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You've Googled it. You've journaled about it. You've asked your therapist.

And you still can't tell if what you're feeling is your intuition or just that old anxiety doing its thing again.

In Episode 62 of the Stop Chasing Unavailable Guys Podcast, I'm giving you a clear, body-based way to tell them apart, in real time, before you send the text, before you book the second date, before you talk yourself into something your body already answered.

You'll also walk away with a prompt you can use on the spot, on a date, after a date, or right before you hit send.

What's Inside This Episode:

• How to know what to look for that makes fear vs intuition so easy to recognize
• The one question that cuts through the noise when you genuinely cannot tell which voice is speaking
• A real life client example of going from a fear spiral to an empowered choice in her love life
• Practical ways to discern signals in real dating situations

🎧 Listen now and start learning to trust the voice that actually knows what's good for you.

If you're dating after 40 and ready to stop second-guessing yourself, grab my free guide to the top dating apps and how to spot unavailable men fast. https://learn.trulyeleanor.com/datingapps

Ready to go deeper? Module 2 of the Intuitive Path to Love course is entirely dedicated to this practice, walking you through establishing your own yes and your own no in your body so you feel the difference before you act. Four audio modules, seven chakra meditations, and a real framework for building self-trust in dating. Check it out: https://trulyeleanor.com/IPTL

You can't make Mr. Unavailable love you, but you can choose someone who does. Love is closer than you think.

You can know something 150% and still talk yourself out of it.

This override is the central reason you keep ending up in the same place, with the same guy, in a different sweater.

In this Season 6 premiere of the Stop Chasing Unavailable Guys Podcast, I'm talking about what's really going on when you're dating after 40, doing all the work, and still finding yourself here again.

I share the story of being a trained Reiki practitioner and professional intuitive who was still overriding her own gut signals in dating. Alarm bells going off. Clear, calm inner wisdom saying no. And still choosing the intensity, the spark, and the story I told myself about why it must be destiny.

Sound familiar?

What's Inside This Episode:

• Why you can know all your patterns and still end up choosing the same guy
• The surprising way being highly intuitive can work against you in dating
• Why you stopped trusting yourself in love, and what it looks like to get that back
• Why your intuition was never the problem, and what you were doing with it instead
  

This is Season 6: the intuition season. It's about coming home to yourself so completely that unavailable love loses its pull.

🎧 Listen now and find out what's really been getting in your way. 

If you're dating after 40 and ready to stop wasting time on the wrong guys, grab my free guide to the top dating apps and how to spot unavailable men fast. https://learn.trulyeleanor.com/datingapps

Ready to go deeper? The Intuitive Path to Love course is where you do the actual practices alongside each episode. Four audio modules, seven chakra meditations, and a real framework for learning what your yes and no feel like in your body. Check it out: https://trulyeleanor.com/IPTL

You can't make Mr. Unavailable love you, but you can choose someone who does. Love is closer than you think.

You've been doing the work. The journaling, the reflecting, the quiet moments where something clicked that you can't quite explain yet. This episode is your chance to feel how far you've actually come.

In Episode 60 of the Stop Chasing Unavailable Guys Podcast, we're closing out Season Five with a full-circle look at the identity shift that's been building all season. The shift from the woman who chased emotionally unavailable men and questioned her worth, to the woman who trusts herself, chooses wisely, and lets love meet her there.

This is the episode that brings it all together.

What's Inside This Episode:

• The quiet but profound thing that happens on a date when you've genuinely changed
• Why dating can finally start to feel intentional, peaceful, and even fun
• What it really means to trust yourself in real time, not just in theory
• The identity that makes emotional availability your new standard
• How to carry everything you've learned into your daily life going forward

🎧 Listen now and give yourself credit for the woman you're becoming.

And grab the free guide The Top 5 Dating Apps for Women Over 40 + How to Spot Unavailable Guys Fast here: https://learn.trulyeleanor.com/datingapps

And if you want support embodying that woman even more deeply, my Magnetic Love Bundle includes guided meditations to help you release fear, reset your energy, and stay open and grounded while attracting emotionally available partners. Click here to find out more 👉 [Magnetic Love Bundle]

You can't make Mr. Unavailable love you, but you can choose someone who does. Love is closer than you think.

You're not hiding behind healing anymore. You're not stuck in the waiting room. You're actually at the door.

And somehow... you're still not walking through it.

Here's a clue that something has quietly shifted. The guys who once had you glued to your phone, analysing every text, every pause, every "seen at 9pm but no reply until Tuesday"  they're starting to feel exhausting. And the calm, consistent guy who actually shows up? He's starting to feel kind of amazing.

That's not a coincidence. That's readiness. And this episode is going to help you recognise it.

What's Inside This Episode:

✨ The surprising way all that healing work trips you up on dates
✨ The subtle sign that you're already more ready for healthy love than you've been telling yourself
✨ What changes when you stop waiting to feel perfect and make this one quiet decision instead
✨ The shift that moves you from exhausted longing into something that finally feels calm and possible
✨ What it feels like to be on a date when you're actually ready to receive love

If you're ready to trust your intuition and date with clarity and confidence, the Intuitive Path to Love Course is linked below.

And grab the free guide The Top 5 Dating Apps for Women Over 40 + How to Spot Unavailable Guys Fast here: https://learn.trulyeleanor.com/datingapps

Intuitive Path To Love Course: https://learn.trulyeleanor.com/IPTL

You can't make Mr. Unavailable love you, but you can choose someone who does. Love is closer than you think.

If you’re dating after 40 and you’ve done the healing work, raised your standards, and promised yourself “never again” but now find yourself feeling guarded, cautious, and a little closed off,  this episode is for you.

In Episode 58 of the Stop Chasing Unavailable Guys Podcast, we’re talking about the subtle shift from having standards to building emotional walls that quietly block the connection you want.

Because at some point, protecting your heart can start to feel like the safest option.

A very understandable, self-protective, quietly limiting way of dating.

And it makes sense. You’ve been hurt. You’ve learned the lessons. You’re paying attention now. But what if that protection is also keeping love at a distance?

This episode will show you how to hold your standards with calm confidence while staying open enough to actually experience connection.

What’s Inside This Episode:
✨ The surprising way “being careful” on dates can instantly shut down connection
✨ The subtle dating habit that feels smart and self-protective, but keeps you stuck
✨ What changes when you stop trying to read him and start tuning into yourself
✨ The shift that makes you feel open, grounded, and in control at the same time
✨ Why the men you actually want feel drawn to you when this clicks

🎧 Listen now and step into dating with an open heart, clear standards, and the kind of grounded confidence that lets love in.

Click for dating resources: https://trulyeleanor.com

If you’re dating after 40 and you’ve done all the things: therapy, journaling, inner child work, energy clearing, and you still feel like, “I’m just not quite ready yet”… this episode is for you.

In Episode 57 of the Stop Chasing Unavailable Guys Podcast, we’re talking about a pattern that looks like growth, but feels like you’re stuck in a waiting room with no one calling your name.

Because at some point, “I just need to heal a bit more” turns into a lifestyle.

A very noble, self-aware, deeply exhausted lifestyle.

And it makes sense. You want to get it right. You don’t want to repeat the past. But what if all that healing has quietly become a way of keeping yourself out of the game?

This episode will show you how to move from endless self-improvement into actual lived confidence where you date, choose, and experience love as you are now.

What’s Inside This Episode:

✨ Why you still feel “not ready” for love (even after doing all the work)
✨ The sneaky way healing keeps you stuck instead of moving you forward
✨ The shift that gets you out of “almost ready” and into actually dating again
✨ How to start experiencing real connection now, not someday when you’re “fully healed”

✨ Want support with this? If your brain is tired of looping and you’re ready to actually move what you’re feeling, the Heart Reset Journal gives you a simple, guided way to release it and come back to yourself without overthinking it. 👉Click here to grab your journal 

Link to blog post I talked about: https://trulyeleanor.com/twinflame

🎧 Listen now and step into love without waiting to become a different version of you.

If you’re dating after 40 and you’ve built a strong, independent life… but still find yourself attracting emotionally unavailable men or feeling completely drained by dating, this episode is for you.

In Episode 56 of the Stop Chasing Unavailable Guys Podcast, we’re talking about a shift that sounds simple, but can feel wildly uncomfortable in real life: how to stay open to love without abandoning yourself. Because let’s be honest…

At some point, independence stopped feeling empowering and started feeling like, “Cool, I guess I’ll just carry all the groceries and my emotional needs alone forever.”

After years of disappointment, it makes sense to stay guarded. To rely on yourself. To keep your heart just slightly under lock and key. But what if that protection… is also what’s keeping love out?

This episode will show you how to move from hyper-independence into openness, so connection can feel safe, mutual, and actually supportive (yes, that exists).

What’s Inside This Episode:

• What hyper-independence really looks like (it’s sneakier than you think)
• How staying guarded quietly blocks the connection you want
• How to stay open without losing your standards or boundaries
• The shift that allows love in without losing yourself

✨ Want support with this?
If you’re tired of overthinking and second-guessing yourself in dating, this is exactly the work we do inside Intuitive Path to Love. Learn to trust yourself in real time and feel calm, confident, and secure choosing the right man.
👉 https://trulyeleanor.com/IPTL

👉Download my free dating guide: The Top 5 Dating Apps for Women Over 40 + How to Spot Mr. Unavailable Fast
https://trulyeleanor.com/datingapps

🎧 Listen now and start experiencing love without losing yourself.

If you’re dating after 40 and the only connections that feel exciting are the ones that leave you anxious, overthinking everything, and wondering where you stand, this episode will change the way you understand attraction.

In Episode 55 of the Stop Chasing Unavailable Guys Podcast, we’re redefining chemistry and exploring why the “spark” you’ve been chasing might actually be your nervous system reacting to emotional unpredictability.

For many women, attraction has been conditioned through intensity: the adrenaline rush, mixed signals, and emotional highs and lows that feel exciting in the moment, but somehow keep leading you straight back to Mr. Emotionally Unavailable. But healthy love doesn’t feel chaotic.

It feels calm, grounded, and emotionally safe.

And if that feeling has ever made you think, “Hmm… maybe I’m just not attracted to him?” don’t worry you’re not the only one whose nervous system learned that love was supposed to feel like a rollercoaster at a questionable amusement park.

In this episode, we explore the identity shift from chasing anxiety-based chemistry to recognizing emotional safety as true attraction. When your body chooses steadiness instead of emotional rollercoasters, dating starts to feel clearer, calmer and more aligned.

In this episode you’ll learn:

• How emotional chaos gets mistaken for chemistry
• What emotionally safe attraction actually feels like
• Why calm connection can feel unfamiliar at first
• The identity shift that helps you choose healthier love

Because the kind of attraction that leads to lasting love rarely feels like fireworks.

It feels like coming home.

If you’re ready to stop chasing sparks and start embodying the calm magnetism that attracts real love, the Magnetic Love Meditation Bundle is the perfect next step. Click here to start:
https://trulyeleanor.com/magneticlove

Last week we talked about anxiety when you like him. This week, we go deeper. Because once you understand your nervous system… the real question becomes:

Can you tell the difference between fear and intuition while you’re sitting across from your date?

Not later.
Not after a three-hour debrief with your friends.
In real time.

In this episode, we move from managing fear that tries to take over to recognizing what’s actually true for you on dates.

What’s Inside The Episode: 

• How intuition actually communicates (it’s quieter than you think)
  
• Why strong feelings don’t automatically mean “red flag”
  
• The subtle body cues that signal truth versus protection
  
• How to stop outsourcing your decisions to overthinking
  
• What it feels like to know when something is right and when it isn’t
  

This is the shift from second-guessing yourself… to knowing what’s real.

From spiralling… to deciding calmly.

Because calm confidence is understanding what you’re feeling and choosing from clarity instead of fear.

🎧 Listen now to strengthen your discernment and date with steadiness instead of doubt.

Link mentioned in the episode: https://stopchasingunavailableguys.com

If you’re dating after 40 and you finally meet someone you genuinely like… and instead of feeling calm and excited, your body goes into panic mode, this episode is for you.

Anxiety means something matters.

When you’ve spent years loving emotionally unavailable men, your nervous system learns that connection equals risk. So when a kind, emotionally present man shows up, your body can interpret that as danger.

Nothing is wrong with you.
Your body is protecting you.

In this episode, I share what happened before my first date with my husband (shaking hands, spiralling thoughts, every instinct telling me to cancel) and the quiet inner voice that said, “Go.”

We’re unpacking how to stay grounded when old patterns activate… even when your body feels anything but calm.

• Why your anxiety might actually be a sign you’re stepping into something healthy
• The subtle difference between fear and intuition (and how to spot it in the moment)
• What your spiralling thoughts are really trying to protect you from
• Why the body is always the last to feel safe even after years of healing
• How to make steady, self-led decisions when you really like him
  

You can feel anxious… and still choose calmly.

And that changes everything.

🎧 Listen now to learn how to calm your nervous system, trust your intuition, and stay grounded when you finally meet someone who matters.

Links in the episode: Meditations + Courses https://stopchasingunavailableguys.com

If you’re dating after 40 and keep finding yourself trying to secure your place in someone’s life, by explaining yourself, being endlessly understanding and waiting for him to be ready, this episode is for you.

In Episode 51 of the Stop Chasing Unavailable Guys Podcast, we’re talking about one of the most subtle but powerful patterns in dating: the auditioning identity.

This is the pattern where you don’t think you’re chasing…
but you’re constantly positioning yourself to be chosen.
Where patience replaces discernment…
where emotional labour replaces partnership…
and where almost-relationships feel normal because proving has felt normal for a very long time.

What’s Inside This Episode:

• The quiet ways auditioning shows up in early dating (even for strong, self-aware women)
• Why over-explaining, over-texting, and over-accommodating drain your power
• The difference between waiting for him to decide and evaluating how you actually feel
• The identity shift from “Do you like me?” to “Do I like how this feels?”
• How discernment becomes natural when you stop trying to earn your place

This episode is part of Season 5: Embodiment, Identity & Lasting Love, where we stop trying to perform better in dating and start living from the identity of a woman who chooses.

✨ Integration prompt from the episode:
“Am I trying to be chosen… or am I choosing?”

🎧 Listen now and begin stepping out of auditioning and into calm, grounded self-leadership in love.

Links from the episode: https://stopchasingunavailableguys.com

Remember: You can’t make Mr. Unavailable love you, but you can choose someone who does. And love is closer than you think.

If you’re dating after 40 and keep finding yourself in the role of emotional caretaker, always understanding, always giving the benefit of the doubt, always staying longer than feels good, this episode is for you.

In Episode 50 of the Stop Chasing Unavailable Guys Podcast, we’re talking about one of the biggest hidden blocks to healthy love: the emotional caretaker identity.

This is the pattern where love gets confused with effort…
where overgiving feels like chemistry…
and where emotionally unavailable men keep showing up because you’ve been trained to manage, fix, and emotionally hold everyone but yourself.

What’s Inside This Episode:

• The real reason overgiving feels so automatic (and why it has nothing to do with being “needy”)
  
• What quietly happens to attraction when you become the emotional manager in dating
  
• The surprising truth about why calm, available men can trigger disinterest at first
  
• The identity shift that changes everything—from trying to make it work to simply choosing
  
• What “receiving love” actually looks and feels like when you’ve spent a lifetime earning it

This episode is part of Season 5: Embodiment, Identity & Lasting Love, where we stop trying to date differently and start being someone who dates differently.

✨ Integration prompt from the episode:
“Am I relating to him… or managing him?”

🎧 Listen now and begin releasing the belief that love requires effort, fixing, or emotional labour.

Magnetic Love Bundle: https://learn.trulyeleanor.com/magneticlove

Remember:You can’t make Mr. Unavailable love you, but you can choose someone who does. And love is closer than you think.

If you’re dating after 40 and keep feeling drawn to emotionally unavailable guys even though what you want is calm, secure love, this episode will help you understand why.

In the first episode of Season 5, we’re talking about something many women experience but rarely question: why healthy love can feel flat or even uncomfortable when your nervous system has been shaped by intensity, uncertainty, or chasing.

For a lot of women, what’s been labeled “chemistry” is actually adrenaline. And when connection feels calm, steady, or emotionally safe, it can be dismissed too quickly as boredom or a lack of attraction. In this episode, I break down how those patterns form, why they repeat, and what begins to shift when you stop chasing love and start choosing it.

We also explore the quieter identity shift that happens when you stop dating from hope, fear, or longing and begin trusting yourself. This isn’t about forcing yourself to like someone you don’t like. It’s about understanding why your body responds the way it does, and how that response can change over time.

• Why that intense pull toward someone can feel so convincing and what it’s actually signaling
  
• What’s really happening when calm connection feels unfamiliar
  
• The subtle difference between chasing someone and choosing a relationship
  
• How adrenaline gets mistaken for chemistry
  
• The identity shift that quietly changes who you’re drawn to

If your heart knows what it wants but your body hasn’t caught up yet, the Magnetic Love Bundle can help bridge that gap. Grab it here: https://learn.trulyeleanor.com/magneticlove

🎧 Listen to the full episode of Stop Chasing Unavailable Guys and begin the shift from chasing to choosing.

Remember love is closer than you think.

If you’re a single woman over 40 who’s tired of choosing emotionally unavailable guys, doubting yourself, or wondering why dating feels so exhausting, this episode gives you the roadmap you’ve been missing. In this season finale, you’ll learn the 3-step method designed to help you emotionally reset, trust yourself again, and finally attract the kind of healthy, deeply connected love you’ve been longing for.

Season 4 has been all about emotional healing, because healing is what creates clarity, confidence, and the ability to choose men who can actually show up for you. In today’s wrap-up, you’ll see how each part of this season fits together and how these pieces form a proven dating method that helps women over 40 break old patterns and step into the love they truly deserve.

Whether you're feeling stuck, burnt out, or secretly afraid it might be “too late,” this episode shows you why it isn’t and gives you the steps to move forward with intention, self-trust, and hope.

• The #1 reason emotional healing is non-negotiable for finding real love after 40
• The 3-step Method that helps you stop choosing unavailable guys
• Why “perfect on paper” relationships fall apart and how to avoid repeating that pattern
• The mindset shift that instantly saves you time, energy, and heartbreak in dating after 40
  

If you’re ready to understand why your dating patterns have repeated and how to finally break free, this finale episode will give you clarity, direction, and hope.

👉 Click now and listen to the Season 4 finale your path to lasting love begins right here.

If you’re dating after 40 and you feel like you are the thing getting in your own way, this episode is going to help you finally move forward. Today we’re unpacking the one pattern that kept me single for years and delayed meeting my husband until I was 44: self-doubt.

In this episode, I’ll walk you through:

• Why self-doubt is not a personality flaw, it’s a learned pattern
• The surprising connection between childhood conditioning and dating chaos
• The exact framework I used to break free
• A simple daily heart-expansion exercise that melts self-doubt and builds confidence
• The moment I finally stopped believing I was broken—and how everything changed
  

If you’ve ever gone back and forth on a decision… argued with yourself before a date… doubted every intuitive nudge… or felt like it’s too hard to start trusting yourself, this episode gives you a grounded path out of the mental maze.

You’ll learn how to reconnect with the most powerful guidance system you have: your heart + intuition.

👉 Click play now to learn how to silence self-doubt and step into confident, intuitive dating after 40. Don't forget to grab my free dating guide here: https://trulyeleanor.com/datingapps

If you’ve been dating after 40 and you’re starting to lose hope, this episode will feel like a deep exhale. Today, I’m pulling back the curtain and sharing the truth: feeling stuck isn’t a sign that love is passing you by, it’s actually the doorway to reconnecting to yourself, rebuilding confidence, and finding the kind of healthy love you truly want.

I’m sharing a personal story from one of the lowest points in my own dating journey when I was living on my mom’s couch, going through perimenopause, heartbroken, anxious, and convinced I had run out of time. That moment became the turning point that changed everything. And it can change everything for you, too.

Inside this episode, you’ll learn what to do when you're spiraling into doubt, how to reconnect with your heart instead of your fear, and how to shift from feeling hopeless to grounded, intuitive, and ready for the healthy love you’re meant for. These are the exact steps I used to rebuild my confidence and meet my husband in my 40s and they’re the same steps I now teach women all over the world.

What’s Inside This Episode: 

• The surprising reason losing hope can be a powerful turning point.
• The story of my rock-bottom moment and how it became the catalyst for love.
• How to reconnect to your intuition when your brain won’t stop spinning worst-case scenarios.
• The morning heart-expansion practice that instantly shifts your energy (and makes you more magnetic).

I hope you enjoyed the show! Please hit subscribe and leave a review and if you’re ready to take the fastest path to Mr. Right, be sure to download my free dating guide at https://trulyeleanor.com/datingapps

How to Stop Believing It’s Too Late for Love: A Guide for Women Over 40

If you’ve ever had that sinking fear that love has passed you by… you’re not alone. Dating after 40 can feel like a dizzying merri-go-round, with no way to jump off! One minute you’re hopeful, and the next you’re convincing yourself you should just buy the tiny house, adopt five cats, and call it a day. But here’s the real truth: it is not too late for you. And believing that it is? That’s the biggest lie single women over 40 are told.

In this episode, I’m breaking down where that fear really comes from and how it secretly shapes your dating choices (even when you think you’re still “open” to love). You’ll learn how to recognize subtle self-sabotage, rewire those hidden beliefs, and get back into the kind of aligned action that leads to the healthy, devoted relationship you actually want. Because love doesn’t expire… especially when you’re finally ready for the right guy.

If you’re craving hope, clarity, and a path forward that feels empowering instead of exhausting, this is your episode. 

• The sneaky ways fear shapes who you date

• The surprising secondary fear hiding under the surface of “what if it never happens?”

• Why feeling fear doesn’t mean you’re blocked and the mantra that moves you forward

• A reframe that instantly gives your confidence a power-up

• The moment I realized I was dating like love was already over and how everything changed

• The 3-part awareness framework that keeps you connected to real possibilities

If you’re tired of letting fear decide who you swipe on, who you chase, and what you believe is possible… hit play now. This episode will help you take the next step toward the love story you still get to have.

Dating in your 40s can feel like a cosmic rollercoaster. One minute you’re certain today’s the day you meet Mr. Right. The next, you’re on the couch, wine in hand, convinced love ghosted you for good. 

In this episode, we’re talking about:

💔 The “I’m so close!” optimism high followed by the crash into hopelessness

🛟 How to emotionally support yourself while dating

🌊 The “cosmic surfboard” strategy for riding the waves

💌 10 ways to stay open to love even when it feels hard

Because when you’re dating after 40, the stakes feel higher, but the love you’re calling in is so worth it. And yes… it is closer than you think.

🔑 Key Takeaways

• You don’t have to “stay positive” You just need to stay authentic

• Your emotions aren’t a problem, repressing them is

• Your journey is preparing you for the love you asked for

• You can have bad days and still be moving closer to love

• Every action counts even couch-days with your cat 🐈‍⬛

🧰 Tools Mentioned

✔ 10 powerful strategies to manage emotional ups + downs

✔ Tapping through fear with the “Then What?” exercise

✔ Heart-connection practices

✔ Emotional support + expansion rituals

✔ The top resource to use when you feel discouraged

🔥 Don’t Miss This Part

The one belief to delete immediately if you want to find real love after 40. “I have to be positive or I’ll never meet someone.”

Authenticity is more magnetic than perfection ever will be.

Ready for love to feel exciting again, not exhausting?

Hit play now to learn how to ride the emotional waves of dating in your 40s (without spiraling every time someone ghosts). 🎧👇

I hope you enjoyed the show! Please hit subscribe and leave a review and if you’re ready to take the fastest path to Mr. Right, be sure to download my free dating guide at https://trulyeleanor.com/datingapps

If you’ve ever looked at your dating life and wondered, “Is it even possible for me to find real love at my age?,” this episode will remind you that it absolutely is.

In this heartfelt conversation, Truly Eleanor, Intuitive Dating Coach, opens up about the moment she turned 40 and thought her chance at love was over. She shares how deep-rooted beliefs around age, worthiness, and scarcity nearly convinced her to settle and how confronting those fears became the turning point that led her to meet her husband in her 40s.

You’ll learn how to recognize and release the subtle doubts that keep you stuck, reframe limiting stories about age and dating, and start believing that love isn’t behind you, it’s ahead of you.

Love after 40 isn’t just possible; it’s easier than you think when you lead with self-trust, awareness, and connection.

• The hidden fears that quietly convince you love has passed you by
• How Truly Eleanor rewired her mindset at 40 and found her husband soon after
• The truth about why dating actually gets easier as you get older
• Simple reframes to dissolve doubt and spark renewed hope in love
• Why your self-acceptance is the secret ingredient to finding Mr. Right
  

Ready to flip the script on doubt and rediscover what’s truly possible in love after 40?

🎧 Tune in now to hear Truly Eleanor’s personal story of transformation  and find out why your best love story might still be ahead of you. Click to listen!

I hope you enjoyed the show! Please hit subscribe and leave a review and if you’re ready to take the fastest path to Mr. Right, be sure to download my free dating guide at https://trulyeleanor.com/datingapps

If you’ve ever left a date feeling confused wondering if you liked him, if he liked you, or if you accidentally ignored your intuition again, this episode is for you.

As an intuitive dating coach who found love in her 40s, I’m breaking down the exact post-date reflection process that helped me stop chasing unavailable guys and finally attract my husband.

You’ll learn how to check in with your body, emotions, and intuition after a date, instead of analyzing texts or second-guessing everything he said. These are the five simple, heart-centered questions that will change the way you date (and help you avoid weeks or months wasted on the wrong guy).

Because when you know how to tune in to your heart, not just your head, you make dating feel easier, lighter, and way more fun.

• The one post-date question that changes everything
• Why your intuition gives better feedback than your brain
• How to tell if you’re chasing validation or true connection
• A real dating story that shows how ignoring red flags keeps you stuck
• 5 post-date reflection questions that help you attract Mr. Right faster

• You’ve been second-guessing your dating decisions
• You keep overanalyzing what he said or did after a date
• You’re tired of dating confusion and ready for calm clarity
• You want to start trusting your intuition again (and actually enjoy dating)

Ready to stop guessing and start trusting yourself in dating?

🎧 Listen now to Episode 42 of the Stop Chasing Unavailable Guys podcast and learn how to use post-date reflection to attract love that feels like home.

I hope you enjoyed the show! Please hit subscribe and leave a review and if you’re ready to take the fastest path to Mr. Right, be sure to download my free dating guide at https://trulyeleanor.com/datingapps

If you’ve ever felt like deleting every dating app, swearing off love, and resigning yourself to “maybe I’m just meant to be alone,” this episode is for you. Truly Eleanor shares her own hilarious (and slightly horrifying) story of the date that pushed her over the edge and how that rock-bottom moment became the turning point that changed everything.

You’ll learn how to process frustration and disappointment without giving up on love, how to regulate your emotions when dating feels impossible, and the exact steps to move from burnout to breakthrough. Dating after 40 isn’t for the faint of heart, but with emotional honesty, self-awareness, and a little intuition, you can transform your “enough is enough” moment into the beginning of something beautiful.

• The unbelievable story of Eleanor’s “doctor’s office” first date that nearly ended her dating life for good.
• Why your “I’m done with dating” moment might actually be your biggest breakthrough.
• How to process emotional overwhelm and hopelessness in healthy, powerful ways.
• The journaling exercise that helps you release frustration and reconnect with your heart.
• How to tell if you need a break or a reset in your dating journey.
• Three key pillars to help you regain clarity and confidence: Awareness, Acceptance, and Connection.

I hope you enjoyed the show! Please hit subscribe and leave a review and if you’re ready to take the fastest path to Mr. Right, be sure to download my free dating guide at https://trulyeleanor.com/datingapps

If you’re a single woman over 40 who keeps attracting Mr. Unavailable on repeat, even though what you really want is a secure, lasting relationship, this episode is for you.

In this conversation, we’re diving into unconscious self-sabotage in dating: the sneaky ways your mind and heart can work against your deepest desires without you even realizing it. If you’ve ever said “I’m ready for love!” but keep finding yourself in confusing, unfulfilling situations with unavailable guys… there’s a gap between what you want and what you’re actually experiencing. And that’s where change begins.

I’ll share real client stories, common self-sabotaging patterns, and powerful healing tools to help you bring your unconscious blocks to light so you can finally align with the love you desire. If you’re ready to stop chasing, stop hiding, and start welcoming love with an open heart, this episode will give you the clarity and tools to get there.

• The surprising ways self-sabotage shows up in your dating life (even when you swear you’re ready for love)
• Why there’s often a gap between what you say you want and what you’re actually experiencing
• How “harmless” dating habits — like waiting for the universe to deliver or analyzing every text — can keep you stuck
• A real client story that reveals the emotional tug-of-war behind unavailable-guy patterns
• Two powerful healing tools to stop sabotaging your love life and start leading with your heart
  

Ready to Break the Cycle? Listen now!

I hope you enjoyed the show! Please hit subscribe and leave a review and if you’re ready to take the fastest path to Mr. Right, be sure to download my free dating guide at https://trulyeleanor.com/datingapps

If you’re a single woman over 40 and tired of attracting Mr. Unavailable on repeat, this episode is for you. Dating after 40 doesn’t mean you’re doomed to heartbreak; you can break the cycle and finally create space for the love you deserve.

In this episode of the Stop Chasing Unavailable Guys Podcast, I dive into why releasing old heartbreak is essential if you want to welcome Mr. Right with open arms. We’ll talk about the hidden ways unresolved pain lingers in your body, how it quietly influences your choices in love, and the simple practices that help you release it without waiting years to feel “perfectly healed.”

You’ll hear real client stories, learn practical tools like journaling and daily rituals, and discover how to stop letting the past dictate your future in love. Because when you release old heartbreak, you open yourself up to hope, possibility, and lasting love that feels like home.

• Why old heartbreak lives in your body (and the sneaky ways it shows up in dating)
• The surprising triggers that signal unresolved pain is blocking new love
• A client story that proves healing heartbreak makes room for Mr. Right
• Practical rituals to gently release heartbreak one layer at a time
• How releasing the past transforms the way you see love, men, and your own future

I hope you enjoyed the show! Please hit subscribe and leave a review and if you’re ready to take the fastest path to Mr. Right, be sure to download my free dating guide at https://trulyeleanor.com/datingapps

If you’re a single woman over 40 and feel like you keep repeating the same painful patterns in dating, this episode is for you. Many of the struggles we face in love don’t actually start in adulthood; they begin in childhood. Whether it’s growing up in a narcissistic family, feeling unseen, or learning to put everyone else’s needs first, those early experiences shape the way you show up in relationships today.

In this episode, I’m pulling back the curtain on how childhood wounds can keep you chasing unavailable guys, ignoring red flags, or settling for less than you deserve. More importantly, I’ll share how to begin breaking free from these old patterns so you can finally create the kind of relationship that feels safe, healthy, and truly aligned with your heart.

You’ll walk away with both insight and action steps to start shifting your love story, because healing your past is the key to opening the door to lasting love after 40.

✨ What’s inside this episode:

• Why childhood patterns secretly show up in your dating life
• The #1 sign you’re stuck in an old cycle without realizing it
• How to identify where you’re still chasing emotional “crumbs”
• Practical steps to start rewriting your love story today
• Why healing your inner child is essential to finding Mr. Right

👉 Tune in now to discover how to break free from the past and attract the love you truly deserve.

I hope you enjoyed the show! Please hit subscribe and leave a review and if you’re ready to take the fastest path to Mr. Right, be sure to download my free dating guide at https://trulyeleanor.com/datingapps

Season 4 of Stop Chasing Unavailable Guys is here and this time, we’re diving into the one thing most single women over 40 overlook on their way to finding Mr. Right: emotional healing.

If you’ve ever felt like dating after 40 is just a loop of attracting unavailable guys, this episode will open your eyes to what’s really happening beneath the surface. Truly Eleanor shares her own journey, client stories, and why emotional healing was the missing piece that finally helped her find her husband in her 40s.

You’ll learn why knowledge and action aren’t enough without healing, how unhealed wounds shape your dating patterns, and why you don’t have to be “fully healed” before finding love. This episode is your invitation to stop spiraling, start connecting with your true self, and finally create the healthy, lasting relationship you deserve.

• Why emotional healing is the real key to attracting Mr. Right after 40
• The client story that reveals how unhealed heartbreak keeps you stuck in dating loops
• How attachment styles (anxious, avoidant, ambivalent) show up in midlife dating
• The 3 parts of Eleanor’s framework that turn wounds into wisdom
• Why you don’t need to be “perfectly healed” to find lasting love
  

I hope you enjoyed the show! Please hit subscribe and leave a review and if you’re ready to take the fastest path to Mr. Right, be sure to download my free dating guide at https://trulyeleanor.com/datingapps

Welcome to the Season 3 finale of Stop Chasing Unavailable Guys Podcast! In this episode, I’m doing something special by answering YOUR burning dating questions while highlighting the best moments from this season. From how to tell the difference between fear and intuition, to knowing when it’s time to pause your dating profile, to avoiding the endless messaging trap on dating apps, I’m covering it all.

This season was all about mastering your intuition to find love after 40. We explored practical ways to connect with your inner wisdom, avoid dating burnout, and create an intuitive dating plan that actually works. Whether you’re new to the podcast or have been following along, this finale is packed with dating wisdom that will save you time, energy, and heartache.

• Why endless messaging on dating apps is a trap—and how to move to an in-person date faster
• The exact deal breakers to clarify before meeting someone in person
• How to decide when to pause your dating profile (hint: it’s a mutual conversation, not a solo decision)
• What to do if you can’t feel your “yes” and “no” signals in your body yet
• The simple 3-step framework to stop beating yourself up for past relationship choices
• How to tell the difference between fear and an intuitive red flag
• A quick recap of Season 3

Tune in now to hear the full Q&A and get intuitive dating tips you can start using today!

If you're a single woman over 40 looking for lasting love and you're tired of following all the “rules” that leave you confused, burned out, and second-guessing yourself, this episode is your turning point. This week, Truly Eleanor introduces the concept of an Intuitive Dating Plan: what it is, why you desperately need one, and how it can completely change the way you date.

You'll hear the honest truth about what most women are doing wrong in dating and why following other people’s advice is keeping you stuck in a loop of chasing emotionally unavailable guys. Eleanor shares personal stories, insights from coaching hundreds of women, and her own love journey in her 40s. If you're ready to ditch the hustle, get grounded in your own knowing, and attract Mr. Right with clarity and self-trust, you’ll love this episode!

• Why “just go on more dates” is the worst advice for women over 40
• The real reason you're burned out from dating (hint: it's not your age!)
• What an intuitive dating plan actually looks like and how it works
• How your body can help you make better dating decisions
• The sneaky trap of trying to be more "feminine" or “positive” to get the guy
• When advice from friends and experts becomes toxic—and what to do instead
• How this one shift can help you finally stop chasing unavailable guys

🎧 Ready to go deeper and connect with your intuition to find real love? Check out the Intuitive Path to Love Course — 4 powerful audio modules + 7 chakra healing meditations to guide you toward love with clarity and confidence. Click here to get started

If you're a single woman over 40 who's exhausted by dating disappointments and tired of relying on logic that never leads to love, this episode is your game-changing invitation into a new way of attracting Mr. Right. In Part 3 of her manifestation series, Truly Eleanor shares three of her most powerful intuitive manifestation tools—EFT tapping, affirmations, and intentions—to help you align your energy, release self-doubt, and magnetize lasting love.

With 20 years of intuitive healing and coaching experience, Eleanor breaks down exactly how and why these tools work to guide you out of fear, second-guessing, and energetic burnout. You’ll hear her personal stories, client results, and a live demo of how to use tapping to shift heavy emotions that block love.

These are practical, empowering techniques you can start using today to direct your energy toward the love you deserve. Because love isn’t logical—it’s intuitive.

What’s Inside This Episode:

• How tapping (EFT) clears emotional blocks and awakens your intuition
• The surprising power of affirmations (and why they actually work)
• The difference between intentions vs affirmations (and how to use both)
• How to release stuck energy and access clarity about love
• Eleanor’s signature process to move from self-doubt to magnetism

If you're ready to stop circling the same old dating patterns, this episode is your invitation to shift how you show up—and finally start moving toward the love you desire.

Ready to go deeper and connect with your intuition to find real love? Check out the Intuitive Dating Activation Course, where you’ll get four powerful audio modules and seven guided meditations to help you trust yourself, stop second-guessing, and create a love life that actually feels good. Over 2,700 women have already transformed the way they date — you can be next.

If you’re a single woman over 40 looking for real, lasting love (not another confusing situationship or emotional rollercoaster), this episode is for you. You’re done chasing guys who can’t show up — and you’re ready to attract someone who actually gets you. In Part 2 of my manifestation series, I’m teaching you one of my most powerful tools to connect with your intuition and call in the love you desire.

If you’ve asked the Universe for a sign and then seen the same flower, animal, or image pop up over and over again… this episode will show you exactly what to do with that. In episode 9, I’m sharing a deeply personal (and powerful) technique to attract love: the personal symbol.

This isn’t just about cute signs or spiritual woo. This is about developing a consistent, intuitive connection to something greater than yourself — so that even in your most confusing or painful moments, you know you’re not alone. Whether you’ve already identified your symbol (like a daisy or dolphin) or you’re still trying to figure it out, I’ll walk you through how to discover, interpret, and use your personal symbol as a guide to manifest Mr. Right.

• What a personal symbol is (and how it’s different from a generic “sign”)
• How my personal symbol helped me navigate a painful healing journey
• The #1 feeling to look for when identifying your own personal symbol
• What to do if your symbol isn’t clear yet (hint: this episode helps you find it)
• A simple journaling practice to build a relationship with your symbol
• Why manifestation isn’t about "thinking positive" — and what it is really about

Listen now to get started on your intuitive dating journey!

💖 Ready to go deeper and connect with your intuition to find real love? Check out the Intuitive Dating Activation Course, where you’ll get four powerful audio modules and seven guided meditations to help you trust yourself, stop second-guessing, and create a love life that actually feels good. Over 2,700 women have already transformed the way they date — you can be next.

If you’ve ever tried to “manifest love” and ended up more confused than connected, this episode is your breath of fresh air. As an intuitive love coach with 20+ years of deep inner work and coaching experience, I’m breaking down what manifestation really means — and how to use it in a grounded, heart-centered way to attract lasting love after 40.

In part 1 of this brand-new series, you’ll learn how to work with archetypes — powerful symbols from your subconscious — to connect with your intuition, break free from self-sabotaging patterns, and start manifesting love that’s aligned with who you truly are. You’ll even be guided through a beautiful visualization inside your Sacred Heart space to meet an archetype with a message just for you.

• Why most people misunderstand manifestation (and what actually works)
• What archetypes are — and how they help you break old dating patterns
• The rebellious inner teenager, the warrior, and other archetypes that may be shaping your love life
• A guided Sacred Heart visualization to meet the archetype who can help you in love right now
• How to decode symbolic messages from your subconscious (even if you don’t “see” anything)
• Journaling prompts to capture what your archetype reveals about love, trust, and healing

Want to go deeper? Check out the Intuitive Dating Activation Course – 4 powerful audio modules + 7 chakra-based meditations to help you trust your intuition, date with clarity, and find Mr. Right.

If dating feels like a soul-sucking chore and you’re on the verge of swiping yourself into oblivion, this episode is exactly what you need. In part 3 of my series on avoiding dating burnout, I share how to move through confusion, self-doubt, and rejection without losing yourself — or your hope for finding love. As an intuitive love coach, I’m giving you practical tools to process the emotional ups and downs of dating after 40, so you can stay connected to your true self and call in the relationship you truly desire.

Get ready for journaling prompts, mindset shifts, and soulful practices that help you regulate your emotions, tap into your intuition, and date with intention (instead of burnout). This is about finding the real magic in your love life — no games, no chasing, no settling.

• Why confusion and self-doubt spike even more when you start using your intuition in dating
• The sneaky way negative thoughts create burnout before you even realize it
• Journaling prompts to help you process dating frustrations fast
• How to reframe rejection so it stops derailing your confidence
• Simple, powerful techniques (including EFT and intuitive movement) to release stored emotions
• The mindset shift that helps you stop seeing rejection as failure — and start seeing it as guidance

• Even thinking about dating apps makes your stomach turn
• You keep second-guessing yourself and feel stuck in confusion
• You’re tired of the emotional rollercoaster that comes with dating after 40
• Rejection hits you hard and leaves you doubting if you’ll ever find love
• You’re ready to date in a way that feels true to who you are (not what you think you “should” do)

👉 Press play and take the first step toward dating with intention, joy, and self-trust.

If this episode spoke to your heart, I’ve put together a special Dating Burnout Recovery Kit — my most supportive tools to help you process rejection, reset your energy, and move forward with confidence. You’ll find it at https://trulyeleanor.com/datingburnoutkit— check it out today.

Are you a single woman over 40 who’s feeling drained by dating, wondering if you should take yet another break—or if love just isn’t in the cards for you? Before you delete the apps, swear off dating forever, or retreat to your cozy corner with your favorite blanket and reruns of The Golden Girls, take a pause.

When you’re dating from burnout, everything feels heavy and forced. But when you learn to recognize your intuitive yes, dating becomes lighter, easier, and way more aligned. In this episode, I’ll guide you to stop pushing through the noise and start listening to what your body—and heart—already know.

In Episode 6, You’ll Learn:

• How to recognize your intuitive yes (hint: it’s not about logic)
• Why "yes" doesn't always mean "he's the one"
• Why tuning into your body will save you time, energy, and heartache
• How I met my husband in 10 days by following my yes
• Simple daily ways to start practicing your intuitive yes

Perfect For You If:

• You’ve been second-guessing yourself after every date
• The idea of dating immediately brings on the exhaustion
• You’re tired of swiping and wondering if it’s all worth it
• You want dating to feel like something you GET to do, not something you HAVE to do
• You’re ready to shift from chasing guys to choosing love

Let’s get you back on the path to love—with your intuition as the compass.

Love this episode? Subscribe and leave a review so more women over 40 can stop chasing unavailable guys and find love that lasts. And don’t forget to catch Part 1 if you missed it!

P.S. If dating has felt confusing, exhausting, or like a full-time job… it’s time for a different approach.

You don’t need to try harder.

You need to trust smarter—starting with yourself.

Let this course show you how to date from intuition, not insecurity… and finally call in the love that’s actually meant for you.

👉 [Start Intuitive Dating Now]

Are you a single woman over 40 who’s exhausted by dating, ready to give up, or tempted to let "divine timing" take the wheel? Before you throw in the towel (or adopt another cat), tune in. In this episode, we’re kicking off a brand-new 3-part series on using your intuition to avoid dating burnout—because finding love shouldn’t feel like an emotional marathon.

Dating burnout is real—and it’s one of the most common patterns I see among women over 40. But there’s a way out, and it doesn’t involve deleting the apps or sitting on the couch waiting for the universe to drop a guy in your lap.

In this episode, I’m sharing:

• How to spot the signs of dating burnout (even if you’re not sure you have it)
• The trap of relying on “divine timing”
• Why ignoring your intuition leads to emotional fatigue
• And most importantly—how to learn your NO so you can finally move toward your YES in love

This is your starting point to stop chasing, stop forcing, and start listening to your inner wisdom. Let’s get you back on the path to Mr. Right—with your intuition in the driver’s seat.

• Dating burnout is sneaky—it shows up as exhaustion, dread, cynicism, or even physical symptoms when thinking about dating.
• Divine timing isn’t a dating plan—waiting passively often masks giving up.
• Burnout is a sign you’ve been forcing, chasing, and ignoring your intuition.
• Your “No” is sacred—learning to recognize and honor it is the first step to finding aligned, effortless love.
• You’re not alone. This episode is filled with truth, tools, and a no-shame approach to healing from the inside out.

• You’ve ever said “I’m just too tired to date”
• You secretly hate dating apps but feel guilty for avoiding them
• You’ve been told to “just wait for the right guy” but it’s been... a while
• You’re done with emotionally unavailable guys and want to do things differently

I hope you enjoyed the show! Please hit subscribe and leave a review and if you’re ready to take the fastest path to Mr. Right, be sure to join us for the Detox Unavailable Guys Challenge at www.stopchasingunavailableguys.com 

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If you're a single woman over 40 who's done with the dating games and tired of chasing unavailable guys, then you’re gonna want to stick around. We're diving into how to tap into your intuition, and trust me, it’s not just for psychics and crystal ball gazers! I’ll share my own journey, from being a total hot mess to finding true love, and we’ll even do some chill exercises to help sharpen those intuitive skills. We’ll break it down into three simple steps: awareness, acceptance, and connection.

You’ll learn how to sift through all that mental noise and really feel what your heart is saying. We’ll share some laughs about the struggles of dating in our 40s, and I’ll give you practical tips to help you clear out any emotional baggage that’s holding you back. I promise you, it’s not just about finding love; it’s about loving yourself first! So grab your favorite drink, kick back, and let’s explore how you can become your own dating guru, with a little help from me!

Takeaways:

• This episode is perfect for single women over 40 who are tired of dating games.
• Developing your intuition can help you identify and avoid unavailable guys in dating.
• The three key steps to develop your intuition are awareness, acceptance, and connection.
• Trusting your intuition is crucial for finding true love, so listen to your heart!
• Emotional clearing is vital; release past feelings to make space for new love.
• Testing your intuition with small actions can lead to surprising opportunities in dating.

I hope you enjoyed the show! Please hit subscribe and leave a review and if you’re ready to take the fastest path to Mr. Right, be sure to join us for the Detox Unavailable Guys Challenge at www.stopchasingunavailableguys.com 

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For the Gen X Woman Who's Ready for Real Love

You’re a single woman over 40, you're done chasing emotionally unavailable guys, and you're finally ready to tune into your intuition to find true love. But wait—how do you know it’s your intuition guiding you… and not just your fear in disguise?

I’m your host, Truly Eleanor—intuitive love coach, Gen X spiritual guide. I found my Mr. Right in my 40s (yes, it can happen!) and now I help women like you do the same—without wasting years on ghosters, love bombers, or emotionally allergic guys.

In This Episode:

💫 How to actually tell the difference between your intuition and your fearful thoughts

💫 Why your head may be the worst GPS for love (no offense, logic)

💫 The surprising way intuition really feels—spoiler alert: it’s not always a neon YES

💫 What self-sabotage sounds like (and how to lovingly call it out)

Key Takeaways:

✔ Intuition is calm, simple, and heart-centered—it feels like love, even when it's scary

✔ Fear and sabotage are loud, chaotic, and rooted in your past

✔ You don't need to "quiet your mind" forever—you just need to choose which voice to follow

✔ You’re allowed to be messy, nervous, and still divinely guided (hi, Bridget Jones)

✔ Your intuition won’t always come as a “lightning bolt”—sometimes it’s a whisper in the noise

🎧 Listen to this episode if you’ve ever asked:

• “Is this a gut feeling or just panic?”
• “How do I trust myself after so many disappointments?”
• “Am I self-sabotaging again... or protecting myself?”

🔥 Next Steps:

👉 Missed the first two episodes of the season?

• [Ep 1: Intuition 101 – What It Is & Why It Matters in Love]
• [Ep 2: How to Access Your Intuition to Find Mr. Right]

💖 And don’t forget:

Subscribe, share this episode with your friends, and leave a review if it spoke to your intuitive heart. Your support helps us reach more Gen X women who are so done with dating drama and ready for their real-life love story.

I hope you enjoyed the show! Please hit subscribe and leave a review and if you’re ready to take the fastest path to Mr. Right, be sure to join us for the Detox Unavailable Guys Challenge at www.stopchasingunavailableguys.com 

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If you're a single woman over 40 looking for Mr. Right, and you're ready to learn the most underrated skill to save time and heartache, you're in the right place. In this episode, as an intuitive love coach, I'm sharing how to access your intuition to find love. 

As an intuitive love coach (and a fellow Gen X’er who’s been there, done that, and bought the Breakfast Club t-shirt), I’m showing you exactly how to access your intuition to find real, lasting love—without all the second-guessing, overthinking, or talking yourself into situations that deep down, you know are a no.

You’ll also hear how to spot your personal “Yes” and “No” signals in your body (spoiler alert: your body is way smarter than your head sometimes) and how to build a relationship with your intuition that’s as reliable as Duckie showing up for Andie in Pretty in Pink.

By learning to trust your inner wisdom, you’ll be able to bypass years of dating detours and heartache. No more wasting time hoping an unavailable guy will change. It’s time to do things differently than you did in your 20s—because you’re wiser now, and love can be easier when you listen to yourself.

Remember: Mr. Right is out there. Your intuition is the shortcut to finding him.

If you loved this episode, share it with a fellow Gen X girlfriend who's ready to stop chasing unavailable guys and finally find her Mr. Right. And don't forget to hit subscribe so you never miss an episode.

Don’t miss this heart-to-heart chat that will empower you to break free from chasing unavailable guys and open the door to the healthy, loving relationship you've been waiting for.

I hope you enjoyed the show! Please hit subscribe and leave a review and if you’re ready to take the fastest path to Mr. Right, be sure to join us for the Detox Unavailable Guys Challenge at www.stopchasingunavailableguys.com 

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Welcome to Season 3 of the Stop Chasing Unavailable Guys podcast! I’m Truly Eleanor, your intuitive dating coach, and if you’ve ever felt like you keep dating the same guy in a different body or second-guess yourself constantly—this episode is so for you.

We’re kicking off this season with the most powerful, overlooked, and misunderstood tool in your dating toolbox: your intuition. If you've ever felt like love is just not happening for you—especially after 40—and you're feeling burnt out from trying to figure it all out with your head, it’s time to get out of your own way and into your heart.

In this episode, I break down:

• What intuition actually is (and how it’s different from empathy or being sensitive)
• Why Gen X women like us were never taught to trust it (hello, logic and people-pleasing conditioning!)
• How ignoring it keeps you stuck in a loop of chasing emotionally unavailable guys
• My personal journey from feeling like a hot mess express in love to meeting my amazing husband—because I finally listened to my inner guidance
• Why intuition is the foundation for everything we’ll dive into this season

If you're feeling like your dating life is a bad rerun of an ‘80s soap opera (hello, Days of Our Lives vibes), it’s time to tune in and start writing a new script—one where you trust yourself and attract the kind of love that actually lasts.

✨ Plus, I’m sharing insider gems from my popular course Master Your Intuition to Find Love, which has helped thousands of women transform their love lives—and this season, you'll get golden nuggets from it in every episode.

🌟 If you’re ready to stop overthinking and start trusting yourself in love, this episode is your must-listen.

🎧 Listen now and subscribe so you don’t miss a single intuitive hit this season!

I hope you enjoyed the show! Please hit subscribe and leave a review and if you’re ready to take the fastest path to Mr. Right, be sure to join us for the Detox Unavailable Guys Challenge at www.stopchasingunavailableguys.com 

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I can’t believe we’re already here. It’s the season two finale! This journey has been incredible, and I’m so grateful you’ve come along for the ride. Whether you’ve been listening since episode one or just found the podcast recently, I wanted to wrap up the season by answering your burning dating questions. Because if you're a single woman over 40 looking for your Mr. Right and you’re tired of wasting time on emotionally unavailable men- this episode is for you.

But first, I do a quick recap of this entire season. Season two was all about getting super intentional about finding love. No fluff, no wasting time just practical, grounded advice on how to meet Mr. Right, especially when dating after 40 feels… overwhelming or exhausting.

Here’s what we’ve covered this season (in case you want to catch up or revisit any gems before season three drops):

• Episode 1: How to meet Mr. Right now—not in five years. I shared how getting clear and intentional can lead to real results, faster than you think.
• Episodes 2–4: The three surefire avenues to meet someone: through friends and family, at social/singles events, and yes… online dating. I broke down the mindset traps to avoid and how to use these paths effectively.
• Episode 5: How to recognize Mr. Right when he does show up—and avoid second-guessing yourself into confusion.
• Episode 6: Spotting Mr. Unavailable. Because recognizing the wrong fit is just as important as spotting the right one.
• Episodes 7–9: My top dating advice for women over 40. This juicy three-part series covered internal prep, aligned action, and managing dating fears and anxiety.
• Episodes 10–11: First date do’s and don’ts. From pre-date prep to red flag radar, I walk you through exactly how to show up with confidence.

And now… drumroll… in this finale episode, I’m answering some of the most common questions I get from women just like you:

What we cover in this episode:

• “Which dating site should I use?”—I give you the honest truth (hint: there’s no perfect app, but the way you use it matters most).
• How to use dating apps without getting completely burnt out or wasting your energy—yes, I believe in setting dating boundaries!
• How to stop overgiving and start receiving—especially if you're used to settling or putting your needs last in relationships.
• Why you might feel repulsed when someone actually treats you well—and how to rewire your heart to let love in.

Dating after 40 doesn't have to feel like a second job or a hopeless game. You deserve a love that feels like home and I’m here to help you get there with grace, clarity, and intention.

Want to help shape Season 3?

I’d love to hear from you. Make sure you’re on my email list so you can submit your own questions and ideas for upcoming episodes.

If this episode hit home, send it to a friend who’s dating after 40 and ready for a real love story. And don’t forget to subscribe so you don’t miss what’s coming next.

We’re just getting started. 💛

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If you're a single woman over 40 and you're serious about finding a real, emotionally available partner — this one's for you. In this episode, I'm sharing the most important first date DON'Ts to help you stop wasting time and start getting clear on what actually moves you closer to love. These are the same patterns I had to break to find my own Mr. Right (yes, it happened in my 40s — and yes, it's absolutely possible for you too).

Think of this episode as a loving, intuitive wake-up call. I’m not here to sugarcoat — I’m here to help you become radically self-aware, so you stop repeating the same dating cycles and start honoring your feelings, your body, and your truth.

What we cover in this episode:

• Why ignoring your intuition is the #1 mistake most women make on a first date
• The two ways we talk ourselves out of or into dates — and how both can be self-sabotage
• How "making excuses" and "defending someone you barely know" could be hurting your chances at love
• The emotional red flags that signal you might need a dating break
• Why focusing too much on him pulls you out of your own power
• What it really means to emotionally check out — and how to reconnect with yourself before, during, and after a date
• The dating mindset shift that helps you stop pushing for a fairytale and start choosing from your intuition
• A powerful mantra to remember when you're tempted to settle: You can't love an unavailable man enough to make him into Mr. Right.

This episode is part two of my First Date Do’s and Don’ts series — so if you haven’t listened to the Do’s yet, make sure to go back and check out the previous episode. Both are designed to help you date with more clarity, confidence, and emotional safety.

Dating over 40 doesn’t have to be exhausting or disappointing. When you know what to stop doing — and start truly tuning into yourself — everything changes.

Let’s get you closer to love, without wasting one more minute on the wrong people.

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Hey there! If you’re a single woman over 40 looking for Mr. Right, you’re in the right place. In this episode, I’m sharing essential first date dos that will help you get closer to meeting the love of your life. With over 15 years of experience as an intuitive dating coach—and having found my own Mr. Right in my 40s—I know firsthand what works and what wastes your time. Let’s dive into part one of this mini-series, where I’ll cover exactly what you should be doing on a first date.

• Why dating after 40 requires intention and self-awareness
• The importance of preparing yourself emotionally and mentally before dating
• How to use online dating as a tool for actually meeting potential matches
• Why staying open, willing, and playful is essential for success
• Setting clear parameters for deal breakers and must-haves
• The power of checking in with yourself before, during, and after the date
• Following your heart and intuition throughout the dating journey
• Deciding on personal boundaries ahead of time

First dates can be exciting, nerve-wracking, and full of possibilities—but they don’t have to be overwhelming. By preparing yourself emotionally, staying intentional, and checking in with yourself along the way, you’ll be in a strong position to attract the right person. Be sure to tune in to part two, where I’ll cover the biggest first date don’ts to help you avoid common pitfalls.

Want more practical dating strategies? Check out my previous episodes for journaling prompts, practical tips, and real-world strategies to help you find the love you deserve.

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If you’re a woman over 40 looking for Mr. Right, this episode is for you. I’m wrapping up my three-part series on the best dating advice for women over 40, and today we’re diving into the hidden fears, anxieties, and habits that might be holding you back from the love you deserve. As an intuitive dating coach, I’ve worked with countless women (and done this work myself), and I know how powerful it can be to uncover and release these patterns. Let’s get into it.

Unpacking your dating fears:

• Fear of intimacy (being truly seen)
• Fear of rejection or heartbreak
• Fear of recreating toxic relationship patterns
• Fear of being trapped or stuck in the wrong relationship
• The underlying fear of ending up alone

How to confront your fears:

• The “Then what?” exercise to explore and release fears layer by layer
• Using emotional release techniques like tapping to clear emotional charges
• Turning your fears into new intentions that empower your dating journey

The 3 most common habits that hold you back:

Overthinking: Letting your mind take over instead of trusting your intuition.

Dismissing good matches too quickly: Judging potential partners based on surface-level details.

Playing it safe: Avoiding emotional vulnerability to protect yourself, which can prevent genuine connection.

Facing your fears and breaking free from unhelpful dating habits is essential to finding real, meaningful love. The goal isn’t to eliminate fear entirely—it’s to loosen its grip so it no longer controls your dating decisions. By building self-awareness, you can date with more clarity, confidence, and authenticity.

If this episode resonated with you, be sure to check out parts one and two of this series. And if you’re ready for deeper support on your dating journey, reach out—I’d love to help you attract the love you deserve.

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If you're a single woman over 40 looking for love and tired of wasting time on the wrong people, you're in the right place. In this episode, I’m diving into Part 2 of my best dating advice to help you take intentional, aligned action in your dating life.

Last time, we talked about the internal preparation—getting clear on your desires, expectations, and mindset. Today, we’re getting practical and focusing on the external steps you need to take to avoid burnout, frustration, and wasted energy.

• What aligned action in dating actually looks like
• How to avoid self-sabotaging behaviors that drain your energy
• The mistake of going on dates with men who don’t meet your dealbreaker criteria
• The importance of being intentional with your time and dating app usage
• How to set up a dating schedule that keeps you motivated and prevents burnout
• Practical strategies to stay open and hopeful while maintaining strong boundaries
• Why celebrating your efforts (instead of just results) will change your dating experience

If you haven’t listened to Part 1 yet, be sure to check it out! That episode focuses on the internal work that lays the foundation for dating success.

Dating over 40 doesn’t have to be exhausting or discouraging. By taking intentional, aligned action and setting clear boundaries, you can create a dating experience that feels empowering, fulfilling, and—dare I say—fun!

If you're ready to take this to the next level, check out my Detox Unavailable Guys Challenge on my website. It’s a free resource designed to help you get even clearer on who is (and isn’t) right for you.

Thanks for tuning in! Keep going, stay intentional, and trust the process—you’ve got this!

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Welcome to Part 1 of a three-part series Best Dating Advice for Women 40+ where I’m breaking down how to meet high-quality guys and avoid the ones who aren’t worth your time. But before we jump into strategies, we have to start with the most important thing—your mindset.

Dating isn’t just about signing up for an app and hoping for the best. It’s about preparing yourself mentally, emotionally, and spiritually so that you attract the right kind of partner and avoid burnout. In this episode, I’m diving into expectations—what they are, how they shape our experiences, and how to make sure yours are serving you rather than sabotaging your love life.

• The common pitfalls of dating after 40 and how to avoid them
• Why unexamined expectations are one of the biggest sources of frustration in dating
• How to distinguish between expectations and intentions (and why that matters!)
• Powerful journal prompts to help you uncover your own expectations
• The difference between hope, want, and desire—and why understanding this is key to attracting the right partner
• Real-life examples of problematic versus helpful expectations in dating
• How to shift your mindset so you’re making empowered choices instead of settling

When you understand your expectations and align them with what you truly desire, you take back your power in dating. The goal isn’t to control who shows up but to set yourself up for success by being clear about what you want and what you’re willing to put into the process.

This is just the beginning! In the next episode, we’ll dive deeper into setting strong intentions that will transform your dating experience. Stay tuned!

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Hey there! If you're a single woman over 40 looking for Mr. Right and tired of wasting your time on unavailable guys, this episode is for you. As an intuitive love coach, I'm breaking down what red flags really mean, how to recognize them, and—most importantly—how to stop chasing the wrong men. My goal is to empower you with practical dating strategies so you can date with intention and confidence. Let's dive in!

• What Red Flags Really Are: Understanding the signs of an unavailable man and why we often ignore them.
• Owning Your Dating Patterns: How acknowledging your past choices can set you free.
• Mindset Shifts You Need: Why recognizing red flags early on is key to avoiding heartache.
• Emotional and Physical Cues: How your body might be signaling you to run the other way.
• Practical Dating Strategies: What to do when you spot red flags on a first or second date.
• Affirmations for a Healthier Love Life: Simple statements to reprogram your mindset and attract the right kind of love.
• Exercises to Define Your Red Flags: How to create a clear picture of what Mr. Unavailable looks like for you.

I hope this episode gave you the insights you need to date more intentionally and avoid the pitfalls of chasing unavailable men. Remember, recognizing red flags isn't about judgment—it's about protecting your time, energy, and heart. If you haven't yet, make sure to listen to the previous episode on green flags so you can focus on what you do want, not just what you want to avoid. Until next time, keep dating with purpose and trust your intuition—you've got this!

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Hey there! If you're a single woman over 40 looking for love and tired of wasting time on the wrong guys, this episode is for you. As an intuitive love coach, I'm diving into the green flags you should look for in dating—those signs that help you recognize Mr. Right when he's right in front of you. While red flags are important, today is all about focusing on the positives, so you can date with more fun, confidence, and clarity.

• Why Green Flags Matter: It’s easy to get caught up in red flags, but focusing on green flags can shift your energy and mindset for better dating experiences.
• What Potential Really Means: It’s not just about checking boxes but about feeling at home and at peace when you're with someone.
• Mindset Shifts for Dating Success: How to approach dating with an abundance mindset and avoid scarcity traps like "there are no good guys left."
• Emotional Green Flags: Feeling safe, calm, and grounded excitement on dates—what those feelings mean and why they matter.
• Practical Exercise to Find Your Mr. Right: I walk you through an exercise to identify the top five characteristics, behaviors, and feelings associated with your ideal partner.
• Affirmations for Dating with Intention: Powerful affirmations to strengthen your intuition and keep insecurities from making your decisions.

If you’re ready to shift from focusing on red flags to recognizing green flags in dating, this episode will help you feel more hopeful and open-hearted. Start noticing how you feel around potential partners and set the intention to find the guy who makes you feel safe, valued, and authentically yourself.

Stay tuned for our next episode, where we’ll dive into red flags and deal breakers—because yes, those are important too!

I hope you enjoy this episode and feel inspired to approach dating with a fresh perspective. If you loved this conversation, don't forget to subscribe and share it with a friend who might need a little dating encouragement.

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If you’re a single woman over 40 looking for Mr. Right and you’re ready to hear how to actually meet him—without the games and frustration—then you’re in the right place. In this episode, part three of my series Three Ways to Meet Mr. Right After 40, we’re tackling the dreaded world of online dating. Between fake profiles, married men, and time wasters, it’s easy to feel like online dating is more hassle than it’s worth. But I promise you, if done right, it can be an effective and powerful way to meet someone amazing. I’ve seen it work for my clients, and I even met my husband this way! So let’s break down how to make online dating a smart, intentional, and successful part of your dating journey.

What We Cover in This Episode:

• Why Mindset Matters: The way you approach online dating shapes your experience. If you go in thinking it’s a waste of time, guess what? That’s exactly what it will be.
• Internal Preparation Before You Sign Up: Before diving in, take time to reflect on your expectations and intentions. Ask yourself:
• What do I hope to get out of online dating?
• What kind of relationship am I looking for?
• Who do I believe is actually out there for me?
• How much time and energy am I willing to commit to the process?
• Shifting from Expectations to Intentions: Expectations can set you up for frustration, but intentions keep you in control. Instead of thinking, “I better meet someone immediately,” shift to “I intend to have fun and be open to meeting great people.”
• Handling the Emotional Rollercoaster: Acknowledge the emotions that come up—fear, frustration, even resentment from past relationships—so they don’t control your experience.
• Taking Practical Action: Once you’ve done the internal work, set yourself up for success with a structured approach:
• Schedule specific time slots for being on the apps (e.g., three times a week for 30 minutes).
• Approach it with curiosity and openness, rather than pressure and expectation.
• Recognize that quality connections take time, but a consistent and intentional approach will get you there.

Online dating doesn’t have to be a frustrating time-suck—it can actually be an empowering way to meet someone amazing. But it all starts with your mindset and approach. By getting clear on your intentions, managing expectations, and taking consistent action, you can make online dating work for you instead of against you. If you want to dive deeper into this framework and learn the exact process I used (and that I teach my clients) to meet Mr. Right, go back and check out Season One. And if this episode resonated with you, I’d love to hear your thoughts—send me a message or share your biggest takeaway.

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If you're a single woman over 40 and ready to meet Mr. Right, you're in the right place! This is Part 2 of my 3-part series on the best ways to meet him this year—not five years from now, not in some vague future, but now. Today, we’re diving into social and singles events, a strategy that I know works.

I get a lot of pushback when I bring this up, and I totally get it—I had the same doubts before I met my husband. Maybe you’ve thought:

• “There are no events for my age.” (Translation: I feel too old.)
• “There won’t be enough men there.” (And if there are, we’ll all be fighting over them.)
• “These events are just awkward and lame.” (Speed dating with a lock-and-key gimmick? No thanks.)

Sound familiar? If so, let’s flip that mindset. Because the truth is, these events work when you approach them the right way.

Instead of seeing these events as doomed before they start, I want you to adopt this perspective:

• Every event you attend is a step in the right direction. It’s about taking action, not obsessing over the outcome.
• You’re showing the universe you’re serious. The more intentional you are, the more opportunities you create.
• Your energy is powerful. Just by putting yourself out there, you’re opening doors you didn’t even know existed.

Dating can bring up a rollercoaster of emotions—frustration, resentment, disappointment. I’ve been there. That’s why I recommend having a daily emotional check-in. Here are some journal prompts to help:

• What am I feeling about dating today?
• What do I believe is possible for me when it comes to love?
• How can I make dating more fun and lighthearted?
• How am I supporting myself in this process?

If you can’t find the right event, create one! Here are some ideas: Start a singles book club, hiking group, or coffee meetup. (Your local library or community center can help.) Host a dinner party where everyone brings a single friend. Organize a singles improv night. (One of the most fun events I ever attended!) Find singles-specific events on Meetup.

The key? Be intentional and stay open. Even if an event doesn’t lead directly to Mr. Right, the energy you put into the process will lead you closer to him—sometimes in the most unexpected ways.

In the final part of this series, we’ll cover another powerful way to meet Mr. Right after 40. But for now, I challenge you: Find one singles event in your area and commit to going! Then, let me know how it goes—I’d love to hear your experience.

See you in the next episode!

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Welcome to part one of my three-part series on how to meet Mr. Right after 40! If you're already rolling your eyes at the thought of meeting someone through friends and family, I totally get it. But hear me out—this episode is all about shifting your mindset, breaking past limiting beliefs, and opening yourself up to opportunities that may be closer than you think.

• Why your inner circle (friends, family, and close connections) can be a powerful way to meet someone
• How your mindset might be shutting down potential opportunities before they even arise
• The six degrees of separation and how it applies to your dating life
• How to work through emotional blocks like embarrassment or fear of asking for help
• Practical ways to reach out to friends and family without it feeling awkward or forced

I used to believe this avenue wouldn’t work for me, and I regret not trying it sooner. The truth is, you are likely much closer to meeting the right person than you realize. When you open yourself up, shift your mindset, and take intentional action, incredible things can happen.

So, are you ready to put this strategy into action? Start by considering the people in your life who truly know you. And stay tuned for part two of this series, where we’ll dive into the next way to meet Mr. Right after 40!

See you in the next episode!

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If you’re a single woman over 40 struggling to find Mr. Right because you’re drawn to unavailable guys, this episode is for you. I’m kicking off Season 2 with practical tips on how to meet Mr. Right now—without falling for divine feminine gimmicks or self-abandoning to fit into someone else’s mold.

Here’s what I cover in this episode:

• Why the mindset of "waiting for the perfect time" to meet someone is holding you back.
• The hidden barriers you might be creating that keep love out of reach.
• My go-to question: What if you met Mr. Right today?
• How “undating” behaviors—like dismissing online dating, skipping events, or giving up on introductions—are sabotaging your chances.
• The three practical ways to meet your guy that actually work (hint: it’s not magic, it’s strategy).

I also dive into why staying open to possibilities is key, share my personal framework for finding love, and outline what’s coming in this season—including a guided first-date walkthrough!

Get ready to shift your mindset, take action, and open yourself up to the relationship you deserve. Let’s make it happen this season!

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