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#27: The Hidden Genius of Your Sexual Fantasies For Sexual Awakening with Artemisia de Vine
Episode 27
Wednesday, August 21, 2024 • Duration 01:06:14
Sometimes sexual fantasies get a bad wrap. In tantra, spirituality, therapy, and the embodiment world. This is why I was so excited for this interview with Artemisia de Vine to thoroughly debunk myths about fantasies, and why they are actually the key to your wholeness. Because what if your sexual fantasies were the bridge to your sexual liberation and spiritual growth too?
Listen to this episode if you've ever felt ashamed of your fantasies or worried it was because you hadn't "healed" enough.
In this episode we covered:
Ranting about tantra and conscious sexuality folk on fantasies
When therapists accidentally pathologize sexual fantasies
Myths about our fantasies and what they mean
What’s wrong with us and needs fixing + what are the inherent paradoxes of sex
Sexual fantasies are genius stories to help the ego let go
Overcoming the paradoxes of sexuality
Our shadows to wholeness and integration
What we think of the term “conscious”
The value of embodiment practices in reclaiming sexuality
Why your mind is not the enemy
Why being in sexual fantasy does not go against “spiritual” sexuality
When you cut off the mind you cut off a part of your sexual self
Good girl-itis
The role of the ego
“If I just did enough work, I wouldn’t need that fantasy”
Owning what you want in the first place
Playing with the paradox
Sexual fantasies as a doorway into us
If you feel like you have to be embodied
You should only have “high vibe" fantasies!
#18: Painful Sex and Endometriosis with April Maria aka Venus Libido
Episode 18
Tuesday, December 26, 2023 • Duration 56:35
Sex shouldn't hurt, and yet so many women and vulva havers suffer in silence about painful sex.
I spoke with April Maria aka Venus Libido about her own personal experience of having undiagnosed endometriosis, the frustration of battling the medical system, finding pleasurable sex on her own terms, and how you can still have great sex when you're experiencing pain.
We covered:
Her personal experience with painful sex and endometriosis, and not getting help in the medical world
The biggest issues people with sexual pain face
The lack of education and understanding from doctors about what she was facing
Not being able to communicate with your partner about sex hurting
The biopsychosocial model of pain
The impact of trauma on pain
Why pain is NOT in your head but pain starts in the brain
My own experience of recovery communities
When pain and chronic symptoms are perpetuated by the fight flight response
Interrupting the fight flight response
Myths about sexual pain
Feeling undesirable having sexual pain
Is it ever a good idea to try and push through sexual pain?
Exploring pleasure through pain
Why sexual pain CAN be an invitation to befriend your body
What April really wants all healthcare professionals to know about sexual pain
Why working with sexual pain must be a holistic approach
Different sex toys and aids for painful sex-- shoutout to the Oh Nut!
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#17: From Conservative Christianity to Learning To Feel Pleasure with Shae Court
Episode 17
Thursday, November 30, 2023 • Duration 55:09
From being stuck in her head, struggling to vocalize what she wanted, and sooooo much Good Christian Girl conditioning, to being able to FEEL, to know what her boundaries were, and feel pleasure.
I spoke with my former client, Shae Court on her experience working with me, which included why having multiple splooshing orgasms was not what she really needed, she needed to be able to feel first.
I hope you love this episode and it gives you a taste of what it's like working with me 1:1.
In this episode we cover:
Her conservative Christian upbringing and homeschooling
Marrying her first sexual partner
Why the biggest part of our work together was trusting herself
On not being allowed to want or have wants in the first place
Every woman our boundaries is never honoured
Conditioning to be sweet and not cause a fuss
Holding her boundaries in a swingers party
She wanted juicy lush multiple orgasms like on the internet and what she got instead
What can go wrong in neo tantra and get re-traumatized
Staying with what is whole now
They big differences between working with me and others
The body is the vehicle through which we experience divinity
#16: How To Stop Being Frustrated That You're Not, "There" In Your Healing
Episode 16
Friday, November 17, 2023 • Duration 53:23
"When will I just be *there*?!! Fully healed?! Raging hot libido and orgasming everywhere? WHEN will this happen?!"
Ever felt that about your sexual healing journey? Or maybe about another kind of healing journey? You just want to be *there*, cumming easily, no more shame, completely uninhibited.
In this episode I talk about how to stop feeling frustrated about it and what to do instead. (AKA remember it's all there NOW, focus on pleasure, focus on turn on.)
I cover:
The paralells between sexual healing and healing/recovery from chronic conditions-- you just want to be *healed*
Why it's actually already there inside you, we need to amplify it
The ReBloom Method
Focusing on pleasure in every sense of the word
What lights you up?
Being fully self expressed
Why you could be highly sensitive, sensual, and sensory
The link between diet culture and pleasure
Martyr mentality
Letting yourself be greedy
Your creative self
What is a turn on
Books I mentioned:
Pleasure Activism, by adrienne marie brown
Shake Your Soul Song, by Devi Ward
Sex For One, by Betty Dodson
Call of The Wild, by Kimberly Ann Johnson
Ecstasy is Necessary, by Barbara Carrellas
The Rebloom Method, by Rachel Maddox
This is your invitation to book your EmpowerEros sessions, to unlease your pleasure, sensuality, and desire. Get all the details here:
#15: Type A Women In Life, Business, and Sex with Tamu Thomas
Episode 15
Tuesday, October 24, 2023 • Duration 55:00
If you resonate with being a high achieving, overfunctioning woman, this episode is DEFINITELY for you!
I was delighted to speak with Tamu Thomas from LiveThreeSixty on what it means to be an overfunctioning, Type-A woman/person, how it shows up in life, business, love, and sex, and the healing power of pleasure.
In this episode we cover:
Introducing ourselves
The crossovers in our work in attracting overfunctioning, type A women
Being Type A means Type Anxiety
What being up in your head looks like
Being conditioned to give our sensuality and sexuality away
The male gaze
Why womanhood is seen as adjacent to martyrdom
We need to be connected to ourselves first
The root of business and pleasure success is connecting to your body
When women are conditioned to caretake men
Why you don't need to swing from the chandeliers and have multiple orgasms to have great sex
#14: Sex and Antidepressants: How To NOT Lose Your Sex Life Taking SSRIs
Episode 14
Monday, October 23, 2023 • Duration 01:06:36
This episode has been a long time coming, and it's for you if you or your boo is on antidepressants and they have zapped your libido.
Here's the why, what, and how so that antidepressants do NOT have to be the end of your sex life, including my own personal experience of being on antidepressants since I was 16.
In this episode I cover:
Why all is NOT lost
Why antidepressants are not bad and can be the thing you need to get stable
DON'T stop taking your meds without medical supervision
Being proactive about your libido
Why great sex is a skill
Don't hate on your doctor for not telling you about the sexual side effects
My own experience on antidepressants and trying to come off them
Mental health doesn't exist in isolation
Your health foundations
Moving for pleasure
Why waiting for your libido to have great sex is not the answer
The impact of diet culture on our relationship with our bodies
#13: Awakening Your Body and Un-numbing After Trauma and with Justine Dean
Episode 13
Wednesday, September 20, 2023 • Duration 46:28
Ever wondered just what it's like to work with me? Wish you could peek behind the Zoom doors into a client session? Well now you can! (Kind of.)
This episode is a treat because it's my first interview with a former client of mine, life coach, Justine Dean. We talked about her unique journey in working with me-- including being open about being a survivor of childhood SA, being a life coach herself, and how this impacted not just her marriage but her relationship with herself-- and how she got so much more than she ever expected.
TW: This episode mentions CSA
We covered:
Her story, including being a survivor of CSA
Feeling numb and why couldn't she feel much pleasure
How it impacted her relationship with her husband
Why it, "wasn't that bad", so she put it off for years
Even after years of therapy and personal development, this was her first time actually feeling her body
Why my trauma-informed way of working was different to coaching she had done before
Remembering that her body always knew how to access pleasure and orgasm
When she had a wobble and how we worked through it (no, I didn't tell her to, "push through it".)
Why she wants every woman to have this
It’s never too late to have a fantastic orgasm, seriously!
When your partner feels frustrated and ashamed too
Why are women settling when you can have so much more?
#12: Powerful Meditation To Connect Your Heart and Vulva
Episode 12
Thursday, August 3, 2023 • Duration 27:01
Want to know THE most powerful exercise I teach my clients that is also one of my favourites too? It's this: Hand. Heart. Vulva. It's a way to build that mind/body and mind/sex/vulva connection, and it's so simple to do.
In this episode, I lead you through this guided meditation/practice so you can try it for yourself and get the benefits.
I mention:
- Why if you feel numb around your vulva and vagina, it makes sense why you can't feel much pleasure during sex or can cum easily
- Building somatic awareness of your vulva and vagina
- "The energetic black hole" for women and femmes
- I guide you through the meditation
- The next Soul Sex Circle is Monday, August 14th, 2023 AND the next Sex Magick Ritual is August 23rd, 2023.
Want to know one of THE most common issues I work with? When your libido has done a disappearing act and your sex drive has completely gone. In this episode I break down all the possible reasons why your libido could have disappeared, and some action steps to start trying.
When women and femmes think it's just their hormones (it's not!)
Why libido, desire, and sex drive aren't the same thing
Stop waiting for your libido to have good sex
Reasons why you've lost your libido- the physical and medical
Reasons why you've lost your libido- relationship and lifestyle
My own experience of libido and being on SSRI medications
The Lowdown and the state of contraception
What if you're asexual?
Big life shit and big life shifts
Questions to ask yourself
People and resources I mentioned:
The Lowdown-- like a Tripadvisor for contraception-- https://thelowdown.com/
You can book a one off sex coaching session with me through The Lowdown here: https://thelowdown.com/speak-to-a-sex-coach
Dr. Jolene Brighten- Is This Normal?: https://drbrighten.com/is-this-normal/
Dr. Jen Gunter: https://vajenda.substack.com/
Jaiya and The Erotic Blueprints
Ev'Yan Whitney and their book on the sensual self: https://www.evyanwhitney.com/sensualself
Want to connect more?
For the shameless sexual confidence, pleasure and deep satisfaction you’ve been craving, head here: https://lucyrowett.com/
Free video class on authentic sexual confidence: https://bit.ly/moreconfidentinbed
What we fantasise about versus what our real life values and wants are
Sexual fantasies are not meant to be instructions.
Celeb swoon technique
The 3 paradoxes of sexuality and why they are all correct:
Your ego and your desire
What you need and what your lover needs
What is best for the individual and what is best for the collective
“Sexual fantasies are not meant to be instruction manuals of behaviour in the outside world. They are absolutely freaking genius manuals to show you how to change your internal state through consensual play and take exactly where you need to go, because there's no one who knows your own mind better than you do. Understanding your own sexual fantasies and what they really mean and how you can trigger those paradoxes inside of yourself in your real life sex, that's going to take you where you want to go.”
Learn about your own unique erotic wiring for free: MyFantasyIs.com Work with Artemisia de Vine: artemisiadevine.comSubscribe to juicey newsletter full of insights into the erotic psyche: artemisiadevine.com
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Unlock your sexual happiness with Beducated. Get access to 100+ raw and honest courses on sex, led by the world’s top experts. You’ll find fresh new content every month.
Unlock your sexual happiness with Beducated. Get access to 100+ raw and honest courses on sex, led by the world’s top experts. You’ll find fresh new content every month.
Get 25% off your annual subscription here, use the code LUCYROWETT25 at the checkout to get it: https://bit.ly/BeducatedLR25
Unlock your sexual happiness with Beducated. Get access to 100+ raw and honest courses on sex, led by the world’s top experts. You’ll find fresh new content every month.
Get 25% off your annual subscription here, use the code LUCYROWETT25 at the checkout to get it: https://bit.ly/BeducatedLR25
Unlock your sexual happiness with Beducated. Get access to 100+ raw and honest courses on sex, led by the world’s top experts. You’ll find fresh new content every month.
Get 25% off your annual subscription here, use the code LUCYROWETT25 at the checkout to get it: https://bit.ly/BeducatedLR25
Unlock your sexual happiness with Beducated. Get access to 100+ raw and honest courses on sex, led by the world’s top experts. You’ll find fresh new content every month.
Get 25% off your annual subscription here, use the code LUCYROWETT25 at the checkout to get it: https://bit.ly/BeducatedLR25
Unlock your sexual happiness with Beducated. Get access to 100+ raw and honest courses on sex, led by the world’s top experts. You’ll find fresh new content every month.
Get 25% off your annual subscription here, use the code LUCYROWETT25 at the checkout to get it: https://bit.ly/BeducatedLR25
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