Pleasure In The Pause: Smart, Sexy Midlife Conversations about Menopause, Hormones & Female Pleasure – Details, episodes & analysis

Ignorance is not bliss when it comes to your sexual anatomy. There is so little we've been taught about our sexual anatomy, and when we begin to experience the changes of perimenopause or menopause, we are forced to confront our internalized shame, silence and ignorance about this amazing part of our bodies. In this episode, I'm going to talk to you about how getting to know our vulvas can empower us both in the bedroom and in the doctor's office. We'll explore the beauty of this part of our body through the lens of Eastern traditional wisdom and provide practical tips on how to care for your vulva, especially during menopause. This week, episode 22 of Pleasure in the Pause is about embracing your sexual wellness! 

In this episode of Pleasure in the Pause, I’m sharing the importance of understanding your anatomy for better communication with your doctor and partner and actionable steps you can take right now to strengthen and care for your vulva and pelvic floor. 

Highlights from our discussion include:

• The importance of knowing your anatomy and what “normal” looks like for you.
• How the use of vaginal moisturizers can help maintain the health and comfort of the vulvar and vaginal tissues.
• The benefits of strengthening your pelvic floor muscles.
• Encouraging open communication with your partner about how the changes you are experiencing during perimenopause and menopause.

If you’re looking to establish a shame-free way to connect with and nurture your vulva garden, click here or visit https://www.pleasureinthepause.com/bodylove to download my free vulva love meditation!

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Do you find it difficult to talk to your doctor about your sexual health? Where do you even begin finding the right doctor who will listen? And how can you empower yourself with the knowledge to understand your own sexual anatomy so you can advocate for yourself in the doctor's office and in the bedroom? Dr. Rachel Rubin is on a mission to change the landscape of sexual medicine and sexual education for medical practitioners and patients alike. Get comfortable and ready for a real education. This week, episode 21 of Pleasure in the Pause is about changing the landscape of sexual medicine and education! 

In this episode of Pleasure in the Pause, Dr. Rachel Rubin shares the importance of knowing your anatomy and what normal looks like for you and actionable steps you can take right now to better advocate for yourself at the doctor’s office. 

Highlights from our discussion include:

• The importance of understanding patients' unique experiences and connecting with them on a personal level.
• The benefits of vaginal estrogen and why the FDA black box warning is misleading. 
• Why we need open discussion about the physical changes that happen at puberty and menopause.
• Encouraging women to advocate for themselves and seek out specialized care for sexual health issues.

For more resources regarding women’s sexual health and to find a specialized provider, check out the International Society for the Study of Women’s Sexual Health (ISSWSH) website.

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Dr. Rachel S. Rubin is a board-certified urologist and sexual medicine specialist.  She is one of only a handful of physicians with fellowship training in sexual medicine for all genders. Dr. Rubin is a clinician, researcher, and passionate educator. In addition to being the former education chair and current Director-at-Large for the International Society for the Study of Women’s Sexual Health (ISSWSH), she serves as associate editor for the journal Sexual Medicine Reviews. 

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Today we're exploring a topic that's often shrouded in taboo and secrecy, but is essential for our well-being: how to start a self-pleasure practice.

If you're feeling disconnected from your body, craving a deeper connection with your pleasure, or simply curious about exploring self-pleasure, this video is for you. We'll break down the barriers and myths surrounding self-pleasure, and I'll guide you through some beautiful techniques to help you reconnect with your body and reignite that spark within. 🔥

In this Podcast, you'll discover:

• The difference between self-pleasure and masturbation, and why self-pleasure is key for your well-being
• How to create a shame-free environment to explore your desires
• Four different types of touch to help you start your self-pleasure journey
• The amazing benefits of integrating self-pleasure into your daily self-care routine

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If you're seeking to reclaim your pleasure and vitality, join Gabriella at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.pleasureinthepause.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ for this enlightening journey into the heart of female pleasure and empowerment.

Reclaim your sensuality and step into a powerful new chapter. The Midlife Pleasure Collective is a monthly membership designed to help midlife women reconnect with their bodies, embrace their desires, and cultivate deeper pleasure. Join the founding members for just $20/month - spots are limited, so apply now at pleasure-in-the-pause.com/collective. 

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What cultural narratives have you inherited about menopause? In this eye-opening conversation with Dr. Sameena Rahman we look at the factors that shape the menopause experience for women of diverse cultural and racial backgrounds.

If you are a woman of color or support a woman of color in any capacity you will want to listen to this episode and learn how we can all menopause better together.

In this insightful episode, Dr. Sameena Rahman and I explore:

• The cultural narratives and shame that often shroud menopause for women of color
• Eye-opening research on the unique symptoms, health risks, and inequities faced by Black, Latina, Asian, and Indigenous women during menopause
• Practical strategies for overcoming barriers to seeking medical support and advocating for your needs
• The truth about hormone therapy, sexual pain, and the importance of preventive care
• How to cultivate a supportive community and prioritize self-care during this transformative time

If you're ready to break free from shame and silence and step into your power during menopause, then this episode is for you.

Dr. Rahman is a board-certified OB/GYN who has tailored her practice to meet the needs of women for gynecologic and cosmetic services. After years of practicing obstetrics and gynecology in a variety of large academic settings and locations, Dr. Rahman started her own practice to focus on her special areas of interest to ensure patients have their best quality of life. Through her research and dedication, she is one of the few physicians nationally to receive the designation of ISSWSH (International Society for the Study of Women’s Sexual Health ) Fellow (IF) and is actively involved with cutting edge approaches to sexual pain and sexual dysfunction. She also is an active member of the IPPS, International Pelvic Pain Society, and specializes in a multidisciplinary approach to chronic pelvic pain. For midlife women, Dr. Rahman is also a specialist in menopause management with the designation of Certified Menopause Physician through the North American Menopause Society (NCMP).

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Dr Rahman's website: https://www.cgcchicago.com/

Instagram https://www.instagram.com/gynogirl/

Find resources for women of color at Menopause Made Modern: https://menomademodern.com/

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If you're seeking to reclaim your pleasure and vitality, join Gabriella at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.pleasureinthepause.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ for this enlightening journey into the heart of female pleasure and empowerment.

Reclaim your sensuality and step into a powerful new chapter. The Midlife Pleasure Collective is a monthly membership designed to help midlife women reconnect with their bodies, embrace their desires, and cultivate deeper pleasure. Join the founding members for just $20/month - spots are limited, so apply now at pleasure-in-the-pause.com/collective. 

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Discover how to reignite your sexual pleasure and desire as a midlife woman.

Carly Mountain shares ancient wisdom to guide you on a transformative journey of self-love and empowerment through perimenopause, menopause, and beyond.

Many women feel disconnected from their sexual selves during the menopausal transition. This powerful interview with psychosexual somatic therapist Carly Mountain reveals how the ancient myth of Inanna provides a roadmap to meet yourself as a sexual being, cultivate self-love, and ignite desire in midlife. If you're a woman navigating the challenges and changes of menopause, this is a must-watch.

Carly shares how the "descent and rising" journey of Inanna mirrors the experience of perimenopause and menopause, inviting women to shed outdated identities, meet exiled parts of themselves, and cultivate self-love and erotic energy. Through practical exercises and profound insights, viewers will discover how to reignite desire, communicate with partners, and embrace their full sexual being.

To explore more of Carly's work and access free resources, visit her website at ⁠https://carlymountain.com/⁠

Her book "⁠Descent and Rising⁠" is a must-read for any woman navigating the menopausal journey: ⁠https://carlymountain.com/descent-rising-womens-stories-the-embodiment-of-the-inanna-myth/⁠

You can follow her on Instagram @carly_mountian https://www.instagram.com/carly_mountain/

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If you're seeking to reclaim your pleasure and vitality, join Gabriella at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.pleasureinthepause.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ for this enlightening journey into the heart of female pleasure and empowerment.

Reclaim your sensuality and step into a powerful new chapter. The Midlife Pleasure Collective is a monthly membership designed to help midlife women reconnect with their bodies, embrace their desires, and cultivate deeper pleasure. Join the founding members for just $20/month - spots are limited, so apply now at pleasure-in-the-pause.com/collective. 

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Do you find yourself "checking out" or running through your to-do list during intimacy?

But what if there was a simple yet powerful tool that could help you awaken desire and be more present to pleasure?

Discover how mindfulness can reignite your passion, deepen your pleasure, and transform your relationship with sex.

In this episode, Dr. Lori Brotto, Professor of Obstetrics and Gynecology at the University of British Columbia, registered psychologist, and author of "Better Sex Through Mindfulness," shares her groundbreaking research and practical techniques to help you cultivate desire and experience more fulfilling sex.

Highlights from our discussion include:

• Mindfulness as a Pathway to Pleasure: Discover how mindfulness can help you tune into your body, heighten your senses, and enhance your sexual experiences.
• The Science of Desire: Learn about the scientific evidence supporting mindfulness as a tool to improve sexual desire and arousal.
• Overcoming Common Sexual Challenges: Gain valuable insights into addressing issues such as low desire, stress, and negative body image that can affect sexual well-being.
• Practical Mindfulness Techniques: Explore simple yet effective mindfulness practices that can be incorporated into your daily routine to cultivate desire and intimacy.
• Partner Involvement: Understand how to engage your partner in mindfulness practices to enhance your shared intimate experiences.
• Transforming Your Sexual Health: Learn about Dr. Brotto's holistic approach to sexual health, combining science-based evidence with mindfulness and self-compassion.

Whether you're navigating midlife changes, seeking to reignite your passion, or simply wanting to enhance your sexual wellness, this episode is filled with practical advice and profound wisdom that will leave you feeling empowered and connected.

Press play now to receive Dr. Brotto's invaluable insights and guidance.

Your body, mind, and relationships will thank you.

Dr. Lori Brotto: https://www.loribrotto.com/

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Reclaim your sensuality and step into a powerful new chapter. The Midlife Pleasure Collective is a monthly membership designed to help midlife women reconnect with their bodies, embrace their desires, and cultivate deeper pleasure. Join the founding members for just $20/month - spots are limited, so apply now at pleasure-in-the-pause.com/collective. 

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Ready to break free from the hustle mentality and create a business rooted in ease, flow, and authentic community?

In this powerful interview, Ana Flores, founder of the multimillion-dollar platform We All Grow Latina, shares her transformative journey and the mindset shifts that allowed her to rebuild her business from the brink of bankruptcy by prioritizing self-care, intuition, and community.

Discover how Ana:

→ Overcame limiting beliefs and generational trauma to embrace her power

→ Rebuilt her business by returning to her spiritual practices and prioritizing well-being

→ Cultivates a thriving community based on mirroring experiences and empowering Latinas

→ Redefines success and abundance through collaboration and shared growth

Whether you're an entrepreneur looking to create a purpose-driven business or a woman yearning to reconnect with your roots and step into your power, this episode is a must-listen.

Join Gabriella and Ana for a heart-centered conversation that will inspire you to lead with courage, embrace your unique path, and create a life and business that aligns with your deepest values.

About our guest: Ana Flores

• Website: https://www.weallgrowlatina.com/

• Store: https://shop.weallgrowlatina.com/

• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/weallgrowlatina

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Reclaim your sensuality and step into a powerful new chapter. The Midlife Pleasure Collective is a monthly membership designed to help midlife women reconnect with their bodies, embrace their desires, and cultivate deeper pleasure. Join the founding members for just $20/month - spots are limited, so apply now at pleasure-in-the-pause.com/collective. 

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I am thrilled to share with you this week's podcast episode. In this conversation, I have the privilege of diving deep with Christine Marie Mason, the visionary founder of Rosebud Woman, an exquisite intimate skincare brand that supports women through all stages of life.Get ready to be inspired to reclaim your radiance and redefine your relationship with pleasure!In this illuminating conversation, Christine shares her wisdom on the power of rituals to reconnect us with our bodies, our pleasure, and our essence. She offers practical and profound guidance for creating a reverent self-care practice that will nourish you from the inside out.Key insights from our discussion include:* The Art of Reverence: Discover how adopting a reverent approach to life can open the door to more wonder, beauty, and joy.* Embodiment Practices for Presence: Learn simple yet potent tools to drop into your body and access the wisdom within.* Rituals for Intimacy: Explore ways to create deeper connection with yourself and your partner through the power of ritual.* Navigating the Nine Lives of Woman: Gain a new perspective on the different stages of a woman's life and how to thrive in each one.Whether you're in the midst of perimenopause, craving more intimacy in your relationship, or simply longing to feel more at home in your body, this episode will leave you feeling seen, inspired, and empowered to create a life of reverence and pleasure.

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Reclaim your sensuality and step into a powerful new chapter. The Midlife Pleasure Collective is a monthly membership designed to help midlife women reconnect with their bodies, embrace their desires, and cultivate deeper pleasure. Join the founding members for just $20/month - spots are limited, so apply now at pleasure-in-the-pause.com/collective. 

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We dig deep into the unspoken challenges women face in the bedroom, especially as we move through menopause.

In this conversation, I sit down with Dr. Maria Sophocles, a true trailblazer on a mission to address gender inequality in the bedroom and prioritize female pleasure.

Get ready to shift the way you think about sex, aging, and advocating for your desires!

In our discussion, Dr. Sophocles pulls back the curtain on "The Bedroom Gap" - the difference in sexual expectations and abilities that emerges between partners in midlife. She shares surprising insights from her global research and the personal stories of women worldwide.

Highlights from our discussion include:

• The Silent Suffering: Why half a billion menopausal women are "biting their teeth" through unsatisfying sex and what we can do about it
• Vaginal Estrogen: The Liquid Gold for Lifelong Pleasure - Is it right for you?
• Menopause ≠ the End of Intimacy: Simple strategies to reignite your libido and embrace a new definition of sex
• Advocating For Your Desires: How to find medical providers who listen and resources to empower your midlife sexual health
• Sex Beyond Penetration: Sensual "homework" to deepen intimacy and make sex fun again

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Reclaim your sensuality and step into a powerful new chapter. The Midlife Pleasure Collective is a monthly membership designed to help midlife women reconnect with their bodies, embrace their desires, and cultivate deeper pleasure. Join the founding members for just $20/month - spots are limited, so apply now at pleasure-in-the-pause.com/collective. 

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I am beyond excited to share with you this week's transformative podcast episode. In it, I have the honor of sitting down with Sheri Winston, a true pioneer in the field of female sexuality anatomy and arousal.

Get ready to have your mind blown and your pleasure reignited!

In this groundbreaking conversation, we uncover the hidden truths about female anatomy and arousal that have been erased from history and medical textbooks. Sheri takes us on a fascinating journey through the Female Erectile Network, revealing the secrets to unlocking our full orgasmic potential at any age.

Key revelations from our discussion include:

• The Missing Piece of the Pleasure Puzzle: Discover the little-known parts of your anatomy that hold the key to mind-blowing 0rgasms.
• Squirting Demystified: Learn how to embrace this secret hidden pleasure
• Menopause is Not the End of Pleasure: Strategies to reconnect with your body, reignite your libido in midlife and beyond.
• Courageous Communication: How to confidently express your desires and create deep and fulfilling intimacy

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Reclaim your sensuality and step into a powerful new chapter. The Midlife Pleasure Collective is a monthly membership designed to help midlife women reconnect with their bodies, embrace their desires, and cultivate deeper pleasure. Join the founding members for just $20/month - spots are limited, so apply now at pleasure-in-the-pause.com/collective. 

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