Sexually Speaking with Shannon – Details, episodes & analysis

In this episode, Dr. Tina Schermer Sellers, a licensed psychotherapist, best-selling author, and researcher shares her insight on shameless parenting and our ability to heal while we learn alongside our kids.

Dr. Tina and I dig into how sexual shame impacts our ability to form secure attachments and relationships. She shares her experience as a professor and noticing the shift as the first wave of "purity culture" took on a different narrative that was harmful to the students she was teaching.

One of my favorite books, Sex, God, and the Conservative Church: Erasing Shame from Sexual Intimacy was powerful in helping me understand how and why shame is rampant in our culture, but often hard to notice.  And she has recently another book called, Shameless Parenting: How to Raise Confident, Shame free Kids and Heal Your Own Shame Too!

Dr. Sellers emphasizes the role of parents in fostering shame-free environments for their children, regardless of their family makeup. She encourages open conversations with teenagers, addressing myths and stereotypes about sex, and prioritizing connection and pleasure over obligation in relationships. Dr. Sellers emphasizes the importance of ongoing learning, dispelling myths, and staying on the path of personal growth to lead a fulfilling life.

Follow Dr. Sellers on Instagram at @DrTinaShameless

In this episode:

0:02:28 Dr. Tina Shermer Sellers bio 

0:08:45 Healing Through Shameless Parenting

0:27:26 Importance of Social and Emotional Learning

0:32:51 Parenting Insights Beyond Traditional Family Structures

0:39:39 Embodying Sexuality for a Fulfilling Life

0:42:13 Connect with Dr. Tina on Instagram

0:42:37 Dr. Tina's Podcast Episodes

Although this will be my last episode, please stay in touch! Check out what I have going  on @shannonhamaker on Instagram!

Also on my website: shannonhmaker.com will share the latest and greatest in my offerings through coaching and retreats. 

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One of the most impactful experiences you can have in strengthening your partnership is the understanding of feminine and masculine energy. Most of us understand and embody masculine energy easily without having to think about it. It is the doing, going, and moving forward that most of us learn as valuable in our culture. We learn the social construct that productivity is valued and doing comes naturally to most.

But what does feminine energy look and FEEL like?

My co-facilitator and friend, Amanda Curry, and I speak from our experiences of why masculine and feminine energy is a powerful concept to understand. We share our moments of learning and how we continue to lean into this concept of “being” in our feminine energy. 

Amanda Curry is a transformational coach for women who uses the power of somatics, inner child work, and breath to facilitate lasting change. 

She has been a physical therapist for 12 years and in the self-development world for 15 but only started to support deeper levels in 2020. 

Amanda is a wife of almost 15 years and a mother of two.

Amanda and I discuss personal growth, reflection, and the importance of inner work. We explore masculine and feminine energy, challenge societal expectations, and share our personal experiences. We address the issue of female partners feeling unsupported and offer insights and suggestions.

We also mention an upcoming couples retreat focused on effective communication and cultivating extraordinary relationships.

Reach out to us for coaching or workshop opportunities.

In this episode:

0:00:39 Reflecting on growth and partnership in the healing journey

0:03:10 The deeper transformation and tools in retreat work

0:06:46 Embracing vulnerability and facilitating deeper reflection

0:11:31 Embracing the balance of masculine and feminine energies

0:13:01 Discerning aligned masculinity from wounded masculinity

0:20:27 Embracing both feminine and masculine energies

0:23:17 The journey of balancing feminine and masculine energies

0:30:24 Couples retreat: extraordinary communication and support

0:32:07 Planting seeds of curiosity and compassion

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After a couple of years of feeling like a fan girl trying to connect with Whitni Miller, aka BDE.Moves, I finally got to talk with her! Whitni is an amazing human who is creating sexy content with tangible tools for all people to implement! 

Whitni Miller is a Pleasure Coach and Sex Educator. She loves to create direct, assuring, shame-free sex education content on TikTok, Instagram, and Patreon. She also works with clients 1:1 and in couples setting to help them obtain their pleasure goals.

She is very passionate about pleasure-based sex in our performance mindset world!

In this episode:

02:10 - How did Whitni get into sex education?

09:00 - Encouraging exploring pleasure for women

09:30 - Top 3 reasons why couples stop having sex

12:00 - Patriarchy is bad for both men and women

14:40 - Unlearning ‘performance-based’ mindset in sex

18:00 - Changing the way you self-pleasure can change the way you have sex

22:00 - Being intentional in sex and self-pleasure

25:00 - Definition of sex for Whitni

29:00 - Whitni's Patreon (You must check it out!) 

Find Whitni on Instagram @bde.moves 

Patreon: bdemoves

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Have you found yourself in the same patterns of behavior or frustration and ever wondered, "WHY AM I HERE AGAIN?!" My guest for this conversation can help you uncover the answer to that question! 

Anat Peri is an Inner Child Expert, Somatic Coach, and the Founder of Training Camp for the Soul™. (Yes, the retreat that Steve attended 2 years ago that I have mentioned in several episodes!) For over 7 yrs she’s guided her clients through the process of mastering the wisdom of their bodies and emotions to choose to live the life they desire with ease, instead of force and sacrifice.
With 18 years of experience in developmental work and years of study as a trauma-informed coach, Anat has combined mindset, somatic healing, and inner child re-parenting to create Training Camp for the Soul Method™.
Anat considers it her mission to help people thrive, live a life where they feel connected and safe within and with others, and reclaim their power to be the creators of their reality.
She has guided hundreds through the TCS™ Method. Marriages, books, businesses, fulfilling lives, and babies have all been created by her clients working with her.

In this episode:

05:40 - What is Training Camp for the Soul?

06:50 - You are the Director of your movie, you can edit the script

08:40 - How the inherited script affects your sexuality and intimacy

19:00 - What it means to be "hijacked" into a role

22:40 - What did healing look like for Anat?
30:00 - Building sexual energy in self 
30:45 - Grieve the thought of fears coming true

36:00 - Your relationship is like a garden

40:00 - More about Anat's programs and the TCS retreat
46:36 - The way that therapy, coaching, and retreats play in self-development

49:40 - Practicing gratitude and humility

You can find Anat here:

Instagram: @anat.peri

Join us at the retreat in June here:

trainingcampforthesoul.com/retreat
Use the code "friendsandfamily" for a discount

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Breaking up is hard to do, but it can be done with love, respect, and dignity. Jennifer Kaylor Ruscin helps you create a breakup that leaves you and your partner feeling good, where you're both excited about the next phase of your lives.

Jennifer is a mom to 2 teenage boys, partner to Scott, multi-million dollar revenue generator of a sales & marketing firm, podcast host, & sex and relationship coach.

In this podcast episode:

03:00 - What is conscious uncoupling?

06:00 - Jen's experience with conscious uncoupling

10:30 - Doing things differently while practicing conscious uncoupling

12:00 - What kind of emotional support did Jen get when she was having the divorce from her husband?

13:40 - How Jen found her second husband

19:30 - Conscious uncoupling on an emotional scale

25:00 - How do you tell to the kids?

31:40 - Additional resources about conscious uncoupling

34:00 - If you are thinking about breaking up with your partner

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We have Leighanna Nordstrom back by popular demand! Today we are talking about a very controversial and complicated topic - affairs. More specifically, why do they happen, and how do you move toward healing and repair? 

Leighanna is the owner of Break the Mold Therapy, a virtual private practice in Colorado. She is a relationship and sex therapist who specializes in betrayal repairs, kink/BDSM, non-monogamy, and queer issues. Her goal is to help people unlearn problematic beliefs, values, and patterns by exploring the truths around sex positivity and wellness in a safe and non-judgmental way.

If you have friends or loved ones facing this challenge, please share this episode!

In this podcast episode:

03:00 - What is an affair?

04:50 - What causes an affair? 

11:30 - What leads someone to have an affair?

14:00 - What Affair Repair looks like

18:30 - Practicing relationships is practicing communication

20:30 - 5 major Don'ts after an affair

29:00 - Nobody knows enough to pass judgment

35:00 - Your pleasure is your responsibility

37:00 - Steps to recovering from an affair

43:00 - Top 5 Do's in Affair Repair

58:00 - The last powerful takeaway

01:00:30 - Leighanna's programs

You can reach Leighanna Nordstrom on:
www.breakthemoldtherapy.com

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Shhhh....your body is speaking to you! What is your internal wisdom saying?! My friend, Bonnie Casamassima is going to help us understand how our intuition can help us connect to our desires and unleash more passion and pleasure!

Bonnie is a researcher, professor, and highly sensitive intuitive empath. You know that song, “I’m a little bit country AND A Little Bit Rock+Roll?” Well, “She is a little bit Researcher AND a little bit woo”.

She gives 110% in supporting the people she works with every day in connecting with their own intuition through research, mediumship channeling, and consulting on the psychology of the design of their everyday spaces.

She has a Bachelor of Science in Interior Design from The University of Tennessee at Knoxville. She also has a Master of Fine Arts in Interior Design focusing on Environmental Psychology and Biophilic Design from Savannah College of Art and Design where she taught Graduate students. Additionally, she has completed two 500+ hour trainings honing her highly sensitive intuitive mediumship abilities. 

Bonnie is an amazing human being and I cannot wait for you to hear from her! 

In this podcast episode:

05:50 - The New Year, New Moon experience

08:00 - What was Bonnie’s life before she started listening to her intuition and prioritizing play, pleasure, and sexuality

12:00 - Bonnie on spreadsheet decisions 

15:30 - Tuning in on your body’s intuition and developing self-trust

19:00 - Bonnie in the bedroom before

20:30 - Listening to your intuition

26:00 - Calming your mind and connecting to your intuition

34:00 - Being your most authentic self

37:00 - Bonnie's life now

41:30 - Connecting with your partner

43:00 - Bonnie’s programs

You can find Bonnie at:

intuitivebynature.com

Follow her on IG @intuitive_by_nature         

Follow Shannon HERE

Follow her on IG @shannonhamaker                      

Join the Couples Collective here.

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Steve is back! We break down our Top 5 celebrations from 2022 and what we are leaving behind. In an effort to help others we share what worked for us in creating a stronger, more connected partnership. 

YAYS (What are we celebrating?)

1. Commitment to Personal Growth
2. Relationship Check-In’s 
3. Couples Retreats
4. Couples Mastermind 
5. Thrive Couples Class

In this podcast episode:

01:10 - The podcasts we listen to and fuel our journey

01:50 - #1 Continual commitment to personal growth

02:50 - Steve’s personal growth journey

05:00 - Guilt in doing or buying stuff for yourself

15:10 - #2 Consistent relationship check-ins

21:00 - Relationship check-ins on the fly

28:00 - #3 The couple’s retreats

33:40 - #4 The couple’s masterminds

36:20 - Family constellation

41:30 - The Couple’s Collective at the beginning of February

Join the Couple’s Collective here: https://bit.ly/CouplesCollective

Work with Shannon! Shannonhamaker.com

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41:30 - Why community is essential and how you can find community

- Find Amanda at @somaticdpt on Instagram 
- Check out Training Camp for the Soul here: https://trainingcampforthesoul.com/
- Women's Retreat in April 

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Please welcome, Caroline Burkholder, MS, RD, LD, a registered dietitian nutritionist in Knoxville, TN. She is the owner of RootED Nutrition and Counseling.

We cover the topics of intuitive eating, recovering your relationship with food, how to model a positive relationship with food to your kids, and how intuitive eating te

Caroline became interested in nutrition counseling when she was a collegiate athlete, and her coach consistently shared scientifically unfounded messages about how to fuel for sport. Most of these messages actually encouraged restrictive and disordered tendencies. It became clear to Caroline how important it was for female athletes to have empirically founded nutrition information delivered in a safe and nurturing format. 

Caroline continues to participate in athletics; she is a mountain biker and an endurance runner. Her practice is heavily informed by her lived experience as an athlete.

In this podcast episode:

01:35 - Caroline’s story on how she got into nutrition counseling

06:00 - Recovering your relationship with food

08:30 - How to model a positive relationship with food to your kids

13:00 - Caroline’s relationship with food before

16:50 - What is intuitive eating and how do you practice it?

23:00 - Keeping a food journal

28:00 - Letting go and accepting that your body’s going to change

33:00 - You are allowed to gain weight

37:00 - Finding your middle

39:00 - The enneagram

You can find Caroline at:

https://www.rootednutritionandcounseling.com/

Instagram at @root_ednutrition

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