECD pressure 21:28 Private pensions: the 25% tax-free cash withdrawal and what might change 23:49 Interest rates rising and our very personal mortgage problem 26:17 Annuities: why we are suddenly paying attention 28:36 Final thoughts: hold steady until the budget | |||
| I Know What You Did Last Summer Part 2 - Trains, Cars, Bikes & Boats | 16 Jul 2026 | 00:31:49 | |
In this episode we pick up where we left off on our epic French road trip, covering everything from a stolen jumpsuit and a runaway camera, to an Aston Martin covered in warning lights and gale force winds on the Harley. We also open up about a major life change that landed the day before we left for holiday and what it means for the next chapter. Key Takeaways
00:00 – Recap of the trip so far: Aston Martin to the south of France, collecting the Harley, days of motorbike touring, and a boat trip to the Porquerolles islands | |||
| Old is cancelled - The Ageing Myths, Money and Marketing Special | 09 Jul 2026 | 00:37:23 | |
About This Episode By 2050, 2.1 billion people on Earth will be over 60. That is one in four humans globally, and one in three in Europe and North America. So what does that actually mean for how we live, how we are perceived, and how brands are (badly) trying to sell to us? In this episode we dig into some genuinely surprising survey data on aging stereotypes, generational attitudes, and the enormous economic power that the over-55 cohort holds -- power that marketers are largely still failing to tap into. Key Takeaways
00:09 – Opening stat: 2.1 billion people over 60 by 2050 00:45 – When did you first think someone was "old"? And when do you think it starts now? 03:30 – The Ipsos Attitudes to Aging survey: 24,000 people, 32 countries, and what each generation actually said 05:30 – Millennials think old age starts at 65; Gen Z puts it at 61 06:30 – No age is too old to get married or start a degree -- what the data says about perceived capability 08:00 – What would you still be doing at 80? Driving, mobility, and why stopping the car shrinks your world 11:56 – Exercising into your 80s and what functional fitness actually looks like 13:00 – The Silver Marketing Association survey and a preview of their July report 14:20 – AI and technology: older adults are less scared of it than younger generations 15:30 – The gender roles surprise: boomers more supportive of stay-at-home dads than Gen Z males 18:40 – The Andrew Tate manosphere effect and what it might be doing to Gen Z survey data 20:00 – If you had to work until 70, what would you do? (Record shop gets a mention) 22:30 – The silver economy: $330 billion now, $680 billion by 2035 24:42 – The midlife men and brands survey: how over-55 males actually make purchasing decisions 27:03 – Only 1.5% of TV characters are over 65, and 92% of ads cast younger adults 29:26 – Brand loyalty, what makes men switch, and why customer service matters so much 31:47 – Why retirement is no longer one life stage and age is a poor segmentation tool 33:30 – The four tribes of the silver economy: Simple Contentment, Strivers, Strugglers, and Chill Indulgence -- which one are you? https://www.ipsos.com/en/ipsos-generations-report-2025 | |||
| Stop Scrolling, Start Living: How Behavioural Intelligence Could Change How You Age | 02 Jul 2026 | 00:31:48 | |
Jo sits down with entrepreneur and behavioural intelligence expert Daniel Akutt, who just a year ago was exhausted, foggy, and feeling like life was passing him by. He shares the turning point that changed everything, and reveals the tool he is building with us to help people stop drowning in health information and start making decisions that actually work for them. Key Takeaways
Timestamps 00:09 Introduction and how Daniel felt a year ago | |||
| I Know What You Did Last Summer (Part One) | 25 Jun 2026 | 00:37:31 | |
Episode: South of France Special | Part One About This EpisodeWe are officially in pre-holiday mode and could not be more excited. In this episode, we walk you through our upcoming three-stage South of France adventure — a proper bucket list trip involving an Aston Martin, a Harley Davidson, lavender fields, Michelin-level dining, and a villa with views that go both ways across the peninsula. We cover the full itinerary, the five things we are each most looking forward to, and the challenges (some of them genuinely stressful) we have had to navigate just to get here. Key Takeaways
00:10 – Introduction and why we are calling this Part One 00:45 – The three-stage holiday overview: Aston Martin road trip, Harley Davidson tour, villa wind-down 01:30 – Bucket list thinking: do it now before the runway runs out 02:32 – Full itinerary breakdown: Folkestone to Burgundy, Provence, Gorges du Verdon, lavender fields, Isle sur la Sorgue, Bandol, and the villa near Saint-Tropez 09:33 – Day one detail: the Eurotunnel, EES nerves, and the long haul south 12:01 – First day on the Harley: Whispering Angel vineyard, Gorges du Verdon, and 38-degree heat in bike gear 16:39 – Call to action: please like, follow, subscribe and share 17:30 – Top five things we are each most looking forward to: meals, unique activities, places, views, surprises, and the wind-down 23:34 – Chateau de la Massadier, Matsuhisa restaurant, and why this venue is about to be very famous (White Lotus fans, take note) 26:00 – The Chateau Leoub discovery: Daylesford, a coffee table book, and a beach club lunch that became a must-do 29:00 – Pre-holiday wardrobe crises, packing in miniature, and the bikini vs swimsuit debate 32:59 – The golf ball incident: how a shattered rear window nearly derailed the entire trip 35:30 – Wrap-up and what to expect in Part Two when we report back on whether it all lived up to the hype | |||
| What No Glasto? The Search For Lost Music Venues | 18 Jun 2026 | 00:35:48 | |
Glastonbury is on a fallow year, so we take a trip down memory lane through the festivals and venues that shaped our musical lives. We also visit the V&A's new exhibition on lost music venues, which turns out to be more bittersweet than expected. Key Takeaways
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| Netflix & Chill - What We Are Really Watching This Summer | 11 Jun 2026 | 00:26:41 | |
What are we watching this summer? We break down four upcoming and current series worth getting excited about, all featuring actors squarely in our generation, and all landing on streaming platforms between now and autumn. Key Takeaways
Timestamps 00:09 - Introduction and what inspired today's episode 01:00 - Rivals (Disney+): overview, cast and 80s nostalgia 05:00 - The Rivals soundtrack, brand partnerships and Waitrose collab 07:30 - Characters we love in Rivals, fashions we did (and didn't) wear 11:30 - Alice and Steve (Disney+): plot, cast and why we're excited 14:00 - Who is Jermaine Clement? Flight of the Conchords and What We Do in the Shadows 16:30 - Age gap relationships and why this show goes there 17:30 - Please like, follow and subscribe! And tell us what you're watching 18:10 - Ted Lasso Season 4 (Apple TV+): the women's squad twist, cast and big unanswered questions 22:30 - Ride or Die (Amazon Prime): Hannah Waddingham as an international spy, Bill Nighy guest stars, out 15 July If there is a series you think we have missed, drop us a message and tell us what you are watching and why you love it. Find us on Spotify, Apple, Deezer, Audible and YouTube. | |||
| Why You're Not Sleeping (It's Probably Not Your HRT): A Deep Dive with Hormone Geek Kate Thompson | 04 Jun 2026 | 00:35:11 | |
Jo finally gets answers about her chronic sleep issues and it's not what she (or most women) would expect. Hormone and nutrition specialist Kate Thompson joins to unpack why so many midlife women are misdiagnosed, overtreated for oestrogen, and completely missing the real culprit: cortisol burnout. From the Dutch test to dopamine depletion, this episode connects dots that most GPs simply don't have time to. Key Takeaways:
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| Why Everything in Your Wardrobe Is Ageing You (And How to Fix It After 50) | 29 May 2026 | 00:39:29 | |
We sit down with personal stylist Emma Davison to tackle one of midlife's most overlooked confidence boosters: knowing how to dress for the body and skin tone you have now, not the one you had 20 years ago. Emma brings refreshingly honest advice on colour, capsule wardrobes, wardrobe edits and why getting dressed in the morning doesn't have to feel like a crisis. Key Takeaways Black isn't always your friend. As skin softens with age, black absorbs light and creates shadows around the face, accelerating the appearance of aging. Navy blue is the universal alternative that works for virtually everyone. Know your undertone. The key question is whether your skin tone is warm or cool, which determines whether you reach for ivory or pure white, olive green or teal, warm reds or cool blues. A capsule wardrobe is simpler than you think. Aim for 25 to 40 core pieces built around 4 to 5 investment colours that all work together, then layer in statement pieces on top. About 70% of most people's wardrobes go unworn. A wardrobe edit cuts the noise, reveals what you actually have, and often generates more outfits from fewer pieces. Smart casual is where people struggle most. Most people can do formal and casual, but the middle ground is where a stylist adds the most value. Fit and fabric matter more than trends. As men age cut and quality of fabric become the priority. A well-tailored classic piece will outlast any trend. Clothes are a confidence tool, not a vanity project. Particularly through menopause and major life transitions, what you wear directly affects how you carry yourself and how others respond to you. Start with the basics, literally. Underwear, bra fit and t-shirt weight are the foundation everything else is built on. Timestamps 00:11 Introduction and why we all love black 02:32 The ageing effect of black and why navy wins 04:47 How knowing your colours shortcuts the shopping experience 07:09 Starting a wardrobe edit: body shape, underwear, and investment pieces 09:29 Kevin's colours, warm vs cool skin tones, and the role of hair colour 11:54 Jo's colour palette and why navy is the most versatile neutral 13:30 How clothes transform confidence, especially post-menopause 16:35 Dressing your age vs dressing for your body now 18:29 Common mistakes men make and where style tends to slip 20:49 Smart casual as the trickiest category and how to nail it 23:10 How a wardrobe edit actually works, start to finish 27:47 The emotional weight of clothes and how Emma handles it 32:19 The ripple effect of a style transformation on those around you 33:30 How many pieces make a capsule wardrobe 34:45 Go-to high street brands for men and women 37:09 Why shopping in person still matters and where to find Emma | |||
| Mental Health Awareness Week - WTF Does That Have To Do With Snowboarding & Motorbikes? | 21 May 2026 | 00:29:01 | |
We mark Mental Health Awareness Week (11–17 May, UK) by sharing our own very on-brand actions: a black-tie charity ball in London, donations to two youth mental health charities, and a group ride with near-strangers for the Distinguished Gentleman's Ride in Guildford. Along the way we get honest about male friendship, vulnerability, and why it's weirdly hard to make mates in your 50s and 60s. We close out with the Mental Health Foundation's Top 10 practical tips and score ourselves on how many we're actually doing. Key Takeaways
Timestamps 00:09 — Welcome & intro: Mental Health Awareness Week 2025 theme is Action 00:45 — The charity ball: Stop Breathe Think; free, instant counselling for under-21s who can't afford it 02:10 — Snow Camp: using skiing & snowboarding to build life skills and support young people's mental health 02:36 — What is the Distinguished Gentleman's Ride? Retro bikes, vintage threads, raising funds for prostate cancer research and men's mental health (Movember) 04:53 — The Guildford ride by numbers: 1,392 riders, ~£100k raised, second biggest ride in the world this year 06:00 — The friendship backstory: why socialising with people your own age gets complicated over the decades 09:40 — Making new friends in your 60s: the vulnerability of putting yourself out there and why it's worth it 13:00 — What the ride unlocked: deep conversations, a WhatsApp group, and plans for future rides together 14:30 — Top 10 Mental Health Foundation tips begin
https://www.mentalhealth.org.uk/our-work/public-engagement/mental-health-awareness-week https://www.stopbreathethink.org.uk/
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| Menopause & Men: Navigating It Together | 14 May 2026 | 00:31:25 | |
This week we get candid about one of the most overlooked relationship dynamics, what it's actually like when a woman is going through menopause and her partner is trying to keep up. Having been through it with two partners, Kev is something of an accidental expert and this episode is an honest, warm and sometimes hilarious look at what that journey really involves for both sides. Key Takeaways · Menopause is technically one single day, 12 months after your last period. Everything else is peri or post, and post-menopause can last decades. · HRT can be life-changing but getting the balance right takes time. Oestrogen, progesterone and testosterone all play a role and the combination matters enormously. · Symptoms are not always obvious as menopausal. UTIs, anxiety, heart palpitations, poor sleep and mood swings can easily be mistaken for stress or personality. · Men who educate themselves make a tangible difference. Kev's prior experience meant he recognised the signs, suggested HRT and coached Jo through the worst of it without shame or blame. · Feeling chosen and emotionally safe allowed Jo to open up about what she was going through. Security matters as much as knowledge. · Only 26% of men in a recent survey attributed their partner's symptoms to menopause rather than ageing. 11% did nothing at all. · The responsibility should not fall entirely on women to explain what is happening to them. Timestamps 00:09 Introduction and what menopause actually is 01:30 What we learned from a previous relationship going through menopause and HRT 03:30 Weight gain, libido, mood swings and separating stress from symptoms 05:00 Was she able to voice what was happening? 06:00 How Jo felt entering the relationship post-menopausal and low in confidence 07:45 The emotional chaos of menopause and not knowing who you are 09:00 The catfishing incident and the rocky early months 10:30 The blind date in Covent Garden and the moment a choice was made 12:30 How that moment changed what Jo felt able to share 14:00 Jo's symptoms: UTIs, palpitations, anxiety and sleep disruption 15:30 Suggesting HRT and why prior experience made that possible 17:00 The driveway tantrum, the forgotten laptop and two weeks off the patch 19:00 A previous relationship stops being a threat and becomes a gift 21:00 What changed after HRT: confidence, mood, sleep and playfulness 23:00 Louise Newson's 10 tips for partners and how we had already lived them 27:00 What men get wrong about menopause 28:30 The MATE survey and some sobering stats on men's attitudes and inaction 30:00 Why post-menopause is a long road and can actually be great
Louise Newson https://www.newsonhealth.co.uk/ MATE Mens attitude to menopause https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/31188286/
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| Who Needs Friends Anyway? Why Midlife Can Feel Lonely & How Reclaiming Friendships Can Change That! | 07 May 2026 | 00:40:00 | |
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| The Generation Gap | 30 Apr 2026 | 00:38:49 | |
Every generation thinks it had it hardest. Jo and Kev dig into a Sunday Times article taking a multidimensional look at how Boomers, Gen X, Millennials and Gen Z have fared across five key areas: housing, wages, consumer goods, relationships, and retirement. As parents of four Gen Z kids, this one is personal. Spoiler: the Boomers did have it better — but the picture is more nuanced than the kids would have you believe. KEY TAKEAWAYS Housing: By 30, 50% of Boomers owned a home. First-time buyers today pay £73,800 in their first five mortgage years vs £41,500 for Boomers. The price-to-salary ratio has gone from 4.2x in 1975 to 7.6x today. Boomers had high rates but MIRAS tax relief softened the blow. Jo's 1988 Silvertown flat cost £85k — it's now £400k. Wages: Under-20s are up 20% in real terms thanks to minimum wage rises. Ages 20–27 are flat. Above 27, wages are down. 45% of unemployed 24-year-old Gen Z have never held a job, and graduate oversupply is squeezing entry-level roles. Consumer goods: Milk took 8 working minutes to earn in 1975, now 2. LCD TVs dropped from £4,500 to £279. But lifestyle creep absorbs the gains — one daily Starbucks is £225/month, and subscription stacking adds hundreds more. Relationships: UK marriages fell from 400,000 in 1973 to 224,400 in 2023. Average marriage age has risen a full decade in two generations. Birth rates dropped from 2.93 in 1964 to 1.41 in 2024. Silver divorce is also on the rise. Retirement: Boomers with final salary pensions had it best. Gen X were first to face defined contribution schemes — only 54% have adequate savings. Gen Z need £1,600/month to reach a £3m retirement pot. Their lifeline: the biggest intergenerational wealth transfer in history, if it survives inheritance tax changes. Verdict: Boomers won. Gen X feel the pension pinch. Gen Z face delayed milestones but may inherit on an unprecedented scale. The generation game is not over. TIMESTAMPS
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| Stop Snoring, Start Sleeping: What You Need to Know About Sleep Apnoea and Ageing | 23 Apr 2026 | 00:32:27 | |
Timed to coincide with National Stop Snoring Week (27 April to 3 May). Episode DescriptionJo sits down with sleep psychologist Dr Maja Schaedel to unpack everything nobody tells you about snoring, sleep apnoea and ageing. From why women approaching menopause are increasingly at risk, to whether sleeping in separate bedrooms might actually save your relationship, this conversation covers the practical, the awkward and the surprisingly funny. Key Takeaways • Snoring disrupts partners more than snorers themselves. Sleeping apart is not the beginning of the end. • Women approaching menopause are increasingly likely to snore and develop sleep apnoea due to hormonal and physical changes in the throat. • Sleep apnoea in women often looks different to men. Watch for fatigue, lethargy, dry mouth and broken sleep rather than obvious snoring. • Alcohol worsens snoring. Move your drinks earlier in the evening so your body has time to process it before bed. • There are multiple types of snoring. The BSSAA free interactive sleep test can help identify which type you have before you see a GP. • A CPAP is still the gold standard for sleep apnoea. Less severe cases may be treated with a mandibular advancement device. • Magnesium might improve sleep by about 15 minutes. CBT for insomnia (CBT-I) is far more evidence-based. Apps like Sleepio and Sleepful are a good starting point. • Power naps work best at 15 to 20 minutes. Beyond 30 minutes, you risk sleep inertia and feeling worse than before. • Sleep quality naturally declines after 55 for both men and women. • Poor sleep costs the average person around £5,000 a year. Timestamps00:00 Welcome and introducing Dr. Maja Schaedel and the problem of snoring 01:15 Why partners suffer more than snorers 03:07 Why people snore, menopause, hormones and the snoring link 04:06 Sleeping apart: stigma, reality and relationship benefits 07:04 Sleep apnoea symptoms in women versus men 07:50 How insomnia and sleep apnoea feed each other 10:02 National Stop Snoring Week and the BSSAA 11:05 Sleep position, alcohol and easy lifestyle tweaks 12:35 Types of snoring and the BSSAA sleep test 14:56 What to do if you suspect sleep apnoea 16:30 CPAP, mouth guards and treatment options 18:30 Perimenopause, hormones and disrupted sleep 20:58 Why sleep declines after 55 for everyone 22:16 The perfect power nap (and when it backfires) 24:02 The hidden £5,000 a year cost of bad sleep 25:29 Magnesium, melatonin and what the research actually says 26:10 CBT-I, sleep apps and where to get real help Links British Snoring and Sleep Apnoea Association: britishsnoring.co.uk The Good Sleep Clinic: goodsleep.clinic/ | |||
| The Boomerang Years -we right-sized for two and then the kids came back! | 16 Apr 2026 | 00:39:53 | |
This week, we cover the full ride from single parenting to empty nesting, downsizing, and now... the kids are back. Spoiler: the Aston Martin didn't help. Whether you're in the thick of solo parenting, watching your kids slowly stop needing you or about to open the front door to a 22-year-old with a suitcase, this one will hit home. IN THIS EPISODE • The brutal pragmatics of setting up as a single parent: schools, commutes, custody logistics and money • How your identity quietly disappears when you're the primary carer and how long it takes to get it back • The surprising emotional gut-punch of empty nesting, even when you thought you were prepared • From two houses to one: the financial and emotional decision to downsize and move in together • The week we bought a two-seater Aston Martin... and both kids said "Can I come home?" • Why we wrote actual house rules before the kids arrived and what made the list KEY TAKEAWAYS • Nearly 58% of 21-24 year olds and 34% of 24-35 year olds currently live at home with parents. The boomerang effect is real and growing • Every life stage feels permanent until it suddenly isn't • The shift from parent to host is a genuine identity challenge • Setting expectations upfront (yes, in writing) can save a lot of friction • Short-term stays: skip the rent conversation. Longer-term: consider saving contributions as a deposit fund TIMESTAMPS 00:09 Intro & why this episode is happening right now 02:32 Single parenting after divorce; logistics, finances, identity 09:44 Rebuilding yourself outside the parent role 14:21 Empty nesting: when it hits, even when you saw it coming 19:06 Downsizing from two houses to one life 26:53 Life as a couple with zero kids at home 29:12 The boomerang call… and the Aston Martin timing 31:33 The house rules document 36:15 How to handle money when adult kids move back in | |||
| Can You Run in Your 60s? Movement, Mindset & Staying Visible as You Age | 09 Apr 2026 | 00:35:46 | |
Guest: Julia Chi-Taylor, relationship coach, mentor, and international athlete who has been running for over 60 years. Julia works with people on the physical, emotional, mental and spiritual levels and is still competing in her late 60s. Key Takeaways • It's never too late to start running. Begin with lots of walking and a little running, take it slowly, and find a guide who understands you emotionally as well as physically. • The belief that recovery takes longer as you age is just that, a belief. Mindset and narrative around pain can spiral things down as much as the injury itself. • Blue Zones (Japan, Sardinia, Okinawa, Loma Linda, Ikaria) show us a different model of communities living well into their 100s through movement, plants, purpose and community. • Running as meditation: the goal is non-attachment to outcome. Aiming for something AND letting go of the result is the ultimate practice. • Staying visible as you age is a choice. You can disappear into it, or you can keep showing up with energy. • If you're starting to exercise later in life, the goal isn't pace or distance; it's whether you enjoyed it. That's the measure of success. • Reactivity is an arrow to past wounding. Real stillness in running and in life means not reacting from old patterns. Timestamps 00:09 Meet Julia: 50 years of coaching, running since age 6 02:34 How to start running later in life 04:59 Miracles in recovery: real stories 07:24 Jo's deadlift injury and healing journey 09:52 Blue Zones, aging myths and the beliefs we're fed 14:36 Being the oldest in the gym (and why it's great) 16:51 Making yourself invisible and how to stop 19:11 Julia's spiritual path and the running-meditation connection 26:04 How Julia would coach Jo to start running 29:00 The Happiness Curve and the striving trap 33:13 Where to find Julia + Jo might actually take up running! Find Julia | |||
| Midlife Reinvention: From Boardroom to DJ Booth | 02 Apr 2026 | 00:30:41 | |
Ever looked around at your life and thought “is this it?” This week, Jo and Kev are joined by Rosie Freshwater: serial entrepreneur, wife, mum and now a DJ playing gigs across the UK. Rosie's story is one of the most honest midlife reinventions you'll hear. Perimenopause and the empty nest landed at the same time, she started disconnecting from everything she'd worked hard to build and found her way back through music, TikTok and a whole lot of not giving a f**k what anyone thinks. From borrowing her brother-in-law's decks to building a TikTok following as Roo's Renaissance, putting on the UK's first 80s modern remix dance event and planning to swap a country house for a one-bed in Hackney, Rosie is proof it's never too late to start over. Key Takeaways • Perimenopause and empty nesting can collide and that identity crash is real • You don't need a course to start something new; YouTube and borrowed kit will do • Your existing friends might not get it. That's okay. Go find your tribe • Reinvention puts pressure on relationships, talking (and therapy) can get you through • The daytime rave scene is growing and it's genuinely multi-generational • Success looks different in midlife: happiness and freedom over money and status • Don't wait for permission. Try the thing. Don't give a f**k what anyone thinks
Timestamps 01:55 — Introducing Rosie + the midlife pressure points 04:10 — How the DJ journey started 06:10 — From borrowed decks to TikTok and paid gigs 08:03 — The 80s modern remix concept and live event 10:41 — Why creativity beat career: the total escape moment 11:48 — “ Bit old to do that aren’t you?” 12:45 — Finding a new tribe when your old one doesn’t get it 15:23 — Day raving and the multi-generational club scene 16:27 — Partner and kids: how family reacts to your reinvention 19:42 — Downsizing: letting go of your old identity 22:21 — Empty nest: how the boys are handling the move 25:35 — What’s next: Rue’s Renaissance as a brand and community 29:00 — Rosie’s advice if you’re standing on the edge of change
Find Rosie TikTok: @roos_renaissance Instagram @rosiefresh Event: 80s Modern Remix Dance Party — 18th April, Bermondsey Social Club, London, 2pm–9pm
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| Fit and Fabulous at 50 | 27 Mar 2026 | 00:29:23 | |
Fit, Fabulous & Flaunting It: Fitness Over 50 What does it actually mean to be fit and fabulous in your 50s and beyond? Jo and Kev dig into the science of why fitness matters more than ever at midlife, covering strength, cardio, and flexibility, while getting real about the overwhelming amount of conflicting advice out there. They celebrate some genuinely inspiring role models (and debate whether their abs are achievable), break down why you wake up feeling like a broken robot, and share practical tips for getting your body moving in the morning without a complete overhaul of your life. Key Takeaways• Strength, cardio, and flexibility all matter, but you don't have to do everything. Pick what works for you. • Morning stiffness has actual science behind it: tendons and ligaments shorten with age, and your joints produce less synovial fluid. It's not just you being lazy. • Hydration is more important than most people realise; your muscles and ligaments are 70% water. • Maintaining weight loss is harder (and less glamorous) than losing it in the first place. • A simple morning routine; box breathing, knee hugs, hot shower, ankle rotations can genuinely help. Timestamps00:09 Why fitness matters over 50, strength, cardio, flexibility 02:34 The benefits: bone density, muscle mass, mental health, sleep 03:20 Inspiring role models; Mel C, Gwyneth, JLo, Gillian Anderson 09:43 Dylan Jones on male style and fitness over 50 14:33 Alison Cork's 10 tips for maintaining weight loss 21:23 Jo's progress and why it's harder than expected 23:47 Why you wake up stiff: the science explained 25:00 Morning mobility routine to fix it Resources & Links[Add links here] Enjoyed this episode?Subscribe, leave us a review, and tell a friend. We're on all major podcast platforms. Got a topic you want us to cover? Drop us a message ,nothing is off the table. | |||
| It's Not Your Knees…It's Your Head: Conquering Ski Anxiety in Midlife | 20 Mar 2026 | 00:30:50 | |
Skiing, Anxiety & the Power of Mindset — with Louise Pode, Ski Mindset Coach Episode Description Jo sits down with Louise Pode, a ski mindset coach based in the UK, for a frank and funny conversation about why so many women over 45 quietly stop doing the things they love and what it actually takes to get back out there. Louise shares her own journey from chronically anxious skier with two replaced hips to leading an international coaching practice and explains how psychology plays a far bigger role on the slopes than most people realise. If skiing has ever terrified you, made you feel like the oldest, slowest person on the mountain or left you questioning why you even bothered, this one's for you. Key Takeaways • Your 'why' is everything. Before technique or training, Louise asks every client why they want to ski. That emotional anchor is what gets you through fear on the mountain. • Women over 45 are more likely to step back than step forward and it's not just about menopause. Decades of prioritising others, cultural expectations and internalised self-doubt all play a role. • Anxiety physically changes how you ski. Rigidity, leaning back, bracing; fear creates the very instability you're trying to avoid. • Learning to ski as an adult is genuinely hard. Expecting to crack it in a week sets you up to feel like a failure. Feeling comfortable on skis after a few days is already a win. • Environment matters enormously. Busy Christmas resorts with packed slopes are the worst place to learn or relearn. A quiet Italian resort beats Courchevel every time. • Men have anxiety too, they're just less likely to ask for help. Louise's one-to-one clients are almost exclusively women, but men do turn up at group masterclasses. • Overcoming anxiety is liberating beyond the slopes. Being able to look at a scary run and walk away with your head held high…that's the real goal. Timestamps 00:57 Louise's background: physiotherapy, hip replacements and a love-hate relationship with skiing 02:06 The accident that changed everything and the sliding doors moment that followed 04:31 Why women 45+ tend to step back, not forward 06:52 Male-dominated slopes and the intimidation factor 08:57 How anxiety physically distorts your skiing 11:24 What good learning actually looks like and why your instructor matters, it’s less stressful 12:56 The coaching process; finding your 'why' before anything else 15:45 Louise's own moment of panic at the top of Mont Vallon and how she talked herself down 17:43 The hybrid skiing model for families of mixed abilities 20:06 Do men seek coaching? (Spoiler: sort of) 22:53 What Louise offers - five-session programmes, power-hours and a new online course 25:08 Masterclasses at Tamworth and Hemel Hempstead and what a full day looks like 27:28 Jo's experience and the best advice for anyone thinking of going back Find Louise • Website: www.louisepode.com • Instagram: @coachingwithlou • Masterclasses coming soon in Hemel Hempstead | |||
| Mother's Day, The Never Empty Nest & The Challenge of Post -Parenthood | 13 Mar 2026 | 00:30:40 | |
Mother's Day, it's more complicated than a card and some flowers. This week we dig into the real origins of Mothering Sunday (16th century, religious, nothing to do with Hallmark), why mums feel the need to be celebrated and the uncomfortable truth about how much of our identity as parents we've wrapped up in our kids.
We also get into delayed adult development, why young adults are struggling to launch, how we might be making it worse and why letting go is the kindest thing you can do. For them AND for you. Plus: the love letter that made Jo emotional, the Mother's Day plan that backfired spectacularly and what David Beckham got right about letting your kids fail. Timestamps • 00:45 — The real origins of Mother's Day • 02:12— Why mums need to feel valued • 04:20 — The love letter from Jo’s daughter • 06:34 — Delayed adult development & the stats • 09:54 — How our generation parents differently • 10:48 — Tying our self-worth to our kids' outcomes • 14:14 — Mother’s Day isn’t good for everyone • 17:11 — The case for a day to yourself and Kev’s plan backfired • 19:42 — Expectations vs reality • 21:40 — Letting them fail…David Beckham • 23:00 — Why you can't control the outcome • 25:30 — How to detach without losing the relationship • 26:45 — Finding your third chapter – the beginning of your post-parenthood Key Takeaways • Mother's Day started as a 16th-century religious festival; the commercial version is a modern invention • Around 58% of 21-24 year olds currently live at home; independence is arriving 5-7 years later than in previous generations • Our generation ties its self-worth to our kids' outcomes more than any generation before us • Shielding your kids from every failure actually delays their ability to function independently • Detaching isn't about loving them less, it's about freeing you both to move forward
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| You Probably Can't Afford to Retire. Here's What to Do About It. | 06 Mar 2026 | 00:32:00 | |
Kev gets brutally honest about retirement, what it actually means, whether you can afford it and what to do if you can't. With guest Richard Squire of My Finance Future, they dig into the financial realities facing people in their 50s & 60s: from FIRE movements to the PLSA's benchmark figures, legacy planning and why your first retirement budget will probably be laughed at. Spoiler: Jo laughed at Kev's.
Key Takeaways • Second & third careers, partial work & financial independence • FIRE movement (Financial Independence, Retire Early) is reshaping how people think about work & money • The PLSA estimates that a comfortable retirement in UK £60K pa after tax • Build your retirement budget from the bottom up. • Keeping mentally active matters • Helping kids is a newer, growing part of strategy • Start checking your pension now Timestamps • 00:45 — 4 stages of retirement, what it brought up for Kev • 02:20 — Mortality reality check: losing parents, becoming head of family • 03:10 — Triggers: empty nest, mortgage renewal, the oldest at work • 04:30 — Introducing Richard Squire • 04:59 — What does retirement mean today • 06:09 — FIRE movement: Financial Independence, Retire Early explained • 07:15 — Final salary pensions vs. modern approaches • 08:09 — Keeping your brain active, why Kev worries about doing sod all • 09:08 — Leaving a legacy vs spending it all • 12:04 — Pension briefings at work • 12:38 — Kev's 1st retirement budget, Jo's verdict: f**king ridiculous • 13:39 — PLSA figures: what a comfortable retirement actually costs • 15:00 — Why bottom-up personal budgeting beats mythical averages • 16:38 – The go-go, slow-go and no-go years of retirement explained • 18:30 – 3 approaches to planning: advisor, coach or DIY • 22:25 – Kev's experience trying to move money out of a defined benefit pension • 23:40 – The British Steelworkers DB scandal • 24:30 – Where to start if you want to take control • 26:46 – Why getting pension decisions right first time matters • 27:53 – What Richard's cashflow forecasting tool does • 30:04 – Treat retirement planning like project management
https://myfinancefuture.com/learn-more MyFinanceFuture: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=u3tke_J8HrY | |||
| Can You Learn To Ski or Snowboard After 50? Spoiler ...Yes You Can | 27 Feb 2026 | 00:30:52 | |
Inspired by the Winter Olympics, we dive into whether it's ever too late to hit the slopes and what to do when your partner just isn't that into it. Kev is a seasoned snowboarder heading to Méribel in his 60s. Jo learned to ski at 57... under protest. We share our honest, sometimes hilarious experiences, plus practical advice for midlifers considering winter sports for the first time (or for the first time in a while). Key Takeaways · Why the 2025 Winter Olympics felt so inspiring for older viewers · The 2030 Winter Olympics in France: 7 centres including Nice, Courchevel & Méribel · Why the average age of a new ski school student in Canada is 45 · The real reason older beginners struggle; it's psychological, not physical · The physical and social benefits of skiing and boarding in midlife · Ski trips designed specifically for the over-50s · What to do when one partner loves it and the other... really doesn't · The rules: never teach your partner yourself · How to sweeten the deal and find the right resort for mixed-ability couples · Jo's ongoing negotiations about whether she'll ever ski again Coming up: Jo talks to a coach who specialises in helping women over 45 rebuild their confidence on the slopes. TIMESTAMPS: 00:44 – The Winter Olympics were inspiring 03:15 – What makes the 2026 Milan-Cortina Olympics different; multiple locations 04:25 – The 2030 Winter Olympics in France: 7-centre breakdown 07:00 – Kev heads to Méribel; two men over 60 on the mountain 08:00 – Jo's ski history (it's not pretty) 10:05 – The family Christmas ski trip to Méribel 11:20 – Jo learns to ski at 57 (under duress) 12:22 – Stats: average age of new skiers is 45 and cognitive ability at 50+ 13:10 – The fear of falling problem 14:01 – Physical & social benefits of skiing in midlife 15:22 – Jo admits her fears of falling and her blocks 16:28 – Over-50s ski organisations & group holidays 19:00 – Club Med do social skiing for adults in term time, could this be the answer? 20:33 – Options when partners have different enthusiasm and skill levels 21:55 – Choices for going to a ski resort, rules and Golden rules: don't teach your partner; be back for après 25:25 – The infamous lost children incident in Méribel 28:45 – Will Jo ever ski again? Watch this space RESOURCES MENTIONED: The Ski Gathering | Snow Camps Europe | Ski World Over 50s | Ski Club of Great Britain – Fresh Tracks (over 60s) | AARP 50+ Ski Club | Club Med social skiing | |||
| Retirement Coach Reveals: The 4 Stages of Retirement and Why 6 Months In Everything Changes | 20 Feb 2026 | 00:31:48 | |
Think retirement is all about having enough money saved? Think again. In this eye-opening conversation, retirement coach Dawn Marcotte reveals the hidden challenges that hit six months after you leave work - the anxiety, the boredom, the loss of identity. Dawn breaks down the four stages of retirement and shares practical strategies for building a fulfilling post-work life, from creating your "curiosity list" to joining industry associations where your expertise still matters. This episode tackles the emotional and social aspects of retirement that nobody prepares you for, with honest discussion about depression and invisibility. disappear. KEY TAKEAWAYS · Retirement coaching focuses on the emotional, social, and psychological changes - not finances · The first 6 months feel amazing, then many people experience anxiety and depression · Without planning, it takes 2 years on average to figure out retirement happiness · The four stages: Honeymoon → Lost → Exploration → Reinvention · You need to replace: routine, intellectual stimulation, purpose and social connections · Create a "curiosity list" of things to explore without judging if you'll be good at them · Join industry associations to mentor others · Quality of relationships is the #1 predictor of happiness · Society tells retirees to "be small" TIMESTAMPS 00:52 - What is a Retirement Coach? Dawn explains the non-financial side of retirement coaching and why it's needed 01:40 - Why the first six months of retirement feel fantastic 02:03 - The "Now What?" Moment. When boredom and anxiety set in 03:13 – Why am I not having the time of my life? 04:02 - Key Elements for Retirement Success 04:33 - Dawn compares retirement boredom to the end of summer holidays as a kid 05:40 - DIY Jo discusses people who think they'll paint the house repeatedly (the Severn Bridge analogy) 06:45 - Most people feel lost 6 months to a year after retiring 07:56 - The Four Stages of Retirement 08:22 - The Reinvention Stage 08:43 - Giving Back Through Your Passions 09:44 - Why some people never reach the reinvention stage 10:02 - When grandchildren grow up and don't need you anymore - then what? 11:45 - UK retirement age is rising to 67-70, meaning 15-20 years to fill 13:00 - How removing structure without replacement can cause depression 14:20 - Baby Boomers & The Retirement Crisis 15:04 - The Introvert-Extrovert Marriage Challenge 16:00 - Why men particularly struggle when all their friends were at work 16:44 - Kev's Retirement Plans, he is considering snowboard instructor training to manage the transition 18:32 - The Need for Intellectual Stimulation 19:09 - Dawn's coaching technique: brainstorm things you're curious about 19:42 - Using your career expertise to mentor others after retirement 22:00 - Dawn recommends public speaking to share expertise 23:45 - Culture "be small" in retirement 24:17 - Tony Robbins' Six Human Needs 25:19 - Research shows relationship quality is the #1 indicator of happiness at any age 27:19 - Joining Organizations, finding people who enjoy what you enjoy to build new social connections 28:09 - Dawn's Book: "Filling the Blank Page"- practical guide to building a retirement of passion and purpose 30:00 - New Website Launch dawnmarcotte.com 30:30 - Dawn offers to help UK listeners find coaches i | |||
| Brat-ults, Beckham Drama & What Happens When Your Kid Gets Married | 13 Feb 2026 | 00:29:40 | |
When your adult children get married, you're not just gaining an in-law you're potentially entering a minefield of power struggles, boundary conflicts and family drama. This week, we unpack "brat-ults (privileged young adults publicly cancelling parents) through the lens of celebrity wedding wars, then dig into what happens when your first child ties the knot. From Brooklyn Beckham's 6 page Instagram manifesto to the universal challenges of dealing with your kids' partners, wedding ceremonies and prenup conversation. KEY TAKEAWAYS The "Brat-ult" Phenomenon: Privileged young adults publicly cancelling parents Entitlement vs. Legitimate Conflict: The difference between healthy boundaries and entitled behaviour 1st Marriage Milestone: Parents in their mid-50s/early-60s typically experience their first child's wedding The Partner Question: Do you express concerns about your child's relationship Power Struggles Are Real: Wedding planning can become a battleground between families "Us" Matters: Supporting your adult child's relationship means accepting their partner is their priority Prenup: Best done when couples are in love and with wealth inequality Grandchildren Pressure: Being obsessive about grandchildren Independence Is Healthy: Teaching children self-sufficiency early creates better boundaries The Divorce Reality: With a 48% divorce rate, statistical concerns about marriage are valid but tricky Let Them Make Mistakes: Adult children need to make their own choices
TIMESTAMPS 00:30 Brat-ults, cancelling parents and wedding conflicts 00:59 - What are "brat-ults"? Dr. Elizabeth McCain's article on privileged young adults in conflict with their parents 01:53 - Celebrity examples: Brooklyn Beckham and Prince Harry 03:00 - Jo's frustration with Brooklyn’s entitled behaviour and public family feuds 04:38 - The psychology of spoiled children and parental guilt 06:43 - Social media's role in normalising parent cancellation, by the rich and famous 07:08 - The immaturity of public family conflicts 08:22 - Brooklyn Beckham's wedding as the catalyst 09:26 - Plot twist: When did the Spice Girls get old? 09:52 - Parents in their 50s/60s experiencing their first child's wedding 10:24 - Power struggles behind the scenes at the Beckham wedding 10:57 - The new family dynamic: Your kid is no longer a kid 12:06 - Do you like your child's partner? What if you think it won’t last? 13:30 - The importance of "the us" in relationships 14:15 -Jo's take on not being married herself 15:05 - Mother's sense of loss when a child marries 16:43 - Jo's parenting style: Independence from an early age 17:23 - Single parenting and teaching self-sufficiency 18:33 - In-law relationships: Does it really matter if you don't click? 19:20 - Power struggles over the wedding ceremony itself 19:35 - Mumzilla vs. bridezilla: Jo's prom dress experience 20:33 - Making mistakes and learning independence 20:52 - The grandchildren pressure problem 22:11 - Kev's statistical approach to marriage advice for his boys 23:01 - The prenup debate: When does it make sense? 23:47 - Deed of trust: Jo's experience with wealth protection 24:33 - Wealth inequality and prenup timing 25:20 - Kev - Would you tell your child you don't like their partner? 26:06 - Malevolence vs. minor annoyances 27:17 - Wedding planning involvement 28:52 - Final thoughts: Freedom, boundaries and respecting choices | |||
| Dating Over 50: What Really Matters (It's Not What You Think) & Valentine's Day | 06 Feb 2026 | 00:26:52 | |
We celebrate our podcast's 1st anniversary on Valentine's Day by diving into dating after 50, relationship maintenance and why this made-up holiday matters more than we thought. Forget just celebrating Valentine's Day, we're celebrating a full year of podcasting! In this milestone episode, we reflect on our journey from starting with different co-hosts to building an audience (slower than expected!), going viral with 200K views and even getting nominated for a Pro-Ageing Podcast Award. But the heart of this episode is about love after 50. We explore the three types of people on Valentine's Day (singles, established couples, and newly dating), confess how we nearly let Valentine's Day slide after 8 years together and share what people actually prioritise when dating post-50: intelligence, humour, honesty and kindness. We get brutally honest about the challenges of dating later in life, the baggage everyone brings, financial compatibility conversations, health considerations and the reality that 35-40 years of habits won't change. From joint bank accounts (we don't have one) to understanding your partner's "money language," we cover the conversations you need to have before fully committing.
KEY TAKEAWAYS Podcasting reality check: We overestimated Year 1 success and learned listeners dip in and out rather than following. Valentine's serves as a reminder to invest effort in your relationship, not just celebrate on one specific date. Post-50 dating priorities shift: Intelligence, humour, honesty and kindness matter most (men add facial attractiveness; women add dependability). Everyone over 50 has baggage; we think it's actually a red flag if they don't. The comfort zone trap is real: Cohabitation can lead to taking each other for granted if you're not careful Money means different things: Safety, control, freedom, or love, understanding your partner's "money language" is crucial We took 4.5 years before moving in together, there's no rush when you're building something real
TIMESTAMPS 00:27 - Introduction & First Anniversary 02:49 – Lessons Learnt from Our First Year 05:41 – The Evolution of Our Valentine’s Day 14:55 – Our Primary Motivation When We Started Dating Each Other in Our Mid 50s 17:19 - It Is Important to do Things Together
RESOURCES MENTIONED • Anthony Robbins quote on Year 1 vs. Year 5 expectations
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| The Midlife Crisis Gets a Makeover: 5 New Stereotypes Which One Are YOU? | 30 Jan 2026 | 00:31:11 | |
The midlife crisis isn't dead… it's had a makeover! We explore 5 new stereotypes replacing the old motorbike-and-affair cliché, confess which ones we fit and reveal shocking stats about sex after 50. Nothing is off the table! Forget the leather jacket and motorcycle stereotype! The Times Magazine has declared the traditional midlife crisis dead and replaced it with FIVE new archetypes. Join us hilariously dissect each one;from the LinkedIn Thought Leader to the Midlife Clubber and (reluctantly) admit which stereotypes we have fallen into. But this episode goes deeper than stereotypes. We break the taboo around sex after 50 with eye-opening statistics: 85% of men aged 60-69 are sexually active, 45% of over-50s are having the best sex of their lives, and 1 in 8 are doing it at least 5 times a week! Inspired by the BBC series "Riot Women" and our own midlife experiences, we explore why society doesn't want to see older people as sexual beings, what happens when the kids leave home and the surprising kinks dominating the over-50s bedroom. KEY TAKEAWAYS The old midlife crisis stereotype (motorbike, affair, leather jacket) has been replaced by 5 new archetypes The Midlife Clubber is real and we are living proof (daytime clubbing, anyone?) 45% of people over 50 report having the best sex of their lives RIGHT NOW Media representation of sex after 50 is virtually non-existent (67% say it's rarely/never shown) Empty nesters experience significant improvements in their sex lives (48% report better intimacy) 33% of over-50s are open to multiple sexual partners Confidence and self-acceptance increase with age, leading to more sexual exploration TIMESTAMPS 00:43 - The Times redefines the Old Midlife Crisis Stereotype and a look at the 5 new stereotypes RESOURCES MENTIONED • BBC Series: Riot Women NEXT EPISODE Valentine's Day Special - February 6, 2026 #MidlifeCrisis #AgeingUnapologetically #SexAfter50 #MidlifeReinvention #PodcastOver50 #AgeingWell #MidlifeClubbing #Perimenopause #RiotWomen #SexualWellness #Over50AndThriving Subscribe to the podcast on Apple Podcasts or Spotify
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| Dry January, Bucket Lists & David Bowie: Drinking, Ageing & Reinventing Yourself After 60 | 23 Jan 2026 | 00:38:56 | |
January isn’t over yet and neither are the resolutions, bucket lists, or existential reckonings. We take a brutally honest (and very funny) look at how our January intentions are actually going, from elusive masquerade balls and long-delayed bucket list dreams, to Dry January becoming… possibly Dry February. Along the way, the conversation turns deeply personal: drinking habits, relationships, sex, sobriety, ageing bodies, and the symbolic end-of-day drink. The episode concludes with a passionate tribute to one of January’s most iconic sons, David Bowie, and why his legacy still matters across generations. Key Takeaways
Timestamps 00:53 Our Bucket List Update, The Masquerade Ball - Venice, Versailles, eye-watering ticket prices and alternative 02:15 Kev finally ticks off a 23-year-old dream and the emotional backstory involving Jeremy Clarkson, fatherhood, guilt and timing 05:56 Kev’s Post-Christmas stubborn weight and why January hasn’t magically fixed anything 06:45 Drinking Maths – Kev is drinking 50–70 units a week, 4,000 calories, NHS guidelines and the uncomfortable truth behind “I don’t want to eat less” 08:11 He is considering “dry something” because 17.5M people in the UK are doing Dry January 09:11 The over-55s are least likely to question alcohol intake, Kev will do a month dry 10:16 Jo’s Sobriety Story, why she gave up alcohol over 20 years ago, being a single parent- fear, responsibility and choosing pain over pleasure 13:15 Jo & Kev have questions for each other from a recent article 13:36 Kev asks if she thinks he is drinking too much 15:40 When was the last time we had sober sex 16:20 If Kev gives up drinking, there is a possibility that he might be miserable 18:43 Kev predicts irritability, garage cleaning and losing the symbolic “end of the day” drink. 20:30 Celebrities of our age who have given up alcohol 22:10 David Bowie gave up alcohol in 1993 23:07 David and Elvis were massive icons 24:27 Ziggy Stardust was a redhead 24:55 The first airplay of “Heroes” played by John Peel, in the same year as Elvis died 26:05 Bowie’s cultural impact, he is timeless. He died 10 years ago, he released Black Star. Was that orchestrated? 29:20 Bowie was a nonconformist; he shaped music and fashion 29:54 A recent article said 10 bands wouldn’t exist without Bowie, including Sex Pistols, Joy Division, The Cure, Suede, Pulp, Placebo and The Kooks 38:37 We promise to report back on Dry January/February Subscribe to the podcast on Apple Podcasts or Spotify. Youtube https://www.youtube.com/@WhentheFdidIbecomeold
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| Our perspectives on Change - Is AI going to make a difference? | 16 Jan 2026 | 00:34:38 | |
In this episode, we dive headfirst into one of the biggest changes of our time: AI. From black-and-white TVs to ChatGPT, VHS barcode pens to Alexa paranoia, we explore how different generations adapt (or don’t), whether AI really threatens jobs or humanity itself and why fatigue, scepticism, and “I just can’t be arsed” might be the most honest response of all. Funny, sharp and unfiltered this is a real conversation about ageing, tech, fear, curiosity, and knowing when to lean in… and when to say no. Key Takeaways
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| The Happiness Curve: Why Life Gets Better After Midlife | 09 Jan 2026 | 00:34:13 | |
What if everything we’ve been told about ageing and happiness is wrong? In this episode of When the F**k Did I Become Old?, we dive into the surprising science behind happiness and why life often feels hardest in midlife but better on the other side of it. Sparked by a viral Christmas clip that racked up over 163,000 views and ignited fierce debate, our conversation moves into the World Happiness Report, the Cantril Ladder and the research behind the so-called midlife malaise. Kev shares insights from The Happiness Curve by Jonathan Rauch, revealing why happiness follows a U-shaped curve; dipping in our 40s and 50s before rising again as we age. Together we unpack expectations, resilience, gratitude, emotional intelligence and why getting older may actually be something to look forward to. This is an honest, funny, and deeply reassuring episode for anyone who’s ever wondered: Key Takeaways
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| New Year, Same You? Rethinking Resolutions, Bucket Lists & Ageing with Optimism | 02 Jan 2026 | 00:29:25 | |
Do New Year’s resolutions actually work, especially as we get older? In this honest, funny and refreshingly unfiltered episode we challenge everything we’ve been told about January self-improvement. From overcrowded gyms and guilt-driven goal setting to the pressure to “start fresh” on January 1st, we explore why traditional New Year’s resolutions often fail and why optimism, agency and having something to look forward to matter far more as we age. Drawing on insights from geriatric psychiatry, lived experience and bucket-list thinking for over-50s, this episode reframes ageing as a time for renewal, curiosity and choosing goals that genuinely make life more vibrant, not just more “virtuous”. Key Takeaways • Why looking forward to the future is vital for mental health in later life If you’re over 50, questioning ageing, fed up with guilt-based self-improvement or simply want to feel more excited about what’s ahead, this episode is for you. Timestamps
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| Do we need to spend Christmas with our adult children? | 19 Dec 2025 | 00:31:42 | |
In this episode, we explore the complexities of spending Christmas with adult children. We discuss the emotional challenges of changing family dynamics, the evolution of Christmas traditions and the importance of adapting to new realities as children grow up. We highlight the importance of open communication and understanding as our families navigate the evolving landscape of holiday celebrations. Key Takeaways Christmas with adult children brings new challenges. Creating new traditions is essential as families evolve. Emotional responses to children not being home for Christmas are common. Parents must adapt to their children's changing preferences. The pressure of parental expectations can affect holiday gatherings. Open communication is key to understanding children's needs. Christmas celebrations should reflect the current family dynamics. It's important to allow children to create their own holiday experiences. Financial considerations play a role in hosting Christmas. Navigating adult relationships requires flexibility and understanding. Time Stamps 01:14 Our first Xmas with no kids at home 01:38 Remembering Xmas as a child 06:04 Creating New Christmas Traditions for our kids 10:55 How it felt when my daughter asked if she could spend Xmas with her friends 13:15 Pros and cons of having Xmas with adult children 16:29 Managing expectations 17:58 Shifting Dynamics of Family Gatherings 18:23 Hosting Xmas is expensive 20:41 We think we might be invited for Xmas soon 21:21 We have to let our kids create their own Xmas 22:00 Main reasons adult children don’t want to spend Xmas with their parents 24:24 New Year’s Eve 27:35 Is this the last year we go clubbing on New Year’s Eve? 29:10 Get to know your children as adults 30:14 Redefining Christmas CelebrationsSubscribe to the podcast on Apple Podcasts or Spotify
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| So You’ve Retired… Now What? LivOn’s Amanda Forsyth Has Answers | 12 Dec 2025 | 00:29:41 | |
Jo sits down with Amanda Forsyth, the co-founder and CEO of LivOn, a new app helping people navigate the transition into retirement by discovering their interests, building purpose and staying connected to their community.Subscribe to the podcast on Apple Podcasts or Spotify. They unpack identity loss, loneliness and why retirement is far more than finances and how LivOn is redefining what this next chapter can look like. Key Takeaways Retirement is a whole new chapter, not an ending So much of “good retirement” is down to luck Identity loss is a huge, hidden problem Live On is like a retirement coach in your pocket Special support for men & the newly “forced” retired The app is free, with a “tech for good” mission Timestamps 01:38 - What is LivOn 02:04 - Retirement Comes Down to Luck 02:40 - Amanda’s Parents’ Journey 04:28 - The Difficulty of Finding Activities After 60 05:34 - 1 in 3 People Struggle with Retirement 06:04 - We Are Living Much Longer 06:20 - What LivOn Offers (Overview) 07:25 - The Personality Test, designed to help the individual 07:53 - How the App Recommends Activities 09:30 - Helping Introverts or the Newly Alone Make Friends 10:26 - Partnerships & Trusted Sources 11:25 - Supporting Men in Retirement 12:33 - Can Users Add Their Own Groups or Events? 13:42 - If the App Is Free, How Will It Make Money? 14:32 - What Might the Premium Version Include? 15:15 - The Gap in the Market 17:08 - Who Is the App For? (55+ and beyond) 18:35 - Why Aren’t We Emotionally Prepared for Retirement? 19:38 - Jo Talks About Kev’s Forthcoming Retirement Process 22:22 - Why Live On Avoids Health & Finance Advice (For Now) 23:40 - Anonymous Chat Groups (Reddit-Style) 25:56 - The Bigger Mission 28:24 - When Is the App Launching? January 2026 28:46 - Early Testers Wanted
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| Cosmetic Surgery, Weight Loss Drugs and Why Gen X Won’t Age Quietly | 05 Dec 2025 | 00:35:30 | |
Episode Summary In this unapologetically honest episode, we dive into the exploding world of cosmetic surgery, injectables and weight-loss drugs, especially for people over 50. From facelifts to Ozempic, celebrity transparency and the reality of loose skin, we explore what’s real, what’s taboo and what’s becoming completely normal. We also discuss how Gen X is redefining aging, why social media is both inspiring and exhausting and the huge rise in both men and women seeking aesthetic treatments. Topics Discussed
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| Winter Health: Flu Jabs, SAD, Christmas Weight Gain & Wellbeing in Later Life | 28 Nov 2025 | 00:34:27 | |
Winter Health: Flu Jabs, SAD, Christmas Weight Gain & Wellbeing in Later Life Episode Summary In this candid and humorous episode, we dive into the realities of winter health for people over 60, from flu jabs and COVID boosters to Seasonal Affective Disorder, sleep struggles, hydration, exercise, Christmas weight gain and what truly defines wellbeing in later life. We explore how older adults can stay physically and mentally strong during the darkest months of the year. Key Takeaways
Timestamps . 01:53 Flu jabs: Should we get them? 03:34 If I am fit, do I need one? 04:59 COVID vaccinations are no longer free? How do you know if you have it? 07:43 Herd mentality vs personal choice 08:59 Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD): What it is & why it hits in winter 09:30 Symptoms of SAD in everyday life 10:40 Fixing winter fatigue: Light, sleep, and routine 12:40 The Ultimate Energy Edge Challenge with Ben Price; go outside 15:17 The reality of winter exercise 16:56 Ben Price’s advice on sleep and sleep patterns 17:38 Christmas weight gain: truth, myths & personal disasters 20:57 The recommended steps to not putting on weight at Christmas 22:43 Avoid stress eating as a response to bad sleep, sugar cravings, sleep & emotional eating 26:00 Kev once made the mistake of having a medical after Christmas eating 28:07 Wellbeing in later life: What the new Age UK index reveals 29:50 Age UK suggestions on how to improve wellbeing at 60+ 32:00 Exercise; padel, gyms, social connection & staying active Subscribe to the podcast on Apple Podcasts or Spotify
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| Men’s Mental Health, Movember & The Silent Epidemic of Loneliness | 21 Nov 2025 | 00:32:04 | |
This week I welcome my new co-host, Kev Stockbridge, for a deep, honest, and surprisingly uplifting conversation about Men’s Mental Health Awareness Month, International Men’s Day, and the often-hidden issue of male loneliness , especially as men age. Kev brings his experience as a UK Mental Health First Aider, sharing shocking statistics, the roots of men’s silence, why loneliness hits men harder later in life, the crisis of male social isolation, and why so many men fall off a social cliff after retirement. From Movember moustaches to actionable support models, from suicide statistics to why men avoid support groups filled with women, this episode is equal parts enlightening, tender, funny, and necessary. Key Takeawys
Timestamps 01:57 – Why Men’s Mental Health Awareness Month matters 03:11 – Suicide; methods & how they differ by age 05:30 – Movember: the origin story (and the ridiculous moustaches) 06:34 – What Movember funds today 08:00 – The Distinguished Gentleman’s Ride 09:35 – International Men’s Day & this year’s theme 11.34 – Why men die younger than women 13.33 – The A.L.E.C. Model: Ask, Listen, Encourage, Check-in 14:10 – What problems men bring to mental health first aiders 15:50 – Loneliness: the hidden epidemic for older men 16:35 – Social isolation vs loneliness (they’re not the same) 18:00 – 911,000 men over 50 live alone, rising to 1.5 million by 2030 20:55 – Why men struggle socially after 50 22:17 – Why men avoid support groups run mostly by women 22:45 – Men’s Shed, Andy’s Man Club & male-only spaces 24:50 – Kev’s personal retirement plans (and my opinion) 29:12 – The importance of purpose, routine & brain stimulation after retirement 30:36 – Men need reasons to meet up, not just “a chat” 31:10 – Being kind, checking in, and supporting the men around you https://internationalmensday.com https://www.ageuk.org.uk/information-advice/health-wellbeing/loneliness/
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| Erection Fitness - For health not just pleasure | 14 Nov 2025 | 00:43:00 | |
Put an Erection Ring on it Episode I have decided to replay this episode (for those of you who missed it) following last week's interview on Sex Advice for Seniors with Suazanne Noble, as she refers to the penis ring and is the UK distributor.
This is with Dr Elliot Justin who invented an erection ring that not only helps maintain an erection but also provides data on your erection health, which is an indication of other health issues. He talks in depth about the benefits of the erection ring and how people have responded to it. Key Takeaways: Dr Elliot Justin and the Erection Ring Designing a device for women How the erection ring can help you Rock harder, last longer and have more intense orgasms put a ring on it Timestamps: • [00:27] – Introducing guest Dr Elliot Justin • [01:39] – The Erection ring • [11:04] – Not to call it Erectile Dysfunction • [14:18] – How Women have been described • [16:45] – Database • [21:06] – Partner's response to the erection ring • [26:02] – Shame and secrecy • [31:56] - Device for women • [32:54] – Your mission Where to get more information on the penis ring or buy one: https://myfirmtech.com/ Subscribe to the podcast on Apple Podcasts or Spotify Follow us on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/whenthefkdidibecomeold/ Facebook https://www.facebook.com/WhenthefkdidIbecomeold/ TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@gaylin_jo Email us whenthefkdidibecomeold@gmail.com
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| Sex Advice for Seniors | 07 Nov 2025 | 00:33:45 | |
In this engaging conversation, I talk to Suzanne Noble, host of the podcast Sex Advice for Seniors, we explore the often-taboo topics surrounding ageing, sexuality, and the challenges faced by seniors. Suzanne shares her journey in founding 'Advantages of Age' and the importance of disrupting negative narratives about ageing. We discuss the complexities of desire, the significance of communication in relationships and the need for open discussions about sexual health. The conversation emphasises the importance of community and support in navigating the ageing process, while also addressing the innovations in sexual wellness that can enhance pleasure and intimacy for seniors. Takeaways Ageing narratives need to be disrupted to reflect reality. Community support is vital for seniors facing challenges. Sexuality does not diminish with age; it evolves. Communication about sexual health is crucial for pleasure. Many seniors lack information about sexual wellness. Desire and libido are complex and influenced by many factors. Lube and other aids should be normalised in conversations. Ageing brings unique challenges that require attention from policymakers. The importance of celebrating achievements in ageing through awards. Everyone's experience of ageing and sexuality is unique. Timestamps 01:14 Suzanne is on a mission to smash the stereotypes around ageing and sex 02:11 Media narrative around ageing 03:03 The Journey of Advantages of Age 06:42 Start up School for Seniors – to help people over 50 start a new business 08:43 Sex Advice for Seniors explained 09:53 This age group used to be sorted 13:12 Any surprises? 14:22 Getting back into sex in her 60s and reactions 17:17 Desire and libido are complex 19:30 Exploring Pleasure Beyond Penetration 23:40 Interesting interview(s) on Sex Advice for Seniors 21:04 How easy is it to communicate about sex with your partner? 24:59 Dr Elliot Justin – Penis Ring Suzanne's Links https://advantagesofageawards.com/ https://www.sexadviceforseniors.com/p/pegging-and-the-older-man-how-to https://myfirmtech.com/collections/firmtech Subscribe to the podcast on Apple Podcasts or Spotify
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| Is retirement a second childhood? | 31 Oct 2025 | 00:28:19 | |
In this episode we explore the concept of a 'second childhood', emphasising the importance of embracing creativity, passion, and a sense of wonder akin to that of a child. We discuss how allowing oneself to experience these feelings can lead to personal growth and self-discovery. Takeaways The idea of second childhood, in a way, it is a second childhood. Allowing yourself to have the same creativity and passions. Absorption in things and awe and wonder as a little two and a half year old. What is wrong with that? Embracing creativity can lead to personal growth. Passion is essential for a fulfilling life. Awe and wonder can be rediscovered at any age. Self-discovery is a lifelong journey. Creativity should not be limited by age. Allowing oneself to feel like a child can be liberating. Subscribe to the podcast on Apple Podcasts or Spotify
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| Is ageing mind over matter? | 23 Oct 2025 | 00:29:43 | |
In this episode of 'When the F*** Did I Become Old?', hosts Jo Parker and Corinne Franceschi explore the complex relationship between ageing and mindset. They discuss the impact of attitude, emotional memory, belief, and cultural perspectives on the ageing process. The conversation emphasizes the importance of mindfulness, language, and the power of choice in shaping how we experience ageing. Through various studies and personal anecdotes, they highlight that while ageing is inevitable, our perception and approach to it can significantly influence our quality of life as we grow older. Takeaways Ageing is influenced by both mindset and physical factors. Attitude plays a significant role in how we perceive ageing. Emotional memory can affect our physical vitality as we age. Belief in oneself can lead to positive physical changes. Language and self-talk are crucial in shaping our ageing experience. Cultural perspectives can impact how ageing is viewed and respected. Mindfulness can help us stay present and aware as we age. We have the power to choose our attitude towards aging. Ageing is a complex interplay of various factors, not just mindset. The freedom that comes with ageing can be liberating. Timestamps 01:32 Mel Robbins podcast episode with De Ellen Lnager 02:46 The Mind-Body Connection in Ageing 03:40 Attitude and Ageing: A Complex Relationship 05:53 Emotional Memory and Its Impact on Ageing 09:50 Belief and Perception: Shaping Our Ageing Experience 13:40 How do Faith, Gender, Culture impact your Belief 14:46 Negativity around age 15:30 Cultural Perspectives on Ageing, how we make it more interesting and fun 16:37 The Role of Language and Mindfulness in Ageing 21:10 Belonging and Being Accepted 17:52 The Power of Choice in the Ageing Process 25:57 Is there Something Liberating about Getting Old 29:13 We Have a Choice Subscribe to the podcast on Apple Podcasts or Spotify
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| Living with Parkinson's Disease | 16 Oct 2025 | 00:32:06 | |
SEASON 2 The search for a co-host conitues with Corinne Franceschi (ex head teacher) In this episode, Jo Parker and Corrine Franceschi discuss the challenges and realities of living with Parkinson's disease, particularly from the perspective of a caregiver. Corrine shares her personal experiences with her partner's diagnosis, the emotional and physical toll of caregiving, and the importance of awareness and support systems. They explore the impact of the disease on relationships, the necessity of maintaining one's identity, and practical advice for those newly diagnosed. The conversation emphasizes the need for greater understanding and resources for both patients and caregivers. Takeaways
Timestamps 01:34 Introduction to Parkinson's Disease 02:36 Understanding Parkinson's: Symptoms and Progression 07:40 The Emotional Toll of Caregiving 12:00 Navigating Healthcare and Support Systems 16:04 The Impact on Relationships and Family 20:34 Not Feeling Guilty, Finding Joy and Maintaining Identity 22:22 Depression and Dignitas 24:23 Going into a Care Home 26:12 Lasting Power of Attorney 28:09 Practical Advice for New Diagnoses Follow us on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/whenthefkdidibecomeold/ Facebook https://www.facebook.com/WhenthefkdidIbecomeold/ TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@gaylin_jo Email us whenthefkdidibecomeold@gmail.com
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| A look at holistic dentistry and its health benefits. | 09 Oct 2025 | 00:35:20 | |
Holistic Dentistry Episode Summary: In this episode we welcome Dr Elmar Jung to discuss Holistic Dentistry. He explains what Holistic Dentistry is and how they work. We have a very interesting chat about toxins in our mouth and how these toxins can link to other things in your body. Key Takeaways: Can toothache relate to something else in my body 1st step is the most important one Dr Elmar Jung’s podcast Timestamps: • [01:10] – Introduction of guest Dr Elmar Jung • [02:08] – What is Holistic Dentistry • [07:38] – Mercury in my mouth • [16:45] – What is in people’s mouths • [19:28] – Fluoride • [22:10] – Where can we do our research • [23:47] – How do we start • [27:50] – Root Canal Dr Elmar's podcast Tooth Talk https://open.spotify.com/show/2nLSiWifMMs1QjUoXdiCng?si=56e0b821c4994583+-+Tooth+Talk&nd=1&dlsi=eac902f460a543cb Root Cause https://youtu.be/3s41QXReJ_4?si=uDlShJ7Bk4Aiyaf8 The Smoking Tooth https://youtu.be/fJVBYZEsqEU?si=UkeC1cuEhad3DAQH Follow us on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/whenthefkdidibecomeold/ Facebook https://www.facebook.com/WhenthefkdidIbecomeold/ TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@gaylin_jo Email us whenthefkdidibecomeold@gmail.com
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| Finding yourself after divorce...post 50 | 02 Oct 2025 | 00:29:18 | |
SEASON 2 The search for a co-host conitues with Kev ( my partner)! Finding yourself after divorce...post 50 Episode Summary: In this episode we talk about getting a divorce in later life and finding your identity again. We discuss getting back into doing things we love and making new friends along the way. Key Takeaways: 40% of marriages end in divorce Everything has an end to it Finding your identity Timestamps: • [01:36] – Kev’s divorce • [05:10] – Identity • [10:00] – Getting back into motorcycling • [18:44] – Kev going to India • [24:25] – What you do creates your identity Follow us on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/whenthefkdidibecomeold/ Facebook https://www.facebook.com/WhenthefkdidIbecomeold/ TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@gaylin_jo Email us whenthefkdidibecomeold@gmail.com
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| Shall we take are kids on holiday ....now that they are adults? | 26 Sep 2025 | 00:27:23 | |
SEASON 2 (The search for a co-host) Meet Kev ( my partner)! Shall we take the kids on holiday? Episode Summary: In this episode we discuss having holiday with the children now they are older and have moved out. We also talk about holiday with the pets as well and the difficulties of holidays with pets. Key Takeaways: Creating family holidays and memories Paying for older children to go on holiday Why do we take them on holiday Timestamps: • [01:55] – Having holidays when you have pets • [05:18] – Planning a holiday with older kids • [08:34] – Annoyed at paying for the children • [11:51] – Why are we looking to take the children on holiday • [22:03] – The last swansong Subscribe to the podcast on Apple Podcasts or Spotify
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| Kev has his first "when the f**k did I become old" moment | 18 Sep 2025 | 00:27:37 | |
SEASON 2 (The search for a co-host) Meet Kev ( my partner)! Kev’s First When The F**K Moment Episode Summary: In this episode we introduce our co-host Kev Stockbridge and we discuss in depth his When the Fuck Did I become Old Moment. We talk about people’s perception of age and why Jo has to vet photos that go on social media. Key Takeaways: Someone else’s idea of old isn’t always your idea of old Memories in Photo Perception of how you look and how you feel Timestamps: •[01:14] – Introducing co host Kev Stockbridge •[01:28] – Kev’s When the Fuck Moment •[03:45] – Perception of age •[08:45] – What age is perceived as old •[11:58] – Why does Kev document with Photos •[22:01] – Jo’s view of photos of her being on socials Subscribe to the podcast on Apple Podcasts or Spotify
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