The 3L’s Podcast – Details, episodes & analysis

In this episode of The 3L’s Podcast, Eman and Mimi dive deep into one of the most delicate and relatable topics in marriage: arguments. They begin with lighthearted banter and even a prayer for peace before unpacking how their different upbringings shaped the way they handle conflict. Mimi reflects on her Nigerian household, where arguments were rarely seen in front of children, and where her immigration experience taught her to stay quiet and avoid drawing attention. Eman, on the other hand, grew up as a vocal extrovert, shaped by a speech impediment he overcame and by a mother who both protected and sheltered him. His experiences made him passionate about using his voice and sometimes leaning into confrontation. The couple honestly explores how these differences initially clashed in their marriage, from Mimi’s tolerance for silence to Eman’s tendency to shut down when upset. They recall how therapy, both individual and joint, helped them unlearn inherited family dynamics, heal past trauma, and develop their own conflict-resolution style as a couple. They emphasise that respect, communication, and the willingness to pause before things escalate are essential. Arguments, they argue, shouldn’t just be about venting but about reaching a resolution. They share personal stories, from silent treatments to learning each other’s communication styles (even Mimi once wrote letters), to show how they’ve matured in handling conflict. The conversation also touches on dilemmas many couples face, like whether it’s right to share marital problems with family or friends. They stress the importance of choosing confidants wisely, someone who supports the marriage, not someone who keeps tally or fuels division. Closing with humour, the pair discuss petty moves during disagreements, the balance of being “the bigger person,” and even how play-fighting can go wrong. Ultimately, they remind listeners that love and respect should remain at the core of every disagreement, and that arguing with purpose, for resolution, can actually strengthen a marriage.

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Eman and Mariam tackle one of marriage’s most private and most misunderstood topics: sex. With the ease of a couple 14 years deep, they open up about how their intimacy has evolved through every season, from the electric energy of early marriage to the strategic scheduling required with four children in the house. They swap stories about their very different experiences before marriage. Mariam waited until their wedding night, while Eman came in with past relationships—and how those differences shaped their first years together. The conversation weaves through wedding night realities (spoiler: exhaustion beats romance), mismatched desire levels, pregnancy, postpartum recovery, and the creative adjustments needed when toddlers sleep in your room. Nothing is off the table: mismatched libidos, porn use, silent “knocking” to avoid waking kids, and the challenge of keeping intimacy alive when life gets hectic. They also debate a listener dilemma about a husband tracking their sex life in a spreadsheet, opening a broader discussion on scheduling versus spontaneity. What emerges is a mix of humour, vulnerability, and straight talk about communication as the foundation for a healthy sex life. Eman admits he’s cooled down with age, Mariam shares the importance of checking in regularly, and together they show that intimacy is about much more than physical connection—it’s also late-night drives, playful banter, and mutual understanding. The episode closes with a “This Week in Petty” confession from Eman, proving that even in the bedroom, marriage is equal parts love, laughter, and learning to meet in the middle.

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It’s the season to be jolly! Everyone is busy buying gifts, preparing holiday recipes, and dancing at Christmas parties. We always celebrate Christmas but do we really understand its true meaning?

Christmas is more than just a monetary gift, snowfall, and spending money. In this episode, we will tell you why.

In this episode, Eman and Mimi recap their previous Christmas celebrations and what they are grateful for during the year and talk about the true meaning of Christmas. They also give last-minute Christmas gift ideas, tips, and activities families can do during the holiday season.

Highlights

• The memories of Christmas
• How to control overbuying of gifts this season
• Creating Christmas traditions
• Taking time to reflect, rest, and bond with family and loved ones; and
• Activities that your family can do this Christmas

Links

Grab the book “Get Your Money Right” by Emmanuel Asuquo

Follow Eman and Mimi on social media:

Emmanuel Asuquo Instagram: @theemaneffectuk Youtube: The Eman Effect Website: www.emmanuelasuquo.com

Mariam Asuquo Instagram: @mimitoyoucakes

What would you do if one day you woke up and found out that you were made redundant at work? 

Some will cry, some will complain about their life, and some, particularly the Asuquos' will use it as a motivation to achieve success.

In this episode, Eman and Mimi walk down memory lane to share the untold stories behind their success in marriage, business, and life. They talk about the pain and challenges they face to build a legacy. So, if you want to feel inspired and are ready to create your legacy like the Asuquos', listen to this episode.

Highlights

• The time when Eman got redundant
• How to prepare yourself for success
• Creating a goal and game plan to win
• Not jealous but grateful; and
• Learn to protect the legacy you build

Links

Grab the book “Get Your Money Right” by Emmauel Asuquo

Follow Eman and Mimi on social media:

Emmanuel Asuquo Instagram: @theemaneffectuk  Youtube: The Eman Effect Website: www.emmanuelasuquo.com

Mariam Asuquo Instagram: @mimitoyoucakes

We are back with all-new episodes and we are shaking things up. In a relationship, value systems are important but do we need them to be similar? 

In this episode, Eman and Mimi play the Bob in UK Debate Date Card Game where they ask each other questions that they’ve never asked before. Join us in this episode and let your friends know we're back!

Highlights 

• Is the relationship over after a failed marriage proposal
• Why Eman thinks men should propose to a woman
• What does loyalty mean
• Behaviors that are an absolute red flag
• Does porn ruin our sexuality

Links

Check out the Bob in UK Card Game 

Follow Eman and Mimi on social media:

Emmanuel Asuquo Instagram: @theemaneffectuk  Youtube: The Eman Effect Website: www.emmanuelasuquo.com

Mariam Asuquo Instagram: @mimitoyoucakes

Men worry that committing to a relationship will limit their freedom. They fear they may envy their friends, miss every Friday night out, and lose the benefits of having sex with different women. But is marriage really the end of enjoying manhood? A constant debate topic that only the person involved can answer.

In this episode, Eman and Mimi talk about commitment and relationships, particularly for men. Based on their experience as a married couple, they explain the nonsexual benefits of a relationship on both sides (men and women), discuss why some men opt not to commit, and highlight the importance of deciding for oneself.

Highlights

• The reason why men get more out of a relationship

• Understanding the pros and cons of having a partner

• The stability and security a relationship offers; and

• Why settling down with the right person is important

Links

Follow Eman and Mimi on social media:

Emmanuel Asuquo Instagram: @theemaneffectuk  Youtube: The Eman Effect Website: www.emmanuelasuquo.com

Mariam Asuquo Instagram: @mimitoyoucakes

The only constant thing in the world is change, whether good or bad. As people in the position take on power, more kids are in danger, and as the cost of living continues to rise, life gets harder to bear. But with all this happening, you have the option to choose. Let yourself suffer or create ways to live better.

In today’s episode, Eman and Mimi tackle the hot issues of today that have a massive impact on the world. The couple gives their opinion on the newly signed law to ban abortion in the US, provides useful and clever tips on handling market inflation and increasing cost of living, and sheds light on the risks of committing to any investments.

Highlights

• The riffle effect of the new abortion law in the US
• A jaw-dropping increase in petrol and diesel prices
• Savvy ways to spend and budget for your needs
• The importance of understanding the risk of any investments; and 
• Find out the best and worst investments you can make

Links

Follow Eman and Mimi on social media:

Emmanuel Asuquo Instagram: @theemaneffectuk  Youtube: The Eman Effect Website: www.emmanuelasuquo.com

Mariam Asuquo Instagram: @mimitoyoucakes

When are you sacrificing too much for your marriage?

Marriage is more than just a union of two people. It is a product of love and sacrifice from both sides. Being in a relationship is a wonderful experience, but if you need to sacrifice the things you don’t want for marriage, are you still willing to do it?

In this episode, Eman and Mimi talk about marriage and relationships. They discuss the importance of understanding yourself, your partner, and the sacrifices of marriage. They exchange their list of non-negotiables when it comes to marrying someone and share their views on it.

Highlights

• Putting aside wealth, legacy, and ambition
• The hygiene presentation and people treatment
• Having different faith and beliefs
• Setting past relationship boundaries; and
• Existing relationships are important, but family is a priority

Links Follow Eman and Mimi on social media:

Emmanuel Asuquo Instagram: @theemaneffectuk  Youtube: The Eman Effect Website: www.emmanuelasuquo.com

Mariam Asuquo Instagram: @mimitoyoucakes

What would you say if you were given a chance to talk to your younger self? Our childhoods are filled with beautiful memories, but we also make mistakes. And learning from every situation makes things better and makes us feel a lot stronger.

In this episode, Eman and Mimi sit down and do a little reflection on things that they wish to tell their younger self. They talk about the highs and lows of everything and share their experiences of self-discovery and things they learn and love along the way. 

Highlights

• Finding time to have fun and relax
• Learning from certain situations in life
• Creating habits to get through the challenging moments
• The bigger purpose of doing service to others
• How to be mindful about saving money
• Focus on setting goals and achieving them; and
• Experience life first before going into relationships

Links

Follow Eman and Mimi on social media:

Emmanuel Asuquo Instagram: @theemaneffectuk  Youtube: The Eman Effect Website: www.emmanuelasuquo.com

Mariam Asuquo Instagram: @mimitoyoucakes

Money has the power to bring out the worst and best in people. Evey money-making decision we make is important because sometimes it can bring us wealth and abundance and but it can also destroy our reputation and ruin people’s lives.

In this episode, Eman and Mimi talk about the value of money and the sacrifice people make to have it. They discuss the highs and lows when it comes to earning, how money changes people's lives both in good and bad, and the result of every money-making decision. 

Highlights

• Focus on things that you can change
• The limits to what people can do for money
• What are the consequences of building a bad reputation for money
• Understand the different seasons of life; and
• The mindset of people about money

Links

Follow Eman and Mimi on social media:

Emmanuel Asuquo Instagram: @theemaneffectuk  Youtube: The Eman Effect Website: www.emmanuelasuquo.com

Mariam Asuquo Instagram: @mimitoyoucakes