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COURTESAN MASTERY TRAINING - WEBINAR

Lauren and I talk about our expanded Courtesan Mastery Training, and our upcoming Dominatrix Training, Level I in Tulum, December 8-14.

CONVERSATION TOPICS:

• Expanding from Dominatrix Training towards a fuller COURTESAN MASTERY curriculum.
• Dark Eros is one aspect of a Courtesan’s mastery.
• The Courtesan Archetype is one of the most ancient and elegant feminine archetypes through history.
• The Courtesan as Muse, as Consort, as Influencer.
• Self-activation is a necessary cornerstone for a Courtesan’s embodiment of her mastery.
• How much Permission we have for pleasure is a big determinant regarding how much pleasure we feel or allow ourselves to feel.
• Skills in Somatic Mastery are going to be in high demand through the AI job demolishment apocalypse of the next 5  - 10 years.
• Testimonials from Priestess graduates.
• Erotic expansion as an aspect of Spiritual growth.
• People often let their Dom see them more deeply than they allow their therapist to see them.
• The Dom holds space for whatever comes out of a submissive during a scene.

Please reach out if you have any questions.  Lauren and I are happy to get on a zoom call to answer your questions and concerns.

COURTESAN MASTERY CURRICULUM : https://omrupani.org/#/modern-priestess-of-eros/

PRIESTESS OF DARK EROS, LEVEL I : https://omrupani.org/the-priestess-of-dark-eros

EROS IN HER HANDS : https://omrupani.org/eros-in-her-hands

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ALEX LEHMANN PODCAST

TOPICS:

• What can men get out of BDSM training?
• Holding FRAME vs. Giving CONTAINMENT.
• Leadership is needed to be a good Dom, to hold a scene from beginning to end.
• A man needs to be self-contained first if he is going to contain anyone else.
• It takes a while for men to come into their own.  It makes sense that women pair with men older than themselves.
• First contain your woman, then see what problems still exist in your dynamic.
• Women are getting sick of weak men, en masse.
• There is a difference between showing a woman your heart and asking her to contain you.
• Arousal lives on the other side of Containment.
• Understanding archetypes and their necessity.
• The Dom & sub archetypes hold the erotic reservoir; the husband & wife archetypes do not hold eros.
• Role Play is a gateway to switching over from domestic archetypes.
• Human beings seem experts today in screwing up great Loverships.
• Mastery as a genuine source of self-esteem.
• Contribution as a genuine source of self-esteem.
• The man who finds himself right is very attractive.
• It’s good for men to fail early and often.
• Leadership mastery translates to different domains — from erotic to professional.
• Leaders promise a brighter future.

— Om Rupani 

BALI COURSE PAGE : https://omrupani.org/bdsm-principles-dom-sub-exploration-course

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WHY MEN SHOULD ATTEND MY TRAININGS — BECAUSE WOMEN ARE INDEED SCARY!

Many men out there follow my writings and podcasts.  They write to me expressing that they are benefiting from my material.  They express desire to deepen their mastery and to learn more and go deeper.  When it comes time to show up for a workshop I’m offering, many of those same men hesitate, stall and disappear.

I can be pretty hard on men when I coach them.  My first inclination tends to be to yell at them for not following through.  But this phenomena of not showing up has been going on for so long that I’ve had the opportunity to talk to many of the men and gain some understanding of what is happening for them underneath the surface.  The more I see and understand, the more I sympathize.

What keeps men from showing up to be trained in sensuality in a class alongside women is FEAR.  It not just one fear, it is a stack of fears.  It is a layer-cake of fears.

And these fears the men are facing are nothing to scoff at.  This is tender stuff.  I will list three main categories of their fears:

1. They fear getting a report card from women that they, the men, have always been mediocre lovers.

2.  They fear getting a direct and live confirmation from women in front of others that the women don’t prefer this particular man.  That the women prefer other men over him.

3.  They fear being publicly humiliated by being publicly evaluated as sexually incompetent and undesirable.

This is a pretty scary list!  I feel like hiding under the covers when I read.

I can’t completely assuage these fears for men.  I know they are real and they are brutal.  

What I can try to do is express some counterpoints to these concerns in this video.  I have the follow 3 counter propositions for you:

1.  LET WOMEN INITIATE YOU!

2.  ENTER THIS HUMILIATION SCENE VOLUNTARILY!

3.  KNOW THAT ANY FAILURE IS NOT FINAL!

Hope to see some of you in class.

Next Course : Austria, August 5-11.

Course Page : https://omrupani.org/bdsm-principles-dom-sub-exploration-course

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One prominent phenomenon I see these days is how much women are projecting their own esteem issues onto the men they are relating with.

It isn't so much that the men they are with are doing anything bad or abusive to devalue the women.  It's simply that the the woman is FEELING devalued.

This phenomenon is very parallel to what people with Narcissistic Personality Disorders experience.  Somebody, somewhere does or says something, and the Narcissist FEELS hurt; they feel offended; they feel diminished.  This is called a Narcissistic Injury.

Nobody is out to cause a Narcissist this Narcissistic Injury.  It occurs because the narcissist's self-esteem is always hanging by a thread.

Once the injury has occurred, what does the Narcissist do?  They seek revenge.  They hurt the other.

I see women demolishing their relationship with men in similar fashion.  They are rejecting men not for who those men are.  They are rejecting them after projecting their own insecurities and negative feelings about themselves onto the men.

Nobody can solve our esteem issues for us.  It isn't anybody else's job to make us see and feel our own value.

-- Om Rupani
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IF YOU ARE CONTROLLING YOUR MAN, YOU HAVEN’T COMMITTED TO HIM YET.

The central element needed for functionality and peace between men and women is AGREEMENT.

If there is one poisonous impact that Feminism and Patriarchy Theory has had on the psyches of modern women, it is to convince them that they should never come into agreement with a man, with their man, with men in general, with masculinity.

This lack of agreement is the poison pill in man-woman relating.

It is all that is needed to sabotage, distort, fill with misery and scuttle man-woman intimate relationships.

With this piece of poisonous programming installed in their brains, what are women prone to doing in regards to their approach towards men?

Women still need men.  They still want to be with men.  They still want to seduce men.  They still want to go after qualified men.  They still want those men to pick them.  They want those men to ‘bond’ with them and get into long term relationships and marriages with them.

If women want all this with men, while retaining that faulty bit of programming that says, ‘Never cooperate with a man!’, how are women to proceed?

They proceed with control.  Control is the replacement for agreement.

Coming into agreement with their man would have offered women a win-win possibility with their men.

Control is an antagonistic technique.  We try to control our enemies.  We control and manipulate people we are NOT acting in good faith with.  We control and manipulate people we are playing a zero-sum game with — where we are trying to win OVER them, where we are trying to win at their cost.

This destructive attitude is quite prevalent in our man-woman relating culture these days.  Listen to women talk about why they want to get in relationships and what they want out of the men they are looking for, and you will hear a laundry list of stuff that the women want to get OUT of the men.  What you don’t hear is how the women want to PARTNER with men.

You don’t hear from the women how they want to COOPERATE with their men.

You don’t want to hear what the women are willing and happy to sacrifice in order to come into AGREEMENT with their men.

In the absence of agreement, women never really commit to any man they are with.  Commitment is about two people being on the same side.  Commitment is about being in a win-win relation with each other.  There is no room for CONTROL in a committed relationship. Control and manipulation only erodes the commitment two people have made to each other.

— Om Rupani

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WHAT IS A SUBMISSIVE WOMAN ANYWAY?

A submissive woman is one who wants to pair with a Dominant Man.

A submissive woman is one who is no longer is in shadow about wanting a Dominant Man.

A submissive woman is one who wants to play the complimentary role to a Dominant Man.

A submissive woman desires and values men’s masculinity, their masculine strength and masculine leadership.  

She never competes with men.  

Instead, she is brilliant at cooperating with strong and dominant men.  

She values their leadership and is a brilliant follower to their leadership.  

She cherishes and  nourishes men’s masculine virtues.  

She embodies the complimentary energy to strong, dominant men.

A submissive woman is foremost a feminine woman.  

She embodies feminine characteristics and feminine virtues at every level.  

She is feminine, supple, graceful and gracious — in her appearance, in her speech, in her energy, in her very core.

— Om Rupani

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PODCAST WITH LEAH PIPER & DR. WILLOW BROWN - 2022

—BDSM as a path to self-discovery.

—Bridge between Tantra & BDSM.

—How to take responsibility for new sensual investigations.

—Emotional release as erotic movement.

—Catharsis in BDSM play.

—The separation of giving and receiving.

—Balancing Giving & Receiving in BDSM dynamics.

—The fallacy of seeking healing through receiving rather than giving.

—Reviving stale relationships with introducing Dom-sub play.

—Distinguishing consensual D/s from cultural trauma.

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THE NON-CONSENSUAL DYNAMICS IN VANILLA RELATIONSHIPS

Dom-sub dynamics are built on Consent.

Dom-sub dynamics are built on the two people being in Agreement with each other.

Without this agreement/consent, there is no scene between Dom and sub; there is no dynamic between Dom and sub; there is no relationship between Dom & sub.

We even create a provision for both Dom & sub to exit their scene in case either of them comes out of consent in the middle of a scene.  This what safe-words are for.

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By contrast, vanilla relationships are rife with lack of agreement between the two people.

Husbands and wives live in a state of disagreement with each other.

Boyfriends and girlfriends are in a constant state of negotiation and bickering with each other.

From the perspective of Consent, these people are NOT in consent in their relationships.

Most husband-wife relationships, most boyfriend-girlfriend relationships are occurring out of consent!

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Living in this state of non-consent is the crucial problem at the center of most relationships.

To create happiness, come into agreement with your partner.

It is entirely up to you who you partner with, but if you want a functioning and thriving relationship, the key to that harmonious relationship is that the two people be in agreement with each other.

— Om Rupani

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AGREEMENT DEFICIENCY IS KILLING WOMEN’S RELATIONSHIPS TO MEN

The one ingredient you need to make any relationship work is — AGREEMENT!

This applies to romantic relationships.

It applies to filial and family relationships.

It even applies to relationships within a group and a tribe.

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One piece of poisonous programming that the modern woman has swallowed, thanks to feminism, is that coming into agreement with one’s man is considered a point of weakness for the modern, empowered woman.

It has become part of women’s identity to keep testing men, to judge men, to disapprove of men, to question men, to challenge men, to instill doubt in their systems and to disagree with men.

This one piece of poisonous programming is sufficient to entirely sabotage the possibility of happiness between women and their partners.

—Om Rupani

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I have a 6-month program for practitioners who are interested in bringing BDSM skills into their session work.  

I teach this intensive with my dear friend Lauren Harkness.  

This is a conversation with one of our students about her experience with this course.

You can find our more about this program at : https://omrupani.org/practitioner-mastery

Best,
Om

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