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After eight years the podcast has changed names! Pressing Pause has become the Quiet ADHD Podcast.

In this episode for the special Better Read Book Fest season of the podcast I spoke with clinical psychologist Dr Emma Hepburn, author of The Anti-Burnout Book as well as several other books.

We discussed:

How burnout isn’t just about exhaustion and what else is involved

Emma’s own experience of burnout

How our ‘capacity cup’ explains that little things can tip you over into burnout

Why women struggle to protect their own capacity

How neurodivergent burnout can look and feel different

Why burnout often comes from your best qualities, not your worst

Emma’s rules for burnout recovery

To hear more from Emma and all the authors at Better Read Book Fest get your ticket while they’re available at betterreadbookfest.com.

If what I share in this podcast resonates with you and you’re looking for support go to gabrielletreanor.com. And if you’d like to share this or any of my podcast episodes on social media or with your friends or family that would help more quiet ADHDers to know they’re not alone too.

Resources:

* Connect with Dr Emma Hepburn https://dremmahepburn.com on Substack https://substack.com/@thepsychologymum and on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/thepsychologymum/

* Find out more about the Quiet ADHD Club and join here.

* Get your Better Read Book Fest ticket here. Follow Better Read Book Fest on Instagram here.

* If what I’m sharing resonates with you I’d love to hear from you, email me gabrielle@gabrielletreanor.com.

* Read my posts about the experience of a midlife, late-discovered ADHD woman here.

* You can find more info including my coaching services on my website here.

After eight years the podcast has changed names! Pressing Pause has become the Quiet ADHD Podcast.

For this episode in the special Better Read Book Fest season of the podcast my conversation is with Nadia Narain and Katia Narain Phillips, the authors of Glimmers.

We explored:

• What a ‘glimmer’ actually is and it’s connection to the nervous system

• The misunderstanding that nervous system regulation means being calm

• Allowing big and uncomfortable feelings

• The warning about turning glimmer-hunting becoming something to strive for

• Why noticing glimmers is a muscle you have to train, like exercise

• The impact on the authors from the process of writing this book

To hear more from Sula and all the authors at Better Read Book Fest get your ticket while they’re available at betterreadbookfest.com.

If what I share in this podcast resonates with you and you’re looking for support go to gabrielletreanor.com. And if you’d like to share this or any of my podcast episodes on social media or with your friends or family that would help more quiet ADHDers to know they’re not alone too.

Resources:

* Connect with Nadia and Katia https://www.nadiaandkatia.com and on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/nadia.and.katia/

* Find out more about the Quiet ADHD Club and join here.

* Get your Better Read Book Fest ticket here. Follow Better Read Book Fest on Instagram here.

* If what I’m sharing resonates with you I’d love to hear from you, email me gabrielle@gabrielletreanor.com.

* Read my posts about the experience of a midlife, late-discovered ADHD woman here.

* You can find more info including my coaching services on my website here.

After eight years the podcast has changed names! Pressing Pause has become the Quiet ADHD Podcast.

In this episode in the special Better Read Book Fest season of the podcast I spoke with health psychologist Dr Sula Windgassen, who’s the author of It’s All in Your Body.

We discussed:

• How the book title challenges the phrase ‘it’s all in your mind’

• The health crisis that sent Sula down the path to her career and this book

• Why some find it easy to notice signals from their body while others find it much harder

• The meaning of ‘a threatened brain is a threatened body’

• The distinction between pain and suffering

• What cotton wool has to do with experiencing real support

• The connection between understanding our body and self-compassion

To hear more from Sula and all the authors at Better Read Book Fest get your ticket while they’re available at betterreadbookfest.com.

If what I share in this podcast resonates with you and you’re looking for support go to gabrielletreanor.com. And if you’d like to share this or any of my podcast episodes on social media or with your friends or family that would help more quiet ADHDers to know they’re not alone too.

Resources:

* Connect with Dr Sula Windgassen https://www.healthpsychologist.co.uk/ and on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/the_health_psychologist_

* Find out more about the Quiet ADHD Club and join here.

* Get your Better Read Book Fest ticket here. Follow Better Read Book Fest on Instagram here.

* If what I’m sharing resonates with you I’d love to hear from you, email me gabrielle@gabrielletreanor.com.

* Read my posts about the experience of a midlife, late-discovered ADHD woman here.

* You can find more info including my coaching services on my website here.

After eight years the podcast has changed names! Pressing Pause has become the Quiet ADHD Podcast.

For our conversation in this episode of the special Better Read Book Fest season of the podcast I spoke with NHS GP and menopause specialist, Dr Helen Wall who is the author of Menopause and ADHD.

We discussed:

• The medical blind spot which meant women were missed for so long

• Why perimenopause and ADHD can be a “double whammy” on the brain

• Women’s bigger biological and hormonal picture

• “I’m just looking for an excuse” – the self-gaslighting so many women do before seeking help

• How to prepare for a GP appointment that gets you heard

• What HRT can (and can’t) do for the ADHD-perimenopause overlap

• Formal diagnosis vs. self-identification and why you don’t have to wait to get support

To hear more from Dr Helen and all the authors at Better Read Book Fest get your ticket while they’re available at betterreadbookfest.com.

If what I share in this podcast resonates with you and you’re looking for support go to gabrielletreanor.com. And if you’d like to share this or any of my podcast episodes on social media or with your friends or family that would help more quiet ADHDers to know they’re not alone too.

Resources:

* Connect with Dr Helen Wall on her website https://drhelenwall.com Instagram https://www.instagram.com/doctorhelenwall/ and Facebook https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61579042582916

* Find out more about the Quiet ADHD Club and join here.

* Get your Better Read Book Fest ticket here. Follow Better Read Book Fest on Instagram here.

* If what I’m sharing resonates with you I’d love to hear from you, email me gabrielle@gabrielletreanor.com.

* Read my posts about the experience of a midlife, late-discovered ADHD woman here.

* You can find more info including my coaching services on my website here.

After eight years the podcast has changed names! Pressing Pause has become the Quiet ADHD Podcast.

In this episode in the special Better Read Book Fest season of the podcast I spoke with psychotherapist and coach Natasha Page, who’s the author of Believe You’re Made for More.

We discussed:

• The vulnerability in writing a book that shared Natasha’s own struggles with self-esteem

• The everyday habits that quietly signal low self-esteem

• Why self-deprecating humour isn’t as harmless as it seems

• The link between neurodivergence and self-esteem

• Turning your struggles into fuel instead of shame

• Natasha’s seven steps to rebuilding self-worth

To hear more from Natasha and all the authors at Better Read Book Fest get your ticket while they’re available at betterreadbookfest.com.

If what I share in this podcast resonates with you and you’re looking for support go to gabrielletreanor.com. And if you’d like to share this or any of my podcast episodes on social media or with your friends or family that would help more quiet ADHDers to know they’re not alone too.

Resources:

* Connect with Natasha Page https://www.natashapagemsc.com @natashapagemsc on social media

* Find out more about the Quiet ADHD Club and join here.

* Get your Better Read Book Fest ticket here. Follow Better Read Book Fest on Instagram here.

* If what I’m sharing resonates with you I’d love to hear from you, email me gabrielle@gabrielletreanor.com.

* Read my posts about the experience of a midlife, late-discovered ADHD woman here.

* You can find more info including my coaching services on my website here.

After eight years the podcast has changed names! Pressing Pause has become the Quiet ADHD Podcast.

For this episode in the special Better Read Book Fest season of the podcast I had a fascinating conversation with Natalie Lue, author of The Joy of Saying No along with several other books and Baggage Reclaim – one of the longest-running self-help blogs in the world.

We discussed:

• Five hidden types of people-pleasing

• The ‘Age of Obedience’ and why saying no still feels so hard

• Why efforting and burnout go hand in hand

• The ADHD link to ‘try harder’ conditioning

• Why that ADHD driving energy can suck the joy out of things you actually want to do

• Natalie’s six-step path to actually finding joy in saying no

To hear more from Natalie and all the authors at Better Read Book Fest get your ticket while they’re available at betterreadbookfest.com.

If what I share in this podcast resonates with you and you’re looking for support go to gabrielletreanor.com. And if you’d like to share this or any of my podcast episodes on social media or with your friends or family that would help more quiet ADHDers to know they’re not alone too.

Resources:

* Connect with Natalie Lue www.baggagereclaim.com & www.natalielue.com Instagram: www.instagram.com/natlue

* Find out more about the Quiet ADHD Club and join here.

* Get your Better Read Book Fest ticket here. Follow Better Read Book Fest on Instagram here.

* If what I’m sharing resonates with you I’d love to hear from you, email me gabrielle@gabrielletreanor.com.

* Read my posts about the experience of a midlife, late-discovered ADHD woman here.

* You can find more info including my coaching services on my website here.

After eight years the podcast has changed names! Pressing Pause has become the Quiet ADHD Podcast.

For this first episode in the special Better Read Book Fest season of the podcast I had the joy of chatting with Suzy Reading, chartered psychologist and author of How to Be Selfish along with several other books.

We discussed:

• A definition of “selfish” that’ll surprise you

• The one-word swap that changes how you talk to yourself

• The power in how you name and talk to your ADHD brain

• Why negative self-talk is really self-harm

• The everyday habits quietly turning up your ADHD inner noise

• A 7-step framework for reclaiming your power

To hear more from Suzy and all the authors at Better Read Book Fest get your ticket while they’re available at betterreadbookfest.com.

If what I share in this podcast resonates with you and you’re looking for support go to gabrielletreanor.com. And if you’d like to share this or any of my podcast episodes on social media or with your friends or family that would help more quiet ADHDers to know they’re not alone too.

Resources:

* Connect with Suzy www.suzyreading.co.uk Follow on Instagram: www.instagram.com/suzyreading/  How to Be Selfish: https://smarturl.it/howtobeselfish

* Find out more about the Quiet ADHD Club and join here.

* Get your Better Read Book Fest ticket here. Follow Better Read Book Fest on Instagram here.

* If what I’m sharing resonates with you I’d love to hear from you, email me gabrielle@gabrielletreanor.com.

* Read my posts about the experience of a midlife, late-discovered ADHD woman here.

* You can find more info including my coaching services on my website here.

After eight years the podcast has changed names! Pressing Pause has become the Quiet ADHD Podcast.

The thing with discovering you have ADHD – an explanation for how you feel, think, act and react – is that it changes how you treat yourself when you feel, think, act and react the way you do.

Without this understanding I went through the first almost five decades of my life verbally berating myself. Criticising and shaming myself. Telling myself over and over that I was lacking, I was failing, I was too sensitive, I wasn’t strong enough… With this understanding I have drastically changed how I speak to and treat myself.

I’ve been thinking about scenarios in everyday life and how different my response and treatment of myself has become in recent years compared to how it was before I discovered my ADHD. I thought I’d share three of them with you in this episode, perhaps they’ll sound familiar.

If what I share in this podcast resonates with you and you’re looking for support go to gabrielletreanor.com. And if you’d like to share this or any of my podcast episodes on social media or with your friends or family that would help more quiet ADHDers to know they’re not alone too.

Resources:

* Find out more about the Quiet ADHD Club and join here.

* Get your Better Read Book Fest ticket here. Follow Better Read Book Fest on Instagram here.

* If what I’m sharing resonates with you I’d love to hear from you, email me gabrielle@gabrielletreanor.com.

* Read my posts about the experience of a midlife, late-discovered ADHD woman here.

* You can find more info including my coaching services on my website here.

Last month saw the 15th anniversary of my stepping away from paid employment as the deputy editor of a children’s newspaper to work full-time for myself. A lot has happened in those 15 years and I thought I’d share 15 lessons and observations I’ve taken from these years working for myself that apply just as much to life as they do to business.

If what I share in this podcast resonates with you and you’re looking for support go to gabrielletreanor.com. And if you’d like to share this or any of my podcast episodes on social media or with your friends or family that would help more quiet ADHDers to know they’re not alone too.

Resources:

* Find out more about the Quiet ADHD Club and join here.

* Get your Better Read Book Fest Early Bird ticket with Festival Gift Bag here. Follow Better Read Book Fest on Instagram here.

* If what I’m sharing resonates with you I’d love to hear from you, email me gabrielle@gabrielletreanor.com.

* Read my posts about the experience of a midlife, late-discovered ADHD woman here.

* You can find more info including my coaching services on my website here.

Accountability is something that comes up a lot in conversations with my coaching clients and in my Quiet ADHD Club membership. It’s a funny thing because it can be helpful, it can feel like nagging, and it can invoke the rebel within us.

In this episode I’m sharing the different ways we can relate to inner and outer expectations along with three key tools I use when I struggle to get stuff done..

If what I share in this podcast resonates with you and you’re looking for support go to gabrielletreanor.com. And if you’d like to share this or any of my podcast episodes on social media or with your friends or family that would help more quiet ADHDers to know they’re not alone too.

Resources:

* Get your Better Read Book Fest Early Bird ticket with Festival Gift Bag here. Follow Better Read Book Fest on Instagram here.

* If what I’m sharing resonates with you I’d love to hear from you, email me gabrielle@gabrielletreanor.com.

* Read my posts about the experience of a midlife, late-discovered ADHD woman here.

* Find out more about the Quiet ADHD Club and join here.

* You can find more info including my coaching services on my website here.

Toni Jones and I talked about everything involved in the UK’s first literary festival dedicated to wellbeing books – Better Read Book Fest – taking place in Abergavenny, south Wales, on Saturday 3 October (early bird ticket offer ends Wednesday 17 June):

* Why create this festival

* Who the speaking authors are and their books

* What will happen on the day including Toni’s involvement

* Who the festival is for and how lots of people are coming on their own

* What the process of creating the Festival has been like so far

* What you get in the Early Bird ticket offer

* Why the day itself is going to be special

We packed it all into 22 minutes!

You can find all the info including the authors, the schedule for the day, how to get there and get your tickets at betterreadbookfest.com.

Sometimes following your ADHD curiosity and creativity leads you down quite unexpected paths – like creating the UK's first literary festival dedicated entirely to wellbeing books!

In this episode I'm sharing the next instalment of my Festival Diaries including the amazing authors who will be speaking at Better Read Book Fest and which of my ADHD buttons it's pressing.

Early Bird tickets are available now until Wednesday 17 June – you can save money AND get a Festival Gift Bag packed with goodies!

If what I share in this podcast resonates with you and you’re looking for support go to gabrielletreanor.com. And if you’d like to share this or any of my podcast episodes on social media or with your friends or family that would help more quiet ADHDers to know they’re not alone too.

Resources:

* Get your Better Read Book Fest Early Bird ticket with Festival Gift Bag here. Follow Better Read Book Fest on Instagram here.

* If what I’m sharing resonates with you I’d love to hear from you, email me gabrielle@gabrielletreanor.com.

* Read my posts about the experience of a midlife, late-discovered ADHD woman here.

* Find out more about the Quiet ADHD Club and join here.

* You can find more info including my coaching services on my website here.

Procrastination and motivation can be a real struggle for ADHDers so I thought we’d get practical in this episode and I’d share what helps me do things that I’m finding hard to get on and do.

If what I share in this podcast resonates with you and you’re looking for support go to gabrielletreanor.com. And if you’d like to share this or any of my podcast episodes on social media or with your friends or family that would help more quiet ADHDers to know they’re not alone too.

Resources:

* Get your Better Read Book Fest Early Bird ticket with Festival Gift Bag here. Follow Better Read Book Fest on Instagram here.

* If what I’m sharing resonates with you I’d love to hear from you, email me gabrielle@gabrielletreanor.com.

* Read my posts about the experience of a midlife, late-discovered ADHD woman here.

* Find out more about the Quiet ADHD Club and join here.

* You can find more info including my coaching services on my website here.

Toni Jones and I had a great conversation about writing, reading 1000+ books including a particularly famous self-help book that we both struggle with, recommendations for your TBR pile, and lots more (just ignore the first minute or so of me having tech woes).

There is a brief window to order Toni’s book – YOU (The Beginner’s Guide) – so don’t delay! Hope on over to The Pound Project’s site here and order it now.

Thank you Claire Venus ✨, Margaret Williams, MS, ACC, Angela Limb, Emmett Tatter, and many others for joining us.

Because we’ve been taught that we need to pick a thing and stick to it, that consistency is next to goodliness, we've taken on the message that to get bored of an interest or hobby and drop it shows we’re flaky, faddish, and can’t commit.

Which means we feel shame for the stash of supplies gathering dust, we’re embarrassed about our excitement over a new interest that turned to boredom and we stop ourselves from trying new things, from following our curiosity in case it becomes yet more proof that we’re incapable of consistency.

In this episode I share my own shame struggles and argue the value of allowing ourselves to explore our curiosity and play, what there is to be gained and where it could lead.

If what I share in this podcast resonates with you and you’re looking for support go to gabrielletreanor.com. And if you’d like to share this or any of my podcast episodes on social media or with your friends or family that would help more quiet ADHDers to know they’re not alone too.

Resources:

* Get your ticket to Better Read Book Fest when the first Early Bird special offer tickets go on sale Saturday 9 May or get access a day earlier by signing up here. Follow Better Read Book Fest on Instagram here.

* If what I’m sharing resonates with you I’d love to hear from you, email me gabrielle@gabrielletreanor.com.

* Read my posts about the experience of a midlife, late-discovered ADHD woman here.

* Find out more about the Quiet ADHD Club and join here.

* You can find more info including my coaching services on my website here.

As introverted, sensitive women who spent most of our lives oblivious to our neurodivergence, as did everyone around us, we find it SO hard to believe or feel that we have permission, that it’s okay, that we’re allowed to do, say, be, ask for, or take what we want or need.

After decades of taking on board the message that we need to live by others’ rules and expectations, that someone ‘better’ than us needs to signal their approval, we find it incredibly difficult to give ourselves permission.

To allow ourselves to state what we need or want, what we like or don’t like.

To show our enthusiasm and excitement.

To take time for solitude and rest.

To permit ourselves to move on from what no longer interests us.

To say no when we want or need.

To be ourselves.

The result of defaulting to others for approval and permission means a lack of trust in ourselves as well as a cocktail of exhaustion, resentment and overwhelm.

Learning that you can give yourself permission, that your own approval is the most important of all, is a tricky process but incredibly worthwhile. Because without it how can we hope to find the peace, ease and joy in our daily lives that we crave?

In this episode I share five ways I give myself permission to do things in ways that work for me, even if it means not following society’s rules…

If what I share in this podcast resonates with you and you’re looking for support go to gabrielletreanor.com. And if you’d like to share this or any of my podcast episodes on social media or with your friends or family that would help more quiet ADHDers to know they’re not alone too.

Resources:

* If what I’m sharing resonates with you I’d love to hear from you, email me gabrielle@gabrielletreanor.com.

* Read my posts about the experience of a midlife, late-discovered ADHD woman here.

* Find out more about the Quiet ADHD Club and join here.

* You can find more info including my coaching services on my website here.

Back when I was considering that perhaps ADHD could explain – well, me – I started a document called ‘Reverse engineering my life’ where I wrote all the different ways I did not display obvious ADHD traits.

With this list I was trying to prove to myself that ADHD couldn’t be the explanation for what I found difficult, for what I had been criticised for or made to feel was disappointing about myself, because the real explanation was that it was a failing on my part, I was just a bit crap.

Instead the document revealed the many, many coping mechanisms I had been using for decades which took vast amounts of energy and left me regularly exhausted and overwhelmed.

In this episode I’m sharing some of the ways that women, often sensitive, introverted, perfectionist people-pleasers, try to manage or hide their ADHD features for decades before realising their neurodivergence.

If what I share in this podcast resonates with you and you’re looking for support go to gabrielletreanor.com. And if you’d like to share this or any of my podcast episodes on social media or with your friends or family that would help more quiet ADHDers to know they’re not alone too.

Resources:

* Follow Better Read Book Fest on Instagram here and be the first to know when authors are announced and tickets go on sale by signing up here.

* If what I’m sharing resonates with you I’d love to hear from you, email me gabrielle@gabrielletreanor.com.

* Read my posts about the experience of a midlife, late-discovered ADHD woman here.

* Find out more about the Quiet ADHD Club and join here.

* You can find more info including my coaching services on my website here.

Back when I was considering that perhaps ADHD could explain – well, me – I started a document called ‘Reverse engineering my life’ where I wrote all the different ways I did not display obvious ADHD traits.

With this list I was trying to prove to myself that ADHD couldn’t be the explanation for what I found difficult, for what I had been criticised for or made to feel was disappointing about myself, because the real explanation was that it was a failing on my part, I was just a bit crap.

Instead the document revealed the many, many coping mechanisms I had been using for decades which took vast amounts of energy and left me regularly exhausted and overwhelmed.

In this episode I’m sharing some of the ways that women, often sensitive, introverted, perfectionist people-pleasers, try to manage or hide their ADHD features for decades before realising their neurodivergence.

If what I share in this podcast resonates with you and you’re looking for support go to gabrielletreanor.com. And if you’d like to share this or any of my podcast episodes on social media or with your friends or family that would help more quiet ADHDers to know they’re not alone too.

Resources:

* Follow Better Read Book Fest on Instagram here and be the first to know when authors are announced and tickets go on sale by signing up here.

* If what I’m sharing resonates with you I’d love to hear from you, email me gabrielle@gabrielletreanor.com.

* Read my posts about the experience of a midlife, late-discovered ADHD woman here.

* Find out more about the Quiet ADHD Club and join here.

* You can find more info including my coaching services on my website here.

It’s been a little while since I was last here and I have something new and pretty exciting to tell you about. As well as coaching ADHD women one to one, and running the Quiet ADHD Club, I’m creating a book festival! Specifically the UK’s first literary festival dedicated solely to books on wellbeing – personal development, mental and emotional health.

In this episode I’m sharing the huge impact wellbeing books have had on my life and why it’s driving me to create a literary festival, as well as details about the book fest itself.

If what I share resonates with you and you’re looking for support go to gabrielletreanor.com. Feel free to share the podcast on social media or with your friends or family so that more quiet ADHDers can know they’re not alone too.

Resources:

* Follow Better Read Book Fest on Instagram here and be the first to know when authors are announced and tickets go on sale by signing up here.

* If what I’m sharing resonates with you I’d love to hear from you, email me gabrielle@gabrielletreanor.com.

* Read my posts about the experience of a midlife, late-discovered ADHD woman here.

* Find out more about the Quiet ADHD Club and join here.

* You can find more info including my coaching services on my website here.

Something I hear ADHDers talking about a lot is how frustrating they find their own inconsistency. How one day, or week, you’re focused, productive, you’re ticking things off, making great progress, firing on all cylinders, getting things done.

But then the next day, seemingly out of the blue, you’re completely unfocused, you don’t know what to do next, you can’t summon the energy or motivation or brain power to do any of the things you were doing and generally just faff around not getting anywhere.

It’s infuriating and feeds into an old story we’ve taken on that we can’t be relied upon, that we can’t rely on ourselves because of our inconsistency.

In this episode I share what’s really going on here and a three-step formula for how to deal with what is seen as inconsistency and erratic energy.

If what I share in this podcast resonates with you and you’re looking for support go to gabrielletreanor.com. And if you’d like to share this or any of my podcast episodes on social media or with your friends or family that would help more quiet ADHDers to know they’re not alone too.

Resources:

* Take a look at the Quiet ADHDer’s Guide to Thriving (not just surviving) this Christmas here

* If what I’m sharing resonates with you I’d love to hear from you, email me gabrielle@gabrielletreanor.com.

* Read my posts about the experience of a midlife, late-discovered ADHD woman here.

* Find out more about the Quiet ADHD Club and join here.

* You can find more info including my coaching services on my website here.

A question that can be asked when you’re talking with someone about your ADHD suspicions or suggesting you might pursue a diagnosis is:

“What do you need a label for?”

That one question can feel like a shut down of this new, fragile and seismic realisation about yourself and your life to date.

The real question is, what other labels have you been carrying around with you for decades and what’s been their impact on you?

If what I share in this podcast resonates with you and you’re looking for support go to gabrielletreanor.com. And if you’d like to share this or any of my podcast episodes on social media or with your friends or family that would help more quiet ADHDers to know they’re not alone too.

Resources:

* Listen to Episode 146 The fear of your ADHD not being believed here.

* If what I’m sharing resonates with you I’d love to hear from you, email me gabrielle@gabrielletreanor.com.

* Read my posts about the experience of a midlife, late-discovered ADHD woman here.

* Find out more about the Quiet ADHD Club and join here.

* You can find more info including my coaching services on my website here.

During this ADHD Awareness Month I have been revisiting past episodes and sharing one a week to give more explanation and hopefully create more understanding about ADHD experienced by late-discovered, more introverted and sensitive women.

I’ve shared what ADHD looks like for women who have made it through decades of their lives with no idea they have ADHD, why there seems to be a tsunami of women in midlife getting diagnoses, what an ADHD brain can really feel like, and this time I’m addressing some of the common myths and misunderstandings about ADHD that get in the way of people really getting what it is.

If what I share in this podcast resonates with you and you’re looking for support go to gabrielletreanor.com. And if you’d like to share this or any of my podcast episodes on social media or with your friends or family that would help more quiet ADHDers to know they’re not alone too.

Resources:

* If what I’m sharing resonates with you I’d love to hear from you, email me gabrielle@gabrielletreanor.com.

* Read my posts about the experience of a midlife, late-discovered ADHD woman here.

* Find out more about the Quiet ADHD Club and join here.

* You can find more info including my coaching services on my website here.

As October is ADHD Awareness Month I’m doing things slightly differently this month on the podcast.

Instead of releasing episodes every two weeks, during October I’m popping up each week with a revisit to a past episode focusing on what ADHD looks like for women who have made it through decades of their lives with no idea they have ADHD, why there seems to be a tsunami of women in midlife getting diagnoses, what an ADHD brain can really feel like and some of the myths and misunderstandings about ADHD.

Here I’m revisiting a previous episode where I share what it’s like inside an ADHDer’s brain, what’s going on in that differently-wired brain that goes some way to explain some of the feelings and behaviours you might see on the outside.

Resources:

* If what I’m sharing resonates with you I’d love to hear from you, email me gabrielle@gabrielletreanor.com.

* Read my posts about the experience of a midlife, late-discovered ADHD woman here.

* Find out more about the Quiet ADHD Club and join here.

* You can find more info including my coaching services on my website here.

As October is ADHD Awareness Month I’m doing things a little differently this month on the podcast.

Episodes are usually fortnightly but each week for the next four weeks I’m revisiting past episodes focusing on what ADHD looks like for women who have made it through decades of their lives with no idea they have ADHD, why there seems to be a tsunami of women in midlife getting diagnoses, what an ADHD brain can really feel like and some of the myths and misunderstandings about ADHD.

This time I’m revisiting a previous episode where I share why the number of women in midlife being diagnosed with ADHD has rocketed and what’s actually behind the increase in diagnoses.

Resources:

* If what I’m sharing resonates with you I’d love to hear from you, email me gabrielle@gabrielletreanor.com.

* Read my posts about the experience of a midlife, late-discovered ADHD woman here.

* Find out more about the Quiet ADHD Club and join here.

* You can find more info including my coaching services on my website here.

As October is ADHD Awareness Month I’m doing things a little differently this month on the podcast.

Episodes are usually fortnightly but each week for the next four weeks I’m going to revisit past episodes focusing on what ADHD looks like for women who have made it through decades of their lives with no idea they have ADHD, why there seems to be a tsunami of women in midlife getting diagnoses, what an ADHD brain can really feel like and some of the myths and misunderstandings about ADHD.

So, here I’m revisiting a previous episode where I share what ADHD can look like for women who have lived with unrecognised ADHD for most of their lives.

Resources:

* If what I’m sharing resonates with you I’d love to hear from you, email me gabrielle@gabrielletreanor.com.

* Read my posts about the experience of a midlife, late-discovered ADHD woman here.

* Find out more about the Quiet ADHD Club and join here.

* You can find more info including my coaching services on my website here.

When I reflected on how I’d managed common ADHD challenges for the decades before I knew I had ADHD I realised just how many strategies I’d been employing without necessarily being aware that’s what I was doing.

So in this episode I’m sharing 10 of the ways I manage ADHD struggles such as procrastination, forgetfulness, losing things, object impermanence, self-criticism and more.

Resources:

* If what I’m sharing resonates with you I’d love to hear from you, email me gabrielle@gabrielletreanor.com.

* Read my posts about the experience of a midlife, late-discovered ADHD woman here.

* Find out more about the Quiet ADHD Club, including the Be Your Own Best Friend online workshop, and join here.

* You can find more info including my coaching services on my website here.

There’s a message I give myself most mornings, a sort of affirmation I say out loud to round off my daily-ish meditation and start the day. It’s something I came up with before I knew about my ADHD but which I realised my subsconscious really wanted and needed me to hear. And which I think so many of us unrealised until later in life ADHDers need to take to heart.

Which is why I’m sharing it with you in this episode…

Resources:

* If what I’m sharing resonates with you I’d love to hear from you, email me gabrielle@gabrielletreanor.com.

* Read my posts about the experience of a midlife, late-discovered ADHD woman here.

* Find out more about the Quiet ADHD Club, including the Be Your Own Best Friend online workshop, and join here.

* You can find more info including my coaching services on my website here.

A couple of months ago my husband and I too our first trip overseas since I discovered my ADHD. As well as planning where to stay and what to see I thought about the stress points there had been in previous travels and how I could take a different approach with this better understanding of myself.

While we were away I also learned what helped and allowed both of us to really enjoy our holiday. So, in this episode I’m sharing what I found most impactful, in case it’s of use to you too.

Resources:

* If what I’m sharing resonates with you I’d love to hear from you, email me gabrielle@gabrielletreanor.com.

* Read my posts about the experience of a midlife, late-discovered ADHD woman here.

* Find out more about the Quiet ADHD Club and join here.

* You can find more info including my coaching services on my website here.

It’s not easy to discover you’re neurodivergent, to realise how it has and does affect your life. It brings up a whole host of thoughts and feelings and it can be quite the rollercoaster. As I mulled over the journey I was taking after my ADHD discovery a framework for the process we go through formed in my head.

The Neurodivergent Self-discovery Spiral is how I see the journey I, and other neurodivergent folk I’ve spoken with, go through as we process what an ND realisation or diagnosis means for us. I hope by sharing it in this episode it may help to describe the process you’re going through and by doing so give you some explanation, encouragement and comfort.

Resources:

* If what I’m sharing resonates with you I’d love to hear from you, email me gabrielle@gabrielletreanor.com.

* Read my posts about the experience of a midlife, late-discovered ADHD woman here.

* Find out more about the Quiet ADHD Club and join here.

* You can find more info including my coaching services on my website here.

Realising that you may have ADHD, that it could explain so much about your life, can be quite discombobulating. Hearing other women’s stories, reading about their experiences and recognising yourself in what they’re saying can bring up some pretty strong emotions including relief, anger, grief, confusion and overwhelm.

So what on earth do you do now with this new knowledge and all these feelings?! That’s what we explore in this episode.

Resources:

* If what I’m sharing resonates with you I’d love to hear from you, email me gabrielle@gabrielletreanor.com.

* Read my posts about the experience of a midlife, late-discovered ADHD woman here.

* Find out more about the Quiet ADHD Club and join here.

* You can find more info including my coaching services on my website here.

I’ve been called plenty of names in my time, many from my childhood I’d rather forget. Then there are the names we call ourselves when that mean voice in our head is letting rip because we messed up, said something stupid, embarrassed ourselves or even just because we think we might have done those things.

However, there are a couple of circumstances where I’m positively pro-name-calling, where it can have a surprisingly beneficial effect, and that’s what I’m sharing in this episode.

Resources:

* If what I’m sharing resonates with you I’d love to hear from you, email me gabrielle@gabrielletreanor.com.

* Read my posts about the experience of a midlife, late-discovered ADHD woman here.

* Find out more about the Quiet ADHD Club and join here.

* You can find more info including my coaching services on my website here.

One of the reasons ADHD can be misunderstood is because of the persisting belief that its hyperactivity trait needs to be visible – fidgeting, interrupting, busy, busy, busy. while that can be how hyperactivity presents, what isn’t talked about is the hyperactivity happening on the inside, not seen on the outside.

Inside the brain of many ADHD women – particularly the quiet, introverted, sensitive and empathetic woman – there is a LOT going on. But because we may appear quiet, calm and still there’s a disbelief that we can have ADHD because we don’t ‘look’ like we have ADHD.

In this episode I explore just what is happening in our busy minds that never stop, behind the seemingly quiet exterior.

Resources:

* If what I’m sharing resonates with you I’d love to hear from you, email me gabrielle@gabrielletreanor.com.

* Read my posts about the experience of a midlife, late-discovered ADHD woman here.

* Find out more about the Quiet ADHD Club and join here.

* You can find more info including my coaching services on my website here.

Messages we were given growing up taught us that treats and rewards and their accompanying dopamine hit come after we’ve done the hard thing, the dutiful, boring, no-fun thing. The well-known productivity tip of ‘eat the frog first’ tells us it’s best to tackle the most challenging item on our to do list before anything else.

But what effect does this insistence on putting off of the good stuff until we’ve done the hard stuff have on those of us with neurodivergent brains? Is this way of tackling the to do list actually making us procrastinate and struggle even more to get on with what we want or need to do?

I address what’s really getting in our way in this episode…

Resources:

* If what I’m sharing resonates with you I’d love to hear from you, email me gabrielle@gabrielletreanor.com.

* Read my posts about the experience of a midlife, late-discovered ADHD woman here.

* Find out more about the Quiet ADHD Club and join here.

* You can find more info including my coaching services on my website here.

Many women who are discovering their ADHD are fearful of, and it stops them talking about this huge new realisation about themselves, people rolling their eyes and saying they’re just jumping on the bandwagon.

It’s the idea that there are SO many women in their 40s, 50s and beyond who are now declaring they have ADHD that it’s the thing to do.

I shared in episode 145 several valid reasons for why many women don’t discover their ADHD until they’re in the middle of their lives, and in this episode I’m sharing how to deal with the worry you won’t be believed (and the reality of it if that’s the case).

Resources:

* If what I’m sharing resonates with you I’d love to hear from you, email me gabrielle@gabrielletreanor.com.

* Read my posts about the experience of a midlife, late-discovered ADHD woman here.

* Find out more about the Quiet ADHD Club and join here.

* You can find more info including my coaching services on my website here.

It seems like everywhere you look there’s another middle-aged woman declaring she has ADHD, right? Or at least that’s what some people will have you believe.

There’s been an increase in women being diagnosed, or realising for themselves, that they have ADHD for sure. Let’s remember that neurodivergence isn’t something you suddenly, randomly develop as an adult. Nor is it something you’ll automatically grow out of as you grow up.

There are several reasons for why more women are discovering their neurodiversity later in life which I explore in this episode and, spoiler, it’s not because it’s fashionable or everyone’s jumping on a bandwagon.

Resources:

* If what I’m sharing resonates with you I’d love to hear from you, email me gabrielle@gabrielletreanor.com.

* Read my posts about the experience of a midlife, late-discovered ADHD woman here.

* Find out more about the Quiet ADHD Club and join here.

* You can find more info including my coaching services on my website here.

There’s a fair amount of misunderstanding around ADHD. For a start the stereotypical image is still that of an energetic little boy who can’t sit still in class. It was only in 2008 that medics formally recognised that adults can have ADHD, and women and girls are still much less likely to be diagnosed than boys and men.

So, I thought I’d share a few aspects of ADHD that are not as well known to help raise a little more awareness about ADHD and the nuance that exists.

Resources:

* If what I’m sharing resonates with you I’d love to hear from you, email me gabrielle@gabrielletreanor.com.

* Find out more about the Quiet ADHD Club and join here.

* You can find more info including my coaching services on my website here.

There’s a lot of terminology in ADHD which on one hand is helpful because if something has a name you know it’s a ‘thing’ and you’re not the only one experiencing it. But on the other hand if you don’t know this terminology it can feel excluding.

So, in this episode I’m sharing lots of ways that ADHD can look and feel in everyday life, without the jargon. It’s not an exhaustive list, you don’t need to tick every box to ‘qualify’ (ugh) as having ADHD and I’m very much not a clinician here to diagnose anyone.

A lot of this comes up in my conversations with ADHD women, as well as in my own experience, so I hope it’s useful for you too.

Resources:

* If what I’m sharing resonates with you I’d love to hear from you, email me gabrielle@gabrielletreanor.com.

* Find out more about the Quiet ADHD Club and join here.

* You can find more info including my coaching services on my website here.

It’s been a long pause but the Pressing Pause podcast is back. In this episode I’m sharing what’s kept me away from the mic, what’s happening now and what you can expect going forward.

Resources:

* If what I’m sharing resonates with you I’d love to hear from you, email me gabrielle@gabrielletreanor.com.

* Find out more about the Quiet ADHD Club and join here.

* You can find more info including my coaching services on my website here.

* And you can buy my book, The 1% Wellness Experiment, or the book gift box, and support The Wallich homelessness charity in Wales by clicking here.

Before the podcast pauses for a little while I’ve recorded an audio version of the Introduction to my book, The 1% Wellness Experiment – Micro-gains to change your life in 10 minutes a day.

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•      Buy my book The 1% Wellness Experiment from all good bookshops including Amazon, WHSmith, Blackwell’s, Waterstones and Bookshop.org here 

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A bit of a different episode this time, I want to share a message with you as today is International Women’s Day.

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Stressors can come as us from all directions at any time of the day and when we don’t fully move through the stress and come out the other side, we get stuck in the stress and all that goes with it – anxiety, frustration, fear, annoyance, upset… In this episode I share a simple and powerful technique to shift out of stress and soothe your nervous system.

Resources:

•      Buy my book The 1% Wellness Experiment from all good bookshops including Amazon, WHSmith, Blackwell’s, Foyles and Bookshop.org here 

•      Enjoy The 1% Wellness Experiment? Leave a quick review on Amazon here to help others find the book 

•      Read my Substack posts here 

•      Get your free guides and audios to help you live with more calm and joy each day in the free resource library here 

•      Find my range of online courses to help you bring down your stress and overwhelm, and feel more calm, ease and joy every day here 

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When you’ve got a lot going on it feels like you’re juggling, and as time goes on keeping all the balls in the air gets more and more difficult. The fear of dropping a ball adds to the stress because everything feels important and to let something fall would be a disaster, right? But, would it? In this episode I share a different way to look at those balls and ease the stress.

Resources:

•      Buy my book The 1% Wellness Experiment from all good bookshops including Amazon, WHSmith, Blackwell’s, Foyles and Bookshop.org here 

•      Enjoy The 1% Wellness Experiment? Leave a quick review on Amazon here to help others find the book 

•      Read my Substack posts here 

•      Get your free guides and audios to help you live with more calm and joy each day in the free resource library here 

•      Find my range of online courses to help you bring down your stress and overwhelm, and feel more calm, ease and joy every day here 

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This is the 12th year I’ve chosen a guiding word and this time it involved me being called out on my own BS! In this episode I share my inner wise woman calling my bluff (along with how I recognise the voices of my inner critic and inner child) and what it means for me going forward.

Resources:

•      Get your free guides and audios to help you live with more calm and joy each day in the free resource library here https://gabrielletreanor.com/free/

•      Read my Substack posts here https://gabrielletreanor.substack.com

•      Buy my book The 1% Wellness Experiment from all good bookshops including Amazon, WHSmith, Blackwell’s, Foyles and Bookshop.org here https://uk.bookshop.org/a/1613/9781801292948

•      Enjoy The 1% Wellness Experiment? Leave a quick review on Amazon here to help others find the book https://www.amazon.co.uk/1-Wellness-Experiment-Micro-gains-Minutes/dp/1801292949/r

•      Find my range of online courses to help you bring down your stress and overwhelm, and feel more calm, ease and joy every day here https://gabrielletreanor.com/courses/

•     If you enjoy the podcast I’d love you to leave a review on iTunes so that others can find it too

In January you can’t move for posts and articles about the importance and need to set resolutions and goals, to embark on big life changes and to reinvent yourself to be the best version ever. At this pressurised time of year there are a few important things to remember that I want you to know…

Resources:

•      Buy my book The 1% Wellness Experiment from all good bookshops including Amazon, WHSmith, Blackwell’s, Foyles and Bookshop.org here 

•      Enjoy The 1% Wellness Experiment? Leave a quick review on Amazon here to help others find the book 

•      Read my Substack posts here 

•      Get your free guides and audios to help you live with more calm and joy each day in the free resource library here 

•      Find my range of online courses to help you bring down your stress and overwhelm, and feel more calm, ease and joy every day here 

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Life has been pretty hectic that past several months with moments that have been stressful and a tad overwhelming. So in this episode I’m sharing five things that have been helping me to feel calm and grounded and keep the overwhelm at a manageable level.

Resources:

•      You can pre-order my book The 1% Wellness Experiment AND get your bonuses here 

•      Read my Substack posts here 

•      Get your free guides and audios to help you live with more calm and joy each day in the free resource library here https://gabrielletreanor.com/free/

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•      If you enjoy the podcast I’d love you to leave a review on iTunes so that others can find it too

The conundrum is that you think you need a decent chunk of time to be able to do something that’s going to be of real benefit to your wellbeing, that will help you to feel calm or less stressed, or better able to cope or just plain happier. But you can never find space for that chunk of time so it doesn’t happen. In this episode I share how taking just a few minutes a day to do something supportive for yourself is not only doable but is worth your time too.

Resources:

•      You can pre-order my book The 1% Wellness Experiment AND get your bonuses here 

•      Read my Substack posts here 

•      Get your free guides and audios to help you live with more calm and joy each day in the free resource library here 

•      Find my range of online courses to help you bring down your stress and overwhelm, and feel more calm, ease and joy every day here 

•      If you enjoy the podcast I’d love you to leave a review on iTunes so that others can find it too

In your quest to have a wonderful Christmas and make sure everyone’s happy and having a good time you can feel like you’re not allowed to do what you want or need to do, or to feel the not so Christmassy feelings you might have. In this episode I share how you can find the permission you need to do things differently, make changes, or to simply factor in your own feelings and needs, and by doing so have a less stressful, calmer and more joyful festive season.

Resources:

•      The Calmer Christmas online course will help you to navigate the festivities with less stress and more joy, get instant access here 

•      You can pre-order my book The 1% Wellness Experiment AND get your bonuses here 

•      Read my Substack posts here 

•      Get your free guides and audios to help you live with more calm and joy each day in the free resource library here 

•      Find my range of online courses to help you bring down your stress and overwhelm, and feel more calm, ease and joy every day here 

•      If you enjoy the podcast I’d love you to leave a review on iTunes so that others can find it too

This is another behind the scenes episode on the process of writing my book, The 1% Wellness Experiment. This time I’m sharing why I wanted to write this book, how the philosophy has helped me and how I think it can support you too.

Resources:

•      Get 30% off any online course until end of 27 November with code ‘Black Friday’ here 

•      You can pre-order my book The 1% Wellness Experiment AND get your bonuses here 

•      Read my Substack posts here 

•      Get your free guides and audios to help you live with more calm and joy each day in the free resource library here 

•      Find my range of online courses to help you bring down your stress and overwhelm, and feel more calm, ease and joy every day here 

•      If you enjoy the podcast I’d love you to leave a review on iTunes so that others can find it too

We all have things in our lives that take up our precious time and feel like a waste of our time, even though it’s essential we do them. Knowing we have to do them isn’t enough to stop feelings of irritation, resentment, anger even. In this episode I share how you can reclaim this time so you can turn the frustration into fun.

Resources:

•      You can pre-order my book The 1% Wellness Experiment AND get your bonuses here 

•      Read my Substack posts here 

•      Get your free guides and audios to help you live with more calm and joy each day in the free resource library here 

•      Find my range of online courses to help you bring down your stress and overwhelm, and feel more calm, ease and joy every day here 

•      If you enjoy the podcast I’d love you to leave a review on iTunes so that others can find it too