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In this episode of the Sex After Kids podcast, we explore the four secret ingredients essential for a fulfilling sex life post-parenthood. Listen in to find out what the nervous system, communication, your relationship to pleasure and your mindset have to do with reclaiming your sex life after kids. 

00:00 Introduction to the Podcast

00:37 Setting the Stage with 'Easy'

07:24 The Naked Sexy Fun Times Cycle

14:43 Four Core Ingredients for a Fantastic Sex Life

15:10 Nervous System: The First Ingredient

19:50 Communication: The Second Ingredient

21:53 Relationship to Pleasure: The Third Ingredient

26:41 Mindset: The Fourth Ingredient

29:16 Recap and Final Thoughts

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Today we are talking all about Great Sexpectations - those sneaky "shoulds" that are killing the vibe in your post baby bedroom. Whether it's falling prey to gender traps (scripts about how he and she should behave in the bedroom), expecting everyone to be a five star sex god, or believing it's all for his pleasure - a better sex life is beyond what we think we know about sex.

We'll explore:
00:00 Introduction: The Power of Talking About Issues
00:03 Comfort Zones and Silent Stress
00:11 Support and Readiness to Change
00:16 Exploring Self-Expectations and Partner Communication

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Add more play to your couple connection and get back into the bedroom for more frequent and more satisfying naked sexy fun time after kids. Host Sofia Ashley, founder of the Happy Vagina Project, Certified Sex Coach and Sex Educator, brings you one part science of sex, one part magic, and one part real talk to tackle everything from miss matched libidos and lacklustre sex after kids.

Whether you adopted, joined a blended family, or made a kid in your body we'll explore the ups and downs and the detours of trying to keep your sex life alive in the chaos of parenting. 

Sofia is a mom of two and step mom of one living a neurospicy household in Yukon, Canada on the Traditional territories of the Kwanlin Dün First Nation and the Ta'an Kwäch'än Council where she is grateful to live and play with her hubby and kiddos.

Get your butt over to www.thehappyvaginaproject.com or @thehappyvproject on IG to join the conversation and find the spark in yourself and your relationship after kids.

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This episode of the Sex After Kids podcast delves into common challenges couples face in their sex lives after having children, focusing on the detrimental effects of the blame game and the significance of teamwork in overcoming creating a new sex life together. Sex is a team sport - let's talk about how to support each other to get to pleasure town.

00:32 The Biggest Mistake in Post-Kids Sex Life
00:50 Blaming Yourself or Your Partner
03:41 Common Thoughts and Misconceptions
05:07 Quit the Magical Thinking
05:40 Taking Action and Working Together
06:51 Building Connection Through Challenges
07:26 The Growing Disconnection in Relationships
08:05 The Blame Game: Self vs. Partner
08:57 Problematizing Libidos and Gender Scripts
10:31 Engaging Partners in the Solution
11:46 The Power of Working Together
13:27 Creating Magic Together
14:00 Final Thoughts and Call to Action


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Add more play to your couple connection and get back into the bedroom for more frequent and more satisfying naked sexy fun time after kids. Host Sofia Ashley, founder of the Happy Vagina Project, Certified Sex Coach and Sex Educator, brings you one part science of sex, one part magic, and one part real talk to tackle everything from miss matched libidos and lacklustre sex after kids.

Whether you adopted, joined a blended family, or made a kid in your body we'll explore the ups and downs and the detours of trying to keep your sex life alive in the chaos of parenting. 

Sofia is a mom of two and step mom of one living a neurospicy household in Yukon, Canada on the Traditional territories of the Kwanlin Dün First Nation and the Ta'an Kwäch'än Council where she is grateful to live and play with her hubby and kiddos.

Get your butt over to www.thehappyvaginaproject.com or @thehappyvproject on IG to join the conversation and find the spark in yourself and your relationship after kids.

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In this final part of our mini series explore the shifts in our sexual landscape after kids we examine the intersection of cultural, spiritual, and societal influences on our sex lives after having children. Listeners are invited to reflect on their personal beliefs and the impact of societal and religious messages on their 'sexpectations.' The episode emphasizes the need for communication, intentionality, and understanding to overcome myths about natural sexual prowess. By addressing issues like gender scripts, poor sex education, and religious shame, the discussion aims to help couples enhance their intimacy and connection. Additionally, it explores factors that affect libido, such as the energy and beliefs around sex, and offers strategies to strengthen sexual relationships post-childbirth.

00:00 Introduction to The Brick Wall Series
01:01 Cultural and Spiritual Dimensions
01:39 Great Sexpectations: Unrealistic Media Portrayals
03:29 The Importance of Communication in Sex
04:38 Challenging Traditional Gender Roles
05:41 Debunking the Myth of Constant Readiness
06:54 Understanding Libido, Arousal, and Connection
07:01 Gender Scripts and Sexual Expectations
07:41 The Impact of Shitty Sex Ed
08:17 Religious Beliefs and Sexuality
10:26 Exploring Energy and Tantra
12:31 Recap and Moving Forward

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Add more play to your couple connection and get back into the bedroom for more frequent and more satisfying naked sexy fun time after kids. Host Sofia Ashley, founder of the Happy Vagina Project, Certified Sex Coach and Sex Educator, brings you one part science of sex, one part magic, and one part real talk to tackle everything from miss matched libidos and lacklustre sex after kids.

Whether you adopted, joined a blended family, or made a kid in your body we'll explore the ups and downs and the detours of trying to keep your sex life alive in the chaos of parenting. 

Sofia is a mom of two and step mom of one living a neurospicy household in Yukon, Canada on the Traditional territories of the Kwanlin Dün First Nation and the Ta'an Kwäch'än Council where she is grateful to live and play with her hubby and kiddos.

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In this episode of the Sex After Kids podcast we continue our series exploring what factors impact libido and our desire and drive to have sex and connect with our partner after kids. In part 2 we explore the emotional dynamics at play including:  the importance of communication, equitable division of labor, and modeling healthy intimacy for children. Practical advice, including resources like 'Fair Play,' and reflections on trauma, shame, and societal expectations round out the conversation. The episode encourages listeners to engage in dialogue and reflect on their personal experiences.

00:00 Introduction and Welcome
00:29 Understanding the Brick Wall
01:48 Exploring Emotional Shifts
03:01 Gender Scripts and Relationship Dynamics
05:37 Impact of Parenting on Intimacy
11:19 Emotional and Hormonal Interplay
13:56 Body Image and Self-Perception
16:09 The Importance of Healthy Intimacy
16:51 Navigating Postpartum Sexual Concerns
18:19 Addressing Emotional Bricks in Relationships
21:30 The Impact of Gender Scripts on Relationships
25:37 Balancing Chores and Emotional Labor
27:22 Cultural Narratives and Sexual Shame
28:42 Understanding Trauma and Sexual Boundaries
30:15 Conclusion and Final Thoughts

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In the next three episodes we are going to start by helping you map the new sex drive landscape post-kids. So many clients I talk to don't know where their desire or interest for sex went after kids - and the truth is, there are a lot of potential culprits. So let's help you get to the bottom of it.

In the first of the three part mini series we'll explore the physical dimensions of change in your sex life after kids.

01:34 Understanding the Libido Brick Wall
04:07 Four Dimensions Affecting Post-Kids Sexuality
07:05 Physical Changes and Their Impact
10:06 Navigating Postpartum Physical Challenges
12:18 Hormonal Changes and Their Impact on Libido
12:49 Breastfeeding and Vaginal Lubrication
13:14 Hormone Fluctuations and Health Conditions
14:02 Identifying Your Bricks
14:49 Medication and Birth Control Effects
16:17 Stress and Fatigue
18:43 Sensory Overwhelm and Libido
20:04 Disability and Chronic Pain
21:00 Summarizing Physical Dimensions
22:30 Personal Reflections and Conclusion

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Hello world! Welcome to the first ever episode of the Sex After Kids Podcast. The place to be if you are in a sexual stalemate after children and don't know what to do about it. We are one part science, one magic and one part real talk to help you find the spark in yourself and your relationship after kids. 

From missmatched libidos and pelvic floors, to sexual fantasy and communication skills - your host Sofia Ashley - certified sex coach and educator - will walk you through her thoughts on it all in these solo (for now) episodes.

Today I introduce myself and give you the DL on my 10 year relationship and how my sex life has evolved throughout. Grab a cup of tea, and maybe some earbuds and let's get acquainted. 

00:00 The Conversation You Are Avoiding
00:09 Navigating Tough Seasons
00:11 Staying Connected Through the Early Years
00:16 Emerging Together Stronger

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Add more play to your couple connection and get back into the bedroom for more frequent and more satisfying naked sexy fun time after kids. Host Sofia Ashley, founder of the Happy Vagina Project, Certified Sex Coach and Sex Educator, brings you one part science of sex, one part magic, and one part real talk to tackle everything from miss matched libidos and lacklustre sex after kids.

Whether you adopted, joined a blended family, or made a kid in your body we'll explore the ups and downs and the detours of trying to keep your sex life alive in the chaos of parenting. 

Sofia is a mom of two and step mom of one living a neurospicy household in Yukon, Canada on the Traditional territories of the Kwanlin Dün First Nation and the Ta'an Kwäch'än Council where she is grateful to live and play with her hubby and kiddos.

Get your butt over to www.thehappyvaginaproject.com or @thehappyvproject on IG to join the conversation and find the spark in yourself and your relationship after kids.

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Add more play to your couple connection and get back into the bedroom for more frequent and more satisfying naked sexy fun time after kids. Host Sofia Ashley, founder of the Happy Vagina Project, Certified Sex Coach and Sex Educator, brings you one part science of sex, one part magic, and one part real talk to tackle everything from miss matched libidos and lacklustre sex after kids.

Whether you adopted, joined a blended family, or made a kid in your body we'll explore the ups and downs and the detours of trying to keep your sex life alive in the chaos of parenting. 

Sofia is a mom of two and step mom of one living a neurospicy household in Yukon, Canada on the Traditional territories of the Kwanlin Dün First Nation and the Ta'an Kwäch'än Council where she is grateful to live and play with her hubby and kiddos.

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Get your butt over to www.thehappyvaginaproject.com or @thehappyvproject on IG to join the conversation and find the spark in yourself and your relationship after kids.

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In this episode of the 'Sex After Kids' podcast, we discuss the importance of creating a positive feedback loop in your sex life. Sofia explains the concept of feedback loops and how positive sexual experiences can lead to more enjoyable and relaxed future encounters. Conversely, stress, trauma, and negative experiences can cause a negative feedback loop, making it difficult to enjoy sex. The episode offers practical tips for partners to help each other break free from these negative loops, such as taking the pressure off sex and practicing consent.

00:24 Understanding Positive Feedback Loops in Sex
01:30 Negative Feedback Loops and Their Impact
03:14 Addressing Sexual Trauma and Negative Loops
03:57 Principles for Reversing Negative Feedback Loops
05:54 Creating Naked, Sexy, Fun Times
07:06 Practicing Consent and Communication
08:44 Tools for Building Trust and Body Awareness
10:51 Conclusion and Next Steps

We are so glad you are here. If you want more juicy tips make sure to check out the Free Sex After Kids Summit  November 20-23 2024. 

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In this episode of the 'Sex After Kids' podcast, Sofia delves into the significance of sex education and its lasting effects on adult sex lives, particularly after having children. The conversation covers several key points, including the failure of sex education to address pleasure, the importance of self pleasure, the need for detailed anatomical knowledge, and the impact of societal shame on sexual well-being. Through personal anecdotes and reflective questions, listeners are encouraged to reconsider their past sex education experiences and how they have influenced their current sexual relationships. 

00:19 The Impact of Poor Sex Education
04:16 Exploring the Importance of Self Pleasure
05:51 Anatomy and Pleasure: What We Didn't Learn
11:57 Representation in Sex Education
17:33 Fear Tactics and Their Lasting Effects
22:00 The Importance of Communication in Sex
25:59 Reflecting on Personal Sex Ed Experiences

Ready to unpack these stories and create some new ones? Join us for the Sex After Kids Summit Nov 20-23 2024 at www.sexafterkids.com