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390: Understanding Psychedelics with Matt Zemon

Episode 390

jeudi 26 octobre 2023 • Duration 54:14

Everyone seems to have an opinion about psychedelics these days.

Doctors and therapists see them as potential treatments for things like anxiety, depression and PTSD. Spiritual communities believe they open us up to the divine. Politicians debate whether they should be legal or illegal.

I have to admit that when I first heard people talking about them, I was scared.

I'm not a big fan of substance use of any kind, and the idea of a "drug" becoming mainstream concerned me.

But when some respected psychologists and colleagues of mine started talking about the healing power of psychedelics — people who were far from the 1960s "Summer of Love" stereotype — I knew the topic at least deserved my honest research.

As I dug deeper into the science behind psychedelics and understood how they worked in the mind, I began to realize they weren't about escaping but about going deeper into oneself by quieting the ego and opening the door to new parts of our consciousness.

But, I wanted to make sure my opinion was backed up by accurate, science-based, factual research. And there are few people who I've found better informed on this topic than Matt Zemon.

Matt was once a fellow skeptic like me who also became convinced through research and experience that psychedelics can play a positive role in therapeutic and medical settings.

He is one of the most grounded, scientific voices I've heard on this topic — perfect for anyone who simply wants to learn more and see what you think for yourself — and I am thrilled to have him share his wealth of knowledge in this episode.

Listen to discover:

Matt's story of opening his mind to psychedelics – and how they changed his life
Safety considerations for psychedelic use
Whether or not psychedelics are addictive (and how they can help treat addiction)
The different types of psychedelics and how they work in the mind
How and why psychedelics can help us change our thought patterns
The importance of therapeutic integration after a psychedelic experience
Resources for doing your own research and safe psychedelic use

The choice to have a psychedelic experience is very personal, and I would never tell someone they should or should not try a powerful substance like these.

But I do think we should all do our due diligence to research new breakthroughs in healing with an open mind — which I hope this episode helps you do.

Because whether you get there through a psychedelic or not, allowing yourself to see new perspectives and change your mind is how you grow as a human…and that's always a path worth pursuing.

"In that first six- or seven-hour [psychedelic] journey, the entire way I look and interact with the world shifted." - Matt Zemon

"Physically, these substances are relatively safe." - Matt Zemon

"Not all psychedelics are the same, and you don't want to be on certain medications and taking a psychedelic." - Matt Zemon

"The psychedelic process can help us remember a way that we used to think, maybe before we had adopted those behaviors...and from that rememberance, we can then start to take the steps to change our life." - Matt Zemon

"It's not so much that [psychedelics are] a cure...they're really catalysts for change." - Matt Zemon

"It's not a magic pill. None of them are a magic pill." - Michelle Chalfant

"I felt like I was sitting with God each and every time. It was the most beautiful thing I've ever done." - Michelle Chalfant

"The most important thing was the integration. What do you do after you've had this experience and then how do you integrate that into your life?" - Michelle Chalfant

"In the psychedelic experience, a few things are going to happen. Your default mode network...is going to quiet down...Neurons fire together that haven't fired together in a long time...In this process, it's common that you will then feel connected to all things and all people. You'll feel loved. You'll feel enough. And that is, in my opinion, the reclaiming of your true self." - Matt Zemon

"When you know you're enough and you know you're loved, you're starting to take away the masks you've put on and have been put on you." - Matt Zemon

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Matt Zemon Website

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Matt Zemon Instagram

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"How to Change Your Mind" Book

https://www.amazon.com/Change-Your-Mind-Consciousness-Transcendence/dp/0735224153

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https://www.spiritpharmacist.com/

"A Really Good Day" Book

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https://drugsdata.org/

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389: Steps for Working Through a Trigger with Angela Johnson

Episode 389

jeudi 19 octobre 2023 • Duration 43:18

Triggers are a gift.

Yes, you heard that right (and if you've been here for a while, you've heard me say it before) – I LOVE being triggered!

That's not to say it's fun being triggered, but working with triggers has led to some of the most transformational moments of my life.

See, triggers reveal unknown, unconscious beliefs we hold about ourselves – limiting beliefs that cause us pain and hold back in life.

When these beliefs rise to the surface in the form of a trigger, we get the beautiful opportunity to work with them and transform them…not only healing the trigger but helping us get unstuck and change our lives.

One of my Adult Chair® Coaches, Angela, recently had an experience working with a trigger that was so transformational that even she has jumped on the "triggers are a gift" bandwagon.

A tiff with her husband led to a HUGE moment of self-discovery and deeper connection in their relationship, thanks to the trigger tools Angela learned through The Adult Chair®.

I was so proud of the work she did that I invited her to come on the show and share exactly how she took ownership of the trigger (instead of blaming her husband) and then worked with the trigger to discover and heal the surprising belief underneath it — one she would have never recognized without the trigger

Listen to discover:

How Angela used The Adult Chair (TAC) to work through a trigger and repair a relationship
The surprising root of Angela's trigger that she was able to uncover
How TAC has completely changed the way Angela responds when triggered
Why triggers are the gateway to freedom
How triggers work through the lens of the Child, Adolescent and Adult Chairs
Steps for working through a trigger
Why doing our work and healing can make us less vulnerable to triggers

When we work on our triggers, it is true freedom.

We not only heal the limiting beliefs that hold us back but also find that we get triggered less with time.

This is one of my favorite conversations because it shows this work in action and breaks it down for you in a powerful way. You will discover exactly how triggers work through the lens of The Adult Chair, how to stay regulated and grounded next time you're triggered and steps to work through and heal your triggers for good.

"When we work with ourselves and work on our own healing of our old wounds…it affects so many people around us." - Michelle Chalfant

"Like you said, triggers are a gift. You say it. I don't want it to be true. But I'm learning that it is." - Angela Johnson

"[Triggers] are a gift...You will learn something about a part of you that's been buried for a very long time. And it is an opportunity to look at that and actually transform and bring that part into the light, and then it doesn't trigger you anymore." - Michelle Chalfant

"What we don't understand about this work sometimes, because it feels scary, is that on the other side of it is freedom." - Angela Johnson

"I've lived in that space of letting [triggers] disrupt my life and relationships for long enough that I just don't want to live that way anymore." - Angela Johnson

"When we're in our Adult Chair...we remember that life is a choice, and everything in life is a choice. And we get to choose, "Do I want to stay in victim seat?" or, "Do I want to reach over and be in my empowerment seat?'" - Michelle Chalfant

"Our perspective when we're triggered shrinks way down...what we want to do is broaden your perspective, and then you have all these different choices and options." - Michelle Chalfant

"In the Adult, we live in the moment. We don't drag things from the past into the moment." - Michelle Chalfant

"Freedom is not a quick little pill. It does take a little bit of work. But it's long lasting. This is not a band-aid approach." - Michelle Chalfant

"You don't get activated the same way after you do that work. That's the miracle." - Angela Johnson

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388: Human Design with Emma Dunwoody

Episode 388

jeudi 12 octobre 2023 • Duration 41:09

Do you ever wonder why you do what you do…and if it's just you who does it?

Your gifts, your life's mission, how much energy you have, what you need in relationships, how you view money – these are all unique to you.

And according to Human Design, you are the way you are for a special reason.

Unlike personality typing systems based on mental or behavioral patterns, Human Design is a system based on energy and what was going on in the universe when you were born. Though there are five main "types" within Human Design, it's a very dynamic system that will help you understand what makes you you and what you need to thrive.

I've been hearing tons of buzz about Human Design recently, and in this episode, I talk with Human Design coach (and overall delightful human), Emma Dunwoody, about what Human Design is and how it can help us better embrace our true selves.

Not only does Emma answer all my questions about Human Design, but she also helped me decode my chart, and let me tell you – I felt so seen, validated and free to be myself once I understood I'm exactly who I'm meant to be (and you are too!).

Listen to discover:

What Human Design is
The difference between Human Design and other personality systems
How Human Design can change your life
How to decode your own Human Design chart
The five Human Design types
What "functional burnout" is
How Human Design can help us in dating and relationships
What Human Design teaches us about money

As you know from The Adult Chair®, we are all a kaleidoscope of parts, talents and experiences.

Human Design is a fun, insightful tool to help us understand a little bit more about who we are — not to put us in a box but to give us permission to embrace and be our true selves.

Because all those things that only you do? They make you uniquely lovable YOU, and the world wouldn't be the same without you.

"With Human Design, we don't go via the mind. We actually go via the energy…It gives us this energetic blueprint. I love to think of it as a treasure map to our authenticity." - Emma Dunwoody

"You don't go into future with this at all. It really is just about who I am today." - Michelle Chalfant

"So many people spend all this time trying to change themselves...With Human Design, it ultimately gives you a permission slip to be you." - Emma Dunwoody

"We think we need to become who other people tell us that we should become...but with Human Design, you really help people to touch their true self." - Michelle Chalfant

"Human Design teaches us that there are actually two different types of burnout...but what we don't talk about is this 'functional burnout.'" - Emma Dunwoody

"There's so many ways that Human Design can really amplify and improve relationships." - Emma Dunwoody

"Actually, what money is all about is being in alignment to your authenticity…When we are free to be ourselves, then we can't help but make money." - Emma Dunwoody

"Our profile really helps us understand how we do life, what people want from us, how we learn." - Emma Dunwoody

"Human Design is basically the science of being unique." - Emma Dunwoody

LINKS & RESOURCES

Emma Dunwoody Website (Get a Free Human Design Chart)

"The Human Design Podcast" (Emma Dunwoody Podcast)

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387: How To Build Trust in Your Relationship

Episode 387

jeudi 5 octobre 2023 • Duration 22:00

When we think of trust in a relationship, most of us think of broken trust and big betrayals – things like infidelity, addiction and secrets.

But true trust is about the small actions that we take every day. Trust isn't something we have by default unless it's broken; it's something we have to build.

With every interaction, we're either building or whittling away trust – and sometimes the things that break trust are so subtle, we don't even know we're doing them!

In this episode, I'm giving you six ways to build trust so you can grow your relationship with your partner. These are small, simple actions, but they require awareness, intention and being in your Adult Chair to do consistently.

If you want a long-lasting, deeper connection with your partner, this episode is a must listen!

Listen to discover:

What trust in a relationship is and why it's so important
How trust deepens the bond in a committed relationship
6 steps to build trust today
The importance of being true to your word
How to own and apologize for mistakes and move forward
How to show up with presence and prioritize your relationship

Without trust, we can't have healthy, connected relationships. Trust is an energetic bond that creates safety and allows us to open up, be vulnerable and grow together.

The good news is that it's not about perfection. All of us – including myself – don't get these right all the time.

What's important is what we do when we mess up.

Honesty, presence and the ability to own our mistakes are the ways we as imperfect humans create deep bonds with other imperfect humans and the key to getting the love you want – not the perfect fairy tale, but a beautiful journey of learning and growing together.

"Trust is one of the essential components to a healthy, committed relationship." - Michelle Chalfant

"If we're going to speak something and promise something to our partner, we want to make sure that we are able to line up behind what we're saying." - Michelle Chalfant

"If you are going to speak something into existence, you have to speak it with your full energy and with you behind it…Your actions need to match your words." - Michelle Chalfant

"Owning it does not mean that you're a bad person. You're a human person, and mistakes are gonna happen." - Michelle Chalfant

"If you want to build trust and you're in a committed relationship, apologizing is powerful. It helps to build a connection." - Michelle Chalfant

"When we have important people in our lives, we need to put the phone down, not look at the television, not get distracted by the dog or the cat or the animal in your house. We want to make sure that we're prioritizing our person and giving them our full attention." - Michelle Chalfant

"We need to give our person eye contact when we're listening. Because then they're going to feel seen and they're gonna feel heard, they feel important." - Michelle Chalfant

"You can't put the relationship on the back burner and your person on the back burner and expect [the relationship] to grow and flourish." - Michelle Chalfant

"If you've got friends that are...acting in a way that's disrespectful to your partner, it's your job to defend your partner." - Michelle Chalfant

"Even if the truth hurts, it's better than lying." - Michelle Chalfant

"It feels so good to know that your person has you and you've got them. That's that bond of trust. Trust is like this energetic bond that we form with our partner." - Michelle Chalfant

LINKS & RESOURCES

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386: How To Clear Generational Trauma with Emily Blefeld

Episode 386

jeudi 28 septembre 2023 • Duration 48:29

For millennia, cultures around the globe have known that there's more to us than meets the eye and that our family trees really are a map to ourselves — an energetic portrait of our lives.

Today, epigenetics has proven that what our ancestors experienced can imprint on our genes and impact our lives today in unexpected ways.

That depression, anxiety, stress or limiting belief? It might be from long ago.

And the field of psychology is finally catching up with this.

A new methodology I just discovered (and got the chance to try as a client) is called Family Constellation work.

In this method, we find unconscious experiences and beliefs that we're carrying from our ancestors — including those who we never knew — and work to transform them through awareness and compassion.

On the podcast this week, I talked with my Family Constellation practitioner, Emily Blefeld, about what Family Constellation work is, how our family history affects our lives today and how we can clear blocks and dismantle generational cycles by being bold and brave enough to look at what happened before we were even here.

It's not that different from what we do with parts work in The Adult Chair®, except instead of working with parts of ourselves we're working with parts of our family tree! It's SO freaking cool!

Listen to discover:

How our family history impacts our present reality
The way our ancestors' patterns create patterns for us today
What Family Constellation work is and how it works
How to heal trauma and clear blocks through Family Constellation work
Using Family Constellation work for business, non-biological relatives and more

The cool thing about epigenetics is that it describes a tendency, not a fate. These experiences don't change our DNA; they change the way our genes express themselves.

That means we get a choice in how these generational traumas will manifest in our lives.

We don't have to agree with the beliefs and experiences of our ancestors. We can look them in the face and decide they stop with us.

And there's no transformation more powerful than that – for ourselves and generations to come.

"We are victim to our lineage." - Michelle Chalfant

"What's unconscious will continue to permeate our lives until it's made conscious." - Emily Blefeld

"We actually carry the victims and the perpetrators in our inherited lineage." - Emily Blefeld

"[Family Constellation work] is predominantly a therapy that looks at the system that we walk around with." - Emily Blefeld

"Constellation work is less interested in what is causing the symptom, and they're more interested in who is the symptom." - Emily Blefeld

"I like to think of it as a family soul on some level." - Emily Blefeld

"There's so much more to us than meets the eye." - Michelle Chalfant

"There are so many different ways to clear our blocks. There's so many different ways to relieve anxiety, depression, feeling not good enough, our inner fraud, all of those things." - Michelle Chalfant

"You'll feel the generations behind heal and the generations following." - Emily Blefeld

"What an awesome thing to hear as a parent, your child thanking you for doing your work. Because it can stop with you." - Emily Blefeld

LINKS & RESOURCES

Emily Blefeld Website

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