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In this replay episode host Monique Koven speaks with self-compassion researcher Kristin Neff about applying self-compassion to complex and developmental trauma. Neff explains how tender care and fierce boundary-setting work together, shares practical grounding and self-compassion exercises, and discusses why painful reactions during practice can be normal.

Resources mentioned Self-Compassion — Kristin Neff’s book https://link.amazon/B0dnu4r2a

• Fierce Self-Compassion — Kristin Neff’s book https://link.amazon/B04aiCdBa
• Mindful Self-Compassion — the program Kristin Neff co-developed with Chris Germer https://link.amazon/B04ilXsbt
• Center for Mindful Self-Compassion
• selfcompassion.org
• www.thehealingtraumapodcast.com

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In this rerelease conversation, returning guest therapist & author Deb Dana answers your questions. Deb delves into the Polyvagal Theory, explaining its significance in understanding the autonomic nervous system and its impact on our daily experiences. She discusses the hierarchy of the nervous system, the importance of co-regulation, and the process of befriending one's nervous system. The conversation also addresses the challenges of building capacity in a reactive system, practicing regulating tools, and navigating anxiety. She also emphasizes the need for safe connections and the role of attachment and boundaries in our relationships, providing insights into how to reshape our nervous systems for better emotional health.

takeaways

• Polyvagal Theory helps us understand our autonomic nervous system.
• The autonomic nervous system has a hierarchy of responses.
• Ventral state is where we experience wellbeing.
• Co-regulation is essential for survival and thriving.
• Befriending your nervous system is a process of gathering information.
• Building capacity in a reactive system takes time and patience.
• Practicing regulating tools is crucial for emotional health.
• Listening to your nervous system is key to understanding your needs.
• Safe connections are vital for healing and growth.
• Attachment styles influence our relationships and boundaries.

Deb Dana's Books & Resources:

Anchored: How to Befriend Your Nervous System Using Polyvagal Theory https://amzn.to/3GSm8Lj

Polyvagal Practices: Anchoring the Self in Safety https://amzn.to/4515qBj

The Nervous System Workbook: Practical Exercises to Ease Anxiety, Find Safety, and Come Home to Yourself Using Polyvagal Theory https://amzn.to/4mdNzOw

Polyvagal Card Deck: 58 Practices for Calm and Change https://amzn.to/3TZkw5m

Polyvagal Exercises for Therapists and Clients: 50 Client-Centered Practices https://amzn.to/4lYl4oc

https://www.rhythmofregulation.com/

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In this replay episode, Monique speaks with therapist and author Jenna Riemersma about Internal Family Systems, or IFS, and a compassionate way to work with the wounded parts of ourselves. Jenna explains why healing often starts by moving toward what we usually want to avoid, and how that shift can reduce shame, increase self-understanding, and create real internal change.They also discuss the difference between burdened parts and core self, how protective “wall” parts operate, and why healthy boundaries come from self rather than reactivity. Jenna shares a simple three-step practice called move toward: notice, know, and need.

• Jenna explains how IFS views people as fundamentally good, with a core self that remains intact even after trauma
• The conversation centers on the idea that parts of us are not bad, but burdened by traumatic experiences and stuck in protective roles
• Monique and Jenna discuss how shame, rage, numbness, addiction, and dissociation can all be understood as parts trying to help
• Jenna uses the sun and clouds metaphor to explain why core self can feel inaccessible when protective parts take over
• A practical framework is introduced: move toward, which includes three steps - notice, know, and need
• Jenna gives a personal example involving canceled plans and how an abandoned, rejected part was triggered by present-day stress
• The episode explores why even one step of compassionate noticing can be deeply transformative
• Monique asks about wall parts, and Jenna explains how protective shutdown can feel like boundaries but usually functions as isolation
• Healthy boundaries are framed as something that can only come from core self, not from angry, fearful, or manipulative parts
• Jenna explains why “what’s in the way is the way” and how every part can become a doorway to healing

Jenna's books:

Altogether You: Experiencing personal and spiritual transformation with Internal Family Systems therapy https://amzn.to/4y7KLsv

Move Toward: A Simplified IFS Therapy Tool to Welcome All Parts of You https://amzn.to/45yy9OQ

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In this mini episode, host Monique Koven explores the profound impact of attachment trauma, especially from caregivers who are frightening or unreliable. She discusses how these early experiences shape our nervous system, influence our relationships, and how understanding these patterns can foster self-compassion and healing.

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All New Episode With Dr. Lindsay Gibson

You Can Be The Mother You Needed : In this brand new episode, Dr. Lindsay Gibson shares her groundbreaking approach to parenting, emphasizing the importance of understanding emotional maturity in children and how to foster it. Monique and Lindsay explore the dynamics of emotional immaturity, how past traumas affect parenting styles, and practical mindsets that nurture resilient, emotionally aware kids.

About our guest: Dr. Lindsay Gibson is a clinical psychologist and bestselling author of a number of books, including Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents and her new book, How to Raise an Emotionally Mature Child.

What you'll discover in this conversation:

The core differences between emotionally mature and immature parents

childhood trauma and early attachment influence parenting

The concept of emotional needs: contact, soothing, proximity

The significance of seeing children as real inside with their own inner worlds

The importance of protective parenting and setting a safe emotional foundation

The seven mindsets that underpin emotionally intelligent parenting

Strategies to help children develop internal representations of their world

How to respond to children's behavior as a form of communication

The role of empathy and sensitivity in emotional development

Practical ways to show children they are understood, safe, and valued

Order Lindsay Gibson's new book "How to Raise an Emotionally Mature Child ;

https://amzn.to/3SBLySE

Watch The Full Episode https://youtu.be/c0iuE9szrJA?si=F8uuxa5B6lw-RdRL

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In this replay conversation, my guest renowned trauma expert Dr. Janina Fisher discusses her model TIST (Trauma Informed Stabilization Treatment) and the concept of the living legacy of trauma, emphasizing how trauma's effects persist in the body and mind beyond past events. She explores dissociation, fragmentation, and practical approaches to healing trauma by addressing these living legacies.Healing the Fragmented Selves of Trauma Survivors: Overcoming Internal Self-Alienation

Janina's Books

Healing the Fragmented Selves of Trauma Survivors: Overcoming Internal Self-Alienation https://amzn.to/4uyDtMy

Transforming The Living Legacy of Trauma: A Workbook for Survivors and Therapists https://amzn.to/4dbcHCC

Embracing Our Fragmented Selves: A Workbook for Trauma Survivors and Therapists https://amzn.to/4cWI4Ci

https://janinafisher.com/

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In this replay interview, trauma expert Kathy Steele explores the complex world of dissociation, trauma, and mental health. She discusses different types of dissociation, the development of self, and practical strategies for healing and integration.

Books:

Treating Trauma-Related Dissociation: A Practical, Integrative Approach (Norton Series on Interpersonal Neurobiology) https://amzn.to/4f0KPUA

Coping with Trauma-Related Dissociation: Skills Training for Patients and Therapists (Norton Series on Interpersonal Neurobiology) https://amzn.to/49JG7XC

Trauma-Related Dissociation Two-Book Set https://amzn.to/4tSvCsq

Kathy's website: https://www.kathy-steele.com/

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In this replay episode, Dr. Lindsay Gibson is back just in time for Mother's Day.

About our Guest: Dr. Lindsay Gibson is a clinical psychologist and the author of the Emotional Immaturity series of books, including her bestseller Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents.

In this conversation, Monique and Lindsay discuss the complexities of navigating Mother's Day emotions, particularly for those with emotionally immature parents. They explore the conflicting feelings of grief and obligation, the importance of self-validation, and practical tips for managing relationships during this challenging time. The discussion emphasizes the need for self-care and reconnecting with one's true self to foster personal growth and healing.

Takeaways

• Mother's Day can evoke mixed emotions, including grief and obligation.
• It's important to honour your own feelings during this holiday.
• Emotional immaturity in parents can complicate relationships.
• Self-validation is crucial for emotional well-being.
• Finding a balance between honouring a parent and honouring oneself is key.
• It's okay to choose how to engage with emotionally immature parents.
• Reconnecting with oneself is essential for personal growth.
• Practicing self-care can help manage emotional turmoil.
• Taking a pause to reflect on feelings can lead to better self-understanding.
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Find Lindsay's books here:

Adult children of Emotionally Immature Parents

https://amzn.to/4kpLu1l

Recovering from Emotionally Immature Parents: Practical Tools to Establish Boundaries and Reclaim Your Emotional Autonomy 

https://amzn.to/42YKdHg

Self-Care for Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents: Honor Your Emotions, Nurture Your Self, and Live with Confidence

https://amzn.to/3RTG6XX

Disentangling from Emotionally Immature People: Avoid Emotional Traps, Stand Up for Your Self, and Transform Your Relationships as an Adult Child of Emotionally Immature Parents

https://amzn.to/44qhHRo

Connect with Monique on IG https://www.instagram.com/thehealingtraumapodcast/

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In this replay conversation, host Monique Koven is chatting with trauma therapist and author Michelle Mays. They discuss the concept of betrayal trauma, its connection to attachment theory, and how childhood trauma influences adult relationships. Michelle explains the importance of understanding betrayal trauma as a relational issue and outlines the three trauma traps that betrayed partners often face: fear of loss, shame, and powerlessness. She also introduces her six phases of healing, emphasizing that healing is a complex, non-linear process that requires individuals to confront their fears and engage in deep emotional work.

Michelle's Books & Resources:

The Betrayal Bind: How to Heal When the Person You Love the Most Hurts You the Worst

https://amzn.to/3Z6P8Ve

The Aftermath of Betrayal https://amzn.to/4qOveKR

When It All Breaks Bad: 10 Things To Do (And Not Do) After Betrayal https://amzn.to/3ZDwBQi

Michelle's Website: https://michellemays.com/

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In this replay conversation, therapist and author Elizabeth Earnshaw discusses the challenges faced by trauma survivors in relationships, particularly the need for understanding and effective communication with partners. She emphasizes the importance of empathy, active listening, and creating a safe space for sharing experiences. She also provides strategies for expressing needs to partners and navigating situations where partners may struggle to understand or respond appropriately. The conversation highlights the significance of persistence in communication and the potential for healing through supportive relationships.

takeaways

• Many trauma survivors feel isolated and misunderstood by their partners.
• It's essential for partners to listen and hold space for trauma survivors.
• Survivors need to clarify what understanding looks like for them.
• Empathy and compassion are crucial in supporting a loved one with trauma.
• Effective communication requires choosing the right time and approach.
• Expressing positive needs can reduce defensiveness in conversations.
• Partners should be responsive and curious about their loved one's experiences.
• It's important to gauge a partner's ability to listen and support.
• Persistence in communication can help partners improve their understanding.
• Safe relationships allow for ongoing discussions about needs and feelings.

Liz's book:

Til Stress Do Us Part: How to Heal the #1 Issue in Our Relationships

https://amzn.to/4bvmjY3

Website:https://elizabethearnshaw.com/

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This replay episode features Dr. Bethany Brand—author, trainer, and forensic expert in trauma and dissociative disorders. In this conversation, she answers key questions about dissociation, including the different types, levels of severity, its connection to trauma, and available treatment options. You’ll gain a clearer understanding of how dissociation impacts mental health and learn practical steps for managing it effectively.

Resources & Books

The Finding Solid Ground Program Workbook: Overcoming Obstacles in Trauma Recovery Workbook https://amzn.to/4dRavSG

The Stranger In The Mirror: The Hidden Epidemic ―A Groundbreaking Psychology Guide to Dissociation, Trauma, and Reclaiming Your True Self https://amzn.to/3PpuZIp

Coping with Trauma-Related Dissociation: Skills Training for Patients and Therapists https://amzn.to/4dK0LJV

Dissociation Made Simple: A Stigma-Free Guide to Embracing Your Dissociative Mind and Navigating Daily Life https://amzn.to/4rVjXb4

https://www.bethanybrand.com/

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In this replay conversation, psychotherapist Kelly McDaniel discusses her book 'Mother Hunger,' which explores the deep emotional needs for maternal love and the impact of unmet needs on women's lives. She explains the concept of mother hunger, the essential needs from a mother, and how these needs shape our relationships and emotional well-being. The discussion also delves into the effects of frightening mothers, the connection between food and love, and the importance of finding a compassionate witness for healing.

Kelly's Book: Mother Hunger: How Adult Daughters Can Understand and Heal from Lost Nurturance, Protection, and Guidance 

https://amzn.to/40OFI1d

Website: https://kellymcdanieltherapy.com/

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In this replay conversation, licensed marriage and family therapist Melissa Callahan discusses the profound impact of early attachment experiences on adult relationships. She explains attachment theory, the different attachment styles, and how early trauma can shape our perceptions of safety and trust in relationships. The discussion emphasizes the importance of creating emotional safety, understanding one's own patterns, and the journey of healing and resilience in fostering healthier relationships.

Attachment theory explains how early bonds affect adult relationships.

Attachment styles can be seen as threat mitigation systems.

Trust issues in adulthood often stem from childhood experiences.

Anxious and avoidant attachment styles often attract each other.

Understanding your attachment style can improve relationship dynamics.

Early trauma influences our ability to trust others.

Creating safety in relationships requires vulnerability and communication.

Repairing relationships after conflict is essential for security.

Healing from attachment wounds takes time and effort.

Resilience is often found through supportive relationships.

Books mentioned: Attached

https://amzn.to/4r6Pfvn

https://www.instagram.com/callahantherapy/

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In this replay conversation, psychotherapist Cath Counihan and Monique delve into the complexities of parenting when one has experienced childhood trauma. They discuss the challenges of emotional regulation, the impact of trauma adaptations, and the importance of self-compassion in navigating parenthood. The conversation emphasizes the need for understanding one's own trauma history to better support children and highlights the messiness of parenting as a shared human experience.

Books Mentioned:

Burnout: The Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cycle

https://amzn.to/4qGtrq1

Healing the Fragmented Selves of Trauma Survivors: Overcoming Internal Self-Alienation by Janina Fisher

https://amzn.to/4rRJkey

Transforming The Living Legacy of Trauma: A Workbook for Survivors and Therapists by Janina Fisher

https://amzn.to/3ZWmIxD

Cath's website & podcast : https://www.cathcounihan.com

/https://www.cathcounihan.com/grow-yourself-up

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In this replay conversation, host Monique Koven interviews Rebekkah LaDyne, a somatic therapist and author about her book 'The Mind Body Stress Reset.' They discuss the importance of somatic practices in managing extreme stress and trauma, emphasizing the body-mind connection. Rebecca shares her personal journey and the development of self-administered somatic tools that can help individuals navigate their stress responses and build resilience. The conversation highlights the need for accessible mental health resources and the significance of understanding trauma's impact on stress responses.

takeaways

• Somatic therapy focuses on the body-mind connection.
• Extreme stress responses require different coping strategies.
• Cognitive reframing is less effective for high-stress events.
• Self-administered somatic tools can be highly effective.
• Resilience pathways help individuals recover from stress.
• Trauma can reset our baseline stress levels.
• Building resilience pathways is essential for recovery.
• Accessible mental health resources are crucial for everyone.
• Mindfulness practices should be adapted to individual needs.
• Understanding trauma helps in managing stress responses.

Book: The Mind-Body Stress Reset: Somatic Practices to Reduce Overwhelm and Increase Well-Being

https://amzn.to/4c4Ph2R

https://www.rebekkahladyne.com/

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In this conversation, Monique Koven and psychologist and author Allison Cook delve into the concept of parentification, where children take on adult responsibilities, leading to significant emotional and relational challenges in adulthood. They explore the effects of parentification on self-esteem, boundaries, and the ability to form healthy relationships. The discussion emphasizes the importance of recognizing these patterns, setting boundaries with parents, and navigating the complexities of caring for aging parents. They also touch on the healing process, dealing with guilt, and breaking the cycle of unhealthy family dynamics.

takeaways

• Parentification involves a role reversal where children care for their parents.
• This phenomenon can lead to long-term emotional and relational issues.
• Children may feel overly responsible for their parents' needs.
• Setting healthy boundaries with parents is crucial for emotional well-being.
• Recognizing signs of guilt and manipulation from parents is important.
• Healing from parentification involves reparenting oneself.
• It's essential to negotiate responsibilities towards aging parents.
• Creating safe spaces and support systems can aid in healing.
• Understanding false guilt can help in breaking unhealthy cycles.
• Open communication with children fosters healthier relationships.

Dr. Alison Cook's Books, Website & Podcast

I Shouldn't Feel This Way: Name What’s Hard, Tame Your Guilt, and Transform Self-Sabotage into Brave Action https://amzn.to/4jLAeNz

Boundaries for Your Soul: How to Turn Your Overwhelming Thoughts and Feelings into Your Greatest Allies https://amzn.to/3ZeIY5g

The Best of You: Break Free from Painful Patterns, Mend Your Past, and Discover Your True Self in God https://amzn.to/4jNPLMH

https://www.dralisoncook.com/

https://www.dralisoncook.com/podcast

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In this episode of the Healing Trauma Podcast, guest host Dr. Mark McNear speaks with Tammy Gustafson who shares her personal journey through betrayal trauma and the healing process that followed. As a licensed professional counselor, she discusses the complexities of betrayal, the misconceptions surrounding it, and the importance of understanding betrayal trauma as a legitimate form of trauma. Tammy emphasizes the need for time in the healing process, the significance of emotional regulation, and the role of fun and joy in recovery. She also highlights her professional insights gained from her experiences and the creation of her upcoming book aimed at helping others navigate their healing journey.

Takeaways

Betrayal trauma is a legitimate form of trauma that can overwhelm one's ability to process emotions.

The healing process takes time and cannot be rushed or bypassed.

It's crucial for betrayed partners to understand that the betrayal is not their fault.

Emotional dysregulation is common in betrayal trauma, and support systems are vital for recovery.

Finding joy and fun is an essential part of the healing journey.

Tammy emphasizes the importance of setting boundaries and recognizing one's worth.

The journey of healing can lead to personal growth and empowerment.

Tammy's upcoming book aims to guide betrayed partners through their healing process.

Healing from betrayal can lead to profound transformation and resilience.

About Our Guest

Tammy Gustafson, MA, LPC, is a trauma-informed

licensed professional counselor, coach, and speaker

with over 15 years of experience. She holds a master’s

degree in counseling and is the founder and CEO of

Betrayal Healing and LiveFree Counseling. Tammy

hosts the annual Betrayal Healing Conference, which

provides compassionate, expert guidance to

thousands of betrayed partners worldwide.

Guest Host: Guest Host: Dr. Mark McNear

https://www.instagram.com/drmarkmcnear/

Tammy's Book:Broken to Brave: Your Courageous Act of Healing After Intimate Betrayal

https://amzn.to/4s5bZh0

website:https://tammygustafson.com/betrayal-healing/

https://www.instagram.com/tammylgustafson/

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In this conversation, Monique Koven and holistic psychotherapist Esther Schwarz discuss the profound effects of childhood trauma and the journey of healing from complex PTSD. Esther shares her personal experiences with trauma, symptoms, and the importance of understanding and managing these challenges. They explore the role of support systems, the impact of overwhelm on daily functioning, and the necessity of educating partners about trauma. The conversation emphasizes resilience, hope, and the possibility of recovery, encouraging listeners to seek help and not give up on their healing journey.

takeaways

• Esther shares her journey of living with childhood trauma.
• Understanding complex PTSD is crucial for healing.
• Support systems play a vital role in recovery.
• Overwhelm can significantly impact daily functioning.
• The journey from anxiety to recognizing complex trauma is complex.
• Educating partners about trauma can enhance relationships.
• Resilience is a key component in the healing process.
• There is hope for recovery and personal growth.
• Sharing experiences can help others feel less alone.
• Don't give up before the miracle happens.

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In this episode of the Healing Trauma Podcast, Guest Host Dr. Mark McNear talks with Dr. Dan Allender to discuss the profound impact of trauma and the healing power of story work. They explore the complexities of personal narratives, the importance of kindness in therapy, and the long-term journey of healing from trauma. The conversation emphasizes the need for a compassionate approach to understanding one's story and the role of kindness in facilitating healing. Listeners are encouraged to engage with their own stories and recognize the ongoing nature of healing.

takeaways

• Story work can lead to profound healing and joy.
• Engaging with personal trauma stories is essential for healing.
• Kindness is crucial in the therapeutic process.
• Betrayal and powerlessness are common themes in trauma.
• Shame can complicate the experience of pleasure in trauma.
• Touch and arousal can evoke complex feelings in trauma survivors.
• Healing is a lifelong journey, not a quick fix.
• Understanding the past is essential for present healing.
• Kindness differs from niceness; it involves deeper engagement.
• The process of remembering trauma is vital for recovery.

About the Guest: Dr. Dan Allender, co-founder of The Allender Center and founding president of The Seattle School of Theology & Psychology, has pioneered a unique and innovative approach to trauma and abuse therapy over the past 30 years.

https://www.instagram.com/allendercenter/

Guest Host: Dr. Mark McNear

https://www.instagram.com/drmarkmcnear/

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*This episode is a re release from an earlier season of the HTP. It is a wonderful conversation about understanding Developmental Trauma.

In this conversation, Monique is chatting with trauma therapist Mily Gomez. Mily discusses the concept of developmental trauma, its impact on emotional regulation, attachment styles, and relationships. She explains how early experiences shape our ability to connect with others and manage our emotions. The discussion also covers the importance of validation, support, and the healing process through reparenting and somatic work. Mily emphasizes the need for individuals to develop tools for self-regulation and the significance of building healthy attachments in adulthood.

takeaways

• Developmental trauma occurs from conception to age two or three.
• Implicit memory affects how we feel without conscious awareness.
• Early experiences set the foundation for emotional regulation.
• Insecure attachment can lead to trust issues in relationships.
• Validation and support are crucial for healing.
• Reparenting oneself is a key part of the healing process.
• Somatic experiencing helps in processing trauma stored in the body.
• Clients can learn to self-regulate their emotions.
• Healthy attachments can be built even after trauma.
• Therapy provides a safe space for exploring difficult emotions.

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https://www.instagram.com/latibulecounseling/

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In this conversation, author and trauma therapist Monica DiCristina shares her insights on the importance of naming pain and understanding one's emotional triggers. She discusses her book, 'Your Pain Has A Name,' and emphasizes the significance of accurate diagnosis in therapy. The discussion also touches on the impact of dismissal in therapeutic settings, the dangers of oversimplified healing approaches, and the importance of finding the right therapeutic relationship. Monica encourages listeners to keep seeking understanding and healing, reminding them that they are not alone in their struggles.

takeaways

• Monica wrote her book to help others name their pain.
• Naming pain is essential for separating identity from trauma.
• Many people walk around feeling something is wrong with them.
• Accurate diagnosis is crucial for effective healing.
• Understanding one's wiring can help in managing mental health.
• Dismissal in therapy can lead to feelings of isolation.
• Oversimplified healing approaches can be harmful.
• The therapeutic relationship is key to successful outcomes.
• It's important to find a therapist who feels right for you.
• Everyone's journey to understanding and healing is unique.

Monica's new book: Your Pain Has a Name: A Therapist’s Invitation to Understanding Your Story and Sorting Out Who You Are from What Hurts https://amzn.to/4i3qmxF

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In this episode of the Healing Trauma Podcast, Monique Koven speaks with trauma therapist Gina Birkemeier about her book 'Generations Deep,' which explores the impact of generational trauma and the importance of healing. They discuss how family patterns shape our beliefs and behaviors, the significance of corrective experiences in healing, and the role of curiosity in breaking cycles of dysfunction. Gina shares her personal journey of recognizing and addressing inherited trauma, emphasizing the need for supportive relationships and the importance of not navigating this journey alone.

takeaways

• The title of the book is 'Generations Deep, Unmasking Inherited Trauma and Dysfunction to Rewrite Our Stories.'
• Family patterns can carry significant weight and influence our lives.
• Healing is a non-linear process that involves ups and downs.
• Curiosity can help combat shame and rigidity in our lives.
• Corrective experiences are essential for emotional healing.
• Breaking cycles of trauma starts with individual healing.
• It's important to recognize and address inherited beliefs and behaviors.
• Supportive relationships can provide a foundation for healing.
• Self-reflection is crucial in understanding our childhood needs.
• Do not navigate the healing journey alone; seek support.

Find Gina here: Gina Birkemeier, LPC, NCC

Gina's Book: Generations Deep: Unmasking Inherited Dysfunction and Trauma to Rewrite Our Stories Through Faith and Therapy https://amzn.to/3X9ytPC

Generations Workbook: Generations Deep Journal: Write Your Healing Story

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In this conversation, Monique and Dr. Maureen Gallagher explore the integration of Somatic Experiencing and Inner Relationship Focusing as powerful tools for healing trauma and understanding the inner critic. They discuss how these methods can help individuals build a compassionate relationship with their experiences, update old emotional learnings, and transform the inner critic into a supportive part of the self. The conversation emphasizes the importance of self-compassion, the role of attachment in personal growth, and the potential for learning these techniques to enhance emotional well-being.

takeaways

• Somatic experiencing connects deeply with the nervous system.
• Inner relationship focusing builds a relationship with somatic experiences.
• The inner critic often stems from old emotional learnings.
• Transforming the inner critic involves understanding its protective role.
• Updating emotional learnings can alleviate unnecessary fears.
• Self-compassion is crucial for personal growth and healing.
• Integrating somatic experiencing with focusing enhances transformation.
• Learning these techniques can be done individually or with guidance.
• Building a secure attachment to self fosters emotional safety.
• Recognizing the inner critic as a part of oneself can change relationships.

About Our Guest: Dr. Maureen Gallagher is a Licensed Psychologist (NY, NJ), Somatic Experiencing Practitioner and Faculty Member, Inner Relationship Focusing Trainer, Emotionally Focused Therapist and Supervisor and a Relational Psychoanalyst. Her work and teaching are dedicated to the embodiment of psychotherapy and related healing disciplines, in which she integrates somatic awareness and the use of somatic intervention along with adult attachment work and a relational focus. She brings a broad range of experience and training to this endeavor, including Certifications in Somatic Experiencing, Inner Relationship Focusing, Relational Psychoanalysis, Emotionally Focused Therapy, Integral Somatic Psychology, SE Touch skills training and Biodynamic Cranial Sacral Therapy. Her clinical work integrates focusing, somatic experiencing, relational psychoanalysis and experiential and process oriented models of attachment theory. She has maintained a private practice for over 20 years. She is the founder of Embodying Psychotherapy.

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In this conversation, Monique welcomes back Dr. Lindsay Gibson to discuss the complexities of emotionally immature mothers and their impact on daughters. They explore the characteristics of emotional immaturity, the need for empathy and connection, and the challenges faced by adult children in navigating relationships with such parents. The discussion also touches on healing strategies, the importance of supportive relationships, and the future of parenting emotionally mature children.

takeaways

• Emotional immaturity can manifest in various ways, affecting relationships.
• The need to be seen and understood is fundamental for emotional health.
• Daughters of emotionally immature mothers often feel invisible and misunderstood.
• Empathy is crucial for healthy relationships and emotional maturity.
• Navigating relationships with emotionally immature parents requires self-care and boundaries.
• Healing is a process that involves recognizing and managing one's own emotional needs.
• Supportive friendships can provide the empathy and connection lacking in parental relationships.
• Understanding emotional immaturity can help adult children cope with their experiences.
• Raising emotionally mature children involves fostering empathy and emotional intelligence.
• It's important to acknowledge the pain of unmet emotional needs and work towards healing.

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Adult children of Emotionally Immature Parents

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Recovering from Emotionally Immature Parents: Practical Tools to Establish Boundaries and Reclaim Your Emotional Autonomy 

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Self-Care for Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents: Honor Your Emotions, Nurture Your Self, and Live with Confidence

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Disentangling from Emotionally Immature People: Avoid Emotional Traps, Stand Up for Your Self, and Transform Your Relationships as an Adult Child of Emotionally Immature Parents

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In this conversation, Monique is talking with Dr. Richard Schwartz, the creator of Internal Family Systems, (IFS) They discuss the model and its application in healing trauma, particularly childhood and complex trauma. Richard emphasizes the importance of understanding the 'self' within IFS, the process of unburdening parts of oneself that carry trauma, and the transformative potential of accessing one's inherent self. The discussion also covers practical techniques for working with protectors and exiled parts.

takeaways

• IFS helps in healing trauma by addressing parts of oneself.
• The self is an untainted essence that knows how to heal.
• Unburdening parts can lead to rapid transformation.
• Curiosity and compassion are key in working with inner critics.
• Healing involves retrieving and nurturing the inner child.
• Protectors must be honored and understood, not fought against.
• Accessing the self can take time and patience.
• Children can easily understand and engage with their parts.
• Spiritual insights suggest that the self is inherent in everyone.
• The upcoming book aims to make IFS accessible to a wider audience.

https://ifs-institute.com/

The Internal Family Systems Workbook: A Guide to Discover Your Self and Heal Your Parts https://amzn.to/3Ky7nPf

No Bad Parts: Healing Trauma and Restoring Wholeness with the Internal Family Systems Model https://amzn.to/4mUZHUF

Introduction to Internal Family Systems https://amzn.to/3VPnudK

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*This episode is being re released on September 30 to honour the National day For Truth And Reconciliation.

In this episode of the Healing Trauma Podcast, host Monique Koven speaks with Nakuset, an Indigenous woman who shares her powerful story of being a survivor of the 60s scoop and the impact of residential schools on her life and family. Nakuset discusses her journey of self-discovery, the challenges faced by Indigenous communities, and her work as the executive director of the Native Women's Shelter in Montreal. The conversation highlights the importance of healing, community support, and the need for accountability in addressing historical injustices.

takeaways

• Trauma recovery is a messy and challenging process.
• The 60s scoop involved the forced adoption of Indigenous children.
• Residential schools had a devastating impact on Indigenous families.
• Sisterly bonds can be both a source of strength and trauma.
• Grief can be transformed into action for social change.
• Empowering Indigenous women is crucial for community healing.
• Creating sustainable solutions for homelessness is essential.
• Collaboration with youth protection is necessary for effective support.
• Accountability for historical injustices is vital for healing.
• Community-driven solutions are key to addressing systemic issues.

https://www.instagram.com/supacree/

Documentary: https://youtu.be/9P4iYYL4FYY?si=tayMiSmckkSWOe9C

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In this conversation, Monique is talking with guest family therapist Sidu Arroyo about the critical aspects of emotional regulation, particularly for those with trauma histories. She emphasizes the importance of understanding that emotions are neither good nor bad, and that self-regulation is a skill that requires practice and co-regulation with others. The discussion also addresses the feelings of guilt and shame that parents may experience when they lose control, and the significance of repairing relationships with children after emotional outbursts. Overall, the conversation highlights the need for compassion towards oneself and the importance of creating a safe environment for emotional expression.

takeaways

• Emotions are neither good nor bad; they are experiences.
• Self-regulation is a skill that takes practice.
• Safety is essential for effective self-regulation.
• Co-regulation is crucial for children to learn self-regulation.
• Parents often struggle with guilt and shame after losing control.
• Repairing relationships is vital after emotional outbursts.
• Acknowledging emotions with compassion is important.
• Children need consistent support to develop emotional skills.
• It's okay to be human and make mistakes as a parent.
• This journey of emotional regulation is a process, not linear.

Sidu Arroyo:

https://www.instagram.com/becomingathome/

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In this conversation, Linda Pevac shares her journey of healing through writing, discussing her three books that explore her experiences as an adoptee and the therapeutic techniques that have aided her growth. She emphasizes the importance of understanding one's identity, the impact of trauma, and the necessity of embracing change for personal development. The discussion also highlights the nuances of the adoptee experience and the significance of creating a safe space for healing.

takeaways

• Healing is a continuous journey that brings joy.
• Writing has been a powerful tool for self-discovery.
• Therapy can help individuals connect with their inner parts.
• Choosing to breathe symbolizes making conscious choices.
• Adoption starts with trauma, affecting identity development.
• Creating a gathering place allows for dialogue with inner parts.
• Truth and authenticity are essential for personal growth.
• Anxiety can cloud creativity and self-expression.
• It's important to challenge the stories we tell ourselves.
• The journey of healing can inspire others to find their own path.
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The Gathering Place: An Adoptee's Story

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A Fire is Coming

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Linda's website: www.emmastevenswriter.com

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In this episode of the Healing Trauma Podcast, Guest host, Dr. Mark McNear interviews Tim Fletcher, who shares his journey from burnout to becoming a trauma counselor. Tim discusses the roots of complex trauma, the importance of emotional needs in childhood, and the long road to recovery. He emphasizes the significance of self-love, finding safe people, and the challenges of navigating emotions in complex PTSD. Tim also provides insights on tools for emotional regulation and the necessity of patience in the healing process.

Takeaways

• Tim's journey into trauma counseling began unexpectedly.
• Complex trauma includes both big T and little t traumas.
• Unmet childhood needs can lead to complex trauma.
• Healing from trauma is a long and messy process.
• Finding safe people is crucial in recovery.
• Emotions can be difficult for those with complex PTSD.
• The past can influence present emotional responses.
• Self-love and validation are essential for healing.
• Emotional regulation tools can aid in recovery.
• Connection with safe people is vital for healing.
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Watch this episode on Youtube https://youtu.be/llF501d9mkY?si=ywL7to0XUXnmPsJYTim's Website:https://www.timfletcher.ca/

IG: https://www.instagram.com/timfletcherco/

Guest host :Dr. McNear's Website: https://markmcnear.com/

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In this conversation, host Monique Koven has invited Dr Ingrid Clayton back to answer your questions. They explore the concept of fawning as a relational trauma response, discussing its implications on identity, relationships, and personal growth. They delve into the complexities of fawning, including its connection to chronic pain, dissociation, and the importance of setting boundaries. The discussion emphasizes the need for self-compassion and understanding in the healing process, as well as the role of environment in shaping fawning behaviors. Through personal anecdotes and insights, they highlight the journey towards authenticity and self-worth, encouraging listeners to embrace their true selves.

Ingrid's new book:

Fawning: Why the Need to Please Makes Us Lose Ourselves--and How to Find Our Way Back

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IG:https://www.instagram.com/ingridclaytonphd/

Website: https://www.ingridclayton.com/

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In this conversation,Trauma psychologist and author Dr. Ingrid Clayton shares her journey of healing from complex trauma and the significance of the fawn response in understanding relational dynamics. She discusses her experiences as a survivor and therapist, emphasizing the importance of recognizing fawning behaviours and their impact on self-identity and relationships. The dialogue explores the process of building self-trust, compassion, and the ongoing journey of healing, highlighting the need for a trauma-informed perspective in understanding these responses. Ingrid's insights aim to empower listeners to embrace their experiences and foster a deeper connection with themselves.

takeaways

• Ingrid's first podcast experience was transformative for her healing journey.
• Fawning is a response to relational trauma that often goes unrecognized.
• Understanding fawning can help individuals make sense of their behaviors.
• The journey of healing involves recognizing and addressing fawning behaviors.
• Building self-trust is crucial for personal empowerment and healing.
• Fawning can manifest in various relationships, including familial and romantic.
• Self-compassion is essential in the healing process.
• The importance of creating safe spaces for sharing personal stories.
• Healing is an ongoing process that requires patience and understanding.
• Everyone deserves access to tools and information for healing.

Ingrid's new book:

Fawning: Why the Need to Please Makes Us Lose Ourselves--and How to Find Our Way Back

https://amzn.to/45QPceD

IG:https://www.instagram.com/ingridclaytonphd/

Website: https://www.ingridclayton.com/

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In this episode of the Healing Trauma Podcast, clinical psychologist and author Dr.Tian Dayton shares her extensive knowledge and experience in trauma, addiction, and recovery through the lens of psychodrama. She discusses her journey into psychodrama, its origins, and how it can be integrated into addiction treatment. The conversation highlights the importance of role reversal in healing, the impact of trauma on the self, and the development of a trauma-informed approach. Dr. Dayton also emphasizes the significance of sociometry and group dynamics in therapy, and how psychodrama can address fragmentation within individuals.

takeaways

• Dr. Tionne Dayton is an expert in trauma, addiction, and recovery.
• Psychodrama is a role-playing method developed by J.L. Moreno.
• Role reversal in psychodrama empowers individuals to see different perspectives.
• Trauma can freeze our emotional responses and hinder healing.
• Sociometry helps to understand group dynamics in therapy.
• Psychodrama allows for the expression of complex emotions and experiences.
• The method can be adapted for addiction treatment effectively.
• Creating a safe environment is crucial for trauma recovery.
• Understanding the origins of trauma can aid in healing.
• Self-care is essential for therapists and clients alike.
• The Power of Role Reversal in Therapy

About Our Guest:

Dr. Tian Dayton is a senior fellow at The Meadows and author of fifteen books including Treating Adult Children of Relational Trauma, Sociometrics,The ACoA Trauma Syndrome:, Emotional Sobriety, The Living Stage and Forgiving and Moving On. Dr, Dayton was formerly a professor of psychodrama at NYU. Dr. Dayton is a fellow of the American Society of Psychodrama, Sociometry and Group Psychotherapy ASGPP, winner of the Lifetime Achievement award, their scholar’s award, the President’s award and editor in chief of the Journal of Psychodrama, Sociometry and Group Psychotherapy and sits on the professional standards committee. She is also the winner of The Marty Mann Award, The Mona Mansell Award and The Ackermann Black Award. Dr. Dayton has been a guest expert on NBC, CNN, MSNBC, Montel, Rikki Lake, John Walsh, Geraldo. For further information log onto tiandayton.com, RTR-sociometrics.com to learn more about RTR.

Newest Book: Growing Up with Addiction: How Adult Children of Addicts Can Heal Family Trauma, C-PTSD, and Codependency https://amzn.to/3V9eS0R

Tian's Website:

https://www.tiandayton.com/

https://relationaltraumarepair.com/

Guest Host: Dr. Mark McNear

https://markmcnear.com/

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In this episode of the Healing Trauma Podcast, host Monique Koven engages in a profound conversation with Dr. Pat Ogden, the founder of Sensory Motor Therapy. They explore the critical role of the body in healing complex trauma, emphasizing that trauma affects not just the mind but also the body. Dr. Ogden discusses how unresolved trauma can manifest in physical responses and the importance of somatic therapies in addressing these issues. The conversation delves into the processes of empowerment through therapy, the complexities of navigating relationships for those with trauma histories, and practical tools for emotional regulation. The episode highlights the ongoing nature of trauma for many individuals and the necessity of understanding and addressing these experiences holistically.

takeaways

• The body must be involved in healing complex trauma.
• Trauma affects the body first, leading to dysregulated responses.
• Healing requires addressing both cognitive and somatic aspects.
• Empowerment in therapy is a gradual process.
• Understanding the freeze response is crucial for trauma recovery.
• Cognitive understanding alone is insufficient for healing.
• Ongoing trauma can affect emotional regulation and safety.
• Therapeutic safety and rapport are essential for effective healing.
• Mindfulness and body awareness can aid in trauma recovery.
• Practical tools for regulation vary for each individual.
• Path to Healing

Sensorimotor Psychotherapy Institute https://sensorimotorpsychotherapy.org/

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In this episode of the Healing Trauma Podcast, guest host Dr. Mark McNear speaks with Estefana Johnson, a trauma therapist, about her personal journey and the impact of cultural background on therapy. They discuss the challenges faced by individuals from minority populations, the importance of understanding critical memory integration (CMI) in trauma therapy, and the need for creating safety in therapeutic relationships. Estefana emphasizes the significance of acceptance, compassion, and empowerment through adversity, highlighting that healing is about digesting experiences rather than pathologizing them.

Learn More here:

https://arisealliance.org/about-us/estefana-johnson/

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In this rerelease conversation, returning guest therapist & author Deb Dana answers your questions. Deb delves into the Polyvagal Theory, explaining its significance in understanding the autonomic nervous system and its impact on our daily experiences. She discusses the hierarchy of the nervous system, the importance of co-regulation, and the process of befriending one's nervous system. The conversation also addresses the challenges of building capacity in a reactive system, practicing regulating tools, and navigating anxiety. She also emphasizes the need for safe connections and the role of attachment and boundaries in our relationships, providing insights into how to reshape our nervous systems for better emotional health.

takeaways

• Polyvagal Theory helps us understand our autonomic nervous system.
• The autonomic nervous system has a hierarchy of responses.
• Ventral state is where we experience wellbeing.
• Co-regulation is essential for survival and thriving.
• Befriending your nervous system is a process of gathering information.
• Building capacity in a reactive system takes time and patience.
• Practicing regulating tools is crucial for emotional health.
• Listening to your nervous system is key to understanding your needs.
• Safe connections are vital for healing and growth.
• Attachment styles influence our relationships and boundaries.

Deb Dana's Books & Resources:

Anchored: How to Befriend Your Nervous System Using Polyvagal Theory https://amzn.to/3GSm8Lj

Polyvagal Practices: Anchoring the Self in Safety https://amzn.to/4515qBj

The Nervous System Workbook: Practical Exercises to Ease Anxiety, Find Safety, and Come Home to Yourself Using Polyvagal Theory https://amzn.to/4mdNzOw

Polyvagal Card Deck: 58 Practices for Calm and Change https://amzn.to/3TZkw5m

Polyvagal Exercises for Therapists and Clients: 50 Client-Centered Practices https://amzn.to/4lYl4oc

https://www.rhythmofregulation.com/

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Join Guest host Dr. Mark McNear as he welcomes J. Ashley T. Booth to the Healing Trauma Podcast. In this episode, they delve into the transformative world of Internal Family Systems (IFS) Therapy. Discover how IFS offers a gentle, non-pathologizing approach to healing trauma by exploring the different parts of ourselves and fostering a deeper connection to our true self. Ashley shares insights from her book, "Quieting the Storm Within," and discusses the power of curiosity and compassion in the healing journey. Tune in to learn how IFS can help you navigate inner conflicts and embrace post-traumatic growth.

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Book:Quieting the Storm Within: An Illustrated Introduction to Your Parts Through Internal Family Systems and Beyond https://amzn.to/3GtRE28

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So Honored and thrilled to reshare this conversation with Dr. Judith Herman.

In this conversation, renowned trauma expert Dr. Judith Herman and host Monique Koven delve into the complexities of trauma and recovery, particularly focusing on the impact of interpersonal violence and the importance of social movements in validating survivors' experiences. They discuss the challenges faced by survivors within the justice system and the need for community support in the healing process. Dr. Herman introduces her new book, 'Truth and Repair,' which expands on the themes of her previous work, emphasizing the necessity of social healing alongside individual recovery.

takeaways

• The book 'Trauma and Recovery' was pivotal for many survivors.
• Complex PTSD is often misunderstood and under-diagnosed.
• Interpersonal violence has profound effects on identity and mental health.
• Social movements play a crucial role in validating survivors' experiences.
• Recovery involves both individual and social healing processes.
• Survivors often seek truth and validation over monetary compensation.
• The justice system can be re-traumatizing for survivors.
• Community support is essential for healing from trauma.
• Survivors often want to confront their perpetrators for closure.
• Empathy and understanding within communities can aid recovery.

About our guest:

Dr. Judith Herman is a professor of psychiatry at Harvard Medical School. She was the recipient of the Lifetime Achievement Award from the International Society for Traumatic Stress Studies and is a distinguished life fellow of the American Psychiatric Association. 'Trauma and Recovery: The Aftermath of Violence - from Domestic Abuse to Political Terror,' Judith’s second book, is revered as the seminal text on understanding trauma survivors.

The conventional retributive process fails to serve most survivors; it was never designed for them. Judith argues that the first step toward a better form of justice is simply to ask survivors what would make things as right as possible for them. In her new book, 'Truth and Repair: How Trauma Survivors Envision Justice,' she commits the radical act of listening to survivors. Recounting their stories, she offers an alternative vision of justice as healing for survivors and their communities.

Deeply researched and compassionately told, Truth and Repair envisions a new path to justice for all.

Judith's Books:

Trauma and Recovery: The Aftermath of Violence--from Domestic Abuse to Political Terror

https://amzn.to/40d7R2b

Truth and Repair: How Trauma Survivors Envision Justice https://amzn.to/40aTmMr

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In this episode of the Healing Trauma Podcast, guest host Leah Denton interviews Amber Trejoa licensed marriage and family therapist specializing in integrative trauma therapy. Amber shares her personal journey with trauma, her approach to therapy, and the complexities of dealing with complex trauma and its effects on relationships and parenting. The conversation delves into attachment styles, the importance of self-care, and the challenges of navigating grief and loss. Amber emphasizes the significance of finding the right therapist and understanding emotional flashbacks, particularly in the context of parenting. The episode provides valuable insights for trauma survivors and those seeking to understand the impact of trauma on their lives.

takeaways

• Amber is an integrative trauma therapist who combines various modalities.
• She emphasizes the importance of understanding complex trauma.
• Amber's personal experiences with trauma shaped her therapeutic approach.
• Attachment styles significantly affect relationships for trauma survivors.
• Self-care is crucial for parents with complex trauma backgrounds.
• Building safe connections in therapy is essential for healing.
• Grief and loss can trigger unresolved trauma issues.
• Finding a trauma-informed therapist is vital for effective healing.
• Generational trauma impacts parenting styles and emotional responses.
• Emotional flashbacks can complicate parenting and relationships
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https://www.theintegrativetraumathera...

  / integrativetraumatherapist  

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In this episode of the Healing Trauma Podcast, guest host Dr. Mark McNear interviews Dr. Frank Anderson, a Harvard-trained psychiatrist and trauma expert, about his memoir 'To Be Loved.' They discuss the healing journey through writing, the importance of integrating personal trauma experiences, and the impact of shame on adult relationships. Dr. Anderson shares insights on the evolution of trauma treatment and the need for trauma-informed media, emphasizing that healing is possible for everyone.

takeaways

• Dr. Anderson's memoir aims to inspire hope and healing.
• Writing can be a powerful tool for personal healing.
• Integration of trauma experiences is crucial for recovery.
• Shame from childhood can deeply affect adult relationships.
• Understanding personal trauma can lead to healthier choices.
• Taking responsibility is key to healing from trauma.
• The field of trauma treatment has evolved significantly.
• Trauma-informed media can change societal narratives.
• Everyone has the capacity to heal from trauma.
• Healing is a journey that requires compassion and understanding.

About the Guest:Frank Anderson, MD, is a world-renowned trauma treatment expert, Harvard-trained psychiatrist, and psychotherapist. He is the acclaimed author of Transcending Trauma, a recently released memoir, To Be Loved: A Story of Truth, Trauma, and Transformation, and the co-author of the Internal Family Systems Skills Training Manual. As a global speaker on the treatment of trauma and dissociation, he’s passionate about teaching brain-based psychotherapy and integrating current neuroscience knowledge with Internal Family Systems (IFS)

Dr. Anderson is the co-founder of The Trauma Institute and Trauma Informed Media, organizations that promote trauma awareness, education, integration, and healing. He is a lead trainer at the IFS Institute under Richard Schwartz and has a long affiliation with Bessel van der Kolk and the Trauma Research Foundation. Dr. Anderson maintains a private practice in Harvard, MA, where he lives with his husband and two sons.

Frank's Books

To Be Loved: A Story of Truth, Trauma, and Transformation https://amzn.to/3ST15KU

Transcending Trauma: Healing Complex PTSD with Internal Family Systems https://amzn.to/4l3PPat

Internal Family Systems Skills Training Manual: Trauma-Informed Treatment for Anxiety, Depression, PTSD & Substance Abuse https://amzn.to/44hQMGF

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In this episode, Monique re-releases a conversation with trauma therapist Robin Shapiro, focusing on the concept of ego states and their role in trauma therapy. Robin explains how ego state therapy differentiates various parts of the self, particularly in individuals with trauma histories. The discussion covers the importance of understanding these parts, the role of dissociation, and the integration of different therapeutic approaches to facilitate healing. Robin also shares techniques for creating safe healing spaces and nurturing inner child parts, emphasizing the need for therapists to have a multifaceted approach to treatment.

takeaways

• Ego state therapy helps differentiate parts of the self.
• Understanding ego states is crucial for trauma recovery.
• Dissociation can lead to a lack of control over ego states.
• Therapists must be creative in their approach to therapy.
• Building safe spaces is essential for healing.
• Integrating various therapeutic modalities enhances treatment effectiveness.
• The adult self plays a vital role in therapy.
• Imaginal nurturing can help heal early attachment trauma.
• Therapists should be aware of their clients' different needs.
• Healing is possible at any stage of life.

Robin's book:Easy Ego State Interventions: Strategies for Working With Parts https://amzn.to/43F9Mic

Robin's Website: https://www.emdrsolutions.com/

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In this episode of The Healing Trauma Podcast, Guest host, Dr. Mark McNear interviews Adam Young, a licensed clinical social worker and author, about the importance of storytelling in healing from trauma. Adam shares insights on how personal stories shape our lives, the significance of engaging with our past, and the role of kindness in self-discovery. The conversation delves into family dynamics, the neuroscience of memory, and practical steps for individuals to begin their journey of healing through storytelling.

takeaways

• Understanding your story can lead to freedom and release.
• Symptoms are linked to past experiences and should be explored.
• Engaging with your story requires curiosity and kindness.
• Family dynamics can create emotional triangles that affect relationships.
• Trauma is often compounded by a lack of care and witness.
• The journey of self-discovery is ongoing and requires multiple passes.
• Witnessing others' stories is crucial for healing.
• Neuroscience shows that coherent storytelling aids in trauma recovery.
• Bringing kindness to your past can transform your present.
• The end goal of story work is to become more fully yourself.

Thank you to our guest:

Adam Young - https://adamyoungcounseling.com/

Adam's New Book: Make Sense of Your Story: Why Engaging Your Past with Kindness Changes Everything https://amzn.to/4kRN9wy

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Guest Host: Dr. Mark McNear

https://markmcnear.com/

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In this episode of the Healing Trauma Podcast, Monique and her guest Dr. Laryssa Creswell discuss the impact of trauma and the importance of understanding our internal family systems (IFS) in healing. Laryssa emphasizes the role of shame, self-energy, and the need for self-compassion in navigating our emotional landscape. The conversation explores the significance of reparenting our younger parts and the journey of self-discovery in therapy. Dr. Creswell encourages listeners to trust themselves and recognize their own expertise in their healing journey.

About The Guest: Dr. Laryssa Creswell is a Licensed Clinical Professional Counselor and Board-Certified Music Therapist with over 25 years of experience in the mental health field. She is the owner of Fearlessly Inspired Therapeutic Solutions, LLC, a private practice devoted to helping women and teen girls heal from trauma. Dr. Creswell’s past research focused on developing creative arts therapies for women experiencing mental health and substance use challenges. She currently serves as an adjunct professor at The Chicago School of Professional Psychology and is the author of The Invisible Weight We Carry, a powerful guide to setting down generational burdens and reclaiming one’s voice.

Laryssa's website: https://fearlesslyinspiredsolutions.com

Find Her book here: The Invisible Weight We Carry: Breaking Free from Generational Burdens and Emotional Baggage

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In this episode of the Healing Trauma Podcast, guest host Dr. Mark McNear interviews Dr. David Grand, the developer of Brain Spotting, a psychotherapy technique particularly effective for trauma. They discuss the principles of Brain Spotting, its discovery, and how it differs from other therapeutic approaches. The conversation includes a role-play demonstration, insights into the healing process, and the importance of following the client's lead in therapy. Dr. Grand emphasizes the developmental nature of trauma and the need for a compassionate, attuned therapeutic relationship. The episode concludes with reflections on the future of Brain Spotting and its potential to help those with trauma.

takeaways

• Brain Spotting is effective for both single and complex trauma.
• The eyes are deeply connected to emotional processing.
• Therapists should follow the client's lead in therapy.
• Healing involves moving from the past to the present.
• The nervous system knows how to heal itself.
• Trauma manifestations are natural responses to unnatural circumstances.
• Shame and guilt are often passed from perpetrators to survivors.
• Everything in therapy is developmental.
• Brain Spotting can be integrated with other therapeutic modalities.
• The future of Brain Spotting holds great potential for healing.

About our guest:

David Grand, PhD is the developer of Brainspotting, the groundbreaking relational brain-body-mindfulness-based method. He is the author of Brainspotting: The Revolutionary New Therapy for Rapid and Effective Change and the co-author of This is Your Brain on Sports. Dr. Grand is involved in humanitarian activities with survivors of 9/11, Katrina, and Sandy Hook/Newtown. He has accomplished breakthroughs in performance and creativity with Brainspotting Sports Work and Brainspotting Acting Coaching. Dr. Grand has been widely featured in the media, including The NY Times, NBC National News, The Discovery Channel, CNN, MSNBC, Sports Illustrated, and Sirius Radio.

Website: https://brainspotting.com/

Book: Brainspotting: The Revolutionary New Therapy for Rapid and Effective Change by David Grand

https://amzn.to/4dDSVzP

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Dr. Lindsay Gibson is back just in time for Mother's Day.

About our Guest: Dr. Lindsay Gibson is a clinical psychologist and the author of the Emotional Immaturity series of books, including her bestseller Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents.

In this conversation, Monique and Lindsay discuss the complexities of navigating Mother's Day emotions, particularly for those with emotionally immature parents. They explore the conflicting feelings of grief and obligation, the importance of self-validation, and practical tips for managing relationships during this challenging time. The discussion emphasizes the need for self-care and reconnecting with one's true self to foster personal growth and healing.

Takeaways

• Mother's Day can evoke mixed emotions, including grief and obligation.
• It's important to honour your own feelings during this holiday.
• Emotional immaturity in parents can complicate relationships.
• Self-validation is crucial for emotional well-being.
• Finding a balance between honouring a parent and honouring oneself is key.
• It's okay to choose how to engage with emotionally immature parents.
• Reconnecting with oneself is essential for personal growth.
• Practicing self-care can help manage emotional turmoil.
• Taking a pause to reflect on feelings can lead to better self-understanding.
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Find Lindsay's books here:

Adult children of Emotionally Immature Parents

https://amzn.to/4kpLu1l

Recovering from Emotionally Immature Parents: Practical Tools to Establish Boundaries and Reclaim Your Emotional Autonomy 

https://amzn.to/42YKdHg

Self-Care for Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents: Honor Your Emotions, Nurture Your Self, and Live with Confidence

https://amzn.to/3RTG6XX

Disentangling from Emotionally Immature People: Avoid Emotional Traps, Stand Up for Your Self, and Transform Your Relationships as an Adult Child of Emotionally Immature Parents

https://amzn.to/44qhHRo

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In this conversation, host Monique Koven and author and survivor Kelly Jean Torres discuss the profound themes of trauma, healing, and the complexities of relationships stemming from Kelly's memoir, 'Saving the Lost Girl.' They explore Kelly's early life experiences, including her adoption, the abuse she faced in foster care, and the impact of these experiences on her self-worth and relationships as an adult. The discussion emphasizes the importance of therapy, the ongoing journey of healing, and the power of storytelling to reclaim one's narrative and foster understanding in others.

takeaways

• Kelly's memoir is a raw and authentic account of her life.
• The impact of childhood trauma can persist into adulthood.
• Isolation in foster care can exacerbate feelings of worthlessness.
• Therapy can help individuals process trauma and rebuild self-worth.
• Relationships can be complicated for trauma survivors, often leading to codependency.
• Understanding one's triggers is crucial for healing.
• Empowerment comes from reclaiming one's story and sharing it with others.
• The foster care system often fails to protect vulnerable children.
• Shame can stem from a lack of validation and support during childhood.
• Healing is a continuous journey that requires self-reflection and growth.

Find Kelly here:https://www.instagram.com/kellyjeantorres1/

Kelly's book available here: https://amzn.to/3Gk05N1

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In this episode of the Healing Trauma Podcast, guest host Kimberly Weeks speaks with Simone Saunders, a licensed therapist and founder of The Cognitive Corner. They explore the importance of somatic therapy in addressing trauma, emphasizing the need for safety in therapeutic relationships and the integration of mind and body. The conversation delves into the challenges of resistance and disconnection in clients, the impact of toxic relationships on identity, and the necessity of building internal safety. Simone shares tools for regulating the nervous system and highlights the significance of cultural responsiveness in therapy.

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Kimberly Weeks supports survivors of narcissistic abuse and is an accomplished instructor and coach in leadership development and business coaching. She is also a specialist in rupture and repair, helping individuals and organizations navigate and heal from interpersonal conflicts and challenges. 

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Re Releasing this informative conversation with psychologist & Somatic Experiencing faculty member Dr. Maureen Gallagher.

In this episode of the Healing Trauma Podcast, host Monique Koven engages with trauma expert Maureen Gallagher to explore the complexities of trauma, its impact on the body and mind, and effective healing modalities. They discuss the significance of understanding developmental and complex trauma, the role of attachment, and the importance of a gentle, titrated approach to healing. The conversation emphasizes the need for awareness of one's nervous system responses and the integration of somatic experiencing with interrelational focusing to foster resilience and healing.

Takeaways:

Understanding trauma's impact on the body is crucial for recovery.

• Developmental trauma can lead to complex PTSD if not addressed.
• Attachment plays a significant role in how trauma affects individuals.
• Shutdown and hyperactivation are common responses to trauma.
• Titration is a key concept in gradually expanding resilience.
• Trauma responses can persist long after the traumatic event has passed.
• Slow and steady healing is more effective than rushing into trauma narratives.
• The cortex often misguides individuals in their healing journey.
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Trigger warning: This episode includes mentions of faith, discussed in a safe and respectful manner.

In this conversation, Monique Koven and Tabitha Westbrook discuss the complexities of healing from trauma, particularly in the context of faith and the church. Tabitha shares her expertise as a licensed therapist specializing in complex trauma, domestic abuse, and coercive control, and emphasizes the importance of empathy, embodiment, and self-compassion in the healing process. They explore the church's role in addressing trauma and sexuality, the need for honest conversations, and practical steps for individuals seeking healing. The discussion highlights the significance of recognizing one's worth and the journey towards recovery, filled with hope and actionable insights.

Tabitha's new book: Body & Soul ,Healed & Whole, An Invitational guide To healthy Sexuality After Trauma ,Abuse & Coercive Control.

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In this episode of the Healing Trauma Podcast, we are revisiting an episode which was originally recorded in 2022. My guest is licensed therapist Colleen West and author of the book "We All Have Parts, An Illustrated Guide To Healing Trauma with Internal Family Systems".

We chat about various therapeutic approaches, including Internal Family Systems (IFS) and the concept of the window of tolerance. The conversation delves into how trauma manifests in symptoms, the importance of understanding self-energy, and the impact of pre-verbal trauma on individuals. Colleen shares insights on the role of protectors in therapy and the significance of attachment in relationships, providing listeners with a comprehensive understanding of trauma and healing.

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In this episode of the Healing Trauma Podcast, Guest Host, Dr. Mark McNear interviews Benjamin Fry, a psychotherapist and founder of Khiron Clinics. Benjamin shares his personal journey through trauma, detailing his experiences with anxiety, suicidal ideation, and the impact of his early childhood loss. He discusses the complexities of trauma, the importance of understanding its effects on relationships, and the ongoing process of healing. The conversation also touches on the innovative approaches in trauma therapy, including EMDR and somatic experiencing, and the potential of technology in understanding and managing trauma responses.

takeaways

• Benjamin Fry shares his journey through trauma and recovery.
• He emphasizes the exaggerated physiological reactions to stress and anxiety.
• The importance of understanding trauma's impact on relationships is highlighted.
• Healing trauma is an ongoing process, not a one-time fix.
• The role of early childhood experiences in shaping adult behavior is discussed.
• Innovative therapies like EMDR and somatic experiencing are effective in trauma recovery.
• The significance of community and relational dynamics in healing is explored.
• Benjamin's passion lies in helping others navigate their trauma.

Benjamin Fry is the founder of Khiron Clinics, one of the world's leading residential trauma-treatment centers, and Televagal, an innovative mental health technology platform. An accredited psychotherapist, couples therapist, speaker, author, and entrepreneur, he has written four books, including The Invisible Lion: How to Tame your Nervous System and Heal your Trauma. With a diverse career spanning psychology, media, and business, Benjamin read Physics and Philosophy at Oxford and then attended film school, directing a feature-length film distributed by HBO and Paramount.

Khiron Clinics

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Benjamin Fry

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The Invisible Lion: How Tame your Nervous system and heal your Trauma

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