Mizzy Bender, your trusted resource for exploring the world of swingers, ethical non-monogamy (ENM), and alternative lifestyles. As a leading voice in the community, Mizzy Bender blends storytelling, education, and empowerment to help individuals and couples embrace their authentic desires without fear or judgment.
From candid blogs and lifestyle tips to community discussions and event recaps, Mizzy Bender creates a safe, inclusive space for those seeking to explore open relationships, navigate jealousy, build stronger connections, and discover the swinger lifestyle.
Whether you’re looking for a bold place to explore who you are as an individual, looking for advice on navigating ENM, or searching for events and boutique products that celebrate your unique journey, Mizzy Bender is here to guide, inspire, and empower you.
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Mizzy Bender discussed was how new couples entering the swinger lifestyle can sometimes develop feelings for other partners, which can lead to complications. The speaker emphasizes the importance of thorough communication, setting clear boundaries, and taking time to observe and learn about the lifestyle before fully engaging.
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Who doesn’t love to talk about sex and everything in between? Mizzy Bender is here to talk through all the down, dirty and not so fun moments that life has to offer. Mizzy is one female that isn’t afraid to embrace all aspects of life from sexuality to success.
Mizzy Bender is a 42 year old female entrepreneur and influencer leading the way within the Swingers Lifestyle. If you believe in Ethical Non-Monogamy, this is the community for you. Mizzy’s journey started out with Mindbender Parties and still remains putting on full thematic swinger events with her partner in crime, Mr. Mindbender.
Mizzy’s passion and drive is all about creating an environment that is all inclusive and judgment free, where we can be who we are without question. Where one can have a platform to talk about the things we are curious about without question, finding like minded humans to love and support one another.
Through this journey, Mizzy's Boutique was formed. An adult novelty shop starting out online and has migrated into a traveling boutique at swinger parties lifestyle events across the US.
Mizzy Bender is a swingers lifestyle and ethical non-monogamy influencer/ educator. She hosts lifestyle events in Rhode Island and the Northeast, and recently held a "Back to School" themed party.
Mizzy discussed the challenges of managing her busy schedule and social media presence, and how she has been working on her mental health and self-care. She also talked about the importance of planning outfits and being organized for the events.
At the recent party, Mizzy described the setup of the club, including the dungeon area with various BDSM equipment and play spaces. She shared some fun, unfiltered moments that occurred during the event, highlighting the open and welcoming community at their parties.
Mizzy emphasized that their events cater to all types of people, regardless of appearance or background. She encouraged viewers to keep an open mind and not have preconceived expectations when exploring the lifestyle.
Overall, Mizzy provided an inside look at the swingers lifestyle community and her experiences as an event host and influencer in this space.
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Who doesn’t love to talk about sex and everything in between? Mizzy Bender is here to talk through all the down, dirty and not so fun moments that life has to offer. Mizzy is one female that isn’t afraid to embrace all aspects of life from sexuality to success.
Mizzy Bender is a 42 year old female entrepreneur and influencer leading the way within the Swingers Lifestyle. If you believe in Ethical Non-Monogamy, this is the community for you. Mizzy’s journey started out with Mindbender Parties and still remains putting on full thematic swinger events with her partner in crime, Mr. Mindbender.
Swingers Lifestyle: Is it Really Just the Single Guys? Part 2 of 4
It's a reoccurring topic that single men in the swingers lifestyle get such a bad wrap. But why? I did some research by posting the question of .. What are some things single men in the lifestyle do, that just irks you so much.
The specific talking points for today's show are below.
Single guys that grab. I can’t stand that!
When they treat us women like we just have sex with everyone, and then get mad when we politely reject them.
Follow my wife around, touching when I am not looking
Assuming you’ll have sex with them because you’re in the lifestyle.
Creeping into my inbox without asking permission first in the group.
Not understanding no
I cannot stand people who are pushy. If you proposition me and I say no.. the answer is no. It doesn’t mean ask me again in a week, a month. I am aware of their interest and if my decision changes I will inform them.
If it’s not ENTHUSIASTIC CONSENT, it’s not consensual.
Over-the-top compliments using words like "luscious, magnificent, goddess, delicious, breathtaking, etc" The ick factor is significant!!!
Honestly it's things that make women turned off to all guys on the LS. I won't say it's all of them because I know some that are respectful. But as a guy who is part of a couple, I feel that I'm looked at by some as the same before even knowing about me.
When they completely ignore the fact that a woman has a significant other and tries to aggressively (consistently tries to talk her into play without confronting her husband, significant other or life partner in some cases. To me that is completely disrespectful especially if they have been told to speak to said person already. This also applies to men who are there with girlfriends/ partners and some relationship men. But to be clear there are some women who fit the bill with this also. Just a humble opinion in a nutshell
Tell you how they are so big and great they are going to make you have the best orgasm of your life.
Wandering around a LS party until they ultimately realize it's clearly going nowhere because we aren't there for them.
Swingers Lifestyle: Is it Really Just the Single Guys? Part 1 of 4
Really Just the Single Guys? It's a reoccurring topic that single men in the swingers lifestyle get such a bad wrap. But why? I did some research by posting the question of .. What are some things single men in the lifestyle do, that just irks you so much. The answers that came back really can apply to everyone, not just single men. I thought it would be a great exercise to talk about each entry one by one, really understanding the depth of it thought.
The specific talking points for today's show are:
Message “hey” and nothing else.
They make plans to meet up with my wife then flake
When they wait for my husband to walk away to talk to me, that is always an immediate hell no.
Bailing/Being flaky, if you have a couple willing to give you a chance or vouch for you so you can go to an event. Do not take that for granted. Word spreads fast about who the D Bags are.
Do their best to steal your girlfriend/wife away. They succeed more often than I wish I’d never experienced.
Lingering after they are told you're not interested
When you state specifically you aren’t looking for them and they message anyway saying they would love to hang out with your spouse, or that if you change your mind to hit them up
Message couples when the couple clearly states no single males
PS: Once I am back to my podcast station in a few weeks, the audio will balance out.
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In this empowering episode, I dive deep into one of the most common — yet rarely talked about — emotions in ethical non-monogamy: jealousy. Whether you're new to the lifestyle or a seasoned swinger, jealousy can pop up in unexpected ways. But here's the truth: it doesn’t make you weak or “bad” — it makes you human.
You’ll learn:
How to identify the root causes of jealousy
The difference between jealousy and insecurity
Self-reflection practices that actually work
How to communicate jealousy without shame
Mindset shifts for thriving in non-monogamy
Whether you're in an open relationship, exploring polyamory, or part of the swinger lifestyle, this episode offers real talk, supportive tools, and an invitation to grow emotionally stronger — together.
Download your free Jealousy Reflection Journal Questions to support your journey. www.mizzybender.com
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Who doesn’t love to talk about sex and everything in between? Mizzy Bender is here to talk through all the down, dirty and not so fun moments that life has to offer. Mizzy is one female that isn’t afraid to embrace all aspects of life from sexuality to success.
Mizzy Bender is a 42 year old female entrepreneur and influencer leading the way within the Swingers Lifestyle. If you believe in Ethical Non-Monogamy, this is the community for you. Mizzy’s journey started out with Mindbender Parties and still remains putting on full thematic swinger events with her partner in crime, Mr. Mindbender.
Questions to Ask New Play Partners | Questions for Swingers
Mizzy Bender discusses the important questions to ask potential new play partners in the swinging lifestyle to avoid awkward or uncomfortable situations. She shares her personal experiences and insights on navigating the lifestyle as a newcomer, and provides a framework for vetting potential partners.
Key Topics
Mizzy's Journey in the Lifestyle
Questions to Ask Potential Play Partners
How long have you been in the lifestyle?
Mizzy suggests newer couples (less than a year) may not be as aligned and experienced.
This helps gauge their level of understanding and communication as a couple.
Whose idea was it to get involved in the lifestyle?
Mizzy wants to understand if both partners are equally enthusiastic or if one is just appeasing the other.
What are your rules and boundaries?
Mizzy prefers not to play with couples who have strict rules like "no kissing", as it doesn't align with her preferences.
Discussing rules and boundaries upfront is crucial to avoid uncomfortable situations.
What are you looking to get out of the lifestyle?
Mizzy emphasizes the importance of both partners being clear on their motivations and desires.
If a couple cannot articulate their goals, Missy may be hesitant to engage with them.
Observing Body Language and Interactions
Mizzy closely observes how potential play partners interact with each other, both online and in-person.
She looks for signs of alignment, comfort, and mutual enthusiasm, as opposed to one partner seeming disengaged or uncomfortable.
Mizzy is willing to politely decline play opportunities if she senses any misalignment or discomfort from either party.
When it comes to swinging, communication and consent are the foundation—but health and safety are just as critical. In this vlog, we break down the realities of STDs in the swingers lifestyle world: the ownership, how to stay protected, and how to normalize honest conversations about testing and treatment. Let’s make sexual health part of the pleasure.
This episode breaks the silence and empowers you to take charge of your sexual health. Whether you're a seasoned swinger or new to the lifestyle, this is essential info.
For your free work sheet, visit my blogs www.mizzybender.com
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Who doesn’t love to talk about sex and everything in between? Mizzy Bender is here to talk through all the down, dirty and not so fun moments that life has to offer. Mizzy is one female that isn’t afraid to embrace all aspects of life from sexuality to success.
Mizzy Bender is a 42 year old female entrepreneur and influencer leading the way within the Swingers Lifestyle. If you believe in Ethical Non-Monogamy, this is the community for you. Mizzy’s journey started out with Mindbender Parties and still remains putting on full thematic swinger events with her partner in crime, Mr. Mindbender.
Mizzy’s passion and drive is all about creating an environment that is all inclusive and judgment free, where we can be who we are without question. Where one can have a platform to talk about the things we are curious about without question, finding like minded humans to love and support one another.
Mizzy Bender is a lifestyle influencer and educator who discusses various aspects of the swinging/non-monogamous lifestyle. She provides an honest, direct approach to these topics, aiming to educate and inform her audience. She is preparing for an upcoming event series and is excited about using new technology like Meta glasses to capture real-time content. The speaker also discusses her personal journey, including challenges and growth, as she works to find her creative and spiritual path. Overall, the content focuses on the swinging lifestyle, personal development, and connecting with her audience through live discussions.
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Who doesn’t love to talk about sex and everything in between? Mizzy Bender is here to talk through all the down, dirty and not so fun moments that life has to offer. Mizzy is one female that isn’t afraid to embrace all aspects of life from sexuality to success.
Mizzy Bender is a 42 year old female entrepreneur and influencer leading the way within the Swingers Lifestyle. If you believe in Ethical Non-Monogamy, this is the community for you. Mizzy’s journey started out with Mindbender Parties and still remains putting on full thematic swinger events with her partner in crime, Mr. Mindbender.
Mizzy’s passion and drive is all about creating an environment that is all inclusive and judgment free, where we can be who we are without question. Where one can have a platform to talk about the things we are curious about without question, finding like minded humans to love and support one another.
Inside the Swinger Lifestyle: Myths, Realities, and Essential Tips for Newcomers
What to Expect from todays Swingers Lifestyle Education
Debunking Swinger Lifestyle Myths My aim is to offer an honest and transparent view of the swinger lifestyle, addressing frequent myths and misunderstandings. It's essential to approach this lifestyle with realistic expectations rather than fantasies or fluff. Navigating the swinger lifestyle involves complex emotions, clear communication, and careful boundary-setting.
Typical Flow of a Swinger Event Swinger events typically kick off around 9 PM, as guests arrive, settle in, find their spots, and begin socializing. Dancing often helps build initial connections, but it's critical to remember that consent remains paramount at every stage. Sexual activities generally start between 10:30 PM and midnight; however, it's far from the assumed "orgy" scenario. Open play can happen, but it's structured, respectful, and consensual—single individuals rarely engage with multiple partners simultaneously. I strongly recommend observing and understanding the dynamics of an event before actively participating.
Importance of Consent and Boundaries in the Swingers Lifestyle I stress the vital importance of using your voice to establish and maintain personal boundaries, both as a participant and event organizer. I've shared instances where I intervened directly to address inappropriate behavior, ensuring everyone's safety and comfort. Consent is dynamic and can be revoked at any moment; attendees must feel empowered to say "no" without any fear of negative repercussions.
Advice for Swinger Newcomers For those new to the lifestyle, I recommend an initial observation period of approximately six months. This helps newcomers debunk myths and genuinely understand the realities involved. I encourage trying different event styles and hosts to discover the best match for your comfort and preferences. Effective communication, strong boundary-setting, and the willingness to speak up are crucial for successfully navigating this lifestyle.
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Welcome to a live Q&A session hosted by me, Mizzy Bender, where I discuss various aspects of the swinger lifestyle, my personal experiences, and answering questions while providing advice and insights. The discussion covers topics such as my struggles with body image and sexuality, my recent weekend adventures, the importance of communication and setting boundaries in the lifestyle, and the role of mental health awareness.
Key Topic Breakdown
Mizzy's Weekend Adventures
A key takeaway is that it's okay to not play even if plans are made, and that one should never force themselves into a sexual situation they are not comfortable with.
Mizzy's Struggles with Body Image and Sexuality
I discuss her struggles with body image and insecurities, and how she has learned to embrace herself more.
I talk about the challenges faced with her sexuality, such as difficulties with lubrication and arousal, due to her hysterectomy and medication.
Importance of Communication and Boundaries
I emphasizes the importance of clear communication and setting boundaries in the swinger lifestyle.
I advise against assuming or expecting certain sexual activities, and encourages people to be vocal about their needs and preferences.
I also stresses the importance of respecting the boundaries and relationships of others in the lifestyle.
Mental Health Awareness
Another key takeaway is the importance of mental health awareness and self-reflection in the swinger lifestyle.
I believe that addressing one's mental and emotional well-being is crucial before engaging in the lifestyle.
I provide resources and encourages her audience to take the time to understand themselves and their partners before participating in the lifestyle.
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Mizzy’s passion and drive is all about creating an environment that is all inclusive and judgment free, where we can be who we are without question. Where one can have a platform to talk about the things we are curious about without question, finding like minded humans to love and support one another.
Through this journey, Mizzy's Boutique was formed. An adult novelty shop starting out online and has migrated into a traveling boutique at swinger parties lifestyle events across the US.
For more behind the scenes and closer interactions
Who doesn’t love to talk about sex and everything in between? Mizzy Bender is here to talk through all the down, dirty and not so fun moments that life has to offer. Mizzy is one female that isn’t afraid to embrace all aspects of life from sexuality to success.
Mizzy Bender is a 42 year old female entrepreneur and influencer leading the way within the Swingers Lifestyle. If you believe in Ethical Non-Monogamy, this is the community for you. Mizzy’s journey started out with Mindbender Parties and still remains putting on full thematic swinger events with her partner in crime, Mr. Mindbender.
Mizzy’s passion and drive is all about creating an environment that is all inclusive and judgment free, where we can be who we are without question. Where one can have a platform to talk about the things we are curious about without question, finding like minded humans to love and support one another.
Through this journey, Mizzy's Boutique was formed. An adult novelty shop starting out online and has migrated into a traveling boutique at swinger parties lifestyle events across the US.
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Who doesn’t love to talk about sex and everything in between? Mizzy Bender is here to talk through all the down, dirty and not so fun moments that life has to offer. Mizzy is one female that isn’t afraid to embrace all aspects of life from sexuality to success.
Mizzy Bender is a 42 year old female entrepreneur and influencer leading the way within the Swingers Lifestyle. If you believe in Ethical Non-Monogamy, this is the community for you. Mizzy’s journey started out with Mindbender Parties and still remains putting on full thematic swinger events with her partner in crime, Mr. Mindbender.
Mizzy’s passion and drive is all about creating an environment that is all inclusive and judgment free, where we can be who we are without question. Where one can have a platform to talk about the things we are curious about without question, finding like minded humans to love and support one another.
Through this journey, Mizzy's Boutique was formed. An adult novelty shop starting out online and has migrated into a traveling boutique at swinger parties lifestyle events across the US.
Mizzy’s passion and drive is all about creating an environment that is all inclusive and judgment free, where we can be who we are without question. Where one can have a platform to talk about the things we are curious about without question, finding like minded humans to love and support one another.
Through this journey, Mizzy's Boutique was formed. An adult novelty shop starting out online and has migrated into a traveling boutique at swinger parties lifestyle events across the US.
Mizzy strongly believes in being open, honest, and transparent about one's needs, boundaries, and experiences in the lifestyle.
She encourages others to do the same, as it helps build trust and ensures everyone is on the same page.
Mizzy is not afraid to ask difficult questions or express her feelings, as she believes this is the best way to have fulfilling and drama-free play experiences.
For more behind the scenes and closer interactions
Who doesn’t love to talk about sex and everything in between? Mizzy Bender is here to talk through all the down, dirty and not so fun moments that life has to offer. Mizzy is one female that isn’t afraid to embrace all aspects of life from sexuality to success.
Mizzy Bender is a 42 year old female entrepreneur and influencer leading the way within the Swingers Lifestyle. If you believe in Ethical Non-Monogamy, this is the community for you. Mizzy’s journey started out with Mindbender Parties and still remains putting on full thematic swinger events with her partner in crime, Mr. Mindbender.
Mizzy’s passion and drive is all about creating an environment that is all inclusive and judgment free, where we can be who we are without question. Where one can have a platform to talk about the things we are curious about without question, finding like minded humans to love and support one another.
Through this journey, Mizzy's Boutique was formed. An adult novelty shop starting out online and has migrated into a traveling boutique at swinger parties lifestyle events across the US.
Through this journey, Mizzy's Boutique was formed. An adult novelty shop starting out online and has migrated into a traveling boutique at swinger parties lifestyle events across the US.
Through this journey, Mizzy's Boutique was formed. An adult novelty shop starting out online and has migrated into a traveling boutique at swinger parties lifestyle events across the US.
Who doesn’t love to talk about sex and everything in between? Mizzy Bender is here to talk through all the down, dirty and not so fun moments that life has to offer. Mizzy is one female that isn’t afraid to embrace all aspects of life from sexuality to success.
Mizzy Bender is a 42 year old female entrepreneur and influencer leading the way within the Swingers Lifestyle. If you believe in Ethical Non-Monogamy, this is the community for you. Mizzy’s journey started out with Mindbender Parties and still remains putting on full thematic swinger events with her partner in crime, Mr. Mindbender.
Mizzy’s passion and drive is all about creating an environment that is all inclusive and judgment free, where we can be who we are without question. Where one can have a platform to talk about the things we are curious about without question, finding like minded humans to love and support one another.
Through this journey, Mizzy's Boutique was formed. An adult novelty shop starting out online and has migrated into a traveling boutique at swinger parties lifestyle events across the US.
Who doesn’t love to talk about sex and everything in between? Mizzy Bender is here to talk through all the down, dirty and not so fun moments that life has to offer. Mizzy is one female that isn’t afraid to embrace all aspects of life from sexuality to success.
Mizzy Bender is a 42 year old female entrepreneur and influencer leading the way within the Swingers Lifestyle. If you believe in Ethical Non-Monogamy, this is the community for you. Mizzy’s journey started out with Mindbender Parties and still remains putting on full thematic swinger events with her partner in crime, Mr. Mindbender.
Mizzy’s passion and drive is all about creating an environment that is all inclusive and judgment free, where we can be who we are without question. Where one can have a platform to talk about the things we are curious about without question, finding like minded humans to love and support one another.
Through this journey, Mizzy's Boutique was formed. An adult novelty shop starting out online and has migrated into a traveling boutique at swinger parties lifestyle events across the US.
