Anxiety is on the rise in teens and young adults. But what is causing it to rise and how to stop it is something many parents want to know. So today’s episode, which is part one of a two-week series, outlines what parents can do to rescue anxiety in their homes. 

In the episode, Quin teaches parents: 

1. The need for risk and responsibility in the lives of our children
2. The four rules for phones recommended by Jonathan Haidt
3. The power of failure in creating resilience against hardship 

 Mind Renewal Tip:
“Parents are overprotecting children in the real world and underprotecting them online. 

Scripture Renewal Tip:
“Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God”. Philippians 4:6-7

Anxiety is on the rise in teens and young adults. But what is causing it to rise and how to stop it is something many parents want to know. So today’s episode, which is part one of a two-week series, outlines what parents can do to rescue anxiety in their homes. 

In the episode, Quin teaches parents:

       1. The importance of identity in reducing anxiety
2. The power of belonging in your maintains your child’s well being
3. The reason goals are needed even in children and teens  

Mind Renewal Tip:
Our goal is parents isn’t to prevent all anxiety from being a part of our children’s lives, but instead to equip them with the right tools with how to handle it when it hits! 

Scripture Renewal Tip:
Set your minds on things above, not on earthly things. Colossians 3:2 

In today’s episode, Quin discusses the unhealthy pattern of trying to express yourself and your needs toward someone you love and feeling like that person consistently receives your needs as an attack on them.   

In response to that, Quinn teaches listeners how to break that pattern by: 

     1. Understanding the difference between attack versus communication
2. Disarming statements to use to help a discussion go well
3. Tips by Dr. John Gottman for creating soft start up in a conversation 

Mind Renewal Tip:
Focusing on what you need someone to do versus what someone did wrong disarms a person’s defensiveness.  

Scripture Renewal Tip:
The way of a fool is right in his own eyes, but a wise man listens to advice. Proverbs 12:15
7 Ways to Soften Start Up by John Gottman 

     1. Take responsibility
2. Complain without blame
3. Start with “I” Statements
4. Describe what is happening
5. Be polite
6. Be Appreciative
7. Don’t let things build up 

In today’s episode, Quinn explores forgiveness and how to practice it in your own life so that you can move forward in peace instead of holding onto hurt by exploring: 

1) Why we are hardwired to hold a grudge and why we find it so hard to forgive.

2) What God says about forgiveness 

3) How to look at hurt in a new way and stop it from hurting us so deeply.  

Then Quinn teaches three steps to help listeners move into forgiveness:  

1. Accept the feelings instead of hurt and then identify what dream was taken. 

2. Do not personalize and rewrite the story where the offender’s intent wasn’t to harm you. 

3. Learn self regulation through gratitude. 

References:  

“Forgiveness is supernatural” Jon Stikl –Valley Creek Church 

Article on How to Forgive

No one likes a bad habit, but we often don’t know how to stop them. In today’s episode, Quinn addresses some common bad habits many people have and how to stop engaging in them by understanding why they exist and what we can do to stop them. 

In the episode, Quinn specifically addresses: 

• What neurotransmitters causes us to have bad habits and why we have them. 
• The three parts to every bad habit. 
• And how we can use emotional tolerance to break a habit.  

Mind Renewal Tip:

Bad habits often cause us to feel more of the negative emotion we are trying to avoid. 

Scriptural Renewal Tip:

No temptation has overtaken you that is not common to man. God is faithful, and he will not let you be tempted beyond your ability, but with the temptation he will also provide the way of escape, that you may be able to endure it. 1 Corinthians 10:13 

Have you ever felt like you are fighting off a negative voice in your head that condemns you and makes you not feel good enough in different scenarios? In today’s episode, Quinn is helping you dive into your thought life, understand why your thoughts matter and to take control of those negative thoughts so you can fill your mind with truth.   

In this episode, Quinn teaches listeners these three tips to help renew their minds: 

1. Outline our thoughts and Identify lies and truths 

2. Talk to yourself in third person in a kind and compassionate way 

3. Share negative thoughts with a friend and let them offer feedback 

Resources: 

Cognitive Distortions: Source Therapist Aid 

1. Black and white thinking/polarized thinking: Thinking in absolutes such as “always”, “never”, or “every”. “I never do a good enough job on anything. 

2. Mental filtering – discount the positives / forgetting the bad 

3. Catastrophizing- we take on small scenario and go worst  case scenario 

4. Magnification and Minimization 

5. Exaggerating or minimizing the importance of events. One might believe their own achievements are unimportant, or that their mistakes are excessively important.  

6. Overgeneralization: Making broad interpretations from a single or few events. “I felt awkward during my job interview. I am always so awkward.” 

7. Magical Thinking: The belief that acts will influence unrelated situations. “I am a good person—bad things shouldn’t happen to me.”  

8. Personalization: The belief that one is responsible for events outside of their own control. “My mom is always upset. She would be fine if I did more to help her.”  

9. Jumping to Conclusions: Interpreting the meaning of a situation with little or no evidence.  

10. Mind Reading: Interpreting the thoughts and beliefs of others without adequate evidence. “She would not go on a date with me. She probably thinks I’m ugly.”  

11. Fortune Telling: The expectation that a situation will turn out badly without adequate evidence.  

12. Emotional Reasoning: The assumption that emotions reflect the way things really are. “I feel like a bad friend, therefore I must be a bad friend.” 

13. Disqualifying the Positive: Recognizing only the negative aspects of a situation while ignoring the positive. One might receive many compliments on an evaluation, but focus on the single piece of negative feedback. 

14. “Should” Statements: The belief that things should be a certain way. “I should always be friendly.”  

In today’s episode, Quinn shares how to help balance roles and responsibilities in marriage — like laundry, dishes, yard work, parenting duties and more — so that partners feel respected and seen instead of resentful and annoyed.

As a part of this episode, Quinn teaches listeners some practical techniques that will help them: 

• Understand assumptions around household duties that are dangerous in marriage.
• Know what questions you and your partner need to ask one another in order to reduce resentment.
• Understand what spouse should focus on in marriage (and hint — it isn’t what their partner isn’t doing around the house!) in order to build appreciation.

So if you’re a person who has ever felt yourself getting resentful at a sink full of dishes...this episode is for you! New episodes come out every Tuesday, so be sure to subscribe so you never miss one!

Has someone ever asked you how you are doing and all you can say is: Busy? Or do you ever feel like you lay your head on your pillow at night and feel like you’ve been busy all day but don’t know what you’ve even done?! If you relate to feeling like your life is always busy but you’re not sure it’s been spent on the things that matter most to you, then this episode is for you.  

In it, Quinn talks about where the pressure to be busy comes from, how to separate out the things in your life that are necessary and urgent and the things that can be eliminated or delegated to someone else and then teaches listeners a deep breathing exercise that you can use to relax.  

Resources:  

eisenhower.me/eisenhower-matrix/ 

The Renew You Podcast is being RENEWED and is joining the Access More Network for Season 2 which starts tomorrow, September 27th.

Welcome to RENEW YOU! A podcast about honestly, authentically and exploring what renewed faith looks like in every area of your life from the perspective of Quinn Kelly, a Jesus-loving wife, mom and marriage and family therapist.

Our Mission is to help you with “renewed” ways of approaching relationships and day-to-day life in a practical and fresh way through the thoughtful and genuine application of God’s word interwoven with helpful therapeutic strategies.

From marriage to parenting to friendships to diving into the Bible and everything in between, the RENEW YOU podcast will give you something to think about in a renewed way each week! Subscribe now and lets RENEW YOU!

In today's episode, Quinn interviews Katie Lewis, founder of Dear Mushka, a Nashville-based company that pairs jewelry, apparel, and home goods with scripture.

In today's episode with Manda Carpenter, author of "How Radical Honesty Leads to Real Healing," she and I discuss how honesty is a powerful and often underused tool in Godly and healthy relationships.

In today's episode, I interview Megan McQuary, who is so many incredible things including a licensed social worker, speaker, author, clinical practice owner, EMDR trainer, mom of three, and daughter of Christ. I am honored for you to hear her story, learn more about EMDR, and be led through an EMDR exercise. I believe this episode is meant to bring hope and healing to many of our listeners.

Raising teenagers is hard on its own, but guiding teenagers in dating relationships can be harder than expected! As parents, we want to guide them but we often can find ourselves unsure as to how to keep them healthy, happy and protected when dating.  

In today’s episode, Quinn empowers parents to: 

     1. Draw a boundary with their level of comfort in dating based on age and maturity
2. Have guidelines to teach kids for healthy relationships
3. See one hidden benefit that comes from teen relationships 

Mind Renewal Tip:

Guiding our kids through dating relationships while they are in our home is a great way to prepare them for healthy relationships when they one day leave the home! 

Scripture Renewal Tip:
Don’t let anyone look down on you because you are young, but set an example for the believers in speech, in conduct, in love, in faith and in purity. 1 Timothy 4:12 

In today's interview, I interview singer and songwriter Kellie Haddock who has walked through her fair share of trials and fire and as a result has a new album out called "Orchids from Fire." This new album will invigorate your soul with an honesty that sees the struggle of life, through a lens that points to spiritual growth, and the goodness of God.

In today's episode on healing from past family trauma, I interviewed Anabel Morales, who is a licensed professional counselor in the Houston area. She is passionate about helping clients and others move from being saved to being healed. If you are someone that has experienced trauma or past hurt, this episode is for you!

In today's interview with Amy Debrucque, mom of four, author, podcaster, and cancer survivor, we talk about her favorite tips for battling fear, tackling negative self-talk, and finding Godly self-confidence.

In the episode, Daniel Blackaby who is an author of multiple fiction and non-fiction books and an integral part of Blackaby Ministries, as well as, a husband and father to two twin boys discusses how to experience God, what God may be doing in the midst of moments we feel alone, his passion for merging faith and pop culture and his desire to bring a new generation hungry for God into the revamped 30-year edition of Experiencing God.

Leslie Means "Her View from Home" has over a million social media followers and readers worldwide, along with thousands of monthly writers sharing stories of motherhood, marriage, faith, and grief, and today, Leslie is on the podcast sharing this powerful story of stepping out and trusting God.

In today's interview, I have the immense privilege of interviewing Christian music artist Hulvey and his wife Rachael, a beautiful, newly married couple in their twenties who are both living a mature, contagious, and pure faith that can only be described as inspiring!

In the episode, Sara Lubbers, author of Always Love, and I discuss how God laid this book on her heart during a season of loss in her life, her favorite method for studying the Bible, and the one Bible story she thinks every person should know.

In today's episode, I am interviewing Scott and Vanessa Martindale who are the founders of Blended Kingdom Families (BKF), a stepfamily and marriage ministry established in 2020, with a God-given desire to encourage and equip married couples, blended families, and local churches across the nation.

In today's episode on faith and anxiety, with writer, podcaster, and mental health therapist Kelli Bachara, we talk all about how God led Kelli through the challenging time of discovering her daughter Railyn had eye cancer and how she managed her anxiety through it all.

In today's episode, I interviewed Stephanie Rousselle who is a wife, mom, podcaster, public speaker, Bible teacher, and founder of Gospel Spice Ministries. This interview is emotional, beautiful, poignant, and relevant. Listen in and ask God what he desires to show you today.

Parenting teenagers is fun and challenging all at once. You get to enjoy them being more independent but also have to navigate how to let them be independent while still guiding them in making good choices that they want to make on their own.  

In today’s episode, Quinn encourages listeners to stay sane while parenting teens by: 

1. Teaching parents how to not take it personally when your teen doesn’t enjoy you
2. Remembering the importance of protecting them digitally but giving them real life freedom
3. Giving grace when they make mistakes because they will 

Mind Renewal Tip:
Even mature teens are immature! There brains aren’t fully developed so don’t be surprised when they show it.  

Scripture Renewal Tip:
Train up a child in the way he should go; even when he is old he will not depart from it. Proverbs 22:6 

Today, I got to talk with my friend Derek and ask him all about his wife Emily's cancer journey, death, and how God has been showing up for him all along the way through their painful, yet beautiful journey.

In today's episode, I get to speak with Pamela Gauthier also known as #BeautyandtheMigraineBeast. She is a wife, mother to three young boys, and someone who has lived with chronic migraine pain for the past 8 years. Do you suffer with chronic pain? If so, you're not alone.

In today's episode, Quinn interviews Jessica Hottle who is a faith-based fitness coach, podcast host, best-selling author, and speaker with a heart for teaching women how to dismantle the lies that keep them from healing and wholeness.

In the interview, Kyle tells us what the secret to prayer is, the lies we need to get rid of in order to have a strong prayer life and why confession transforms our prayer life. If you are ready to take your prayers to the next level, listen to this interview then order his book. Kyle's tips are helpful, biblical and encouraging.

In today's interview, Ryan and Jenny share how they met, when God called them into ministry and how their passion for marriage developed. Ryan and Jenny also discuss some of their favorite rhythms in marriage and share how discussing hard topics like leadership and submission, from their book, "The Marriage Experience", can be so key in building a better marriage.

In today's interview, I had the privilege of interviewing Demi-Leigh Nel-Peters Tebow, who is Miss Universe 2019 and wife to Tim Tebow, as well as a philanthropist, human rights activist, and entrepreneur. She is passionate about encouraging each and every person to find a way to make a difference.

In week four's episode, Quinn and Jarrell wrap up the Proverbs series with a parenting episode. In it, Quinn and Jarrell talk about some of the most well-known Proverbs.

In week three's episode, Quinn and Jarrell continue to discuss some of their favorite Proverbs in the second half of the book written by King Solomon.

In today's episode, the second one in our summer Proverbs series, Jarrell and I discuss some of the most well-known Proverbs and what they mean to us.

In this episode, Quinn & Jarrell discuss the word wisdom and how the book of Proverbs focuses on this important Biblical concept. Additionally, we dive into a few other key passages that set the tone for understanding the advice given in this wonderful and rich book.

It’s that time of year when division can easily seem all around us. Politics, holidays, everyday life. It can feel overwhelming to disagree with people you love, and it can feel angering to not know how to handle it! 

In today’s episode, Quinn shares her best tips in helping you create understanding and find peace when the world tells you to fight by: 

     1. Giving you one overarching principle to guide your conversations.
2. Offering a mindset to start a heated conversation with.
3. Teaching a tip to deescalate yourself when feeling triggered with anger.  

 

Mind Renewal Tip:
Being angry at someone that doesn’t agree with you is about as pointless as brushing your teeth with Oreos in your mouth. Nothing productive comes from it but frustration.  

Scripture Renewal Tip:
Whoever is patient has great understanding, but one who is quick tempered displays folly. Proverbs 14:29

Resources:
https://www.amazon.com/Anxious-Generation-Rewiring-Childhood-Epidemic/dp/0593655036

https://www.amazon.com/Dopamine-Nation-Finding-Balance-Indulgence/dp/B08LQZCGDJ/ref=sr_1_1?crid=1CUP9CCSGL4EX&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.zHSDmXDw0zRM-BzS0qqNoX-lkMEA7NV5Au2BUwmgK61NBpoo3KzOBed1kr1DzaqWoJCvsXOMrWLZ_R_Kz6w_6g.3o2Rwxj3NWto_KMX5SeVvjWsa9JySVsvor0TgqLVeIQ&dib_tag=se&keywords=ana+lemke&qid=1727723852&s=books&sprefix=ana+lemke%2Cstripbooks%2C193&sr=1-1

Correction:
In the episode, Quinn mistaken says the term omnifinality instead of equipfinality.

In today's interview with Tiffany Bluhm, we discuss her powerful book "Prey Tell" which discusses why we silence women in situations of sexual abuse and harassment and how everyone can help break this societal pattern including both women and men.

Today's episode is a sweet and powerful interview with Rachael Malonson, author of 'I Am Enough'. Rachael shares her journey of being crowned the Miss Black University of Texas in 2017 and how the controversy she faced for not being "black" enough helped her see that she is enough - and that we are all enough.

In the episode, I interviewed Korie Robertson, her mother Chrys Howard & her grandmother, Jo Shackelford on how to raise children who love the Lord. The best part about the interview is how they all raved about each other as the best mother they know. They truly have so much love and respect for each other, which makes their family all the more special.

On today's episode, we welcome our first female musical artist, Jillian Edwards. She is an American singer and songwriter with a unique Indie and mystical voice and she shares her story of how God has used her faith to bring healing and comfort to her listeners through her music. It is all about life, relationships and God all through the lens of her powerful faith.

In today's episode, I interviewed Christian musical artist and singer of "You Get the Glory For This" - Jonathan Traylor. What stands out most from this interview is his immense and deep love for God and how the Lord has now used his music to affect hundreds of thousands in their faith.

An honest, fun and insightful podcast episode with Brandon Lake, Christian Artist and Singer of "Just Like Heaven" and his wife Brittany, as they get candid about parenting, their marriage and how they keep trust, sex and communication strong between them while seeking God first.

If you want to take charge of your mental/emotional health, overcome anxiety, and find more joy and peace every day, then don't miss today's episode with Rebekah Lyons, author of Rhythms of Renewal. She shares practical tips for living a restful and renewed life.

"While events and reactions can't be controlled, we can control our reactions to these events and circumstances." Don't miss great info like this and more on today's episode with Dr. Caroline Leaf all about "Cleaning Up Your Mental Mess."

This week's episode is all about the power of scripture memory and how to do this for ourselves and with our children. And before you say your memory is too full for more, we encourage you to take a listen...

If you are someone that sometimes feels you fall into shame from your past sins but desire to live a set free life, this one is for you. Lindsey Maestas, host of the Living Easy Podcast, joins us today to share how she took steps to leave her old life behind and walk into freedom in Christ.

God desires to use each and every one of us for his glory and for our good. But our minds often lie to us and tell us we aren’t worthy of taking steps to fulfill our passions. Today’s episode is all about breaking through those lies to honor God’s call in our lives. 

In the episode, Quinn encourages listeners: 

     1. Identify what they feel called to
2. Understand the lies or the barriers keeping them stuck and away from that call
3. Be bold in taking the first step to making that dream for their life a reality  

 

Mind Renewal Tip:
Most anyone you talk to that has done something great has had to overcome imposter syndrome. Feeling like they aren’t really the right one for the job. But here’s the truth, no one feels like they are the right one for the job until they start the work and see what God does in and through their obedience.  

Scripture Renewal Tip:
As a prisoner for the Lord, then, I urge you to live a life worthy of the calling you have received. Ephesians 4:1  

Today we discuss 6 science-based habits that we believe will help you find more happiness, better health and will recharge and renew you!

Today we have Dr. Michelle Bengtson on the podcast offering her advice on how we can break free from anxiety's grip...especially in light of this past year and within the context and current climate of our country.

Join us in following along with The Bible Recap and reading through the entire Bible in 2021...