Our Better Half – Details, episodes & analysis

Our guest today is Dr. Justin Lehmiller, a social psychologist, author, and Senior Research Fellow at The Kinsey Institute. He is host of the Sex and Psychology Podcast and is author of the popular book Tell Me What You Want: The Science of Sexual Desire and How It WillHelp You Improve Your Sex Life.

Dr. Lehmiller is an award-winning educator, having been honored three times with the Certificate of Teaching Excellence from Harvard University, where he taught for several years. He is also a prolific researcher who has published more than 50 academic works, including a textbook titled The Psychology of Human Sexuality that is used in college classrooms around the world. Dr. Lehmiller is a much sought-after voice in the media on sexuality research and education.

He's been interviewed by The Wall Street Journal, The New York Times, and CNN, and he has appeared on dozens of international radio, podcast, and television programs.

We talked about the seven categories of sexual fantasies, how fantasies change as we age, and their current study on masturbation and menopause.

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Our guest this time is Stephen Duclos, and his interest in aging is partly because he has been doing social change work for decades and sees aging as just one more civil rights horizon. He's also interested in aging because he's a sex therapist, and he sees all sex as queer sex when it comes to aging adults.

Stephen has been working as a therapist and counselor since 1972. He currently holds licenses and national certifications in Sex Therapy (as a CST), Couples and Family Therapy (LMFT), Mental Health Counseling (LMHC), and Rehabilitation Counseling (CRC). Stephen is an Approved Supervisor with the American Association for Marriage and Family Therapists (AAMFT), and AASECT (the American Association of Sex Educators, Counselors, and Therapists). He is also a member of the American Family Therapy Academy. In 2012, he received the Patricia Schiller award from AASECT for his work on Fathers, Adolescent Daughters, and Sexuality. And in 2022, he was featured in a cover story in the NY Times Magazine about sex over 70.

Jane first met Stephen at an AASECT conference and was immediately struck by his candor, and they have been teaching social workers and students of sex therapy ever since. He is always up for a new challenge and is one of the most thoughtful clinicians she knows. He has been a teacher and supervisor of therapists as an adjunct faculty member of UMass/Boston and is a principal faculty member in the Sex Therapy Training program at South Shore Sexual Health Center. He has also taught at Boston Medical Center and Harvard Medical School. He is vitally interested in intimacy, aging, fathers and daughters, and long-term sexual relationships. 

Stephen has also been involved in civil rights work for more than 50 years. From registering voters for the Boston Election Commission in 1967, to helping establish the second Independent Living Center in the US for people with disabilities in the 1970s, to establishing biracial councils in the Boston Public Schools during desegregation through the late 1980s, to supporting liberation for the queer community, civil rights has been part of his ongoing, lifelong community work.  

His interest in aging comes in large part from his commitment to being a therapist, seeing older clients, and threading the aging process in the tapestry of his own life. He is fierce, tender, brilliant, and a great teacher and learner. He wanted to expand his teaching practice by working with a sex educator, and Jane was so pleased that he invited her in because she loves teaching with him, always learning something new, as we did in this conversation. 

Listeners, if you'd like to learn more about Stephen and his work, you can find more information here.

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Join us for an exciting conversation with inventors Michael Weiss-Malik and Elizabeth Dell, co-founders of Groove Thing, a way to bring music vibrations inside your body, an astounding invention. They say it's a way to "transform your body into a concert hall." Not a sex toy, not a musical instrument, it's more of a tactile music experience and a synthesis of music and sensation. For older adults, it's an experience of pleasure for many types of bodies -- it's low impact, and it's about letting the music radiate inside the body. If you're interested in learning more, please go to their website.

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Charlie Arrowood is an attorney in New York State. They primarily provide transition-related legal services to transgender clients, including name and gender marker change assistance and guidance regarding health insurance coverage and employment matters.

You can find out more about Charlie's work here: 

Twitter: @ch_arrowood & @arrowood_law

Instagram: @charrowood

Facebook: Charlie Arrowood & Arrowood Law

Charlie has a bunch of instructions on their website for changing documents (mostly NY but some federal). 

Also, here are more links to some of the organizations we discuss throughout this episode. 

TLDEF Name Change Project

NCTE ID Documents Center

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Our guests this week are Joan Price and Jessica Drake. Joan is the pre-eminent expert on senior sex and Jessica is an award-winning filmmaker and sexuality educator. Together, they have collaborated on A Guide to Wicked Sex: Senior Sex with real people having and talking about senior sex. 

You can learn more about the video here. And you can learn more about Joan here. You can follow Jessica on Instagram or Twitter. 

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On today's episode, we are excited to welcome Dr. Lee Philips, a clinician who works with his patients to treat chronic illness and sexual dysfunction. He is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker and an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist. In addition to his private practice in Washington, DC, Dr. Philips lectures around the country and is currently writing his first book, Sex & Love When You Are Sick, a project aimed at helping couples overcome shame and the sexual limitations caused by illness. He is also the host of the Sex & Chronic Illness Podcast. 

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Valentine's Day in COVID times is going to look a bit different than other times. Our co-hosts have cooked up a little something that can help make it special. Want to wake up the neighborhood? Join us for this special gift to you, our beloved listeners.

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Dr. David Whitehead is a board-certified plastic surgeon. Dr. Whitehead is not just any plastic surgeon, though. In addition to the several areas of expertise he has developed, Dr. Whitehead is the gender affirming surgeon here on Long Island in New York, especially when it comes to genital surgeries. 

You can visit his Northwell Health profile here.

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Today's guest is Dr. Tracie Q. Gilbert, a Black femme sexuality educator who uses conversation to help achieve sexual wellness and healing for Black people intergenerationally. She is the founder of Thembi Anaiya (which means hope) and she is truly a gift to our world. We love talking with Dr. Gilbert and hope you'll enjoy the show! You can find their inspirational messages on her lively Instagram page.

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Nathalie Huitema-Nuijens, originally from the Netherlands, with 15 years of experience working with older adults as a sexologist and psychologist, is on a mission. She wants to discover the determinants of sexual consent capacity in older adults with dementia. It's a fascinating topic.

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