When you're a parent, every day brings a "fresh hell" to deal with. In other words, there's always something. Think of us as your funny mom friends who are here to remind you: you're not alone, and it won't always be this hard.
We're Amy Wilson and Margaret Ables, both busy moms of three kids, but with completely different parenting styles. Margaret is a laid-back to the max; Amy never met a spreadsheet or an organizational system she didn't like.
In each episode of "What Fresh Hell" we offer lots of laughs, but also practical advice, parenting strategies, and tips to empower you in your role as a mom. We explore self-help techniques, as well as ways to prioritize your own needs, combat stress, and despite the invisible workload we all deal with, find joy amidst the chaos of motherhood.
If you've ever wondered "why is my kid..." then one of us has probably been there, and we're here to tell you what we've learned along the way.
We unpack the behaviors and developmental stages of toddlers, tweens, and teenagers, providing insights into their actions and equipping you with effective parenting strategies.
We offer our best parenting tips and skills we've learned. We debate the techniques and studies that are everywhere for parents these days, and get to the bottom of what works best to raise happy, healthy, fairly well-behaved kids, while fostering a positive parent-child relationship.
If you're the default parent in your household, whether you're a busy mom juggling multiple pickups and dropoffs, or a first-time parent seeking guidance, this podcast is your trusted resource. Join our community of supportive mom friends laughing in the face of motherhood!
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Fresh Take: Kristin Hensley and Jen Smedley of "I Mom So Hard" on Surviving Middle School Parenting
Friday, October 30, 2026 • Duration 46:08
How do we parent middle schoolers while simultaneously experiencing the PTSD of our own middle school years? Kristin Hensley and Jen Smedley , co-hosts of "I Mom So Hard," join Margaret to talk about their how new book, THE MIDDLE SCHOOL MOM'S SURVIVAL GUIDE, approaches puberty, changing friendships, and the increasingly high stakes of parenting tweens and teens with plenty of humor.
Margaret, Kristin, and Jen discuss:
How our own middle school experiences can color the way we parent
Why kids need room to make mistakes and figure things out for themselves.
Why being bored makes a kid more interesting
Parenting middle schoolers while navigating perimenopause, menopause, and aging parents
Here's where you can find Kristin and Jen:
https://imomsohard.com
Listen to the "I Mom So Hard" podcast
@imomsohard on FB, IG, YouTube, and Threads
@realimomsohard on TikTok
Buy THE MIDDLE SCHOOL MOM'S SURVIVAL GUIDE: https://bookshop.org/a/12099/9781668201916
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Weaponized Incompetence—and Weaponized Passivity
Episode 492
Wednesday, October 28, 2026 • Duration 41:44
There are several sneaky ways for the people we work with, or live with, to get away with participating less in the work that needs to happen. "Weaponized incompetence" became TikTok-famous during the pandemic, and most of us became more aware when that was being deployed.
A recent Substack post by Ask Astrid suggested that "weaponized passivity" may be a subtler but equally effective opt-out option. When someone says "I don't care what we have for dinner, I'll eat whatever," are they being generous, low-key, and collaborative? Or are they declaring themselves "not it," knowing dinner will still be served (by you) and they'll still get to eat?
We discuss:
How to spot weaponized incompetence, weaponized passivity, and weaponized irritability
How gender roles and socialization teach women to anticipate the needs of the domestic sphere, while rewarding men for being hands-off and largely inattentive
Practical ways to challenge these patterns, including recognizing that “not caring” doesn't mean something doesn't need to get done
How these dynamics show up with our kids, our teenagers... and yes, sometimes, ourselves
We loved Ask Astrid's Substack on this topic and refer to it heavily in this episode. Read for yourself: Meet weaponized passivity: incompetence's quieter sibling
Here are links to some of the other resources mentioned in the episode:
Maggie Zhou for Refinery29: Why Is ‘Weaponized Incompetence’ Blowing Up On TikTok? Because Too Many Of Us Do It
Fresh Take: Allison Daminger, WHAT'S ON HER MIND- The Mental Workload of Family Life
Changing the Invisible Workload (with guest Eve Rodsky)
Celestial Sylvia on FB: Weaponized incompetence in "You Can See Everything"
What Fresh Hell is co-hosted by Amy Wilson and Margaret Ables.
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Deep Dive: Is It Sometimes Easier When Our Spouses Aren't Around?
Monday, October 26, 2026 • Duration 39:15
This Deep Dive series revisits some of our previous episodes about dynamics with our parenting partners.
There are lots of reasons why someone might find parenting easier when their spouse is not around, and not all of them are a cause to call in the couples therapist. A listener posted in our Facebook group:
Anyone else feel like things are easier when their spouse isn’t home? We’ve been dealing with some family issues so he is out of town. I find that when he isn’t here, my kids listen better, we make a good team and work together, they sleep better, etc. Is that weird? How can one person make such a difference? Not much has changed except I do a little more (take out the trash, drop kids off at school) so it’s not that I have more time. It just seems more peaceful in our home or something. And to be honest, I’m not sure it’s a good sign!
When we're solo parenting, we have more alone time, we don't have to negotiate child-related or housework-related decisions, and there are fewer dishes and dirty clothes to wash. If you like it when your spouse is away, that doesn't mean you love them any less or they're a bad spouse. But are there advantages we can consider making part of our parenting all the time? That might also be a possibility.
Amy and Margaret discuss:
Why it's easier to solo parent sometimes
How the pandemic changed couple dynamics
How to discuss with our spouse how we feel
Here are links to some of the resources mentioned in the episode:
Katie Cloyd for Scary Mommy: "My Life Is Easier When My Husband Travels"
Meredith Bland for Parent Map: "Parenting is Easier When My Husband is Out of Town"
We Did Not Sign Up For Being With Our Spouses 24/7 (with guest Damona Hoffman)
A Room Of Our Own: Claiming the Space We Need
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Fresh Take: Meg Stone on Campus Sexual Violence and Empowerment Self-Defense
Friday, October 23, 2026 • Duration 39:27
This episode includes discussion of rape and sexual assault.
As parents, we have been horrified by the reports of sexual violence on Cornell’s campus in 2024, and dismayed that so little seems to have changed since we were in college ourselves. How do we teach our children to protect themselves from sexual violence on campus? And how mad do we get to be at the institutions that still aren’t protecting them?
On this episode we interview violence prevention expert Meg Stone, executive director of IMPACT Boston and author of The Cost of Fear: Why Most Safety Advice is Sexist, and How We Can Stop Gender-Based Violence and Don’t Fight Back and 10 Other Myths About Crime, Personal Safety, and Gender-Based Violence.
This conversation explores why sexual violence is usually committed by someone the victim knows, why common safety advice can be both ineffective and victim-blaming, and what research says about empowerment-based prevention.
Meg also discusses practical skills, boundary setting, bystander responsibility, and the role parents and institutions can play—without placing responsibility for violence on those targeted.
We discuss:
Why the “stranger jumping out of the bushes” is a misleading picture of sexual violence
Why one-time online campus trainings often fail to change behavior
How victim-blaming has shaped conversations about sexual violence
What empowerment-based self-defense programs teach—and why practice matters
How stress can make it harder to respond in the moment
Why refusal skills and boundary setting can be protective
How friends, bystanders, and institutions can interrupt abuse
Where families can look for empowerment self-defense and comprehensive sex education
The conversation emphasizes practicing refusal and interruption under stress, bystander responsibility, and finding trainings via the Empowerment Self-Defense Alliance and the National Women’s Martial Arts Federation.
Here’s where you can find Meg Stone’s work and the resources mentioned:
Impact Boston: impactboston.org
Meg Stone: megstone.org
Empowerment Self-Defense Alliance: https://www.empowermentsd.org/
National Women’s Martial Arts Federation: https://nwmaf.org/
The Cost of Fear by Meg Stone
Don’t Fight Back and 10 Other Myths About Crime, Personal Safety, and Gender-Based Violence by Meg Stone
Sexual Citizens by Jennifer S. Hirsch and Shamus Khan
If you or someone you love has been impacted, help is available. The National Domestic Violence Hotline is available 24/7 at 1-800-799-SAFE or by texting "START" to 88788. RAINN's National Sexual Assault Hotline can be reached at 1-800-656-HOPE.
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You Might Also Like: Zero Reject from Understood.org
Wednesday, October 21, 2026 • Duration 31:41
Beth Gellman-Beer spent her whole career fighting for kids with disabilities — first as a student written off as “lazy,” then as a federal civil rights attorney who found her dream job protecting students like her younger self. But on one ordinary night, a phone call changed everything: Her entire office had been eliminated.
In the premiere of Zero Reject, reporter Anya Kamenetz traces Beth’s journey from an unfair fourth-grade classroom to the front lines of a sweeping overhaul at the Department of Education’s Office for Civil Rights — the agency families turn to when a school isn’t meeting their child’s needs. Anya breaks down the reduction in force that gutted OCR’s staff, what it means for the 25,000 families still waiting for a response to their complaints, and the plan to dismantle the Department of Education altogether. With fewer people to enforce the law, what happens to the students the system was built to protect?
https://lnk.to/zerorejectFD!whatfreshhell
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Conflict Resolution: How to Fight Fair and Repair Relationships
Episode 491
Wednesday, October 21, 2026 • Duration 46:54
How do we handle conflict with those closest to us without damaging the relationship or going in circles? We discuss why some people avoid conflict while others escalate quickly, how our family of origin shapes the way we handle disagreements, and common triggers for starting conflicts.
We discuss:
What happens in the brain during conflict
Practical conflict-resolution strategies, including the EAR method and the BIFF method
Why sometimes the conflict is over before you’re done being angry and how to handle that
Here are links to some of the resources mentioned in the episode:
Aaron Steen and Kanade Shinkai for the International Journal of Women's Dermatology: Understanding individual and gender differences in conflict resolution: A critical leadership skill
Peter Reuell for the Harvard Gazette: Resolving conflict: Men vs. women
Danya Rumore for the University of Utah Environmental Dispute Resolution Program blog: The power of calm when dealing with conflict
Bill Eddy for the High Conflict Institute: How to Avoid Getting Hooked by High Conflict Behavior
Bill Eddy for the High Conflict Institute: Calming Upset People Fast with EAR
Bill Eddy for the High Conflict Institute: How To Write A BIFF Response®
Emily Pinto for Katie Couric Media: How To Handle Conflict Without Damaging Your Relationships
What Fresh Hell is co-hosted by Amy Wilson and Margaret Ables.
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Deep Dive: When Our Kids Have Different Relationships with Our Parenting Partners
Monday, October 19, 2026 • Duration 37:33
This Deep Dive series revisits some of our previous episodes about dynamics with our parenting partners.
Do you feel like the odd parent out in your house? Or do your kids want only you to do everything with them all the time? A listener in our Facebook group asked:
"Is there an episode about one parent having a very different relationship with a child than the other parent? My 12yo and I seem to have a pretty functional (not perfect) relationship, but he and my hubs seem to end up arguing constantly. Thought at first it was a phase, but if it is, it’s a LOOOOONG one. Would love some perspective on this!"
Margaret and Amy discuss:
How preferential treatment plays out in younger vs. older kids
Why kids save their worst behavior for their primary caregiver
Which one of them is conflict-averse and who's conflict-attracted (one guess which is which)
Preferring one parent over the other can be developmentally appropriate, but there are times when ganging up on one parent can become too much and needs some course correction.
Links!
Our episode "When Kids Prefer the Other Parent Over You (Or You Over Them)"
Ryan C. Martin for McSweeney's: "GOOD PARENTS CAPITALIZE ON THEIR INDIVIDUAL STRENGTHS. MY WIFE’S IS SEEING TO OUR KIDS’ EVERY NEED, AND MINE IS ROUGHHOUSING"
Marni Feuerman for VeryWell Family: "How to Cope With Parenting Differences"
Mariah Maddox for Motherly: "If your kids act differently with you than dad, you’re not imagining it"
What Fresh Hell is co-hosted by Amy Wilson and Margaret Ables.
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Fresh Take: Sam Kelly on Teaching Kids About the Mental Load
Friday, October 16, 2026 • Duration 31:19
What if kids didn't need chore charts and constant supervision in order to participate in the lives of their households? What if the "mental load" was seen as a family-wide issue, where everyone could contribute to the solution?
Sam Kelly, creator of the "Notice and Do" method and author of the new book NOTICE AND DO: Raise Capable Kids, End Motherhood Burnout, and Lighten Your Mental Load, is here to tell us there's another way.
Amy and Sam discuss:
The "delegator trap"—why constantly assigning tasks keeps moms responsible for the "noticing"
Using a "learning ladder" to teach kids of all ages how to take over household tasks, step by step
Handling the pushback you might receive as you roll out the "notice and do" method
How kids who "notice and do" have agency and take initiative beyond the walls of your home
Here's where you can find Sam:
https://hellosamkelly.com
@samkelly_world on IG
Buy NOTICE AND DO: https://bookshop.org/a/12099/9780063460911
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Episode 1,000! How Doing This Podcast For a Decade Has Changed Our Parenting
Episode 490
Wednesday, October 14, 2026 • Duration 46:38
What have 10 years of doing this podcast taught us about being better parents? In this, our 1,000th episode(!), we look back at the biggest parenting lessons we’ve learned from a decade of conversing with guests, listeners, and each other.
Thank you for listening and being on this parenting journey with us!
We also reference some of our favorite interviews:
our Fresh Take interview with Dr. Siggie Cohen
our Fresh Take interview with Dr. Lynyetta Willis
our Fresh Take interview with KC Davis
What Fresh Hell is co-hosted by Amy Wilson and Margaret Ables.
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Deep Dive: We Caught Our Spouses Being Awesome
Monday, October 12, 2026 • Duration 46:53
This Deep Dive series revisits some of our previous episodes about dynamics with our parenting partners.
We asked the listeners in our Facebook group about all the times they caught their spouses being awesome, and here are just a few: supporting their partners through difficult career choices. Reading up on issues that affect their kids. Learning how to do their kids' hair.
Awesome parenting partners, all!
Here are links to the resources mentioned in the episode:
"Flying the Coop" episode from Reply All podcast (Margaret's rec)
Our Fresh Take episode with Matthew Fray on Strengthening Our Relationships
The Explosive Child: A New Approach for Understanding and Parenting Easily Frustrated, Chronically Inflexible Children, by Ross Greene
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