Explore every episode of the podcast The Grumpy Girlfriend Podcast
| Title | Pub. Date | Duration | |
|---|---|---|---|
| 113. Why You Should Aim for Girlfriend Excellence (Over Mediocrity) | 20 Apr 2023 | 00:12:37 | |
"I just want to feel better." Sound familiar? Then you're a lot like my clients who struggle to dream big and go after their fullest potential. | |||
| 112. What If It Turns Out I Was Right to Be Anxious? | 11 Apr 2023 | 00:19:57 | |
I'm not taking any prisoners in this week's episode. It's time we have a serious conversation about "What if I'm right to be anxious and jealous?" | |||
| 103. Why Wanting to See It Coming Is Ruining Your Relationship | 15 Jan 2023 | 00:18:55 | |
Is your brain constantly looking for signs that your relationship is about to end? Are you on high alert for signs your partner is cheating on you? No matter what your partner does, do you always interpret their actions in the worst possible way? | |||
| 35. Listener Q&A: Is It Normal to Not Have a Lot of Sex? | 29 Aug 2021 | 00:28:48 | |
In this episode, I coach you guys on some of the issues you submitted to me on Instagram during the week. We cover topics such as attraction, random sadness, keeping the spark alive, and what's normal when it comes to the amount of sex we're having. | |||
| 34. Why Competition is a Lose/Lose Game with Dr. Abby Medcalf | 22 Aug 2021 | 00:58:27 | |
Do you keep score of who does what in your relationship? In this week's episode, we're joined by Dr. Abby Medcalf who believes that competition is the real reason why relationships fail. Not a lack of communication or incompatibility. So what does it mean to compete for love and resources in the relationship and how does it impact your connection long-term? Tune in to find out. | |||
| 33. Asking Your Partner For Help: Do They Pass The Test? | 15 Aug 2021 | 00:22:08 | |
Asking for help from your partner seems pretty innocent, right? It's something you should be able to do and they should be there to help you out when you need it. But is it really that simple? For a lot of grumpy girlfriends, the act of asking for help is more so a test and a shortcut to grumpy town than a genuine desire to get help with a task or chore. | |||
| 32. Am I Putting Up With Too Much? | 08 Aug 2021 | 00:20:03 | |
Have you ever thought to yourself "Am I putting up with too much in this relationship..?" or "Would other people actually put up with this behavior?". In that case, this episode is for you. | |||
| 31. When Emotions Catch You Off Guard | 01 Aug 2021 | 00:21:07 | |
We all have various triggers for our emotions that are recurring in our relationships. Certain things our partners say, certain things our partners do, or other people's actions can send us into a spiral of negative thoughts and shitty emotions. These recurring situations can be worked on and mastered, but what about the situations we can't prepare for that catch us totally off guard? | |||
| 30. The Fairytale Relationship: Dreamy or Destructive? | 25 Jul 2021 | 00:16:05 | |
If thoughts create feelings and no other human can make us feel anything, does that mean that love and romance and all the fairytale things we all dream of go out the window? This kind of black and white thinking is the brain's way of saving energy when learning new things, but as you guys know by now, this podcast is not about saving energy. It's about growing through the discomfort. And sometimes, that discomfort comes from nuanced thinking. | |||
| 29. Common Misunderstandings About "Thoughts Create Feelings" | 18 Jul 2021 | 00:30:25 | |
When I first started learning about these concepts, my brain would argue with them a lot and come up with all the reasons why it makes no sense and why it might even be harmful to think about things this way. So if that's what your brain is doing, totally normal. Promise. Or at least as normal as I am hehe. | |||
| 28. Emotional Childhood: The Root Cause of Grumpiness | 11 Jul 2021 | 00:23:25 | |
Did you know that almost all adults spend their entire lives in emotional childhood? This is how we are taught from a very young age to relate to our emotions and the world around us... but it is also the quickest way to strip yourself of all your power. | |||
| 27. From Self-Judgment to Self-Evaluation and Growth | 04 Jul 2021 | 00:10:41 | |
It's a lot easier to identify the habits and behaviors we have that we don't like than to figure out how to change them and make it all better. This is a perfect environment for self-judgment to come alive. When we want to stop doing something but we don't know how... we revert to beating ourselves up in hopes that it'll somehow work. | |||
| 26. For Couples: "I Get to Do Whatever I Want" Explained | 27 Jun 2021 | 00:12:38 | |
Has your partner ever used "your thoughts create your feelings" against you? Do they rejoice when they find out that they don't actually have to follow the manual you have for them? Then this episode is for you... and your partner. | |||
| 102. Stuck in Indecision? Create a Decision Container! | 08 Jan 2023 | 00:08:41 | |
Spinning in indecision is the best way to waste time in your life and relationship. Yet we spin in indecision and struggle to make decisions because we are so afraid of making the wrong choice and wasting time. Ironic, huh? | |||
| 25. My Partner Doesn't Think It's a Problem | 20 Jun 2021 | 00:29:46 | |
Have you ever experienced problems in your relationship that your partner is completely confused by? They don't agree at all that it's a problem and you're confused why they can't see what you see so clearly. | |||
| 24. Why People Have Affairs with Marie Murphy, Ph.D. | 13 Jun 2021 | 00:52:35 | |
For a lot of girlfriends, the idea of being cheated on (or being cheated on again) is the biggest underlying fear in the relationship. The fear can create all kinds of jealousy, pressure, and anxiety, but also completely disconnect you from your partner. | |||
| 23. Meet Your Sister-Wives: Suzie, Beth, and Marina | 06 Jun 2021 | 00:16:14 | |
Are you familiar with the term sister-wives? It's basically when you live in a polyamorous relationship with one husband and multiple wives. Perhaps not something that is a part of your day-to-day life. But you actually have three sister-wives. Inside of your own brain. | |||
| 22. Bye Bye, Chore Drama: An Unconventional Solution | 30 May 2021 | 00:20:35 | |
Welcome to the big chore episode! This topic is one of the most common causes of grumpiness in any relationship, and even those who are generally happy can struggle with chore drama. | |||
| 21. Being Afraid of The Truth | 23 May 2021 | 00:15:22 | |
Are there certain "truths" you're afraid of in your relationship? Topics you try to avoid or questions that are left un-asked? Most likely your brain has already decided what is true, and that truth hurts so bad you try to run away from it. | |||
| 20. The Mental Bus Stops | 16 May 2021 | 00:10:13 | |
Are you living life on an airplane or on a bus? When things don't go according to plan do you just say "fuck it" and ride it out or do you try to pivot and change how you're reacting? | |||
| 19. 10 Questions Mature Girlfriends Ask Themselves | 09 May 2021 | 00:18:51 | |
What's the difference between mature girlfriend questions and grumpy girlfriend questions? That's what we are going to dive into in this week's episode. | |||
| 18. When to Break Up with Breakup Coach Dorothy | 02 May 2021 | 00:50:23 | |
On this week's episode, Breakup Coach Dorothy and I dive into all things breakups. Are they as bad as we imagine them to be? If a relationship ends, was it all a lie? And most importantly, how do we know when it's time to cut the cord? | |||
| 17. Good Behavior With Strings Attached | 25 Apr 2021 | 00:17:19 | |
Have you ever changed or improved your behavior in order to improve your relationship and then been extremely confused by your partner's response? Perhaps they didn't at all respond in the way you think they should have or perhaps they just didn't show enough appreciation for all the hard work you put in. | |||
| 16. The Blake Lively Effect | 18 Apr 2021 | 00:15:53 | |
What does Blake Lively and attachment theory have in common? In this week's episode, I share the findings of a little survey I did on my Instagram account all about relationship role models. | |||
| 101. 23 Thoughts to Make 2023 Your Least Grumpy Year Ever | 01 Jan 2023 | 00:07:23 | |
Who we are, what we struggle with, and how we feel depends on the thoughts we think. So the only thing standing in between you and the girlfriend you want to be are the thoughts you repeatedly think and believe. | |||
| 15. Your Past Is a Teacher, Not a Guide | 11 Apr 2021 | 00:13:20 | |
Buckle up, because this week we're diving headfirst into the cliché of being present in the moment rather than getting lost in the future or the past. But don't worry, I'm not just telling you all the things you already know. | |||
| 14. Debunking Sex Drive with Danielle Savory | 04 Apr 2021 | 01:02:29 | |
How much control do we have over our own sex drive and how does the wording "sex drive" play a role in blocking our access to pleasure? This and more is covered on this week's episode with Master Certified Life Coach and Sex Coach for Women, Danielle Savory. | |||
| 13. The Honeymoon Phase | 28 Mar 2021 | 00:14:54 | |
What happens during the Honeymoon Phase and what happens once it's gone? This week, we are diving into the thoughts and feelings we have at the beginning of the relationship vs. the thoughts and feelings we have 5 years down the road. | |||
| 12. Why You Self-Sabotage Your Relationship | 21 Mar 2021 | 00:13:52 | |
Most of us can probably relate to self-sabotaging our relationships in some way. But why do we do it? We know better and we really do love our partners... so why are we trying so hard to ruin it? Why are we constantly searching for evidence that the relationship is going to end? | |||
| 11. "Should" vs. "Could" Do Better | 14 Mar 2021 | 00:14:25 | |
This week's episode is all about the journey. How do you talk to yourself about the changes you want to make and the growth you want to experience? Are you beating yourself up thinking that you should be different than you are, or are you exploring how you could be different in the future? | |||
| 10. How You Set Yourself Up to Suffer | 07 Mar 2021 | 00:18:43 | |
The idea that women are confusing and men are totally confused is reinforced daily by our western society, pop culture, and social media. And we just fall into that way of thinking and believe that that's the way it is. Women want men to take initiative and "just know" what to do, men have no idea what to do. Women get upset. End of story. | |||
| 9. Why Your Emotions Are Never The Problem | 01 Mar 2021 | 00:17:59 | |
How do we know if what we are feeling is a problem or not? In this week's episode, I talk about the information we need to gather in order to determine what is a problem and what isn't. Just feeling an emotion in your body is never going to be enough information to determine if it's good or bad, useful, or a problem to be fixed. | |||
| 8. How I Overcame Crippling Jealousy | 22 Feb 2021 | 00:19:47 | |
This is not another resource telling you that your partner's ex is an ex for a reason and that all flowers are beautiful in their own way. This is my story and how I overcame the crippling jealousy that I suffered from for over 5 years. | |||
| 7. Dump Your Confirmation Bias | 15 Feb 2021 | 00:15:03 | |
Most of us have heard of confirmation bias. That we seek out information and evidence that supports what we already believe to be true and dismiss or ignore evidence to the contrary. But how does this affect our romantic relationships? | |||
| 6. Being Upset On Your Partner's Behalf | 08 Feb 2021 | 00:13:38 | |
Have you ever noticed that you are upset or frustrated with your partner on their behalf? You know they are doing something stupid that might cause them to suffer or be in pain in the future, so you try to convince them to do things differently. You "know" how to prevent their suffering and when they won't listen to you that makes you even more frustrated. | |||
| 100. The Life of a Grumpy Girlfriend Boyfriend: Listener Q&A w/ Sonny | 25 Dec 2022 | 00:30:16 | |
What is it really like to be the partner of a grumpy girlfriend? Pure misery? Or not so bad? Well, if you ask my boyfriend, it was a walk in the park. 'Cause he had no idea I was being grumpy, to begin with. | |||
| 5. Why Are You In A Relationship? | 01 Feb 2021 | 00:16:58 | |
Why do you want to be in a romantic relationship with someone? What's the point, for you? Such a fundamental question that I don't think we spend enough time thinking about. This can, in turn, lead to us losing sight of what we're trying to get out of the relationship we are in, which then can lead to excessive grumpiness in our day to day lives. | |||
| 4. Standing Up For Yourself | 25 Jan 2021 | 00:17:11 | |
What happens to the love and connection in a relationship when your brain is constantly on the defensive? In this week's episode, I talk about standing up for yourself in a relationship, what that means, and what happens when it goes too far. | |||
| 3. When Is It Okay to Be Grumpy? | 18 Jan 2021 | 00:14:15 | |
Deciding when grumpiness or upset emotions are justified and when they aren't, when they are "correct" and when they aren't, can be a struggle. I'm sure you have, at some point, asked a friend if the way you reacted was exaggerated or totally normal. We do this in an attempt to not only feel justified but also get validation from someone that isn't us so we don't have to carry the burden of choosing our emotions on our own. | |||
| 2. Why We Become Grumpy Girlfriends | 11 Jan 2021 | 00:12:20 | |
Before we can start digging around in all of our grumpiness, I think it's important to understand where it comes from, to begin with. What actually happens when we start nurturing the grumpy-seed in our brains that then grows into an uncontrollable monster? | |||
| 1. Introducing: The Grumpy Girlfriend Podcast | 29 Dec 2020 | 00:17:08 | |
Welcome to the Grumpy Girlfriend Podcast! | |||
| 99. How I Overcame Anxiety & Stopped Overthinking: WWNPD? | 18 Dec 2022 | 00:13:41 | |
A few years ago I was diagnosed with GAD, Generalized Anxiety Disorder. So I've struggled with anxiety a lot as an adult. But... today, I don't struggle with anxiety anymore. I don't struggle with overthinking. | |||
| 98. When to Change the Circumstance | 11 Dec 2022 | 00:15:37 | |
Week in and week out, we talk about thought work, processing your emotions, and adjusting the way you think about things in your relationship. This week, we are going to talk about situations when you might not want to do the thought work! | |||
| 97. Real Talk: How I Feel About My Relationship After 48h On TikTok | 04 Dec 2022 | 00:24:10 | |
Phew. I have been feeling so overwhelmed and sick of relationship content on social media these past few days (weeks) that I just needed to come on here and vent to you guys. | |||
| 96. What Will Other People Think? | 27 Nov 2022 | 00:21:42 | |
Do you ever get into arguments with your partner about things they should or shouldn't be doing because you worry about what other people will think? Then this episode is for you. | |||
| 95. 7 Relationship “Truths” That Fuel Your Anxiety | 20 Nov 2022 | 00:26:28 | |
It's time to dive deep into relationship truths and assumptions operating in our subconscious minds. These truths were made up to create false safety and control in monogamous relationships, but what they're really doing is just fuelling your relationship anxiety. | |||
| 94. How to Fix Your Problem With Intrusive Thoughts | 13 Nov 2022 | 00:14:21 | |
Intrusive thoughts are the worst. They just pop up out of nowhere and ruin your mood completely. I know you've tried not to think about the thoughts when they pop up, I know you've tried to police your brain... it just doesn't work. | |||
| 111. When Changing Your Thoughts Just Isn’t Working | 05 Apr 2023 | 00:30:27 | |
Your thoughts create your feelings and your feelings drive your actions. So if you want to change, you need to change your thoughts. Simple enough, right? | |||
| 93. Let's Practice Getting Cheated On | 06 Nov 2022 | 00:18:45 | |
Welcome to your worst nightmare. In this week's episode, we are going to walk through the experience of finding out your partner has been cheating on you and see what happens. | |||
| 92. Fictional Coaching: Movie Night at Jack & Christine's | 30 Oct 2022 | 00:37:44 | |
Christine is looking forward to a mid-week movie night with her love, Jack. But her brain has decided to put a halt to those plans. She starts getting grumpy and subconsciously chooses to run with it by gathering more and more evidence during the evening. | |||