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	Title	Pub. Date	Duration
	REPLAY: When Your Child Won't Talk About Their Watchdog and Possum Brain	27 Aug 2024	00:50:01
This episode originally aired on November 7th, 2023 Does your child yell, scream, or otherwise refuse to talk about their owl, watchdog, or possum brain? They tell you it’s stupid or tell you to stop talking or get extra silly or just don’t talk? I hear this from a LOT of parents (and I experienced it a lot in the play therapy room). This doesn’t mean it doesn’t work for your child. Promise. In this episode you’ll learn: The developmental milestones needed before a child can identify or talk about their owl, watchdog, or possum brain How we can use our kids’ behavior as cues/clues to let us know something about their brain development and what interventions are appropriate (clinical reasoning) The role of distress tolerance Steps to take to scaffold your child in developing self-reflection and mindsight, as well as decrease shame around their behavior Resources mentioned in this podcast: Can I Teach My Child About Their Brain? {Ep 114} Healing Blocked Care With Melissa Corkum and Lisa Qualls {Ep 123} Read the full transcript at: RobynGobbel.com/talkaboutwatchdog Check Out All Robyn's Free Resources! You can download all sorts of free resources, including webinars, eBook, and infographics about topics such as lying, boundaries, and co-regulation! RobynGobbel.com/FreeResources ::: Grab a copy of my book Raising Kids with Big, Baffling Behaviors robyngobbel.com/book Join us in The Club for more support! robyngobbel.com/TheClub Apply for the Baffling Behavior Training Institute's Professional Immersion Program (formerly Being With) robyngobbel.com/Immersion Follow Me On: Facebook Instagram Over on my website you can find: Webinar and eBook on Focus on the Nervous System to Change Behavior (FREE) eBook on The Brilliance of Attachment (FREE) LOTS & LOTS of FREE Resources Ongoing support, connection, and co-regulation for struggling parents: The Club Year-Long Immersive & Holistic Training Program for Parenting Professionals: The Baffling Behavior Training Institute’s (BBTI) Professional Immersion Program (formerly Being With)
	REPLAY: Can I Teach My Child About Their Brain?	20 Aug 2024	00:23:29
This episode originally aired February 17th, 2023 I’ve been listening for a while and the watchdog and possum brain ideas have really helped me. Is it OK to teach this to my kids too? I’m worried they’ll start using it as excuses. I get this question all the time! If we teach our kids about the watchdog and possum brain are they going to start saying things like “My watchdog brain made me hit my sister!” In this episode, I: Outline the benefits of teaching our kids about their brain (there are lots) Teach you what to do if your child uses it as an excuse Recommend resources for how to teach your child about their brain Welcome to Fridays in February Q&As! I'll be answering one question every Friday in February. Additional Resources: Focus on the Nervous System to Change Behavior Podcast: https://robyngobbel.com/changebehavior Focus on the Nervous System to Change Behavior FREE Webinar: https://robyngobbel.com/webinar The START HERE podcast: https://robyngobbel.com/starthere ::: Grab a copy of my book Raising Kids with Big, Baffling Behaviors robyngobbel.com/book Join us in The Club for more support! robyngobbel.com/TheClub Apply for the Baffling Behavior Training Institute's Professional Immersion Program (formerly Being With) robyngobbel.com/Immersion Follow Me On: Facebook Instagram Over on my website you can find: Webinar and eBook on Focus on the Nervous System to Change Behavior (FREE) eBook on The Brilliance of Attachment (FREE) LOTS & LOTS of FREE Resources Ongoing support, connection, and co-regulation for struggling parents: The Club Year-Long Immersive & Holistic Training Program for Parenting Professionals: The Baffling Behavior Training Institute’s (BBTI) Professional Immersion Program (formerly Being With)
	REPLAY: How Behavior Changes	21 Jun 2024	00:29:55
“The curious paradox is that when I accept myself just as I am, then I can change.” ~Carl Rogers You know, one of my favorite things about studying relational neuroscience is discovering the science that proves things we’ve known all along. Not everyone needs the science, and I know some think the science detracts from the powerful truths that people have been brave enough to say and believe without having science to back it up. I think both approaches are fine. I just happen to like the science. And yup, the science backs it up. Acceptance really is needed if we want behavior to change. I find this truth to both a bummer and also quite liberating. How do we accept something without sending the message the it’s ok, no big deal, and there’s no need for it to change? It’s hard, but possible. You’ll hear my own journey toward this truth and a couple tips on how to do it yourself in this episode. Read a long summary of this episode here: https://robyngobbel.com/howbehaviorchanges Check Out All Robyn's Free Resources! You can download all sorts of free resources, including webinars, eBook, and infographics about topics such as lying, boundaries, and co-regulation! RobynGobbel.com/FreeResources ::: Grab a copy of my book Raising Kids with Big, Baffling Behaviors robyngobbel.com/book Join us in The Club for more support! robyngobbel.com/TheClub Apply for the Baffling Behavior Training Institute's Professional Immersion Program (formerly Being With) robyngobbel.com/Immersion Follow Me On: Facebook Instagram Over on my website you can find: Webinar and eBook on Focus on the Nervous System to Change Behavior (FREE) eBook on The Brilliance of Attachment (FREE) LOTS & LOTS of FREE Resources Ongoing support, connection, and co-regulation for struggling parents: The Club Year-Long Immersive & Holistic Training Program for Parenting Professionals: The Baffling Behavior Training Institute’s (BBTI) Professional Immersion Program (formerly Being With)
	Ep. 123: Healing from Blocked Care with Lisa Qualls and Melissa Corkum	04 Apr 2023	01:00:45
A conversation with Melissa Corkum and Lisa Qualls, authors of Reclaim Compassion: The Adoptive Parent's Guide to Overcoming Blocked Care with Neuroscience and Faith about blocked care- what it is, what causes it, and how families can begin to recover. In this episode, you’ll learn: What is blocked care What are the symptoms How can you overcome blocked care Resources mentioned in this podcast: Blocked Care Assessment: theadoptionconnection.com/parentingaftertrauma Website: Reclaimcompassion.com Book: Reclaim Compassion Read a summary or the full transcript at: RobynGobbel.com/blockedcare Check Out All Robyn's Free Resources! You can download all sorts of free resources, including webinars, eBook, and infographics about topics such as lying, boundaries, and co-regulation! RobynGobbel.com/FreeResources ::: Grab a copy of my book Raising Kids with Big, Baffling Behaviors robyngobbel.com/book Join us in The Club for more support! robyngobbel.com/TheClub Apply for the Baffling Behavior Training Institute's Professional Immersion Program (formerly Being With) robyngobbel.com/Immersion Follow Me On: Facebook Instagram Over on my website you can find: Webinar and eBook on Focus on the Nervous System to Change Behavior (FREE) eBook on The Brilliance of Attachment (FREE) LOTS & LOTS of FREE Resources Ongoing support, connection, and co-regulation for struggling parents: The Club Year-Long Immersive & Holistic Training Program for Parenting Professionals: The Baffling Behavior Training Institute’s (BBTI) Professional Immersion Program (formerly Being With)
	Ep. 122: What does "Vulnerable Nervous System" mean?	28 Mar 2023	00:29:29
What is a vulnerable nervous system and how do you know if your child has one? Understanding what is meant by "vulnerable nervous system" can help you support your child with big, baffling behaviors. In this episode, you’ll learn: What do I mean by vulnerable nervous system How to know if your child has a vulnerable nervous system What causes nervous system vulnerability How to support a child who has a vulnerable nervous system Resources mentioned in this podcast: Robyn's Book: https://robyngobbel.com/book/ Attachment Series ebook: Robyngobbel.com/ebook The Club: RobynGobbel.com/TheClub Read a summary or the full transcript at: RobynGobbel.com/vulnerable Check Out All Robyn's Free Resources! You can download all sorts of free resources, including webinars, eBook, and infographics about topics such as lying, boundaries, and co-regulation! RobynGobbel.com/FreeResources ::: Grab a copy of my book Raising Kids with Big, Baffling Behaviors robyngobbel.com/book Join us in The Club for more support! robyngobbel.com/TheClub Apply for the Baffling Behavior Training Institute's Professional Immersion Program (formerly Being With) robyngobbel.com/Immersion Follow Me On: Facebook Instagram Over on my website you can find: Webinar and eBook on Focus on the Nervous System to Change Behavior (FREE) eBook on The Brilliance of Attachment (FREE) LOTS & LOTS of FREE Resources Ongoing support, connection, and co-regulation for struggling parents: The Club Year-Long Immersive & Holistic Training Program for Parenting Professionals: The Baffling Behavior Training Institute’s (BBTI) Professional Immersion Program (formerly Being With)
	Ep. 121: How Toxic Shame Heals	21 Mar 2023	00:39:07
Part 3 of a 3 part series on toxic shame discusses how toxic shame heals and gives parents a map for how to be with kids who experience toxic shame. In this episode, you’ll learn: There is no technique or tool to heal shame What toxic shame really needs in order to heal The role of memory reconsolidation in healing toxic shame Why holding the truth for our kids matters Resources mentioned in this podcast: Robyn's Book: https://robyngobbel.com/book/ The Club: RobynGobbel.com/TheClub Previous Podcast Episodes: Trauma, Memory, and Behavior Part 1 Trauma, Memory, and Behavior Part 2 (includes a F R E E download) What Our Kids Really Need (and Us, Too): Moments of Healing Read a summary or the full transcript at: RobynGobbel.com/toxicshame3 Check Out All Robyn's Free Resources! You can download all sorts of free resources, including webinars, eBook, and infographics about topics such as lying, boundaries, and co-regulation! RobynGobbel.com/FreeResources ::: Grab a copy of my book Raising Kids with Big, Baffling Behaviors robyngobbel.com/book Join us in The Club for more support! robyngobbel.com/TheClub Apply for the Baffling Behavior Training Institute's Professional Immersion Program (formerly Being With) robyngobbel.com/Immersion Follow Me On: Facebook Instagram Over on my website you can find: Webinar and eBook on Focus on the Nervous System to Change Behavior (FREE) eBook on The Brilliance of Attachment (FREE) LOTS & LOTS of FREE Resources Ongoing support, connection, and co-regulation for struggling parents: The Club Year-Long Immersive & Holistic Training Program for Parenting Professionals: The Baffling Behavior Training Institute’s (BBTI) Professional Immersion Program (formerly Being With)
	Ep. 120: What Does Toxic Shame Look Like?	14 Mar 2023	00:43:54
Understanding how your child's - or your - behaviors protect against re-experiencing toxic shame and what it looks like will help you along the way to healing toxic shame. In this episode, you’ll learn: What behaviors might you see that are related to toxic shame How and why behaviors protect us from re-experiencing toxic shame How Internal Family Systems helps us make sense of these behaviors How toxic shame can protect us from experiencing the grief of aloneness Resources mentioned in this podcast: Robyn's Book: https://robyngobbel.com/book/ The Club: RobynGobbel.com/TheClub Ilyse Kennedy's book: The Tender Parts: A Guide to Healing Trauma through Internal Family Systems Therapy. Read a summary or the full transcript at: RobynGobbel.com/toxicshame2 Check Out All Robyn's Free Resources! You can download all sorts of free resources, including webinars, eBook, and infographics about topics such as lying, boundaries, and co-regulation! RobynGobbel.com/FreeResources ::: Grab a copy of my book Raising Kids with Big, Baffling Behaviors robyngobbel.com/book Join us in The Club for more support! robyngobbel.com/TheClub Apply for the Baffling Behavior Training Institute's Professional Immersion Program (formerly Being With) robyngobbel.com/Immersion Follow Me On: Facebook Instagram Over on my website you can find: Webinar and eBook on Focus on the Nervous System to Change Behavior (FREE) eBook on The Brilliance of Attachment (FREE) LOTS & LOTS of FREE Resources Ongoing support, connection, and co-regulation for struggling parents: The Club Year-Long Immersive & Holistic Training Program for Parenting Professionals: The Baffling Behavior Training Institute’s (BBTI) Professional Immersion Program (formerly Being With)
	Ep. 119: The Neurobiology of Toxic Shame	07 Mar 2023	00:44:15
Understanding the neurobiology of toxic shame helps us understand how to begin to change this for our kids. In this episode, you’ll learn: What is the difference between shame and toxic shame What is the neurobiology of toxic shame How does toxic shame develop? Why do good things trigger shame for some people? Robyn's book is available for pre-order!!! Resources mentioned in this podcast: Robyn's Book: https://robyngobbel.com/book/ The Club: RobynGobbel.com/TheClub Read a summary or the full transcript at: RobynGobbel.com/toxicshame Check Out All Robyn's Free Resources! You can download all sorts of free resources, including webinars, eBook, and infographics about topics such as lying, boundaries, and co-regulation! RobynGobbel.com/FreeResources ::: Grab a copy of my book Raising Kids with Big, Baffling Behaviors robyngobbel.com/book Join us in The Club for more support! robyngobbel.com/TheClub Apply for the Baffling Behavior Training Institute's Professional Immersion Program (formerly Being With) robyngobbel.com/Immersion Follow Me On: Facebook Instagram Over on my website you can find: Webinar and eBook on Focus on the Nervous System to Change Behavior (FREE) eBook on The Brilliance of Attachment (FREE) LOTS & LOTS of FREE Resources Ongoing support, connection, and co-regulation for struggling parents: The Club Year-Long Immersive & Holistic Training Program for Parenting Professionals: The Baffling Behavior Training Institute’s (BBTI) Professional Immersion Program (formerly Being With)
	Ep. 118: How Can The Club Help my Family? Q&A	03 Mar 2023	00:38:45
The Club is currently welcoming new members and I know you have questions- questions that ultimately boil down to: Is The Club right for me and my family? How can The Club help? I also answer very practical questions like: What’s Included in The Club? (so much!) How much direct interaction do I get with Robyn (lots!) Is it easy to quit when I’m ready? (YES!) Welcome to the Friday Q&A series! I’m answering listener questions every Friday on the podcast. For all the details about The Club and to join us, head to https://RobynGobbel.com/TheClub Check Out All Robyn's Free Resources! You can download all sorts of free resources, including webinars, eBook, and infographics about topics such as lying, boundaries, and co-regulation! RobynGobbel.com/FreeResources ::: Grab a copy of my book Raising Kids with Big, Baffling Behaviors robyngobbel.com/book Join us in The Club for more support! robyngobbel.com/TheClub Apply for the Baffling Behavior Training Institute's Professional Immersion Program (formerly Being With) robyngobbel.com/Immersion Follow Me On: Facebook Instagram Over on my website you can find: Webinar and eBook on Focus on the Nervous System to Change Behavior (FREE) eBook on The Brilliance of Attachment (FREE) LOTS & LOTS of FREE Resources Ongoing support, connection, and co-regulation for struggling parents: The Club Year-Long Immersive & Holistic Training Program for Parenting Professionals: The Baffling Behavior Training Institute’s (BBTI) Professional Immersion Program (formerly Being With)
	Ep. 117: How I've Strengthened my Psychological Boundaries	28 Feb 2023	00:52:59
Robyn shares her personal journey with strengthening her own psychological boundaries. In this episode, you’ll learn: Robyn’s experience as a client in a therapy setting Allowing others to have their own emotional journeys without interfering Caring for your watchdog and possum brains with your owl brain The title for Robyn’s book coming out September 2023!!! Pre-order HERE Resources mentioned in this podcast: Being With Directory: RobynGobbel.com/BeingWithDirectory Parent Course Directory: RobynGobbel.com/ParentCourseDirectory The Club: RobynGobbel.com/TheClub Podcast with Juliane Taylor Shore: https://robyngobbel.com/boundaries3/ Read a summary or the full transcript at: RobynGobbel.com/myboundaries Check Out All Robyn's Free Resources! You can download all sorts of free resources, including webinars, eBook, and infographics about topics such as lying, boundaries, and co-regulation! RobynGobbel.com/FreeResources ::: Grab a copy of my book Raising Kids with Big, Baffling Behaviors robyngobbel.com/book Join us in The Club for more support! robyngobbel.com/TheClub Apply for the Baffling Behavior Training Institute's Professional Immersion Program (formerly Being With) robyngobbel.com/Immersion Follow Me On: Facebook Instagram Over on my website you can find: Webinar and eBook on Focus on the Nervous System to Change Behavior (FREE) eBook on The Brilliance of Attachment (FREE) LOTS & LOTS of FREE Resources Ongoing support, connection, and co-regulation for struggling parents: The Club Year-Long Immersive & Holistic Training Program for Parenting Professionals: The Baffling Behavior Training Institute’s (BBTI) Professional Immersion Program (formerly Being With)
	Ep. 116: Why does my child demand constant attention? Friday Q&A	24 Feb 2023	00:16:29
My four-year-old is relentless in their demand for constant attention. But especially when I’m doing something like checking a text message, watching something on my phone, or talking to someone else- even just their dad! If I don’t pay attention immediately, he freaks out. How do I get this under control? In this episode, I: Reassure you that the need for connection is totally normal! Describe the neurobiology processes that make a lack of connection feel like danger Recommend resources for how to help your child be able to tolerate disconnection Welcome to Fridays in February Q&As! I'll be answering one question every Friday in February. Additional Resources: Scaffolding Podcast: https://robyngobbel.com/scaffolding Bottomless Pit podcast: https://robyngobbel.com/bottomlesspit ::: Grab a copy of my book Raising Kids with Big, Baffling Behaviors robyngobbel.com/book Join us in The Club for more support! robyngobbel.com/TheClub Apply for the Baffling Behavior Training Institute's Professional Immersion Program (formerly Being With) robyngobbel.com/Immersion Follow Me On: Facebook Instagram Over on my website you can find: Webinar and eBook on Focus on the Nervous System to Change Behavior (FREE) eBook on The Brilliance of Attachment (FREE) LOTS & LOTS of FREE Resources Ongoing support, connection, and co-regulation for struggling parents: The Club Year-Long Immersive & Holistic Training Program for Parenting Professionals: The Baffling Behavior Training Institute’s (BBTI) Professional Immersion Program (formerly Being With)
	Ep. 115: Boundaries with Verbal Aggression with Juliane Taylor Shore: Boundaries with Connection Part 3 of 3	21 Feb 2023	01:09:56
In part 3 of this series on Boundaries with Connection, Juliane Taylor Shore talks us through how boundaries work in relationships with our children - relationships where we have to show up every day - and why it is so important for us to have good psychological boundaries when our children are verbally aggressive. In this episode, you’ll learn: What are psychological boundaries How do psychological boundaries help us Why good psychological boundaries are important when a child is verbally aggressive How to create space between your mind and another's mind Resources mentioned in this podcast: Juliane Taylor Shore's website: https://www.cleariskind.com/ Juliane's boundaries course: https://therapywisdom.com/neurobiology-of-feeling-safe/ Jules' Relationship Podcast : https://whydoesmypartner.com/ FREE One-page PDF infographic on Boundaries with Connection! CLICK HERE to get the download sent to your inbox Read a summary or the full transcript at: RobynGobbel.com/boundaries3 Check Out All Robyn's Free Resources! You can download all sorts of free resources, including webinars, eBook, and infographics about topics such as lying, boundaries, and co-regulation! RobynGobbel.com/FreeResources ::: Grab a copy of my book Raising Kids with Big, Baffling Behaviors robyngobbel.com/book Join us in The Club for more support! robyngobbel.com/TheClub Apply for the Baffling Behavior Training Institute's Professional Immersion Program (formerly Being With) robyngobbel.com/Immersion Follow Me On: Facebook Instagram Over on my website you can find: Webinar and eBook on Focus on the Nervous System to Change Behavior (FREE) eBook on The Brilliance of Attachment (FREE) LOTS & LOTS of FREE Resources Ongoing support, connection, and co-regulation for struggling parents: The Club Year-Long Immersive & Holistic Training Program for Parenting Professionals: The Baffling Behavior Training Institute’s (BBTI) Professional Immersion Program (formerly Being With)
	Ep. 114: Can I teach my child about their brain? Friday Q&A Series	17 Feb 2023	00:19:59
I’ve been listening for a while and the watchdog and possum brain ideas have really helped me. Is it OK to teach this to my kids too? I’m worried they’ll start using it as excuses. I get this question all the time! If we teach our kids about the watchdog and possum brain are they going to start saying things like “My watchdog brain made me hit my sister!” In this episode, I: Outline the benefits of teaching our kids about their brain (there are lots) Teach you what to do if your child uses it as an excuse Recommend resources for how to teach your child about their brain Welcome to Fridays in February Q&As! I'll be answering one question every Friday in February. Additional Resources: Focus on the Nervous System to Change Behavior Podcast: https://robyngobbel.com/changebehavior Focus on the Nervous System to Change Behavior FREE Webinar: https://robyngobbel.com/webinar The START HERE podcast: https://robyngobbel.com/starthere ::: Grab a copy of my book Raising Kids with Big, Baffling Behaviors robyngobbel.com/book Join us in The Club for more support! robyngobbel.com/TheClub Apply for the Baffling Behavior Training Institute's Professional Immersion Program (formerly Being With) robyngobbel.com/Immersion Follow Me On: Facebook Instagram Over on my website you can find: Webinar and eBook on Focus on the Nervous System to Change Behavior (FREE) eBook on The Brilliance of Attachment (FREE) LOTS & LOTS of FREE Resources Ongoing support, connection, and co-regulation for struggling parents: The Club Year-Long Immersive & Holistic Training Program for Parenting Professionals: The Baffling Behavior Training Institute’s (BBTI) Professional Immersion Program (formerly Being With)
	EP 183: Is Watchdog and Possum Behavior Always Protective?	18 Jun 2024	00:30:56
Do the Watchdog and Possum pathway only activate in protection mode? Are they always protective? NO! It is possible to have safe and connected Watchdog energy and safe and connected Possum energy! Why does this distinction matter? In this episode, you’ll learn What safe and connected watchdog energy feels like What safe and connected possum energy feels like Why it’s important to remember we aren’t trying to get rid of the watchdog or the possum- we are trying to help them rest and only work hard when they need to Resources mentioned in this podcast: Trauma Behavior? Or Just Acting Up? {EP 30} Focus On The Nervous System To Change Behavior {Ep 84} Read the full transcript at: RobynGobbel.com/alwaysprotective Check Out All Robyn's Free Resources! You can download all sorts of free resources, including webinars, eBook, and infographics about topics such as lying, boundaries, and co-regulation! RobynGobbel.com/FreeResources ::: Grab a copy of my book Raising Kids with Big, Baffling Behaviors robyngobbel.com/book Join us in The Club for more support! robyngobbel.com/TheClub Apply for the Baffling Behavior Training Institute's Professional Immersion Program (formerly Being With) robyngobbel.com/Immersion Follow Me On: Facebook Instagram Over on my website you can find: Webinar and eBook on Focus on the Nervous System to Change Behavior (FREE) eBook on The Brilliance of Attachment (FREE) LOTS & LOTS of FREE Resources Ongoing support, connection, and co-regulation for struggling parents: The Club Year-Long Immersive & Holistic Training Program for Parenting Professionals: The Baffling Behavior Training Institute’s (BBTI) Professional Immersion Program (formerly Being With)
	Ep. 113: Boundaries that Create Success: Boundaries with Connection Part 2 of 3	14 Feb 2023	00:43:03
In part 2 of this series on Boundaries with Connection, we explore how to set boundaries that create success by providing structure and containment that offers safety, connection, and co-regulation. In this episode, you’ll learn: How boundaries can create physical and emotional safety How to create the kind of boundaries your child really needs for continued development How to set boundaries with the intent of increasing regulation Resources mentioned in this podcast: Previous podcast episode https://robyngobbel.com/scaffolding FREE One-page PDF infographic on Boundaries with Connection! CLICK HERE to get the download sent to your inbox Read a summary or the full transcript at: RobynGobbel.com/boundaries2 Check Out All Robyn's Free Resources! You can download all sorts of free resources, including webinars, eBook, and infographics about topics such as lying, boundaries, and co-regulation! RobynGobbel.com/FreeResources ::: Grab a copy of my book Raising Kids with Big, Baffling Behaviors robyngobbel.com/book Join us in The Club for more support! robyngobbel.com/TheClub Apply for the Baffling Behavior Training Institute's Professional Immersion Program (formerly Being With) robyngobbel.com/Immersion Follow Me On: Facebook Instagram Over on my website you can find: Webinar and eBook on Focus on the Nervous System to Change Behavior (FREE) eBook on The Brilliance of Attachment (FREE) LOTS & LOTS of FREE Resources Ongoing support, connection, and co-regulation for struggling parents: The Club Year-Long Immersive & Holistic Training Program for Parenting Professionals: The Baffling Behavior Training Institute’s (BBTI) Professional Immersion Program (formerly Being With)
	Ep. 112: The Problem with a RAD diagnosis- Friday Q&A series	10 Feb 2023	00:23:49
"I’m so confused about the RAD diagnosis. My son’s therapist suggested it but everything I read online is scary and hopeless. Help!" When parents get a diagnosis of RAD (or it even gets suggested!) they head straight to Google. What they find is terrifying! That's the problem with RAD as a diagnosis! In this episode, I give a new framework for considering what's underneath the behavioral symptoms that lead to a diagnosis of RAD- and why this reframe is crucial to treatment. Welcome to Fridays in February Q&As! I'll be answering one question every Friday in February. Additional Resources Brilliance of Attachment eBook by Robyn Gobbel Developmental Trauma Close Up by Beacon House (this is an EXCELLENT resource on Developmental Trauma) ::: Grab a copy of my book Raising Kids with Big, Baffling Behaviors robyngobbel.com/book Join us in The Club for more support! robyngobbel.com/TheClub Apply for the Baffling Behavior Training Institute's Professional Immersion Program (formerly Being With) robyngobbel.com/Immersion Follow Me On: Facebook Instagram Over on my website you can find: Webinar and eBook on Focus on the Nervous System to Change Behavior (FREE) eBook on The Brilliance of Attachment (FREE) LOTS & LOTS of FREE Resources Ongoing support, connection, and co-regulation for struggling parents: The Club Year-Long Immersive & Holistic Training Program for Parenting Professionals: The Baffling Behavior Training Institute’s (BBTI) Professional Immersion Program (formerly Being With)
	Ep. 111: Boundaries with Connection Part 1 of 3: Boundaries You can Control	07 Feb 2023	00:42:07
Focusing on understanding what's driving behavior can sometimes make it feel like we aren't addressing the behavior at all. It can feel as if we are boundaryless and permissive. This episode sheds light on what boundaries really are and how focusing on regulation, connection and felt-safety increases compassionate boundaries in response to behaviors. In this episode, you’ll learn: What boundaries really are How they are different than punishment and rules Examples of boundaries What to do when your child violates a boundary Resources mentioned in this podcast: Previous podcast episode "But What about a Consequence?" FREE One-page PDF infographic on Boundaries with Connection! CLICK HERE to get the download sent to your inbox Read a summary or the full transcript at: RobynGobbel.com/boundaries1 Check Out All Robyn's Free Resources! You can download all sorts of free resources, including webinars, eBook, and infographics about topics such as lying, boundaries, and co-regulation! RobynGobbel.com/FreeResources ::: Grab a copy of my book Raising Kids with Big, Baffling Behaviors robyngobbel.com/book Join us in The Club for more support! robyngobbel.com/TheClub Apply for the Baffling Behavior Training Institute's Professional Immersion Program (formerly Being With) robyngobbel.com/Immersion Follow Me On: Facebook Instagram Over on my website you can find: Webinar and eBook on Focus on the Nervous System to Change Behavior (FREE) eBook on The Brilliance of Attachment (FREE) LOTS & LOTS of FREE Resources Ongoing support, connection, and co-regulation for struggling parents: The Club Year-Long Immersive & Holistic Training Program for Parenting Professionals: The Baffling Behavior Training Institute’s (BBTI) Professional Immersion Program (formerly Being With)
	Ep. 110: Does my child get dysregulated on purpose? Friday Q&A Series	03 Feb 2023	00:14:05
"Sometimes it feels like my child escalates and gets physical or has a tantrum- almost on purpose. Like- they want to get out of control. Is this possible?" It's totally possible, but it's not because they are manipulative or because they don't want to feel better. Let me help this behavior make more sense to you so you can stay more regulated and present for your child during this baffling behavior. Welcome to Fridays in February Q&As! I'll be answering one question every Friday in February. See you next week! Read the transcript: https://robyngobbel.com/dysregulatedonpurpose/ ::: Grab a copy of my book Raising Kids with Big, Baffling Behaviors robyngobbel.com/book Join us in The Club for more support! robyngobbel.com/TheClub Apply for the Baffling Behavior Training Institute's Professional Immersion Program (formerly Being With) robyngobbel.com/Immersion Follow Me On: Facebook Instagram Over on my website you can find: Webinar and eBook on Focus on the Nervous System to Change Behavior (FREE) eBook on The Brilliance of Attachment (FREE) LOTS & LOTS of FREE Resources Ongoing support, connection, and co-regulation for struggling parents: The Club Year-Long Immersive & Holistic Training Program for Parenting Professionals: The Baffling Behavior Training Institute’s (BBTI) Professional Immersion Program (formerly Being With)
	Ep. 109: Is Understanding Behavior Just Excusing It?	31 Jan 2023	00:38:24
Understanding behavior helps us actually solve the problem, leads to compassion, and actually helps behavior to change, but first we must understand why we are so afraid that understanding behaviors means we are excusing "bad" behaviors. In this episode, you’ll learn: The difference between understanding behavior and excusing behavior Why understanding behavior is important What are our fears about understanding behavior What leads to behavior change The importance of compassionate boundaries Read a summary or the full transcript at: RobynGobbel.com/understandingbehavior Check Out All Robyn's Free Resources! You can download all sorts of free resources, including webinars, eBook, and infographics about topics such as lying, boundaries, and co-regulation! RobynGobbel.com/FreeResources ::: Grab a copy of my book Raising Kids with Big, Baffling Behaviors robyngobbel.com/book Join us in The Club for more support! robyngobbel.com/TheClub Apply for the Baffling Behavior Training Institute's Professional Immersion Program (formerly Being With) robyngobbel.com/Immersion Follow Me On: Facebook Instagram Over on my website you can find: Webinar and eBook on Focus on the Nervous System to Change Behavior (FREE) eBook on The Brilliance of Attachment (FREE) LOTS & LOTS of FREE Resources Ongoing support, connection, and co-regulation for struggling parents: The Club Year-Long Immersive & Holistic Training Program for Parenting Professionals: The Baffling Behavior Training Institute’s (BBTI) Professional Immersion Program (formerly Being With)
	Ep. 108: It's Me! Hi! My 2022 Reflections	24 Jan 2023	01:04:26
An episode of sharing, connecting, and reflecting on all the goodness and intensity of 2022, celebrating this community, and looking forward to the year ahead on the podcast and more. In this episode, you’ll learn: The huge and impactful undertaking of Being With News about my upcoming book! What's been happening in The Club The most vulnerable thing I did in my business in 2022 What's ahead for 2023 Resources mentioned in this podcast: Professional Immersion Program (formerly Being With) Directory: https://robyngobbel.com/immersionprogramgraduate/ Read a summary or the full transcript at: RobynGobbel.com/reflections Check Out All Robyn's Free Resources! You can download all sorts of free resources, including webinars, eBook, and infographics about topics such as lying, boundaries, and co-regulation! RobynGobbel.com/FreeResources ::: Grab a copy of my book Raising Kids with Big, Baffling Behaviors robyngobbel.com/book Join us in The Club for more support! robyngobbel.com/TheClub Apply for the Baffling Behavior Training Institute's Professional Immersion Program (formerly Being With) robyngobbel.com/Immersion Follow Me On: Facebook Instagram Over on my website you can find: Webinar and eBook on Focus on the Nervous System to Change Behavior (FREE) eBook on The Brilliance of Attachment (FREE) LOTS & LOTS of FREE Resources Ongoing support, connection, and co-regulation for struggling parents: The Club Year-Long Immersive & Holistic Training Program for Parenting Professionals: The Baffling Behavior Training Institute’s (BBTI) Professional Immersion Program (formerly Being With)
	Ep. 107: Helping Kids Discover their Superpowers with Dr. Chaitra Wirta Leiker	17 Jan 2023	00:41:16
An interview with Dr. Chaitra Wirta-Leiker about empowering children to be the boss of their own stories and how to find therapists who can hold those stories with curiosity and resonance. In this episode, you’ll learn: We all get to decide how we want our stories to be shared, and why it's especially important for adoptees to have tools for responding to intrusive questions The powerful connection of finding a therapist who is an adoptee How to find the right therapist for your child Resources mentioned in this podcast: Dr. Wirta-Leiker's book: https://growbeyondwords.com/adoptees-like-me/ National Adoptee Therapist Directory: https://growbeyondwords.com/adoptee-therapist-directory/ Screening Questions: https://growbeyondwords.com/2015/08/screening-questions-when-seeking-an-adoption-competent-therapist/ Read a summary or the full transcript at: RobynGobbel.com/superpowers Connect with Dr. Chaitra Wirta-Leiker here: Website: https://growbeyondwords.com/ Instagram: @growbeyondwords Facebook: @BeyondWordsPsychologicalServices Check Out All Robyn's Free Resources! You can download all sorts of free resources, including webinars, eBook, and infographics about topics such as lying, boundaries, and co-regulation! RobynGobbel.com/FreeResources ::: Grab a copy of my book Raising Kids with Big, Baffling Behaviors robyngobbel.com/book Join us in The Club for more support! robyngobbel.com/TheClub Apply for the Baffling Behavior Training Institute's Professional Immersion Program (formerly Being With) robyngobbel.com/Immersion Follow Me On: Facebook Instagram Over on my website you can find: Webinar and eBook on Focus on the Nervous System to Change Behavior (FREE) eBook on The Brilliance of Attachment (FREE) LOTS & LOTS of FREE Resources Ongoing support, connection, and co-regulation for struggling parents: The Club Year-Long Immersive & Holistic Training Program for Parenting Professionals: The Baffling Behavior Training Institute’s (BBTI) Professional Immersion Program (formerly Being With)
	{REPLAY} Lisa Dion on how Regulation Does Not Equal Calm	13 Jan 2023	00:54:08
*This episode originally aired on May 18th, 2021* What if I told you that calm isn't best? Calm isn't what we are working toward! And prioritizing calm gives other states of the nervous system a bad wrap! Calm is just a byproduct of an attempt to regulate! In fact, there are risks to focusing on calm as our primary goal. On today's episode, I'm thrilled to introduce you to Lisa Dion, LPC, RPT-S, is an international teacher, creator of Synergetic Play Therapy, founder and President of the Synergetic Play Therapy Institute, and host of the Lessons from the Playroom podcast. She is the author of Aggression in Play Therapy: A Neurobiological Approach for Integrating Intensity and is the 2015 recipient of the Association for Play Therapy’s Professional Education and Training Award of Excellence. Lisa and I have a lovely time discussing the difference between regulated and calm, including the risks of pretending to be calm when we aren't. As parents and clinicians who care for kids with a history of trauma, it's important to negotiate ways within ourselves that we can be honest and congruent with our true experiences (maybe we are mad!) while still remaining regulated and offering felt-safety. Wait what?! Regulated and mad?!?! Yup. Regulated and mad. Have a listen to see what Lisa has to say about this! You can find more of Lisa's work over at Synergetic Play Therapy Institue, including her book for clinicians, Aggression in Play Therapy. To read the full summary or the full transcript visit: https://robyngobbel.com/lisadion/ Check Out All Robyn's Free Resources! You can download all sorts of free resources, including webinars, eBook, and infographics about topics such as lying, boundaries, and co-regulation! RobynGobbel.com/FreeResources ::: Grab a copy of my book Raising Kids with Big, Baffling Behaviors robyngobbel.com/book Join us in The Club for more support! robyngobbel.com/TheClub Apply for the Baffling Behavior Training Institute's Professional Immersion Program (formerly Being With) robyngobbel.com/Immersion Follow Me On: Facebook Instagram Over on my website you can find: Webinar and eBook on Focus on the Nervous System to Change Behavior (FREE) eBook on The Brilliance of Attachment (FREE) LOTS & LOTS of FREE Resources Ongoing support, connection, and co-regulation for struggling parents: The Club Year-Long Immersive & Holistic Training Program for Parenting Professionals: The Baffling Behavior Training Institute’s (BBTI) Professional Immersion Program (formerly Being With)
	{REPLAY} Trauma Behavior? Or Just Regular Kid Acting-Up Behavior?	10 Jan 2023	00:42:56
*This episode originally aired on May 11th, 2021* You’ve asked yourself “Is this a behavior that’s coming from my child’s trauma? Or is this regular acting out kid behavior???” Sometimes it’s pretty obvious but if you’re asking yourself that question, you’re probably in a situation where it isn’t obvious. What if I told you it doesn’t matter? Hear me out. Why do you want to figure that out? Usually because it feels like you’ll handle the situation different based on the answer. But actually, it doesn’t matter. And it’s impossible to determine anyway. What you really want to think about is- how dysregulated is my child? And then respond to that!! There are some core truths about humans- regulated, connected kids who feel safe do well. So if you’re child isn’t doing well- ask yourself if this is about regulation, connection, felt-safety or some combination of those. Then, based on your child’s level of arousal/dysregulation, you can intervene in a way that will calm their arousal and bring back their owl brain. I explore this in depth in today’s episode! If you want to learn more about this way of looking at behaviors, watch this free masterclass online www.RobynGobbel.com/masterclass To view the full summary or the full transcript visit: https://robyngobbel.com/traumabehavior/ Check Out All Robyn's Free Resources! You can download all sorts of free resources, including webinars, eBook, and infographics about topics such as lying, boundaries, and co-regulation! RobynGobbel.com/FreeResources ::: Grab a copy of my book Raising Kids with Big, Baffling Behaviors robyngobbel.com/book Join us in The Club for more support! robyngobbel.com/TheClub Apply for the Baffling Behavior Training Institute's Professional Immersion Program (formerly Being With) robyngobbel.com/Immersion Follow Me On: Facebook Instagram Over on my website you can find: Webinar and eBook on Focus on the Nervous System to Change Behavior (FREE) eBook on The Brilliance of Attachment (FREE) LOTS & LOTS of FREE Resources Ongoing support, connection, and co-regulation for struggling parents: The Club Year-Long Immersive & Holistic Training Program for Parenting Professionals: The Baffling Behavior Training Institute’s (BBTI) Professional Immersion Program (formerly Being With)
	{REPLAY} What Does Co-Regulation Really Look Like?	06 Jan 2023	00:52:44
*This episode originally aired on May 24th, 2022* There’s a lot of confusion about what co-regulation really is. Parents often say to me something like “OK, I get it- I’m supposed to give co-regulation instead of a consequence. But- what does that really mean? Like- what does co-regulation actually look like in real life?” Listen to the episode to learn: What regulation really is What co-regulation really is The ‘ingredients’ of co-regulation An example of in-real-life co-regulation (with an older child) Active vs. passive co-regulation You can read a longer summary AND get a full transcript over at https://robyngobbel.com/coregulation In this podcast, I mention: Is it really about trust? Or not enough co-regulation? Building the Tower of Self-Regulation Regulation Does Not Equal Calm Check Out All Robyn's Free Resources! You can download all sorts of free resources, including webinars, eBook, and infographics about topics such as lying, boundaries, and co-regulation! RobynGobbel.com/FreeResources ::: Grab a copy of my book Raising Kids with Big, Baffling Behaviors robyngobbel.com/book Join us in The Club for more support! robyngobbel.com/TheClub Apply for the Baffling Behavior Training Institute's Professional Immersion Program (formerly Being With) robyngobbel.com/Immersion Follow Me On: Facebook Instagram Over on my website you can find: Webinar and eBook on Focus on the Nervous System to Change Behavior (FREE) eBook on The Brilliance of Attachment (FREE) LOTS & LOTS of FREE Resources Ongoing support, connection, and co-regulation for struggling parents: The Club Year-Long Immersive & Holistic Training Program for Parenting Professionals: The Baffling Behavior Training Institute’s (BBTI) Professional Immersion Program (formerly Being With)
	REPLAY: Scaffolding is a Form of Co-Regulation	14 Jun 2024	00:49:43
What does my child need for their success to be inevitable? If I wanted to paint the top of a 20 foot wall, I’d rent some scaffolding. Scaffolding makes the floor higher and would get me as close to the top of the wall as I needed. The scaffolding would help make my success inevitable. It’s not the only thing I need to be successful (paint would come in handy!), but it’s a really important piece. In parenting, scaffolding is the support that we put in place that allows our children to be successful. Then, slowly, thoughtful, and sequentially, we decrease the amount of external support needed as our children develop that capacity to be successful on their own. Read a summary of this episode and access the full show notes at: RobynGobbel.com/Scaffolding Check Out All Robyn's Free Resources! You can download all sorts of free resources, including webinars, eBook, and infographics about topics such as lying, boundaries, and co-regulation! RobynGobbel.com/FreeResources ::: Grab a copy of my book Raising Kids with Big, Baffling Behaviors robyngobbel.com/book Join us in The Club for more support! robyngobbel.com/TheClub Apply for the Baffling Behavior Training Institute's Professional Immersion Program (formerly Being With) robyngobbel.com/Immersion Follow Me On: Facebook Instagram Over on my website you can find: Webinar and eBook on Focus on the Nervous System to Change Behavior (FREE) eBook on The Brilliance of Attachment (FREE) LOTS & LOTS of FREE Resources Ongoing support, connection, and co-regulation for struggling parents: The Club Year-Long Immersive & Holistic Training Program for Parenting Professionals: The Baffling Behavior Training Institute’s (BBTI) Professional Immersion Program (formerly Being With)
	{REPLAY} Not Flipping Your Lid...When Your Kid Flips Theirs	03 Jan 2023	00:32:43
*This podcast episode originally aired on January 5th, 2021* How do we not flip our lids when our kids are going bananas? It's HARD. Because dysregulation is quite literally contagious!! And if we flip our lids too then it's usually pretty hard to deescalate the situation. Offering connection, regulation, and felt-safety to our kids is a lot easier if we don't flip our lids! (Although for sure- perfection in parenting is never ever ever required and sometimes, I flip my lid, too!) In this episode, we will look at steps you can take- IN THE MOMENT- of a stressful parenting experience (assuming no one is in literal danger!) that will help you stay regulated (not calm!) so you can tackle the real problem. The real problem is probably your child's regulation, connection, and/or felt-safety! To read the full summary or the full transcript visit: www.RobynGobbel.com/notflippingyourlid If you are new to this model of brain-based parenting, you can watch my free 45 minute masterclass on Regulation, Connection, and Felt-Safety here: www.RobynGobbel.com/masterclass Check Out All Robyn's Free Resources! You can download all sorts of free resources, including webinars, eBook, and infographics about topics such as lying, boundaries, and co-regulation! RobynGobbel.com/FreeResources ::: Grab a copy of my book Raising Kids with Big, Baffling Behaviors robyngobbel.com/book Join us in The Club for more support! robyngobbel.com/TheClub Apply for the Baffling Behavior Training Institute's Professional Immersion Program (formerly Being With) robyngobbel.com/Immersion Follow Me On: Facebook Instagram Over on my website you can find: Webinar and eBook on Focus on the Nervous System to Change Behavior (FREE) eBook on The Brilliance of Attachment (FREE) LOTS & LOTS of FREE Resources Ongoing support, connection, and co-regulation for struggling parents: The Club Year-Long Immersive & Holistic Training Program for Parenting Professionals: The Baffling Behavior Training Institute’s (BBTI) Professional Immersion Program (formerly Being With)
	{REPLAY} Self-Compassion Keeps You Regulated	30 Dec 2022	00:29:36
*This episode originally aired on December 22nd, 2020* I love love love talking about self-compassion for two main reasons. Self-Compassion is solidly anchored in the relational neurosciences- and you know how much I love...and need...for things to be anchored in science. Self-compassion has tenacity. There's no way out. Self-compassion has an answer for all your reasons why you aren't worthy of self-compassion. I love that about self-compassion (probably because people describe me as tenacious- especially, relationally). In this episode, we will explore the science of self-compassion. We'll look at why compassion is the neurobiology of change. Why you deserve compassion. Why compassion is how the brain heals and changes. Compassion can feel risky- and I'll give you the science that might help you feel safe enough to take the vulnerable step toward self-compassion. To read the full summary or the full transcript visit: robyngobbel.com/selfcompassion Check Out All Robyn's Free Resources! You can download all sorts of free resources, including webinars, eBook, and infographics about topics such as lying, boundaries, and co-regulation! RobynGobbel.com/FreeResources ::: Grab a copy of my book Raising Kids with Big, Baffling Behaviors robyngobbel.com/book Join us in The Club for more support! robyngobbel.com/TheClub Apply for the Baffling Behavior Training Institute's Professional Immersion Program (formerly Being With) robyngobbel.com/Immersion Follow Me On: Facebook Instagram Over on my website you can find: Webinar and eBook on Focus on the Nervous System to Change Behavior (FREE) eBook on The Brilliance of Attachment (FREE) LOTS & LOTS of FREE Resources Ongoing support, connection, and co-regulation for struggling parents: The Club Year-Long Immersive & Holistic Training Program for Parenting Professionals: The Baffling Behavior Training Institute’s (BBTI) Professional Immersion Program (formerly Being With)
	{REPLAY} Why Do I Get So Dysregulated?	27 Dec 2022	00:37:13
*This episode originally aired on March 2nd, 2021* Or mad? Or scared? Or overwhelmed? Or shut-down? Why do I make a mountain out of a mole hill? Why can’t I keep it together? Being ignored (or yelled at or cussed at or disrespected or refusing to eat or do a chore or or or or the list is endless) is never going to feel good. But- have you ever wondered why your brain goes into full on attacking watch dog mode when the reality is- refusing to do a chore, go to school, or even being ignored or yelled at, isn’t life threatening? If it isn’t life threatening, why does our brain go to attack mode? We talk about two reasons in today's episode: Decreased window of stress tolerance Implicit memory awakenings *************** I talk about a LOT of resources in this episode! Blog articles: Finding Playfulness Self-Compassion No Behavior is Maladaptive Read the full summary or the full transcript at: https://robyngobbel.com/whydoigetdysregulated/ Check Out All Robyn's Free Resources! You can download all sorts of free resources, including webinars, eBook, and infographics about topics such as lying, boundaries, and co-regulation! RobynGobbel.com/FreeResources ::: Grab a copy of my book Raising Kids with Big, Baffling Behaviors robyngobbel.com/book Join us in The Club for more support! robyngobbel.com/TheClub Apply for the Baffling Behavior Training Institute's Professional Immersion Program (formerly Being With) robyngobbel.com/Immersion Follow Me On: Facebook Instagram Over on my website you can find: Webinar and eBook on Focus on the Nervous System to Change Behavior (FREE) eBook on The Brilliance of Attachment (FREE) LOTS & LOTS of FREE Resources Ongoing support, connection, and co-regulation for struggling parents: The Club Year-Long Immersive & Holistic Training Program for Parenting Professionals: The Baffling Behavior Training Institute’s (BBTI) Professional Immersion Program (formerly Being With)
	{REPLAY} Why Good Times Can Suddenly Go Bad	23 Dec 2022	00:21:31
*This episode originally aired on May 25th, 2021* I'll bet you are familiar with this baffling phenomenon. Everything seems great. Fun! Even laughter and real good times. And all of the sudden- completely dysregulation and melt-down. Sometimes even just the anticipation of something fun can lead to dysregulation. I know that understanding the why doesn't exactly solve this problem, but I definitely find that understanding the why can open up compassion and keep us more regulated. Which then means we can respond instead of react. In today's episode we are looking at the science behind why this happens. It's science- not sabotage! Promise! In this episode you hear me mention a F R E E three-part video series on Trauma, Memory, and Behaviors. You can find that at https://robyngobbel.com/videoseries If you are ready to take a deep-dive into parenting a child impacted by trauma through the lens of regulation, connection, and felt-safety, you'll want to check out my self-paced, comprehensive, and all online digital course Parenting after Trauma: Minding the Heart and Brain. You can find that at https://robyngobbel.com/parentcourse Read a full summary or the full transcript at: https://robyngobbel.com/goodtimesgobad/ ::: Grab a copy of my book Raising Kids with Big, Baffling Behaviors robyngobbel.com/book Join us in The Club for more support! robyngobbel.com/TheClub Apply for the Baffling Behavior Training Institute's Professional Immersion Program (formerly Being With) robyngobbel.com/Immersion Follow Me On: Facebook Instagram Over on my website you can find: Webinar and eBook on Focus on the Nervous System to Change Behavior (FREE) eBook on The Brilliance of Attachment (FREE) LOTS & LOTS of FREE Resources Ongoing support, connection, and co-regulation for struggling parents: The Club Year-Long Immersive & Holistic Training Program for Parenting Professionals: The Baffling Behavior Training Institute’s (BBTI) Professional Immersion Program (formerly Being With)
	{REPLAY} Child Always Dysregulated? Try this!!!	20 Dec 2022	00:32:50
*This episode originally aired on February 16th, 2021* Connection. Empathizing. Offering choices. These parenting ideas sound good in theory but if you are living with a child who seems chronically angry or won’t get out of bed or is otherwise pretty much always unhappy or dysregulated- none of those parenting suggestions seem to do much good. So…what should you do instead??? This episode takes you through the three places I always recommend parents start first when they are trying to support their child who feels chronically dysregulated. 1. Food, water, and movement 2. Structure, routing, and predictability 3. Stick close These may or may not help your child to decrease their level of arousal and dysregulation but they are always where I recommend parents start first! Read a full summary or the full transcript at: www.RobynGobbel.com/alwaysdysegulated For an introduction to tracking arousal instead of behavior, read this blog: www.RobynGobbel.com/watchdogbrain or listen to episode 4 Parenting after Trauma: Minding the Heart and Brain online course: www.RobynGobbel.com/parentcourse You can watch the free masterclass on Regulation, Connection, and Felt-Safety right on my website! www.RobynGobbel.com/masterclass Check Out All Robyn's Free Resources! You can download all sorts of free resources, including webinars, eBook, and infographics about topics such as lying, boundaries, and co-regulation! RobynGobbel.com/FreeResources ::: Grab a copy of my book Raising Kids with Big, Baffling Behaviors robyngobbel.com/book Join us in The Club for more support! robyngobbel.com/TheClub Apply for the Baffling Behavior Training Institute's Professional Immersion Program (formerly Being With) robyngobbel.com/Immersion Follow Me On: Facebook Instagram Over on my website you can find: Webinar and eBook on Focus on the Nervous System to Change Behavior (FREE) eBook on The Brilliance of Attachment (FREE) LOTS & LOTS of FREE Resources Ongoing support, connection, and co-regulation for struggling parents: The Club Year-Long Immersive & Holistic Training Program for Parenting Professionals: The Baffling Behavior Training Institute’s (BBTI) Professional Immersion Program (formerly Being With)
	Ep. 106: Bringing Regulation to Educators with Emily Daniels	13 Dec 2022	01:04:21
A conversation with Emily Daniels who has developed a trauma-informed training for schools that equips teachers to cultivate conditions for felt-safety in the classroom. In this episode, you’ll learn: What's happening in schools now How felt-safety is different than what we usually think about in regards to school safety Why we should offer an abundance of cues of safety in this time of politicization and mass shootings Why it's important for educators to befriend their nervous systems first Previous podcast interview with Emily Daniels: https://robyngobbel.com/regulatedclassroom/ Resources mentioned in this podcast: Emily's book and resources: https://regulatedclassroom.com/collections/the-regulated-classroom Read a summary or the full transcript at: RobynGobbel.com/regulatedclassroom2 Connect with Emily here: Website: https://regulatedclassroom.com/ Instagram: @theregulatedclassroom Check Out All Robyn's Free Resources! You can download all sorts of free resources, including webinars, eBook, and infographics about topics such as lying, boundaries, and co-regulation! RobynGobbel.com/FreeResources ::: Grab a copy of my book Raising Kids with Big, Baffling Behaviors robyngobbel.com/book Join us in The Club for more support! robyngobbel.com/TheClub Apply for the Baffling Behavior Training Institute's Professional Immersion Program (formerly Being With) robyngobbel.com/Immersion Follow Me On: Facebook Instagram Over on my website you can find: Webinar and eBook on Focus on the Nervous System to Change Behavior (FREE) eBook on The Brilliance of Attachment (FREE) LOTS & LOTS of FREE Resources Ongoing support, connection, and co-regulation for struggling parents: The Club Year-Long Immersive & Holistic Training Program for Parenting Professionals: The Baffling Behavior Training Institute’s (BBTI) Professional Immersion Program (formerly Being With)
	Ep. 105: Caring for our Tender Parts with Ilyse Kennedy	06 Dec 2022	00:45:29
An interview with Ilyse Kennedy, author of The Tender Parts about how parts work can help us build trust in how our inner system (and our children's systems) are unfolding and healing. In this episode, you’ll learn: About Internal Family Systems as a therapy modality and way of being Some of the language used to describe parts work How parts work can help parents Resources mentioned in this podcast: Ilyse's book The Tender Parts Find on Amazon Upcoming training Presence and Patience Read a summary or the full transcript at: RobynGobbel.com/tenderparts Connect with Ilyse here: Website: www.movingpartspsychotherapy.com Instagram: @MovingPartsPsychotherapy Facebook: @MovingPartsPsychotherapy Check Out All Robyn's Free Resources! You can download all sorts of free resources, including webinars, eBook, and infographics about topics such as lying, boundaries, and co-regulation! RobynGobbel.com/FreeResources ::: Grab a copy of my book Raising Kids with Big, Baffling Behaviors robyngobbel.com/book Join us in The Club for more support! robyngobbel.com/TheClub Apply for the Baffling Behavior Training Institute's Professional Immersion Program (formerly Being With) robyngobbel.com/Immersion Follow Me On: Facebook Instagram Over on my website you can find: Webinar and eBook on Focus on the Nervous System to Change Behavior (FREE) eBook on The Brilliance of Attachment (FREE) LOTS & LOTS of FREE Resources Ongoing support, connection, and co-regulation for struggling parents: The Club Year-Long Immersive & Holistic Training Program for Parenting Professionals: The Baffling Behavior Training Institute’s (BBTI) Professional Immersion Program (formerly Being With)
	Ep. 104: Being Adopted with Amy Wilkerson	29 Nov 2022	00:43:47
A transnational and transracial adoptee, therapist and author of Being Adopted, discusses the importance of providing authentic representation and accurate reflection of the adoption experience In this episode, you’ll learn: The importance of providing an authentic mirror for little adoptees How we can allow parts of your child's spirit to breathe Why "fixing it" isn't the most powerful intervention How to reconcile when child hasn't had mirroring from their community Resources mentioned in this podcast: Amy's book Being Adopted Find on Amazon Read a summary or the full transcript at: RobynGobbel.com/beingadopted Connect with Amy here: Website: www.growhealblossom.com Instagram: www.growhealblossom.com Check Out All Robyn's Free Resources! You can download all sorts of free resources, including webinars, eBook, and infographics about topics such as lying, boundaries, and co-regulation! RobynGobbel.com/FreeResources ::: Grab a copy of my book Raising Kids with Big, Baffling Behaviors robyngobbel.com/book Join us in The Club for more support! robyngobbel.com/TheClub Apply for the Baffling Behavior Training Institute's Professional Immersion Program (formerly Being With) robyngobbel.com/Immersion Follow Me On: Facebook Instagram Over on my website you can find: Webinar and eBook on Focus on the Nervous System to Change Behavior (FREE) eBook on The Brilliance of Attachment (FREE) LOTS & LOTS of FREE Resources Ongoing support, connection, and co-regulation for struggling parents: The Club Year-Long Immersive & Holistic Training Program for Parenting Professionals: The Baffling Behavior Training Institute’s (BBTI) Professional Immersion Program (formerly Being With)
	Ep. 103: How to be a Cycle Breaker with Mindi Kessler	22 Nov 2022	00:46:02
Mindi Kessler, therapist and author of Cycle Breaker: A Guide To Transcending Childhood Trauma. talks about breaking general cycles of abuse and trauma In this episode, you’ll learn: What is a trauma reenactment How our children trigger our own childhood wounds Ways to begin healing ourselves Resources mentioned in this podcast: Mindi’s new book, Cycle Breaker Find on Amazon Emotional Freedom Techique Brad Yates on Youtube Read a summary or the full transcript at: RobynGobbel.com/cyclebreaker Connect with Mindi here: https://www.mindikessler.com/ https://www.instagram.com/mindikessler/ Check Out All Robyn's Free Resources! You can download all sorts of free resources, including webinars, eBook, and infographics about topics such as lying, boundaries, and co-regulation! RobynGobbel.com/FreeResources ::: Grab a copy of my book Raising Kids with Big, Baffling Behaviors robyngobbel.com/book Join us in The Club for more support! robyngobbel.com/TheClub Apply for the Baffling Behavior Training Institute's Professional Immersion Program (formerly Being With) robyngobbel.com/Immersion Follow Me On: Facebook Instagram Over on my website you can find: Webinar and eBook on Focus on the Nervous System to Change Behavior (FREE) eBook on The Brilliance of Attachment (FREE) LOTS & LOTS of FREE Resources Ongoing support, connection, and co-regulation for struggling parents: The Club Year-Long Immersive & Holistic Training Program for Parenting Professionals: The Baffling Behavior Training Institute’s (BBTI) Professional Immersion Program (formerly Being With)
	Ep. 102: Telling the Truth to Adopted Kids- Even When it's Hard with guest Marcella Moslow	15 Nov 2022	00:54:40
In this episode, you’ll learn: How to talk with kids about tricky topics like Why they were relinquished for adoption Why they can’t see their family Why their family doesn’t want to see them Why their family has gone on to have a new family Resources mentioned in this podcast: Marcella’s new podcast! Adoptees Dish Listen on Spotify Follow on Instagram Robyn’s podcast series on memory https://robyngobbel.com/traumamemorybehavior/ https://robyngobbel.com/mentalmodels/ Robyn’s eBook and video series on memory https://robyngobbel.com/course/traumamemorybehaviors/ Read a summary or the full transcript at: https://robyngobbel.com/adoptiontruth Connect with Marcella here: https://marcellamoslow.com On Instagram at @marcellamoslow Check Out All Robyn's Free Resources! You can download all sorts of free resources, including webinars, eBook, and infographics about topics such as lying, boundaries, and co-regulation! RobynGobbel.com/FreeResources ::: Grab a copy of my book Raising Kids with Big, Baffling Behaviors robyngobbel.com/book Join us in The Club for more support! robyngobbel.com/TheClub Apply for the Baffling Behavior Training Institute's Professional Immersion Program (formerly Being With) robyngobbel.com/Immersion Follow Me On: Facebook Instagram Over on my website you can find: Webinar and eBook on Focus on the Nervous System to Change Behavior (FREE) eBook on The Brilliance of Attachment (FREE) LOTS & LOTS of FREE Resources Ongoing support, connection, and co-regulation for struggling parents: The Club Year-Long Immersive & Holistic Training Program for Parenting Professionals: The Baffling Behavior Training Institute’s (BBTI) Professional Immersion Program (formerly Being With)
	Ep 182: There Is Nothing Wrong With You! With Guest Janet Nordine	11 Jun 2024	00:54:21
Janet Nordine is a registered play therapist, adoptee, and mental health activist working tirelessly to improve children’s mental health services, specifically in the state of Nevada. Janet has an important message for adoptees that I think is relevant to all kids and families who are supporting kids with vulnerable nervous systems: There is nothing wrong with you. You’ve done nothing wrong. You can be OK. In this episode, explore How to help create ‘good parent messages’ for children who feel unloved and unwanted Sitting with two conflicting feelings at once The benefits of falling in love with yourself Resources mentioned in this podcast: Children’s Mental Wellness Symposium- Las Vegas NV September 26 - 29, 2024 Details and registration here: https://lasvegasplaytherapy.com/ Good Morning, I Love You by Dr. Shauna Shapiro Read the full transcript at: https://RobynGobbel.com/NothingWrong Check Out All Robyn's Free Resources! You can download all sorts of free resources, including webinars, eBook, and infographics about topics such as lying, boundaries, and co-regulation! RobynGobbel.com/FreeResources ::: Grab a copy of my book Raising Kids with Big, Baffling Behaviors robyngobbel.com/book Join us in The Club for more support! robyngobbel.com/TheClub Apply for the Baffling Behavior Training Institute's Professional Immersion Program (formerly Being With) robyngobbel.com/Immersion Follow Me On: Facebook Instagram Over on my website you can find: Webinar and eBook on Focus on the Nervous System to Change Behavior (FREE) eBook on The Brilliance of Attachment (FREE) LOTS & LOTS of FREE Resources Ongoing support, connection, and co-regulation for struggling parents: The Club Year-Long Immersive & Holistic Training Program for Parenting Professionals: The Baffling Behavior Training Institute’s (BBTI) Professional Immersion Program (formerly Being With)
	Ep. 101: How to Influence- Not Control- Behavior	08 Nov 2022	00:24:21
Understanding the difference between having influence over behavior vs. control can help you get clear on what to focus on. One of the trickier parts of the work I do is talking so much with parents about attachment, their role in co-regulation, and felt-safety, without snagging into parent’s shame about every parent's deepest worry- that their child’s baffling behaviors are all their fault. In this episode, you’ll learn: What it means to influence, not control What your real responsibility is in influencing behavior Responsibility does not equal blame How to acknowledge influence without shame Read a summary or the full transcript at: robyngobbel.com/influencebehaviors ::: Grab a copy of my book Raising Kids with Big, Baffling Behaviors robyngobbel.com/book Join us in The Club for more support! robyngobbel.com/TheClub Apply for the Baffling Behavior Training Institute's Professional Immersion Program (formerly Being With) robyngobbel.com/Immersion Follow Me On: Facebook Instagram Over on my website you can find: Webinar and eBook on Focus on the Nervous System to Change Behavior (FREE) eBook on The Brilliance of Attachment (FREE) LOTS & LOTS of FREE Resources Ongoing support, connection, and co-regulation for struggling parents: The Club Year-Long Immersive & Holistic Training Program for Parenting Professionals: The Baffling Behavior Training Institute’s (BBTI) Professional Immersion Program (formerly Being With)
	Ep. 100: What Does it Mean to Be With?	01 Nov 2022	00:30:59
We talk about ‘being with’ our kids and each other and our clients. But what does it mean to be with? And why is it important? In this episode, you’ll learn: What it means to 'be with' Why it matters What is require to be with The role of 'tools' in being with Read a summary or the full transcript at: robyngobbel.com/beingwithkids Check Out All Robyn's Free Resources! You can download all sorts of free resources, including webinars, eBook, and infographics about topics such as lying, boundaries, and co-regulation! RobynGobbel.com/FreeResources ::: Grab a copy of my book Raising Kids with Big, Baffling Behaviors robyngobbel.com/book Join us in The Club for more support! robyngobbel.com/TheClub Apply for the Baffling Behavior Training Institute's Professional Immersion Program (formerly Being With) robyngobbel.com/Immersion Follow Me On: Facebook Instagram Over on my website you can find: Webinar and eBook on Focus on the Nervous System to Change Behavior (FREE) eBook on The Brilliance of Attachment (FREE) LOTS & LOTS of FREE Resources Ongoing support, connection, and co-regulation for struggling parents: The Club Year-Long Immersive & Holistic Training Program for Parenting Professionals: The Baffling Behavior Training Institute’s (BBTI) Professional Immersion Program (formerly Being With)
	Ep. 99: Loving Someone with Baffling Behaviors (& a neuroimmune condition)	25 Oct 2022	00:55:53
This is episode 3 in a 3-part series on neuroimmune conditions. Today I'm bringing to you a solo-episode about what it's been like to love someone and be in a committed relationsihp with someone who has big, baffling behaviors. Last week, I introduced you to my husband Ed and he described his experience with chronic Lyme disease, nervous system dysregulation, and yes- big, baffling behaviors. Those of us who love people with big, baffling behaviors have our own unique and oftentimes traumatic journey. I know my journey is very different than yours, but I hope that there's moment or two in this episode where you feel seen and less alone. Thank you for offering my family the felt safety to record these episodes for you. Read a summary or the full transcript at: https://robyngobbel.com/neuroimmunecaregiver Resources PANDAS physician network https://www.pandasppn.org/ Neuroimmune Foundation https://neuroimmune.org/ ASPIRE: The Alliance to Solve PANS and Immune Related Encephalopathies https://aspire.care/ Check Out All Robyn's Free Resources! You can download all sorts of free resources, including webinars, eBook, and infographics about topics such as lying, boundaries, and co-regulation! RobynGobbel.com/FreeResources ::: Grab a copy of my book Raising Kids with Big, Baffling Behaviors robyngobbel.com/book Join us in The Club for more support! robyngobbel.com/TheClub Apply for the Baffling Behavior Training Institute's Professional Immersion Program (formerly Being With) robyngobbel.com/Immersion Follow Me On: Facebook Instagram Over on my website you can find: Webinar and eBook on Focus on the Nervous System to Change Behavior (FREE) eBook on The Brilliance of Attachment (FREE) LOTS & LOTS of FREE Resources Ongoing support, connection, and co-regulation for struggling parents: The Club Year-Long Immersive & Holistic Training Program for Parenting Professionals: The Baffling Behavior Training Institute’s (BBTI) Professional Immersion Program (formerly Being With)
	Ep. 98: From the Inside Out- My husband's journey with a neuroimmune condition	18 Oct 2022	00:50:40
I invited an adult with a neuroimmune condition onto the podcast to discuss his experience and provide listeners with some insight on what children with PANS/PANDAS and other neuroimmune conditions may not have the words to describe. This special guest happens to be my husband, Ed. This episode is part 2 in a 3 part series. Next week, you'll hear me discuss my experience as a caregiver. In this episode, you’ll learn: What a child with a vulnerable nervous system may long for you to know, but doesn't have the ability to tell you verbally What kind of caregiver response really helps (sometimes) How the Dysregulation - Shame Cycle feels Read a summary or the full transcript on my website: https://robyngobbel.com/neuroimmuneinsideout Resources PANDAS physician network https://www.pandasppn.org/ Neuroimmune Foundation https://neuroimmune.org/ ASPIRE: The Alliance to Solve PANS and Immune Related Encephalopathies https://aspire.care/ Monster in Me Documentary: https://www.themonsterinsideme.com/ Check Out All Robyn's Free Resources! You can download all sorts of free resources, including webinars, eBook, and infographics about topics such as lying, boundaries, and co-regulation! RobynGobbel.com/FreeResources ::: Grab a copy of my book Raising Kids with Big, Baffling Behaviors robyngobbel.com/book Join us in The Club for more support! robyngobbel.com/TheClub Apply for the Baffling Behavior Training Institute's Professional Immersion Program (formerly Being With) robyngobbel.com/Immersion Follow Me On: Facebook Instagram Over on my website you can find: Webinar and eBook on Focus on the Nervous System to Change Behavior (FREE) eBook on The Brilliance of Attachment (FREE) LOTS & LOTS of FREE Resources Ongoing support, connection, and co-regulation for struggling parents: The Club Year-Long Immersive & Holistic Training Program for Parenting Professionals: The Baffling Behavior Training Institute’s (BBTI) Professional Immersion Program (formerly Being With)
	Ep. 97: Neuroimmune Disorders and Big, Baffling Behaviors with Dr. Qazi Javed	11 Oct 2022	01:01:48
The first episode in a three-episode series on neuroimmune disorders and big, baffling behaviors. Even if you don't suspect neuroimmune disorders are impacting your family, I invite you to keep listening! Today's discussion with Dr. Qazi Javed highlights the complex relationship between trauma, vulnerable nervous systems, baffling behaviors, and neuroimmune disorders. In this episode, you’ll learn: Common symptoms When to get assessed- especially if your child has a history of trauma or other causes that could lead to nervous system vulnerabilities How to get assessed/how to find a provider Read a summary and full episode transcript at: https://robyngobbel.com/neuroimmune/ Resources PANDAS physician network https://www.pandasppn.org/ Neuroimmune Foundation https://neuroimmune.org/ ASPIRE: The Alliance to Solve PANS and Immune Related Encephalopathies https://aspire.care/ Check Out All Robyn's Free Resources! You can download all sorts of free resources, including webinars, eBook, and infographics about topics such as lying, boundaries, and co-regulation! RobynGobbel.com/FreeResources ::: Grab a copy of my book Raising Kids with Big, Baffling Behaviors robyngobbel.com/book Join us in The Club for more support! robyngobbel.com/TheClub Apply for the Baffling Behavior Training Institute's Professional Immersion Program (formerly Being With) robyngobbel.com/Immersion Follow Me On: Facebook Instagram Over on my website you can find: Webinar and eBook on Focus on the Nervous System to Change Behavior (FREE) eBook on The Brilliance of Attachment (FREE) LOTS & LOTS of FREE Resources Ongoing support, connection, and co-regulation for struggling parents: The Club Year-Long Immersive & Holistic Training Program for Parenting Professionals: The Baffling Behavior Training Institute’s (BBTI) Professional Immersion Program (formerly Being With)
	Ep. 96: What to do about Manipulation	03 Oct 2022	00:37:47
No one likes to feel manipulated. It feels gross and yucky and we instinctively want it to stop. In this episode, you’ll learn: What manipulation really is Why children manipulate How you can help your child find their voice and decrease manipulation Read a summary and full episode transcript at: https://robyngobbel.com/manipulation Check Out All Robyn's Free Resources! You can download all sorts of free resources, including webinars, eBook, and infographics about topics such as lying, boundaries, and co-regulation! RobynGobbel.com/FreeResources ::: Grab a copy of my book Raising Kids with Big, Baffling Behaviors robyngobbel.com/book Join us in The Club for more support! robyngobbel.com/TheClub Apply for the Baffling Behavior Training Institute's Professional Immersion Program (formerly Being With) robyngobbel.com/Immersion Follow Me On: Facebook Instagram Over on my website you can find: Webinar and eBook on Focus on the Nervous System to Change Behavior (FREE) eBook on The Brilliance of Attachment (FREE) LOTS & LOTS of FREE Resources Ongoing support, connection, and co-regulation for struggling parents: The Club Year-Long Immersive & Holistic Training Program for Parenting Professionals: The Baffling Behavior Training Institute’s (BBTI) Professional Immersion Program (formerly Being With)
	{BONUS} Helping Kids with Toxic Shame	30 Sep 2022	00:12:46
A short note from Robyn... This episode is a recording of a social media post and a post I made in The Club a while back. Loving someone who is held captive by toxic shame is so so hard. I hope this short episode gives you a little understanding of toxic shame and self-hatred, as well as a few practical ideas about how to be with a child who is stuck in a pit of toxic shame. The Club On-Demand Video Library houses a three-part video training on the neurobiology of toxic shame. ::: Grab a copy of my book Raising Kids with Big, Baffling Behaviors robyngobbel.com/book Join us in The Club for more support! robyngobbel.com/TheClub Apply for the Baffling Behavior Training Institute's Professional Immersion Program (formerly Being With) robyngobbel.com/Immersion Follow Me On: Facebook Instagram Over on my website you can find: Webinar and eBook on Focus on the Nervous System to Change Behavior (FREE) eBook on The Brilliance of Attachment (FREE) LOTS & LOTS of FREE Resources Ongoing support, connection, and co-regulation for struggling parents: The Club Year-Long Immersive & Holistic Training Program for Parenting Professionals: The Baffling Behavior Training Institute’s (BBTI) Professional Immersion Program (formerly Being With)
	Ep. 95: When Parenting is Traumatic	27 Sep 2022	00:37:32
No matter how much effort we put into understanding behavior, seeing our kids for who they truly are, and connecting with their infinite worth, for those navigating the baffling behaviors of kids who have experienced trauma, or have sensitized stress response systems and/or vulnerable nervous systems, parenting can be traumatic In this episode, you’ll learn: Why the experience of trauma in parenting isn't being talked about The kinds of experiences that make parenting traumatic Signs of toxic stress and trauma in parenting Ways to get your nervous system what it needs to heal Read a summary and full episode transcript at: https://robyngobbel.com/parentingistraumatic Check Out All Robyn's Free Resources! You can download all sorts of free resources, including webinars, eBook, and infographics about topics such as lying, boundaries, and co-regulation! RobynGobbel.com/FreeResources ::: Grab a copy of my book Raising Kids with Big, Baffling Behaviors robyngobbel.com/book Join us in The Club for more support! robyngobbel.com/TheClub Apply for the Baffling Behavior Training Institute's Professional Immersion Program (formerly Being With) robyngobbel.com/Immersion Follow Me On: Facebook Instagram Over on my website you can find: Webinar and eBook on Focus on the Nervous System to Change Behavior (FREE) eBook on The Brilliance of Attachment (FREE) LOTS & LOTS of FREE Resources Ongoing support, connection, and co-regulation for struggling parents: The Club Year-Long Immersive & Holistic Training Program for Parenting Professionals: The Baffling Behavior Training Institute’s (BBTI) Professional Immersion Program (formerly Being With)
	{BONUS} When Parenting Advice Hurts	23 Sep 2022	00:09:42
A short note from Robyn... This episode is a recording of an email I previously sent out. Sometimes good parenting advice can actually leave us feeling more alone, isolated, and yes- hurt. It's not bad advice. It's just not enough. In this episode I mention my interview with Marshall Lyles about Ableism and Parenting, as well as my ow memes and reels (LOL- oh the irony) over on Instagram. Read the transcript at https://robyngobbel.com/whenparentingadvicehurts/ ::: Grab a copy of my book Raising Kids with Big, Baffling Behaviors robyngobbel.com/book Join us in The Club for more support! robyngobbel.com/TheClub Apply for the Baffling Behavior Training Institute's Professional Immersion Program (formerly Being With) robyngobbel.com/Immersion Follow Me On: Facebook Instagram Over on my website you can find: Webinar and eBook on Focus on the Nervous System to Change Behavior (FREE) eBook on The Brilliance of Attachment (FREE) LOTS & LOTS of FREE Resources Ongoing support, connection, and co-regulation for struggling parents: The Club Year-Long Immersive & Holistic Training Program for Parenting Professionals: The Baffling Behavior Training Institute’s (BBTI) Professional Immersion Program (formerly Being With)
	Ep. 94: Stress Response System	20 Sep 2022	00:39:12
Another important piece of understanding what is underneath your child's big, baffling behaviors is the Stress Response System. Our Stress Response System plays a huge role in our children's behaviors and also how we perceive those behaviors. In this episode, you’ll learn: What stress is and how to differentiate good stress from bad stress The impact of trauma and toxic stress to the Stress Response System How to build resilience in a sensitized Stress Response System A reframe to shift your own Stress Response System Read a summary and full episode transcript at: https://robyngobbel.com/stressresponse/ Check out my recent series on Building the Foundation of the Brain mentioned in this podcast HERE Check Out All Robyn's Free Resources! You can download all sorts of free resources, including webinars, eBook, and infographics about topics such as lying, boundaries, and co-regulation! RobynGobbel.com/FreeResources ::: Grab a copy of my book Raising Kids with Big, Baffling Behaviors robyngobbel.com/book Join us in The Club for more support! robyngobbel.com/TheClub Apply for the Baffling Behavior Training Institute's Professional Immersion Program (formerly Being With) robyngobbel.com/Immersion Follow Me On: Facebook Instagram Over on my website you can find: Webinar and eBook on Focus on the Nervous System to Change Behavior (FREE) eBook on The Brilliance of Attachment (FREE) LOTS & LOTS of FREE Resources Ongoing support, connection, and co-regulation for struggling parents: The Club Year-Long Immersive & Holistic Training Program for Parenting Professionals: The Baffling Behavior Training Institute’s (BBTI) Professional Immersion Program (formerly Being With)
	REPLAY: Co-Regulation Before Self-Regulation	07 Jun 2024	00:35:15
Self-regulation is a crucial developmental milestone and I’m thrilled that we are turning our eyes toward self-regulation instead of staying focused on behavior modification through rewards and consequences. At the same time, we must remember that self-regulation is developed through repeated and regular experiences of co-regulation with an attuned, regulated, present caregiver. If children are struggling to use their self-regulation skills, it’s quite possible that they aren’t regulated enough to access those skills. They are getting dysregulated too quickly and need co-regulation before they can be expected to use skills on their own. It is these experiences of coregulation that build the neural circuity for what is ultimately labeled self-regulation...so you don’t need to worry that the continued offering of co-regulation will impede the development of self-regulation- it’s exactly the opposite!!! Humans never outgrow their need for co-regulation! We all need connection and co-regulation! Which is exactly why I've created The Club- a virtual community for parents of kids impacted by trauma! CLICK HERE to read about The Club and join the waitlist for the next time we welcome new members! Check Out All Robyn's Free Resources! You can download all sorts of free resources, including webinars, eBook, and infographics about topics such as lying, boundaries, and co-regulation! RobynGobbel.com/FreeResources ::: Grab a copy of my book Raising Kids with Big, Baffling Behaviors robyngobbel.com/book Join us in The Club for more support! robyngobbel.com/TheClub Apply for the Baffling Behavior Training Institute's Professional Immersion Program (formerly Being With) robyngobbel.com/Immersion Follow Me On: Facebook Instagram Over on my website you can find: Webinar and eBook on Focus on the Nervous System to Change Behavior (FREE) eBook on The Brilliance of Attachment (FREE) LOTS & LOTS of FREE Resources Ongoing support, connection, and co-regulation for struggling parents: The Club Year-Long Immersive & Holistic Training Program for Parenting Professionals: The Baffling Behavior Training Institute’s (BBTI) Professional Immersion Program (formerly Being With)
	{BONUS} A Kayak Fell on My Head	16 Sep 2022	00:07:59
A short note from Robyn... This episode is a recording of an email I previously sent out. New skills- like hoisting a kayak over your head or staying regulated in the face of utter chaos- take a lot of practice. Sometimes shame gets in the way of continuing to practice, and I easily feel the tug toward 'it's too hard. I should give up...' It is hard. Sometimes you need to rest. Sometimes you can keep going. Sometimes a kayak falls on my head. You can read the transcript over at https://robyngobbel.com/kayakonmyhead/ ::: Grab a copy of my book Raising Kids with Big, Baffling Behaviors robyngobbel.com/book Join us in The Club for more support! robyngobbel.com/TheClub Apply for the Baffling Behavior Training Institute's Professional Immersion Program (formerly Being With) robyngobbel.com/Immersion Follow Me On: Facebook Instagram Over on my website you can find: Webinar and eBook on Focus on the Nervous System to Change Behavior (FREE) eBook on The Brilliance of Attachment (FREE) LOTS & LOTS of FREE Resources Ongoing support, connection, and co-regulation for struggling parents: The Club Year-Long Immersive & Holistic Training Program for Parenting Professionals: The Baffling Behavior Training Institute’s (BBTI) Professional Immersion Program (formerly Being With)
	Ep. 93: Help for Sensory & Emotional Challenges with Jessica Sinarski	13 Sep 2022	00:52:12
Jessica Sinarski is a highly sought-after therapist, speaker, and change-maker. Extensive post-graduate training and 15+ years as a clinician and educator led her to create the resource and training platform–BraveBrains. She makes brain science practical, helping parents and professionals become healers for hurting children. She is the author of the award-winning Riley the Brave series, Hello, Anger, and more. I asked Jessica to come on the podcast to talk about her newest Riley the Brave children's book and parent resource all about sensory processing challenges. In this episode, you’ll learn: What our senses are (There's more than the 5 you learned in kindergarten!) How our experience of our senses impacts behavior Ways to empower your child to get their sensory needs met Riley the Brave's Sensational Senses will be released on October 6th, 2022. You can preorder now through October 5th and receive special bonuses at https://www.rileythebrave.org/senses. You can also find Jessica at http://bravebrains.com/blog/ and learn more about her course for therapists at https://bravebrains.com/moving-beyond-trauma-informed/ Read a summary and full episode transcript at: RobynGobbel.com/senses Check Out All Robyn's Free Resources! You can download all sorts of free resources, including webinars, eBook, and infographics about topics such as lying, boundaries, and co-regulation! RobynGobbel.com/FreeResources ::: Grab a copy of my book Raising Kids with Big, Baffling Behaviors robyngobbel.com/book Join us in The Club for more support! robyngobbel.com/TheClub Apply for the Baffling Behavior Training Institute's Professional Immersion Program (formerly Being With) robyngobbel.com/Immersion Follow Me On: Facebook Instagram Over on my website you can find: Webinar and eBook on Focus on the Nervous System to Change Behavior (FREE) eBook on The Brilliance of Attachment (FREE) LOTS & LOTS of FREE Resources Ongoing support, connection, and co-regulation for struggling parents: The Club Year-Long Immersive & Holistic Training Program for Parenting Professionals: The Baffling Behavior Training Institute’s (BBTI) Professional Immersion Program (formerly Being With)
	{BONUS} But- have you grieved?	09 Sep 2022	00:10:35
This episode is a recording of an email I sent out yesterday. More people have responded to this email than ever before, so I wanted it to reach as many people as possible. There is much grief in loving someone who struggles. Have you grieved? https://robyngobbel.com/haveyougrieved ::: Grab a copy of my book Raising Kids with Big, Baffling Behaviors robyngobbel.com/book Join us in The Club for more support! robyngobbel.com/TheClub Apply for the Baffling Behavior Training Institute's Professional Immersion Program (formerly Being With) robyngobbel.com/Immersion Follow Me On: Facebook Instagram Over on my website you can find: Webinar and eBook on Focus on the Nervous System to Change Behavior (FREE) eBook on The Brilliance of Attachment (FREE) LOTS & LOTS of FREE Resources Ongoing support, connection, and co-regulation for struggling parents: The Club Year-Long Immersive & Holistic Training Program for Parenting Professionals: The Baffling Behavior Training Institute’s (BBTI) Professional Immersion Program (formerly Being With)

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