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Welcome to another episode of the Ask a Sex Therapist podcast! In today's listener Q&A, Heather Shannon dives deep into questions about sexual energy, maintaining desire in long-term relationships, understanding demisexuality and fraysexuality, and coping with feelings of loneliness while dating. Heather also shares insights about the importance of novelty in keeping sexual attraction alive and addresses the nuanced dynamics of intimacy. Don't forget to submit your questions anonymously via Heather's website for future episodes!

Links, Contact Information & Resources:

Curious about coaching? Book an Intimacy Breakthrough Call with Heather: https://heathershannon.co/video-page/ 

The YouTube channel is getting organized! Check out our playlists for libido, communication, penis owners, etc: https://www.youtube.com/@AskASexCoach/playlists 

Ep. 39 with Zachary Zane: https://youtu.be/j4zZjM18aZ0?si=7nj5fw9KlEyDOoXy 

Announcements:

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Hello everyone! In this episode of 'Ask a Sex Therapist,' host Heather Shannon is joined by Dr. Eric Fitzmedrude, a specialist in relationship and sexual issues, as they delve into the intricacies of male sexuality, high desire, and the importance of emotional fulfillment in masturbation. Dr. Fitzmedrude shares his personal journey with infidelity and how it led him to explore open relationships, emphasizing the need for self-awareness and effective communication. The discussion also covers the value of consent, overcoming patriarchal wounds, and finding balance within diverse sexual needs. Listeners are encouraged to embrace vulnerability, cultivate intimate connections, and explore their desires ethically, with an invitation to explore Dr. Fitzmedrude’s book, 'The Better Man,' for deeper insights.

Links, Contact Information & Resources:

Dr. Eric’s Website and Book Link: https://www.drericfitz.com/the-better-man/ 

Similar Youtube Playlist: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLNk9UKFYOfS7PNz68eMvmu6WdX8hhg8rx

🫂Are you non-monogamous or exploring non-monogamy? If so, join Heather's ENM Support Squad Wednesdays at 4pm Eastern starting on July 24th. You can register here --> https://www.eventbrite.com/e/922588806957?aff=oddtdtcreator

🧑‍🎓We are looking for a podcast intern (must be 18+)! Email hello@heathershannon.co if you're interested.

📱Download Heather's new iOS app here: https://apps.apple.com/us/app/heather-shannon-therapist/id6476728826

ABOUT THE EPISODE

Hey, lovely listeners! Today we’re tackling some deeply interesting listener questions about vaginismus, guilty pleasures, and sexual fantasies. Trust me, you don't want to miss this one--my cat even makes an appearance! 🌟🐾

We're chatting about practical strategies for managing vaginismus, letting go of guilt when it comes to pleasure, and exploring when sexual fantasies are helpful and when they're actually preventing connecting with your real life partner. Whether you're on the road or walking your dog, tune in for some enlightening and heartfelt advice. 💫

What You'll Learn:

🌬️ The importance of natural breathing and pelvic floor relaxation.

🌸 Navigating the sensitive topic of vaginismus and its emotional impact.

💭 What to do when you're attracted to your partner in your mind, but not in practice.

🤔 The importance of feeling emotionally safe when it comes to sex.

🪞 The beauty of letting go of shame and fully enjoying your pleasures.

Click play and let's make this episode of "Ask A Sex Therapist" a highlight of your week! 🎧❤️

00:00 Announcements including courses and community forum.

06:14 Difficulty achieving pleasure and anxiety over intercourse.

09:58 Options for treatment for vaginismus and resources.

11:58 Males have diverse sexual preferences and beliefs.

15:43 "Existential Kink" explores embracing and transforming shame.

19:31 Understanding and supporting partner with erectile dysfunction.

22:29 Emotional safety is crucial for libido.

24:28 Difficulty with sex might stem from emotions.

27:32 Free dirty talk guide for podcast listeners.

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SIMILAR EPISODES

• 071: The Top 5 Sex Blockers - https://pod.fo/e/22a9d3
• 079 Listener Q & A - https://pod.fo/e/23dfe4

THEMES EXPLORED

sex therapy, libido, masturbation, sexual intimacy, erectile dysfunction, vaginismus, endometriosis, internal family systems, podcasting course, sexual censorship, non-monogamy, sex education, sexual anxiety, clitoral orgasm, dilator therapy, pelvic floor physical therapy, sexual pleasure, relationship intimacy, fantasy during sex, sexual arousal, shame and stigma, attachment styles, communication in relationships, self-inquiry

Loved this episode? Leave us a review and rating here. https://podfollow.com/AskASexTherapist 

*****

Ever thought about being in a throuple? Regardless of whether it's for you, I bet you're curious about this unique relationship structure!

Tune in with Heather's guests, Dr. Rachael Meir and her partners Aaron and Casey for a truly unique episode.

Get answers to your questions like:

• Is sex always a threesome?
• What's the biggest perk of being in a 3-person relationship?
• How do they handle living in a world made for 2-person relationsihps?
• Is doing household chores really easier with 3 people?

Plus, find out what monogamous people can learn from polyamorous relationships!

*****

WORK WITH HEATHER:

Apply for a free Intimacy Breakthrough Call to learn about Heather’s coaching services. 

LET’S CONNECT! FIND HEATHER HERE ⤵️:

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SIMILAR EPISODE

Episode 13 - Is monogamy realistic? https://pod.fo/e/166e5e 

CONNECT WITH OUR GUESTS!

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🎧 Hey there, curious minds! Are you wondering if you're simply blessed with a high libido or if you have a sex or porn addiction? Or maybe you've been wondering if your partner's porn behavior is healthy. Today, I unpack the differences between having a healthy, high sex drive and what it looks like when things turn into a compulsion.

I'll also sprinkle in some tips on how to balance that fiery drive without letting it take over your life. This is one episode will finally offer you clarity on what is problematic and what is simply hot and spicy. 🌶️

Tune in to Discover:

- The difference between a high libido and sex addiction

- How to identify if sexual behaviors are interfering with your life

- The role of shame and stigma in compulsive behaviors

- The benefits of self-acceptance and open communication

- Treatment options and resources for those who need it

Time Stamps:

00:00 Intro to podcast and today's topic

04:40 Physical health and mental well-being affect sex drive.

08:54 Understanding sexual needs, communication, and signs of addiction.

11:43 Embracing mindfulness, and a healthy lifestyle.

15:09 Moderate porn consumption can enhance sexuality.

19:02 Using sex or masturbation as stress relief.

20:40 Sex and love addicts Anonymous's dating rule.

24:11 Rehab center options and resources for addiction.

Episode Links:

Heather's Website - https://HeatherShannon.co Book a free Intimacy Breakthrough Call, grab Heather's freebies, check out podcast transcripts and more!

Podcast Instagram - https://instagram.com/AskASexTherapist Join the broadcast channel to vote on podcast topics!

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Themes and Keywords We Explore

sex addiction, high sex drive, compulsive sexual behavior, sex therapy, porn addiction, certified sex therapist, AASECT, out of control sexual behavior, internal family systems, mindfulness, impulsivity, masturbation, sexual stigma, dopamine, risky behavior, emotional dysregulation, 12-step groups, SMART recovery, sex therapists, rehab centers, sexual validation.

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Show Summary

In this delightful episode of "Ask A Sex Therapist," I interview the legendary Dr. Betty Martin about the magical realms of mindful touch and the captivating Wheel of Consent. And she makes me cry, LOL! 🥹

🌟 Dr. Martin shares her experiences and teachings from decades of touching people. As we explore her book The Art of Receiving and Giving, let's explore a place where boundaries are respected, desires are honored, and pleasure is celebrated. 🌈

Join us as we learn about the transformative power of intentional touch and the art of giving and receiving with openness and authenticity. Your sex life is about to get a major upgrade!🌺

What You'll Learn:

🛞 Discover the concept of "the Wheel of Consent" and its profound impact on understanding giving and receiving in physical touch.

🤗Uncover the dynamics of touch within relationships through the lens of Dr. Betty Martin's insightful quadrants - serve, accept, take, and allow.

🙏 Learn how past conditioning and experiences can hinder our ability to ask for what we want and embrace our desires with confidence.

⏳ Explore the transformative potential of the "Three Minute Game" in healing past wounds and building trust in setting boundaries and expressing needs.

💡 Gain insights into the importance of non-sexual touch and affection in fostering intimacy and connection in relationships. 💫

✨ Press play for some essential knowledge when it comes to sensuality, sex and touch! 🎧💖

Time Stamps

00:00 Wheel of consent: A recurring, focused practice.

04:02 Difficulty in receiving limits our ability to give.

11:01 The wheel of consent: 2 questions, 3 minutes.

17:49 Learning to notice and accept personal boundaries.

26:54 Touch is a primary human need, not sex.

30:20 Interpreting body language and its impact. Matrix design.

33:18 Setting boundaries during physical intimacy conversation.

37:06 Realizing my eroticism belongs to me.

39:05 Chiropractic office transitioned to interactive sex coaching.

43:39 Grateful for amazing work on the wheel.

Heather's Links

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Podcast Instagram - https://instagram.com/AskASexTherapist Join the broadcast channel to vote on podcast topics!

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Dr Betty Martin's Links

Dr Martin's Website - https://bettymartin.org/

Wheel of Consent Book Website - https://wheelofconsentbook.com/ Grab a free chapter!

Themes and Keywords

Dr. Betty Martin, sacred intimate, surrogate partner, safety concerns, wheel of consent, workshops for sexuality professionals, boundaries, limits, physical intimacy, non-sexual touch, cuddling, making out, sexual acts, pleasure, intimacy, body positivity, somatic sex educator, communication, asking for what you want, past conditioning, verbalizing desires, challenges, transitions, eroticism, vulnerability, integrity.

Enjoy this episode of wild audience questions (and I have more we didn't even get to!)

1. A husband dealing with disability turns to porn and his wife wants to know how to handle it.
2. A husband who isn't getting any at home tries to join a gangbang . . . but it doesn't go according to plan.
3. She loves her boyfriend, but he's got some odd behavior when it comes to sex and she wants some help navigating his surprising behavior.

Want to submit a question to be featured on our next Listener Q & A episode?

1. Leave a voice message at https://HeatherShannon.co/podcast. You can even use a fake name!
2. Write-in a totally anonymous message at https://heathershannon.co/ask-a-sex-question/

P.S. Sorry for the late release time of this episode--we had a problem with the editors and had to switch last minute! If you are an experienced audio/video editor and want to take over production of this show, email Heather at HeatherShannonLCPC@gmail.com ASAP!

🔥 Ever wondered what’s behind your deepest sexual fantasies? This week on Ask A Sex Therapist, Artemisia De Vine joins Heather to chat about erotic fantasies. Artemisia, with her extensive background as a professional dominatrix and sex worker, helps us understand when it feels safe to explore fantasies by getting past our own internal protectors. It’s about finding that balance between the taboo and what feels acceptable to us. Tune in and learn how you can make your fantasies a reality!

👂 What you'll learn:

- The psychological underpinnings of common sexual fantasies

- How exploring these desires can lead to profound states of consciousness

- The importance of the ego and desire in shaping our erotic experiences

- Strategies to embrace and integrate your fantasies for healthier intimacy

- Artemisia's unique perspective on overcoming societal guilt and shame linked to sexual preferences

Timestamps for some of the key moments in our conversation:

• 01:45 - Artemisia Divine's unique introduction to the world of sexual fantasy
• 08:34 - Overcoming societal and religious impact on sexuality
• 15:22 - The vital role of presence and psychological understanding in sexual experiences
• 23:50 - Decoding the complex symbolism of personal sexual fantasies
• 29:18 - Combining fear and desire within fantasies to achieve balance
• 37:55 - The transformative potential of sexual fantasies in relationships
• 42:44 - The intricate workings of Artemisia's "Divinery Method"
• 51:22 - Emotional aftershocks: Navigating arousal and shame
• 58:17 - Dissecting cuckolding fantasies: Importance of the "antidote"
• 67:00 - The connection between sexual fantasy and spiritual journey

🎧 Don't miss this enlightening exploration into the complexity of human desire - press play now!.

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🎉 Learn about Expanded Orgasm with this free guide! 👉 Expand Her Orgasm Tonight (2.0)

Ready to unlock the secrets to more and better orgasms? 🎉 This week on "Ask a Sex Therapist," we're tackling one of your favorite topics—orgasms! Whether you're chasing your very first climax or looking to make those peaks a more common part of your bedroom repertoire, this episode has something for you. Join Heather Shannon as she explores everything from breaking mental barriers to practical tips for heightened pleasure, all with her signature blend of humor and expertise. Don't miss out on these game-changing insights!

What you’ll learn in this episode:

- 🧠 The mental blocks that might be killing your vibe and how to overcome them.

- ✨ How different sensations could dramatically change your sexual experiences.

- 🔄 The importance of security and attachment in improving your orgasm frequency.

- 🔍 Masturbation tips and why knowing your body is crucial.

- 🚀 Techniques to boost orgasm probability if you already enjoy them but want more.

Tap in to discover the secrets to a sensational sex life. Grab your headphones and listen today! 🎧👉

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EPISODE LINKS

• Ep 5 The Clitoris - Ask A Sex Therapist with Heather Shannon: 005 The Clitoris on Apple Podcasts
• Ep 22 The Orgasm Gap - ‎Ask A Sex Therapist with Heather Shannon: 022 The Orgasm Gap with Dr. Laurie Mintz on Apple Podcasts
• Ep 48 The Magic of Masturbation - ‎Ask A Sex Therapist with Heather Shannon: 048: The Magic of Masturbation: More Presence, More Pleasure on Apple Podcasts
• Ep 56 Female Arousal with Susan Bratton - Ask A Sex Therapist with Heather Shannon: 056: Female Arousal with Susan Bratton on Apple Podcasts

🌟 Feeling stuck in your love life or overwhelmed by stress? Tune in to this game-changing episode of "Ask A Sex Therapist," where we sit down with emotional healing coach Allison Jayne to uncover transformative techniques for personal growth and better relationships! Allison shares her expertise on EFT tapping, a simple yet potent method to rewire your brain for more positive outcomes. Whether you're battling feelings of unworthiness in dating or just trying to navigate the waves of modern love, this is the episode that might just turn your world around! 🌈👫

🎧 In this episode, you'll discover:

- How EFT tapping can help you overcome trauma and reduce stress.

- The role of your subconscious self-concept in your romantic relationships.

- Strategies to combat the scarcity mindset in online dating.

- Practical tips for using EFT tapping to enhance your dating experience.

- Allison's inspirational journey from tapping novice to emotional healing maestro.

Don't miss out on these remarkable insights! Tune in now to transform your approach to love and personal wellness! 🎶💖

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SIMILAR EPISODES (where I cover more obstacles that could be blocking your sex life!)

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🤗 Are you ready to expand your understanding of intimacy beyond the bedroom? In this cozy episode of Ask A Sex Therapist, Heather shares her personal journey of attending her very first cuddle party! Wrap yourself up in the knowledge that not all closeness needs to be about sex, discover how platonic touch can open doors to greater intimacy, and learn about the fascinating dynamics of cuddle parties. Whether you're flying solo or navigating relationships, there's something in this episode to warm everyone's heart. Tune in and embrace a world where consent is king and connection is queen. 🛋️

Listen now to embrace the warmth of non-sexual intimacy and learn how cuddle parties are creating a new space for consent and connection!

What you'll learn in this episode:

- The underestimated power of platonic intimacy

- Defining cuddle parties and how they differ from play parties

- Tips on negotiating personal boundaries and practicing consent

- The draw of cuddle parties for a diverse crowd, including those interested in non-monogamy

- How cuddle parties can serve as a space for personal growth and self-discovery

Timestamps:

- [00:03:24] Explaining what a cuddle party is and how it functions

- [00:04:47] Distinction between cuddle parties and play parties

- [00:06:10] The attractiveness of cuddle parties to those seeking connection

- [00:07:18] The personal growth element of attending such events

- [00:09:13] Building the safe container of a cuddle party

- [00:21:08] How asking for consent can transform interactions

Listen to this heartwarming exploration of non-sexual intimacy and learn how to add a touch of consensual coziness to your life! 🎧

🎙️ Hot flashes, mood swings, and... sexy times? Menopause isn't just your mother's concern, folks – it's a rollercoaster that can start as early as *38* and it affects everything from your emotions to your intimacy. 😳💥 Fear not, because this episode of *Ask A Sex Therapist* is here to light up the path through the mist of menopause. We've got the radiant Dr. Kelly Casperson from "You Are Not Broken" dropping truth bombs on everything hormone-related. Plus, we spill the tea on the good, the bad, and the not-so-slick truths behind the lubes and creams that promise to keep things smooth sailing south of the border. 🚀💦 Tune in and turn your perimenopause frowns upside down!

Here's what you'll learn from this episode:

- The real deal on "bioidentical" hormones and what's just slick marketing 🎩📈

- Why your birth control pills aren't on the same level as menopause treatments 🚫💊

- Tips for talking to your doc about hormones like you've got an MD of your own 🗣️💪

- The lifesaving importance of lube, and why silicone is your new BFF 🙌✨

- How vaginal estrogen could be the $20 game-changer for your love life ❤️💡

Timestamps:

- [02:15] Understanding menopause and its surprising age range

- [05:30] Demystifying perimenopause symptoms

- [11:45] Why "bioidentical" hormones are causing a buzz

- [17:20] The significant risks of misinformation on vaginal estrogen

- [23:45] How healthy habits can support hormonal balance

- [31:00] Navigating the options for hormone replacement therapy

- [38:30] The big misconceptions of hormones and sexual health

- [43:10] The affordable secret weapon against dryness

- [49:50] Why GSM should be on your radar sooner rather than later

- [55:25] Vaginal estrogen myths busted for breast cancer survivors

Ready to rise above the confusion and start living your best life? Listen now and transform your approach to perimenopause and beyond! 🎧🌟

Don't miss out; visit heathershannon.com for more insights and to snag your free dirty talk guide! 📚💬

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KELLY CASPERSON WEBSITE:

https://kellycaspersonmd.com/

Announcements:

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Libido Course Now Available in the App for $10 off the usual price! $39 instead of $49

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Grace is coming on the team as my apprentice Intimacy Coach! Request a free consultation with Grace here: https://calendly.com/grace_teacherbyrd/15min 

Hello everyone! In this episode of the Ask a Sex Therapist podcast, Heather explores the topic of squirting, including what it is, how it occurs, and the differences between squirting and female ejaculation. She walks listeners through the scientific aspects of squirting, such as the role of the bladder and Skeen's glands, and dispels common myths about it. Heather also shares practical tips on how to stimulate squirting, discusses her personal experience, and emphasizes the importance of being patient and open-minded.

Links, Contact Information & Resources:

Episode 56 Female Arousal with Susan Bratton https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/056-female-arousal-with-susan-bratton/id1656078749?i=1000638171677 

Heather Shannon, LCPC's Amazon Page https://www.amazon.com/shop/heathershannonlcpc

Hey there, lovely listeners! 🌸 In this episode, we're getting real and addressing the tricky topic of self-consciousness during sex. Whether you're worried about your body, technique, or just feeling like a complete beginner, we've got you covered. Join me as we unpack what self-consciousness really looks like in the bedroom and uncover actionable steps to boost your confidence and fully enjoy your intimate moments. Let's kick those insecurities to the curb and embrace owning our authentic selves! 💪

In this episode, you'll learn:

- How to recognize signs of self-consciousness during sex

- The impact of cultural ideals on body image and sexual confidence

- Practical steps for finding inspiration and building confidence

- Unpacking limiting beliefs and exploring their impact on sexual experiences

- Understanding the importance of addressing emotional blocks for a fulfilling sex life

Ready to take charge and transform your sexual experiences? Tune in now to the Ask a Sex Therapist podcast! 🎧

00:00 Late night episode discussing self-consciousness during sex.

04:00 Overanalyzing can emphasize insecurities and self-consciousness.

06:44 Finding and appreciating your favorite flavors and partners.

12:25 Acceptance and compassion for body image struggles.

15:25 Challenge thoughts, change experience, unpack stories, notice.

17:27 Heather’s story of overcoming fear of public speaking in college.

19:51 Podcast email available, upcoming episodes with guests.

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YOUTUBE CHANNEL & VIDEO VERSION OF PODCAST 

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Got feedback or an idea for the show? Email us at AskASexTherapistPodcast@gmail.com!

In the latest episode of Ask A Sex Therapist, Heather engages in a powerful conversation with guest and professional Surrogate Partner, Katherine Yeagel. Together they explore the nuanced and often misunderstood practice of Surrogate Partner Therapy. Katherine, a surrogate partner, somatic sex educator, and queer sex and relationship coach, shares her insightful perspective on the therapeutic journey, emphasizing the stepping stones of starting from a place of safety and gradually moving toward deeper connection. 

They highlight the importance of nervous system regulation, the impact of societal norms on personal relationships, and the need for authenticity in sexual encounters. Katherine's personal transformation and professional insights shed light on the intricate relationship between self-discovery and healing within the context of surrogate partner therapy. This episode offers listeners a thought-provoking examination of intimate growth, client experiences, and deliberately pacing yourself in intimate relationships to build trust and establish healthy boundaries.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

🧑‍🤝‍🧑What is Surrogate Partner Therapy? (3:41)

📑How does someone get started working in this field?

🙋 What types of people make a good client for Surrogate Partner Therapy?

🚷What are some myths about Surrogate Partner Therapy?

🚦Creating and noticing safety and green lights in your body when it comes to intimacy

TIMESTAMPS

03:41 Surrogate partners help clients practice relationship skills.

10:06 Learning to provide whole authentic relationship with clients.

13:14 Teamwork with therapists fulfills and enriches Katherine.

20:31 Creating a green zone space for yourself.

27:41 Surrogate partners navigate authenticity and attraction challenges.

37:46 Reflecting on experiences, avoiding regrets after sex.

42:00 Authentic expression leads to genuine confidence.

44:44 Deconstructing traditional views on sex and sexuality.

RESOURCES

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https://instagram.com/SexTherapistHeather 

YOUTUBE CHANNEL & VIDEO VERSION OF PODCAST 

https://youtube.com/@askasexcoach 

SIMILAR EPISODES (where I cover more obstacles that could be blocking your sex life!)

• 060: Navigating Sexual Relationships Post-Trauma with Jackie Tempera - https://pod.fo/e/213792 
• Ep 63 How to Communicate About Sex Openly & With Sensitivity - https://pod.fo/e/217d0a 

KATHERINE YEAGEL WEBSITE:

https://katherineyeagel.com/ 

Don’t forget to “Follow” the show 👉https://podfollow.com/askasextherapist. We have awesome episodes coming up on sexual fantasies, surrogate partner therapy and what it’s like being a porn star and you won’t want to miss them!

In this week's solo episode, Heather breaks down the top 5 reasons your sex life might be feeling stagnant. Once you know what these are, you can get past them and get back to the steamy stuff! 🔥 No more sexless marriage. No more sex feeling like a chore. And no more lesbian bed death. Let’s turn the heat back up in your bedroom (just metaphorically though because it’s best to sleep in cool temperatures LOL)!

If you’ve been feeling more like roommates than lovers, this episode is for you. Sex shouldn’t be something you have to cross off your to do list. 

In this episode, you will learn:

🍆 How neglecting what worked in the beginning can cockblock you!

🦺 The importance of creating emotional safety for open communication 

😋 Ways to actively nurture and prioritize your sex life

🧠 Understanding your turn-ons and creating the right conditions for an intimate connection

🫠 The impact of unresolved hurt and betrayal on your sex life

Hit PLAY to find out how to remove these major sex blockers and start building a sex life that actually turns you on.

Here are a few highlights:

- [00:00:32] Introduction to the topic and upcoming episodes

- [00:02:21] Reason #1: Neglecting what worked in the beginning

- [00:05:41] Reason #2: Not feeling emotionally safe

- [00:08:50] Reason #3: Failing to nurture your sex life specifically

- [00:12:53] Reason #4: Not getting the type of sex that really does it for you

- [00:18:17] Reason #5: Impact of unresolved hurt and betrayal

GET THE INTIMACY AUDIT FREE MINI COURSE (discover what’s blocking YOUR sex life!)

https://heather-shannon.mykajabi.com/intimacyaudit

APPLY FOR HEATHER’S INTIMACY INFUSION PROGRAM 

Start by requesting your Intimacy Breakthrough Call (Limit 3 per week, so book now!)

LEARN MORE ABOUT HEATHER AND HER SERVICES

https://HeatherShannon.co

ASK A SEX THERAPIST INSTAGRAM 

https://instagram.com/askasextherapist (Join the podcast’s broadcast channel!)

HEATHER’S INDIVIDUAL INSTAGRAM (new!) 

https://instagram.com/SexTherapistHeather 

YOUTUBE CHANNEL & VIDEO VERSION OF PODCAST 

https://youtube.com/@askasexcoach 

SIMILAR EPISODES (where I cover more obstacles that could be blocking your sex life!)

• 060: Navigating Sexual Relationships Post-Trauma with Jackie Tempera
• 046: Body Count, Slut-Shaming & Good Girl Syndrome
• 031 Scheduling Sex? What To Do When You Can’t Find Time To Get It On
• 007 The Libido Issue
• 009 How to Feel Sexy

HAVE FEEDBACK ABOUT THE SHOW?

Email us at AskASexTherapistPodcast@gmail.com 

Have feedback on the show or want to ask a sex question for our next listener Q & A? Email Heather at AskASexTherapistPodcast@gmail.com.

⚡️ Sparks flying and magic in the air? Or just the sound of yet another dating myth fizzling out? 🐸💔 Join Heather and this week's guest expert, Damona Hoffman, as they smash the old fairy tale narratives and help you construct a love story that's truly your own. Our amazing guest, Damona Hoffman, is the official love expert for The Drew Barrymore Show and the #1 Best-Selling author of "F The Fairy Tale." She and Heather get pretty deep in this episode and you're in for some suprises!

This episode isn't about finding your soulmate, but finding real connections in a world full of ghosting, breadcrumbing, lazy daters and more dating pitfalls. 🧚 Whether you're a hopeless romantic or a hopeful realist, you won't want to miss the truths unpacked here. 🌟

Listeners will discover:

🔮 The myth of instant chemistry and the importance of personal growth in relationships.

🎙️ How to inspire authentic connections beyond text messages (hint: try audio messages!)

💑 The four pillars essential for a relationship and how to apply them practically.

😱 Turning the 'ick' of dating disasters into a path of personal growth and self-discovery.

🔐 Embracing realism over romance for a meaningful and fulfilling partnership.

Get insightful timestamps:

- The allure of Valentine's Day and everyday love [00:01:16]

- Demystifying the 'perfect' partner and unrealistic expectations [00:02:44]

- Is romance lost when we say 'F the fairy tale'? [00:04:19]

- The importance of staying in the moment [00:06:30]

- Damona's refreshing approach to 'the list' [00:08:40]

- The love/hate relationship with dating height requirements [00:09:57]

And much more, all within the transformative heart-to-heart between Heather and Damona Hoffman! Ready for a love revolution? Listen now, and let's rewrite the dating rules together.

DAMONA HOFFMAN'S WEBSITE:

https://damonahoffman.com/

BUY DAMON'AS BOOK "F THE FAIRY TALE""

https://damonahoffman.com/f-the-fairy-tale/

GET THE INTIMACY AUDIT FREE MINI COURSE

https://heather-shannon.mykajabi.com/intimacyaudit

CURIOUS ABOUT WORKING WITH HEATHER AS A COACH?

https://heathershannon.co/video-page/

FOLLOW THE SHOW

https://podfollow.com/askasextherapist

HEATHER'S WEBSITE

https://HeatherShannon.co

YOUTUBE VIDEO VERSION OF PODCAST & MORE

https://www.youtube.com/@AskASexCoach/podcasts

Don’t forget to follow the show. We have some amazing guests you won’t want to miss including Damona Hoffman from The Drew Barrymore show, Kelly Casperson from the You Are Not Broken podcast and surrogate partner Katherine Yeagel.

Reminder to you that the show notes are choc-ful of helpful links. You can submit your anonymous sex questions via our anonymous Ask A Sex Therapist link. I would love to hear from more of you about what you’re struggling with when it comes to sex or what you really want that you haven’t been able to figure out how to get yet. This will factor into which topics I cover on the show. In other words, not only will I answer all the questions, but you may even get your own episode!

🔥 Get ready to learn all about the art of initiating sex in this episode of Ask a Sex Therapist with Heather Shannon! Heather discusses the importance of clear communication, the different approaches to initiating, and the nuances of understanding your partner's desires. From playful seduction to setting the mood for intimacy, this episode is packed with tips and insights on how to get things going in the bedroom. If you're looking to add some excitement and connection to your sex life, you won't want to miss this candid discussion with Heather!

In this episode, you'll learn:

- The importance of clear communication when initiating sex

- Different approaches to initiating and seducing your partner

- Understanding your partner's preferences for getting in the mood

- Navigating the complexities of foreplay and arousal

- Tips for fostering intimacy and connection through initiating sex

🎧 Tune in to the episode for expert tips on how to initiate sex and bring passion back into your relationship!

Time Stamps:

- 00:54 - Heather introduces the topic of initiating sex and previews upcoming guests

- 03:25 - Heather shares a personal cringe-worthy story about a unique approach to initiating sex

- 08:08 - Identifying the different types of approaches to initiating and understanding your partner's preferences

- 12:29 - Overcoming the discomfort and challenges of initiating sex through open communication

- 16:43 - Exploring the nuances of foreplay, arousal, and navigating intimacy

- 19:54 - Heather discusses a free tool to help diagnose patterns in your sex life and offers a call to action for listeners

GET THE INTIMACY AUDIT FREE MINI COURSE

https://heather-shannon.mykajabi.com/intimacyaudit  

CURIOUS ABOUT WORKING WITH HEATHER AS A COACH?

Request a free Ignite Your Intimacy Breakthrough Session (Limit 3 per week, so book now!)

FOLLOW THE SHOW (so you won’t miss a juicy detail AND this helps more people discover Ask A Sex Therapist!)

https://podfollow.com/askasextherapist  

LEARN MORE ABOUT HEATHER AND HER SERVICES

https://HeatherShannon.co

YOUTUBE VIDEO VERSION OF PODCAST & MORE 

Heather’s YouTube - Check out the video version of this podcast & more!

LEARN MORE ABOUT HEATHER AND HER SERVICES

https://HeatherShannon.co

SIMILAR EPISODES

067: Get Vulnerable & Get Laid! - https://pod.fo/e/221294

063: How to Communicate About Sex Openly and with Sensitivity - https://pod.fo/e/217d0a

002 The Real Reason You're Not Talking About Sex! - https://pod.fo/e/15b8df

Submit your anonymous sex questions here! For our next Listener Q & A episode → https://heathershannon.co/ask-a-sex-question/

🚀 Ready to liberate your inner WILD and explore the transformative power of sexuality? This episode of 'Ask A Sex Therapist' features the fierce and fabulous GG Sauvage, who shares her journey from trauma to triumph and how sex work has shaped her life and identity. It's a candid conversation filled with raw insights and helpful advice whether you're navigating your own self-discovery or simply curious about the nuances of relationships and sex work. Get ready to be inspired and empowered! 🌟🎙️💜

Listeners will learn about:

- Reclaiming one's identity post-trauma

- Exploring sexual identity after a conservative religious upbringing

- How sex work can lead to empowerment and financial stability

- The healing aspects of creating erotic content and art

- Navigating bisexuality and non-monogamous relationships

Time stamps for spicy bits & giggles:

[00:01:29] The significance behind the name Sauvage

[00:03:18] The wildness that comes from breaking free

[00:09:12] Exploration of the desire to engage in sex work

[00:19:36] Sharing what it's like to work in a Nevada brothel

[00:23:09] The broad and positive impact of legal sex work

[00:27:22] Advocating for pleasure education and understanding one's body

[00:34:52] Femme on femme energy and advice on non-monogamous relationships

[00:39:43] Reclamation in the context of romantic and working relationships

[00:43:17] The benefits and satisfaction in relationships between two women

Don't miss this episode – tune in now and unearth the wisdom hiding beneath the surface of your desires. And if you're vibing with us, don't forget to share the experience! 🎧💬

GET THE INTIMACY AUDIT FREE MINI COURSE

https://heather-shannon.mykajabi.com/intimacyaudit  

CURIOUS ABOUT WORKING WITH HEATHER AS A COACH?

Request a free Ignite Your Intimacy Breakthrough Session (Limit 3 per week, so book now!)

FOLLOW THE SHOW (so you won’t miss a juicy detail AND this helps more people discover Ask A Sex Therapist!)

https://podfollow.com/askasextherapist  

LEARN MORE ABOUT HEATHER AND HER SERVICES

https://HeatherShannon.co

YOUTUBE VIDEO VERSION OF PODCAST & MORE 

Heather’s YouTube - Check out the video version of this podcast & more!

FIND AND FOLLOW OUR AMAZING GUEST GG SAUVAGE:

GG’s Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/ggsauvage/ 

GG’s Website & Writing - https://www.sexandthesynchronicity.com/

SIMILAR EPISODES

1. Ep. 64 The Shame Free, Kinky Neurodivergent Episode with Alice Lovegood https://pod.fo/e/21a9f3 
2. Ep. 60 Navigating Sexual Relationships Post Trauma with Jackie Tempera https://pod.fo/e/211467
3. Ep. 56 Exploring FinDom Kinks with Kate Balestrieri https://pod.fo/e/1ecfaa 📝💋

🎙️ Get ready to embrace your vulnerability and emotional bravery in this week's episode of Ask A Sex Therapist! In this candid discussion, we explore the importance of being emotionally brave for intimacy, whether it's emotional closeness, authenticity, or passionate, connected sex. Host Heather encourages listeners to break free from self-censorship and explore the impact of holding back thoughts and feelings. Offering insights from her work with clients, she uncovers how self-censorship impacts sexual intimacy and shares actionable advice for overcoming shyness, social anxiety, and fear of rejection to foster deeper connections. ❤️🔥

In this episode, you'll learn:

- What is self censorship?

- We all suck at this. I am bad at this too even though I’m not shy and don’t have social anxiety and often couldn’t care less what people think of me.

- Belonging is a core need from an evolutionary standpoint and we’re petrified of not belonging. Plus there’s the emotional roller coaster.

- But we are blocking ourselves from connection, happiness, pleasure and joy!!! And we’re blocking the other person too!!! Imagine how much more love there would be in the world if we were all better at this!!!

- So this part is a protector part according to IFS. It’s likely protecting an exiled part that feels not good enough, unworthy, shameful, broken, etc. - - - This part prevents us from getting hurt by reminding us not to stick our neck out. It learned to do this from past hurts. It has nothing but the best intentions, but may not know about our Self Energy which is confident and infinitely able to hold space for our emotions

- The solution? Access your Self Energy. Introduce this protector part to Self. Do things that help you access Self Energy.

Time Stamps:

00:57 - The significance of emotional bravery for intimacy

04:14 - Overcoming shyness and societal norms in expressing attraction

09:44 - Understanding the evolutionary need for belonging and connection

13:43 - Framing self-censorship through an internal family systems perspective

19:07 - Accessing your self energy for emotional bravery

GET THE INTIMACY AUDIT FREE MINI COURSE

https://heather-shannon.mykajabi.com/intimacyaudit

CURIOUS ABOUT WORKING WITH HEATHER AS A COACH?

Request a free Ignite Your Intimacy Breakthrough Session (Limit 3 per week, so book now!)

FOLLOW THE SHOW (this helps more people find it!)

https://podfollow.com/askasextherapist

LEARN MORE ABOUT HEATHER AND HER SERVICES

https://HeatherShannon.co

YOUTUBE VIDEO VERSION OF PODCAST & MORE

Heather’s YouTube - Check out the video version of this podcast & more!

SIMILAR EPISODES

Ep 2 - The Real Reason You’re Not Talking About Sex! - https://pod.fo/e/15b8df

Ep 11 - Attachment Styles - https://pod.fo/e/16340d

Ep 25 - Sex and The Single Life: Dating, Vulnerability & Freedom - https://pod.fo/e/17c237

Ep 33 - BDSM, Play Parties and Queer Sexuality with Kesiena Boom - https://pod.fo/e/181b5d

Ever wondered how self-judgment and outdated stereotypes can throw a wrench in our love lives? Tune in to this fascinating episode with Rachel Burch, one of Heather’s besties, as we get real about cougaring, age differences, and what it takes to forge genuine connections at any stage of life. No “age is just a number” cliches—we promise—just raw, hilarious insights from two women who aren't afraid to challenge norms. 🎙️💘🐾

Also check out Rachel’s award-winning podcast Love Before 100 where she chronicles her dating life as a 40-something divorced Mom. It’s like reality tv you can listen to on your commute!

Rachel’s Instagram

Love Before 100

Rachel’s YouTube

In this episode, you'll learn:

- How to navigate the dating world when interested in younger men.

- Insights into attachment styles and their impact on your love life.

- Rachel's refreshing take on self-worth and attraction beyond age-related stigmas.

- The exhilarating freedom of 'Vacation Heather' and what it could mean for your dating adventures.

- Strategies for personal growth and allowing vulnerability into your love life.

Time Stamps:

[00:02:40] Rachel discusses her views on cougaring

[00:07:45] The surprising ways younger men have shown up in dating

[00:14:17] The public's response to age gap dating

[00:17:00] Rachel's lack of attachment to a future with Wes, a younger suitor

[00:23:12] Impact of first heartbreaks on future dating

[00:30:24] Rachel contemplates what new experiences to allow herself

[00:33:31] Three-date rule with 'younger men' experiments

[00:37:22] Working through defense mechanisms for genuine intimacy

[00:41:18] Rachel's personal experience with self-judgment and attraction

[00:43:29] Higher love and the decision to stay open to finding love

Ready for an earful of uncensored truths? Listen now and embrace the possibility of love in unexpected places - wherever you find your podcast joy.

WORK WITH HEATHER:

Request a free Intimacy Breakthrough Session with Heather- https://calendly.com/hshann1/discovery-call-1-clone?back=1&month=2023-07

LET’S CONNECT! FIND HEATHER HERE ⤵️:

Heather’s Website - https://HeatherShannon.co

Heather’s Instagram - https://instagram.com/AskASexTherapist

Heather’s YouTube - Check out the video version of this podcast & more! - https://www.youtube.com/@AskASexCoach

SIMILARLY AWESOME EPISODES:

Liked the episode? Here’s a few more episodes of Ask A Sex Therapist that you'll enjoy:

Ep 54 Curious Girl Diaries with Layla London https://pod.fo/e/205f80

Ep 39 Being a boyslut with Zachary Zane https://pod.fo/e/1e36be 

RATE & REVIEW US!

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In this episode, our host–Certified Sex Therapist Heather Shannon–tackles listener responses to the question “What Do You Wish Was Better About Your Sex Life?” We had both a college student and a 70-something say their sex-life was non-existent. See what Heather has to say could be going on in that case. Then we have a partner who is having a hard time not taking her boyfriend’s ED personally. Learn what really goes on with ED. We continue the ED thread with someone who hasn’t been able to have penetrative sex with her partner for 11 years due to diabetes–how can she adjust to still feel connected with her husband? And lastly, what do you do when your partner isn’t interested in your kinks?

What you'll learn from this episode:

- How to stop blocking romantic possibilities and start inviting passion into your life.

- Traditional and modern ways to meet new flames that can rekindle your fire. 🔥

- How spending more time understanding your sexual style can help you work through sexual incompatibility

- Dealing with medical conditions impacting intimacy, and the role of sex toys in keeping the flame alive. 🎲

- How to navigate differences with your partner when it comes to kinks and fantasies

Time Stamps for YouTube Chapters:

- 0:00 Introduction and Host Update

- 5:00 Discussing Listener Submissions

- 10:00 Exploring Non-Existent Sex Lives

- 15:00 Breaking Down Barriers to Pleasure

- 20:00 Traditional Matchmaking and Group Outings

- 25:00 Tools for Communicating Sexual Preferences

WORK WITH HEATHER:

Request a free Intimacy Breakthrough Session with Heather- https://calendly.com/hshann1/discovery-call-1-clone?back=1&month=2023-07

LET’S CONNECT! FIND HEATHER HERE ⤵️:

Heather’s Website - https://HeatherShannon.co

Heather’s Instagram - https://instagram.com/AskASexTherapist

Heather’s YouTube - Check out the video version of this podcast & more! - https://www.youtube.com/@AskASexCoach

SIMILARLY AWESOME EPISODES:

Liked the episode? Here’s a few more episodes of Ask A Sex Therapist that you'll enjoy:

Ep. 21 - All About Erections - https://pod.fo/e/174c70 

Ep. 57 - Kink 101 - https://pod.fo/e/20c494 

Ep 10 - The Sexual Placebo Effect - https://pod.fo/e/16176b 

RESOURCES MENTIONED

Erotic Blueprint Quiz

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Join us for a fearless convo with kink-positive and shame-free content creator Alice Lovegood! She’s here to chat about the saucy side of cartoons (i.e. Princess Jasmine from Aladdin!), spill the tea on being neurodiverse and navigating love, and why those “oops!” moments in the sheets can actually be kinda hot. 💅🛌 Slide into a judgment free zone with Alice and host Heather Shannon where body confidence and exploring desires take the spotlight.

Here's the scoop on what's in this episode:

- Embracing the skin you're in, whether it's after a weight change or just owning your story 😌📖

- Why a little bedroom awkwardness isn't just normal—it's actually important for growth 🌺🤭

- Ditching shame like last season's fashion and why getting kinky might be just the self-care you need 🥀➡️🌹

- Finding the courage to let your freak flag fly, body confidence and all, with Alice's no-filter chat 💬 🚩

Hot timestamps you don't want to miss:

- [00:16:08] Alice gets real about body image post-weight loss

- [00:16:59] Heather and Alice talk about why that number on a scale shouldn't define you

- [00:17:42] Alice on people's surprise at her bold body confidence

- [00:18:09] Body appreciation vs. societal standards chat

- [00:19:10] A convo on loving your body against all odds

- [00:20:11] Alice and Heather tackle the S-word... Shame!

- [00:20:50] Unpacking unconventional kinks with zero shame

- [00:22:14] Finding enjoyment in what turns you on

- [00:23:11] Embracing the feels, the good, the bad, and the sexy

- [00:24:04] How societal norms can stir up those inner emotions

🎙💜 Catch the full vibe by checking out the episode now!

CURIOS ABOUT WORKING WITH HEATHER:

Request a free Intimacy Breakthrough Session here- https://calendly.com/hshann1/discovery-call-1-clone?back=1&month=2023-07

LET’S CONNECT! FIND HEATHER HERE ⤵️:

Heather’s Website - https://HeatherShannon.co

Heather’s Instagram - https://instagram.com/AskASexTherapist

Heather’s YouTube - Check out the video version of this podcast & more! - https://www.youtube.com/@AskASexCoach

SIMILARLY AWESOME EPISODES:

Liked the episode? Here’s a few more episodes of Ask A Sex Therapist that you'll enjoy:

Ep. 11 Attachment Styles - https://pod.fo/e/16340d 

Ep. 62 - Wild Nights with Dustin Rybka from Sex Party - https://pod.fo/e/2156e7

Ep. 47 - “Bottom Shame” and being a “Side” with Dr. Joe Kort - https://pod.fo/e/1f60c0 

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Feeling stuck with sex? Request a free Intimacy Breakthrough Call with Heather! --> Intimacy Breakthrough Session Booking Link

Hello everyone! In this episode, Heather welcomes Dr. Diane Mueller, a seasoned sexual wellness expert with a doctorate in naturopathic medicine. They discuss her journey through personal sexual health challenges and the conception of her practice, MyLibidoDoc. The conversation covers a wide range of topics, including the importance of novelty in long-term relationships, the impact of stress and safety on libido, and strategies for effective communication and self-exploration in sexual health. Dr. Diane shares insights on maintaining connection through highs and lows, practices for sustaining libido, and the significance of understanding one's pleasure body. Tune in to gain valuable tips and explore an empathetic, holistic approach to sexual wellness.

Links, Contact Information & Resources:

Follow Dr. Diane Mueller https://www.instagram.com/mylibidodoc/

Dr. Diane Mueller’s Libido Quiz & Website https://mylibidodoc.com/libido-quiz/

*Don’t forget to hit “Follow” if you love the show! That helps us get seen by more people and appeal to amazing guests!

Have you ever felt STUCK when it came to talking to your partner about sex? 🤔 Well, you’re not alone–Heather’s felt that way too! In this episode, she shares her own mishaps with sexual communication and how to make sure you look forward to discussing your sex life with your partner. Listen in if you want to be able to speak freely about your mental turn-ons, preferred techniques and sexual desires! 🎧💞

Here's a sneak peek of what you're about to learn:

- How to navigate the all-too-common scenario of a partner agreeing but not following through with sexual requests. 🔄

- Tips for bringing up sex without making your partner get defensive or avoidant.

- How to bring sex up when you haven’t had it in a long time and it’s become the elephant in the room.

- Unpacking the need for advanced communication skills in non-monogamous relationships.

- The importance of taking charge of your sexual needs and learning to articulate them clearly. 📣

Time Stamps (cause who doesn't love a good spoiler?):

- [00:00:52] Why communication is the hottest topic in town, according to your Instagram polls!

- [00:01:57] Heather's personal story of communication breakdown and lessons learned.

- [00:08:41] Creating space for your partner and the importance of emotional mastery in sexual communication.

- [00:15:29] The need for bravery in initiating the long-avoided sex convo.

- [00:21:49] Making a sex manual? Heather thinks it's a fabulous idea to explore and communicate your desires! 😏

- [00:28:08] Discussing fears and setting ground rules for sharing fantasies with your partner.

Ready to level up your bedroom banter? Hit play and let's go! 🎤🥰

WORK WITH HEATHER:

Request a free Intimacy Breakthrough Session with Heather- https://calendly.com/hshann1/discovery-call-1-clone?back=1&month=2023-07

LET’S CONNECT! FIND HEATHER HERE ⤵️:

Heather’s Website - https://HeatherShannon.co

Heather’s Instagram - https://instagram.com/AskASexTherapist

Heather’s YouTube - Check out the video version of this podcast & more! - https://www.youtube.com/@AskASexCoach

SIMILARLY AWESOME EPISODES:

Liked the episode? Here’s a few more episodes of Ask A Sex Therapist that you'll enjoy:

Ep. 2 The Real Reason You’re Not Talking About Sex https://pod.fo/e/15b8df

Ep. 3 The Emotions of Sex https://pod.fo/e/15c61a

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Get ready to unwrap the forbidden in this episode of 'Ask A Sex Therapist'! 🎁🚫 Join host Heather and the unapologetically candid guest Dustin Rybka as they tackle the titillating topic of censorship and its bedfellows: sex negativity and social media blocking. From algorithms policing pleasure to the clubbing stories, Dustin spills the tea (and maybe some other things) about the wild ride that's led him here. 😏 Tune in for tales that'll make you laugh, cringe, and maybe learn a thing or two about sex positivity in this must-listen episode.

In this episode, you'll unpack:

- The consequences of a culture where sex negativity reigns supreme.⚖️

- The escapades that come from life as a club promoter - all the uncensored details included! 🎉

- A glimpse into the journey from acting to advocacy, how Dustin uses drama in his sex-positive mission. 🎭

- The power and freedom found in podcasting that other platforms can't seem to match. ✊

- Dustin's rules of engagement, party management, and how happy he is in his current relationship. ❤️🎙️

Timestamps of interest:

[00:00:00] Introduction

[00:01:52] Introduction to Sex Party Podcast

[00:02:36] Dustin's Acting Ambitions

[00:03:48] Dustin's Transition to Hosting

[00:10:22] The Making of a Sex Podcaster

[00:15:04]Censorship and Podcasting Freedoms

[00:23:50] The Power of Hosting and Connecting

[00:29:34] Dustin's Nightlife Sagas

[00:36:12] Relationships, Rules, and Realizations

[00:50:49] Love, Relationships, and Podcasting

[00:53:00] Finding Love in the Podcast Era

[00:58:31] Wrap-Up and Where to Find Dustin

You won't want to miss this episode, so be sure to tune in, only on 'Ask A Sex Therapist'! And remember, while advice might be free, the experience is priceless! 🔥

EPISODE LINKS

WORK WITH HEATHER:

Request a free Intimacy Breakthrough Session with Heather- https://calendly.com/hshann1/discovery-call-1-clone?back=1&month=2023-07

LET’S CONNECT! FIND HEATHER HERE ⤵️:

Heather’s Website - https://HeatherShannon.co

Heather’s Instagram - https://instagram.com/AskASexTherapist

Heather’s YouTube - Check out the video version of this podcast & more! - https://www.youtube.com/@AskASexCoach

Dustin's Podcast

Dustin's YouTube Channel

Dustin's Instagram

SIMILARLY AWESOME EPISODES:

Liked the episode? Here’s a few more episodes of Ask A Sex Therapist that you'll enjoy:

Ep 56 with Susan Bratton

Ep 58 with Magda Kay

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Tune in to the latest episode of "Ask a Sex Therapist Podcast" where we're getting down and dirty with a fun and spicy topic—sexting! Host Heather brings the raw truth and tackles the underrated world of sexting, exploring its potential to spice up long-distance relationships, try out new fantasies, and even dip your toes into non-monogamous experiences. With the rise of apps like Pure, the possibilities of virtual exploration are endless, but what does it all mean for our sexual wellbeing? 📱💋

In this episode, you'll learn:

🌈 How sexting can be a gateway to exploring non-monogamy virtually

🎭Ways to use sexting to try out new fantasies and kinks without the physical commitment

💑 The potential benefits of sexting in maintaining long-distance relationships

🔒 Tips for keeping the sexting fun and spicy while setting clear boundaries

🤔 The value of exploring sexual expression in a safe, low-stakes environment

Tune in for a tantalizing conversation about the wild world of sexting with Heather on "Ask a Sex Therapist Podcast" and unlock the secrets of virtual sexual exploration! 🎧✨

- [00:04:21] Discovering the Pure app and how it has features similar to Grindr

- [00:06:47] Sexting can be a way to explore non-monogamy within a relationship

- [00:10:48] The importance of sexting in maintaining sexual connection in long-distance relationships.

- [00:13:58] Sexting can be a fun and relatively safe way to explore sexual fantasies with a partner before trying them in person.

- [00:15:49] Setting boundaries and reflecting on personal desires

- [00:21:38] Effective communication and practicing giving feedback during sexting to ensure a positive and consensual experience.

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🌟 Are the stars aligning in your bedroom? Get ready for an illuminating journey through astrology and healing on this episode of Ask A Sex Therapist. Join us as we sit down with Jackie Tempera, the wordsmith renowned for her celestial insights on sexual health and more, and uncover the cosmic connections to intimacy. But there's more beneath the constellations – Speaker A courageously shares their potent story of trauma and triumph. Together, they explore the raw and real impact of sexual assault and the transformative path to reclaiming pleasure and safety. 🌌

📌 What to expect:

- Jackie Tempera’s insights on how astrology can influence our sex lives, plus tools for checking out your own birth chart.

- Strategies for coping with trauma and finding solace after assault, including Speaker A's personal healing practices.

- The power of acknowledging and normalizing challenging sexual topics to foster recovery and connection.

- Understanding consent and its fundamental role in creating a safe and enjoyable sexual experience.

- A candid exploration of setting boundaries and communicating with partners for a mutually fulfilling sex life.

TIMESTAMPS:

[04:19] Sun sign is least interesting. Planetary placements matter.

[13:11] Exploring sex love lifestyle brought unexpected transformation.

[23:21] Full circle moment turns into painful realization.

[27:58] Group experience affirmed universality of rape trauma.

[32:52] Realizing and accepting past sexual assault experience.

[34:38] Unpleasant experience at police station, JFK talk.

[38:42] Understanding consent and past experiences with sex.

[40:57] Slowly building comfort with intimacy and triggers.

[43:22] Fear of losing faith in humanity's goodness.

[47:33] Understanding partner's needs and creating safe space.

Connect with Jackie Tempera :

Check out her Website - www.jackietempera.com

Follow her on Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/jackietemp/

X - https://twitter.com/jacktemp

Follow her on tiktok - https://www.tiktok.com/@jackietemp

Connect with her on LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/jacqueline-tempera-94895142/

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🎙️ Ready to find out how to spice things up in your love life? In this listener Q and A episode, Heather Shannon tackles a variety of intriguing questions from her audience. From exploring non-conventional sexual fantasies to navigating boundaries in relationships, Heather provides valuable insights and advice for enhancing intimacy and understanding your own desires. Discover how to protect yourself from STIs when you don't have a specific partner and gain confidence in approaching potential romantic interests. Join Heather as she offers candid, non-judgmental, and candid solutions to these real-life scenarios. 

In this episode, you’ll learn:

- How to navigate defining boundaries in a relationship and addressing uncomfortable situations.

- Understanding the complexity of intrusive sexual thoughts and strategies for managing them.

- Tips for opening up about sexual fantasies with your partner in a respectful and non-pressuring manner.

- Practical advice on protecting yourself from sexually transmitted infections when not in a specific partnership.

- Techniques for building confidence in approaching potential romantic interests in a respectful and mindful way.

Timestamps:

[04:29] Discuss agreements, boundaries, and flexibility in relationships.

[09:00] Complexity of human sexuality and self-acceptance.

[13:05] Let go of defining, expanding, observing thoughts.

[16:48] Share fantasy, express vulnerability, pick supportive partner.

[17:46] Expect kindness, not instant fulfillment of desires.

[23:36] Express more compliments, be respectful, no agenda.

[24:43] Approach dating with a broader, positive mindset.

WORK WITH HEATHER:

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Ready to light the spark in your intimate life? Listen to our special guest Magda Kay as she uncovers the mysteries of Tantra and tackles the hot topic of mismatched libidos in relationships. Feeling like your bedroom dynamics could use a tune-up? Whether you're solo or partnered up, this episode has a lot of insights on sexual energy flow and practical takeaways for keeping that fire alive. 🛏️💕 

In this episode, you'll gain insight into:

- The transformative power of Tantra and how it's more than just what happens in the bedroom.

- Strategies for couples navigating libido differences and the secrets to maintaining a sizzling connection.

- Actionable advice for parents and new couples facing the all-too-common shift from passion to roommates. 

- Understanding the fluidity of sexual roles and energies in both heterosexual and queer relationships. 

- Tips for effectively communicating desires and how to reintroduce romance and anticipation into your relationship. 

Timestamps:

00:00 Challenging gender stereotypes in sex, finding solutions.

05:18 Men learning to embrace emotions and sexuality.

08:04 Curiosity led to discovery of sexual healing.

13:47 Female-focused workshops offer a safer environment.

15:50 Helping men with confidence and intimacy issues.

18:08 Gender dynamics affecting romance and passion in relationships.

22:38 Prioritize important things, accept consequences, be adaptable.

26:06 Men struggle with emotions and societal expectations.

31:13 Show dynamic, respect, and attraction in interactions.

33:34 Addressing emotional barriers to improve sexual intimacy.

37:42 Planning sex is important, especially for parents.

39:28 Curious about energy and gender fluidity.

CONNECT WITH MAGDA KAY:

Website - magdakay.com

Instagram -  instagram.com/magdakayofficial

Facebook - facebook.com/MagdaKayOfficial

Book - magdakay.com/book

Speaking - magdakay.com/speaking

The School of Intimacy - magdakay.com/school

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🔥 Ready to unlock the hidden chambers of intimacy with your partner? Episode 057 of Ask A Sex Therapist turns up the heat as Heather spills the sultry secrets of dom/sub dynamics and how they can electrify your connection. Forget the taboo; it's time to talk about the tantalizing world of kink with clarity and confidence. Whether you're curious about cuffs or simply seeking to spice up your playtime, Heather serves up some steamy insights that'll help you and your partner step into new realms of pleasure - safely and consensually. 🌶️

Tune in as we untangle the ropes of bondage basics and unravel the mysteries of kink. Here’s a sneak peek of what you'll uncover:

- The art of being a responsible dom, prioritizing your sub's desires.

- How kink can heighten mental engagement and address common sexual challenges.

- The significance of aftercare and why it's a non-negotiable in kink exploration.

- Defining kink: A spectrum of activities beyond the vanilla, and how "normal" is being redefined.

- Tips for dipping your toes into the world of BDSM and why education is your sexiest tool.

So, are you ready to explore a new dimension of your sex life? 🎧 Listen to this episode and let Heather guide you through it with expertise and enthusiasm!

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043: Exploring Findom Kinks with Dr Kate Balestrieri - https://pod.fo/e/1ecfaa

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🔥 Get ready to turn up the heat with an exclusive chat with intimacy expert, Susan Bratton! Susan spills the beans, sharing everything from her personal pleasure routines to the revolutionary techniques that could shift the landscape of your love life. 🌶️ Tune in to discover how to take your pleasure potential to infinity and beyond. 

What you'll learn:

- The link between health issues like inflammation and libido problems—and how to tackle them.

- Techniques for natural enlargement and addressing sensation loss due to aging.

- New-age pleasure protocols and the growing trends in sexual enhancement, including the use of certain light therapies and vibrations.

- A candid discussion on the landscape of sexual media and the move toward more educational and liberation-focused platforms.

- How prioritizing intimacy can bring a total renaissance to your relationship and sex life, plus why slowing down can turbocharge your intimate experiences.

CONNECT WITH SUSAN BRATTON:

Check out her Website - https://susanbratton.com/

Follow her on Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/trustedhotsexadvisortomillions/

X - https://twitter.com/susanbratton

Check her Better Lover Video here - https://betterlover.com

Connect with her on LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/susanbratton/

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Ready to handle rejection, disappointment, and "no"s like a pro? In this week's episode, join Heather as she shares her personal experience with rejection and how she's using it to empower herself and others. From navigating romantic encounters to dealing with boundaries, she reveals practical tips to transform emotional setbacks into opportunities for growth and self-mastery.

In this episode, you'll learn:

- How to identify and befriend triggered emotions when facing rejection or disappointment

- Practical steps to access self-energy for resilience and healing

- Understanding the power of boundaries and taking nothing personally in relationships

- Techniques to handle rejection in romantic and sexual scenarios with emotional maturity

- The importance of incorporating emotional mastery for excellent communication skills and self-care in relationships

TIMESTAMPS:

05:08 Coping with insecurity and self-validation techniques.

07:19 Encouraging imagination and self-awareness through metaphor.

12:31 Value authentic relationships, set appropriate boundaries, self-care.

15:04 Reframing tough conversations and building emotional resilience.

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Ever wondered what it's like to flip the switch and explore your deepest desires? 💋 In Episode of "Ask A Sex Therapist", we get up close and personal with Layla London, the woman behind the curiousgirldiaries.com. After years of putting her sexuality on the backburner to focus on other areas of life, Layla decided to fan the flames of her sexual sparks and embark on a sensual exploration. And boy, what a ride it's been! 🎢 From trying out a sex bucket list to uncovering the true meaning of connection, she shares it all. 

In this episode, you'll learn:

- The importance of reflecting on the roles of masculinity and femininity in relationships 💑 

- The truth about dominance - it's not all about the money, honey! 💰🚫

- The beauty of exploring your sexual bucket list to uncover unexpected desires 📝💖

- The necessity of boundaries, consent, and open communication in any romantic relationship 🗨️👂

- Layla's take on why focusing on your partner's happiness doesn't equate to being submissive or subservient 🥰

Ready for an honesty-packed episode to shake up your views on intimacy, power, and personal growth? Get cozy and hit that play button. You're in for a treat! 🎧🌟

Time Stamps:

06:25 Not prioritizing and neglecting important aspect of life leads to lack of results. Need to put time and effort into it like other areas of life.

11:05 Maintaining authenticity, honesty, and anonymity in explicit storytelling.

14:20 Feeling disconnected, unsure why, afraid of making others miserable.

21:51 Feminist issues can be exhausting, making enough decisions in the day is tiring.

27:48 Layla reflects on hrt experiences with various men and gains a new appreciation for them.

30:21 Many good guys want to find good women, but communication has become impersonal and confusing. Men adapt well though.

36:15 A roadmap helps steer the ship and stay focused, leading to unexpected discoveries.

CONNECT WITH LAYLA LANDON:

Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/TheCuriousGirlLayla 

Follow her on X - https://x.com/@thecurious_girl

Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/the_curiousgirldiaries/ 

Watch on her YT Channel - https://www.youtube.com/@thecuriousgirldiaries

Listen to her podcast - https://thecuriousgirldiaries.mykajabi.com/podcasts/the-curious-girl-diaries 

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Hello everyone! In today's episode, we're diving into some brave and thought-provoking listener questions on sex and relationships.

• Can ADHD impact my once passionate sex life?
• Why won't my wife sleep naked next to me?
• My wife avoids a part of BDSM I'm interested in exploring. How can I compassionately talk to her about it?
• How can I assert my boundaries while sexting as a young person?

Links, Contact Information & Resources:

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Finding Your Fire Course with $10 off automatically applied:

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In this episode, Heather Shannon tackles a variety of questions submitted by listeners. From ways to bring back sensation post-menopause to navigating guilt and shame in a relationship, Heather offers her expert advice and insights. Plus, find out the difference between kinks and fetishes and why feet have become a popular topic of interest!

In this episode, you'll learn:

🔹 Tips for increasing sensation and blood flow in the clitoral region

❤️ How to navigate a partner's fantasies and maintain intimacy

🌡️ The effects of guilt on a healthy sex life

💋 Understanding the difference between kinks and fetishes, with a spotlight on foot fetishes.

🌟 The importance of open communication and negotiation in relationships.

Listen now to discover expert insights, advice, and a whole lot of fun on the Ask A Sex Therapist podcast! 🎧💖

Time Stamps:

[02:07] Ways to stay sexually vibrant as you age include red light therapy.

[04:33] Importance of sexual activity for blood flow to the genital region

[09:08] Husband's Fantasies and Lack of Interest in Sex

[12:46] Questioning safety and commitment in relationships, especially marriage.

[15:59] How do cultural norms and societal attitudes shape our perceptions of different body parts, such as feet? Are certain parts of the body more taboo or fetishized than others?

[18:37] Do you think the concept of "taboo" in sexuality is evolving over time? What impact does mainstream acceptance of certain acts or preferences have on kinks and fetishes?

WORK WITH HEATHER:

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Heather’s YouTube - Check out the video version of this podcast & more! - https://www.youtube.com/@AskASexCoach

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Ever wondered how setting up boundaries can enrich your relationships and add an extra layer of trust? 💭 This week on Ask a Sex Therapist, we chat to Nookie, a boundary pioneer who is adding fun and lightness to this heavy topic 💫. She's got an infectious way of making the complicated approachable.

Here are some highlights you can expect:

- The six types of boundaries identified and provide examples of each.

- Importance of setting boundaries early on in relationships.

- How healthy boundaries surprisingly create more freedom in relationships 

- How to avoid manipulation and gaslighting in your relationships so you can feel close and independent at the same time

Time Stamps:

[10:49] Work boundaries, intellectual limits, personal space violated.

[17:12] Setting boundaries: assertiveness, defining what you want.

[20:56] Dealing with manipulation and boundary setting challenges.

[23:10] Honesty in friendships is essential for trust.

[26:38] Compassion, boundaries, ethics, and self-reflection in relationships.

[30:50] Change yourself, accept change, or be annoyed.

[37:57] Choose words wisely, impact can be powerful.

[39:49] Establish boundaries early in dating relationships.

WORK WITH HEATHER:

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Heather’s YouTube - Check out the video version of this podcast & more! - https://www.youtube.com/@AskASexCoach

CONNECT WITH HEATHER “NOOKIE” CLAUS:

Visit her website: https://my.curiouser.life/ 

Order the Take No Sh*t! Book on Amazon - https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0CGSZ78NL 

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Ready to spice up your sex life? In this episode, we've got the secrets to seriously expanding your pleasure! Join our guests, Amy Baldwin and April Lampert, co-hosts of the Shameless Sex podcast, as we discuss spicing things up, which toys to use and how to “choose your own adventure” with their new Shamelss Sex book! Don't miss out—press play now!

Here are some highlights you can expect:

• Shameless Sex: Shame-free intimacy with a playful twist sharing real life experiences of Amy and April
• Age and attraction in relationships
• Communication, exploration, and self-pleasure
• How can self-exploration and self-pleasure help you in understand your own desires and improving your sexual experiences.
• How to keep the “flame” in the relationship. Exploring new sexual techniques, learning and experimenting, taking it easy on oneself and enjoying the journey.

Time Stamps:

[00:05:47] Avaluable resource for relationships and understanding oneself, including sex toys and other tools.

[00:08:04] Expanding the definition of sex and exploring desires.

[00:12:44] Amy's s*x positive shop, and why is it different from what you can encounter at truck stops.

[00:17:38] S*x toy designer emphasizes body-specific designs.

[00:23:40] Trying new things, learning, and embracing playfulness.

[00:29:13] A timeless and invaluable guide for relationships.

[00:33:26] Awkward mom episode reveals surprising conversation about sex.

[00:36:47] Younger lady loves dating older men: 75-year-old might be the best choice.

[00:40:40] Embrace newness, stay curious, be creative for an exciting relationship.

EPISODE LINKS

​​Shameless Sex: Choose Your Own Pleasure Path to Unlock the Sex Life You've Been Waiting For https://amzn.to/3QJ48oL

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Heather’s YouTube - Check out the video version of this podcast & more! - https://www.youtube.com/@AskASexCoach

CONNECT WITH AMY BALDWIN AND APRIL LAMPERT:

Visit their website: https://www.shamelesssex.com/ 

Listen to Shameless Sex Podcast: https://podfollow.com/1242394336

Follow them on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/amyshamelesssex

https://www.instagram.com/aprillampert 

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On this episode of Ask a Sex Therapist, we dive into the topic of orgasms. Join us as we explore the benefits of orgasms and debunk some common myths surrounding them. We'll discuss how to overcome struggles with orgasm and offer practical tips for trying without putting pressure on yourself. Plus, we'll challenge traditional views of when sex is "supposed" to end and encourage open communication in all types of relationships. Stay tuned to discover the amazing benefits of orgasming and how it can enhance your overall well-being. This is a episode you don't want to miss!

IN THIS EPISODE, YOU'LL LEARN:

🌟 Orgasms, pleasure, and being present in sex.

💬 Sexual satisfaction: communication, not societal norms, determine when it's over.

💕 Benefits of oxytocin boost for estrogen dominance.

😣 Long time down there, frustrations from medications.

🧠 Embrace your wandering mind with a friendly nod, release the pressure, and shift your focus to the joy of playfulness.

🏋️‍♀️ Prepare mentally and physically for a sexy time.

LET’S CONNECT! FIND HEATHER HERE ⤵️:

Heather’s Dirty Talk Guide - https://HeatherShannon.co/Freebies 

Heather’s Instagram - https://instagram.com/AskASexTherapist 

Heather’s YouTube - Check out the video version of this podcast & more! - https://www.youtube.com/@AskASexCoach 

SIMILAR EPISODES:

045: Adventures In Sex with Dr. Heidi Sauder - https://pod.fo/e/1f1bd1

048: The Magic of Masturbation: More Presence, More Pleasure - https://pod.fo/e/1f8591

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Coming up on this episode, we dive into the complex world of addiction and compulsive behaviors. Our guest, JK Emezi shares his personal journey with addiction and explores the challenges of traditional recovery methods. From the impact of childhood experiences to the role of neurochemicals, we uncover the underlying factors that contribute to addictive behaviors. Join us as we delve into the nuances of addiction and discuss strategies for finding freedom, authenticity, and healing.

IN THIS EPISODE, YOU'LL LEARN:

• Porn addiction recovery expert helps control behavior.
• City living limits choices; adulthood requires stability.
• Differentiating between libido and compulsive behavior.
• Hiding true self leads to shame, insecurities, and poor self image.
• New masculinity: embracing diverse expressions of manhood.
• Our bodies produce opiates, so anyone can be addicted to anything. People are addicted to various things.
• Withdrawal from pornography causes strong cravings and imbalances in neurochemicals it can be a learning experience, pleasant.

CONNECT WITH JK EMEZI HERE ⤵️:

Website - https://elevatedrecovery.org/ 

Claim your FREE Course - https://pornreboot.com/ 

LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/j-k-emezi-736457127/ 

Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/jkemezi1

Youtube - https://www.youtube.com/@ElevatedRecovery 

The Porn Reboot Podcast - https://apple.co/3Q9mRIs 

LET’S CONNECT! FIND HEATHER HERE ⤵️:

Heather’s Dirty Talk Guide - https://HeatherShannon.co/Freebies 

Heather’s Instagram - https://instagram.com/AskASexTherapist 

Heather’s YouTube - Check out the video version of this podcast & more! - https://www.youtube.com/@AskASexCoach 

SIMILAR EPISODES:

044: Healing Sexual Trauma Together - https://pod.fo/e/1ef5d3 

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Today we're diving into a topic that may have some blushing, but is oh-so-important to discuss: masturbation. We will uncover the hidden benefits of solo sex and debunk the shame and stigma that often surrounds it. Also we will explore the messages we receive about self touch, the impact of societal and religious views, and the role of masturbation in enhancing both individual and partnered pleasure. But beware, we'll also look into the dangers of overindulgence and the delicate balance between self-care and hustle culture.

IN THIS EPISODE, YOU'LL LEARN:

- Shame and stigma around sex tackled.

- Body pleasure and gender norms contradiction.

- "Finding pleasure in life, its ripple effect."

- Experimenting with sex can be interesting.

- Sexuality and creativity are intertwined, with self-care through masturbation being one way to boost sexual energy and connect with a supportive partner for various reasons.

LET’S CONNECT! FIND HEATHER HERE ⤵️:

Heather’s Dirty Talk Guide - https://HeatherShannon.co/Freebies 

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Heather’s YouTube - Check out the video version of this podcast & more! - https://www.youtube.com/@AskASexCoach 

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In this episode of "Ask A Sex Therapist," our guest, Dr. Joe Kort, shares his expertise and personal experiences on various topics. From childhood attraction to societal pressures, Dr. Kort challenges norms and promotes acceptance and understanding. We explore the concepts of mixed orientation relationships, bottom shaming in gay sex, and misconceptions around straight men engaging in anal play. Join us as we challenge societal expectations!

IN THIS EPISODE, YOU'LL LEARN:

🍑 Bottom shaming and the concept of being a side

🍆 Why sex isn’t just penetration or intercourse

👨‍❤️‍👨 Straight man claim you can sleep with men and remain straight

📋 Reasons people have sex aside from sexual attraction

LET’S CONNECT! FIND HEATHER HERE ⤵️:

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Heather’s Instagram - https://instagram.com/AskASexTherapist

Heather’s YouTube - Check out the video version of this podcast & more! - https://www.youtube.com/@AskASexCoach

CONNECT WITH OUR GUEST:

Website - https://joekort.com/ and http://www.crsh.com/ 

TikTok - https://www.tiktok.com/@drjoekort 

Instagram - https://instagram.com/drjoekort

SIMILAR EPISODES:

004 - Are You Attracted Anymore? - https://pod.fo/e/15ca7e

039 - Male Bisexuality and Being a Boyslut with Zachary Zane https://pod.fo/e/1e36be

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In this episode of Ask A Sex Therapist, host Heather Shannon explores the topics of body count, slut shaming, and good girl syndrome. Join Heather as she delves into the societal implications of the number of sexual partners, the judgments and stereotypes surrounding women's sexual activity, and the importance of being present in your current partnership. Get ready to challenge the norms and embrace a healthier view of sex on this enlightening episode of Ask A Sex Therapist.

IN THIS EPISODE, YOU'LL LEARN:

- The fixation on the number of sexual partners and its meaning

- The importance of being present with the current partner and creating meaning in the relationship

- The significance of virginity and assumptions surrounding being someone's first

- The meaning of past partners and the importance of realizing it does not define the current relationship

- The societal practice of slut shaming and its unfairness

- Challenging societal views of sex and relationships

- The importance of being aware of one's own beliefs and not projecting them onto others

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Heather’s Website & Free Gifts - https://HeatherShannon.co/Freebies  

Heather’s Instagram - https://instagram.com/AskASexTherapist 

Heather’s YouTube - Check out the video version of this podcast & more! - https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCHeUNWJIkOPSK6-Bwvf0EOw 

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In this episode, join Certified Sex Therapist and Certified Gottman Therapist, Dr. Heidi A. Sauder, and I for a fun primer on incorporating more adventure into your sex life . . . and even on talking to your kids about sex!

Heidi has written a practical and fun workbook called Adventures In Sex (endorsed by Dr John Gottman from the Gottman Institute) that will help you become your own sexpert. We'll discuss the importance of open conversations about sex, the impact of communication and education on relationships, and the various transitions that occur in our sex lives.

IN THIS EPISODE, YOU'LL LEARN:

- How to start conversations around sex and sexuality

- The importance of incorporating novelty in your sex life, especially in a long-term relationship

- How to explore new ways to enhance self-pleasure.

- Using this workbook to educate your teens about sexuality and their bodies.

LET’S CONNECT! FIND HEATHER HERE ⤵️:

Heather’s Website & Free Gifts - https://HeatherShannon.co/Freebies

Heather’s Instagram - https://instagram.com/AskASexTherapist

Heather’s YouTube - Check out the video version of this podcast & more! - https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCHeUNWJIkOPSK6-Bwvf0EOw

CONNECT WITH OUR GUEST:

Learn more about Dr. Heidi Sauder's group practice - https://enrichcenter.org/staff/heidi-a-sauder-ph-d

Grab your copy of Adventures in Sex: Journaling to Create Desire, Passion, Romance...and a Fun Sex Life - https://amzn.to/3Rye1q0

SIMILAR EPISODES:

039 - Male Bisexuality and Being a Boyslut with Zachary Zane https://pod.fo/e/1e36be

043 Exploring Findom Kinks with Dr Kate Balestrieri - https://pod.fo/e/1ecfaa

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Welcome to the Ask a Sex Therapist podcast, where we delve into the raw truth about pleasure, intimacy, and relationships, helping you change the way you look at sex. In this episode, titled "Healing Sexual Trauma Together," we address a tough topic: sexual trauma. Our host discusses the spectrum of sexual trauma, from assault to more extreme cases, and emphasizes that trauma can affect anyone, regardless of gender. She explores how trauma is stored in the body and the impact it can have on one's present life.

But this episode isn't only for those who have experienced sexual trauma. Our host also brings attention to the role of partners and bystanders in creating a safe and respectful environment. She sheds light on signs to look out for, such as recoiling from touch or shutting down, while reminding listeners not to make assumptions. The goal is to foster a society where individuals can comfortably express their sexuality, have open conversations about consent, and appreciate each other's beauty without objectification.

Join us as we navigate the journey of healing sexual trauma together and strive towards a future where pleasure, intimacy, and connection are experienced in a respectful and empowering way.

In This Episode, You’ll Learn:

Primary Topic: Sexual Trauma and Healing

- Definition and spectrum of sexual trauma

- Differentiating between big T trauma and little T trauma

- Understanding that trauma is stored in the body and can still impact the present

- Signs of sexual trauma in oneself or a partner

- Importance of not assuming someone's experiences

- Creating a safe space for touch and intimacy

- The role of consent in healthy sexual experiences

- Appreciating someone's sexuality without objectifying them

- Seeing individuals as whole people with their own unique identities outside of their sexuality

Primary Topic: Impact on Relationships and Society

- How sexual trauma can impact one's sex life and relationships

- The need for everyone to be aware of the effects of sexual trauma

- The role of partners in supporting survivors

- Addressing inappropriate comments or actions in society

- Recognizing that some individuals may act out due to their own unresolved trauma

Primary Topic: Working Towards Change

- Creating a society where individuals can comfortably express their sexuality

- Building confidence in discussing consent and boundaries

- Appreciating beauty and attractiveness without objectification

- Understanding that sexuality is just one aspect of a person's identity

- Promoting a holistic view of individuals and their diverse interests and values

Primary Topic: Practical Healing Strategies

- Recognizing signs of feeling unsafe or triggered

- Understanding different responses to trauma (fight, flight, freeze, fawn)

- Empowering survivors to reclaim their agency and sense of safety

- Cultivating a supportive community for healing sexual trauma

- Seeking professional help and resources for healing and recovery

Primary Topic: Encouraging Growth and Unity

- Expressing the belief in humanity's capacity for growth and positive change

- Facilitating open conversations about sexuality and trauma

- Encouraging individual growth and personal development

- Fostering empathy and understanding in society

- Promoting a culture of consent and respect for boundaries

EPISODE LINKS

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Episode 03 - The Emotions Of Sex - https://pod.fo/e/15c61a

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Episode Summary

I recently attended a film festival in St Petersburg, FL and saw the film Every Seven by married couple Caitlin Morris and Alex Hanno. The film questions the way marriage is structured and considers an interesting alternative.

After the showing, I invited them to be on the podcast and they said yes! Join us for a thought-provoking conversation about what marriage is, what it isn't and what it could be!

Connect with Alex and Caitlin

Watch Every Seven - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9uDaL78JXbo&t=92s

Caitlin's IG - https://www.instagram.com/sirromcc/

Alex's IG - https://www.instagram.com/alexanderhanno/

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Are you a woman or enby in an ethically non-monogamous relationship and feel like your partner is gung-ho about it and you're struggling? Maybe you're feeling anxious and insecure or your nervous system has gotten hijacked entirely by this new relationship structure. Maybe part of you is curious and wonders what could be in it for you, but you need an emotional connection before you become interested in anyone else. And maybe you're neurodivergent and experience "rejection sensitive dysphoria" where you easily feel like you're not enough. If any of this resonates--reach out about my new "Secure Connections" group program. Shoot me an email at Hello@HeatherShannon.co. Can't wait to talk!

Welcome back to another episode of "Ask A Sex Therapist"! In today's episode, we have the incredible Dr. Kate joining us as our expert guest. Get ready to dive into the fascinating world of kink, gender exploration, and financial domination.

Dr. Kate delves into the importance of challenging traditional gender roles and scripts, celebrating those who engage in consensual kink, and exploring the power dynamics of financial domination.

We'll learn about the complexities of findom, how to distinguish genuine fin doms from those who are not, and the potential impact on relationships and personal finances. Dr. Kate provides invaluable advice on setting boundaries, communication, and prioritizing personal financial responsibility.

Get ready for a thought-provoking and enlightening discussion on kink, power, and the exploration of sexuality. So stay tuned, because you won't want to miss this episode of "Ask A Sex Therapist" with the amazing Dr. Kate!

TIME STAMPS

00:05:56 Financial domination is often debated as unethical, but as long as it is consensual and within agreed parameters, it is not.

00:07:49 Know your limits and discuss financial impact.

00:12:51 Women engage in findom for money, power.

00:15:23 Kink is diverse with blurred lines.

00:19:51 Flipping gender scripts, subversive exploration in kink.

00:22:13 Financial domination in relationships requires clear communication.

00:26:28 Online relationships vary; depends on individual preferences.

00:29:28 Mentorship important for safe financial domination.

00:32:19 Vetting fandoms, seeking testimonials, ensuring safety.

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Welcome back to the Ask a Sex Therapist podcast, where we dive into the taboo topics and provide you with the raw truth about pleasure and intimacy. I'm your host, Heather Shannon, and today we have a captivating and enlightening episode lined up for you. Get ready, because today we're talking about anal sex.

In this episode, we'll address common misconceptions and fears surrounding anal play, as well as how to ease into it if you're feeling a bit apprehensive. We'll explore ways to make anal sex not only enjoyable for you, but also for your partner. And let's not forget about the emotional side of this experience, especially the concerns that might arise for women, though this discussion is not limited to any particular gender.

One of the main fears that people often have is the concern that anal sex will be painful. We'll address this fear head-on and provide practical advice on how to make it as comfortable as possible. We'll also touch on the societal stigma surrounding anal sex and remind you that your sexual preferences do not define your morality.

Additionally, we'll address the issue of differing desires within a relationship. What happens when one partner wants to explore anal sex while the other is hesitant? We'll offer guidance on navigating these conversations and finding a balance that works for both parties.

But where do you start if you've never tried anal play before? We'll guide you through a step-by-step process, starting with relaxation techniques and the importance of being physically and mentally turned on. We'll emphasize the vital role of lubrication - remember, it's lube, lube, and more lube! And for those interested in incorporating toys into their exploration, we'll explore different options and discuss the importance of selecting body-safe materials.

Lastly, we'll delve into the topic of hygiene and provide practical tips on maintaining cleanliness during anal play.

So, grab a cup of tea or your favorite beverage, sit back, and get ready to delve into the world of anal sex. This episode is jam-packed with expert advice, personal anecdotes, and valuable tips that will change the way you view and approach this intimate act.

TIME STAMPS

00:00:37 Anal sex fears: pain, discomfort, fear of liking it.

00:06:24 Options for toys: butt plugs, sizes, Enjoy brand stainless steel, weight, metal ball, movement, size, vibration. Consult toy store employees for advice.

00:08:05 Excrement on fingers can cause contamination during sex.

00:12:28 Communication and practice can enhance sexual experiences.

00:16:01 Embrace pleasure, communicate desires, find sweet spot.

EPISODE LINKS

NJoy products - njoy – Deluxe stainless steel instruments of pleasure.

The Pleasure Chest - Adult Sex Toys Store | The Pleasure Chest

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IN THIS EPISODE OF ASK A SEX THERAPIST . . .

We dive into the fascinating intersection of AI, the metaverse, and the future of sex tech. Heather shares her intrigue with artificial intelligence and how it has the potential to distort our perception of self and reality.

Joel Comm joins Heather to add a futurist and technology perspective to what relationships and sex may look like in the upcoming years. Joel is a New York Times best-selling author with 14 multiple books under his belt. He is also the host of three podcasts, including The Bad AI Show, The Bad Crypto Podcast and The Nifty Show. He is an expert on cryptocurrency and the metaverse.

In this episode, Heather and Joel discuss the growing concern of voice manipulation and the potential risks it poses. They highlight how scammers can use AI technology to deceive individuals, by faking voices to mimic loved ones and what you can do to make sure you don’t get fooled by deep fake technology.

But it's not all doom and gloom. Heather and Joel also explore the exciting possibilities that AI brings to the realm of sex tech. They delve into OpenAI's groundbreaking model, Chat GPT and discuss how AI technology can be harnessed by sex tech companies like Replika, to simulate human intimacy and intimate experiences. They touch on the advancement of sex robots and the potential for wearable technology that can provide pleasurable sensations.

Additionally, Heather and Joel explore the role of virtual reality (VR) in connecting with others. They highlight how VR allows for immersive experiences and real-time interactions through apps like Alt Space and VR chat. Though it may not replicate physical presence entirely, VR provides a new and improved way to connect in a long-distance relationship.

Join us on this thought-provoking episode as Heather and Joel explore the potential and implications of AI, the metaverse, and the future of sex tech.

TIME STAMPS

[00:00:02] AI and technology's impact on relationships.

[00:07:49] Proton mail offers secure suite of tools. Brave browser for privacy.

[00:10:33] AI model scours internet, creates understanding.

[00:16:32] Impressive image generatora like Midjourney can mimic any style.

[00:18:46] Finding the clitoris: A Dr. Seuss-style poem.

[00:21:13] AI replicating voices raises ethical concerns.

[00:34:37] Advancing technology brings lighter, non-VR headsets.

[00:39:02] VR allows for virtual connection and interaction.

[00:41:50] Advancements in sex toy technology and intimacy.

[00:44:06] Degrees of intimacy with oneself vary.

[00:46:46] Experienced online business veteran available for contact.

EPISODE LINKS

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FIND JOEL COMM HERE:

Joel’s Website - https://joelcomm.com/

The Bad Crypto Podcast - https://badcryptopodcast.com/

The Nifty Show - https://theniftyshow.com/

The Bad AI Show - https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-bad-ai-show/id1675724921

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Welcome to another exciting episode of Ask a Sex Therapist, the podcast that's here to change the way you look at sex. I'm your host, Heather Shannon, and I am thrilled to dive into another Q&A session with all of you amazing listeners. Today, we have some intriguing questions to explore, covering topics like fetishes, self-discovery, and embracing our desires. But before we get started, I want to take a moment to express my gratitude for the wonderful reviews and support we've been receiving. Your kind words and feedback mean the world to me. In fact, I'll be reading out a review later in this episode that truly touched me. Plus, we're only a few ratings away from hitting 100 on Apple Podcasts, so don't forget to show your love by giving us a five-star rating. Now, let's jump into these thought-provoking questions and discover the empowering insights they hold. Stay tuned!

Here are some highlights you can expect:

- Discussion of the importance of open conversations about sex and body exploration

- Acknowledgment of the role of the podcast in promoting self-care and spirituality

- Gratitude for listener reviews and a request for more ratings

- Introduction to the listener Q&A segment

- Addressing a question about a panty fetish in a male listener

- Encouragement to explore and understand personal thoughts and feelings about the fetish

- Suggesting positive and self-empowering interpretations and perspectives

- Discussing the potential reasons behind the fetish and its connection to attraction and exploration of femininity

- Highlighting the importance of being comfortable with oneself and being able to share the fetish with a partner in the future

- Emphasizing that there is nothing wrong or abnormal about having a fetish

- Recommendation of a book, "The Erotic Mind" by Jack Morin, for further exploration of eroticism and sexual desires

Timestamps:

[00:00:02] Get comfortable with yourself to improve relationships.

[00:03:04] Is it okay to be this way?

[00:08:12] Explore fetishes, communicate desires with partner.

[00:12:11] Explain sex's importance, discover compatibility, improve relationship.

[00:14:43] Querying sexual orientation, society's influence, and attraction.

[00:19:45] Focus on partner, be curious, show care.

[00:20:49] Sexual options are plentiful; you are more.

EPISODE LINKS

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Join Heather’s free “Ask A Sex Therapist” Facebook Group - https://www.facebook.com/groups/1552153898553717 

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Episode 19 - Listener Q & A - https://pod.fo/e/171671

Episode 29 - Am I Queer? Are You Queer? - https://pod.fo/e/18369b 

Episode 39 - Male Bisexuality and Being a Boyslut with Zachary Zane - https://podfollow.com/askasextherapist

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