When he’s playing away from home with 3 different women, finding out your husband is having an affair with a lesbian, and the continued abuse from the ex wife. Producer: Tristan Hehir City Lights by Ghostrifter Official | https://soundcloud.com/ghostrifter-officialMusic promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comCreative Commons / Attribution-NoDerivs 3.0 Unported (CC BY-ND 3.0)https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by-nd/3.0/

Producer: Tristan Hehir City Lights by Ghostrifter Official | https://soundcloud.com/ghostrifter-officialMusic promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comCreative Commons / Attribution-NoDerivs 3.0 Unported (CC BY-ND 3.0)https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by-nd/3.0/

TRIGGER WARNING: Domestic Abuse and Rape We talk about self sabotaging a good thing after dealing with a toxic relationship, the strangest messages you’ve received on dating apps and the sad reality of continuing to stay in a relationship where you see no change. Producer: Tristan Hehir City Lights by Ghostrifter Official | https://soundcloud.com/ghostrifter-officialMusic promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comCreative Commons / Attribution-NoDerivs 3.0 Unported (CC BY-ND 3.0)https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by-nd/3.0/

When she finds out her partner is cheating on the other woman with another one, the cheating husband whose dating a 21year old when he has a 19 year old daughter, and sharing an experience that allows her to go no contact Producer: Tristan Hehir City Lights by Ghostrifter Official | https://soundcloud.com/ghostrifter-officialMusic promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comCreative Commons / Attribution-NoDerivs 3.0 Unported (CC BY-ND 3.0)https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by-nd/3.0/

When your best friend of 25years starts having sleepovers with your baby daddy, your man finally changes but is it too late and the teenage work colleague who loves a country lane! Producer: Tristan Hehir City Lights by Ghostrifter Official | https://soundcloud.com/ghostrifter-officialMusic promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comCreative Commons / Attribution-NoDerivs 3.0 Unported (CC BY-ND 3.0)https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by-nd/3.0/

Marking episode 40 with our first ever live podcast with an audience! We never would have dreamed we could get here and this quickly and that’s because of all our amazing listeners so thank you! We talk about the other woman meeting your kids, how to give a blowjob and being invited to a threesome you weren’t aware of. Here’s to the first of many live events! Producer: Tristan Hehir City Lights by Ghostrifter Official | https://soundcloud.com/ghostrifter-officialMusic promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comCreative Commons / Attribution-NoDerivs 3.0 Unported (CC BY-ND 3.0)https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by-nd/3.0/

We talk about second chances and if they really work, befriending the ex girlfriend and girl boss energy vibes only. Producer: Tristan Hehir City Lights by Ghostrifter Official | https://soundcloud.com/ghostrifter-officialMusic promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comCreative Commons / Attribution-NoDerivs 3.0 Unported (CC BY-ND 3.0)https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by-nd/3.0/

It's another dating episode and this might be the most shocking one yet! The stories had us on the edge of our seats, in fits of laughter and then a surprise confession from one of the hosts! Producer: Tristan Hehir City Lights by Ghostrifter Official | https://soundcloud.com/ghostrifter-officialMusic promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comCreative Commons / Attribution-NoDerivs 3.0 Unported (CC BY-ND 3.0)https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by-nd/3.0/

We share your bad scenarios in your relationships which you found yourself in but still stayed! Normalising staying and it’s not always easy to leave. Witnessing Tash’s new glow and hearing from a now happy couple who took on our advice Producer: Tristan Hehir City Lights by Ghostrifter Official | https://soundcloud.com/ghostrifter-officialMusic promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comCreative Commons / Attribution-NoDerivs 3.0 Unported (CC BY-ND 3.0)https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by-nd/3.0/

For the first time we share some updates with you from previous stories we have shared and showing that there is light at the end of the tunnel Producer: Tristan Hehir City Lights by Ghostrifter Official | https://soundcloud.com/ghostrifter-officialMusic promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comCreative Commons / Attribution-NoDerivs 3.0 Unported (CC BY-ND 3.0)https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by-nd/3.0/

A lot of laughs and tears this week as we share some male perspectives on relationships as well as some crazy dating stories, listening to your gut and hearing your blowjobs are better than the other woman! Producer: Tristan Hehir City Lights by Ghostrifter Official | https://soundcloud.com/ghostrifter-officialMusic promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comCreative Commons / Attribution-NoDerivs 3.0 Unported (CC BY-ND 3.0)https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by-nd/3.0/

We answer some intrusive questions we always get asked… also sharing our biggest icks, green flags and teaching men what women really like Producer: Tristan Hehir City Lights by Ghostrifter Official | https://soundcloud.com/ghostrifter-officialMusic promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comCreative Commons / Attribution-NoDerivs 3.0 Unported (CC BY-ND 3.0)https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by-nd/3.0/

Learning that sometimes the news we dread is a blessing in disguise, finding love again but losing the naivety of forever, the coparenting dilemma and the micro penis scenario Producer: Tristan Hehir City Lights by Ghostrifter Official | https://soundcloud.com/ghostrifter-officialMusic promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comCreative Commons / Attribution-NoDerivs 3.0 Unported (CC BY-ND 3.0)https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by-nd/3.0/

We talk about becoming single mums and the highs and lows as well as dating, fostering and Lydia shared her new and exciting venture with us! Producer: Tristan Hehir City Lights by Ghostrifter Official | https://soundcloud.com/ghostrifter-officialMusic promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comCreative Commons / Attribution-NoDerivs 3.0 Unported (CC BY-ND 3.0)https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by-nd/3.0/

This week we talk about setting those boundaries, learning lessons from past relationships and not staying in those toxic envoirnments. Producer: Tristan Hehir City Lights by Ghostrifter Official | https://soundcloud.com/ghostrifter-officialMusic promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comCreative Commons / Attribution-NoDerivs 3.0 Unported (CC BY-ND 3.0)https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by-nd/3.0/

A man whose most certainly married, whether you should go back to your maiden name and being submerged in balls….Talking about it all this week! Producer: Tristan Hehir City Lights by Ghostrifter Official | https://soundcloud.com/ghostrifter-officialMusic promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comCreative Commons / Attribution-NoDerivs 3.0 Unported (CC BY-ND 3.0)https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by-nd/3.0/

Valentine’s Day might be approaching but we aren’t talking all roses and sunshine’s this week. We share your date fails, terrible valentines stories and want to know if you would rather give up sex toys or microwaves! Producer: Tristan Hehir City Lights by Ghostrifter Official | https://soundcloud.com/ghostrifter-officialMusic promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comCreative Commons / Attribution-NoDerivs 3.0 Unported (CC BY-ND 3.0)https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by-nd/3.0/

Should you tell your kids about infidelity? Do you admit to having children when dating and how to cope with feeling insecure. We discuss it all on this week’s episode. Producer: Tristan Hehir City Lights by Ghostrifter Official | https://soundcloud.com/ghostrifter-officialMusic promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comCreative Commons / Attribution-NoDerivs 3.0 Unported (CC BY-ND 3.0)https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by-nd/3.0/

From the obvious red flags to the in law dramas we share your stories and continue to give our opinions to your questions. And don’t worry the confessions will forever be anonymous Producer: Tristan Hehir City Lights by Ghostrifter Official | https://soundcloud.com/ghostrifter-officialMusic promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comCreative Commons / Attribution-NoDerivs 3.0 Unported (CC BY-ND 3.0)https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by-nd/3.0/

January seems to be a hard month when it comes to break ups and separation. We talk about this raw topic as one of us goes through the motions of a break up Producer: Tristan Hehir City Lights by Ghostrifter Official | https://soundcloud.com/ghostrifter-officialMusic promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comCreative Commons / Attribution-NoDerivs 3.0 Unported (CC BY-ND 3.0)https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by-nd/3.0/

We talk to Love Island star and influencer Jessica Hayes about becoming a single parent, loss and navigating coparenting Trigger Warning: Baby Loss Producer: Tristan Hehir City Lights by Ghostrifter Official | https://soundcloud.com/ghostrifter-officialMusic promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comCreative Commons / Attribution-NoDerivs 3.0 Unported (CC BY-ND 3.0)https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by-nd/3.0/

This week we talk all about resolutions, lessons learnt and focuses for the year ahead. Producer: Tristan Hehir City Lights by Ghostrifter Official | https://soundcloud.com/ghostrifter-officialMusic promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comCreative Commons / Attribution-NoDerivs 3.0 Unported (CC BY-ND 3.0)https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by-nd/3.0/

Hearing and sharing your dilemmas and experiences with some shocking stories and giving you our advice the best way we can. We love hearing from you so make sure you continue emailing in anything you want to be shared anonymously of coursehas context menu Producer: Tristan Hehir City Lights by Ghostrifter Official | https://soundcloud.com/ghostrifter-officialMusic promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comCreative Commons / Attribution-NoDerivs 3.0 Unported (CC BY-ND 3.0)https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by-nd/3.0/

A man’s side of the story, the getaway escape, catching your partner paying for prostitutes and do you tell your friend their husband is cheating Producer: Tristan Hehir City Lights by Ghostrifter Official | https://soundcloud.com/ghostrifter-officialMusic promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comCreative Commons / Attribution-NoDerivs 3.0 Unported (CC BY-ND 3.0)https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by-nd/3.0/

This episode we talk about discovering triggers following trauma in past relationships and what we’re doing to work on them Producer: Tristan Hehir City Lights by Ghostrifter Official | https://soundcloud.com/ghostrifter-officialMusic promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comCreative Commons / Attribution-NoDerivs 3.0 Unported (CC BY-ND 3.0)https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by-nd/3.0/

We talk all about fixing relationships, how to leave bad ones and learning more about yourself in order to make your relationship successful. Shelly's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/shelleyjwhitehead/ Shelly's Website: https://shelleyjwhitehead.com Producer: Tristan Hehir City Lights by Ghostrifter Official | https://soundcloud.com/ghostrifter-officialMusic promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comCreative Commons / Attribution-NoDerivs 3.0 Unported (CC BY-ND 3.0)https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by-nd/3.0/

We talk about the anxiety surrounding Christmas as a single parent, elf on the shelf and a cheeky surprise Producer: Tristan Hehir City Lights by Ghostrifter Official | https://soundcloud.com/ghostrifter-officialMusic promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comCreative Commons / Attribution-NoDerivs 3.0 Unported (CC BY-ND 3.0)https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by-nd/3.0/

Helping understand the financial battles, how to split the children and all those questions surrounding divorce Producer: Tristan Hehir City Lights by Ghostrifter Official | https://soundcloud.com/ghostrifter-officialMusic promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comCreative Commons / Attribution-NoDerivs 3.0 Unported (CC BY-ND 3.0)https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by-nd/3.0/

We are so excited to have our first guest Daniel Chidiac chatting to us all about relationships. He’s an Australian author with two amazing books which you need to check out. His insight on relationships, and present day dating really resonated with us and we think you will love what he has to say as much as we did Producer: Tristan Hehir City Lights by Ghostrifter Official | https://soundcloud.com/ghostrifter-officialMusic promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comCreative Commons / Attribution-NoDerivs 3.0 Unported (CC BY-ND 3.0)https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by-nd/3.0/

We talk about what we believe to be the key reasons to leaving or staying in a relationship. Of course no relationship is perfect but we feel like these topics we touch on our important foundations for successful relationships. We also share our experiences along the way as well as some of your emails. Producer: Tristan Hehir City Lights by Ghostrifter Official | https://soundcloud.com/ghostrifter-officialMusic promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comCreative Commons / Attribution-NoDerivs 3.0 Unported (CC BY-ND 3.0)https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by-nd/3.0/

Sharing your children and parenting with someone you’re trying to move on from can be a challenge to say the least. We share both ours and your experiences, hopefully showing you that your feelings and doubts are valid and so normal. Producer: Tristan Hehir City Lights by Ghostrifter Official | https://soundcloud.com/ghostrifter-officialMusic promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comCreative Commons / Attribution-NoDerivs 3.0 Unported (CC BY-ND 3.0)https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by-nd/3.0/

This week we talk all things social media. Including the impact it has on mum guilt, pressure, comparisons and the list goes on ... Producer: Tristan Hehir City Lights by Ghostrifter Official | https://soundcloud.com/ghostrifter-officialMusic promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comCreative Commons / Attribution-NoDerivs 3.0 Unported (CC BY-ND 3.0)https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by-nd/3.0/

It’s like the minute you become a mum you feel guilty for everything? You can’t win because even if you don’t feel guilty you feel guilty for not feeling guilty. It’s safe to say mum guilt is real. Producer: Tristan Hehir City Lights by Ghostrifter Official | https://soundcloud.com/ghostrifter-officialMusic promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comCreative Commons / Attribution-NoDerivs 3.0 Unported (CC BY-ND 3.0)https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by-nd/3.0/

Let's talk about sex fetishes. The sexy, the dirty and the downright weird. Producer: Tristan Hehir City Lights by Ghostrifter Official | https://soundcloud.com/ghostrifter-officialMusic promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comCreative Commons / Attribution-NoDerivs 3.0 Unported (CC BY-ND 3.0)https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by-nd/3.0/

We discuss the coparenting holiday, the fuck buddy dilemma when dating a walking red flag, how many chances you should give before it’s time to leave and we talk about having a partner with an addiction problem Producer: Tristan Hehir City Lights by Ghostrifter Official | https://soundcloud.com/ghostrifter-officialMusic promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comCreative Commons / Attribution-NoDerivs 3.0 Unported (CC BY-ND 3.0)https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by-nd/3.0/

This week we talk all things friendship; how it changes with motherhood, going through different situations and how they can serve different purposes as we navigate life. Producer: Tristan Hehir City Lights by Ghostrifter Official | https://soundcloud.com/ghostrifter-officialMusic promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comCreative Commons / Attribution-NoDerivs 3.0 Unported (CC BY-ND 3.0)https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by-nd/3.0/

Discussing more into our healing journey, our biggest fears of ending our relationships and how it can impact new relationships. Producer: Tristan Hehir City Lights by Ghostrifter Official | https://soundcloud.com/ghostrifter-officialMusic promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comCreative Commons / Attribution-NoDerivs 3.0 Unported (CC BY-ND 3.0)https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by-nd/3.0/

Trigger Warning We chat all about our first experiences becoming mothers, explaining those overwhelming feelings and sadly some births not going as planned. We also touch on how becoming parents has an effect on your relationship with your partner. Producer: Tristan Hehir City Lights by Ghostrifter Official | https://soundcloud.com/ghostrifter-officialMusic promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comCreative Commons / Attribution-NoDerivs 3.0 Unported (CC BY-ND 3.0)https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by-nd/3.0/

Let’s delve deeper into dating in your 30s, talking about those first date rules and sharing your good and bad experiences as well as ours. Producer: Tristan Hehir City Lights by Ghostrifter Official | https://soundcloud.com/ghostrifter-officialMusic promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comCreative Commons / Attribution-NoDerivs 3.0 Unported (CC BY-ND 3.0)https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by-nd/3.0/

We share in more detail our healing processes through journaling, manifesting and vision boards. The perfect way to make change and you can start now. Producer: Tristan Hehir City Lights by Ghostrifter Official | https://soundcloud.com/ghostrifter-officialMusic promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comCreative Commons / Attribution-NoDerivs 3.0 Unported (CC BY-ND 3.0)https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by-nd/3.0/

Second chances… do you believe in them? With different opinions, we share our experiences and your stories that you’ve sent in to give you an insight into whether second chances can work Producer: Tristan Hehir City Lights by Ghostrifter Official | https://soundcloud.com/ghostrifter-officialMusic promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comCreative Commons / Attribution-NoDerivs 3.0 Unported (CC BY-ND 3.0)https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by-nd/3.0/

It’s time to start dating again and we are here to talk all about dating apps, things to avoid on those first dates and knowing when you’re ready to start dating again after heartbreak Producer: Tristan Hehir City Lights by Ghostrifter Official | https://soundcloud.com/ghostrifter-officialMusic promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comCreative Commons / Attribution-NoDerivs 3.0 Unported (CC BY-ND 3.0)https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by-nd/3.0/

Going on holiday with your children is hard enough but going without your partner was definitely a new challenge for us both in different ways. Also chatting about other firsts as single parents and accepting those changes. Producer: Tristan Hehir City Lights by Ghostrifter Official | https://soundcloud.com/ghostrifter-officialMusic promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comCreative Commons / Attribution-NoDerivs 3.0 Unported (CC BY-ND 3.0)https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by-nd/3.0/

When trust is broken it’s hard to believe you will ever get it back. We share our experiences as well as some of yours and what we feel are the next steps in helping to feel like one day you can trust. Producer: Tristan Hehir City Lights by Ghostrifter Official | https://soundcloud.com/ghostrifter-officialMusic promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comCreative Commons / Attribution-NoDerivs 3.0 Unported (CC BY-ND 3.0)https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by-nd/3.0/

Talking about those red flags in relationships that we might be aware of but choose to ignore, or just find it hard to notice when we are living with them. Producer: Tristan Hehir City Lights by Ghostrifter Official | https://soundcloud.com/ghostrifter-officialMusic promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comCreative Commons / Attribution-NoDerivs 3.0 Unported (CC BY-ND 3.0)https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by-nd/3.0/

Talking about the challenges of co-parenting, seeing that therapy can make all the difference and infinitely doesn’t always ruin a relationship Producer: Tristan Hehir City Lights by Ghostrifter Official | https://soundcloud.com/ghostrifter-officialMusic promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comCreative Commons / Attribution-NoDerivs 3.0 Unported (CC BY-ND 3.0)https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by-nd/3.0/

Episode 3 - Finding our feet with our new solo parenting journey and discussing the highs and lows of coparenting. Giving advice on how to tell your children about separation and sharing some of your stories and experiences. Producer: Tristan Hehir City Lights by Ghostrifter Official | https://soundcloud.com/ghostrifter-officialMusic promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comCreative Commons / Attribution-NoDerivs 3.0 Unported (CC BY-ND 3.0)https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by-nd/3.0/

When two single mums come together to talk about the realisation of their marriages ending. Chatting all about the new challenges and changes one goes through and managing it around your children whilst trying to heal. Come and join us on our journey and we would love to hear anything you want to share to. Email us on notasweplannedpodcast@gmail.com Producer: Tristan Hehir City Lights by Ghostrifter Official | https://soundcloud.com/ghostrifter-officialMusic promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comCreative Commons / Attribution-NoDerivs 3.0 Unported (CC BY-ND 3.0)https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by-nd/3.0/

We are talking all about healing and trying to move on from a break up. Learning that this stage isn't linear and hearing some of your stories about those crazy moments you had after a break up Producer: Tristan Hehir City Lights by Ghostrifter Official | https://soundcloud.com/ghostrifter-officialMusic promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comCreative Commons / Attribution-NoDerivs 3.0 Unported (CC BY-ND 3.0)https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by-nd/3.0/