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This episode is brought to you by the following:  Lolavie: Get 15% off LolaVie with the code VALERIA at https://www.lolavie.com/valeria #lolaviepod  BetterHelp: Not Alone is sponsored by BetterHelp. Visit https://www.BetterHelp.com/notalone today to get 10% off your first month. This week, Valeria is joined by iconic Victoria's Secret Angel, supermodel, and entrepreneur, Taylor Hill. Taylor opens up about her journey as a model, beginning with her career's early start at the age of 14 and the challenges of growing up in the modeling industry, including dropping out of high school and navigating the pressures of public life. She also highlights the pivotal moment in her career when she joined Victoria’s Secret at 18, which propelled her into the global spotlight. Taylor reflects on the brand's past promotion of unrealistic beauty standards and expresses her support for its recent shift towards inclusivity and authenticity.  Beyond her career, Taylor talks about the importance of family support, particularly her mother’s unwavering presence during her early modeling years. She also touches on her approach to body image, embracing the changes that come with aging, and the value of self-acceptance. The episode takes an emotional turn as Taylor discusses her deep connection with her late dog, Tate, and the grief of losing him, as well as her experience with the loss of an unplanned pregnancy. Taylor's reflections provide a candid look into the complexities of her life, both in the spotlight and behind the scenes. Visit the Tate & Taylor community & marketplace: https://tateandtaylor.com/  Taylor is on:  https://www.instagram.com/taylor_hill/  https://www.tiktok.com/@taylor_hill?lang=en  Mentioned:  Victoria’s Secret Fashion Show 2024 announcement: https://www.instagram.com/p/C9zm-sduXqw/  ACOTAR (A Court of Thorns and Roses) by Sara J. Maas: https://a.co/d/hOGKrDP  Many Lives, Many Masters by Brian L. Weiss: https://a.co/d/cfCEKVf  Shop my look from this episode: https://liketk.it/4MFHp  What We Talked About: 00:00 Intro 03:02 The story behind the haircut 06:18 Scouted to model 10:50 Modeling at 14 11:52 Studying wasn’t for me 14:40 Family support 16:55 What’s your pivotal moment? 20:37 Identity crisis 23:08 Confidence in the runway 27:20 Project with Victoria Secret 29:32 Conforming to body standards 33:39 The body constantly changes 37:52 Losing Tate 47:52 Unplanned pregnancy & loss  59:22 Lessons from my loss 01:00:40 Therapy and healing 01:02:35 Write out where you’re at emotionally 01:06:08 Tate and Taylor 01:12:21 What’s your favorite book? Disclaimer: The links in this description are sponsor or affiliate links. If you make a purchase through these links I may earn a credit or commission at no additional cost to you. Medical Disclaimer: The use of information on this podcast or materials linked from this podcast is at the user’s own risk. The content of this podcast is not intended to be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Users should not disregard or delay in obtaining medical advice for any medical condition they may have and should seek the assistance of their health care professionals for any such conditions. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This episode is brought to you by the following:  Hiya: We've worked out a special deal with Hiya for their best selling children's vitamin. Receive 50% off your first order at https://www.hiyahealth.com/VALERIA In today’s solo episode, join me as I open up about experiencing my first panic attack, a terrifying moment that left me feeling completely vulnerable. I walk you through the intense buildup of stress from work, personal life, and underlying health anxieties that led to this overwhelming experience. Ignoring my body’s warning signs and pushing through the stress ultimately brought me to this breaking point, forcing me to reassess how I approach my mental health. I share my journey of recovery, exploring different methods to manage stress, including hypnotherapy, which has been incredibly impactful for me. I also emphasize the importance of being mindful of our mental well-being and avoiding the normalization of anxiety and overwhelm, especially for women. Through this episode, I hope to inspire you to prioritize your mental health and find healthier ways to cope with life’s pressures. Shop my look from this episode: https://liketk.it/4Neh5  Valeria is on: https://www.instagram.com/valerialipovetsky/  https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCWkDFq1pO7YNzifE3A4UsMA  https://www.tiktok.com/@valeria.lipovetsky  Not Alone Podcast What We Talked About: 00:00 Intro 02:36 My first panic attack 06:13 Full body scan & my brain cyst  08:47 Neglecting my health 14:59 Women deal with panic attacks a lot 16:49 Dealing with stress positively 20:02 Hypnotherapy 24:58 Don’t take life too seriously 29:20 Mental health awareness Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode, Valeria sits down with Genie Bouchard, the professional tennis player and emerging pickleball pro, to discuss her journey from a young tennis star to exploring new horizons in sports and personal growth. Genie opens up about the sacrifices she made for her career, the challenges of dealing with public scrutiny, and her recent transition into pickleball. The conversation also touches on Genie's experiences with injuries, her thoughts on the evolution of women's sports, and her ventures outside of tennis, including a potential movie project. Genie Bouchard is a Canadian professional tennis player known for her breakout performance in 2014, where she reached the Wimbledon final and broke into the top 5 in the WTA rankings. She has since become a prominent figure in sports and media, participating in various off-court projects and recently transitioning to professional pickleball. She continues to inspire with her resilience, adaptability, and passion for sports. Genie is on: https://www.instagram.com/geniebouchard  https://www.facebook.com/GenieBouchard/  https://www.tiktok.com/@geniebouchard  Valeria is on: https://www.instagram.com/valerialipovetsky/  https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCWkDFq1pO7YNzifE3A4UsMA  https://www.tiktok.com/@valeria.lipovetsky  Not Alone Podcast Shop my look from this episode: https://liketk.it/4G0ok  What We Talked About: 00:00 Intro 01:10 I decided to play tennis at 9 years old  02:51 Lack of social and life experiences 05:23 What else do I like? 06:32 Female athletes’ struggles  08:41 Don’t listen to the outside noise 11:21 You can’t take it personally 13:58 Did you have limiting beliefs? 15:46 Mental health support 17:38 Tennis needs more personality 19:26 Benefits of being a female athlete 21:33 Why stop myself being someone big? 22:53 Pickleball 26:59 The viral twirl 30:24 Athletes becoming fashion icons 32:11 A movie in the works 34:35 The Challengers 38:22 How can you be bad at pickleball? 40:13 Single girl phase 42:32 What I’ve learned from my past relationships 46:11 Acting normal won’t get you far 48:36 Sacrifices had to be made 50:01 The ups and downs  52:15 Every athlete has had an injury 53:34 “I’m not sure what’s next yet” Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This episode is brought to you by Magic Spoon: Head to https://www.magicspoon.com/NOTALONE to grab a custom bundle of cereal and try the magic for yourself, and don’t forget to add their tasty Treats to your order! Be sure to use our promo code NOTALONE at checkout to save five dollars off. Gary is back by popular demand! In today’s episode, Gary and Valeria discuss the complexities of marriage, drawing from their own 12-year experience. First, Gary and Valeria touch on the passing of his mother, then dig deeper into how their 18-year age gap impacts their views on marriage and divorce.  The duo explores why marriages often fail, the long-term and ongoing emotional neglect, changing personal needs, and societal pressures. Valeria highlights the dual burden women face as caregivers and professionals, while Gary emphasizes the importance of effort and communication to resolve issues before considering divorce.  From bickering about cavemen to dissecting foreplay…this episode definitely gets spicy 🌶️ Gary is on: https://www.instagram.com/garylipovetsky https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCKHLJJd07IhT9DPhxsY-EYg  https://www.tiktok.com/@garylipovetsky  https://www.linkedin.com/in/garylipovetsky/  Valeria is on: https://www.instagram.com/valerialipovetsky/  https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCWkDFq1pO7YNzifE3A4UsMA  https://www.tiktok.com/@valeria.lipovetsky  Not Alone Podcast Shop my look from this episode: https://liketk.it/4Hhce  What We Talked About: 00:00 Let’s talk about divorce 01:57 Dealing with loss and grief 06:00 Responsibilities of a son and a husband 07:27 How should children repay their parents? 09:46 Our grief process 16:41 What’s your experience with divorce? 19:27 How do you prevent infidelity? 21:34 Single mothers in a marriage 23:05 Men and women are wired differently 26:22 The traditional model of procreation 29:27 When couples aren’t a good match 31:45 Divorce is never an easy way out 33:14 How soon can talks of divorce happen? 35:15 Don’t be scared of having difficult conversations 38:00 How do you prevent divorce? 41:19 The phase of falling in love again 44:19 Financial stress 48:16 Dealing with your partner’s long-term trauma 49:09 Focusing on your partner again 51:01 Would you go through a divorce? 55:45 Discovering the things that turn you on 01:00:09 Men are responsible for an amazing s*x life  01:02:42 Have you read the Kama Sutra? 01:03:14 How do you define sensuality? 01:06:49 Secrecy of marriage and in friendships Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This episode is brought to you by the following:  Branch Basics: Save 15% on your Starter Kit or Hand Soap when you use code NOTALONE at https://www.branchbasics.com Better Help: Visit https://www.BetterHelp.com/notalone today to get 10% off your first month. Join Valeria in a transformative conversation as she sits down with the remarkable Dr. Lisa Miller, a trailblazing clinical psychologist, and the visionary founder of the Spirituality MINDBODY Institute. With Valeria, Dr. Miller unravels the mysteries of the awakened brain, revealing how each of us is innately equipped with the ability to connect deeply with the spiritual world. Lisa guides us through the profound impact spirituality can have on mental health and well-being, and enlightens us on how mothers and children share their spirituality. She shares the heartwarming tale of how spirituality and mental health converged in her life, leading to her pioneering research and bestselling books, "The Awakened Brain" and "The Spiritual Child."  In this episode, you will get to participate in two guided exercises with Dr. Lisa Miller and Valeria to connect to your own innate spiritual brain. Prepare to be inspired and enlightened as you discover how to harness the power of spiritual awareness to transform your life, find deeper meaning, and navigate the challenges of the modern world with grace and resilience. Read more about Dr. Lisa Miller’s book The Awakened Brain: https://www.lisamillerphd.com/home  The Spiritual Child: https://www.lisamillerphd.com/the-spiritual-child  Lisa is on: https://www.instagram.com/dr.lisamiller  https://www.lisamillerphd.com/  Valeria is on: https://www.instagram.com/valerialipovetsky/  https://www.tiktok.com/@valeria.lipovetsky  https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCWkDFq1pO7YNzifE3A4UsMA  Shop my look from this episode: https://www.shopltk.com/explore/valerialipovetsky/posts/bff4a476-d653-11ee-a781-0242ac110039  What We Talked About: 00:00 Intro 02:55 What is an awakened brain? 05:24 Turning into spiritual guidance 09:13 Connection to the higher power 11:51 Awakening your spiritual core 13:46 Gen Z is a profoundly spiritual generation 18:00 Spirituality has become an industry 19:54 The most important role of a mother 22:23 How do we see the world at the spiritual level 26:39 Shaping natural spiritual awareness in children 28:23 Religion is a gift 30:13 Is love permanent? 34:55 The practice of love 36:44 Where are you in your spiritual journey? 42:16 Spirituality in clinical practice 47:41 There is an infinite sense of possibility 51:46 Speak with love from your spiritual heart 55:43 Celebrating your womanhood 58:29 Mid-life crisis is a spiritual awakening Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This week’s episode is brought to you by the following:  LMNT: LMNT came up with a fantastic offer just for Not Alone listeners. Go to https://www.DrinkLMNT.com/NotAlone to get a free sample pack with any drink mix purchase! Cozy Earth: Visit https://www.cozyearth.com to use code VALERIA at checkout for an exclusive 35% off and enjoy the comforting embrace of Cozy Earth bedding.  Holistic Reading: Go to https://www.superpowers.report/valeria to sign up for your free Super Powers Report!  In this revealing solo episode, I share with you my personal journey of self-doubt and the struggle to “find” my voice. Recorded in a reflective moment during a trip in Cabo, I dive into the challenges of self-expression, the fears of judgment, and the realization that embracing vulnerability is essential for personal growth. This episode serves as a raw, introspective look at the obstacles we impose on ourselves and the powerful breakthroughs that come from confronting them. Shop my look from this episode: https://liketk.it/4EvCH  Find me on: https://www.instagram.com/valerialipovetsky/  https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCWkDFq1pO7YNzifE3A4UsMA  https://www.tiktok.com/@valeria.lipovetsky  Not Alone Podcast What We Talked About: 00:00 Intro 01:25 “I kept holding myself back.” 07:12 Scared to be vulnerable and open 08:29 How to find your voice 13:50 Understanding who you are 18:44 Obstacles you need to overcome 24:35 There are moments when you don’t need to speak up 29:05 Not settling for anything less 32:46 Talking to people you can learn from 35:19 Learning to communicate better Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This episode is brought to you by the following:  Holistic Reading: Bring awareness to and shed light on your unique SuperPowers! Go to https://www.superpowers.report/valeria to sign up for your free SuperPowers Report. Better Help: Get it off your chest, with BetterHelp. Visit https://www.BetterHelp.com/notalone today to get 10% off your first month. In this episode, Tinx and Valeria dive deep into the nuances of modern dating, exploring everything from social media's impact on relationships to balancing financial dynamics. Tinx shares her candid thoughts on gender roles and expectations, while both hosts discuss personal growth and the importance of self-love in the quest for meaningful connections. This episode is packed with humor, vulnerability, and insightful discussions that challenge conventional dating norms. Tinx, also known as Christina Najjar, is a social media sensation known for her candid and humorous take on life, love, and everything in between. Tinx brings a unique and relatable perspective to her content, which resonates with a vast audience of young adults who have deemed her “TikTok’s Big Sister”. She is an advocate for self-worth and empowerment, often discussing topics related to dating and personal development. Tinx is on: https://www.instagram.com/tinx  https://www.tiktok.com/@tinx  It's Me, Tinx Valeria is on: https://www.instagram.com/valerialipovetsky/  https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCWkDFq1pO7YNzifE3A4UsMA  https://www.tiktok.com/@valeria.lipovetsky  Not Alone Podcast Shop my look from this episode: https://liketk.it/4Bvn8  What We Talked About: 00:00 Intro 02:30 Dating Apps and Millennial Struggles 05:40 When Dating, Know Your Worth 06:32 Shera Seven, the ‘Sprinkle Sprinkle’ Lady 11:50 The Loneliness Epidemic of Men 18:11 Red Flags vs Icks 20:03 Go Out With a Friend 21:21 Do You Flirt? 24:36 Don’t Worry About Finding Love 26:10 Making a Man Monetarily Inadequate 28:09 He Has to Love You More 29:39 The Black Cat vs The Golden Retriever 31:16 The Golden Cage, Marrying for Money 32:02 Financial Inequality in Relationships 34:26 Men and Women Are Valued Differently 36:08 The Rise of Tradwife 39:30 Phone Addiction  42:16 Romantic Love Theory 45:55 Lessons to Bring Into Your Next Relationship 47:32 Daddy Energy in Women 49:24 Answering Questions from Followers 01:00:42 Who Pays on a Date? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This week’s episode is brought to you by the following:  Pique: For a limited time, get 15% off Nandaka + a free rechargeable frother and cup with my link at https://www.piquelife.com/VALERIA  Bird & Be: Try it out today and save an extra 15% off your first purchase with code NOTALONE15 on https://www.birdandbe.com.  LMNT: Exciting news, LMNT has a fantastic offer just for Not Alone listeners. Just go to https://www.DrinkLMNT.com/Notalone to get a free sample pack with any drink mix purchase! This week, Valeria is joined by Dr. Sara Reardon, a pelvic health physical therapist, for an enlightening conversation on the often overlooked but vital topic of pelvic health. In this episode, Dr. Sara, known affectionately as the "Vagina Whisperer," dives into the importance of pelvic floor health, debunking common myths, discussing postpartum challenges, and providing empowering knowledge for women at all life stages. From discussing the implications of pelvic health on mental wellbeing, to dispelling postpartum sex misinformation, to actionable advice on advocating for better medical care, this podcast is a must-listen for anyone interested in reclaiming and understanding their body, learning how to advocate for yourself, and learning the critical aspects of pelvic wellness. Dr. Sara Reardon PT, DPT, WCS is a doctor of physical therapy and board-certified pelvic floor physical therapist with over 17 years of experience helping women with bowel and bladder issues, painful intercourse, pregnancy, postpartum recovery, and staying dry and pain-free in the later years of life. She is known on social media as The Vagina Whisperer with collectively over 600,000 followers on Instagram and TikTok.  Sara is the Founder and Chief Vagina Officer of The Vagina Whisperer, an online platform with pelvic floor education and exercises for pregnancy, postpartum, menopause, painful sex and pelvic floor strengthening. She is currently writing her first book, FLOORED: A Complete Guide to Women’s Pelvic Floor Health at Every Age and Stage.  Sara is on: https://www.instagram.com/the.vagina.whisperer  https://www.tiktok.com/@thevagwhisperer  Get 7 days of free pelvic floor and core workouts: https://thevagwhisperer.com/ Not sure if your pelvic floor needs therapy? Take Sara’s one-minute quiz that will let you know where to start: https://thevagwhisperer.com/quiz/ Books mentioned: https://liketk.it/4FOVU  Shop my look from this episode: https://www.shopltk.com/explore/valerialipovetsky/posts/522942f1-9846-11ee-ba2b-0242ac110004  Valeria is on: https://www.instagram.com/valerialipovetsky/  https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCWkDFq1pO7YNzifE3A4UsMA  https://www.tiktok.com/@valeria.lipovetsky  Not Alone Podcast What We Talked About: 00:00 Intro 02:30 Pelvic health physical therapist 03:54 Specializing in pelvic floor health 07:22 The pelvic floor physiology 09:15 Normalize talk about pelvic floor 14:39 How to become the driver of your own healthcare  17:36 Women are still struggling with pelvic care 23:51 Common postpartum care issues 26:28 Marital troubles and painful intercourse 28:32 Connection between painful sex and pelvic floor 32:37 Urinary leakage after childbirth 34:36 Workout for the pelvic floor 35:53 How do you educate young girls about pelvic floor health 39:39 Physical changes after giving birth 44:31 Less traumatic postpartum recovery   46:08 How to prepare for afterbirth care 50:15 Better options for better healthcare for women 52:29 Resources to learn more about birthing and postpartum Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This episode is brought to you by the following:  Cozy Earth: Head over to https://www.cozyearth.com and use promo code "VALERIA" for an exclusive 35% off. Branch Basics: Save 15% on your Starter Kit or Hand Soap when you use code NOTALONE at https://www.branchbasics.com  Lume: Control Body Odor ANYWHERE with @lumedeodorant and get 15% off with promo code VALERIA at https://www.LumeDeodorant.com! #lumepod Hi guys, today, we have a SOLO episode! I love my job and I love being able to connect with you all through social media but I’m also hyper-aware of how it impacts our minds and perceptions of those we follow. We know by now that social media isn’t REAL, it’s all the best parts and it often flattens us into two-dimensional characters. And it is so important that we remember that we are all more complex, that we’re all trying our best to figure things out as we go. There’s no such things as a perfect parent or a perfect relationship or a perfect business. We all face challenges whether it’s internal or in our environment and I hope this episode makes you feel less alone in that.  Instagram post mentioned: https://www.instagram.com/p/C5gpeiJu_us/?utm_source=ig_web_copy_link&igsh=MzRlODBiNWFlZA==  Valeria is on: https://www.instagram.com/valerialipovetsky/  https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCWkDFq1pO7YNzifE3A4UsMA  https://www.tiktok.com/@valeria.lipovetsky  Not Alone Podcast What We Talked About: 00:00 Intro 01:10 Social media is fake 03:55 Being the perfect and superwoman mother on social media 09:36 Finding balance as a new mom 12:08 Overcoming imposter syndrome 16:56 Embracing feminine energy 27:26 Learning to celebrate accomplishments 31:04 Guilt in motherhood Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This episode of Not Alone is brought to you by the following:  Knix: Get 10% off your order on https://www.knix.com by using code VALERIA10 at checkout!  This week, Valeria is joined by her good friend and supermodel, Toni Garrn. Together, they explore the depths of Toni's journey, from her early days in the modeling world to her current impactful role as a philanthropist. Valeria and Toni chat all things saturn return, turning 30, divorce, finding a balance between work and motherhood, and about how to find a greater purpose in life through acts of service for others.  Toni Garrn is an internationally successful supermodel, actress, philanthropist – and entrepreneur. Since the age of 15, Garrn has regularly appeared in front of the camera for well-known luxury brands. In her mid-20s, she founded the Toni Garrn Foundation, which supports educational initiatives for girls and young women in sub-Saharan Africa. Together with local partners in Ghana, Uganda and Burundi, the organization provides educational opportunities to more than 650 girls annually. This year, Garrn also became a social entrepreneur: She founded SUPER FLEA MARKET, a platform for pre-loved celebrity fashion where every sale supports a network of social and environmental justice initiatives. superfleamarket.org will go live in May 2024. You can find Toni on:  https://www.instagram.com/tonigarrn/ https://www.instagram.com/super_fleamarket/ https://www.superfleamarket.org  https://tonigarrnfoundation.org/ Valeria is on: https://www.instagram.com/valerialipovetsky/  https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCWkDFq1pO7YNzifE3A4UsMA  https://www.tiktok.com/@valeria.lipovetsky  Not Alone Podcast What We Talked About: 00:00 Intro 00:31 How did Toni get discovered as a model? 04:27 What made Toni stay in the industry 05:56 “Modeling never became my identity…” 07:14 Prioritizing meaningful connections 10:02 Juggling motherhood, career, and guilt 13:30 A Victoria’s Secret model’s routine 17:41 Getting into philanthropy 22:03 The authenticity of model activism 24:25 Philanthropy projects in Africa 28:16 Transparency and trust 31:47 Sponsoring other children 35:44 The joy of giving 38:19 Super Flea Market 42:24 The people behind the Toni Garrn Foundation 43:27 Toni outside of modeling and activism 44:59 Lessons from Saturn return 49:12 Finding fulfillment in acts of service 50:46 Making a difference where it's needed most 52:15 The importance of having fun 53:46 Toni’s reflection on the future Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices