Slutty Activism – Details, episodes & analysis

Before bidding you adieu until season 2, I have a surprise for you ;)

Today, we're welcoming friend-of-the-podcast Ruan Willow to share a steamy excerpt from her Decadent Erotica Anthology.

Audio erotica is a powerful form of fantasy fuel. If you’ve never tried it before, I invite you to get curious about whether audio erotica might provide you with a new pathway to pleasure.

And, if you start listening and it’s not your cup of tea? That’s ok, too!

Ruan Willow is an erotic author and creator of the Oh F*ck Yeah! podcast, where she seamlessley blends readings of her erotic writing with interviews with sexuality and pleasure experts.

If you enjoy this excerpt, you can listen to many more for free on the Oh Fuck Yeah podcast, available wherever fine podcasts are found!

Learn more about Ruan and follow her here: https://linktr.ee/RuanWillow

Listen to Oh F*ck Yeah: https://ohfckyeahwithruanwillow.buzzsprout.com/

Buy the Decadent Erotica Anthology

On this bonus mini-season of the Slutty Activism podcast, we’ve explored the theme of Uncommon Pleasure. We’ve also been going deeper into opening up new pathways to pleasure in the 5 Day Pleasure Diary Challenge.

You can join this challenge at any time in the Slutty Activism Podcast Community Facebook group and clicking on the Guides section. Join today by going to sluttyactivism.group.

Have you ever noticed how hard it is to slow down? Have you ever struggled to rest, or felt like down time was something you needed to earn and that you only deserved after hard work? Living under capitalism, society discourages rest and valorizes productivity.

But what if slowing the fuck down is just the thing you need to unlock entirely new experiences of pleasure?

Today, we're joined by Lucy Rowett on this special bonus episode of Slutty Activism to talk about the uncommon pleasure you can experience when you slow down.

Lucy Rowett is a certified sexologist and sex coach who helps women and people with vulvas let go of sexual shame and create passionate, pleasurable relationships.

We covered A LOT together, from what slowing down means, why it can be so hard to do, how powerful slowing down is for neurodivergence, highly sensitive people, and people with chronic health conditions, why you have to do your due diligence in the world of spiritual sexuality, and how you can get started.

Lucy also generously leads us through a guided meditation you can listen to again and again as you cultivate mindfulness and rest as pathways to greater pleasure.

In this episode you will learn:

1) How slowing down can help reduce stress and promote pleasure

2) How activation (sympathetic nervous system response) can be positive or negative

3) A guided meditation you can use to tap into presence and pleasure in your body

Want More Uncommon Pleasure?

Join us in the Slutty Activism Podcast Community group for the 5 Day Pleasure Diary Challenge. Get involved by going to SluttyActivism.group

About Today's Guest:

Lucy Rowett, CSC CS ACS, is a certified sexologist and sex coach who is passionate about helping women and people with vulvas let go of sexual shame and hangups and embrace pleasure to create the passionate relationships they've always desired. She uses a combination of mind body tools with evidence-based sexuality education to create a fun and open space for womxn to explore their full erotic potential.

Her speciality is working with women and people with vulvas who come from Faith backgrounds who are struggling to let go of sexual shame and enjoy pleasurable and intimate relationships again.

She is a resident on UK contraception platform, The Lowdown, and she is regularly quoted in the media for her expertise in sexual health and wellness, pleasure, and sexual shame- including  Men's Health, GQ, Kinkly, The O Diaries, The Sun, Insider, and Glamour.

Here's where you can learn more about Lucy online:

Website: https://lucyrowett.com/

Free video class on authentic sexual confidence: https://bit.ly/moreconfidentinbed

Free audio course on empowered sexual communication: https://bit.ly/MoreofWhatYouWant

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lucylurowett

TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@lucyrowett

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/lucyrowettcsc

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/lucy-rowett-csc-cs-acs-9a301351/

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Could Dignified Hedonism be the answer to dating frustrations and relationship discontent? In this episode, let's take a stand to change the bleak dating landscape by focusing on pleasure and connection.

"Connection is our collective salvation."

Have you noticed how bleak the dating scene can be, and how it often feels like we're just missing each other? It can be so frustrating. It's almost like we're being cheated out of something that we know on some level we deserve.

It was within this modern dating hellscape that the Dignified Hedonist framework was born. It's all about creating pleasure and connection in a way that is caring and honors autonomy. Dignified Hedonism includes mindset and skills work and is an alternative to things like pickup artistry, female dating strategy, or other seduction strategies.

When we start making pleasure and connection the priority, we will change the world.

In this episode, you will learn:

1. How you can use Dignified hedonism to create more satisfying relationships and sexual experiences

2. The benefits of being a desire-led, sex-forward, and pleasure-focused individual

3. How connection with others can be an antidote to isolation and loneliness

Connect with me:

If you're ready to change the world with pleasure, head over to SluttyActivism.com today!

And to connect with other like minded people, come join us in the Slutty Activism Podcast Community group at SluttyActivism.group

Credits:

Produced & Hosted by Sarah Martin

Cover Art by Nik Gothic

Music by eFly Production

In this episode, we explore how the common relationship strategies of people pleasing and domination actually wind up facilitating fascism.

"The answer to escaping the self sacrifice - dominance paradigm is to stop playing this game entirely and to focus inward on what you actually want."

I've been in private practice since 2016, and in that time, I've observed a pattern of two common approaches people take to relationships. Most of my clients are people who are trying to please others in order to get what they want.

They might be single and frustrated because they're not finding the right relationships, or they might be in relationships where they're being treated poorly.

Then there's another group of clients who are trying to dominate others in order to get what they want. They might be successful in getting into relationships, but they're anxious and doubtful about their partner's attraction to them.

Both of these groups of people are actually quite similar in that they're both trying to control others to get what they want, and in the process, they're both missing on the opportunity for authentic connection.

In this episode, you will learn:

1. What people pleasing and domineering approaches to relationships look like

2. How people pleasing and domineering behaviors can facilitate fascism

3. How shifting to a strategy of collaboration, based on sharing and hearing true desires, can change your life and the world for the better

Connect with me:

If you're ready to change the world with pleasure, head over to SluttyActivism.com today!

And to connect with other like minded people, come join us in the Slutty Activism Podcast Community group at SluttyActivism.group

Credits:

Produced & Hosted by Sarah Martin

Cover Art by Nik Gothic

Music by eFly Production

If you're looking for more fulfilling and satisfying relationships, then this episode is for you! In this episode, we explore how to come to your relationships as a whole human being and what you stand to gain from relationships created without any expectation that your partner will fill a void.

"Shifting your self expectation to one of wholeness means you come to expect wholeness in your partners too. You no longer put pressure on yourself to complete them, or vice versa. Only partners who come together in wholeness are able to experience true collaboration."

In this episode, you will learn:

1. The idea that we remain somehow incomplete without finding our one and only destined partner is everywhere

2. Why many people yearn to find the One

3. The importance of wholeness to radically transforming your relationships... and the world

Connect with me:

If you're ready to change the world with pleasure, head over to SluttyActivism.com today!

And to connect with other like minded people, come join us in the Slutty Activism Podcast Community group at SluttyActivism.group

Credits:

Produced & Hosted by Sarah Martin

Cover Art by Nik Gothic

Music by eFly Production

Does any of this sound familiar?

You don't feel connected to your body, which makes it difficult to enjoy sexual experiences.

Your disconnection from your body leaves you feeling disconnected from others, which makes it difficult to share intimacy and connection during sex.

Our relationship with our bodies impacts our sexual experiences, but that's not all. It's not just an individual thing. Our relationship with our bodies and the state of perpetual disconnect many of us find ourselves in have significant implications for our world.

"The ability to focus on what you feel when you focus on pleasurable sensations opens the door to ecstasy."

In this episode, you will learn:

1. How disconnection from the body contributes to loneliness and dissatisfaction

2. How fascism benefits from our corporal disconnection

3. How sensuality and presence can be used to fight back against fascism

Mentioned in this Episode:

Michael Samsel's article A Mind-Body Look at the Concept of Asperger's Syndrome

Connect with me:

If you're ready to change the world with pleasure, head over to SluttyActivism.com today!

And to connect with other like minded people, come join us in the Slutty Activism Podcast Community group at SluttyActivism.group

Credits:

Produced & Hosted by Sarah Martin

Cover Art by Nik Gothic

Music by eFly Production

What's one simple, essential step required to experience more connection and intimacy in your relationships?

For people to be able to connect with you, they have to be able to find you.

"Your courage and allowing yourself to be seen as you truly are will give permission to others to begin to do the same."

I'm always curious about who people are and what they want. It's one of the first things I ask about when I meet someone. I've found that a lot of people have spent years hiding who they are and what they want. They've learned that it's safer to be someone else.

But that comes at a cost.

When you're hidden, you're also disconnected from the things you want most. You're invisible, and that can be lonely and frustrating. I work with people to help them slowly reveal more of themselves. It's a process of taking small steps and seeing how it feels. As they become more visible, they also become more attractive to the people they want to connect with. And as they become more visible, they also help others around them to do the same

In this episode, you will learn:

1. How staying hidden impacts your ability to connect with others

2. Some of the ways we stay hidden, even unconsciously

3. How revealing more of yourself has a positive impact on those around you and on the world at large

Connect with me:

If you're ready to change the world with pleasure, head over to SluttyActivism.com today!

And to connect with other like minded people, come join us in the Slutty Activism Podcast Community group at SluttyActivism.group

Credits:

Produced & Hosted by Sarah Martin

Cover Art by Nik Gothic

Music by eFly Production

How does society's view of gender affect dating and sex? Is your dating life affected by society's view of gender?

"When you finally start to find the others, the slutty activists in your midst, approach them with kindness and curiosity, whether they go on to become your partners or not."

Think about all of the gender stereotypes you've heard about men and women. There's a lot of them, right?

The good news is that gender stereotypes are not prescriptive - human beings are not destined to a specific fate because of their sex.

In this episode, you will learn:

1. How gender is framed as a power struggle between men and women, where sex is becomes a transaction

2. A controversial reason why there are so many stereotypes related to gender that so many people seem to believe in

3. Proof that gender stereotypes are not fate

4. What you can do differently in dating, sex, and relationships to experience more connection and pleasure

Connect with me:

If you're ready to change the world with pleasure, head over to SluttyActivism.com today!

And to connect with other like minded people, come join us in the Slutty Activism Podcast Community group at SluttyActivism.group

Credits:

Produced & Hosted by Sarah Martin

Cover Art by Nik Gothic

Music by eFly Production

When you've been conditioned to believe you're unworthy of love and connection, it's time to commit to changing your mindset and reclaiming your power.

"You need to decide if you really want to experience sexual freedom and to discover who you are as a sexual being."

Have you ever been really down on yourself about your sexual prospects? Maybe you've felt like you were never going to find someone who wanted you.

A lot of people throw themselves pity parties by sharing their laments on anonymous forums or privately beating themselves up in their own minds.

If that resonates, you're not the only one. I've been there. A lot of my clients have been there. It's easy to wind up getting really down about your sexual prospects.

But here's the thing - pity isn't benign. In fact, pity does the internal work of fascism for the fascists... for free! The good news is that there is another way.

In this episode, you will learn:

1. The dangers of pity parties and self-loathing

2. The toxicity of mainstream approaches to dating, sex, and relationships

3. The importance of commitment to self-liberation

Connect with me:

If you're ready to change the world with pleasure, head over to SluttyActivism.com today!

And to connect with other like minded people, come join us in the Slutty Activism Podcast Community group at SluttyActivism.group

Credits:

Produced & Hosted by Sarah Martin

Cover Art by Nik Gothic

Music by eFly Production

Slutty Activism isn't about only being interested in sex, only being interested in your own pleasure, or being selfish and only caring about your own needs.

Find out what it IS about in this episode

"The more connected we are to each other, the more powerful we become."

Slutty Activists are role models who demonstrate for their friends and lovers what bold communication, caring connection, and sex for pleasure look like. They are lights in the darkness.

In this episode, you will learn:

1. How you can use your sexuality as a force for good in the world (i.e. "slutty activism").

2. How poor sex education and toxic messages about sex can lead to disastrous consequences in people's lives.

3. How embracing sexuality and pursuing pleasure can be a path to happiness and a better future.

Connect with me:

If you're ready to change the world with pleasure, head over to SluttyActivism.com today!

And to connect with other like minded people, come join us in the Slutty Activism Podcast Community group at SluttyActivism.group

Credits:

Produced & Hosted by Sarah Martin

Cover Art by Nik Gothic

Music by eFly Production