Explore every episode of the podcast The Sex After Kids Podcast
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| The Four Secret Ingredients for a Fab Sex Life - After Kids | 29 Oct 2024 | 00:29:54 | |
In this episode of the Sex After Kids podcast, we explore the four secret ingredients essential for a fulfilling sex life post-parenthood. Listen in to find out what the nervous system, communication, your relationship to pleasure and your mindset have to do with reclaiming your sex life after kids. 00:00 Introduction to the Podcast 00:37 Setting the Stage with 'Easy' 07:24 The Naked Sexy Fun Times Cycle 14:43 Four Core Ingredients for a Fantastic Sex Life 15:10 Nervous System: The First Ingredient 19:50 Communication: The Second Ingredient 21:53 Relationship to Pleasure: The Third Ingredient 26:41 Mindset: The Fourth Ingredient 29:16 Recap and Final Thoughts | |||
| Ditching the Great Sexpectations | 25 Oct 2024 | 00:25:17 | |
Today we are talking all about Great Sexpectations - those sneaky "shoulds" that are killing the vibe in your post baby bedroom. Whether it's falling prey to gender traps (scripts about how he and she should behave in the bedroom), expecting everyone to be a five star sex god, or believing it's all for his pleasure - a better sex life is beyond what we think we know about sex. | |||
| Us Against the Problem - Tackling Your Sex Life Together After Kids | 25 Oct 2024 | 00:13:50 | |
This episode of the Sex After Kids podcast delves into common challenges couples face in their sex lives after having children, focusing on the detrimental effects of the blame game and the significance of teamwork in overcoming creating a new sex life together. Sex is a team sport - let's talk about how to support each other to get to pleasure town. | |||
| What's wrong with my libido after kids? Part 3 | 25 Oct 2024 | 00:32:29 | |
In this final part of our mini series explore the shifts in our sexual landscape after kids we examine the intersection of cultural, spiritual, and societal influences on our sex lives after having children. Listeners are invited to reflect on their personal beliefs and the impact of societal and religious messages on their 'sexpectations.' The episode emphasizes the need for communication, intentionality, and understanding to overcome myths about natural sexual prowess. By addressing issues like gender scripts, poor sex education, and religious shame, the discussion aims to help couples enhance their intimacy and connection. Additionally, it explores factors that affect libido, such as the energy and beliefs around sex, and offers strategies to strengthen sexual relationships post-childbirth. | |||
| What's wrong with my libido after kids? Part 2 | 25 Oct 2024 | 00:25:30 | |
In this episode of the Sex After Kids podcast we continue our series exploring what factors impact libido and our desire and drive to have sex and connect with our partner after kids. In part 2 we explore the emotional dynamics at play including: the importance of communication, equitable division of labor, and modeling healthy intimacy for children. Practical advice, including resources like 'Fair Play,' and reflections on trauma, shame, and societal expectations round out the conversation. The episode encourages listeners to engage in dialogue and reflect on their personal experiences. | |||
| What's wrong with my libido after kids? Part 1 | 25 Oct 2024 | 00:25:30 | |
In the next three episodes we are going to start by helping you map the new sex drive landscape post-kids. So many clients I talk to don't know where their desire or interest for sex went after kids - and the truth is, there are a lot of potential culprits. So let's help you get to the bottom of it. | |||
| 10 Years and 3 kids later my libido was on ice | 25 Oct 2024 | 00:18:05 | |
Hello world! Welcome to the first ever episode of the Sex After Kids Podcast. The place to be if you are in a sexual stalemate after children and don't know what to do about it. We are one part science, one magic and one part real talk to help you find the spark in yourself and your relationship after kids. | |||
| Welcome to the Sex After Kids Podcast | 25 Oct 2024 | 00:01:18 | |
Add more play to your couple connection and get back into the bedroom for more frequent and more satisfying naked sexy fun time after kids. Host Sofia Ashley, founder of the Happy Vagina Project, Certified Sex Coach and Sex Educator, brings you one part science of sex, one part magic, and one part real talk to tackle everything from miss matched libidos and lacklustre sex after kids. | |||
| Creating the Positive Feedback Loop | 05 Nov 2024 | 00:14:08 | |
In this episode of the 'Sex After Kids' podcast, we discuss the importance of creating a positive feedback loop in your sex life. Sofia explains the concept of feedback loops and how positive sexual experiences can lead to more enjoyable and relaxed future encounters. Conversely, stress, trauma, and negative experiences can cause a negative feedback loop, making it difficult to enjoy sex. The episode offers practical tips for partners to help each other break free from these negative loops, such as taking the pressure off sex and practicing consent. | |||
| 5 Ways Shitty Sex Ed is Messing with Your Sex Life Post Kids | 12 Nov 2024 | 00:31:43 | |
In this episode of the 'Sex After Kids' podcast, Sofia delves into the significance of sex education and its lasting effects on adult sex lives, particularly after having children. The conversation covers several key points, including the failure of sex education to address pleasure, the importance of self pleasure, the need for detailed anatomical knowledge, and the impact of societal shame on sexual well-being. Through personal anecdotes and reflective questions, listeners are encouraged to reconsider their past sex education experiences and how they have influenced their current sexual relationships. | |||
| Sex Into your Sixties - Secrets for Success from Long Term Lovers - Sex After Kids Summit Sneak Peak Interview with Helen Rowlands - Holistic Sex Coach | 19 Nov 2024 | 00:39:00 | |
Today I am sharing a bonus interview from the Sex After Kids Summit with Holistic Pleasure Coach Helen Rowlands. Helen is in her 60s and has been married for 45 years. I sat down with her to talk about she's living the best version of her relationship yet with more love and more satisfying sex than ever. We talk about her sexual renaissance in her 40s, understanding each others sexual types and needs, and the importance of having mentors and role models who show us what can be possible in a long term relationship. | |||
| How to talk about your sex life after kids | 21 Jan 2025 | 00:36:49 | |
In this episode of the Sex After Kids Podcast Sofia shares a session from the 2024 Sex After Kids Summit. If you have ever wondered how to open the conversation about your sex life after kids, or if it feels impossible to get what you want in your relationship now that kids are in the mix, this episode is a must. Let's talk about why its so hard and what you can do it about it. | |||
| Do you really have no time for sex? Or is it something else ? | 14 Jan 2025 | 00:18:59 | |
In this episode of the Sex After Kids Podcast, Sex Coach Sofia Ashley challenges couples to explore what they are doing with their time, and how those choices impact their intimacy and their relationship. She explores four reasons why you might be using lack of time as a distraction from the root cause and how to use even 30 minutes a month to get back into the saddle of your sex life after kids. | |||
| Bedroom Diaries - Managing Big Emotions During Sex | 07 Jan 2025 | 00:24:04 | |
Have you ever had big feelings come up during sexy times - frustration, irritation, sadness, anger, annoyance? Those big emotions are often a sign that memories and traumas are coming up to be processed. Sometimes, in our sex lives post-kids, those memories can be the very thing blocking our desire to get into the bedroom in the first place. In this episode I walk you through how I managed some tricky feelings in a recent romp in the bedroom and the breakthroughs it revealed for me. | |||
| Why waiting for your sex drive to come back is the hard way to a fun flirty relationship after kids | 17 Dec 2024 | 00:24:09 | |
In this episode Sofia explores why so many women are just "waiting for their sex drive to come back online" to have a better sex life. She explores why this thinking is the hard way back to a fun and flirty relationship and what couples who have a thriving sex life after kids do instead. She shares dispatches from her bedroom to illustrate how tuning into intention instead of desire, turning stop signs into yield signs in your body, and communicating playfully can get you back to the sex you crave after children. | |||
| Overcoming Sexual Self-Consciousness: Reclaiming Your Inner Spectator | 11 Dec 2024 | 00:15:38 | |
In this episode of the 'Sex After Kids' podcast we explore the concept of 'spectatoring' during intimacy and the impact of societal expectations, particularly the male gaze, on sexual experiences. Sofia shares personal anecdotes and offers practical tips—reclaiming your inner critic as a cheerleader, curating a healthy media diet, and using mindfulness to drown out negative thoughts—to help parents reconnect with their sexual selves post-parenthood. | |||
| How welcoming masturbation into your marriage will improve your sex life after kids | 18 Feb 2025 | 00:36:21 | |
Today we are talking about the M word. Masturbation or self-pleasure can be a super taboo topic, especially when we bring it up in the context of long term relationships or marriage. In todays' episode Sofia tackles the reasons we avoid self-pleasure in our LTR, and makes the case for how the right kind of masturbation practice can actually make you a better lover. Access the Sex After Kids Summit Couple Goals VIP Pass and get all the replays of 20+ sessions you can experiment with today. Head over to OMG Yes (this is an affiliate link) to get access to over 40 videos showing you unique moves and strategies to unlock more pleasure. | |||
| The Mighty Orgasm and Other Famous Rivers | 11 Feb 2025 | 00:35:45 | |
I have something special for you on todays' episode. A throwback to 2015 when I did a Pecha Kucha talk (who remembers that cultural moment) and I gave a talk about orgasms and rivers. It's 6 minutes, totally hilarious and I hope it moves you. | |||
| How the Good Mother / Good Father Archetype is Blocking Your Intimacy | 04 Feb 2025 | 00:36:07 | |
In this Episode of the Sex After Kids Podcast I was inspired to reflect on the ways that the archetypes of the Good Mother and The Good Father affect our ability to have great bedroom time. I was inspired by a new book coming out called The Good Mother Myth: Unlearning Our Bad Ideas About Being A Good Mom by Nancy Reddy - to explore how the stereotype can limit our ability to sink in to amazing sex after kids. I also take this opportunity to explore the myth of the Good Father and the societal pressures for dads in our society too. In both of these myths there are some great sexpectations that are limiting how we show up to intimacy - so let's talk about how to unearth and uproot them so we can have great sex and a long lasting relationship. | |||
| Stop Avoiding Scheduled Sex and Do This Instead | 28 Jan 2025 | 00:38:49 | |
I get it… you are le tired of people telling you to schedule sex… cause it’s lame, not spontaneous, unsexy, or how the F are you going to be able to guarantee that your libido is going to show up on demand. In this episode of the Sex After Kids Podcast we break down your hangups about scheduled sex, four reasons to get over it anyways, and I break down my four step formula for scheduling a sex date that DOES NOT SUCK. No pressure for your libido to show up, no awkward makeouts until you finally get into it, no forcing yourself and then feeling “grateful” you did later, and no more avoiding sex for weeks on end. Valentine’s day is around the corner - the ultimate of scheduled sex dates with paramount expectations - using the formula you can take a potential valentine’s day flop and make it a grand naked sexy fun time - with just a little effort. Sofia - Aka the Happy V | |||
| Why focusing on the P in the V has got you stuck in monotonous sex - and what to do instead | 25 Feb 2025 | 00:29:35 | |
This week on the Sex After Kids Podcast Sofia explores more sex alphabet soup. This week she breaks down:
Make sure to follow us @thehappyvproject on Instagram Grab your Free Reset Roadmap call to unlock your next steps to more fun and flirt after kids or grab the Couple Goals VIP Pass from the Sex After Kids Summit for a years' worth of date nights for less than a dinner date. | |||
| Sex After Delivery - What to Expect and How to Prepare | 08 Apr 2025 | 00:35:38 | |
This week's episode is for the new parents out there. If you are a seasoned vet make sure to pass this on to any new and expecting parents you know. We are going to talk about : - the 6 biggest myths about sex after delivery and how they will create bad habits for your sex life into the future - my top tips for staying connected through the early years. - my favourite tool for reconnecting to your body after baby and feeling safe to start having sex again. This is a must listen for partners and pregnant people alike as you navigate all the ways a new human is going to change your life.
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| How to Have Better Conversations About Your Sex Life with Marriage Coach Michelle Purta | 02 Apr 2025 | 00:54:15 | |
This week on the podcast we have guest Michelle Purta, a marriage and communications coach. This week she will guide us through how to start the conversation about our sex life and how to move forward if we are stuck in a cycle argument on this topic. Michelle and I had to record this conversation three times due to some tech glitches so we thank you for your listening patience. - why conflict is key to growth in your relationship Michelle Purta is a marriage coach who helps couples reclaim the love and connection they crave after kids. As a mom of three, she knows firsthand how easy it is for couples to shift from passionate partners to co-parenting roommates. Michelle empowers couples to break free from the stress and frustration of conflict and feeling disconnected by teaching them how to fight in a way that strengthens their connection and reignites their love. Through her coaching, courses, and podcast, she helps couples build their marriage on a strong foundation of friendship, love, and intimacy so they can enjoy their marriage now and decades from now. You can find Michelle on Instagram @michellepurtacoaching on the Marriage and Motherhood Podcast and at Michellepurta.com Remember you can always book a free reset roadmap call with host Sofia if you want to discuss how to apply these tools in your own relationship. | |||
| Avoiding Sex? Support Your/Your Partners Nervous System | 25 Mar 2025 | 00:52:54 | |
In this episode we are doing a deep dive into one of the key ingredients of a great sex life - the nervous system. When we talk about creating safety for ourselves and our partner this is what we mean - working with the nervous system to get out of fight or flight. When your partner is avoiding talking to you about sex, avoids sex, or rushes through sex - there's a nervous system issue happening. When we understand it we can solve it to make sex a fun, safe and playful place to go. - how the nervous system works
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| Your Fantasies Might Be Killing Your Sex Life After Kids | 18 Mar 2025 | 00:32:09 | |
In this week's episode of the Sex After Kids Podcast Sex Coach Sofia talks about how your fairy smut, daydreams about your ex and porn usage might be killing your sex life and what to do about it.
If you want to learn more about the Naked Fun Comeback - we get started in April, but you can join anytime, then email sofia@thehappyvaginaproject.com | |||
| Talk to your Vagina to Find Your Libido After Kids | 12 Mar 2025 | 00:28:41 | |
In this episode Sofia talks about an often overlooked way to reconnect with your body, your pleasure and your libido after kids. We'll cover: | |||
| 5 Parenting Tips That Have Transformed My Sex Life | 04 Mar 2025 | 00:39:59 | |
In this episode, host Sofia shares the lightbulb moment when she realized the parenting tools she was using to support her family to more peaceful moments and cooperation, could help her find more connection and less conflict with her partner, both in and out of the bedroom. Join her as she walks through her five favourite strategies and how they help her to be a better mom, a better partner, and a better human. The parenting program I accessed for FREE was through the Strongest Families Institute. | |||
| Let's Talk Duty Sex (After Kids) | 22 Apr 2025 | 00:36:11 | |
If you are a parent you have likely at some point or another engaged in duty sex - sex that you had because you felt you had to or felt pressured to - to keep the peace or to keep your partner happy. You don't need to be a sexologist to know that this can have an impact on your relationship. This week we break down a study by Dr. Cami Hurst on Duty sex. We'll talk about - how duty sex is different than maintenance sex If you are stuck in a battle about sex, and or even have a hard time talking about it - this episode is a must listen. Need to unpack what we talked about today - book a totally free Reset Roadmap call | |||
| Using a Pleasure Diet to Bring Back your Libido After Kids | 18 Apr 2025 | 00:35:27 | |
Are you the fun police in your house? Always 10 steps ahead of what your kids and partner need, hardly ever just in the present moment. This could be what's killing your libido. In today's episode of the Sex After Kids Podcast we talk about: | |||
| Getting Out of Your Head and Into Your Body During Sex | 06 May 2025 | 00:14:38 | |
This week we have another bedroom dispatch from my sheets to your ears. I share these to normalize what real sexy times look like and to show you how my I use my own tools in my real life - so you can see who they work for you. | |||
| Finding a New Sexual Self After Kids | 29 Apr 2025 | 00:26:17 | |
In this episode of the Sex After Kids Podcast, we explore one of the most tender and often unspoken transitions parents face: grieving your pre-kids sexual self. Whether your relationship with sex was neutral, fraught, or thriving before kids, the shifts that come after can feel disorienting — and sometimes heartbreaking.
If you're feeling frustrated, sad, or just lost when it comes to intimacy after becoming a parent — this episode is for you. ✨ Curious about rebuilding your sexual connection with more play and ease? DM me on Instagram or book your free Reset Roadmap Call and unpack what you've learned in this episode and figure out your next best steps. | |||
| The Real Reason Your Partner is Avoiding Sex (And Why It’s Not What You Think) | 10 Jun 2025 | 00:27:31 | |
Ever found yourself thinking, “Why are they always avoiding sex?” Or maybe you’ve felt the sting of rejection and started to question your relationship, your desirability, or your skills in bed.
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| The 3 Basic Bitch Tips That are Changing My Sex Life After Kids | 03 Jun 2025 | 00:20:18 | |
Flirting with the D-word (Divorce)? Or just feeling like roommates with a mortgage and a laundry pile that never ends? So many couples are experiencing the same thing, but they don’t have the secret sauce I’ll share in this episode. Today we are talking all about the small, not-so-sexy things that make a massive difference. I’m talking: We get real about why parenting is a full-contact emotional sport and how these basic tools can stop your love life from flatlining. Because sometimes, saving your relationship isn’t about a big grand gesture—it’s about a six-second kiss and actually listening when your partner says “look at this meme.” In this episode, we cover: 💌 Grab it here. | |||
| Let’s Get It On: Rebuilding Erotic Energy When Life Is Anything But Sexy | 27 May 2025 | 00:12:03 | |
We have another bedroom dispatch for you this week on the Sex After Kids Podcast. In this episode, we’re throwing out the Bridgerton fantasy and getting real about what it takes to feel sexy when you’re touched-out, overstimulated, and secretly fantasizing about alone time with your book boyfriend. | |||
| 6 Myths Killing the Bedroom Vibes After Kids | 20 May 2025 | 00:20:24 | |
What if the stories you’ve been taught about sex—what it should look like, feel like, and mean—are the real reason it’s not working? In this episode of the Sex After Kids Podcast, we’re unpacking six cultural myths that sneak into your bedroom and sabotage connection. From spontaneous desire to sexual obligation, we’re breaking it all down—and offering a new way forward. 🎙️ What we cover: 💬 Ready to unlearn the pressure and rewrite the rules? | |||
| Why playing by the rules of consent can reset your sex life after kids | 14 May 2025 | 00:39:34 | |
What if the hottest thing you could bring into the bedroom… was a question? In this episode of the Sex After Kids Podcast, we’re talking about consent—not the swipe-right kind, but the long-term, tired-parents, messy-realities kind. Consent isn’t just about saying “yes” or “no.” It’s how we build trust, support nervous systems, and create sex that feels good for both of you. We cover: ✨ If you’ve ever felt pressured, disconnected, or unsure what's okay—this one’s for you. 📲 Need support?
💌 Need to reset the room after listening to this episode? I got you. 30 days to go from "ugh don't touch me" to "I could have more of that" DM me “RESET Challenge” on Instagram @thehappyvproject to get on the waitlist.
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| Fixing the Mental Load Won’t Save Your Sex Life | 25 Jun 2025 | 00:31:26 | |
Feeling resentful, disconnected, or just done with intimacy because you're the one holding everything together? Or maybe you're doing your share—and still hearing that it’s not enough? This episode is for you. We’re diving into the mental load: what it really is, how it impacts your nervous system (and your sex life), and why even splitting things 50/50 doesn’t always fix the spark. Spoiler: doing the dishes isn’t foreplay if you’re not emotionally connected. 👇 In this episode, you’ll learn:
Let’s flip the script on desire and resentment. Because sex after kids shouldn’t feel like another job. Love this convo? Here’s how to go deeper: 🔍 Take the Solve Your Sex Drive Quiz – Find out what’s really blocking your libido 💥 Book a free Spark Session – A no-pressure space to talk about what’s not working (and what might help) 👉 Subscribe for more real talk on desire, intimacy, and connection after kids. Resources 💌 Got questions? Drop them in the comments or DM me on Instagram @thehappyvproject Because your sex life doesn’t have to die after bedtime. | |||
| From Touched Out to Turned On: 5 Truths You Need to Hear | 18 Jun 2025 | 00:27:52 | |
Struggling with low desire or no sex after kids? You're not alone—and you're not broken. In this episode of The Sex After Kids Podcast, sex and intimacy coach Sofia from The Happy Vagina Project shares 5 mindset shifts to help couples reconnect, reignite desire, and break out of the dreaded “Not Tonight” cycle. Whether you're feeling touched out, rejected, or just numb to the idea of intimacy, this episode offers practical tools and emotional clarity to bring back passion, play, and connection—even if it's been months (or years) since your last good sex. 🎧 Listen in to learn:
This is for every couple who loves each other but feels stuck in a sex rut. You’re not alone—and you can fix this. Book a Free Spark Session this week and find the fun and the flirt in your relationship this summer! | |||
| The Truth About Postpartum Sex: Navigating Intimacy When Your Body Feels Different (Whether It’s Months or Years Later) | 26 Aug 2025 | 00:17:11 | |
Whether you’re fresh into postpartum or it’s been years since your last baby and your body still feels unfamiliar, you’re not alone. In this episode, I get radically real about intimacy, body image, and feeling sexy in the body you have—right now. What You’ll Learn: 01:08 — Intimacy & Body Image After Kids 01:32 — The Reality of Postpartum Bodies 02:48 — Pressure, Partners, and Self-Criticism 03:52 — Waiting to Feel Sexy & The Cost 04:20 — Spectatoring & Body Neutrality 07:34 — Accepting Compliments & Shifting Perspective 08:14 — Letting Go of the “Lose 10 Pounds” Fantasy 08:36 — Comfort: Dressing for Your Now Body 09:57 — Building Safety & Vulnerability with Your Partner 11:45 — Redefining Sexy & Embodying Your Erotic Self 12:37 — Sometimes the Answer is to Have the Sex 13:37 — Body Gratitude & Receiving Compliments 14:44 — Recap & Shifting Self-Image 15:08 — You Deserve Pleasure Now: Quiz & Practice Highlights:
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Leave a comment or DM if this episode resonates—your story matters and you are not broken. | |||
| Foreplay Games for Couples: Playful Ways to Get Out of the Roommate Rut After Kids - Especially when it’s been a while | 19 Aug 2025 | 00:12:41 | |
Feeling awkward about intimacy after kids, or stuck in the “roommate rut?” You’re not alone. In this episode, I share why foreplay (and the “pre-game” before it) is the real secret to rekindling connection—and how to make it feel safe, pressure-free, and fun (especially for the lower libido partner).
01:06 — Rethinking Foreplay & Getting Started Again 02:11 — Zero Pressure: The Key to Connection 02:36 — Pre-Foreplay: Building Safety & Trust 03:25 — The Pre-Game: Flirty Connection & Melting Defenses 03:57 — Pressure-Free Scenarios: Massage Examples 06:30 — The Impact of No Pressure & Openness 07:27 — Playful Possibility: Fun Ways to Bring Back Foreplay 08:49 — Anticipation & Pre-Game for Scheduled Sex 09:42 — Building Up to No Pressure Sexy Connection 10:15 — Opening the Door to Libido & Support Offers Links & Resources:
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| The Truth About Scheduled Sex: How to Rekindle Intimacy in Marriage | 12 Aug 2025 | 00:11:36 | |
Is scheduled sex really the death of desire…or is it your secret weapon for reigniting connection after kids? In this episode, Sofia (your TMI bedroom advice bestie for parents) busts the myths about putting sex on the calendar—and shows you how to turn obligation into anticipation.
01:07 Debunking the Scheduled Sex Myth 01:21 Why People Resist Scheduling Sex 01:50 Scheduling Creates the Mood 02:28 The Pressure of Scheduled Nights 02:49 Real-Life Example: Anniversary Expectations 03:38 Naked Fun Dates, Not Sex Dates 04:22 Step 1: Book a Date & Treat It as Non-Negotiable 04:59 Step 2: Build the Bridge from Parent to Lover 05:18 Transition Rituals & Building Anticipation 05:41 Get Relaxed, Present, and Connected 06:35 Step 3: Communicate More Than You Think 07:10 Step 4: Debrief After Connection Dates 07:26 Always Be Learning About Each Other 07:47 Client Story: Laura's Pain-Free Sexy Times 08:33 Scheduled Sex = Grownup Intimacy 10:31 Mindfulness Minute & Closing Links & Resources:
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| Best Sex Books for Couples: Expert Picks for a Better Love Life | 05 Aug 2025 | 00:11:09 | |
Feeling like “roommates” instead of lovers? You’re not alone. In this episode, I share my absolute favourite sex books that every parent should have on their nightstand—plus the real-life stories and expert tips behind each pick.
Timestamps: 00:00 — Intro & Podcast Welcome Books featured:
More episodes of Sex After Kids Podcast Links & Resources: Drop your favourite sex books in the comments and don’t forget to subscribe for more real-talk on sex, intimacy, and pleasure after kids! | |||
| Tired of Couples Counselling? Try These Relationship-Saving Alternatives | 29 Jul 2025 | 00:20:10 | |
In this episode I share when my partner and I went to couples counselling after the birth of our first child. From my post-partum anxiety I was experiencing resentment and contempt and didn’t want this to be the theme of our relationship.
Whether you are in the trenches of early baby and toddler hood or seasoned parents, this episode is a must listen. | |||
| The One Secret That Changed My Sex Life After Kids | 22 Jul 2025 | 00:29:52 | |
In this deeply personal episode, I’m sharing the one secret that helped me go from six months of shut-down to regularly saying yes (and even initiating!)—without faking, forcing, or bypassing my body’s needs. My vagina had a tantrum last week and we are going to talk about it. Whether you're the higher libido partner wondering what’s going on behind the “no,” or the lower libido partner who wants connection but feels stuck in shutdown—this episode is for you. In this episode we cover: 00:00 – The one nervous system insight that changed everything 💌 And if you’re done waiting for the perfect moment to reconnect, join the Roommates to Romance Challenge—14 days of small, done-for-you steps to build safety, play, and turn-ons that work with your body, not against it. Just DM me the word ROMANCE on Instagram or email sofia@intimacyafterkids.com and say I want in. LINKS MENTIONED: - Catch the episode where I talk you through managing big emotions when they arise during sex. | |||
| Sex Coach vs. Couples Counselling: Which Is Right for You? | 09 Sep 2025 | 00:18:58 | |
Wondering if you need a sex coach, a couples counsellor, or both? I discuss my honest take on how each one can help, what most couples are really feeling (and why), and why it’s not about “fixing” you or your partner—but learning new skills together. Timestamps & What You’ll Learn: More episodes of Sex After Kids Podcast Drop your thoughts or questions in the comments—no shame, just real support. | |||
| Sexless Marriage: How to Save Your Relationship Before Divorce | 02 Sep 2025 | 00:15:23 | |
Let’s just put it out there: If you’re in a sexless marriage, you’ve probably had at least one “Would this just be easier if we split up?” moment. Maybe you’ve even daydreamed about a solo life—until you remember that modern dating sounds absolutely exhausting. (No, thank you!) If you’re even flirting with the D-word—even in your head—this episode is for you. Because keeping those worries secret just makes things worse, and you are NOT alone. Join Sofia as she busts myths, calls out the mistakes that keep couples stuck, and shares the real, courageous steps that can bring you back from the edge—before it’s too late. Timestamps & What You’ll Learn: 00:00 — Introduction 01:14 — Addressing Sexless Marriage Struggles 02:34 — Debunking the Myth of Dead Bedrooms After Kids 05:31 — Common Pitfalls in Sexless Marriages 10:59 — Solutions and Steps Forward 14:12 — Closing and Resources Helpful Links:
Drop your story or questions in the comments. You are not broken, and your marriage is worth fighting for. | |||
| Ready for More Fun, Play, and Connection? An Invitation to The Naked Fun Comeback™ | 23 Sep 2025 | 00:25:33 | |
Ready to get out of the initiate-and-avoid rut and back to playful, flirty, connected sex - without the pressure? In this special episode, I share why I created The Naked Fun Comeback™, what makes it different from all the "just try harder" advice, and how you can join this summer's case study group. | |||
| A Sensorium Date Night | 16 Sep 2025 | 00:32:14 | |
Save this one for Saturday night. Follow along during this guided date and see where the evening takes you. In this episode of the Sex After Kids Podcast I share a guided date night experience from the Sex After Kids Summit Vault. Follow along as I show you through one of my favourite activities to get you out of busy parent mode and into landed lover mode. These guided date night experiences are a signature part of my Naked Fun Comeback Program where I help lead parents back into more passion, more play and more sex. | |||