Explore every episode of the podcast The Christie Hoffman Show
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| #27 - You Don't Have to Go Home for the Holidays (And You're Not a Bad Person) | 20 oct. 2026 | 00:49:29 | |
We're talking about what happens when family traditions start feeling more like torture obligations, and why you're allowed to make different choices this year. (Even if someone accuses you of tearing the family apart - you're not!!!) I'm sharing some of my own holiday horror stories, what it was like finally spending Thanksgiving without all the chaos, and some practical ways to handle the guilt trips, manipulation, and inevitable family drama. And whether you decide to skip the holidays entirely or show up for 90 minutes with your own getaway car, I want you to remember something: You can trust yourself to decide who gets access to you. The pain is a portal, cutie pie. Let's go through it. ❤️ CONNECT WITH ME 💜 Join our Patreon community: https://www.patreon.com/ChristieHoffman ✨ Book Time With Me: https://tinyurl.com/3undmryx 📱 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/christie.heals/ 🎵 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@christie.heals ▶️ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@christie.hoffman | |||
| #26 - Birth Order, Toxic Family Roles and why you're going to be JUST FINE | 13 oct. 2026 | 01:05:20 | |
Does your birth order help explain who you became—or did the role you were assigned in your family shape you even more? Let's break down the common patterns of firstborns, middle children, youngest children, and only children, then layering in the dysfunctional family roles of the golden child, scapegoat, and invisible child. I also share my own family's story, how those childhood roles followed us into adulthood, and what it took for me to finally break free of the expectations placed on me. Because the role your family gave you doesn't have to define who you are today. ❤️ Videos mentioned in this episode: The RECLAIM Method Click here - Learn how to recognize unhealthy relationship patterns, set boundaries, rebuild your confidence, and stop abandoning yourself to keep the peace. You're not crazy, you're not alone, and you are very divinely protected. Follow me on Instagram, Tiktok and YouTube, for more videos! I love you, bye!!! ❤️ @christie.heals | |||
| #25 - Attachment Styles, Self Forgiveness, and Why the Boomers Are so Unhealed | 07 oct. 2026 | 00:54:39 | |
Does your attachment style explain why you keep ending up in the same relationship patterns? Let's break down secure, anxious, dismissive-avoidant, and fearful-avoidant attachment—and how childhood experiences can shape the way we handle closeness, conflict, rejection, and intimacy as adults. I share how my own attachment patterns changed after divorce, why healing can make dating feel even more confusing at first, and what it can look like to stop repeating the same emotional cycles. T hen we answers listener questions on self-forgiveness, narcissistic parents, dreams, and why some people from our past still have such a strong hold on us. Books mentioned in this episode:
The RECLAIM Method Click here - Learn how to recognize unhealthy relationship patterns, set boundaries, rebuild your confidence, and stop abandoning yourself to keep the peace. You're not crazy, you're not alone, and you are very divinely protected. Follow me on Instagram, Tiktok and YouTube, for more videos! I love you, bye!!! ❤️ @christie.heals | |||
| #24 - If They Hate Your Boundaries, Let Them Go: Finding your voice, Alien Dreams, and Ghosting | 30 sept. 2026 | 01:08:41 | |
Boundaries are an act of love. You're not being cruel, you're saying what YOU need for the relationship to continue. Don't ever let anyyyyyyone tell you that you're not allowed to send boundaries. You're finding your voice - And you're allowed to use it!! ❤️ Things I Mentioned 👇
Don't forget, dreams that we remember are MESSAGES. It was a metaphor from your higher self. Decode it with AI, get a dream interpretation book. If you want to apply my advice to your real life, you'd love my quick course on how to stop getting manipulated. You won't come out of it the same person! Make sure to follow me on TT and Instagram! @christie.heals I love you, Byeeeee! | |||
| #23 - Meditation & Manifestation | 24 sept. 2026 | 01:04:24 | |
Hi Cutie Pie! I love you. Here's some things I mentioned:
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| #22 - Why is it so hard to feel happy? Breaking no contact, Finding peace and fighting with in laws | 16 sept. 2026 | 01:14:45 | |
Why is happiness so hard to find, even when life looks good on paper? Let's explore how our brains are wired to scan for danger and chase the next milestone, causing us to still feel empty. I personally think happiness can't exist unless there's peace, first. The problem is... peace comes from setting boundaries, leaving unhealthy relationships, and quitting the job you hate. Finding your peace will make many people upset. You have to go to WAR to create peace (but it's worth it!). I answer listener ?'s about no contact, guilt, dating, and difficult in-laws. (Here's the course I mentioned!) LOVE YOU, bye! | |||
| #21 - A Deep Dive on my Mom | 08 sept. 2026 | 01:51:01 | |
| #20 - Why I Block People, Twin Flames, Self-Confidence and Crabby Little Monsters | 01 sept. 2026 | 01:08:32 | |
| # 19 - Map of Human Consciousness, Dolly Parton and Taking your Phone in the Bathroom | 26 août 2026 | 00:55:27 | |
Hey, ya little cutie pie!! Here's some stuff I mentioned:
DON'T YOU DARE LET ANYONE DULL YOUR SHINE. Don't you let anyone make you think you don't have value, you're not loveable, or that you are responsible for their happiness at the cost of YOUR sanity. no. We done wit dat. I love you, you're not crazy, you're GOOD. | |||
| # 18 - Trauma Responses (Fight, Flight, Fawn, Freeze) | 20 août 2026 | 01:05:26 | |
Have you ever needed a nap after an argument? Started shaking because you felt misunderstood? Suddenly become obsessed with fixing everything, keeping everyone happy, or getting the hell out of there? Congrats, your trauma response was activated. 🥴 In this episode, we’re breaking down fight, flight, freeze, and fawn—what they actually are, why they happen, what they can look like in everyday life. Most importantly, we’re talking about why these responses don’t mean there’s something wrong with you. Your body is communicating—not malfunctioning. Here's the Breathwork I mentioned, Joe Dispenza's meditations, along with the book Complex PTSD if you really want to go deeper into your childhood healing. ❤️ You are not alone, I love you, always! | |||
| #17 - Physical reactions to arguments, raising kids in dysfunction, and psychedelics | 12 août 2026 | 01:10:58 | |
Hey! It's another week of answering your questions! You asked some good ones: - How do you let go of hope that your narcissistic parents will change? - How do I reach out to my estranged daughter? - How are my kids after seeing toxic behavior from my extended family? - When / How do you recognize in your body its time to set boundaries? - How to deal with angry daughter that keeps grandkids away? - Is it normal for your parents to lose interest as you age? - Why can't parents show they care about how their child feels? - What was the straw that broke your back to no longer tolerate the intolerable? - How to start dating after 9 years of a break? - What psychadelics have you tried? Thank you for taking the poll in my stories, I LOVE answering your questions. More on instagram @christie.heals and you can take my course on manipulation here! | |||
| #16 - Answering all of your questions ❤️ (Parent Guilt, Red flags in friendships, Astrology, Human Design, DARVO, Divorce | 05 août 2026 | 00:44:36 | |
Thanks everyone for your questions, I'll answer more in the next episode! If you want help with boundaries, resonding to DARVO, and dealing with difficult people, you're going to love the quick course I made you. It's not your job to change people. Focus all that energy on what you can control, and watch your life completeky transform! You're doing great, You're very loved. You are NEVER alone. Love, Christie | |||
| #15 - FOUR things to transform your life fast + the sleepover that just won't end | 29 juil. 2026 | 00:32:29 | |
If you feel stuck like you were meant for more, I was too. I was miserable, I felt like I was floundering. Here's exactly how I got unstuck. 1. Follow your whimsy 2. Stop hanging out with losers 3. Envision your future (free Joe Dispenza meditation) 4. Meet your Shadow self (I used this journal) Is it easy? No. Is it worth it? YESSSSSSSS. Do it for the plot, baby. You're doing great!!! I love you, Check out the course! ❤️ BYE! | |||
| #14 - DARVO and How to Respond to Losers | 23 juil. 2026 | 00:29:18 | |
Ever apologized for something you didn't do? You got DARVO'd by an unhealed goof ball. DARVO stands for Deny, Attack, Reverse Victim and Offender. aka: some people are so scared of taking accuntability they'd rather make you feel like the problem than say sorry. That's some victim mentality ish. ⭐ You're not crazy. Here's a cheat sheet. ⭐ 👉 And here's the Manipulation course I love you, I don't want you to feel unlvable my immature adults who can't self-regulate. You're safe with me always. I believe you, and I believe IN you! Love you, bye @christie.heals | |||
| #13 - Smear campaigns, losing friendships and elite clubs | 15 juil. 2026 | 00:19:56 | |
Hey, ya litle cutie pie! Here's the video I mentioned of the mom who wasn't invited to the wedding YOU'RE DOING GREAT. I LOVE YOU!!!! bye! @christie.heals | |||
| #12 - Sibling Betrayal, Marriage Pancakes, and 3 Headed Fanged Babies | 09 juil. 2026 | 00:52:00 | |
Hey! Sibling betrayal is messy stuff. I've been there, and I want you to know you're not crazy. Here's some stuff I mentioned...
Keep going, I love you! BYE! | |||
| #11 - Viral Chaos, ADHD is a Gift, & How to Stop Feeling Guilty After No Contact | 02 juil. 2026 | 01:04:38 | |
Hi ya little cutie....How ya healin? Here's some stuff I mentioned: (DM me if the links don't work)
We go all oevr the place in this episode, maybe one day I'll have a producer and we cna add chapter markers. Until then.... just jump around until you find a part you needed to hear, or listen to the whole thing while folding laundry / running errands! I LOVE YOU - You will be ok. I promise!! WHatever happened to you, I BELIEVE you. You didn't deserve it. You are not crazy, you are not the problem. You are the one who *noticed and named* the problem. That makes you a cycle breaker. and you should be dang proud. HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO YOUR SON, CHARLOTTE! (not my daughter, my fav listener!) GO TO BED DRINK SOME WATER GO BE THE GOAT love you, baiyeee @christie.heals | |||
| #10 - Cycle Breaker Parenting: How to stop losing it at your kids | 21 juin 2026 | 00:43:30 | |
Hey! Breaking cycles while raising the next generation ain't for the faint of heart! Here's the two books I mentioned: Love you, Bye! | |||
| #9 - Trauma bonds, choosing your hard, being the main character of your movie | 06 juin 2026 | 00:47:51 | |
Oh, HEYY! Here's some things I talked about.
Trauma bonds are very common for people who experienced an abusive childhood. It's a strong emotional attachment to someone who abuses you sometimes, followed by some good times. It's like you can't quit the stuff. It's addictive. You're not weak if this has happened to you, it's a testimant to your empathy. Follow me for more, @christie.heals on TikTok and Instagram! | |||
| #8 - The isolation era - Surviving the sacred scary of choosing yourself | 28 mai 2026 | 00:45:10 | |
Hey friends! There's nothing wrong with you if choosing yourself turned into a dark void you weren't expecting. Healing is messy. The old version of you has graduated — but you're stuck in this weird in-between where there's nobody. I'll tell you my story of what it was like to heal my nervous system after years of codependent and abusive relationships, and why I'm so glad my isolation era happened. Follow me on instagram and tiktok for more! @christie.heals ( I love you, bye! ) | |||
| #7 How to stop being so angry, dying /sick parent guilt, and the mariana trench | 17 mai 2026 | 00:29:18 | |
Are we in a video game? Sure - so how do we win? DON'T STAY ON LEVEL ONE. Videos I mentioned:
No matter what you're going through, you're doing great! Healing is messy, when the path disappears you're definitlely doing it right. Keep choosing yourself! I love you, free resources and funny videos on instagram and tiktok. @christie.heals | |||
| #6 - Mother Wound vs. Father Wound | 08 mai 2026 | 00:50:19 | |
This week we're diving into two of the most foundational wounds that shape who we become as adults — the mother wound and the father wound. If you've ever wondered why you self-sabotage, why you can't stop seeking approval, why certain relationships keep repeating, or why success feels just out of reach no matter how hard you work — this episode is going to give you some real answers. This isn't about blaming your parents. It's about understanding what little kid you, didn't get but desperately needed. Awareness is always the first step to freedom. If this episode hits home, share it with someone who needs to hear it. Follow along for more healing content at @christie.heals on TikTok and Instagram! | |||
| #5 - Talking to my dead brother, angel numbers and divine protection | 10 avr. 2026 | 00:35:55 | |
Hey! Here's the video I mentioned in the opening. This week I talk about how my brother sent me 2 green balloons and showed me a typo on his headstone - all to prove I was really hearing his voice after he passed. I'll post a photo of all of it on instagram soon. Angel number meanings: 000 / 0000: Endless possibilities and a fresh start. 111 / 1111: Manifestation, intuition, and new beginnings. 222 / 2222: Trust, balance, with your purpose. 333 / 3333: Support, creativity, and connection from spirit guides. 444 / 4444: Stability, protection, and being on the right path. 555 / 5555: Major life changes and freedom. 666 / 6666: A need for self-kindness or shifting perspective. 777 / 7777: Good fortune, luck, and spiritual awakening. 888 / 8888: Abundance, success, and financial prosperity. 999 / 9999: Completion, closure, and ending a chapter I love you all, I'm creating some resources in the coming weeks, so make sure you follow me @christie.heals! | |||
| #4 - One Way Streets + Mean Letters From Parents | 30 mars 2026 | 00:38:28 | |
Oye! In this carpisode, I get lost in my own city. Again. I guess I just really like talking to you. We discuss why I'm not mad at my parents anymore. Then I unnecesarily risk my life with a wrong turn while passionately telling you to throw those immature letters / emails form your parents AWAY. They're abusive. And Cruel. I also touch on my parenting style and how I would react if one day my kids wanted to go no contact. Next week I'll tell you how I talk to my dear, dead brother. No matter what you're going through, just know you're never alone. You are so divinely protected, and you're exactly where you need to be. I love you, bye! @Christie.heals | |||
| #3 - Letting go of the fantasy, iphones arguing and breathwork euphoria | 24 mars 2026 | 00:32:09 | |
Hey, you. How are ya? Sometimes we have to let go of the fantasy that people can change. Often, we're projecting our own goodness onto somoene who isn't ready to self-reflect. That's a one way ticket to hurt/crazyville. Here's some stuff I mentioned:
I love you, you're doing great - BYE | |||
| #2 - Sleep Deprived Shadow Work and Missed Turns | 21 mars 2026 | 00:35:14 | |
We're in the car today. We'll call it a "caprisode". 🚗 This time change is for the birds, why do we still do this? I talked about shadow work, here's a link to the journal I use. It's also in my bio on social. https://amzn.to/4bq3lU1 I love you, bye ❤️ ===== Follow me on social if you're on a healing path. @christie.heals You're not alone. You're doing great no matter what's unfolding. Keep going! | |||
| #1 - Squished caterpillars (and why you're going to be fine) | 20 mars 2026 | 00:25:11 | |
Hey, hi, hello. I started a podcast so maybe we can heal in fast forward. My goal is just to be helpful. I'll bring you regular storytelling from my own life, insights on how to handle lifes battles, and hopefully make you laugh along the way. I'm super proud of us. Stay here, we need you. I love you, bye Find this elder millenial on TT and Insta: @christie.heals | |||