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Difficult conversations are bound to happen in your most intimate relationships - whether you’re prepared or not. This episode will teach you how to have PRODUCTIVE conversations about difficult topics. 

You’ll also learn why we avoid conflict in the first place, how to stop pretending things are “fine,” and the three parts to communication you need to know.

YOU'LL LEARN

• 1:26 - How we avoid conflict (and why it doesn’t work)
• 4:27 - What works for women… but not for men
• 9:09 - What might happen if you tell your partner THIS?
• 14:29 - This will change your experience of difficult conversations

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Struggling to decide whether to stay or go in your marriage and you’re serious about finding that answer?

Book a Truth & Clarity Session with a member of my team. We’ll discuss where you are in your marriage and explore if there’s a fit for you and I to work together so you can make - and execute - the RIGHT decision for YOU and your marriage.

Is it time to pump the brakes on your affair relationship? How do you know if your secret partnership can last beyond the affair? 

Whatever happens after your affair relationship, I want you to be prepared - whether you stay with your affair partner or not. 

It starts with recognizing these 4 Red Flags you might be missing in your affair partner.

What You'll Learn

• 0:28 - Why we overlook bad behavior from our affair partner
• 4:50 - Red Flag - Does he feel entitled to you? 
• 7:57 - Red Flag - Is his control & manipulation just hidden? 
• 10:13 - Here’s the reality (for YOU and your affair partner)

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Struggling to decide whether to stay or go in your marriage and you’re serious about finding that answer?

Book a Truth & Clarity Session with a member of my team. We’ll discuss where you are in your marriage and explore if there’s a fit for you and I to work together so you can make - and execute - the RIGHT decision for YOU and your marriage.

Love is pain… and if you don’t want to feel pain, you should just give up on love, right? 

In this episode, I’ll explain where this line of thinking comes from and what happens when our expectations of love and marriage don’t match the reality.

I’ll walk you through the ways that I’ve learned to think about love and marriage relationships, answer the question, “Does the ‘perfect’ soulmate partner exist?” and tell you what to give up on - instead of love.

What You’ll Learn In This Episode:

0:55 - I’m never going to tell you to give up on love, BUT… 
3:33 - Does the “perfect” partner exist?
5:10 - I think about love & marriage like this
7:39 - Instead of giving up on love, give up on this… 
9:22 - The reality of loving someone well

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On Love: A Novel by Alain De Botton

Struggling to decide whether to stay or go in your marriage and you’re serious about finding that answer?

Book a Truth & Clarity Session with a member of my team. We’ll discuss where you are in your marriage and explore if there’s a fit for you and I to work together so you can make - and execute - the RIGHT decision for YOU and your marriage.

I get it: You don’t want to regret the choice you make (and you don’t want to make your life worse).

But what happens when we dig into what’s really behind your fear of making a “wrong” decision about your marriage? What happens when you challenge the general opinion that there is a right and wrong step forward - toward deepening your marriage or ending in divorce? 

In this episode, we’ll find out! I’m talking about the safety net of indecision, regrets and “what if” thinking, plus the uncomfortable back-tracking that sometimes happens, even after you decide. 

What You'll Learn In This Episode:

1:32 - Indecision might be less scary, BUT…
5:49 - What’s “right” and “wrong” for YOU?
7:35 - “WHAT IF… I have regrets later, and I can’t go back?”
9:07 - The most important thing about making a decision…
12:59 - You don’t know what will happen… until you decide

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Struggling to decide whether to stay or go in your marriage and you’re serious about finding that answer?

Book a Truth & Clarity Session with a member of my team. We’ll discuss where you are in your marriage and explore if there’s a fit for you and I to work together so you can make - and execute - the RIGHT decision for YOU and your marriage.

The current legal process for divorce is complicated - not to mention expensive. That’s why I invited Erin Levine, Founder of Hello Divorce, to join me today on the podcast. 

She’s here to demystify the legal details of separation and explain her 3-step alternative for a simpler, kinder, and less stressful divorce.

We talk about the problems with bringing your divorce to court, how to navigate divorce when you don’t trust your ex, and the “divorce math” you should consider (i.e. it’s not just financially draining). Erin also explains why she’s determined to NEVER again litigate a divorce, plus the most-used service within Hello Divorce - and how it can save you money (and tears!)

What You’ll Learn In This Episode:

2:09 - Top 3 problems Erin witnessed within the divorce courts… and what led her to create another option
7:47 - “Conscious Uncoupling” isn’t just hype from Gwenyth Paltrow
12:31 - Remember: the system is set up for lawyers… it’s not designed to support families
20:04 - When the spirit of “making things peaceful” mixes with DISTRUST
23:12 - Hello Divorce breaks down the divorce process into 3 parts
32:51 - Divorce Math: Consider the emotional toll this process takes
37:47 -  Your lawyer is not your life coach… but you need additional support! 
45:02 - Erin’s advice for keeping the divorce peaceful (even when your spouse isn’t focused on that)

About The Guest: 

Erin Levine has more than a decade of experience litigating complex family matters in court, but when she saw the need for a kinder, easier, and more affordable pathway through divorce, she set out to revolutionize the broken divorce legal system and founded Hello Divorce: a venture capital-backed and tech-enabled platform that helps separating spouses reorganize their lives and finances with less stress and mess. 

Erin is on a mission to help everyone design a better life after divorce. She’s already helped thousands of Americans reorganize their lives and families through the Hello Divorce framework that levels the playing field between spouses, so they can sort things out fairly, avoid missteps, and reimagine their next and best chapter.

Learn more about Erin Levine and Hello Divorce at hellodivorce.com (and on Instagram @hellodivorce).

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Struggling to decide whether to stay or go in your marriage and you’re serious about finding that answer?

Book a Truth & Clarity Session with a member of my team. We’ll discuss where you are in your marriage and explore if there’s a fit for you and I to work together so you can make - and execute - the RIGHT decision for YOU and your marriage.

If you want to be truly adored and cherished in your most intimate relationship (as though you are the Queen of his world!) this episode is for you…

Often we say that we want to be treated like a queen… but when it doesn’t happen, we get angry and place blame (or give up the dream).

In this episode, I’ll give you 3 important things to consider if you desire Queendom within your marriage - because it’s possible with a few vital adjustments! I’ll share the first question you need to ask yourself, how you can keep your expectations high (no, really!) - PLUS the 1 thing you need to stop doing to your husband.

Tune in for a quick, deep dive episode for the Queens among us!

What You’ll Learn In This Episode:

1:47 - People will meet you at your level of expectation, BUT…
4:49 - If you want to be treated like a Queen, consider starting here
7:42 - Because THIS is the real problem… and a solution!

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Truth & Clarity Session with Sharon

Struggling to decide whether to stay or go in your marriage and you’re serious about finding that answer?

Book a Truth & Clarity Session with a member of my team. We’ll discuss where you are in your marriage and explore if there’s a fit for you and I to work together so you can make - and execute - the RIGHT decision for YOU and your marriage.

“What is not Love is always Fear.” -from A Course In Miracles, scribed by Helen Schucman

In other words, the opposite of love is not hate… it’s fear. And we unconsciously live within fear-based decisions when we misunderstand our options!

We have only two: LOVE or FEAR.

So how do we know if we’re making choices based in fear… or with love? 

This choice shows up most prominently in our marriage relationships, and in this episode I’ll explain why - plus the question to ask if you’re unsure where your own decisions stem from (and how to do things differently).

What You’ll Learn In This Episode:

1:09 - Fear is sneaky, because it’s often unconscious
3:16 - Here’s why it shows up most obviously in our marriages
4:20 - You think it’s love… but is it based in fear? 
5:34 - This is everyone’s deepest fear…
6:06 - Why the motivation behind your action is important
7:57 - Here’s what I ask myself when I’m unsure about a decision

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Truth & Clarity Session with Sharon

Struggling to decide whether to stay or go in your marriage and you’re serious about finding that answer?

Book a Truth & Clarity Session with a member of my team. We’ll discuss where you are in your marriage and explore if there’s a fit for you and I to work together so you can make - and execute - the RIGHT decision for YOU and your marriage.

Many of my clients come to me saying, “I no longer feel desire for my partner… even though I want to! Intimacy used to feel so different. What’s wrong?” 

And well, it’s probably not what you think.

In this episode, I invite you to discover how the thrill of novelty and the excitement of the unknown are essential to your long-term marriage, plus how you can realistically bring these elements back to life, starting today.

Because maybe it’s less about what’s “wrong” with your relationship… and more about what you can do differently.

What You’ll Learn In This Episode:

0:59 - You might think THIS is the problem (it’s not!) 
2:49 - Here’s the real problem - and it happens to all of us
6:01 - Imagine what it looks like to re-incorporate spontaneity into your marriage
9:25 - But here’s the worst time of day to begin… 
11:16 - Here’s what I do to keep desire alive with my husband
12:29 - Why non-sexual touch is vital to revamping desire

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Truth & Clarity Session with Sharon

Struggling to decide whether to stay or go in your marriage and you’re serious about finding that answer?

Book a Truth & Clarity Session with a member of my team. We’ll discuss where you are in your marriage and explore if there’s a fit for you and I to work together so you can make - and execute - the RIGHT decision for YOU and your marriage.

How do we move forward together after the discovery of an affair? How do I know he won’t cheat again? What if there’s more sexual indiscretion I just don’t know about (yet)? 

In this episode, I’ll share a story from one of my clients: She’s 59 and just discovered her husband’s long-term sexual indiscretion. Now she’s trying to understand what went wrong and how to move forward. 

I’ll talk about how we can get introspective (without taking responsibility for something that’s NOT our fault), the importance of being “chosen” by our partners (not merely tied together by convenience or fear), plus the Loving Truth about what’s possible on the other side.

Please note: This is a tender, sensitive topic for those of us who’ve experienced sexual indiscretion within an intimate relationship. When deciding whether to listen to this episode (or select another), I encourage you to keep this in mind and take good care of yourself.

What You’ll Learn In This Episode:

1:16 - She’s 59 and just discovered her husband’s sexual indiscretion
4:22 - When you’ve been cheated on, you need these 2 important things 
6:39 - Here’s where he needs to start
13:07 - What does it mean to get “introspective”?
16:18 - Are you brave enough to consider this, too?
20:18 - This is what can happen on the other side!
23:17 - And here’s the loving truth…

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Truth & Clarity Session with Sharon

Struggling to decide whether to stay or go in your marriage and you’re serious about finding that answer?

Book a Truth & Clarity Session with a member of my team. We’ll discuss where you are in your marriage and explore if there’s a fit for you and I to work together so you can make - and execute - the RIGHT decision for YOU and your marriage.

Heather has been married to her husband for eight years, but they’re rarely intimate. Following a hidden ED diagnosis and an affair, her husband is finally initiating sex… but she’s no longer interested. 

Now Heather wants to know, “Is there a way back to each other… after I’ve lost desire?”

In this episode, we’ll get into some sensitive topics, including - what to do when sex feels like an obligation, how to face the reality of your relationship’s problems, and what it means that you BOTH have a say in the future of your marriage (plus the fact that there’s no ‘right’ or ‘wrong’ decisions here).

Listen in as I answer Heather’s question, and see what you might apply to your own situation.

What You’ll Learn In This Episode:

0:31 - She’s been married for 8 years, but intimacy has always been limited
4:16 - Can you start by giving yourself grace?
5:06 - The question of having a child… or getting divorced
7:35 - You need to tell yourself the truth
10:04 - He gets to choose for his life… and you get to choose for yours
13:17 - Is there a way back to each other… after all this? 
16:57 - Is he on ‘good behavior’ right now? 
19:10 - There’s no ‘right’ or ‘wrong’ decision here. But the decision is yours

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COURSE: Disconnection to Desire

Struggling to decide whether to stay or go in your marriage and you’re serious about finding that answer?

Book a Truth & Clarity Session with a member of my team. We’ll discuss where you are in your marriage and explore if there’s a fit for you and I to work together so you can make - and execute - the RIGHT decision for YOU and your marriage.