Explore every episode of the podcast Time to Lean
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| Three year olds are fine on their own, right? | 15 Jan 2025 | 00:54:45 | |
In this episode of Time to Lean, we share a wild story about a woman who had a three-year-old dropped into the seat next to her on a flight—without a word from the parents. 😳 This unbelievable situation had us thinking about the intense pressures of parenting in public spaces like airplanes. We dive into the anxiety of trying to "prepare for anything," the mental load we carry as parents, and how societal expectations shape the way we navigate these moments. We also explore the implications of neglecting child safety and how weaponized incompetence shows up in unexpected ways. Buckle up for this one—it’s a ride! Here's the link to the original video! Download resources and read more from Crystal and Laura here! Have a domestic dilemma or question? Leave us a message on Speakpipe! https://www.speakpipe.com/timetolean OR DM us on IG @timetoleanpod Follow Time to Lean on social media @timetoleanpod Follow Laura on social media @thatdarnchat Follow Crystal on social media @itscrystalbritt Domestic Violence Resources Please note: We are not your doctors. None of what we say should be considered a replacement for therapy. :) Get bonus content on PatreonHosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| is this mother-in-law the a-hole? | 08 Jan 2025 | 00:48:52 | |
In this episode, Laura and Crystal discuss the complexities of family dynamics, particularly in the context of a viral gender reveal and the emotional labor involved in navigating relationships. They explore the concept of the 'mama's boy' dynamic, the importance of setting boundaries, and the cultural contexts that influence these interactions. The conversation also touches on the emotional toll of familial expectations and the need for self-awareness in managing relationships, especially during the holiday season. Mentioned on this episode: Download resources and read more from Crystal and Laura here! Have a domestic dilemma or question? Leave us a message on Speakpipe! https://www.speakpipe.com/timetolean OR DM us on IG @timetoleanpod Follow Time to Lean on social media @timetoleanpod Follow Laura on social media @thatdarnchat Follow Crystal on social media @itscrystalbritt Domestic Violence Resources Please note: We are not your doctors. None of what we say should be considered a replacement for therapy. :) Get bonus content on PatreonHosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| am I the a-hole for being upset he forgot my 40th birthday? | 23 Oct 2024 | 00:42:57 | |
In this episode, Crystal and Laura discuss Birthday Blues, expectations for partners, and how to move forward if they let you down. Links: Time to Read Book Club for October: Ace by Angela Chen! Have a domestic dilemma or question? Leave us a message on Speakpipe! https://www.speakpipe.com/timetolean OR DM us on IG @timetoleanpod Follow Time to Lean on social media @timetoleanpod Follow Laura on social media @thatdarnchat Follow Crystal on social media @itscrystalbritt Domestic Violence Resources Please note: We are not your doctors. None of what we say should be considered a replacement for therapy. :) Get bonus content on PatreonHosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| am i wrong for freaking out over a looming natural disaster? | 16 Oct 2024 | 01:00:30 | |
In this conversation, Laura and Crystal explore the dynamics of a viral video that highlights the emotional labor women often experience in relationships, particularly during crisis or stressful situations. Have you ever felt gaslit by a calmer partner? This one's for you. Links: Time to Read Book Club for October: Ace by Angela Chen! Have a domestic dilemma or question? Leave us a message on Speakpipe! https://www.speakpipe.com/timetolean OR DM us on IG @timetoleanpod Follow Time to Lean on social media @timetoleanpod Follow Laura on social media @thatdarnchat Follow Crystal on social media @itscrystalbritt Domestic Violence Resources Please note: We are not your doctors. None of what we say should be considered a replacement for therapy. :) Get bonus content on PatreonHosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| how can we build a village in a nuclear-family-obsessed culture? | 09 Oct 2024 | 00:58:20 | |
In this episode, we interview Jessica Daylover, polyamorous storyteller, educator, mother of two and so much more - including Chief Executive Officer of the Nuclear Fusion App! Jessica shares her journey through motherhood, the challenges of raising a medically complex child, and her vision for community building through the Nuclear Fusion network. The conversation explores the importance of chosen families, the struggles of modern parenting, and the need for vulnerability and emotional intelligence in building connections. It's time to rethink traditional family structures and the value of community support in raising children. Join us as we discuss the question that's constantly on our minds - how do we connect with people and build the community connections we so desperately want? Check out the Nuclear Fusion App here! For AD FREE episodes, resources and SO MUCH MORE; Join our Patreon! Have a domestic dilemma or question? Leave us a message on Speakpipe! https://www.speakpipe.com/timetolean OR DM us on IG @timetoleanpod Follow Time to Lean on social media @timetoleanpod Follow Laura on social media @thatdarnchat Follow Crystal on social media @itscrystalbritt Domestic Violence Resources Please note: We are not your doctors. None of what we say should be considered a replacement for therapy. :) Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| i'm considering divorce - am i overreacting? | 02 Oct 2024 | 01:06:12 | |
In this week's episode, Crystal reads Laura a story from a woman who faces a disastrous situation while recovering from abdominal surgery and heads to the internet to ask if she's overreacting for being upset. We don't want to spoil it... but she's definitely not overreacting. Get Ruth Whippman's book, Boy Mom For AD FREE episodes, resources and SO MUCH MORE; Join our Patreon! Have a domestic dilemma or question? Leave us a message on Speakpipe! https://www.speakpipe.com/timetolean OR DM us on IG @timetoleanpod Follow Time to Lean on social media @timetoleanpod Follow Laura on social media @thatdarnchat Follow Crystal on social media @itscrystalbritt Domestic Violence Resources Please note: We are not your doctors. None of what we say should be considered a replacement for therapy. :) Get bonus content on PatreonHosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| i'm fine, so why are you mad? - REPLAY | 25 Sep 2024 | 00:43:30 | |
In this REPLAY episode, we revisit a discussion we had about common commentary along the lines of, "I'm not sure why you're so upset! I do what you ask. I never make demands of you. I'm fine, so it kind of seems like you're maybe just mad... to be mad." Oh, and the ole' "You're no fun anymore." EEk! Mentioned in this episode: https://www.nytimes.com/2024/02/10/business/gen-z-dating-pay-etiquette.html You can find us on Patreon! Download resources and read more from Crystal and Laura here! Have a domestic dilemma or question? Leave us a message on Speakpipe! https://www.speakpipe.com/timetolean OR DM us on IG @timetoleanpod Follow Time to Lean on social media @timetoleanpod Follow Laura on social media @thatdarnchat Follow Crystal on social media @itscrystalbritt Domestic Violence Resources Please note: This podcast is for entertainment and educational purposes. We are not your doctors. None of what we say should be considered a replacement for therapy. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/timetoleanpod/message Get bonus content on PatreonHosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| am i asking too much for them to follow through on their word? | 18 Sep 2024 | 00:58:59 | |
In this episode, we respond to a listener email from someone who is feeling stuck. Their partner says they're on board, but actions don't reflect those commitments. We explore the complexities of relationships, focusing on the mental load, communication dynamics, and the concept of domestic equity. They discuss the challenges default partners face, the importance of setting boundaries, and the role of systems like Persist and Fair Play in managing household responsibilities. What do you do when you're feeling gridlocked and considering options? We talk about the power of community support and self-care - REAL self-care. Use code DANGER15 for a 15% discount to access the Persist web app. Get yourself a copy of Fair Play here! For AD FREE episodes, resources and SO MUCH MORE; Join our Patreon! Have a domestic dilemma or question? Leave us a message on Speakpipe! https://www.speakpipe.com/timetolean OR DM us on IG @timetoleanpod Follow Time to Lean on social media @timetoleanpod Follow Laura on social media @thatdarnchat Follow Crystal on social media @itscrystalbritt Domestic Violence Resources Please note: We are not your doctors. None of what we say should be considered a replacement for therapy. :) Get bonus content on PatreonHosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| am i the a-hole for refusing to wake him up? | 11 Sep 2024 | 00:45:11 | |
Is it your partner's job to make sure you get to work on time? In this episode, Crystal and Laura discuss a Reddit post about a woman who refuses to wake up her boyfriend in the morning, which has caused him to almost lose his job. They explore the dynamics of the relationship and the expectations placed on each partner. They also touch on the importance of allowing children to experience failure and develop problem-solving skills. The conversation highlights the need for self-advocacy and discernment in navigating relationships and personal growth. The conversation revolves around the dynamics of responsibility and accountability in a relationship where one partner has ADHD. The discussion highlights the challenges faced by the partner with ADHD in managing time and tasks, as well as the impact on the other partner. It explores the importance of self-awareness, communication, and mutual understanding in navigating these challenges. The conversation also touches on the need for individual independence and the potential consequences of relying too heavily on a partner for basic responsibilities. Links: For AD FREE episodes, resources and SO MUCH MORE; Join our Patreon! Have a domestic dilemma or question? Leave us a message on Speakpipe! https://www.speakpipe.com/timetolean OR DM us on IG @timetoleanpod Follow Time to Lean on social media @timetoleanpod Follow Laura on social media @thatdarnchat Follow Crystal on social media @itscrystalbritt Domestic Violence Resources Please note: We are not your doctors. None of what we say should be considered a replacement for therapy. :) Get bonus content on PatreonHosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| am I the a-hole for divorcing over tightened lids? | 04 Sep 2024 | 01:14:20 | |
This week's episode, we cover an absolutely WILD RIDE of an Am I The Asshole where a woman runs to the internet to ask if she's the asshole for divorcing her husband over lids that are too tight. This may be a spoiler... but in this episode, we also delve into the topic of GASLIGHTING!! A link to the original post Wikihow resource on gaslighting For AD FREE episodes, resources and SO MUCH MORE; Join our Patreon! Have a domestic dilemma or question? Leave us a message on Speakpipe! https://www.speakpipe.com/timetolean OR DM us on IG @timetoleanpod Follow Time to Lean on social media @timetoleanpod Follow Laura on social media @thatdarnchat Follow Crystal on social media @itscrystalbritt Domestic Violence Resources Please note: We are not your doctors. None of what we say should be considered a replacement for therapy. :) Get bonus content on PatreonHosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| how is care the highest form of capitalism? an interview with Toi Smith | 28 Aug 2024 | 00:51:44 | |
In this episode, Laura and Crystal are joined by Toi Smith to discuss capitalism, motherhood, and collective liberation. How are they related, and how do we see them affect our day-to-day as we provide care in our homes? Toi Marie Smith is a growth and impact strategist whose work centers on doing life, business, and motherhood differently. She works with people whose work is countercultural, liberatory, and revolutionary in nature...or people who desire and are committed to moving their work or lives in that direction. You can find Toi @toimarie on Instagram and at ToiMarie.com. Care: The Highest Stage of Capitalism Get bonus content on PatreonHosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| will an equitable chore split save us? | 21 Aug 2024 | 00:49:44 | |
In this episode, we chat about the often-overlooked value of care work and the challenges of juggling work and family life. We share our personal stories about dealing with job insecurity, finding affordable childcare, and the mental toll it all takes. We also touch on how the pandemic has affected women’s roles at home and why it’s so important to push for fair pay and better support for care workers. It’s all about recognizing the value of care work and coming together to create a more balanced and caring society. Get bonus content on Patreon Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| is it ball-busting to ask you to clean on the weekends? | 18 Dec 2024 | 00:31:07 | |
Laura and Crystal discuss a viral video that ironically covers not only the Nag Paradox but also the double-standard myth that working outside the home should make a partner exempt from working inside the home with the other partner. Mentioned on this episode: Download resources and read more from Crystal and Laura here! Have a domestic dilemma or question? Leave us a message on Speakpipe! https://www.speakpipe.com/timetolean OR DM us on IG @timetoleanpod Follow Time to Lean on social media @timetoleanpod Follow Laura on social media @thatdarnchat Follow Crystal on social media @itscrystalbritt Domestic Violence Resources Please note: We are not your doctors. None of what we say should be considered a replacement for therapy. :) Get bonus content on PatreonHosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| how do you decide who should decide? | 14 Aug 2024 | 00:50:47 | |
Join us as we dive into the rollercoaster ride of decision-making in relationships! We tackle the hot topic of who does what at home and the mental juggling act that often leaves one person feeling like a circus performer. We'll chat about why it's crucial to have teamwork and open communication and explore the difference between handling the practical and emotional sides of a partnership and the art of finding a balance that works. Have a domestic dilemma or question? Leave us a message on Speakpipe! https://www.speakpipe.com/timetolean OR DM us on IG @timetoleanpod Follow Laura on social media @thatdarnchat Follow Crystal on social media @itscrystalbritt Domestic Violence Resources Listen to A Fresh Story Podcast Join us on Patreon! Get ad free episodes, exclusive updates and resources! Register for upcoming book clubs! Links to register and for info on the books here! Get bonus content on PatreonHosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| what is the back-to-school mental load? | 07 Aug 2024 | 00:44:57 | |
On this episode, Crystal and Laura discuss all things Back-to-Schoo! If you have kids or teach them or babysit them or are around them, you have felt the heavy mental load of this time of year. Join us in discussing this episode in our Patreon, meet up with us on Tuesdays to connect and ask questions-AND you can listen to our episodes AD-FREE for as low as $5 a month! Download resources and read more from Crystal and Laura here! Have a domestic dilemma or question? Leave us a message on Speakpipe! https://www.speakpipe.com/timetolean OR DM us on IG @timetoleanpod Follow Time to Lean on social media @timetoleanpod Follow Laura on social media @thatdarnchat Follow Crystal on social media @itscrystalbritt Domestic Violence Resources Please note: We are not your doctors. None of what we say should be considered a replacement for therapy. :) Get bonus content on PatreonHosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| what's going on down at Ballerina Farm? | 31 Jul 2024 | 00:44:09 | |
On this episode, Laura and Crystal discuss the viral Ballerina Farm Time's Article. We delve into the unequal division of labor, the pressure on mothers to prioritize their kids and role as mom above all else, and the lack of autonomy and self-care for mothers. Mentioned on this episode: The viral Time's article on Ballerina Farm Download resources and read more from Crystal and Laura here! Have a domestic dilemma or question? Leave us a message on Speakpipe! https://www.speakpipe.com/timetolean OR DM us on IG @timetoleanpod Follow Time to Lean on social media @timetoleanpod Follow Laura on social media @thatdarnchat Follow Crystal on social media @itscrystalbritt Domestic Violence Resources Please note: We are not your doctors. None of what we say should be considered a replacement for therapy. :) Get bonus content on PatreonHosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| how should we handle finances? with Ellyce Fulmore | 24 Jul 2024 | 00:48:36 | |
In this episode, Laura speaks with Ellyce Fulmore, author of the national bestseller Keep Finance Personal, a book dedicated to helping neurodivergent individuals approach their finances without shame! Find Ellyce @ellyce.fulmore, at Queerd Co., and on her podcast, Dopamine Dollars! Download resources and read more from Crystal and Laura here! Have a domestic dilemma or question? Leave us a message on Speakpipe! https://www.speakpipe.com/timetolean OR DM us on IG @timetoleanpod Follow Time to Lean on social media @timetoleanpod Follow Laura on social media @thatdarnchat Follow Crystal on social media @itscrystalbritt Domestic Violence Resources Please note: We are not your doctors. None of what we say should be considered a replacement for therapy. :) Get bonus content on PatreonHosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| do they get to complain if they didn't help plan? | 17 Jul 2024 | 00:50:59 | |
In this episode, we delve into the mental load and invisible pressures mothers and primary caregivers often face. We'll listen to a woman whose kids and partner complain about the sleeping conditions at the Airbnb they did nothing to help pick! We discuss the challenges of planning vacations, managing finances, and making family decisions, emphasizing open communication, shared responsibility, and empathy. Download resources and read more from Crystal and Laura here! Have a domestic dilemma or question? Leave us a message on Speakpipe! https://www.speakpipe.com/timetolean OR DM us on IG @timetoleanpod Follow Time to Lean on social media @timetoleanpod Follow Laura on social media @thatdarnchat Follow Crystal on social media @itscrystalbritt Domestic Violence Resources Please note: We are not your doctors. None of what we say should be considered a replacement for therapy. :) Get bonus content on PatreonHosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| what if every conversation we have is a competition? | 10 Jul 2024 | 01:21:37 | |
In this week's episode, we have a tweet submitted from a listener regarding initial reactions in communication. We discuss collaborative versus competitive communication and how it deeply effects how men and women communicate. Mentioned on this episode: Gottman Article on Accepting Influence From a Partner Study on Collaborative vs Competitive Communication Get ad-free episodes and other perks on Patreon! Join our Patreon! Download resources and read more from Crystal and Laura here! Have a domestic dilemma or question? Leave us a message on Speakpipe! https://www.speakpipe.com/timetolean OR DM us on IG Follow Time to Lean on social media @timetoleanpod Follow Laura on social media @thatdarnchat Follow Crystal on social media @itscrystalbritt Domestic Violence Resources Get bonus content on PatreonHosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| am I the a-hole not cancelling the cleaner when my partner asked me to? | 03 Jul 2024 | 00:40:29 | |
This week's episode focuses on an AITA found on reddit where the poster wanted to know if she was a jerk for asking her partner to let a cleaner into their flat when he was tired. This one was murky and we're dying to hear what you think! (Join the conversation over on Patreon. You can sub for free!) Read the AITA thread and comments here! Mentioned in this episode: Everything and Nothing at Once by Joel Leon Get ad-free episodes and other perks on Patreon! Join our Patreon! Download resources and read more from Crystal and Laura here! Have a domestic dilemma or question? Leave us a message on Speakpipe! https://www.speakpipe.com/timetolean OR DM us on IG Follow Time to Lean on social media @timetoleanpod Follow Laura on social media @thatdarnchat Follow Crystal on social media @itscrystalbritt Domestic Violence Resources Get bonus content on PatreonHosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| how can we get the whole family to see the work? | 26 Jun 2024 | 00:44:50 | |
In this week's episode, we discuss how we can course-correct when balance arrives, but the perception of it is still skewed. What work is being noticed? What is being ignored? What can we do to shift the narrative, especially with kids? To use the Persist web app and get a discount, use code DANGER15 https://www.timeforpersist.com/ Referenced in the episode: Releasing the Mother Load by Erica Djossa Parenting Beyond Power by Jen Lumanlan Download resources and read more from Crystal and Laura here! Have a domestic dilemma or question? Leave us a message on Speakpipe! https://www.speakpipe.com/timetolean OR DM us on IG @timetoleanpod Follow Time to Lean on social media @timetoleanpod Follow Laura on social media @thatdarnchat Follow Crystal on social media @itscrystalbritt Domestic Violence Resources One of us is a therapist, but not YOUR therapist--nothing in this podcast is meant to be a replacement for individual therapy. If you have concerns or an emergency, contact 911 for help. Get bonus content on Patreon Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| is it "over-packing" or is it making sure we have a good time? | 19 Jun 2024 | 00:55:31 | |
In this week's episode, we discuss the challenges of packing! Why do we pack what we pack? What goes into the process, and why? Packing is a task that's full to the brim with care, consideration, and preparation. A well-planned, well-packed trip means everyone has a better time. Referenced in the episode: Download resources and read more from Crystal and Laura here! Have a domestic dilemma or question? Leave us a message on Speakpipe! https://www.speakpipe.com/timetolean OR DM us on IG @timetoleanpod Follow Time to Lean on social media @timetoleanpod Follow Laura on social media @thatdarnchat Follow Crystal on social media @itscrystalbritt Domestic Violence Resources One of us is a therapist, but not YOUR therapist--nothing in this podcast is meant to be a replacement for individual therapy. If you have concerns or an emergency, contact 911 for help. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Get bonus content on PatreonHosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| RE-RELEASE: someone on the internet said screens were BAD, is that true? with the Gamer Educator! | 12 Jun 2024 | 00:50:31 | |
Ash Brandin, @thegamereducator, joins Laura and Crystal to talk about the nuances surrounding screens. A video recently went viral on Tiktok where a creator made some serious claims about the harms of screens. Ash chats with us about how you can set boundaries around screens, how screens can be tools and who's really to blame for the significant role they play in our lives. Ash creates amazing content on their IG page. Go check their website out here! Have a domestic dilemma or question? Leave us a message on Speakpipe! https://www.speakpipe.com/timetolean OR DM us on IG @timetoleanpod Follow Laura on social media @thatdarnchat Follow Crystal on social media @itscrystalbritt Domestic Violence Resources Interested in learning more about Fair Play? You can check out the book here or check out this youtube video! Please note: We are not your doctors. None of what we say should be considered a replacement for therapy. :) Get bonus content on PatreonHosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| is it queer to like your wife? | 11 Dec 2024 | 00:33:41 | |
You know the phrase "Happy Wife, Happy Life?" Well in this episode, Laura and Crystal discuss a refreshing take on this tired saying by creator @livunderthestairs. They discuss how it can be reframed more equitably, emphasizing shared responsibilities and emotional labor in relationships. Mentioned on this episode: The Tragedy of Heterosexuality Download resources and read more from Crystal and Laura here! Have a domestic dilemma or question? Leave us a message on Speakpipe! https://www.speakpipe.com/timetolean OR DM us on IG @timetoleanpod Follow Time to Lean on social media @timetoleanpod Follow Laura on social media @thatdarnchat Follow Crystal on social media @itscrystalbritt Domestic Violence Resources Please note: We are not your doctors. None of what we say should be considered a replacement for therapy. :) Get bonus content on PatreonHosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| what if my needs are making him want to crawl out of his skin? | 05 Jun 2024 | 00:41:42 | |
In this episode, Crystal and Laura discuss a listener question. She had a friend to visit for a few days and it ended very poorly. What is she supposed to do if she's dying for connection and the way she's getting those needs met are making him a bit miserable? Get ad-free episodes and join the conversation over on Patreon! Join our Patreon! Download resources and read more from Crystal and Laura here! Have a domestic dilemma or question? Leave us a message on Speakpipe! https://www.speakpipe.com/timetolean OR DM us on IG @timetoleanpod Follow Time to Lean on social media @timetoleanpod Follow Laura on social media @thatdarnchat Follow Crystal on social media @itscrystalbritt Domestic Violence Resources --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/timetoleanpod/message Get bonus content on PatreonHosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| isn't that just called being a mom? | 29 May 2024 | 00:50:54 | |
In this episode, Laura and Crystal dive into executive function, anxiety spirals and the complicated space of trying to emotionally regulate as a parent with your emotionally dysregulated kids. Download resources and read more from Crystal and Laura here! Have a domestic dilemma or question? Leave us a message on Speakpipe! https://www.speakpipe.com/timetolean OR DM us on IG @timetoleanpod Follow Time to Lean on social media @timetoleanpod Follow Laura on social media @thatdarnchat Follow Crystal on social media @itscrystalbritt Domestic Violence Resources One of us is a therapist, but not YOUR therapist--nothing in this podcast is meant to be a replacement for individual therapy. If you have concerns or an emergency, contact 911 for help. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Get bonus content on PatreonHosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| is the diabolical lie that we can work or stay home? | 22 May 2024 | 00:59:47 | |
In this episode, Crystal and Laura discuss the speech Kansas City Chiefs kicker, Harrison Butker, gave at a Catholic university's commencement ceremony. In it, he states that women have been "diabolically lied to," and we agree, but not in the way you think. You can read the full text of Butker's speech here! Listen to Black Disability Politics here! Download resources and read more from Crystal and Laura here! Have a domestic dilemma or question? Leave us a message on Speakpipe! https://www.speakpipe.com/timetolean OR DM us on IG @timetoleanpod Follow Time to Lean on social media @timetoleanpod Follow Laura on social media @thatdarnchat Follow Crystal on social media @itscrystalbritt Domestic Violence Resources --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/timetoleanpod/message Get bonus content on PatreonHosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| are "boy rooms" really all that messy? | 15 May 2024 | 00:56:32 | |
In this episode, Laura and Crystal talk about "Boy Room", a show by Rachel Coster. It's an Instagram series that explores the messy and often disturbing world of boy bedrooms in New York City. Comedian Rachel Coster interviews men in their 20s and 30s about their messy living spaces. The rooms are filled with clutter, trash, and filth. The videos have gained a large following and have sparked discussions about messy habits, gender stereotypes, and the dynamics of relationships. Answer our prompt. Do you think these videos are FUNNY or SAD? You can read about Boy Room here! You can get your own copy of All About Love by bell hooks for your side table here! Download resources and read more from Crystal and Laura here! Have a domestic dilemma or question? Leave us a message on Speakpipe! https://www.speakpipe.com/timetolean OR DM us on IG @timetoleanpod Follow Time to Lean on social media @timetoleanpod Follow Laura on social media @thatdarnchat Follow Crystal on social media @itscrystalbritt Domestic Violence Resources Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| the best part about being a dad is not being a mom. | 08 May 2024 | 00:53:05 | |
In this episode, we hear a clip from a podcast where a man VERY PROUDLY explains that he only changes diapers if he's in a good mood, doesn't wake up with the babies during the night and acts like a child. We talk about the importance of reciprocity and the value of care. Fill out our feedback form here! Here's the video of the podcast we play on this episode! Mentioned: Disability Intimacy, edited by Alice Wong We Do This Til We Free Us by Miriame Kaba Constellations of Care by Cindy Barukh Milstein Braiding Sweetgrass by Robin Wall Kimmerer Data on parenting!More Data on Parenting! You can find us on Patreon! Download resources and read more from Crystal and Laura here! Have a domestic dilemma or question? Leave us a message on Speakpipe! https://www.speakpipe.com/timetolean OR DM us on IG @timetoleanpod Follow Time to Lean on social media @timetoleanpod Follow Laura on social media @thatdarnchat Follow Crystal on social media @itscrystalbritt Domestic Violence Resources Please note: This podcast is for entertainment and educational purposes. We are not your doctors. None of what we say should be considered a replacement for therapy. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/timetoleanpod/message Get bonus content on PatreonHosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| why is knowing everything MY job? | 01 May 2024 | 00:38:25 | |
In this episode, Laura and Crystal discuss the mental load of parenting and the learning that is often assumed by partners socialized as female. We also talk community building through gardening, and, of course, neurodivergence! Download resources and read more from Crystal and Laura here! Have a domestic dilemma or question? Leave us a message on Speakpipe! https://www.speakpipe.com/timetolean OR DM us on IG @timetoleanpod Follow Time to Lean on social media @timetoleanpod Follow Laura on social media @thatdarnchat Follow Crystal on social media @itscrystalbritt Domestic Violence Resources Please note: This podcast is for entertainment and educational purposes. We are not your doctors. None of what we say should be considered a replacement for therapy. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/timetoleanpod/message Get bonus content on PatreonHosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| am i the a-hole for choosing the bride over my friend? | 17 Apr 2024 | 00:39:59 | |
In this week's episode, we look at an AITA where someone's caught in a sticky friendship/family situation chock full of emotional labor. We talk about friendship, family, communication and empathy and all of the nuance that exists in our relationships. Read the AITA here! Download resources and read more from Crystal and Laura here! Have a domestic dilemma or question? Leave us a message on Speakpipe! https://www.speakpipe.com/timetolean OR DM us on IG @timetoleanpod Follow Time to Lean on social media @timetoleanpod Follow Laura on social media @thatdarnchat Follow Crystal on social media @itscrystalbritt Domestic Violence Resources Please note: This podcast is for entertainment and educational purposes. We are not your doctors. None of what we say should be considered a replacement for therapy. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/timetoleanpod/message Get bonus content on PatreonHosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| what if i sacrificed my identity to serve my family? | 10 Apr 2024 | 00:34:27 | |
Laura and Crystal discuss submissions from our audience concerning loss of identity through self-sacrificing. Can we serve others, enjoy it, without sacrificing or losing who we are?Mentioned in this episode: Financial Abuse ResourcesFresh Starts Registry Download resources and read more from Crystal and Laura here! Have a domestic dilemma or question? Leave us a message on Speakpipe! https://www.speakpipe.com/timetolean OR DM us on IG @timetoleanpod Follow Time to Lean on social media @timetoleanpod Follow Laura on social media @thatdarnchat Follow Crystal on social media @itscrystalbritt Domestic Violence Resources Please note: This podcast is for entertainment and educational purposes. We are not your doctors. None of what we say should be considered a replacement for therapy. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/timetoleanpod/message Get bonus content on PatreonHosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| is it a case for older men or is it a case for girl bossing? | 31 Mar 2024 | 00:52:40 | |
Crystal and Laura discuss a viral article from The Cut titled 'The Case for Marrying an Older Man'. The article argues that marrying an older man provides women with ease, flexibility, and liberation from the burdens of womanhood. Is that what's it doing?Mentioned in this episode:Rose Hackman's article, I was 14. He was 22. If it wasn't grooming, what is? bell hooks ain't I a womanHow to rent without credit! https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZTLBowGyy/ Download resources and read more from Crystal and Laura here! Have a domestic dilemma or question? Leave us a message on Speakpipe! https://www.speakpipe.com/timetolean OR DM us on IG @timetoleanpod Follow Time to Lean on social media @timetoleanpod Follow Laura on social media @thatdarnchat Follow Crystal on social media @itscrystalbritt Domestic Violence Resources Please note: This podcast is for entertainment and educational purposes. We are not your doctors. None of what we say should be considered a replacement for therapy. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/timetoleanpod/message Get bonus content on PatreonHosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| what if he's trying, but it still isn't working? | 27 Mar 2024 | 00:43:10 | |
In this episode, we discuss a listener's email--she wants to know what to do if her partner is on board but, because of his ADHD, isn't able to follow through. We also touch on our own examples of how each of our neurodivergence shows up in our partnerships--how can we take responsibility for our actions and behaviors while also balancing disabilities and deficits? Mentioned in this episode: You can find us on Patreon! Download resources and read more from Crystal and Laura here! Have a domestic dilemma or question? Leave us a message on Speakpipe! https://www.speakpipe.com/timetolean OR DM us on IG @timetoleanpod Follow Time to Lean on social media @timetoleanpod Follow Laura on social media @thatdarnchat Follow Crystal on social media @itscrystalbritt Domestic Violence Resources Please note: This podcast is for entertainment and educational purposes. We are not your doctors. None of what we say should be considered a replacement for therapy. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/timetoleanpod/message Get bonus content on PatreonHosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| RE-RELEASE: what's going down at Ballerina Farm? | 04 Dec 2024 | 00:45:22 | |
On this episode, Laura and Crystal discuss the viral Ballerina Farm Time's Article. We delve into the unequal division of labor, the pressure on mothers to prioritize their kids and role as mom above all else, and the lack of autonomy and self-care for mothers. Mentioned on this episode: The viral Time's article on Ballerina Farm Marie Claire's Article on the Evie Cover Sara Peterson's Article Re: Ballerina Farm Download resources and read more from Crystal and Laura here! Have a domestic dilemma or question? Leave us a message on Speakpipe! https://www.speakpipe.com/timetolean OR DM us on IG @timetoleanpod Follow Time to Lean on social media @timetoleanpod Follow Laura on social media @thatdarnchat Follow Crystal on social media @itscrystalbritt Domestic Violence Resources Please note: We are not your doctors. None of what we say should be considered a replacement for therapy. :) Get bonus content on PatreonHosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| i'm fine, so why are you mad? | 13 Mar 2024 | 00:43:30 | |
In this episode, we discuss common commentary along the lines of, "I'm not sure why you're so upset! I do what you ask. I never make demands of you. I'm fine, so it kind of seems like you're maybe just mad... to be mad." Oh, and the ole' "You're no fun anymore." EEk! Mentioned in this episode: https://www.nytimes.com/2024/02/10/business/gen-z-dating-pay-etiquette.html You can find us on Patreon! Download resources and read more from Crystal and Laura here! Have a domestic dilemma or question? Leave us a message on Speakpipe! https://www.speakpipe.com/timetolean OR DM us on IG @timetoleanpod Follow Time to Lean on social media @timetoleanpod Follow Laura on social media @thatdarnchat Follow Crystal on social media @itscrystalbritt Domestic Violence Resources Please note: This podcast is for entertainment and educational purposes. We are not your doctors. None of what we say should be considered a replacement for therapy. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/timetoleanpod/message Get bonus content on PatreonHosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| Is Love truly Blind?? | 06 Mar 2024 | 01:08:09 | |
By popular demand, Laura and Crystal review Love is Blind, season 6! Just in time for the finale, get all the hot takes on the newest season! You can find us on Patreon! Download resources and read more from Crystal and Laura here! Have a domestic dilemma or question? Leave us a message on Speakpipe! https://www.speakpipe.com/timetolean OR DM us on IG @timetoleanpod Follow Time to Lean on social media @timetoleanpod Follow Laura on social media @thatdarnchat Follow Crystal on social media @itscrystalbritt Domestic Violence Resources Please note: This podcast is for entertainment and educational purposes. We are not your doctors. None of what we say should be considered a replacement for therapy. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/timetoleanpod/message Get bonus content on PatreonHosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| but what if they're doing it the wrong way? | 28 Feb 2024 | 00:46:35 | |
Laura and Crystal discuss a comment left on Instagram--what happens when a partner insists on doing something in the house the "right" way? How do you tell if it's for a bigger reason than preference? Listen to find out! You can find us on Patreon! Download resources and read more from Crystal and Laura here! Have a domestic dilemma or question? Leave us a message on Speakpipe! https://www.speakpipe.com/timetolean OR DM us on IG @timetoleanpod Follow Time to Lean on social media @timetoleanpod Follow Laura on social media @thatdarnchat Follow Crystal on social media @itscrystalbritt Domestic Violence Resources Please note: This podcast is for entertainment and educational purposes. We are not your doctors. None of what we say should be considered a replacement for therapy. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/timetoleanpod/message Get bonus content on PatreonHosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| wait, what is the internet for? | 21 Feb 2024 | 00:50:57 | |
In this episode, Crystal and Laura discuss a viral video, separation anxiety, and the existential crisis that is the internet. Join us in the fray! Mentioned in this episode:
You can find us on Patreon! Download resources and read more from Crystal and Laura here! Have a domestic dilemma or question? Leave us a message on Speakpipe! https://www.speakpipe.com/timetolean OR DM us on IG @timetoleanpod Follow Time to Lean on social media @timetoleanpod Follow Laura on social media @thatdarnchat Follow Crystal on social media @itscrystalbritt Domestic Violence Resources Please note: This podcast is for entertainment and educational purposes. We are not your doctors. None of what we say should be considered a replacement for therapy. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| shouldn't i just be grateful? | 14 Feb 2024 | 00:46:16 | |
Laura and Crystal discuss a listener's question that we hear all. the. time. "if my partner is better than they used to be, shouldn't I just be grateful?" You can find us on Patreon! Download resources and read more from Crystal and Laura here! Have a domestic dilemma or question? Leave us a message on Speakpipe! https://www.speakpipe.com/timetolean OR DM us on IG @timetoleanpod Follow Time to Lean on social media @timetoleanpod Follow Laura on social media @thatdarnchat Follow Crystal on social media @itscrystalbritt Domestic Violence Resources Please note: This podcast is for entertainment and educational purposes. We are not your doctors. None of what we say should be considered a replacement for therapy. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/timetoleanpod/message Get bonus content on PatreonHosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| what if your values don't align? | 07 Feb 2024 | 00:31:11 | |
In this episode, Crystal and Laura discuss the reality show 'Welcome to Plathville' and the recent divorce of Olivia and Ethan Plath. They explore the high-control environment and fundamentalist Christianity portrayed in the show, as well as the impact of coercive control and gender roles on their relationship. The conversation delves into the importance of autonomy and principles, highlighting Olivia's bravery in standing up for her beliefs. They also discuss the negative reactions from the media and comment section and the culture of othering and self-hatred that often arises in these situations. The episode concludes by reflecting on the need to question traditional roles and beliefs and the importance of ethical alignment in relationships. You can find us on Patreon! Download resources and read more from Crystal and Laura here! Have a domestic dilemma or question? Leave us a message on Speakpipe! https://www.speakpipe.com/timetolean OR DM us on IG @timetoleanpod Follow Time to Lean on social media @timetoleanpod Follow Laura on social media @thatdarnchat Follow Crystal on social media @itscrystalbritt Domestic Violence Resources Please note: This podcast is for entertainment and educational purposes. We are not your doctors. None of what we say should be considered a replacement for therapy. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/timetoleanpod/message Get bonus content on PatreonHosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| why are love languages so insidious? | 31 Jan 2024 | 00:47:25 | |
In this episode, Laura interviews Crystal about the Love Languages episode (yes, we're still talking about it!) And they also discuss how "checklist advice" hurts men more than women. Mentioned in this episode: You can find us on Patreon! Download resources and read more from Crystal and Laura here! Have a domestic dilemma or question? Leave us a message on Speakpipe! https://www.speakpipe.com/timetolean OR DM us on IG @timetoleanpod Follow Time to Lean on social media @timetoleanpod Follow Laura on social media @thatdarnchat Follow Crystal on social media @itscrystalbritt Domestic Violence Resources Please note: This podcast is for entertainment and educational purposes. We are not your doctors. None of what we say should be considered a replacement for therapy. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/timetoleanpod/message Get bonus content on PatreonHosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| what if love languages are bulls**t? | 17 Jan 2024 | 01:02:17 | |
In this episode, Crystal and Michael Vaughn (@world.shaker) discuss the Five Love Languages, and how it has the potential to damage your relationship! Find Michael at beacons.ai/worldshaker Mentioned in this episode:
You can find us on Patreon! Download resources and read more from Crystal and Laura here! Have a domestic dilemma or question? Leave us a message on Speakpipe! https://www.speakpipe.com/timetolean OR DM us on IG @timetoleanpod Follow Time to Lean on social media @timetoleanpod Follow Laura on social media @thatdarnchat Follow Crystal on social media @itscrystalbritt Domestic Violence Resources Please note: This podcast is for entertainment and educational purposes. We are not your doctors. None of what we say should be considered a replacement for therapy. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/timetoleanpod/message Get bonus content on PatreonHosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| what does a woman drive you to do? | 10 Jan 2024 | 00:40:59 | |
In this episode, Laura and Crystal discuss a WILD answer to a question on an old episode of Family Feud. Why isn't it funny? Mentioned in this episode: Emotional Labor Workshop Recording and Resource with Rose Hackman Teaching To Transgress by bell hooks You can find us on Patreon! Download resources and read more from Crystal and Laura here! Have a domestic dilemma or question? Leave us a message on Speakpipe! https://www.speakpipe.com/timetolean OR DM us on IG @timetoleanpod Follow Time to Lean on social media @timetoleanpod Follow Laura on social media @thatdarnchat Follow Crystal on social media @itscrystalbritt Domestic Violence Resources Please note: This podcast is for entertainment and educational purposes. We are not your doctors. None of what we say should be considered a replacement for therapy. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/timetoleanpod/message Get bonus content on PatreonHosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| what happens when your partner lets you down? | 03 Jan 2024 | 00:43:34 | |
In this episode, Crystal and Laura discuss a viral video when a partner asked her husband to do ONE THING--and he couldn't do it right. What do you do when you ask for help and are let down? Mentioned in this episode: The Most Hated Man On The Internet Documentary (CONTENT WARNINGS ALL OVER THE PLACE HERE GUYS) You can find us on Patreon! Download resources and read more from Crystal and Laura here! Have a domestic dilemma or question? Leave us a message on Speakpipe! https://www.speakpipe.com/timetolean OR DM us on IG @timetoleanpod Follow Time to Lean on social media @timetoleanpod Follow Laura on social media @thatdarnchat Follow Crystal on social media @itscrystalbritt Domestic Violence Resources Please note: This podcast is for entertainment and educational purposes. We are not your doctors. None of what we say should be considered a replacement for therapy. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/timetoleanpod/message Get bonus content on PatreonHosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| am I the a-hole for wanting time alone? | 27 Nov 2024 | 01:02:20 | |
We have a listener-submitted question! Queen of Group Projects wants to know if she should feel bad for wanting her partner to do his own tasks ON HIS OWN, rather than together. Crystal and Laura discuss the purpose of delegating tasks, the benefits of alone time, and how to connect outside of the mundane day-to-day! For resources and SO MUCH MORE; Join our Patreon! Have a domestic dilemma or question? Leave us a message on Speakpipe! https://www.speakpipe.com/timetolean OR DM us on IG @timetoleanpod Follow Time to Lean on social media @timetoleanpod Follow Laura on social media @thatdarnchat Follow Crystal on social media @itscrystalbritt Domestic Violence Resources Please note: We are not your doctors. None of what we say should be considered a replacement for therapy. :) Get bonus content on PatreonHosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| Can a situational hostage ever really win? | 27 Dec 2023 | 00:40:39 | |
In this week's episode, we talk about the pillars of the "Man Box", discuss a viral prank and cover the topic of "situational hostages". Have you ever been put into a position where you have to suppress your own discomfort in order to keep safe? In this episode, we reference an event we hosted with Rose Hackman, author of Emotional Labor. You can access the replay on our website! You can pick up a copy of Rose's book here! Watch I Think You Should Leave on Netflix. :) You can find us on Patreon! Download resources and read more from Crystal and Laura here! Have a domestic dilemma or question? Leave us a message on Speakpipe! https://www.speakpipe.com/timetolean OR DM us on IG @timetoleanpod Follow Time to Lean on social media @timetoleanpod Follow Laura on social media @thatdarnchat Follow Crystal on social media @itscrystalbritt Domestic Violence Resources Please note: This podcast is for entertainment and educational purposes. We are not your doctors. None of what we say should be considered a replacement for therapy. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/timetoleanpod/message Get bonus content on PatreonHosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| Should you lie about who's giving you gifts? | 20 Dec 2023 | 00:27:38 | |
In this week's episode, Crystal and Laura take a listener question. If you've been lying about getting gifts from your spouse for years, at what point do you stop? Your kids probably know by now, right? Maybe? What would YOU do? Some things mentioned in this episode: You can find resources for talking about the holidays ahead of time here! Download resources and read more from Crystal and Laura here! Have a domestic dilemma or question? Leave us a message on Speakpipe! https://www.speakpipe.com/timetolean OR DM us on IG @timetoleanpod Follow Laura on social media @thatdarnchat Follow Crystal on social media @itscrystalbritt Domestic Violence Resources Please note: We are not your doctors. None of what we say should be considered a replacement for therapy. ¨̮ --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/timetoleanpod/message Get bonus content on PatreonHosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| Do You Have Oldest Daughter Syndrome? | 13 Dec 2023 | 00:47:07 | |
In this episode, Laura and Crystal discuss Oldest Daughter Syndrome, enmeshment, boundaries and Mama's Boys. As a reminder, information presented in this podcast is NOT a replacement for individualized mental health treatment! Thanks to our sponsor for this episode, SmartLabels! Find them here! --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/timetoleanpod/message Get bonus content on PatreonHosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| Is it funny to joke about domestic violence? | 07 Dec 2023 | 00:33:18 | |
**TW: Domestic violence and sexual assault In this week's episode, Crystal and Laura talk about Matt Rife's now-famous domestic violence joke from his Netflix special and provide an example of an how a comedian can make a joke about something challenging and do it well. We also discuss the phenomenon of the missing stair! STICK AROUND UNTIL THE END TO HEAR THE MISSING STAIR! You can see Matt Rife's joke here! You can see Daniel Sloss's joke here! You can watch Daniel Sloss's comedy here! You can listen to "The Missing Stair" by Phoebe Hunt, Melody Walker and Bonnie Sims here! Check out RAINN for resources for victims of DV and sexual assault. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||