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| #67 Sex Addiction Isn't Real; A Leading Psychosexual Therapist Explains What's Actually Going On | ft. Silva Neves | 18 oct. 2026 | 00:52:42 | |
⚠️ Trigger warning: this episode discusses compulsive sexual behaviour, cheating, betrayal trauma & pornography. Please take care of yourself & if anything comes up, reach out for support. This week Kelly is joined by one of the UK's leading psychosexual & relationship psychotherapists- Silva Neves. Silva has been working in this field for 15 years, is an award-winning author & specialises in compulsive sexual behaviour, trauma & relationships. And he is going to say some things that might genuinely surprise you! Starting with: sex addiction isn't actually a clinical diagnosis You'll hear: ✨ Why "sex addiction" is not a clinically recognised diagnosis & what the research actually says ✨ The difference between sex addiction & compulsive sexual behaviour disorder and why it matters enormously for the person who was betrayed ✨ Why sexuality is classified as a primary drive (like hunger) & why that changes everything ✨ How compulsive sexual behaviour actually shows up and why it's about the relationship between urge & behaviour, not just frequency ✨ Why the "sex addiction" label is sometimes used to avoid accountability & Silva's take on the celebrities who have done exactly this ✨ What it actually means when a cheating partner says "it's not you, it's me & I don't know why" and when that answer is actually the truth ✨ The difference between a discovery that can be repaired & one that can't ✨ Why going to your friends for advice when you've been cheated on might not be serving you ✨ The porn conversation; values, secrecy & why the research on watching porn together vs. alone will surprise you ✨ What Silva means by "the relationship is ending" when betrayal happens & why that doesn't mean it's over ✨ Why the person who was cheated on owes their partner nothing in the repair process ✨ Wandering eyes- Silva the sexologist's take 👀 ✨ The one thing that actually determines whether a relationship can survive betrayal Whether you've been cheated on, are questioning a relationship or are just genuinely curious about this topic- this conversation will give you a lot to think about 💚 Find Silva: 📚 Author of Compulsive Sexual Behaviours: A Psycho-Sexual Treatment Guide for Clinicians Links & Resources 📧 Share your story for the "Where Is She Now?" segment: info@kellyskoaching.com 📲 Follow Kelly on Instagram & TikTok: @kellyskoaching 🔗 Explore all links & resources: Linktree | |||
| #66 Wandering Eyes & Bikini Pic Likes; Where's the Line in a Relationship? | 11 oct. 2026 | 00:17:19 | |
⚠️ Quick note: due to a technical hiccup (no Wi-Fi 😂) the video is only available for the first few minutes of this episode. The audio is perfect throughout so you're not missing a thing- just Kelly & her thoughts, no visuals required. Sorry about that! A listener reached out after the microcheating episode asking about something that had been missing from the conversation: wandering eyes, social media likes & who your partner follows online. You ask, Kelly delivers! This week she's getting into all of it: where the line actually is, when it's a character issue versus a boundary conversation & what to do if it's making you uncomfortable. You'll hear: ✨ Why noticing someone is attractive is completely normal & the big difference between that and openly leering or staring ✨ Yes, Theo James is objectively attractive & no, that doesn't make Kelly any less committed to her boyfriend 😂 ✨ Why wandering eyes that make you feel invisible say more about someone's character than their boundaries ✨ The social media conversation and why there is a big difference between liking a September dump & liking a lingerie pic ✨ Why you can see both sides without having to pick one; it comes down to your standards & what you're comfortable with ✨ Why checking his follows obsessively is usually a symptom of something bigger going on in the relationship ✨ How to actually have the conversation; timing, language, being specific & not over-explaining yourself ✨ Why you don't need him to agree that it's wrong- you just need him to hear that it makes you uncomfortable ✨ Why you cannot force someone to respect a boundary- you can only decide what happens if they don't ✨ If someone is consistently making you feel invisible or like you're competing with other women- that's not something you have to put up with You deserve to feel seen. You deserve to feel chosen. You deserve to feel like you are their person 💚 Links & Resources 📧 Share your story for the "Where Is She Now?" segment: info@kellyskoaching.com 📲 Follow Kelly on Instagram & TikTok: @kellyskoaching 🔗 Explore all links & resources: Linktree | |||
| #65 He's Amazing. So Are You. Stop Acting Like He's Out of Your League. | 04 oct. 2026 | 00:11:39 | |
A short one this week. A snappy one. A tough love bestie one. Kelly was chatting to a client recently who is dating someone she describes as amazing. Incredible, actually. Smart, kind, successful, the works. & instead of being excited about it, she was terrified. Because she was convinced he was out of her league. So Kelly has some things to say about that. You'll hear: ✨ Why meeting someone amazing should feel exciting,not like a threat ✨ The difference between putting someone on a pedestal & genuinely feeling like you can't measure up ✨ Why that feeling of inadequacy almost always comes back to the same thing- self-worth ✨ The counterproductive cycle of people-pleasing & shrinking yourself from the very beginning & why it sets you up for exactly what you're trying to avoid ✨ Why only egotistical arseholes & narcissists actually want a partner who worships them 😂 ✨ The sheet of paper exercise & why you'd call the person on it amazing until someone tells you it's you ✨ The most important question in dating & it's not "does he like me?" ✨ Why you can feel lucky & know you deserve it at the same time, both can coexist ✨ "If he's with you, he's choosing to be with you, so why do you think he's amazing but he can't make his own decisions?" ✨ Absa-f**king-lutely. Do I love myself? Yes. Do I think my partner is lucky to have me? Yes. Do I know I'm lucky to have him? Also yes. That's the goal 💚 He's amazing. And so are you. Get a grip ❤️🔥 Links & Resources 📧 Share your story for the "Where Is She Now?" segment: info@kellyskoaching.com 📲 Follow Kelly on Instagram & TikTok: @kellyskoaching 🔗 Explore all links & resources: Linktree | |||
| #64 From Rock Bottom to Barbie Dream House; Thilinie's Breakup Recovery Story | 27 sept. 2026 | 00:56:26 | |
This week Kelly is joined by a very special guest- Thilinie, a past client of the Breakup Empowerment Programme, who has very generously agreed to come on & share her story. Six months ago, Thilinie was navigating one of the hardest periods of her life. She had lost her dad in January. Her "situationship" of almost two years ended over the phone on St. Patrick's Day with no explanation. She moved into a brand new house alone, an hour away from everyone she knew, in an area she had never lived in before, knowing nobody except her ex. And she was meant to be exchanging on that house the very next day. Today? She calls it her Barbie dream house ❤️🔥 You'll hear: ✨ Thilinie's full story; loss, a situationship ending, moving alone & starting completely from scratch ✨ What she was hoping coaching would give her & what it actually gave her that she didn't expect ✨ The limiting belief she had carried since childhood that she didn't even know was a limiting belief until they worked on it together ✨ How she went from T, the version of herself that threw everything into relationships & lost who she was- to Thilinie ❤️🔥 ✨ The anxious preoccupied attachment style she thought she already understood & what actually helped her change it ✨ Why knowing your attachment style isn't enough & what the missing piece actually is ✨ What her non-negotiables list looked like when she started & how Kelly very kindly told her that most of them were actually just bare minimum 😂 ✨ How dating feels completely different now & the very telling detail that she no longer scrolls back through old messages looking for validation ✨ Four coats of paint, a wardrobe room & a painter she is dating who was absolutely not allowed to touch a single wall 😂 ✨ Why time does not heal & what actually does ✨ Her advice for anyone who is thinking about getting support but is not sure if it is for them This one is for the girl who is in the thick of it & cannot see the other side yet. Thilinie can see it & she is sending you love from her Barbie dream house 🩷 Links and Resources 📧 Share your story for the Where Is She Now segment: info@kellyskoaching.com 📲 Follow Kelly on Instagram and TikTok: @kellyskoaching 🔗 Explore all links and resources: Linktree | |||
| #63 Help, I Got Back With My Ex- A Breakup Coach's Honest Take | 20 sept. 2026 | 00:21:43 | |
Yes, Kelly is a Breakup Empowerment Coach & no, she is not automatically against you getting back with your ex. This week she's saying what she actually thinks & it might surprise you. Two clients recently told her they'd gotten back with their ex. She was happy for both of them. Here's why- & here's what needs to be true for it to be a good decision. You'll hear: ✨ Why Kelly is not against getting back with your ex & what actually determines whether it's the right call ✨ The two clients who got back with their exes & why Kelly responded the way she did ✨ Why hoping you'll reconcile is a completely normal part of a breakup & when that hope eventually goes away ✨ The wrong reasons to go back: loneliness, fear, scarcity, ego, obligation. None of these are reasons ✨ The right reasons to go back & what making that decision from a place of security actually looks like ✨ Why you need to be okay on your own before you can go back & how you know you're there ✨ What needs to be different this time- the non-negotiables, the changes, the work ✨ Why the people in your life who are against it deserve to be heard- when to listen to them & when to make your own decision ✨ The "keep going back until you hate him" trend & why Kelly can't get behind it ✨ Disney is Disney. Real life is real life... &they are not the same thing 😂 Whatever you decide, Kelly is rooting for your happy ever after. Whether that's with him, with someone new or just with yourself💚 Links & Resources 📧 Share your story for the "Where Is She Now?" segment: info@kellyskoaching.com 📲 Follow Kelly on Instagram & TikTok: @kellyskoaching 🔗 Explore all links & resources: Linktree | |||
| #62 What Actually Helped Me Get Over My Breakups; My Real & Honest List | 13 sept. 2026 | 00:28:40 | |
This week Kelly is getting personal- & practical! No frameworks, no science, no guest. Just Kelly, her matcha & an honest run through of the actual things that helped her get over her breakups & her exes. The real ones. The ones she still swears by. Some of them are basic. Most of them are basic. And that's kind of the point because the basics work! And when you're in the middle of heartbreak, sometimes you just need someone to remind you of that. You'll hear: ✨ Why no contact is still the single most important thing you can do & how Kelly implemented it even when it was killing her not to reach out ✨ The dinner photo she almost sent him & why you will always find the most ridiculous excuses to reach out ✨ Muting all his friends on Instagram & the one she didn't mute, which later came back to bite her in a very spectacular fashion ✨ Why a daily walk was her non-negotiable & how it helped her in ways she didn't even realise at the time ✨ The therapy she was already in & why going to therapy before a crisis hits is one of the smartest things you can do ✨ Leaning on her people; who she called, who she spent time with & why good company is genuinely one of the best medicines ✨ Getting out of the house & not sitting with it alone all day ✨ Why she didn't go on the apps straight away & what the apps actually give you vs. what they don't ✨ Making a new vision board & why shifting your focus back to yourself is everything ✨ Not going through old photos and messages; why it's a form of self-torture & what to do instead ✨ Journaling & why having a safe space for your thoughts matters more than you think ✨ Finding & spending time in her happy place and a challenge for you to find yours ✨ Testing out the Breakup Empowerment Program on herself during her second breakup & the tweaks she made as a result Some of these will resonate. Some won't. Take what works, leave what doesn't and if you have something that helped you that's not on this list, Kelly wants to know. Drop it in the comments or send a DM. We're not gatekeeping healing tips in here 💚 Links & Resources 📧 Share your story for the "Where Is She Now?" segment: info@kellyskoaching.com 📲 Follow Kelly on Instagram & TikTok: @kellyskoaching 🔗 Explore all links & resources: Linktree | |||
| #61 Wait, Am I the Codependent One? What It Is, Why It Happens & How to Break the Pattern | 06 sept. 2026 | 00:13:54 | |
She thought she was the strong one. The one holding the relationship together. The one who had it all under control.And then a relationship counsellor looked her in the eye & said- you're the codependent one 🤯This week Kelly is getting personal again. She shares the moment she was introduced to the word codependency & the journey from confusion and offence to complete understanding of how it had quietly shaped her entire marriage.You'll hear:✨ The relationship counsellor session that changed everything & Kelly's very relatable reaction to being told she was the codependent one✨ What codependency actually is & why it can be so easy to mistake it for love, devotion or just being a good partner✨ The difference between anxious attachment & codependency and why one is usually the root of the other✨ Why doing everything, managing everything & holding everything together is not strength, it's a sign✨ What it actually feels like to be the one always giving & never having your own needs fully met✨ The practical steps to start breaking codependent patterns, even if right now you can only notice them & not change them yet✨ How Kelly knows she did the work & what her life looks like now compared to a few years ago (Grey's Anatomy, pyjamas, face mask, no men changing the channel to golf 😂)✨ Why the relationship she has now is so much better because both people have their own identityWhether you're in a relationship, coming out of one, or just trying to understand your own patterns a little better, this episode is for you 💚Links & Resources📧 Share your story for the "Where Is She Now?" segment: info@kellyskoaching.com📲 Follow Kelly on Instagram & TikTok: @kellyskoaching🔗 Explore all links & resources: Linktree | |||
| #60 All Things Dating: Ireland's Leading Matchmaker Mairéad Loughman on Finding Love After a Breakup | 30 août 2026 | 00:52:05 | |
If you've been doing the healing work & you're starting to think about what comes next, this episode is your sign!This week Kelly sits down with Mairéad Loughman, Ireland's leading professional matchmaker & founder of Love HQ, who has helped close to 12,000 people find love since 2016. Mairéad brings the warmth, the wisdom, the straight talk — and the occasional absolutely hilarious reality check that you didn't know you needed ❤️🔥Whether you're freshly out of a breakup, have been single for longer than you'd like, or are just dipping your toe back into the dating world- this conversation is for you.You'll hear:✨ How matchmaking actually works in Ireland & why Mairéad thinks it's the country's best kept secret✨ Cuffing season is real & Mairéad's insider tip on exactly when to ramp up your dating game✨ Why so many women find themselves barely dating in their late thirties & the one pattern Mairéad sees almost every single time✨ How to know when you're actually ready to start dating again after a breakup✨ Masculine & feminine energy in dating, what it actually means, why it matters, & Kelly's very relatable story about a first date that went badly wrong✨ Why you should get your photos taken now while the sun is still out 😂✨ The ick- when to listen to it & when to absolutely ignore it✨ Why you need to stop talking to your friends about your relationship & who to talk to instead✨ Your standards aren't too high. His behaviour is too low ❤️🔥✨ How to communicate your standards early without being a "nag" & the two types of men you'll meet when you do✨ Why the most important decision you will ever make is who you choose to have children with✨ Some of the best days of your life are yet to happen ❤️🔥Find Mairéad:🌐 lovehq.ie📲 Instagram & TikTok: @lovehq.ie🎙️ Podcasts: Would Like to Meet & Tough Love with Stephanie ReganLinks & Resources📧 Share your story for the "Where Is She Now?" segment: info@kellyskoaching.com📲 Follow Kelly on Instagram & TikTok: @kellyskoaching🔗 Explore all links & resources: Linktree | |||
| #59 The Fear of Falling in Love Again After a Breakup | 23 août 2026 | 00:17:37 | |
You've done some healing. Time has passed. And now you're starting to think about the future, about maybe meeting someone again, opening up, falling in love. & then that thought arrives. What if it doesn't work out either? What if you go through all of that again, the trust, the vulnerability, the plans, the investment & you end up right back here, heartbroken all over again? This week Kelly is talking about that fear. The one that doesn't get spoken about enough. The one she cried about in a women's circle a few months after her own breakup. & the one she knows thousands of people are carrying too. You'll hear: ✨ The memory that prompted this episode, Kelly opening up in a women's circle about her fear of putting herself out there again & the girl across the circle who said she felt it too ✨ Why this fear makes complete, primitive, neurological sense & the iron plate analogy that explains it perfectly ✨ The difference between staying single because you genuinely want to and staying single because you're scared- & why only one of those is okay ✨ Why the goal is not to stop the fear, it's to feel it & do it anyway ✨ The one thing that will actually help you overcome it & it has nothing to do with finding the right person ✨ Why Kelly's second breakup was worse than her divorce, but why she recovered from it faster ✨ The foundation concept- what it is, how to build it & why it means that if things go wrong again, you won't be starting from zero ✨ The role of vulnerability in new relationships & how Kelly had to consciously push herself to be open again after her marriage ended ✨ Why love is still worth it- even knowing the risk Some things are worth the fear. Love is one of them 💚 Links & Resources 📧 Share your story for the "Where Is She Now?" segment: info@kellyskoaching.com 📲 Follow Kelly on Instagram & TikTok: @kellyskoaching 🔗 Explore all links & resources: Linktree | |||
| #58 Why You Stayed in a Relationship That Wasn't Good For You & Why You Need to Stop Blaming Yourself | 16 août 2026 | 00:14:49 | |
Why did I stay so long? Why did I let it go that far? I should have seen it sooner. I should have left sooner. If you've ever said any of those things to yourself, this episode is for you. This week, prompted by a listener question, Kelly is tackling one of the most common things that comes up with her clients, the shame of staying. Why we do it, why it makes complete sense, & why you need to stop kicking yourself for it right now. You'll hear: ✨ Why staying in a relationship you know isn't right for you doesn't make you weak or stupid, it makes you human ✨ Why you can see your friend's situation clearly but can't see your own & the emotional investment that explains it ✨ The real reasons women stay; anxious attachment, low self-worth, sunk cost, biological clock, fear of being alone & the one that catches almost everyone: potential ✨ Why being a fixer & seeing potential in someone is one of the most common reasons women stay far longer than they should ✨ The difference between a hard relationship worth working on & one where you're the only one doing the work ✨ The compassion tool; how to treat yourself the way you'd treat your best friend if she came to you with this exact story ✨ What to do if you have a friend who you can see should leave & why telling her to leave is probably making things worse ✨ How to actually help her instead You loved him. What else were you supposed to do? Stop carrying the shame of staying. You're out now & that's all that matters 💚 Links & Resources 📧 Share your story for the "Where Is She Now?" segment: info@kellyskoaching.com 📲 Follow Kelly on Instagram & TikTok: @kellyskoaching 🔗 Explore all links & resources: Linktree | |||
| #57 When Your Partner Lies About Drugs- Lying, Betrayal & Social Pressure | 09 août 2026 | 00:36:09 | |
⚠️ Trigger warning: this episode discusses drug use, lies & betrayal in relationships. If this is a sensitive topic for you, please take care of yourself first. A first for The Breakup Debrief & a deeply personal one. This week Kelly is talking about something that shaped a huge part of her own relationships & marriage, and something that has come up recently with a client- drug use, lying & the very specific kind of betrayal that comes when a partner hides a habit they know you don't want in your relationship. No judgment here for anyone who uses drugs. This episode is not about that. This is about the lying. The hiding. The gaslighting. And the way being made to feel like the controlling one can make you question your own completely reasonable boundaries. You'll hear: ✨ Kelly's own experience with drug use & lying in her ten-year relationship &marriage- and how it became less about the weed & more about the betrayal ✨ How an entire friend group was recruited to keep a secret & how the situation was framed to make Kelly look controlling rather than lied to ✨ The moment that changed everything & led to couples counselling before the wedding ✨ Why "I didn't tell you because I didn't want to upset you" is not protection, it's manipulation ✨ How hiding something until feelings are involved & it's harder to leave is also a form of manipulation- even when it's not conscious ✨ Why your boundaries around drug use are completely valid & you don't have to justify them to anyone ✨ The difference between the drugs & the lying and why you're entitled to treat them as two completely separate issues ✨ The murder analogy that will make complete sense when you hear it 😂 ✨ Why if your partner doesn't want to be in a relationship with someone who does drugs, that is their decision to make- full stop Your values don't have to match exactly. But they do need to align. And you never have to change yours just because someone else thinks you should 💚 Links & Resources 📧 Share your story for the "Where Is She Now?" segment: info@kellyskoaching.com 📲 Follow Kelly on Instagram & TikTok: @kellyskoaching 🔗 Explore all links & resources: Linktree | |||
| #56 Holding a Grudge Against Your Ex Is Only Hurting You- Time to Let It Go | 02 août 2026 | 00:14:05 | |
You might hate Kelly a little during this episode, she's prepared for that, but she needs you to hear her out. This week Kelly is talking about the grudge. The anger you're still carrying. The flash of rage when someone mentions his name. The replaying, the revisiting, the weight of it all. And the uncomfortable truth, he's not lying awake at night thinking about how angry you are. He's just living his life & the only person carrying all of that weight is you. You'll hear: ✨ Why holding a grudge feels like you're doing something but is actually only draining you ✨ The real reason we hold onto anger after a breakup & why it makes sense ✨ Why the grudge can feel like justice, like significance, like not letting him away with it but why none of that is actually going where you think it is ✨ The big word that makes everyone uncomfortable- "forgiveness" and what Kelly actually means by it ✨ Why forgiving him does not mean what he did was okay, that he deserves it or that he gets access to you again ✨ His access to you and your forgiveness are two completely different things & they don't need to touch each other ✨ Kelly's own experience letting go of the anger towards her ex-husband & the person in her life who couldn't understand it ✨ Why forgiveness is one of the final stages of healing, not something to rush to or skip ahead to ✨ What to do if you're still neck-deep in the anger & why that's completely okay too He's not losing sleep over your grudge but you might be & you deserve that energy back💚 Links & Resources 📧 Share your story for the "Where Is She Now?" segment: info@kellyskoaching.com 📲 Follow Kelly on Instagram & TikTok: @kellyskoaching 🔗 Explore all links & resources: Linktree | |||
| #55 Who Is Kelly? Reintroducing Myself & The Breakup Debrief | 26 juil. 2026 | 00:38:48 | |
If you're new here- welcome! Pull up a chair, grab your matcha & let Kelly tell you everything 🤭 & if you've been here since the beginning, you might still want to listen to this one. Because over a year in, with new listeners joining every week, Kelly is doing a reintroduction. Her story, her why & everything that led her to sitting behind this microphone every Monday. This episode covers it all the ten-year relationship that started at sixteen, the six-month marriage, the wedding night she spent alone in the smoking area in her wedding dress, the relationship that came after & the work she had to do on herself before she finally found what she'd always been looking for. You'll hear: ✨ Why Kelly started The Breakup Debrief & where the name actually came from ✨ The ten-year relationship that started at sixteen, growing up together & breaking up ✨ The wedding that almost didn't happen because of COVID & the wedding night that told her everything she needed to know ✨ The moment she knew the marriage was over & how she found the courage to leave ✨ The relationship that came after- what she thought was healing & what it actually was ✨ The work she did on herself in between- therapy, coaching & getting to know who she actually was outside of a relationship ✨ Her current relationship; how it feels different, what it has that the others didn't & why she finally believes she deserves it ✨ The message she wants every listener to hear who is currently in the thick of it- whether you're heartbroken, healing, single, or somewhere in between ✨ Your Alan is coming. She met hers on Tinder. There is hope! 💚 Whether you're showing up today feeling great or feeling a bit sh*t, this is a safe space for all of it & Kelly is so glad you're here Links & Resources 📧 Share your story for the "Where Is She Now?" segment: info@kellyskoaching.com 📲 Follow Kelly on Instagram & TikTok: @kellyskoaching 🔗 Explore all links & resources: Linktree | |||
| #54 Healing From Lies in a Relationship- It's not your shame to carry | 19 juil. 2026 | 00:19:24 | |
Sometimes you're in a relationship & you know there are a lot of lies- you're wading through them, trying to make sense of them, trying to recover from them. And sometimes you go through a breakup & you didn't even realise how many lies there were until time passes, things unravel & you find yourself looking back at a relationship wondering what was actually real. Both scenarios add a very specific, very painful layer to a breakup. And this week, Kelly is talking about it. You'll hear: ✨ Why being lied to in a relationship is a whole different kind of grief because you're also grieving the reality you thought you had ✨ The self-blame spiral that comes with being lied to & why the finger needs to be pointed firmly at the liar, not at you ✨ The difference between big lies & the small, consistent, purposeless lies and why both do damage ✨ Gaslighting- how it goes hand in hand with lying & why it's so hard to recover from ✨ Why "I didn't tell you because I didn't want to hurt you" is actually just someone avoiding the consequences of their own actions ✨ Why lying is a form of control &why the person being lied to is never the one in the wrong ✨ The shame & embarrassment of being lied to and why that shame belongs to the liar, not to you ✨ How to rebuild trust in yourself before worrying about trusting anyone else ✨ Why going into new relationships with your eyes open is not the same as going in with your walls up ✨ Trust is built through trustworthy actions & what that actually looks like in practice The shame is not yours to carry. The embarrassment is not yours to carry. If you saw the best in him & chose to trust him- that says everything good about you and everything bad about him 💚 Links & Resources 📧 Share your story for the "Where Is She Now?" segment: info@kellyskoaching.com 📲 Follow Kelly on Instagram & TikTok: @kellyskoaching 🔗 Explore all links & resources: Linktree | |||
| #53 One Year of the Podcast; Kelly's Brother Tells All (P.2) | 12 juil. 2026 | 00:52:27 | |
He's back & this time he brought ChatGPT 😂Part 2 of the one year special with baby bro Ian is here & it does not disappoint. We pick up right where we left off, with Ian sharing how he coped in the early stages of his own breakup (terribly, at the start, terribly) & dive straight into the chaos from there.You'll hear:✨ Ian's honest account of how he actually coped & what ended up helping him most✨ The embarrassment of walking away from an engagement & why it absolutely should not have felt that way✨ How Kelly was Ian's inspiration when leaving his relationship & became his proof that things get better✨ Whether men are actually getting better at talking about their feelings (Ian has thoughts & a very specific breakdown of the different types of men 😂)✨ ChatGPT as emotional support- Ian's confession & Kelly's reaction✨ The red flag green flag rapid fire round ✨ Breakup songs- which ones got them through it & why crying in the car is genuinely great therapy✨ Ian's final words of wisdom for anyone going through a breakup right now✨ Ian's Instagram handle for any single, attractive gay men in their late twenties to early thirties 👀Thank you for an incredible year. We love you for being here ❤️🔥Links & Resources📧 Share your story for the "Where Is She Now?" segment: info@kellyskoaching.com📲 Follow Kelly on Instagram & TikTok: @kellyskoaching🔗 Explore all links & resources: Linktree | |||
| #52 One Year of the Podcast; Kelly's Brother Tells All (P.1) | 05 juil. 2026 | 00:43:07 | |
One year, 52 episodes & to celebrate Kelly's brought in her favourite guest- baby bro Ian 🎉 This is the episode you didn't know you needed. Equal parts chaotic, hilarious, emotional & genuinely insightful because who better to give you the real story on Kelly's breakup journey than the person who had front row seats to all of it? In Part 1 of this special one year episode, Kelly & Ian get into Kelly's breakup history from Ian's perspective, what it was really like supporting her from the inside & Ian's own breakup & healing journey earlier this year. You'll hear: ✨ Ian's honest take on Kelly's exes- including which one he liked least Part 2 coming next week & trust us, you'll want to tune in for that one too 💚 Links & Resources | |||
| #51 Seeking Male Validation After a Breakup- Why We Do It & How to Stop | 21 juin 2026 | 00:13:12 | |
Okay, be honest. After your breakup, did you jump back on the apps not because you were ready to date, but because you just needed someone to find you attractive? Did you post that selfie & spend the next hour checking who'd seen it? Did you find yourself flirting with someone you weren't even interested in, just for the attention? No judgment here. Kelly has been there too and this week she's getting into all of it. Episode 50 is the male validation episode- how we seek it, why we seek it & most importantly how we stop needing it from everyone else & start giving it to ourselves instead. You'll hear: ✨ The subtle ways seeking male validation shows up & why it doesn't always look like what you think ✨ Why your dopamine & oxytocin crash after a breakup makes validation-seeking completely understandable & what your brain is actually trying to do ✨ Why external validation is like a sugar rush & why it will never actually fill the gap ✨ How chasing validation from men is quietly delaying your healing without you even realising it ✨ Why the right person cannot fix a validation wound & what happens when you make them try ✨ The self-awareness tool that is always the first step ✨ Practical ways to start validating yourself- including the affirmation you can use even if the big ones feel like a lie right now ✨ The difference between enjoying a compliment & depending on one You knew you looked good in that photo. That's why you posted it. This episode is your reminder that you don't need anyone else to confirm it 💚 Also, Kelly introduces something new in this episode. The Breakup Clarity Call. A 90-minute one-to-one call for anyone who isn't sure about full coaching yet but needs some guidance, a bit of a chin wag & a clear action plan for what comes next. Details on Instagram. Links & Resources 📧 Share your story for the "Where Is She Now?" segment: info@kellyskoaching.com 📲 Follow Kelly on Instagram & TikTok: @kellyskoaching 🔗 Explore all links & resources: Linktree | |||
| #50 Off Campus & What It Taught Us About the Relationships We Actually Deserve | 14 juin 2026 | 00:18:52 | |
Have you watched Off Campus yet? Because if you haven't, go & watch it and then come back. This week Kelly is talking about the show that has taken over the internet & more importantly, the conversation it's opened up about healthy relationships, what we've been conditioned to expect from men & why so many of us were sitting watching it fully braced for the worst. ⚠️ Spoiler warning: this episode does discuss specific scenes from the show. You'll hear: ✨ Why Off Campus has been described online as a form of generational therapy ✨ The moments in the show where viewers were expecting toxicity, drama & blow-ups- & what it means that we were so ready for it ✨ How years of TV shows & movies have quietly taught us that jealousy means love, moodiness is romantic & chaos is passion ✨ The specific green flags in the show that felt radical but really shouldn't be ✨ Why "are you okay?" instead of a blow-up should be the standard, not the exception ✨ What it means if you watched this show & felt genuinely healed by it ✨ Kelly's comparison to Nobody Wants This- another show getting it right ✨ Why these men do actually exist & what to do if you haven't found yours yet ✨ A teaser for an upcoming episode with a very special guest (hint: he's single, thriving & smashing the gym 😂) The bar is not high, girls. Garrett Graham is not an impossibly perfect man. He just communicates, doesn't make everything about his ego & treats the woman he's with like she matters. That's it. That's the standard & this episode is your reminder to stop settling for anything less 💚 Links & Resources 📧 Share your story for the "Where Is She Now?" segment: info@kellyskoaching.com 📲 Follow Kelly on Instagram & TikTok: @kellyskoaching 🔗 Explore all links & resources: Linktree | |||
| #49 Why You're Addicted to the Situationship & How to Finally Walk Away | 07 juin 2026 | 00:13:06 | |
You know it's going nowhere. You've known for months. Your friends have told you. You've told yourself. And yet, here you still are. This week Kelly is talking about the situationship. Not to tell you what to do- she's not going to sit here and say "know your worth" & expect that to magically fix anything. She knows it's not that simple. Some of these guys have a GRIP! And today she's explaining exactly why. You'll hear: ✨ Why situationships can be a form of addiction and the psychology behind why you literally cannot logic your way out of them ✨ Intermittent reinforcement- the most powerful psychological hook there is & why it's the exact reason his three-day silence followed by one text sends you into a tizzy✨ Why the butterflies you feel in a situationship are actually anxiety in disguise ✨ The attachment style connection- why anxiously attached women are the most likely to end up in situationships & the least likely to thrive in them ✨ How the situationship becomes a form of self-sabotage & why it's easier to blame his unavailability than face the real fear underneath ✨ The danger of potential- why you're not in love with him, you're in love with who he could be ✨ The sunk cost trap & why "I'm already ten months in" is never a good enough reason to stay ✨ How to actually get yourself out of the loop- the honest, practical, no-fluff version ✨ Why consistency might feel boring at first & why that's important information about your attachment style, not your compatibility You are not silly for being in this. But you do deserve so much more than an almost & this episode is your reminder of that! ❤️🔥 Links & Resources📧 Share your story for the "Where Is She Now?" segment: info@kellyskoaching.com📲 Follow Kelly on Instagram & TikTok: @kellyskoaching🔗 Explore all links & resources: Linktree | |||
| #48 Are You Actually Healed Or Are You Just Numb? | 31 mai 2026 | 00:13:22 | |
You've stopped crying. You've deleted the photos. You haven't checked his Instagram in three whole weeks. You're going to the gym, seeing your friends, getting on with life. So why does something still feel just… off? In this week's episode, Kelly asks the question that nobody else is asking: are you actually healed or are you just numb? Because numb is not the destination, girls. Life is for living. You'll hear: ✨ What healing actually looks like and more importantly, what it doesn't ✨ The difference between being genuinely over it and being dismissive of a whole chapter of your life ✨ The signs that you might be numb rather than healed — and why it is not your fault ✨ Why your nervous system can go into full shutdown mode after prolonged stress or trauma — and the science behind why it turns everything down, not just the pain ✨ The Vampire Diaries analogy nobody asked for but absolutely needed 🧛 ✨ Five questions to ask yourself to figure out which one you're actually in ✨ Why hustle culture and social media are making it harder to actually heal — and easier to perform healing instead ✨ Practical ways to gently reactivate your nervous system and come back to yourself ✨ Why you have to go backwards before you can go forwards This episode might confirm that you're doing better than you think. Or it might be the thing that finally helps you name what's been going on. Either way, you deserve to feel your life to its full extent. And this is your reminder that you can get there ❤️🔥 Links & Resources 📧 Share your story for the "Where Is She Now?" segment: info@kellyskoaching.com 📲 Follow Kelly on Instagram & TikTok: @kellyskoaching 🔗 Explore all links & resources: Linktree | |||
| #47 Clingy, Needy, Too Much: Reframing the Labels Women Are Given in Relationships | 24 mai 2026 | 00:18:22 | |
Has someone ever said something to you in a relationship, just one throwaway comment, that you then carried around for years without ever questioning it? In this week's episode, Kelly gets personal. She shares the story of the word that her ex-husband used to describe her that stuck like a label for years, the way it quietly shaped how she saw herself, how she showed up in relationships and how she eventually challenged it & reframed it entirely. This one is for anyone who has taken on a label from an ex, a past relationship or even just someone's passing opinion & started to believe it was the truth about who they are. You'll hear: ✨ Kelly's personal story of being called "clingy" in her marriage and why she accepted it as her identity without ever questioning it ✨ How one throwaway comment from an ex can become a deeply held belief about yourself ✨ The therapy moment that made her stop and ask but is it actually true? ✨ How to take your limiting beliefs to court & look at the real evidence ✨ Why words like clingy, needy, emotional & psycho are thrown at women far too freely and why they say more about the person using them than the person being labelled ✨ How to reframe a negative label into something that actually reflects who you are ✨ Why nobody on this planet knows you better than you know yourself And yes, she also announces that she would rather be someone's matcha than their cup of tea. A t-shirt may be incoming 🍵 This episode is your sign to look at the labels you're carrying, figure out where they came from, take them to court and decide for yourself which ones are actually true. Links & Resources 📧 Share your story for the "Where Is She Now?" segment: info@kellyskoaching.com 📲 Follow Kelly on Instagram & TikTok: @kellyskoaching 🔗 Explore all links & resources: Linktree | |||
| #46 Dopamine, Heartbreak & Why You're Not Crazy: The Science of a Breakup | 17 mai 2026 | 00:47:40 | |
Have you ever wondered why a breakup can feel so physically unbearable? The nausea, the chest pain, the inability to eat or sleep, the spiralling thoughts that won't switch off- and on top of all of that, the shame of feeling like it shouldn't be this hard? In this week's episode, Kelly breaks down exactly what is happening inside your brain and body when a relationship ends- and why it is quite literally the same neurological experience as going through a drug withdrawal. This one is backed by science, packed with practical tools & might just be the most validating episode yet. You'll hear: ✨ Why your brain in love looks identical to a brain high on cocaine and what that means for your healing ✨ The three feel-good chemicals (dopamine, oxytocin & serotonin) that your relationship was giving you — and what happens when they're suddenly cut off ✨ Why you can't stop checking his Instagram, rereading old messages, or looking for excuses to reach out — it's not weakness, it's neuroscience ✨ How your nervous system loses its main source of co-regulation when a relationship ends — and why that sends you into survival mode ✨ The role of cortisol in your breakup spiral — and the simple daily habits that help bring it back down ✨ Breathwork techniques (including the physiological sigh) that are scientifically proven to activate your parasympathetic nervous system fast ✨ How to redirect your dopamine cravings instead of white-knuckling through them ✨ Why you need both space to feel it and space to step away from it — and how to find that balance If you've ever thought "why am I being like this?" after a breakup, this episode is your answer. There is nothing wrong with you. Your brain is doing exactly what it was wired to do. Links & Resources 📧 Share your story for the "Where Is She Now?" segment: info@kellyskoaching.com 📲 Follow Kelly on Instagram & TikTok: @kellyskoaching 🔗 Explore all links & resources: Linktree | |||
| #45 From Betrayal to Breakthrough: Emma Kehoe on Healing, Solo Travel & Finding Love Again | 10 mai 2026 | 00:59:19 | |
We're back with a guest episode & this is a good one! Kelly sits down with Emma Kehoe- mindfulness coach, community curator, retreat host & the woman behind the podcast All of the Above- for a conversation that goes everywhere: heartbreak, healing, solo travel, toxic relationships, singles nights & finding your person when you've finally stopped waiting. Emma's story begins at rock bottom. In 2020, after nearly 10 years together, a shared home & actively trying for a baby, Emma discovered her partner had been cheating. Then COVID hit. With nowhere to run and no distractions to hide behind, she had no choice but to sit with it all & it turned out to be the greatest catalyst of her life. You'll hear: ✨ Emma's full story, from betrayal and grief during COVID lockdown to healing, solo travel & a relationship she never saw coming ✨ Why being forced to stop and feel everything was actually the thing that saved her ✨ The journaling practice that became her anchor and how she built her whole coaching journey from it ✨ How she went from always being in relationships to spending two and a half years truly single and why she thinks you need at least two years ✨ The masculine vs. feminine energy shift that changed how she shows up in relationships ✨ Her singles nights, what makes them different, how she met her own boyfriend at one & why in-person connection beats the apps every time ✨ Practical advice for navigating a shared house after a breakup ✨ Why jealousy is just inspiration in disguise and how to flip it This episode is for the girl who's been through it all and isn't sure what comes next. Spoiler: something really good does. Links & Resources 📧 Share your story for the "Where Is She Now?" segment: info@kellyskoaching.com 📲 Follow Kelly on Instagram & TikTok: @kellyskoaching 🔗 Explore all links & resources: Linktree Find Emma: 📲 Instagram: @emmakehoe 🌿 Empower with Emma — retreats, hikes, workshops & 1:1 coaching: @Empowerwithemma 🎙️ Podcast: All of the Above | |||
| #44 Set Boundaries In A New Relationship Without Sounding Insecure | 03 mai 2026 | 00:16:09 | |
In this week's episode, Kelly tackles a question that so many of you have been too afraid to ask: how do you set boundaries & talk about what you won't tolerate in a new relationship, without sounding crazy, insecure, or scaring him off? Spoiler: the answer might not be what you expect! Inspired by a listener who also sparked Kelly's viral microcheating episode, this one goes deep on the fear behind "the talk" & why, in many cases, you might not need to have it at all. You'll hear: ✨ Why the fear of setting boundaries is often a sign of anxious attachment & what to do about it ✨ A powerful mindset tool for dissolving the worst-case-scenario spiral before it takes hold ✨ The truth about whether setting rules actually stops a cheater (hint: it doesn't) ✨ Why the right person won't need to be told to respect you ✨ How to let your past naturally communicate your standards, without a big dramatic conversation ✨ When to observe instead of explain, and why "letting them" show you who they are is your biggest power move Whether you're newly back in the dating pool or heading towards something more serious, this episode will shift the way you think about protection, trust & what it really means to know your worth. Links & Resources 📧 Share your story for the "Where Is She Now?" segment: info@kellyskoaching.com 📲 Follow Kelly on Instagram & TikTok: @kellyskoaching 🔗 Explore all links & resources: Linktree | |||
| #43 The One Year Breakup Milestone | 26 avr. 2026 | 00:14:20 | |
In this episode of The Breakup Debrief, we’re talking about something that hits differently for everyone: The one year mark after a breakup. It’s a date that can feel heavy, emotional, nostalgic… or surprisingly neutral. Because no matter where you are in your journey — single, thriving, dating, or in a new relationship — this milestone has a way of making you pause and reflect. And sometimes… it brings feelings you didn’t expect. This episode breaks down: 📧 Coaching Enquiries: info@kellyskoaching.com | |||
| #42 Hot Girl Summer After a Breakup (Your Pep Talk to Get Your Life Back) | 19 avr. 2026 | 00:16:38 | |
In this episode of The Breakup Debrief, Kelly is giving you the pep talk you didn’t know you needed: We are NOT wasting another summer crying over a MAN! Whether you’re fresh out of a breakup or finally coming out the other side, this episode is your reminder that being single, especially in summer, can be one of the best seasons of your life. or you can get up, get outside, and start living again. And Kelly is very clear on where she stands. 🎯 What We Cover
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| #41 No Contact Isn’t a Hack to Get Your Ex Back (Here’s Why) | 12 avr. 2026 | 00:14:21 | |
In this episode of The Breakup Debrief, we’re talking about a bit of a controversial one: Are you using no contact to heal… or to get your ex back? Because there’s a huge difference. After a breakup, it’s completely normal to hold onto hopeto think they might come back, change their mind, or realise what they lost. But when no contact becomes:
…it stops being about your healing & starts being about them & we're not doing that! Kelly breaks down why using no contact as a tactic is not only ineffective but can actually leave you worse off in the long run. Because if you spend weeks “doing no contact” while secretly waiting for them to come back… Links & Resources 📧 Share your story for the “Where Is She Now?” segment: info@kellyskoaching.com 📲 Follow Kelly on Instagram & TikTok: @kellyskoaching 🔗 Explore all links & resources: Linktree | |||
| #40 Is It Cheating? Micro Cheating & Social Media Boundaries Explained | 05 avr. 2026 | 00:49:22 | |
In this episode of The Breakup Debrief, we’re diving into one of the most debated topics in modern dating: Micro cheating. With social media blurring the lines more than ever, it’s getting harder to define what is actually acceptable in a relationship- and what crosses the line. From liking photos and replying to stories… Where do we draw the line? This episode breaks down:
Because it’s not always black and white. But one thing is clear: 🎯 What You’ll Learn:
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| #39 Did I Manifest My Breakup? (Anxious Attachment & Dating Anxiety) | 29 mars 2026 | 00:12:36 | |
In this episode of The Breakup Debrief, we’re talking about a thought that so many people have after a relationship ends: “Did I cause this?” If you have an anxious attachment style, this will probably hit home. We dive into how fear of abandonment, overthinking & constantly worrying about being left can impact how you show up in relationships and why that doesn’t mean you’re to blame for things ending. Kelly breaks down the difference between:
Because when you’re operating from fear, it can stop you from being your true self and that changes the dynamic entirely. This episode is a mix of truth, reassurance, and a bit of tough love: 🎯 What You’ll Learn
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| #38 Why Dating Feels So Confusing Right Now (The Manosphere Explained) | 23 mars 2026 | 00:24:32 | |
In this episode of The Breakup Debrief, Kelly dives into the growing conversation around modern dating and the influence of the manosphere, sparked by watching Louis Theroux: The Manosphere. If you’ve been dating recently and found yourself thinking “what is going on?” — you’re not alone. Kelly breaks down how certain online ideologies are shaping dating behaviours, particularly around emotional availability, effort, and relationship dynamics. She explores why some men are drawn to this content, how it shows up in real-life dating experiences, and why it can leave women feeling confused, insecure, or like they have to prove their worth. This episode isn’t about blaming, it’s about understanding. Most importantly, Kelly brings it back to what actually matters: your standards, your self-worth, and your ability to recognise what you deserve in a relationship. 🎯 What You’ll Learn
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| #37 The Breakup You Saw Coming: Why It Still Hurts So Much | 16 mars 2026 | 00:28:28 | |
In this episode of The Breakup Debrief, Kelly explores a very different kind of breakup- the one you knew was coming. Sometimes relationships don’t end suddenly. Instead, they slowly reach a point where unresolved issues, repeated conversations & differences about the future start to build up over time. You might feel the tension, sense the uncertainty & quietly wonder if the relationship will last… but still keep going anyway. Kelly discusses why people stay in relationships even when they suspect the end may be approaching, why these breakups can still feel incredibly painful & why it’s so tempting to go back once the relationship ends. Drawing from her own experience, she also talks about the emotional complexity of “kicking the can down the road” in a relationship- hoping problems will resolve themselves, delaying difficult conversations & eventually reaching the moment where someone has to address the elephant in the room. If you've ever been in a relationship where the ending felt inevitable but still heartbreaking, this episode will help you understand why that experience can be so difficult and how to navigate the healing process. Links & Resources 📧 Share your story for the “Where Is She Now?” segment: info@kellyskoaching.com 📲 Follow Kelly on Instagram & TikTok: @kellyskoaching 🔗 Explore all links & resources: Linktree 💛 Work With Kelly – Breakup Empowerment Coaching | |||
| #36 Blindsided: When a Breakup Comes Out of Nowhere | 09 mars 2026 | 00:20:50 | |
In this episode of The Breakup Debrief, Kelly explores the emotional shock of a blindsiding breakup — the kind that feels like it comes completely out of nowhere. When a relationship ends suddenly without warning, it can disrupt your sense of stability, predictability, and emotional safety. Many people describe this experience as deeply traumatic because there was no time to mentally prepare for the loss. Kelly discusses why sudden breakups can feel so destabilising, the role your nervous system plays in processing the shock, and why the person ending the relationship may have been emotionally preparing long before the breakup conversation happened. If you've ever found yourself obsessing over what went wrong, replaying conversations, or searching for the “perfect explanation,” this episode offers practical guidance on how to process the shock, rebuild your self-worth, and begin healing. Links & Resources 📧 Share your story for the “Where Is She Now?” segment: info@kellyskoaching.com 📲 Follow Kelly on Instagram & TikTok: @kellyskoaching 🔗 Explore all links & resources: Linktree | |||
| #35 When Your Ex Gives the Next Girl Everything You Asked For | 02 mars 2026 | 00:21:58 | |
In this solo episode of The Breakup Debrief, Kelly dives into one of the most painful and triggering post-breakup experiences: seeing your ex move on. Whether it’s through social media, mutual friends, or simply knowing they’re treating someone new differently, watching an ex appear happier, more consistent, or more emotionally available can hit your self-worth hard. Kelly unpacks why this experience hurts so deeply, what it actually means (and what it doesn’t), and the four main reasons an ex might show up differently in a new relationship. She explores the psychology behind ego, comparison, and rejection and reminds listeners that someone else receiving what you once asked for does not mean you weren’t worthy of it. If you’ve ever found yourself thinking, “Why couldn’t he do that for me?” this episode will help you reframe the narrative, protect your peace, and continue healing without letting comparison pull you backwards. 📧 Share your story for the “Where Is She Now?” segment: info@kellyskoaching.com 📲 Follow Kelly on Instagram & TikTok: @kellyskoaching | |||
| #34 Healing Isn’t Linear: Why Breakup Recovery Has Ups and Downs | 16 févr. 2026 | 00:18:46 | |
In this episode of The Breakup Debrief, Kelly talks about something that doesn’t get said enough during breakup recovery: healing isn’t linear. You can be doing great. You can feel strong, grounded, and clear and then suddenly have a dip day that makes you question everything. That doesn’t mean you’re back at square one. It doesn’t mean you’ve undone your progress. It means you’re human. Kelly explores the emotional rollercoaster that can come with healing after a breakup, why bad days are part of the process, and how emotional resilience is built through allowing yourself to feel- not suppressing it. She shares practical advice on coping with emotional dips, recognising triggers and avoiding impulsive decisions when you’re feeling vulnerable. The episode also includes a listener’s story about walking away from a relationship that looked “good on paper,” highlighting the strength it takes to choose yourself, even when nothing dramatic has happened. This episode is a reminder that progress isn’t about never struggling again. It’s about learning how to navigate the hard days with self-compassion instead of self-criticism. 📧 Share your story for the “Where Is She Now?” segment: info@kellyskoaching.com | |||
| #33 From Engagement to Empowerment: Erin’s Breakup Story | 09 févr. 2026 | 00:53:19 | |
In this episode of The Breakup Debrief, Kelly is joined by Erin, who shares her deeply personal breakup story while working as a bridal stylist- helping other women prepare for weddings while quietly navigating heartbreak behind the scenes. Erin opens up about the pressure of societal timelines, the emotional weight of engagement & how red flags can be easy to overlook when you’re invested in the future you think you’re building. She reflects on the impact of being in a toxic relationship, how it affected her mental & emotional wellbeing, and the moment she realised choosing herself had to come first. Together, Kelly and Erin explore themes of self-love, self-discovery & healing after a toxic relationship. Erin shares how leaning into her passions, surrounding herself with supportive friendships & learning to trust herself again helped her rebuild her life and eventually find hope and love on the other side. This episode is a reminder that walking away from something that looks “right” on paper can be the most empowering decision you ever make & that healing doesn’t mean going backwards, it means choosing yourself. | |||
| #32 Rebranding Your Life After a Breakup (Without Forcing a Glow Up) | 01 févr. 2026 | 00:26:50 | |
In this episode of The Breakup Debrief, Kelly explores how a breakup, as painful as it is, can become a powerful turning point for personal growth. Instead of rushing to “move on” or forcing a glow-up, Kelly invites listeners to see a breakup as an opportunity to consciously rebrand their life. The episode focuses on identity after a relationship, how to reconnect with who you are outside of a partnership & how to decide who you want to become next. Kelly also responds to a listener dilemma about seeking closure after a long-term relationship, unpacking why closure often isn’t something an ex can give you, but something you can create for yourself. This episode is a gentle but empowering reminder that healing doesn’t have to be dramatic or rushed. Sometimes, it’s about small, intentional changes, protecting your energy, and choosing yourself again- one step at a time! | |||
| #31 How the Victim Mindset Keeps You Stuck After a Breakup | 26 janv. 2026 | 00:32:52 | |
In this solo episode of The Breakup Debrief, Kelly tackles a difficult but necessary topic: the victim mentality after a breakup. Kelly explains the difference between being hurt and staying stuck. While pain, betrayal, and grief are completely valid responses to heartbreak, allowing those experiences to become your identity can quietly keep you trapped in the past. This episode explores how a victim mindset can show up after a breakup — and how it can block healing, confidence, and future relationships. Kelly breaks down the signs that you may be stuck in this mindset, including replaying the same breakup story, feeling powerless about your future, and unconsciously keeping your ex at the center of your life. With honesty and compassion, she challenges listeners to take responsibility for what happens next — not by dismissing their pain, but by refusing to let it define them. This episode is a powerful reminder that healing requires self-awareness, courage, and choice. Your breakup can be a turning point — but only if you decide to move forward. 🔗 Links & Resources 📧 Share your story for the Where Is She Now? segment: info@kellyskoaching.com | |||
| #30 Male Loneliness, Modern Dating & Why Blaming Women Misses the Point | 19 janv. 2026 | 00:34:46 | |
In this episode of The Breakup Debrief, Kelly unpacks the growing conversations around declining birth rates, the so-called “male loneliness epidemic,” and the way responsibility for these societal issues is often unfairly placed on women. Kelly explores how modern relationships have fundamentally changed — particularly as women are no longer financially dependent on men and are increasingly prioritising emotional fulfillment, self-worth, and personal growth. Rather than rushing into relationships or settling after breakups, many women are choosing to heal, reflect, and raise their standards — leading to healthier partnerships in the long run. This episode challenges the narrative that women are “too picky” or anti-men, and instead reframes the conversation around emotional intelligence, maturity, and mutual effort in modern dating. Kelly also speaks directly to men, encouraging emotional accountability, self-reflection, and therapy as part of the solution — rather than blame. A thought-provoking episode that ties together breakups, dating culture, and the broader societal shifts shaping relationships today.
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| #29 Help, I Broke No Contact - Now What? | 12 janv. 2026 | 00:38:23 | |
Breaking no contact after a breakup can feel overwhelming, shame-inducing, and emotionally destabilising — but it’s also incredibly common. In this episode of The Breakup Debrief, Kelly gently unpacks what it really means when you break no contact, why it happens, and how to regain your footing without spiralling or beating yourself up. Kelly reframes no contact as a tool for healing, not a test of strength, and explores the emotional triggers that often lead to reaching out — from loneliness and alcohol to nostalgia and nervous system dysregulation. She offers grounded, practical advice on what to do after you’ve sent the message, how to stop the follow-up spiral, and how to re-establish boundaries that protect your peace. This episode is a compassionate reminder that healing is not linear, slips don’t erase progress, and self-discipline grows through self-understanding — not self-punishment. Whether you’ve just broken no contact, you’re tempted to, or you’re trying to stay strong, this episode will help you respond with clarity, calm, and self-respect. ✨ Key Takeaways
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| #28 Toxic Relationships & Abuse: Healing Your Nervous System with Erin Taylor | 05 janv. 2026 | 00:54:42 | |
⚠️ Trigger Warning This episode contains discussions around toxic relationships, emotional abuse, narcissistic abuse, and domestic abuse. Listener discretion is advised. In this episode of The Breakup Debrief, Kelly is joined by Erin Taylor, a mindset and nervous system regulation coach, to explore the realities of toxic and abusive relationships. Together, they unpack why emotional abuse can be so difficult to recognise and leave, how narcissistic traits and love bombing show up in relationships, and why the question “Why don’t they just leave?” oversimplifies a deeply complex situation. Erin shares insights from her work supporting people in domestic abuse situations, highlighting the emotional, financial, and nervous system factors that keep people stuck. The conversation also focuses on healing after abuse — from rebuilding self-trust and independence to regulating the nervous system through breath work and meditation. Erin introduces her membership Regulate, designed to support emotional healing, safety, and self-discovery. This episode is a compassionate, informative listen for anyone questioning a relationship, healing from emotional abuse, or wanting to better understand toxic dynamics. 🆘 Support Resources If this episode brings up anything difficult for you, please consider reaching out for support: Ireland
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| #27 New Year, New Plan: Rebuilding Yourself, Goals & Personal Growth | 29 déc. 2025 | 00:47:51 | |
A new year can feel like pressure- or it can be permission to reinvent yourself! In Episode 27 of The Breakup Debrief, Kelly reflects on the past year and guides listeners through a grounded, empowering approach to setting intentions for the year ahead. Whether you’re navigating breakup recovery, redefining your identity, or simply craving a reset, this episode is about creating clarity, balance, and momentum — without overwhelm. Kelly explores practical tools like the Wheel of Life, SMART goals, manifestation with action, and the power of self-love, gratitude, and accountability. This episode encourages listeners to stop waiting for the “perfect version” of themselves and start building a life that feels aligned, intentional, and supportive — one step at a time. You won't become someone new over night but you'll become more you! Links & Resources 📧 Share your story for the “Where Is She Now?” segment: info@kellyskoaching.com 📲 Follow Kelly on Instagram & TikTok: @kellyskoaching 🔗 Explore all links & resources: Linktree | |||
| #26 Should You Get Back With Your Ex? Questions to Ask Before Reconnecting | 22 déc. 2025 | 00:26:15 | |
Christmas week can be a vulnerable time after a breakup — emotions are heightened, loneliness feels louder, and old memories can creep back in. In this solo episode of The Breakup Debrief, Kelly explores one of the most common (and complicated) questions people ask during a breakup: Should I get back with my ex? Kelly unpacks the difference between missing someone and missing connection, and why reconciliation should never be a reaction to loneliness, nostalgia, or fear. This episode invites listeners to slow down, reflect honestly, and assess whether getting back together would actually create emotional safety, trust, and long-term fulfillment — or simply repeat old patterns. Kelly walks through the key questions you need to ask yourself before reopening the door to a past relationship, including why the breakup happened, whether anything has truly changed, and how to identify red flags versus green flags in a potential reconnection. She also encourages listeners to define their ideal partner and to prioritise their own happiness, growth, and future — especially during emotionally charged times of year. This episode is a reminder that choosing yourself is not the same as giving up on love. 📧 Share your story for the “Where Is She Now?” segment: info@kellyskoaching.com 📲 Follow Kelly on Instagram & TikTok: @kellyskoaching 🔗 Explore all links & resources: Linktree | |||
| #25 Breakups to Breakthroughs: Healing After Heartbreak with Caroline McKenna | 15 déc. 2025 | 00:51:01 | |
Heartbreak has a way of shaking your identity, your confidence, and your sense of direction but what if it’s also the beginning of something bigger? In Episode 25 of The Breakup Debrief, Kelly is joined by Caroline McKenna, author of Breakups to Breakthroughs, to explore how heartbreak can become a powerful catalyst for self-discovery, healing, and personal growth. Caroline shares her own journey through a painful breakup that forced her to slow down, feel her emotions, and completely re-evaluate who she was outside of a relationship. Together, Kelly and Caroline unpack why breakups can feel as devastating as a bereavement, how identity often becomes entangled with partnership, and why rushing the healing process can do more harm than good. The conversation dives into attachment styles, how they shape our relationship patterns, and why understanding them can bring clarity and compassion — both for ourselves and our exes. They also explore the theory of the three loves, helping listeners reframe past relationships without romanticising them or seeing them as failures. This episode is a reminder that being single — especially in your 30s — is not something to “fix,” but something that can be deeply fulfilling. From mindset shifts and emotional processing to trusting the timing of your life, this conversation offers reassurance, perspective, and hope for anyone navigating heartbreak or learning how to thrive on their own. If you’re going through a breakup, questioning your path, or learning how to trust yourself again, this episode will help you see that healing doesn’t mean going backwards — it often means stepping into something better. ✨ In This Episode, We Cover:
📧 Share your story for the “Where Is She Now?” segment: info@kellyskoaching.com 📲 Follow Kelly on Instagram & TikTok: @kellyskoaching 📲 Follow Caroline on Instagram & TikTok: @acountydownunder 🔗 Explore all links & resources: Linktree | |||
| #24 Rewriting Your Christmas When You’re Newly Single | 08 déc. 2025 | 00:18:22 | |
In this solo episode of The Breakup Debrief, Kelly Hunt dives into the reality of being single during Christmas—a time when emotions feel louder, memories feel sharper, and comparison hits harder than ever. Whether you’re navigating your first Christmas post-breakup or your fifth, this episode offers the validation, grounding, and practical support you need. Kelly explores the emotional weight of “this time last year” thoughts, the triggers of festive couple content, and why loneliness tends to spike during the holiday season. She also shares ways to create your own Christmas magic, reconnect with yourself, and soften the sting of missing someone who used to be part of your traditions. This episode is your warm, honest, no-BS reminder that being single at Christmas is not a failure — it’s a season you can move through with intention, compassion, and even joy. | |||
| #23 How to Cope When Your Ex Moves On Before You (Emotional Healing Tips) | 01 déc. 2025 | 00:31:44 | |
In this episode of The Breakup Debrief, Kelly opens Season Three by tackling one of the most gut-wrenching parts of heartbreak: when your ex moves on before you. Whether you found out through social media, mutual friends, or pure accident, that moment hits like a punch to the chest. Kelly breaks down why this triggers panic, intrusive thoughts, comparison spirals, and the sudden fear that “I’ve been replaced.” Rather than focusing on the other person, this episode helps you understand your nervous system, your emotions, and why this moment does not mean you’ve lost, failed, or fallen behind. Kelly explains: This episode is your reminder that your healing isn’t a race, your worth hasn’t been touched, and someone else’s relationship is not a reflection of your value. Links & Resources 📧 Share your story for the “Where Is She Now?” segment: info@kellyskoaching.com 📲 Follow Kelly on Instagram & TikTok: @kellyskoaching 🔗 Explore all links & resources: Linktree | |||
| #22 Healing from Toxic Relationships with Orla Foster | 24 nov. 2025 | 00:55:03 | |
In this powerful episode, Kelly sits down with Orla Foster — therapist, coach & specialist in helping women recover from toxic and narcissistic relationships. Orla opens up about her own journey through toxic dynamics and how it shaped her mission to support women rebuilding their self-worth. Together, Kelly and Orla unpack:
This episode is a reminder that healing is possible, support is available & nobody has to navigate toxic relationship recovery alone. Links & Resources 📧 Share your story for the “Where Is She Now?” segment: info@kellyskoaching.com 📲 Follow Kelly on Instagram & TikTok: @kellyskoaching 🔗 Explore all links & resources: Linktree ✨ Connect with Orla Foster: 📚 Resources for Support: | |||
| #21 The Post-Breakup Clear Out: How to Let Go, Heal & Take Your Power Back | 17 nov. 2025 | 00:27:06 | |
In Episode 21 of The Breakup Debrief, Kelly dives deep into one of the messiest — but most transformative — parts of healing after a breakup: From physical belongings to photos, social media, and the sentimental bits that keep you emotionally tied to your ex, Kelly breaks down exactly how to navigate the clear-out stage without spiraling… or sobbing over a hoodie. Kelly shares her own experiences from the end of her marriage and her most recent relationship — the anger, the awkwardness, the redecorating, the archiving, the box-in-the-storage-room era — and the strategies she used to reclaim her space and identity. You’ll learn why clearing out your ex’s belongings isn’t erasing your past — it’s creating space for your future. She also breaks down why archiving photos is better than keeping them visible, how social media prolongs heartache, why blocking is a form of self-respect, and how your algorithm can either help you heal or keep you stuck. The episode ends with a powerful Where Is She Now? listener story — a woman blindsided by a breakup who rebuilt her life, found peace, and realised she was never the problem. This episode is a must-listen if you’re heartbroken, stuck, or procrastinating the clear-out that you know you need to do. Links & Resources 📧 Share your story for the “Where Is She Now?” segment: info@kellyskoaching.com 📲 Follow Kelly on Instagram & TikTok: @kellyskoaching 🔗 Explore all links & resources: Linktree | |||
| #20 Vogue Says Having a Boyfriend Is Embarrassing… Let’s Debrief That | 10 nov. 2025 | 00:23:24 | |
In this episode, Kelly dives into the viral Vogue article titled “Is Having a Boyfriend Embarrassing Now?” and unpacks what this cultural shift really means for women navigating modern dating and healing. Kelly explores why being in a relationship, something once seen as a badge of honour, now feels complicated or even “uncool” in certain spaces. From social media “soft launches” to the fear of losing your independence, she breaks down how culture, healing, and self-worth intersect when it comes to love. This episode challenges listeners to question why they want a relationship, whether they’re choosing love from wholeness or from fear, and how to avoid performing relationships for social media validation. Because at the end of the day- wanting love isn’t embarrassing. Losing yourself for it is. 📖 Read the original Vogue article: Is Having a Boyfriend Embarrassing Now? (Vogue) Links & Resources 📧 Share your story for the “Where Is She Now?” segment: info@kellyskoaching.com 📲 Follow Kelly on Instagram & TikTok: @kellyskoaching 🔗 Explore all links & resources: Linktree
💬 The Vogue article explores how “being partnered” no longer defines women the way it once did. Keywords Vogue, relationships, dating, single, breakup healing, attachment styles, modern love, self-worth, emotional growth, identity, feminism, independence, social media, self-discovery, dating culture | |||
| #19 Navigating Co-Parenting & Breakups with Gráinne | 03 nov. 2025 | 00:50:08 | |
In this heartfelt episode of The Breakup Debrief, Kelly sits down with yoga teacher Gráinne to explore her journey through heartbreak, healing & the realities of co-parenting after separation. Gráinne opens up about the emotional challenges of her breakup- from anger and hurt to rediscovering herself as both a woman and a mother. She shares how she learned to separate personal emotions from parenting responsibilities, the importance of communication with her ex-partner & how she found joy again through yoga, self-care & moments of independence. Together, Kelly and Gráinne dive deep into what it really means to rebuild after a breakup when children are involved, how to find balance, create new boundaries & redefine happiness on your own terms. Whether you’re co-parenting, navigating a separation, or simply learning to start over, this episode is a grounded, hopeful reminder that healing is always possible & you can thrive, not just survive. Connect 💌 Got a story for the Where Is She Now segment? Email info@kellyskoaching.com ✨ Follow Kelly on Instagram & TikTok @kellyskoaching 🔗 All links: linktr.ee/kellys_koaching | |||
| #18 Kicking Your Ex Off the Pedestal | 28 oct. 2025 | 00:26:25 | |
In this solo episode of The Breakup Debrief, Kelly dives deep into one of the biggest post-breakup traps; putting your ex on a pedestal. If you’ve been replaying every memory, romanticising the good moments or secretly wondering if you’ll ever feel that spark again- this conversation is for you. Kelly breaks down why we idealise our exes, how attachment styles (especially avoidant dynamics) can distort our perspective & what it actually takes to see them clearly again. Through honesty and humor, she reminds listeners that healing starts when you stop worshipping the fantasy and start reclaiming your power. Because the truth is, you don’t miss them, you miss the version of them in your mind. This episode also features a Where Is She Now story from a listener who finally walked away from a four-year on-again, off-again relationship, cut contact & built a brand-new life abroad, proof that peace really is on the other side of letting go.
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