Talking about Coaching – Details, episodes & analysis

The conversation explores the fear of failure and rejection that many coaches experience, which prevents them from putting themselves out there and being visible. The hosts discuss the mindset and skill development needed to overcome this fear. They emphasize the importance of taking small steps, reframing failure as a learning opportunity, and shifting the focus from outcomes to the process. They also highlight the need to understand that a 'no' does not necessarily mean personal rejection. Overall, the conversation provides insights and strategies to help coaches overcome their fear and become more visible.

Keywords
coaching, fear of failure, fear of rejection, imposter syndrome, mindset, skill development, small steps, reframing failure, focus on process, understanding 'no'

Takeaways
The fear of failure and rejection can prevent coaches from being visible and offering their services.
Taking small steps and gradually building confidence can help coaches overcome their fear.
Reframing failure as a learning opportunity and focusing on the process rather than the outcome can alleviate the fear of failure.
Understanding that a 'no' does not necessarily mean personal rejection can help coaches handle rejection more effectively.

Chapters
00:00 Introduction and the Question of Fear and Rejection
01:16 The Imposter Syndrome and Fear of Failure
05:07 Taking Small Steps and Building Confidence
08:02 Exploring the Story and Shifting Mindset
11:03 Reframing Failure as a Learning Opportunity
13:14 Understanding the Meaning of 'No'
14:49 Focus on the Process and Continuous Learning
15:43 Conclusion


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The conversation explores the topic of self-disclosure in coaching. The hosts discuss the traditional approach of not disclosing anything about oneself and the potential benefits of sharing personal experiences. They emphasize the importance of maintaining focus on the client and being mindful of the intention behind self-disclosure. The conversation also touches on the potential risks and pitfalls of self-disclosure, such as projecting one's own experiences onto the client. Overall, the hosts suggest that self-disclosure can deepen the human-to-human connection in coaching, but it should be done thoughtfully and with the client's best interests in mind.

Keywords
coaching, self-disclosure, client focus, human connection, intention, risks, benefits

Takeaways

• Self-disclosure in coaching can deepen the human-to-human connection and build trust.
• It is important to maintain focus on the client and be mindful of the intention behind self-disclosure.
• Self-disclosure should be done thoughtfully and with the client's best interests in mind.
• There are potential risks and pitfalls of self-disclosure, such as projecting one's own experiences onto the client.

Chapters
00:00 Introduction and Question
00:30 Traditional Approach to Self-Disclosure in Coaching
01:28 The Importance of Human-to-Human Connection
03:02 Personal Examples of Self-Disclosure
06:27 Different Types of Sharing
09:07 Being Mindful of the Relevance and Usefulness of Sharing
12:26 The Potential Power of Self-Disclosure
15:33 Differentiating Between Personal Experience and Client Focus
26:53 Closing Thoughts

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Working with a coaching supervisor is the gold standard of maintaining professional standards, figuring out ethical dilemmas, and to continuously grow as a coach. Most coaches look up to their supervisor as someone that they respect and whose approach to working with people they would want to emanate. You could say that a coach doesn’t have to have experience in their client’s area in order to coach them well. Could you also say that a supervisor doesn’t need to be someone with experience in your style of coaching in order to supervise you well? Or is a coaching supervisor invariably someone who’s further ahead on your journey, and hence always some sort of role model for your own practice? And what then would be the difference to mentoring? In this episode of talking about coaching our resident coaches Yannick, Siawash and Nicki will be discussing the role of supervision and the role of a coaching supervisor. 


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Daniel asked us whether coaching still works if the clients aren’t paying any money for the coaching. This applies to pro-bono coaching and also to circumstances like Daniel’s where it’s not appropriate to charge due to how coaching has been set up within the organisation or institution. In this episode of Talking about Coaching, Nicki, Siawash and Yannick hence discuss the crucial importance of commitment in the coaching relationship, and what other ways there are besides money to create commitment. 


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Metaphors can be a powerful way to unlock your clients’ thinking and progress in a coaching session. In this episode, our resident coaches Nicki, Siawash and Yannick discuss how to work with metaphors in coaching. 


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Following question was sent in: “Hi guys. Would love to hear your take on "money back guarantee" policy for your coaching. And possibly why you choose to implement it in a particular way.” So here we are, talking about whether money back guarantees are a great way to create the kind of confidence that gets clients through the door, or whether they add a huge weight to coaches and make it difficult to stay present and let the client do the work. 


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Welcome to this episode of Talking about Coaching, the podcast from coaches for coaches. 

This episode is one of Yannick's deep dives into one topic or person and we're talking to Clare Norman. 

"With over 20 years of coaching experience, Clare is highly sought after by other expert coaches, as well as successful coach training companies as a Master Mentor Coach. Clare looks to continually sharpen individuals’ coaching edge and upskill mentor coaches so they can deliver high-quality feedback to their coaches-in-development. Her laser focus on mindset shifts and her knack for spotting marginal gains has made her a go-to person for coaches looking for mentorship and practical, meaningful ways to improve their practice.

With an international following from both her coaching peers and senior leadership, Clare is making a difference to the world of work via the professional application of coaching. Her mission across all her work is to encourage leaders to put people and the planet before profits. "

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Sounds a little click-baitey perhaps, but we thought it was time to tackle this question head-on. With a number of episodes on related topics you will find plenty of practical tips on how to grow your business, and we may well do a more classical series of practical advice on how to get 6 figures in your coaching business, but today we wanted to shine a light on the question itself, what it means to be a 6-figure coach, why that may or may not be important to someone, and what’s crucial to reflect on before committing yourself to such a journey. Our resident coaches Siawash and Yannick both turn over well over the minimum threshold (though with quite different mindset around the topic), and Nicki has never really found such figures appealing or worth striving for, so in best TaC style we’re sharing our different perspectives on the topic and hope you’ll find it helpful!

See also: 

Episode 32 - I want to charge more, but I don't feel confident that I'm worth it. Help!
Episode 34 - How can I create a steady stream of clients?


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Here’s the full question we’ve received from SY, which I took some editorial liberty with. They asked: “I feel like a fraud sometimes when I'm coaching others on topics that I personally struggle with. I know my coachees are the expert of their own life and I am not a mentor, but can't help feeling a little ashamed/ fear of being judged when I am not at a flourishing, thriving state.”

So here we are talking about feeling like an imposter when we feel we don’t have all our ducks in a row, or aren’t quite as aligned to ourselves as we feel we are expected to be. 

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The question came up in a recent Coaching Cabinet and lots of helpful advice was offered to a coach who’s just starting out, so we figured we’d add to that list and share a few rounds of things we would have liked to have known when we started out as coaches, and some learnings that we’ve gathered along the way. 

See also:

Episode 01 - Is it important to be qualified, accredited and certified?
Episode 05 - How much should I charge for coaching?

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