Explore every episode of the podcast The Quiet ADHD Podcast

After eight years the podcast has changed names! Pressing Pause has become the Quiet ADHD Podcast.

In this episode in the special Better Read Book Fest season of the podcast I spoke with psychotherapist and coach Natasha Page, who’s the author of Believe You’re Made for More.

We discussed:

• The vulnerability in writing a book that shared Natasha’s own struggles with self-esteem

• The everyday habits that quietly signal low self-esteem

• Why self-deprecating humour isn’t as harmless as it seems

• The link between neurodivergence and self-esteem

• Turning your struggles into fuel instead of shame

• Natasha’s seven steps to rebuilding self-worth

To hear more from Natasha and all the authors at Better Read Book Fest get your ticket while they’re available at betterreadbookfest.com.

If what I share in this podcast resonates with you and you’re looking for support go to gabrielletreanor.com. And if you’d like to share this or any of my podcast episodes on social media or with your friends or family that would help more quiet ADHDers to know they’re not alone too.

Resources:

* Connect with Natasha Page https://www.natashapagemsc.com @natashapagemsc on social media

* Find out more about the Quiet ADHD Club and join here.

* Get your Better Read Book Fest ticket here. Follow Better Read Book Fest on Instagram here.

* If what I’m sharing resonates with you I’d love to hear from you, email me gabrielle@gabrielletreanor.com.

* Read my posts about the experience of a midlife, late-discovered ADHD woman here.

* You can find more info including my coaching services on my website here.

After eight years the podcast has changed names! Pressing Pause has become the Quiet ADHD Podcast.

For this episode in the special Better Read Book Fest season of the podcast I had a fascinating conversation with Natalie Lue, author of The Joy of Saying No along with several other books and Baggage Reclaim – one of the longest-running self-help blogs in the world.

We discussed:

• Five hidden types of people-pleasing

• The ‘Age of Obedience’ and why saying no still feels so hard

• Why efforting and burnout go hand in hand

• The ADHD link to ‘try harder’ conditioning

• Why that ADHD driving energy can suck the joy out of things you actually want to do

• Natalie’s six-step path to actually finding joy in saying no

To hear more from Natalie and all the authors at Better Read Book Fest get your ticket while they’re available at betterreadbookfest.com.

If what I share in this podcast resonates with you and you’re looking for support go to gabrielletreanor.com. And if you’d like to share this or any of my podcast episodes on social media or with your friends or family that would help more quiet ADHDers to know they’re not alone too.

Resources:

* Connect with Natalie Lue www.baggagereclaim.com & www.natalielue.com Instagram: www.instagram.com/natlue

* Find out more about the Quiet ADHD Club and join here.

* Get your Better Read Book Fest ticket here. Follow Better Read Book Fest on Instagram here.

* If what I’m sharing resonates with you I’d love to hear from you, email me gabrielle@gabrielletreanor.com.

* Read my posts about the experience of a midlife, late-discovered ADHD woman here.

* You can find more info including my coaching services on my website here.

Because we’ve been taught that we need to pick a thing and stick to it, that consistency is next to goodliness, we've taken on the message that to get bored of an interest or hobby and drop it shows we’re flaky, faddish, and can’t commit.

Which means we feel shame for the stash of supplies gathering dust, we’re embarrassed about our excitement over a new interest that turned to boredom and we stop ourselves from trying new things, from following our curiosity in case it becomes yet more proof that we’re incapable of consistency.

In this episode I share my own shame struggles and argue the value of allowing ourselves to explore our curiosity and play, what there is to be gained and where it could lead.

If what I share in this podcast resonates with you and you’re looking for support go to gabrielletreanor.com. And if you’d like to share this or any of my podcast episodes on social media or with your friends or family that would help more quiet ADHDers to know they’re not alone too.

Resources:

* Get your ticket to Better Read Book Fest when the first Early Bird special offer tickets go on sale Saturday 9 May or get access a day earlier by signing up here. Follow Better Read Book Fest on Instagram here.

* If what I’m sharing resonates with you I’d love to hear from you, email me gabrielle@gabrielletreanor.com.

* Read my posts about the experience of a midlife, late-discovered ADHD woman here.

* Find out more about the Quiet ADHD Club and join here.

* You can find more info including my coaching services on my website here.

Looking ahead to 2021 doesn’t mean you have to set goals and have a 12-month plan. Thinking about how you want to feel and be as well as what you want to do can give you clarity and a steer on the direction you want to take.

In this episode we look at:

• What you may be thinking or feeling about the coming year
• How to look ahead to the next year in a way that feels helpful to you
• 15 suggested journalling questions to explore

Resources:

• Get the journal prompts in this week’s newsletter by clicking here 
• If you’d like to find out more about coaching with me click here 
• If you enjoy the podcast I’d love you to leave a review on iTunes so that others can find it too
• If you value what I share in the podcast, and elsewhere, you can buy me a virtual cuppa by clicking here 

Whether you’re happy to wave off this year or want to slam the door in its face, 2020 has been quite the year. Even with all the uncertainty, the worry, the upset and the challenges, what can we take from this year, what can we learn about ourselves that suggests this year wasn’t a total bust?

In this episode we look at:

• How we can benefit by reflecting on this past year
• How to take time to reflect in a way that feels right for you
• 15 suggested reflective journal prompts

Resources:

• Get the journal prompts in this week’s newsletter by clicking here 
• If you’d like to find out more about coaching with me click here 
• If you enjoy the podcast I’d love you to leave a review on iTunes so that others can find it too
• If you value what I share in the podcast, and elsewhere, you can buy me a virtual cuppa here 

Some days you wake up feeling out of sorts and you may not know why. So what do you do when you feel like that? How do you deal with those feelings and change your mood?

In this episode we look at:

• What we tell ourselves about how we’re feeling
• The pros and cons of taking the fast mood change approach
• How we can help ourselves deal with our rubbish mood

Resources:

• Get your free 7 Steps to Overcome Introvert Overwhelm guide by clicking here 
• Come say hi to me here on Instagram, I’m @gabrielletreanor 
• If you enjoy the podcast I’d love you to leave a review on iTunes so that others can find it too
• If you value what I share in the podcast, and elsewhere, you can buy me a virtual cuppa here 

can’t see or don’t feel any difference in yourself in spite of the action you’re taking to bring about change.

In this episode we look at:

• The struggle of trusting in ourselves
• The power of small steps over time
• What creates lasting change

Resources:

• My free workshop – 3 Steps to Start Feeling Calm and In Control – is happening on Thursday 26 November and if you can’t join me live you’ll get the replay. Sign up here 
• Come say hi to me here on Instagram, I’m @gabrielletreanor 
• If you enjoy the podcast I’d love you to leave a review on iTunes so that others can find it too
• If you value what I share in the podcast, and elsewhere, you can buy me a virtual cuppa here 

When you feel disappointed in yourself

Why is it we can be so much harder on ourselves than we are on other people? We can give others leeway and second chances but if we don’t get perfection from ourselves at the first attempt we’re quick to self-criticise and berate ourselves for failing.

In this episode we look at:

• The challenge of feeling disappointed in yourself
• A completely different way to think about our so-called failures
• What we gain from falling down that helps us get back up

Resources:

• My new online course, Rooted – feel calm, in control and confident you can cope – is available to pre-order now with two bonuses that are only available for a few more days! Click here to find out more and join
• Come say hi to me on Instagram, I’m @gabrielletreanor
• If you enjoy the podcast I’d love you to leave a review on iTunes so that others can find it too
• If you value what I share in the podcast, and elsewhere, you can buy me a virtual cuppa here

We may not realise it but how you are, what you say and do, has an impact that goes beyond those immediately around us. So not only do we affect others when we’re tired, overwhelmed or stressed, but also when we’re energised, relaxed and happy…

In this episode we look at:

• Research that shows just how far-reaching an affect we can have on other people
• How that questions the idea that taking care of your own needs and desires is selfish
• I share an example of how I saw the ripple effect for myself
• What the ripple effect means for how we treat ourselves

Resources:

• My new online course, Rooted – feel calm, in control and confident you can cope – is available to pre-order now with two bonuses to boot! Click here to find out more and join 
• Come say hi to me on Instagram, I’m @gabrielletreanor
• If you enjoy the podcast I’d love you to leave a review on iTunes so that others can find it too
• If you value what I share in the podcast, and elsewhere, you can buy me a virtual cuppa https://ko-fi.com/gabrielletreanor

This week is a lot, with lockdown restrictions in the UK and the election in the US it can feel overwhelming to manage and cope with.

In this episode we look at:

• Why it’s okay if you’re feeling overwhelmed by it all
• What you can learn from the past eight months or so
• What is and is not going to help you during right now
• How you can get through whatever’s coming next

Resources:

• Sign up for my emails and get your free 7 Steps to Overcome Introvert Overwhelm guide here
• Come say hi to me on Instagram, I’m @gabrielletreanor
• If you’d like to find out more about coaching with me click here
• If you enjoy the podcast I’d love you to leave a review on iTunes so that others can find it too
• If you value what I share in the podcast, and elsewhere, you can buy me a virtual cuppa here

Self-awareness – is it a way to limit and box yourself in, use the labels as an excuse to not do hard things, or is it how you can free and empower yourself to live your life to its full potential?

In this episode we look at:

• The two arguments for and against self-knowledge
• The empathy scale and what an empath looks and feels like
• The superpower of being highly empathetic
• How you and others gain from your deeper understanding of your own nature

Resources:

• Download your free 7 Steps to Overcome Introvert Overwhelm guide by clicking here
• Come say hi to me on Instagram, I’m @gabrielletreanor
• If you’d like to find out more about coaching with me click here
• If you enjoy the podcast I’d love you to leave a review on iTunes so that others can find it too
• If you value what I share in the podcast, and elsewhere, you can buy me a virtual cuppa by clicking here

Not being able to fall asleep, or waking up in the night, is frustrating and makes life feel even harder than it already is. You try to make yourself go to sleep but you just get more stressed and more worn out. You need help!

In this episode we look at:

• The simple and powerful mindset shift that changes how you feel about lying awake in bed
• The importance of telling your body and brain to wind down long before your head hits the pillow
• Two different ideas that you can try to help yourself nod off

Resources:

• Share your views to help me give you the best support to overcome your overwhelm in this survey 
• Come say hi to me on Instagram, I’m @gabrielletreanor
• If you’d like to find out more about coaching with me check out here
• If you enjoy the podcast I’d love you to leave a review on iTunes so that others can find it too
• If you value what I share in the podcast, and elsewhere, you can buy me a virtual cuppa here

Knowing how introverted you are (or aren’t) and understanding what introversion really is (and what it isn’t) empowers you to recognise what contributes to your overwhelm and so how to deal with and reduce it.

In this episode we look at:

• The differences between introversion and extroversion
• What introversion is and is not
• How your introversion nature shows up in everyday life
• How being an introvert can lead to overwhelm
• How understanding your introversion is freeing, not limiting

Resources:

• Download your free 7 Steps to Overcome Introvert Overwhelm guide here 
• Susan Cain’s book Quiet
• If you’d like to find out more about coaching with me click here 
• Come say hi to me on Instagram, I’m @gabrielletreanor
• If you enjoy the podcast I’d love you to leave a review on iTunes so that others can find it too
• If you value what I share in the podcast, and elsewhere, you can buy me a virtual cuppa here

As introverted, sensitive women who spent most of our lives oblivious to our neurodivergence, as did everyone around us, we find it SO hard to believe or feel that we have permission, that it’s okay, that we’re allowed to do, say, be, ask for, or take what we want or need.

After decades of taking on board the message that we need to live by others’ rules and expectations, that someone ‘better’ than us needs to signal their approval, we find it incredibly difficult to give ourselves permission.

To allow ourselves to state what we need or want, what we like or don’t like.

To show our enthusiasm and excitement.

To take time for solitude and rest.

To permit ourselves to move on from what no longer interests us.

To say no when we want or need.

To be ourselves.

The result of defaulting to others for approval and permission means a lack of trust in ourselves as well as a cocktail of exhaustion, resentment and overwhelm.

Learning that you can give yourself permission, that your own approval is the most important of all, is a tricky process but incredibly worthwhile. Because without it how can we hope to find the peace, ease and joy in our daily lives that we crave?

In this episode I share five ways I give myself permission to do things in ways that work for me, even if it means not following society’s rules…

If what I share in this podcast resonates with you and you’re looking for support go to gabrielletreanor.com. And if you’d like to share this or any of my podcast episodes on social media or with your friends or family that would help more quiet ADHDers to know they’re not alone too.

Resources:

* If what I’m sharing resonates with you I’d love to hear from you, email me gabrielle@gabrielletreanor.com.

* Read my posts about the experience of a midlife, late-discovered ADHD woman here.

* Find out more about the Quiet ADHD Club and join here.

* You can find more info including my coaching services on my website here.

When we ‘what if’ we’re usually thinking about what if it went wrong, what if I messed up, what if I can’t do it, what if it’s awful… but there are two sides to what ifs and there’s power in allowing ourselves to imagine what if it went right.

In this episode we look at:

• Our beliefs around what choices and power we think we have
• The flipside of our standard what ifs
• The magic in the possibility of our hopes and dreams

Resources:

• Download your free 7 Steps to Overcome Introvert Overwhelm guide here
• If you’d like to find out more about coaching with me click here
• Come say hi to me on Instagram, I’m @gabrielletreanor
• If you enjoy the podcast I’d love you to leave a review on iTunes so that others can find it too
• If you value what I share in the podcast, and elsewhere, you can buy me a virtual cuppa here

It can be a real struggle to feel able to take care of our own needs and wants when we feel we should be putting others before ourselves so here we tackle it head on.

In this episode we look at:

• The problem with self-care
• The story that looking after ourselves is selfish
• A different approach and what it looks like

Resources:

• The Calm Mind Club is open to join until Saturday 3 October, check it out and join here 
• Come say hi to me on Instagram, I’m @gabrielletreanor
• If you enjoy the podcast I’d love you to leave a review on iTunes, there are instructions for how to do so here https://gabrielletreanor.com/podcast
• If you value what I share in the podcast, and elsewhere, you can buy me a virtual cuppa here

During the upheaval and radical changes to our lives that the pandemic has brought about there’s also been time for reflection and realisation of what hasn’t been working for you in the old ‘normal’.

In this episode we look at:

• What you may have been tolerating in the past
• Identifying what you’ve had enough of now
• What to do next with this realisation

Resources:

• Download your free 7 Steps to Overcome Introvert Overwhelm guide here 
• If you’d like to find out more about coaching with me check out the info page here
• Come say hi to me on Instagram, I’m @gabrielletreanor
• If you enjoy the podcast I’d love you to leave a review on iTunes, there are instructions for how to do so here.
• If you value what I share in the podcast, and elsewhere, you can buy me a virtual cuppa https://ko-fi.com/gabrielletreanor

The podcast returns after an unexpectedly long break where the world turned upside down. This is a quick catch-up and preview episode where I share about the long break and what to expect from future episodes.

Resources:

• To find out more about how you can bring down the overwhelm and feel, calmer, more in control and happier, go to gabrielletreanor.com
• Come say hi to me on Instagram, I’m @gabrielletreanor
• If you enjoy the podcast I’d love you to leave a review on iTunes, there are instructions for how to do so here.
• If you value what I share in the podcast, and elsewhere, you can buy me a virtual cuppa https://ko-fi.com/gabrielletreanor

This is an unusually long episode because we’re experiencing an unusual time in the world right now. There are a lot of feelings and thoughts about Coronavirus and all the uncertainty and the lack of feeling in control can feel overwhelming.

In this episode we look at:

• What’s fuelling the overwhelm
• How we can reduce our feelings of overwhelm
• Practical steps we can take to still feel connected with others
• How we can feel more calm and in control
• How we can allow ourselves to feel joy during this difficult time

Resources:

• For information and advice on dealing with Coronavirus visit the NHS website and UK government website 
• If the strain on your mental health is feeling like more than you can cope with please seek support from your GP or from Mind, their phone number is 0300 123 3393
• If you’d like to explore how I can support you to bring down the overwhelm so you can feel more calm, confident, in control and, ultimately, happier, email me gabrielle@gabrielletreanor.com
• You can also find me on Instagram @gabrielletreanor
• If you value what I share in the podcast, and elsewhere, you can buy me a virtual cuppa https://ko-fi.com/gabrielletreanor

For the first time in the podcast’s history I reshare seven ideas for how you can bring down the overwhelm and create some calm, and even feel a little more joy, during Christmas and the New Year.

In this episode we look at:

• How your expectations impact your enjoyment of Christmas
• What small, practical actions you can take to ease the stress
• What to do if you don’t feel full of festive spirit
• How to make the most of the good stuff

Resources

• Episode 14: The damaging word every overthinker uses
• Episode 18: How to deal with difficult emotions
• If you’d like to explore how one to one coaching with me could free you from the hamster wheel take a look here or message me gabrielle@gabrielletreanor.com and we can have a chat to see if it’s right for you
• If you value what I share in the podcast, and elsewhere, you can buy me a virtual cuppa here

When you have too much to do and too little time to do it, it feels impossible to do it all. We get tense, stressed and feel overwhelmed by the pressure and expectation. But there is something we do have control over that helps us to deal with the overwhelm.

In this episode we look at:

• Why feeling overwhelmed is not your fault
• The three common reactions to feeling overwhelmed
• How your thoughts and feelings play a part in the overwhelm
• What you can do to put yourself back in control

Resources

• Check out the special offer available until 20 December on my Focus Calls coaching package to get you quickly get a handle on your overwhelm here 
• If you value what I share in the podcast, and elsewhere, you can buy me a virtual cuppa here

Think celebrating is only for big occasions? You’re doing yourself a disservice and the chance to build your resilience, feel stronger and experience more joy, comfort and hope.

In this episode we look at:

• A different way to look at what’s celebration-worthy
• How and why the voice in your head stops you celebrating
• What we’re really doing when we celebrate
• How to gain the benefits from celebrating everyday moments

Resources

• The Calm Mind Club is closing to new members on 3 December and the price will rise when it reopens February 2020. Find out more and join at thecalmmindclub.com
• Episode 45: Being afraid to feel truly happy
• If you value what I share in the podcast, and elsewhere, you can buy me a virtual cuppa here

Comparison is something we all do in everyday life but when comparing yourself to others makes you feel bad it’s time to do something about it.

In this episode we look at:

• How we compare
• What is confirmation bias and its role in comparison
• What our judgements about others tells us about ourselves
• What you can do when you get into comparison

 Resources

• Break the Overthinking Loop online workshop is taking place on Thursday 12 November at 8pm UK time, join here and get the recording if you can’t make it live
• Get the workshop for free when you join The Calm Mind Club, find out more here
• Send me your questions for me to answer in a podcast episode to gabrielle@gabrielletreanor.com

If you feel like you’re not in charge of your own life, or mind, that there’s always so much to do, people to please, expectations to meet, your mind never stops whirring with all the things to remember and worrying what people think of you, you’re not alone.

• In this episode we look at:
• What the voice in your head is telling you when you feel this way
• Why your inner critic is shouting so loudly
• How to deal with it
• What you can do to start taking back control of your own life

Resources

• Episode 55: Do you have a choice?
• If you’d like to explore how one to one coaching with me could free you from the hamster wheel message me gabrielle@gabrielletreanor.com to find out how I can help you
• Find me on Instagram as @gabrielletreanor
• Send me your questions for me to answer in a podcast episode to gabrielle@gabrielletreanor.com

Back when I was considering that perhaps ADHD could explain – well, me – I started a document called ‘Reverse engineering my life’ where I wrote all the different ways I did not display obvious ADHD traits.

With this list I was trying to prove to myself that ADHD couldn’t be the explanation for what I found difficult, for what I had been criticised for or made to feel was disappointing about myself, because the real explanation was that it was a failing on my part, I was just a bit crap.

Instead the document revealed the many, many coping mechanisms I had been using for decades which took vast amounts of energy and left me regularly exhausted and overwhelmed.

In this episode I’m sharing some of the ways that women, often sensitive, introverted, perfectionist people-pleasers, try to manage or hide their ADHD features for decades before realising their neurodivergence.

If what I share in this podcast resonates with you and you’re looking for support go to gabrielletreanor.com. And if you’d like to share this or any of my podcast episodes on social media or with your friends or family that would help more quiet ADHDers to know they’re not alone too.

Resources:

* Follow Better Read Book Fest on Instagram here and be the first to know when authors are announced and tickets go on sale by signing up here.

* If what I’m sharing resonates with you I’d love to hear from you, email me gabrielle@gabrielletreanor.com.

* Read my posts about the experience of a midlife, late-discovered ADHD woman here.

* Find out more about the Quiet ADHD Club and join here.

* You can find more info including my coaching services on my website here.

“Whether you think you can or you think you can’t – you’re right” – do you believe that? What we believe is possible for us, what we think we’re capable of can see us making progress or keep us feeling stuck.

In this episode we look at:

• The power our beliefs have over us
• How our beliefs create our world
• The antidote to a lack of belief
• What you can do when you only believe a little bit

Resources

• If you believe, even only a tiny amount, that it could be possible for you to be free from overthinking message me gabrielle@gabrielletreanor.com to find out how I can help you
• Find me on Instagram as @gabrielletreanor
• Send me your questions for me to answer in a podcast episode to gabrielle@gabrielletreanor.com
• Join The Calm Mind Club now for £1 at thecalmmindclub.com

The feeling of being backed into a corner and having little say in our own lives has been coming up in coaching conversations so I’m focusing on the topic of choice in this episode. Do you feel like you have a choice?

In this episode we look at:

• What we don’t have any control over in life
• Where we can fail to recognise we have a choice
• The power in making micro choices in everyday life
• How to feel more in control of life through the choices you make

Resources

• Join The Calm Mind Club now for £1 at thecalmmindclub.com
• If this topic of choice interests you, perhaps you’re struggling with feeling overwhelmed and you’d like some help finding a way forward, message me gabrielle@gabrielletreanor.com
• You can find me on Instagram as @gabrielletreanor
• Send me your questions for me to answer in a podcast episode to gabrielle@gabrielletreanor.com

As an overthinker it’s all too easy to get stuck replaying a conversation or a situation and thinking up all the different ways you could have handled it and how that could have changed things. So what do you do with all these thoughts?

In this episode we look at:

• What continuing to go over and over something in the past is doing for us
• When rehashing the past is helpful and when it is not
• What you can do to help yourself get out of this loop and move forward

Resources

• Find out how I can help you to be free from overthinking and feel free to live your life as you want at theoverthinkerscoach.com
• Send me your questions for me to answer in a podcast episode to gabrielle@gabrielletreanor.com

When you’ve spent years, decades, worrying and overthinking it can feel like you’re stuck that way and you’re destined to always be an overthinker. So is it really possible for you to learn how to overthink less?

In this episode we look at:

• What the label ‘overthinker’ means
• What overthinking is and what it’s not
• What positive psychology research has discovered that impacts how possible it is to learn how to overthink less
• Why having tried and failed to worry less doesn’t mean you’ve failed

Resources

• Book your free 30mins Jumpstart Coaching Call (numbers are limited) here
• Find out about The Calm Mind Club where overthinkers find calm, confidence and community, and join, at thecalmmindclub.com
• Send me your questions for me to answer in a podcast episode to gabrielle@gabrielletreanor.com

In our first new-style episode where I answer listener questions we have a brilliant one to start us off with.

In this episode we look at:

• How to treat ourselves when we’re what if-ing
• Different ways to deal with this particular worry
• When distraction is helpful and when it is not

Resources

• Find out about The Calm Mind Club where overthinkers find calm, confidence and community, and join, at thecalmmindclub.com
• Send me your questions for me to answer in a podcast episode to gabrielle@gabrielletreanor.com
• Find out about working 1:1 with me and book a free call at theoverthinkerscoach.com

The break was a lot longer than I anticipated but finally the podcast is back and I have plans…

In this episode we look at:

• What’s been happening that caused the break to be almost four months long
• The (over)thinking that I was doing during that time
• The new project I’ve been working on that is now at the heart of what I do to help you worry less and enjoy life more
• How I want you to be involved in the podcast going forward

Resources

• Find out about The Calm Mind Club where overthinkers find calm, confidence and community, and join, at thecalmmindclub.com
• Send me your questions for me to answer in a podcast episode to gabrielle@gabrielletreanor.com

By taking just a few seconds or minutes to hit the pause button in your daily life you can calm your overthinking, tend to your own needs, be more intentional and so much more.

In this episode we look at:

• What pressing pause in your own life can look like
• How it can help you mentally and physically
• Ten different ways you can gain by taking a moment to be still

Resources:

• There are lots more resources and ways to work with me on my website gabrielletreanor.com
• Connect with me on Instagram, I’m @gabrielletreanor
• Join my private Facebook group for overthinkers here

Stopping ourselves from doing what we want, being successful and happy, doesn’t make sense and yet we all do it. Overthinkers are particularly good at self-sabotaging as we overthink and talk ourselves out of so much. But when we pay attention to ourselves we can start to address it.

In this episode we look at:

• How self-sabotage shows up in life
• What impact it has on our lives
• How we can start to address it and curb our inner saboteur

Resources:

• Doors close for the online course Worry Less for Life – how to calm your mind, build resilience and enjoy life more on Friday 29 March, click here to join
• Episode 41: How fear of failure shows up and what to do about it
• Episode 43: Build self-belief with the messages you give yourself

We can lose the sense of awe and wonder we had as children as we get bogged down with the responsibilities and worries of grown-up life. But feeling awe brings us out of ourselves, it reminds us that we’re not the centre of the universe and helps us to get perspective on life. And it feels good too.

In this episode we look at:

• The surprising benefits of spending more time in awe
• How to take a wonder walk in nature and in a built-up urban area
• Where else you can find awe in everyday life

Resources:

• There is a new payment plan available for Worry Less for Life – how to calm your mind, build resilience and enjoy life more online course. The course starts on 1 April and doors close to joining on 29 March

Feeling like you couldn’t cope if things went wrong, if life became super challenging, is a fear overthinkers share. It’s behind a lot of the What If-ing and the need to overplan and be in control at all times. There’s a skill we can all develop and strengthen to help us feel able to cope – resilience.

In this episode we look at:

• How the fear of not being able to deal with life keeps us scared of life
• What resilience is
• How being resilient reduces overthinking
• Different ways we can build and strengthen our own resilience

Resources:

• The Early Bird special offer on my new online course, Worry Less for Life – how to calm your mind, build resilience and enjoy life more, ends 10pm Wednesday 13 March, the course is available to join until 29 March, check it out here
• Episode 18: How to deal with difficult emotions

Back when I was considering that perhaps ADHD could explain – well, me – I started a document called ‘Reverse engineering my life’ where I wrote all the different ways I did not display obvious ADHD traits.

With this list I was trying to prove to myself that ADHD couldn’t be the explanation for what I found difficult, for what I had been criticised for or made to feel was disappointing about myself, because the real explanation was that it was a failing on my part, I was just a bit crap.

Instead the document revealed the many, many coping mechanisms I had been using for decades which took vast amounts of energy and left me regularly exhausted and overwhelmed.

In this episode I’m sharing some of the ways that women, often sensitive, introverted, perfectionist people-pleasers, try to manage or hide their ADHD features for decades before realising their neurodivergence.

If what I share in this podcast resonates with you and you’re looking for support go to gabrielletreanor.com. And if you’d like to share this or any of my podcast episodes on social media or with your friends or family that would help more quiet ADHDers to know they’re not alone too.

Resources:

* Follow Better Read Book Fest on Instagram here and be the first to know when authors are announced and tickets go on sale by signing up here.

* If what I’m sharing resonates with you I’d love to hear from you, email me gabrielle@gabrielletreanor.com.

* Read my posts about the experience of a midlife, late-discovered ADHD woman here.

* Find out more about the Quiet ADHD Club and join here.

* You can find more info including my coaching services on my website here.

Wanting to please people, to be kind or helpful, isn’t in itself a bad thing. But when your desire to please others, make them happy and life you interferes with how you live your life, it’s no longer kind or helpful to yourself.

In this episode we look at:

• What’s behind people-pleasing
• What it looks like
• Why it doesn’t have to be pleasing everybody or nobody
• How to be compassionate and supportive to others AND to yourself too

Resources:

• My new course is open to join now with an Early Bird special offer, check out Worry Less for Life – how to calm your mind, build resilience and enjoy life more here
• Episode 19: Why you don’t need to apologise for everything (including your own existence)

To some the idea that you’d be afraid to feel happy sounds absurd but not to the overthinker. The fear of being utterly content and joy-filled is real because it’s accompanied by the thought of what if this all goes away?

In this episode we look at:

• Why we feel so scared to be happy
• How we think we’re protecting ourselves by reining in how joyful we feel
• What foreboding joy is really doing
• What we can do to allow ourselves to release the fear and feel the joy we want to

Resources:

• Join the Worry Less and Enjoy Life More Facebook Group 
• Get the focused support you’re looking for to feel more confident, calm and capable by working with me one-to-one, find out more here

We all experience change throughout our lives but that may not stop us overthinking and resisting it. How can we cope with change better so that it causes us less upset, grief and stress?

In this episode we look at:

• When we can influence imminent change and when it’s out of our control
• What we can learn from changes we’ve already experienced
• How we can take care of ourselves when change feels challenging
• Five actions we can take to make change feel less stressful

Resources:

• Episode 43: Build self-belief with the messages you give yourself
• Episode 3: The life-changing power of feeling grateful
• Be the first to know when Worry Less for Life – my new, most in-depth course on how you can worry less, calm your mind, build resilience and enjoy life more – is available by signing up here. I’ll send you some helpful goodies while you wait too.

We give ourselves messages all the time, often negative ones, through our internal monologue so why not harness these powerful messages to help ourselves build self-belief?

In this episode we look at:

• The belief statements or affirmations you already use, even if you haven’t realised it
• How to create new powerful, positive belief statements
• What affirmations can and can’t do for you
• How to use affirmations or belief statements in daily life

Resources:

• Episode 14: The damaging word every overthinker uses
• Episode 19: Why you don’t need to apologise for everything (including your existence)
• Episode 35: The one little word that can change how we think and feel
• Join the Worry Less and Enjoy Life More Facebook Group 
• Feel confident, calm and capable, and live the life you want by working with me one-to-one, find out more here

Being busy has become our default but why are we so busy? What does it mean for our self-worth if we’re busy or, if we’re not? What impact does our busyness have on us and what can we do to reduce our busyness and increase the joy we feel?

In this episode we look at:

• What fears lie behind our busyness
• The ‘little’ ways we make our lives busier
• The difference between real work and busy work
• Five steps we can take to be less busy and enjoy life more

Resources:

• Episode 14: The damaging word every overthinker uses
• Secrets of Productive Peopleby Mark Forster
• Get the focused support you’re looking for to feel more confident, calm and capable by working with me one-to-one, find out more here

A fear of failure can take on different disguises including perfectionism and procrastination, it can stop us from doing what we want and realising our full potential, and knowing how to deal with it can be incredibly tricky.

In this episode we look at:

• Why being scared of failure feeling different to when we fail
• How it can show up for each of us
• My own fear of failure (this makes me feel pretty vulnerable!)
• The process we can work through to help ourselves

Resources:

• Feel confident, calm and capable, and live the life you want by working with me one-to-one, find out more here

My overthinking coaching clients often talk about their lack of confidence. It’s a big topic to cover so in this episode I focus on how our body language can help us to feel more confident.

In this episode we look at:

• How our posture affects how we feel
• Social psychologist Amy Cuddy’s research on the effects of dominance and stress hormones
• What you can try in two minutes to boost your confidence
• How finding your own musical anthem can bump up your confidence levels

Resources:

• Amy Cuddy’s TED Talk
• Feel confident, calm and capable and live the life you want by working with me one-to-one, find out more here

It can feel like you’re being bombarded with suggestions on how to make this your best year yet so what you can do to deal with the pressure of January-itis?

In this episode we look at:

• What you’re telling yourself about these new year new you messages
• The role of that pesky ‘should’ word
• The idea behind choosing a word for the year
• How to make it helpful and supportive, not a pressure or source of guilt

Resources:

• Goodbye 2018, Hello 2019 journal by Project Love
• Susannah Conway’s Find Your Word 
• Ali Edwards’ One Little Word 
• My review of 2018 and word for 2019 blog post 
• Ease into the new year with less pressure and stress and more calm and kindness for yourself with The Warm Embrace 7-day email series 

The festive season can be fun and joyous and it can also be messy and stressful. In this episode I suggest seven ideas for creating a calmer Christmas and New Year.

In this episode we look at:

• How your expectations impact your enjoyment of Christmas
• What small, practical actions you can take to ease the stress
• What to do if you don’t feel full of Christmas spirit
• How to make the most of the good stuff

Resources

• Ease into the new year with less pressure and stress and more calm and kindness for yourself with The Warm Embrace 7-day email series 
• Episode 14: The damaging word every overthinker uses
• Episode 18: How to deal with difficult emotions

Being away from home, however lovely a place you’re staying in or however lovely the people are, it can bring up feelings of vulnerability, stress and worry. Creating a sense of home from home can help you to feel more relaxed and comfortable.

In this episode we look at:

• Why we can struggle when we’re away from home
• Why this is not about where you’re staying or with whom
• The practical action we can take, whatever the circumstances, to help ourselves feel more calm, secure and present
• I share how I create my own sense of home away from home

 Resources

• Download your free Do you want a life of Less Worry & More Joy workbook here 

It’s been a little while since I was last here and I have something new and pretty exciting to tell you about. As well as coaching ADHD women one to one, and running the Quiet ADHD Club, I’m creating a book festival! Specifically the UK’s first literary festival dedicated solely to books on wellbeing – personal development, mental and emotional health.

In this episode I’m sharing the huge impact wellbeing books have had on my life and why it’s driving me to create a literary festival, as well as details about the book fest itself.

If what I share resonates with you and you’re looking for support go to gabrielletreanor.com. Feel free to share the podcast on social media or with your friends or family so that more quiet ADHDers can know they’re not alone too.

Resources:

* Follow Better Read Book Fest on Instagram here and be the first to know when authors are announced and tickets go on sale by signing up here.

* If what I’m sharing resonates with you I’d love to hear from you, email me gabrielle@gabrielletreanor.com.

* Read my posts about the experience of a midlife, late-discovered ADHD woman here.

* Find out more about the Quiet ADHD Club and join here.

* You can find more info including my coaching services on my website here.

As Christmas is only a couple of weeks away, and it’s a time when we can be spending money more than usual, I look at the relationship between money and happiness.

In this episode we look at:

• How much money is enough to make you happy
• How we can spend it to increase the joy we feel
• Who and what we spend our money on will have a longer lasting impact on our happiness

Resources

• Download your free Do you want a life of Less Worry & More Joy workbook here 
• Episode 21: Why overthinkers are so good at striving (and why that’s not such a good thing)
• Watch Michael Norton’s TEDx talk How to Buy Happiness

The mindset with which we approach challenges or difficulties in life can make us feel stuck or like a failure, or it can open us up to possibilities. While some of us may begin life with a predominantly fixed mindset there is one little word that can help us move to a growth mindset.

In this episode we look at:

• What fixed and growth mindsets are from the leading authority on them
• How focusing on our ability or effort affects our mindset
• The one little word that can make all the difference and how to make use of it

Resources

• Mindset: Changing the way you think to fulfil your potentialby Carol Dweck
• Episode 34: How to cultivate optimism and boost your productivity in seven steps
• Discover how to be free of your overthinking and address your specific challenges by working with me one-to-one. The special introductory offer on my coaching services ends before Christmas, find out more here

How you feel about the expectations you have of life, yourself, other people, challenges, affects how positive or negative your reality is. Even if you feel you’re naturally pessimistic there are actions you can take to cultivate optimism and improve the reality of your day to day life.

In this episode we look at:

• A study that shows how your expectations impact how you feel and behave
• How your optimistic or pessimistic attitude changes how you see the world but not reality itself
• Seven actions you can take to cultivate optimism

Resources

• Episode 21: Why overthinkers are so good at striving (and why that’s not such a good thing)
• Episode 22: How to make your own mental health first aid kit
• Episode 14: The damaging word every overthinker uses
• The special introductory offer on my coaching services ends before Christmas, find out more here