Explore every episode of the podcast Pleasure Uprising: Desire, Attachment, and the Sex You Actually Want
| Title | Pub. Date | Duration | |
|---|---|---|---|
| The 10 biggest mistakes people make with desire discrepancies | 22 Dec 2025 | 01:00:23 | |
This is THE episode to share. After 100 episodes and years of working with couples on mismatched desire, I'm breaking down the 10 mistakes that keep you stuck—from obligation sex and taking rejection personally, to making every touch sexual and believing someone is broken. These patterns make total sense, but they backfire hard. If you or someone you know is dealing with a desire gap, start here. You'll learn what's keeping things stuck and exactly what to do instead. The 10 mistakes:
For each one, you'll learn why it backfires and exactly what to do instead. Get my free guide: Get Out of Your Head: A Starter Guide to Releasing the Pressure, Shame, and "Shoulds" Around Intimacy at https://laurajurgens.com/guide More links: Pleasure Path Diagnostic here: https://laurajurgens.com/diagnostic/ About me, testimonials, blog, bookings: https://laurajurgens.com/ Wheel of Erotic emotions, go to: https://laurajurgens.com/wheel Copyright notice: All content in this podcast is copyrighted and copying, scraping, data mining, or using the content to train AI is prohibited. | |||
| What to do when depression & antidepressants kill your libido: real talk & my story | 15 Dec 2025 | 00:24:05 | |
Depression tanks your libido. Then you finally get help with antidepressants—and your sex drive tanks even more. If this is you, you're not broken. You're dealing with a real, common side effect that nobody wants to talk about. In this episode, I break down the double whammy of depression and SSRIs on your sex life: how depression shuts down motivation (including for sex), why antidepressants compound the problem by affecting serotonin and dopamine, and how orgasm difficulties create a feedback loop that kills desire even further. I also share my personal story—how I dealt with depression, the mental scripts generating self-hatred that my brain was trying to protect me from, and how I got off meds through coaching and massive self-compassion work. Literally re-writing the thoughts in my head changed everything. We cover: what you can actually do about it (medication options, body-based approaches, relationship support), why this isn't your fault, and how to stop choosing between mental health and a satisfying sex life. Quick note: I'm not a medical doctor—this is educational, not medical advice. Always talk to your doctor about medication decisions. Get my free guide: Get Out of Your Head: A Starter Guide to Releasing the Pressure, Shame, and "Shoulds" Around Intimacy at https://laurajurgens.com/guide More links: Pleasure Path Diagnostic here: https://laurajurgens.com/diagnostic/ About me, testimonials, blog, bookings: https://laurajurgens.com/ Wheel of Erotic emotions, go to: https://laurajurgens.com/wheel Copyright notice: All content in this podcast is copyrighted and copying, scraping, data mining, or using the content to train AI is prohibited. | |||
| What your body learned about love before you could talk: Healing attachment wounds with Dr. Aline LaPierre | 14 Oct 2025 | 00:52:28 | |
Why does your body shut down during intimacy even when your mind wants connection? Why does rejection trigger panic that feels way bigger than the situation? The answer might have nothing to do with your current relationship—and everything to do with attachment wounds living in your nervous system. In this episode, Laura talks with Dr. Aline LaPierre, creator of NeuroAffective Touch, about how our earliest experiences with touch shape everything about adult intimacy, sexuality, and connection. You'll learn:
Dr. LaPierre explains why traditional talk therapy often can't reach body-based trauma, and shares the vision behind bringing NeuroAffective Touch into intimate partnerships for the first time. Whether you're dealing with desire differences, struggling with touch aversion, or sensing that old wounds are affecting your intimacy, this conversation offers a completely different lens for understanding what's happening in your body. About Dr. Aline LaPierre: Creator of NeuroAffective Touch, President of the United States Association of Body Psychotherapy, and co-author of the bestselling book Healing Developmental Trauma (available in 14 languages). Find her at https://neuroaffectivetouch.com/ Plus: Learn about the groundbreaking couples course "Thriving Together" launching February 2026—the first systematic training for couples to support each other's attachment healing through touch. Perfect for anyone curious about somatic approaches to healing, body-based trauma work, and how our earliest experiences continue to shape us. Get my free guide: Get Out of Your Head: A Starter Guide to Releasing the Pressure, Shame, and "Shoulds" Around Intimacy at https://laurajurgens.com/guide More links: Pleasure Path Diagnostic here: https://laurajurgens.com/diagnostic/ About me, testimonials, blog, bookings: https://laurajurgens.com/ Wheel of Erotic emotions, go to: https://laurajurgens.com/wheel Copyright notice: All content in this podcast is copyrighted and copying, scraping, data mining, or using the content to train AI is prohibited. | |||
| Desire Solutions: Signs that you're rushing penetration & what to do instead | 06 Oct 2025 | 00:29:01 | |
Why does penetration feel painful, numb, or just... meh? And why does rushing to it kill desire over time? If you're experiencing pain or numbness during sex, struggling with low libido, or wondering why your partner seems less and less interested, this episode is for you. It reveals one of the most common desire killers: penetration before the body is actually ready. You'll learn how much time most female bodies need before reaching full arousal, how to recognize true readiness for penetration, what to do if impatience is getting in the way, and how rushing this one thing can tank desire for years. Whether you're a higher-libido partner wondering why sex isn't appealing to your partner, or a lower-desire partner who's been crossing your body's boundaries so long that sex has become something to endure – this episode has practical solutions for both of you. Perfect for couples dealing with mismatched libidos, pain during sex, or anyone wanting to understand what bodies actually need for pleasurable, desire-building intimacy. Get my free guide: Get Out of Your Head: A Starter Guide to Releasing the Pressure, Shame, and "Shoulds" Around Intimacy at https://laurajurgens.com/guide More links: Pleasure Path Diagnostic here: https://laurajurgens.com/diagnostic/ About me, testimonials, blog, bookings: https://laurajurgens.com/ Wheel of Erotic emotions, go to: https://laurajurgens.com/wheel Copyright notice: All content in this podcast is copyrighted and copying, scraping, data mining, or using the content to train AI is prohibited. | |||
| Desire Killers & What To Do Instead: Pouting When You Don't Get Sex | 29 Sep 2025 | 00:36:26 | |
Tired of the cycle where you don't get sex, so you sulk, which makes your partner want sex even less? You're not alone – and you're definitely not getting the results you want. In this episode, we break down why pouting, withdrawal, and passive aggression after sexual rejection literally kills desire and pushes your partner further away. If you're the higher-libido partner feeling frustrated and acting out, or the lower-libido partner dealing with sulking and guilt trips, this episode is for you. You'll learn exactly why these behaviors backfire so spectacularly, what to do instead when you feel rejected or frustrated, and how both partners can break this desire-killing cycle. No shame, no blame – just practical tools to stop making things worse and start building the connection you actually want. Perfect for couples dealing with mismatched libidos, desire discrepancies, or anyone who wants better communication around sex and intimacy. Get my free guide: Get Out of Your Head: A Starter Guide to Releasing the Pressure, Shame, and "Shoulds" Around Intimacy at https://laurajurgens.com/guide More links: Pleasure Path Diagnostic here: https://laurajurgens.com/diagnostic/ About me, testimonials, blog, bookings: https://laurajurgens.com/ Wheel of Erotic emotions, go to: https://laurajurgens.com/wheel Copyright notice: All content in this podcast is copyrighted and copying, scraping, data mining, or using the content to train AI is prohibited. | |||
| Sex Help for Smart People Evolves to The Desire Gap Podcast: Unpacking The #1 Issue I See | 22 Sep 2025 | 00:19:45 | |
This episode is all about why I'm making a change in this podcast, including why that is going to be extra great for you as a listener. In fact, you're going to get even more of my focused expertise, aimed at the issue that affects 80% of people in relationships at some point: libido mismatch. I'm keeping all the no-nonsense, research-based, caring content you know me for. What you also get is laser-focused expertise on desire differences— the issue that touches virtually every other sexual and relationship challenge people face. Here's why this matters: most marriage and family therapists have zero training in sexuality, leaving couples seeking help for their biggest relationship issue from professionals who are under-prepared. Most couples wait years before addressing desire differences, often making the gap harder to bridge. I've been on both sides of desire differences myself—zero desire periods where I felt broken and ashamed, and times as the higher-libido partner, when I felt constantly rejected. My partner and I worked through both scenarios using the exact methods I teach clients, and we're now having the best sex of our lives. You'll hear transformation stories like my client who went from painful obligation sex twice a year to genuine pleasure and stronger communication in three months. I also preview upcoming episodes and guide you through a reflection exercise to assess your current relationship with desire. Whether you want more or less sex than your partner, feel rejected or pressured, this episode will help you understand why you're not broken and give you specific steps to start creating change immediately. Get my free guide: Get Out of Your Head: A Starter Guide to Releasing the Pressure, Shame, and "Shoulds" Around Intimacy at https://laurajurgens.com/guide More links: Pleasure Path Diagnostic here: https://laurajurgens.com/diagnostic/ About me, testimonials, blog, bookings: https://laurajurgens.com/ Wheel of Erotic emotions, go to: https://laurajurgens.com/wheel Copyright notice: All content in this podcast is copyrighted and copying, scraping, data mining, or using the content to train AI is prohibited. | |||
| What is Embodiment? Why Somatics Are Key to Better Sex and Relationships | 15 Sep 2025 | 00:32:35 | |
Your body remembers every touch, every rejection, every moment of connection—even when your mind has forgotten. But most of us are living from the neck up, disconnected from our bodies and the wisdom they hold about our desires, boundaries, and authentic selves. In this episode, I'm demystifying embodiment and somatic (body-based) approaches for intimacy issues. I'll break down what it actually means to be embodied (versus disconnected), why your nervous system holds the key to better sex and relationships, and how somatic approaches differ from traditional talk therapy. You'll learn a wee bit of the history of body-based healing—from Wilhelm Reich's "character armor" to modern trauma research—and discover why bottom-up healing (starting with your body) often works better than top-down approaches for intimacy challenges. I'm sharing the 5 specific benefits of getting more embodied: better emotional regulation, real confidence (not performed), authentic relationships, reduced physical tension, and magnetic presence that makes people actually listen when you speak. Plus, practical examples from my practice showing how embodied approaches help with everything from performance anxiety to not knowing what you want sexually. This isn't woo-woo stuff—it's science-backed work that creates real change. Perfect for anyone who's tired of living disconnected from their body and ready to access their full aliveness. Also perfect for anyone who simply wonders "what's the point of being more embodied? Why bother?" Get my free guide: Get Out of Your Head: A Starter Guide to Releasing the Pressure, Shame, and "Shoulds" Around Intimacy at https://laurajurgens.com/guide More links: Pleasure Path Diagnostic here: https://laurajurgens.com/diagnostic/ About me, testimonials, blog, bookings: https://laurajurgens.com/ Wheel of Erotic emotions, go to: https://laurajurgens.com/wheel Copyright notice: All content in this podcast is copyrighted and copying, scraping, data mining, or using the content to train AI is prohibited. | |||
| Is It Okay to Fantasize During Sex? A Guide to Helpful vs. Unhelpful Mental Erotica | 08 Sep 2025 | 00:27:11 | |
Many people worry that fantasizing during intimacy means something is wrong with their relationship or attraction to their partner. In this episode, we explore why mental wandering during sex is completely normal and can actually enhance your experience. Learn the difference between healthy fantasy that keeps you present and embodied… versus problematic fantasy used for dissociation or avoidance. We'll cover why active minds (especially ADHD brains) benefit from fantasy, when it becomes a red flag, and how to use your imagination as a tool for better sex rather than an escape from it. Plus, we tackle the big question: is fantasizing about others considered cheating? Get my free guide: Get Out of Your Head: A Starter Guide to Releasing the Pressure, Shame, and "Shoulds" Around Intimacy at https://laurajurgens.com/guide More links: Pleasure Path Diagnostic here: https://laurajurgens.com/diagnostic/ About me, testimonials, blog, bookings: https://laurajurgens.com/ Wheel of Erotic emotions, go to: https://laurajurgens.com/wheel Copyright notice: All content in this podcast is copyrighted and copying, scraping, data mining, or using the content to train AI is prohibited. | |||
| Situationships and Friends with Benefits - What Works and What Doesn't | 01 Sep 2025 | 00:24:54 | |
Are casual-sex relationships always problematic, or can they actually work for some people? In this episode, we break down the key differences between "friends with benefits" (clear boundaries) and situationships (confusing lack of clarity). Learn why catching feelings during casual sex is completely normal and healthy, when these arrangements can work, and crucial signs they're not right for you. We'll explore attachment styles, discuss why some people naturally bond through sex while others remain detached, and provide practical guidance for knowing whether you're built for casual relationships. Plus, we address the long-term implications of consistent emotional avoidance, and answer the question: is it possible to prioritize my emotional well-being while having casual sex? Get my free guide: Get Out of Your Head: A Starter Guide to Releasing the Pressure, Shame, and "Shoulds" Around Intimacy at https://laurajurgens.com/guide More links: Pleasure Path Diagnostic here: https://laurajurgens.com/diagnostic/ About me, testimonials, blog, bookings: https://laurajurgens.com/ Wheel of Erotic emotions, go to: https://laurajurgens.com/wheel Copyright notice: All content in this podcast is copyrighted and copying, scraping, data mining, or using the content to train AI is prohibited. | |||
| How to Talk to Your Partner about What Turns You OFF | 25 Aug 2025 | 00:29:45 | |
We're going to get really nitty-gritty here today and give you the full details on why, when and how to tell your partner what turns you off. I'll also give you the important exceptions -- that is, when NOT to frame something as a turn-off. Plus you'll get a step-by-step guide on how to have these conversations -- and my Golden Rule for how to make them WAY less hard. Get my free guide: Get Out of Your Head: A Starter Guide to Releasing the Pressure, Shame, and "Shoulds" Around Intimacy at https://laurajurgens.com/guide More links: Pleasure Path Diagnostic here: https://laurajurgens.com/diagnostic/ About me, testimonials, blog, bookings: https://laurajurgens.com/ Wheel of Erotic emotions, go to: https://laurajurgens.com/wheel Copyright notice: All content in this podcast is copyrighted and copying, scraping, data mining, or using the content to train AI is prohibited. | |||
| Can You Really Learn Relationship Skills Through Pleasure? The Science Says Yes | 18 Aug 2025 | 00:27:04 | |
What if getting better at relationships and intimacy could actually feel amazing? In this episode, we look at the evidence to challenge the assumption that learning relationship skills has to involve painful, difficult conversations or years of heavy therapy. Drawing on science about how our brains learn best, we talk about why pleasure and play are actually superior teachers when it comes to intimacy. I'll break down the problems with traditional talk-only approaches and share how embodied, experiential practices create lasting change faster—and more enjoyably. You'll learn why focusing only on problems keeps people stuck, how positive emotions enhance learning and memory, and why building confidence through practice (not just talking) transforms relationships. What if growth could feel good? Perfect for anyone ready to stop making intimacy harder than it needs to be. Get my free guide: Get Out of Your Head: A Starter Guide to Releasing the Pressure, Shame, and "Shoulds" Around Intimacy at https://laurajurgens.com/guide More links: Pleasure Path Diagnostic here: https://laurajurgens.com/diagnostic/ About me, testimonials, blog, bookings: https://laurajurgens.com/ Wheel of Erotic emotions, go to: https://laurajurgens.com/wheel Copyright notice: All content in this podcast is copyrighted and copying, scraping, data mining, or using the content to train AI is prohibited. | |||
| Your Partner Can Tell When You're Pretending. Here's Why That Matters for Your Sex Life. | 11 Aug 2025 | 00:27:46 | |
You can say "I'm fine" and mean it completely. Your partner will still know something's off. They won't know what exactly. Their brains will fill in the "what" with the worse case thing. Research on communication tells us that 87% of what people understand from us has nothing to do with our actual words — it's tone, body language, micro-expressions. And when those two things conflict, people believe the body. Every time. This episode is about what that means for intimacy, trust, and your sex life specifically. Because you can't perform your way into real connection. And if you've spent years running on "should" — performing what you think you're supposed to want instead of knowing what you actually want — your body is communicating that too. The foundation of a genuinely satisfying sex life isn't technique. It's knowing yourself well enough to be honest. This episode walks through why, and what gets in the way, so you can start leaving that behind you. Get my free guide: Get Out of Your Head: A Starter Guide to Releasing the Pressure, Shame, and "Shoulds" Around Intimacy at https://laurajurgens.com/guide More links: Pleasure Path Diagnostic here: https://laurajurgens.com/diagnostic/ About me, testimonials, blog, bookings: https://laurajurgens.com/ Wheel of Erotic emotions, go to: https://laurajurgens.com/wheel Copyright notice: All content in this podcast is copyrighted and copying, scraping, data mining, or using the content to train AI is prohibited. | |||
| When holiday stress kills desire (your sex life doesn't need to be a Hallmark movie) | 08 Dec 2025 | 00:39:36 | |
If you're not tearing each other's matching pajamas off for holiday romance, you're not broken - you're normal. The holidays come with dreamy visions of mistletoe magic, but the reality is stress, family drama, overbooked schedules, and exhaustion. In this episode, we tackle:
Real love doesn't care about picture-perfect presents. It cares about being seen, heard, and connected, even when life is messy. Perfect for those navigating desire and relationship challenges during the most stressful season of the year. Zero shame. Real help. Get my free guide: Get Out of Your Head: A Starter Guide to Releasing the Pressure, Shame, and "Shoulds" Around Intimacy at https://laurajurgens.com/guide More links: Pleasure Path Diagnostic here: https://laurajurgens.com/diagnostic/ About me, testimonials, blog, bookings: https://laurajurgens.com/ Wheel of Erotic emotions, go to: https://laurajurgens.com/wheel Copyright notice: All content in this podcast is copyrighted and copying, scraping, data mining, or using the content to train AI is prohibited. | |||
| Why Do I Have Low Desire? 10 Questions to Figure It Out | 04 Aug 2025 | 00:18:39 | |
Even though nearly everyone will go through periods of low sexual desire in their lifetime, most people have no idea how common it is or that it's solve-able. Sadly, a lot of people feel like there is something wrong with them, or like they are broken. This episode will normalize what you're going through, plus give you 10 important questions to help you identify the root causes of your own low desire. Get my free guide: Get Out of Your Head: A Starter Guide to Releasing the Pressure, Shame, and "Shoulds" Around Intimacy at https://laurajurgens.com/guide More links: Pleasure Path Diagnostic here: https://laurajurgens.com/diagnostic/ About me, testimonials, blog, bookings: https://laurajurgens.com/ Wheel of Erotic emotions, go to: https://laurajurgens.com/wheel Copyright notice: All content in this podcast is copyrighted and copying, scraping, data mining, or using the content to train AI is prohibited. | |||
| How To Stop Avoiding Your Own Desires & Figure Out What You Really Want | 28 Jul 2025 | 00:19:10 | |
Are you secretly scared of your own desires? I see this all the time in my practice – we avoid knowing what we truly want because we're terrified of disappointment. But here's the thing: your desires are there whether you acknowledge them or not, and avoiding them is just quitting in advance (there's no benefit). In this episode, I'm walking you through a powerful exercise that will help you uncover what you actually want (not what you think you should want). We're going to dig past those surface-level desires – like wanting the perfect body or your partner to initiate sex more – and get to the real stuff underneath. I'll share how my own perfectionist fantasies were actually masking deeper desires for self-acceptance, and how recognizing this changed everything. You'll learn to distinguish between desires you can control versus ones that depend on other people, and why that matters so much. This isn't about repressing your wants – it's about getting smart about them. I'm giving you the exact questions to ask yourself that will help you figure out which desires are worth pursuing and which ones are just symptoms of other issues. Grab a pen and paper – we're doing this work together. Get my free guide: Get Out of Your Head: A Starter Guide to Releasing the Pressure, Shame, and "Shoulds" Around Intimacy at https://laurajurgens.com/guide More links: Pleasure Path Diagnostic here: https://laurajurgens.com/diagnostic/ About me, testimonials, blog, bookings: https://laurajurgens.com/ Wheel of Erotic emotions, go to: https://laurajurgens.com/wheel Copyright notice: All content in this podcast is copyrighted and copying, scraping, data mining, or using the content to train AI is prohibited. | |||
| When Touch Feels Off: Why It Happens & How to Fix It | 21 Jul 2025 | 00:24:24 | |
Have you ever been with someone you love, but their touch just felt... wrong? Or maybe your partner has told you that YOUR touch feels off, and you have no idea what you're doing wrong? I'm diving deep into this incredibly common issue that so many couples face but rarely talk about. First, I want you to know: you're not broken, and neither is your partner. This happens to normal humans with normal senses, and it's actually important information your body is giving you. I'm breaking down the four main reasons touch can feel off – from being too up in your head instead of present in your body, to timing issues, to picking up on unspoken emotions your partner isn't even aware they're having. The good news? All of this can be fixed with better communication, presence, and attunement skills. I'll share a real example from a recent intensive session where I walked a couple through this exact process, and it was absolutely life-changing for them. If you've ever struggled with this, you're going to want to hear the practical solutions that actually work. This episode could transform how you connect with your partner. Get my free guide: Get Out of Your Head: A Starter Guide to Releasing the Pressure, Shame, and "Shoulds" Around Intimacy at https://laurajurgens.com/guide More links: Pleasure Path Diagnostic here: https://laurajurgens.com/diagnostic/ About me, testimonials, blog, bookings: https://laurajurgens.com/ Wheel of Erotic emotions, go to: https://laurajurgens.com/wheel Copyright notice: All content in this podcast is copyrighted and copying, scraping, data mining, or using the content to train AI is prohibited. | |||
| Spontaneous vs. Scheduled Sex: How Do We Find The (Right) Time? | 14 Jul 2025 | 00:13:25 | |
It can be hard for couples to find good times to connect sexually. Busy lives or different sleep schedules are just some contributing factors that make finding time for sex especially challenging. Add to that an expectation that sex is "supposed to be spontaneous" and we have a recipe for frustration. Join me for an exploration of where the whole "thing" around spontaneity comes from, why you might like to de-bunk the myth that spontaneous = passionate, and how you can find more time and better times to get it on. Get my free guide: Get Out of Your Head: A Starter Guide to Releasing the Pressure, Shame, and "Shoulds" Around Intimacy at https://laurajurgens.com/guide More links: Pleasure Path Diagnostic here: https://laurajurgens.com/diagnostic/ About me, testimonials, blog, bookings: https://laurajurgens.com/ Wheel of Erotic emotions, go to: https://laurajurgens.com/wheel Copyright notice: All content in this podcast is copyrighted and copying, scraping, data mining, or using the content to train AI is prohibited. | |||
| Are We Just Too Sexually Incompatible? How to Know. | 07 Jul 2025 | 00:25:45 | |
If you're asking yourself whether you and your partner are just too sexually incompatible for your relationship to work, this episode is for you. (Tip: It's also for people you know who seem to be asking themselves this all the time. Please share it and you could save someone a lot of angst). Join me as we dive into the hidden issues underneath this question. If you or someone you know is asking this question, you know that it can take a lot of energy and really sap your joy. So let's figure it out and give you the right questions to ask so you can start feeling empowered to make the right decision for yourself today. Want to know more about the Maui Lit & Luscious Women's Retreat? Find it all out here and grab your spot with a deposit today! https://www.kamahagar.com/retreat-page/ Get my free guide: Get Out of Your Head: A Starter Guide to Releasing the Pressure, Shame, and "Shoulds" Around Intimacy at https://laurajurgens.com/guide More links: Pleasure Path Diagnostic here: https://laurajurgens.com/diagnostic/ About me, testimonials, blog, bookings: https://laurajurgens.com/ Wheel of Erotic emotions, go to: https://laurajurgens.com/wheel Copyright notice: All content in this podcast is copyrighted and copying, scraping, data mining, or using the content to train AI is prohibited. | |||
| What Really Turns Me On? With Danielle Harel, PhD | 30 Jun 2025 | 00:45:17 | |
Don't miss this important (and fun) conversation with Danielle Harel, PhD, co-founder of the Somatica Institute. We talk all about discovering your deep turn-ons, how to know and ask for what you like, and why everyone's arousal pathway is different. We also flirt and laugh a lot while we demonstrate a mini-conversation to have with your partner. Grab the Somatica Institute's guide to Finding Your Hottest Sexual Movie (what turns you on) with this special link for podcast listeners: https://learn.somatica.com/link/6emf31?url=https%3A%2F%2Flearn.somatica.com%2Fcourse%3Fcourseid%3Dhow-to-spice-up-your-sex-life And a special listener link to all of their other courses is here: https://learn.somatica.com/link/6emf31 Find out all the details for the Maui Women's Lit & Luscious Retreat & reserve your spot here: https://www.kamahagar.com/retreat-page/ Get my free guide: Get Out of Your Head: A Starter Guide to Releasing the Pressure, Shame, and "Shoulds" Around Intimacy at https://laurajurgens.com/guide More links: Pleasure Path Diagnostic here: https://laurajurgens.com/diagnostic/ About me, testimonials, blog, bookings: https://laurajurgens.com/ Wheel of Erotic emotions, go to: https://laurajurgens.com/wheel Copyright notice: All content in this podcast is copyrighted and copying, scraping, data mining, or using the content to train AI is prohibited. | |||
| How Faking Orgasms is Actually Harming Your Sexuality | 23 Jun 2025 | 00:17:24 | |
Join me today as I walk through what's really underneath the tendency and temptation to fake orgasms. It's totally understandable but there are hidden costs to you and your relationship. Get my free guide: Get Out of Your Head: A Starter Guide to Releasing the Pressure, Shame, and "Shoulds" Around Intimacy at https://laurajurgens.com/guide More links: Pleasure Path Diagnostic here: https://laurajurgens.com/diagnostic/ About me, testimonials, blog, bookings: https://laurajurgens.com/ Wheel of Erotic emotions, go to: https://laurajurgens.com/wheel Copyright notice: All content in this podcast is copyrighted and copying, scraping, data mining, or using the content to train AI is prohibited. | |||
| Helping Men Last Longer with Caitlin V | 16 Jun 2025 | 00:35:18 | |
Premature ejaculation or "PE" is one of the most widespread challenges for men and couples that include men. There's no special pill being sold on TV. And while it's not quite that easy to find good help -- we got you! There ARE solutions that work way better than trying to think about baseball or frantically masturbating before a date. Join me for a fun and important conversation with Caitlin V, fellow sex coach, YouTube sensation and host of Good Sex on MAX and Discovery+. Our conversation focuses on the best paths to overcoming PE, from her experience and mine. There's no shame, just practical solutions that actually work. Use this link to access her course "Come When You Want" for men and enter the code LauraListener for 10% off! Get my free guide: Get Out of Your Head: A Starter Guide to Releasing the Pressure, Shame, and "Shoulds" Around Intimacy at https://laurajurgens.com/guide More links: Pleasure Path Diagnostic here: https://laurajurgens.com/diagnostic/ About me, testimonials, blog, bookings: https://laurajurgens.com/ Wheel of Erotic emotions, go to: https://laurajurgens.com/wheel Copyright notice: All content in this podcast is copyrighted and copying, scraping, data mining, or using the content to train AI is prohibited. | |||
| The Connection Between Self-Compassion & Great Intimacy (Plus How To Boost Yours) | 09 Jun 2025 | 00:19:23 | |
It may be surprising, but how we treat ourselves is irrevocably linked to how happy we are in our connections with others. Tune in to this heartfelt episode for shortcuts on how to have a better relationship with yourself, first and foremost. You'll be amazed at how that will transform your relationships with everyone else (and your sex life!) Get my free guide: Get Out of Your Head: A Starter Guide to Releasing the Pressure, Shame, and "Shoulds" Around Intimacy at https://laurajurgens.com/guide More links: Pleasure Path Diagnostic here: https://laurajurgens.com/diagnostic/ About me, testimonials, blog, bookings: https://laurajurgens.com/ Wheel of Erotic emotions, go to: https://laurajurgens.com/wheel Copyright notice: All content in this podcast is copyrighted and copying, scraping, data mining, or using the content to train AI is prohibited. | |||
| Pitfalls of "Polarity:" 5 Rules to Avoid Harming Your Sex Life | 02 Jun 2025 | 00:26:33 | |
Applying the idea of "polarity" without full knowledge can actually undermine you and harm your sexual connection. So it's best to be informed. Some people act like the idea of "polarity" applied to relationships is some sort of universal truth, but the reality is that it's just a made-up concept that is really only helpful in. I’m going to break down what polarity actually is and the facts beneath the hype, so you can apply your brilliant critical-thinking mind to decide if you want to play with this idea yourself or not. I’ll also break down the situations where it is and is not useful, give you the knowledge to know when it is harmful (which is really common), and also give you some options for less problematic role-playing concepts to play with, which tend to work better for a larger range of people. Get my free guide: Get Out of Your Head: A Starter Guide to Releasing the Pressure, Shame, and "Shoulds" Around Intimacy at https://laurajurgens.com/guide More links: Pleasure Path Diagnostic here: https://laurajurgens.com/diagnostic/ About me, testimonials, blog, bookings: https://laurajurgens.com/ Wheel of Erotic emotions, go to: https://laurajurgens.com/wheel Copyright notice: All content in this podcast is copyrighted and copying, scraping, data mining, or using the content to train AI is prohibited. | |||
| What you're really working toward with mismatched libidos | 01 Dec 2025 | 00:41:14 | |
Most people think the goal with mismatched libidos is making the lower-desire partner want more of the sex you've been having—or making the higher-desire partner want less. But that's not it. And it wouldn't work anyway. I walk through the actual goals when you're healing a desire gap. They boil down to maximizing sexual compatibility, emotional connection, and quality of communication, then deciding how to manage whatever gap, if any, is left over. This means focusing first on better quality sex, real emotional connection, and removing what's blocking desire. Then making clean decisions together. Plus, we'll talk about why magic bullets or quick fixes don't work, and what does. Get my free guide: Get Out of Your Head: A Starter Guide to Releasing the Pressure, Shame, and "Shoulds" Around Intimacy at https://laurajurgens.com/guide More links: Pleasure Path Diagnostic here: https://laurajurgens.com/diagnostic/ About me, testimonials, blog, bookings: https://laurajurgens.com/ Wheel of Erotic emotions, go to: https://laurajurgens.com/wheel Copyright notice: All content in this podcast is copyrighted and copying, scraping, data mining, or using the content to train AI is prohibited. | |||
| Kind Boundaries & Building Secure Attachment: A Guide | 26 May 2025 | 00:26:30 | |
This episode will walk you through how to have boundaries that feel great. Good boundaries feel like a big hug for you, rather than a barbed-wire fence to control others. We'll also cover why kind boundaries are critical to creating secure attachment. Don't miss this one! Get my free guide: Get Out of Your Head: A Starter Guide to Releasing the Pressure, Shame, and "Shoulds" Around Intimacy at https://laurajurgens.com/guide More links: Pleasure Path Diagnostic here: https://laurajurgens.com/diagnostic/ About me, testimonials, blog, bookings: https://laurajurgens.com/ Wheel of Erotic emotions, go to: https://laurajurgens.com/wheel Copyright notice: All content in this podcast is copyrighted and copying, scraping, data mining, or using the content to train AI is prohibited. | |||
| Giving and Receiving Oral & Troubleshooting (Plus: Why People Often Dislike 69) | 19 May 2025 | 00:19:27 | |
Today we're talking about common challenges & solutions for giving and receiving oral sex. Plus, since this is episode 69, I'm celebrating with some cautionary tales around 69, and I'll cover why so many people just don't like it (plus what to do instead). Get my free guide: Get Out of Your Head: A Starter Guide to Releasing the Pressure, Shame, and "Shoulds" Around Intimacy at https://laurajurgens.com/guide More links: Pleasure Path Diagnostic here: https://laurajurgens.com/diagnostic/ About me, testimonials, blog, bookings: https://laurajurgens.com/ Wheel of Erotic emotions, go to: https://laurajurgens.com/wheel Copyright notice: All content in this podcast is copyrighted and copying, scraping, data mining, or using the content to train AI is prohibited. | |||
| Why Your Brain Lies to You About What's Possible in Desire and Relationships | 12 May 2025 | 00:15:50 | |
There's a version of stuck that doesn't feel like stuck. It feels like facts. I've never been comfortable with my body. We've always had mismatched desire. This is just how I am. Your brain uses your history as evidence — and the longer the pattern, the more airtight the case seems. This episode is about that specific trap: using the past to predict what's possible, especially when it comes to desire, sex, relationships, and how you feel about yourself. There's a real mechanism here — learned helplessness — and it shows up constantly in the most intimate parts of life. I walk through what it looks like in practice, where your agency actually is (it's not where most people look for it), and a simple exercise to find exactly where you've quietly decided change isn't coming. It usually is. Get my free guide: Get Out of Your Head: A Starter Guide to Releasing the Pressure, Shame, and "Shoulds" Around Intimacy at https://laurajurgens.com/guide More links: Pleasure Path Diagnostic here: https://laurajurgens.com/diagnostic/ About me, testimonials, blog, bookings: https://laurajurgens.com/ Wheel of Erotic emotions, go to: https://laurajurgens.com/wheel Copyright notice: All content in this podcast is copyrighted and copying, scraping, data mining, or using the content to train AI is prohibited. | |||
| Is It So Bad To Be A Tease? Redefining & Reclaiming Play | 05 May 2025 | 00:21:23 | |
Ever wish you had more make out sessions with your partner(s)? Ever wish you felt 100% allowed to just flirt or kiss and then . . . stop? Do you ever wish you could get physical affection without feeling like you're on the hook for getting your partner to orgasm? If so, this episode is for you! It's also for anyone who notices their partner avoiding sex. And anyone who, on reflection, notices that they take flirtation and making out as a signal that their partner wants sex, but rarely do you talk about it explicitly or actually ask. Get my free guide: Get Out of Your Head: A Starter Guide to Releasing the Pressure, Shame, and "Shoulds" Around Intimacy at https://laurajurgens.com/guide More links: Pleasure Path Diagnostic here: https://laurajurgens.com/diagnostic/ About me, testimonials, blog, bookings: https://laurajurgens.com/ Wheel of Erotic emotions, go to: https://laurajurgens.com/wheel Copyright notice: All content in this podcast is copyrighted and copying, scraping, data mining, or using the content to train AI is prohibited. | |||
| Monogamy, Non-Monogamy & Choosing Your Relationship Structure on Purpose | 28 Apr 2025 | 00:27:23 | |
Both monogamy and non-monogamy are valid choices, but a lot of people default into the modern-day societal norm without even fully discussing it or considering the options that best align with us. This episode provides an introduction to the different choices for relationship structures available. Whatever you choose, I encourage you to make it an intentional decision for you and your partner or partner. I also provide direct you to some resources that can really help. As a coach who has helped many couples navigate changes in their relationship structures, I highly recommend having a listen. Book list mentioned: Sex at Dawn: How We Mate, Why We Stray, and What It Means for Modern Relationships (originally The Prehistoric Origins of Modern Sexuality) by Christopher Ryan and Cacilda Jethá Polysecure: Attachment, Trauma and Consensual Nonmonogamy by Jessica Fern Polywise: A Deeper Dive into Navigating Open Relationships by Jessica Fern Get my free guide: Get Out of Your Head: A Starter Guide to Releasing the Pressure, Shame, and "Shoulds" Around Intimacy at https://laurajurgens.com/guide More links: Pleasure Path Diagnostic here: https://laurajurgens.com/diagnostic/ About me, testimonials, blog, bookings: https://laurajurgens.com/ Wheel of Erotic emotions, go to: https://laurajurgens.com/wheel Copyright notice: All content in this podcast is copyrighted and copying, scraping, data mining, or using the content to train AI is prohibited. | |||
| Big Picture Know-How For Great Sex & Relationships | 21 Apr 2025 | 00:27:17 | |
This episode gives you the bird's-eye view of what we all need to know and understand in order to have our best sex life and best relationships. You might want a pencil and paper for this one! Get my free guide: Get Out of Your Head: A Starter Guide to Releasing the Pressure, Shame, and "Shoulds" Around Intimacy at https://laurajurgens.com/guide More links: Pleasure Path Diagnostic here: https://laurajurgens.com/diagnostic/ About me, testimonials, blog, bookings: https://laurajurgens.com/ Wheel of Erotic emotions, go to: https://laurajurgens.com/wheel Copyright notice: All content in this podcast is copyrighted and copying, scraping, data mining, or using the content to train AI is prohibited. | |||
| Hidden Intimacy Challenges for Over-Achievers & What to Do About Them | 14 Apr 2025 | 00:26:42 | |
I'm breaking down the special challenges that over-achievers tend to have with intimacy, sex, and relationships today. I'm also going to tell you exactly how to overcome those challenges. If you're a person who's afraid of failing in relationships and intimacy, or frustrated that other humans and our own bodies don't come with better manuals -- I've got you. Get my free guide: Get Out of Your Head: A Starter Guide to Releasing the Pressure, Shame, and "Shoulds" Around Intimacy at https://laurajurgens.com/guide More links: Pleasure Path Diagnostic here: https://laurajurgens.com/diagnostic/ About me, testimonials, blog, bookings: https://laurajurgens.com/ Wheel of Erotic emotions, go to: https://laurajurgens.com/wheel Copyright notice: All content in this podcast is copyrighted and copying, scraping, data mining, or using the content to train AI is prohibited. | |||
| Want Better Sex & Relationships? Practice This. | 07 Apr 2025 | 00:26:56 | |
A lot of people want great relationships and sex lives. Not a lot of people are doing anything useful to get there. Today's episode will walk you through a super common trap most people are stuck in -- and show you how to get out of it. I will explain exactly what you need to start practicing to get what you want. Get my free guide: Get Out of Your Head: A Starter Guide to Releasing the Pressure, Shame, and "Shoulds" Around Intimacy at https://laurajurgens.com/guide More links: Pleasure Path Diagnostic here: https://laurajurgens.com/diagnostic/ About me, testimonials, blog, bookings: https://laurajurgens.com/ Wheel of Erotic emotions, go to: https://laurajurgens.com/wheel Copyright notice: All content in this podcast is copyrighted and copying, scraping, data mining, or using the content to train AI is prohibited. | |||
| Which Comes First for You: Physical or Emotional Connection? | 31 Mar 2025 | 00:13:34 | |
People have different ways of getting to connection. Some people find emotional connection necessary before they feel safe to connect physically. Some people want physical intimacy in order to access emotional connection. If you are different than your partner in this, it can cause a lot of strife. This episode unpacks this common issue and helps you understand how to start solving it. Get my free guide: Get Out of Your Head: A Starter Guide to Releasing the Pressure, Shame, and "Shoulds" Around Intimacy at https://laurajurgens.com/guide More links: Pleasure Path Diagnostic here: https://laurajurgens.com/diagnostic/ About me, testimonials, blog, bookings: https://laurajurgens.com/ Wheel of Erotic emotions, go to: https://laurajurgens.com/wheel Copyright notice: All content in this podcast is copyrighted and copying, scraping, data mining, or using the content to train AI is prohibited. | |||
| Saying No Without Guilt in Relationships & Sex...and everywhere else too | 24 Mar 2025 | 00:17:28 | |
Saying yes to things you don't want to do is not helping your relationships. It's not being "nice" either. Today's episode will help free you from guilt that keeps you from showing up authentically and saying no when you want to. Learn how and why your "no" can be a gift to others, and why it can really liberate your relationship from hidden...or not so hidden...resentments. Get my free guide: Get Out of Your Head: A Starter Guide to Releasing the Pressure, Shame, and "Shoulds" Around Intimacy at https://laurajurgens.com/guide More links: Pleasure Path Diagnostic here: https://laurajurgens.com/diagnostic/ About me, testimonials, blog, bookings: https://laurajurgens.com/ Wheel of Erotic emotions, go to: https://laurajurgens.com/wheel Copyright notice: All content in this podcast is copyrighted and copying, scraping, data mining, or using the content to train AI is prohibited. | |||
| You DO have options: what higher-desire partners can actually do | 24 Nov 2025 | 00:42:28 | |
Feeling stuck, powerless, and like your needs don't matter? This episode is for you. A listener wrote: "I feel like you only talk about what the low-libido partner needs. What about me?" He's right—I needed to address this more directly. In this episode, I break down the "power imbalance" myth, clarify what you can reasonably expect in a monogamous relationship, and talk over the 5 real options when your partner refuses to work on your desire discrepancy. Your needs matter. You're not powerless. You have choices—they're just hard choices. We also cover what you can do RIGHT NOW to reclaim your agency. Topics: desire discrepancy, mismatched libido, sexless marriage, higher libido partner, relationship help Get my free guide: Get Out of Your Head: A Starter Guide to Releasing the Pressure, Shame, and "Shoulds" Around Intimacy at https://laurajurgens.com/guide More links: Pleasure Path Diagnostic here: https://laurajurgens.com/diagnostic/ About me, testimonials, blog, bookings: https://laurajurgens.com/ Wheel of Erotic emotions, go to: https://laurajurgens.com/wheel Copyright notice: All content in this podcast is copyrighted and copying, scraping, data mining, or using the content to train AI is prohibited. | |||
| Kissing: Challenges, Explorations & Tips | 17 Mar 2025 | 00:20:26 | |
This episode dives into all things Kissing. We'll cover basic Do's and Don'ts, and unpack common concerns about this very common activity. Many couples communicate pretty poorly if at all about their desires and preferences around kissing, which makes it very hard to get what you want. I'll help you get free of that and understand how to improve your kissing situation, whether you want more kissing, less kissing, or different kissing. Get my free guide: Get Out of Your Head: A Starter Guide to Releasing the Pressure, Shame, and "Shoulds" Around Intimacy at https://laurajurgens.com/guide More links: Pleasure Path Diagnostic here: https://laurajurgens.com/diagnostic/ About me, testimonials, blog, bookings: https://laurajurgens.com/ Wheel of Erotic emotions, go to: https://laurajurgens.com/wheel Copyright notice: All content in this podcast is copyrighted and copying, scraping, data mining, or using the content to train AI is prohibited. | |||
| Christina & Brooke Share Wisdom from the Middle of the Change Process | 10 Mar 2025 | 00:37:36 | |
Sometimes at the end of the journey it can be hard to even remember what it was like to be in the middle. Listen in to my interview with a wonderful couple of humans, Christina and Brooke, who are currently working with me. They openly share how they started out disconnected with lots of resentment. They discuss what they've learned so far and how they feel now mid-way through the process of transforming their relationship. Anyone seeking better, more authentic, and stress-free intimacy will benefit from their perspective. Get my free guide: Get Out of Your Head: A Starter Guide to Releasing the Pressure, Shame, and "Shoulds" Around Intimacy at https://laurajurgens.com/guide More links: Pleasure Path Diagnostic here: https://laurajurgens.com/diagnostic/ About me, testimonials, blog, bookings: https://laurajurgens.com/ Wheel of Erotic emotions, go to: https://laurajurgens.com/wheel Copyright notice: All content in this podcast is copyrighted and copying, scraping, data mining, or using the content to train AI is prohibited. | |||
| How People-Pleasing Kills Intimacy & What to Do About It | 03 Mar 2025 | 00:15:45 | |
There are 3 things I really want you to know about people-pleasing and intimacy. When you're a people-pleaser, you'll often feel like you're doing things to make others happy or doing things out of obligation. You'll also often feel like you're not getting the appreciation you want, like you don't have space and time for yourself, and/or like you are just tired of people wanting stuff from you. There's often an underlying current of resentment you may or may not acknowledge. Here's the truth: people-pleasing is hell on intimacy and relationships. This episode will walk you through how it wreaks havoc on your libido, your sense of connection and relationship satisfaction. It's a big deal -- and it's also fixable. Join me for this short episode and get started on the path to freedom today. Get my free guide: Get Out of Your Head: A Starter Guide to Releasing the Pressure, Shame, and "Shoulds" Around Intimacy at https://laurajurgens.com/guide More links: Pleasure Path Diagnostic here: https://laurajurgens.com/diagnostic/ About me, testimonials, blog, bookings: https://laurajurgens.com/ Wheel of Erotic emotions, go to: https://laurajurgens.com/wheel Copyright notice: All content in this podcast is copyrighted and copying, scraping, data mining, or using the content to train AI is prohibited. | |||
| Three-somes & Group Sex: Fantasy, Reality & Avoiding Pitfalls | 24 Feb 2025 | 00:30:08 | |
Lots of folks fantasize about threesomes or group sex, and some of us decide to try it for real. Both can be fun. This episode will guide you through how to have more fun with fantasy and how to make real-life group sex a good experience for everyone. Plus, I'll give you my best tips on how to find other partners and deal with the logistics of setting it up so everyone has a good time. If you're interested in threesomes, don't miss this one! Get my free guide: Get Out of Your Head: A Starter Guide to Releasing the Pressure, Shame, and "Shoulds" Around Intimacy at https://laurajurgens.com/guide More links: Pleasure Path Diagnostic here: https://laurajurgens.com/diagnostic/ About me, testimonials, blog, bookings: https://laurajurgens.com/ Wheel of Erotic emotions, go to: https://laurajurgens.com/wheel Copyright notice: All content in this podcast is copyrighted and copying, scraping, data mining, or using the content to train AI is prohibited. | |||
| Paths to Sexual Confidence: Real vs. Fake Confidence or Arrogance | 17 Feb 2025 | 00:35:28 | |
A lot of people want more confidence but are afraid of fake confidence and arrogance. You’re right to be wary of that. It’s not helpful to be falsely confident or arrogant in intimate relationships and sexuality. Today we're going to talk about why, how to avoid fake confidence or arrogance, and how to build real confidence and empowerment instead. We'll talk about why it's the opposite of selfish. I'll also share the path to creating a deep, all-encompassing sense of worth and love-ability. I'll even give you a quick exercise to get you started. I absolutely believe you are 100% worthy of love and acceptance exactly as you are -- and I want you to believe that too. It will feel amazing to you and be a gift to everyone in your life. Get my free guide: Get Out of Your Head: A Starter Guide to Releasing the Pressure, Shame, and "Shoulds" Around Intimacy at https://laurajurgens.com/guide More links: Pleasure Path Diagnostic here: https://laurajurgens.com/diagnostic/ About me, testimonials, blog, bookings: https://laurajurgens.com/ Wheel of Erotic emotions, go to: https://laurajurgens.com/wheel Copyright notice: All content in this podcast is copyrighted and copying, scraping, data mining, or using the content to train AI is prohibited. | |||
| Curing the Libido Mismatch Blues | 10 Feb 2025 | 00:39:20 | |
If Libidio Mismatch is something you struggle with – you know it can be super hard on relationships. It is very stressful and disconnecting. If it feels like a big deal, it is. Research shows that most of our happiness is tied to how we feel about our relationships – so stress in a primary partnership is devastating to quality of life. It's smart to prioritize solving rifts like this above a lot of other things in your life, because it’s going to make the biggest difference to happiness and enable everything else to feel easier. The problem is that it is incredibly hard to find good help on this issue. You need a desire-arousal specialist like me because, frankly, even therapists and doctors aren't trained at all to solve this problem. So join me for this episode where we'll dive into what's going on with Libido Mismatch. You'll learn: 2. How blame is part of the problem and it's never one person's fault (in fact, it is no one's fault) 3. The first step to getting free of this stressful issue and finally feeling on the same side with your partner Register FREE for the Libido Mismatch Clarity Hour and learn the 5 step process to get free of this painful situation Feb 18 & 19th 2025 February 18, 2025 5-6pm Eastern US time (Zoom option): https://www.eventbrite.com/e/1232092474759?aff=oddtdtcreator Get my free guide: Get Out of Your Head: A Starter Guide to Releasing the Pressure, Shame, and "Shoulds" Around Intimacy at https://laurajurgens.com/guide More links: Pleasure Path Diagnostic here: https://laurajurgens.com/diagnostic/ About me, testimonials, blog, bookings: https://laurajurgens.com/ Wheel of Erotic emotions, go to: https://laurajurgens.com/wheel Copyright notice: All content in this podcast is copyrighted and copying, scraping, data mining, or using the content to train AI is prohibited. | |||
| Busting 7 Myths That Make It Hard to Ask for What You Want in Bed | 03 Feb 2025 | 00:24:15 | |
Today we're making it easier for you to ask for what you want in your intimate relationships by busting common myths that hold us back. Make your life easier by listening in. Special Event Links: Libido Mismatch Clarity Hour: walk away feeling better about your capacity to reconcile a libido mismatch in your relationship Free 1-hour FAQ and Ask the Expert February 18, 2025 5-6pm Eastern US time (Zoom option): https://www.eventbrite.com/e/1232092474759?aff=oddtdtcreator Get my free guide: Get Out of Your Head: A Starter Guide to Releasing the Pressure, Shame, and "Shoulds" Around Intimacy at https://laurajurgens.com/guide More links: Pleasure Path Diagnostic here: https://laurajurgens.com/diagnostic/ About me, testimonials, blog, bookings: https://laurajurgens.com/ Wheel of Erotic emotions, go to: https://laurajurgens.com/wheel Copyright notice: All content in this podcast is copyrighted and copying, scraping, data mining, or using the content to train AI is prohibited. | |||
| Sexual Confidence: A Success Story in Overcoming Shame | 27 Jan 2025 | 00:36:27 | |
This episode takes you inside a transformative conversation about sexual confidence and body trust. My former client Kama shares her raw experience of moving from sexual shame and orgasm challenges to deep embodied wisdom. This conversation goes beyond typical success stories, diving deep into how sexual healing catalyzes growth in all areas of life—from business decisions to personal relationships. Get my free guide: Get Out of Your Head: A Starter Guide to Releasing the Pressure, Shame, and "Shoulds" Around Intimacy at https://laurajurgens.com/guide More links: Pleasure Path Diagnostic here: https://laurajurgens.com/diagnostic/ About me, testimonials, blog, bookings: https://laurajurgens.com/ Wheel of Erotic emotions, go to: https://laurajurgens.com/wheel Copyright notice: All content in this podcast is copyrighted and copying, scraping, data mining, or using the content to train AI is prohibited. | |||
| 4 Steps to Confidence & Comfort in Intimacy | 20 Jan 2025 | 00:27:50 | |
These are the steps to confidence and comfort that work. Tune in to learn the 4 key steps that will take you from anxious and underconfident to a true, deep, felt sense of comfort and capability in sex and intimacy. Frankly, they are not all easy, though some are surprisingly fun. These steps are what my practice is based on and why it's been so effective for my clients. That's why I'm sharing them with you today. Get my free guide: Get Out of Your Head: A Starter Guide to Releasing the Pressure, Shame, and "Shoulds" Around Intimacy at https://laurajurgens.com/guide More links: Pleasure Path Diagnostic here: https://laurajurgens.com/diagnostic/ About me, testimonials, blog, bookings: https://laurajurgens.com/ Wheel of Erotic emotions, go to: https://laurajurgens.com/wheel Copyright notice: All content in this podcast is copyrighted and copying, scraping, data mining, or using the content to train AI is prohibited. | |||
| The Biggest Thing You Can Do To Feel More Sexual Empowerment This Year (and it's FREE) | 13 Jan 2025 | 00:24:06 | |
This episode will explain the best, biggest thing you can do to improve your relationship with your own sexuality this year AND your intimacy with a partner. This is the one thing most people are NOT doing – and it is FREE. That’s right, people will spend loads of money this year trying to spice things up by buying stuff: lingerie, sex toys, vacations, and even sex rooms. But most people will fail to do this one, totally FREE thing that is the biggest game changer of them all, and the most empowering thing you can do to change your sex life. Tune in to discover this secret and how to get started today. Get my free guide: Get Out of Your Head: A Starter Guide to Releasing the Pressure, Shame, and "Shoulds" Around Intimacy at https://laurajurgens.com/guide More links: Pleasure Path Diagnostic here: https://laurajurgens.com/diagnostic/ About me, testimonials, blog, bookings: https://laurajurgens.com/ Wheel of Erotic emotions, go to: https://laurajurgens.com/wheel Copyright notice: All content in this podcast is copyrighted and copying, scraping, data mining, or using the content to train AI is prohibited. | |||
| Why obligation sex destroys desire (and what works better) | 17 Nov 2025 | 00:29:30 | |
You think having sex when you don't really want to will keep your partner happy. But obligation sex actually destroys desire—and doesn't help either of you in the long run. Research shows that when you cross your own boundaries repeatedly this way, your desire drops even further. Resentment builds. And your partner can wind up feeling even more unwanted. I break down what actually happens with obligation sex, why it doesn't help either partner, and how to choose a different option that honors each person's truth while actually building (rather than eroding) connection. Get my free guide: Get Out of Your Head: A Starter Guide to Releasing the Pressure, Shame, and "Shoulds" Around Intimacy at https://laurajurgens.com/guide More links: Pleasure Path Diagnostic here: https://laurajurgens.com/diagnostic/ About me, testimonials, blog, bookings: https://laurajurgens.com/ Wheel of Erotic emotions, go to: https://laurajurgens.com/wheel Copyright notice: All content in this podcast is copyrighted and copying, scraping, data mining, or using the content to train AI is prohibited. | |||
| The Most Powerful Step | 06 Jan 2025 | 00:24:12 | |
Today I’m going to tell you a really personal story of how I almost quit on my marriage. I’m also going to share one of the most powerful ideas in the world for changing your life and your relationships. That sounds like a giant claim, and it is, but it is also really simple. If you look at the most joyful people who are living the lives they want – you will see this idea at work all the time. It is their defining approach to life, and it’s what enabled me to rescue my relationship. Register for the Confident in Connection workshop January 24 here: https://www.eventbrite.com/e/1120149891479?aff=oddtdtcreator Get my free guide: Get Out of Your Head: A Starter Guide to Releasing the Pressure, Shame, and "Shoulds" Around Intimacy at https://laurajurgens.com/guide More links: Pleasure Path Diagnostic here: https://laurajurgens.com/diagnostic/ About me, testimonials, blog, bookings: https://laurajurgens.com/ Wheel of Erotic emotions, go to: https://laurajurgens.com/wheel Copyright notice: All content in this podcast is copyrighted and copying, scraping, data mining, or using the content to train AI is prohibited. | |||
| Liberation from Religious Shame & Repression: an interview with Lisa | 30 Dec 2024 | 00:38:57 | |
So many people feel disconnected from their authentic sexuality due to a history of religious repression and shaming. In an ideal world, religion would be universally supportive and comforting. Unfortunately, so many people have had the opposite experience, and wound up with decades of harmful ideas about themselves and their sexuality that they struggle to overcome. In this episode, I interview Lisa, a former client, who emerged from many years of religious shame and repression to discover her own authentic sexuality and access her own capacity for pleasure. Tune in and listen to Lisa's inspiring story. Get my free guide: Get Out of Your Head: A Starter Guide to Releasing the Pressure, Shame, and "Shoulds" Around Intimacy at https://laurajurgens.com/guide More links: Pleasure Path Diagnostic here: https://laurajurgens.com/diagnostic/ About me, testimonials, blog, bookings: https://laurajurgens.com/ Wheel of Erotic emotions, go to: https://laurajurgens.com/wheel Copyright notice: All content in this podcast is copyrighted and copying, scraping, data mining, or using the content to train AI is prohibited. | |||
| Rethinking Conflict: How Conflict Avoidance Undermines Relationships & What To Do Instead | 23 Dec 2024 | 00:35:00 | |
Conflict is inevitable in close relationships. Doing it well is key to feeling confident, connected, seen, and safe. Many people avoid conflict, or let their default strategies overwhelm them in unhelpful ways. This episode will help you learn to stop avoding necessary conflict and instead use it to get closer and solve problems together. Click the link below to register for the ROCKING RELATIONSHIP REPAIR Workshop January 24, 2025 with the special code PODFAN to get a $25 ticket! Get my free guide: Get Out of Your Head: A Starter Guide to Releasing the Pressure, Shame, and "Shoulds" Around Intimacy at https://laurajurgens.com/guide More links: Pleasure Path Diagnostic here: https://laurajurgens.com/diagnostic/ About me, testimonials, blog, bookings: https://laurajurgens.com/ Wheel of Erotic emotions, go to: https://laurajurgens.com/wheel Copyright notice: All content in this podcast is copyrighted and copying, scraping, data mining, or using the content to train AI is prohibited. | |||
| Getting the Right Help for Pelvic & Sexual Pain: Interview with Dr. Susie Gronski | 16 Dec 2024 | 00:40:00 | |
Pelvic and sexual pain is absolutely treatable, even though it can be hard to admit and challenging to find the right help. Join me to hear from pelvic health expert Dr. Susie Gronski. This episode will help you release shame or stigma about pelvic pain, which is very common. Dr. Gronski also explains common struggles with sexual and pelvic pain for both penis and vagina-owners, and helps you navigate the challenges in finding the right professionals to support you. Get my free guide: Get Out of Your Head: A Starter Guide to Releasing the Pressure, Shame, and "Shoulds" Around Intimacy at https://laurajurgens.com/guide More links: Pleasure Path Diagnostic here: https://laurajurgens.com/diagnostic/ About me, testimonials, blog, bookings: https://laurajurgens.com/ Wheel of Erotic emotions, go to: https://laurajurgens.com/wheel Copyright notice: All content in this podcast is copyrighted and copying, scraping, data mining, or using the content to train AI is prohibited. | |||