In today's episode, I'm joined by Shauna Stewart, founder of Linger Boutique and host of the Life Turned On podcast. We tackle something that affects so many women: the challenge of receiving, whether it's help, pleasure, or simply a compliment. Shauna brings her expertise as both a boutique owner and sex educator to share insights about breaking down barriers to intimacy and pleasure. What I love about our conversation is how we move from the practical challenges of daily stress to exploring tools like the erotic blueprint that can transform relationships. We discuss the importance of clear communication, managing expectations, and creating space for genuine connection in long-term relationships.

Timestamps:

(00:00) - Introduction

(01:41) - The Importance of Receiving Pleasure

(02:13) - Cultural Pressures on Women and Self-Care

(04:54) - Learning to Accept Help

(05:44) - Exploring Intimacy and Communication

(07:00) - Understanding Personal Preferences in Pleasure

(12:38) - The Role of Stress in Intimacy

(16:03) - Using the Erotic Blueprints for Exploration

(21:01) - Final Thoughts and Resources

Listen to the Life Turned On Podcast

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Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.

In today's episode, I dive deep into a topic that affects countless marriages - the complex relationship between marriage and sexual intimacy. Drawing from my own 26-year marriage experience and professional insights, I explore why many couples struggle with maintaining a healthy sex life after marriage. I discuss how marriage evolved from a financial contract to today's emotional partnership, and why modern couples face unique challenges in maintaining sexual chemistry. Most importantly, I offer practical, actionable solutions for couples looking to reignite their intimate connection, from "sexual snacking" to creating new dynamics in long-term relationships.

Timestamps:

(00:00) - Introduction

(00:39) - Origins as a Financial Contract

(01:04) - Today's Marriage Success Rates

(01:37) - Chemistry: From Sparks to Comfort

(02:00) - Marriage's Unspoken Expectations

(02:29) - Trading Intimacy for Chores

(03:43) - Signs of Lasting Love

(04:17) - Breaking the Silence

(05:19) - Small Steps to Reconnection

(06:28) - Creating Playful Surprises

Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.

In this episode, I dive into the role of testosterone as part of hormone replacement therapy. Inspired by a recent conversation with a male endocrinologist, I tackle the frustrating double standards surrounding testosterone treatment for women. Why is it casually prescribed for men, but women need a specific diagnosis?

Check out this episode where we discuss:

• The importance of testosterone for women's health beyond libido.
• How low testosterone affects your sex life and overall well-being.
• Different methods of testosterone supplementation and their pros and cons.

Timestamps: 

(00:00) - Introduction to Taboo to Truth Podcast

(00:58) - A Rant on Testosterone Inequality

(02:01) - Understanding Testosterone in Women

(02:50) - Symptoms of Low Testosterone

(05:16) - Personal Experience with Testosterone

(08:29) - Forms of Testosterone Therapy

(10:48) - Benefits and Side Effects of Testosterone

(12:31) - Final Thoughts and Recommendations

(13:31) - Closing Remarks and Call to Action

Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

Breaking Barriers

In this episode of the 'Taboo to Truth' podcast, host Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, menopause coach and sex educator, delves into the world of sex tech and sex work advocacy with Ola Miedzynska.

Ola, a trailblazer in the sex technology industry, discusses her extensive experience with over 60 global sex tech and adult tech brands, including the founding of Sex Tech EU and co-founding EroBella, a safer platform for sex workers.

Karen and Ola discuss the evolution of sex tech, the impact of AI on the industry, the importance of sex work platforms like EroBella in promoting safety and transparency, and the broader implications of technology on human intimacy.

Join Karen and Ola as they navigate these complex topics, aiming to destigmatize and educate while creating a supportive community for midlife sexuality. 

Timestamps:

(00:00) - Introduction to Virtual Reality and Sex Tech

(00:26) - Meet Ola Miedzynska: A Trailblazer in Sex Technology

(01:47) - Understanding Sex Tech

(02:59) - Ola's Journey into the Sex Tech Industry

(05:02) - Global Regulations and Challenges in Sex Tech

(08:24) - AI Innovations in Sex Tech

(18:54) - Virtual Reality and Fantasy in Sex Tech

(20:00) - Empowering Sex Workers: The Aerobella Platform

(31:27) - Future of Sex Tech: Space and Beyond

(34:02) - Enhancing Relationships with Sex Education

(36:11) - Defining Sex: A Personal Perspective

(37:40) - Conclusion and Final Thoughts

Register for the SxTech 2025 here

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• LinkedIn
• YouTube
• Linktree
• Erobella Safer App
• Erobella.com
• Erobella Podcast - Sex Workers Tells

Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

Revolutionizing Sexual Health: Dr. Sum Rakshit of Mystery Vibe Explains Innovative Solutions

In this episode, Dr. Sum Rakshit, founder of Mystery Vibe, delves into the world of sexual health and wellness.

Dr. Rakshit discusses how Mystery Vibe's devices, originally based on biomedical engineering principles, are designed to address various sexual dysfunction issues such as vaginal dryness, lack of libido, pelvic pain, erectile dysfunction, and more.

He shares insights on the development journey, highlighting the importance of addressing sexual health issues that arise from life events like childbirth, menopause, and other major medical conditions. 

Timestamps: 

(00:00) - Introduction: Women's Health Issues

(00:31) - Meet Dr. Sum Rakshit: Founder of Mystery Vibe 

(01:24) - From Ophthalmology to Sexual Health Devices

(03:31) - The Birth of Mystery Vibe

(05:53) - Crescendo: Addressing Pelvic Pain

(08:37) - Vibrators for Pleasure and Medical Use

(09:59) - Men's Health: Devices for Erectile Dysfunction and Prostate Health

(12:47) - The Importance of Regular Orgasms

(20:27) - Addressing Painful Sex for Women 36:14 Future Innovations: Period and Breast Pain Devices

(41:01) - The Role of Content in Sexual Health Awareness

(43:28) - Conclusion and Final Thoughts

Dr. Soum Rakshit, FIET, FRSA is the Co-Founder & CEO of MysteryVibe. He did his PhD in Biomedical Engineering and created a startup in eye recognition which was acquired by a US defence company. He then spent 7 years in management consulting on large technology projects. In 2014 Soum started MysteryVibe to bring defense electronics and medical expertise together and create devices that solve big topics in sexual health in an accessible way.

Check out Mystery Vibe

Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

In this podcast episode, I dive into my own experiences with dating apps and the journey to change my patterns—moving from an anxious attachment style to a healthier, self-assured approach. 

Women often worry about whether he’ll call or text again, and sometimes settle for less than they deserve. It's easy to latch onto someone just because they're available, but true connection goes deeper. Here’s what we explore in this episode:

• The importance of self-worth in attracting the right partner
• Navigating the dance of early dating and managing initial attractions
• How clear communication—both emotional and sexual—can build a stronger relationship

The key takeaway is to focus on what you truly value and deserve. Open up those lines of communication, both in your daily interactions and in bed. Let's break the cycle of settling and find connections that truly matter.

Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

In this episode, I explain the differences between bioidentical, synthetic, and natural hormones and various hormone delivery methods. I highlight the benefits of hormone therapy for managing menopausal symptoms and long-term health. The episode aims to provide women with the knowledge needed to navigate hormone therapy and improve their quality of life during menopause.

(01:49) Understanding Hormone Therapy

(05:03) Bioidentical vs. Synthetic Hormones

(06:41) Compounded Hormones: Risks and Considerations

(10:32) The Importance of Proper Hormone Therapy

(12:19) Topical Estrogen

Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

Have you ever wondered what sex really means? This spring, I attended the Association of Sex Educators, Coaches, Counselors, and Therapists conference in St. Louis. I met remarkable professionals dedicated to fostering a more sex-positive world. Curious, I asked 24 of these experts—from sex therapists to professional cuddlers—what their definition of sex is.

Interestingly, "sex" means something different to everyone. From a sacred energy exchange vital to life to wonder, creativity, and lust all bundled in one. One interviewee emphasizes that sex transcends the physical—it's about identity, intimacy, and respectful connection, always with consent.

Join me as we dive deep into what "sex" means through a rich tapestry of perspectives.

Check out this episode where we discuss:

- The expanded definitions of sex beyond the physical act

- The importance of consent and respect in sexual encounters

- How pleasure, creativity, and curiosity define sex for different individuals

Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

Jump into a riveting conversation that breaks down misconceptions and tackles the universal challenges of dating and sex in midlife. In this episode, I sit down with Alyssa Dineen, a renowned dating coach, stylist, and author, as she shares her journey of rediscovery post-divorce. From navigating the intimidating world of online dating to revealing personal stories of "losing her second virginity," Alyssa’s candid dialogue is both inspiring and downright hilarious.  

Check out this episode where we discuss:

• Navigating the hurdles of online dating post-divorce 
• Dealing with sexual insecurities and STDs 
• Embracing intimacy and redefining personal boundaries in midlife

Join us as we dig deep into these crucial talks. Alyssa’s experiences highlight how courage, honesty, and a bit of humor can make rediscovering oneself a transformative journey. We’ll strip away the taboos and bring open-hearted discussions to the forefront.  

Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

This episode is a replay of one of our most popular episodes since launching last September.

In this episode, I delve into non-monogamy, a topic stirring a lot of curiosity, especially among those in long-term relationships. I discuss what non-monogamy is, various forms it can take, like swinging and polyamory, and how it might either revitalize or challenge your relationship. This isn't an endorsement of any lifestyle but rather an exploration of different relationship paradigms. If you’re curious and have questions, head over to my website and use the form to ask me anonymously. 

Our discussion also ventures into the historical context of monogamy, the evolving roles within relationships, and the importance of trust and communication when considering non-monogamy. It’s crucial to ensure both partners are secure and comfortable with this choice. Whether you're in a long-term commitment looking to spice things up or simply exploring options, join me with your favorite drink, put me on speaker, and let’s break the silence together. Remember, it’s okay to ask and discuss these topics openly.

Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

Embarking on my journey back into dating and relationships after my marriage ended taught me hard but valuable lessons about intimacy and self-worth. From the initial thrill of sexual liberation to the heart-wrenching lows of rejection, I learned the importance of knowing myself and my emotional needs.

Whether you’re navigating menopause, exploring new relationships, or just trying to understand your body better, it’s crucial to communicate openly and find what truly brings you joy and fulfillment. Join me in breaking the silence and embracing the beauty of midlife sexuality—grab your favorite drink, put me on speaker, and let’s dive in.

(00:00) Introduction to The Taboo to Truth Podcast

(00:47) Karen's Personal Journey

(02:43) Navigating New Relationships

(03:58) Understanding Sexual Needs and Communication

(08:04) Emotional Impact of Intimacy

(11:06) Learning from Heartbreak

(12:55) Self-Discovery and Growth

(19:01) Final Thoughts and Encouragement

(20:56) Closing Remarks

Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

Reflecting on my journey, I've covered an array of topics—from orgasms, UTIs, and hormone therapy to interviewing incredible experts like Dr. Alyssa Dweck and Dr. Mohit Khera about sexual dysfunction and menopause. I've tackled tough subjects like consensual non-monogamy, polyamory, BDSM, and sexual health at different life stages. Your interest and trust drive me, whether I'm in a bar hearing someone's personal story or answering your questions anonymously on the show.

As I take a short break to prepare for season three, please keep sending your questions and reviews. This milestone and every episode is dedicated to opening up crucial conversations, helping us all feel less alone and more empowered in our sexual health and identities.  

(00:00) Welcome to the 50th Episode Celebration!

(00:11) Reflecting on the Journey

(01:18) Season Highlights and Personal Growth

(02:32) The Importance of S3x Positivity

(03:14) Addressing Menopause and S3xual Health

(04:11) Support for Men's S3xual Health

(04:40) Breaking the Taboo: Talking About S3x

(05:35) Exciting Plans for Season Three

(06:13) Engage with the Community

Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

In this special bonus episode, I'm excited to announce our move to Tuesday releases while treating listeners to essential tips for creating meaningful solo sex experiences. As your host and Certified Sex Educator& Menopause Coach, I dive into the art of self-pleasure, sharing practical advice for creating the perfect environment and mindset. Whether you're single or partnered, these intimate moments of self-discovery can enhance your overall sexual experience and deepen your connection with your own body. This quick-hit episode delivers valuable insights for making your solo adventures more fulfilling and pleasurable.

Timestamps

(00:00) - Introduction

(00:46) - Schedule change announcement

(01:15) - Creating the perfect environment

(02:30) - Exploring toys and pleasure tools

(03:15) - Mindful body awareness techniques

(04:00) - Using audio and visual resources

(05:16) - Closing thoughts and next episode

Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.

In this episode, I'm joined by Jennifer Rahner, a certified sexologist and sexuality educator who is transforming the conversation around sexuality with her authentic and vulnerable approach.  We delved into her journey from a 25-year career in IT to becoming a sex educator inspired by listening to Dr. Ruth as a teenager.

Jennifer shared how she rediscovered her passion for sexuality at 45 and her transformative experiences with workshops led by Betty Dodson, a renowned sexuality educator focused on masturbation and pleasure. Jennifer candidly talked about how she teaches classes such as "Anatomy of Pleasure" to offer the sex education many didn’t receive, especially emphasizing the importance of understanding vulva anatomy.

We also discussed how she manages to balance her polyamorous lifestyle with her family life, the importance of open communication in relationships, and the societal pressures around monogamy. Through her work, Jennifer helps people feel less alone in their sexual experiences, encouraging open dialogue and self-exploration to foster a fulfilling sexual life at any age.

(01:15) Meet Jennifer Rainer: A Journey into Sexuality

(02:11) Discovering a New Path

(04:27)The Influence of Betty Dodson

(05:38) Understanding Body Sex Workshops

(08:13) The Anatomy of Pleasure

(09:20) Exploring Squirting and Female Ejaculation

(20:29) The Importance of Sexual Communication

(23:48) Navigating Communication in Relationships

(25:03) Exploring Polyamory and Open Relationships

(28:53) Introducing Non-Monogamy to Family

(34:36) Challenges and Misconceptions of Polyamory

(39:33) Embracing Sexuality in Midlife

(42:29) Defining Sex and Finding Pleasure

Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

Dirty talk in the bedroom might not be everyone's cup of tea, yet it's a powerful tool for staying present during sex. Women tend to get lost in their thoughts, worrying about whether their partner is getting bored or if they're taking too long to reach orgasm, which can detract from the pleasure of the experience.

The same goes for men, particularly those dealing with erectile dysfunction, who might find their performance anxiety worsened by overthinking. In a previous episode, I discussed the importance of pleasure and touch, in this episode, I'm suggesting we engage our minds differently through dirty talk.

It doesn't have to be offensive or crass; it can be sweet and subtle, starting with something as simple as sexting to build anticipation for your next intimate moment together.

Disclaimer: This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your medical provider.

Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

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Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? I'd love to talk to your audience about it! You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

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https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

I had the great pleasure of welcoming Dr. Bat Sheva Marcus, certified sex therapist, and the author of "Satisfaction Guaranteed: How to Have the Sex You've Always Wanted," to the show. Bat Sheva has dedicated her career to empowering women to find pleasure in their bodies and spirit by combining medical and psychological approaches to women's sexual health. Having met Bat Sheva years ago when she was my doctor, I credit her with starting me on my journey to openly discuss sexuality, a topic often shrouded in silence.

Our conversation delved into the complexities of maintaining a healthy sex life, especially as we age and navigate the inevitable changes that come with long-term relationships. Batsheva emphasized the importance of debunking myths around sex, advocating for a proactive approach to addressing sexual issues, rather than succumbing to the hopelessness that can arise when sex and intimacy issues remain unaddressed.

We discussed how societal expectations and personal experiences shape our understanding of sex, highlighting the need for communication and effort in rekindling intimacy. Addressing sexual challenges requires acknowledging that sex and relationship dynamics can evolve, emphasizing that solutions are often within reach with the right guidance and willingness to explore. Through our discussion, it became clear that addressing sexual health is not just about enhancing personal relationships but also about fostering a deeper sense of self-awareness and satisfaction.

(00:00) Introduction: Embracing the Awkwardness in Sex

(00:29) Welcome to the Taboo to Truth Podcast

(01:30) Meet Batsheva Marcus: Expert in Women's Sexual Health

(03:33) The Dynamic Nature of Sex Life

(06:30) Addressing Sexual Issues in Long-Term Relationships

(17:03) The Importance of Scheduling Sex

(26:22) Prepping for Great Sex

(27:10) The Role of Fantasy in Sexual Arousal

(28:26) Understanding Neuroplasticity and Sexual Desire

(29:05) The Importance of Hormones in Libido

(32:00) Navigating Non-Monogamy in Relationships

(35:28) Exploring Kink in Long-Term Relationships

(41:11) Addressing Sexual Shame and Openness

(46:21) Defining Sex and Its Boundaries

Learn more about Dr. Bat Sheva Marcus here

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Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

Disclaimer: This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your medical provider.

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Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? I'd love to talk to your audience about it! You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

⁠⁠⁠https://www.taboototruth.com/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

In this episode, Kate Pozenik, Founder of Quirk Personal Branding and Career Consulting, interviewed me -  Spilling the Tea for Career Success. I'm thrilled to dive into an enlightening conversation with you all about midlife transitions, sexuality, and breaking down the taboos surrounding menopause.

My journey has been anything but linear, starting my career as a computer programmer and navigating through various roles before landing where I am today. It's this winding path, filled with its share of transitions and transformations, that has ignited my passion for empowering women and fostering open conversations about the real changes we face as we age.

We explore not just the challenges but also the opportunities that come with life's transitions. Whether it's career shifts, changes in our personal lives, or the physical and emotional evolution during menopause, I believe there's power in sharing our stories and learning from each other. I've personally experienced the roller coaster of reinventing myself professionally while also embracing the changes my body and mind have undergone through menopause. It's my hope that by spilling the tea on these often whispered-about topics, we can all feel a little less alone and a bit more empowered to tackle whatever comes our way.

Find Kate here.

Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

Disclaimer: this podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your medical provider.

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Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? I'd love to talk to your audience about it! You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

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I had the pleasure of speaking with Alycia Williams, a sex and relationship therapist with a wealth of experience and a unique perspective rooted in her own background and professional journey. Alycia's insights into the complexity of human sexuality, the importance of self-acceptance, and the transformative power of therapy were both enlightening and inspiring. Her approach, emphasizing personal growth, open communication, and the celebration of individuality within relationships, resonated deeply with me.

This interview is a reminder of the beauty in embracing our own stories and the potential for growth and connection when we approach our relationships and ourselves with curiosity and compassion.

Alycia's work, particularly in the realms of sex therapy and navigating non-traditional relationship dynamics, challenges societal norms and encourages a more inclusive and understanding perspective on love and desire. Her ability to foster a safe space for exploration and her commitment to educating and empowering others is truly admirable. I am reminded of the importance of continuing to learn and grow, both personally and professionally, and the value of conversations like these.

You can find Alycia here.

Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

Disclaimer: this podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your medical provider.

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Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? I'd love to talk to your audience about it! You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

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In today's conversation, I delve into the importance of addressing our sexual health, a critical aspect often relegated to the background due to various reasons such as hormonal changes, lack of a partner, or societal embarrassment. It's crucial to understand that sexual wellness is integral to our overall health, yet it's frequently overlooked or left until the last minute to discuss with healthcare providers. I've observed a common thread in conversations, regardless of gender, revealing a widespread hesitancy to talk about sexual health, often due to misinformation or discomfort.

It's essential to break this silence, as untreated sexual health issues can significantly impact our quality of life. I urge you to reach out to me with your questions, no matter how embarrassing they may seem. By sharing our experiences and seeking advice, we can destigmatize these discussions, ensuring a fulfilling sexual life that contributes to our overall well-being.

Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

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Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? I'd love to talk to your audience about it! You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

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In this episode, I had the pleasure of chatting with my friend CJ. CJ opened up about her journey from being in long-term monogamous relationships, including a ten-year marriage that ended due to intimacy mismatches, to exploring an open relationship with her husband. She shared the challenges and discoveries she faced while venturing into online dating, embracing her bis$xual identity, and ultimately finding fulfillment in an open, kink-friendly relationship.

CJ's story is a testament to the importance of self-worth, setting boundaries, and the transformative power of exploring one's desires and needs without shame. We delved into the complexities of navigating non-monogamous relationships, the significance of communication and boundaries, and how these experiences have enriched her life and marriage.

Now a certified life and sex coach, CJ, emphasizes the importance of destigmatizing sexual exploration and encourages others, especially women over 40, to embrace their desires boldly and without shame. Her journey is not just about the pursuit of sexual fulfillment but a deeper understanding of self-love, partnership, and the myriad ways in which we can connect with others. Her insights and experiences are a valuable resource for anyone curious about or actively exploring non-monogamy, kink, and personal growth.

You can find CJ here.

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Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

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Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? I'd love to talk to your audience about it! You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

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In today's episode, I'm diving into polyamory, a lifestyle choice centered around engaging in consensual relationships with multiple partners. Polyamory, a blend of 'poly' meaning many and 'amor' for love, manifests in various forms, including hierarchical polyamory, where a primary relationship takes precedence over others, and non-hierarchical relationships, where all partners are considered equal.

The essence of polyamory lies in the mutual consent and agreement on the terms of the relationship, which distinguishes it from infidelity. It’s a path that requires open communication and a clear understanding of the guidelines everyone involved agrees to follow. Navigating polyamorous relationships can be complex, involving not just sexual connections but emotional ones that demand a high level of understanding and constant communication to manage potential jealousy and ensure the relationship's health.

Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

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Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? I'd love to talk to your audience about it! You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

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In this episode, I had the pleasure of speaking with Todd "Max" Carey, a director and filmmaker who has delved into the intriguing world of kink and BDSM through his latest documentary. Todd shared his insights on the complexity and fluidity of human sexuality, emphasizing kink as an umbrella term that encompasses a diverse range of practices and preferences, many of which are becoming increasingly mainstream. 

In our conversation, Todd challenged conventional labels, advocating for a more nuanced understanding of our desires and the roles we play in our intimate encounters. Todd's journey into the kink community revealed a profound sense of community and communication, underscoring the importance of consent and mutual respect in all forms of sexual expression. We also touched upon the transformative power of kink for individuals, including those working through trauma, and the potential for creativity and innovation in personal relationships.

Todd "Max" Carey is an award-winning film producer and director making documentary films that explore the hidden and fascinating aspects of human nature. Learn more about "touch Kink" the documentary here.

Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

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Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? I'd love to talk to your audience about it! You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

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Recently, Bumble faced backlash for their ad campaign, with slogans that seemed to undervalue personal choices about dating and celibacy, sparking questions about the role of dating apps in modern society. As someone deeply engaged with Bumble and Hinge, I've noticed a shift. It used to be easier to transition from matching to meeting in person, but now it feels like connections are less serious. This change has led me to ponder if the effectiveness or appeal of dating apps is diminishing.

In this episode I peel back the layers on:

• The shifting dynamics of dating apps like Bumble and Hinge.
• The quest for genuine connections amidst AI's rise.
• Innovations we crave for deeper, real-life engagements.

Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

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Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? I'd love to talk to your audience about it! You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

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In today's episode, I sat down with Dr. Emily Jamea, sex and relationship therapist and host of the Love and Libido podcast. We dove deep into her groundbreaking research on the connection between flow states and sexual satisfaction, which forms the foundation of her new book "Anatomy of Five Secrets to Create Connection and Cultivate Passion." Dr. Jamea shared her innovative approach to helping couples enhance their intimate relationships, revealing how the five secrets - sensuality, curiosity, adaptability, vulnerability, and attunement - can transform ordinary sexual experiences into extraordinary ones. Her fresh perspective on sexual wellness challenges traditional narratives about midlife sexuality, offering hope and practical guidance for couples at any life stage.

Timestamps

(00:00) - Introduction

(01:05) - Meet Dr. Emily Jamea

(03:06) - Moving Beyond "Dysfunction" Language

(07:04) - Gender and Desire in Midlife

(15:54) - The Five Secrets Framework Revealed

(20:32) - Understanding the Phases of Sexual Connection

(24:21) - Single Life and Relationship Readiness

(27:35) - Lifelong Sexuality

Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.

Find Dr. Emily Jamea here:

https://emilyjamea.com/

https://emilyjamea.com/love-libido-podcast/

Instagram: @dremilyjamea

LI: https://www.linkedin.com/in/dremilyjamea/

FB https://www.facebook.com/dremilyjamea

Pre-order book: https://emilyjamea.com/anatomy-of-desire/

In this episode, I explore the multifaceted world of sexology and the importance of finding the right professional to address sexual health and intimacy issues with Sex Counselor, Heather Howard, PhD, MPH. We delved into the differences between sex therapists, counselors, sexological bodyworkers, and surrogate partners, highlighting the significance of their roles in helping individuals and couples navigate sexual challenges.

This was an eye-opening conversation. We talked about the diverse approaches and ethical considerations within this field, underscoring the importance of a nonjudgmental, informed, and supportive environment for addressing sexual concerns.

Navigating the world of sexual health and intimacy can sometimes feel daunting, especially when trying to find the right support. The insights from our discussion serve as a reminder that it's okay to shop around for a provider who makes you feel understood and respected. Whether you're dealing with the aftermath of a divorce, exploring new aspects of your sexuality, or facing sexual health challenges, the key takeaway is that you're not alone, and there's professional help available.

(01:20) What is Sexology?

(07:01) Sexuality Counselor vs. a Sex Therapist

(17:46) What happens in your session?

(19:52) Treating painful sex in your sessions-an action plan

(27:16) What is you're single and have issues with sex?

(32:20) Touch vs. Hands-off sex therapy

(42:23) What qualifications should you look for in a sexology professional?

(48:09) When should you see a sexology professional?

(51:40) The key to finding the right professional

Find Heather Howard

Instagram @drheatherhoward

@ergoerotics

https://heatherhoward.com/

Ergoerotics: https://ergoerotics.com/product/video-strategies-for-comfortable-pleasure/

Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

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Disclaimer: this podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your medical provider

In today's episode, I'm diving into the world of kink, a term that captures a broad spectrum of activities beyond the conventional or "vanilla" intimate practices. Kink isn't just about the extreme of dungeons and dramatic scenarios; it's fundamentally about venturing into desires that stray from one's usual experiences, which could be as straightforward as altering the ambiance with different lighting.

Within this realm, BDSM stands out as a notable subset, encompassing bondage and discipline, dominance and submission, and sadomasochism. Many people find kink a playful and explorative outlet, a healthy way to relieve stress, and an avenue for fostering deep trust and communication with their partners.

This journey into understanding kink and BDSM invites us to broaden our perspective on the diversity of human pleasure and the ways in which adults can engage in consensual, informed, and joyful exploration.

Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

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Have a burning question or topic suggestion? karen@taboototruth.com ⁠⁠⁠https://www.taboototruth.com/⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast *this podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your medical provider

In part 2 of my interview with Dr Staci Gruber, we delved into the complexities of cannabis use, including its potential for addiction, known formally as Cannabis Use Disorder (CUD). We also touched upon the evolution of cannabis potency over the years, with today's products containing much higher THC levels than those from decades ago, raising the stakes in the risk-benefit analysis of cannabis consumption.

The conversation further explored the medical applications of cannabis, highlighting its utility in managing pain, sleep disorders, and other health issues. The conversation also ventured into the areas of women's health, underscoring the lack of research and the growing interest in cannabis for managing conditions like endometriosis and menopause symptoms. It was a reminder of the importance of being an informed consumer, understanding the goal of your cannabis use, and ensuring the safety and efficacy of the products you choose.

Our dialogue underscored the evolving landscape of cannabis use and research, highlighting the need for more education and open conversations between consumers and healthcare providers to navigate the complexities of cannabis as both a medicinal and recreational substance.

Watch the full episode here. About Dr. Gruber Dr. Staci Gruber is the Director of the Cognitive and Clinical Neuroimaging Core at McLean Hospital’s Brain Imaging Center and an Associate Professor of Psychiatry at Harvard Medical School. Dr. Gruber’s research focuses on the application of neurocognitive models and brain imaging to characterize risk factors for substance abuse and psychiatric conditions. Dr. Gruber launched Marijuana Investigations for Neuroscientific Discovery (MIND) in 2014, the first-ever program of its kind designed to clarify the long-term impact of medical cannabis use.

Dr. Gruber also launched the Women’s Health Initiative at MIND, or WHIM, the first cannabis-focused program designed specifically to address women’s health and disorders that disproportionately affect women as well as some transgender and non-binary individuals.

Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

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Disclaimer: This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your medical provider.

In today's episode, part 1 of 2, I had the pleasure of welcoming Dr. Stacey Gruber, a renowned expert in the field of cannabis research and its implications on mental health and substance abuse.

One of the most compelling parts of our conversation revolved around personal experiences with cannabis, including my own. Dr. Gruber eloquently addressed the challenges and misconceptions surrounding cannabis use for medical purposes, emphasizing the importance of finding the right product and dosage to suit individual needs and conditions. She also touched on the potential benefits of cannabis in enhancing sexual health and wellbeing, a topic that resonates with many yet often goes unexplored.

Dr. Gruber's work is not just about cannabis; it's about opening doors to new forms of treatment that could revolutionize how we approach mental health and wellness. Her dedication to advancing our understanding of cannabis and its potential benefits is truly inspiring, leaving me eager to learn more about how this plant could impact our lives in positive ways. *watch the full episode here

About Dr. Gruber

Dr. Staci Gruber is the Director of the Cognitive and Clinical Neuroimaging Core at McLean Hospital’s Brain Imaging Center and an Associate Professor of Psychiatry at Harvard Medical School. Dr. Gruber’s research focuses on the application of neurocognitive models and brain imaging to characterize risk factors for substance abuse and psychiatric conditions.

Dr. Gruber launched Marijuana Investigations for Neuroscientific Discovery (MIND) in 2014, the first-ever program of its kind designed to clarify the long-term impact of medical cannabis use.

Dr. Gruber also launched the Women’s Health Initiative at MIND, or WHIM, the first cannabis-focused program designed specifically to address women’s health and disorders that disproportionately affect women as well as some transgender and non-binary individuals.

Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

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Have a burning question or topic suggestion? karen@taboototruth.com ⁠⁠⁠https://www.taboototruth.com/⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth⁠⁠⁠ https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast *this podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your medical provider.

In this episode, I delve into the complex world of gender and sexuality, acknowledging the vast array of terminology that exists today compared to the simpler times of my youth. I explore the distinctions between identity, expression, gender, and sexual orientation, emphasizing that these aspects of ourselves are not always aligned.

I introduce concepts such as the Genderbread Person to illustrate the differences between sex, gender expression, sexual attraction, and identity. I also share insights on how societal norms have evolved to recognize not only the binary of male and female but also the spectrum that includes intersex, transgender, and non-binary identities, highlighting the importance of understanding and respecting each individual's unique experience.

I hope to open minds and foster a deeper understanding of the fluidity and diversity within human sexuality and gender identity. I acknowledge that this episode merely scratches the surface of a vast topic and that language and labels continue to evolve. I aim to promote empathy and inclusivity, inviting listeners to embrace the complexity of human identity with an open heart and mind.

Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

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Have a burning question or topic suggestion? karen@taboototruth.com ⁠⁠⁠https://www.taboototruth.com/⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast *this podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your medical provider

In this episode, I had the pleasure of speaking with Dr. Alyssa Dweck, a seasoned gynecologist and chief medical officer of Bonafide Health, whose expertise in female sexual health and menopause offers invaluable insights.

Dr. Dweck shared with us the common sexual health challenges women face, especially during menopause, such as sexual pain, diminished libido, and the impact of medical issues on sexual function. She emphasized the importance of open communication with healthcare providers and highlighted non-hormonal treatments like vaginal moisturizers and lubricants as game-changers for women experiencing vaginal dryness.

Dr. Dweck's approach to addressing these sensitive issues with compassion and evidence-based solutions truly resonated with me, reinforcing the message that women do not have to navigate these challenges alone. We also delved into the realm of hormone therapy and its misconceptions, particularly the nuanced conversation around vaginal estrogen and systemic hormone therapy.

**Please note that this podcast episode is not intended to give medical advice. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your medical provider.

About Dr. Dweck: Dr. Alyssa Dweck, MS, MD, FACOG is the Chief Medical Officer at Bonafide Health, LLC. She is a practicing gynecologist in Westchester County, New York, provides care to women of all ages and has delivered thousands of babies. A graduate of Barnard College, she has a Masters Degree in Human Nutrition from Columbia University and her Medical Degree from Hahnemann University School of Medicine in Philadelphia, now named Drexel University. Dr. Dweck trained at Lankenau Medical Center Wynnewood, Pennsylvania, where she was Chief Resident in 1994. For more information visit: https://hellobonafide.com/blogs/authors/alyssa-dweck https://hellobonafide.com/

Email: doctordweck@gmail.com 

Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

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Online dating is the way for people of all ages to meet today, though it comes with its own set of challenges and rewards. The variety of dating apps available allows you to find one that aligns with your values and lifestyle, whether that's based on religion, interests, or relationship goals.

It's crucial to approach these platforms with a sense of authenticity and honesty, both in how you present yourself and in what you expect from others. In this episode I discuss my experience navigating the apps, the first dates and the next ones, communicating on dates, and boundries and red flags to consider.

Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

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Have a burning question or topic suggestion? karen@taboototruth.com ⁠⁠⁠https://www.taboototruth.com/⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth⁠⁠⁠ https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast *this podcast is not intended to give medical advice.

Disclaimer: Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your medical provider

In this episode I had the privilege of speaking with Dr. Rachel Rubin, a highly respected urologist and sexual medicine specialist known for her comprehensive approach to sexual health across all genders.

Dr. Rubin enlightened us on the vital connection between urology and sexual function, emphasizing the importance of understanding our bodies' anatomy and physiology to address sexual health issues effectively.

She shared her passion for educating both the public and healthcare professionals on the complexities of sexual medicine, underscoring the need for better sexual education and the removal of stigma from conversations about sexual health. It was an eye-opening discussion that challenged many preconceived notions about sexual wellness and the critical role of specialized care in improving quality of life.

I was particularly moved by Dr. Rubin's insights into the challenges faced by individuals seeking help for sexual dysfunction, highlighting the gaps in knowledge among general practitioners and the importance of advocating for one's sexual health. Her stories of empowering patients to communicate their needs and desires resonated deeply with me, reminding us all of the power of education and open dialogue.

Dr. Rubin's work not only offers hope to those struggling with sexual health issues but also calls for a broader societal shift towards embracing sexual health as an integral part of overall well-being. Her dedication to advancing sexual medicine and her advocacy for comprehensive sexual education are truly inspiring, making her one of my sheroes in the field.

Full video episode available: https://youtu.be/abpTfFYQAmc

Where to find Dr. Rubin: https://www.rachelrubinmd.com/ Instagram: @drrachelrubin Recommended reading: Vagina Obscura by Rachel E. GrossEstrogen Matters by  Avrum Bluming & Carol Travis

Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

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Have a burning question or topic suggestion? karen@taboototruth.com ⁠⁠⁠https://www.taboototruth.com/⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠Youtube @taboototruthpodcast⁠⁠⁠

Disclaimer: This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your medical provider.

In this episode, I'm opening up about a topic that's often whispered about but rarely spoken out loud: mismatched libidos. I'll share with you my thoughts and experiences on the lack of sexual desire—whether it's something that can be revived or an intrinsic part of someone's being.

I talk abut strategies for finding what gets you in the mood, and how to communicate these needs to your partner. Whether it's setting a romantic scene or experimenting with new forms of foreplay, finding the key to your desire can be a rewarding journey. Let's get comfortable and start the conversation on making our sex lives as fulfilling as they can be.

Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

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Have a burning question or topic suggestion? karen@taboototruth.com ⁠⁠⁠https://www.taboototruth.com/⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@taboototruth⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠Youtube @taboototruthpodcast⁠⁠⁠

Disclaimer: This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your medical provider.

Embark on a journey to redefine what it means to have truly mind-blowing sex in this eye-opening episode. In this episode I confront the traditional script of sexual encounters and propose a more expansive and satisfying approach.

It's a candid talk about the nuances of desire, the rhythm of sexual compatibility, and the profound role of intellectual connection in physical intimacy. Discover the transformative power of slowing down, the art of anticipation, and the joy of exploring your partner's body and mind in ways that defy convention.

If you're ready to turn the page on your sex life and embark on a path to pleasure that’s as mentally engaging as it is physical, this is the discussion you need to hear.

Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

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Disclaimer: This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your medical provider.

In this episode of Taboo to Truth, I dive into some of the most important topics surrounding midlife: menopause, Sexual Health, and personal growth. As I share my experiences of becoming a certified Sexual Health Educator and Menopause Coach, I talk about the physical and emotional changes that come with menopause and how they impact our overall well-being.

Timestamps:

(00:00) – Menopause: How Hormones Affect Every System in the Body

(00:57) – Introduction to the Taboo to Truth Podcast

(02:10) – Becoming a Certified Sexual Health Educator and Menopause Coach

(04:30) – Physical Symptoms of Menopause: What to Expect

(06:45) – You’re Not Alone: Encouragement for Navigating Menopause

(08:00) – The Importance of Sexual Health for Overall Well-Being

(09:30) – Exploring New Sexual Experiences and Breaking the Vanilla Routine

(11:15) – Personal Reflections: Dating Apps, Relationships, and Lessons Learned

(13:20) – What’s Next: Upcoming Guests and Topics to Look Forward To

Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.

Diving into the depths of communication within the context of consensual non-monogamy, this episode revisits the essential conversations that can either make or break the dynamic of a long-term relationship.

I discuss the complexities CNM it entails, especially when considering introducing such a concept into a relationship. The episode provides listeners with the tools to initiate a dialogue with their partner, highlighting the successful journey of couples like Britta and Gary (Episode 28) who navigated these waters before, the art of communication, advising against starting with negatives and instead, fostering a supportive and loving atmosphere. In the end, the message is clear: broaching the subject of spicing up one's intimacy should be done with care and should never be confined to the bedroom.

Love is the starting point, and from there, the possibilities for growth and excitement in the relationship are endless.

Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

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Have a burning question or topic suggestion? karen@taboototruth.com ⁠⁠⁠https://www.taboototruth.com/⁠⁠⁠

⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth⁠⁠⁠

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Disclaimer: This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your medical provider.

I'm honored to host Dr. Mohit Khera, a world-renowned expert on male sexual dysfunction. Dr. Khera brings his vast experience to the table, discussing the sensitive issue of sexual health with compassion and understanding. We take a deep dive into how modern medicine is transforming the way we approach and treat conditions such as erectile dysfunction, discussing both traditional and cutting-edge treatments that are giving new hope to many.

The episode also explores the often-overlooked emotional and psychological dimensions of sexual dysfunction. Dr. Khera gives his expert advice on the importance of a supportive partnership and the benefits of a comprehensive treatment plan that includes both medical and lifestyle interventions.

For anyone affected by or interested in male sexual health, this episode is an invaluable resource, offering hope, enlightenment, and practical guidance from one of the leading voices in the field.

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Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

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Have a burning question or topic suggestion? karen@taboototruth.com ⁠⁠⁠https://www.taboototruth.com/

⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Youtube @taboototruthpodcast⁠⁠⁠

Disclaimer: This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your medical provider. 

In this episode, I bring you an intimate conversation with Britta and Gary, a couple whose decision to open up their marriage invites us all to rethink what commitment looks like. They offer a candid look into the decision-making process behind adopting a lifestyle of ethical non-monogamy and the profound dialogues that supported their transition.

Britta and Gary pull back the curtain on the complexities they faced, such as handling jealousy, maintaining open lines of communication, and the enriched sexual connection that followed. Their story is one of bravery, love, and the continuous evolution of a relationship that refuses to be boxed in by societal standards. This episode is a must-listen for anyone curious about or considering an open marriage, as it challenges preconceived notions about love, sex, and partnership.

Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

Have a burning question or topic suggestion? karen@taboototruth.com ⁠⁠⁠https://www.taboototruth.com

/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Youtube @taboototruthpodcast⁠⁠⁠

Disclaimer: This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your medical provider.

In this episode, I explore the concept of consensual non-monogamy, contemplating its role as an alternative relationship paradigm. I examine the failure rates of traditional marriages and question the sustainability of monogamy as a one-size-fits-all model.

Historical perspectives are considered, highlighting the evolution of women's societal roles and the contractual origins of marriage, which reveal a very different picture compared to modern romantic ideals. I also share insights into the gradual shift towards non-monogamous relationships, particularly among the younger demographic, and reflect on the reasons behind this shift.

This episode is not an endorsement but rather an exploration of the various forms non-monogamy can take, from swinging to polyamory, and the potential benefits and challenges each presents. It's a candid discussion about the possibility of redefining relationships to fit the complexities of modern life and individual needs.

Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

Have a burning question or topic suggestion? karen@taboototruth.com ⁠⁠https://www.taboototruth.com/⁠⁠

⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth⁠⁠⁠⁠

⁠⁠⁠⁠Youtube @taboototruthpodcast⁠⁠

Disclaimer: This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your medical provider.

In this episode, I sit down with the renowned mediator and family attorney Susan Guthrie, who brings over three decades of experience in the intricacies of marriage, divorce, and everything in between.

Susan's unique approach to marital issues through mediation has breathed new life into long-term relationships that seemed to be at a crossroads. She shares her wisdom on how couples can legally redefine their relationships, open up dialogues on intimacy, and why a "marital mediation" could be the saving grace your relationship needs. We dive into an in-depth discussion about the unspoken challenges many couples face after years of marriage.

Susan provides us with real-world examples of how changing the dynamics of a relationship, with the help of legal contracts, can lead to a more fulfilling partnership. If you're considering a change in your marital life or simply looking for ways to spark new life into your relationship, this episode offers a wealth of knowledge, practical advice, and the possibility that love, indeed, can evolve with time.

About Susan Guthrie, Esq.  Susan Guthrie, nationally recognized as one of the Top Family Law Attorneys and Mediators in the country, has been helping individuals and families navigate separation and divorce for more than 30 years. Susan provides online divorce and legal coaching services to select clients around the world.

As a leading dispute resolution professional, Susan is honored to serve on the Executive Council of the American Bar Association’s (ABA) Section of Dispute Resolution as the Budget Officer and to be a Co-Chair of the Advanced Mediation Institute.

https://www.instagram.com/susanguthrieesq/

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Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

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Have a burning question or topic suggestion? karen@taboototruth.com ⁠⁠https://www.taboototruth.com/⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@taboototruth⁠⁠⁠⁠Youtube @taboototruthpodcast⁠⁠

Disclaimer: This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your medical provider.

In today's episode, I'm sliding into an in-depth conversation about why lube is the unsung hero of sexual health. Whether you're facing the dry spells of menopause or just looking to add some extra glide to your intimate times, I'm here to demystify lubricants. It's a candid discussion about the body's needs and the simple ways lube can address them. Get ready to lubricate your knowledge with my comprehensive guide to choosing the right lube for your body.

I'll explain why common household oils are a definite 'don't' and discuss how the wrong products can disrupt your body's delicate balance. From the science behind water-based lubricants to the long-lasting benefits of silicone-based options, I'm sure you'll be equipped with the information you need to make informed decisions.

Tune in as we share pro tips on maintaining your body's health while maximizing pleasure. Let's make friction a fiction and find your perfect match in the world of lubricants.

Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

In this episode, I delve into the complexities of sex in midlife and navigating the waters of getting intimate and the often unspoken trials of dating during menopause. I am thrilled to have Alyssa Dineen, founder of Style My Profile, join us.

Alyssa shares her journey through divorce at 41 and the rediscovery of self as she ventured into the world of online dating. We get candid about the realities of dating post-divorce, the hilarity of trying to find a sexual partner, and the intricacies of managing expectations and self-perception when it comes to menopause and sexual health. Alyssa’s approach to styling not only changes profiles but also changes lives by fostering confidence in the dating scene.

From discussing the importance of protection and STD conversations to embracing sexuality at any age, Alyssa's insights are as refreshing as they are invaluable. If you're navigating the dating world in midlife or just looking for a relatable conversation on modern love, this episode is not to be missed.

As a fashion editor turned stylist and art director, she brings a unique perspective to the table, transforming the online dating experience by empowering individuals to take charge of their dating profiles. With her expertise, Alyssa has garnered attention from The New York Times, The Today Show, and Oprah Daily, among others, and has recently published a book titled "The Art of Online Dating."

Find Alyssa on her website, stylemyprofilenyc.com, or follow her journey on Instagram @AlyssaDineen and @StyleMyProfileNYC.

Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

In this episode, I'm getting personal about pubic hair—yes, the unsung hero of our nether regions. It's more than just hair; it's a natural barrier that keeps moisture and microscopic debris at bay. Remember the episode on the glorious clitoris, exclusively devoted to pleasure?

Well, pubic hair also plays its part in the sensory experience, with each tug awakening those delicate touch receptors. I discovered that even in ancient Egypt, pubic hair was not only represented artistically but also groomed for reasons beyond aesthetics, like preventing lice.

Fast forward to today, and the practice of hair removal has evolved into a statement of beauty and status. From chafing to increasing STI chances, it's a delicate balance. So, I'm here to share my candid experiences and to remind you that whether you wax, shave, or go au naturel, do it safely and for yourself.

Your body, your rules!

Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

Have a burning question or topic suggestion? karen@taboototruth.com ⁠https://www.taboototruth.com/⁠

⁠https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth⁠⁠⁠

Youtube @taboototruthpodcast⁠

Disclaimer: This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your medical provider.

In this episode, I delve deep into a personal narrative that is both vulnerable and relatable—my journey through relationships, dating after divorce, and the tribulations of midlife dating and menopause. I lay bare the emotional rollercoaster I've experienced over the last two and a half years, candidly sharing the highs and lows, and the temptation to succumb to negativity.

This isn't just a story of struggle; it's a chronicle of the hard-earned crossroads of hope that I've reached. I want to highlight the importance of not playing the victim or falling into despair, but instead, recognizing that every challenge faced is a step toward a better tomorrow.

As I recount the pattern of my past relationships, I emphasize the lessons learned, particularly the need for authenticity and clarity in communicating one's needs. It's a tale of repeated patterns—forming attachments too quickly after the illusion of intimacy and trying to mold incompatible relationships into something they're not. But it's also a story of growth and the realization that it's crucial to hold out for what truly satisfies one's needs, without compromise.

From setting arbitrary dating rules to understanding the importance of communication, I explore the interdependence that forms the foundation of a healthy relationship and the self-reflection necessary to find joy and fulfillment on one's own terms. This episode is a heartfelt reflection on personal growth, the quest for genuine partnership, and the courage to demand the love and life one truly deserves.

Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

Have a burning question or topic suggestion? karen@taboototruth.com ⁠⁠https://www.taboototruth.com/

⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth⁠⁠⁠⁠

⁠⁠⁠⁠Youtube @taboototruthpodcast⁠⁠

Disclaimer: This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your medical provider.

In this episode I open up about my own journey back into the dating world after a long pause. I've learned the hard way that before diving headfirst into the dating pool, it’s crucial to take a deep look inward. I'll share with you the steps I took to understand my desires and the type of relationship that resonates with the person I've become.

I also discuss the significance of moving at a pace that respects both your emotional state and physical health, emphasizing the vital practice of safe sex, and the nuances of intimacy during menopause, the importance of communication, even when it means having those tough conversations about sexual health, and I'll share the lessons I've learned about safeguarding not just my physical health but my heart as well.

Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

Have a burning question or topic suggestion?

karen@taboototruth.com ⁠https://www.taboototruth.com

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Youtube @taboototruthpodcast⁠

Disclaimer: This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your medical provider.

In this episode, I sit down with Dr. Rachel Zar, a licensed marriage and family therapist and certified sex therapist, to talk about why specialized training in sexual therapy is so important. Too many therapists aren’t equipped to handle conversations around sexual health, and that can leave people feeling misunderstood and ashamed. Dr. Zar and I dive into the challenges that come up when addressing sexual issues, especially painful sex among those assigned female at birth. We also discuss how vital it is to educate ourselves and our partners on things like foreplay, core play, and being truly connected with our bodies. This episode is all about breaking the silence, reclaiming our sexual well-being, and moving toward healthier, more fulfilling relationships.

Timestamps:

(00:00) - Introduction to Sexual Desire Discrepancy

(00:17) - Welcome to the Taboo to Truth Podcast

(01:04) - Meet Dr. Rachel Zar

(02:05) - What Does a Sex Therapist Do?

(03:17) - Understanding Sexual Therapy Training

(05:14) - Common Issues in Sex Therapy

(10:30) - Navigating Painful Sex and Low Libido

(15:01) - The Importance of Education and Awareness

(22:37) - Understanding Foreplay vs Core Play

(30:52) - The Role of Exercise in Enhancing Sex

(31:36) - Kink Affirmative Therapy Explained

(40:43) - The Definition of Sex and Its Spectrum

(41:18) - Conclusion and Resources for Listeners

Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

Connect with Dr. Rachel Zar:

Website: https://www.rachelzartherapy.com/

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/rachel-zar-phd-lmft-cst-107a9610/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/rachelzartherapy/

Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.

In the premiere episode of Season 2, Karen dives into the intricate tapestry of human sexuality and intimacy. Starting with a foundational question: "What is sex?" To explore this, we've gathered candid excerpts from a compelling discussion with a group of middle-aged women, each bringing their unique life experiences to the table. Episode Highlights:

• Defining Sex: The conversation begins with an exploration of what sex means to different individuals, challenging the traditional notion that it's solely about penetration.
• The Spectrum of Intimacy: We hear powerful stories illustrating that sex can be a varied experience, from a deeply personal act of self-pleasure to a shared, intimate connection without the goal of orgasm.
• Beyond the Physical: The discussion shifts to consider sex as a state of being that fosters intimacy, not just with others, but also with oneself.
• Vulnerability and Desire: The concept of vulnerability surfaces as a common thread, with the emphasis on the freedom to pursue one's desires in a safe and comfortable environment, irrespective of the form it takes.
• Inclusivity in Pleasure: The episode touches upon diverse sexual expressions, including S&M, and emphasizes the importance of inclusivity and openness in discussions about sex.
• Sex and Regret: Reflecting on experiences of regrettable sex, our guests confront the reality that not all sexual experiences are positive, acknowledging the complexity of sexual encounters and the impact of choice.

I invite you to join the conversation. What is your definition of sex? Share your thoughts, and we may feature them in upcoming episodes as we continue to unravel the mysteries and joys of sexual connection. Note to Listeners: This episode is a safe space for open dialogue.

Our goal is to dismantle taboos and encourage healthy, honest discussions about sex, fostering a community where we can all learn and grow together.

Send your thoughts on "What is Sex?" to: TabootoTruth@gmail.com We hope you find this episode both enlightening and thought-provoking. Remember, sex is as diverse as we are, and every perspective adds depth to our collective understanding. Tune in, share your story, and let's talk about sex.

Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

Have a burning question or topic suggestion? karen@taboototruth.com ⁠https://www.taboototruth.com

⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

⁠⁠Youtube @taboototruthpodcast⁠

Disclaimer: This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your medical provider.

Today, I'm peeling back the curtain on the world of adult toys. We’re starting off by busting some common myths. Have you ever heard that adult toys are a 'last resort' or that they could numb your senses? Well, it's time to separate fact from fiction with some real talk and expert-backed information.

Plus, I’m taking you on a tour through the exciting variety of adult toys out there. From the classic vibrators to the more adventurous BDSM gear, I'll be explaining how each type caters to different preferences and how they can enrich your personal experiences. Moving on, let’s talk about something super important: using these toys safely and with the right knowledge. I’ll be diving into why choosing the right materials like silicone or stainless steel matters and how the right lubricant can make all the difference. And if you’re wondering about keeping things clean and hygienic, I’ve got some pro tips for you. This episode is for anyone who's curious, looking to learn, or just wants to hear an honest conversation about adult toys. Remember, exploring your sexuality is perfectly normal, and doing so safely and respectfully is what it's all about.

Prefer the video version? https://youtu.be/XHwU2c90XUw

Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

Have a burning question or topic suggestion? karen@taboototruth.com ⁠https://www.taboototruth.com

⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

Youtube @taboototruthpodcast⁠

Disclaimer: This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your medical provider.