In this episode, we dive into the 4 Core Activities for Recovery that serve as the foundation for lasting freedom and personal growth.

Discover how prioritizing spiritual health can anchor you, why building meaningful relationship connections is essential for support, how maintaining your physical health strengthens both body and mind, and how exploring your passions can reignite purpose and joy.

Whether you're on the path to recovery or seeking to build a more fulfilling life, these four pillars will help guide your journey toward wholeness and freedom.

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Welcome to the inaugural PFM Halloween Special Episode of the Porn Free Millennial podcast! Today we’re diving into a chilling comparison between two sinister forces—pornography and vampirism. As we approach Halloween, it’s the perfect time to explore how both of these dark entities share striking similarities in how they prey on the vulnerable, seduce their victims, and leave behind a trail of emptiness.

To guide us through this eerie exploration, I’m joined by two fantastic guests— Dr. Gregory Borse, Professor of English and Philosophy & fellow LSU Tiger Kale Zelden, who teaches English at the high school level.

Both are experts in literature and the haunting metaphors of vampirism. Together, we’ll dissect how porn, much like a vampire, feeds off our energy, our time, and our very souls—leaving us drained and hollow.

We’ll discuss how porn has become a modern-day vampire, lurking in the shadows of the digital world, waiting for an invitation into our lives. But more importantly, we’ll talk about how we can shine the light on it and defeat this ever-lurking shadow.

For more content from Dr. Gregory Borse:

Gregory’s Substack

Gregory’s Youtube

* PFM Episode 14. A Professor's Opinion on Pixels and Porn with Dr. Gregory Borse

* Substack

* Apple

* Spotify

* PFM Episode 21. From Hobbits to Heroes: Talking Lord of the Rings and Conquering Challenges

* Substack

* Apple

* Spotify

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Kale’s Substack

TheKaleZelden Youtube

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My goal is to encourage you to write your own break-up letter with your bad habit and/or addiction. Whether it be porn, gambling, alchohol, drugs, etc…writing a break-up letter, when you are ready, solidifies your stand against this toxic energy in your life. God Bless and take courage!

Here we go…

(This letter was written almost a year ago on May 15, 2023)

Looking back, I can see that our relationship had some benefits, I can acknowledge that.

You taught me about my body and the thrill of pleasure. At the early age of 10, I could see what beauty looked like fully revealed and accessible. I gained so much wisdom for being so young.

You educated me about different techniques and positions which made me feel like the master. Someone with confidence, with skill, with power.

You were there to numb me where I did not want to encounter my trauma. The pains too deep to behold. You were the one who took them away, you provided me shelter. You provided me a place to hide from the monsters lurking in my mind. No person could do that for me.

You gave me the attention that I always deserved. You provided me anyone at my beck and call, fully undressed and ready to serve any of my needs.

You taught me how to be a man. How to take what is mine and how to demand attention. I deserved every second of it. I truly felt unstoppable at times.

You became my god, I worshipped every time you blessed me with your presence. You intoxicated me with ecstasy.

Then...

I started to realize…

That it was all a lie…All of it!

You turned me into something I never dreamed of becoming…

The monsters in my mind, incarnate.

From a lover, to a slayer.

From a builder, to a destroyer.

From a Christian, to a demon.

All of the trust I placed in you because of the powers you gave me…

All the lies I told to protect you, to defend you…

All of the times I betrayed the ones I loved, just to be with you…

You never loved me.

And you know what…

I never loved you.

You manipulated me.

You embarrassed me.

You desecrated my temple and my connection to my true God.

You transformed me into a liar, a robber, an adulterer.

You pillaged my integrity and raped my innocence.

You took everything from me.

Because of our relationship and your control over my mind…

My marriage ended.

My family separated.

My faith splintered.

My life was nearly taken by my own hand.

But you know what?

I’M HERE.

I’m breaking up with you, but you aren’t breaking up with me. I’m not done with you.

I’m coming for you.

I’m coming for revenge.

I’m coming to pay you back.

I’m coming to win the hearts and minds of others with truth and love.

I’m coming to end your reign.

Your reign over innocence.

Your reign over intimacy.

Your reign over trust.

Your reign over productivity.

Your reign over the true beauty of others and their God-given radiance.

Your reign over love and passion.

Your reign over living in the present and enjoying what is natural, what is real.

You are not a person.

You are not a website.

You are not a business.

You are a mind virus from the chasms of hell.

You are a deceiver.

You are a murderer.

You are a snake, and I’m coming to take your head off.

Your enemy,

PornFreeMillennial

Let’s take the fight back to porn, join me!

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Take a Stand and Fight the Good Fight!

In this interview, Sir Silver Star shares his story and approach to overcoming adversity by living a fulfilling life.

Sir Silver Star is a software developer and content creator who loves video games and tech.

Please check this important conversation out and share with others!

Thank you and keep fighting the good fight!

Sir Silver Star can be found on Twitch, Youtube, TikTok, and X.

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In this episode, my brother and I discuss the FASTT Check-In method that is an incredible accountability tool that you can use on a daily basis for porn use recovery (or other forms of healing and self-development). This method was initially developed by Dr. Milton Magness for sex addicts and their partners, but can be applied to many areas of life. This check-in strategy has been a critical part our recovery. If you or someone you know is struggling with porn use, this episode is a must watch & share!

Show Notes: X Account:

@porn_free

You can find my podcast on Apple/Spotify.

Porn Free Millennial Publication: Substack/Medium

Porn Free Millennial: Episode 7 (FASTT Check Ins) & 13 (Breaking Free Together: The Powerful Role of Brotherhood in Recovery - With My Brother, Noah

Other Porn Free Podcasts: Porn Free Radio Finding Traction FASTT Check-Ins -> Developed by Dr. Milton Magness, referenced in Episode 106 of Porn Free Radio

Accountability Software: I Am Sober - https://iamsober.com/en/site/home -> My Group is called Road to Recovery - send me a friend request to join! Covenant Eyes -

https://covenanteyes.com

Accountable2u -

https://accountable2you.com

Concepts: Flow State - Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi - https://positivepsychology.com/mihaly-csikszentmihalyi-father-of-flow/

This discussion marks a significant milestone in my life. Just over a year ago, my divorce was finalized, and my future seemed uncertain. It felt like the life I had built was crumbling around me.

Throughout my recovery journey, Vern has been my guiding light. His mentorship has elevated me to new heights, helping me navigate challenges and discover my true potential.

I cannot stress enough the importance of having a mentor who believes in you and supports your growth. I invite you to join me in celebrating this milestone and to share this post with anyone who may benefit from Vern's wisdom and guidance.

Together, let's inspire others to unlock their potential and strive for greatness. Enjoy and spread the love!

Here's how to find Vern!

1:1 or Group Coaching: https://www.bandofbrothers.care/regular-joes

Finding Traction Apple:

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In this discussion Dr. Gregory Borse provides his opinion on the evolution of porn throughout the dawn of time from ancient civilizations to the present day and its effect on culture and society.

Dr. Borse is a Professor of English and Philosophy, University of Arkansas at Monticello and also achieved his PHD in English from Louisiana State University, Baton Rouge, LA.

Dr. Borse can be found on X under @GregoryBorse and he also has a Substack publication at https://gregoryborse.substack.com/.

Credits: Capcut for Editing. Intro/Outro - Beast Mode - ROKKA

This is my first interview on this channel/podcast and it is with my little brother and best friend, Noah.

In this interview, we talk about our relationship as brothers and how our bond has grown stronger over the past year since we became each other's accountability partners.

This is Part 1 of a two-part series.

In Part 1, we discuss why community, brotherhood and accountability are so important to healthy recovery and living into your full potential. I

n Part 2, we will discuss how we hold each other accountable on a daily basis and why that is so effective to maintaining sobriety and moving towards a way of living that is healthy. Come join us and fight the good fight!

Intro/Outro: Beast Mode by Rokka

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Regular Joes Coaching Group - Led by Vern Tompke

I Am Sober App

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This episode focuses on the 3 reasons I think Porn is our enemy.

1. Porn preys on you when your young.

2. Porn thrives in the darkness.

3. Porn feeds off your pain.

Please like, subscribe, and share to spread the message!

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In this episode Vern and I unpack 3 the Whats of Conquering Temptation - 1. Then What, 2. So What, 3. Now What.

As we discuss the concept of temptation and how to conquer it on a day-to-day basis, think about how you can implement this in your daily routine.

Vern Tompke is a pastor and mentor as well as the host of two amazing podcasts: Finding Traction and Pastors on Porn.

Vern also leads 1:1 and group coaching which can be found on his site: Bandofbrothers.care.

Enjoy this engaging dialogue and keep fighting the good fight!

For more content from Porn Free Millennial check Mac out on his Substack!

If you are interested in personal coaching to build momentum from Mac, 1-email pornfreemillennialcoaching@gmail.com to set-up a free consultation.

In this episode, I talk about keeping things simple this year and having active commitments in 4 areas of your life in order to build strong momentum and for holistic well-being this year.

1. Physical Health

2. Spiritual Health

3. Relationships

4. Passions

Credits: Movie editing:  @clipchampcom 

Intro & Outro: All Hyped Up  @clipchampcom  music

Reference items: 1. My Substack Article: Wednesday Wisdom: Active Commitments - https://pornfreemillennial.substack.com/p/wednesday-wisdom which references also my FASTT Check-In Article (https://pornfreemillennial.substack.com/p/fastt-check-ins) and podcast episode FASTT Check-Ins (Apple/Spotify).

2. Influential Podcasts: Finding Traction & Porn Free Radio (Spotify & Apple)

3. Coaching Groups: https://www.bandofbrothers.care/regular-joes - lead by my mentor Vern Tompke, host of the Finding Traction podcast

For more information on how trauma/addictions can imbed themselves in DNA - Epigenetics Series: Is Porn Addiction Genetic? - https://drtracygapin.com/epigenetics-series-is-porn-addiction-genetic/

Sobriety App: I Am Sober -> Group Name: Road to Recovery - https://iamsober.com/

Email me at: PornFreeMillennial@gmail.com to meet on Zoom for free coaching.

For additional sources of content, check out:

FASTT Check-In Substack Article with Feeling Wheel Document: https://open.substack.com/pub/pornfreemillennial/p/fastt-check-ins?utm_campaign=post&utm_medium=web

Other Podcasts: Porn Free Radio, Finding Traction

Groups - Websites: Recovered Man, BandofBrothers.Care

In this episode, I discuss a recent article I wrote on Substack about reclaiming masculinity.

My goal is to spark a catalyst that will ignite that fire to reclaim what porn has tarnished by sharing my personal experience.

Thank you for listening and keep fighting the good fight!

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Conquering this bad habit and breaking free of the chains that bind you is all about creating and maintaining positive momentum in your life!

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Episode Overview: In this episode, we explore effective strategies for overcoming temptation and breaking free from the cycle of porn addiction. Using a structured approach called “The 3 What’s” — Then What, So What, and Now What — we’ll guide you through practical steps to gain awareness, reduce the power of temptation, and take actionable steps toward a healthier life.

Key Takeaways:

* Then What:

* Focus on awareness by asking yourself about the long-term consequences of giving in to temptation.

* Reflect on the emotional and psychological impacts of your choices.

* So What:

* Reduce the power of temptation by acknowledging your feelings and using grounding techniques.

* Practice mindfulness exercises, such as the 5-4-3-2-1 technique, to stay present and manage urges.

* Now What:

* Take actionable steps to redirect your energy when temptation strikes.

* Create a list of go-to activities and reach out to accountability partners for support.

Personal Insights: Host shares recent personal struggles with temptation due to increased workload and stresses, emphasizing how implementing the 3 What’s helped maintain sobriety.

Episodes Mentioned:

* Episodes 7 & 18 - FASTT Check-Ins

Call to Action: If you found this episode helpful, please share it with someone who might benefit and subscribe for more insights. Remember, change is possible, you’re not alone on this journey, and to keep fighting the good fight!

My reflections about after 8 months of sobriety.

A quick message to you before celebrating Independence Day if you are in the USA.

Have a great holiday weekend or great weekend if you are outside the USA!

God Bless and keep fighting the good fight!

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Conquering this bad habit and breaking free of the chains that bind you is all about creating and maintaining positive momentum in your life!

These sessions will be geared towards finding that spark in you and getting that fire roaring so that you can strive towards positive growth in your life and the chains of captivity behind!

What to expect in our sessions:

Personalized One-Hour Zoom Call: Engage in a focused, one-on-one session tailored to your unique challenges and how to build positive momentum towards your goals.

Identify Obstacles: Work together to pinpoint what's holding you back, whether it's personal, professional, or emotional.

Action Plan Development: Collaboratively create a practical and achievable action plan to move forward and gain momentum.

Clarity and Direction: Gain clear insights and direction on how to tackle your issues effectively.

Motivation Boost: Get inspired and motivated with strategies and encouragement tailored to your needs.

Expert Guidance: Benefit from my experience and expertise to help you navigate through your current challenges.

Accountability: Establish a sense of accountability to ensure you stay on track with your goals.

Flexible and Convenient: Enjoy the convenience of a Zoom call from the comfort of your own space.

Follow-Up Support: Optional follow-up sessions to ensure you maintain progress and continue building momentum.

Join the crew

Be part of a community of people who share your interest in quitting porn and reclaiming their life.

When you join the crew, you have access to my member only chat and will have access to the Ask Me Anything monthly podcast that will be geared towards answering your questions and discussing topics that you want to talk about!

Thanks for listening to this podcast about Lord of the Rings and conquering challenges!

I am aiming to podcast once a week and for more content, see the links below:

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You won’t have to worry about missing my recovery journey and valuable tips to quitting porn. Every new edition of the newsletter goes directly to your inbox and you get full access to my archived articles!

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Conquering this bad habit and breaking free of the chains that bind you is all about creating and maintaining positive momentum in your life!

These sessions will be geared towards finding that spark in you and getting that fire roaring so that you can strive towards positive growth in your life and the chains of captivity behind!

What to expect in our sessions:

Personalized One-Hour Zoom Call: Engage in a focused, one-on-one session tailored to your unique challenges and how to build positive momentum towards your goals.

Identify Obstacles: Work together to pinpoint what's holding you back, whether it's personal, professional, or emotional.

Action Plan Development: Collaboratively create a practical and achievable action plan to move forward and gain momentum.

Clarity and Direction: Gain clear insights and direction on how to tackle your issues effectively.

Motivation Boost: Get inspired and motivated with strategies and encouragement tailored to your needs.

Expert Guidance: Benefit from my experience and expertise to help you navigate through your current challenges.

Accountability: Establish a sense of accountability to ensure you stay on track with your goals.

Flexible and Convenient: Enjoy the convenience of a Zoom call from the comfort of your own space.

Follow-Up Support: Optional follow-up sessions to ensure you maintain progress and continue building momentum.

Join the crew

Be part of a community of people who share your interest in quitting porn and reclaiming their life.

When you join the crew, you have access to my member only chat and will have access to the Ask Me Anything monthly podcast that will be geared towards answering your questions and discussing topics that you want to talk about!

Show Notes: My Journey to Freedom

In this powerful and deeply personal episode of the Porn Free Millennial Podcast, I sit down with Diana and Will, the passionate duo behind the CatholicX Spaces Community on X, to share my story—a journey from my first exposure to pornography to where I am today: living a life free from its grip.

Highlights from the Episode:

The Beginning:

* How I was first introduced to pornography and the impact it had on my life from an early age.

* The emotional and psychological toll of years spent trapped in this cycle.

Rock Bottom Moments and Realizations:

* The pivotal moments when I hit rock bottom and realized I needed to make a change.

* How faith, community, and self-awareness played essential roles in taking that first step toward recovery.

The Road to Recovery:

* Key concepts and strategies that were crucial in overcoming this addictive habit.

* Insights into the importance of understanding your "why" when pursuing freedom.

Philosophy on Cultural Events:

* A candid discussion on how current societal norms and cultural shifts contribute to the struggles many face with pornography.

* Thoughts on building a counter-culture rooted in discipline, truth, and self-control.

Essential Tools for Living Porn-Free:

* Practical tips and resources to help you stay on the path to freedom.

* The power of community and accountability in maintaining long-term sobriety.

Connect with me on X:

* Mac_Nomadic

Connect with CatholicX Community:

* Diana and Will are creating a faith-filled space on X for people looking to grow spiritually and support each other through life’s challenges. Be sure to check them out and join the conversation.

Additional Resources Mentioned in the Episode:

* The Break Free Newsletter – Weekly encouragement and tools for living a porn-free life. Subscribe to my Substack, Porn Free Millennial, for weekly tips and tools to overcome porn in your life.

* Joshua Broome - Ex-Porn Star Now Pastor - His story in “Unmentionable”

* Porn Free Radio Podcast

* Finding Traction Podcast

* Pastors on Porn Podcast

Whether you’re just starting your journey or have been walking this path for a while, this episode offers hope, practical advice, and inspiration. Tune in to hear my story and gain insights that could make a difference in your life.

If you are looking for personal help in building momentum, email pornfreemillennialcoaching@gmail.com for a free 30-minute consultation.

Subscribe & Share: Don’t forget to subscribe to the Porn Free Millennial Podcast and share this episode with someone who needs it. Together, we can break the chains and build a brighter future.

Episode Summary:

In this episode of the Porn Free Millennial Podcast (livestreamed initially on my X account - Mac_Nomadic), Dr. Gregory Borse and I delve into the shocking story of OnlyFans model Lily Phillips, who recently gained notoriety for her decision to sleep with 100 men in a single day as part of a documentary. We discuss the deeper implications of this story, examining the impact of platforms like OnlyFans and the adult entertainment industry on loneliness, intimacy, and society as a whole. Through research, personal reflection, and open conversation, we explore how this industry fuels an epidemic of disconnection and what we can do to reclaim our dignity, faith, and purpose.

What We Cover:

* A breakdown of Lily Phillips’ viral story and the societal reaction.

* The targeted attack perpetrated through the adult entertainment industry.

* Shocking statistics about OnlyFans and the adult entertainment industry.

* The connection between the adult entertainment industry and the global loneliness epidemic.

* Practical steps to combat loneliness and break free from harmful habits.

* Final reflections on finding purpose, intimacy, and faith in a world increasingly shaped by commodified connection.

Actionable Takeaways:

* Seek deeper connections rooted in trust and intimacy instead of transactional relationships.

* Reflect on the societal impact of commodified intimacy and hold yourself accountable.

* If you or someone you know is struggling with loneliness or harmful habits, reach out for support and seek guidance through faith, community, or counseling.

Key References:

* Laila Mickelwait - Author of Takedown: Bestselling Author of Takedown: Inside the Fight to Shut Down P*rnhub (Penguin Random House, 2024)

* The Break Free Weekly Newsletter - Edition #8: Lonely Fans

Join the Conversation:We’d love to hear your thoughts on today’s topic! Share your insights, stories, or questions with me at Porn Free Millennial on Substack.

Subscribe & Share:If you found this episode meaningful, please share it with others who might benefit and subscribe to the Porn Free Millennial Podcast for more discussions like this.

Additional Help Breaking Free:

If you are looking for personal help in building momentum to break free from porn, email pornfreemillennialcoaching@gmail.com for a free 30-minute consultation.

Christmas Day is here! Merry Christmas!

Christmas season is a time to give gifts, share meaningful moments with loved ones, and for Christians, celebrate the birth of Jesus Christ. It’s a season meant for joy, connection, and reflection. Yet vices like porn can quietly steal away that joy, dampening the true spirit of this special time.

This Christmas, I challenge you to take a stand. This Christmas will be one to remember - not for what you consumed, but for the freedom you chose. This Christmas, take the pledge to stay sober from porn use and allow yourself to fully experience the peace, joy, and love this season offers!

Take the pledge here on the I Am Sober App!

I Am Sober is an ad-free motivational companion app for tracking your sobriety. Check it out here:

https://itunes.apple.com/us/app/apple-store/id672904239?mt=8

Join the Conversation:We’d love to hear your thoughts on today’s topic! Share your insights, stories, or questions with me at Porn Free Millennial on Substack.

Subscribe & Share:If you found this episode meaningful, please share it with others who might benefit and subscribe to the Porn Free Millennial Podcastfor more discussions like this.

Additional Help Breaking Free:

If you are looking for personal help in building momentum to break free from porn, email pornfreemillennialcoaching@gmail.com for a free 30-minute consultation.

In this episode, I sit down with James Menendez, author of the Creation Awaits Substack and host of the @creationawaits YouTube channel, and explore his powerful testimony of overcoming destructive habits through faith in Christ.

James shares his journey to freedom, offering heartfelt advice for those battling addictions, particularly porn.

Join us for a candid conversation on finding hope, healing, and lasting change through the grace of God.

Where to find more content from James:

* Victory in Christ Course: Overcome porn addiction with Victory in Christ today! With the new 10-week addiction course from Creation Awaits.

* Creation Awaits Substack

* Creation Awaits Patreon

* Creation Awaits LinkTree

* DONATE to Creation Awaits

* Freedom in Christ article by James that I hosted on my publication

Where to find more content from Porn Free Millennial:

* Join the Conversation: I’d love to hear your thoughts on today’s topic! Share your insights, stories, or questions with me at Porn Free Millennial on Substack.

* Subscribe & Share: If you found this episode meaningful, please share it with others who might benefit and subscribe to the Porn Free Millennial Podcast for more discussions like this.

* Additional Help Breaking Free: If you are looking for personal help in building momentum to break free from porn, email pornfreemillennialcoaching@gmail.com for a free 30-minute consultation. Paid Substack subscribers receive up to a 20% discount on one-hour 1:1 Momentum Building sessions.

In this special end-of-the-year episode, I sit down with my little brother to reflect on our recovery journey throughout 2024—celebrating the triumphs, acknowledging the challenges, and sharing the lessons we've learned along the way.

Together, we discuss how accountability and brotherhood have been central to our progress of living lives without porn and we outline our vision for an even stronger 2025.

From practical strategies to personal commitments, this conversation highlights the power of unity in overcoming porn addiction and pursuing a life of purpose.

Key References:

Podcasts: Porn Free Radio, Finding Traction, and Pastors on Porn

Song: Bitten Apple by Brother Ali

Join the Conversation: I’d love to hear your thoughts on today’s topic in the comments, ideas you may have for future episodes, and future guests.

Subscribe & Share: If you found this episode meaningful, please share it with others who might benefit and subscribe to the Porn Free Millennial Podcast on Apple & Spotify for more discussions like this.

Additional Help Breaking Free: If you are looking for personal help in building momentum to break free from porn, email pornfreemillennialcoaching@gmail.com for a free 30-minute consultation.

In this episode, I sit down with Reverend Robert Irvine - a UK-based clergyman, Chartered Electrical Engineer with over 40 years of experience, and author of Devotions on the Birth of the Lord Jesus Christ. Together, we discuss the power of finding your calling, pursuing your purpose, and overcoming life’s challenges. Robert shares his personal journey of discovering his calling, the obstacles he faced along the way, and why having a clear sense of purpose is vital, especially for those who feel lost or uncertain. We also explore his experiences helping people break free from pornography and how the church can play a role in recovery.

Whether you’re searching for your purpose, struggling to overcome addiction, or just looking for inspiration, this episode is packed with tools, insights, and stories to help you take the first steps toward a more fulfilling life.

Resources from Robert Irvine:

📖 Robert’s Book: Devotions on the Birth of the Lord Jesus Christ

✍️ Robert’s Substack

🎥 YouTube Channel

📝 Read our joint article, Overcoming the Bonds of Pornography

🎧 Listen to the podcast on other platforms:

Apple

Substack

Spotify

Don’t forget to like, subscribe, and share if you found this episode helpful!

Let me know your favorite takeaway in the comments below.

Where to find more content from Porn Free Millennial:

* Join the Conversation: I’d love to hear your thoughts on today’s topic! Share your insights, stories, or questions with me at Porn Free Millennial on Substack.

* Subscribe & Share: If you found this episode meaningful, please share it with others who might benefit and subscribe to the Porn Free Millennial Podcast for more discussions like this.

* Additional Help Breaking Free: If you are looking for personal help in building momentum to break free from porn, email pornfreemillennialcoaching@gmail.com for a free 30-minute consultation. Paid Substack subscribers receive up to a 20% discount on one-hour 1:1 Momentum Building sessions.

Order Within, Freedom Without

Brandon Ward on Faith, Recovery, and Reordering Desire

What happens when the pursuit of freedom on the outside only creates chaos on the inside?

In this deeply vulnerable conversation, I sit down with Brandon Ward 😎, host of Order Within Podcast, to explore how inner disorder—rooted in insecurity, emotional wounds, and pornography—can quietly shape a man’s life for decades. Brandon shares his journey through anger, shame, addiction, and relentless self-searching, and how true freedom only emerged once his inner life began to take shape through faith, honesty, and disciplined self-examination.

From childhood exposure to pornography to living out of his car in San Diego, from self-help obsession to spiritual awakening, Brandon traces the long road toward integration—where faith, desire, and identity finally align. Together, Brandon and I unpack why pornography is uniquely destructive, how it rewires desire and motivation, and why recovery is not just about quitting a habit, but reordering the soul.

This episode is reflective, grounded, and hopeful. A conversation about repentance, partnership, masculinity, and why order within is the only path to freedom without chains.

Topics Covered

* Why “freedom” without inner order leads to chaos

* Pornography as a neurological, emotional, and spiritual trap

* Childhood wounds, shame, and the search for meaning

* How faith reframes recovery and desire

* The role of honesty, repentance, and accountability

* Marriage, partnership, and healing together

* Why modern culture normalizes what quietly destroys us

Books Mentioned in the Episode

* The Magic of Thinking Big – David J. Schwartz

* Mindset – Carol Dweck

* The Drama of the Gifted Child – Alice Miller

* Inner Bonding – Dr. Margaret Paul

* No More Mr. Nice Guy – Dr. Robert Glover

* Cupid’s Poisoned Arrow – Marnia Robinson

* Your Brain on Porn – Gary Wilson

Where to Find Brandon

Brandon’s Substack: https://substack.com/@brandonleeward

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Mac

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Podcast Episode Notes

Finding Resilience in the RutHow to Regain Traction When Life Feels Stuck

Host: Mac Dohm Guest: Kyle Shepard

About Our Guest

Kyle Shepard is a U.S. Navy Stress Management and Resilience Instructor with over a decade of experience teaching mental performance, stress adaptation, and recovery under pressure. He also holds a Clinical Doctorate in Audiology, where his work focuses on hearing conservation, balance disorders, tinnitus, and the neurological overlap between stress and physical health.

Kyle is the author of the Resilient Mental State on Substack, where he explores practical resilience through philosophy, fitness, discipline, and grounded self-leadership. His work draws from military training, family life, and lived experience, with a strong emphasis on habits, perspective, and action.

To watch or listen to our previous podcast together, check out 45. How to Build & Maintain a Resilient Identity with Military Resilience and Fitness Instructor - Kyle Shepard.

Episode Overview

This conversation explores the experience of being stuck in life—not in crisis, but not moving forward either. Kyle and I unpack what a rut really is, why it becomes dangerous when left unaddressed, and how resilience is built through perspective, disciplined habits, and meaningful action.

Rather than offering motivational platitudes, this episode focuses on practical frameworks for regaining traction when life feels stalled, disoriented, or quietly off course.

Key Concepts and Takeaways

What a Rut Really Is

Kyle defines a rut as a prolonged, unproductive attitude. Not failure. Not weakness. But a sustained misalignment between how you are living and who you know you are meant to be.

Ruts can last a day, a season, or years if they go unexamined.

Ruts as Feedback, Not Failure

A rut is often a signal rather than a verdict. It points to neglected habits, unresolved stress, disrupted identity, or avoidance patterns that quietly compound over time.

When left unaddressed, ruts increase the likelihood of relapse—whether that relapse shows up as addiction, emotional outbursts, disengagement, or numbing behaviors.

Perspective Matters, But Action Is Required

Reframing your mindset is important, but it only goes so far. As discussed in the episode, you cannot think your way out of a rut.

A quote referenced from James Clear captures this well:

“Don’t ruminate. Activate.”

Reflection without movement turns into stagnation.

The Four Buckets of Health

Kyle frames resilience through four interconnected domains:

* Physical

* Mental

* Social

* Spiritual

When even one of these is neglected long enough, imbalance begins to form.

Ruts often reveal which bucket has been quietly ignored.

Delayed Gratification vs. Delayed Humiliation

The conversation highlights a powerful distinction between two paths.

Delayed gratification involves discomfort now with long-term payoff:

* Training

* Honesty

* Discipline

* Effort

Delayed humiliation offers comfort now with consequences later:

* Avoidance

* Numbing

* Addiction

* Rationalization

Ruts tend to deepen when the second path becomes habitual.

Why Environment Alone Won’t Fix the Problem

Changing locations or circumstances rarely solves internal patterns.

As Kyle puts it, wherever you go, you bring yourself with you.

Lasting change requires altering habits, responses, and standards—not just scenery.

The Non-Negotiables When You’re Stuck

When life feels stalled, the fundamentals matter most. Sleep, nutrition, movement, and connection are not optional. They are stabilizers.

Without them, even the best intentions collapse under stress.

Small Action Beats Big Intention

You do not need a perfect plan to regain traction.

You need movement. One workout. One walk. One honest conversation. One disciplined decision.

Momentum follows action, not the other way around.

Who This Episode Is For

This episode is for anyone who feels functional but unfulfilled, for people navigating recovery or identity shifts, and for those who sense that something is off even if life looks fine from the outside.

Core Message

Resilience is not about powering through life.

It is built through honest self-assessment, aligned habits, repeated small actions, and the courage to face discomfort rather than escape it.

Ruts do not end by accident.

They end through awareness and activation, not avoidance.

If this conversation resonated with you, take a moment to engage.

Subscribe to the podcast so you don’t miss future conversations on resilience, recovery, and reclaiming momentum. If you’re listening on Substack, leave a comment and share what stood out or where you feel stuck right now—your voice matters here.

If you know someone who’s quietly in a rut, consider sharing this episode with them. Sometimes the most meaningful help is simply letting someone know they’re not alone and that forward motion is possible.

Your support through listening, commenting, subscribing, and sharing helps this work reach the people who need it most.

Keep fighting the good fight and much love,

Mac

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* To learn more about Ever Accountable, check out my interview with its CEO, Tyler Patterson.

Personal Coaching: A Path to Freedom

Personal Coaching: A Path to Freedom

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In this special 50th episode of the Porn Free Millennial Podcast, I sit down with the man who helped me take my first real step toward recovery back in 2018 and who inspired me to launch the PFM Podcast and Publication - Matt Dobschuetz.

He’s the host of the long-running podcast Porn Free Radio, the author of Porn Free: Becoming the Type of Man Who Does Not Look at Porn, and the founder of RecoveredMan.com, where he coaches men to lasting freedom.

When I hit rock bottom, Matt’s voice reached me at a time when I didn’t know if change was possible. His message was raw, honest, and full of hope - and it helped lay the foundation for the freedom I walk in today.

In this episode, we:

* Reflect on the man ahead of you and why we all need someone who's walked the road before us

* Share our personal recovery philosophies, focusing on getting to the root of our relationship with porn

* Talk about living in the real world without hiding from it - building a new identity instead of avoiding everything

* Dive into the origin of Porn Free Radio and Matt’s coaching work with men all over the world

* Laugh hard, tell honest stories, and celebrate the messy beauty of real transformation

* Offer encouragement and guidance for the man listening today who might be taking his first step

Whether you're years into recovery or still wondering if freedom is possible, this conversation is a reminder that you're not alone - someone has already walked ahead and is reaching back to help.

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* Porn Free by Matt Dobschuetz

* Porn Free Radio Podcast

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In this haunting and deeply philosophical episode, Dr. Gregory Borse returns to unpack the ancient, biblical, and psychological significance of dreams.

From recurring lucid dreams that began in college to a real-life connection with Pope John Paul II, Dr. Borse explores how dreams shape interweave with conscious life to shape identity, offer warning, and reveal truth.

Mac also shares his most meaningful dreams - including 3 recent confrontations with a childhood darkness and a prophetic dream the night before his grandmother’s death.

Together, we explore how modern life, especially mankind’s phone addiction, is clouding our ability to receive and discern these sacred messages.

Whether you’ve had recurring dreams, unsettling nightmares, or you’ve wondered if your dreams mean something - this conversation will open your eyes to the spiritual battlefield behind your sleep.

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* Substack

* Latest Lecture: The Necessity of the Arts & Humanities for Civilization

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Is porn addiction a form of possession?

In this gripping fifth interview, Dr. Gregory Borse professor of English, Philosophy, and Film - joins host Mac for a deep dive into The Exorcist, addiction, and the hidden spiritual battle many men are losing without even realizing it.

From jump scares to soul scars, this episode explores how The Exorcist reveals the nature of evil: both direct and insidious. Together, Mac and Dr. Borse unpack how porn subtly enslaves, how shame isolates, and how hope, habit, and spiritual resilience are the keys to lasting freedom.

We explore:

* What The Exorcist gets right about evil, possession, and faith

* How addiction mirrors demonic seduction

* Why porn is a quiet spiritual assault on identity and intimacy

* The power of daily decisions to shape your soul

* How to build habits of hope and reclaim your agency

This is not just film analysis - it’s a battle cry for freedom.

Watch, listen, and share if you're ready to break free!

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* Latest Lecture: The Necessity of the Arts & Humanities for Civilization

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Spring is here and the temptations are out. In today’s episode, we dive into the real struggle many men face as the layers come off and old patterns try to creep back in. From unexpected triggers in a Walmart parking lot to hard truths about the line between admiration and objectification, I’m sharing a raw and honest reflection on how to stay grounded in a season full of distractions.

We explore:

* The difference between admiring beauty and objectifying others

* A 3-step mindset shift: Humanize, Empathize, Prioritize

* Why objectification isn’t just a porn problem—it’s a perspective problem

* How to walk in integrity even when everything around you is heating up

Whether you're working on sobriety, fighting old habits, or simply want to be a man of honor—this episode is for you.

🎧 Listen in, and stay free this summer.

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In this powerful episode of the Porn Free Millennial podcast, I sit down with Tyler Patterson, the founder and CEO of Ever Accountable, one of the most trusted accountability software tools for porn recovery. We dive into the origin story of the app, how it's evolved over the years, and why it works - especially when willpower and white-knuckling just aren’t enough.

We break down how Ever Accountable uses real-time AI detection, screen scanning, and accountability reports to create life-changing behavior shifts. Tyler also introduces Ascend, a 30-day recovery course designed to help users not just avoid porn - but replace it with a meaningful, purpose-driven life.

If you're ready to live with integrity and reclaim your attention, this episode is for you.

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🔗 Resources Mentioned:

* Ever Accountable Website

* Ascend 30-Day Recovery Course

* Ever Accountable Blog

* PFM Article – "5 Reasons the Porn Industry Is a Predator"

* Laila Mickelwait’s Book: Takedown

🧠 Key Takeaways:

* The origin of Ever Accountable: built from a need to be honest with Tyler’s wife, not blocked by flawed filters.

* Why filters fail and accountability succeeds.

* The role of AI in detecting porn across websites, social media, and even in-app content.

* The difference between white-knuckling and true recovery.

* How accountability creates space for honesty, integrity, and growth.

* Tyler’s philosophy: “The easiest amount of porn to watch is zero.”

The power of Ascend, Ever Accountable’s 30-day program to help users build a vision and a better life.

🎯 Final Word from Tyler:

“Every effort you put into quitting pornography will pay itself back a thousand times over. It’s always going to be a challenge, but it can be a beautiful one.”

💬 Join the Conversation:

What part of Tyler’s story or strategy hit home the most for you?

Drop a comment below and let us know - we’d love to hear what resonated with you.

If this episode gave you clarity, encouragement, or a new tool in your fight for freedom, please like, share, and send it to someone who needs it. You never know how far one honest conversation can go.

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In this powerful episode, I sit down with Kyle Shepard who is a military resilience instructor, author of Resilient Mental State, fitness coach, and father → to dive deep into what it really means to build and sustain a resilient identity. Kyle shares lessons from 12+ years of serving in the U.S. Navy, training service members to overcome extreme stress, and his personal journey of overcoming hardship, loss, and emotional setbacks.

We explore:

* The difference between building resilience and sustaining it through life’s highs and lows

* How past adversity, strong support systems, and intentional strategies forge true resilience

* Why asking for help is a powerful sign of strength, not weakness

* How unmanaged stress becomes a silent liability in modern life and what you can do about it

* The danger of confusing coping mechanisms with true recovery

* How ancient wisdom from Viktor Frankl, stoic philosophy, and modern psychology all point toward one truth: resilience can be trained

This is a must-listen if you're looking to strengthen your identity, overcome setbacks, and thrive no matter what challenges you face. 🌱

Where to Find Kyle:👉 Kyle’s Substack:

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In this powerful conversation, I welcome Jeanie Hosken → licensed counselor, founder of the Restoration Center, and author of Restoration Center Encouragement on Substack → to the Porn Free Millennial Podcast. Jeanie brings over 40 years of experience in nutrition counseling, emotional healing, and Christian spiritual restoration.

We dive deep into:

* The unseen emotional and spiritual roots of porn addiction

* How disconnection, loneliness, and emotional wounds drive unhealthy coping mechanisms

* The crucial role of intimacy, connection, and comfort in true recovery

* Betrayal trauma, forgiveness, and healing in relationships affected by porn

* How faith and emotional literacy accelerate personal growth and lasting change

Jeanie shares her personal marriage journey and offers life-changing insights for anyone seeking freedom, renewal, and restored intimacy.

👉 Whether you're healing from porn addiction yourself or rebuilding trust in your relationship, this episode offers practical tools, heartfelt wisdom, and real hope.

🔔 Subscribe to stay connected as we continue breaking free together.

🎙️ More About My Guest: Jeanie Hosken

Jeanie Hosken is a seasoned counselor and the founder of Restoration Center. With nearly 40 years of experience as a Registered Dietitian and personal trainer, and 30 years as a counselor, Jeanie offers an integrated approach to healing that addresses the body, mind, and spirit. She holds a Master’s in Divinity from the Global Awakening Theological Seminary and is passionate about helping individuals live abundant lives physically, emotionally, spiritually, and relationally. Jeanie's own life experiences including moving 15 times, facing unemployment, and living in an Airstream travel trailer have equipped her to relate deeply to her clients' struggles. Learn more about her work at restorationcenter.lifeand her writings atrestorationcenter.substack.com.

In this episode, I sat down with counselor Jeanie Hosken to share the story I once swore I'd never tell.

“I was first exposed to porn when I was 10 years old… and I knew right away this wasn’t what I should be doing. I felt a lot of shame doing it.”

What started as curiosity quickly became a secret life. For years, I didn’t think it was affecting me, until it destroyed my marriage. I lied. I gaslit. I broke the heart of someone I loved. And even though I was a believer, I kept it all in the dark.

“I just gave it all up to God and said, ‘Please save me.’”

From calling the hotline in the depths of my breakdown, to journaling through tears in the Colorado mountains, to shooting my first elk beside my Dad… this is the journey of how I went from porn prison to purpose.

We unpack:

* How early exposure and silence planted seeds of addiction

* The deep tie between porn, pain, and generational wounds

* My relapse after nearly two years of sobriety and why keeping it a secret destroyed more than the act itself

* Why white-knuckling doesn’t work, but grace does

* What changed when I started asking not “how do I stop?” but “who do I want to become?”

“I never really had a strategy until I was about 30, which is wild to think about.”

We talk EMDR, accountability software, my daily FASTT check-ins with my little brother, and what it means to rebuild your identity in Christ after you’ve burned your old one to the ground.

“I call it porn prison, just this brutal cycle of pain and shame. But the truth is, the door was never locked. I just didn’t know how to walk out.”

This isn’t just a story of sobriety. It’s a story of redemption. Of faith. Of legacy. Of getting up from the ashes with something worth building.

If you’re struggling, or you know someone who is, I hope this episode makes space for honesty, healing, and hope.

“You’re not unlovable. You’re not beyond saving. And your story’s not over.”

🎙️ About My Guest: Jeanie Hosken

Jeanie Hosken is a seasoned counselor and the founder of Restoration Center. With nearly 40 years of experience as a Registered Dietitian and personal trainer, and 30 years as a counselor, Jeanie offers an integrated approach to healing that addresses the body, mind, and spirit. She holds a Master’s in Divinity from the Global Awakening Theological Seminary and is passionate about helping individuals live abundant lives physically, emotionally, spiritually, and relationally. Jeanie's own life experiences including moving 15 times, facing unemployment, and living in an Airstream travel trailer have equipped her to relate deeply to her clients' struggles. Learn more about her work at restorationcenter.life and her writings at restorationcenter.substack.com.

Addiction doesn’t always look the way we expect. Whether it’s food, porn, alcohol, or endless scrolling, many compulsive behaviors share the similar underlying patterns and the similar hope for healing.

In this episode, I’m joined by Tim Ebl 🇨🇦, a recovered food addict, ex-binge eater, and certified Primal Health Coach. Tim’s been to the bottom and back and now helps others find a clear, compassionate, no-BS path toward a radically healthy and happy life through his Substack publication, Time2Thrive.

Addiction doesn’t always look the way we expect. Whether it’s food, porn, alcohol, or endless scrolling, many compulsive behaviors share similar underlying patterns → and the same hope for healing.

In this episode, I’m joined by Tim Ebl 🇨🇦, a recovered food addict, ex-binge eater, and certified Primal Health Coach. Tim’s been to the bottom and back, and now helps others find a clear, compassionate, no-BS path toward a radically healthy and happy life through his Substack publication, Time2Thrive.

In this conversation, you’ll get to hear Tim’s powerful, transformative story and unpack the shared cycles of addiction alongside us:

→ How habits form→ Why we get stuck→ What it really takes to break free

We also dive into the cultural relationship we have with food → how social norms, marketing, and even childhood experiences can shape unconscious behaviors. Developing that cultural and self-awareness is often the first breakthrough moment in any healing journey.

And yes, we get into it → seed oils, high fructose corn syrup, and diet pop (or soda... depending on your zip code…we’re not here to judge, but we might poke a little fun 😄).

You’ll see just how much overlap there is between food addiction and porn addiction as well as other addictions → and why the strategies for building self awareness and embracing healing habits are more connected than you might think.

Whether you’re struggling with your relationship to food, sex, or screens → or just ready to make a shift toward a lifestyle that thrives → this one’s for you.

In today’s episode, I speak with Christopher Lind author/host of the Future-Focused Substack and Podcast.

In our discussion, we dive deep into:

* The rise of AI-powered porn & its impact on the mind

* What the future holds 5 to 10 years from now

* How to reclaim your code and break free from this digital addiction

* Essential advice for parents navigating this new landscape

This is a raw, insightful, and solution-focused conversation you won’t want to miss.

For more content from Christopher besides his Substack and Podcast:

Christopher’s website

Christopher’s YouTube

Additional Content and Resources:

Chris on the Sean McDowell Show Diving Deep into AI

My article about the predatory nature of the Porn Industry

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In this episode, I’m joined once again by counselor Jeanie Hosken author of the Restoration Center Encouragement Substack and owner of Restoration Center counseling for a deeply honest and practical conversation about why apologizing is so hard and what a real apology actually requires.

Building on our previous discussion about emotional intelligence (Episode 54), this episode explores how unresolved shame, defensiveness, pride, and a lack of modeling in our upbringing often sabotage our attempts at repair - especially in relationships impacted by porn use, secrecy, and broken trust.

I reflect candidly on my own past marriage, the pain caused by dishonesty around porn, and how saying “sorry” without understanding what you’re apologizing for can do more harm than good. Together, Jeanie and I break down the anatomy of a genuine apology, one that leads to healing rather than further disconnection.

In this episode, you’ll hear:

* Why most of us were never taught how to apologize well—and how that shows up in adult relationships

* How unprocessed emotions shut down our ability to repair and take responsibility

* The difference between intention and impact—and why impact always matters more

* Why defensiveness, minimization, and “I’m sorry you feel that way” aren’t real apologies

* The importance of emotional regulation before attempting repair

* How porn addiction warps accountability, honesty, and empathy

* Why listening without defending yourself is essential to rebuilding trust

* How faith, repentance, and humility can break the cycle of deception and shame

* Practical language for owning your actions without excuses

* Why a rushed apology often serves the offender more than the person who was hurt

Key takeaway:

A real apology is a process - not just saying sorry.

It requires ownership, emotional awareness, listening without defense, and the humility to sit with the pain you caused without trying to escape it.

This episode is essential listening for anyone navigating recovery, rebuilding trust, or learning how to repair relationships with integrity.

Resources & Links

🔗 Jeanie Hoskin – Counseling & Substack

👉 Jeanie’s Restoration Center Encouragement Substack

👉 Jeanie & Jeff’s counseling services

🔗 Previous Conversation with Jeannie

👉 Episode 43. From the Shadows to the Light – My Journey Out of Porn Prison

👉 Episode 44. Healing Porn Addiction Through Emotional Intimacy, Connection, and Comfort (with Counselor Jeanie Hosken)

👉 Episode 55: How to Develop Emotional Intelligence in a Porn-Saturated Culture

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* Personally, I use Ever Accountable. Try this link for a limited 30 day free trial and 20% off after that 30 day trial expires.

* To learn more about Ever Accountable, check out my interview with its CEO, Tyler Patterson.

Personal Coaching: A Path to Freedom

Personal Coaching: A Path to Freedom

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Hey team, I had the honor yesterday to talk with Philip Hofmacher about my Substack journey.

About Philip

Digital Entrepreneur & Community Builder. Helping Creators Escape the Content Hamster Wheel. More Growth, Smarter Monetization, Real Freedom. They Call Me Mr. Substack Livestream 🎙️

I’ve gotten to know Philip through his Write • Build • Scale publication and Substack System community that I joined last month.

Definitely check out Philip and his publication/community if you are interested in growing your audience and sharpening your voice on this platform. He’s been nothing but a stand-up guy who genuinely loves to see people grow and succeed.

I have found incredible value since I joined his program and community!

In our conversation , I discuss my origin story on Substack that actually began in September 2021 (did not start writing until May 2023) and why waiting/procrastinating on my passion project lead to unforeseen whirlwind of two years.

Long story short, the worst-case scenario happened because I hesitated and I ended up nearly losing everything.

If you are still in the process of building your audience and finding your voice, I hope sharing my Substack journey will be helpful in providing motivation and inspiration!

Much Love,

Mac

In today’s episode, I reflect on the importance on our moments and how moments can be missed when we remove ourselves from the present when engaging in destructive habits like porn addiction.

In this discussion, I share 3 different stories that were the theme of my Monday Break Free Newsletter and I expand on their meaning and importance. My goal is for you to walk away from this episode with a different perspective on the value of being in the moment and how experiencing the moment with a clear mind can allow that memory to age well instead of rotting in the decay of a missed opportunity or tainted experience.

As you head into the the day or end your day, think about how you can make the best of your moments!

Also…don't forget to like, subscribe, share, and leave your thoughts in the comments!

Writings Mentioned:

* Our Moments Matter - #19th edition of the Break Free Newsletter

* The Pre-Game

* The NightCap

* Shoot to Make It

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