Mark Manson is a three-time #1 New York Times bestselling author and 20-year personal development industry veteran. Solved is the most comprehensive, evidence-based, overly-researched podcast on the planet to help you get an issue in your life, err... solved.
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We all compare ourselves to other peopleβour friends, coworkers, strangers on the internetβand most of the time, it makes us feel like shit. But why do we keep doing it? In this episode of Solved, we dig into the uncomfortable truth behind social comparison, how it quietly ruins our self-worth, and why most of what we envy in others is a projection of our own insecurity.
We also get into the brutal paradox of success, the toxic loop of chasing status, and how the constant measurement of our lives against others is one of the dumbest things we do as a species. If youβve ever felt not good enough, or like youβre falling behind, this oneβs for you.
We also put together a free companion guide for this episode with all the takeaways, references, and tools to help you get your sh*t together once and for all. Download it here: https://solvedpodcast.com/socialcomparison
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Chapters:
0:00 Introduction
5:29 Chapter 1: Evolutionary Roots
16:20 The Emotional Toolkit
20:18 Chapter 2: Philosophy and Social Comparison
23:31 The Buddhist Path
24:58 Aristotle
34:34 Stoicism
36:24 Existentialism
40:06 Myths
48:37 Chapter 3: The Psychology of Social Comparison
58:54 Downward Comparison
1:22:19 Chapter 4: Digital Technology and Social Comparison
1:44:20 Chapter 5: The 80/20 of Managing Comparison
1:57:40 Hidden Costs
1:58:48 Takeaways
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How to Make Friends as an Adult
Saturday, November 1, 2025 β’ Duration 04:39:04
Friendship is the most important thing nobody talks about. In this episode of The SOLVED Podcast, Drew and I dig into what makes friendships work, why they fall apart, and why so many of us are struggling to build or keep them as we get older. Weβre talking loneliness stats, Darwinβs confusion about cooperation, and the deep emotional mechanics behind being a good friendβand finding one.
From ancient philosophy to game theory, we break down why friendship isnβt just some social nicetyβitβs a biological survival strategy. Plus: the modern forces slowly strangling our ability to connect, and exactly what to do about it. Youβll walk away with a clearer sense of what real friendship looks like, how to build it, and how to stop shooting yourself in the foot every time you try.
We also put together a free companion guide for this episode with all the takeaways, references, and tools to help you get your sh*t together once and for all. Download it here: https://solvedpodcast.com/friendship
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Chapters:
0:00 Introduction
7:52 Chapter 1: Friendship: an Evolutionary Puzzle
25:45 Chapter 2: What Is Friendship?
27:11 Friendship in the Great Religious Traditions
37:21 Modern Psychology's Definition of Friendship
49:02 Chapter 3: Your Brain On Friendship
1:03:34 The Neurobiology of Connection
1:22:48 Health Benefits of Friendship
1:33:11 Chapter 4: How to Make and Maintain Friendships
1:35:19 Proximity and Repeated Contact and Reciprocal Disclosure
1:53:51 Time investment (quantity and cadence)
1:58:15 Evidence-Based Strategies for Making Friends
2:07:46 Examples Of Making Friends
2:26:50 Chapter 5: How Friendship Changes Across the Lifespan
2:54:18 Chapter 6: Gender Dynamics in Friendships
3:09:39 Can Men And Women Be Friends?
3:16:39 Chapter 7: Toxic Friendships
3:17:41 Competitive Friendship
3:21:18 Codependency
3:34:45 Chapter 8: Why It's So Hard to Make Friends These Days
3:35:48 External Headwinds: Why Getting Together Is Hard
3:53:18 Internal Frictions: Why Staying Equal Feels Impossible
4:02:45 Chapter 9: Technology's Double-Edged Impact on Human Connection
4:11:19 Mark's LA Story
4:20:21 Chapter 10: The 80/20 of Friendship
4:30:33 Chapter 11: The Trade-Offs of Friendship
Produced by Drew Birnie
Research by Zenya Giatzoglou, Katherine Wei, & Gage Greer
Edited by SJ van Breda
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A Comprehensive Guide to Stoicism (ft. Ryan Holiday)
Wednesday, October 15, 2025 β’ Duration 02:53:39
What does it actually mean to live like a Stoic? In this wide-ranging conversation with bestselling author and modern Stoicism evangelist Ryan Holiday, we unpack the origins of Stoic philosophy, why it exploded during turbulent times in ancient Greece and Rome, and how its principlesβlike courage, temperance, justice, and wisdomβstill apply in a world filled with chaos, anxiety, and uncertainty. From shipwrecked merchants to emperors journaling their fears, this episode explores why some of the most powerful figures in history turned to Stoicism not just for answersβbut for survival.
We also dig into how Stoicism overlaps with modern psychology, why itβs gaining traction among young men, and whether its rising popularity is being misunderstood or misused. If youβve ever wondered whether Stoicism means being emotionless, if itβs compatible with ambition, or if it actually makes you a better person, this episode is your one-stop masterclass.
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Research by Zenya Giatzoglou, Katherine Wei, & Gage Greer
Edited by SJ van Breda
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Thumbnail by Jonathan Sippel
Chapters:
00:00 Introduction
02:49 Setting the Scene: Ancient Greece After Alexander
06:44 The Story of Zeno: Founder of Stoicism
13:58 The Four Stoic Virtues
44:20 Virtue 1: Courage
53:17 Virtue 2: Temperance (Discipline)
1:05:01 Virtue 3: Justice
1:08:51 Virtue 4: Wisdom
1:25:51 Roman Conquest and the Spread of Stoicism
1:33:10 Cato the Younger: The Stoic Martyr
1:39:06 Seneca: The Conflicted Philosopher
1:55:50 Epictetus: The Slave Philosopher
2:07:28 Marcus Aurelius: The Philosopher Emperor
2:20:18 Stoicism Through History
2:32:45 Stoicism and Modern Psychology
2:41:09 The Modern Stoicism Revival
2:50:06 Final Thoughts and Recommendations
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How to Become Resilient
Wednesday, October 1, 2025 β’ Duration 03:28:50
Resilience isnβt about pretending youβre fine or never feeling painβitβs about learning how to act in your best interest despite the pain. In this episode of Solved, we dive deep into the science, psychology, and real-life examples of resilienceβfrom Ernest Shackletonβs crew surviving two years stranded in Antarctica to my own slightly insane decision to run an endurance race with basically no training. Spoiler: I didnβt die.
We cover it all: the biology of resilience, why some people are βdandelionsβ and thrive anywhere while others are βorchidsβ who need the right environment, the mindsets that let you push through hardship without losing your mind, and why humor and community might secretly be your best survival tools. And of course, we deliver the real, practical, evidence-based strategies you can actually apply when life inevitably decides to kick you in the teeth.
If youβve ever felt overwhelmed, stuck, or like you canβt take one more setback, this episode is for you. And if youβre one of those psychos who enjoys doing hard sh*t just to see what youβre made ofβ¦ well, youβll feel right at home here.
We also put together a free companion guide for this episode with all the takeaways, references, and tools to help you get your sh*t together once and for all. Download it here: https://solvedpodcast.com/resilience
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Chapters:
00:00 Introduction
04:44 Chapter 1: Reframing Resilience β Definitions & Misconceptions
13:11 The Word That Started It All
16:30 Bounce Forward, Not Back
23:50 Chapter 2: Developmental and Biological Foundations of Resilience
29:26 The Evolutionary Puzzle
38:54 Chapter 3: Biological & Physiological Foundations
44:45 Training Your Brain to Be More Resilient
48:43 The HPA Axis: Our Central Stress Response System
51:19 Heart Rate Variability: The Resilience Rhythm
54:32 Physiological Interventions
1:00:07 Gut-Brain Axis
1:17:17 Chapter 4: Psychological, Philosophical & Evidence-Based Frameworks
1:20:19 The 5 Mindsets of Resilience
1:21:46 Mindset #1: Anything Is Possible
1:38:22 Mindset #2: Stories Are Just Stories
1:44:16 MIndset #3: Focus on What You Control
1:58:55 Mindset #4: Make It Fun
2:10:34 Mindset #5: Assume a Resilient Identity
2:20:21 Pheidippides
2:27:00 Chapter 5: Sociocultural & Community Dimensions
2:37:40 Social Connection and Resilience: Why Strong People Don't Go It Alone
2:45:33 Blitz Spirit: Myth vs Reality
2:48:23 How to Build Your Resilient Circle
2:57:28 Chapter 6: The 80/20 of Becoming More Resilient
3:11:36 The Hidden Costs of Resilience
3:22:25 What We Learned
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How to Let Go of Your Shame
Monday, September 1, 2025 β’ Duration 03:42:59
Chances are, thereβs something in your life you feel deeply ashamed aboutβsomething youβve never told anyone, something you canβt even admit to yourself. In this episode, we go deep into the emotion we all experience but almost no one wants to talk about: shame. Where it comes from, why itβs so powerful, how it screws up our livesβand more importantly, how to deal with it.
We cover the biology of shame, the psychology, the evolutionary roots, and how modern life (especially the internet) completely messes with our shame systems. We talk about healthy vs. toxic shame, how it shows up in addiction, relationships, perfectionism, and self-sabotage, and why most of us either try to hide from it or end up being controlled by it. Youβll also hear from members of my team about how shame shaped their lives in surprising ways.
As always, this episode is brutally honest, deeply researched, and sprinkled with a few bad jokes. But more than anything, I hope it gives you the awarenessβand the toolsβto start facing whatever it is youβve been avoiding. Because you canβt outrun your shame. But you can learn to live with it.
We also put together a free companion guide for this episode with all the takeaways, references, and tools to help you get your sh*t together once and for all. Download it here: https://solvedpodcast.com/shame
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Chapters
00:00:00 Introduction
00:04:35 Chapter 1: Shame's Hidden Architecture
00:14:38 Chapter 2: Key Definitions
00:18:32 Distinguishing Shame from Guilt
00:20:49 State Shame vs. Trait Shame
00:21:47 Shame vs. Embarrassment and Humiliation
00:24:03 Shame, Trauma, and their Interrelationship
00:25:14 Chapter 3: The Neurobiology of Shame
00:29:56 The Shame Spiral
00:36:04 The Learning Paradox of Shame
00:44:12 Chapter 4: The Shame Compass
00:47:33 Personal Experiences with Shame
00:49:21 Workaholism as a Coping Mechanism
00:59:13 The Allure of Shamelessness
01:01:15 Chapter 5: Individual, Familial, & Cultural Sources of Shame
01:11:05 Geographical Impact on Shame
01:13:08 Cultural Values and Shame
01:14:35 How the Greater Culture Shapes Shame
01:26:12 Chapter 6: Digital Technology & Shame 2.0
01:28:02 The Digital Divide
01:31:05 The Relationship Between Technology and Anxiety
01:33:55 Protection Strategies
01:39:21 Chapter 7: Developmental Stages of Shame
01:40:19 Understanding the Origin of Shame
01:42:57 The Role of Parenting in Shame Development
01:56:49 Chapter 8: How Therapy Transformed Our Understanding of Shame
02:01:06 Carl Rogers and the Safety Revolution
02:07:31 Albert Ellis and the Cognitive Revolution
02:11:58 The Influence of Albert Ellis and Carl Rogers
02:13:31 The Emergence of Reparenting and Inner Child Work
02:17:18 The Rise of Internal Family System
02:20:24 Brene Brown's Work on Shame
02:27:59 Chapter 9: Tools to Address Your Shame
02:40:19 Stoic Principles for Perspective
02:47:05 Perspective Shifting Techniques
02:58:26 Chapter 10: Tuning Your Shame System
03:10:39 Recognizing Unsustainable Shame Patterns
03:16:28 Kristen Neff's Self-Compassion Framework
03:25:33 Understanding Shame as Obsession and Resentment
03:29:53 Overcoming Shame and Personal Growth
03:31:39 Takeaways fr...
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How To Finally Let Yourself Be Happy
Friday, August 1, 2025 β’ Duration 03:21:23
Everyoneβs obsessed with being happyβbut what if that obsession is the very thing making us miserable? In this episode of Solved, Drew and I explore what actually makes us feel goodβand why most of us are chasing it in all the wrong ways.
We unpack what philosophers like Aristotle and the Buddha got right thousands of years agoβand how modern science is just now catching up. We talk about hedonic vs. eudaimonic happiness, why more money and status donβt necessarily move the needle, and why most self-help advice completely misses the point. Happiness isnβt something you get. Itβs a side effect of doing the right things for the right reasons.
So, if you're tired of chasing "more" and ready to actually feel a little less miserable, this oneβs for you.
We also put together a free companion guide for this episode with all the takeaways, references, and tools to help you get your sh*t together once and for all. Download it here: https://solvedpodcast.com/happiness
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Chapters:
0:00 Introduction
10:42 Chapter 1: The Origins of Human Happiness
11:04 Hedonia vs Eudaimonia
15:11 Epicureanism
23:20 Eastern Perspectives
27:15 Modern Happiness Research
29:30 Chapter 2: The WEIRD Problem: When Happiness Research Goes West
40:47 Chapter 3: The Three Components of Happiness
46:44 Hedonic Adaptation
59:53 Chapter 4: What Doesβand Doesn'tβMake Us Happy
1:00:35 Drugs and Alcohol
1:07:23 Sex
1:15:09 Money
1:23:10 Fame and Status
1:37:26 Geography and Environment
1:39:51 Love and Relationships
1:41:19 Friendships
1:44:04 Having Children
1:49:10 The Experiencing vs. Remembering Self
1:52:53 Chapter 5: Baseline vs. Circumstantial vs. Intentional Happiness
1:53:35 Genetics
1:59:50 Circumstances
2:02:16 Intentional Actions
2:06:13 Relationships
2:10:51 Gratitude
2:13:13 Altruism
2:18:47 Experiences vs. Stuff
2:22:12 Implementing Intentional Happiness
2:24:21 Chapter 6: Don't Pursue Happiness; Remove Unhappiness
2:29:05 Social Comparison
2:31:30 Maximizers vs. Satisficers
2:34:19 Chapter 7: How Happiness Changes Across the Lifespan
2:51:44 Chapter 8: Happiness Myths
3:04:47 Chapter 9: The 80/20 Guide to Happiness
3:16:22 Lessons Learned
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How to Manage Your Emotions
Tuesday, July 1, 2025 β’ Duration 04:23:43
What are emotions? Why do we feel anything at all? And more importantly β can we actually get better at feeling?
In this episode, Drew and I dive headfirst into what might be the hardest question in all of psychology: what the actual f**k are emotions? We break down the biology, neuroscience, evolution, culture, and even language that shape how we feel β and why we often donβt understand what the hell is going on inside us. From ancient philosophy to brain scans, this is a deep (and occasionally weird) look into the emotional chaos that makes us human.
We unpack everything from the origins of emotional intelligence (spoiler: it might be BS) to the science of emotional regulation, attachment styles, and the sneaky ways your culture wires your emotional defaults. Along the way, we explore why some relationships make you feel like a better person while others drain the life out of you, and how trauma, genetics, and childhood with your ability to keep it together.
But this episode isnβt just about understanding emotions β itβs about learning how to work with them. And we give you a full emotional toolkit: a set of evidence-based tools to help you manage your emotions, build better relationships, feel more motivated, and yes β even feel more confident in yourself in the process.
We also put together a free companion guide for this episode with all the takeaways, references, and tools to help you get your sh*t together once and for all. Download it here: https://solvedpodcast.com/emotions
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Chapters:
0:00:00 Introduction
0:04:47 Chapter 1: What Are Emotions?
0:14:04 The Emotional Brain
0:22:03 Neurotransmitters
0:34:25 Evolution of Emotions
0:39:53 How Life Experiences Shape Emotional Regulation
0:48:41 Conclusion on What are Emotions
0:49:45 Chapter 2: How Culture Influences Our Emotions
0:55:44 Vietnam Bike Story
1:00:05 Your Culture Trains You to Want Certain Feelings
1:06:00 Culture Decides Whether Suppression is a Superpower or a Liability
1:07:56 Paradox of Emotional Conformity
1:16:36 How Language Shapes What You Feel
1:29:23 Emotional Complexity
1:36:25 Your Emotions Are Social Currency
1:43:00 Conclusion to Culture defines our emotions
1:44:08 Chapter 3: Historical and Philosophical Traditions on Emotions
1:57:21 Modern Culture
1:59:00 Chapter 4: The Four Schools of Emotional Regulation
2:00:56 The Heart
2:08:55 The Head
2:18:37 The Soul
2:28:50 The Body
2:36:23 The Integrated Toolkit
2:48:25 Chapter 5: Brilliant or Bullshit: Emotional Intelligence
2:57:31 Chapter 6: Relationships and Emotional Regulation
3:09:54 Attachment Theory
3:27:29 Toxic Relationship
3:36:49 Building Emotional Compatibility
3:51:24 Conclusion Relationships
3:57:24 Chapter 7: 80/20
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How to Stop Procrastinating
Sunday, June 1, 2025 β’ Duration 04:41:33
In this second episode of Solved, Drew and I go deep into the psychology, history, and science of procrastination. From Plato and Aristotle to Freud and modern research, we break down why we delay the things that matter mostβand how to actually stop.This isn't a βjust set a timerβ productivity talk. Weβre diving deep into shame, identity, perfectionism, culture, and why procrastination is ultimately a *skill issue*, not a moral failure. We cover things like:- How humans have thought about putting things off for over 2000 years- The real reason you avoid the most important tasks in your life- Why βI work better under pressureβ is (usually) BS- Why self-compassion is actually more motivating than guilt- Tons of practical, research-backed strategies you can start using todayAnd much, much, much more.
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Chapters
00:00 Introduction
01:05 Episode Roadmap
08:20 What exactly is procrastination?
15:50 Plato's Thoughts on Procrastination
24:07 The Buddhist & Confucian Views on Procrastination
26:19 ο»Ώο»ΏAristotle's Take on Procrastination
33:50 ο»Ώο»ΏChristianity and Procrastination
46:53 ο»Ώο»ΏSelf-Compassion and Procrastination
58:45 ο»Ώο»ΏThe Reformation and Procrastination
1:04:25 Freud's Influence on Psychology
1:06:40 Pleasure Principle and Reality Principle
1:08:13 Id, Ego, and Superego
1:10:26 Defense Mechanisms
1:17:20 ο»Ώο»ΏAdopting Habits as Identity
1:23:05 The Influence of Childhood and Parenting on Procrastination
1:33:42 Behaviorism
1:41:21 Environmental Design
1:46:10 ο»Ώο»ΏThriving Under Pressure: A Critique
1:52:10 ο»Ώο»ΏExpectation, Pressure, and Procrastination
1:54:06 ο»Ώο»ΏCritique of Behaviorism
1:59:20 Time Management
2:07:33 ο»Ώο»ΏKnowledge vs Emotion in Procrastination
2:16:43 Mark and Drew's Personal Productivity Systems
2:20:37 ο»Ώο»ΏDeep Work and Task Management
2:23:12 ο»Ώο»ΏProductivity System for ADHD
2:29:26 ο»Ώο»ΏProductive Procrastination
2:34:22 ο»Ώο»ΏImportance of Task Completion
2:36:51 Existentialism and Purpose
2:44:21 ο»Ώο»ΏPurpose and Motivation
2:53:40 Temporal Motivation Theory
2:57:39 ο»Ώο»ΏLimitations of Temporal Motivation Theory
2:59:22 ο»Ώο»ΏThe Role of Technology in Procrastination
3:07:10 ο»Ώο»Ώ...
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How to Find and Live by Your Values
Episode 1
Thursday, May 1, 2025 β’ Duration 04:07:01
Welcome to the first episode of the Solved Podcast. Today, we are solving your values.
Over eight years ago, I wrote The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ckβa book that, underneath all the swearing and irreverence, was really about one thing: values. What do you care about? Whatβs actually worth your time, your energy, your life?
So in this kickoff episode of SOLVED, Drew and I are going deep into why your values are the foundation of everythingβyour happiness, your mental health, your relationships, your sense of meaningβand why so many of us today feel so lost.
We break down the difference between chasing cheap dopamine hits and building real fulfillment, why not all values are created equal, how to figure out what your true values are, how to change your values, how to start living out your values more fully, and how values silently shape your decisions and relationships every day. If youβve ever felt stuck, directionless, or like youβre living someone elseβs life, this episode is the wake-up call you need. Itβs time to stop drifting through life and start giving a fck about the right things. Forget the rest.
Welcome to SOLVED.
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Chapters
00:00 Welcome to SOLVED
07:47 Episode Roadmap
09:31 CHAPTER 1: What are Values?
10:26 Characteristics of Values
14:23 Values vs. Psychological Needs vs. Preferences
23:06 Schwartz's Values Wheel
30:36 Instrumental and Terminal Values
32:15 Hierarchy of Values
38:35 Values Conflict
42:35 Carol Ryff's Six Dimensions of Psychological Well-being
57:01 Aristotle's Golden Mean as Virtue
1:05:01 CHAPTER 2: Values and Your Relationships
1:22:56 The Clash of Values in Relationships
1:30:29 Identifying and Navigating Values in Relationships
1:34:40 Understanding Compatibility Through Values
1:37:25 CHAPTER 3: Where Do Values Come From?
1:38:20 Margaret Mead's Cultural Relativism
1:47:55 Mary Douglas's and the Grid-Group Framework
1:56:20 Jonathan Haidt's Moral Foundations Theory
2:09:26 The Allegory of the Taco Truck
2:14:34 CHAPTER 4: Identifying Your Core Values
2:16:58 Thought Experiments to Find Your Values
2:32:16 The Instrumental Value of Golf
2:41:45 The Role of Trauma in Value Change
2:48:53 CHAPTER 5: How to Change Your Values
2:50:44 Kazimierz Dabrowski and Positive Disintegration
3:03:22 On Cults and Cognitive Dissonance
3:16:26 Self-Confrontation and Value Change
3:18:34 Charlie Munger's Maxim: Incentives and Behavior
3:21:56 CHAPTER 6: Lessons and Takeaways
3:36:30 T...
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The Last Podcast
Wednesday, April 9, 2025 β’ Duration 23:59
New podcast launches May 1st! We'll be releasing on this same feed, so all you have to do is stay subscribed to this channel and you'll get all the new episodes as they come out.
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After more than 70 episodes and 30 million downloads, Iβve decided to shut down The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck Podcast. Yeah, I knowβsounds a little crazy. But the truth is, I wasnβt having fun anymore. The guest treadmill, the pressure to play nice, the temptation to chase clicks instead of meaningβit all started to feel fake. So, Iβm pulling the plug.
BUTβIβm not going away. Iβm launching something new. Itβs called Solvedβa no-ads, no-guests, deep-dive podcast where each episode tackles one major life topic and breaks it down thoroughly. Think: values, emotions, procrastinationβdone right, from every angle, with real research and clear implementation. Itβs the podcast I wish already existed. So Iβm making it. First episode drops May 1 st!
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