Reimagining Love – Details, episodes & analysis

Many of us have cultivated confidence in our careers, our family life, and our friendships, but when it comes to dating, we feel lost at sea. This was the case for acclaimed TV and live events producer Lindsay Jill Roth, who found herself asking what she knew were the wrong questions in dating (What does he want me to say? How can I make this person like me?). So, she set out to create a tool for herself that she's now sharing with the world. In her new book, Romances & Practicalities, Lindsay offers a roadmap for how to understand your wants and needs better and truly communicate and connect with the person you’re dating, through 250 research-backed questions spread across twelve categories—from money to children to chores to sex. These questions help folks develop deeper intimacy and open up about what they’re looking for in an intimate partnership. In her conversation with Dr. Alexandra, you’ll hear about Lindsay's budding romance with her now husband, the couples she spoke with who have used this system, and the wisdom and practical guidance she’s garnered from the clinical experts she interviewed for the book—including Dr. Alexandra! Lindsay urges listeners to view expansive and thoughtful dialog as something sexy, not just vital, as they get to know someone that they think might be their person. Lindsay and Dr. Alexandra also address a thoughtful listener question at the end of the episode, about dating across socio-economic class.

Romances & Practicalities: A Love Story (Maybe Yours!) in 250 Questions by Lindsay Jill Roth

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Conversations about sex are so important, but approaching the topic with a partner can feel overwhelming. When we come up against sexual challenges in our relationships, it can be easy to fall into patterns of blame and shame. Listening to this episode is a great first step as you find your voice and reclaim your power in your sex life. You’ll hear from psychologist and sex therapist Dr. Kate Balestrieri, who joins Dr. Alexandra for a conversation all about sexuality and her new book, What Happened to My Sex Life? They explore the importance of creating shared agreements and visions with your partner when it comes to sex, how to navigate retroactive jealousy, and the role safety plays in our sexual connections. They also respond to a listener question about how someone’s sexual history can impact their current relationship dynamic.

Dr. Kate’s book: What Happened to My Sex Life? A Sex Therapist's Guide to Reclaiming Lost Desire, Connection, and Pleasure

Dr. Kate’s Instagram: @drkatebalestrieri

Dr. Kate’s website: Modern Intimacy

Get Naked with Dr. Kate (podcast)

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Today’s episode is part of a new solo series on Reimagining Love about Family of Origin Roles (aka FOO roles). Tune in on the first two Tuesdays of each month to learn about how the roles we were cast into as children and held within our family systems shape how we show up in our relationships today. Whether you were the one who held the family together, the rebel who pushed back against household norms, or the “easy” kid who flew under the radar, we all inhabited a position in the community of our family and absorbed certain messages about love, connection, and worthiness as a result. Check out the introductory episode of the series if you missed it last month!

Up first in Dr. Alexandra’s exploration of family roles is “The Perfect One.”  If you were the superstar kid in your family, known for bringing home good grades and accolades, this might be you. As an adult, perhaps you seek validation and affirmation of your worthiness through tangible accomplishments. You may believe you’re only as good and worthy of love as your job title, latest career win, parenting flex, or fitness milestone. Does this sound like you, or someone you love? Listen to the episode to learn more about this role and how The Perfect One can embark on their healing journey.

Visit www.masterclass.com/alexandrasolomon to check out the class I co-taught with Ryan Holiday and other experts about the wisdom of ancient philosophy and how it can help us improve communication, resilience, and relationships.

Relevant links:

Get the FREE Family of Origin Roles Workbook: Reclaiming You

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Reimagining Love: “Tending to ‘Little You’ & Exploring Your Family of Origin”

Dr. Alexandra’s Psychotherapy Networker Article

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Open communication is a key component of a healthy intimate partnership. But discerning what to share with our partner, as well as when and how to share it, is a common challenge. In this episode, Dr. Alexandra teases out this issue, offering ideas for how we can be both candid AND compassionate towards those we love.

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Open communication is a key component of a healthy intimate partnership. But discerning what to share with our partner, as well as when and how to share it, is a common challenge. In this episode, Dr. Alexandra teases out this issue, offering ideas for how we can be both candid AND compassionate towards those we love.

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Take Dr. Alexandra's "Relationship Superpower" Quiz:

https://dralexandrasolomon.com/rsa-quiz/

Dance movement therapist Erica Hornthal joins Dr. Alexandra for an enriching conversation about how movement and dance can have a transformative positive impact on our mental health. They also answer a listener question about regulating one's emotions during difficult conversations with a partner.

Body Aware: Rediscover Your Mind-Body Connection, Stop Feeling Stuck, and Improve Your Mental Health with Simple Movement Practice by Erica Hornthal:

https://bookshop.org/p/books/body-aware-rediscover-your-mind-body-connection-stop-feeling-stuck-and-improve-your-mental-health-with-simple-movement-practice-erica-hornthal/17771314?ean=9781623176891

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Stressing about our jobs is inevitable, and it can take a real toll on our intimate partnerships. In this episode, Dr. Alexandra explores what happens when we take work home with us, and how it may create challenging dynamics with those we love. She provides tools and strategies to manage work stress in healthier ways, have empathetic conversations with our partners, and foster compassion for ourselves.

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Dr. Alexandra sits down with her lifelong best friend, Ali, for a heartfelt conversation about their four decades of friendship and everything they've learned about each other and themselves along the way.

Ali's book, "The Heirloom"

https://bookshop.org/p/books/the-heirloom-alexandra-folz/11612835?ean=9780998276908

Ali's intuitive counseling website:

https://alexandrafolz.com/

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Dr. Joy Harden Bradford, founder & CEO of Therapy for Black Girls, joins Dr. Alexandra to discuss her mission to make mental health topics more relevant and accessible for Black women. They also discuss what to look for in a new therapist, the personal growth that comes from breakups and new beginnings, and a listener question from a single mom who's struggling with FOMO.

Therapy for Black Girls (including the online therapist directory):

https://therapyforblackgirls.com/

Dr. Joy's website:

https://hellodrjoy.com/

Therapy for Black Girls Podcast:

https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/therapy-for-black-girls/id1223803641

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Becca Rea-Tucker is a cookbook author and Instagram sensation who bakes with a purpose, and she joins Dr. Alexandra for a sweet discussion about her new cookbook, Baking by Feel, and her cakes with feminist messages that inspire people to use their voice.

Baking by Feel: Recipes to Sort Out Your Emotions (Whatever They Are Today!) by Becca Rea-Tucker

https://bookshop.org/p/books/baking-by-feel-recipes-to-sort-out-your-emotions-whatever-they-are-today-becca-rea-tucker/18321498?ean=9780063160040

Becca's Instagram (@thesweetfeminist)

https://www.instagram.com/thesweetfeminist/

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