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THE MEN'S SELF HELP PODCAST

Dr. John D. Moore

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Frequency: 1 episode/53d. Total Eps: 52

The Men's Self-Help Podcast offers practical guidance for men navigating anxiety, depression, low self-esteem, stress, relationships, emotional health, and personal growth. With nearly 1.7 million downloads, the show brings practical, accessible approaches to mental health, self-improvement, and personal growth to listeners around the world. Hosted by Dr. John Moore, a licensed psychotherapist and men's mental health specialist, each episode explores real-life challenges in a straightforward, relatable, and easy-to-understand way. Using solution-focused strategies and insights from psychology, the podcast helps men—and the people who care about them—better understand their emotions, change unhelpful patterns, build confidence, and move forward with greater purpose. Whether you are struggling with overthinking, people-pleasing, boundaries, motivation, body image, loneliness, or major life changes, you will find practical ideas that can help you create meaningful change. Lessons and concepts from psychotherapy and psychology are often pulled into the show's dynamic.

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Do You Have Sex in the Dark? Building Sexual Confidence for Men 💡

Tuesday, October 27, 2026 • Duration 21:09

Men struggle with sexual confidence more than people might think. Body image issues can affect how men see themselves, how comfortable they feel during intimacy, and how they navigate relationships.

In this episode of The Men's Self-Help Podcast, Dr. John Moore explores the impact of body-image anxiety on men's intimacy, relationships, and everyday life. Sexual anxiety is also part of the discussion.

Through the story of a client named Ridge, Dr. John examines how concerns about physical appearance can extend far beyond the bedroom, affecting everything from mirrors and photographs to family gatherings, dating, and intimate relationships.

The episode also explores practical strategies for managing body-image anxiety and building sexual confidence, including visualization, affirmations, behavioral changes, and the "As If" technique.

Plus, Dr. John answers a listener question about recognizing when a long-term friendship may have run its course.

💙 Episode Sponsor: BetterHelp

This episode of The Men's Self-Help Podcast is sponsored by BetterHelp.

Get started: Visit BetterHelp

🎧 In This Episode

• Male body image and appearance anxiety

• Sexual confidence, performance anxiety, and intimacy

• How shame and avoidance can affect relationships

• Why body insecurity can spread into other areas of life

• Using the "As If" technique to challenge anxious thinking

• Realistic visualization and behavioral change

• Recognizing when a friendship may need to change

📚 Recommended Reading

The Adonis Complex by Harrison G. Pope Jr., Katharine A. Phillips, and Roberto Olivardia

This book explores the psychological impact of male body-image concerns, including muscularity, appearance preoccupation, shame, and the pressure many men experience to look a certain way.

It's a useful resource for understanding how body-image anxiety can influence self-esteem, relationships, and everyday behavior.

Amazon: The Adonis Complex

🔗 Related Resources

Hypnosis vs. Meditation — What's the Difference?

Learn more about the differences between clinical hypnotherapy and meditation in this Psychology Today article by Dr. Ran Anbar.

Article on Psychology Today on clinical hypnotherapy and meditation by Dr Ran Anbar

🔬 Research on Men and Body Image

Men's Body Satisfaction — Chapman University

Research involving more than 100,000 men examining satisfaction with physical appearance, body weight, muscle tone, and muscularity.

Study Findings via ScienceDaily

Body Image and Men — Mental Health Foundation

Information and research examining how body-image concerns affect men, including anxiety, social comparison, appearance-related distress, and efforts to conceal perceived physical imperfections.

Visit the Mental Health Foundation

⚠️ Disclaimer

The Men's Self-Help Podcast is intended for informational and educational purposes only. It is not therapy and is not a substitute for medical advice, diagnosis, or professional mental health treatment. If you are struggling, please contact a qualified professional where you live.

📱 Follow on Social Media

Facebook: Guy Counseling

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🧠 Thought Court Worksheet — Free Listener Resource

Want to challenge an unhelpful thought and examine it from a more balanced perspective?

Dr. John created a free Thought Court worksheet designed to help you identify, question, and reframe unhelpful thinking patterns. The accompanying Guy Counseling guide walks you through the exercise step by step.

No signup, no email address, and no strings attached. Just download the worksheet and use it whenever you find it helpful.

Download the Free Thought Court Worksheet + How-To Guide

☕ Support the Show

If you've found value in this podcast and would like to support its independent production, you can do so through Buy Me a Coffee.

Contributions help cover hosting, audio production, editing, and the development of future episodes of The Men's Self-Help Podcast.

Support The Men's Self-Help Podcast

✉️ Contact the Show

Have a question for Dr. John or a topic you'd like to hear discussed on a future episode?

You can reach the podcast through the Guy Counseling website.

Use the Contact Form

Please keep in mind that the show receives a significant amount of email, and not every question can be featured.

When writing, let us know whether you give permission for your question to be shared on the podcast. Identifying details may be changed to protect privacy.

🤝 Affiliate & Sponsor Disclosure

This episode may include paid sponsorships or affiliate links. If you make a purchase, sign up for a service, or take another qualifying action through one of these links, The Men's Self-Help Podcast may receive compensation at no additional cost to you.

As an Amazon Associate, we earn from qualifying purchases. Sponsors and recommended resources may vary by episode.

🎛️ Production Notes

Written and produced by Dr. John Moore, with Joel Oliver (audio) and editorial contributors. Artwork by Adobe Firefly; sounds by Pixabay. Episodes may combine live recording and synthesized audio for listener questions, production efficiency, and contributor privacy.

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How To Stop Anticipatory Anxiety and Calm Your Inner C-3PO

Monday, October 12, 2026 • Duration 22:34

Ever notice how your brain can take something that might happen and somehow convince you it's probably going to happen?

In this episode of The Men's Self-Help Podcast, Dr. John explores anticipatory anxiety through one of the galaxy's greatest worriers: C-3PO.

Whether you're waiting for a text, worrying about a conversation with your boss, preparing for holiday travel, or waiting on medical test results, uncertainty can send the mind racing into futures that haven't happened yet. Before long, possibility starts feeling like probability—and your body may begin reacting as though the feared event is already underway.

You'll learn a simple approach for interrupting the spiral: Possible. Probable. Response. You'll also discover why sometimes the first step isn't challenging an anxious thought at all. Sometimes you need to soothe your inner Threepio, ground yourself in the present, and work with what you actually know.

Dr. John also responds to a listener who is struggling with anxiety while waiting for medical test results—a reminder that anticipatory anxiety isn't always attached to unrealistic fears. Sometimes the uncertainty is real. The challenge becomes learning how to live inside the not knowing without forcing yourself to experience every possible outcome in advance.

In This Episode

What anticipatory anxiety looks and feels like
How possibility quietly turns into probability
Why anxiety can disguise itself as planning and preparation
How to soothe your inner C-3PO when your thoughts start spiraling
A simple grounding exercise for getting back into the present
The Possible → Probable → Response technique
Why uncertainty doesn't always have an immediate answer
Health anxiety and the temptation to diagnose yourself online
How to respond when there really is something worth worrying about

Episode Sponsor: BetterHelp A Special Thank You Affiliate & Sponsor Disclosure Holiday Gifts for Men ❄️ Contact the Show Follow on Social Media Support the Show ☕ Disclaimer Production Notes

How To Stop Negative People From Infecting Your Mindset ⚡

Episode 62

Tuesday, October 6, 2026 • Duration 31:17

How to Protect Your Mindset From Negative People

Have you ever shared a goal, dream, or idea with someone only to have them immediately tell you why it won't work?

Maybe you've been told you're not smart enough, talented enough, experienced enough, attractive enough, or capable enough. Or maybe you have someone in your life who seems to find something negative to say about almost everything you're trying to accomplish.

In this episode of The Men's Self-Help Podcast, Dr. John Moore explores how other people's negativity can slowly become part of your own internal dialogue — and what you can do to stop that from happening.

Using personal stories, psychology, humor, and practical examples, John shares five principles for protecting your mindset without falling into the trap of simply ignoring every person who disagrees with you.

You'll learn why it's important to ask whether negative feedback is actually true, how to separate useful criticism from somebody else's crap, and why another person's cynicism may sometimes say more about their experiences than your potential.

You'll also discover why negativity can become contagious, why new goals sometimes need protection before they need publicity, and how to stop internalizing messages that were never yours to begin with.

🧠 In This Episode, You'll Explore:

• How to ask yourself whether negative feedback is actually true

• The difference between constructive feedback and destructive criticism

• Why some people respond negatively when someone around them begins changing

• How chronic negativity can influence your own thinking

• Why you should be careful who gets access to a dream while it's still developing

• The idea of "build before you broadcast"

• How social media can keep us so busy being influenced that we forget to influence ourselves

📚 Recommended Reading 🔗 Resources Mentioned 🎧 Related Episode 🔔 Man-Firm-Ation 📢 Affiliate & Sponsor Disclosure 💙 Episode Sponsor: BetterHelp 📱 Follow on Social Media 📝 Thought Court Worksheet — Free Listener Resource ☕ Support the Show 🎙️ Production Notes

How to Stop Being a Nice Guy and People Pleaser 😀

Episode 50

Tuesday, September 15, 2026 • Duration 25:33

Stop Being a Nice Guy and People Pleaser

Are you tired of being a nice guy and people and people pleaser? Sick of feeling like you're being taken advantage of? In this episode of The Men's Self-Help Podcast, Dr. John Moore explores the hidden cost of chronic people-pleasing and why it often goes unnoticed in men.

What looks like being dependable, hardworking, loyal, or simply being a good guy may actually be a learned strategy for avoiding guilt, conflict, disappointment, or the fear of letting someone down.

You'll discover six practical steps for recognizing the pattern, creating a pause before automatically agreeing, setting clearer boundaries, and tolerating the discomfort that can follow when you begin using the word no.

Dr. John also responds to a listener named Chris, who worries that declining invitations from his friends could eventually cause him to lose his place in the group.

This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp.

In This Episode

• Why being a nice guy comes at a cost

• How people-pleasing can show up differently in men

• The connection between approval, identity, and automatic agreement

• How early experiences can shape the need to keep others happy

• Why cognitive rehearsal can make saying no easier

• How to pause before committing to something

• How to say no without overexplaining or apologizing

• Why another person's disappointment does not automatically mean you did something wrong

• How distress tolerance can help you maintain a healthy boundary

• Why asking "What do I want?" can become an important ongoing practice

Resources Mentioned The Assertiveness Workbook by Randy J. Paterson, PhD When I Say No, I Feel Guilty by Manuel J. Smith Have a Question for a Future Listener Email? Support the Show Disclaimer Follow on Social Media Free Thought Court Worksheet Production Notes

Building Confidence: 10 Habits of Men Who Have Their Shit Together

Episode 49

Tuesday, September 1, 2026 • Duration 23:06

Trying to build confidence? How Do You Actually Get Your Life Together as a Man?

In this episode of The Men's Self-Help Podcast, Dr. John Moore explores 10 habits of men who have their sh*t together and what getting your life together actually looks like in the real world.

Drawing on more than two decades of clinical experience in men's work, Dr. John breaks down practical habits for men focused on self-improvement, personal growth, stronger relationships, better sleep, and creating a life that feels more grounded.

This isn't the Instagram version of having your life together. It's about defining success on your own terms, keeping promises to yourself, protecting your sleep, maintaining friendships, taking responsibility for your choices, and knowing when to ask for help.

Whether you're already practicing some of these habits or feel like you're starting from scratch, this episode offers a practical roadmap you can begin using this week.

In This Episode

What it really means to have your life together
Why defining success on your own terms matters
The importance of keeping promises to yourself
Why protecting your sleep is part of getting your life together
How grounded men build habits that hold up under pressure
Why maintaining friendships and important relationships matters
The role of personal responsibility in self-improvement
Why asking for help can be a sign of strength
How small, consistent choices can shape the direction of your life
Practical ways to start getting your life together this week

Sponsor

The Men's Self-Help Podcast is sponsored by BetterHelp.

Head to https://betterhelp.com/guycounseling to get 10% off your first month of therapy.

Resources Mentioned

Some of the links below are affiliate links. If you make a qualifying purchase through one of these links, Guy Counseling may receive a small commission at no additional cost to you. Thank you for helping support the independent production of this podcast.

(1997) — Trailer by Katherine Coleman The Harvard Study of Adult Development Have a Question for the Podcast? Support the Show Follow on Social Media Free Thought Court Worksheet Disclaimer Production Notes

Stop Musterbating Everywhere! How to Stop "Shoulding" on Yourself

Episode 48

Tuesday, August 18, 2026 • Duration 22:40

How to Stop "Shoulding" on Yourself

Do you constantly tell yourself you should be doing better, that you must have everything figured out, or that life ought to be different?

In this episode of The Men's Self-Help Podcast, Dr. John Moore explores the psychology of musterbation — the rigid musts, shoulds, and oughts that can put enormous pressure on us and make it harder to deal with everyday life.

The concept comes from psychologist Albert Ellis and Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT). You'll discover how this kind of rigid self-talk can quietly fuel anxiety, guilt, anger, shame, perfectionism, and emotional exhaustion.

Dr. John walks through a practical three-step approach for challenging these destructive internal rules and replacing them with more flexible ways of thinking.

You'll also hear from Matt, a listener who isn't sure he's ready to marry the woman he's been dating. Dr. John discusses the difference between outside pressure and genuine readiness, why unresolved conflict deserves attention, and how premarital counseling can help couples approach one of life's biggest decisions with greater clarity.

Whether you're struggling with perfectionism, relationships, negative self-talk, or impossible expectations, this episode offers practical psychological tools you can begin using today.

In This Episode

What psychologist Albert Ellis meant by "musterbation"
How musts, shoulds, and oughts can create unnecessary emotional pressure
The basics of Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT)
How rigid thinking can contribute to anxiety, guilt, anger, and shame
Why perfectionism often involves unrealistic internal rules
How to identify the musts and shoulds hiding in your self-talk
A practical three-step approach for challenging rigid beliefs
How to replace demands with more flexible thinking

Sponsor Resources Mentioned ABC Model for REBT Worksheet — Therapist Aid Example Premarital Counseling Program by H. Norman Wright and Wes Roberts Have a Question for the Podcast? Support the Show Disclaimer Production Notes

How to Quiet Your Anxious Brain With Something in the Nothing

Episode 47

Tuesday, August 4, 2026 • Duration 14:05

Have you ever finally gotten a chance to relax—only to discover that you can't handle the quiet?

In Episode 47 of The Men's Self-Help Podcast, Dr. John Moore explores why stillness can feel strangely uncomfortable in a world filled with notifications, headlines, endless scrolling, and constant demands for our attention.

Drawing from a personal experience in Puerto Rico, Dr. John explains how repeated stimulation can leave the nervous system stuck on alert. Even when nothing is wrong, the brain may interpret quiet as unfamiliar—and therefore suspicious.

You'll learn why the amygdala acts like a smoke alarm that sometimes struggles to distinguish a real emergency from everyday "burnt toast." You'll also hear about the brain's default mode network and the important work that may occur when you stop actively doing and allow your mind to settle.

The episode also explores what contemplative traditions have understood for centuries: stillness is not empty. It can create room for memories to organize, emotions to surface, ideas to connect, and clarity to emerge.

Dr. John concludes with one simple challenge: place your phone in another room and spend five minutes sitting in the nothing. When the restlessness appears, don't treat it as failure. Treat it as the repetition that helps teach your nervous system that quiet can be safe.

Today's sponsor

This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp.

BetterHelp offers online access to licensed therapists with experience in areas such as anxiety, depression, relationships, career concerns, and other challenges.

Learn more and get started at:

https://www.betterhelp.com/guycounseling

This is an affiliate link. The Men's Self-Help Podcast may receive compensation when listeners use it.

How to Build a Morning Routine That Actually Works

Episode 44

Tuesday, July 21, 2026 • Duration 25:22

Ever notice how some mornings seem to set the tone for your entire day?

In this episode of The Men's Self-Help Podcast, Dr. John Moore explores what makes a healthy morning routine actually work—and why you don't need an elaborate, social media-worthy ritual to start your day on the right foot.

You'll learn why your morning routine should focus on four essential goals: waking up your body, settling your nervous system, activating your mind, and directing your attention. Along the way, John shares practical ideas you can begin using immediately, whether you have an hour, thirty minutes, or just fifteen.

You'll also hear why perfection isn't the goal, how to create a routine you'll actually stick with, and what to do when life inevitably throws your schedule off track.

If you've been looking for a simple, realistic approach to building better mornings, this episode offers practical strategies grounded in psychology—not hype.

In this episode you'll learn:

Why most morning routines fail
The four jobs every healthy morning routine should accomplish
How to calm your nervous system before the day begins
The difference between productive habits and performative routines
How to create a morning routine you can actually maintain

If you enjoyed this episode, please consider subscribing, leaving a review, and sharing it with someone who could use a better start to their day.

Resources Mentioned

Looking for a signature scent? Check out Dr. Moore's guide to Best Colognes for Men: 25 Popular Fragrances Worth Wearing.
Looking for Mental Health Counseling? Check out Better Help

The BetterHelp link above is an affiliate link. If you sign up through it, Guy Counseling may receive a commission at no additional cost to you. Audio production assistance provided by Joel Oliver. Episode artwork generated with Adobe Firefly. Transition sounds provided royalty-free by Pixabay. This episode blends live-recorded audio with Dr. John Moore's own voice model.

I'm Back: The Men's Self-Help Podcast Returns

Thursday, July 16, 2026 • Duration 02:27

After a long break, The Men's Self-Help Podcast is coming back.

In this brief return message, Dr. John shares why he stepped away, why he decided to return, and what listeners can expect going forward.

New episodes will focus on men's mental health, relationships, emotional wellness, and practical tools you can actually use.

The first full episode returns next week with a conversation about what to do when you feel yourself spiraling.

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Encore: Is It Time To Take a Break from Social Media?

Wednesday, February 2, 2022 • Duration 33:31

This encore presentation explores the five signs you may need to take a break from social media. Visit this link for show notes on the Guy Counseling blog.

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