Spiritual Sexual Shamanic Podcast – Details, episodes & analysis

In this episode, ISTA facilitator Usha Rose speaks with systemic therapist and transformational guide Lars Borgmann about how to engage in conflict with others in a better way. 

As Lars explains, conflict can occur in any area of our lives, but our experiences of it are often so unpleasant that we aim to avoid it at any cost. Without being dealt with, it can fester underneath the surface of our relationships, causing even more problems. 

What we should do is stop seeing conflict as an indication that someone has done something wrong. Instead, we should take a systemic approach and see that everyone has their own internal conflicts, and their own complex desires, that are influencing the tense interaction.

If we see conflict as an opportunity for us to grow in our relationships with others, then we can begin collaborating with those we’re clashing with and create new solutions to the problems we’re facing. 

Lars speaks about how we can make this happen. He also addresses: 

·      Bringing love to conflict

·      Letting go of our need to control the truth

·      How conflicts are actually made-up of many smaller conflicts

·      The influence of past experience on present interactions

·      How 99% of our issues with others have already occurred within ourselves

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It's not just the stuff of science fiction. As ISTA Lead faculty member Michal Maayan Don explains, bending time is possible when we drop deeply into what we love to do. That may be easier said than done. But if we aim to be more authentic, and practice healthy boundaries, we might be surprised by how quickly that sense of timelessness can come about. 

In this spontaneous and bubbly conversation, Michal and Simon Marvell also explore themes of vibrations, connection, and uncaging eros. They delve into the importance of touch in fostering aliveness and the collective intelligence that emerges in group settings. 

Overall, the emphasis is on our need to reconnect with the spirit in matter and the significance of love and land in our lives. 

TAKEAWAYS

• Vibrations signify a higher level of aliveness in our bodies.
• Touch is essential for genuine connection and communication.
• Sexual energy can be uncaged and expressed in unconventional forms.
• Timelessness can be experienced in deep connections with others.
• Love and connection to the land enhance our experiences.
• Collective intelligence emerges when groups vibrate together.
• Spirit is present in matter and can be felt through our bodies.
• Reconnecting with our instincts is crucial for healthy boundaries.
• Vulnerability in groups fosters deeper connections and love.

TIMESTAMPS

00:00 Introduction to Vibrations and Aliveness
03:10 The Power of Touch and Connection
06:31 Uncaging Eros: Redefining Sexuality
12:44 The Intelligence of the Body and Instincts
19:57 The Role of Boundaries and Emotional Energy
25:30 Experiencing Timelessness in Connection
31:31 Love and Connection with the Land
39:30 Acknowledging Indigenous Connections to Land
43:01 The Spirit in Matter and Animal Instincts
51:44 The Vibrational Intelligence of Groups

It has become common to talk about creating safer spaces for healing work. And this is a good thing. Everyone in the field of conscious sensuality, embodiment, and healing work should be looking to improve their practice and rise to higher standards of care, support, awareness, and sensitivity.

At the same time, it has also become common to resist this advancement in favour of the idea that self-development spaces should reflect the level of safety in the outside world. And sometimes, for some people, the world can feel really dangerous. People who take this view might say that this is how we learn resilience, or how we can turn difficulty into growth. 

But for our guest in this episode, somatic psychotherapist Shelby Leigh, if we are interested in the resolution of the trauma that affects so many of our lives, the spaces we enter for healing simply must be environments grounded in values of connection, responsibility, and trust. 

For Leigh, trauma is anything that overwhelms us, and it can stay with us if we never have a chance to naturally complete our body’s survival response to that overwhelming thing. The feeling of overwhelm can stay with us, separating us from our sense of belonging in the world, and inhibiting our capacity for healthy relationships. 

In her conversation with ISTA facilitator, Usha Rose, Leigh speaks about just how important it is to learn skills of self-regulation, stillness, and boundaries in a safe environment. It is then that we are in a great position to step into the revolutionary practice of taking those skills into the dynamic, playful, and perhaps riskier outside world. 

Some of the topics covered in this episode are: 

• Relating with others as the medicine we need.
  
  
• Understanding your ‘attachment style.’
  
  
• Growing up with narcissistic parents. 
  
  
• When complex trauma gets misdiagnosed as ADHD or anxiety. 
  
  
• Protocols for people working in healing spaces.
  
  
• Not pushing past your ‘no.’ 
  
  
• Stepping slowly into healing spaces. 
  
  
• Nervous system regulation as meditation. 

You can learn more about Shelby at her website: https://www.shelby-leigh.com/

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Over the last couple of years, Dave Boda has been really critical of ISTA. He’s composed blog-posts and spoken openly about how some of the people involved need to improve, and how some of the ways ISTA approaches its work need to fall away. 

In this episode, he talks with ISTA facilitator, the podcast founder, and his old friend, Ria Yoshida, about how important it is to not only have these frank conversations about improving the sacred sexuality space, but to do it in an engaged and loving way. 

Although Dave has not attended an ISTA experience himself, he has  facilitated hundreds of events in the spiritual self-development space and draws, here, on his experience there. He has also been through an extended mediation process with ISTA in his role with the group, Safer Sex Positive and Spiritual Communities. 

For him, it is crucial for communities to acknowledge when it is time to shift with the times, and grow along with those who form them. 

Dave and Ria cover many points of wisdom that have arrived for both of them in their journeys of self-exploration, like: 

• How important it is to take breaks from going to workshops or festivals and integrate what you’ve learned into ordinary life. 
  
  
• How we need to take accountability for what happens in our lives, and for when we’ve made mistakes. 
  
  
• How important it is to really listen to feedback. 
  
  
• How we often stay working on projects that no longer serve us because it’s what we get rewarded for. 
  
  
• How it is really difficult to genuinely do the work of taking responsibility. 

We hope you enjoy this frank, and very real, conversation.


To learn more about Dave, visit his website: https://boodaism.com/

To learn more about Safer Sex Positive and Spiritual Communities, visit their website: https://3sc.community/

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There’s a lot of hot debate about the ethics of transformational spaces right now, driven by questions of how power should be held in these spaces. Who should be responsible if something goes wrong? Just what are the limits of what gets taught?

Maybe it would be easier not to create spaces for transformational work, for looking at shadows and how power moves. Maybe making such spaces, if they are still to exist, should be made so anodyne as to neutralize whatever challenges people might feel around these issues (including sexuality).

Our guest, Elica Lorde-Syzygy, a transpersonal counsellor and Internal Family Systems therapist, is on today’s show to discuss these questions. In this conversation Elica explains how we can be so accustomed to pointing the finger at others that we miss many opportunities to pass over the threshold of responsibility to a more sovereign and resilient selfhood. 

The reasons we do this are understandable. We don’t want to be exiled from the groups that support our thriving. We’re part of a larger culture that perhaps wants us to remain attached to archetypal figures of the mother and the father. But if we stay like that, we remain dependent! 


We might find ourselves getting to a place, in ourselves and in the groups we are part of, where these kinds of subconsciously dependent relations are just simply not working any more, and are causing more harm than good. It’s at this point, Elica explains, that we can get to work…

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https://www.b-inghuman.com/our-story-1

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In this episode, Ria talks with Dr. Jen Howk about the collision of science and mysticism in the field of evolutionary psychology. With her feet planted firmly in both worlds, Dr. Jen delves into the how and why of our psychological quirks, revealing some of the mysteries of our development as a species.

In particular, she tackles the intriguing phenomenon of cancel culture. In doing so, she explores the historical roots of our collective drive to create ‘in’-groups and ‘out’-groups, explaining that it was a crucial strategy in ancient communities for protecting against threats.

Conformity, she argues, often stems from a deep-seated fear of being relegated to one of these 'out'-groups—a survival instinct that persists, even when it may no longer be necessary.

It turns out that there are many unhelpful characteristics of contemporary culture which derive from our instinct to survive and reproduce. According to Dr. Jen, we can feel a sense of freedom, and find compassion for ourselves and others, when we understand that it might be these instincts pushing us towards behaving in one way or another. 

We can feel similar feelings when we acknowledge our ability to choose alternatives. 

In this conversation, Ria and Jen also cover: 

• Coercion as a defining mark of cults
• The ‘Big Five’ personality characteristics
• How our behaviour can often be explained by what evolutionary goals we are trying to achieve
• The problems with ‘blank slate’ thinking
• The importance of connecting with nature

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Do you ever feel like you’re being held back in life by events and circumstances that are out of your control? Maybe you find yourself in uncomfortable, even terrible, circumstances thinking to yourself: how did I even get here? And, how do I get out?

These are questions that arrived powerfully in the life of Carolyn Elliot, transformational guide and author of the book, Existential Kink. We won’t give too much away, but as she explains in this episode, she was really in a bind. And then, almost by accident, she had the realisation that ‘having is evidence of wanting.’

Elliot had to come to terms with the idea that some part of her had wanted to be in the difficult, unpleasant situation she was in. Maybe not on the surface, but deeper down. 

Her journey was then about being able to unravel what she has come to call her ‘existential kink,’ which she defines as a desire for something that others might think too edgy, or outright bad. It’s ‘existential’ because the kink is about life, not just sexy stuff. 

For her, the key is to bring consciousness to what we enjoy in even the ‘bad’ parts of our lives. This can help release their hold over us. 

Stay tuned all the way to the end of this lively and fascinating conversation to be guided through the existential kink practice that Elliot details in her runaway classic book of the same name! 

To learn more about Carolyn, please visit her website and join her email list: 

https://carolynlovewell.com/ 

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In this, his third episode with the Spiritual, Sexual, Shamanic Podcast, ISTA Lead Facilitator and member of ISTA’s governing council, Raffaello Manacorda, speaks about shamanic leadership. 

What is shamanic leadership? Raffa explains that it’s an essential component of taking responsibility within groups of people. Instead of competing for powerful positions within organizations and then ruling through domination and manipulation, he says, what we can do is understand the role of the leader as similar to that of the shaman. 

A shamanic leader has the capacity to sense and respond to the subtle energy moving within a group, and to make decisions based on a felt sense of what needs to occur. This, Raffa says, is only possible when those called into leadership are able to bring the power in their own bodies along for the ride. 

Shamanic leadership is also based on a fundamentally different leadership culture than many of us are used to. Raffa paints the picture of a ‘cloud’ roving over a group of people, a cloud which will stop above the head of the person who is being called into leadership and strike them with shamanic lightning. An investment of great power indeed, and often only for a temporary period of time...

If you're a practitioner, facilitator, or entrepreneur who's leading a group of people (or sees a future in it), this is especially for you. 

Join us for this deep and enlightening conversation, where Simon and Raffa explore the benefits and inevitable dangers of this kind of leadership.


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ISTA Facilitator Nimai Sun Ra grew up without a father. As a result, he has felt, perhaps more urgently than most, the need to become his own father figure. To provide himself stability, guidance, and the strength that a biological father might often provide. 

In recent years, he has been on a journey of extending that experience of fatherhood from himself to his own two young sons. As he tells us in this conversation with Usha, the journey of fatherhood has been the best, most important, thing he has ever done. Every initiation he has been through in his life, he says, has been a preparation for the initiation of fatherhood. 

And it has been an initiation, with wonderful new realisations mixed in with unavoidable difficulties. In this episode Nimai talks about how his relationship with his beloved, the mother of his children, shifted dramatically, how he could not get through it without the support of other, older brothers, and how he had to deal with failure. 


And he reflects deeply on the spiritual journey of fatherhood, on how important a role it is to be able to play in the world, whether it is with your own children, other’s, or in a more symbolic way. 


Nimai also covers: 

• Navigating fatherhood and open relating
• The value of focussing on fatherhood without distraction
• How becoming a father can shifts romantic relationships
• The importance of community when kids come along
• The role of your inner parent
• Distortions in the role of the father
• How the father is often the one called on to set boundaries

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Growing up in rural Austria, ISTA facilitator Ashisha Arpana’s favorite toy was her imagination. She gleefully played with it, eventually turning what happened in her mind's eye into a career in film and media. 

The imagination, she tells us in this deep and exploratory episode, is one of the most important keys for us in letting go of the old, disempowering stories we tell ourselves and getting back into currency with life as it moves through us. 

Ashisha explains that we can spark our imagination—our vision of an amazing, vibrant present—through mythology. This is not just a collection of stories from ancient cultures, but living, breathing codes for tapping into the source of our inner worlds. It is where the pulse of life comes from. 

And there are some simple things we can do to allow this source of our inner life to pour through us into the world, allowing us to shape-shift and, ultimately, choose how our future will go.

Simon and Ashisha also discuss:

• how we often out-source our imagination to Hollywood
• how myths are always evolving. They’re not for copywriting!
• coming back to the child-like sense of wonder in each of us
• our bodies as instruments of the soul
• what a soul is and how to communicate with it
• collective dreaming and shaping culture from there
• the imagination of the heart in the Sufi tradition
• how to reclaim your own story, step-by-step, without judgement

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