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| Why Children Need More Freedom to Thrive with Dr. Peter Gray | 17 Sep 2026 | 00:54:40 | |
Maybe it wasn’t all about the cell phones after all. In this episode, I’m joined by eminent psychologist, researcher, and author Dr. Peter Gray to explore what may really be driving the decline in children’s mental health. While smartphones and social media often take center stage in conversations about teen anxiety and depression, Peter makes the case that we need to look much more closely at what has happened to childhood itself: less autonomy, less independent play, more academic pressure, and a shift from a play-based childhood to a competition-based one. We dig into why video games can actually qualify as real play, what kids learn when adults aren’t directing them, how changes in schools may relate to rising anxiety and depression, and what parents can do to help restore independence, confidence, connection, and joy to childhood.
[4:34] - Where Peter agrees—and disagrees—with Jonathan Haidt’s The Anxious Generation. [6:14] - Why video games can be real play and meet kids’ needs for autonomy, competence, and relatedness. [10:13] - Why children are naturally motivated to play away from adult control. [12:24] - What pickup baseball teaches kids that organized, adult-directed sports simply can’t. [15:44] - Why negotiating the game may be even more valuable than playing it. [18:45] - What changes when adults turn children’s play into competition. [22:00] - Have we replaced a play-based childhood with a phone-based world—or a competition-based world? [24:23] - Peter’s case for looking at Common Core, standardized testing, and school pressure when examining the rise in youth mental health problems. [28:07] - Why school pressure consistently emerges as a major source of stress for young people. [30:23] - What happens to pediatric mental health concerns when summer vacation begins. [32:33] - Comparing youth mental health trends in the United States with Europe and other countries. [36:47] - How homework followed children home—and pulled parents into managing schoolwork. [38:48] - What Peter’s research during COVID school closures revealed about kids’ stress and family relationships. [43:06] - Becoming a TAS parent: trustful, autonomy-supportive parenting. [45:51] - Practical ways parents can create more opportunities for independent play. [47:15] - One powerful question parents can ask to help children build independence and courage. [49:20] - Why the sound of children playing outside may be one of the signals our communities are missing. [50:29] - Peter’s hope that restoring childhood can become a movement for meaningful change.
Restoring Childhood: How to Set Kids Free in the Age of Anxiety and Free to Learn: Why Unleashing the Instinct to Play Will Make Our Children Happier, More Self-Reliant and Better Students for Life https://www.petergray.org/blank-2 The Atlantic — Article on Phones, Play & Childhood Mental Health https://www.theatlantic.com/technology/2026/07/phones-haidt-play-gray/687846/ If this episode has helped you, remember to rate, follow, and share the Self-Driven Child Podcast. Your support helps us reach more people and create more content that makes a difference. If you have a high school aged student and would like to talk about putting a tutoring or college plan together, reach out to Ned's company, PrepMatters at www.prepmatters.com | |||
| An interview with Juliette Blake: the teen tech founder who became a mom and built a safer social media platform for girls | 11 Aug 2026 | 00:57:39 | |
All of us worry about the potentially negative impacts of technology. We worry our kids are online too much, that social media is disrupting their sleep, academics, mental health, and relationships—and frankly, taking away good time outdoors. And it doesn’t feel good to have the same fight over screens again and again. But what if the answer isn’t simply taking technology away? What if we could design it differently—and help our kids learn to use it well? In this episode, I talk with Juliette Blake, founder of Moxies, who has been thinking about girls, media, and technology since she was a teenager herself. Now a mom of three, Juliette brings the perspectives of both a tech founder and a parent to our conversation about social media, digital literacy, addictive design, and healthy screen habits. We explore how technology can be built with kids’ well-being as the North Star—and what we parents can do to help our kids become thoughtful, capable digital citizens. Episode Highlights [6:05] - Why the tween years are such an important—and often overlooked—developmental stage, particularly for girls navigating media and brand imagery. [8:45] - Kids don’t bring every problem to their parents. Why simply knowing “I’m not the only one” can sometimes matter as much as the advice they receive. [10:33] - Magazines then, social media now: the medium has changed, but many of the pressures facing girls haven’t. [13:36] - Can technology be part of the solution? Moving away from the attention economy and making well-being our North Star. [15:35] - What “safe by design” actually means—and why companies building products for kids should bear responsibility for protecting them. [20:58] - “Dark-patterned persuasive design features”: streaks, likes, notifications, endless rewards, and other features designed to keep kids coming back. [24:22] - Why Moxies shuts down chat at night and how thoughtful guardrails can support kids when their own self-control gets wobbly. [27:43] - Teaching digital citizenship in real time by helping girls reconsider an unkind message before they send it. [31:17] - Autonomy with safeguards: creating online spaces where tweens can connect with people they actually know rather than strangers. [35:56] - Building digital literacy into technology itself, from privacy and passwords to confidence and emotional skills. [38:26] - The Anxious Generation, phone bans, and why simply taking devices away isn’t a one-size-fits-all solution. [42:00] - Endless scrolling and the important difference between kids wanting to return to technology and feeling they have to. [45:42] - Why “my kid isn’t on TikTok” doesn’t necessarily mean they’re avoiding the same addictive design elsewhere online. [50:46] - Practical advice for parents: explain the why behind boundaries, start conversations early, and model the digital habits we hope our kids develop. [54:09] - Why keeping devices out of bedrooms can protect sleep, relationships, and healthy boundaries. Key Takeaways
Links & Resources If this episode has helped you, remember to rate, follow, and share the Self-Driven Child Podcast. Your support helps us reach more people and create more content that makes a difference. If you have a high school aged student and would like to talk about putting a tutoring or college plan together, reach out to Ned's company, PrepMatters at www.prepmatters.com | |||
| Teens Talk: Teen Takeovers and Third Spaces | 24 Jul 2026 | 00:55:29 | |
What do teens really need to grow into confident, capable adults? In this episode, I sit down with two remarkable young advocates—Rona Majumder and Faris Smith—to explore why today's teens are asking for more autonomy, more trust, and more places where they can simply exist. Together, we unpack the growing conversation around "third spaces," teen gatherings, social media, and what adults often misunderstand about adolescent development. We also discuss why teen "takeovers" are making headlines, how parental anxiety can unintentionally limit healthy growth, and what schools, parents, and policymakers can do to create safer, more supportive environments without over-controlling young people. If you've ever wondered how to better support the teens in your life, this conversation offers thoughtful perspectives you won't want to miss. Episode Highlights [0:00] - Introducing The Seven Principles for Raising a Self-Driven Child Workbook and why putting ideas into practice matters. [1:40] - Meet teen advocates Rona Majumder and Faris Smith and hear why third spaces matter so much to young people. [3:59] - What exactly is a "third space," and why today's teens feel they're disappearing. [10:18] - Why teens crave more independence, trust, and the freedom to simply exist without constant supervision. [15:04] - Navigating the difficult transition as parents gradually hand over responsibility and independence. [21:05] - Teen takeovers: what's really driving them, and why punishment alone won't solve the problem. [23:33] - The role of consumerism, disappearing community spaces, and the need for free places where teens can gather. [26:57] - Rona and Faris share firsthand experiences attending teen gatherings and discuss the social skills young people need to navigate them safely. [33:18] - Social media: connection, FOMO, and whether it has become today's version of a third space. [40:29] - Would teens choose to erase social media if they could? The surprising answer. [43:27] - Practical advice for parents: reduce surveillance, build trust, and avoid parenting from anxiety. [45:11] - How schools can foster student agency by creating opportunities that are truly student-led. [47:00] - What policymakers should do to better include teen voices and invest in meaningful community spaces. [49:13] - Why today's generation may be uniquely equipped to handle tomorrow's biggest challenges. Links & Resources Danah Boyd: It’s Complicated, the Social Lives of Networked Teens Ned Johnson article in The Washington Post, March 2, 2020: How we can help kids increase their sense of control as the coronavirus approaches If this episode has helped you, remember to rate, follow, and share the Self-Driven Child Podcast. Your support helps us reach more people and create more content that makes a difference. If you have a high school aged student and would like to talk about putting a tutoring or college plan together, reach out to Ned's company, PrepMatters at www.prepmatters.com | |||
| Grade A+ Deception: student journalists on the academic pressure to cheat | 19 Jun 2026 | 00:45:41 | |
What happens when academic pressure becomes so intense that cheating starts to feel normal? In this conversation, I’m joined by student journalists Ethan Chan and Meryem Orazova from Palo Alto High School’s award-winning newspaper, The Campanile. Their investigation into academic dishonesty uncovered some troubling realities about student stress, achievement culture, and the growing pressure surrounding college admissions. Together, we explore why so many students feel compelled to take shortcuts, how external pressures can crowd out intrinsic motivation, and what parents and educators can do to help young people pursue success without sacrificing their well-being. If you care about raising resilient, self-driven kids, this is a conversation you won’t want to miss. Episode Highlights [1:41] - Meet student journalists Ethan Chan and Meryem Orazova [3:25] - Inside Palo Alto’s high-pressure academic culture [4:25] - When students first begin feeling college admissions pressure [7:00] - How achievement culture shapes student identity and self-worth [10:11] - The surprising findings from A Grade A+ Deception [11:14] - Why cheating has become normalized for many students [14:08] - The role of AI, answer sharing, and academic shortcuts [17:50] - How external rewards can undermine the joy of learning [20:46] - Choosing classes for genuine interest versus college applications [23:50] - Why the “best” college may not be the right college [26:58] - The hidden emotional costs of constant comparison [29:28] - What students wish parents understood about academic stress [33:56] - Why cheating ultimately hurts learning and confidence [37:14] - Building school cultures that support integrity and well-being [41:06] - Practical ways adults can reduce pressure and support growth [43:46] - Final reflections on success, motivation, and thriving If this episode has helped you, remember to rate, follow, and share the Self-Driven Child Podcast. Your support helps us reach more people and create more content that makes a difference. If you have a high school aged student and would like to talk about putting a tutoring or college plan together, reach out to Ned's company, PrepMatters at www.prepmatters.com | |||
| Tapping into what really motivates teens: an interview with bestselling author and psychologist Dr. David Yeager | 13 May 2026 | 01:13:21 | |
Dr. David Yeager joins me for a fascinating conversation about what really motivates adolescents — and why so many adults misunderstand teenage behavior in the first place. Drawing from his groundbreaking book 10 to 25, David explains why teens aren’t “lazy” or irrational at all. They’re deeply motivated by status, belonging, respect, and purpose — and when adults learn how to connect healthy behaviors to those drives, everything changes. We also unpack the “mentor mindset” that helps parents, teachers, and coaches guide young people without falling into the traps of overprotection or harsh enforcement. From belonging uncertainty and resilience to project-based learning, earned prestige, and the future of education in the AI era, this conversation is packed with practical insight for anyone raising, teaching, or supporting adolescents. Episode Highlights [1:08] - Dr. David Yeager explains why adolescence really spans ages 10 to 25 — and how motivation changes during that developmental window. [7:25] - Why the “teen brain is broken” narrative has done more harm than good for parents, educators, and young people themselves. [15:41] - How adults can motivate teens more effectively by connecting long-term goals to what matters to them right now. [17:59] - The surprising anti-smoking campaign that completely failed with teens — and the one that transformed adolescent behavior nationwide. [25:00] - David introduces the “mentor mindset”: high standards paired with high support and deep respect. [30:49] - Why struggle, stress, and anxiety are often signs of growth — not signals to quit. [38:25] - A powerful discussion on belonging uncertainty and why transitions can feel so destabilizing for young people. [47:22] - The concept of “earned prestige” and why many schools unintentionally make academic success feel low-status. [56:00] - How schools can reduce competition and bullying by creating multiple paths for students to thrive. [1:01:00] - The hidden story behind Jaime Escalante and what truly creates transformational learning environments. [1:08:40] - David shares why the rise of AI makes motivation, purpose, and meaningful learning more important than ever. Links and Resources Dr. David Yeager’s book: 10 to 25: The Science of Motivating Young People If this episode has helped you, remember to rate, follow, and share the Self-Driven Child Podcast. Your support helps us reach more people and create more content that makes a difference.
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| Simply weathering the storm of modern life? Help your kids survive and THRIVE! | 09 Apr 2026 | 01:06:55 | |
In this episode, I sit down with the brilliant Stephanie Malia Krauss to unpack what it really means to help our kids—and ourselves—not just survive, but truly thrive in today’s world. We dig into the idea that modern life isn’t just busy—it’s fundamentally out of sync with how humans are wired to live. Stephanie introduces a powerful framework around the “dangerous weather” we’re all navigating and why so many families feel overwhelmed, overstimulated, and stretched thin. Together, we explore a hopeful path forward. What if thriving isn’t about eliminating challenges, but about reclaiming the essential conditions that help us endure and enjoy life at the same time? From sleep and movement to play and connection, this conversation will shift how you think about parenting, education, and what our kids really need to flourish—without waiting for the whole system to change. Episode Highlights
[03:30] - Introducing Stephanie and the idea of “dangerous weather” in modern life [08:30] - The word cloud experiment: what families are really feeling right now [13:30] - Thriving isn’t the absence of struggle—it’s learning to live well within it [20:59] - Allostatic load explained: when stress becomes toxic [25:30] - The four forces: overtapped, overworked, overstimulated, overwrought [34:00] - Rehumaning: reclaiming movement, play, and connection in daily life [49:30] - Why sleep may be the single most important factor for kids’ well-being [1:00:10] - The concept of a “thriving ecosystem” and collective care [1:03:15] - Final reflection: what it means to truly help our kids—and ourselves—thrive Links & Resources Substack: @stephaniemaliakrauss LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/stephaniemaliakrauss YouTube: @stephaniemaliakrauss If this episode has helped you, remember to rate, follow, and share the Self-Driven Child Podcast. Your support helps us reach more people and create more content that makes a difference.
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| When the World Feels Too Big: Talking With Our Kids About Hard Things | 26 Mar 2026 | 00:52:45 | |
In a world where violent incidents, political upheaval, and shocking news dominate headlines --- from immigration enforcement violence in Minnesota to studies pointing to "nihilistic" violence without clear motives --- many parents and caregivers are left wondering: How do we talk about this with our kids? And more importantly, how do we process our own feelings so that we don't become overwhelmed or paralyzed by fear, uncertainty, or anger? In this episode, Ned speaks with teen mental health and parenting expert Julie Baron, LCSW-C guides listeners through developmental, emotional, and practical frameworks for navigating these conversations with children and adolescents. We'll explore the psychological roots of feeling out of control, the maladaptive ways people try to regain a sense of agency (including in forms of violence), and evidence-based tools from Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) and her innovative CARE model for parenting that help families cope, connect, and act --- even in uncertainty. Episode Highlights [0:00] - Why we fall back into old parenting habits—and how to change that [3:11] - Julie’s work with teens and families using DBT skills [6:39] - How parent and child emotions feed off each other (and escalate) [9:46] - The impact of technology and social media on teen mental health [15:12] - Practical strategies to manage overwhelming news and stress [18:10] - The role of control—and why feeling powerless fuels anxiety [21:33] - Understanding maladaptive coping (and what’s underneath it) [23:43] - What we can control: attention and behavior [28:21] - How to talk with kids about scary or overwhelming world events [31:41] - Why connection matters more than saying the “right” thing [36:22] - DBT communication skills: goals, relationships, and self-respect [40:27] - Choosing your parenting battles wisely [44:01] - The power of validation (and how to use it effectively) [46:24] - Why inconsistent parenting responses can backfire [47:45] - Managing stress: increasing healthy “outflows” [49:34] - Final takeaway: connection is the ultimate buffer against stress Links & Resources What Works With Teens Newsletter Parenting Teens Through Connection Julie Baron and Associates: Website Linkedin: Julie Baron Instagram: @parentingteensthroughconnection Facebook: Julie Baron and Associates If this episode has helped you, remember to rate, follow, and share the Self-Driven Child Podcast. Your support helps us reach more people and create more content that makes a difference. If you have a high school aged student and would like to talk about putting a tutoring or college plan together, reach out to Ned's company, PrepMatters at www.prepmatters.com | |||
| 8 Setbacks to Make A Child a Success: With Michelle Icard | 03 Mar 2026 | 00:56:50 | |
If you’ve ever watched your child struggle and felt that almost unbearable pull to step in, fix it, smooth it over, or make it disappear, this episode is for you. In this conversation, I sit down with author and parent coach Michelle Icard to explore why setbacks—real, uncomfortable, sometimes humiliating ones—are not detours from development but the very path toward adulthood. 8 Setbacks That Can Make a Child a Success by Michelle Icard Homesick and Happy by Michael Thompson 14 Talks by Age 14 by Michelle Icard Erving Goffman: The Presentation of Self in Everyday Life Scott Galloway: Notes on Being a Man Sarah Rosensweet: Reimagine Peaceful Parenting Dr. Devorah Heitner: Mentoring Kids in a Connected World Dr. Lisa Damour: Untangling 10-20 If you have a high school aged student and would like to talk about putting a tutoring or college plan together, reach out to Ned's company, PrepMatters at www.prepmatters.com | |||
| Mattering: an interview with Jennifer Wallace | 29 Jan 2026 | 00:45:14 | |
If you’ve ever felt like you’re doing all the right things—checking boxes, meeting expectations—yet still wondering whether any of it really matters, this episode is for you. In this conversation, I sit down with New York Times bestselling author and researcher Jennifer Wallace to explore one of the most fundamental human needs we rarely name directly: mattering. Jennifer joins me to talk about her latest work and the research behind why feeling valued—for who we are, not just what we do—is essential for resilience, mental health, and motivation. Together, we unpack how mattering shows up in families, schools, workplaces, and communities, and why rebuilding connection may be one of the most important things we can do for our kids—and ourselves.
Episode Highlights: [0:00] – Why thriving kids (and adults) need more than good intentions
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| Adolescents Are Identity Scientists: Exploring With Chris Balme | 16 Jan 2026 | 00:35:09 | |
In this episode, I sit down with education leader, parent, and author Chris Balme for a deep, thoughtful, and often funny conversation about what adolescents are really doing during the middle school and teen years. We explore why this stage of life is less about “figuring kids out” and more about understanding the intense social, emotional, and neurological work they’re already doing every day. Chris offers a powerful frame that I love: adolescents as identity scientists, running experiments to answer one core question—who am I, and where do I belong? We talk about how adults can make that work easier instead of harder, why third spaces and unhurried time matter so much, and how validation, sleep, peers, and belonging shape everything during these years. If you live with, teach, or care about adolescents—or if you’re willing to remember your own—this conversation will resonate.
Episode Highlights: [0:00] – Why it’s so hard to change how we parent, even when we know better
Links & Resources: Allo Parents: Ned's podcast Interview with Michaeleen: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/hunt-gather-parent-with-michaeleen-doucleff/id1676859533?i=1000643496031 About Michaeleen: https://www.npr.org/people/348778932/michaeleen-doucleff Adolescents Are Identity Scientists: https://chrisbalme.substack.com/p/adolescents-are-identity-scientists About Chris: https://www.chrisbalme.com/ If this episode has helped you, remember to rate, follow, and share the Self-Driven Child Podcast. Your support helps us reach more people and create more content that makes a difference. If you have a high school aged student and would like to talk about putting a tutoring or college plan together, reach out to Ned's company, PrepMatters at www.prepmatters.com | |||
| Why We Sleep - The Great Sleep Challenge | 16 Dec 2025 | 00:38:09 | |
In this episode of The Self-Driven Child Podcast, I sit down with my longtime partner, co-author, and neuropsychologist Dr. William Stixrud to dig deep into something hiding in plain sight: sleep. We talk about why so many kids, teens, and frankly adults are walking around chronically exhausted—and what that’s quietly doing to learning, emotional health, and overall well-being. This conversation grew out of a powerful question a student asked us after we issued a real-world “sleep challenge,” and it opened the door to a fascinating look at how sleep actually works in the brain. Bill and I explore what happens when kids don’t get enough rest, why tired brains struggle with attention, memory, and emotional regulation, and how sleep might be one of the most underestimated tools we have for supporting mental health, learning, and resilience. If you care about helping kids thrive—and about thriving yourself—this is one you won’t want to miss.
Episode Highlights: [0:00] – Why helping kids thrive is harder than it should be—and why sleep keeps getting overlooked
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| How to Have Happy Holidays: What Science Suggests | 25 Nov 2025 | 00:17:57 | |
In this episode, I dig into one of my favorite topics—what really makes us happy—and why the holidays are the perfect time to rethink how we create joy for ourselves and our kids. If you’ve ever wondered why the things you anticipate don’t always end up being the things that actually fill your heart, you’re not alone. I explore the science behind pleasure versus happiness, why we confuse the two, and how small intentional choices can make the holiday season feel richer, calmer, and more meaningful. Rather than chasing quick hits of dopamine, I walk through the PERMA model and share science-backed ways to help kids—and ourselves—feel more grounded, connected, and genuinely content. If you’re craving a holiday experience that lingers well beyond the wrapping paper and pumpkin pie, this episode will help you set the stage. Links & Resources: [0:00] – Opening welcome + exciting announcement about our new workbook Links & Resources
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| Great Parenting Advice From Lenore Skenazy ("America's Worst Mom") Or, "Why I Let My 9 Year-Old Ride the Subway Alone" | 11 Nov 2025 | 00:45:59 | |
Ever wonder if we’re raising our kids with too much fear and not enough freedom? In this episode, I’m joined by Lenore Skenazy—founder of Let Grow, author, and self-described “America’s Worst Mom”—to dig into what’s really holding our kids back. We talk about the shift from play-based to phone-based childhoods, and how we, as parents and educators, can reverse course by letting kids take back some independence—without feeling like we’re putting them in danger. We explore how anxiety, both in kids and adults, is often fueled by overprotection, and how letting kids do more on their own actually builds emotional resilience, executive function, and confidence. Lenore shares powerful stories, smart strategies, and even a few laughs to help us rethink how we support our kids in becoming more capable and self-reliant. If you’ve ever worried about being too overprotective—or just want to help kids thrive—this conversation will inspire you to take that first step.
Episode Highlights: [0:00] - Opening thoughts on parenting struggles and intro to my new workbook Links & Resources:
Lenore's TED Talk: https://www.ted.com/talks/lenore_skenazy_why_you_should_spend_less_time_with_your_kids?subtitle=en
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| What Are They Thinking?: The Neuroscience of Nagging in Parents and Teens | 24 Oct 2025 | 00:16:35 | |
If you've ever caught yourself reminding your kid—again and again—to get that homework done, check in with the coach, or finally read that book, this episode is for you. I dive deep into the psychology and brain science behind why we nag, how it impacts both our stress levels and our kids’ behavior, and what we can do instead to be more effective, compassionate, and calm. I share a personal story from my own household (yes, I'm guilty too!) and explore what’s really going on in the minds of both the "nagger" and the "nag-ee." You’ll also hear a powerful example of how one family made a simple shift in communication—and had their best night in years. If you want to support your child in a way that actually works—and feels better for everyone—don’t miss this one.
Episode Highlights: [0:00] - Introducing the workbook: The Seven Principles for Raising a Self-Driven Child
Links & Resources: If this episode has helped you, remember to rate, follow, and share the Self-Driven Child Podcast. Your support helps us reach more people and create more content that makes a difference. If you have a high school aged student and would like to talk about putting a tutoring or college plan together, reach out to Ned's company, PrepMatters at www.prepmatters.com | |||
| Stress Relief vs. Stress Release: What We All Need In Anxious Times | 07 Oct 2025 | 00:29:01 | |
Hey folks, Ned here. If you’ve ever felt like life’s got you underwater—like you’re just barely catching your breath before the next wave crashes in—this one’s for you. In this episode, I sit down with my dear friend, partner, and co-author Dr. William Stixrud to talk about something that’s more relevant now than ever: how we actually relieve stress—not just dodge it. We unpack the critical difference between stress relief (those momentary escapes) and stress release (the tools that really let the pressure out), and why both are necessary. We also dive into practices that help us become non-anxious presences for our kids, and how that calm can be just as contagious as stress. Whether it’s exercise, meditation, social connection, or just laughing with friends, we explore the science-backed ways to bring your nervous system back online and show up for your family with clarity and calm.
Episode Highlights: [0:00] - Introduction and announcement of the new workbook, The Seven Principles for Raising a Self-Driven Child [1:39] - That overwhelmed feeling—why so many of us are barely staying afloat [3:12] - Stress relief vs. stress release: what’s the difference and why it matters [5:39] - Coping methods kids use—and why many of them are just avoidance strategies [7:32] - The trouble with short-term fixes like weed and excessive screen time [8:31] - Real stress release through exercise, baking, and yes—carrot cake [10:15] - How parents’ stress regulation directly impacts their children [11:38] - Two paths to calm: cognitive reframing and physiological practices [14:42] - Radical acceptance—how shifting our mindset reduces suffering [16:31] - The vital role of calm people and community in weathering storms [20:08] - Emergency stress relief: laughter, singing, deep breathing, and movement [22:50] - The power of consistent practices like meditation and gratitude [25:57] - Final thoughts: combining cognitive, physiological, and social strategies for real resilience
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| Wise Effort with Diana Hill | 23 Sep 2025 | 00:41:55 | |
We all want our kids to thrive—not just survive the pressure of school, sports, and life. But let’s be honest, it’s not easy. Too often we fall back into the same old habits, even when we know better. That’s why I was so excited to sit down with two incredible people: my friend and co-author, Dr. Bill Stixrud, and psychologist Dr. Diana Hill. Diana’s new book Wise Effort: How to Focus Your Genius Energy on What Matters Most shows us that our kids—and we parents too—don’t have to choose between doing well and being well. In this conversation, we dig into what it means to use our energy wisely, how to recognize and nurture “genius energy” in ourselves and our children, and why psychological flexibility might just be the most important skill we can teach and model. If you’ve ever felt like your family is running full speed but not sure you’re heading in the right direction, this episode will speak to you.
Episode Highlights: [0:00] – Kicking things off: why Bill and I created The Self-Driven Child Workbook
Links & Resources: https://drdianahill.com/ Wise Effort: How to Focus Your Genius Energy on What Matters Most by Dr. Diana Hill If this episode has helped you, remember to rate, follow, and share the Self-Driven Child Podcast. Your support helps us reach more people and create more content that makes a difference. If you have a high school aged student and would like to talk about putting a tutoring or college plan together, reach out to Ned's company, PrepMatters at www.prepmatters.com | |||
| Dream School: Finding the College That's Right for You | 09 Sep 2025 | 00:56:56 | |
In this episode of The Self-Driven Child Podcast, I sit down once again with my good friend and New York Times bestselling author Jeff Selingo. You probably know Jeff from his book Who Gets In and Why, which cracked open the mysterious college admissions process. But now, he’s back with a powerful new guide, Dream School: Finding the College That’s Right for You. We explore the realities behind the college admissions frenzy—the pressures, the myths, and the real indicators of student success. Jeff and I dive deep into why so many students and families narrow their college lists too soon, how prestige bias and community pressure shape decision-making, and what really matters when it comes to finding the best college fit. Whether you're a parent, student, educator, or just curious about higher education, this episode is a roadmap to cutting through the noise and focusing on what will actually help kids thrive.
Episode Highlights: [1:55] - Welcoming back Jeff Selingo and his new book Dream School Links & Resources: · Jeff Selingo's new book: Dream School: Finding the College That’s Right for You · College Scorecard: https://collegescorecard.ed.gov · National Survey of Student Engagement (NSSE): https://nsse.indiana.edu · The Craziest Year Ever in College Admission with Jeff Selingo: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-craziest-year-ever-in-college-admission-with/id1676859533?i=1000650463806 · Who Gets In and Why with Jeff Selingo: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/who-gets-in-and-why-with-jeff-selingo/id1676859533?i=1000613195766
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| Your Child Is Ready For College. Are You? | 02 Sep 2025 | 00:45:54 | |
Hey folks, Ned here! In this episode, I sit down once again with my friend and co-author Dr. Bill Stixrud for a candid, real-world conversation not just about whether your kid is ready for college—but whether you are too. While we’ve talked before about student readiness, today we focus on the parent side of the equation. We dive deep into the emotional rollercoaster of sending a kid off to college—especially that first semester. From managing your own stress and expectations to shifting your role from fixer to consultant, we cover the principles that help young adults step up while helping parents step back (without losing their minds). Whether your teen is packing their bags or you're still a few years out, this episode is packed with wisdom, laughs, and some very practical takeaways to support both you and your child through this major life transition.
Episode Highlights: [1:27] - Framing the college transition and the emotional load it carries for both kids and parents
Links & Resources: · Who's Ready For College: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-self-driven-child/id1676859533?i=1000653304892 · Navigating Childhood Anxiety: A Conversation With Dr. Eli Lebowitz: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-self-driven-child/id1676859533?i=1000619235562
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| Challenge Accepted: 50 Adventures to Make Middle School Awesome | 12 Aug 2025 | 00:52:36 | |
As parents, we often think of middle school as a gauntlet—something our kids just need to survive. But my guest today, education leader, author, and school founder Chris Balme, sees it differently. To him, middle school is an extraordinary time of growth and self-discovery—a period where young people’s brains are changing at their fastest pace since early childhood, making it the perfect time to nurture creativity, agency, and resilience. Chris joins me to share ideas from his new book, Challenge Accepted: 50 Adventures to Make Middle School Awesome—a guide for kids themselves to turn these years into something remarkable. With challenges ranging from stealth artistry to healing broken friendships, Chris shows us how experiences can inspire, connect, and grow the skills kids truly need for life. Along the way, we talk about adolescent brain development, the power of awe, peer-led conflict resolution, and why middle schoolers deserve more agency than they usually get. If you’ve got a tween about to make the leap—or you’re already in the thick of it—this conversation will help you see these years not as a trial to endure, but as a hero’s journey worth embracing.
Episode Highlights: [0:00] – Kicking off with a quick update on The Seven Principles for Raising a Self-Driven Child: The Workbook
Links & Resources: · Chris's Website https://www.chrisbalme.com/about · Harry Chapin: Flowers Are Red https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4cVpkzZpDBA · Mike Nicholson - educator https://www.learninspired.org/about
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| School Phone Policies With An Educator Who Helped Craft Them | 29 Jul 2025 | 00:48:58 | |
What happens when schools set boundaries on student phone use—not to punish, but to empower learning? In this episode, I sit down with Julie Yang, President of the Montgomery County, Maryland Board of Education, to explore the increasingly complex relationship between students, smartphones, and learning environments. Julie brings both personal and professional insights from her roles as an educator, board leader, and parent to help us unpack how thoughtful school policies can shape healthier, more focused, and less anxious learning experiences. We dive into how schools are navigating the pros and cons of technology in classrooms, what research says about screen time and attention, and why policies need to be rooted in both compassion and practicality. Julie walks us through the real-life rollout of phone regulations in one of the country’s largest school systems, and the student feedback that’s reshaping how we think about tech in education. If you’re a parent, educator, or student wondering what “phone away for a better day” really looks like—this conversation’s for you.
Episode Highlights: [3:44] – Why regulating phone use in schools is such a hot topic right now
Links & Resources: Julie's website: https://www.julieyang.org/
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| Summer Downtime: The Power of Trees and the Default Mode Network | 15 Jul 2025 | 00:20:40 | |
It’s summer, and that means more time outside—and for me, that means time with trees. In this episode, I dive deep into how trees, those quiet giants of our world, can actually help us and our kids develop healthier minds and deeper self-awareness. I unpack some fascinating science behind what nature, especially time spent among trees, does for our brains, our stress levels, and even our test scores. Inspired by Peter Wohlleben’s The Hidden Life of Trees, I explore not just the hidden life of trees, but the hidden life in trees—and what it can teach us about connection, cooperation, and the power of downtime. Whether you're a fellow tree-lover, a parent looking for ways to support your child’s mental health, or just someone who needs a reason to unplug and take a walk, this episode is for you.
Episode Highlights: [0:00] - Why we fall back into old habits and the launch of our new workbook, The Seven Principles for Raising a Self-Driven Child
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· Article: "Rest Is Not Idleness" by Mary Helen Immordino-Yang: https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/26168472/ If this episode has helped you, remember to rate, follow, and share the Self-Driven Child Podcast. Your support helps us reach more people and create more content that makes a difference.
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| A Teen Perspective on Teen School Phone Policies | 01 Jul 2025 | 00:53:57 | |
Hey folks, Ned here. If you're anything like me, you're always curious about how the younger generation views the world we're handing them—including the phones we put in their pockets and the social platforms we love to worry about. In this episode, I sit down with two remarkable high school students, Ellie and Flair, to talk not just about screen time and school phone policies, but how they really experience technology, anxiety, education, and what it means to grow up today. Ellie and Flair are bright, honest, and totally engaging. They bring a much-needed perspective on teen tech use, mental health, screen addiction, and the nuanced balance between connection and distraction. This isn’t a conversation about teens—it’s a conversation with them. You’ll walk away with new insight into what our kids are thinking and feeling, and hopefully, how we can better support them.
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Links & Resources: The Museum of the Contemporary American Teenager (MoCAT): July 2–7 on the National Mall https://festival.si.edu/2025/youth-future-culture/mocat If this episode has helped you, remember to rate, follow, and share the Self-Driven Child Podcast. Your support helps us reach more people and create more content that makes a difference. If you have a high school aged student and would like to talk about putting a tutoring or college plan together, reach out to Ned's company, PrepMatters at www.prepmatters.com | |||
| Reimagining Education with Dr. Stuart Slavin | 17 Jun 2025 | 00:48:25 | |
Hey folks, Ned here! This episode is a continuation of our eye-opening conversation with Dr. Stuart Slavin, a pediatrician, medical educator, and mental health advocate who's making waves in education reform. We dive deep into the hidden stressors in elite academic environments and explore what happens when you challenge the status quo. In Part Two of our discussion, Stuart unpacks his groundbreaking research on high-performing high schools and reveals the sobering mental health statistics that too often go unnoticed. We also talk about real, practical solutions—from pass/fail grading to autonomy-supportive school cultures—that can drastically improve students' well-being without sacrificing academic outcomes. It's a powerful reminder that doing well and being well don't have to be at odds.
Episode Highlights: [1:54] - Welcoming back Dr. Stuart Slavin and setting the stage for Part Two of our conversation. [3:38] - Why it's "and," not "or": unpacking social media's role in student stress alongside deeper cultural forces. [6:31] - Eye-opening survey data from 18 high schools revealing staggering rates of anxiety and depression. [9:25] - Students define themselves by grades; extracurriculars are no longer fun—they're just more stress. [11:19] - The "free day" pilot at SLU: one day off every other week led to better mental health and test scores. [13:32] - How principles from positive psychology boosted connection, meaning, and performance. [16:33] - Letting go of false incentives: moving from extrinsic to intrinsic motivation through pass/fail reforms. [17:53] - Challenges schools face in shifting culture and making bold changes. [20:06] - Stuart's upcoming parenting book: offering families a saner, science-based path to raising healthy kids. [22:56] - It's not just the kids: how we're all part of the system that's failing them. [25:49] - Schools must redefine what makes them "good": test scores or student wellness? [29:22] - Practical mental health tools: meditation, breathing, and cognitive restructuring. [33:41] - Real-life stories from students who found unexpected joy outside the Ivy League. [35:26] - The dangers of rigid, narrow goals and the power of reframing. [37:21] - Autonomy, connection, competence: how self-determination theory explains what students need. [41:09] - Schools can change—if they have the courage. The research is clear, the model is ready. [42:33] - A challenge to school leaders: want to try this? We’re in. Let’s make it happen.
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| Dr. Stuart Slavin: Simple Curricular Changes That Decreased Student Depression by 85% AND Raised Board Scores | 03 Jun 2025 | 00:32:07 | |
In this episode, I sit down with Dr. Stuart Slavin—pediatrician, medical educator, and a true superhero in the world of educational reform. Stuart’s groundbreaking work has shown that yes, we can dramatically improve student mental health without compromising academic performance—and he has the results to prove it. We get into why today's high schoolers are more stressed than med students, how maladaptive perfectionism is quietly damaging our youth, and what it really means to build resilience that lasts. Whether you're a parent, educator, or just someone who cares deeply about kids and learning, you don’t want to miss this conversation. Stuart's work is inspiring, actionable, and—best of all—hopeful.
Episode Highlights: [0:00] - Introducing our new workbook, "The 7 Principles for Raising a Self-Driven Child".
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| Six Steps to Being a Non-Anxious Presence | 20 May 2025 | 00:27:33 | |
Hey folks, Ned here. In this episode, I’m diving into something that feels more essential now than ever—how to be a non-anxious presence for the people who count on you. Whether it’s your kids, students, partner, or even yourself, being that calm, steadying force can make all the difference. I know from personal experience and years of working with families that this isn’t easy, especially when the world feels like it’s spinning off its axis. So, I break down six practical, research-backed steps you can take to help yourself stay grounded, build emotional resilience, and show up as the helper people need—even when things get messy. I’ll walk you through stories from my own life, including the toughest parenting experience I’ve faced, and offer concrete strategies for managing your own stress so you can be that safe harbor in the storm.
Episode Highlights: [1:47] - Opening reflection on “helpers” and what it means to be a non-anxious presence.
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| Ch. 8: "Seven Principles" for Supporting Student & Teacher Autonomy in Schools | 22 Apr 2025 | 00:42:05 | |
In this episode, I’m joined by my dear friend and co-author, Dr. Bill Stixrud. We dive into a topic that’s been at the heart of so many recent conversations: how schools can do a better job supporting students’ mental health, motivation, and overall well-being. Bill and I have spent a lot of time lately visiting schools, giving talks, and listening—really listening—to what kids are telling us about their experience in today’s education system. We’re talking chronic stress, anxiety, and a relentless pressure to perform that’s robbing too many students of joy and curiosity. In this episode, we explore why this is happening, how schools got here, and most importantly, what we can do to change it. From the science of autonomy to the powerful impact of rethinking homework, we unpack real strategies that can make school a place of growth, not just grades.
Episode Highlights: [1:07] – A student’s bold question about homework and mental health gets a thunderous response.
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| How To Redesign Schools to Unleash Extraordinary Learning For All | 16 Apr 2025 | 00:28:40 | |
If you’ve ever looked at your kid’s school and thought, “Is this really the best we can do?”—this episode is for you. I sat down with the incredible Jenee Henry Wood, a national leader in community-based school design, and co-author of Extraordinary Learning for All. We dive deep into why our current educational system—designed a hundred years ago for a very different world—often fails to meet the needs of today’s young people, and what it would look like to redesign schools to actually serve them better. Jenee brings so much wisdom, humor, and hope to this conversation. We talk about the real challenges of educational reform, how parents and students can become catalysts for change, and what it takes to create schools that are co-owned and co-loved by the communities they serve. Trust me, this isn’t your typical education podcast—it’s a call to action rooted in agency, relevance, and hope.
Episode Highlights: [0:00] - Introducing the episode and our latest book, The Self-Driven Child Workbook
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| Our New Book! The Seven Principles For Raising a Self-Driven Child: A Workbook | 25 Mar 2025 | 00:38:16 | |
In this very special episode, I sit down with my friend and co-author Dr. Bill Stixrud to celebrate the arrival of our third “baby” — our brand new book, The Seven Principles for Raising a Self-Driven Child: A Workbook. If you’ve ever read our earlier books (The Self-Driven Child and What Do You Say?), and found yourself thinking, “I love these ideas, but how do I actually apply them?”—this episode (and this book!) is for you. We created this workbook to help you go beyond the theory and actually make the Self-Driven Child way your way. Bill and I unpack the inspiration behind the workbook and walk through the seven core principles that anchor it. We talk about everything from building calm, connected homes to the delicate art of motivating kids without trying to change them. Along the way, we share powerful stories from families we’ve worked with, lessons from years of practice, and candid reflections from our own parenting journeys. This episode has actionable insights to support you—and your kids—in building a happier, healthier, and more autonomous life.
Episode Highlights: [0:00] - Kicking things off with the big news: our new book has officially launched!
Links & Resources: To order The Seven Principles for Raising a Self-Driven Child: A Workbook: https://politics-prose.com/book/9780143138259 If this episode has helped you, remember to rate, follow, and share the Self-Driven Child Podcast. Your support helps us reach more people and create more content that makes a difference. If you have a high school aged student and would like to talk about putting a tutoring or college plan together, reach out to Ned's company, PrepMatters at www.prepmatters.com | |||
| From Damsel in Distress to Superhero: The Making of a Teen Mental Health Advocate For Students | 25 Feb 2025 | 00:52:23 | |
If you've ever felt like the challenges of school, stress, and expectations are just too much, you’re not alone. In this episode, I sit down with the incredible Riana Alexander, a college freshman and mental health advocate, who turned her own struggles into a movement for change. Riana opens up about her journey—from a high-achieving student battling anxiety and depression to the founder of Arizona Students for Mental Health, a nonprofit dedicated to improving mental health resources in schools. We also dive into her fight for change within her school district, the resistance she faced, and the powerful impact she and her peers have made. We also discuss the misconceptions around mental health, the role schools should play in student well-being, and how adults can better support struggling teens. If you’re a student, a parent, or an educator, this conversation will challenge and inspire you. A quick content note: We do discuss suicidal ideation and suicide in this episode. If you or someone you know needs support, call 988 for the Suicide & Crisis Lifeline. Episode Highlights: [3:10] – Meet Riana: A college student, mental health advocate, and founder of Arizona Students for Mental Health. Links & Resources:
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| A Superhero For Student Autonomy in Schools: Talking With Mike Nicholson About What Works | 18 Feb 2025 | 00:50:04 | |
Hey folks, Ned here! You know how much we all want our kids and students to thrive, but sometimes, despite our best efforts, it feels like we’re stuck in the same old patterns that just don’t work. That’s why I’m thrilled about today’s episode. We’re talking about the concept of student autonomy—why it’s crucial for engagement, learning, and even mental health. And joining me is someone who’s not just talking about change but making it happen: longtime educator and reformer Mike Nicholson. Mike has spent decades in education, from being a teacher to a superintendent to a consultant, and now he’s working directly with schools to help them give students more meaningful control over their learning. We talk about what happens when students have more agency, the impact of constant micromanagement in schools, and how even small changes—like making homework optional—can lead to huge shifts. If you’ve ever wondered why student engagement drops as they move through school or how we can turn things around, this conversation is for you!
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| What I Learned About Motivation From "Ghost Buster" Yegor Denisov-blanch | 04 Feb 2025 | 00:47:14 | |
What if some of the people on your team weren’t actually working—but just good at looking busy? In this episode, I sit down with Yegor Denisov-Blanch to discuss a fascinating and troubling trend in the tech world: ghost engineers. These are software developers whose productivity is so low that they barely contribute—yet they manage to stay employed. Yegor, a researcher dedicated to improving software engineering performance, dives into what causes this phenomenon, why it’s more common than you’d think, and how it affects company culture, team morale, and overall efficiency. But instead of just calling them out, his goal is to understand why this happens—and how to fix it. We also explore how the same disengagement issues that plague workplaces show up in schools. Yegor shares his own unconventional education journey, having dropped out of the traditional system at 14, teaching himself to code, and later excelling in university. What does this say about the way we measure productivity and success—not just in work, but in learning?
Episode Highlights: [00:49] - What exactly is a ghost engineer, and why are companies unknowingly paying them? [03:41] - The research behind software engineer performance and why measuring it has been difficult. [06:38] - How ghost engineers operate—are they just lazy, or is there something deeper going on? [10:41] - The surprising psychological and workplace culture factors that push employees toward disengagement. [15:22] - The role of trust in the workplace and why micromanagement can actually increase disengagement. [23:30] - How remote work has changed productivity—for better and worse. [25:18] - Yegor’s unconventional education journey: Dropping out of 8th grade, starting a business at 14, and later graduating top of his class. [32:24] - How personalized learning and self-directed education could prevent disengagement in students before they enter the workforce. [40:30] - The bigger mission: Not just exposing ghost engineers, but fixing the system so they don’t need to exist.
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| Student Autonomy in School: Yep, It's Possible! | 24 Jan 2025 | 00:51:47 | |
In this episode, I sit down with Amy Buckman, an incredible educator and school counselor from Ohio. Amy has spent 19 years helping students navigate everything from mental health challenges to career counseling, all while motivating them to achieve their goals. We dive deep into the concept of student autonomy and how it’s transforming schools through an innovative three-year grant program aimed at fostering student engagement and agency. Amy shares how her district is reimagining education by focusing on what really motivates students, exploring concepts like Flex Fridays, and even shadowing students to understand their daily challenges. If you’ve ever wondered how schools can adapt to meet the needs of a changing world while supporting kids’ mental health and academic growth, this episode is packed with insights you won’t want to miss!
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| The Disengaged Teen Part 2 | 14 Jan 2025 | 00:36:37 | |
In this follow-up episode, I continue my conversation with Rebecca Winthrop and Jenny Anderson, authors of The Disengaged Teen: Helping Kids Learn Better, Feel Better, and Live Better. We dive deeper into the strategies parents and educators can use to support kids who feel stuck in “passenger mode.” From fostering autonomy to the importance of relational health, Rebecca and Jenny share actionable insights grounded in science and their own life experiences. We also explore what it takes to help kids move from disengagement to becoming true “explorers,” igniting curiosity and confidence. Whether you’re a parent, teacher, or simply passionate about education, this episode offers powerful takeaways on how to redefine achievement, support mental health, and create environments where kids can thrive.
Episode Highlights: [0:00] - Kicking off Part 2: How nagging impacts kids’ learning and why relational health matters.
Links & Resources: Rebecca and Jenny's book: The Disengaged Teen: Helping Kids Learn Better, Feel Better, and Live Better If this episode has helped you, remember to rate, follow, and share the Self-Driven Child Podcast. Your support helps us reach more people and create more content that makes a difference. If you have a high school aged student and would like to talk about putting a tutoring or college plan together, reach out to Ned's company, PrepMatters at www.prepmatters.com | |||
| The Disengaged Teen Part 1 | 07 Jan 2025 | 00:34:07 | |
Are you worried about how engaged your child is in school and their learning? You’re not alone. In this episode of The Self-Driven Child Podcast, I sit down with two powerhouse guests—Rebecca Winthrop and Jenny Anderson—authors of the book The Disengaged Teen: Helping Kids Learn Better, Feel Better, and Live Better. Together, we dive into the alarming trends of disengagement among kids as they transition from tots to teens and why so many high schoolers feel disconnected from their education. Rebecca and Jenny share their personal experiences, surprising research findings, and practical strategies that empower kids to take charge of their learning. We discuss the crucial role of agency in fostering curiosity and resilience, why high achievement doesn’t have to come at the expense of mental health, and how even "problem kids" can thrive when they find their spark. This is Part 1 of our conversation, and you won’t want to miss it.
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Links & Resources: Rebecca and Jenny's book: The Disengaged Teen: Helping Kids Learn Better, Feel Better, and Live Better If this episode has helped you, remember to rate, follow, and share the Self-Driven Child Podcast. Your support helps us reach more people and create more content that makes a difference.
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| Independent Travel: A low-cost, high-impact way to prepare teens for college and life | 22 Nov 2024 | 00:51:59 | |
Ready to ignite your child’s wanderlust? In this episode of The Self-Driven Child Podcast, I sit down with the incredible Blake Bole, an expert in self-directed learning and international travel for teens and young adults. From unschooling to transformative travel experiences, Blake shares how navigating the world independently helps young people develop autonomy, financial responsibility, and stress tolerance—essential skills for life. We explore the power of independent travel, the magic of gap years, and how simple, unstructured adventures can foster confidence and resilience.
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| The SAT, ACT, and Other Four-Letter Words: What Do You Say When Your Kid's Scores are Low? | 12 Nov 2024 | 00:21:45 | |
Let’s talk about a reality that many parents and teens face: handling disappointing standardized test scores. It’s a topic that stirs up all kinds of feelings—stress, doubt, frustration—and how we as parents respond makes all the difference. I share how common phrases, despite being well-intentioned, can unintentionally add pressure or shut down meaningful conversations. You’ll walk away with a better understanding of what to say to your teen when they’re disappointed and how to be that steady, supportive presence they need most. Whether it’s the PSAT, SAT, ACT, or any high-stakes test, your words matter and can make a world of difference in guiding them through it.
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| A Sense of Control Continued: How Students Achieve Academic Success With Less Stress | 05 Nov 2024 | 00:23:17 | |
In this continuation episode, I’m back with Dr. Bill Stixrud for part two of our discussion that digs into the realities of raising kids in high-pressure academic environments. We explore the subtle yet powerful concept of being a “non-anxious presence” as a parent and what that really means when guiding children through challenges. Bill and I touch on real stories from our practices and new strategies that emphasize motivation without pushing too hard—helping kids build resilience, autonomy, and self-confidence in a world brimming with expectations.
Episode Highlights: [0:00] Introduction to being a “non-anxious presence” and its impact on children.
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| A Sense of Control: How Students Achieve Academic Success With Less Stress | 24 Oct 2024 | 00:30:48 | |
In this episode of The Self-Driven Child Podcast, I’m joined by the brilliant Dr. Bill Stixrud, co-author of The Self-Driven Child and What Do You Say? We dive into the challenges parents face around academic pressure, mental health, and helping kids find their way without being overwhelmed by stress. Bill shares powerful insights on why a sense of control is so essential to young people's mental well-being, and we explore practical strategies for fostering resilience, decision-making, and problem-solving skills in children. This episode is perfect for parents, educators, or anyone working with kids who wants to learn how to support them better without adding more pressure. If you're looking to understand how to motivate your kids without micromanaging or forcing change, you’ll love what we have to share. Tune in as we unpack the importance of being a “consultant” to your child and how building strong, empathetic connections can reduce stress and improve mental health.
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| Grades, Rakes, and Reflection: Helping Kids Do Less To Do Better - With Teacher & Writer Tim Donahue | 08 Oct 2024 | 00:49:02 | |
In this episode, I sit down with Tim Donahue, a seasoned high school English teacher and a writer, to dive into the pressures of grade inflation, the impact on student resilience, and why kids today feel overwhelmed by academic and extracurricular demands. Tim’s unique perspective, drawn from years in the classroom and as a published writer, sheds light on how grade inflation and the drive for high grades may actually be compromising students' learning and mental health. Together, we explore how students and parents can navigate the academic landscape to foster genuine learning, creativity, and stress tolerance. Tim also shares his insights on the importance of doing less to achieve more, advocating for a balanced approach that prioritizes reflection and meaningful engagement over relentless achievement.
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| Brainless Education: A Conversation About the Brain Science Too Often Ignored in Most Schools | 01 Oct 2024 | 00:46:36 | |
Welcome to The Self-Driven Child podcast! In this episode, I chat with Dr. William Stixrud, co-author of The Self-Driven Child, to explore the concept of “brainless education” and why the way we approach learning in schools often overlooks the very organ meant to do the learning: the brain. We explore how prioritizing stress reduction, sleep, and autonomy for students can revolutionize not just their academic success, but also their mental health and intrinsic motivation. Together, we discuss how giving kids more control over their learning and personal lives can foster better stress tolerance and deeper engagement with education. Dr. Stixrud shares research-based insights, and we provide actionable ideas on how educators, parents, and students themselves can shift toward a brain-friendly approach.
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| Parental (Over) Involvement & The Start of College - A Conversation with Jess Lahey | 03 Sep 2024 | 00:44:17 | |
In this episode of the Self Driven Child podcast, I'm thrilled to welcome back one of my favorite voices in parenting, Jess Lahey. Jess is a New York Times bestselling author, an educator, and someone who's been on the front lines of both teaching and parenting. We discuss the emotional rollercoaster that is the transition from high school to college—not just for our kids, but for us as parents too.
Episode Highlights: [00:42] - Introduction to the episode and guest Jess Lahey. [3:25] - Jess shares her experience with her children's transition to college. [7:09] - The importance of letting kids create their own identity in college. [14:24] - How to support your child without taking over, and the power of apology. [22:19] - Preparing kids for the unexpected challenges in college. [26:19] - The importance of helping kids build competence and a sense of control. [39:17] - Understanding why kids push away during major transitions and how to handle it.
Links & Resources: https://www.cnn.com/2024/08/16/health/college-student-independence-wellness/index.html https://www.jessicalahey.com/comingofageinthemiddle/2015/6/21/season-of-the-malcontents
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| What Do You Say? Why we LOVE Book #2! | 06 Aug 2024 | 00:26:29 | |
In this episode, I sit down with my co-author, Dr. William R. Stixrud, to do an origin story into the key concepts from our latest book, "What Do You Say?: How to Talk with Kids to Build Motivation, Stress Tolerance, and a Happy Home". We discuss the crucial importance of connection between parents and children, exploring how empathy and validation can transform relationships and foster mental well-being. Bill shares insights from our research and experiences, highlighting the profound impact of close relationships on kids' stress levels and overall happiness. Tune in as we unpack practical strategies for effective communication and building stronger bonds with your children.
Episode Highlights: [01:37] - Bill discusses the motivation behind writing our second book, "What Do You Say?".
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| The Self-Driven Child: How We Got There (aka The Marvel Origin Story) | 09 Jul 2024 | 00:33:10 | |
Today we are talking about the roots of "The Self Driven Child" with my co-author, Dr. William R. Stixrud. Discover how our understanding of autonomy and control transformed our approach to parenting and education. We explore the neuroscience behind stress and motivation, sharing our journey from initial insights to the profound impact our work has had globally. Join us as we recount our Marvel origin story and reveal the science and anecdotes that shaped our bestselling books. Dr. William Stixrud, a clinical neuropsychologist, joins me, Ned Johnson, as we discuss the key principles of our collaboration. From handling stress to fostering intrinsic motivation, this episode covers it all. Whether you're a long-time listener or new to our podcast, this episode offers valuable insights into creating a supportive environment for children and young adults. Episode Highlights: [0:34] - Welcoming Dr. William Stixrud and introducing the topic of autonomy and control. [1:34] - The global impact of "The Self Driven Child" and the importance of a sense of control. [2:12] - Discussing stress and its effects on the brain from Dr. Stixrud's early research. [5:39] - How stress and control relate to motivation and mental health. [6:28] - Personal anecdotes and professional experiences on stress and motivation. [8:45] - The concept of autonomy in parenting and education. [13:17] - The bi-directional relationship between stress and brain function. [17:07] - Practical advice on supporting autonomy in children. [20:24] - The impact of test preparation on stress and performance. [25:38] - Addressing the physiological aspects of stress and anxiety. [30:02] - Reflections on the journey of writing "The Self Driven Child". [31:03] - Concluding thoughts and a sneak peek into the next episode. If this episode has helped you, remember to rate, follow, and share the Self-Driven Child Podcast. Your support helps us reach more people and create more content that makes a difference. If you have a high school aged student and would like to talk about putting a tutoring or college plan together, reach out to Ned's company, PrepMatters at www.prepmatters.com | |||
| Choosing a New School: Why, When, and How | 18 Jun 2024 | 00:43:30 | |
Hey everyone, welcome back to The Self-Driven Child Podcast! In this episode, I sit down with the incredibly insightful Wendy Wilkinson, a parent educator and admissions expert with decades of experience. Wendy shares her wisdom on how to find the right school for your child, navigating the complex world of school choices, and understanding what makes a good fit for different types of learners. Whether you're a parent feeling the pressure of school admissions or just curious about the process, this episode is packed with valuable insights and practical advice. Episode Highlights: [00:00] - Wendy discusses the initial reactions parents have when told their child may need extra support. [00:40] - Introduction to the podcast and today’s topic on choosing the right school. [01:47] - Welcoming Wendy Wilkinson and a brief overview of her impressive background. [04:53] - Wendy shares her dream of helping families find the right school for each child. [07:20] - Overcoming the challenges of school admissions and finding the right fit. [10:56] - Exploring different types of schools and the importance of a tailored fit. [13:19] - How to handle learning differences and finding supportive school environments. [16:37] - Tips for parents on how to identify when a school change might be necessary. [22:22] - The importance of involving children in school decisions. [26:06] - Evaluating schools and understanding what makes a good fit. [29:34] - Navigating the admissions process and understanding school selection criteria. [37:57] - Advice for parents on filtering out noise and focusing on their child's unique needs. [41:00] - Where to find Wendy and her team for personalized education consulting.
Links & Resources: Connect with Wendy: https://www.schoolfirstnyc.com/ If this episode has helped you, remember to rate, follow, and share the Self-Driven Child Podcast. Your support helps us reach more people and create more content that makes a difference. If you have a high school aged student and would like to talk about putting a tutoring or college plan together, reach out to Ned's company, PrepMatters at www.prepmatters.com If you have a high school aged student and would like to talk about putting a tutoring or college plan together, reach out to Ned's company, PrepMatters at www.prepmatters.com | |||
| Lessons on Self-Directed Learning with "Adventure Kaity!" Part 2 | 11 Jun 2024 | 00:31:13 | |
Welcome back to the Self Driven Child Podcast! In this episode, we're continuing our incredible conversation with Kaity Broadbent, head of learning at Prenda. Kaity's insights into creating nurturing learning environments are game-changing, and in this second part, we dive even deeper. We discuss the importance of relatedness, competence, and autonomy in child development and how these principles can transform both home and school settings. Kaity's passion and wisdom are truly inspiring—this is an episode you don't want to miss! Kaity shares profound stories and practical strategies for parents and educators to foster a supportive environment where children can thrive. We explore the impact of adult-child relationships on brain development, the power of empathy, and the importance of giving kids autonomy.
Episode Highlights: [00:00] - Introduction to the episode and recap of Part 1 with Kaity Broadbent. [00:55] - Kaity shares an analogy about creating nurturing environments for children. [02:25] - The impact of unconditional positive regard on children's brain development. [06:31] - Kaity's unique exercise with educators to highlight the importance of empathy and positive reinforcement. [08:53] - Discussion on common but ineffective methods used to motivate children. [10:03] - The role of stress and how it affects children's learning and behavior. [12:57] - How comparing children to others and using rewards/punishments can backfire. [16:26] - Strategies for parents to help their children navigate less supportive learning environments. [18:23] - The significance of having at least one caring adult in a child's life. [20:50] - Kaity's personal story about the importance of merit-based approval and its effects. [24:01] - The difference between common and normal behavior in children and how to support them. [29:58] - Where to follow Kaity Broadbent and learn more about Prenda.
Links & Resources: Prenda Micro-Schools: https://www.prenda.com/ Social Media: @PrendaLearn KindlED Podcast: https://www.prenda.com/kindled
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If you have a high school aged student and would like to talk about putting a tutoring or college plan together, reach out to Ned's company, PrepMatters at www.prepmatters.com | |||
| Lessons on Self-Directed Learning with "Adventure Kaity!" Part 1 | 04 Jun 2024 | 00:30:24 | |
Today, I'm thrilled to have Kaity Broadbent, an extraordinary educator and parent, joining us. Kaity is the head of learning at Prenda, an organization dedicated to creating micro-schools that empower students and parents alike. In this episode, we dive into Kaity's unique approach to education, the psychology of motivation, and the incredible benefits of mastery-based learning. Join us as we discuss how to transform the traditional learning environment into one that fosters autonomy, intrinsic motivation, and lifelong learning. Kaity shares her insights on the importance of relatedness, competency, and autonomy in education, and how Prenda’s micro-schools are revolutionizing the way kids learn. This conversation is packed with valuable takeaways for parents, educators, and anyone interested in the future of education. Don't miss out on part 2 of our conversation in the next episode!
Episode Highlights: [00:30] - Introduction to Kaity Broadbent and Prenda’s mission. [02:02] - Kaity's journey into homeschooling and micro-schools. [04:33] - What is a micro-school and how does Prenda support student-centered learning? [06:42] - The challenge of traditional classroom settings and the importance of individualized learning. [07:59] - Explaining the "zone of proximal development" and its role in mastery-based education. [10:03] - Real-life example of a student's excitement in mastering math through self-set goals. [12:19] - Integrating self-determination theory into education: competence, relatedness, and autonomy. [18:36] - The power of positive language and autonomy-supportive teaching methods. [22:23] - The difference between controlling students and fostering self-governance. [25:15] - Building trust and positive relationships with students and the impact on long-term influence.
Links & Resources: Prenda Micro-Schools: https://www.prenda.com/ If this episode has helped you, remember to rate, follow, and share the Self-Driven Child Podcast. Your support helps us reach more people and create more content that makes a difference. If you have a high school aged student and would like to talk about putting a tutoring or college plan together, reach out to Ned's company, PrepMatters at www.prepmatters.com If you have a high school aged student and would like to talk about putting a tutoring or college plan together, reach out to Ned's company, PrepMatters at www.prepmatters.com | |||
| Who’s Ready for College? with William Stixrud, Ph.D. | 23 Apr 2024 | 00:41:11 | |
In today's episode, we explore the complexities of an issue that's close to the hearts of parents, teachers, and students alike—college readiness. Alongside my friend and co-author Bill Stixrud, we discuss the crucial aspects that determine whether a high-school student is truly ready to take on the challenges of college life. We start by questioning the common rush towards college right after high school, bringing to light the concerning rates of dropout and burnout among college freshmen. Our conversation covers effective strategies for assessing and enhancing readiness, emphasizing the importance of emotional resilience and maturity over mere academic preparation. Listen in to gain insights into making the transition to college successful and sustainable. If you have a high school aged student and would like to talk about putting a tutoring or college plan together, reach out to Ned's company, PrepMatters at www.prepmatters.com | |||
| The Craziest Year Ever in College Admission with Jeff Selingo | 26 Mar 2024 | 00:44:56 | |
In this episode of the Self-Driven Child Podcast, we're discussing the ever-tumultuous world of college admissions with special guest Jeff Selingo, a seasoned expert and author who's spent over two decades exploring higher education. We’ll dissect the complexities of the admissions process, the heightened stress it causes students and parents alike, and ponder the crucial question: can anything be done to alleviate this pressure? Join us as we navigate through Jeff’s latest insights and offer a fresh perspective on making the journey to college less daunting. If you have a high school aged student and would like to talk about putting a tutoring or college plan together, reach out to Ned's company, PrepMatters at www.prepmatters.com | |||
| The Sleep-Deprived Teen with Lisa L. Lewis | 27 Feb 2024 | 00:49:39 | |
Listen in as I chat with Journalist Lisa L. Lewis about the importance of sleep for teens. We explore why sleep matters for learning, behavior, and mental health. Lisa also shares her pivotal role in getting California to pass a landmark law on healthy school start times. We covered everything from the science of sleep to practical tips for ensuring our teens get the rest they need. You won't want to miss this episode if you're looking to understand the crucial role sleep plays in your teenager's life and well-being. If you have a high school aged student and would like to talk about putting a tutoring or college plan together, reach out to Ned's company, PrepMatters at www.prepmatters.com | |||
| Hunt, Gather, Parent with Michaeleen Doucleff | 30 Jan 2024 | 01:03:05 | |
In this episode, I chat with NPR reporter Michaeleen Doucleff about her New York Times bestseller, Hunt, Gather, Parent: What Ancient Cultures Can Teach Us About the Lost Art of Raising Happy, Helpful Little Humans. If you have a high school aged student and would like to talk about putting a tutoring or college plan together, reach out to Ned's company, PrepMatters at www.prepmatters.com | |||