It's my favorite time of year…

HAPPY CONNECTED WOMAN SEASON, LOVES!

This is my signature course for a f*cking reason, y'all. It is all about you connecting to YOU first and foremost—the romantic relationship is just a bonus on top of that.

Whether you're coming into this program single, married, divorced, dating, or anything in between, transforming your current or future relationship with a partner into something healthy and fulfilling comes as a result of you connecting to you…

And the vehicle that I use to get you there is embodied shadow work.

If you're like "Um, wtf is shadow work?" then pause right here and go to my free three-day shadow work course, SHADOW HUNTER…but if you know what shadow work is, and you're going, "What does EMBODIED shadow work mean?" then hit PLAY and let me tell you all about it.

 

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You might not know it…but if you're a people-pleaser, your need to be liked is seriously f*cking with your confidence.

How do I know? Because once upon a time, I was also a people-pleaser.

…No, seriously. I was 100% a people pleaser. 

I don't come off like one now. I've done a lot of f"cking work to clean up that pattern. But let me tell you…until I did, my confidence was f*cked.

If you're not willing to be totally, courageously yourself—and you've got a bad habit of trying to chameleon to whatever expectations or desires other people have for you—then you're going to be in for a rude awakening when you can no longer keep up that mask. And there's only one way to kick the habit.

 

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"I just don't want a relationship right now."

Did your heart just drop? You're not alone—I've gotten this from men I dated in the past, and fuuuuck it hurts. 

It's totally normal for it to hurt. Attachment happens fast as fuck—our bodies are designed to flood with chemicals to get us to bond with someone when they show us interest. 

But even though it's normal, there's still some shit we need to get straight…like what you should and ABSOLUTELY SHOULD NOT do in order to get a guy to commit to you.

I'm going to cover both sides today. So take a breath, brace yourself, and get ready for some tough love.

 

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So it happened again, huh, love? You set a standard, you set a boundary, and it got fucking crossed. You're sick of not having your standards met, you don't understand why it keeps happening, and you don't know how to fix it...   Well, I've got good news and bad news for you. Good news? I do know how to fix it. Bad news? It's going to take some hard fucking work on your part.   The truth is, people aren't responding to your words, babe—they're responding to your energy. And if you're setting a boundary that keeps getting crossed, guess what? It's because you keep letting it get crossed. Your words say you won't tolerate it, but your energy says you not only tolerate it...you welcome it.   So how do you change your energy to ensure your boundaries get respected? Listen up; I'm going to tell you exactly how.     EPISODE RESOURCES:   Quantum Love Codes Masterclass: https://michellepanning.thrivecart.com/quantum-love-codes-masterclass/   Self Trust Vibes Masterclass: https://michellepanning.thrivecart.com/self-trust-vibes/   Join my signature 12-week program, The Connected Woman. If you're ready to make sure that you are confident to meet others' needs and have your own met in your next relationship sign up here: https://michellepanning.com/the-connected-woman   Or maybe you want some one-on-one action? Try out The Intimate Woman for 3-month private 1:1 mentoring/private coaching realness: https://michellepanning.com/the-intimate-woman     CONNECT WITH MICHELLE:   Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/michellepanning   Website: http://www.michellepanning.com

It's been a long time coming, loves, but the time is finally here to talk about trust. Specifically, what happens when either you or your partner breaks it.   I'm not gonna lie to you—this fucking sucks. Especially when you're the one who's had trust broken, but also when you are the trust-breaker...because oftentimes, we actually hurt each other unintentionally.   One of you is left betrayed. One of you is guilty. You agree to try and repair trust...but how do you do that?   It's a hard, hard thing to navigate, but it can be done. Let's dive right in to how you can begin repairing trust.   Join my signature 12-week program, The Connected Woman. If you're ready to make sure that you are confident to meet others' needs and have your own met in your next relationship sign up here: https://michellepanning.com/the-connected-woman   Or maybe you want some one-on-one action? Try out The Intimate Woman for some private coaching realness: https://michellepanning.com/the-intimate-woman     CONNECT WITH MICHELLE:   Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/michellepanning   Website: http://www.michellepanning.com

Are you ready, ladies? Grab some wine, get in your favorite seat, and get ready to be seduced...or, rather, get ready to learn what it means to be a Seductress.

What is a Seductress archetype? So, so many things—and so many of those things have absolutely nothing to do with the classic idea of seduction. When we think of seduction, we think Femme Fatale. We think manipulative. We think selfish. And while all those things can be true—and can be super, super shadowy—that's not all that the Seductress can be.

The Seductress is also creative, sensual, utterly unapologetic, secure in her confidence, and secure in all of her desires. She's a fucking master of manifestation, not just manipulation. She knows what she wants, and she knows how to get it.

It's time to get in tune with your inner Seductress, and I'm here to help you figure out how.

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Oooo-kay, ladies, this one might be a bit hard to swallow. Today, we're talking about the stages of falling in love.   The four stages are Honeymoon (we all know that one), Power Struggle (uggghhh), Stability (almost there!), and Commitment (the goal, right?).   Now, I can already hear some of you: "My relationship is perfect!" "The honeymoon stage never ended for us!"   I'm about to give you such a rude awakening, my dear, sweet loves: it will end eventually. And if you're not prepared for it, that fallout is going to be a BITCH. But if you can get past that Power Struggle valley where relationships go to die, you're going to come out the other side that much wiser, that much stronger, and that much more in love.   Let me be your guide through every stage of falling in love.   Join my signature 12-week program, The Connected Woman. If you're ready to make sure that you are confident to meet others' needs and have your own met in your next relationship sign up here: https://michellepanning.com/the-connected-woman   Or maybe you want some one on one action? Try out The Intimate Woman for some private coaching realness: https://michellepanning.com/the-intimate-woman   CONNECT WITH MICHELLE:   Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/michellepanning   Website: http://www.michellepanning.com

Okay, ladies: it's about time we sat down and had a chat about the Big O: orgasms.   Some of you just got excited...and some of you got worried. I get it, love. Orgasms are a sensitive subject for me—not just for me, but for a lot of women. So many of us have had Hollywood's version of sex hammered so deep into our brains that we can't picture anything else. If we're not cumming in thirty seconds or less, something has to be wrong with us, right? We must be broken.   Wrong. Wrong, wrong, wrong.   You aren't broken, love—none of us are. Let's dive in and talk all about orgasms.   Join my signature 12-week program, The Connected Woman. If you're ready to make sure that you are confident to meet others' needs and have your own met in your next relationship sign up here: https://michellepanning.com/the-connected-woman   Or maybe you want some one on one action? Try out The Intimate Woman for some private coaching realness: https://michellepanning.com/the-intimate-woman     CONNECT WITH MICHELLE:   Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/michellepanning   Website: http://www.michellepanning.com

Take a deep breath and grab a glass of wine, babes. You're gonna need both, because today, we're chatting all about shame.   Just about every woman I've met has some kind of shame surrounding her sexuality. That's the bad news. The good news? That means you're not alone. So many of us struggle with having total confidence in our sexuality and our pleasure...including me. Yes, me. I've struggled with so much sexual shame my entire life, and only recently did I start figuring out how to unpack that shit and start taking responsibility for my own pleasure. It starts with identifying the conditioning you've gone through; aka, what you've been taught to think about sex, whether actively or passively.   Get ready, ladies. Let's jump right in.   Join my signature 12-week program, The Connected Woman. If you're ready to make sure that you are confident to meet others' needs and have your own met in your next relationship sign up here: https://michellepanning.com/the-connected-woman   Or maybe you want some one on one action? Try out The Intimate Woman for some private coaching realness: https://michellepanning.com/the-intimate-woman     CONNECT WITH MICHELLE:   Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/michellepanning   Website: http://www.michellepanning.com

Welcome back, loves! We're going behind the scenes today to talk about all things stripping. Come along as I spill all the tea about my eleven years working in the sex industry: my favorite stories, my worst moments, everything I learned about emotional intimacy, the truth about the different sides of men, and how my time stripping inspired my career today.   Check your prejudices at the door, because I'm here to dispel all that preconceived shit and get real with you about what stripper life is REALLY like.   Hope you're ready. I'm holding nothing back.   Join my signature 12-week program, The Connected Woman. If you're ready to make sure that you are confident to meet others' needs and have your own met in your next relationship, sign up here: https://michellepanning.com/the-connected-woman

This just in, loves: No matter how bad you want to hide her, that inner brat of yours is in there, and she wants OUT. You can try and put baby in a corner all you like, but she's gonna break her way out eventually, and when she does? It's not gonna be pretty.   There are better ways to wrangle your inner brat, and if you need someone to teach you, I know just the bad bitch for the job. Put on your big-girl pants, sit down, and listen to episode 57 of the UnF*ck Your Relationships Podcast to hear the object of my obsession, Chelsea Dickinson, talk all about how she made space for her brat, gave her the spanking she desperately needed, and taught her what it feels like to be in a healthy fucking relationship for once.   Join my signature 12-week program, The Connected Woman. If you're ready to make sure that you are confident to meet others' needs and have your own met in your next relationship, sign up here: https://michellepanning.com/the-connected-woman   Or maybe you want some one-on-one action? Try out The Intimate Woman for some private coaching realness: https://michellepanning.com/the-intimate-woman     CONNECT WITH MICHELLE:   Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/michellepanning   Website: http://www.michellepanning.com     CONNECT WITH CHELSEA:   Instagram: Guest Links: https://instagram.com/thesabotagequeen

Breaking news my love: the world doesn't owe you love. It actually doesn't owe you a goddamn thing. If you're sitting there blaming the universe for your problems in life or relationships, and figure that one day, one magical"huh, I guess we're done fucking with her, time to give her the man of her dreams and a fantastic, fullfilled life to go with it," …let me know how that goes. After you get back from nowhere, maybe have a listen to episode 56 of the UnF*ck Your Relationships Podcast to hear more about:

• Healthy expectations in relationships
• How to stop blaming everyone else
• Where to start in terms of doing the work 

Just where do you get off having all these entitled fantasies of how life is supposed to be, when you aren't willing to stop and evaluate the part you play in keeping yourself blocked? You do it, don't deny it; it's not up to anyone but you. You have all the control, you hold all the emotional cards. So get in the fucking game.   Join my signature 12-week program, The Connected Woman. If you're ready to make sure that you are confident to meet others' needs and have your own met in your next relationship sign up here: https://michellepanning.com/the-connected-woman   Or maybe you want some one on one action? Try out The Intimate Woman for some private coaching realness: https://michellepanning.com/the-intimate-woman     CONNECT WITH MICHELLE:   Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/michellepanning   Website: http://www.michellepanning.com

Healthy love: what it is, what it's not, and how the fuck do you actually find it?   In case you missed it, I've recently discovered the gift of a real, loving, trusting relationship, so everyone give a hearty welcome to Drew Wild. I figured it was time to officially introduce him to this sphere of spiritual space I love so much, and show you first hand how self-healing can help you find a truly awakened partner. Together we're talking about all things healing and finding healthy love, such as: 

• Different types of trauma
• Why addiction stems from our trama 
• How both of these contribute to damaging patterns
• How to start healing

To start attracting relationships that not only allow you to be you, but the BEST version of yourself, you have to put in the work and take responsibility for your own behaviors. You have to identify your patterns and be willing to admit where you're going wrong in the pursuit of love.    Easy to say, incredibly difficult to do- that's why we're here to help on the latest episode of the UnF*ck Your Relationships Podcast.   Join my signature 12-week program, The Connected Woman. If you're ready to make sure that you are confident to meet others' needs and have your own met in your next relationship sign up here: https://michellepanning.com/the-connected-woman   Or maybe you want some one on one action? Try out The Intimate Woman for some private coaching realness: https://michellepanning.com/the-intimate-woman     CONNECT WITH MICHELLE:   Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/michellepanning   Website: http://www.michellepanning.com   Or MAYBE you want to connect with Drew (it's fine, I'll allow it). Check him out at:   Instagram: https://instagram.com/drew_wild   Drew Wild is an Addiction Coach whose mission is to change the way this planet looks at and approaches addiction and to tear down any stigma with that word.   Drew works with men and women who struggle to break free of their vices, who want to live a life of freedom without needing to lean on alcohol, porn, social media, pills, food, weed, drugs or anything else that leaves them feeling regretful, empty and unfulfilled.   Podcast episode about Drew's journey: https://open.spotify.com/episode/0g2TbaGJSKMrhwAYFf4R5G?si=3ede67da47704add

Recently, I talked about friendship breakups, and how to go about "getting back together" with an ex-friend…but I didn't share who, exactly, I was reconnecting with.

However, as a certain someone says in this episode, you all just proved that I attract Swifties in my audience…because a lot of you did some intense f*cking detective work and figured out who I was talking about anyway.

So please welcome my dearest friend, whom I recently reconnected with: Caitlin Hosking, a shadow-work certified business coach I've been friends with since all the way back in 2018…with the exception of last year.

Neither of us have seen people chat about the complicated, painful process of breaking up with a friend, then trying to reconcile, so I'm sooo f*cking thrilled to have her on today. We're going to walk you through our story…and the best way to go about navigating reconciliation with an ex-friend.

 

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The truth of the matter is, there is no such thing as perfect: he's not perfect but neither are you. You both have weird hang-ups and quirks and flaws. You're both going to annoy the ever-loving shit out of one another from time to time. You're going to fight. You're going to disagree. This doesn't mean your relationship is bad or doomed or that you need to end it. In this episode we'll talk more about:

• Societal expectations vs reality
• How flaws are inherent in any relationship because people are flawed

If you feel safe, heard, seen, emotionally and sexually fulfilled- if you love him, don't go looking for trouble where there is none. Your relationship is normal. It's the world's expectations that aren't. So stop trying to make problems and make some sweet sweet love instead. 

Join my signature 12-week program, The Connected Woman. If you're ready to make sure that you are confident to meet others' needs and have your own met in your next relationship sign up here: https://michellepanning.com/the-connected-woman

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We saw it all the time right when hashtags were becoming a thing: #friendgoals, #relationshipgoals, usually captioning pictures of girls with their heads squished together surrounded by brunch mimosas. And while brunch is a wonderful activity to incorporate into your friendship routine, it's not necessarily a building block to a "friend goal" situation.

Sorry, friend (get it), but you're actually going to have to work at your friendships. This is not to say that being someone's friend has the rigidness of a relationship. That being said, you still want to make sure you're surrounding yourself with good people, and that you're one of these "good people" for those in your life. That's why in this episode my friend Caitlyn and I: 

• Break down how to be a decent friend and human
• How triggers get in the way of vulnerability 
• How to show up for other people as a friend

If you want a real, lasting friendship, if you want #friendshipgoals, you have to earn it. You have to show up, and be the friend they need- the friend that you would want. 

Join my signature 12-week program, The Connected Woman. If you're ready to make sure that you are confident to meet others' needs and have your own met in your next relationship sign up here: https://michellepanning.com/the-connected-woman

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Today we're going to talk about The 4 Horsemen of the Apocalypse. No, not that apocalypse, don't get all excited and throw all your predictions about end times at me.

Relationship professional John Gottam is an expert on all things lasting connection, and he has defined the 4 most prominent nails in the coffin when it comes to break-ups and divorces- The Four Horsemen of a Relationship Apocalypse, if you will. These are dynamics I've encountered in my own relationships, and I've seen them countless times with clients. That's why in the latest episode of The UnF*ck Your Relationship Podcast I'll go more into:

• The 4 dynamics to look out for that affect relationships
• How to flip the script
• How to "fight better"

If you can break these bad habits and patterns, and embrace newer ones that ease rifts and distance instead of perpetuating them, you might just find yourself a love that lasts. It's not about being right, it's about being in a loving respectful relationship you both cultivate and care for, even during the harder moments. 

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I'd like to take this episode to talk about a topic I feel often gets pushed under the dating rug- the almost relationship.

We've all been there- you go on a few amazing dates, he's wonderful, you're communicating and connecting and planning events months in the future. You feel solid, and you just KNOW you're both on the same page. He mentions meeting his parents. This is it. Any day he'll ask you to be in a real honest to goodness relationship…only he dumps you instead. What gives?

That's why we delve deeper into:

• How to get over a relationship that never was
• Ways to be there for yourself in hard times
• How to tap into your power for future relationships

Look, even if you get married and ride off into the sunset, happily ever afters aren't guaranteed. So better that you learn to grieve connections big and small so that you're prepared and know how to rely on your greatest resource- yourself. No one can take your own power from you once you've found it. 

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One of the most common things I hear when working with women is "I just want real love." Dude, I hear you. I know. And sure, to some degree, lots of men are the worst. But, I have news for you- you're part of the problem. 

Look, it's never fun to identify what we're doing wrong. But if you feel like you're in an endless loop of attracting men who are super fun and hot and things go well until they crash and burn- eh, sorry but you're employing a pattern. You're doing it to yourself and you're getting in your own way. That's why on the latest episode of the podcast I talk more about:

• How you might be repeating bad dating patterns
• Things to look out for as you date
• Qualities to look for in a partner

Basically, you're not asking the right questions. You're probably so focused on the chemistry in the relationship that you're neglecting the compatibility. Lucky for you though, I've got some great tips on how to combat this, and make sure your next relationship is set up for success. Get ready to find yourself some real love.

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Oh hey, all my Anxious Attachment bitches. How's it going? By "it" I specifically mean dating- not great? Well, that's why I'm here so listen up. Before you know it we'll have you dating appropriate men with confidence and ease. No stalking your phone/ their social media pages. No word vomit to fill weird silences. 

If you struggle with Anxious Attachment it can feel like you need to "fix" yourself before you start dating- but this isn't super realistic. If you struggle with anxiety in your relationships, it's probably stemming from past trauma that you've reacted to and carried throughout your entire life. That doesn't just disappear no matter how much work you do to overcome it. That's why in the latest episode of The UnF*ck Your Relationships Podcast I'll help you:

• Figure out why you date the way you do
• How you can date while doing the work
• How to overcome Anxious Attachment

Honestly, you might never overcome Anxious Attachment completely and maybe you shouldn't. It's made you who you are up to this point.

But it doesn't define you. Maybe the trick is learning to live with it, identifying where it can lead you astray when dating and accepting that working through it is going to be a lifelong journey of learning and acceptance. 

Want to learn more about what Anxious Attachment is? Listen to Episode 31: Attachment Style Series - Anxious Attachment!

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Common belief of the collective "them" would have you believe that you have to be a perfect and flawless version of yourself in order to actually love yourself. I would argue that in subscribing to this school of thought, you'll be waiting forever to love yourself, and I don't love that for you. That's why in this next episode I go more into:

• What self-love actually is
• How to accept all parts of yourself

Ultimately you're the one who gets to decide what you believe and how you're treated by yourself and others. Rejecting who you are, or being nasty to yourself isn't going to help set the bar all that high, and really the person you're hurting is you and your inner child. 

You and little you deserve love, compassion and respect, but you have to believe that just as much as I do for you to get there. Let's go. 

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What gives? Things were going so well, you felt like you really liked this guy. Why then, seemingly out of nowhere do you now loathe the very way he breathes? 

This, friends is the dreaded ick; the sudden irritating or off-putting thing you randomly notice after things were going so well.  I got more information about it, but you're not gonna like it. Because it's actually not about him or his teeth or gremlin toenails or any other slightly off-putting things that really shouldn't be automatic dealbreakers if aside from them you genuinely like the person. In this episode we'll talk more about:

• What the ick actually is
• How to avoid it
• How to discern between the ick and intuition

The truth of the matter is, the ick is actually more about you than it is about him. This means that you hold most of the cards in terms of dealing with, and getting past it and in doing so, finding real and meaningful love.

It's gonna take work though, and honestly about yourself and the way you seek connection. Let's go. 

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What's your game plan with your emotions? Do you even have one? Do you go radio silent and withdraw, as you clutch tea and stare out the window, preferably at the rain? OR do you enjoy leaning into intense feelings, embracing them as you throw epic tantrums and verbal barbs? Is there a balance between the two? There is! Especially when we first go from suppressing to expressing, it can be hard to find the balance between validating yourself and your emotions and using it as carte blanche to word vomit every feeling that crosses your mind. On the latest episode of The UnF*ck Your Relationships Podcast we'll talk more about:

• Differences between emotional expression and dumping
• Tools to help you cope better
• Ways to make sure you're expressing yourself appropriately 

A truly emotionally empowered woman discerns when and what and how to share because she knows that at the end of the day, she's got this shit. She may turn to others for perspective from time to time, but she doesn't need to make them feel like overwhelmed shit in order to feel better.  

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Sure, sometimes circumstances in life can get hard, but for the most part, you set the tone for your own life. Are you living in the land of the desperate, constantly in a panic about the world running out of men and yourself running out of time and fun and youth and money? If that's all you fixate on, and all you look for it literally wires your brain to look for every bad thing out there; it'll even invent things to worry about so you're caught up in a never-ending cycle of cynical mania. Lucky for you in this episode of The UnF*ck Your Relationship Podcast, we'll talk more about:

• Why perfect isn't real
• Why striving to be enough is better than striving to be perfect

Here's the thing; while seeking improvement and growth is great, you're also great just as you are, right now. And if you start viewing yourself as already enough, you'll take so much pressure off of yourself and others. You'll stop holding yourself and others to impossible standards. You'll be happier and lighter and more open to the good.

So train your brain to find it, because while it's good to check in with yourself sometimes and see where you could improve, it's never good if it comes at the expense of loving yourself in the present moment. 

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What do you think men find alluring in a woman?

Whatever answer you gave…it's probably wrong. 

It's not about your appearance. It's not about being a certain way or doing certain things to trick or coerce a man into wanting you.

It's about connecting to yourself in a way that attracts a man who will love, cherish, and honor you. Not one who just wants to f*ck around and keep you around to boost his ego.

There's a reason I go on and on and on about connecting to yourself on a deep level…because if you can't connect to yourself, he can't connect to you. And nothing is more alluring to a man than a woman who is not only deeply connected to herself…but actually loves herself more than she loves him.

Does that sound insane? Great. Then you're the target audience for this episode. Let me tell you what men TRULY find attractive.

 

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Nothing can take a date from great to…not great quite like unrealistic expectations. Maybe he is just as charming as your text banter. Maybe you both really do have the same chemistry in person as you do over the phone. There is a chance that he is the one. But for the love of god, please just let things unfold naturally. Not sure how to do this? Well lucky for you, on the latest episode of The UnF*ck Your Relationship Podcast we'll talk more about:

• How expectations can ruin a relationship
• Ways to make sure yours are realistic

Isn't dating hard enough without projecting a bunch of bullshit onto some poor sap just because you're lonely or desperate or don't have good boundaries? You owe it to him and yourself to make sure that you're keeping pace with emotions appropriately, in a healthy way. Let me help you figure out how. 

Exciting news! The doors are now open for Swipe Right…in this 2-day live workshop, you'll learn how to date like a mother fucking queen! https://michellepanning.com/swipe-right 

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Is there anything more exciting or terrifying than a first date? No other event is so full of hopeful potential as well as awkward dread; It's a weird thing for sure. And then there are the "first date tips" that usually revolve around what to wear and what to eat (or not eat because - patriarchy) and a whole host of other superficial bullshit that doesn't actually help you establish a connection (if there's even potential for one). So, what the hell are you supposed to do? Well, lucky for you, on the latest episode of The UnF*ck Your Relationships Podcast I talk more about:

• Dating tips to foster a true connection
• Ways to take the pressure off yourself

Dating can be a vulnerable and scary experience, but most things that are worth it are vulnerable and scary. If you never try, you'll never know who you could have met, and how they could have changed your life for the better. This doesn't have to mean meeting "the one"; genuine connection with any other human is a gift, and can profoundly affect who you become. So get out there, and be brave. 

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I've been thinking a lot about thoughts. Specifically the power we give them over us and over situations in our lives. Don't get me wrong, honoring your feelings is important, but when they demand you spiral out and assign meaning to things that aren't true, it's easy to get bowled over by them- and half the time they aren't even true. In this episode I talk more about:

• How situations we panic about are inherently neutral 
• How to stop the panic spiral 
• Ways to step into reality with a calm openness 

I read somewhere that you can't blame yourself for knee-jerk reactionary thoughts, they just pop up, but if you can learn to take back the power from subsequent racing thoughts and instead embrace a curious acceptance of reality and its various possibilities, you'll be a lot happier in your general life, as well as your dating one. You have more power than you think you do.

Get on the waitlist now! For Swipe Right, my new 2-day program that will get you noticed on dating profiles! We will come up with a plan together to find your dream man and build your dream relationship. 

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Intention is everything, babes, so you have to figure out yours. WHY do you want to date? I am telling you right now, if you haven't done *the* work, you shouldn't get back out there. It's easy to know when you shouldn't date, but it's harder to know if you're finally ready.

We all know that we need to feel complete and in love with ourselves before we can ever expect to enter into a healthy partnership. But if you're fulfilled but lonely, is that so bad? Well you're in luck because on this episode of UnF*ck Your Relationships Podcast we talk all about:

• Signs you're ready to date
• How motivations define what you're looking for

You know where you're at with yourself better than anyone, so you're going to have to be really honest about your motivations for dating. But no matter what I hope you know that desiring true connection is never a sign of weakness. It's a sign of you hoping to find what you deserve- a companion to do life with. 

Get on the waitlist now! For Swipe Right, my new 2-day program that will get you noticed on dating profiles! We will come up with a plan together to find your dream man and build your dream relationship. 

https://michellepanning.com/swipe-right

Join my signature 12-week program, The Connected Woman. If you're ready to make sure that your dating with the right intentions sign up here: https://michellepanning.com/the-connected-woman

 

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Take the Attachment Style Quiz: https://www.attachedthebook.com/wordpress/compatibility-quiz/

There are so many rules for women and girls in society; cultural expectations about what a woman is and what a woman should be, and it's all bullshit. We're taught to shrink ourselves, physically and mentally, to never be too much, or take up space. To sacrifice bits of who we are to appease others. Don't make waves or make anyone uncomfortable, even if your own skin is crawling. Appease appease appease. 

Nope. No more, we're done with that. 

In this episode of UnF*ck Your Relationships I go more into: 

• Societal norms for women (hint, they suck)
• Ways to send them all to hell

We are complex and wild creatures, and if a man doesn't want to run with everything that makes you, you, then why the hell are you fighting so hard for him anyway? I know we've all been told that our worth is based on how we look (through the male gaze) and how many kids we have, but breaking news, none of that is true. You have worth because YOU find yourself worthy, and because you are a multifaceted person with dreams and desires and a vibrant and diverse personality.

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Take the Attachment Style Quiz: https://www.attachedthebook.com/wordpress/compatibility-quiz/

Maybe you have a dude in your life, and he's great. He's cute and sweet and funny, and the sex is good. But GOD sometimes you just want him to be the man so you can be the woman. But, what if I told you that you might actually be the problem here. It's not that he isn't masculine, it's that you BOTH are, and much like your fav pair of underwear, there can only be one. 

In this episode I break down :

• The differences between masculine and feminine energies 
• Ways to draw out the masculine from your partner (hint, be more feminine)

I'm not saying throw on an apron and pretend like it's 1956 (if that's your jam more power to you but for everyone who reads the above and immediately assumes I'm suggesting anything to do with submitting to manly authority, ew) but in order for him to take the lead on some things…you have to actually let him take the lead. 

This also means you're going to have to do some soul searching to make sure the problem isn't deeper- to make sure it isn't actually you being unable to accept love and protection and the safety your relationship should provide. Let's figure it out!

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This one's for all my ladies who feel like all they attract is men of the emotionally unavailable kind…girl I hate to be the one to tell you this, but you're the problem. No, keep reading, just hear me out; like peanut butter cups and bad romance novels, bad boys are kind of addictive. It's why the second he starts to show interest you feel smothered and sprint your cute butt right outta there to find you a man who will have you stress eating by your phone all night. 

Why, tho? Well, in this episode we explore:

• Why you always seem to end up with emotionally unavailable men
• What this can mean for your own self-esteem

Dating this type of guy is as sucky as it is safe; chances are you've dated a string of them and you're used to the chaotic highs and lows that accompany dating an emotionally constipated male. 

It also means you never really have to worry about sharing anything real, or truly risk your heart. But this dynamic is about as refreshing as a birdbath on a 90-degree day. And if you never get a grasp on why you seek these guys out and learn to stop, well, have fun with relationship heat stroke. 

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Take the Attachment Style Quiz: https://www.attachedthebook.com/wordpress/compatibility-quiz/

We spend so much time identifying and dissecting warning signs in dating, it can feel hopeless. How would we even know if a guy is decent and datable? Would we recognize the signs? Well, lucky for you dear listener, I present the 12 green flags that will help you along your quest of finding out if he's worth your time. In this episode, we'll go more into:

• Learning how to spot a good potential partner
• Things to look for and reciprocate in your next relationship

Sometimes it's good to shake things up, and view things in a more positive light. There ARE things to actively look for, not just avoid, and there ARE men out there who will help you feel loved, understood, and valued.

Learning how to spot them can be tricky, and this is why I want to share some of the green flags you should look for as you traverse the dating world. Keep those standards high, madam. You deserve the green flag guy. 

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It may seem like a hard answer to find, but friend, if you're debating whether or not to put that foot out the door…that's not a good sign.

You gotta learn to trust yourself, and what your emotions are trying to tell you. Why would you want to stay in a relationship where you're the one who is making all the effort? You can't want it for both of you, or you can't want it for the both of you and expect to have a healthy relationship. In this episode we'll explore:

• Signs it might be time to end your relationship
• Reasons he's content to stay
• Reasons you can't release your death grip on a dead relationship

If he's not calling or making plans, or he's doing the hot and cold dance, why are you doing this to yourself? Why are you putting up with his crap?

Someone is out there who will respect you and your time, and be grateful for the fact that you let him in your life. So why are you gripping that pile of flesh garbage who does nothing but take you for granted? 

These questions can be really hard to confront, but you're going to have to approach them and be brutally honest with yourself and him. Maybe you're just not compatible together, and that's ok. You're not a failure, and you didn't waste your time. Now take what you learned from the relationship and find a dude who realizes how lucky he is to have you.

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Take the Attachment Style Quiz: https://www.attachedthebook.com/wordpress/compatibility-quiz/

You can't wait to meet HIM. The ONE. He'll be attractive and put together and communicative, self-assured but also safe. But here's the thing; if you're holding him to high standards, chances are he's holding you to the same.

So are you in a place to accept his healthy affection? Are you in a place where you can meet the same standards you have set for him? Are you prepared to enter into a relationship with confidence? In this episode we'll look closer at: 

• How finding something and holding something are very different
• How standards for him are also standards for you

A decent man expects you to be able to communicate with a healthy side of vulnerability as needed. Acting out to test boundaries? Nah. Avoiding conflict because it makes you uncomfortable? He doesn't dig it.

He's not here to be your father, just like you're not here to be his mother. You both want equal partners. This is why the relationship is healthy and balanced, but also why you're expected to communicate in healthy and productive ways.

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Take the Attachment Style Quiz: https://www.attachedthebook.com/wordpress/compatibility-quiz/

Why do we insist on seeking answers from sources outside ourselves?

I'm not exempt, either. When I got my brand-new car and got into my brand-new house—things I'd been pining over for such a long time—I had an incredibly sobering, fucking shattering moment of ego death where I realized, "Michelle, you've lost yourself in the pursuit of all of those things. Now what?"

And that's not to say I was wrong for wanting or pursuing those things. But I want all of those things and a connection to myself.

All that to say, I fucking know how important that connection to self is…which is why I am so fucking excited to tell you all about an upcoming opportunity all about feminine embodiment, coming back to yourself, and connecting to your body. All in all, I see it as a homecoming…and now that I've experienced it, I want you to experience it, as well.

Introducing Alchemy: The Retreat.

 

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Well, well, well. If it isn't the blessed 50% of the population. You lucky, securely attached bastards. You think you're cooler than the rest of us? I mean, you're not wrong. But, the truth is, you're the goal. And we can allll reach that goal. It's just gonna take a little work. In this episode I go more into:

• What being securely attached actually means
• How securely attached people show up in relationships 

Basically, because they were actually raised as autonomous persons and their emotions were honored, they grew up feeling heard and learned to trust with discerning inhibition (lucky). If you aren't blessed enough to fall into this category, it can seem like a daunting task to try and achieve such a confident way to relate to others. But I promise it's very possible.

You can love and be loved the way you want. You can get over your fear of intimacy without sacrificing self-preservation. 

You deserve all of that and more, and building off of everything that got you here with more awareness and self-love will go a long way. And to all of you securely attached people, there's still some work you could be doing too. But you'll have to go listen to find out what ;) 

No matter your attachment style, we all have a little work to do. Strengthen your relationships, enjoy vulnerability, heal yourself and live your dream life, sign up for my program The Connected Woman here: https://michellepanning.com/the-connected-woman

 

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Oh, you fearful-avoidant unicorns. You are a small percentage of the population. So small, but mightily terrible. I'm so sorry. Let's break down your particular cross to bear.

Yet again, we're going up against a traumatic childhood, however, this one is mainly fear-based trauma.  You likely had parents who loved to overshare (resulting in parentification of you, the child), when they felt like it. So now, you're a commitment cretan who can't decide if you want connection or to run for the hills. In this episode we'll talk:

• About more tendencies of the fearful-avoidant 
• How to overcome 

You can love and be loved the way you want. You can get over your fear of intimacy without sacrificing self-preservation. 

You deserve all of that and more, and building off of everything that got you here with more awareness and self-love will go a long way. 

If you're ready to go from void of emotion and avoiding connection in your relationships, to enjoying vulnerability, healing yourself and living your dream life, sign up for my program The Connected Woman here: https://michellepanning.com/the-connected-woman

 

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Take the Attachment Style Quiz: https://www.attachedthebook.com/wordpress/compatibility-quiz/

And we're back, analyzing new ways our parents meant well but ultimately set us up for failure… Did you have parents who made sure you were physically fine, and then blatantly neglected you for the other stuff?

Maybe they thought they were making you independent, maybe they were relating to you the only way they knew how, but now here you are, stuffing down all your feelings and straight-up avoiding real connection. 

Yep, we're going to talk about dismissive avoidant attachment: 

• How and why you became an avoider
• How to stop avoiding, heal, and truly enjoy personal connections

And no, it's not going to be an all-out verbal brawl against your parents, they did their best. But their best might have had unintentional fallout that is affecting you and your ability to relate to people (as well as date them). 

So we have to acknowledge and process that before we can even start to move forward. Meet yourself where you're at, and let's get to work.

If you're ready to go from void of emotion and avoiding connection in your relationships, to enjoying vulnerability, healing yourself and living your dream life, sign up for my program The Connected Woman here: https://michellepanning.com/the-connected-woman

 

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Take the Attachment Style Quiz: https://www.attachedthebook.com/wordpress/compatibility-quiz/

Oh, mommy (and daddy) issues. They did their best, they really did, but the cold hard fact is that if you were raised with parents who gave you inconsistent support, you probably have anxious attachment issues now.

When you're taught that your own thoughts and feelings are "too much" you begin to censor yourself; you try and make yourself palatable to the world around you. And you also begin to distrust your own intuition. F*ck.

Well, we're going to go more into this on today's episode when we talk about:

• Signs you're repeating anxious attachment patterns with partners
• How to overcome and heal from anxious attachment trauma

The journey to self-respect and self-trust may seem perilous, maybe impossible… But if you cultivate a support system of friends (my program, The Connected Woman, is a great place to start!) and learn to slowly share bits of who you really are with people who love you, eventually you'll come out on top.

And by "on top" I mean you'll no longer assume everyone around you has ill intent and plans on saying they love you to your face before disappearing off the face of the planet, as you dissolve into a needy, weepy, codependent mess.

Totally not speaking from experience, not at all. Nope. 

And if you're ready to go from anxious & insecure in your relationships to setting boundaries, healing yourself and living your dream life, sign up for my program The Connected Woman here: https://michellepanning.com/the-connected-woman

 

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EPISODE RESOURCES:

Take the Attachment Style Quiz: https://www.attachedthebook.com/wordpress/compatibility-quiz/

Online dating. So much potential. So much danger. In order to make sure you're not matching with people who are wildly inappropriate for you (hold onto your butts here, I'm about to blow your mind) you have to actually be honest about what you want and who you are. 

Ugh, vulnerability. Why is vulnerability always the answer? Sorry kid, but in order to find "the one" you're going to have to try and be honest instead of the "cool girl" — not that you're not cool, but when you try to force it the authenticity just isn't there. We're humans, not male-authored characters in a fantasy series.

In this episode we'll take a closer look at:

• Why honesty is the necessity in your dating profile
• Why mental games serve no one in a relationship

You're gonna get there, friend, but in order to do so you have to stop standing in your own way. Whether that's catering your personality to be palatable for men, or playing games to hold the upper hand, you've got to stop (Do you want to be a girlfriend or a Bond villain?). And learn to embrace and proudly present the truest, most authentic version of you from the very beginning of your entrance into the dating scene. 

 

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Stop. Putting. Him. Up. There.

On today's episode of the Unf*ck Your Relationships podcast, we're talking about pedestals and why you shouldn't put men up there (but girl, we can understand the urge to do so).

No one is perfect, and if all you focus on is the good and build it up to mean more than it does, you'll never make a genuine connection.

On this episode, I'll explain in detail:

• Why we pedestal men
• What happens when we do

HINT: Nothing good

You can't genuinely know or love a person if you can't be yourself around them. 

Please stop shrinking your soul so his can shine.

And remember, he's a human with human flaws. He farts. He pees. He gets the stomach flu. He probably wore puka shells in the early years when he believed that they were "the in thing." 

All the good qualities you love in him, are in you.

Find someone who wants to enhance them, not overshadow them. And most importantly, make sure you remain true to what you need & desire most in your relationships, while continuing to embody your purest form of what makes you, you!

 

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On today's episode of the Unf*ck Your Relationships podcast, we're talking about how to give up the ghost — of a relationship, that is.

While it's probably gone on forever, these days the term for disappearing when dating is termed ghosting, and it can really throw you for a loop. Dating is hard enough without wondering why you and a dude couldn't stop texting one minute and the next he's nowhere to be found. What gives?!

On this episode we'll get into:

• Potential reasons for the ghosting (hint: not your fault)
• How to deal and grow from ghosting
• Knocking down that pedestal we put men on

Dating is like the Wild West. It's confusing, lawless, thrilling, and frustrating. But I'm here to hopefully make it a bit more bearable when a guy goes radio silent on you. 

Confusing? Yes, but it's actually a commentary on him, not you. Stop internalizing his bad behavior, and remember that as long as your relationship with yourself is strong, you can process and grow from anything he (or the universe) throws your way.

If you have enjoyed this episode of the podcast, take a screenshot, head on over to my Instagram and share it on your IG stories and tag me, @michellepanning

And if you love what you learned, be sure to hit that follow button so you never miss a future episode, and leave a review to help me reach more passionate women just like you who want to heal their relationship patterns so they can have REAL intimacy with men. 

 

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On today's episode of the Unf*ck Your Relationships podcast, we're talking about how to deal when you get your heart broken. Whether you were the initiator, on the receiving end, or the series finale was a mutual decision; breakups are tough to handle.

All the questions, self-doubt, and paranoia invade your brain, in between pints of cookie dough ice cream and "Legally Blonde" viewings... tears in your eyes, yearning in vain for the power Elle Woods wielded in the laptop scene (RIP fun Macbooks). But guess what, that can be you!

Here are a few things we cover in this episode:

• How processing the hurt and anger is how you heal
• How to cultivate a better relationship with yourself
• How to reframe and see what you can learn from it

If this episode finds you going through a breakup in real time, I hope it offers some hope and comfort. And I hope that even if you're happily committed, it helps you remember that ultimately, your most important relationship is with yourself. 

If you have enjoyed this episode of the podcast, take a screenshot, head on over to my Instagram and share it on your IG stories and tag me, @michellepanning

And if you love what you learned, be sure to hit that follow button so you never miss a future episode, and leave a review to help me reach more passionate women just like you who want to heal their relationship patterns so they can have REAL intimacy with men. 

 

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In this episode of Unf*ck Your Relationships Podcast, I'm getting vulnerable. Like, really vulnerable. Here's the deal; I have herpes. And you know what? It's actually not the clusterfuck your high school health teacher warned you about. I still have fulfilling intimate relationships, and it's even taught me to be in tune with my body's needs in a new way. Am I endorsing you going out and intentionally getting yourself some syphilis tomorrow? No. But I am telling you if you have or contract one, STIs are common,  manageable, and in no way life (or love) ending.

Here's what we'll cover:

• How to approach STIs with a partner without making them run for the hills. 
• Remember that you're not a human biohazard just because you have an STI.

Stigma and shame can steal so much from your life if you let it. Let's remind each other that we are powerful, beautiful women who have nothing to apologize for, even if we're  living with an STI. Don't let that shame take a potentially fulfilling relationship from you, because you deserve to have everything you want no matter what! 

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STI Educator - Emily L. Depasse: https://instagram.com/sexelducation

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In this episode of The Unf*ck Your Relationships Podcast, I'm getting into how you can strive to stop being so hard on yourself and focus on accepting all of you! Life will never be "perfect," and that's ok. You can be doing the work and still make mistakes. 

We're going to talk about:

• Focusing on yourself and not comparing yourself to others
• Accepting all parts of yourself, even the ones you're not as comfortable with

You're growing, changing and putting in the work to be the best you. Give yourself permission to feel your emotions fully and do what's best for you. You deserve it. 

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Um…is that number right?

You see it too, yeah?

We have officially hit 150 MOTHERFUCKING EPISODES.

And to celebrate the big 150…I want to give you a bit of coaching I have given to sooo many women…including myself.

How to stop mothering your man.

Yeah. This one's hard for me, I'm going to be honest. But if you ever want to be able to be in your feminine energy, lean back, and receive from your partner, you have to figure out how to let your man handle his own life…and not step in every time you think he needs help. 

The fact is, if he's truly not making the effort to manage his own life, and you think his life is going to burn to the ground if you take your hands off…I have one thing to say to you:

Fucking let it burn.

And if you can't imagine how to do that, then this episode is for you.

 

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In this episode of The Unf*ck Your Relationships Podcast, I'm sharing the moment when I felt like everything shifted for me – and how the lessons I learned can help you become the next-level version of yourself!

Here's what I'll cover:

• My BIG life-changing shift that helped shape the rest of my career & life.
• Key questions to ask yourself in order to receive everything you deserve.

I hope this episode helps you trust that everything truly is always working out for you, no matter how challenging things may seem right now. 

If you have enjoyed this episode of the podcast, take a screenshot, head on over to my Instagram and share it on your IG stories and tag me, @michellepanning

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In this episode of The Unf*ck Your Relationships Podcast, I'm excited to talk about how to shift when you're not getting what you want. I've spoken about letting go of timelines before, but today, we're talking about THE number one thing that helps me shift, and I repeat this to my clients all the time: Nothing means anything.

Here's what I'll cover:

• How the stories you tell yourself about your love life (and beyond!) affect your reality.
• How to stop the meaning-making machine in your head to get the life you want and deserve.

I hope this episode helps you understand how it's not the situation that causes us pain, but it's our thoughts about the situation that make everything harder than it needs to be.

If you have enjoyed this episode of the podcast, take a screenshot, head on over to my Instagram and share it on your IG stories and tag me, @michellepanning

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In this episode of The Unf*ck Your Relationships Podcast, I'm excited to talk about stepping into your feminine energy. Every single person on the planet (regardless of gender) has both masculine and feminine energy, and we can learn to work with these forces to help us have more balanced, fulfilling relationships.

Here's what I'll cover:

• Misconceptions around masculine and feminine energies
• How to tap into your feminine energy to create more attraction in your relationships

I hope this episode helps you understand how attraction actually works and empowers you to experiment with masculine and feminine energies in your own relationships. It's such a powerful way to deepen your connection with not just your partner, but with any relationship in your life!

If you have enjoyed this episode of the podcast, take a screenshot, head on over to my Instagram and share it on your IG stories and tag me, @michellepanning

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