The Self-Loved ADHD Woman Way®️ – Details, episodes & analysis

Traditional therapy can be super harmful to ADHDers (even with well-meaning therapists).  In this episode, we’ll unpack how that happens and what to do instead.

You’ll walk away with clarity around what you truly need to navigate this neurotypical world effectively with your ADHD brain, without losing yourself in the process.

Be sure to listen!

Connect with me on social media!

Youtube: @Jenbarnes

Instagram:  @i_am_jen_barnes

Learn more about how we can work together:  www.jenbarnes.org

DISCLAIMER:  This podcast is for informational purposes only and should not be considered legal health or medical advice.  We are not responsible for any losses, damages, or liabilities that may arise from the use of this podcast. This podcast is not intended to replace professional medical advice or psychotherapy.

If you are experiencing a medical or mental health emergency please contact emergency services in your area.  If you are in the USA, dial 988 for the Suicide and Crisis line or 911 for a medical emergency.

Ever notice how it feels almost painful to get yourself to do certain tasks?  Or loke there is a complete block to even starting even when you want to?

This is super common with ADHD and is what we will explore together in this episode.

When we feel blocked around a task and don’t find a way to do it, we often end up with unfavorable consequences like penalties and fees, people being mad at or disappointed in us, losing things, or even having more disorganized space all of which exacerbates our ADHD and can lead to shame (definitely not helpful!).

There are three questions to ask yourself and address to move beyond these blocks that I’ll share so that you can do the painful thing in a less painful way.

Be sure to listen!

In the episode I shared about my monthly 28-Day Challenge to Regulate Your Nervous System so you can focus and get it done with ADHD.  To learn more and sign up, follow this link:  https://jenbarnes.org/adhd-get-regulated-challenge/.  Note that if you are taken to a pop-up screen for a Priority Notification list, that means the registration for the upcoming month hasn’t opened yet.  Join this list to be among the first notified and have the first opportunity to claim one of the 25 spots with a coupon code to get it for 50% off.

AND, if you want the coupon code but the priority notification list is not available, you’re welcome to join my ADHD Women Entrepreneurs’ Email Club and keep an eye out for the code (and get spectacular content for ADHD Women Entrepreneurs).  Go to my website https://jenbarnes.org/ to sign up (use the pop-up).

I also shared about my high-touch program ASCEND: The ADHD Women’s Mastery Program to help you overcome the inner and outer obstacles of ADHD to move beyond a mediocre life and have both a business and life you love!  Check it out here: https://jenbarnes.org/the-adhd-women-entrepreneurs-mastery-program/

Connect with me on social media!

Youtube: @Jenbarnes

Instagram:  @i_am_jen_barnes

Learn more about how we can work together:  www.jenbarnes.org

DISCLAIMER:  This podcast is for informational purposes only and should not be considered legal health or medical advice.  We are not responsible for any losses, damages, or liabilities that may arise from the use of this podcast. This podcast is not intended to replace professional medical advice or psychotherapy.

If you are experiencing a medical or mental health emergency please contact emergency services in your area.  If you are in the USA, dial 988 for the Suicide and Crisis line or 911 for a medical emergency.

Join me for a conversation with Michelle Chung on manifesting the people you seek in your life and your business.  Michelle is the international bestselling Author of “How to Stop Dating & Be In An Effortless, Committed Relationship” and podcast “Love, Life & Energy”, a Women’s Soulmate Manifestation Coach, certified Life coach and trained in Kinesiology and Mind Body Medicine, Entrepreneur and Property Investor with a background in industrial design, fashion and manufacturing.

In this episode we talk about how to manifest the right clients for your business, and what actually gets in the way of attracting them into your life - if you’re constantly getting the same types of people who are hard to work with, don’t pay on time, or getting no clients at all, Michelle breaks down why this is happening to you and the one simple step you need to do that will open the floodgates to your business and wealth.

This episode is short, sweet, and powerful; be sure to listen.

If you’d like to get in contact with Michelle please send her a message on instagram: 

  https://www.instagram.com/michellechungcoach/

Or join the free webinar training “Manifest Your Soulmate”:

https://www.manifestyoursoulmateinperson.com/webinar-registration

Listen to Michelle’s podcast Love, Life & Energy:

https://lovelifeenergypodcastwithmichellechung.buzzsprout.com

Get the book ‘How to Stop Dating & Be In An Effortless, Committed Relationship”:

https://www.michellechungcoach.com/ebook-stopdating

As always, thanks for listening!  I’d love it if you would leave a review.

I have created two (pretty low quality - LOL) tutorials on how to leave a review on Apple podcast or Spotify in case you would like assistance.  

And, if you enjoyed this episode be sure to follow if you aren’t already and share with others with whom you think it will resonate.

Connect with me on social media!

Instagram:  @i_am_jen_barnes

Youtube: @Jenbarnes

Learn more about how we can work together:  www.jenbarnes.org

DISCLAIMER:  This podcast is for informational purposes only and should not be considered legal health or medical advice.  We are not responsible for any losses, damages, or liabilities that may arise from the use of this podcast. This podcast is not intended to replace professional medical advice or psychotherapy.

If you are experiencing a medical or mental health emergency please contact emergency services in your area.  If you are in the USA, dial 988 for the Suicide and Crisis line or 911 for a medical emergency.

As young girls, we women were trained to put others before ourselves.  Couple that with some of the ways we ADHDers leavened to mask and you end up with difficulty prioritizing yourself.

In this episode, we’ll unpack how this happened and what makes it such a problem for your business.  And I’ll share how you can start working on this today so you can keep this pattern from wrecking your business.

Be sure to listen!

If you’re ready to overcome the invisible ADHD obstacles holding you back, then you’re invited to my FREE workshop How to Overcome Invisible ADHD Obstacles to Build and Grow a Prosperous, Meaningful Business You Love!  I have been offering this weekly and will offer it a couple of times in December with plans for continuing into January.  Click here to register for this powerful, free workshop!  

AND, if you’re ready to dive deeper and work more closely with me, check out my program ASCEND: The ADHD Women’s Mastery Program.  Since it is a high touch, higher tier offer, you are welcome to book a clarity call from that page (towards the bottom) to chat with me to determine if you are a fit for the program and if the program is a fit for you.

As always, thanks for listening!  I’d love it if you would leave a review.

I have created two (pretty low quality - LOL) tutorials on how to leave a review on Apple podcast or Spotify in case you would like assistance.  

And, if you enjoyed this episode be sure to follow if you aren’t already and share with others with whom you think it will resonate.

Connect with me on social media!

Instagram:  @i_am_jen_barnes

Youtube: @Jenbarnes

Learn more about how we can work together:  www.jenbarnes.org

DISCLAIMER:  This podcast is for informational purposes only and should not be considered legal health or medical advice.  We are not responsible for any losses, damages, or liabilities that may arise from the use of this podcast. This podcast is not intended to replace professional medical advice or psychotherapy.

If you are experiencing a medical or mental health emergency please contact emergency services in your area.  If you are in the USA, dial 988 for the Suicide and Crisis line or 911 for a medical emergency.

Hi, 

I’ve noticed a common pattern in ADHD women - especially those of us over 40 given how we grew up - that negatively impacts our businesses… it’s limited or a complete lack of curiosity. 

I know this pattern well both personally and professionally, and have had to work to take back my curiosity to help my business.

In this episode, we’ll break down how we lost our curiosity, the problems it creates for our businesses, and my strategy for how to take it back.

If you to, have lost your curiosity - your ability to question - you’ll (hopefully) walk away feeling validated and supported and have a way to re-ignite your curiosity to help your business and your life.  

Be sure to listen!

If you’re ready to overcome the invisible ADHD obstacles holding you back, then you’re invited to my FREE workshop How to Overcome Invisible ADHD Obstacles to Build and Grow a Prosperous, Meaningful Business You Love!  I have been offering this weekly and will offer it a couple of times in December with plans for continuing into January.  Click here to register for this powerful, free workshop!  

As always, thanks for listening!  I’d love it if you would leave a review.

I have created two (pretty low quality - LOL) tutorials on how to leave a review on Apple podcast or Spotify in case you would like assistance.  

And, if you enjoyed this episode be sure to follow if you aren’t already and share with others with whom you think it will resonate.

Connect with me on social media!

Instagram:  @i_am_jen_barnes

Youtube: @Jenbarnes

Learn more about how we can work together:  www.jenbarnes.org

DISCLAIMER:  This podcast is for informational purposes only and should not be considered legal health or medical advice.  We are not responsible for any losses, damages, or liabilities that may arise from the use of this podcast. This podcast is not intended to replace professional medical advice or psychotherapy.

If you are experiencing a medical or mental health emergency please contact emergency services in your area.  If you are in the USA, dial 988 for the Suicide and Crisis line or 911 for a medical emergency.

In this episode, we dig into the ADHD Masking Trifecta - Overfunctioning, People Pleasing, and Perfectionism - that many of us high-functioning ADHD women adopted (often subconsciously as kids) to be able to function with ADHD.  We’ll explore signs that it is no longer working and what to do instead. 

This is essential - especially for ADHD Women Entrepreneurs - both because we need to show up authentically in our business to attract our ideal clients and because masking in this way eventually creates problems with functioning instead of increasing our ability to function (not to mention being disconnected from who we really are).

By the end of this episode, you’ll be able to spot when the masking isn’t working and know what to do to function now.

If you’d like help doing this deeper work, I offer two options for this:

1.  My high-touch program ASCEND: The ADHD Women Entrepreneur’s Mastery Program includes 12 1:1 coaching sessions with me to do this deeper work.  You can learn more about that here and if you still have questions you can reach out to get on a call with me to discuss if the program is a fit for you and if you are a fit for the program.
2. One-to-one ADHD Success coaching sessions.  You can apply to meet to discuss 1:1 coaching here.

As always, thanks for listening!  I’d love it if you would leave a review.

I have created two (pretty low quality - LOL) tutorials on how to leave a review on Apple podcast or Spotify in case you would like assistance.  

And, if you enjoyed this episode be sure to follow if you aren’t already and share with others with whom you think it will resonate.

Connect with me on social media!

Instagram:  @i_am_jen_barnes

Youtube: @Jenbarnes

Learn more about how we can work together:  www.jenbarnes.org

DISCLAIMER:  This podcast is for informational purposes only and should not be considered legal health or medical advice.  We are not responsible for any losses, damages, or liabilities that may arise from the use of this podcast. This podcast is not intended to replace professional medical advice or psychotherapy.

If you are experiencing a medical or mental health emergency please contact emergency services in your area.  If you are in the USA, dial 988 for the Suicide and Crisis line or 911 for a medical emergency.

Experiencing grief and loss in our culture is often tough because no one really talks about it so few really know how to cope with it or even how to talk to the grieving.  ADHD adds a layer of challenge to this.

In this episode, we explore the unique ways ADHD impacts the grief process as well as how to cope with grief and loss.

Without this work, grief and loss builds up over the years and can come out in unexpected ways - both emotionally and physically.

You’ll walk away from this episode with compassion for your grief journey as well as clarity on how to grieve well to be able to start to string together more and more moments of joy after loss.

If you know someone who is grieving, please share this episode with them for support.

Here are some books I found helpful, thought please read at your own discretion as not all books helpful for me will be aligned or helpful for you:

“Understanding Your Grief” by Alan Wolfelt

“The Afterlife of Billy Fingers:  How My Bad-Boy Brother Proved to Me There’s Life After Death” by Annie Kagan

“You Cannot Die” by Ian Currie (a bit dry at first, considers life after death including reincarnation)

“Motherless Daughters: The Legacy of Loss” by Hope Edelman (while primarily written for childhood loss of a mother, this was still useful)

“It’s OK That You’re Not OK:  Meeting Grief and Loss in a Culture That Doesn’t Understand” by Megan Devine (recommended by my grief group leader and I eventually read it later in 2019)

As always, thanks for listening!  I’d love it if you would leave a review.

I have created two (pretty low quality - LOL) tutorials on how to leave a review on Apple podcast or Spotify in case you would like assistance.  

And, if you enjoyed this episode be sure to follow if you aren’t already and share with others with whom you think it will resonate.

Connect with me on social media!

Instagram:  @i_am_jen_barnes

Youtube: @Jenbarnes

Learn more about how we can work together:  www.jenbarnes.org

DISCLAIMER:  This podcast is for informational purposes only and should not be considered legal health or medical advice.  We are not responsible for any losses, damages, or liabilities that may arise from the use of this podcast. This podcast is not intended to replace professional medical advice or psychotherapy.

If you are experiencing a medical or mental health emergency please contact emergency services in your area.  If you are in the USA, dial 988 for the Suicide and Crisis line or 911 for a medical emergency.

Hi everyone, 

The day following the election in the States, I connected with a lot of people - clients, friends, acquaintances and more - all of whom were women and some of whom are in the queer community.  I noticed that a lot of us were (maybe still are) rightfully feeling some big and heavy stuff.

To meet the moment, in this episode we talk about how we highly sensitive women navigate our big feelings after the election.

You may be wondering why someone whose focus is ADHD Women Entrepreneurs talking about this.  I go more into this more in the episode.

For now, I’ll say this:

Whether with your business or something happening in the world, high sensitivity and the big feelings that tend to accompany them are both a gift (what probably makes you so good at what you do) and also can create challenges for you and your business so it is crucial to learn how to work with them.

Additionally, much is uncertain in business, as is true right now following the election.  Being able to navigate uncertainty is an essential skill for entrepreneurs.

So in this episode we’ll explore the big feelings, holding space for them, as well as explore what to do to work with the feelings and the uncertainty.

To be fair, this is probably not my most organized episode.  I recorded this on November 7th so am still working through my own stuff with thoughts swirling through my head (I seriously started over four times - though some of that was because my cat Eva was destroying my background screen).

At any rate, my hope is that you feel supported by this episode with some clarity around what to do now AND that you’ll extend me a little grace.

While I didn’t announce it in the episode, one of the things I notice in ADHD Women entrepreneurs that keeps them playing small is invisible ADHD obstacles - things like fear, doubt, overwhelm, feeling not good enough (or too much), and the like.

If you’ve been struggling to really put yourself out there for your business, you may be experiencing some of these invisible ADHD obstacles.

AND, if this is you, you’re invited to attend one of my free weekly workshops in November to discover How to Overcome Invisible ADHD Obstacles.  Click here to register.

Lastly, in the episode I promised to share a link to Brene Brown’s interview of Dr. Heather Cox Richardson on Awakening Democracy.  It is a two-parter and I highly recommend listening to both, especially if you are having a hard time making sense of where we’re at right now.  Click here to listen.

Thanks for listening!  I’d love it if you would leave a review.

I have created two (pretty low quality - LOL) tutorials on how to leave a review on Apple podcast or Spotify in case you would like assistance.  

And, if you enjoyed this episode be sure to follow if you aren’t already and share with others with whom you think it will resonate.

Connect with me on social media!

Instagram:  @i_am_jen_barnes

Youtube: @Jenbarnes

Learn more about how we can work together:  www.jenbarnes.org

DISCLAIMER:  This podcast is for informational purposes only and should not be considered legal health or medical advice.  We are not responsible for any losses, damages, or liabilities that may arise from the use of this podcast. This podcast is not intended to replace professional medical advice or psychotherapy.

If you are experiencing a medical or mental health emergency please contact emergency services in your area.  If you are in the USA, dial 988 for the Suicide and Crisis line or 911 for a medical emergency.

Hey everyone,

In this episode we explore why and how procrastination works to get yourself to do stuff with ADHD and how it actually makes your ADHD worse.

It turns out, there are at least six other ways to work with your brain wiring to get yourself to do stuff that don’t have the same negative effects as procrastination can.

Plus, there are three essential pieces of ADHD motivation to consider that are often overlooked.

By the end of this episode, you’ll know the four essential things you need to help you do things you actually need to do for your business and your life.

In this episode, I also share about one of the biggest motivational challenges many ADHD Women entrepreneurs face - invisible ADHD obstacles.

To help with that, you’re invited to attend one of my free weekly workshops in November to discover How to Overcome Invisible ADHD Obstacles.  Click here to register.

Thanks for listening!  I’d love it if you would leave a review.

I have created two (pretty low quality - LOL) tutorials on how to leave a review on Apple podcast or Spotify in case you would like assistance.  

And, if you enjoyed this episode be sure to follow if you aren’t already and share with others with whom you think it will resonate.

Connect with me on social media!

Instagram:  @i_am_jen_barnes

Youtube: @Jenbarnes

Learn more about how we can work together:  www.jenbarnes.org

DISCLAIMER:  This podcast is for informational purposes only and should not be considered legal health or medical advice.  We are not responsible for any losses, damages, or liabilities that may arise from the use of this podcast. This podcast is not intended to replace professional medical advice or psychotherapy.

If you are experiencing a medical or mental health emergency please contact emergency services in your area.  If you are in the USA, dial 988 for the Suicide and Crisis line or 911 for a medical emergency.

In this episode we explore a commonly ignored and overlooked challenge many ADHD women face, that keeps you and your business small AND, what to do about it.

When ADHD Women Entrepreneurs aren’t aware of and actively addressing this challenges, it keeps you from doing the work you need to do - inside and out - to build and grow a prosperous, meaningful business.  

By the end of this episode, you’ll have clarity around the problem, how to spot it when it arises, and what to do about it.

In this episode I share about a lot of ways to do deeper in this work with me which I will share here:

Attend one of my free weekly workshops in November to discover How to Overcome Invisible ADHD Obstacles.  Click here to register.

Check out my program ASCEND: The ADHD Women’s Mastery Program here.

Think you need more 1:1 support and accountability?  Apply for 1:1 coaching with me (Jen) here.

Thanks for listening!  I’d love it if you would leave a review.

And, if you enjoyed this episode be sure to follow if you aren’t already and share with others with whom you think it will resonate.

Connect with me on social media!

Instagram:  @i_am_jen_barnes

Youtube: @Jenbarnes

Learn more about how we can work together:  www.jenbarnes.org

DISCLAIMER:  This podcast is for informational purposes only and should not be considered legal health or medical advice.  We are not responsible for any losses, damages, or liabilities that may arise from the use of this podcast. This podcast is not intended to replace professional medical advice or psychotherapy.

If you are experiencing a medical or mental health emergency please contact emergency services in your area.  If you are in the USA, dial 988 for the Suicide and Crisis line or 911 for a medical emergency.