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Beyond the Shoulds: Empowering Your Family Planning Decisions
18 Sep 2024
00:34:54
In this podcast episode, Beth, therapist and host, candidly shares her personal struggles with societal and internal pressures, especially regarding her desire for a second child. She reflects on the challenges of being in the spotlight as a therapist and the impact of societal expectations on her life decisions. Beth emphasizes the importance of mindfulness, gratitude, and slowing down to manage these pressures. She encourages listeners to trust the timing of their lives and to focus on the value of their current experiences. Beth also invites feedback and engagement from her audience, highlighting her commitment to discussing relationships and mental health.
We Also Talk About:
Beth's personal struggles with feeling pressure and the impact on her desire for a second child
Strategies for managing pressure, such as practicing gratitude, connecting with others, and intentionally slowing down
The challenges of being a therapist and feeling uncomfortable with being in the spotlight
The importance of being mindful of the word "should" and the pressure it puts on individuals
The value of intentional practices, such as gratitude, slowing down, and connecting with others
Encouragement for listeners to consider the purpose of their desires and to trust that things will work out in their own time
Beth's experiences of feeling pressure to meet societal expectations, particularly in relation to finding a partner and starting a family
Reflections on the purpose of certain experiences and the importance of letting go of self-imposed pressure
The importance of shifting focus from what one doesn't have to what one does have
Beth's invitation for feedback and willingness to discuss topics related to relationships and therapy in future episodes
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Is the Pressure of Timelines and Expectations Impacting Your Life?
11 Sep 2024
00:51:29
In this podcast episode, Lauren Zoeller, a somatic coach and therapist, shares her personal journey and experiences that led her to her career helping others heal their nervous system. . She discusses a pivotal moment in her life when external success masked internal struggles, prompting her to address deeper issues related to her nervous system and feelings of unworthiness. The conversation explores the importance of somatic therapy, which focuses on the body's role in emotional and psychological healing. Lauren also talks about societal pressures on women regarding timelines and relationships, emphasizing the need for deep internal work to create safety, clarity, and alignment with one's true desires.
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How Egg Freezing Gave Me More Time to Follow My Dream Career
10 Jul 2024
00:41:14
Join Beth Gulotta and guest Diana Nguyen as they explore the personal and societal aspects of egg freezing. Diana recounts her journey, starting from a Thanksgiving family dinner suggestion to her company's support during her career transition. She shares the unexpected story of meeting her husband amidst the process of freezing her eggs and emphasizes the importance of support and acceptance in a relationship. The conversation also addresses the pressures of motherhood, career choices, and the significance of living life on one's own terms. Additionally, the episode touches on the mission of Diana's company, Madison Saville, to empower women. Beth and Diana discuss the value of modeling a full life to children, and the episode concludes with a call to listeners to separate external pressures from personal desires in all life decisions.
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Chapters
(00:00:58) - Diana's Journey (00:01:33) - Thanksgiving Dinner Conversation (00:03:02) - Transition from Finance to Fashion (00:07:40) - Egg Freezing Consultation (00:08:53) - Egg Freezing Process (00:14:08) - Second Round and Meeting Husband (00:16:26) - Dating During Egg Freezing (00:18:13) - Flowers and Second Date (00:18:58) - Support and Advice (00:19:48) - Misunderstandings and Age (00:21:11) - Career and Nontraditional Paths (00:22:25) - Empowerment and Emotional Process (00:24:07) - Company Philosophy and Purpose (00:26:40) - Pressure and Timelines (00:29:19) - Reassurance and Late Motherhood (00:31:07) - Maternal Instinct and Timing (00:34:40) - Parenting and Life Continuity (00:35:31) - Modeling Life to My Son (00:35:54) - Pressure to Be a Mom (00:36:27) - Questioning Career Choices (00:37:43) - Separating Voices (00:38:03) - Living Your Own Life (00:39:01) - Support for Egg Freezing Decision
Freezing in Your Forties
03 Jul 2024
00:47:41
Lyndsey Wegner, a host and actress, shares her personal journey with egg freezing as part of her path to motherhood. She discusses the challenges, including societal expectations, the emotional toll, and the financial burden of the process. Lyndsey also reflects on the loss of her mother and the support she found in friends and family. The episode explores the physical aspects of the process, such as medication and shots, and the importance of a support system. Additionally, the conversation touches on broader topics of motherhood, including single motherhood and adoption. Lyndsey’s story is so inspiring, offering hope and a never give up on your dream mentality. The episode concludes with encouragement for others considering egg freezing, highlighting the importance of resilience and hope.
(00:08:14) - Emotional Journey and Financial Hurdles
(00:09:34) - Family Support and Loss
(00:12:11) - Support System and Personal Journey
(00:14:05) - Acceptance and Shifting Vision
(00:15:57) - Empowerment and Encouragement
(00:18:21) - The struggle of uncertainty
(00:21:25) - The daunting process of medication
(00:23:12) - Navigating emotional challenges
(00:25:25) - Hope and resilience
(00:27:47) - Support and shared experiences
(00:29:10) - Exploring alternative methods
(00:31:30) - Accepting the unknown
(00:33:04) - Preserving the option for motherhood
(00:34:59) - Adapting to different paths to motherhood
(00:36:10) - The resilience of motherhood
(00:36:32) - Becoming a Mother
(00:37:42) - Preparation for Medication
(00:38:41) - Optimism and Hope
(00:40:05) - Advice and Support
(00:41:51) - Encouraging Early Consideration
(00:42:24) - Signs of Support
(00:44:18) - Empathy and Guidance
(00:44:26) - Promotion of Support Guide
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What You Won’t Hear in Your Doctor’s Office: The Acupuncture Advantage
26 Jun 2024
00:46:30
Beth Gulotta welcomes Dr. Linda Fields, an acupuncturist specializing in women's health and fertility to this episode of Quiet the Clock. Dr. Fields shares her transition from a career in writing to acupuncture, driven by her own health experiences. They discuss the benefits of acupuncture for fertility, the importance of a personalized approach, and the emotional aspects of the fertility journey. Dr. Fields emphasizes the holistic nature of her practice, considering factors like diet and lifestyle. Beth also reflects on her positive experiences with acupuncture on her own fertility journey. The episode offers insights into the supportive role of acupuncture in reproductive health.
(00:00:56) - The journey from playwright to acupuncturist
(00:01:40) - Personal experience with holistic medicine
(00:02:35) - Acupuncture's rapid response in hormone balance
(00:03:48) - Diverse fertility cases and individualized treatment
(00:14:47) - Challenges in finding the right acupuncturist
(00:19:07) - Benefits of acupuncture for fertility
(00:21:09) - The pulse and tongue diagnosis
(00:22:16) - Different protocols for fertility support
(00:25:39) - Shame around fertility and pregnancy
(00:29:42) - Acupuncture and fertility treatment
(00:33:12) - Toxins and fertility
(00:39:59) - Personal fertility journey
(00:40:31) - Specializing in Women's Health and Fertility
(00:41:40) - The Challenges of Fertility Treatments
(00:43:19) - Support and Appreciation for Acupuncturists
(00:44:31) - Encouragement and Guidance for Egg Freezing
Guiding Women Through the Biological Clock: Insights From a Male Perspective
19 Jun 2024
00:50:35
In this episode of “Quiet the Clock," Beth Gulotta welcomes Kevin Nahai, a therapist who takes a deep interest in supporting women with egg freezing and fertility issues. They delve into the emotional and psychological challenges faced by women in their late 30s and early 40s. Kevin discusses the importance of open communication in relationships, the shared responsibility of managing biological timelines, and the need for individuals to be clear about their desires. They also explore societal pressures, the impact of social media on perceptions of relationships, and the significance of authenticity and self-awareness.
We Also Talk About:
Kevin's background and interest in supporting women in egg freezing and fertility
Kevin's approach to understanding and supporting women's experiences
Men's perception of the biological clock and pressure on women in dating
Responsibility of both men and women in managing timelines and expectations in relationships
Importance of open and honest conversations in relationships
Misconceptions about women needing to be fully healed before entering a relationship
Finding someone who is "good enough" and the pillars of a successful relationship
Being true to oneself in relationships and not settling for less
Complexities of social media messaging and pressure to conform to certain ideals
Fear of admitting true desires and the power of authenticity and self-awareness
Fertility and Laughs: Building Awareness through Comedy and Vulnerability
12 Jun 2024
00:55:00
Join Beth Gulotta and Daheli Hall, screenwriter, director, and comedian, as they delve into Daheli’s personal journey navigating fertility challenges and societal pressures surrounding motherhood and career. Daheli bravely shares her experience with IVF, shedding light on the emotional toll of societal expectations, the layers of complexities, and what it looks like when it just doesn’t work. Daheli discusses her one-woman show, which serves as a platform to educate and connect with others. Bringing attention to such an important topic in a unique and fun way. Throughout the conversation, the importance of vulnerability and rewriting narratives of success is emphasized, alongside a discussion of the unique fertility experiences of black women in America. The episode concludes with a supportive message about egg freezing, emphasizing that individuals should never feel isolated in their fertility journey.
Fertility Transparency: Overcoming the 'Don't Ask, Don't Tell' Culture
05 Jun 2024
00:46:17
In this episode of Quiet the Clock, Leyla Bilali, a seasoned fertility nurse and co-founder of Dandi Fertility, shares her expertise and personal struggles with infertility. She discusses the emotional journey of patients, the importance of education and personalized care in fertility treatments, and the challenges of navigating the fertility space. Leyla emphasizes the need to process emotions related to infertility and the significance of letting go of the idea of a perfect ending. Beth and Leyla explore the nuances of fertility preservation and the impact of Dandi Fertility's supportive products and services. The episode is a deep dive into the complexities of fertility and the emotional support required for those on this journey.
Should You Consider Freezing Your Eggs in Your 20s?
08 May 2024
00:36:32
In this podcast episode, Beth interviews Shania, a 25-year-old who made the proactive decision to freeze her eggs. Shania sets a remarkable example for young women to think ahead about family planning to ensure the ability to focus on building a life and career you love while not being pressured by timelines and a biological clock. Shania describes the process and her choice to share her journey on social media, challenging societal expectations and promoting informed personal choices. The conversation explores the broader themes of life planning, questioning cultural narratives, and empowering women to shape their futures.
We Also Talk About:
Shania's decision to freeze her eggs at a young age
Shania's process of considering and undergoing egg freezing
The impact of sharing her story on social media
The importance of being proactive about fertility and family planning
Shania's reasons for freezing her eggs at a young age
The emotional and logistical aspects of the egg freezing process
The societal pressures and lack of education around fertility
Encouraging young people to think about their future and what they want
The importance of planning and understanding one's fertility
The broader conversation about permission to think outside the box and plan for the future
Embracing Life's Uncertainties with Therapists Who Get It
01 May 2024
00:38:18
In this episode of "Quiet the Clock", Beth Gulotta and her mentee and friend Lauren Larkin delve into the complex decision of egg freezing. Lauren, contemplating this significant step, discusses the emotional and relational dynamics with her partner Mike, emphasizing the need for support and open dialogue. They explore societal pressures, personal fears, and the importance of making choices aligned with individual desires rather than external expectations. The episode also touches on the practicalities of the process, from clinic visits to scheduling and prenatal preparations. Beth shares her insights, encouraging involvement and communication between partners. Both emphasize the importance of sharing similar stories to normalize different timelines and paths.
We Also Talk About:
Decision to freeze eggs and its impact on relationships
Emotional and logistical aspects of the egg freezing process
Societal pressures and expectations around marriage and motherhood
Importance of open communication in relationships
Managing personal and professional roles as therapists
Emotional and practical considerations in choosing the timing for the procedure
Support and guidance for those considering egg freezing
Sharing personal experiences to help others going through similar situations
Importance of feeling supported and not alone in the decision
Providing support and guidance to others in similar situations
Sabrina Zohar shares her personal journey and her thoughts on dating, in this episode of Quiet the Clock. Sabrina is a renowned dating coach and the voice behind the "Do the Work" podcast. Dive into Sabrina's extraordinary life story, from chasing her acting dreams in the bustling streets of New York to launching a successful clothing brand amidst life's unexpected twists and turns. She opens up about the significance of being true to who you are and how authenticity shapes her approach to dating coaching. The discussion delves into the pressures of societal norms, like the rush to wed by a certain milestone, and highlights the importance of self-love and honoring your individual journey. Sabrina's narrative is a testament to resilience and the beauty of navigating the unpredictable journey of life and the benefit of doing the work.
We Also Talk About:
Untraditional career paths and celebrating them
Sabrina's journey from pursuing acting to becoming a dating coach
Challenges and setbacks in career and personal life
Starting a clothing line and transitioning to coaching
Overcoming setbacks and finding success
Authenticity and staying true to oneself in content creation
Debunking bad dating advice and promoting honesty in relationships
Challenging expectations and anxieties in dating
Navigating conflicts in relationships and healthy conflict resolution
Addressing pressures and anxieties related to motherhood and dating timelines
Navigating Career, Relationships, and Fertility on Your Own Terms
17 Apr 2024
00:47:29
Beth welcomes Christina Galbato, an educator, marketer, and investor who discusses her personal journey, including her career, sobriety, and decision to freeze her eggs before turning 30. They explore the societal expectations of women regarding marriage and children, and how Christina's own path diverged from these norms due to her business and personal growth. The conversation delves into the importance of self-awareness, aligning actions with personal values, and the challenges ambitious women face in relationships. Christina shares her insights on seeking a partner who complements her strengths and the significance of being open about one's struggles to help normalize different life choices.
We Also Talk About:
Christina's journey, career, relationships, and challenges as a successful, ambitious woman
Societal pressures and expectations around relationships and fertility for women approaching 30
Cognitive dissonance and expectations around reaching certain milestones by a certain age
Impact of starting a business and getting sober on dating and relationships
Narratives around feeling behind or running out of time as 30 approaches
Importance of owning one's own timeline and reconciling societal narratives
Finding balance and being grateful for the present moment
Becoming the person who can attract the right partner
The impact of sobriety on gaining clarity and confidence
The decision-making styles and dynamics in relationships
The importance of normalizing and sharing experiences of egg freezing and sobriety
How Dandi Fertility’s Male Co-Founder is Transforming the Fertility Space
04 Sep 2024
00:51:08
In this episode of the Quiet Clock podcast, Beth Gulotta welcomes Jake Kent, co-founder of Dandi, to discuss authenticity, societal pressures, and self-discovery. Jake shares his journey into the fertility space, highlighting the challenges men face in expressing vulnerability and engaging in self-work. They explore the emotional impact of fertility struggles on men and the importance of creating supportive communities. Jake also explains the inspiration behind Dandi and its mission to provide support for individuals undergoing fertility treatments. The conversation emphasizes the need for both men and women to move beyond societal constructs and embrace their own timelines.
We Also Talk About:
Jake Kent's unique story coming into the fertility space as a man
Themes of authenticity and self-discovery
Societal pressures and expectations on men and women
Challenges of finding one's authentic self amidst societal constructs
Importance of self-reflection and self-awareness
Need for men to have permission and safety to engage in self-work and emotional expression
Personal experiences and perspectives on self-discovery and societal expectations
Challenges and vulnerabilities of fertility struggles, particularly from the male perspective
Emotional impact of fertility struggles on men
Inspiration behind the name "Dandi" and its connection to the fertility journey
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Creating Embryos With Your BFF: The Ultimate Friendship Pact
10 Apr 2024
00:57:11
In this episode of "Quiet the Clock," host Beth Gulotta and her guest Kelsey Darragh, creator, filmmaker, and author, dive into the emotional and medical intricacies of fertility treatments. Kelsey shared that people were (even herself) surprised by this decision because she has always been open about not wanting kids, and even while she is still unsure, she acknowledges there are changes she has made that she never imagined possible and this too may change. Or it may not, but making this choice allows her that option. Beth and Kelsey share personal stories, discussing the unexpected outcomes and the emotional toll of the process. Beth reveals her therapy experience with microdosing mushrooms before a transfer, while Kelsey talks about the stress of treatments during the pandemic. The episode also covers the challenges of medication protocols, the variability in egg retrieval results, and the supportive role of friends in decisions like sperm donation. They conclude by addressing the need for more open discussions on fertility and the hope for better fertility support in the future.
We Also Talk About:
Fertility, egg freezing, and decision-making around having children
Personal experiences with fertility and egg freezing
Importance of being proactive about fertility choices
Need for more open conversations about women's health and fertility
Journey of sobriety and its impact on fertility decisions
Importance of having a supportive and knowledgeable gynecologist
Impact of lifestyle choices on fertility
Emotional challenges and impact of stress on reproductive health
Challenges of fertility treatments during the pandemic
Involvement of partners and siblings in fertility choices
Trigger warning: this episode is about fertility and loss.
In this solo episode, Beth candidly recounts her personal struggle with IVF and the heartbreak of a recent miscarriage. She details the complexities of fertility treatments, the anxiety surrounding pregnancy scans, and the profound emotional impact of her loss.. Beth stresses the importance of self-advocacy, especially regarding comprehensive testing before IVF, and the changes she's made in nutrition and stress management to help her fertility and overall health. Beth commits to sharing her story and resources to support others facing similar challenges, highlighting the power of connection and self-care.
Key Points
Personal story of the host's journey through infertility and recent loss
Experiences with fertility treatments and embryo transfers
Emotional toll of the fertility process
Challenges faced during fertility treatments
Importance of advocating for oneself in the fertility journey
Impact of the journey on emotional well-being
Traveling for filming and managing medication schedule
Emotional reaction to miscarriage and challenges faced during the process
Lifestyle changes after miscarriage, including nutrition and stress management
Importance of support, connection, and self-advocacy in the fertility journey
Join host, Beth Gulotta and Stefanie Adler dive into the complexities of fertility, nutrition, and hormones. Stephanie shares her personal health journey and its influence on her career path. They discuss proactive fertility care, the impact of nutrition on egg quality, and the importance of individualized supplement plans. The conversation also touches on the loneliness of fertility treatments, the increasing rates of male infertility, and the risks associated with hormonal birth control, emphasizing the need for informed decision-making. Stefanie advocates for alternative fertility awareness methods and invites listeners to connect with her for more guidance. The episode aims to empower women with knowledge and support through their fertility journeys.
We Also Talk About:
Importance of proactive fertility care
Impact of nutrition on egg quality
Specific foods that support fertility
Stefanie's personal journey and expertise in fertility and nutrition
Lack of nutrition training in traditional medical education
Need for women to be proactive about their fertility
Role of antioxidants in promoting egg quality
Male infertility and its rising rates
Lack of long-term studies on hormonal birth control
Importance of being informed and seeking out resources
In this deeply personal episode, join me and my dear friend Nancy, who has been a pillar of strength and support in my motherhood journey. Nancy is the epitome of paying it forward and she does so again by joining us on Quiet the Clock and being completely open and vulnerable about her journey. Nancy's candid sharing about her love story with Albert, connecting later in life, their fertility journey prior to marriage, offers a raw, heartfelt glimpse into a journey many can relate to. Her timeline and journey is something I relate to so much because it was so similar to mine!
We bare our souls, discussing the emotional rollercoaster of fertility treatments in our late thirties, sharing the intimate decision-making process and the complexities of involving our parents, or not in this deeply personal journey. Together, we delve into the highs and lows of fertility treatments, the waiting, the heartaches, and the courageous decision to continue on facing previous disappointments. Our conversation also explores the power of friendships and the unique understanding shared among those who've walked similar paths, offering a beacon of support in times of uncertainty. Nancy’s story highlights the resilience of women and the beauty of honoring your own journey and rewriting the version we have been told.
We Also Talk About:
Discussion on societal pressures and personal challenges in late parenting.
Nancy's experience with cultural expectations in her fertility journey.
Impact of fertility challenges on relationships, particularly for women in their late thirties.
Detailed IVF treatment process, including associated emotional challenges.
Nancy's resilience in fertility treatments and her decision to consider donor eggs.
Personal stories about using donor sperm and eggs, including social stigma and bonding.
Changes in friendship dynamics due to diverging life paths and unconventional family-building.
Importance of community support in fertility journeys and a guide to egg freezing.
Emphasis on emotional support and gratitude for such relationships.
Personal fertility stories highlighting moments of hope, despair, and resilience.
In this heartfelt episode, join Beth Gulotta and Dru Sutton, Executive Producer and Strategist, as they delve into the depths of family, adoption, and the pursuit of authenticity. Dru bravely steps into the spotlight to share his own adoption journey, recently reuniting with biological relatives, revealing the raw emotions entwined with discovering one's roots. Dru had a real desire to share his story after so much time behind the camera, filming Quiet the Clock and hearing countless stories of women’s unique paths to preserving the option for motherhood, learning that they all do not look the same. He felt compelled to share the love he has for his adoptive family from the lens of the adopted child. Strongly encouraging this as an option if biological children are not an option for you.
As we journey alongside Dru, we're reminded of the profound value in vulnerability and transparency, particularly in the realm of dating and parenthood. Dru’s insights offer a poignant guide for those contemplating egg freezing, navigating age disparities in relationships, and cherishing the support of non-judgmental friends. This episode isn't just about family ties; it's a testament to the beauty found in life's unexpected twists and the transformative power of embracing our true selves. Join us for a soul-stirring exploration that promises to touch your heart and perhaps even reshape your outlook on life's profound journey.
We Also Talk About:
Dru's Personal Adoption Story: Dru shares his adoption experience from a closed adoption in New York and his connection with biological relatives through Ancestry DNA.
Impact of Adoption on Family Dynamics: Discusses the complexities of adoption, the effect on family bonds, and the emotional impact on Dru's adoptive parents.
Thanksgiving with Biological Relatives: Dru recounts his first meeting with his extended biological family during Thanksgiving and contrasts it with his sister's search for her roots in Korea.
Dating as a Single Parent: Dru talks about the challenges of dating as a single parent, emphasizing the importance of vulnerability, transparency, and considering potential partners as future step-parents.
Learning from Every Interaction: Dru reflects on the lessons learned from various personal encounters, asserting that every interaction can teach something valuable.
Guide to Egg Freezing: Provides insights and considerations for individuals considering egg freezing, encouraging listeners to seek support.
Exploring Transparency and Vulnerability in Relationships: Discusses the differences between transparency and vulnerability in relationships, advocating for genuine connections and maturity in dating.
Dru's Openness to Questions: Dru invites listeners to reach out to him with questions related to adoption, dating, and family dynamics.
Beth Gulotta welcomes guest Evan Marc Katz, a dating coach and author, to discuss the evolution of dating and relationships. Evan shares his personal journey from online dating to becoming a dating coach, highlighting the shift from traditional dating sites to the gamification of dating apps. He advocates for online dating as a tool to create opportunities but criticizes the superficiality of app-based dating. Evan’s love story illustrates the importance of being open to unexpected partners and not limiting oneself with preconceived notions. The two also address the pressures women face regarding age and fertility in the dating scene. Evan offers a free report for listeners and emphasizes the value of character and emotional connection over superficial criteria in finding a partner.
We Also Talk About:
Evolution of dating
Settling versus compromising
Prioritizing feelings and comfort in relationships
Being open to different types of people
Challenges and frustrations in the dating world
Male perspective on dating and relationships
Taking charge of love lives
Misconceptions about men in dating
Pressure of time, age, and the biological clock for women
Resources and insights for navigating modern dating
Beth Gulotta and guest Julia Mazur, host of the “Pretty Much Done” Podcast, explore the themes of self-awareness, gratitude, and personal growth, particularly in the context of relationships and societal expectations. Julia shares personal experiences and perspectives on relationships, milestones, and societal expectations. She recounts her bold decision to move to Austin, leaving behind a secure job in LA, and how this risk led to a rewarding personal transformation. They discuss the significance of being true to oneself and the positive impact it has on attracting the right people into one’s life. Julia shares Insights on being single and navigating societal pressure and timelines topics she talks about on her podcasts, “Pretty Much Done,” Julia puts a positive spin on being single!
We Also Talk About:
Personal experiences and perspectives on relationships, milestones, and societal expectations
Insights on being single and societal pressures
Challenges and resilience of single women in navigating societal expectations
Importance of self-fulfillment and staying grounded in the face of judgment and backlash
Gratitude and inspiration for each other's work in destigmatizing societal expectations
Changing attitudes towards relationships and motherhood
Strategies for self-care and finding joy in simple pleasures
Making decisions and taking risks in life
Importance of knowing oneself and being clear about needs and preferences in a relationship
Where to find the guest's podcast and engage with her on social media
Dive into a thought provoking conversation between Lloyd Dixon, CEO and Founder of theSingleGuy LLC, and Beth Gulotta, delving into the complexities of modern dating dynamics. Through his work Lloyd helps men meet the women they want and he had some interesting insights to share about how men experience dating. Join as they uncover insights on navigating the challenges posed by traditional gender roles, the intimidating aspects of dating, and the unique dynamics when pursuing successful women. Discover the allure of feminine qualities that captivate men, emphasizing the significance of respect and simplifying life. Delve into discussions on shouldering responsibilities, the time constraints individuals face, and men's desire for women to embrace their inherent femininity. This engaging dialogue provides valuable perspectives on relationships and societal expectations and gives women some insight into what men are thinking and how they are approaching dating.
We Also Talk About:
Gender roles can lead to frustration and conflict in relationships.
Both men and women can feel intimidated by each other's success.
Successful women may have a smaller dating pool due to men feeling intimidated.
Men appreciate feminine qualities such as respect, nurturing, and making their lives easier.
Guest Ali Jackson, host of Finding Mr. Height takes us through her personal journey of freezing her eggs, shedding light on the crucial importance of information.Ali opens up about her discovery of fertility testing at a conference, the surprising lack of fertility discussions with gynecologists, and her decision to embark on the egg freezing process.
The conversation unfolds to explore the challenges and uncertainties that come with egg freezing, emphasizing the significance of choosing the right fertility clinic. Ali highlights the need for open communication and support throughout this process, acknowledging the emotional and physical aspects involved. Ali shares that she is still undecided about children but is glad she went through this to preserve the option to choose.
The dialogue concludes with valuable advice on intentional dating, navigating dating burnout by adjusting the volume when necessary, and the importance of cultivating various aspects of life. This conversation serves as a comprehensive guide to egg freezing, offering essential considerations and much-needed support for individuals contemplating this significant decision.
Beth Gulotta and guest Sharni Quinn, explore Sharni's remarkable journey through life's unexpected twists. From navigating the complexities of divorce to a transformative period in Bali during the pandemic. Sharni shares her experiences, including the decision to freeze her eggs,managing burnout, pregnancy loss, healing and so much more. The episode delves into Sharni's perspective on finding peace without having children and embracing a slower, more connected life. Her story brings hope and inspiration to those that are not mothers yet or who may not be mothers.
As a dedicated coach, Sharni focuses on helping women understand their unique life blueprints and navigate similar challenges. The episode encourages listeners to connect with Sharni on Instagram and download a free checklist from her website. With a focus on redefining success, tuning out external pressures, and discovering personal fulfillment, this podcast offers valuable insights for those on a journey of self-discovery and resilience.
In this podcast episode, Beth Gulotta and Kayla Klienman, dive deep into the societal pressures and challenges women face in their 30s regarding life choices, career paths, and personal growth. Kayla created a large following on instagram tackling all the topics she felt no one was talking for people navigating their 30’s. She hits all the hot topics! Kayla reflects on her life at 34, sharing her journey of self-discovery amidst unmet expectations. As a therapist, Beth highlights the importance of aligning life choices with personal desires rather than societal timelines. They discuss the need to avoid letting biological factors dictate decisions about relationships and family planning. This conversation underscores the significance of self-reflection, living in the present, and fostering meaningful connections while navigating this transformative decade.
We Also Talk About:
Challenges faced by women in their 30s regarding life choices and societal pressures.
The impact of societal expectations on personal milestones such as marriage, career, and family.
The importance of self-discovery and evolving personal dreams.
Strategies for navigating relationships and maintaining friendships during life transitions.
The role of reflection and journaling in recognizing personal growth.
The influence of social media on self-perception and feelings of inadequacy.
Emphasizing the need to prioritize personal desires over external expectations.
The significance of being present and appreciating current life phases.
Discussions on fertility and the empowerment of making personal choices.
Encouragement to embrace uncertainty and view career paths as evolving journeys.
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Is Uncertainty About Motherhood Normal?
31 Jan 2024
00:46:51
Join actor, host, and content creator Sarah Pribis in a captivating discussion about her bold decision to freeze embryos amidst the uncertainties of motherhood. Sarah shares how she learned about options for fertility preservation through reality TV and ultimately decided to freeze embryos herself. She goes on to share that she still does not have a clear answer about motherhood for herself yet but this process has allowed her and her partner more time to get clear on that decision.
Beth and Sarah delve into the societal pressures surrounding these decisions, emphasizing the importance of surrendering to the unknown. The conversation explores the value of age and personal growth, touching on relationship dynamics and the significance of embracing diverse life paths free from societal expectations. As the episode unfolds, Sarah imparts valuable advice to approach life with curiosity, fostering an open-minded perspective over judgment. Tune in to this insightful conversation as Sarah shares how she navigates the complexities of life, fertility, and self-discovery.
We Also Talk About:
The language used to describe relationships can be confusing and may not accurately reflect the dynamics of a partnership.
Opinions and expectations from others about marriage and having children should not dictate one's own choices and happiness.
It is important to normalize different journeys and paths in life, as everyone's experiences are unique.
Approaching life with curiosity and open-mindedness can lead to unexpected and fulfilling experiences.
Embracing detours and being open to new opportunities can lead to personal growth and happiness.
Expanding perspectives and challenging narrow-mindedness can reveal a world of possibilities.
Living life on your own terms and following your own path is essential for personal fulfillment and happiness.
Beth is joined by Ilana Dunn, a Millennial and Gen Z Dating Expert, Content Creator, and host of Seeing Other People. Ilana discusses her experiences with dating, her career transition from the music industry to Hinge, and her subsequent role as a podcast host. She shares her journey of vulnerability, from keeping her dating life private to openly seeking advice from her social media followers during a breakup. Ilana talks about the importance of self-respect, open communication, and not defining oneself by relationship status or job. Beth and Ilana explore the pressures of societal expectations, the value of timing in relationships, and the significance of self-awareness. They advise listeners to prioritize well-being, practice patience, and embrace their personal dating journey.
We Also Talk About:
Ilana Dunn's personal journey and career transition
Ilana's experiences in dating, including toxic relationships and situationships
The power of vulnerability and open communication in dating
Ilana's transition from the music industry to working at Hinge
Ilana's decision to share her personal dating life on social media
Ilana's experience at Hinge and her decision to start her own podcast
The impact of societal expectations and social media on relationships
The significance of timing and readiness in relationships
Advice for navigating the challenges of modern dating
The importance of self-compassion and intentionality in dating
In episode 37 of "Quiet the Clock," host Beth is joined by Lauren Allen, a Certified Nutrition Coach, to explore the intricate relationship between fertility, health, and nutrition. Lauren, who has established herself as an authority on women's hormones and fertility, shares her personal struggle with infertility and PCOS, offering insight into the ways she conquered these obstacles through targeted dietary and lifestyle changes.
The episode dives into the science behind nutrition's role in hormonal balance and reproductive health, and Lauren offers some myth-busting facts to help listeners differentiate between common misconceptions and evidence-based practices. Lauren offers a lot of knowledge that fertility doctors might not be sharing but can be hugely impactful to your fertility health.
The episode empathetically addresses the emotional weight of fertility challenges, while focusing on practical guidance for women seeking to improve their fertility and overall well-being. Lauren generously provides a wealth of resources for listeners, and together with Beth, emphasizes the significance of open conversations and the power of community support for individuals navigating their fertility paths.
We Also Talk About:
Personal journeys with fertility, health, and nutrition
Impact of diet and lifestyle changes on fertility journey
Experience with infertility and PCOS diagnosis
Emotional and psychological challenges of fertility struggles
Importance of knowledge and control in fertility journey
Empowerment through nutrition, mindset, and holistic approaches
Understanding the impact of environment on fertility
Importance of self-care and support during fertility journeys
Resources and support for women on fertility journeys
Holiday Revisit Episode - The Emotional Experiences of Freezing with Dr. Anate Brauer
27 Dec 2023
00:20:29
During this holiday break, we invite you to revisit episode 7 of the “Quiet the Clock” podcast, host Beth Gulotta interviews Dr. Anate Brauer, a reproductive endocrinologist and fertility specialist. Dr. Brauer explains the basis of egg freezing and emphasizes the importance of understanding the process.
They discuss the importance of increasing access to knowledge about fertility and the potential impact of the fertility industry on society. They also discuss the financial barriers to accessing egg freezing and the importance of coverage for these treatments by employers.
Dr. Brauer advises patients to work with their doctor to determine if egg freezing is a good investment for them and to choose the right lab and technology when it comes to freezing eggs.
We Also Talk About:
Understanding the Natural Cycle [00:00:00] Dr. Anate Brauer explains the natural cycle of a woman’s body and how it relates to egg freezing.
Connecting with Dr. Anate Brauer [00:02:02] Beth Gulotta shares how she connected with Dr. Anate Brauer and introduces her to the podcast.
Importance of Understanding egg freezing [00:05:19] Dr. Anate Brauer emphasizes the importance of understanding the basis of egg freezing and how they work to help women make informed decisions.
The Evolution of Fertility Conversation [00:07:57] Dr. Anate Brauer discusses how the conversation around fertility has evolved into a mainstream topic from 2013 to now.
Increasing Access to Fertility Knowledge [00:09:24] Dr. Anate Brauer talks about the importance of increasing access to fertility knowledge, especially for young women, and shares her experience speaking at a college event.
Age and Egg Quality [00:13:06] Dr. Anate Brauer explains how age affects egg quality and the decline in pregnancy rates with IVF population at 34, emphasizing the importance of considering egg freezing earlier.
How many eggs do you need to freeze for a good chance of having a baby? [00:15:45] Dr. Anate Brauer explains the number of eggs needed to freeze for a good chance of having a baby based on age and shares data from her clinic.
Balancing the number of eggs to freeze with personal goals [00:17:14] Dr. Anate Brauer discusses the importance of balancing the number of eggs to freeze with personal goals and having open conversations with patients.
The challenge of advising patients on when it’s too late to freeze eggs [00:20:12] Dr. Anate Brauer shares the challenge of advising patients on when it’s too late to freeze eggs and the potential harm of misleading patients with low success rates.
Concerns about the fertility industry [00:23:53] Dr. Anate Brauer discusses the potential for the fertility industry to change society and the responsibility that comes with it.
Rules and lifestyle during egg freezing [00:26:09] Dr. Anate Brauer talks about the different beliefs and convictions in the industry regarding lifestyle choices during egg freezing, including diet, alcohol, caffeine, and exercise.
Finances and coverage for egg freezing [00:30:04] Dr. Anate Brauer discusses the financial barriers to egg freezing and the increasing options for coverage, including employer benefits and third-party fertility benefits.
Financing and Egg Freezing Programs [00:31:56-00:35:37] Dr. Anate Brauer discusses financing and egg freezing programs, including the Ashore program and shared risk program, as well as programs for female physicians and cancer patients.
Importance of Freezing Eggs for Cancer Patients [00:37:31-00:38:19] Dr. Anate Brauer emphasizes the importance of freezing eggs for cancer patients undergoing chemo, and the need for more education on the topic.
Egg Freezing Abroad [00:38:41-00:39:43] Dr. Anate Brauer shares her thoughts on egg freezing abroad due to cost, and mentions her involvement in a musical about egg freezing.
The Importance of Choosing the Right Lab [00:39:43] Dr. Anate Brauer emphasizes the importance of choosing the right lab for egg freezing and warns against choosing a lab solely based on cost. She also discusses the importance of finding a lab with thaw data and the risks of freezing eggs internationally.
Accepting Eggs from Other Centers [00:41:49] Dr. Anate Brauer discusses the process of accepting eggs from other centers and the rigorous risk management process that SGF has in place. She also explains the reason why most labs in the US will not accept eggs coming from outside the US.
Freezing Eggs Internationally [00:43:19] Dr. Anate Brauer advises against freezing eggs internationally due to the risks involved in transporting them and the importance of ensuring the technology is sound. She emphasizes the need to be able to thaw the eggs and make babies from them in the US.
How to Be Thirty and Actually Thrive According to a Turning 30 Coach
13 Dec 2023
00:38:54
In episode 35 of Quiet the Clock, Emma Wilson, the Turning 30 Coach, joins the show. Beth and Emma discuss societal pressures and expectations that surround women who turn 30. They discuss navigating dating, motherhood,egg-freezing, societal pressures, and timelines. Emma shares how she helps her clients to feel more confident, embrace their unique journey, and get unstuck in all areas of life from careers, dating, friendships, finances, lifestyle, and more.
Emma shares her own journey of entering and navigating her 30s and how she found life coaching as a support, eventually becoming one herself. Emma specializes in helping women embrace this incredible decade free of expectation and pressure. She helps women reframe this decade as a time for growth not judgment and comparison. They discuss the importance of shifting mindset, accepting one's unique journey, and differentiating between societal expectations and personal desires.
During this episode they discuss finding love when you least expect it, the value of self-awareness, and the importance of community and connection.
We Also Talk About:
Navigating Societal Pressures [00:00:00] Discussion on the societal pressures and expectations surrounding turning 30, challenging societal timelines.
Uncertainty in Dating, Motherhood, and Egg Freezing [00:00:32] Exploration of navigating uncertainty in dating, motherhood, and egg freezing, feeling limited by time to build the desired partnership, marriage, and family.
Emma's Journey and Becoming a Life Coach [00:02:31] Emma shares her personal journey, including her turning 30 crisis, leaving her law career, discovering coaching and therapy, and becoming a life coach specializing in helping women in their 30s.
Shifting out of societal pressure [00:09:52] Helping women embrace their journey and accept where they are, moving out of waiting and living their lives now.
Acceptance and self-discovery [00:10:44] Encouraging clients to accept their current situation, explore their emotions, and build a strong foundation before pursuing new milestones.
Letting go of time and pressure [00:15:24] Slowing down, embracing gratitude, and being open to different paths, leading to a greater sense of happiness and fulfillment.
The belief in meeting someone when least expected [00:19:09] Discussion on the annoyance of societal narratives about meeting someone when least expected and the quickness of meeting a partner after letting go of pressure.
The impact of freezing eggs on mindset [00:20:00] Conversation about how freezing eggs opened up the speaker to a mindset shift, letting go of the rush and pressure to find a partner.
Challenging the need for instant butterflies [00:21:30] Exploration of the expectation for instant butterflies in relationships and the realization that building a solid foundation on friendship can lead to a fulfilling partnership.
Egg freezing journey and advocacy [00:28:10] Emma discusses her own experience with egg freezing and her advocacy for challenging societal timelines and the fear surrounding fertility decline.
The impact of stress and lifestyle on fertility [00:31:46] Emma shares how her fertility levels actually improved over time due to decreased stress and changes in her diet, challenging the notion of a fertility cliff at a certain age.
Normalizing different timelines and sharing personal stories [00:35:43] Beth praises Emma's work in normalizing different paths and timelines, and the power of sharing personal stories to create a safe space for women to embrace their own journeys.
Emma's community and connection [00:37:44] Emma discusses the importance of cultivating a community and connection, and the significance of normalizing experiences.
Thanking Emma for her time [00:38:02] Beth expresses gratitude to Emma for joining her in the episode.
Promoting Emma and the podcast [00:38:04] Beth encourages listeners to check out Emma, the Turning 30 Coach, on Instagram and promotes future episodes. She also mentions a free guide on handling differing timelines with a partner.
Overcoming Love Addiction: A Journey of Self-Discovery with Jackie Simek
06 Dec 2023
00:28:16
In the 34th episode of Quiet The Clock, the focus shifts to dating and the road to recovery from love addiction. Jackie Simek, Mindset and Leadership Coach candidly shares her personal journey, emphasizing the importance of owning one's experiences and challenging societal timelines for partnership, marriage, and motherhood.
Jackie discusses her path to recovery from love addiction, highlighting the benefits of taking a break from dating to gain clarity and self-empowerment. She opens up about her struggles with accepting the addict label and how love addiction affected her past relationships.
The conversation underscores the significance of self-reflection and taking charge of one's choices in relationships. Jackie's story serves as inspiration for those on similar journeys.
Key Points:
The importance of taking a break from dating [00:07:08] Jackie discusses the benefits of taking a break from dating and seeking validation from men in order to gain clarity and personal power.
Working through the steps of recovery [00:08:09] Jackie talks about her struggle with accepting the label of being an addict and her progress in working through the steps of recovery.
The journey of addiction recovery [00:08:56] Jackie shares her personal experience with love addiction and how it led her to join a recovery program.
Understanding attachment styles [00:10:41] Jackie and Beth discuss attachment styles and how they can impact relationships and dating.
Dating with self-awareness and intention [00:13:14] Jackie talks about her dating experiences after going through the recovery program and how she approaches dating with self-awareness and a different mindset.
The journey of dating and recovery [00:17:40] Jackie shares her experience with love addiction and how it led her to join a recovery program.
Different dating experiences [00:18:23] Jackie discusses how her dating experiences in New York were formulaic, while her current relationship progressed differently.
Recognizing the need to end the relationship [00:19:31] Jackie talks about realizing that her current partner wasn't the right person for her and making the decision to end the relationship.
In the 33th episode of "Quiet the Clock," we are joined by Jackie, a Mindset & Leadership Coach. To hear her remarkable journey of egg freezing at the age of 41. Jackie's decision to freeze her eggs without a partner is a poignant story filled with challenges and personal growth.
They explore the societal pressures that often weigh on women, urging them to build partnerships, marry, and start families within predefined time frames. Jackie's courageous decision to defy these timelines is a testament to the importance of challenging societal norms.
This episode sheds light on the hurdles women face when pursuing fertility options in their 40s and the discouragement they may encounter from fertility clinics. They emphasize the significance of sharing personal stories, offering inspiration, and fostering hope.
We Also Talk About:
The decision to freeze eggs at age 41 [00:00:00] Jackie discusses the risks and heartbreak associated with freezing eggs at an older age.
Connecting with Beth Gulotta and sharing egg freezing journeys [00:01:56] Jackie and Beth discuss how they connected through a shared article on egg freezing and the importance of sharing personal stories.
The importance of considering egg freezing at a younger age [00:06:10] Jackie emphasizes the importance of considering egg freezing at a younger age to minimize the risks and heartbreak associated with fertility issues later in life.
The psychic reassurance [00:08:47] Discussion about seeking reassurance from a psychic about becoming a mother.
Importance of external messaging [00:09:40] Exploring the impact of external messaging on our beliefs and choices.
Jackie's egg freezing journey [00:10:27] Jackie shares her atypical egg freezing journey, including challenges and medical issues.
The hematoma scare [00:18:22] Jackie experiences a hematoma scare and the impact it has on her health and fertility journey.
The cyst discovery [00:21:26] Jackie's doctor discovers a cyst during her egg freezing process, leading to a delay in starting the injections.
The cyst disappearance and meeting someone new [00:24:44] The cyst disappears, allowing Jackie to continue her egg freezing journey, and she meets someone new in her life.
The importance of mindset and narratives [00:28:11] Discussion on the power of mindset and narratives in shaping one's experience and the need to shift negative narratives.
The decision to continue with the egg freezing process [00:31:06] Jackie's decision to continue with the egg freezing process despite setbacks and doubts, and the faith she had in the outcome.
The impact of diet on fertility and overall health [00:34:42] Stephanie's guidance on the importance of diet for fertility, including the need to adjust the ratios of fats, carbs, and proteins, and the benefits Jackie experienced from following the recommended diet.
The importance of fertility knowledge [00:37:57] Discussion on the importance of understanding fertility and tangible tools to help improve fertility.
Taking care of your body and environment [00:38:11] Tips on avoiding endocrine disruptors and using natural products to improve fertility.
Recovery and hope after egg retrieval [00:39:33] Discussion on the emotional journey of egg freezing and the importance of sharing personal stories to inspire hope.
The Milestone Myth: Discovering Your Own Definition of Success
22 Nov 2023
00:43:04
In episode 32 of "Quiet the Clock" podcast, we are joined by Kate Semeniuk, a RTT Therapist and Certified Hypnotherapist to discuss societal timelines and pressures that often don’t coincide with the pursuit of individual happiness. Through their discussion we learn that often, it can create unhappiness, comparison and self-judgment.
Kate and Beth discuss the relentless pressure women face to conform to predefined life milestones and the detrimental effects of comparing one's journey to others'. Kate brings forth invaluable tools and techniques to break free from this comparison trap, helping listeners discover their genuine desires and values.
The conversation takes a deeper dive into the realm of subconscious beliefs and the pivotal role of hypnotherapy in unraveling the mysteries of these deeply ingrained notions. They both explore the fears of missing out, making mistakes, and facing solitude while on a quest for happiness. As well as delve into topics around the corrosive effects of blame, guilt, and shame, shedding light on the importance of self-reflection and positive self-talk. “
The episode wraps up with Kate generously sharing two powerful tools aimed at boosting self-confidence and altering negative narratives – a voice recording exercise and an NLP practice.
We Also Talk About:
The pressure of meeting societal milestones [00:02:32] Kate and Beth discuss the societal pressure to meet milestones and how it can affect happiness and fulfillment.
Comparison and idealization on social media [00:07:26] They talk about the tendency to compare ourselves to others, especially on social media, and how it can lead to feelings of sadness and depression.
Getting clear on personal desires and values [00:09:34] Kate shares techniques to help people get clear on what they truly want, separate from societal expectations and comparisons.
The importance of questioning deep-rooted beliefs [00:13:28] Exploring the role of hypnotherapy in accessing and shifting core beliefs that are resistant to change.
Understanding blame and shifting out of it [00:17:57]
Examining how blame, guilt, and shame are socially imposed feelings and discussing techniques to help clients release them.
Embracing the present and letting go of guilt [00:21:35] Encouraging gratitude for the present moment and understanding that past decisions were made with the knowledge and understanding available at that time.
The importance of self-love and self-care [00:24:40] Kate talks about the importance of loving and taking care of oneself, including leaving messages from one's happy self and using tools to shift out of sadness or doubt.
Discovering one's true desires and values [00:25:38] Kate discusses how many women are influenced by societal expectations and feel pressure to conform to certain milestones, but emphasizes the importance of finding one's true nature and what brings them joy.
Shifting mindset and embracing uncertainty [00:28:30] Beth and Kate discuss the need to differentiate between internal desires and external messaging, and how releasing expectations and embracing curiosity can lead to a more fulfilling vision and journey in life.
Loving all parts of you [00:38:57] Kate discusses the importance of accepting and loving all parts of oneself, including one's voice, and shares an exercise to record and listen to one's own voice as a way to boost confidence and self-acceptance
NLP practice for shifting negative scenarios [00:41:14] Kate explains a decades-old NLP practice to replace negative scenarios with positive outcomes by visualizing and repeating a happy scenario in one's mind.
Closing remarks and promotion of Kate's guide [00:42:43] Beth thanks Kate for her insights and encourages listeners to subscribe to the podcast. She also promotes Kate's guide, "Balancing the Biological Clock," which offers expert advice on navigating differing timelines in relationships.
Emotional Availability - Could This Be The Key We Are Looking For?
15 Nov 2023
00:49:23
In Episode 31 of Quiet The Clock, we are joined by Julie Newman and Lauren Milo to discuss the intricacies of modern dating, relationships, and the societal pressures that accompany women in this process. The conversation delves into various facets of modern dating, touching on subjects like the burden of responsibility placed on women, the exclusion of men from empathetic conversations, and the disappointment in the lack of accountability for men while dating.
The conversation also explores the importance of clear communication in relationships, the potential dangers of reinforcing anxious attachment styles, and the often-overlooked art of courting in today's dating landscape. Lauren & Julie share valuable insights and perspectives that challenge societal norms while encouraging women to seek self-discovery and make meaningful connections.
We Also Talk About:
The burden of responsibility on women [00:02:54] the burden of responsibility placed on women in the dating world and society, particularly regarding fertility and motherhood. Can we identify who is saying the key points?
Excluding men from empathetic conversations [00:04:11] Lauren & Julie express frustration about the lack of inclusion of men in conversations about empathy and societal expectations, relating to dating and relationships.
Disappointment in men not being held accountable [00:07:30] Lauren & Julie express disappointment in the lack of accountability for men and the missed opportunity for John Berger to address and teach men the same skills women are expected to know.
The value of clear communication [00:08:35] Discussing the importance of clear communication in relationships and the idea of giving men the green light to take the lead.
The potential dangers of reinforcing anxious attachment styles [00:09:08] Exploring the potential negative effects of encouraging anxiously attached women to initiate and make moves in relationships.
The lost art of courting [00:10:44] Highlighting the fun and importance of courting in modern dating and sharing personal experiences of successful courting.
Topic 1: Building intimacy and feeling safe on a first date [00:15:17] Discussion on the importance of creating small moments of intimacy and feeling safe on a first date, and the need to prioritize personal safety.
Topic 2: Taking responsibility for our own emotional safety [00:16:45] Exploring the idea that it is our responsibility to do our own work and feel safe, rather than relying on others to make us feel safe.
Topic 3: Lack of emotional availability in the dating pool [00:19:27] Discussion on encountering emotionally unavailable men in the dating world, and the need for men to have resources and promote personal growth in emotional competence.
Reviewing Dating History [00:23:40] Lauren & Julie discuss the importance of reviewing past relationships through the lens of personal growth and change.
Preparing to Reconnect with an Ex [00:24:46] Highlighting the need for personal healing and growth before considering getting back with a former partner.
Dating Younger [00:27:07] Exploring the idea of prioritizing dating in one's 20s and the challenges of dating in later years.
The frustration of college-educated women [00:30:23] Discussion about the catch-22 faced by college-educated women in terms of education versus finding a partner.
The defining decade and societal narratives [00:31:30] Exploration of the book "The Defining Decade" and how societal narratives about time and dreams can create insecurity for college students.
The age factor in dating [00:33:07] Conversation about a theory that there is a specific age range (around 28 to 31) where men may not be interested in marriage or a steady relationship.
Dating apps as a convenient tool [00:37:34] Discussion on the convenience and benefits of using dating apps to meet new people.
The importance of mindset in using dating apps [00:38:28] Exploring the mindset and approach one should have when using dating apps for better success.
Creating secondary vulnerability in dating [00:40:14] Encouraging the use of deliberate stories or sharing comfortable aspects of oneself to establish connection and avoid oversharing on first dates.
The pressure of finding a partner [00:45:04] Lauren & Julie discuss how women feel pressure to find a partner before undergoing egg freezing and how this pressure affects their dating experiences.
Self-worth and relationships [00:45:43] Lauren emphasizes that self-worth should not be defined by the partner one has and that a good partner enhances, but does not define, one's identity.
Dating and the fear of rejection [00:46:22] Lauren & Julie talk about the fear of rejection and hurt in dating and how it affects people's willingness to try new things and pursue relationships.
Breaking Free From Societal Pressures And Welcoming Your Thirties On Your Terms
08 Nov 2023
00:31:07
In Episode 30 of "Quiet The Clock," we are joined by therapists Jessi and Lauren to discuss the unique challenges and societal expectations for women at age 30, along with the pressure many women face concerning marriage, motherhood, and fertility.
Jessi and Lauren openly share how they plan to approach this decade as they newly enter their 30’s and how they are doing it on their own terms and their own desires.
Their conversation focuses on embracing uncertainty, shifting personal mindsets and the potential importance of egg freezing. They highlight the importance of getting really clear and grounded in what you want and when so that you don’t feel the pressure of external voices or expectations.
Their conversation is a deep dive into the burden of responsibility placed on women, fertility health, and the role of partners in modern dating. Jessi and Lauren offer incredible advice on how to hold space for all the things you are feeling and how to get comfortable with the unknowns and your own anxieties as you navigate your 30’s.
We Also Talk About:
Approaching the age of 30 and societal expectations [00:02:07] The guests discuss how they are approaching turning 30 and the societal expectations around marriage, motherhood, and fertility.
Navigating uncertainty and redefining timelines [00:02:43] One of the guests shares her uncertainty about motherhood and her decision to consider freezing her eggs. They discuss letting go of societal timelines and redefining their own paths.
Shifting mindset and embracing the unknown [00:08:33] Both guests share their shift in mindset, embracing the unknown, and focusing on their own journeys rather than conforming to societal expectations. They talk about prioritizing other aspects of their lives, such as career and personal growth, over motherhood at the moment.
Approaching 30 and societal expectations [00:09:29] Discussion on the pressure and challenges women face when approaching their 30s and feeling the need to meet societal expectations.
Staying in a positive mindset [00:10:19] The importance of staying positive and not comparing oneself to others on social media, and how to focus on one's own feelings and desires.
Embracing uncertainty and finding joy [00:12:26] The mindset of embracing uncertainty and finding joy in one's own journey, even if certain milestones like marriage and motherhood are not yet achieved.
Navigating Uncertainty in Relationships [00:17:26] Discussion about embracing uncertainty in relationships and the importance of conscious decision-making in timelines.
The Burden of Responsibility on Women [00:18:23] Exploration of the pressure on women to think about fertility health and the role of partners in conversations about fertility.
The Impact of External Expectations [00:19:11] Reflection on the external pressures and expectations around marriage, engagement, and having children, and the need to set boundaries.
The pressure to conform to societal timelines [00:26:27] Discussion on staying in a relationship for the sake of the partner's desires and societal expectations.
Pausing and reflecting on personal desires [00:26:54] Importance of taking moments to pause and question one's motivations and alignment with personal values.
Embracing uncertainty and the unknown [00:29:23] Encouragement to embrace discomfort and anxiety as indicators of strong desires, and to trust the timing of life's unfolding.
Navigating Societal Pressures on Career Fertility Timelines
21 Aug 2024
01:01:42
In this episode of "Quiet the Clock," Beth Gulotta speaks with Torkia Mahloul the co-founder of Ovasave, a company bridging the gap of information and services in fertility in the UAE. Torkia shares about her career shift from banking to tech and how personal fertility journey sparked her entrepreneurial spirit and the eventual creation of Ovasave. Torkia shares her experiences with egg freezing, highlighting the emotional, social, and financial challenges involved. They discuss societal pressures on women regarding career and fertility, and the lack of adequate support and information in the healthcare system. Torkia also introduces her company, Ovasave, which aims to improve access to fertility care and education. The conversation underscores the need for better support systems and proactive approaches to women's reproductive health.
We Also Talk About:
Career journey and transitions
Fertility struggles and egg freezing
Societal norms and expectations around career and fertility
Challenges faced by women in navigating fertility journey
Emotional and practical aspects of undergoing multiple rounds of egg freezing
Differences in fertility treatments between countries
Financial considerations and out-of-pocket expenses for fertility treatments
Lack of insurance coverage for fertility care
Starting a company to increase awareness and access to fertility care
Advocating for knowledge and empowerment in fertility journey
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Breaking the Stigma: Nicole's Egg Freezing Journey and the Power of Sharing
01 Nov 2023
00:40:48
In the 29th episode of "Quiet the Clock," we sit down with Nicole, an Intuitive Eating Dietitian, about her egg freezing journey, her hesitation to initially share publicly, how a breakup in her 30’s changed her timeline and how tuning into what you actually want is so important.
Nicole candidly delves into these initial reservations about egg freezing and her ultimate decision to share her experiences on social media, aiming to break the stigma surrounding this topic.
The episode goes beyond personal narratives to explore the broader landscape of sharing experiences and normalizing discussions about egg freezing. It sheds light on the challenges faced by single women in the realm of dating while undergoing the egg-freezing process. Nicole also shares how she has shifted to date more intentionally and how that has changed her experience with dating in amazing ways!
Additionally, this episode addresses the profound fears and uncertainties surrounding relationships and motherhood. Join the conversation as "Quiet the Clock" continues to reshape societal norms and foster a supportive community for women facing similar choices in this eye-opening episode.
We Also Talk About:
The decision to freeze eggs [00:06:31] Nicole shares her decision process and the reasons behind her choice to freeze her eggs.
Receiving recommendations from gynecologists [00:07:07] Nicole discusses how she felt when her gynecologist and friend recommended egg freezing and reflects on the different reactions women may have to such suggestions.
Lack of information and discussions surrounding egg freezing [00:08:07] Nicole expresses her desire for more information and discussions about the biological and physiological aspects of egg freezing when she initially considered the option.
The fear of injections [00:09:30] Discussion about the fear of injections during the egg freezing process and the personal experiences of the speakers.
Not being ready for egg freezing [00:11:15] The guest shares her reasons for not rushing to freeze her eggs, including not being ready for marriage and children.
Lack of information and urgency [00:12:38] The speakers discuss the lack of information given to them about egg freezing and the need for more informative conversations about fertility options.
The shift from clinical to personal connection [00:17:39] Nicole discusses how her perspective on the egg freezing process shifted from being clinical and detached to having a personal connection and understanding the potential future implications.
Financial considerations and promotional offer [00:18:34] Nicole mentions the financial aspect of egg freezing and shares information about a promotional offer at Extend, where participants can receive $1000 off a cycle if they sign up before September 29th.
The decision to freeze eggs at 37 [00:20:23] Nicole reflects on her decision to freeze her eggs at the age of 37 and the significance of her grandmother having her mother at the same age. She also mentions the financial responsibility of her growing business as a factor in her decision-making process.
The shift to hyper independence [00:26:16] Beth discusses her transition into a hyper-independent mindset after ending a five-year relationship.
Daydreaming about singlehood [00:27:01] Moments of daydreaming and idealizing singlehood, and the grief that can come from missing the single version of oneself.
Challenging societal narratives about timing [00:29:27] Discussion around the societal pressure to be in a relationship or married at a certain point in life, and the importance of challenging these narratives and embracing one's own timing.
The fear of kids ruining the relationship [00:35:43] Beth expresses her fear of kids ruining the relationship and the uncertainty she feels about marriage and children.
The uncertainty of committing to a lifelong partnership [00:37:37] Beth discusses her doubts about being 100% sure about committing to spending the rest of her life with someone.
Dating with intention and expressing needs [00:38:27] Beth talks about how she has shifted her dating approach to be more intentional and vulnerable, expressing her needs and deal breakers.
The Power of Choice: Siobhan's Path to Egg Freezing and Personal Growth
25 Oct 2023
00:39:23
In episode 28 of Quiet the Clock, Siobhan joins Beth to talk about her journey through her 30s and her decision to freeze her eggs. Siobhan shares what a transformative time it was in her life as she navigated other health issues and freezing her eggs at the same time. Siobhan shares that her decision to freeze was influenced by a very clear desire to be a mother and wanting to preserve her option to do that as she continues to date and meet a partner.
They examine the pressure to settle down, and the ticking clock of fertility on women, as well as the imbalance of the burden placed on women versus men. She shares her experiences with fertility testing, the emotional and financial aspects of egg freezing, and dating. Siobhan also shares her clarity on what is important to her and realizing a goal of buying a house in Florida and being closer to her family.
How to define your own happiness: Defying society's expectations and embracing your own path with Jen Morilla
18 Oct 2023
00:38:48
In episode 27 of Quiet the Clock Beth interviews Jennifer Morilla, Digital marketing Consultant, business owner, and travel blogger, who shares her journey of breaking free from societal expectations and finding fulfillment in her own unique path.
She discusses her experiences as a travel blogger, her transition to owning a marketing education platform, and the transformative power of solo travel.
Jennifer also opens up about her personal struggles with grief, loss and mental health. She shares her experiences with dating and relationships, and her decision to freeze her eggs. Throughout the episode, Jen emphasizes the importance of challenging societal timelines and finding happiness in your own journey.
We Also Talk About:
Jennifer's Journey [00:02:21] Jennifer talks about her journey from being a travel blogger to owning a marketing education platform.
Breaking Societal Expectations [00:05:19] Jennifer and Beth discuss the pressure to conform to societal timelines and the importance of redefining success.
The Pivotal Moment [00:09:25] Jennifer shares the pivotal moment when her father's friend convinced him to let her study abroad, changing the course of her life.
The journey of self-discovery and loss [00:09:47] Jennifer discusses her personal journey of self-discovery and the loss of her younger brother during her senior year of college.
Finding solace in Spain [00:10:49] Jennifer shares her experience of spending a month in Spain after graduation, where she struggled with depression but found solace in the kindness of the people she met.
The struggle between societal expectations and personal happiness [00:13:28] Jennifer reflects on her return to a corporate job after grad school and the unhappiness she felt, highlighting the conflict between societal expectations and finding true happiness.
The struggle of being an independent woman [00:18:54] Jennifer Marilla talks about her experiences with men who find her intimidating and struggle with her independence.
The issue of intimidation and insecurity in relationships [00:19:35] Beth Galata discusses the recurring themes of intimidation and insecurity in relationships and wonders why men are behaving this way.
Timing and readiness in relationships [00:24:00] Jennifer Marilla and Beth Galata emphasize the importance of timing and readiness when it comes to finding a compatible partner.
The journey of self-discovery [00:27:39] The speakers discuss the importance of not getting stuck in comparison, shifting narratives, and honoring one's own timing and value.
Recognizing patterns in relationships [00:28:17] They talk about how the speaker had the realization that she had been dating the same type of person and how this new awareness has already brought about positive changes.
The experience of egg freezing [00:29:41] They discuss the impersonal nature of the egg freezing process and the speaker shares her own experience, including the emotional and physical toll it took on her.
The Come to Jesus Moment [00:36:32] Jennifer Marilla reflects on a pivotal moment in her life and the realization that there is no turning back.
Do It Younger [00:36:54] Jennifer Marilla encourages the audience to pursue their goals at a younger age.
Questioning Your Why [00:37:06] Jennifer Marilla advises the audience to question their motives and make sure their actions align with their true desires.
Navigating the Emotional Rollercoaster of Egg Freezing: Ari's Story
04 Oct 2023
00:30:46
In episode 26 of Quiet the Clock, Ariana White returns to share with us her journey of egg freezing. She candidly talks about the challenges and surprises she experienced as she navigated this process. Ari shares how she balanced her day-to-day emotions while going through egg freezing, which included a baby shower on her retrieval day and sonogram pictures from a friend on the same day she got less-than-ideal news from the clinic.
Ari expressed her strong desire for motherhood, despite her journey's challenges. As well as the significance of discussing fertility more often while seeking information beyond doctor visits. Ari emphasizes the support she received from her family and friends, as well as her positive experience with the medical team at NYU Langone.
In the conversation, Ari shares more about her decision to postpone before undergoing another round of egg retrieval and her unwavering determination to realize her dream of motherhood regardless of the challenges this process presents, emotionally, financially, and physically.
Quotes:
00:06:53 “All these narratives come up and a lot of the guests from season one that had been through the egg-freezing process before where they didn't get like an ideal amount of numbers. It's this self-blame piece that comes in like, What did I do wrong? What could I have done differently? My body failed me, my body is broken and it's so it's so real.”
00:29:39 - “I have a lot of friends in my 30s. And so now I kind of have like started the charge of like everyone wanting to go and like look into these things and figure it out, you know, and figure out how they want to become a parent. What path if it's adoption, fostering, having a donor like a single parent, whatever it is? Like we're all having this conversation now because time waits for no one.”
00:22:40 - “It speaks to who you are as a friend to just show up and be there and still want to be there (at that baby shower), even though, you know, you didn’t get great news with what you were going through.”
Key Points:
The journey begins [00:02:18]
Ari shares her expectations and challenges of the egg-freezing process, including timing issues and anxiety.
Disappointing results [00:04:46]
Ari learns only five follicles are developing instead of the expected ten, leading to disappointment and questions about her body.
Self-blame and support [00:06:53]
Discussion about self-blame following unsatisfactory egg results and the importance of a support system throughout the process.
The ultrasound experience [00:09:29]
Ari describes her reassuring interactions with the ultrasound technician during her egg-freezing journey.
Taking a break and doing research [00:12:04]
Ari explains her choice to pause after the first round, resetting and researching before proceeding.
Confronting the duality of emotions [00:15:37]
Ari shares dealing with a friend's pregnancy news while navigating her fertility struggles and differing timelines.
The baby shower and retrieval conflict [00:18:45]
Discussion of balancing life and the challenge of her baby shower coinciding with her egg retrieval.
The determination to attend the baby shower [00:19:21]
Ari's determination to attend the baby shower after the retrieval, not wanting to miss the important moment.
The decision to add embryo freezing [00:23:16]
Ari's choice, after consultation with her partner, to incorporate embryo freezing, providing additional peace of mind and conception options.
Ari's determination to become a mother [00:28:05]
Ari's expression of her strong desire for embryos and motherhood, despite her journey's challenges.
Importance of having conversations about fertility [00:28:43]
Beth emphasizes the significance of discussing fertility and seeking information beyond doctor visits.
Paying it forward and supporting other women [00:29:54]
Discussion between Beth and Ari about sharing experiences and knowledge to support women in their fertility journeys.
To App or Not to App: Navigating the World of Online Dating with Lindsey Metselaar
27 Sep 2023
00:30:01
In episode 25 of "Quiet the Clock," Lindsey Metselaar, host of "We Met at Acme," talks about the challenges of modern dating, especially for women in their mid-30s to early 40s who are considering freezing their eggs.
Beth and Lindsey discuss the pressure women feel from societal timelines, the idea of being curious while dating, and the struggle to find the right balance between being bold and not being too forward in making the first move.
They tackle the idea that strong successful women can’t meet anyone because men are intimidated by a woman’s success. Lindsey has a mic drop moment when she boldly states that, “boys are intimidated not men.”
In episode 24 of Quiet The Clock, Jon Birger, a former senior writer at Fortune and Money Magazine and author of two popular dating books, “Datonomics” and Make Your Move.” explains the drawbacks of online dating apps. He discusses how these apps prioritize advertising and membership fees over long-term relationships and suggests reading and analyzing the annual reports of these companies to understand their true intentions.
The conversation emphasizes the importance of in-person social connection in dating, highlighting that meeting people in person allows for a better understanding of who they are and if you would be compatible as a couple. Beth and Jon encourage listeners to consider alternative approaches to dating and prioritize meaningful connections over superficial criteria when meeting new people.
They also explore topics like mixed-color dating and the misconception about education and perceived worth in a dating context.
Quotes:
John Berger, 00:04:26, "Read the annual reports from these dating apps, read what they're telling their own shareholders, and then decide for yourself if you think that this is right for you."
John Berger, 00:17:05, "We as humans need to believe, and think, and know that maybe there was something magical involved, maybe there was fate, maybe it was meant to be, and there's no fate or not meant to be if you're sorting through 30 dating profiles on Hinge."
John Berger, 00:23:31, "I just think about it, it's crass. Because we now view who we're supposed to end up with as a shopping experience, and as we know from Amazon, if you don't like what you buy, you can probably return it within 30 days. It's become a very transactional experience. I don't think online dating is helpful because it turns dating into shopping."
Key Points:
[00:02:04] There are negative aspects of online dating apps, including the financial interests of the companies behind them.
[00:07:50] There is such significance of having a social connection with someone before going on a date, as it leads to greater accountability and a different dating experience.
[00:08:24] Meeting people in person allows you to learn more through body language and conversation.
[00:10:36] Online dating apps are hindering genuine connections and preventing people from truly getting to know each other.
[00:10:59] Meeting people in person, without the pressure of dating, allows for a more authentic connection and a better understanding of who they are as individuals.
[00:15:55] Origin stories, such as how couples met, play a crucial role in creating a sense of destiny and belief in the relationship's potential.
[00:20:55] There are many limitations of online dating, including the inability to see someone's true character and the curated nature of dating app profiles.
[00:21:43] Explore being open to dating people from different racial backgrounds and don’t make assumptions based on societal expectations.
[00:25:00] A college degree does not determine someone's worth, we need to also share the value of individuals in blue-collar professions.
In episode 23 of Quiet The Clock, Jon Birger, a former senior writer at Fortune and Money Magazine, discusses his book "Date-onomics: How Dating Became a Lopsided Numbers Game," which explores the dating challenges faced by women in major cities today.
Jon reveals that the dating imbalance in these cities is caused by higher percentages of women graduating from college than men. Jon also shares other demographic trends that lead to many women who are eligible and ready for long-term partnerships, struggling to find anyone to settle down with.
Beth and Jon also discuss societal changes, like the #MeToo movement, and how that has impacted the way that current dating occurs and women’s role in the process of beginning courtship.
They explore the advantage women have when they are willing to make the first move in dating and discuss the inspiration that led him to write, "Make Your Move," which empowers women to be assertive in their dating lives. Jon shares that research shows a large percentage of men want women to make the first move!
Quotes:
“Because of the #MeToo movement, rightfully, men are more cautious now about making the first move.”
“I think if you look at the dating books that have been most popular over the past 20 years, books like “The Rules and All of its Followers”, the message of those books was telling women that the message they want to send to men is that “not interested” means keep trying.” - Jon
“I use that line on the on the lecture circuit, men like women who like them there's like men nodding in unison, women looking at me like I'm crazy because they women have been socialized to think that the way you get a guy to like you is by playing hard to get” - Jon
“Guys can be oblivious. If you've already identified a guy who you think might be right for you, you should go for it. Because if you're waiting for him to notice, he might not.” - Jon
Key Points:
[00:05:49] The lopsided sex ratios in the post-college dating markets are influenced by the dating culture.
[00:07:07] Discussion of how the author's second book “Make Your Move” was prompted by the many questions he received asking for solutions after reading "Date-onomics."
[00:08:16] Women need to be more assertive and proactive in dating, considering the imbalance in sex ratios and the impact of the #MeToo movement.
[00:14:26] Discussing the advantage women have when they are willing to make the first move in dating.
[00:24:31] Research shows that both men and women struggle to recognize when they are being flirted with.
[00:24:31] There are many reasons women often hesitate to make the first move, including societal narratives and fear of rejection.
Advocating For Yourself: LaToya's Inspiring Story of Cancer, Fertility, and Movement Therapy
06 Sep 2023
00:26:06
In episode 22 of Quiet the Clock, LaToya Olson shares her journey of being diagnosed with stage four rectal colon cancer at a young age, and taking on the role of guardian for her younger siblings after the loss of her mother. Almost overnight everything changes for LaToya as she is uprooted from her life in NYC.
She candidly discusses her challenges and the shock of receiving the cancer diagnosis. LaToya also shares her frustrations with the lack of information about preserving fertility options and her struggles with fertility after cancer.
Join Beth and LaToya as they emphasize the importance of being in a good place physically, mentally, and emotionally before pursuing fertility treatments. They discuss the need for advocacy and healing and tuning into who knows yourself the best, you. LaToya's journey took some unexpected turns but she is stronger than ever and has found a passion for dance and movement therapy and plans to start her own business to help others heal.
Quotes:
“So when you're already scared when you've already been told that you have stage four cancer and they're like, well, if you want to freeze your eggs, you're going to die. Well, what are you going to do?” - LaToya
“There's no right rhythm. It's just like said, when we move, we improve. And I think it's important that we connect with our body and our mind.”
“Moving is connecting with the body and it's also releasing trauma. And I think more people need to realize that. There's no right or wrong way when you move.” - LaToya
“You need to be healthy to have your body support you. You have to be sleeping well. You have to be doing all these things to get you for this fertility to work.” - LaToya
Key Points:
[00:00:00] LaToya shares her experience of waking up to multiple doctors informing her about her diagnosis of stage four rectal colon cancer.
[00:02:45] LaToya discusses her transformation from living a carefree life in New York City to taking on the role of a guardian for her younger siblings after her mother's passing.
[00:08:32] LaToya reveals that she was not informed by doctors about the option of freezing her eggs before undergoing cancer treatment, leading to regrets and frustration.
[00:10:53] Discussion about the lack of information and resources regarding fertility health for women in their late 30s and the impact it can have on their choices.
[00:11:51] The need to seek out multiple doctors and specialists for guidance and support after receiving a diagnosis of early menopause.
[00:12:51] The challenges and experiences of trying to become a mother after going through cancer treatment, including seeking fertility treatments and the importance of being in a healthy place physically and emotionally.
[00:21:17] The Importance of movement and dance for connecting with the body and releasing trauma.
[00:22:08] Expressing pride and admiration for LaToya's journey and growth.
[00:23:27] Emphasizing the need for support, awareness, and resources for women going through similar experiences.
The Real Reason that Women are Freezing their Eggs: The Mating Gap
30 Aug 2023
00:28:17
In episode 21 of Quiet The Clock, Marcia Inhorn, a Professor at Yale and author of the book "Motherhood on Ice: The Mating Gap and Why Women Freeze Their Eggs," discusses the findings from her research in which she interviewed 150 women regarding their experiences with egg-freezing.
Her research revealed that over 82% of women freeze their eggs because they cannot find an equal partner. Many women in her study were single and desired partnership, pregnancy, and parenthood, but struggled to find men who were eligible, educated, and equal.
Marcia even added the word eager which highlighted the fact that even when women found a partner they were not eager to marry or have children. The gender dynamics and socialization of men and women were explored, with women expressing frustration at men's lack of readiness for commitment and their intimidation of successful women. Marcia and Beth both discuss the importance of talking to men to understand their perspectives and experiences with dating and partnering up.
Inhorn shares that the mating gap is partly a result of more women than men excelling and completing higher education. The numbers are just not in women’s favor as they navigate the dating world looking for an equal partner. Women then turn to egg freezing as a way to preserve their fertility while they continue to find partnership, without feeling like they have to settle or lower their standards.
She emphasizes that egg freezing is not a perfect solution and should be considered as a tool for reproductive choice for women in their 30s who have not found suitable partners. While it gives women the option to preserve their fertility it is not a foolproof insurance plan.
Quotes:
"Women want the three P's: partnership, pregnancy, and parenthood, but they lack the three E's: men who are eligible, educated, and equal." - Marcia Inhorn
"Women believe they have been socialized to want something, to want to be with men, and that men are not socialized in the same way." - Marcia Inhorn
"Women shouldn't be blaming themselves for not having a partner. It's not their fault." - Marcia Inhorn
"Women really talked about this, that it was really I don't know what happened. I'm mystified. I think I'm a dateable person. I am mystified but I'm in the situation where I don't have a partner and I really want to be a mom."
"I think there is this great need and desire for women to understand what's happening on the other side here. What's going on with these men?"
"Egg freezing does give a new option to women in this country and beyond."
"While there was so much relief in doing it and having that “insurance policy” and a little bit more time, there was also this feeling of ‘I wish I had done it sooner.’"
Key Points:
[0:00:00] Women want partnership, pregnancy, and parenthood
[0:03:13] 82% of women freeze their eggs due to partnership problems
[0:05:05]Women struggle to find men who are eligible, educated, and equal
[0:08:42]Men are often intimidated by successful, educated women
[0:11:50]Men's readiness for commitment and fatherhood is a big concern
[0:14:18]The "man deficit" - more educated women than men in society
[0:17:34]The need for men's perspective and understanding in this issue
[0:20:14]Considering alternative paths, such as single motherhood by choice
[0:22:08]Egg freezing as a technological tool for reproductive choice
[0:25:43]Women should not blame themselves and be compassionate towards themselves
Amplifying Women’s Egg Freezing Journey: Learning and Necessary Changes With Marcia Inhorn
23 Aug 2023
00:28:57
In episode 20 of Quiet The Clock, Beth interviews Marcia Inhorn, a Professor of Anthropology and International Affairs at Yale University, about her new book "Motherhood on Ice: The Mating Gap and Why Women Freeze Their Eggs. They discuss egg freezing and its impact on women's reproductive choices and timelines. Marcia shares insights from her study, where she interviewed over 150 women who had frozen their eggs.
They discuss the financial and emotional aspects of egg freezing, the need for insurance coverage,more education about fertility health, and the importance of sharing personal stories to normalize, empower, and inform others. They also touch on the lack of transparency in celebrity stories and how misleading these stories can be as they offer false hope and the need for more fertility education.
Quotes:
I just feel compassion for anybody who struggles with their reproduction, no matter what it is." - Marcia Inhorn
"I consider it brave to be doing this by yourself. Women had to work out the logistics of all this, how they were going to get to the clinic every day for monitoring, who was going to take them on the day when the eggs are retrieved, it's a small surgery, all of that stuff, it required a lot of logistical complications and preparation, and you know it's not something for the faint of heart, right?” - Marcia Inhorn
“So I really felt like these women. They’re brave. They are badasses." - Marcia Inhorn
"I think that lack of transparency is a little dangerous and that people look at celebrities having a baby at 50 or 45 with no transparency on how." - Marcia Inhorn
“It didn't work this is not an insurance policy, clinics shouldn’t be using this type of language. ” - Marcia Inhorn
“There were some very successful stories, including from women who really didn't get many eggs and didn't have sort of a great outcome from the egg freezing and still they got their frozen egg baby.”
“It's it's another economic cost there and with an unknown and insecure outcome”
“And then they were in kind of a fertility emergency. So that was an issue for women and feeling, you know, frustrated, angry that no one had ever discussed this with them. Glad when a gynecologist had said, we need to talk about this now.” - Marcia
Key Points:
Egg freezing and its impact on Women's reproductive choices and timelines
Marcia's study and interviews with women who have frozen their eggs
The financial aspect of egg freezing and the need for insurance coverage or reduced costs
The emotional roller coaster experienced by women who have frozen their eggs
Variables and uncertainties in egg freezing, including the number of eggs needed for success and additional costs
Lack of transparency in celebrity stories of having babies at an older age
Negative media coverage and misrepresentations surrounding egg freezing
Importance of finding a clinic or doctor that provides a person-centered experience
Need for more fertility education, particularly in schools, to inform women about fertility decline.
Transform Your Health Naturally: Dr. Shivani Gupta's Ayurvedic Revitalization Secrets
14 Aug 2024
00:50:17
In this podcast episode, Dr. Shivani Gupta, an Ayurveda and holistic health expert, shares her insights on the significance of Ayurvedic principles for optimal health and fertility. She discusses the benefits of detoxification, living in sync with nature, and understanding one's dosha for personalized health approaches. Dr. Gupta contrasts Ayurveda's holistic methods with conventional medicine's symptom-focused treatments and emphasizes the need for lifestyle changes and self-care. She offers practical advice for daily detox rituals and stresses the importance of intuition and self-advocacy in healthcare, especially for women facing societal pressures around fertility and health.
We Also Talk About
Importance of holistic health and Ayurveda in addressing health issues
Understanding the concept of Ayurveda and its principles
Personal journey of embracing Ayurvedic wisdom and healing
Significance of annual detoxification and living in rhythm with nature
Understanding individual body types or "doshas" in Ayurveda
Challenges of integrating Ayurvedic principles into modern lifestyles
Addressing underlying health issues, particularly in the context of pregnancy and fertility
Role of functional medicine in investigating and addressing health imbalances
Challenges faced by women seeking fertility treatments
Importance of intuition, self-advocacy, and self-care in healthcare, particularly in the context of fertility and women's health
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Redefining Family: Embracing Non-Traditional Paths to Motherhood with Sheila Richman
16 Aug 2023
00:30:16
In episode 19 of the Quiet the Clock, Sheila Richman, EVP, Publicity at Atlantic Records, shares her personal journey of making the choice to become a single mother.
She openly talks about the obstacles she encountered, which included the decision-making process between IVF and IUI, the emotional challenges, and the potential regrets had she not pursued motherhood. She also discusses how she navigated these hurdles while being on her own.
In the face of uncertainties and worries surrounding single parenthood, Sheila reflects on the emotional strain she experienced before ultimately committing to the path of having a child.
Join Sheila and Beth as they inspire and motivate others to explore and embrace their choices when pursuing an unconventional route to building a family.
Quotes:
00:22:27 “I don't regret if I never get married…. But not trying to be a mom would have been a regret for me.” Sheila
00:23:23 - “There are many different paths. And, you know, I my path is different. And it's sometimes scary to be the only parent. I'm like, it all falls on me.” Sheila
00:25:52, "we shouldn't give up on whatever our dreams are just because it doesn't look like what we think it's supposed to." - Sheila
Key Points:
Navigating through uncertainty [00:00:24] Discussion about navigating through the uncertainty of dating, motherhood, and egg freezing, and the pressure of limited time.
Connecting with Sheila [00:02:00] Introduction of Sheila as a guest and her role as the head of publicity for Atlantic Records.
Starting the journey to motherhood [00:08:33] Sheila's decision to pursue motherhood after a conversation with her boss, who encouraged her to "shit or get off the pot."
The pressure of dating and finding a potential father [00:11:10] Discussion about the pressure of dating and the impact it has on the search for a potential father.
The narratives and doubts surrounding egg freezing [00:12:29] Exploration of the doubts and concerns about egg freezing, including financial considerations and societal expectations.
The release of the traditional family picture [00:15:33] Sheila’s journey towards accepting and embracing a non-traditional family structure, and finding joy in her own unique situation.
The decision to have a child [00:20:36] Discussion about Sheila’s decision to try to have a child and the emotional struggles involved.
The importance of support and community [00:21:33] Exploration of the role of age and wisdom in setting boundaries and advocating for oneself in the medical field.
Encouraging each other and not giving up on dreams [00:24:08] Sheila’'s contentment with her decision to become a single parent and the importance of not giving up on dreams, even if they don't align with societal expectations.
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Understanding the Motherhood Spectrum: Validating Every Woman's Choice with Joanna Townsend
09 Aug 2023
00:30:58
In episode 18 of the Quiet the Clock Podcast, therapist and host Beth Gulotta interviews Joanna Townsend about her story and the book club inspired by the book, "Women Without Kids: The Revolutionary Rise of an Unsung Sisterhood." by Ruby Warrington. They discuss the societal expectations surrounding motherhood and the need to understand and validate the choice of not having children.
They also explore the concept of the motherhood spectrum, which recognizes that not everyone has the same experience or desire for motherhood. That the decision is not so binary as yes or no that women fall on many places on the spectrum of being unsure or undecided.
Joanna emphasizes the importance of offering language and validation for the diverse range of thoughts, beliefs, and struggles around motherhood. They highlight the need to normalize different stories and experiences and empower women to make their own choices.
Quotes:
"It felt like an exhale to have language around the spectrum of motherhood.
“I love what you said to like holding space for all of it right? No choice is 100% and holding space for the grief but the sort of this decision you can make room for all of it and I think that's so helpful for women to hear that there might not be 100% you know and that's okay there can and I talked to my clients about this all the time like you can feel more than one thing at once and just it's about holding space for all of it.”
"Your choice is valid and we don't have to question it."
Key Points:
The Motherhood Spectrum [00:06:49] Discussion on the concept of the motherhood spectrum and the validation it provides for women's varying feelings and experiences regarding motherhood.
The Revolutionary Rise of an Unsung Sisterhood [00:03:18] Introduction to the book "Women Without Kids: The Revolutionary Rise of an Unsung Sisterhood" and the importance of adding another voice to the conversation about women's journeys and choices.
Challenging Assumptions and Stereotypes [00:04:26] Exploration of the assumptions and stereotypes surrounding the choice not to have children, and the need to challenge societal expectations and judgments.
The response to posting the book [00:11:21] The speaker discusses the surprising response and the creation of a book club for "Women Without Kids."
The power of finding like-minded women [00:12:27] The speaker talks about the relief and sense of belonging that comes from finding a community of women making similar choices.
Personal decision and processing grief [00:14:33] The speaker shares their personal journey of arriving at the decision to not have children and the complexities and emotions involved.
The variety and diversity of experiences [00:20:20] Discussion on women who didn't initially choose to be childless, but circumstances led them to make that choice later on.
Reasons for choosing not to have children [00:22:20] Exploration of reasons such as intergenerational trauma, personal vision for life, and connecting with one's authentic self.
Empowering women to make their own choices [00:25:31] Highlighting the importance of accepting and honoring women's choices, empowering them to make decisions without feeling judged or obligated.
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Navigating Relationships: Challenges of Partnership and Friendship
02 Aug 2023
00:28:15
In episode 17 of Quiet the Clock, I sit down with my best childhood friend to continue our conversation on navigating relationships. We discuss the challenges of being in a relationship with a strong-willed partner and the importance of communication. We also touch on the fear of loss and the pressure we put on ourselves to say the right thing, which sometimes led to rationalizing away talking to our partners.
We both acknowledge the importance of having difficult conversations and the growth that comes from them. We also recognize the strength of our partners and how they are not easily rocked, which provides a sense of security in our relationships. Overall, we emphasize the importance of communication and navigating the challenges that come with being in a relationship with a strong-willed partner.
We also discuss the ups and downs of friendship and the importance of being there for each other through life's challenges. We acknowledge that no one is perfect and that it's important to have realistic expectations of our partners and friends.
We also reflect on our own experiences of envy and sadness when seeing others reach milestones like getting engaged or having children. We emphasize the need for vulnerability and for friends to hold space for each other's pain and suffering. We also acknowledge the complexity and challenges that exist behind the curated images of social media and remind listeners that everyone has their own struggles and hardships.
Overall, this episode highlights the importance of communication, empathy, and vulnerability in relationships. We hope to normalize all emotions, including envy and sadness, and encourage others to come to their friends with their "shitty feelings" and allow them to hold space for them.
As always, thank you for listening. Don't forget to tune in to the full episode for more insights and stories.
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"it feels daunting and there's a lot of fear about...losing something that's important to you if you don't talk about it the right way."
"deciding what's important to you and deciding what you really need and sort of pushing through that fear oh yeah and having those conversations because for me it felt heavier to hold those conversations than to actually have oh yeah have them."
"What are your two or three things that you need in that person? because they're not gonna be everything and they're not."
"I mean, one of the things I think a lot about is the emotion of envy. I think it's the most damaging, hardest feeling to experience, and I think it comes with this idea of like, you want, I am your best friend, I want to be fully happy, and why can't I do that?"
"just to remember that what you see on the outside is not what's real on the inside and i think we do a lot of comparison to what we project onto couples walking down the street right yeah and to remember that like everyone's got complexity behind their."
Key Points:
Partnerships and Strong-Willed Men [00:01:26] Beth and her best friend, Edin, discuss the challenges of being with strong-willed partners, including communication and decision-making styles.
Love Languages and Communication [00:04:13] They talk about their partners' love languages and communication styles, and the anxiety and fear that can come with initiating difficult conversations.
Fear of Loss and Battling Fear [00:05:48] Beth and her best friend, Edin, discuss the fear of loss and the battle against fear when it comes to having difficult conversations with their partners.
The Challenge of Having Conversations with No Results [00:06:54] Beth and Edin discuss the difficulty of having conversations with no clear outcome or plan, and how it can be counterproductive to always want to have action and resolution.
The Importance of Finding the Right Moment to Communicate [00:09:22] Beth and Edin talk about the challenge of finding the right moment to have difficult conversations, and how it can be counterintuitive to bring up heavy topics during good times.
Checking in with Yourself and Knowing When to Have Conversations [00:11:48] Beth and her best friend, Edin, share advice on checking in with oneself and knowing when it's time to push through the fear and have difficult conversations, rather than letting the weight of unspoken issues manifest in other ways.
Navigating Relationships [00:12:59] Beth and Edin discuss the challenges of being with strong-willed partners and the importance of communication in relationships.
Friendship Struggles [00:15:24] Beth shares her pregnancy news with Edin, who struggles to be happy for her due to her own personal issues. They discuss the ebb and flow of friendship and the importance of communication.
Reconciling Friendship [00:18:30] Beth and Edin discuss their recent phone call to reconcile after a week of no communication. They talk about the importance of owning up to mistakes and being honest in their friendship.
Straddling experiences [00:19:21] Beth and Edin discuss the challenge of straddling different relationship experiences and how to be respectful and sensitive to each other's situations.
Envy and competition [00:21:29] They talk about the emotion of envy and how it can damage relationships, especially when it comes to celebrating each other's successes.
Separation and change [00:24:06] Beth and Edin discuss how changes in their lives, such as becoming mothers or getting engaged, can create separation and affect their relationships with each other and with friends.
Normalizing Emotions [00:24:51] Beth and Edin discuss the importance of normalizing emotions, including envy and sadness, in relationships and being vulnerable with friends.
Challenges in Relationships [00:25:55] Beth shares her struggles with seeing others get pregnant and how it affects her, while Edin talks about the difficulties that many of her friends face in their relationships.
Reality vs. Fairytale [00:26:42] They wrap up their conversation by discussing the importance of remembering that what is projected on social media is not always reality and that everyone faces challenges and hardships in their relationships.
Egg Freezing and the Pressure of Motherhood: A Candid Conversation
26 Jul 2023
00:34:05
Are you feeling the pressure of the biological clock? Do you feel like you're running out of time to have children?
If so, then you'll want to listen to the latest episode of "Quiet the Clock" where I sit down with my close friend Quinn to discuss her journey with egg freezing.
Quinn is someone who has gone through the process of egg freezing multiple times and she shares her emotional complexities of doing it at multiple phases of her life, first, single which she shared allowed her to take the pressure off dating. Then twice in her relationship, without certainty of the direction of the relationship then one last time engaged and planning a wedding. Quinn talks about the complexities and range of different emotions of going through this process at such different stages.
We also discuss the financial considerations and the pressure women feel to have children before a certain age.
Quinn shares her experience with egg freezing and the control she felt over her fertility. She explains that she first learned about it from her gynecologist who had just attended a lecture by a doctor at a clinic in her town. Quinn decided to take the step and freeze her eggs, feeling like a trailblazer even though the procedure had been around for a while. While Quinn felt like there were components to the relationship and her road to motherhood that were uncertain or not totally within her control, she felt that freezing her eggs was and she wanted to do everything she could to ensure her chances of motherhood.
We also touch on the emotional toll of the process and the importance of seeking support from a psychologist. We share personal anecdotes about our own journeys and the uncertainties and breaking points we faced. The episode aims to provide a safe space for women to share their experiences and find support in navigating the complexities of fertility and motherhood.
Quinn encourages women to consider egg freezing as a form of insurance and to do it early if having a child is important to them. So, if you're interested in learning more about egg freezing and how you may be able to take more control of your motherhood journey, tune in to the latest episode of "Quiet the Clock."
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"I like the concept of insurance...just freeze your eggs...think of it as something that you can have if needed."
"you've gotta do what makes you feel better."
"it is like a disability for women in a sense that's not funded like you know the fact that insurance doesn't cover it is pathetic um because it's aging and aging is our like fertility disability"
Key Points
Quinn's first egg freezing experience [00:02:48] Quinn shares her experience of freezing her eggs for the first time when she was 34 years old and single. She talks about the pressure she felt to have children before a certain age and how freezing her eggs helped her separate dating from the pressure of having children.
Financial considerations of egg freezing [00:04:00] Beth and Quinn discuss the financial cost of egg freezing and how it can be a big consideration for women who are considering the process. Quinn shares how her mother paid for her first round of egg freezing and how it helped take some of the emotional burden off of her.
Emotional complexities of egg freezing [00:07:42] Beth and Quinn discuss the emotional complexities of egg freezing, particularly for women who are single versus those who are in a relationship. Quinn shares how she felt depressed, pathetic, and embarrassed about freezing her eggs while being single.
Egg Freezing Consultation [00:07:58] Quinn talks about how she learned about egg freezing and her consultation with a doctor who framed it as a "fertility disability" for women.
Financial Considerations [00:08:47] Beth and Quinn discuss the lack of insurance coverage for egg freezing and how it is becoming more common as a benefit in tech companies.
Second Round of Egg Freezing [00:09:16] Quinn discusses her decision to freeze her eggs again at age 40 while in a relationship and the emotional complexities of keeping the process separate from her relationship.
Control and Body Guilt [00:15:03] Quinn talks about how egg freezing gave her a sense of control over her fertility and how she felt guilty about putting her body through the process.
Uncertainty and Psychic Reading [00:17:32] Quinn discusses her anxiety about the future and the unknowns of her relationship, including considering having a child on her own. She also shares her experience with a psychic reading that gave her hope and validation.
Embarrassment and Shame [00:20:41] Quinn shares her embarrassment about going to the fertility clinic without a partner and how she would wear a ring on her engagement finger to avoid feeling like a "leper." She also talks about feeling judged by couples at the clinic.
The clock is ticking [00:22:31] Beth and Quinn discuss the pressure women feel to have children before a certain age and the emotional complexities of egg freezing.
Creating embryos with a partner [00:24:20] Quinn talks about the emotional experience of creating embryos with her partner after going through the process of egg freezing multiple times alone.
Perfectionism and shame [00:29:28] Quinn and Beth discuss the role of perfectionism and shame in the process of egg freezing and the importance of being open and vulnerable about it.
The Importance of Support [00:30:18] Beth and Quinn discuss the importance of having a support system during the egg freezing process and how it helped them get through the difficult days.
The Emotional Toll of Egg Freezing [00:31:08] Beth and Quinn talk about how the process of egg freezing can take an emotional toll on women and how it can affect other aspects of their lives.
Advice for Women Considering Egg Freezing [00:32:51] Quinn encourages women to consider egg freezing as a form of insurance and to do it early if having a child is important to them.