Difficult conversations are bound to happen in your most intimate relationships - whether you’re prepared or not. This episode will teach you how to have PRODUCTIVE conversations about difficult topics. 

You’ll also learn why we avoid conflict in the first place, how to stop pretending things are “fine,” and the three parts to communication you need to know.

YOU'LL LEARN

• 1:26 - How we avoid conflict (and why it doesn’t work)
• 4:27 - What works for women… but not for men
• 9:09 - What might happen if you tell your partner THIS?
• 14:29 - This will change your experience of difficult conversations

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Struggling to decide whether to stay or go in your marriage and you’re serious about finding that answer?

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Is it time to pump the brakes on your affair relationship? How do you know if your secret partnership can last beyond the affair? 

Whatever happens after your affair relationship, I want you to be prepared - whether you stay with your affair partner or not. 

It starts with recognizing these 4 Red Flags you might be missing in your affair partner.

What You'll Learn

• 0:28 - Why we overlook bad behavior from our affair partner
• 4:50 - Red Flag - Does he feel entitled to you? 
• 7:57 - Red Flag - Is his control & manipulation just hidden? 
• 10:13 - Here’s the reality (for YOU and your affair partner)

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Love is pain… and if you don’t want to feel pain, you should just give up on love, right? 

In this episode, I’ll explain where this line of thinking comes from and what happens when our expectations of love and marriage don’t match the reality.

I’ll walk you through the ways that I’ve learned to think about love and marriage relationships, answer the question, “Does the ‘perfect’ soulmate partner exist?” and tell you what to give up on - instead of love.

What You’ll Learn In This Episode:

0:55 - I’m never going to tell you to give up on love, BUT… 
3:33 - Does the “perfect” partner exist?
5:10 - I think about love & marriage like this
7:39 - Instead of giving up on love, give up on this… 
9:22 - The reality of loving someone well

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On Love: A Novel by Alain De Botton

Struggling to decide whether to stay or go in your marriage and you’re serious about finding that answer?

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I get it: You don’t want to regret the choice you make (and you don’t want to make your life worse).

But what happens when we dig into what’s really behind your fear of making a “wrong” decision about your marriage? What happens when you challenge the general opinion that there is a right and wrong step forward - toward deepening your marriage or ending in divorce? 

In this episode, we’ll find out! I’m talking about the safety net of indecision, regrets and “what if” thinking, plus the uncomfortable back-tracking that sometimes happens, even after you decide. 

What You'll Learn In This Episode:

1:32 - Indecision might be less scary, BUT…
5:49 - What’s “right” and “wrong” for YOU?
7:35 - “WHAT IF… I have regrets later, and I can’t go back?”
9:07 - The most important thing about making a decision…
12:59 - You don’t know what will happen… until you decide

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The current legal process for divorce is complicated - not to mention expensive. That’s why I invited Erin Levine, Founder of Hello Divorce, to join me today on the podcast. 

She’s here to demystify the legal details of separation and explain her 3-step alternative for a simpler, kinder, and less stressful divorce.

We talk about the problems with bringing your divorce to court, how to navigate divorce when you don’t trust your ex, and the “divorce math” you should consider (i.e. it’s not just financially draining). Erin also explains why she’s determined to NEVER again litigate a divorce, plus the most-used service within Hello Divorce - and how it can save you money (and tears!)

What You’ll Learn In This Episode:

2:09 - Top 3 problems Erin witnessed within the divorce courts… and what led her to create another option
7:47 - “Conscious Uncoupling” isn’t just hype from Gwenyth Paltrow
12:31 - Remember: the system is set up for lawyers… it’s not designed to support families
20:04 - When the spirit of “making things peaceful” mixes with DISTRUST
23:12 - Hello Divorce breaks down the divorce process into 3 parts
32:51 - Divorce Math: Consider the emotional toll this process takes
37:47 -  Your lawyer is not your life coach… but you need additional support! 
45:02 - Erin’s advice for keeping the divorce peaceful (even when your spouse isn’t focused on that)

About The Guest: 

Erin Levine has more than a decade of experience litigating complex family matters in court, but when she saw the need for a kinder, easier, and more affordable pathway through divorce, she set out to revolutionize the broken divorce legal system and founded Hello Divorce: a venture capital-backed and tech-enabled platform that helps separating spouses reorganize their lives and finances with less stress and mess. 

Erin is on a mission to help everyone design a better life after divorce. She’s already helped thousands of Americans reorganize their lives and families through the Hello Divorce framework that levels the playing field between spouses, so they can sort things out fairly, avoid missteps, and reimagine their next and best chapter.

Learn more about Erin Levine and Hello Divorce at hellodivorce.com (and on Instagram @hellodivorce).

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If you want to be truly adored and cherished in your most intimate relationship (as though you are the Queen of his world!) this episode is for you…

Often we say that we want to be treated like a queen… but when it doesn’t happen, we get angry and place blame (or give up the dream).

In this episode, I’ll give you 3 important things to consider if you desire Queendom within your marriage - because it’s possible with a few vital adjustments! I’ll share the first question you need to ask yourself, how you can keep your expectations high (no, really!) - PLUS the 1 thing you need to stop doing to your husband.

Tune in for a quick, deep dive episode for the Queens among us!

What You’ll Learn In This Episode:

1:47 - People will meet you at your level of expectation, BUT…
4:49 - If you want to be treated like a Queen, consider starting here
7:42 - Because THIS is the real problem… and a solution!

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Truth & Clarity Session with Sharon

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“What is not Love is always Fear.” -from A Course In Miracles, scribed by Helen Schucman

In other words, the opposite of love is not hate… it’s fear. And we unconsciously live within fear-based decisions when we misunderstand our options!

We have only two: LOVE or FEAR.

So how do we know if we’re making choices based in fear… or with love? 

This choice shows up most prominently in our marriage relationships, and in this episode I’ll explain why - plus the question to ask if you’re unsure where your own decisions stem from (and how to do things differently).

What You’ll Learn In This Episode:

1:09 - Fear is sneaky, because it’s often unconscious
3:16 - Here’s why it shows up most obviously in our marriages
4:20 - You think it’s love… but is it based in fear? 
5:34 - This is everyone’s deepest fear…
6:06 - Why the motivation behind your action is important
7:57 - Here’s what I ask myself when I’m unsure about a decision

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Truth & Clarity Session with Sharon

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Many of my clients come to me saying, “I no longer feel desire for my partner… even though I want to! Intimacy used to feel so different. What’s wrong?” 

And well, it’s probably not what you think.

In this episode, I invite you to discover how the thrill of novelty and the excitement of the unknown are essential to your long-term marriage, plus how you can realistically bring these elements back to life, starting today.

Because maybe it’s less about what’s “wrong” with your relationship… and more about what you can do differently.

What You’ll Learn In This Episode:

0:59 - You might think THIS is the problem (it’s not!) 
2:49 - Here’s the real problem - and it happens to all of us
6:01 - Imagine what it looks like to re-incorporate spontaneity into your marriage
9:25 - But here’s the worst time of day to begin… 
11:16 - Here’s what I do to keep desire alive with my husband
12:29 - Why non-sexual touch is vital to revamping desire

Mentioned In This Episode

Truth & Clarity Session with Sharon

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How do we move forward together after the discovery of an affair? How do I know he won’t cheat again? What if there’s more sexual indiscretion I just don’t know about (yet)? 

In this episode, I’ll share a story from one of my clients: She’s 59 and just discovered her husband’s long-term sexual indiscretion. Now she’s trying to understand what went wrong and how to move forward. 

I’ll talk about how we can get introspective (without taking responsibility for something that’s NOT our fault), the importance of being “chosen” by our partners (not merely tied together by convenience or fear), plus the Loving Truth about what’s possible on the other side.

Please note: This is a tender, sensitive topic for those of us who’ve experienced sexual indiscretion within an intimate relationship. When deciding whether to listen to this episode (or select another), I encourage you to keep this in mind and take good care of yourself.

What You’ll Learn In This Episode:

1:16 - She’s 59 and just discovered her husband’s sexual indiscretion
4:22 - When you’ve been cheated on, you need these 2 important things 
6:39 - Here’s where he needs to start
13:07 - What does it mean to get “introspective”?
16:18 - Are you brave enough to consider this, too?
20:18 - This is what can happen on the other side!
23:17 - And here’s the loving truth…

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Truth & Clarity Session with Sharon

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Heather has been married to her husband for eight years, but they’re rarely intimate. Following a hidden ED diagnosis and an affair, her husband is finally initiating sex… but she’s no longer interested. 

Now Heather wants to know, “Is there a way back to each other… after I’ve lost desire?”

In this episode, we’ll get into some sensitive topics, including - what to do when sex feels like an obligation, how to face the reality of your relationship’s problems, and what it means that you BOTH have a say in the future of your marriage (plus the fact that there’s no ‘right’ or ‘wrong’ decisions here).

Listen in as I answer Heather’s question, and see what you might apply to your own situation.

What You’ll Learn In This Episode:

0:31 - She’s been married for 8 years, but intimacy has always been limited
4:16 - Can you start by giving yourself grace?
5:06 - The question of having a child… or getting divorced
7:35 - You need to tell yourself the truth
10:04 - He gets to choose for his life… and you get to choose for yours
13:17 - Is there a way back to each other… after all this? 
16:57 - Is he on ‘good behavior’ right now? 
19:10 - There’s no ‘right’ or ‘wrong’ decision here. But the decision is yours

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COURSE: Disconnection to Desire

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If you understand this, your marriage will automatically become so much easier…

The differences between males and females in relationship starts with the brain - and it starts before we’re even born.

In this episode, we’re digging into the science behind our natural differences, plus how our different brain development impacts our male/female relationships as adults - based on Dr. Louann Brizendine’s research, laid out in her book: The Female Brain.

You’ll discover the neurological reasons behind our distinct ways of communication and emotional processing, plus how this shapes our marriage relationships and male/female interactions.

What You’ll Learn In This Episode:

3:37 - Our differences begin before we’re even born
7:58 - Baby girls are born knowing how to “read the room”
10:55 - The physiological differences in male/female communication
13:23 - Why women are the 1st to notice disharmony in relationships
18:40 - Why your marriage *feels* different to you… than to your husband

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Truth & Clarity Session with Sharon
The Female Brain by Dr. Louann Brizendine

Struggling to decide whether to stay or go in your marriage and you’re serious about finding that answer?

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How do we get more comfortable talking about sex? Is it “okay” to add sex to our schedules… or should it only be spontaneous? What if one of us is never in the mood?

In this episode, I’m detailing FIVE things that passionate couples do differently - taken from the teachings of Esther Perel. I’ll explain the concept of “responsive desire” (and how to be intimate when you’re not in the mood), what to do if it feels like your partner is only ever “taking” from you, and the importance of consistency with physical intimacy - for both partners! 

Listen in if you’re ready and wanting to ignite deeper passion inside your most intimate relationship.

What You’ll Learn In This Episode:

2:36 - I rarely want to work out… but I never regret it
5:50 - When it feels like all he wants to do is take from you
9:07 - You cannot punish your partner for this!
10:41 - Your relationship needs physical intimacy (consistently)
13:40 - Maintenance sex v. Spontaneous sex

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Truth & Clarity Session with Sharon

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“I had one foot out the door… but pretending otherwise only led to greater disconnection and resentment.” - Sharon Pope

This is a soulful revelation for anyone who’s given up on the evolution of their marriage. I stopped trying when things got hard in my first marriage - and there’s just ONE thing I’d do differently. 

In this episode, you’ll hear me talk about the main reasons women stop trying, what to do if you feel like giving up (OR if you’ve already given up) - plus the root cause of resentment in relationships.

WHAT YOU'LL LEARN

• 4:27 - After 10 years, I just gave up trying
• 5:01 - Here’s my ONE regret
• 7:10 - If YOU feel like you’d rather give up than try again… 
• 12:06 - Here’s what I want you to think about

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Could your marriage be the cornerstone to success in every other part of your life? In this episode, I invite you to consider the potentially transformative concept of placing your relationship above even your children and career… 

I explain why many of us naturally prioritize other aspects of life (kids, work, etc.) and the subtle-yet-profound impact this could be having in our marriages. This is a divisive topic, so I invite you to tune in and consider what this means for you!

What You’ll Learn In This Episode:

2:49 - Can your marriage be the foundation… for everything else in your life?
4:18 - Most of us love our kids unconditionally. What about our life partners?
6:22 - What else can thrive… when your marriage thrives?
8:04 - But prioritizing your marriage shouldn’t feel like a chore
11:20 - What’s ONE thing you can do to prioritize your marriage?

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Truth & Clarity Session with Sharon

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If you feel stuck in indecision about whether you should stay in your relationship or leave it… you likely don’t have enough information to make your decision (yet).

That’s the problem my client was facing: Her marriage had been struggling for years, and now she found herself deep inside an affair - no longer in love with her husband but undecided about what to do next. 

In this episode, I walk you through the 90-day strategy we used to help her come to clarity, plus the difference between thoughtful decision-making and “convenient” decisions. If you feel stuck in indecision about your marriage, this episode is for you!

What You’ll Learn In This Episode:

2:09 - What do you want? (What don’t you want?)
5:18 - What are your reasons WHY?
7:21 - The 90-day ground rules for success
9:20 - But the goal is NOT “wedded bliss in 90 days!”
12:23 - Ask this question if you’re feeling stuck

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Truth & Clarity Session with Sharon

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Who am I, and why should you listen to me? 

The work of relationship coaching is personal, and today I want to share more about who I am, personally and professionally - so you can see behind-the-scenes of my life and work.

In this episode, I share my personal story of a first marriage that ended in divorce, how I’ve been on all sides of affairs, and why my second marriage is thriving. You’ll also hear about what led me to relationship coaching, the work I did previously, and how I finally discovered peace and happiness - using my own life coaching tools!

What You’ll Learn In This Episode:

1:58 - The simple reason I married my first husband
6:51 - I thought the answer was to find the right person…
8:20 - Why my second marriage is thriving 10 years later!
11:46 - This is what I did for work, prior to relationship coaching
16:09 - The first time I felt my heart leap out of my chest
21:08 - Who are my people? What matters to me? Where am I from? What do I believe in? 
29:27 - How I finally discovered peace

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Truth & Clarity Session with Sharon

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Oh, the age-old dilemma in nearly every marriage… One partner needs emotional connection before physical intimacy; the other requires sex to feel connected. 

Both partners require both types of connection. But which comes first? 

In this episode, I take a stand on which type of connection *must* come first, plus why we need different things to feel connected, what to do if you feel like your partner is only ever ‘taking’ from you, and how you might be exacerbating the disconnection in your marriage. 

What You’ll Learn In This Episode:

1:07 - We need BOTH emotional & physical connection… which comes first?
4:05 - The dilemma: I’m not meeting your needs, because you’re  not meeting mine
5:47 - But this is what HAS to come first - no matter what
8:00 - Your partner is not trying to take something from you…

Mentioned In This Episode:

Truth & Clarity Session with Sharon
Sex Talks: The Five Conversations That Will Transform Your Love Life by Vanessa & Xander Marin

Struggling to decide whether to stay or go in your marriage and you’re serious about finding that answer?

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When one of my clients discovered her husband’s betrayal, she consciously chose to stay in the marriage… but she also struggled to know how to move forward from there.

Would his past behavior determine their success or failure? Could new patterns of behavior “save” their marriage?

In this episode, I’m talking about the problems with ONLY looking to the past for predictions of the future, plus how we can start trusting ourselves and move forward after a marriage upset.

What You’ll Learn In This Episode:

2:10 - The best predictor of the future is the past, unless… 
7:05 - How new patterns of behavior *change* your relationship
10:07 - You can’t have one foot in the past & one foot in the future…
13:08 - Here’s how you can start trusting YOURSELF

Mentioned In This Episode:

Truth & Clarity Session with Sharon

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If you can get better at this one thing… every single relationship in your life will get better! 

Most relationship issues can be traced back to problems with communication, right? There might be a lack of communication, a handful of miscommunications, a lack of understanding… the list goes on. 

But here’s what I want you and your partner BOTH to consider: Are you as interested in what your partner has to say… as you are in being seen & heard?

In this episode, we’ll dig into this question, and I’ll share 5 practical tools to help you get better at both listening and being heard.

What You’ll Learn In This Episode:

01:10 - You know what it’s like to feel unseen & unheard (so does your partner…)
04:53 - It gets harder when your identity is wrapped up in the conversation
07:35 - When it’s time to “close your mouth & open your ears”
08:31 - Most people do not have practice being fully present…
13:15 - Are you listening to him, too?

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Truth & Clarity Session with Sharon

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How can I fix our marriage if he doesn’t think anything is wrong? What can I do if my needs aren’t being met by my partner? What information should I share with my kids about our divorce?

In this episode of The Loving Truth podcast, you’ll hear from three callers who are stuck at an impasse and struggling to move forward. Together we’ll get clear about what’s necessary to make a change and how to take the first step.

What You’ll Learn In This Episode:

00:55 - She wants to work on the marriage, but he says it’s “fine”
04:46 - Your husband is NOT a jerk…
07:55 - He wants physical connection, but she needs emotional connection first
11:20 - Who should make the first move? 
16:52 - They’re getting divorced: What information should they share with their kids?
20:36 - What your children feel TODAY is not how they’ll feel FOREVER
26:16 - The better you do *this* one thing, the smoother your relationships will be

Mentioned In This Episode:

Struggling to decide whether to stay or go in your marriage and you’re serious about finding that answer?

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When one or both partners in a marriage is neurodivergent, you face quite unique challenges…  In this episode, I’m joined by Dayna Abraham to explore neurodivergent marriage and more!

Now, you don’t need a diagnosis of ADHD, OCD, autism, etc. to enjoy this episode… rather, Dayna explains how learning to communicate better with your partner is actually about understanding them (and yourself!) better - neurodivergent or otherwise. 

You’ll also learn about neurodivergent labels & diagnoses, the wide variety of neurodivergent experience, how neurodivergence can impact marital intimacy & affection, and how you might build better systems & processes within a neurodivergent marriage. Plus, Dayna shares her own framework for thriving inside a marriage with one or both neurodivergent partners. (This framework applies to parenting, business, and more!)

What You’ll Learn In This Episode:

01:40 - The difference between a label & a diagnosis
06:59 - Neurodivergent people receive 10X more negative feedback…
11:45 - The female experience of being neurodivergent
15:28 - What to do if you think your partner is neurodivergent 
23:20 - How to NOT take your partner’s neurodivergence personally
27:54 - Neurodivergence, intimacy & affection
31:08 - How to build systems & processes in a neurodivergent marriage
40:40 - Dayna’s frameworks for neurodivergent parenting, marriage & more
48:38 - Okay, radical acceptance… but what about unacceptable behavior? 
57:44 - The most beautiful part of Dayna’s neurodivergent marriage

Mentioned In This Episode:

Struggling to decide whether to stay or go in your marriage and you’re serious about finding that answer?

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Feeling a loss of attraction and desire for your partner is very common… even when you’re recovering your marriage to a healthy place. 

Many of us think that a “spicy” marriage (or an intimate connection) is what’s lost to our youthful naivety or the “magic” of something new. But it’s actually about biology. 

In this episode, I’m going to get a little nerdy and talk about healthy hormones, PLUS 4 practical ways you can invite desire into your marriage and your life.

What You’ll Learn In This Episode:

4:53 - We can’t talk about desire without talking about your hormones 
8:16 - Your body needs these 3 things to feel desire
12:36 - Does your relationship still feel… fun?
15:57 - The fastest way to connect with your partner
18:31 - Desire isn’t something you “make” happen
21:15 - Rekindling desire is about action & effort

Mentioned In This Episode:

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When’s the last time you felt truly heard by your partner? When’s the last time you enjoyed a serious conversation together… or agreed on a solution after an argument? 

Errors in communication are the most common problem I see with unhappy couples - because men and women communicate differently! And we often communicate for very different reasons. 

In this episode of The Loving Truth podcast, we’ll explore the art of communicating within a heterosexual partnership, and I’ll provide 4 tips for more effective communication between men and women.

What You’ll Learn In This Episode:

• 0:54 - Women communicate to build connection (men do not)
• 4:49 - Men & women solve problems in different ways
• 6:22 - It’s not about who does it “right” & who does it “wrong” 
• 10:28 - Can you be braver (and bolder) with your communication boundaries? 
• 14:10 - Listen better by asking THIS question
• 16:05 - The #1 reason happy couples are actually happy

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Struggling to decide whether to stay or go in your marriage? Book a Truth & Clarity Session.

Struggling to decide whether to stay or go in your marriage and you’re serious about finding that answer?

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“How do I compromise with a partner who I no longer respect? How can I increase my respect for him… without lowering my standards?” 

In this episode, I’m answering a question from one of our podcast listeners about what she can do differently or better to build back trust with her partner - after it’s been lost. 

You’ll learn 4 practical steps you can take, including whether and how to compromise, plus where to put your focus as you move forward. 

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How do I know if my spouse is genuinely changing or not? Can I trust his new good behavior will last? What can we do if my husband wants to open our marriage and I’m not sure? How do I move forward after my husband’s emotional affair with a coworker? 

In this episode of The Loving Truth podcast, you’ll hear from three callers who want to understand how to encourage positive changes to make a marriage last, what to do when a partner comes out as bisexual, and how to move forward after an emotional affair.

3:13 - How to appreciate the good things he does to encourage lasting change
8:24 - Her husband wants to open their marriage - does she? 
10:03 - When you both want to feel seen and accepted (but neither of you does)
14:04 - The reality of emotional affairs (i.e. The Danger Zone)
18:13 - It’s not about the other woman
20:51 - What’s really going on when things go “bad”

Mentioned In Q&A: New "Good" Behavior, Emotional Affairs and an Open Marriage

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Men and women communicate very differently and for very different reasons. And if you don’t understand how and why, it’ll cause problems that strain your relationship. So what do you need to know and do differently to communicate better in your marriage

In this episode of The Loving Truth podcast, you’ll learn about why men and women communicate differently, why it can cause issues, and the brain chemistry involved. I’ll also teach you four things you can do to improve the communication between you and your partner.

00:54 - Ways in which men and women communicate differently and the reasons behind it

7:15 - How to be more direct in your communication with your husband (without coming across like a bitch)

10:20 - Two ways to be braver in your marriage and how they help your partner show up better inside the relationship

12:33 - An example of how understanding one another makes communication easier in marriage

14:10 - How to listen better when your partner is ready to share something with you

Mentioned In Four Ways to Improve Communication Between You and Your Spouse

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You know how each person can see something different when looking at the same piece of art? Perspective is the same way.

Your perspective is uniquely yours, and it’s built through belief which is shaped in the first few years of your life by multiple things like your environment and the people in it. In that way, your beliefs are also like art, bringing together multiple elements to create the big picture that is you. But, if you’re not careful, some beliefs you hold can play a part in destroying any relationship you have.

In this episode of The Loving Truth podcast, you’ll hear about the one belief you might have that can ruin almost any relationship. You’ll learn a simple thing you can do to become a little more conscious in all of your relationships and discover how this subtle shift can improve your marriage

00:25 - The lost art that’s affecting your relationships

2:49 - A couple of reasons why you argue with others over perspective

4:30 - The problem with the concept of right versus wrong

6:37 - The benefits of looking at things in your relationships through the lens of perspective

8:57 - What happens when you’re simply curious about your partner’s perspective

Mentioned In The One Belief That Will Ruin Any Relationship

Stay or Go? By Sharon Pope

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Feeling frustrated by the same interactions and experiences with your partner? Perhaps you and your spouse are having the same arguments over and over again, or you’re still not affectionate with each other.

How will your life look and feel a year from now, though, if you do nothing different? You might think you know the answer, but you’ll only be partly right.

In this episode of The Loving Truth podcast, you’ll learn about two reasons why your life won’t be the same next year if you don’t do things differently. I’ll also give you suggestions on how to change your approach to the problems in your marriage so that it has a chance to evolve into something better.

1:10 - The first (and most important) reason why your life a year from now won’t still be the same by doing nothing different

3:49 - The one inevitability that means things won’t be different for you next year

5:22 - A suggestion for doing something different that puts you in the fast lane to change

6:53 - The assumption you need to drop to get things moving in a different direction

8:03 - One of the more powerful things you can do that most people resist (at least at first)

10:01 - How to get out of the inertia and implement the suggestion of your choice

11:45 - The result if you remain passive and ignore the rumble strip in your marriage

Mentioned In What Will Life Be Like One Year From Now (If You Do Nothing Different)?

Stay or Go? By Sharon Pope

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If you need to end a relationship, you want to try to do it in the most loving and peaceful way possible. This is something I say often, but there’s one problem with it: not everyone wants to be loving and peaceful about separating.

One of my clients, parent coach Julie Zivah, finds herself in a highly contentious divorce with her husband of 22 years. Yet she has found a way to keep her peace while still going through the process. And she wanted to be on the podcast to take us through her journey as someone in a high-conflict divorce.

In this episode of The Loving Truth podcast, you’ll hear about how Julie’s divorce has gone thus far and how she’s learned to stay calm and zen. You’ll learn about the hard realizations she’s had about her relationship with her husband and kids, the tools she’s used to help navigate her situation mentally and emotionally, and her supportive mindset and approach as her family’s dynamic continues to be in transition.

2:20 - Julie describes where she was mentally and emotionally in her marriage when we started working together

5:40 - How Julie got to the decision to end her relationship with her husband

8:35 - Does Julie ever get cold feet and feel tempted to change her mind?

11:21 - The moment Julie knew her divorce wasn’t going to be loving and peaceful (and an important side note about her approach to this conversation)

14:15 - Julie shares one of the hardest realizations in this process and how her relationship with her kids has changed

21:57 - The importance of a dependable adult for kids and teaching your kids how to manage difficult people

24:05 - How Julie’s experience has changed her parent coaching practice

26:03 - Collaborative divorce proceedings with a high-conflict personality and what happened when Julie switched to a non-collaborative process

31:09 - The tool that helps Julie do things with love and kindness while going through a difficult divorce

34:40 - How Julie kept her peace when things got really tough and she had moments of doubt

38:47 - The importance of using helpful tools when you’re not in crisis

40:14 - Julie’s advice if you suspect a high-conflict separation on the horizon

46:01 - Where Julie’s relationships with her partner and kids stand today

Mentioned In How to Keep Your Peace Through a High-Conflict Divorce

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Splitting and Don’t Alienate the Kids! by Bill Eddy

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Are you avoiding spending time alone with your partner? Do you feel like you’ve lost momentum on going forward with your divorce decision after talking about it with your spouse? I answered a couple of questions from Tiffany and another caller who found themselves in these situations.

In this episode of The Loving Truth podcast, you’ll hear about how you get to a place of disconnection in your marriage and how the way you approach the divorce conversation with your partner can cause you to waver on your decision. I’ll also teach you how to build your muscle of discomfort to help you stop avoiding your husband and how you can move the separation process along as smoothly as possible.

0:40 - A choice between befriending a little discomfort or a lifetime of avoiding your husband

4:08 - Why sometimes you avoid being alone with your partner

5:35 - How to start breaking down the buffers you’ve become used to in your relationship

9:48 - A common thing that happens in marriages with kids

12:45 - Why the conversation to end your marriage is just the first of many

16:56 - The importance of how you enter a conversation with your partner about separation

18:49 - How to move the separation and divorce process along as peacefully and loving as possible

Mentioned In Avoiding Time Alone and a Divorce Discussion Gone Wrong

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So you’ve decided to end your relationship in divorce. What’s the first thing you should do next? The answer might surprise you.

In this episode of The Loving Truth podcast, you’ll learn about a much more productive first step you can take instead of the one that most likely immediately comes to mind. I’ll also teach you why it helps you commit to your decision to end your marriage.

1:19 - Your first instinct after you realize divorce is the answer

2:08 - What a wobble list is, and the point of making one

4:18 - The process of creating your wobble list (with examples)

7:00 - Why you will second-guess your commitment to divorce at some point 

7:55 - Scenarios that can cause you to second-guess yourself most often

Mentioned In The First Thing You Should Do When You Decide to Get a Divorce

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You feel like you’re at the end of your rope when it comes to your marriage. Divorce looks like the inevitable next step...but is it?

What if there was another way? What if there was the possibility of still saving your relationship by evolving it into a newer, better version?

In this episode of The Loving Truth podcast, you’ll learn about the divorce alternative that many of my clients have used. I’ll teach you the similarity between relationships and technology and reveal how one client has started evolving her marriage.

1:03 - How “Julie’s” and “Chris’” relationship dynamic changed in 23 years

3:05 - How you need to think of marriage evolution

6:09 - How we get to the point of being stuck in the same miserable cycle in our relationship

9:03 - What the process of evolving your marriage depends on

10:36 - What marriage is and the change in “Julie’s” marriage with “Chris” as it began to evolve

13:11 - What if your marriage can’t evolve beyond where it is right now?

Mentioned In Instead of Divorce, Can You Save Your Marriage By Evolving It?

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“What other people think of you doesn’t matter.”

You can hear that a thousand times. You can even tell it to yourself over and over until you’re blue in the face. And while a select few may not be rattled by it, most of us feel the effects of someone else’s judgment.

But you can bounce back instead of letting it affect you for weeks, months, or a lifetime. In this episode of The Loving Truth podcast, you’ll learn three ways of thinking about this that’ll help soften and shorten the blow to just a few days (or even hours) of hurt feelings. I’ll even share with you how I’ve learned to deal with judgment from family members about what I do in my business.

3:24 - Why the way someone feels about you has nothing to do with you

5:50 - What you can’t control (even if you think you can) and why

8:29 - The only opinion that ultimately matters (and a scenario that highlights why)

10:37 - The choices we all face when someone judges us

Mentioned In Worrying About What Others Think of You? How to Bounce Back Quickly

Stay or Go? How to Find Confidence and Clarity So You Can Fix Your Marriage, or Move Forward Without Regret by Sharon Pope

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Want to move forward with decisions in your life and marriage? That’s what my monthly Q&As are designed to help you do! And today, it’s time to answer questions from three more listeners for November.

Sherry is on the verge of going to a divorce lawyer and is afraid. Amanda has a stressful situation that has caused her husband to separate from her and use her as an emotional punching bag. And Tamara has a husband seeking affirmation that she feels she can’t give him.

In this episode of The Loving Truth podcast, you’ll learn about how to handle any fear you have about divorcing, separation-causing situations that have you feeling stuck between a rock and a hard place, and unrealized fears from a previous relationship that can give you a sense of deja vu. I’ll also reveal why being asked to do what doesn’t come naturally to you doesn’t have to derail your relationship.

1:01 - Why you should see multiple attorneys if you’re moving toward divorce

6:13 - Helping Sherry navigate through her fear (and how I did it after the breakup of my first marriage)

12:21 - Why Amanda’s husband decided to separate from her

16:30 - Should Amanda completely close the book on her relationship?

18:51 - How Tamara’s unhealed wound from her first marriage is affecting her current relationship

22:30 - How I got through a similar situation and the opportunity Tamara has in front of her right now

26:21 - What’s really behind Tamara’s reluctance to speak her husband’s love language and how she can resolve it

Mentioned In Fearing Divorce, Stressful Separation Point, and Love Language Trepidation

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Eat, Pray, Love by Elizabeth Gilbert

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If it’s the fear of what might happen on the OTHER side of divorce that’s keeping you stuck, this episode is for you! I’m joined by leading Family Law Attorney & Mediation expert, Susan Guthrie, to discuss exactly what to consider when you’re stuck in the decision to “stay or go.”

And I have to tell you: Susan shared advice that I wasn’t expecting!

You'll Learn:

5:29 - People are often better off in their “beyond”
12:35 - Divorce will be one of the most stressful events in your life, BUT…
16:30 - How to avoid regret on the other side
19:32 - High emotions don’t make the best cocktail for rational thinking
26:20 - The best $$ you’ll ever spend during your divorce
30:21 - You don’t have to villainize your ex-partner - in fact, you shouldn’t
37:03 - Life after divorce is not actually the big black hole of a future you imagine
41:33 - You will become a different person as you heal
50:38 - What will really matter a few years from now…

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Do you trust your partner? Even when we say no, we often don’t consider exactly what it is we don’t trust about them.

This goes beyond cheating, by the way, which is what most people automatically think of when it comes to trust in a marriage. Having a lack of trust anywhere in a relationship creates disappointment, disconnection, and a lack of intimacy with your spouse.

What areas of your marriage do you need to reconsider when it comes to trust? And how do you resolve it when you find that there’s mistrust?

In this episode of The Loving Truth, you’ll learn about the different types of trust to consider inside your relationship. I’ll give you examples of how these mistrustful issues can affect your marriage and teach you what you can do about it.

00:46 - Why trust is important inside of relationships

4:53 - The biggest type of trust issue I see in my community

7:16 - How lack of physical trust doesn’t always show up as physical abuse

9:03 - The third type of trust that can erode your relationship

10:21 - An area of trust to keep an eye on even if you’re in the process of divorcing

12:43 - Other areas to look at and uncover any trust issues 

Mentioned In Different Types of Trust You Need to Consider in Your Marriage

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You’d think if our society failed at something 40-50% of the time, we’d probably be doing everything we could to solve the problem...

Yet, we don’t do that with the institution of marriage, which sees that rate of divorce among first-timers (it’s even worse for second and third marriages). Instead, we assume our partner is the problem; therefore, the solution is just getting out of the relationship.

But we still take ourselves with us to the next relationship. What we really need to do is change the ways we approach marriage itself.

In this episode of The Loving Truth podcast, you’ll learn five ways to upgrade your marriage. I’ll also teach you three big reasons why people as a society tend to give up on their relationships and contribute to this thrashing of the institution.

1:56 - Three significant ingredients that can cause people to give up on their marriages

6:39 - The first perspective to help you be more conscious and much happier inside your relationships

11:41 - Expecting and embracing lots of changes in your marriage

13:42 - Why it takes a village to exist in relationships with people

17:00 - Why owning your shit is essential for a healthy relationship

18:28 - The last upgrade that leads to more ease and connection in your marriage

23:18 - How you can start implementing these upgrades

Mentioned In Five Ways to Upgrade Your Marriage for More Relationship Success

Stay or Go? How to Find Confidence and Clarity So You Can Fix Your Marriage, or Move Forward Without Regret by Sharon Pope

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You’ll find stuff that scares the crap out of you as a parent, if you search Google on the impact of divorce on kids. And while it’s not wrong, it’s not the full story either.

There’s something missing from statistics that show the effects of parents divorcing on their children. How you and your husband go through the process is really what’s critical to their emotional well-being.

In this episode of The Loving Truth podcast, you’ll learn about how the way you go through the divorce process can affect your kids and their relationship with you and your soon-to-be ex. I’ll also reveal some tools that provide better options to help them understand and accept what’s happening.

3:05 - Examples of the downstream impact of how you divorce

10:32 - The destructive impact of sharing intimate details of your marriage with your children (even if they’re adults now)

12:46 - Examples of better ways to handle divorcing so that it doesn’t cause your kids to suffer

15:39 - How to talk (and listen) to your kids when going through a divorce

20:12 - Why it’s okay for your children to see you struggle (and where it gets unhealthy)

21:09 - One last practical thing to help your kids get through their parent’s divorce

Mentioned In The Missing Piece to the Research on the Impact of Divorce on Your Kids

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Do you cringe at the thought of sex with your husband? Do you even recoil from his intimate touch?

After helping sooo many women in my work, I can count on one hand the number of women contemplating divorce who still enjoy sex with their spouse. But how do we get from “til death do us part” and the honeymoon night to moving away when he reaches for you for some intimacy?

While there are several reasons why you might be avoiding sex with your partner, in this episode of The Loving Truth podcast, we’ll focus on one specific reason. You’ll also learn how to stop getting in your own way and take things into your own hands (so to speak) regarding sex.

1:28 - Some things that can lead to not wanting sex with your husband

2:53 - The myth about men and sex and what’s necessary for women to be into sex

4:44 - What you can’t be doing when you’re trying to orgasm

6:10 - Why you shouldn’t leave him in charge of sex all the time

8:33 - Advocacy for yourself and what you shouldn’t make a lack of craving sex say about you

Mentioned In Why You REALLY Don’t Want to Have Sex With Your Husband (& How to Fix It)

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Infidelity involving a husband and his wife’s sisters, a hesitation to leave Mr. (Fake) Nice Guy behind, and a curious question about vibrators, oh my! These are the circumstances involved in the relationship questions I answer on today’s show.

You’ll hear from Sylvia, Sarah, and Kim in this episode of The Loving Truth podcast. You’ll learn about moving forward after a triple betrayal involving siblings, the fear behind the hesitation to leave even after things seem to have changed for the better, and the need to listen to your inner voice over others when making decisions about your marriage. In the process, I’ll also teach you what forgiving others is really all about.

0:55 - How to end trauma when your sisters had an affair with your husband

7:37 - Rebuilding trust and friendship after a triple betrayal: is it possible for Sylvia?

13:34 - What’s really causing Sarah to question whether or not she should leave her husband

18:55 - An opportunity to teach your kids even deeper lessons

25:03 - My hunch about the real reason why Kim chose to ask a relationship expert about vibrators

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Mentioned In The Real Point of Forgiveness, Honoring Yourself, and Other Questions Answered

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Emily Morse’s Sex and Communication Masterclass 

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Are you trying to remain in your relationship after an affair but fear that it’s going to happen again?

Whether it was you who cheated on your partner or vice versa, you need to understand the reasons behind it. Otherwise, the relationship will never heal, the trust will remain eroded, and you might just find yourself back in the same situation.

So in this episode of The Loving Truth podcast, you’ll learn about the possible motivating factors behind infidelity. I’ll also reveal how you can best prevent it from happening again.

2:30 - Three general reasons why people cheat on their partner

6:56 - Two other reasons why people in a bad marriage may have an affair

9:30 - Why you need to get introspective about your cheating and write it down

11:18 - Three journaling prompts to help you understand what’s going on inside of you

15:23 - An example showing why getting to the bottom of the cheating is important for you and your spouse

Mentioned In Understanding the Reasons Why You Cheated (or Got Cheated On)

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Things were different then.

When you first met your spouse, you were looking for a certain something. Now that you’re years (perhaps even decades) into your marriage, that search has evolved into something else.

In this episode of The Loving Truth podcast, you’ll learn about how what you’ve sought from your relationship has changed since its beginning. I’ll also teach you why this unfolding process can sometimes lead to looking for something outside of your relationship (in the form of an affair).

0:27 - What you’re really looking for at the beginning of a relationship

1:52 - How your relationships resemble Maslow’s hierarchy of needs

5:47 - What we reach for next in a relationship once we have what we want (and why it isn’t wrong)

9:28 - Can your relationship evolve into this?

Mentioned In What You Wanted Since the Beginning of Your Marriage Has Changed

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In the coaching world, some ideas can seem a little out there. For example, the idea of creating a conscious relationship may feel a little airy fairy to you.

I mean, it sounds like a good idea. But what exactly does it mean? What does a more conscious relationship look like, and how do you create one?

In this episode of The Loving Truth podcast, you’ll learn what it takes to create a more conscious relationship. I’ll show you what it looks like to be a more conscious partner with examples of how it benefits your marriage.

1:04 - Defining the word conscious and what it means as far as your relationship

2:49 - How to become a conscious watcher of your relationship

5:49 - The piece that makes you easier to be in a relationship with

9:40 - The unpleasant (on the surface) piece that offers you an opportunity

12:19 - Ways in which growth can appear in a conscious relationship (and a quick recap of the three pieces)

Mentioned In Three Pieces You Need to Create a More Conscious Relationship

Stay or Go? How to Find Confidence and Clarity So You Can Fix Your Marriage, or Move Forward Without Regret by Sharon Pope

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It’s that time again! In this episode of The Loving Truth podcast, I’m doing another Q&A about your greatest relationship challenges. And today, you’ll hear my answers to the following voicemail questions from an anonymous caller and Jennifer:

Is it normal to want to know all the details of my husband’s affair in order to process and get over it? Am I wrong to want to leave my husband of 23 years (who I’m still with out of guilt) so I can find love and be happy again someday?

In the process, you’ll learn what you’re actually looking for when you want to know all the details about an affair (and why you should be careful what you ask for), the line you don’t want to cross to remain in a relationship, and why asking if you’re right or wrong to end your marriage doesn’t have a wrong answer.

I’ll also reveal the danger of over-functioning for other people in your life and why you shouldn’t concern yourself with what others think about the ending of your relationship.

1:00 - Why wanting to know all the details about an affair is a form of self-abuse

5:43 - Why it can be difficult to get past the details once you know them

9:53 - The choice between placing your focus on feeling good or heaping on more trauma

14:16 - Unpacking several things in Jennifer’s multifaceted question

22:02 - How Jennifer can ease the guilt she feels about ending her marriage and what she can expect going forward with a divorce

26:13 - The best and healthiest thing Jennifer can do for her and her husband’s 21-year-old child 

Mentioned In The Dangers of Over Functioning & More of Your Relationship Questions

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Are your conversations with your husband stale, awkward, or practically non-existent these days? Maybe you talk about the same things over and over because it’s “safe,” or you’ve just gotten stuck in a routine.

Regardless, you no longer feel as close to him as you used to. So, how do you get back to having normal, interesting discussions after work, on the couch, around the dinner table...or on a date?

In this episode of The Loving Truth podcast, you’ll learn why the interest has fizzled out when you try to talk to your spouse, why you need to show interest in each other’s interests, and how to put some pizzazz back in your conversations. I’ll also share a few questions you can use as starters to help re-spark curiosity in each other and your marriage.

1:02 - Two reasons why you might struggle to feel close when speaking with your spouse

3:33 - The perspective that keeps curiosity intact in a long-term relationship

5:36 - Why you shy away from talking about the bad stuff (and why you shouldn’t)

7:58 - Two reasons why you’ll want to show interest in what your partner is interested in, even if you don’t share it

12:49 - Questions to help normalize conversation between you and your spouse when it starts to wane

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If you’ve ever wondered whether your marriage (and your life) would be better if you JUST had the “right” partner… this episode is for you. 

This romantic idea that the “right” person is always easy to love is what’s ruining our ability to thrive within marriage! And I want to talk about it.

In this episode, I’ll explain the problem with our unrealistic expectations, the reason your partner might not be “easy” to love, and why we get stuck in “the honeymoon phase.” 

“Compatibility is an achievement of love; it shouldn’t be its pre-condition.” - Alain de Button

What You'll Learn in This Episode

• 3:06 - Is your relationship transactional OR growth-oriented? 
• 5:54 - THIS is the person best-suited to you… 
• 8:35 - If your marriage feels doomed, consider your expectations
• 10:01 - No one is easy to love… even you

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“We need to talk.” Do those four dreaded words sound familiar? They usually lead to defensive feelings and another argument with your spouse.

But you two have been stuck in limbo for a while now. You really need to sit down and have that difficult conversation you may have been putting off about moving forward (or not) in your marriage.

So, how do you approach this much-needed conversation without it turning into the same old argument? The key is asking the right questions--for yourself and your partner.

In this episode of The Loving Truth podcast, you’ll learn how to generate information beyond just the surface level of your relationship when you need to talk, whether you decide to stay together or call it quits. I’ll give you questions to ask yourself and your partner so you can get better-quality answers that’ll actually help you make better decisions about your marriage.

3:14 - Why you need to be aware of the quality of the questions you ask your spouse

9:17 - How to change the way you show up in a difficult conversation with your partner

13:08 - Questions to ask yourself (before the conversation) and your spouse (during the conversation)

16:16 - Asking more generative questions to move the process forward (whether you stay or go)

20:38 - Better questions to ask if you’re trying to make your marriage work but aren’t optimistic about your chances

26:07 - Better questions to ask if you’ve decided to end your marriage

29:51 - The difference between investigative versus detective questions

Mentioned In How Quality Questions Lead to Better Decisions About Your Marriage

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Episode 38: Change Destructive Patterns in Your Marriage

We Can Do Hard Things with Glennon Doyle: “215. The Bravest Conversation We’ve Had: Andrea Gibson” 

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If you’ve been with someone for a while, you have certain ways you typically engage with one another. While some of these patterns of engagement are helpful and work for you, others can be destructive.

Having the same destructive patterns re-occur creates greater disconnection and dysfunction in your relationship. Once you are aware of them, though, you can change them.

But how do you become aware of and change a destructive pattern in your marriage? There’s one I see all the time, and it’s triggered by what I call “the four dreaded words.”
In this episode of The Loving Truth podcast, you’ll find out the words and the pattern, why it happens, and how you can disrupt it and create a new, healthier pattern between you and your partner.

1:45 - The destructive pattern I see every day triggered by these four words
4:42 - What you need to do to break this pattern and receive what you want
7:46 - How you can disrupt this destructive pattern and create a better one
9:40 - Why it isn’t necessary for both of you to be working together to change the pattern
11:52 - An alternative if it feels too scary to do this with your partner right now

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You’ve seen those TV or radio shows with experts taking calls, right? They answer questions from people about their financial issues, parenting problems, and other topics.

Today, for the first time, I’m doing my own version of that and taking calls to answer your questions about your greatest relationship challenges. In this episode of The Loving Truth podcast, you’ll learn the answers to the following questions from Betsy, Karen, and Julie:

After a betrayal, when can you feel like you’ve asked enough questions of him and feel well enough to move forward?

Why can you have a hard time accepting your husband’s love (after unfaithfulness on your part), and how can you fix the situation?

How do you get past the guilt of moving on from a relationship (even if it was a toxic, abusive one)?

1:57 - The difference between helpful and unhelpful questions to ask after infidelity

3:56 - Why the “why” question is so important for you to understand

7:59 - Why moving on from an affair takes longer than you think

11:13 - Why an affair is like a drug

14:45 - How do your thoughts create your feelings about your marriage

19:29 - Why you might find it difficult to move past the guilt of leaving a long-term relationship

Mentioned In Q&A: Answering Some of Your Greatest Relationship Challenges

Episode 26: “Your Brain on Drugs (oops...I mean Affairs)”

Stay or Go? How to Find Confidence and Clarity So You Can Fix Your Marriage, or Move Forward Without Regret by Sharon Pope

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Marriage is forever...or so you’ve been taught.

You can change (or end) other things like jobs and even other relationships, but marriage is “sacred.” And because you’ve been indoctrinated with this, the notion of ending your marriage can carry all kinds of bad feelings--sadness, guilt, feelings of failure, and so on.

But what if you accepted the idea that relationships are meant to be impermanent? In this episode of The Loving Truth podcast, we’ll dive a little deeper into this indoctrination (specifically regarding your decision to stay or leave) and why there might be an impermanence to your decision to stay.

1:40 - Why this one person hasn’t made a decision about her marriage yet

4:20 - The impermanence of making the decision to stay married

6:06 - The nature of relationships

8:09 - Owning the choice you make

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