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In this episode, Charles Duhigg explains how we can improve communication in polarized times. He explores how to foster active listening, social reciprocity, and techniques like “looping for understanding.” The conversation covers different types of conversations, the importance of focusing on common ground, and strategies for building and changing habits. Charles also shares insights on handling online conflict, the psychology of identity threat, and how intentional communication and habit design can improve relationships and personal well-being. Exciting News!!! Coming in March, 2026, my new book, How a Little Becomes a Lot: The Art of Small Changes for a More Meaningful Life is now available for pre-orders! Key Takeaways: Importance of active and ostentatious listening in conversations. Concept of social reciprocity and its role in effective communication. Techniques for improving dialogue, such as “looping for understanding.” Different types of conversations: practical, emotional, and social. The idea of meta conversation and setting clear goals for discussions. Strategies for focusing on common ground before addressing differences. The impact of politeness in online communication and reducing hostility. Understanding identity threat and its effects on open dialogue. The habit loop framework: cue, routine, and reward in habit formation. The significance of implementation intentions in managing habits and responses. For full show notes, click here! Connect with the show: Follow us on YouTube: @TheOneYouFeedPod Subscribe on Apple Podcasts or Spotify Follow us on Instagram If you enjoyed this conversation with Charles Duhigg, check out these other episodes: Oren Jay Sofer on Mindful Communication How to Unlock the Power of Deeper Connections with David Brooks Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode, Daria Burke discusses the non-linear path to healing and how to find wholeness after trauma. She shares her experiences growing up in Detroit with parents struggling with addiction, the impact of adversity, and her path toward self-discovery and integration. Daria also explores the complexities of healing, the importance of embracing all parts of oneself, and the power of nature and personal growth as metaphors for transformation and hope. Exciting News!!! My new book, How a Little Becomes a Lot: The Art of Small Changes for a More Meaningful Life, is now available for pre-orders! Key Takeaways: Exploration of trauma and its impact on personal development. Discussion on resilience and the capacity to heal from past experiences. The concept of integration as a means of reconciling different aspects of oneself. The role of inherited legacies and environmental factors in shaping identity. Examination of coping mechanisms, including dissociation and adaptive avoidance. The nonlinear nature of healing and the importance of self-compassion. Insights into various therapeutic modalities, including somatic therapies. The significance of control and surrender in the healing process. Metaphors illustrating the journey of healing, such as the growth of hydrangeas. Emphasis on the ongoing nature of personal growth and the importance of community support. If you enjoyed this conversation with Daria Burke, check out these other episodes: Healing Painful Patterns and Finding Freedom with Radhule Weininger What Brings Healing, Strength, and Connection with Dani Shapiro For full show notes, click here! Connect with the show: Follow us on YouTube: @TheOneYouFeedPod Subscribe on Apple Podcasts or Spotify Follow us on Instagram This episode is sponsored by: Persona Nutrition delivers science-backed, personalized vitamin packs that make daily wellness simple and convenient. In just minutes, you get a plan tailored to your health goals. No clutter, no guesswork. Just grab-and-go packs designed by experts. Go to PersonaNutrition.com/FEED today to take the free assessment and get your personalized daily vitamin packs for an exclusive offer — get 40% off your first order. Grow Therapy – Whatever challenges you’re facing, Grow Therapy is here to help. Sessions average about $21 with insurance, and some pay as little as $0, depending on their plan. (Availability and coverage vary by state and insurance plans. Visit growtherapy.com/feed today! Delivering the WOW; Check out Richard Fain’s new book, a behind-the-scenes look at how he transformed Royal Caribbean into a world-class company through culture, innovation, and intentional leadership. Available now on Amazon and wherever you get your books. AGZ – Start taking your sleep seriously with AGZ. Head to drinkag1.com/feed to get a FREE Welcome Kit with the flavor of your choice that includes a 30 day supply of AGZ and a FREE frother. Smalls – Smalls cat food is protein-packed recipes made with preservative-free ingredients you’d find in your fridge… and it’s delivered right to your door. For a limited time, get 60% off your first order, plus free shipping, when you head to Smalls.com/FEED! No more picking between random brands at the store. Smalls has the right food to satisfy any cat’s cravings. LinkedIn: Post your job for free at linkedin.com/1youfeed. Terms and conditions apply. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode, Dr. Robert Waldinger explores why good relationships are the key to living a long and happy life. Drawing from more than 85 years of research, Robert shares why deep, supportive relationships are stronger predictors of health and happiness than wealth, success, or status. He also explains how relationships regulate stress, why loneliness can be as harmful as smoking, and how we can proactively cultivate social fitness. Listeners will walk away with practical ways to strengthen existing relationships, build new ones, and approach connection as an essential practice for well-being. We need your help! We all know ads are part of the podcast world, and we want to improve this experience for you. Please take 2 minutes and complete this survey, it’s a quick and easy way to support this podcast. Thank You! Key Takeaways: The significance of relationships for health and happiness. Insights from the Harvard Study of Adult Development on what constitutes a good life. The complexities and challenges of living well despite societal pressures. The impact of loneliness and social isolation on physical and mental health. The critique of cultural messages equating happiness with material success. The importance of self-acceptance and acknowledging both positive and negative aspects of oneself. Strategies for nurturing and maintaining meaningful relationships. The role of curiosity in enhancing social connections and overcoming discomfort. The intersection of scientific research and Zen practice in understanding human well-being. The concept of “social fitness” and the ongoing effort required to cultivate relationships. If you enjoyed this conversation with Robert Waldinger, check out these other episodes: The Midlife Makeover: Redefining Success and Happiness After 40 with Chip Conley The Happiness Formula: Using Your Body to Transform Your Mind with Janice Kaplan For full show notes, click here! Connect with the show: Follow us on YouTube: @TheOneYouFeedPod Subscribe on Apple Podcasts or Spotify Follow us on Instagram This episode is sponsored by: NOCD If you're struggling with OCD or unrelenting intrusive thoughts, NOCD can help. Book a free 15 minute call to get started: https://learn.nocd.com/FEED Grow Therapy - Whatever challenges you're facing, Grow Therapy is here to help. Sessions average about $21 with insurance, and some pay as little as $0, depending on their plan. (Availability and coverage vary by state and insurance plans. Visit growtherapy.com/feed today! Persona Nutrition delivers science-backed, personalized vitamin packs that make daily wellness simple and convenient. In just minutes, you get a plan tailored to your health goals. No clutter, no guesswork. Just grab-and-go packs designed by experts. Go to PersonaNutrition.com/FEED today to take the free assessment and get your personalized daily vitamin packs for an exclusive offer — get 40% off your first order. BAU, Artist at War opens September 26. Visit BAUmovie.com to watch the trailer and learn more—or sign up your organization for a group screening. LinkedIn: Post your job for free at linkedin.com/1youfeed. Terms and conditions apply. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode, Catherine Gray discusses identity and how our past shapes who we become.  She shares her journey from writing non-fiction to crafting her first novel, which contains some themes from her life experiences. Catherine also delves into the ongoing battle between nature and nurture in forming our personalities and addictive tendencies as well as the impact of our choices in determining our future. Key Takeaways: The power of small decisions in shaping our life's trajectory How attachment styles influence our relationships and behaviors The challenges of new parenthood and societal pressures on mothers The subtle ways we manipulate narratives in our daily interactions Strategies for breaking free from people-pleasing tendencies For full show notes, click here! Connect with the show: Follow us on YouTube: @TheOneYouFeedPod Subscribe on Apple Podcasts or Spotify Follow us on Instagram   See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode, Ruth Whippman discusses navigating the impossible standards of masculinity. Ruth has grappled with the conflicting emotions of mothering boys and societal shifts and she found herself questioning the very essence of masculinity and its impact on her sons. She delves into the challenges boys face in navigating societal expectations and the lack of language for them to articulate their experiences. Through her personal experience and research, Ruth sheds light on the overwhelming pressure boys encounter to conform to traditional masculine standards, while also questioning the divisive nature of the term "toxic masculinity." Key Takeaways: Understanding toxic masculinity and learning to empower boys to be their authentic selves Navigating the shifting landscape of raising sons for healthier relationships and respectful behavior Embracing the beauty of blending masculinity and femininity to create a more inclusive and empathetic society Embracing the profound impact of body shaming on men and how to promote positive body image for boys Redefining masculinity standards for boys to foster a culture of kindness, emotional intelligence, and self-expression For full show notes, click here! Connect with the show: Follow us on YouTube: @TheOneYouFeedPod Subscribe on Apple Podcasts or Spotify Follow us on Instagram   See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode, Peter Kim explains how trust works and why it matters. Peter has conducted extensive research on the factors that influence trust and has contributed significantly to the understanding of trust in relationships and society. His work sheds light on the impact of intention on trust dynamics, offering valuable insights into the fundamental role of trust in our interactions, provides a deeper understanding of these dynamics at play in our everyday lives. Key Takeaways: Uncover the crucial role trust plays in shaping our communities Learn how to navigate and manage the delicate nature of high initial trust in relationships Discover how to assess trust levels based on both competence and integrity, leading to more meaningful connections Acquire effective strategies for repairing trust through genuine apologies and actions Explore how intention shapes trust dynamics and influences the quality of relationships For full show notes, click here! Connect with the show: Follow us on YouTube: @TheOneYouFeedPod Subscribe on Apple Podcasts or Spotify Follow us on Instagram See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode, Kathryn Mannix shares the wisdom she has gained as a palliative care expert for living while navigating the journey towards death. She explains how we can approach death with greater understanding and less fear and offers insights that challenge our common perceptions about dying. Key Takeaways: The importance of having open conversations about death before its imminent How the process of dying is often more peaceful than we imagine Why planning for end-of-life care should focus on what matters most to the individual The predictable patterns of dying and how understanding them can bring comfort Ways to support loved ones through their final days For full show notes, click here! Connect with the show: Follow us on YouTube: @TheOneYouFeedPod Subscribe on Apple Podcasts or Spotify Follow us on Instagram See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode, Yoni Ashar explains the elements of neuroplastic pain and offers hope for healing chronic pain. In his work with”Pain Reprocessing Therapy” he delves into how this unique approach differs from traditional pain management techniques. Yoni’s research challenges our understanding of pain and opens up new possibilities for healing and well-being. Key Takeaways: The role of fear and threat perception in maintaining pain Key indicators that your pain might be neuroplastic The three components of somatic tracking in working through pain How to create a sense of safety around pain sensations For full show notes, click here! Connect with the show: Follow us on YouTube: @TheOneYouFeedPod Subscribe on Apple Podcasts or Spotify Follow us on Instagram See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode, Seth Godin shares insights from his new book on how to create a life strategy for meaningful change. He explains how strategy isn’t just for business, it’s a crucial tool for shaping our personal lives and relationships. Seth also delves into the importance of understanding the systems we operate within and how we can learn to create change within them Key Takeaways: The power of consistently feeding our “good wolf” through conscious effort How to apply strategic thinking to personal and family life Understanding and navigating the systems that influence our choices The difference between a good decision and a good outcome The danger of false proxies and the importance of measuring what truly matters For full show notes, click here! Connect with the show: Follow us on YouTube: @TheOneYouFeedPod Subscribe on Apple Podcasts or Spotify Follow us on Instagram See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode, Douglas Westerbeke, explores how to find the balance of adventure and spiritual growth in his writing and life. With a focus on resilience and a balanced approach to life transitions, he offers a valuable perspective for those seeking to understand and adapt to the inevitable changes in life. Through his compelling narratives, he brings a wealth of knowledge to the complexities of personal growth and change. Key Takeaways: Mastering techniques to manage anger and its impact for a balanced life Unveiling the profound concept of enlightenment for personal growth and fulfillment Discovering the pivotal role of libraries in expanding knowledge and fostering personal development Understanding the profound effects of travel for adapting for resilience and growth Navigating life changes through powerful storytelling for inspiration and empowerment For full show notes, click here! Connect with the show: Follow us on YouTube: @TheOneYouFeedPod Subscribe on Apple Podcasts or Spotify Follow us on Instagram See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices