Explore every episode of the podcast Sexistential U
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| What are the limits of corporate entities sharing our DNA? | 11 May 2021 | 00:07:37 | |
This is a manifesto like rambling about DNA ancestry organizations.
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| S2 Episode 7: Healing and Teaching through Sexualization and Power | 29 Mar 2020 | 00:56:46 | |
Janis and Rachel reflect on the process of creating Season 2 of Sexistential U, including how we heal and practice self-care through experiences of sexualization and power, and how we understand our roles as educators and therapists with humility. | |||
| S1 Episode 5: Internalized Oppression | 27 Oct 2019 | 00:57:36 | |
Rachel and Janis discuss internalized oppression and how and why it functions. Quote 1: "Men always say that as the defining compliment, don't they? She's a cool girl. Being the Cool Girl means I am a hot, brilliant, funny woman who adores football, poker, dirty jokes, and burping, who plays video games, drinks cheap beer, loves threesomes and anal sex, and jams hot dogs and hamburgers into her mouth like she's hosting the world's biggest culinary gang bang while somehow maintaining a size 2, because Cool Girls are above all, hot. Hot and understanding. Cool Girls never get angry; they only smile in a chagrined, loving manner and let their men do whatever they want. Go ahead, shit on me, I don't mind, I'm the Cool Girl. Men actually think this girl exists. Maybe they're fooled because so many women are willing to pretend to be this girl." - Gillian Flynn, Gone Girl Quote 2: "Reenvisioned, anger can be the most feminine of virtues: compassionate, fierce, wise, and powerful. The women I admire most—those who have looked to themselves and the limitations and adversities that come with our bodies and the expectations that come with them—have all found ways to transform their anger into meaningful change. In them, anger has moved from debilitation to liberation. Your anger is a gift you give to yourself and the world that is yours. In anger, I have lived more fully, freely, intensely, sensitively, and politically. If ever there was a time not to silence yourself, to channel your anger into healthy places and choices, this is it.” - Soraya Chemaly, Rage Becomes Her
Q to Audience: When did you first recognize your own internalized oppression or see it in someone else? | |||
| S1 Episode 4: Patriarchy and Toxic Masculinity | 13 Oct 2019 | 00:57:05 | |
Rachel and Janis discuss patriarchy and toxic masculinity and how it hurts men (and also everyone else). Resources:
Q for the audience: What are some patriarchal truths that you’re holding on to? What purpose does it serve in your life? | |||
| S1 Episode 3: Body Autonomy | 29 Sep 2019 | 00:59:38 | |
Rachel and Janis talk about nicknames for body parts and sex, how they impact how we think and feel about ourselves, and explore the concept of body autonomy. Resources:
Q to audience: Why do you think we didn’t just call genitals and sex by their actual names? What is the result of having alternative nicknames? How does it contribute to shame? | |||
| Minisode #1: HUSTLERS review | 26 Sep 2019 | 00:29:34 | |
Janis and Rachel talk about Hustlers (and the problematic behind the scenes of Hustlers) and what we really, really want from sex worker representation in media. (Hint: We want stories WRITTEN BY SEX WORKERS.) Read:
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| S1 Episode 2: Sex Negativity and the Circles of Sexuality | 15 Sep 2019 | 00:57:51 | |
Rachel and Janis explore some of the history of sex negativity and introduce the Circles of Sexuality. **Rachel made a mistake when she was speaking about the Victorian Era coming from England... she mistakenly shared that there was a reciprocal relationship with the UK, she meant the US. Resources:
Q to Audience: If you grew up with more information about sexuality, how would your social and sexual interactions be different? | |||
| Season 1 Pilot | 01 Sep 2019 | 00:28:24 | |
Get to know Rachel and Janis, our backgrounds in sex ed and sex therapy, and why we're here to bring you the sex ed you deserve! Q to audience: What are some of your sexistential crises? | |||
| Season 2 Episode 6: Intimate Partner Violence | 15 Mar 2020 | 00:56:20 | |
Rachel and Janis talk about intimate partner violence, the warning signs, why it's hard to leave, who gets left out of the conversation about IPV (the invisible victim/survivors), the idea that "hurt people hurt people," and where to look for help. | |||
| Season 2 Episode 5: Incest & Rape | 01 Mar 2020 | 00:58:07 | |
Janis and Rachel talk about dynamics of sexualization and power inherent in incest and rape both from an intellectual/fantasy perspective and in the context of real life power dynamics and harm. | |||
| S2 Ep 4: Sexual Harassment | 16 Feb 2020 | 01:01:13 | |
Rachel and Janis discuss sexual harassment both IRL and online. | |||
| S2 Episode 3: Withholding Sex | 02 Feb 2020 | 00:59:20 | |
Rachel and Janis talk about the complicated phenomenon of withholding sex to get what you want in a relationship and the gender norms it operates along. | |||
| S2 Ep 2: Media Messages | 19 Jan 2020 | 01:01:39 | |
Rachel and Janis discuss movies, TV, songs, books, all the ways we were taught about sexualization and power without even really knowing it. Also, Janis COMPLETELY confuses Big Little Lies with Sharp Objects (because Reese Witherspoon and Amy Adams look totally identical to her) and is totally perplexed in part one.
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| S2, Episode 1: Flirting and Seduction | 05 Jan 2020 | 01:01:48 | |
Janis and Rachel introduce the Circle of Sexuality that covers Sexualization & Power. Janis bemoans the fact that talking about sexual violence is such a norm that it's just another day ending in Y, and the two reflect on their flirting game, and what comes to mind when they hear the word "seduction." The identified elements of the sexualization & power circle are:
Quote: "The quality of Game is much more about being honest and being yourself than being smooth. It's not about small talk, filling the space, or easing the awkwardness. It's letting true desire and curiosity come to the forefront of an interaction." - Adrienne Maree Brown, Pleasure Activism Quote: "Seducers are people who understand the tremendous power..." - Robert Greene, The Concise Art of Seduction Relationship Anarchy Manifesto Pick Up Artists and Rape Culture The Jeremy (That one is just for fun lol) The Lack of Gentle Platonic Touch in Men's Lives is a Killer Q to the audience: What are some of your experiences with seduction and/or flirting? | |||
| S1 Episode 6: Pleasure Activism | 10 Nov 2019 | 01:00:12 | |
Rachel and Janis talk about what they've learned so far from Pleasure Activism, and critique the absence of pleasure in mainstream sex ed curricula.
Quote: Adrienne Maree Brown “I am having the best sex of my life, and it isn’t an accident.” | |||
| Minisode #2: The Sex Pot Therapist | 01 Nov 2019 | 00:29:57 | |
Janis talks to Danielle aka @thesexpottherapist (she/her/That Bitch) about sex and spirituality, cannabis and meditation, sex ed, sex work, and our shared values about authenticity and self-disclosure as therapists which Danielle declares perfectly as "Human First, Therapist Second." You can find Danielle online at:
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