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| {REPLAY} Grief in Parenting a Child with a VNS | 04 Nov 2025 | 00:46:18 | |
If you're parenting a child with a vulnerable nervous system, grief is an ever-present companion, whether we acknowledge grief or not. The holiday season often stirs that grief up a bit more. Our kids need more accomodations, they don't find the same things fun that other kids do, and sometimes it feels like special events aren't even worth it. As November begins, I'm replaying this previously episode all about grief in parenting a child with a vulnerable nervous system. In this episode, you’ll learn:
Resources mentioned in this podcast: Read a summary or the full transcript at: RobynGobbel.com/grief Check Out All Robyn's Free Resources! Finally! Something that will really help you with those stickiest behaviors... Join my webinar on Brain Based Strategies and Scripts for Lying, Manipulation, and Verbal Aggression on June 11 RobynGobbel.com/BrainBasedWebinar ::: Presence in Practice: An Experiential Workshop into the Neurobiology of How Change Happens Early Bird rate expires June 15! ::: Immersion Program for Professionals! The Baffling Behavior Training Institute's Immersion Program for Professionals is NOW accepting applications for our 2027 cohorts. You MUST be on the waiting list to be eligible to apply so head to RobynGobbel.com/Immersion and put your name on the waiting list! Grab a copy of USA Today Best Selling book Raising Kids with Big, Baffling Behaviors robyngobbel.com/book Join us in The Club for more support! robyngobbel.com/TheClub Sign up on the waiting list for the 2027 Cohorts of the Baffling Behavior Training Institute's Immersion Program for Professionals robyngobbel.com/Immersion Follow Me On: Over on my website you can find: | |||
| EP 243: Cool, Calculated- But Still in Protection Mode | 28 Oct 2025 | 00:39:43 | |
Sometimes our kids look completely calm- even smug — while doing something that definitely isn’t a behavior of connection. But…they’re not melting down. They’re not screaming. They seem totally in control. Seems kinda like owl brain, yeah? But- it’s not. It’s protection mode, even if the behavior seems calm. In this episode, we’ll talk about how kids can use their thinking brain in the service of their protective brain. They might plan, plot, and problem-solve… but they aren’t integrating. They aren’t considering other people, or long-term consequences. They’re thinking, but they’re not connected. In this Episode You’ll Learn
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Read the full transcript at: RobynGobbel.com/calculated Finally! Something that will really help you with those stickiest behaviors... Join my webinar on Brain Based Strategies and Scripts for Lying, Manipulation, and Verbal Aggression on June 11 RobynGobbel.com/BrainBasedWebinar ::: Presence in Practice: An Experiential Workshop into the Neurobiology of How Change Happens Early Bird rate expires June 15! ::: Grab a copy of USA Today Best Selling book Raising Kids with Big, Baffling Behaviors robyngobbel.com/book Join us in The Club for more support! robyngobbel.com/TheClub Sign up on the waiting list for the 2027 Cohorts of the Baffling Behavior Training Institute's Immersion Program for Professionals robyngobbel.com/Immersion Follow Me On: Over on my website you can find: | |||
| EP 235: Parenting in Chronic Protection Mode | 26 Aug 2025 | 00:34:17 | |
Parenting kids with vulnerable nervous systems often means that parents and caregivers are living in a state of chronic chaos and danger. Even if the behaviors aren’t ‘that bad,’ it’s dysregulating to live with someone in chronic protection mode. In this episode, I take a closer look at how polyvagal theory helps us understand the nervous system’s longing for safety—even when life feels overwhelming—and how parents can increase cues of safety even in the midst of ongoing stress. In this episode, you’ll learn:
Resources mentioned in this podcast: Read the full transcript at: RobynGobbel.com/chronicprotectionmode Finally! Something that will really help you with those stickiest behaviors... Join my webinar on Brain Based Strategies and Scripts for Lying, Manipulation, and Verbal Aggression on June 11 RobynGobbel.com/BrainBasedWebinar ::: Presence in Practice: An Experiential Workshop into the Neurobiology of How Change Happens Early Bird rate expires June 15! ::: Grab a copy of USA Today Best Selling book Raising Kids with Big, Baffling Behaviors robyngobbel.com/book Join us in The Club for more support! robyngobbel.com/TheClub Sign up on the waiting list for the 2027 Cohorts of the Baffling Behavior Training Institute's Immersion Program for Professionals robyngobbel.com/Immersion Follow Me On: Over on my website you can find: | |||
| REPLAY: Child Always Dysregulated? Try This!!! | 22 Mar 2024 | 00:35:56 | |
***This episode originally aired on February 16th, 2021*** Finally! Something that will really help you with those stickiest behaviors... Join my webinar on Brain Based Strategies and Scripts for Lying, Manipulation, and Verbal Aggression on June 11 RobynGobbel.com/BrainBasedWebinar ::: Presence in Practice: An Experiential Workshop into the Neurobiology of How Change Happens Early Bird rate expires June 15! ::: Grab a copy of USA Today Best Selling book Raising Kids with Big, Baffling Behaviors robyngobbel.com/book Join us in The Club for more support! robyngobbel.com/TheClub Sign up on the waiting list for the 2027 Cohorts of the Baffling Behavior Training Institute's Immersion Program for Professionals robyngobbel.com/Immersion Follow Me On: Over on my website you can find: | |||
| Ep. 170: Why Kids Act Better for Other People | 19 Mar 2024 | 00:35:44 | |
It’s very common for all humans- kids and adults- to have more behavior struggles and dysregulation. Kids with vulnerable nervous systems, as well as attachment trauma, are especially likely to demonstrate some confusing patterns with regard to where they are regulated and where they aren’t. In this episode, you’ll learn
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Read the full transcript at: https://robyngobbel.com/betteratschool/ Finally! Something that will really help you with those stickiest behaviors... Join my webinar on Brain Based Strategies and Scripts for Lying, Manipulation, and Verbal Aggression on June 11 RobynGobbel.com/BrainBasedWebinar ::: Presence in Practice: An Experiential Workshop into the Neurobiology of How Change Happens Early Bird rate expires June 15! ::: Grab a copy of USA Today Best Selling book Raising Kids with Big, Baffling Behaviors robyngobbel.com/book Join us in The Club for more support! robyngobbel.com/TheClub Sign up on the waiting list for the 2027 Cohorts of the Baffling Behavior Training Institute's Immersion Program for Professionals robyngobbel.com/Immersion Follow Me On: Over on my website you can find: | |||
| REPLAY: Trauma Behavior? Or Just Regular Kid Acting-Up Behavior? | 15 Mar 2024 | 00:43:03 | |
***This episode originally aired on May 11th, 2021*** Sometimes it’s pretty obvious but if you’re asking yourself that question, you’re probably in a situation where it isn’t obvious. What if I told you it doesn’t matter? Hear me out. Why do you want to figure that out? Usually because it feels like you’ll handle the situation different based on the answer. But actually, it doesn’t matter. And it’s impossible to determine anyway. What you really want to think about is- how dysregulated is my child? And then respond to that!! There are some core truths about humans- regulated, connected kids who feel safe do well. So if you’re child isn’t doing well- ask yourself if this is about regulation, connection, felt-safety or some combination of those. Then, based on your child’s level of arousal/dysregulation, you can intervene in a way that will calm their arousal and bring back their owl brain. I explore this in depth in today’s episode! If you want to learn more about this way of looking at behaviors, watch this free masterclass online www.RobynGobbel.com/masterclass Finally! Something that will really help you with those stickiest behaviors... Join my webinar on Brain Based Strategies and Scripts for Lying, Manipulation, and Verbal Aggression on June 11 RobynGobbel.com/BrainBasedWebinar ::: Presence in Practice: An Experiential Workshop into the Neurobiology of How Change Happens Early Bird rate expires June 15! ::: Grab a copy of USA Today Best Selling book Raising Kids with Big, Baffling Behaviors robyngobbel.com/book Join us in The Club for more support! robyngobbel.com/TheClub Sign up on the waiting list for the 2027 Cohorts of the Baffling Behavior Training Institute's Immersion Program for Professionals robyngobbel.com/Immersion Follow Me On: Over on my website you can find: | |||
| Ep. 169: The Privilege of Parenting with Safety | 12 Mar 2024 | 00:36:23 | |
Parenting with co-regulating and seeing below our kids behaviors is actually a privilege we rarely talk about. It’s always a privilege, but especially when we consider different marginalized and oppressed identities that a lot of kids- and those of you listening- intersectionally hold. In this episode, you’ll learn
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Read the full transcript at:RobynGobbel.com/privilege Finally! Something that will really help you with those stickiest behaviors... Join my webinar on Brain Based Strategies and Scripts for Lying, Manipulation, and Verbal Aggression on June 11 RobynGobbel.com/BrainBasedWebinar ::: Presence in Practice: An Experiential Workshop into the Neurobiology of How Change Happens Early Bird rate expires June 15! ::: Grab a copy of USA Today Best Selling book Raising Kids with Big, Baffling Behaviors robyngobbel.com/book Join us in The Club for more support! robyngobbel.com/TheClub Sign up on the waiting list for the 2027 Cohorts of the Baffling Behavior Training Institute's Immersion Program for Professionals robyngobbel.com/Immersion Follow Me On: Over on my website you can find: | |||
| REPLAY: Undoing the Aloneness in Parenting | 08 Mar 2024 | 00:27:48 | |
Parents of kids with a history of relational and complex trauma are some of the loneliness people I’ve ever known. The loneliness of parenting becomes compounded when the loneliness isn’t seen. The loneliness is traumatic. It leaves an imprint on our spirits that wreaks havoc on our health (physical and mental) and our relationships (with others, and with ourself). Finally! Something that will really help you with those stickiest behaviors... Join my webinar on Brain Based Strategies and Scripts for Lying, Manipulation, and Verbal Aggression on June 11 RobynGobbel.com/BrainBasedWebinar ::: Grab a copy of USA Today Best Selling book Raising Kids with Big, Baffling Behaviors robyngobbel.com/book Join us in The Club for more support! robyngobbel.com/TheClub Sign up on the waiting list for the 2027 Cohorts of the Baffling Behavior Training Institute's Immersion Program for Professionals robyngobbel.com/Immersion Follow Me On: Over on my website you can find: | |||
| Ep. 168: "I HATE YOU! And Other Big Feelings | 05 Mar 2024 | 00:46:12 | |
Kids with vulnerable nervous systems often say BIG, hurtful, and scary words. They say things like “I hate you!” or “You hate me!” They sometimes threaten to hurt themselves- or you! Verbal aggression almost always pulls us right onto the watchdog pathway ourselves- which is understandable. Let’s talk about how you might respond if you’re able to hang onto your owl brain.
Read the full transcript at: RobynGobbel.com/hate Finally! Something that will really help you with those stickiest behaviors... Join my webinar on Brain Based Strategies and Scripts for Lying, Manipulation, and Verbal Aggression on June 11 RobynGobbel.com/BrainBasedWebinar ::: Presence in Practice: An Experiential Workshop into the Neurobiology of How Change Happens Early Bird rate expires June 15! ::: Immersion Program for Professionals! The Baffling Behavior Training Institute's Immersion Program for Professionals is NOW accepting applications for our 2027 cohorts. You MUST be on the waiting list to be eligible to apply so head to RobynGobbel.com/Immersion and put your name on the waiting list! Grab a copy of USA Today Best Selling book Raising Kids with Big, Baffling Behaviors robyngobbel.com/book Join us in The Club for more support! robyngobbel.com/TheClub Sign up on the waiting list for the 2027 Cohorts of the Baffling Behavior Training Institute's Immersion Program for Professionals robyngobbel.com/Immersion Follow Me On: Over on my website you can find: | |||
| {REPLAY} Grief in Parenting | 01 Mar 2024 | 00:39:55 | |
Robyn explores the grief in parenting kids with vulnerable nervous systems In this episode, you’ll learn:
Resources mentioned in this podcast: Read a summary or the full transcript at: RobynGobbel.com/grief Finally! Something that will really help you with those stickiest behaviors... Join my webinar on Brain Based Strategies and Scripts for Lying, Manipulation, and Verbal Aggression on June 11 RobynGobbel.com/BrainBasedWebinar ::: Presence in Practice: An Experiential Workshop into the Neurobiology of How Change Happens Early Bird rate expires June 15! ::: Grab a copy of USA Today Best Selling book Raising Kids with Big, Baffling Behaviors robyngobbel.com/book Join us in The Club for more support! robyngobbel.com/TheClub Sign up on the waiting list for the 2027 Cohorts of the Baffling Behavior Training Institute's Immersion Program for Professionals robyngobbel.com/Immersion Follow Me On: Over on my website you can find: | |||
| Ep. 167: Silliness As A Sign Of Dysregulation | 27 Feb 2024 | 00:47:34 | |
Have you ever felt confused by your child’s silly behavior? It seems like they are having fun, but it doesn’t feel good at all? In this episode, you’ll learn
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Finally! Something that will really help you with those stickiest behaviors... Join my webinar on Brain Based Strategies and Scripts for Lying, Manipulation, and Verbal Aggression on June 11 RobynGobbel.com/BrainBasedWebinar ::: Presence in Practice: An Experiential Workshop into the Neurobiology of How Change Happens Early Bird rate expires June 15! ::: Immersion Program for Professionals! The Baffling Behavior Training Institute's Immersion Program for Professionals is NOW accepting applications for our 2027 cohorts. You MUST be on the waiting list to be eligible to apply so head to RobynGobbel.com/Immersion and put your name on the waiting list! Grab a copy of USA Today Best Selling book Raising Kids with Big, Baffling Behaviors robyngobbel.com/book Join us in The Club for more support! robyngobbel.com/TheClub Sign up on the waiting list for the 2027 Cohorts of the Baffling Behavior Training Institute's Immersion Program for Professionals robyngobbel.com/Immersion Follow Me On: Over on my website you can find: | |||
| {REPLAY} What To Do After We Mess Up (Rupture Repair) | 23 Feb 2024 | 01:04:57 | |
Our kids don’t need us to be perfect. Not only do they not need us to be perfect, it would actually be bad for them if we were. In fact, research shows parents are in attunement with their children about 30% of the time. 30%! That’s it! When I teach, I often reassure parents that ⅓ of their interactions with their child are “getting it right.” About ⅓ of the time they are “getting it wrong” (whatever that even means- we all have our own, valid definitions). The rest? The remaining ⅓? Well ideally, the other ⅓ is spent in repair. Read a summary of this episode and access the full show notes at: RobynGobbel.com/RuptureRepair Finally! Something that will really help you with those stickiest behaviors... Join my webinar on Brain Based Strategies and Scripts for Lying, Manipulation, and Verbal Aggression on June 11 RobynGobbel.com/BrainBasedWebinar ::: Presence in Practice: An Experiential Workshop into the Neurobiology of How Change Happens Early Bird rate expires June 15! ::: Immersion Program for Professionals! The Baffling Behavior Training Institute's Immersion Program for Professionals is NOW accepting applications for our 2027 cohorts. You MUST be on the waiting list to be eligible to apply so head to RobynGobbel.com/Immersion and put your name on the waiting list! Grab a copy of USA Today Best Selling book Raising Kids with Big, Baffling Behaviors robyngobbel.com/book Join us in The Club for more support! robyngobbel.com/TheClub Sign up on the waiting list for the 2027 Cohorts of the Baffling Behavior Training Institute's Immersion Program for Professionals robyngobbel.com/Immersion Follow Me On: Over on my website you can find: | |||
| Ep. 166: 1% Better is Enough | 20 Feb 2024 | 00:47:56 | |
Parenting ‘experts’ forget to tell you the most important thing.
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Finally! Something that will really help you with those stickiest behaviors... Join my webinar on Brain Based Strategies and Scripts for Lying, Manipulation, and Verbal Aggression on June 11 RobynGobbel.com/BrainBasedWebinar ::: Presence in Practice: An Experiential Workshop into the Neurobiology of How Change Happens Early Bird rate expires June 15! ::: Immersion Program for Professionals! The Baffling Behavior Training Institute's Immersion Program for Professionals is NOW accepting applications for our 2027 cohorts. You MUST be on the waiting list to be eligible to apply so head to RobynGobbel.com/Immersion and put your name on the waiting list! Grab a copy of USA Today Best Selling book Raising Kids with Big, Baffling Behaviors robyngobbel.com/book Join us in The Club for more support! robyngobbel.com/TheClub Sign up on the waiting list for the 2027 Cohorts of the Baffling Behavior Training Institute's Immersion Program for Professionals robyngobbel.com/Immersion Follow Me On: Over on my website you can find: | |||
| EP 234: Polyvagal Theory, Hope, Dysregulation, and Repair | 19 Aug 2025 | 00:32:58 | |
What if dysregulation isn’t the problem? I know I know- that’s really hard to wrap our brain around! At least, it was for me. In this episode, I continue the conversation from last week’s interview with Deb Dana and take a deeper dive into one of her most powerful insights: that dysregulation is simply part of being human—and it’s the absence of repair that becomes the real challenge. But I think for parents of kids with big, baffling behaviors, we need to pause and explore that a little more. Because- in your home- dysregulation is a real problem!!! In this episode, you’ll learn:
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Read the full transcript at: RobynGobbel.com/polyvagalhope Finally! Something that will really help you with those stickiest behaviors... Join my webinar on Brain Based Strategies and Scripts for Lying, Manipulation, and Verbal Aggression on June 11 RobynGobbel.com/BrainBasedWebinar ::: Presence in Practice: An Experiential Workshop into the Neurobiology of How Change Happens Early Bird rate expires June 15! ::: Grab a copy of USA Today Best Selling book Raising Kids with Big, Baffling Behaviors robyngobbel.com/book Join us in The Club for more support! robyngobbel.com/TheClub Sign up on the waiting list for the 2027 Cohorts of the Baffling Behavior Training Institute's Immersion Program for Professionals robyngobbel.com/Immersion Follow Me On: Over on my website you can find: | |||
| REPLAY: What does "Vulnerable Nervous System" mean? | 16 Feb 2024 | 00:35:05 | |
What is a vulnerable nervous system and how do you know if your child has one? Understanding what is meant by "vulnerable nervous system" can help you support your child with big, baffling behaviors. In this episode, you’ll learn:
Resources mentioned in this podcast: Finally! Something that will really help you with those stickiest behaviors... Join my webinar on Brain Based Strategies and Scripts for Lying, Manipulation, and Verbal Aggression on June 11 RobynGobbel.com/BrainBasedWebinar ::: Presence in Practice: An Experiential Workshop into the Neurobiology of How Change Happens Early Bird rate expires June 15! ::: Grab a copy of USA Today Best Selling book Raising Kids with Big, Baffling Behaviors robyngobbel.com/book Join us in The Club for more support! robyngobbel.com/TheClub Sign up on the waiting list for the 2027 Cohorts of the Baffling Behavior Training Institute's Immersion Program for Professionals robyngobbel.com/Immersion Follow Me On: Over on my website you can find: | |||
| EP. 165: What’s Up With Rude & Disrespectful Behaviors? | 13 Feb 2024 | 00:46:27 | |
Sometimes it’s those lower-level, chronic behaviors- like rudeness and sassiness- that can really deplete the very limited reserves we have saved up in our own window of stress tolerance. Then we waffle between over-responding (big reaction, tiny problem) or under-responding (ignoring dysregulation which ultimately leads to increased dysregulation). Kids in chronic protection mode often seem rude, sassy, and mildly oppositional. What do we do when it feels like every word out of our own mouths would be to correct our kid’s tone or disrespect?
Resources mentioned in this podcast: Read the full transcript at: RobynGobbel.com/rude Finally! Something that will really help you with those stickiest behaviors... Join my webinar on Brain Based Strategies and Scripts for Lying, Manipulation, and Verbal Aggression on June 11 RobynGobbel.com/BrainBasedWebinar ::: Presence in Practice: An Experiential Workshop into the Neurobiology of How Change Happens Early Bird rate expires June 15! ::: Immersion Program for Professionals! The Baffling Behavior Training Institute's Immersion Program for Professionals is NOW accepting applications for our 2027 cohorts. You MUST be on the waiting list to be eligible to apply so head to RobynGobbel.com/Immersion and put your name on the waiting list! Grab a copy of USA Today Best Selling book Raising Kids with Big, Baffling Behaviors robyngobbel.com/book Join us in The Club for more support! robyngobbel.com/TheClub Sign up on the waiting list for the 2027 Cohorts of the Baffling Behavior Training Institute's Immersion Program for Professionals robyngobbel.com/Immersion Follow Me On: Over on my website you can find: | |||
| {REPLAY} How to Influence - Not Control - Behaviors | 09 Feb 2024 | 00:30:54 | |
Understanding the difference between having influence over behavior vs. control can help you get clear on what to focus on. One of the trickier parts of the work I do is talking so much with parents about attachment, their role in co-regulation, and felt-safety, without snagging into parent’s shame about every parent's deepest worry- that their child’s baffling behaviors are all their fault. In this episode, you’ll learn:
Read a summary or the full transcript at: Finally! Something that will really help you with those stickiest behaviors... Join my webinar on Brain Based Strategies and Scripts for Lying, Manipulation, and Verbal Aggression on June 11 RobynGobbel.com/BrainBasedWebinar ::: Presence in Practice: An Experiential Workshop into the Neurobiology of How Change Happens Early Bird rate expires June 15! ::: Grab a copy of USA Today Best Selling book Raising Kids with Big, Baffling Behaviors robyngobbel.com/book Join us in The Club for more support! robyngobbel.com/TheClub Sign up on the waiting list for the 2027 Cohorts of the Baffling Behavior Training Institute's Immersion Program for Professionals robyngobbel.com/Immersion Follow Me On: Over on my website you can find: | |||
| EP. 164: Attachment Science in Action- A conversation with Jessica Sinarski | 06 Feb 2024 | 01:07:57 | |
If you’ve ever wanted to eavesdrop on a conversation between two attachment, trauma, and neuro-nerds, today is your chance. Robyn and her dear friend and colleague, Jessica Sinarski, got together a few weeks ago for a live webinar to chat about how they have turned attachment science into practice. If you missed that webinar, here’s your chance to listen in.
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Read the full transcript at:https://robyngobbel.com/attachmentscience/ Finally! Something that will really help you with those stickiest behaviors... Join my webinar on Brain Based Strategies and Scripts for Lying, Manipulation, and Verbal Aggression on June 11 RobynGobbel.com/BrainBasedWebinar ::: Presence in Practice: An Experiential Workshop into the Neurobiology of How Change Happens Early Bird rate expires June 15! ::: Immersion Program for Professionals! The Baffling Behavior Training Institute's Immersion Program for Professionals is NOW accepting applications for our 2027 cohorts. You MUST be on the waiting list to be eligible to apply so head to RobynGobbel.com/Immersion and put your name on the waiting list! Grab a copy of USA Today Best Selling book Raising Kids with Big, Baffling Behaviors robyngobbel.com/book Join us in The Club for more support! robyngobbel.com/TheClub Sign up on the waiting list for the 2027 Cohorts of the Baffling Behavior Training Institute's Immersion Program for Professionals robyngobbel.com/Immersion Follow Me On: Over on my website you can find: | |||
| Ep. 163: Felt Safety (Between) - Part 3 | 30 Jan 2024 | 00:53:28 | |
Cues of safety, danger, or life threat come from three places- inside, outside, and between. In part 3 of this series on felt safety, we are exploring felt safety from between- from relationship! In this episode, you’ll learn
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Read the full transcript at: RobynGobbel.com/feltsafetybetween Finally! Something that will really help you with those stickiest behaviors... Join my webinar on Brain Based Strategies and Scripts for Lying, Manipulation, and Verbal Aggression on June 11 RobynGobbel.com/BrainBasedWebinar ::: Presence in Practice: An Experiential Workshop into the Neurobiology of How Change Happens Early Bird rate expires June 15! ::: Immersion Program for Professionals! The Baffling Behavior Training Institute's Immersion Program for Professionals is NOW accepting applications for our 2027 cohorts. You MUST be on the waiting list to be eligible to apply so head to RobynGobbel.com/Immersion and put your name on the waiting list! Grab a copy of USA Today Best Selling book Raising Kids with Big, Baffling Behaviors robyngobbel.com/book Join us in The Club for more support! robyngobbel.com/TheClub Sign up on the waiting list for the 2027 Cohorts of the Baffling Behavior Training Institute's Immersion Program for Professionals robyngobbel.com/Immersion Follow Me On: Over on my website you can find: | |||
| Ep 162: Felt Safety (Outside) - Part 2 | 23 Jan 2024 | 00:43:50 | |
In this second episode of a three-part series on felt safety, we are going to explore all the ways our kids (and ourselves) are neuroceiving safety or danger from what’s happening in the environment. In this episode, you’ll learn
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Read the full transcript at: RobynGobbel.com/feltsafetyoutside Finally! Something that will really help you with those stickiest behaviors... Join my webinar on Brain Based Strategies and Scripts for Lying, Manipulation, and Verbal Aggression on June 11 RobynGobbel.com/BrainBasedWebinar ::: Presence in Practice: An Experiential Workshop into the Neurobiology of How Change Happens Early Bird rate expires June 15! ::: Grab a copy of USA Today Best Selling book Raising Kids with Big, Baffling Behaviors robyngobbel.com/book Join us in The Club for more support! robyngobbel.com/TheClub Sign up on the waiting list for the 2027 Cohorts of the Baffling Behavior Training Institute's Immersion Program for Professionals robyngobbel.com/Immersion Follow Me On: Over on my website you can find: | |||
| Ep 161: Felt Safety (Inside) - Part 1 | 16 Jan 2024 | 00:56:36 | |
Let’s go back to basics! Last week we talked about seeing behavior through the lens of the nervous system and then took a deep-dive into co-regulation. This week begins a three-part deep-dive into the foundational concept of felt safety. What is felt safety, what isn’t felt safety, and why it matters! Next we will explore the many different ways we are all neuroceiving safety (or not) from our inner world. In this episode, you’ll learn
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Read the full transcript at: RobynGobbel.com/feltsafetyinside Finally! Something that will really help you with those stickiest behaviors... Join my webinar on Brain Based Strategies and Scripts for Lying, Manipulation, and Verbal Aggression on June 11 RobynGobbel.com/BrainBasedWebinar ::: Presence in Practice: An Experiential Workshop into the Neurobiology of How Change Happens Early Bird rate expires June 15! ::: Immersion Program for Professionals! The Baffling Behavior Training Institute's Immersion Program for Professionals is NOW accepting applications for our 2027 cohorts. You MUST be on the waiting list to be eligible to apply so head to RobynGobbel.com/Immersion and put your name on the waiting list! Grab a copy of USA Today Best Selling book Raising Kids with Big, Baffling Behaviors robyngobbel.com/book Join us in The Club for more support! robyngobbel.com/TheClub Sign up on the waiting list for the 2027 Cohorts of the Baffling Behavior Training Institute's Immersion Program for Professionals robyngobbel.com/Immersion Follow Me On: Over on my website you can find: | |||
| REPLAY: What Does Co-Regulation Really Look Like? | 11 Jan 2024 | 01:01:03 | |
There’s a lot of confusion about what co-regulation really is. Parents often say to me something like “OK, I get it- I’m supposed to give co-regulation instead of a consequence. But- what does that really mean? Like- what does co-regulation actually look like in real life?”
In this podcast, I mention: Finally! Something that will really help you with those stickiest behaviors... Join my webinar on Brain Based Strategies and Scripts for Lying, Manipulation, and Verbal Aggression on June 11 RobynGobbel.com/BrainBasedWebinar ::: Presence in Practice: An Experiential Workshop into the Neurobiology of How Change Happens Early Bird rate expires June 15! ::: Immersion Program for Professionals! The Baffling Behavior Training Institute's Immersion Program for Professionals is NOW accepting applications for our 2027 cohorts. You MUST be on the waiting list to be eligible to apply so head to RobynGobbel.com/Immersion and put your name on the waiting list! Grab a copy of USA Today Best Selling book Raising Kids with Big, Baffling Behaviors robyngobbel.com/book Join us in The Club for more support! robyngobbel.com/TheClub Sign up on the waiting list for the 2027 Cohorts of the Baffling Behavior Training Institute's Immersion Program for Professionals robyngobbel.com/Immersion Follow Me On: Over on my website you can find: | |||
| REPLAY: Focus on the Nervous System to Change Behavior | 09 Jan 2024 | 00:49:05 | |
Behavior is just what we see on the outside that tells us about what’s happening on the inside. If we want to change behavior, we have to change what’s driving the behavior. This approach to behavior change rests on the idea that regulated, connected kids who feel safe behave well. If you’re curious about how I came to that conclusion, you can watch my free masterclass and download the free eBook on Focus on the Nervous System! How many times have you felt confused because of conflicting parenting advice? Read a summary of this episode and access the full show notes at: RobynGobbel.com/ChangeBehavior Finally! Something that will really help you with those stickiest behaviors... Join my webinar on Brain Based Strategies and Scripts for Lying, Manipulation, and Verbal Aggression on June 11 RobynGobbel.com/BrainBasedWebinar ::: Presence in Practice: An Experiential Workshop into the Neurobiology of How Change Happens Early Bird rate expires June 15! ::: Immersion Program for Professionals! The Baffling Behavior Training Institute's Immersion Program for Professionals is NOW accepting applications for our 2027 cohorts. You MUST be on the waiting list to be eligible to apply so head to RobynGobbel.com/Immersion and put your name on the waiting list! Grab a copy of USA Today Best Selling book Raising Kids with Big, Baffling Behaviors robyngobbel.com/book Join us in The Club for more support! robyngobbel.com/TheClub Sign up on the waiting list for the 2027 Cohorts of the Baffling Behavior Training Institute's Immersion Program for Professionals robyngobbel.com/Immersion Follow Me On: Over on my website you can find: | |||
| REPLAY: When Your Child Doesn't Participate in Therapy | 02 Jan 2024 | 00:43:17 | |
I know it feels very frustrating when you find a therapist, arrange your schedule, and find a way to pay for therapy only for your child to not participate. Often parents ask me how to get their child to participate or what to do if their child won’t participate. But actually what we really need to talk about is what does it look like to participate- or not- in therapy. Especially as a child. In this episode, we’ll talk about
FREE Finally! Something that will really help you with those stickiest behaviors... Join my webinar on Brain Based Strategies and Scripts for Lying, Manipulation, and Verbal Aggression on June 11 RobynGobbel.com/BrainBasedWebinar ::: Presence in Practice: An Experiential Workshop into the Neurobiology of How Change Happens Early Bird rate expires June 15! ::: Grab a copy of USA Today Best Selling book Raising Kids with Big, Baffling Behaviors robyngobbel.com/book Join us in The Club for more support! robyngobbel.com/TheClub Sign up on the waiting list for the 2027 Cohorts of the Baffling Behavior Training Institute's Immersion Program for Professionals robyngobbel.com/Immersion Follow Me On: Over on my website you can find: | |||
| EP 233: Polyvagal Theory as a Path to Hope: Regulation, Repair, and Connection with guest Deb Dana | 12 Aug 2025 | 01:01:55 | |
Polyvagal theory isn’t just a theory- it’s a way of living that can transform how we show up for our kids, ourselves, and everyone around us. I’m SOOOO excited to introduce you to Deb Dana! Together, we explore how understanding our nervous systems brings hope, deepens connection, and makes repair possible even in the messiest moments. In this episode you’ll learn:
Resources mentioned in this podcast: Read the full transcript at: RobynGobbel.com/DebDana Finally! Something that will really help you with those stickiest behaviors... Join my webinar on Brain Based Strategies and Scripts for Lying, Manipulation, and Verbal Aggression on June 11 RobynGobbel.com/BrainBasedWebinar ::: Presence in Practice: An Experiential Workshop into the Neurobiology of How Change Happens Early Bird rate expires June 15! ::: Immersion Program for Professionals! The Baffling Behavior Training Institute's Immersion Program for Professionals is NOW accepting applications for our 2027 cohorts. You MUST be on the waiting list to be eligible to apply so head to RobynGobbel.com/Immersion and put your name on the waiting list! Grab a copy of USA Today Best Selling book Raising Kids with Big, Baffling Behaviors robyngobbel.com/book Join us in The Club for more support! robyngobbel.com/TheClub Sign up on the waiting list for the 2027 Cohorts of the Baffling Behavior Training Institute's Immersion Program for Professionals robyngobbel.com/Immersion Follow Me On: Over on my website you can find: | |||
| REPLAY: When Parenting is Traumatic | 26 Dec 2023 | 00:43:41 | |
No matter how much effort we put into understanding behavior, seeing our kids for who they truly are, and connecting with their infinite worth, for those navigating the baffling behaviors of kids who have experienced trauma, or have sensitized stress response systems and/or vulnerable nervous systems, parenting can be traumatic In this episode, you’ll learn:
Read a summary and full episode transcript at: https://robyngobbel.com/parentingistraumatic Finally! Something that will really help you with those stickiest behaviors... Join my webinar on Brain Based Strategies and Scripts for Lying, Manipulation, and Verbal Aggression on June 11 RobynGobbel.com/BrainBasedWebinar ::: Presence in Practice: An Experiential Workshop into the Neurobiology of How Change Happens Early Bird rate expires June 15! ::: Grab a copy of USA Today Best Selling book Raising Kids with Big, Baffling Behaviors robyngobbel.com/book Join us in The Club for more support! robyngobbel.com/TheClub Sign up on the waiting list for the 2027 Cohorts of the Baffling Behavior Training Institute's Immersion Program for Professionals robyngobbel.com/Immersion Follow Me On: Over on my website you can find: | |||
| REPLAY: How to Parent a Bottomless Pit of Needs | 19 Dec 2023 | 00:31:32 | |
Sometimes it feels like our kids have a hole in the bottom of their heart. No matter how much love and attention is put in, it seems like it’s never ever enough. These kids cannot hold onto the feeling of presence and connection. When it’s there, it’s great. When it’s not, it’s like it was never there to begin with and they’ll never get it again. They don’t have a string that connects them to all the moments of connection they’ve had in the past and all the moments they will have in the future. In this episode, you’ll learn:
Read a summary of this episode and access the full show notes at: RobynGobbel.com/BottomlessPit Finally! Something that will really help you with those stickiest behaviors... Join my webinar on Brain Based Strategies and Scripts for Lying, Manipulation, and Verbal Aggression on June 11 RobynGobbel.com/BrainBasedWebinar ::: Presence in Practice: An Experiential Workshop into the Neurobiology of How Change Happens Early Bird rate expires June 15! ::: Grab a copy of USA Today Best Selling book Raising Kids with Big, Baffling Behaviors robyngobbel.com/book Join us in The Club for more support! robyngobbel.com/TheClub Sign up on the waiting list for the 2027 Cohorts of the Baffling Behavior Training Institute's Immersion Program for Professionals robyngobbel.com/Immersion Follow Me On: Over on my website you can find: | |||
| REPLAY: Trauma, Memory, Behavior - Part 2: Mental Models and Behavior | 14 Dec 2023 | 00:56:44 | |
Understanding your child's Mental Models, a specific kind of Implicit Memory, can help you make sense of your child's behaviors and helps you know what experiences they need from you to change their beliefs about themselves, relationships, and their sense of safety in the world. In this episode, you’ll learn:
Read the summary or full transcript at https://robyngobbel.com/mentalmodels Free eBook Finally! Something that will really help you with those stickiest behaviors... Join my webinar on Brain Based Strategies and Scripts for Lying, Manipulation, and Verbal Aggression on June 11 RobynGobbel.com/BrainBasedWebinar ::: Presence in Practice: An Experiential Workshop into the Neurobiology of How Change Happens Early Bird rate expires June 15! ::: Immersion Program for Professionals! The Baffling Behavior Training Institute's Immersion Program for Professionals is NOW accepting applications for our 2027 cohorts. You MUST be on the waiting list to be eligible to apply so head to RobynGobbel.com/Immersion and put your name on the waiting list! Grab a copy of USA Today Best Selling book Raising Kids with Big, Baffling Behaviors robyngobbel.com/book Join us in The Club for more support! robyngobbel.com/TheClub Sign up on the waiting list for the 2027 Cohorts of the Baffling Behavior Training Institute's Immersion Program for Professionals robyngobbel.com/Immersion Follow Me On: Over on my website you can find: | |||
| REPLAY: How Trauma Impacts Memory and Behavior - Part 1 | 12 Dec 2023 | 01:19:42 | |
What if understanding memory science and the impact of trauma on memory processing would help our children’s behaviors make sense? You know trauma impacts behavior, but there's a fascinating link between trauma and memory that will give you an even greater understanding of what's shaping your child's confusing behaviors. Understanding memory science helps you respond with more compassion, empathy and boundaries. In this episode, you’ll learn:
Finally! Something that will really help you with those stickiest behaviors... Join my webinar on Brain Based Strategies and Scripts for Lying, Manipulation, and Verbal Aggression on June 11 RobynGobbel.com/BrainBasedWebinar ::: Presence in Practice: An Experiential Workshop into the Neurobiology of How Change Happens Early Bird rate expires June 15! ::: Immersion Program for Professionals! The Baffling Behavior Training Institute's Immersion Program for Professionals is NOW accepting applications for our 2027 cohorts. You MUST be on the waiting list to be eligible to apply so head to RobynGobbel.com/Immersion and put your name on the waiting list! Grab a copy of USA Today Best Selling book Raising Kids with Big, Baffling Behaviors robyngobbel.com/book Join us in The Club for more support! robyngobbel.com/TheClub Sign up on the waiting list for the 2027 Cohorts of the Baffling Behavior Training Institute's Immersion Program for Professionals robyngobbel.com/Immersion Follow Me On: Over on my website you can find: | |||
| REPLAY: Child Can't Handle No! | 05 Dec 2023 | 00:42:05 | |
When your child can't handle hearing 'NO' or gets really dysregulated when a boundary is set, it can be really hard on the whole family. Understanding the role of Frustration Tolerance in your child's reaction to hearing 'NO' can help you set them up for growing this developmental skill. In this episode, you’ll learn:
Read a summary and full episode transcript at: https://robyngobbel.com/frustrationtolerance/ To learn MORE about the possum pathway, grab this FREE infographic about the Owl, Watchdog, and Possum brain! CLICK HERE to get it sent to your inbox! Finally! Something that will really help you with those stickiest behaviors... Join my webinar on Brain Based Strategies and Scripts for Lying, Manipulation, and Verbal Aggression on June 11 RobynGobbel.com/BrainBasedWebinar ::: Presence in Practice: An Experiential Workshop into the Neurobiology of How Change Happens Early Bird rate expires June 15! ::: Grab a copy of USA Today Best Selling book Raising Kids with Big, Baffling Behaviors robyngobbel.com/book Join us in The Club for more support! robyngobbel.com/TheClub Sign up on the waiting list for the 2027 Cohorts of the Baffling Behavior Training Institute's Immersion Program for Professionals robyngobbel.com/Immersion Follow Me On: Over on my website you can find: | |||
| REPLAY: Healing from Blocked Care with Melissa Corkum and Lisa Qualls | 30 Nov 2023 | 01:04:09 | |
A conversation with Melissa Corkum and Lisa Qualls, authors of Reclaim Compassion: The Adoptive Parent's Guide to Overcoming Blocked Care with Neuroscience and Faith about blocked care- what it is, what causes it, and how families can begin to recover. In this episode, you’ll learn:
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Read a summary or the full transcript at: RobynGobbel.com/blockedcare Finally! Something that will really help you with those stickiest behaviors... Join my webinar on Brain Based Strategies and Scripts for Lying, Manipulation, and Verbal Aggression on June 11 RobynGobbel.com/BrainBasedWebinar ::: Presence in Practice: An Experiential Workshop into the Neurobiology of How Change Happens Early Bird rate expires June 15! ::: Immersion Program for Professionals! The Baffling Behavior Training Institute's Immersion Program for Professionals is NOW accepting applications for our 2027 cohorts. You MUST be on the waiting list to be eligible to apply so head to RobynGobbel.com/Immersion and put your name on the waiting list! Grab a copy of USA Today Best Selling book Raising Kids with Big, Baffling Behaviors robyngobbel.com/book Join us in The Club for more support! robyngobbel.com/TheClub Sign up on the waiting list for the 2027 Cohorts of the Baffling Behavior Training Institute's Immersion Program for Professionals robyngobbel.com/Immersion Follow Me On: Over on my website you can find: | |||
| REPLAY: When Your Nervous System is Fried | 28 Nov 2023 | 01:04:30 | |
Looking for practical strategies to nourish a fried nervous system? In this episode, you’ll learn:
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Read a the full transcript at: RobynGobbel.com/fried Finally! Something that will really help you with those stickiest behaviors... Join my webinar on Brain Based Strategies and Scripts for Lying, Manipulation, and Verbal Aggression on June 11 RobynGobbel.com/BrainBasedWebinar ::: Presence in Practice: An Experiential Workshop into the Neurobiology of How Change Happens Early Bird rate expires June 15! ::: Immersion Program for Professionals! The Baffling Behavior Training Institute's Immersion Program for Professionals is NOW accepting applications for our 2027 cohorts. You MUST be on the waiting list to be eligible to apply so head to RobynGobbel.com/Immersion and put your name on the waiting list! Grab a copy of USA Today Best Selling book Raising Kids with Big, Baffling Behaviors robyngobbel.com/book Join us in The Club for more support! robyngobbel.com/TheClub Sign up on the waiting list for the 2027 Cohorts of the Baffling Behavior Training Institute's Immersion Program for Professionals robyngobbel.com/Immersion Follow Me On: Over on my website you can find: | |||
| REPLAY: Boundaries with Verbal Aggression (Boundaries Series: Part 3) | 24 Nov 2023 | 01:12:21 | |
In part 3 of this series on Boundaries with Connection, Juliane Taylor Shore talks us through how boundaries work in relationships with our children - relationships where we have to show up every day - and why it is so important for us to have good psychological boundaries when our children are verbally aggressive.
Resources mentioned in this podcast: Finally! Something that will really help you with those stickiest behaviors... Join my webinar on Brain Based Strategies and Scripts for Lying, Manipulation, and Verbal Aggression on June 11 RobynGobbel.com/BrainBasedWebinar ::: Presence in Practice: An Experiential Workshop into the Neurobiology of How Change Happens Early Bird rate expires June 15! ::: Immersion Program for Professionals! The Baffling Behavior Training Institute's Immersion Program for Professionals is NOW accepting applications for our 2027 cohorts. You MUST be on the waiting list to be eligible to apply so head to RobynGobbel.com/Immersion and put your name on the waiting list! Grab a copy of USA Today Best Selling book Raising Kids with Big, Baffling Behaviors robyngobbel.com/book Join us in The Club for more support! robyngobbel.com/TheClub Sign up on the waiting list for the 2027 Cohorts of the Baffling Behavior Training Institute's Immersion Program for Professionals robyngobbel.com/Immersion Follow Me On: Over on my website you can find: | |||
| REPLAY: Boundaries that Create Success (Boundary Series: Part 2) | 22 Nov 2023 | 00:49:07 | |
In part 2 of this series on Boundaries with Connection, we explore how to set boundaries that create success by providing structure and containment that offers safety, connection, and co-regulation. In this episode, you’ll learn:
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FREE Read a summary or the full transcript at: RobynGobbel.com/boundaries2 Finally! Something that will really help you with those stickiest behaviors... Join my webinar on Brain Based Strategies and Scripts for Lying, Manipulation, and Verbal Aggression on June 11 RobynGobbel.com/BrainBasedWebinar ::: Presence in Practice: An Experiential Workshop into the Neurobiology of How Change Happens Early Bird rate expires June 15! ::: Immersion Program for Professionals! The Baffling Behavior Training Institute's Immersion Program for Professionals is NOW accepting applications for our 2027 cohorts. You MUST be on the waiting list to be eligible to apply so head to RobynGobbel.com/Immersion and put your name on the waiting list! Grab a copy of USA Today Best Selling book Raising Kids with Big, Baffling Behaviors robyngobbel.com/book Join us in The Club for more support! robyngobbel.com/TheClub Sign up on the waiting list for the 2027 Cohorts of the Baffling Behavior Training Institute's Immersion Program for Professionals robyngobbel.com/Immersion Follow Me On: Over on my website you can find: | |||
| REPLAY: Boundaries with Connection (Boundaries Series: Part 1) | 20 Nov 2023 | 00:50:19 | |
Focusing on understanding what's driving behavior can sometimes make it feel like we aren't addressing the behavior at all. It can feel as if we are boundaryless and permissive. This episode sheds light on what boundaries really are and how focusing on regulation, connection and felt-safety increases compassionate boundaries in response to behaviors. In this episode, you’ll learn:
Resources mentioned in this podcast: Read a summary or the full transcript at: RobynGobbel.com/boundaries1 Finally! Something that will really help you with those stickiest behaviors... Join my webinar on Brain Based Strategies and Scripts for Lying, Manipulation, and Verbal Aggression on June 11 RobynGobbel.com/BrainBasedWebinar ::: Presence in Practice: An Experiential Workshop into the Neurobiology of How Change Happens Early Bird rate expires June 15! ::: Immersion Program for Professionals! The Baffling Behavior Training Institute's Immersion Program for Professionals is NOW accepting applications for our 2027 cohorts. You MUST be on the waiting list to be eligible to apply so head to RobynGobbel.com/Immersion and put your name on the waiting list! Grab a copy of USA Today Best Selling book Raising Kids with Big, Baffling Behaviors robyngobbel.com/book Join us in The Club for more support! robyngobbel.com/TheClub Sign up on the waiting list for the 2027 Cohorts of the Baffling Behavior Training Institute's Immersion Program for Professionals robyngobbel.com/Immersion Follow Me On: Over on my website you can find: | |||
| EP 232: Swearing- What it Means and How to Respond | 05 Aug 2025 | 00:51:37 | |
Of course, understanding the behavior isn’t excusing the behavior. BUT! When we understand where the behavior is coming from, we get much better and more effective ideas about how to address it. In this episode, we explore what’s really going on beneath the swearing, why it might be possible to consider that swearing isn’t inherently bad, and how parents can respond in ways that build regulation, connection, and felt safety. In this episode, you’ll learn:
Resources mentioned in this podcast: Read the full transcript at:RobynGobbel.com/swearing Finally! Something that will really help you with those stickiest behaviors... Join my webinar on Brain Based Strategies and Scripts for Lying, Manipulation, and Verbal Aggression on June 11 RobynGobbel.com/BrainBasedWebinar ::: Presence in Practice: An Experiential Workshop into the Neurobiology of How Change Happens Early Bird rate expires June 15! ::: Immersion Program for Professionals! The Baffling Behavior Training Institute's Immersion Program for Professionals is NOW accepting applications for our 2027 cohorts. You MUST be on the waiting list to be eligible to apply so head to RobynGobbel.com/Immersion and put your name on the waiting list! Grab a copy of USA Today Best Selling book Raising Kids with Big, Baffling Behaviors robyngobbel.com/book Join us in The Club for more support! robyngobbel.com/TheClub Sign up on the waiting list for the 2027 Cohorts of the Baffling Behavior Training Institute's Immersion Program for Professionals robyngobbel.com/Immersion Follow Me On: Over on my website you can find: | |||
| REPLAY: Is Understanding Behavior Excusing It? | 14 Nov 2023 | 00:43:32 | |
THIS EPISODE IS A REPLAY In this episode, you’ll learn:
Read a summary or the full transcript at: RobynGobbel.com/understandingbehavior Finally! Something that will really help you with those stickiest behaviors... Join my webinar on Brain Based Strategies and Scripts for Lying, Manipulation, and Verbal Aggression on June 11 RobynGobbel.com/BrainBasedWebinar ::: Presence in Practice: An Experiential Workshop into the Neurobiology of How Change Happens Early Bird rate expires June 15! ::: Grab a copy of USA Today Best Selling book Raising Kids with Big, Baffling Behaviors robyngobbel.com/book Join us in The Club for more support! robyngobbel.com/TheClub Sign up on the waiting list for the 2027 Cohorts of the Baffling Behavior Training Institute's Immersion Program for Professionals robyngobbel.com/Immersion Follow Me On: Over on my website you can find: | |||
| Ep. 160: When your Child won't Talk about their Watchdog and Possum Brain | 07 Nov 2023 | 00:51:38 | |
Does your child yell, scream, or otherwise refuse to talk about their owl, watchdog, or possum brain? They tell you it’s stupid or tell you to stop talking or get extra silly or just don’t talk? I hear this from a LOT of parents (and I experienced it a lot in the play therapy room). This doesn’t mean it doesn’t work for your child. Promise.
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Read the full transcript at: RobynGobbel.com/talkaboutwatchdog Finally! Something that will really help you with those stickiest behaviors... Join my webinar on Brain Based Strategies and Scripts for Lying, Manipulation, and Verbal Aggression on June 11 RobynGobbel.com/BrainBasedWebinar ::: Presence in Practice: An Experiential Workshop into the Neurobiology of How Change Happens Early Bird rate expires June 15! ::: Immersion Program for Professionals! The Baffling Behavior Training Institute's Immersion Program for Professionals is NOW accepting applications for our 2027 cohorts. You MUST be on the waiting list to be eligible to apply so head to RobynGobbel.com/Immersion and put your name on the waiting list! Grab a copy of USA Today Best Selling book Raising Kids with Big, Baffling Behaviors robyngobbel.com/book Join us in The Club for more support! robyngobbel.com/TheClub Sign up on the waiting list for the 2027 Cohorts of the Baffling Behavior Training Institute's Immersion Program for Professionals robyngobbel.com/Immersion Follow Me On: Over on my website you can find: | |||
| Ep. 159: Titrating Connection- Oppositional Series Part 4 | 31 Oct 2023 | 00:41:40 | |
In this episode, I unravel how to extend connection to our children while acknowledging that some might see this connection as a threat. I offer insights on toning down the demand for connection, enabling our children to relax in it, and thereby strengthen their stress response system. I also reference the previous episodes in this four-part series by talking about the science of opposition, some practical strategies, and tackling kids stuck in protection mode, all with the aim of providing a comprehensive understanding of making connection a safe experience. In this episode you’ll learn:
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| Ep 158: When Connection isn't Safe- Oppositional Series Part 3 | 24 Oct 2023 | 00:34:25 | |
If offering safety and connection is the antidote to oppositional behavior, what do you do if connection isn’t experienced as safe or regulating by your child? In this episode you’ll learn:
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| Ep. 157: Strategies for Oppositional Behavior- Part 2 | 17 Oct 2023 | 00:43:50 | |
Last week we talked about the science of oppositional behavior. This week, let’s look at strategies to help children rest into felt safety so their nervous system feels better and their oppositional protective strategies can decrease. In this episode you’ll learn:
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| Ep. 156: Oppositional And Defiant Behavior- Part 1 | 10 Oct 2023 | 00:42:14 | |
What if oppositional behavior is a normal response to feeling unsafe? In this episode, we unfold the layers of oppositional behavior and its roots in the nervous system. We look into the diagnostic complexities of Oppositional Defiant Disorder and dive into how our own state of the nervous system is important in helping our children navigate their Watchdog and Possum pathways. In this episode you’ll learn:
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| Ep. 155: Match the Energy, NOT the Dysregulation | 03 Oct 2023 | 00:48:05 | |
This latest episode unpacks the advanced parenting strategy of 'Match the Energy, but not the Dysregulation', a technique rooted in insights from polyvagal theory and interpersonal neurobiology. It’s a nuanced approach that requires resilience and patience, but when applied consistently, it can offer a remarkably accurate emotional mirror for your children and pave the way for improved connection. In this episode you’ll learn:
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Read the full transcript at: RobynGobbel.com/matchtheenergy Finally! Something that will really help you with those stickiest behaviors... Join my webinar on Brain Based Strategies and Scripts for Lying, Manipulation, and Verbal Aggression on June 11 RobynGobbel.com/BrainBasedWebinar ::: Presence in Practice: An Experiential Workshop into the Neurobiology of How Change Happens Early Bird rate expires June 15! ::: Immersion Program for Professionals! The Baffling Behavior Training Institute's Immersion Program for Professionals is NOW accepting applications for our 2027 cohorts. You MUST be on the waiting list to be eligible to apply so head to RobynGobbel.com/Immersion and put your name on the waiting list! Grab a copy of USA Today Best Selling book Raising Kids with Big, Baffling Behaviors robyngobbel.com/book Join us in The Club for more support! robyngobbel.com/TheClub Sign up on the waiting list for the 2027 Cohorts of the Baffling Behavior Training Institute's Immersion Program for Professionals robyngobbel.com/Immersion Follow Me On: Over on my website you can find: | |||
| Ep. 154: (BONUS) Let me Tell You About The Club | 28 Sep 2023 | 00:46:51 | |
If you're thinking about joining The Club (between now and October 3), let me fill you in on some of the details!
Check out all the details and register to join at https://RobynGobbel.com/TheClub Finally! Something that will really help you with those stickiest behaviors... Join my webinar on Brain Based Strategies and Scripts for Lying, Manipulation, and Verbal Aggression on June 11 RobynGobbel.com/BrainBasedWebinar ::: Presence in Practice: An Experiential Workshop into the Neurobiology of How Change Happens Early Bird rate expires June 15! ::: Immersion Program for Professionals! The Baffling Behavior Training Institute's Immersion Program for Professionals is NOW accepting applications for our 2027 cohorts. You MUST be on the waiting list to be eligible to apply so head to RobynGobbel.com/Immersion and put your name on the waiting list! Grab a copy of USA Today Best Selling book Raising Kids with Big, Baffling Behaviors robyngobbel.com/book Join us in The Club for more support! robyngobbel.com/TheClub Sign up on the waiting list for the 2027 Cohorts of the Baffling Behavior Training Institute's Immersion Program for Professionals robyngobbel.com/Immersion Follow Me On: Over on my website you can find: | |||
| Ep. 153: Marshall Lyles & Robyn Gobbel Talk about Writing #RKB3 | 26 Sep 2023 | 01:05:53 | |
Marshall Lyles is here with me today to help me reflect on the journey of bringing Raising Kids with Big, Baffling Behaviors into the world. Finally! Something that will really help you with those stickiest behaviors... Join my webinar on Brain Based Strategies and Scripts for Lying, Manipulation, and Verbal Aggression on June 11 RobynGobbel.com/BrainBasedWebinar ::: Presence in Practice: An Experiential Workshop into the Neurobiology of How Change Happens Early Bird rate expires June 15! ::: Immersion Program for Professionals! The Baffling Behavior Training Institute's Immersion Program for Professionals is NOW accepting applications for our 2027 cohorts. You MUST be on the waiting list to be eligible to apply so head to RobynGobbel.com/Immersion and put your name on the waiting list! Grab a copy of USA Today Best Selling book Raising Kids with Big, Baffling Behaviors robyngobbel.com/book Join us in The Club for more support! robyngobbel.com/TheClub Sign up on the waiting list for the 2027 Cohorts of the Baffling Behavior Training Institute's Immersion Program for Professionals robyngobbel.com/Immersion Follow Me On: Over on my website you can find: | |||
| Ep. 152: BONUS - A little snippet from the Book #RKB3 (BOOK RELEASE Day) | 21 Sep 2023 | 00:24:51 | |
Happy happy birthday to Raising Kids with Big, Baffling Behaviors. Finally! Something that will really help you with those stickiest behaviors... Join my webinar on Brain Based Strategies and Scripts for Lying, Manipulation, and Verbal Aggression on June 11 RobynGobbel.com/BrainBasedWebinar ::: Grab a copy of USA Today Best Selling book Raising Kids with Big, Baffling Behaviors robyngobbel.com/book Join us in The Club for more support! robyngobbel.com/TheClub Sign up on the waiting list for the 2027 Cohorts of the Baffling Behavior Training Institute's Immersion Program for Professionals robyngobbel.com/Immersion Follow Me On: Over on my website you can find: | |||
| EP 231: EMDR with Kids with Attachment Trauma with Deb Wesselmann | 29 Jul 2025 | 00:59:46 | |
I’m so excited to introduce you to someone who has deeply influenced my work- Deb Wesselmann! Deb is a pioneer in integrating EMDR therapy with family therapy for children with early attachment trauma. In this episode, we chat about how Deb (and her colleagues) developed her attachment-focused EMDR model, why slow bilateral stimulation is so effective for complex trauma, and what it really means to create a secure holding environment for both kids and their parents. We also talk about the importance of therapists and other helpers doing their own work in therapy. In this episode, you’ll learn:
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Finally! Something that will really help you with those stickiest behaviors... Join my webinar on Brain Based Strategies and Scripts for Lying, Manipulation, and Verbal Aggression on June 11 RobynGobbel.com/BrainBasedWebinar ::: Presence in Practice: An Experiential Workshop into the Neurobiology of How Change Happens Early Bird rate expires June 15! ::: Immersion Program for Professionals! The Baffling Behavior Training Institute's Immersion Program for Professionals is NOW accepting applications for our 2027 cohorts. You MUST be on the waiting list to be eligible to apply so head to RobynGobbel.com/Immersion and put your name on the waiting list! Grab a copy of USA Today Best Selling book Raising Kids with Big, Baffling Behaviors robyngobbel.com/book Join us in The Club for more support! robyngobbel.com/TheClub Sign up on the waiting list for the 2027 Cohorts of the Baffling Behavior Training Institute's Immersion Program for Professionals robyngobbel.com/Immersion Follow Me On: Over on my website you can find: | |||
| Ep. 151: Loving your OWN Watchdog and Possum Brain (IT'S BOOK RELEASE WEEK!) | 19 Sep 2023 | 00:49:33 | |
The best way to love your child’s watchdog and possum parts is by loving your own. Today, as I move toward wrapping up this writing-and-publishing-a-book chapter in my life, let’s talk a little more about the neuroscience of owls, watchdogs, and possums, why the science matters, and how my work has surprisingly become more about helping the grown-ups love their own owl, watchdog, and possum brains. In this episode you’ll learn:
Resources mentioned in this podcast: Read the full transcript at: RobynGobbel.com/lovingyourwatchdog Finally! Something that will really help you with those stickiest behaviors... Join my webinar on Brain Based Strategies and Scripts for Lying, Manipulation, and Verbal Aggression on June 11 RobynGobbel.com/BrainBasedWebinar ::: Presence in Practice: An Experiential Workshop into the Neurobiology of How Change Happens Early Bird rate expires June 15! ::: Immersion Program for Professionals! The Baffling Behavior Training Institute's Immersion Program for Professionals is NOW accepting applications for our 2027 cohorts. You MUST be on the waiting list to be eligible to apply so head to RobynGobbel.com/Immersion and put your name on the waiting list! Grab a copy of USA Today Best Selling book Raising Kids with Big, Baffling Behaviors robyngobbel.com/book Join us in The Club for more support! robyngobbel.com/TheClub Sign up on the waiting list for the 2027 Cohorts of the Baffling Behavior Training Institute's Immersion Program for Professionals robyngobbel.com/Immersion Follow Me On: Over on my website you can find: | |||
| Ep. 150: Why You Can Know What to Do and Still Not Do It?! | 12 Sep 2023 | 00:43:12 | |
You’ve probably wondered how you can know the neuroscience of behavior and have a toolbox full of tools…and still struggle to actually USE those tools. Most parents have the thought “If I know what to do, why aren’t I actually doing it???” It’s not because you’re a bad parent. It’s because you’re dysregulated, have a sensitized stress response system, and probably have some implicit memories that leave you vulnerable to being triggered.
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Read the full transcript at: RobynGobbel.com/knowwhattodo Finally! Something that will really help you with those stickiest behaviors... Join my webinar on Brain Based Strategies and Scripts for Lying, Manipulation, and Verbal Aggression on June 11 RobynGobbel.com/BrainBasedWebinar ::: Presence in Practice: An Experiential Workshop into the Neurobiology of How Change Happens Early Bird rate expires June 15! ::: Grab a copy of USA Today Best Selling book Raising Kids with Big, Baffling Behaviors robyngobbel.com/book Join us in The Club for more support! robyngobbel.com/TheClub Sign up on the waiting list for the 2027 Cohorts of the Baffling Behavior Training Institute's Immersion Program for Professionals robyngobbel.com/Immersion Follow Me On: Over on my website you can find: | |||
| Ep. 149: "Fix" Behaviors by Calming the Watchdog & Possum Brain | 05 Sep 2023 | 00:46:32 | |
Instead of responding or reacting to challenging behaviors, think about it as calming the watchdog or the possum brain. Once you understand how your child’s behaviors correspond to their level of dysregulation and lack of felt safety, you’ll be able to use strategies (for regulation, connection, and felt safety) that really work. In this episode we’ll discuss:
Resources mentioned in this podcast: Read the full transcript at: RobynGobbel.com/calmwatchdogpossum Finally! Something that will really help you with those stickiest behaviors... Join my webinar on Brain Based Strategies and Scripts for Lying, Manipulation, and Verbal Aggression on June 11 RobynGobbel.com/BrainBasedWebinar ::: Presence in Practice: An Experiential Workshop into the Neurobiology of How Change Happens Early Bird rate expires June 15! ::: Immersion Program for Professionals! The Baffling Behavior Training Institute's Immersion Program for Professionals is NOW accepting applications for our 2027 cohorts. You MUST be on the waiting list to be eligible to apply so head to RobynGobbel.com/Immersion and put your name on the waiting list! Grab a copy of USA Today Best Selling book Raising Kids with Big, Baffling Behaviors robyngobbel.com/book Join us in The Club for more support! robyngobbel.com/TheClub Sign up on the waiting list for the 2027 Cohorts of the Baffling Behavior Training Institute's Immersion Program for Professionals robyngobbel.com/Immersion Follow Me On: Over on my website you can find: | |||