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Sexual Craftsmanship

Sarah L. Martin

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Frequency: 1 episode/7d. Total Eps: 27

Sexual Craftsmanship is the podcast for men in STEM who struggle with dating, sex, and relationships. If you’ve ever suspected you’re being lied to about how dating and sex work, if you’re caught up in analysis paralysis and wish you knew what to do to move forward, or if you just want to start having awesome sex already, you’re in the right place. No experience necessary! Goodbye frustration and uncertainty, hello fun and pleasure! Your host, Certified Sex Coach, sociologist, and total nerd Sarah Martin is here to bust myths, share high-quality, evidence-based information, and offer up actionable steps to help you live your best sex life NOW. Download a free guide to Avoiding the Friendzone for good at www.sexualcraftsmanship.com/friendzone

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🇨🇦 Canada - sexuality
03/03/2026
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Should You Play Hard to Get?

Episode 26

Thursday, January 7, 2021 • Duration 19:42

There are many assumptions made in the realm of sex and relationships - I'm talking the idea of "common sense" or advice that just "feels true" when you hear it. We're all susceptible to familiar things seeming "right."

One such truism is the idea that playing hard to get will help you in dating and sex. So, will it?

On today's episode, we'll cover:

Dispelling the myth that playing hard to get is something only women do
Look at the downstream effects of playing hard to get in your relationships
Cover a number of questions to ask yourself when deciding whether to play hard to get
Some alternatives, if you decide playing hard to get isn't for you

The audio for today's podcast was taken from a recent YouTube Livestream. Everyday in January, I'm going live looking at a trope or truism and applying some critical thinking. The aim is to bust myths, drop some counter-intuitive knowledge, and spend the first month of the year equipping you to have your best ever sex and relationship life in 2021.

Want to check out the videos? That brings us to another important announcement! The Sexual Craftsmanship podcast is now brought to you by DignifiedHedonist.com, the new home for the podcast and all of my work. Check it out! And, that means our name on YouTube has changed - you can find the series of myth-busting counter-intuition by searching for Dignified Hedonist.

Worried you might be making mistakes when it comes to sex and relationships? I got you. Sign up to get a regular dose of unconventional, counter-intuitive sex and relationship advice: https://dignifiedhedonist.com/counter-intuitive/

If you want to get involved with the podcast community and have input into upcoming episodes, head over to our subreddit: https://www.reddit.com/r/SexualCraftsmanship

Curious what it’s like to learn with me? Check out my FREE course on How to Avoid the Friendzone for Good. Go to: avoidthefriendzone.com

Connect with us online!

Website: https://dignifiedhedonist.com

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC0o8MkhxcIwoSyTeM3AQ7lg

Support the Podcast, Become a Member: https://dignifiedhedonist.com/the-essentials

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Her Side Interview with Sarah

Episode 25

Thursday, December 31, 2020 • Duration 52:31

With pleasure, we're bringing you something special for the last episode of 2020.

As with every Her Side interview, this episode features the experience of a woman who dates men in STEM. This is your opportunity to catch a glimpse from the other side. What resonates with you? What can you take from this story to apply in your own life?

Unlike other Her Side episodes, you likely know something about today's guest. With the help of special guest host Kincaid McMinn, we'll meet the host of the Sexual Craftsmanship podcast, Sarah Martin. Sarah is a 35 year old woman who has a wide variety of experiences when it comes to dating, sex, and relationships.

Getting real, Sarah shares about her struggles, especially as a young person who experienced bullying for many years. She explains how it is that she became the initiator in most of her relationships and what, exactly, it is that she loves about men in STEM. Sarah offers insight into just what becomes possible when you are willing to break the mold and focus on communication as THE skill in getting to experience the sex you want in life.

Sarah ends with her New Years message for listeners of the podcast. Thank you for spending some of your 2020 with us here. Wishing you a 2021 filled with pleasure and joy!

Special thanks to Certified Sex Coach Kincaid McMinn for being such a fucking awesome guest host. You can learn more about Kincaid on Facebook and Instagram @RoyalLoveCoach or at https://www.royallovecoach.com

If you want to get involved with the Sexual Craftsmanship community and have input into upcoming episodes, head over to the Sexual Craftsmanship subreddit: https://www.reddit.com/r/SexualCraftsmanship/

Curious what it’s like to learn with me? Check out my FREE course on How to Avoid the Friendzone for Good. Go to: avoidthefriendzone.com

Connect with Sexual Craftsmanship online! Website: YouTube:

The Power of Sexual Autonomy

Episode 16

Thursday, October 22, 2020 • Duration 01:00:28

Figuring out who you are as a sexual person is process - your sexuality is dynamic, and everyone seems to have an opinion about what you should do and what your sexuality should be like. You receive messages from family, friends, and your society at large.

Men should do this. Women should do that. Should. Should. Should.

The murkiness of "should sexuality" is evident when it comes to discussions of consent and the discomfort that can accompany them. But, what if consent wasn't a means to the end of having sex, but instead was an end in itself. Consent at its best is a practice that you live out as an expression of your sexual autonomy.

In today's episode, we're joined by Shaun Miller. Shaun is an independent scholar focusing on the philosophy of love and sex which includes sexual ethics, intimate interactions, and reforming gendered expectations. Among other things, he's taken deep dives into models of consent and positive masculinity.

Together, we explore:

What, exactly, a philosopher is doing when they study sex anyway
How consent and sexual autonomy are linked
Different models of consent, and which is most powerful and practical
Positive masculinity and its connection with sexual autonomy
The best place to start integrating sexual autonomy in your sex and relationship life starting now

Thanks to Shaun Miller for joining us on the Sexual Craftsmanship podcast. Shaun was born and raised in Utah and went to earn his PhD in philosophy. He currently resides in Washington DC. Shaun’s research interests currently include BDSM, sexual consent, positive male sexuality, and investigating how sex robots could change our intimate lives.

You can learn more about Shaun by visiting his website: https://shaunmiller.blog/

How to Understand Body Language

Episode 15

Thursday, October 15, 2020 • Duration 29:19

Body language is as rich and nuanced as any spoken language. You are always talking with your body, even when you're not conscious of it. Everyone else? They're always talking with their bodies, too. Learning the basics of body language will serve you throughout your life, and in the arena of sex and relationships in particular.

It takes time to get fluent in body language, and it's hard to know where to start. The internet is full of deep, dark body language rabbit holes - if you go looking, you'll find endless tutorials, tips, and tricks that all promise to crack the code and make you irresistible.

What you'll learn on the podcast today boils body language down to some essential elements and will give you the power to discern between other advice - what's useful, and what's a bunch of bullsh*t.

Today, you'll learn:

The two principles underpinning all body language
The four basic dimensions of body language
How these dimensions layer together to send different messages
The very simple way to flirt using body language

Also, last week I was LIVE with the Wilzig Erotic Art Museum (WEAM) talking all about pickup artists. You can catch the replay at the WEAM Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/WilzigEroticArtMuseum

Curious what it’s like to learn with me? Check out my FREE course on How to Avoid the Friendzone for Good. Go to: avoidthefriendzone.com

Connect with Sexual Craftsmanship online!
Website: https://sexualcraftsmanship.com
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Touch Communication Basics

Episode 14

Thursday, October 8, 2020 • Duration 33:04

We have all sorts of weird messaging in society around touch, in part because touch is often framed as inherently sexual. In reality, touch is as inherently sexual as English - you can say some extremely erotic things with touch, sure, but you can also make small talk and have heartfelt conversations.

In today's episode, we'll cover:

* Where people consistently go wrong with touch and why
* Environmental and social factors that influence touch communication
* The 5 Main Messages you can send with touch
* Concrete, simple actions you can take to improve your touch fluency immediately

Curious what it’s like to learn with me? Check out my FREE course on How to Avoid the Friendzone for Good. Go to: avoidthefriendzone.com

Connect with Sexual Craftsmanship online!
Website: https://sexualcraftsmanship.com
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC0o8MkhxcIwoSyTeM3AQ7lg

Support the podcast on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/SarahMartin

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Is Emotional Vulnerability Unattractive?

Episode 13

Thursday, October 1, 2020 • Duration 30:03

Emotional vulnerability is a polarizing topic. And that's because, like all polarizing topics, it sits on top of a tension.

On the one hand, all humans have emotions. We want to be fully ourselves, and that includes our emotions. On the other hand, we’ve all been told what we *should* do when it comes to emotions, and this is doubly so for men.

In short, men want to be able to express their emotions in relationships, and also receive the message that to do so makes them seem weak.

Fear not, though. When you are able to ditch the cheap, off-brand version many of us call emotional vulnerability in favor of the real deal, a whole world of opportunities awaits. Oh, and the real deal? It's sexy AF.

In this episode, we'll cover:

What emotional vulnerability is
Common mistakes people make
What you can do instead to enjoy truly emotionally vulnerable relationships... and be sexy AF

Curious what it’s like to learn with me? Check out my FREE course on How to Avoid the Friendzone for Good. Go to: avoidthefriendzone.com

Connect with Sexual Craftsmanship online!
Website: https://sexualcraftsmanship.com
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC0o8MkhxcIwoSyTeM3AQ7lg

Support the podcast on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/SarahMartin

Her Side Interview with Ieva

Episode 12

Thursday, September 24, 2020 • Duration 22:05

It's that time again! Here's the next episode of a recurring feature of the Sexual Craftsmanship podcast: Her Side interviews!

Each Her Side interview features the experience of a woman who dates men in STEM. This is your opportunity to catch a glimpse from the other side. What resonates with you? What can you take from this story to apply in your own life?

In this episode, we'll meet Ieva, who has an affinity for, and an attraction to, hardcore Linux users. She shares with us her frustrations and triumphs with online dating and her view on what makes someone attractive that they might not even be aware of. Ieva reminds us of the power of focusing on our common humanity, rather than separating from each other along gendered lines.

This is an excerpt from my extended interview with Ieva. If you're curious to hear more, head over to Patreon - the extended and only roughly cut and edited Her Side interviews are available to Patrons only.

Curious what it’s like to learn with me? Check out my FREE course on How to Avoid the Friendzone for Good. Go to: avoidthefriendzone.com

Connect with Sexual Craftsmanship online!
Website: https://sexualcraftsmanship.com
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC0o8MkhxcIwoSyTeM3AQ7lg

Support the podcast on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/SarahMartin

Death Grip - A Sex Positive Approach

Episode 11

Thursday, September 17, 2020 • Duration 33:54

It is entirely possible to resolve death grip without needing to give up masturbation or porn, and to do so coming from a place of sexual empowerment that prioritizes your pleasure.

In this episode, we'll cover:

The prevalence of sex-negative advice related to death grip
The origins of our negative attitudes toward masturbation
How masturbation is the pathway out of death grip, rather than the problem
The 6 step approach to resolving death grip
One trick you can use when it comes to porn's role in death grip

Curious what it’s like to learn with me? Check out my FREE course on How to Avoid the Friendzone for Good. Go to: avoidthefriendzone.com

Connect with Sexual Craftsmanship online!
Website: https://sexualcraftsmanship.com
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC0o8MkhxcIwoSyTeM3AQ7lg

Support the podcast on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/SarahMartin

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Make Sex Exciting Again

Episode 10

Thursday, September 10, 2020 • Duration 23:51

It's true - without conscious attention paid to stoking desire, desire will wane in longer relationships. So many people move through life feeling a frustrated nostalgia for the early days of effortless passion with their partner. Others wonder if something is wrong with them because they normally don't stay in relationships for longer than 6 months.

Here's the thing - there's nothing magical or mysterious at work. Rather, excitement fading in a longer relationship is a consequence of biology and neurochemistry. All is not lost. It's actually relatively simple to nurture your horniness and yearning for your partner indefinitely, if that is what you wish to do.

In this episode we cover:

Why, exactly, it is that desire wanes in otherwise wonderful relationships overtime
The two things desire and eroticism need to survive and thrive in longer relationships
How to break the cycle of relationship churn, if you're stuck in it
5 unconventional tips to make sex exciting again

Curious what it’s like to learn with me? Check out my FREE course on How to Avoid the Friendzone for Good. Go to: avoidthefriendzone.com

Connect with Sexual Craftsmanship online!
Website: https://sexualcraftsmanship.com
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC0o8MkhxcIwoSyTeM3AQ7lg

Support the podcast on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/SarahMartin

Ask Anyone for Anything

Episode 9

Thursday, September 3, 2020 • Duration 30:08

The sad reality is that no one can read your mind. Everyone has different types of fear around asking for what they want. Your fears didn’t come from nowhere - they have biological, social, and cultural origins.

What's more, these fears are part of larger structures that RELY on you remaining afraid of acting on your desires.

Therefore, asking for what you want is a revolutionary act.

In this episode, we cover:

What gets in the way of asking for what you want
Ask vs Guess culture and how this affects you
The AAA Approach that supports you in asking for what you want
The ABC Method to use when structuring an ask
Example scripts, including Dutch Pandemic Sex Buddies

Today's episode comes directly to you from a class I taught for the Sexual Craftsmanship community. The community has moved from Facebook to Reddit.

If you like what you heard, come join us!

Curious what it’s like to learn with me? Check out my FREE course on How to Avoid the Friendzone for Good. Go to: avoidthefriendzone.com

Connect with Sexual Craftsmanship online!
Website: https://sexualcraftsmanship.com
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC0o8MkhxcIwoSyTeM3AQ7lg

Support the podcast on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/SarahMartin

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