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This week on s0 wet s0 dry, Fiji and Autumn deep dive the political and dating gender wars with part 3 of this 3-part series.

Should we really blame algorithms for the gender wars? How does self-improvement content effect the gender wars? Do we need more censorship? Are the gender wars all the manosphere’s fault? Can feminism get toxic? What does bell hooks have to say about all of this? How does loneliness and heartbreak play a role in the gender wars?

Part 1: https://youtu.be/2XOze-LgmY0?si=ExT1SQn3VAGKSO2n 

Part 2: https://youtu.be/O3zyci01cN0?si=8_m5kQ3LufuJxdHE 

Suggested episodes: 

Sprinkle Sprinkle: https://youtu.be/iAP_TAUd4ME?si=2Srcz6r9bONz8bEE 

Dating paranoia content: https://youtu.be/6fHrPNyd0jw?si=5JemidZEqPI6lhbu 

The male loneliness epidemic: https://youtu.be/bWGww4hdgp4?si=IlI8ZIWANiCQZYk3 

Men and vulnerability: https://youtu.be/VxltakZaKG0?si=Ga5f6mI8Qp9Vu8N3 

We highly recommend @FD for more on the gender wars.

Sources: https://docs.google.com/document/d/1Db4QdlREDNdJ-BUKrfL8XwZirnnZPOCEW_q1jFogKQc/edit?tab=t.0 

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the s0 wet s0 dry team: 

Autumn (host, editor) 

instagram: @autumnkaira 

twitter: @autumnkaira 

tiktok: @autumnkaira 

Fiji (host, editor) 

instagram: @s0wet 

twitter: @s0wet 

tiktok: @fijithesiren 

youtube: @s0wet 

Mylao (Graphic Designer, and Artist)

instagram: @xlaomedia 

email: xlaomedi4@gmail.com 

A.I.R. (Music Producer) 

instagram: @airgoincrazy

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This week on s0 wet s0 dry, Fiji and Autumn deep dive the political and dating gender wars with part 2 of this 3-part series.

From the me too movement and rise of Andrew Tate to the popularity of The Wizard Liz and SheraSeven, we’re running through an intersectional timeline of the gender wars to see how tf we got here.

Part 1: https://youtu.be/2XOze-LgmY0?si=ExT1SQn3VAGKSO2n 

Part 3 will be out next week for a full analysis of the political and dating gender wars.

We WILL leave things out because we couldn’t possibly fit everything into one episode, but if there is a pivotal moment that you think we left out please please comment below and share. Our goal is to start a conversation and share insights🫶🏻

Suggested episodes: 

Gender Wars: https://youtu.be/ZYv4Zs03Ysg?si=KDAfH4PZvo8wtujg 

Sprinkle Sprinkle: https://youtu.be/iAP_TAUd4ME?si=2Srcz6r9bONz8bEE 

Humiliation content and onlyfans: https://youtu.be/j3GlbzodE0k?si=1qxBpIM1K_WgGXta 

Sex positive feminism: https://youtu.be/Y1kRMxoO6Uc?si=AieSdtvbCuq2Us9P  

We highly recommend @FD for more on the gender wars.

Sources: 

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the s0 wet s0 dry team: 

Autumn (host, editor) 

instagram: @autumnkaira 

twitter: @autumnkaira 

tiktok: @autumnkaira 

Fiji (host, editor) 

instagram: @s0wet 

twitter: @s0wet 

tiktok: @fijithesiren 

youtube: @s0wet 

Mylao (Graphic Designer, and Artist)

instagram: @xlaomedia 

email: xlaomedi4@gmail.com 

A.I.R. (Music Producer) 

instagram: @airgoincrazy

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Fiji and Autumn check in this week with new Netflix shows Te Perfect Couple and Average Joe, Eat Predators controversy, and my dog’s adoption day.

Next, we dive into this week’s podcast/ video essay topic: the depth of female friendship and friendship breakups. Why are we all competing and when can we just work it out on the remix?

We’re talking: Early female friendships, romanticizing girlhood, the differences between male and female friendships, how female friendships are similar to romantic relationships, the depth of female friendships, painful friendship breakups, female rivalry, competition between women, mean girls, performative friendships/ friendships for PR, Kim Kardashian and Paris Hilton, Charlie XCX and Lorde, Brat’s focus on female dynamics, how the media pits women against each other, comparing yourself to other women, Ice Spice and Cleotrapa, colorism, business relationships with other women, JT and Yung Miami, listener stories, and more!👀

Suggested episodes: 

https://youtu.be/Y1kRMxoO6Uc?si=cRBG4-T_vvLHyASy 

https://youtu.be/1dyg8lI9k3k?si=sg6FvJ_iaq_kjFIm 

https://youtu.be/Rclk6K9alZU?si=jxcAxkp4UxR5Mpnq 

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Sources: 

https://docs.google.com/document/d/1DNhXXR4bL3A-bzp3bwIoNDyTv2_XCVFm_Xv-McVy3Zo/edit?tab=t.0 

follow us on instagram, twitter, youtube, and tiktok @s0wets0dry

the s0 wet s0 dry team: 

Autumn (host, editor) 

instagram: @autumnkaira 

twitter: @autumnkaira 

tiktok: @autumnkaira 

Fiji (host, editor) 

instagram: @s0wet 

twitter: @s0wet 

tiktok: @fijithesiren 

youtube: @s0wet 

Mylao (Graphic Designer, and Artist)

instagram: @xlaomedia 

email: xlaomedi4@gmail.com 

A.I.R. (Music Producer) 

instagram: @airgoincrazy

*This content is for entertainment, journalistic, and educational purposes. We do not own the rights to the content from other creators in this episode.*

Fiji and Autumn sat down to get real about what we've learned in the past year and a half as small podcast and youtube video essay creators. We share insights into our creator journey, the tools and equipment we use, advice for creators that are just getting started, and what to expect in terms of growth, money, and brand deals.

If you guys are new here, welcome! We drop weekly episodes on Thursdays where we explore duality through deep diving topics about sex, relationships, and personal identity where internet trends and reality collide. From the online gender wars to misunderstood kinks to relearning how to date, we’re somewhere between wet, dry, and fxcking confused. Listen in on our FaceTime calls for the nuanced reality check that only a best friend (and some research) can provide.

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the s0 wet s0 dry team:

Autumn (host, editor)

instagram: @autumnkaira

twitter: @autumnkaira

tiktok: @autumnkaira

Fiji (host, editor)

instagram: @s0wet

twitter: @s0wet

tiktok: @fijithesiren

youtube: @s0wet

Mylao (Graphic Designer, and Artist)

instagram: @xlaomedia

email: xlaomedi4@gmail.com

A.I.R. (Music Producer)

instagram: @airgoincrazy

This content is for entertainment, journalistic, and educational purposes. We do not own the rights to the content from other creators in this episode.

On this week's episode of s0 wet s0 dry (or vlog) Fiji and Autumn are reunited in Atlanta for Revolt World! Join us for our takeaways from the Revolt World as small podcast creators trying to make it. If you guys are new here, welcome! We drop weekly episodes on Thursdays where we explore duality through deep diving topics bout sex, relationships, and personal identity where internet trends and reality collide. From the online gender wars to misunderstood kinks to relearning how to date, we’re somewhere between wet, dry, and fxcking confused. Listen in on our FaceTime calls for the nuanced reality check that only a best friend (and some research) can provide. Join our community of confused pxssies and philosophical slxts💦🌵💕 follow us on instagram, twitter, youtube, and tiktok @s0wets0dry the s0 wet s0 dry team: Autumn (host, editor) instagram: @autumnkaira twitter: @autumnkaira tiktok: @autumnkaira Fiji (host, editor) instagram: @s0wet twitter: @s0wet tiktok: @fijithesiren youtube: @s0wet Mylao (Graphic Designer, and Artist) instagram: @xlaomedia email: xlaomedi4@gmail.com A.I.R. (Music Producer) instagram: @airgoincrazy *This content is for entertainment, journalistic, and educational purposes. We do not own the rights to the content from other creators in this episode.* --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/sh... Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/sh...

Fiji and Autumn check in this week with Revolt world, new jobs, seasonal allergies, and being off my meds.

Next, we dive into this week’s podcast/ video essay topic: sugar dating.

We’re talking: The history of sugar dating, types of sugar daddies, Seeking, transactional relationships, who are sugar babies, Lola, The Girlfriend Experience, how we portray sex workers in the media, sugar baby experiences, tiktok creators giving how to advice, the glamorization of sugar dating, the realities of sugar dating, listener stories, and more!👀

Suggested episodes: 

https://youtu.be/j3GlbzodE0k?si=Bv6aclJl-O6FB5eU 

https://youtu.be/ncTa7JTXDhw?si=tIiDWZsMg9au5IHP 

https://youtu.be/Y1kRMxoO6Uc?si=cRBG4-T_vvLHyASy 

Join our community of confused pussies💦🌵 

Sources: 

https://docs.google.com/document/d/1AjX2_2R7NBr-S-iszG1Tc0GPM_ud2R6ALLzxici6-H4/edit

Intro 00:00:00 - 00:03:33 

What’s got us s0 wet and s0 dry this week 00:03:33 - 00:09:04

Defining sugar relationships and the history of sugar relationships 00:09:04 - 00:28:48

Sugar relationship stats 00:28:48 - 00:50:07

Types of sugar daddies 00:50:07 - 00:59:53

The power dynamics of sugar relationships 00:59:53 - 01:16:23

Breaking down Seeking the sugar daddy app 01:16:23 - 01:27:46

Sugar baby and benefactor experiences 01:27:46 - 02:06:54

The Girlfriend Experience 02:06:54 - 02:14:55

The problem with sugar baby tiktok and glamorization 02:14:55 - 02:29:34

The stigma around sugar dating 02:29:34 - 02:50:45

What’s got us wet, dry, and still confused about sugar relationships 02:50:45 - 03:03:48 

follow us on instagram, twitter, youtube, and tiktok @s0wets0dry

the s0 wet s0 dry team: 

Autumn (host, editor) 

instagram: @autumnkaira 

twitter: @autumnkaira 

tiktok: @autumnkaira 

Fiji (host, editor) 

instagram: @s0wet 

twitter: @s0wet 

tiktok: @fijithesiren 

youtube: @s0wet 

Mylao (Graphic Designer, and Artist)

instagram: @xlaomedia 

email: xlaomedi4@gmail.com 

A.I.R. (Music Producer) 

instagram: @airgoincrazy

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Fiji and Autumn check in this week with more literature events, Sabrina Carpenter’s new album, wanting to quit cigarettes, and messaging my delusional crush.

Next, we dive into this week’s podcast/ video essay topic: a deep dive into therapy speak.

We’re talking: Defining therapy speak and therapy terms, BetterHelp, TikTok therapists, bad therapists, media literacy, the mental health crisis, access to healthcare, distancing ourselves from our emotions, the mental health stigma, is therapy speak ruining relationships?, can you have too much therapy?, weaponized therapy speak, therapy speak in romantic relationships, friendships, and family relationships, listener stories, and more!👀

Suggested episodes: 

https://youtu.be/6fHrPNyd0jw?si=0VzFI8QENED37ZI5 

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lb035NeGKLs&t=6103s 

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bWGww4hdgp4&t=1689s 

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Mental Health Resources: 

If you are suicidal or in emotional distress, consider using the 988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline. 

https://www.nimh.nih.gov/health/find-help 

Find a therapist: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/therapists 

Sources: https://docs.google.com/document/d/1OhJnsuO07Rwyw2SQmrAZsUSkZw665DruqHVC9SNWM3I/edit

Books Fiji Mentioned: 

Eyes of the Beholders: Life Stories of African American Women: https://www.amazon.com/dp/1733465677/ref=nosim?tag=s0wets0dry-20 

Transitions by Tracee McDaniels: https://www.amazon.com/dp/0615547370/ref=nosim?tag=s0wets0dry-20

Femme Tales by Anne Shade https://www.amazon.com/dp/1635556570/ref=nosim?tag=s0wets0dry-20 

Intro 00:00:00 - 00:02:35

What’s got us s0 wet and s0 dry this week 00:02:35 - 00:13:49

What is therapy speak and why is it trending? 00:13:49 - 00:26:46

Defining therapy terms: gaslighting, triggered, trauma, and boundaries 00:26:46 - 00:56:35

Therapy speak examples: Friendship 00:56:35 - 01:14:48

Therapy speak examples: Family 01:14:48 - 01:20:27

Therapy speak examples: Romantic Relationships 01:20:27 - 01:29:48

The mental health crisis, the rise of tele-therapy, and why are we using therapy speak? 01:29:48 - 01:54:59

The problems with therapy speak 01:54:59 - 02:17:31

The case for therapy speak 02:17:31 - 02:29:07

Are we doing too much therapy? 02:29:07 - 02:38:54

What’s got us wet, dry, and still confused about therapy speak 02:38:54 - 02:53:36

follow us on instagram, twitter, youtube, and tiktok @s0wets0dry

the s0 wet s0 dry team: 

Autumn (host, editor) 

instagram: @autumnkaira 

twitter: @autumnkaira 

tiktok: @autumnkaira 

Fiji (host, editor) 

instagram: @s0wet 

twitter: @s0wet 

tiktok: @fijithesiren 

youtube: @s0wet 

Mylao (Graphic Designer, and Artist)

instagram: @xlaomedia 

email: xlaomedi4@gmail.com 

A.I.R. (Music Producer) 

instagram: @airgoincrazy

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Fiji and Autumn check in this week with finding literature and arts events in Atlanta, love from our supporters, technical difficulties, and missing stripping.

Next, we dive into this week’s topic: humiliation content and the influencer to OnlyFans pipeline.

We’re talking: the LMS for a rate era, smash or pass, top OnlyFans earners, is OnlyFans easy work?, influencers struggling to make money, the rise in popularity of OnlyFans, 20 girls 1 rapper, pop the balloon, promo opportunities, what humiliation content says about our society, the impact on the black community, male validation, natural bodies vs BBLs, does this content reflect the dating scene?, using the system to your advantage,  Huak Tuah, the downsides of OnlyFans, the whatever podcast, the manosphere, incels, ant-sex work beliefs, listener stories, and more!👀

Suggested episodes: 

https://youtu.be/6fHrPNyd0jw?si=0VzFI8QENED37ZI5 

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ncTa7JTXDhw&t=2273s 

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lb035NeGKLs&t=6103s 

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bWGww4hdgp4&t=1689s 

Join our community of confused pussies💦🌵 

Sources: https://docs.google.com/document/d/1HcxSQ-3dxNBhf18OElcFzhqLfgmHSs6jn1rYg7V9Ts0/edit 

Survival is a Promise: The Eternal Life of Audre Lorde by Alexis Pauline Gumbs: https://www.amazon.com/Survival-Promise-Eternal-Audre-Lorde-ebook/dp/B0CV41CBD8  

Intro 00:00:00-00:02:33

What’s got us s0 wet and s0 dry this week 00:02:33 - 00:09:51

Early stages of dating/ relationship content 00:09:51 - 00:12:30

Some background and history of OnlyFans and the Influencer to OnlyFans pipeline 00:12:30 - 00:37:10

New age dating content aka humiliation content: 20 girls 1 rapper, pop the balloon, and more 00:37:10 - 01:33:56

Why do women do onlyfans? 01:33:56 - 02:02:09

Manosphere podcasts and onlyfans creators 02:02:09 - 02:40:56

Humiliation and onlyfans content’’s impact on society 02:40:56 - 02:59:28

Wrap Up: What’s got us wet, dry, and still confused about the topic 02:59:28 - 03:15:39

follow us on instagram, twitter, youtube, and tiktok @s0wets0dry

the s0 wet s0 dry team: 

Autumn (host, editor) 

instagram: @autumnkaira 

twitter: @autumnkaira 

tiktok: @autumnkaira 

Fiji (host, editor) 

instagram: @s0wet 

twitter: @s0wet 

tiktok: @fijithesiren 

youtube: @s0wet 

Mylao (Graphic Designer, and Artist)

instagram: @xlaomedia 

email: xlaomedi4@gmail.com 

A.I.R. (Music Producer) 

instagram: @airgoincrazy

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Fiji and Autumn check in this week with finding new events in the city, sex dreams, high levels of stress, and another quarter life crisis

Next, we dive into this week’s topic: the pursuit of beauty and the paradox of effortlessness.

We’re talking: beauty sickness, the double-bind of beauty, our early memories of beauty, are men beautiful?, beauty vs comfort, pretty privilege, the art of beauty, is beauty anti-feminist?, white-washed beauty standards, how to engage in beauty in a healthy way, natural beauty vs botox beauty, Love Island UK, plastic surgeon tiktok, beauty influencers, anti-aging products, why the media doesn’t want older women, the cost of beauty, Kylie Jenner, the feeling of being perceived, the correlations between botox and relationships, perception drift, listener stories, and more!👀

Suggested episodes: 

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hu2NZI-oK_E&t=3268s 

https://youtu.be/6fHrPNyd0jw?si=0VzFI8QENED37ZI5 

Join our community of confused pussies💦🌵 

Sources: https://docs.google.com/document/d/15KMnnC5F9caehTM6z4c34ye2fEf05wBRXKEE6hTV5iM/edit

Intro 00:00:00- 00:02:42

What’s got us s0 wet and s0 dry this week 00:02:42 - 00:08:13

What is the pursuit of beauty? 00:08:13 - 00:17:11

Would life be better if we weren’t in pursuit of beauty? 00:17:11 -00:29:00

Should women live in the pursuit of beauty? 00:29:00 - 00:36:00

Beauty obsession and beauty sickness 00:36:00 - 00:51:47

Plastic surgery and reality TV 00:51:47 - 01:18:48

The double-bind of beauty and the allure of effortlessness 01:18:48 - 01:37:06

Who is to blame? 01:37:06 - 01:58:23

The Correlations between Botox and Relationships 01:58:23 -02:09:24

Wrap up: What’s got us wet, dry, and confused about the topic 02:09:24 02:19:53

follow us on instagram, twitter, youtube, and tiktok @s0wets0dry

the s0 wet s0 dry team: 

Autumn (host, editor) 

instagram: @autumnkaira 

twitter: @autumnkaira 

tiktok: @autumnkaira 

Fiji (host, editor) 

instagram: @s0wet 

twitter: @s0wet 

tiktok: @fijithesiren 

youtube: @s0wet 

Mylao (Graphic Designer, and Artist)

instagram: @xlaomedia 

email: xlaomedi4@gmail.com 

A.I.R. (Music Producer) 

instagram: @airgoincrazy

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Fiji and Autumn check in this week with F.D Signifier’s video essays, How I Met Your Mother, free online concerts, a failed night out, and having a hard time sleeping.

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Next, we dive into this week’s topic: trauma dumping and oversharing as entertainment.

We’re talking: The gendered and internet history of “oversharing”, oversharing memes, social media as a third space, finstas, the right to tell your story, storytelling as an art form, profiting off of oversharing/ trauma dumping, Reesa Tessa, Brooke Schofield, Who tf did I marry, Hayley Baylee, truth vs fiction, creators as entrepreneurs/ artists, put a finger down tiktok, Tana Mongeau, Alex Cooper and Call Her Daddy, exploiting your life for money, watching creators grow up in real-time, the addiction loop of posting, the trauma plot, the traumaification of reality tv, Joey the Bachelor, the trauma candy salad, does trauma make you funny?, listener stories, and more!👀

Suggested episodes: 

https://youtu.be/6fHrPNyd0jw?si=0VzFI8QENED37ZI5 

https://youtu.be/Rclk6K9alZU?si=tiHDOPTPtiW2-uCC 

Join our community of confused pussies💦🌵 

Sources: https://docs.google.com/document/d/1Oq68JJ_-Vg54a29_BsvhVLsGxncw5UMlyBEFTzNqdkQ/edit

Intro 00:00:00 - 00:02:41

What’s got us s0 wet and s0 dry this week 00:02:41 - 00:08:13

The gendered and internet history of “oversharing” 00:08:13 - 00:13:15

What is oversharing online? 00:13:15 - 00:25:53

Who tf did I marry tiktok: the ethics of oversharing and trauma dumping as storytelling 00:25:53 - 00:39:50

The rise of the storytime era: Tana Mongeau and Oversharing as storytelling 00:39:50 - 00:47:51

The addiction loop of exploiting yourself online and monetizing oversharing: Call Her Daddy 00:47:51 - 01:06:47

The case against the trauma plot: personal testimony as art and the traumaification of reality tv 01:06:47 - 01:51:53

The regularization of trauma dumping on tiktok: trauma candy salads and other trends 01:51:53 - 02:13:32

The audience for trauma dumping and the intention of the creator 02:13:32 - 02:33:31

What’s got us wet, dry, and still confused about trauma dumping and oversharing as entertainment 02:33:31 - 02:49:23

follow us on instagram, twitter, youtube, and tiktok @s0wets0dry

the s0 wet s0 dry team: 

Autumn (host, editor) 

instagram: @autumnkaira 

twitter: @autumnkaira 

tiktok: @autumnkaira 

Fiji (host, editor) 

instagram: @s0wet 

twitter: @s0wet 

tiktok: @fijithesiren 

youtube: @s0wet 

Mylao (Graphic Designer, and Artist)

instagram: @xlaomedia 

email: xlaomedi4@gmail.com 

A.I.R. (Music Producer) 

instagram: @airgoincrazy