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ANSWER YOUR CALL!  OR GET OFF THE POT!

Lauren and I giving some tough love to you women who are on the fence about answering your call.  We wholeheartedly urge you to take courage and step towards the bit of uncertainty that might be the start of an adventure.

With love.

Om & Lauren.

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PODCAST WITH EYLA CUENCA —

TOPICS:

I feel for you people who binge watch my material.

Containment for a birth doula.  Containment in birth space.

The energetics of Containment.

Containment in Man-Woman dynamic.

Men’s initiations, or lack there of, these days.

Where the men drop contentment and boundaries, women step in to pick up the slack.

You will never get the best out of a woman who is chronically uncontained.

What women look like after a good scene.

The downward spiral of distrust that results in long-term frustrations.

Reversing the downward spirals.

Men want to be found right.

Discerning non-consensual Domination & submission from the consensual.

Using scene-play for release and catharsis.

Flipping trauma for Eros.

The coolness of the Dom energy.

Balancing energies between Dom & sub.

Archetypical mismatch when both woman and men are submissives.

Women being more yes to their submission than men are to their Domination.

A functional dom-sub dynamic is a co-conspiracy.

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ANNOUNCING NEW IN-PERSON, 7-DAY RETREAT.  IN CYPRUS!  FEBRUARY ’25.

I’m very excited to be announcing a new Intensive BDSM Retreat that I will be offering, starting in February 2025.  

The workshop is titled BDSM PRINCIPLES & DOM-SUB EXPLORATION.  Over the course of 7days / 6 nights, we will take a deeper dive into the various possible in this realm.

Please explore the course page for full details : https://omrupani.org/bdsm-principles-dom-sub-exploration-course

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CONTAINMENT BY OTHER NAMES

Containment is the inner feeling we have when we are feeling grounded, coherent, stable, calm, collected.

Loss of that inner Containment makes us feel discombobulated, triggered, upset, unfocused, frazzled, emotional and many other darker emotions that are often associated with old pain and narrative.

When loss of Containment occurs, our tendency is to try and track down its origin to the many different things that may be happening on the outside in our circumstances of the moment. Or we may try and track the current upset down to old pain and pattern and wounds.  Often times, this attempt to trace back the origin of our loss of Containment is not a fruitful undertaking.

When we are upset, the best thing is to come out of that upset first.  When we are feeling Un-Containted, the thing that really needs to happen next is that we need to find our way back into Containment.  Attempting to solve problems while we are Un-Contained is a bad idea.  Attempting to have conversations about our relationship with our partner while we are Un-Contained usually only aggravates the situation.

In Man-Woman relating, I feel Men have the opportunity to offer this Containment to their women when she experiences a loss of Containment.  If we could build our understanding of this phenomenon and learn how to solve it with greater skill, we could resolve a lot of ancillary problems that often get attached to the painful experience of the loss of Containment, especially in the feminine.

Some of the feelings women often describe when they are experiencing loss of their energetic Containment: 

PERCEPTIONS AND FEELINGS DIRECTED TOWARDS HER MAN:

1. Feeling Abandoned by him.
2. Feeling Dropped by him.
3. Not being able to feel her man.
4. Feeling he is not present.
5. Feeling she doesn’t have his attention.
6. Feeling not seen by her man.
7. Feeling he is not taking her seriously.
8. Feeling he doesn’t get it.
9. Feeling alone even in his company.
10. Feeling not heard.
11. Feeling disconnected.
12. Feeling he does not make her a priority.
13. Feeling neglected.
14. Feeling she is not important to him.
15. Feeling he is choosing other people and things over her.

INNER FEELINGS THAT TRIGGER LOSS OF CONTAINMENT

1. Feeling overwhelmed.
2. Feeling alone.
3. Feeling she has to handle everything herself.
4. Feeling nobody has her back.
5. Feeling unchosen.
6. Feeling unworthy.
7. Feeling things are only going to get worse.
8. Feeling panicked.
9. Feeling anxious.
10. Feeling her life situation and choices are in error.

These issues may be something real that need to be addressed in your life or your relationship , or they may not be.  But if these feelings are being experienced DURING the loss of energetic Containment, then the best, first step is to restore Containment.  Visit the relational issues afterwards.  

Often times, these feelings are emotional distortions that are a symptom of loss of Containment.  In which case, resorting Containment is the main thing that needs to happen.

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WHAT IS CONTAINMENT, AND WHY MEN SHOULD LEARN IT.

Containment is that good feeling we feel on the INSIDE of our body when someone we care for gives us a nice, grounding hug.  We welcome their touch and their embrace.  We sink into their body.  We let their groundedness ground us.  Our breathing and heart rate slows down.

We feel more calm and less anxious.  Emotionally & Energetically, we feel more Contained.

Although a physical act like a hug or other grounding touch can be very effective at creating Containment, the location of Containment itself is in our energetic and emotional body.  We all benefit and feel nourished from receiving this Containment of our emotional and energetic system.

I think women in general have a greater need for Containment, and I think men are better built naturally to provide this Containment.  Being in a dynamic where the Man is providing good Containment to his woman on a regular basis can be a very positive aspect to have in one’s relating.

Containment also plays a crucial role in the arousal dynamics of a couple.  Arousing energy is always more pleasurable and effective when it follows good Containment.  A Contained system is more receptive to arousal than an uncontained and frazzled system.  So, the understanding of this energetics of Containment is crucial for the love life and the romantic life of a couple at multiple levels.

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Couples are afraid of each other's growth.  We are afraid that if our partner grows too much, expands too much, has breakthroughs, they may in fact outgrow us and leave us behind.

Couples hold each other back in order to insure their own security in the relationship. We don't always feel that our partner expanding is necessarily in our best interest.

So we hold each other back.  And the only way we can accomplish this is through lies and camouflage.  Nobody is going to step up and confess that they are making an effort to hold their partner back in life.  So we have to invent a cover and lie with skill to get the job done.

What's more, often times the lies are operating on both sides.  It's not so much that one partner is lying to another.  It's more that both partners are engaged in a conspiracy of lies to stay stuck and stagnant in their current state.

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TALKING TO MY FRIEND JENELLE - A GRADUATE OF OUR PRIESTESS TRAINING.

Janelle came into the Priestess Training with little to no knowledge about BDSM, and with very little connection to her own Dominant or submissive archetypes.

It’s been fun to watch her journey and to see her come into her own.  These days she considers herself a rather effective advocate for the possibilities that this realm has to offer everyone, including the women she works with as well as couples.

We chat about her arc and how she sees herself differently after her own journey and what she feels she is now contributing to others.

You can learn more about her here : https://www.feelwildlyalive.com/

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DO WOMEN NEED TO BE KEPT IN CHECK?

Not all women.  

But the women who have the desire for being in a hierarchical relationship should understand this point : One of the functions and responsibilities of the person higher in the hierarchy is to keep the people lower in the hierarchy in check.

This is a point that even the people who are actively pursuing polarized dynamics are grasping are often failing to grasp.

I see a lot of women who are ready to be with men who are strong and dominant and grounded and making something of themselves in the world.  The women do want their men to ‘take the lead’.  But when it comes to decision-making and directing action, the women are firmly planted in the feminist egalitarian model that all important decisions should be made by democratic vote, and everybody’s thoughts and feelings should be taken under consideration.  All of a sudden, the Dom-sub dynamic collapses into an Occupy Wall Street meeting full of gentle and considerate hand signals.

There is no advocacy here on my part.  I am not saying women should take directions from men.  I most certainly am not saying that all the men of the world should keep all the women of the world in check.  There is no ideology here.  

What I do want to point out is a cornerstone of hierarchical dynamic that is in the blindspot of many people who are wondering why their dynamic still feels like more work than enjoyment.  

If you want a hierarchical dynamic, find a man whose decision making, clarity and judgement you trust and respect above your own.  I grant you, finding this man is not easy.  But these are the basic requirements of functional hierarchy — find someone better than yourself to follow.  And then follow them.

Following them means you don’t direct their actions.

Following them means they can direct your actions.

Following him means he gets to veto your decisions.

Following him means, when there is a difference in opinion between you and him, his decision is the final one.

He needs to be a man who can hold that position of leadership with ethos, a big heart and desire for a win-win outcome.

Find that man.  Then, follow him.

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MEN - DON’T TRY TO PARTNER WITH A WOMAN WHO DOESN’T NEED YOU!

Men need to be needed.  

Men want to be useful.

Men’s esteem is intricately connected to them making themselves into the kind of men who are useful to the people around them.  All people — your family, your friends, your bosses and employees, your parents, your brothers, your children, and also your woman.

This need is not some kind of a weakness.  It is sane and healthy interdependence.  It means you belong to your tribe.  You belong to your family.  You belong to your loved ones.

Your use to others is how you bond with others.

If you disconnect from this good and healthy need, you will create failure in your life in a multitude of directions:

You will make yourself into the kind of man who is useless to anyone and everyone around you.

This will make you into a loner.  Men will not feel much pull to have you as a friend.  

Women, most certainly will not be attracted to you.  

Nor will you be productive or generative in society.  

Nor will you be able to generate value and money and wealth.

The healthy esteem of a man is contextual.  We build our value in the context of how we are connecting and what we are providing to the people in our tribe.

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Your connection with your woman is no exception to this.  In fact, a thriving connection to your woman ought to be the centerpiece of your usefulness, your competence and your contribution.

Your woman should pick you because you are tremendously useful to her.

She should pick you because her life is better with you than without you.

She should pick you because you are able to bring riches into her life that she cannot bring into her own life.

If all that is in place, she will look up to you if she is a gracious and balanced woman.  She will acknowledge the contribution you are making to her life.  She will acknowledge how valuable you are to her.  This acknowledgment is an integral part of her respect for you.

You should earn this respect.  You should aim to inspire this respect in her.

If you are failing to inspire this respect in a particular woman, proceed no further with her.

If you are failing to inspire this respect in all women, you need to look at your own life and do better.  Build a fuller and richer life to invite a woman into.  Make yourself more useful to others, including women.

If you are proud of who you are and the life you are leading, then, when you are with a particular woman who acts as if you are brining nothing special into her life, move on; that’s not your woman.

If you stumble upon a woman who on principle declares, ‘I don’t need no man’, please keep moving.  You don’t need to take offense at her stance.  You don’t need to argue with her.  Please don’t try to change her mind.

Rest in your inner wisdom and self-knowledge that you need to be with a woman who needs you, who admires you for what you bring to her, because she can’t bring those aspects to her own life.  You need to be with a woman who respects you for your strengths, abilities and your contributions to her life.

Any and all women who fall out of this important parameter, please move away from those women.  Don’t try to partner with them.  Even if they are making advances for partnership towards you while in this attitude, do not start a relationship with them.

The vast majority of women in the world today are stuck in their GIRLFRIEND archetype and in their MODERN WOMAN archetype.  Both of these energetic configurations are shadowy energies tha

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