Today’s episode is special, as the structure and content of it were revealed to Anna in a dream. This episode is in response to our listeners’ requests after hearing the Siblings episode — many of you wrote in and requested an additional episode on healing the Sibling Wound.

How do we repair the Sibling Wound? The same way we repair any relationship, only this relationship has more history and key characters. In today’s episode you will discover realistic expectations to healing your sibling bond, and a step-by-step plan to repair it. We hope you enjoy listening!

Five Levels of a Disharmonious Relationship:

Level 1: 0-20% of interactions are disharmonious

Level 2: 20-40% of interactions are disharmonious

Level 3: 40-60% of interactions are disharmonious

Level 4: 60-80% of interactions are disharmonious

Level 5: 80-100% of interactions are disharmonious

Five Tips to Heal A Sibling Wound:

1) Forgiveness (Emotional)

2) Feed Your Demon / Family Constellation (Mental)

3) The 360 Life Review

4) Conversation with your Sibling

5) Mediation with your Sibling (optional)

Episodes Referenced In this Episode:

1.14 Hooponopono / True Forgiveness

2.07 The Drama Triangle

4.11 Near Death Experiences

6.16 Reconnecting

6.17 Siblings

Books Referenced:

Limitless Book

The Four Agreements

John Gottman’s New Book

Celestine Prophecy

Links:

Harvesting Your Own Seeds

Me+ App (ADHD Calendar)

Pearls (Daily Book Summaries)

How To Feed Your Demons

Robbie Houcek Contact (Shaman)

Paul Lewis Contact (Mediator)

The following is a gratitude practice that you can use in for any application in your life, but especially for creating a gratitude wave for the nature spirits.

Common sense caution: This is a guided meditation and may put you into a trance state, do not listen to it while driving, or other performing activities that require your full attention.

Note:

This meditation pairs well with episode 6.19 on Elementals.

Today we will be interviewing one of our podcast listeners who used the primal wounds series to change her perspective on his relationship with abandonment. We are talking to Elaine, in London, England about the primal wounds, specifically abandonment and betrayal, and their reflections on maturing.

Do you hate turtlenecks? Can you entertain the possibility that this aversion comes from the past? Maybe you were hung or guillotined in a previous life.

Countless people who have experienced past-life regressions (or readings) report enhancements to their quality of life — both emotionally and physically.

Next week we interview the renown past life psychic, Ainslie Macleod, and in preparation of that interview we want to give our audience a crash course in reincarnation. Today, we will discuss soul types, soul ages, and the ten past life fears or traumas that may be influencing your current life with triggers (emotional remnants of past drama) or resonances (physical remnants of past illness or trauma).

The Ten Past Life Fears

• Fear of Authority
• Fear of Intimacy
• Fear of Death
• Fear of Betrayal
• Fear of Illness
• Fear of Powerlessness
• Fear of Failure
• Fear of Inferiority
• Fear of Loss
• Fear of Self-Expression

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In today’s episode, Anna leads, discussing another book of John Gray, PhD, author of “Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus.” In “Mars and Venus in the Bedroom,” Gray dives deeper into the nuances of sexual behavior, psychology, and performance. Are quickies “allowed” in your relationship? How well do you communicate in bed? Is the way to a man’s heart really through sex? What are the secrets to great passion? We hope to answer all these questions and more, on today’s episode of “This Spiritual Fix.”

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As part of our five episode series on conscious sexuality, our hosts have created a panel to explore and discuss the very taboo topic of self-pleasuring. You know, masturbation. Today we are interviewing Jefe Living and Christy Mack to see what makes us all the same, and what makes us different regarding this very private practice. This is the second half of two episodes on the topic.

Our Special Guests

Jeff is a student and teacher of yoga and any practice that expands the human consciousness. Jeff has trained extensively in Eastern and Western spiritual practices from yoga to shamanic ceremonial traditions.

Jeff facilitates workshops and trainings that inspire, empower and connect students to their inner journey and personal transformation. His brand, Jefe Living, creates community around meditation and coaching to support individuals in their journey and transformational process. 

His book “Jefe Living: Guide to Inner Wisdom” is a 30 day meditation journal that facilitates connection you creating a consistent meditation and journaling practice and all the self-discovery benefits thereof. www.jefeliving.com

Christy is a former tattoo model and adult film star who currently creates content on OnlyFans.

In 2014, she won an AVN award for Most Promising New Starlet as well as an XBIZ award for Best New Starlet. After just two years, Christy retired from the porn industry in 2015.

In 2016, Mackinday launched a clothing line with the website Pornhub to raise money for domestic violence survivors after her own experience with domestic violence.

In her free time she supports domestic violence survivors and bully (dogs) rescues.

www.christymack.com

Visit the website for more information about our special guests.

As part of our five episode series on conscious sexuality, our hosts have created a panel to explore and discuss the very taboo topic of self-pleasuring. You know, masturbation. Today we are interviewing Jefe Living and Christy Mack to see what makes us all the same, and what makes us different regarding this very private practice. This is the first half of two episodes on the topic.

Our Special Guests

Jeff is a student and teacher of yoga and any practice that expands the human consciousness. Jeff has trained extensively in Eastern and Western spiritual practices from yoga to shamanic ceremonial traditions.

Jeff facilitates workshops and trainings that inspire, empower and connect students to their inner journey and personal transformation. His brand, Jefe Living, creates community around meditation and coaching to support individuals in their journey and transformational process. 

His book “Jefe Living: Guide to Inner Wisdom” is a 30 day meditation journal that facilitates connection you creating a consistent meditation and journaling practice and all the self-discovery benefits thereof. www.jefeliving.com

Christy is a former tattoo model and adult film star who currently creates content on OnlyFans.

In 2014, she won an AVN award for Most Promising New Starlet as well as an XBIZ award for Best New Starlet. After just two years, Christy retired from the porn industry in 2015.

In 2016, Mackinday launched a clothing line with the website Pornhub to raise money for domestic violence survivors after her own experience with domestic violence.

In her free time she supports domestic violence survivors and bully (dogs) rescues.

www.christymack.com

Visit the website for more information about our special guests.

Today we air our Valentine’s Day bonus. This episode is part of the Conscious Sexuality series, with a more scientific look at sexual health, physiology, and anatomy. We interview Dr. Jessica Reale PT, DPT, WCS, a Doctor of Physical Therapy (DPT) and Board-Certified Specialist (WCS) in pelvic health. Dr. Reale is a wife, mother, clinician, and educator (Herman & Wallace Pelvic Rehabilitation Institute, and many other universities and colleges). She answers all our questions about sexual function and dysfunction for anyone who owns a penis or a vulva.

Visit the show notes for links.

Kristina breaks down the fascinating book, written by Dr Emily Nagoski, “Come As You Are.” In today’s episode two best friends discuss the dual-model theory of sexual arousal: sexual excitation (the accelerator) and sexual inhibition (the brakes). This episode also tackles answering questions like, “what kind of sex do we seek based on our attachment style?” and “why do I need things to be just so to enjoy sex?” If you like sex, or want to like sex, this episode is for you.

Also discussed today: Sexual non-concordance, sexual assault, pleasure, and anatomy.

Visit the website for links and a sexual inhibition quiz.

In today’s fascinating episode on Tantra, Kristina leads with a discussion on Classical and Neo-Tantra for our listeners. These two best friends breakdown this centuries-old practice to make it practical and applicable to your life, regardless if you are sexually active or not.

Also discussed today: weaponized incompetence, Kundalini awakenings, orgasm, self-pleasuring, and more.

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Don’t shoot the messenger! Anna leads today’s episode, revisiting the classic self-help book, “Men are From Mars, Women are from Venus.” These two best friends discuss what aspects of this classic seem to apply, and which ones are antiquated to our current understandings of the divine masculine, divine feminine, and gender fluidity. This book has changed a lot of relationships for the better, will it change yours?

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On today’s episode, Anna and Kristina welcome a very special guest, Jamie Catto. Jamie Catto is a musician, producer, and film director who’s life changed when he met Ram Dass in 1994. Since then, he has dedicated his life to unifying our planet through music and connection, and teaches integration and acceptance of our shadows. His most recent work, “Bitches and Bastards” dives deep into exploring intimacy with our partners by embracing and understanding their shadow-selves.

Also discussed today: Ram Dass, the Mother Wound, feeling unloveable, capitalism, death, and attachment bonds.

Do you want to join Bitches & Bastards remote workshop? We need twenty participants to make it happen. Kristina and Anna will be there! Click here to sign up. Or visit www.thisspiritualfix.com/jamie-catto.

Visit our show notes for more links.

Let’s face it, life is full of interpersonal conflict. What can you do to stay focused on your spiritual path when you have to interact with someone who isn’t doing the work? Surprise, surprise, you can use the opportunity to grow and deepen your practice. In today’s episode two best friends discuss different tools and resources one can use to stay present, when the other person isn’t doing their own self-reflection / shadow work / accountability. This episode is inspired by an instagram post by The Yoga Couple.

Also discussed today: intuition and psychometry, the Bengali Tea Boy, domestic violence, and more.

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Kristina and Anna are revisiting the primal wounds, after taking a break to recover from doing this shadow work process two years ago. This episode re-airs the original episode and also includes an update and reflection on what they have learned since the first recording. The original episode has been our most shared episode to date!

In this fifth episode in our eight part series on the Primal Wounds, our cohosts explore the final primal wound, the wound of Humiliation. Have you ever experienced the feelings of shame and unworthiness wrapped up in the the pain of humiliation? In this episode you will learn how to recognize the ways in which the humiliation wound shows up in your every day life. Anna and Kristina explore how masochistic behavior (self-suffering) is the coping mechanism to protect oneself from this wound. And, they explore tools and experiences that helped them forgive and love their own sense of humiliation.

Did you enjoy this episode? Explore our other episodes on the primal wounds of abandonment, rejection, injustice, and betrayal. 

If you liked this episode, click here to learn about our five week masterclass on healing The Mother Wound.

PDF Download:

1.18 Summary of the Humiliation Wound

Healing Packet:

Heal your Humiliation Wound

Quiz:

What is your primary wound ? Click here.

Links:

Heal Your Wounds and Find Your True Self, By Lise Bourbeau

How to Feed Your Demons

Jemma Rane is a personal transformation coach with deep insight about when an unhappy relationship can and cannot be salvaged. Her first video on TikTok went viral — she talked about how in divorces, 80% of women, and 90% of college educated women, are the ones initiating. In this fun and insightful conversation, you will come to understand why society has created fundamental challenges between men and women in heterosexual romantic relationships. We also discuss the importance of self-reflection as a tool to transform oneself within a marriage.

Also discussed today: patriarchy, spider webs, the wandering uterus, and more.

Visit our website for show notes to topics discussed in this episode.

“You cannot change anything, you can only change where you put your attention,” is a deep-rooted belief in non-dualism philosophy. In this episode two best friends discuss this teaching according to the Great Masters, and why it is so important to be mindful of where you put your attention.

Also discussed today: Nisargadatta Maharaj, the Dhammapada, extraterrestrials, alien technology, and more.

Visit our show notes for links to topics discussed on the show.

In this third and final part of The Mother Wound series, Kristina gives a more intimate view of what adult behavior may look like if one was denied nurturance, protection, or guidance, in our early childhood from their primary caregiver. Anna discusses the evolution of moving from the “Special Relationship” to the “Holy Relationship,” per the teachings of A Course in Miracles. These best friends discuss how attachment bonds are formed, evolved, and eventually healed.

Also discussed today: third degree mother wounds, chronic PTSD, Buddha, Yukteswar, Ram Dass, and Paramahansa Yogananda,

Trigger warning: brief discussions of eating disorders, sex addiction, and inappropriate touch & nudity.

If you liked this episode, click here to learn about our five week masterclass on healing The Mother Wound.

Visit our show notes for more links.

Happy Solstice!

In this second part of a three part series on The Mother Wound, Kristina dives into the deeper layer of the Mother Wound: the pain we carry with respect to The Great Mother - the feminine aspect of creation. The Great Mother is maya. Maya, comes from Advaita Vedanta philosophy, which is a branch of Hinduism which subscribes to the idea of non-duality. That is, ultimately we are all one. In this context, maya is “the magic power with which a god can make human beings believe in what turns out to be an illusion. By extension, it later came to mean the powerful force that creates the cosmic illusion that the phenomenal world is real. For the Nondualists, maya is thus that cosmic force that presents the infinite brahman (the supreme being) as the finite phenomenal world. Maya is reflected on the individual level by human ignorance (ajnana) of the real nature of the self, which is mistaken for the empirical ego but which is in reality identical with brahman” (Britannica, 2021). In this episode two silly best friends break down this philosophy to make accessing and healing The Great Mother Wound palpable for all.

Also discussed today: extraterrestrials, alien technology, John Lennon, Ram Dass, Stevie Nicks, and more.

If you liked this episode, click here to learn about our five week masterclass on healing The Mother Wound.

The Four Steps to Healing the Mother Wound with Two Tools

1. Access:

1. Ask: am I being hypersensitive or hyposensitive?
2. Ask: do I deeply experience the injustice of gender roles or environmental injustices?

2. Awareness

1. Ask: do I trust myself?
2. Ask: when and why am I closing my heart?

3. Process

1. Transmute your energy to the earth, i.e. dig a hole and scream into it.
2. Expand your heart: imagine or feel your heart expanding horizontally, vertically, anteriorly, posteriorly, inferiorly, superiorly (essentially in all directions).

4. Rememberance

1. Connect to the deeper truth: Love is always being given.
2. Connect to the deeper truth: She is always with us.

Visit the show notes for links to topics discussed on this episode.

Happy New Year! In today’s short bonus Anna discusses goal-setting, as taught by Vishen Lakhiani from the Silva Ultramind Course. Drawing from the wisdom of Eckhart Tolle, Michael Beckwith, Matt Kahn, and Tony Robbins this episode gives four practical steps to creating goals that are aligned with your soul’s purpose.

Visit our show notes for more links and a PDF download.

Kristina leads today’s episode, talking about the “My Mother Wound,” a wound that is specific to your personal circumstances, life story, and attachment bond. She explains how the “My Mother Wound” is a fusion of abandonment and betrayal wounds, and how the coping mechanism for this pain may yield a “manufactured personality.” Anna discusses her own work with the “Great Mother Wound,” which is the relationship we all have, universally, with maya (a Hindu term for the illusion or appearance of the phenomenal world). This is the first part in a three part series.

Also discussed today: secure and insecure attachments, Ram Dass, panic attacks, egregores, and more.

If you liked this episode, click here to learn about our five week masterclass on healing The Mother Wound.

Visit our show notes for links to topics and resources discussed on the episode.

Suzanne Raja is a personal and business transformational advisor to over 100,000 clients worldwide. This living goddess inspires us all to reach our highest potential by living in a space of wisdom, surrender, and play. On today’s very sexy episode of This Spiritual Fix we discuss what it means to live as an embodiment of the divine feminine as a creator, parent, spouse, and lover.

Visit our show notes for more links to topics mentioned on this episode.

Satyen Raja is a personal and business transformational advisor to over 100,000 clients worldwide. Satyen combines over 35 years of deep study of Eastern and Western practices to inspire us to reach our highest potential. To us, he is an incredible and powerful embodiment of the Divine Masculine. On today’s episode of This Spiritual Fix we discuss what it means to live with divine masculine integrity and wisdom as a parent, spouse, and lover.

Visit our website for additional links.

Satyen and his wife's Sex, Passion, Enlightenment Weekend Workshops are now remote!

Laura Day is a best-selling author who has spent three decades helping others strengthen their innate intuitive abilities to recognize the gifts around them and to create profound changes. She has been a source of insight for celebrities like Oprah Winfrey, Deepak Chopra, Jennifer Anniston and more. She demystifies intuition to give us practical results.

Today’s episode is all about gratitude, intuition, and finding the hidden gifts in challenges. Laura gives our audience practical tools for finding love and happiness - in one’s self and through that special partner. Enjoy this special bonus episode, and to those in the USA, Happy Thanksgiving!

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In this episode we explore eight different branches of yoga: Tantra, Hatha, Bhakti, Karma, Mantra, Jnana, Raja, and Guru Yoga. That’s right - eight different branches of yoga - because yoga means so much more than making postures. Yoga, stemming from Hinduism, means to yoke oneself with the Divine. Enjoy a conversation between two best friends playfully discuss these yogic branches. They also compare and contrast the Hindu path of liberation with the Buddhist path of self-realization.

Also discussed today: the mother wound, Krishna Das, the pineal gland, and more.

Trigger warning: brief description of a sexual assault.

To see links to topics discussed in this episode, visit our website show notes.

Today we will be discussing Kristina’s insights on the Injustice Wound and what it means to hold space for boundaries without a need for punishment. Stay tuned.

Links:

The legendary kirtan* singer, Krishna Das, joins us today as we discuss the hinderances we face in carrying out his guru’s teachings. His guru, Neem Karoli Baba, taught above all to love everyone, to serve everyone, and to remember God. How can we love ourselves if we think we are worthless? How can we remember God in this crazy world? Krishna Das answers ours questions, and graces our podcast with his chanting of Govinda Hare Gopal Hare.

Also discussed today: Ram Dass, living from the heart, Sri Siddhi Ma, drug addiction, dreams, and chanting.

Visit our website for links to topics discussed in this episode. And visit Krishna Das' website for links to his courses and weekly kirtan.

• Note: Kirtan is a practice of bhakti yoga (devotional yoga) that uses call and repeat, reciting or praising through song / chantings an aspect of divinity.

In today’s bonus episode, two spiritually-seeking best friends discuss how to break a soul contract you have made in this life, or another. We will teach you how to get yes / no answers from your higher consciousness to navigate your subconscious mind. This is a short bonus episode between seasons.

Also discussed today: Shamanism, Archangel Michael, entity attachments, and energy implants.

Visit our show notes on our website for links.

The season is over but our love for this podcast isn't. These two best friends meet over Instagram Live (on 11.1.2021) on our between season "break" to answer questions from you, the audience. We reflect on Season Two and let you know what to expect in Season Three.

Also discussed today: stranded in London with Covid, Conversations with God, breaking ties with toxic people, and more.

Visit our website show notes for links.

Forgive this episode's poor sound quality, it was recorded live on Instagram, 11.1.21.

Welcome to the season two finale! Do you believe in ghosts? Do you know the difference between an entity, a spirit, a ghost, and a walk-in? On this Halloween special, two best friends share their ghost stories: real-life encounters with the spirits among us. Kristina shares her encounter with a 200-year old haunted plantation that left her toddler projectile vomiting. And Anna recounts the time a walk-in inhabited her body, leaving behind some very eerie evidence.

Also discussed today: protections, benevolent ancestors, and día de los muertos.

Trigger warning: entities a.k.a. hungry ghosts, SA, hell-holes, suicide, and the concentration camps of Auschwitz.

Series Finale Announcements:

• Instagram Live, November 1st 7:00 pm EST
• Weekly Bonuses until Season 3 Debuts, November 16th
• New Meditations on our Shop

Visit the website show notes for hyperlinks.

The Celestine Prophecy is a gateway book published in the early 1990s, in the spirit of the New Age. In today’s episode Kristina leads a discussion on the book’s lessons. And two best friends discuss new “updates” to the lessons that make the lessons more practical in the Now Age.

Also discussed today: the drama triangle, energy vampires, and alternative sources for dopamine hits.

Visit the website show notes for links to topics discussed on the show.

Season Finale Announcements:

• Instagram Live @this.spiritual.fix Nov 1, 7pm EST
• Bonus content every week until Season 3 begins (Nov 16)
• We have new guides and resources in our shop

Are you a dreamer? Dreams are a lot more significant in our lives than most people give them credit for. They can provide key insights into shadow work (Access Awareness, Processing) as well as give us multidimensional and prophetic experiences. Kristina leads this episode where two best friends delve into fun dream stories, hacks, and tips for how you can interpret and remember your dreams better.

• Access Dreams: optimal when wanting to address your shadow but don't know where to start.
• Awareness Dreams: optimal when you have access to your shadow and want to learn more.
• Processing Dreams: optimal when you have crossed a hurdle in your shadow work, and need some "downtime" to process your emotions.
• Prophecy Dreams: often predicts illness, pregnancy, birth. Often overly symbolic in nature.
• Divine Message Dreams: these often come when you least expect them. The message and messenger is often very clear. The dream feels, “more than a dream.”
• Harmonizing Dreams: optimal after a large process, download, or spiritual initiation. Usually include waking up in the middle of the night, at say 1:11 am, 4:44 am, etc.
• Lucid Dreaming: includes any of the above-mentioned dreams but with heightened awareness of dreaming, and the ability to control aspects of the dream.

Visit the website show notes for links discussed on the show.

Purchase our Dream Support Package here.

On this week's episode of This Spiritual Fix, Anna discusses Ram Dass and the eight important lessons he has taught her through recorded lectures and his visits from the great beyond. Kristina shares her own thoughts about centering herself in the inner guru.

Also discussed today: psychedelics (magic mushrooms & LSD), Neem Karoli Baba, Sathya Sai Baba, and miracles.

Visit our website show notes for links.

Anna concludes agape, the final chapter of the previous week’s episode on Shadow and Light work. Kristina discusses the different etheric planes, and how we can travel to them.

Also discussed today: astral travel, Corinthians 13, the fifth dimension, and more.

Click here for our guided meditations for Coming Home.

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Anna leads today’s episode where the two ladies discuss the four different categories of spiritual work:

• shadow work - the work of feeling and integrating (not by-passing) our individual pain, trauma, and “dark passengers.”
• light work - the work of elevating our individual vibration to emanate a greater capacity for love and light work.
• dark work - the work of removing third-party energetic signatures and entities (from the collective) from your or others’ aura fields.
• agape - the work of elevating the collective’s vibration through love and forgiveness.

Also discussed today: curses, shamanism, Archangel Michael, and the primal wounds.

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Have you ever met a shaman? According to the dictionary, a shaman is one who, “acts as intermediary between the natural and supernatural worlds, using magic to cure illness, foretell the future, control spiritual forces, etc.” On today’s episode you get to meet such a person. We welcome Robbie Houcek, an Apache-initiated shaman from New Mexico, who has served as a beloved friend and mentor to our co-hosts. Today these three women discuss six shamanic lessons that have changed Kristina & Anna’s perspective on life.

Contact Robbie: RH@robbiehoucek.com

Kristina and Anna are revisiting the primal wounds. We took a two-year break to recover from doing this shadow work. Today’s episode re-airs the original episode and also includes an update and reflection on what they have learned since we first addressed our injustice wound.

Have you ever experienced the rage and indignation of injustice? Do you find the people who don’t agree with you, “beneath you?” Have you ever wanted to even the scales or take revenge? In this episode you will learn how to recognize the ways in which the injustice wound shows up in your every day life. Kristina and Anna explore how “rigid” behavior is the coping mechanism to protect oneself from this wound. We will explore tools and experiences that help us forgive and love their own sense of injustice. And you can do it, too!

If you liked this episode, click here to learn about our five week masterclass on healing The Mother Wound.

PDF Download:

1.17 Summary of the Injustice Wound

Healing Packet:

Heal Your Injustice Wound

Quiz:

What is your primary wound ? Click here.

Links:

Heal Your Wounds and Find Your True Self, By Lise Bourbeau

How to Feed Your Demons

A listener, like you, sent us a question. Which was actually three questions: “Why am I sleepwalking through life?”, ” “Why can’t I stay motivated to achieve my goals?,” and “How can I wake up?” Enjoy this short bonus episode where two enlightenment-seeking friends answer these questions. 

Also discussed today: catharsis, Ram Dass, Marisa Peer, self-discipline, and bottle-necks.

Do you have a question? Ask us at this.spiritual.fix@gmail.com

Have you ever arrived at your destination without a clear memory of how you got there? You’ve experienced trance. Today’s conversations between two best friends is all about brain waves, self-hypnosis, and trance states. Learn some easy hacks to enrich your life, heal your wounds, and enhance your intuition by navigating the different parts of you.

Also discussed today: The Silva Mind Control Method, dream tribes, the Matrix, and Sufism.

Visit our website for more links and reflections.

"The greatest discovery you'll ever make, is the potential of your own mind."

-José Silva

Kristina leads today’s episode discussing the gateway book by Don Miguel Ruiz, The Four Agreements: 1) be impeccable with your word, 2) don’t take anything personally, 3) don’t make assumptions, and 4) always do your best. Kristina dives into the additional Toltec wisdom to reveal the fifth agreement : learn to listen and be skeptical.

Also discussed in this episode: neurolinguistic-programming (NLP), demands vs requests, manifestations, and freedom from victim consciousness.

“If you don’t have time to do it right, when will you have time to do it over?” - John Wooden

Check out the website show notes for more links & reflections.

How has stepping back from the drama triangle changed your life? In today’s episode Anna and Kristina reflect upon the lessons presented in the drama triangle series and how this work has impacted their lives, personally, professionally, and romantically.

Also discussed in today’s episode: Dorito chip crumbs, Next-level rescuing, and enhancing psychic abilities. 

Anna & Kristina’s Hacks for Stepping Out of the Drama Triangle:

1. Ask directly for your needs to be met. 
2. Before asking for your needs, make sure you are acting and not reacting (only bringing up the issue at hand).
3. Address your needs as they arise (don’t wait and then explode).
4. Address your inner drama triangle (your inner persecutor, inner victim, and inner rescuer).
5. Practice self-love.
6. When triggered, ask yourself, “Do I want to be the victim/persecutor/rescuer today?, “Is there really cheese at the end of this tunnel?” “How can I get my needs met without drama?”
7. Forgive all parts of you: the victim, the persecutor, the rescuer, and the annoyed witness.

Check out the website show notes for more links and information.

Did you know that “syncing” the subconscious and conscious mind can be an amazing tool for goal setting and intentions? Have you ever done mirror work? Tune in to an enriching conversations about the challenges of finding a mantra that works for you. Two best friends discuss how the neurolinguistic programming (NLP) primary interests can help you define what mantra is realistic and tailored for you. We will discuss how you can amplify your subconscious “synching” with mirror work, amulets, and anchors.

Check out our website for links.

In this final episode on the drama triangle, two best friends discuss how one can transform the drama triangle into something that enhances your life, instead of sabotages it. Anna discusses how victim consciousness may be something we can never escape from until we become fully self-realized (non—returners). Kristina introduces how the victim consciousness can be transformed into the vulnerable creator; the persecutor can transform into the challenger, and the rescuer can transform into the coach.

Also discussed today: the place between lives, communication strategies, and the twelve steps.

Visit the website show notes for links and a PDF.

Deep within the recesses of our mind lives the Shadow. Have you seen her? Does he call you? The Shadow is the part of us we hide, and it propels us towards conflict and self-sabotage. Carl Jung says of the Shadow, “no one can become conscious of the shadow without considerable moral effort. To become conscious of it involves recognizing the dark aspects of the personality as present and real.”

In this episode of This Spiritual Fix, two best friend discuss their Shadows, or Dark Passengers. Where did their Dark Passenger comes from? How can we see it as something that doesn’t need “fixing” but just loving? Learn how the Dark Passenger plays the internal Persecutor role in the drama triangle.

Also discussed today: ADHD, PMDD, loving your inner b*tch, coping strategies, and Marisa Peer’s Rapid Transformational Therapy (RTT).

Visit our website show notes for links to books references on the show.

Part two of the drama triangle asks, how do you unknowingly (or knowingly) manipulate conflicts so you can play the victim card? What are the benefits of the victim? Today we discuss how the roles of persecutor and rescuer always bring us back to the victim role, in a bid to get our needs (often unspoken) met. Are you ready to give this drama up?

Also discussed in today’s episode: mom guilt, self-sabotage, and the primal wounds.

Check out our website show notes for a quiz, PDF, and links to books we reference.

Do some of your relationships seem to suck the energy out of you? Do you feel “successful” in your meditations but keep getting triggered by interpersonal conflict? Are you ready to give up the drama? We invite you to listen to this episode, where two best friends discuss the psychology - and the challenges - of the drama triangle. The drama triangle is the story-factory of our ego. It is a game of tossing our pain onto others through the roles of persecutor, victim, and rescuer. Are you ready to give this drama up?

Also discussed in today’s episode: the dhammapada, enlightenment, narcissism, and boundaries.

Check out our website show notes for links to free PDF downloads, and recommended books.

Have you ever worn a crystal? Been curious about crystals? What are they and what do they mean? In today's episode Kristina explains the power of crystals to her best friend. This ex-scientist (and current psychic healer) explains how they can be used for i) enhancing the psycho-spiritual world, ii) manifestations, iii) healing, iv) diagnosis, and v) protection.

Enjoy this fascinating conversation, and tune in next week for a special series on the Drama Triangle.

Today we will be interviewing one of our podcast listeners who used the primal wounds series to change his perspective on his relationship with abandonment. We are talking to Theo Northcraft about the primal wounds, specifically abandonment, and their reflections on codependency.

Theo is a second year doctoral student studying Early Modern English Literature, specializing in Sexual Diversity studies. Theo has a Master’s degree in English Literature from the University of Toledo, and a Master’s degree in Medieval Icelandic studies from the University of Iceland. Theo studies trans theory, asexuality studies, queer theory and pre-modernity.

What is your greatest virtue? In this third and final episode of a three part series on enlightenment, Kristina leads with a discussion on the Ten Perfections, or paramis (virtues), as taught by Gautama the Buddha. What are these paramis are and how do they relate to enlightenment? Kristina and Anna discuss their own struggles with the virtues of Enlightenment. Also discussed: spiritual by-pass, living with messy people, and more.

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The Ten Perfections Leading to Enlightenment:

1. Generosity (dāna)
2. Morality (sīla)
3. Renunciation (nekhamma)
4. Insight (pañña)
5. Energy/ Effort (viriya)
6. Patience (khanti)
7. Truthfulness (sacca)
8. Resolution (adhiṭṭhāna)
9. Loving-kindness (mettah)
10. Equanimity (upekkhā)

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A guided meditation for your child. This meditation was developed with the guidance of Brooke Ebel, BACB, a behavioral therapist and owner of Dogwood Autism Services. This meditation takes your child on a journey to fun factory where the child meets and feeds some magical adorable animals. Then the child visits a movie theater to see the memory of the first time they tried their favorite food. Then, the child has the opportunity to imagine smelling, licking, or tasting new healthy foods. This guided mediation is to inspire curiosity in tasting foods, confidence in making healthy food choices, and reducing anxiety about tasting new flavors or textures.

For optimal results play this for your child for 21 consecutive days

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In this second episode of a three part series on enlightenment, Anna relates her experience of meeting enlightened teachers in India. Kristina and Anna discuss the ten hinderances that keep us from waking-up. These ten hinderances, or “enemies,” were discovered by Buddha 2,500 years ago and still ring true today.

Also discussed today: the three types of Buddhas (enlightened ones), and our decision to post ads.

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The Ten Hinderances to Enlightenment:

1. The belief in a permanent personality, ego (Pali: sakkāya-diṭṭhi)
2. Doubt, extreme skepticism (vicikicchā)
3. Attachment to rites, rituals, and ceremonies (sīlabbata-parāmāso)
4. Attachment to sense desires (kāmacchando)
5. Ill-will, anger (vyāpādo or byāpādo)
6. Craving for existence in the Form world [heavenly realms] (rūparāgo)
7. Craving for existence in the Formless world [heavenly realms] (arūparāgo)
8. Conceit (māna)
9. Restlessness (uddhacca)
10. Ignorance (avijjā)

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